SOMETIMES...
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Issue 82 2020
Sometimes You’ve Just Got To Say ‘No’ Many people find that it’s their automatic default to say ‘yes’ whenever something is asked of them. They may have learned to respond without even thinking about it, maybe regard others’ needs as more important than their own or don’t want to cause disappointment, offence or appear ‘difficult’ by declining. Saying ‘yes’ can be a positive trait that opens new doors and experiences. It can be a significant investment in our relationships, but used too often or without due consideration can also lead to overwhelm, frustration and resentment. Let’s look at why sometimes you’ve just got to say ‘no’: ● At times it can become apparent that we need to re-define the boundaries of our relationships and remind/reinstate
the parameters of what’s appropriate and acceptable. Over time we may have ended up doing things out of habit or by default. That’s not always the best or most respectful way to live. From now, let’s decide to be clearer about our roles and check whether the things we accept or agree to are still okay for us. Saying ‘no’ can be an important part of reclaiming our self-respect. ● Personal time and space is integral to good self-care. Don’t underestimate the role of some me-time. Just because you’re free and don’t have an important task or commitment at the moment means you should feel guilty or allow others to encroach on that time. If you had an appointment with an important client, it’s hard to imagine that you’d let something distract you from honouring it. So, put yourself in your diary and say ‘no’ to cancelling, unless a real emergency crops up. Commit to regular time for yourself.
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