“When we remember a special Christmas, it is not the presents that made it special, but the laughter, the feeling of love, and the togetherness of friends and family that made that Christmas special.” - Catherine Pulsifer
Welcome to Issue 140 of Iceni Magazine!
December’s issue wouldn’t be right if we didn’t focus on Christmas... so there you go, lots of Christmas-related content and our very best wishes to you all for this festive season. Finding things a little too much right now? Head straight to page 28 to begin reading top tips on how to make Christmas shopping less stressful. Family fun and games are perfect for celebrating the big day – check out our selection of our suggestions on Pages 32 and 33.
Elsewhere, be sure to read all about the drawbacks of solar panels (Pages 14 & 15) if you’re considering having them installed. Iceni HQ recently acquired some – we will report back once we have had them a little while longer. Just for fun (well, actually, the chance to win an Iceni Magazine pen, too!), check out this month’s Christmasthemed Iceni Anagrams.
For now, we will wish you cosy evenings wrapped under blankets sharing love and laughter with your friends and family during this festive season. See you in 2025!
When we lead such busy lives we often find that there’s another task we could, should or ought to be doing, there’s always another job that needs our attention. From juggling work, family responsibilities, catching up with friends and household chores we could productively occupy every minute of each day.
But interspersed with work tasks and concerns we should also remember to look after ourselves and maintain good self-care. After all, we wouldn’t expect our car to run continuously for twenty hours a day, every day of the year without occasionally cooling down, being serviced and topped-up with fuel!
Let’s tune in to some of the early warning signs of stress and overwhelm, which enable us to recognise when we’re teetering on the edge of overtired and worn out. These could be called our amber lights, our early warning signs to slow down and take care before our dangerous ‘red traffic light’ to stop appears.
Here are some of those all-important warning signs:
● You’ve no patience and are easily irritated by anything and everything! Your sense of humour
has evaporated under a mound of frustration and low mood. You may even be fed up with yourself for feeling this way, as you know there’s no particular reason for it!
● You’ve lost your interest in food. From always having a healthy appetite and enjoying good home-cooked meals, sometimes shared with friends, eating now has little interest or appeal for you. Or conversely you’re comfort eating all the ‘wrong’ foods.
● Alcohol has become too much of a comforter, an easy fix with which to drown your sorrows, relax after a busy day or reward yourself for having got through it and survived.
● Your ability to concentrate has become erratic. Focussing on each current task has become difficult, as you constantly forget what you’ve done or are supposed to be doing. You may be aware of a vague cloud inside your head, obliterating any clear thinking and motivation.
● Sleep is restless, fitful and maybe even elusive. Some people find that stress affects their dreams and they become unpleasant, disturbing and sometimes repetitive, churning over the same problems and issues on a regular basis, only to awaken feeling groggy and unrested.
● Random aches and pains seem to be ever present. When we’re stressed our body reacts as if under siege. We’re ready to react quickly in order to prepare for a potentially threatening situation. So we create more cortisol, tense our muscles and enter fight or flight mode.
● You’ve lost the joy in life. Everything has become an effort. You may find that you’re not interested in spending time with your children, grandchildren or friends. It’s all become an additional chore that you could do without!
So, reclaim a better quality of life and;
● Feel more in control by introducing a regular routine, including short breaks, stopping for lunch. Plan your evenings and enjoy spending time eating a meal or having leisure time with family or friends. Arrange to have fun and get outside, go for a walk and enjoy the views.
● Start to prioritise your tasks. Some will need doing as a matter of urgency, whilst others can be rescheduled for another time. Saying ‘no’ appropriately can be quite liberating when you decline excessive demands on your time and energy.
● Teach others to value you more. When you stop being so readily available, other people learn to respect you, your time and your input; yet another important way to reduce stressful demands on you and your energy.
● Have a regular time for turning off your workrelated tech and allowing yourself to become
quiet. Calm the stimulus of constantly scrolling, checking and reacting and allow yourself a couple of hours to relax before bedtime.
● Recognise that if you’re working in a physical environment it can be tiring for your body, but you may still need mental stimulus in order to tire yourself mentally. Quizzes, music, reading, interesting conversations can all help establish a good mind/body balance, and consequently, better sleep. Conversely, intensive mental work may need to be counter-balanced with physical effort like running, exercise classes and gardening.
● Investigate if there is someone you could share work with or delegate to. Maybe a skill swap could be viable. Are you good at baking, social media, admin, gardening or would you be interested in alternating child care arrangements with someone who could help you now and you help them another time, both benefitting from sharing the load. That way, everyone gains free time with which to do something else!
● Ask around if there’s a support network where you could talk through challenges, share success stories and generally support each other by ‘chewing the fat’ together. Sometimes online forums can help, where you dip in and out at your convenience to discuss any issues, or perhaps access support help lines, often regularly manned and there to help if you’re struggling and in need of someone to talk to.
Take control and find that your stress levels reduce as your work/life balance improves.
Article By Susan Leigh
Susan Leigh, South Manchester counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support. For more articles, information or to make contact please visit: http://www.lifestyletherapy.net
Aston Martin DBX707 Review
Nearly half of all Aston Martins sold are DBXs, so even supercar owners want SUVs nowadays.
Of all DBXs sold, around 90 percent were the DBX707. As a result, Aston Martin has discontinued the other versions while upgrading its most successful model.
You may be wondering what the “707” represents as, until you know the performance figures, it’s not that obvious, yet it’s so straightforward: it’s the power. That’s right, this beast produces a staggering 707PS.
With the help of 900Nm of torque, the DBX707 can go from 0 to 62mph in just 3.3 seconds and tops out at 193mph, making it one of the fastest SUVs in the world.
A 4.0-litre twin-turbo V8 engine sits beneath the bonnet, mated to a nine-speed automatic
transmission, which has been tweaked and improved for quicker gear changes.
All-wheel drive and an electronic rear limitedslip differential should help provide all the traction you need to tackle high-speed corners, despite the car’s much higher centre of gravity than the rest of Aston’s range.
Its air springs and adaptive dampers have been recalibrated, helping to improve body control, while an advanced torque vectoring system optimises power distribution across all four wheels. That helps with traction and stability, while the dynamic drive mode selector enables you to customise performance settings.
As is becoming the case on all new Aston Martins, the front grille is larger, allowing more airflow to help with cooling. There is also a new front splitter and chiselled cheekbone air intakes out to the sides.
The rear is largely unchanged, featuring thin taillights connected to an even thinner lightbar that weaves its way around a typically Aston Martin-styled integrated spoiler. However, the roof spoiler is slightly revised and looks more aggressive than ever.
The DBX707 retains its previous bold and athletic stance, with signature LED headlights and a choice of 22 or 23-inch alloys.
There is more carbon fibre than before, too, all in the name of weight saving, while a robust aluminium structure remains, helping keep the vehicle as lightweight as possible.
For an SUV, it should handle very well indeed. Its air suspension makes it suitable for driving on most types of terrain, meaning it should be easy to live with every day, an area in which the pre-facelifted DBX received particular praise.
Inside, though, is where the most significant changes are to be found. A floating centre console rises towards the dashboard, while the revised steering wheel has intimidatingly thick gloss piano black spokes covered in buttons. Like the parting of the sea, the dashboard upholstery still divides in the middle but now reveals Aston’s brand-new infotainment system, which was developed in-house.
Apple CarPlay and Android Auto are both supported wirelessly. Still, Aston Martin’s native system looks nice to use, with easy-to-navigate menus and the promise of a very responsive 10.25-inch touchscreen.
A second 12.3-inch digital instrument display, bigger than the ones in the new DB12 and Vanquish, sits behind the steering wheel and offers informative and attractive graphics.
Happily, blending what Aston Martin says is the “perfect balance” between physical buttons and digitisation is important to the iconic British manufacturer. That means there are still plenty of well-damped, pleasing-to-press buttons and switches dotted around the cabin, including physical controls for the air conditioning, gear selector, and drive mode, including the use of ‘roller’ switches.
Thanks to Aston Martin’s new partnership with premium audio specialist Bowers and Wilkins, the 23-speaker hi-fi system complements the car. Although this is an optional extra, the standard 14-speaker sound system has also been overhauled.
Intricate stitching, carbon fibre, metal, and wood all feature in places, the result of a standard of craftsmanship we’ve come to expect from the British marque. New D-pull interior door handles and vertical air vents are also part of the deal.
The DBX707 offers just as much room as before, including a 638-litre boot capacity and 38-litres underneath the boot floor. All the seats offer spacious relaxation, barring the rear middle seat if you’re transporting three adults in the back.
The DBX707 is on sale now, with the first handful having already hit the roads.
Fast Facts - New Aston Martin
DBX707:
• Max speed: 193 mph
• 0-62 mph: 3.3 secs
• Fuel economy: 19.9 mpg
• Engine layout: V8 4.0-litre twin-turbo
• Max. power (PS): 707
• CO2: 323 g/km
• Price from: £205,000 On the Road.
By Tim Barnes-Clay. Follow on Instagram: @tbarnesclay
OUT AND ABOUT: THE NEW CHAPEL
Sleaford is located in the district of North Kesteven, Lincolnshire. This market town can be found approx.
11 miles north-east of Grantham, around 16 miles west of Boston and some 17 miles south of Lincoln. It is on the edge of an area known as the Fenlands. Sleaford’s train station is on the Nottingham to Skegness route and also the Lincoln to Peterborough track.
The history of Sleaford and the surrounding area holds much interest for historians. The surrounding area includes Graylees. Graylees
has become a popular residential area, along with several other areas in Lincolnshire.
I located The New Chapel Tearoom and Venue (Opened October 2023) in Graylees, near Sleaford, Lincolnshire. First (and lasting) impressions - Stunning!
This luxury venue for events has been beautifully restored. The Victorian chapel dates from 1897. A grade 11 listed park and conservation area surrounds The New Chapel. Owned by Frida Rush, an interior architectural designer, The New Chapel took 10 years to restore. The restaurant offers breakfasts, snacks, lunches, afternoon teas and dinners. Traditional Sunday lunches are very popular.
The mezzanine levels provide romantic dining times and uses for other functions. Vaulted architecture complements the venue, plus contemporary artworks. Events are well attended. The grounds and the venue are available to hire for private events.
For my dining commencement I chose Prawn Twisters. I found this dish to be just right, with perfect flavours to start a light-to-medium lunch.
For main I opted for Smothered Chicken (Chicken breast topped with bacon, BBQ sauce and melted cheese and served with chips and coleslaw). This arrived with very good aromas. Well cooked and with complementing ingredients, this certainly warranted ‘Compliments to Chef’. For dessert - Lemon Baked Alaska - A perfect finish.
An extensive range of quality beverages includes wines, beers and spirits, plus splendid cocktails. Parties and occasions are easily accommodated. Gift vouchers are available - maybe a surprise for someone special? The New Chapel is also licensed for weddings, to make the day very grand indeed. Thank you to Amy, for exemplary service throughout.
Highly recommended.
The New Chapel Tearoom & Venue, Hines Avenue, Graylees, Sleaford, Lincolnshire NG34 8ZW.
Tel: 01529 401888
E-mail: info@thenewchapel.com
Web: www.thenewchapel.com
Jobs To Do In The Garden For December
Preparing For Winter And Planning For Spring
As the chill of December settles in, many gardeners might think that their gardening days are over until spring.
However, there are plenty of important tasks to undertake in the garden this month. While colder temperatures can slow down plant growth, December is an ideal time to prepare your garden for the winter months and plan for the upcoming growing season.
1. Cleaning Up the Garden
One of the foremost tasks in December is cleaning up the garden. Remove any dead plants, fallen leaves, and debris from the garden
beds. This helps to prevent pests and diseases from overwintering in your garden. If you have perennials that die back completely, cut them down to ground level. However, leave some stems standing as they can provide habitat for beneficial insects. Compost healthy plant material to nourish your soil, but dispose of diseased plants to mitigate the spread of pathogens.
2. Mulching
Mulching is an essential step during December, especially in colder climates. A layer of mulch provides insulation for plant roots, helping to prevent soil from freezing completely and
protecting dormant plants. Use materials such as straw, wood chips, or shredded leaves. Apply a 2- to 4-inch layer of mulch around the base of your perennials and around any tender plants to help retain moisture and regulate soil temperature during the winter months.
3. Watering and Soil Care
Even in winter, it’s important to ensure your plants are adequately hydrated. While snow and rain may provide moisture, during dry spells, consider watering your trees, shrubs, and perennials, especially if you’ve experienced a prolonged dry period. Additionally, December is an excellent time to assess your soil. Conduct a soil test to determine pH and nutrient levels, so you can amend it with compost or fertilisers before the planting season begins in spring.
4. Planning for Next Year
With fewer tasks to distract you in the garden, December is a great time to reflect on this past year’s garden and make plans for the next one. Review what worked well and what didn’t grow as expected. Based on this evaluation, create a planting plan that includes your desired crops, flowers, and any new varieties that intrigue you. Research seed catalogues and make a list of seeds you’d like to buy. Consider creating a garden journal to track your progress throughout the seasons.
5. Indoor Gardening
If the weather is harsh outside, don’t feel discouraged about gardening. December is a wonderful time to focus on indoor gardening. Start a small herb garden on your kitchen windowsill, growing easy herbs like basil,
parsley, or chives. Consider investing in grow lights if you’d like to expand your indoor garden. Additionally, take care of your houseplants by checking for pests, repotting if necessary, and ensuring they are receiving the appropriate amount of light and water.
6. Tree and Shrub Care
December is the perfect time for necessary pruning of trees and shrubs (while they are dormant). Remove any dead or damaged branches and shape your plants to promote healthy growth in the spring. Pay particular attention to any fruit trees or flowering shrubs to encourage a bountiful harvest or a beautiful bloom in the coming year.
7. Wildlife Considerations
Consider the local wildlife that may frequent your garden during the winter. Put out bird feeders with seeds designed for local birds, and create brush piles or leave areas of the garden undisturbed to provide shelter for small mammals and insects. These actions can enhance the biodiversity of your garden and create a habitat for wildlife.
Conclusion
While December may not seem like the peak gardening season, it is full of essential activities that can prepare your garden for winter and set the stage for a thriving spring. By staying proactive with your garden maintenance, cleaning up, planning, and caring for your plants, you can ensure your garden remains healthy and productive. Embrace the quiet of winter as a time for reflection and preparation, and your efforts will surely bear fruit when the growing season arrives.
The Hidden Drawbacks Of Solar Panels
A Critical Examination
Solar panels are often hailed as a panacea for our energy woes, promising a sustainable solution to our growing energy demands while significantly reducing carbon footprints.
Governments around the world have incentivised solar energy through rebates, tax credits, and even mandates. But despite the growing popularity of solar energy, there are several hidden drawbacks that often go unaddressed, presenting a more nuanced view of this seemingly miraculous technology.
High Initial Costs
One of the most substantial barriers to the widespread adoption of solar panels is the
high initial investment required. While the cost of solar panels has decreased over the past decade due to advancements in technology and increased manufacturing efficiency, the upfront cost of purchasing and installing solar energy systems can still be staggering for many households. Even with financial incentives from the government, homeowners may find themselves paying thousands of pounds out of pocket. For lower-income families, this investment can be out of reach, effectively limiting the environmental benefits to a more affluent segment of the population.
Intermittent Energy Production
Solar panels generate electricity only when the sun is shining. This intermittent nature
of solar energy production poses a significant challenge for grid management. During peak demand times - typically evenings when people return home and use electricity - the production from solar panels is at its lowest unless energy storage solutions like batteries are implemented. The existing energy grid still relies heavily on fossil fuels and other non-renewable sources to meet demand during these times, thus undermining the intended environmental benefits of solar power.
Environmental Impact of Production
The production of solar panels is not without environmental consequences. The process involves the mining of raw materials (like silicon), energy-intensive manufacturing processes, and the use of hazardous materials, such as cadmium, in thin-film solar cells. A study published in the journal *Nature Communications* pointed out that the carbon footprint associated with producing solar panels can offset some of the greenhouse gas savings achieved during their operational life. Furthermore, waste management at the end of a solar panel’s life cycle presents further environmental challenges, since many panels are not easily recyclable, adding to landfill waste.
Space Requirements
Solar farms require extensive land area to produce significant amounts of electricity, particularly when compared to other forms of energy generation like nuclear power or natural gas. This can lead to land use conflicts, particularly in urban areas where space is at a premium. Installing solar panels on rooftops in residential neighbourhoods can mitigate this issue to some extent, but large-scale solar projects often displace agricultural land or natural habitats, which can harm local ecosystems and biodiversity.
Performance in Varied Climates
While solar panels can still generate electricity in cloudy or rainy climates, their efficiency is significantly reduced compared to sunnier locales. Regions that experience long winters or generally cooler temperatures may not generate sufficient electricity to justify the investment in solar technology. Relying heavily on solar energy in less suitable climates can lead to increased use of backup fossil fuel power, which again emits carbon dioxide and undermines the green credentials of solar energy.
Economic Viability and Market Fluctuations
The solar industry, much like any other, is subject to market fluctuations. Prices for solar panels can vary significantly based on global supply chain dynamics, tariffs, and government policies. Economic downturns can lead to reduced investment in solar projects, making energy availability unpredictable. Additionally, solar companies have faced bankruptcy in the past, leaving consumers who invested in these technologies vulnerable to losses and reduced service options.
Conclusion
While solar panels present a promising solution to many of our energy problems, it is essential to examine the associated drawbacks critically. The initial costs, environmental impacts, and operational limitations must be weighed against their benefits. As we push towards a more sustainable future, understanding the complexities of solar energy will be crucial in making informed decisions that genuinely prioritise long-term environmental health and energy equity. Increasing transparency and continuing to innovate within the sector can help address these challenges, leading to broader acceptance and better integration of solar power into our energy landscape.
The Case Against Schools Pushing Political Agendas
Education is one of the cornerstones of society, providing students with the knowledge and skills necessary to navigate the complexities of the world.
However, the increasing trend of schools pushing political agendas has raised significant concerns among parents, educators, and lawmakers. While education is essential in fostering critical thinking and informed citizenship, the imposition of specific political beliefs can undermine the fundamental purpose of schools and create an environment that hinders academic integrity and personal development.
The Purpose of Education
At its core, education should aim to equip students with the tools they need to think critically, analyse information, and form their own opinions. Schools play a crucial role in shaping young minds, and it is vital that this influence remains neutral and grounded in facts rather than political ideology. When educators introduce political agendas into the classroom, it risks transforming a space meant for learning into one for indoctrination. This not only alienates students with differing viewpoints but also stifles open dialogue, which is essential for a healthy democratic society.
Diversity of Thought
One of the hallmarks of a thriving educational environment is the diversity of thought. Students come from varied backgrounds, cultures, and belief systems. This diversity enriches classroom discussions and allows students to engage with differing perspectives. When schools promote a specific political agenda, they neglect this diversity, potentially marginalising students who may feel pressured to conform to the dominant viewpoint. Education should celebrate differences and encourage students to explore a wide range of ideas and philosophies. By pushing a singular political narrative, schools can inadvertently create a culture of conformity, stunting intellectual growth and critical analysis.
Impact on Student Well-being
The psychological effects of political pressure in schools can be profound. Students may feel anxious, isolated, or even bullied for expressing dissenting opinions. This environment can lead to a decrease in academic enthusiasm and overall engagement in school. Furthermore, when students learn to suppress their true beliefs for fear of repercussions, they miss out on crucial opportunities for self-expression and personal growth. An educational system that allows for diverse opinions promotes a healthier, more supportive atmosphere in which students can thrive emotionally and academically.
Academic Integrity and Credibility
Schools are meant to provide students with a rigorous education grounded in academic
Education is one of the cornerstones of society, providing students with the knowledge and skills necessary to navigate the complexities of the world.
integrity. When political agendas seep into the curriculum, the line between education and propaganda becomes blurred. For instance, if educators present information in a biased manner, it compromises the credibility of the institution itself. Parents entrust schools with the responsibility of providing a balanced education, and when this trust is broken, it can lead to widespread discontent and a loss of faith in the educational system. Maintaining objectivity in teaching is crucial for preserving the integrity of academic institutions.
Focus on Core Subjects
Schools have a responsibility to prioritise core subjects such as math, science, and literacy. While discussions about current events and civic responsibility are essential components of education, these topics should be approached with neutrality, allowing students to engage with them critically rather than politically. By focusing on the fundamentals and fostering critical thinking skills, schools can prepare students to navigate the complexities of the world themselves, rather than guiding them towards predetermined conclusions.
Conclusion
While it is important for schools to educate students about civic engagement and awareness of societal issues, this must be done in a way that respects individual viewpoints and upholds the integrity of the educational environment. Schools should serve as spaces for exploration, dialogue, and the exchange of ideas, rather than venues for political indoctrination. By prioritising a balanced curriculum that encourages critical thinking and respects diverse perspectives, educators can fulfill their role as guides in the intellectual development of the next generation without imposing their own political beliefs. In doing so, they will create a more inclusive, respectful, and wellrounded educational experience that benefits all students.
Best Of Norfolk - Through The Lens Of Our Readers
Thanks to the wonderful photographs shared by our followers on Facebook, have a look at these amazing November images of our stunning region.
Maria Holloway - Bawsey Estate & Country Park
Nadine Gray - Reflections At Bawsey Country Park
Nadine Gray - Tree Tunnel At Metton
Dawn MountainRemembrance, Overstrand Church
Helen Chapman - Morningthorpe
Vicki Jeffery - Home Win For Norwich City
Charlotte Watlow - Apache Over Smallburgh
To be in with a chance of having your own photographs featured in the future, look out for our regular Facebook posts where you can add your images. Alternatively, send an email with your image and caption to: submissions@icenimagazine.co.uk
Dawn Mountain - Jarrold's Lit For Christmas
Helen Chapman - Tyrrels Wood
Dawn Mountain - Remembrance At Wells
Focus On: Christmas
Let’s Enjoy The Season’s Festivities
As the festive season arrives there are an increasing number of things to consider.
Where to go, who to invite, the desire to give everyone a good time, how much it’s going to cost. There’s an ever-increasing list of things that crop up, all potentially adding to the stress.
Expense is a major concern for many people. Food, drink and entertainment are the biggies, but there are the hidden, unconsidered costs too, like heating, presentable tableware, towels. Not everyone is comfortable with a ‘take me as you find me’ approach and is keen to impress. In actuality, your guests are unlikely to remember those incidentals. It’s your warmth and welcome that they’ve come for.
Let’s look at ways to minimise festive stress and enable you to enjoy the season’s festivities.
If you’re after a more minimal look this year why not instead fill glass bowls with coloured baubles instead of decorating a tree, put your Christmas lights around the fireplace, display your cards in a basket on the table, have a poinsettia or holly in a vase? Still festive touches, colourful and effective, but easier and less full-on.
Cut back on excessive present giving. Some households provide presents for every guest, but not every Christmas visitor warrants a gift and even an inexpensive present requires choosing, buying and wrapping. Some friendship groups agree that a secret Santa with a £10 limit works well, whilst ensuring that everyone gets a gift without ‘breaking the bank’.
Agree to stop giving presents to random adults. Often there’s relief at not buying gifts for miscellaneous family and friends. Maybe instead arrange a night out with friends in
January. It’s good to have something to look forward post-Christmas.
If you’re hosting important meals over the festivities solicit offers of help. Most people will offer anyway, so accept and request cheese, a dessert, a bottle. It all helps and gives you less to think about. Or ask for help with the vegetable preparation, setting the table, washing up. Does someone want to be the entertainments officer, organising games, perhaps after lunch?
Plan as much as you can in advance. Some food can be prepared and then frozen, and some winter food can be a good back-up plan for unexpected guests; hearty soups, stews, casseroles, pies are often very welcome after a brisk country walk. Also find out dates, times and prices for church services, carol concerts, pantomimes and other interesting local events.
Be vigilant about shopping! It’s those few extra crackers, baubles, nibbles, sweet treat ‘must haves’ that are often not needed but ramp up your Christmas spending unnecessarily, sometimes adding significantly to the bill.
Include some me/us time in your planning. Remember to record your favourite shows for later viewing, to watch at your leisure. Organise treats and schedule some quiet time, rather than have every minute filled with guests and arrangements.
January has developed a reputation for being a busy time for divorce lawyers after so much
intensive togetherness over the Christmas period. Ensure that you make time for each other and enjoy opportunities for fun, closeness and intimacy.
Invite guests to babysit for an hour while you both go for a walk, coffee or have a pleasant interlude. Communicate well and remind yourselves how much you enjoy, support and care for each other. Discuss any niggles and hold onto your sense of humour!
Maybe make time to reflect on this year and how it’s been for you, the successes and lessons learned. Start to look forward to what you’d like to achieve in the coming year, not resolutions as such, but time invested in a little forward planning.
A few years ago the Archbishop of Canterbury expressed concern at the burden people were placing themselves under at this time of year, a time that’s meant to be about love and sharing with those closet to us.
He mentioned how the desire for a good Christmas was placing some households into so much debt that it could take up to three years to repay it.
Compare that to Thanksgiving and how it’s such a major event in the US, yet no gifts are exchanged. It’s all about sharing a meal with our nearest and dearest. Let’s hold onto the spirit of Christmas!
Article By Susan Leigh
Susan Leigh, South Manchester counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support. For more articles, information or to make contact please visit: http://www.lifestyletherapy.net
Turquoise
With Christmas just around the corner it is always difficult to think of birthday presents in December. Why not get the person you love jewellery? Turquoise is known as the birthstone for December.
Turquoise is perhaps one of the best known semi-precious stones. It’s also amongst some of the oldest known stones to have been made into jewellery, and has been found buried in Ancient Egyptian tombs.
Turquoise is only found in a few places around the world, as it can only be formed under certain conditions. Turquoise is a compound of hydrated copper and aluminium phosphate that is created only in dry and barren areas with acidic and copper rich groundwater that is soaked up, and reacts underground with minerals that contain phosphorous and aluminium. The main deposits are found in Iran, the South-West United States and the Sinai Peninsula in Egypt, though it is also found in China, Tibet, Australia and more.
The English name ‘turquoise’ probably comes from the French turquois which means “Turkish” as the stone probably first made its way to Europe with Turkish traders who carried it on from mines in Iran.
Turquoise can vary in colour from blues, through to green and even white. Some turquoise has no veining at all (and in fact is the most highly prized) and some has a matrix of veins criss-crossing its surface. Turquoise can, and does, on occasion change colour due to the effects of light, or a chemical reaction with something it has come into contact with such as cosmetics, or acids from the skin. Thankfully most turquoise sold today has been treated to stabilise the colour so, with a little bit of care, we don’t have to worry about wearing it.
Turquoise is the national stone of Tibet, where it is called ‘Sky-Stone’ due to the belief that it came from the sky. It is thought to carry protection to anyone wearing it and is often gifted to children to keep them safe on their life’s journey.
Top Tips To Make Christmas Shopping Less Stressful
The festive season is often synonymous with joy, family gatherings, and Christmas cheer.
However, for many, it is also a time fraught with stress, particularly when it comes to Christmas shopping. The pressure to find the perfect gifts, navigate crowded stores, and stick to a budget can turn what should be a joyous experience into a chaotic one. To help you simplify your Christmas shopping and keep the spirit of the season alive, here are some top tips to make the process less stressful.
1. Start Early
One of the most effective ways to reduce pressure during the Christmas shopping rush is to start early. By planning your shopping well in advanced, you can avoid the last-minute scramble that often leads to stress. Set aside
some time to create a gift list and purchase items at a leisurely pace. This way, you can take advantage of early sales, avoid crowds, and have the luxury of time to find meaningful gifts.
2. Create a Budget
Before you dive into shopping, establish a budget for your gifts. This can help you avoid overspending and financial stress. List out everyone you plan to buy for and allocate an amount for each person. Consider using a budgeting app or keeping track of your expenses in a notebook. Sticking to your budget will make the shopping experience more enjoyable and prevent any financial hangovers in the new year.
3. Make a Gift List
A well-organised gift list can streamline the shopping process immensely. Take some time
to think about what each person on your list would appreciate. As you write down ideas, you may also notice that some people may be content with a simple gesture or shared experience rather than a tangible gift. This not only saves you time but can also reduce the pressure to exhaustively search for the “perfect” item.
4. Prioritise Online Shopping
In today’s digital age, online shopping presents a convenient alternative to traditional shopping. Take full advantage of e-commerce by browsing websites for deals, utilising free shipping options, and reading reviews to ensure quality. Online shopping allows you to shop at your convenience, avoiding the stress of crowded shopping centres and long queues. Don’t forget to consider local businesses that offer online shopping to keep your purchases community-oriented.
5. Embrace Personalisation
Personalised gifts can make an impact without the stress of perfection. An engraved item or a handmade gift can convey thoughtfulness and effort, often being more cherished than a generic shop-bought item. Personalisation can also stem from shared experiences, such as planning a day out or creating a scrapbook of memories. This approach often requires less shopping time while making your gifts more meaningful.
6. Set Time Limits
When you do set out to shop, establish a time limit for each outing. This can help you stick to your plan and combat decision fatigue, allowing you to focus on finding specific items while avoiding overwhelming distractions. For example, allocate two hours for in-store shopping or an afternoon for online browsing. Once that time is up, call it a day. Limiting
One of the most effective ways to reduce pressure during the holiday shopping rush is to start early.
your shopping time minimises the chance of burnout and keeps your experience from becoming a marathon of consumerism.
7. Take Breaks and Practise Self-Care
Amid the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, it’s essential to make time for yourself. Frequent breaks while shopping can recharge your batteries - grab a coffee, enjoy a stroll, or simply take a moment to breathe deeply. Self-care is vital for your mental health and ensuring you’re in a good headspace can make all the difference in your shopping experience.
8. Use Gift Wrapping Services
After securing your gifts, the task of wrapping them can also be a source of stress. Many stores offer gift-wrapping services for a nominal fee. If that isn’t an option, consider hosting a wrapping party with friends or family. This can turn a chore into a fun social event, easing the pressure while adding a spirit of camaraderie to the season.
Conclusion
While Christmas shopping can be a source of anxiety, implementing these tips can ease the burden and allow you to focus on what truly matters - celebrating the season with loved ones. By planning ahead, setting a budget, and embracing the joy of giving, you can create a more relaxed and enjoyable shopping experience that leaves you with more time to savor the festivities. Happy shopping!
Christmas Eve Traditions: A Festive Prelude To Christmas Day
As the hustle and bustle of the festive season culminates, Christmas Eve stands as a significant and cherished day for many around the globe.
This night, steeped in anticipation and warmth, is a time for family gatherings, special meals, and unique customs that enhance the spirit of Christmas. Across different cultures and regions, Christmas Eve traditions vary widely, reflecting local beliefs, historical practices, and personal preferences.
Family Gatherings and Feasting
For many families, Christmas Eve is a time to come together, often featuring a large meal that sets the tone for the forthcoming celebrations. In the UK, a traditional Christmas Eve supper might include dishes like pigs in blankets, roast
potatoes, and warm mulled wine. In some regions, especially among Eastern European communities, a festive meal known as the Wigilia is served, which includes twelve meatless dishes symbolising the twelve apostles.
In Italy, the tradition of the “Feast of the Seven Fishes” is a delicious highlight, where families indulge in various seafood dishes, honouring their Catholic heritage. Similarly, in Mexico, the “Nochebuena” celebration features a delightful array of foods that bring families together to feast and celebrate before the midnight festivities begin.
The Midnight Mass
Attending midnight mass is a longstanding tradition in many Christian households. This religious observance serves as a powerful
reminder of the true meaning of Christmas - the celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ. Churches are typically adorned with beautiful decorations, and the liturgical service resonates with carols and candlelight, enveloping the congregation in a sense of peace and reflection.
In many countries, such as Spain and Italy, families will attend mass together before returning home to continue their celebrations. The solemnity of the occasion coupled with the joyous atmosphere creates an enriching blend of tradition and reverence.
Preparing for Santa
For children, Christmas Eve is perhaps the most exciting night of the year. The anticipation of Santa Claus visiting their homes has led to various enchanting traditions. Children often hang stockings by the fireplace, eager to see them filled with small gifts and sweets in the morning. In the UK, leaving out a glass of sherry and a mince pie for Santa is customary, along with a carrot for Rudolph, acknowledging the hard work of Santa’s reindeer.
In some families, parents may tell stories about Santa’s journey around the world or read festive bedtime tales, adding to the magic of the night. Additionally, some families choose to sprinkle glitter outside their homes, creating a trail that they believe Santa will follow.
Christmas Markets and Festivities
Many cities and towns in the UK and across Europe embrace Christmas markets as a central part of their Christmas Eve tradition. These vibrant markets, often held in town squares, feature stalls selling handcrafted gifts, seasonal treats, and warm beverages. Glühwein, a spiced wine, is particularly popular in Germany, drawing locals and tourists alike who come to soak in the festive atmosphere.
These markets also provide an opportunity for families to share quality time together, exploring the festive lights, enjoying live performances, and tasting seasonal delicacies. The lively ambiance and collectively shared joy enhance the spirit of community during the holiday season.
A Time for Reflection and Giving
Christmas Eve also serves as a poignant reminder of the importance of compassion and kindness. Many families take the opportunity to volunteer or donate to charitable causes, helping those less fortunate. This spirit of giving embodies the true essence of Christmas, reminding everyone that it is better to give than to receive.
In some cultures, the tradition of celebrating Los Posadas in Mexico reinforces this value. This nine-day celebration leading up to Christmas Eve reenacts Mary and Joseph’s search for lodging, focusing on hospitality, generosity, and community support.
Conclusion
Christmas Eve is a blend of excitement, warmth, and reflection, creating a rich tapestry of traditions that various cultures hold dear. Whether it’s gathering for a festive meal, attending midnight mass, preparing for Santa, enjoying local Christmas markets, or sharing acts of kindness, these practices resonate deeply within communities. As families around the world engage in their beloved traditions, they weave a narrative of love, hope, and togetherness that transcends borders, echoing the timeless magic of Christmas.
Through these celebrations, the spirit of Christmas Eve continues to shine brightly, reminding us all of the importance of connection and joy during this wonderful time of year.
Fun Christmas Games For The Whole Family
As the festive season approaches, families across the globe gear up for celebrations filled with joy, warmth, and togetherness.
One of the best ways to enhance that festive spirit is through games that can be enjoyed by every family member - regardless of age. Whether you're having a cosy family gathering or a large Christmas party with friends, playing games can create lasting memories and bring everyone closer. Below are some Christmasthemed games that are sure to entertain and delight the whole family.
Christmas Charades
Charades is a classic game that encourages creativity, laughter, and a bit of friendly
competition. To give it a Christmas twist, write down holiday-related words or phrases on slips of paper - think “building a snowman,” “wrapping gifts,” or “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer.” Players take turns picking a slip and pantomiming the phrase for their team to guess within a time limit. This game is adaptable for all ages and can guarantee plenty of laughs as players express themselves in increasingly inventive ways.
Holiday Pictionary
Similar to Charades, Pictionary involves drawing but relies on artistic skills (or a lack thereof) instead of acting. To play, divide into teams and have players draw Christmas-related prompts, such as “Christmas tree,” “mistletoe,” or “gingerbread house” on a whiteboard or large pad of paper. The team
members must guess what their teammate is drawing within a specific timeframe. It’s entertaining to watch how differently each person interprets the prompts, and the end results are often hilarious.
Christmas Bingo
Bingo is simple, engaging, and can be enjoyed by everyone from kids to grandparents. Create custom bingo cards filled with Christmasthemed images or words, such as “Santa,” “snowman,” and “candy cane.” As you call out the images, players will mark their cards accordingly. To elevate the game, consider offering small prizes like holiday treats or themed trinkets for the winners. Christmas Bingo can set a joyful atmosphere and allows for social interaction among family members.
Christmas Scavenger Hunt
A scavenger hunt is an exciting way to keep everyone moving and engaged. Make a list of holiday-themed items for family members to find around the house or the garden. Items could include ornaments, candy canes, or even Christmas cards. Depending on the age of the participants, you can make the list more challenging by incorporating riddles or clues. The first person or team to collect all items on the list wins a festive prize. This game encourages teamwork and problem-solving while making the holiday atmosphere even more delightful.
Would You Rather: Christmas Edition
This game involves asking fun, silly, or thoughtprovoking questions. Create a list of holidaythemed inquiries, like, “Would you rather have to sing ‘Jingle Bells’ every time you enter a room or dance like a reindeer every time you leave?” Gather the family and take turns asking each other the questions. The answers can lead to funny debates and stories and can be a great
way to learn about each other’s holiday preferences. This game can suit all age groups and keeps the conversation flowing.
Christmas Trivia
For families that enjoy a more cerebral challenge, Christmas trivia can be both fun and educational. Prepare a series of questions related to Christmas traditions, songs, movies, or history. Divide into teams and set a point system for correct answers. To make it more exciting, include a “final jeopardy” round where teams can wager their points on a particularly challenging question. This can be a delightful way to test everyone’s knowledge of holiday lore while reviving familiar memories from past Christmases.
Christmas Cookie Decorating Contest
While technically not a game, a cookie decorating contest can be a fun and sweet addition to your holiday festivities. Provide plain cookies, icing, and an assortment of toppings such as sprinkles and candies. Kids and adults alike can showcase their creativity by decorating to their heart’s content. Set categories for judging, like “most creative,” “most festive,” and “best use of color.” Not only do you create delicious treats, but you also foster teamwork, creativity, and a bit of friendly rivalry.
Final Thoughts
Incorporating games into your family Christmas celebration adds an element of fun and encourages bonding among loved ones. Whether it’s through laughter during a round of Christmas charades or the excitement of a scavenger hunt, these games create an atmosphere of joy and togetherness. So, gather the family, set up the games, and prepare for a celebration that everyone will cherish for years to come!
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