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departments features Care For Your Kids . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .12 By Kiran Dodeja Smith Whether for work or for play, find the best child care for your kiddos when you must be away. Private Schools . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20 By Kiran Dodeja Smith Our annual look at private institutions around town. School Daze . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .28 By Kathy Brown Bullying? No friends? No worries; help your child overcome these obstacles and more. Physically Prepared . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .38 By Dr. Sara DuMond, M.D. Start the school year strong with information on your little one’s annual physical.

Products to Please . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .46 Teach them well – items you can find around town. Fall Fashion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .54 Look cool for school. Carolina Cuties! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .74 Starring local little ones, as themselves … DJ Dad: Matt Harris . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .76 Birth order and booger robots.

Slow Parenting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .50 By Kiran Dodeja Smith Caution: You may find happiness by just taking it easy. Here’s why. Destination: Williamsburg . . . . . . . . . . . .59 By Kathy Brown History, education and fun abound in this 18th-century Virginia town. Intentional Parenting: Part III . . . . . . . . .62 By Leslie Petruk, MA, LPC, NCC Our resident therapist provides the final installment in our series on a parenting method. iPad Impact . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .66 By Kara Harrington Special-needs children are reaping educational benefits from use of this techie tool.

cover: Andrew (8) and Dylan (5) Wicher are our super-cute cover kids, sons of Julie and Jamie. The boys share many interests, including swimming, most sports, Star Wars and traveling ... but each is unique in his own special way. The rising third grader is fond of reading and art, while his brother loves trucks, playing and getting dirty. The Huntersville residents are also great big brothers to 1-year-old Brayden! Photo by Michelle Neira Photography ( www.michelleneira.com)

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from the publishers . . Volume 6: Issue 27

photo by Pearl Peszeki Photography I don’t know about you, but summer went by all too quickly for me. I realized this around July 1 when random people started asked me how my summer was thus far. Huh, I thought? Didn’t it just start a few days ago? I’m sure that having a new baby has something to do with it; we all know that the first few months can leave parents in quite a daze. Add in a few other kiddos who know nothing of anyone not sleeping through the night and you’ve got a recipe for busy days running on low fuel – and little recollection to boot. Aside from the newborn, though, this summer was a significant one for me. My second child will be heading to kindergarten this fall. I’m assuming that most parents of multiple children have one child they have the guilties over; she is mine. Somehow I always feel that she gets the least of me. So I am feeling badly, thinking that perhaps I didn’t do enough for her over the years … and here she is off to big-kid school. Anyone sending a child to a new school, be it kindergarten, preschool, or even to child care, has apprehensions. After all, we’re parents; worrying seems to be what we signed up for. But as with anything, the more informed you are about newness, the better your confidence. Parents seeking any type of child care – a nanny, mother’s morning out or otherwise – will be pleased to find the skinny on each option available. We’ve also noted the pros and cons associated with each form of child care to help guide you to a solution that fits your needs. This all starts on page 12. No matter how informed or confident you may be, however, your child still may hit some bumps in the road. Whether he butts heads with his teacher, or she’s blue because the mean girls are bullying her, it’s our job as parents to help set them back on a smooth course. “School Daze,” on page 28, is here to prepare you with sound advice. As we head back into fall, not only is school back in session, it’s also the season for activities and sports to resume. A rising topic with parents today, and one that I personally enjoyed learning about (and practicing even more), is that of Slow Parenting. Also termed “free-range kids,” this parenting style is all about slowing down, doing the opposite of over-scheduling and trying to enjoy instead of keeping up with the Joneses. If you feel like I do, that time is passing me by all too quickly, take heed before you sign your child up for that fifth activity. Focus on the here and now and open up the doors to creativity at home. Yes, I feel guilty about not spending enough time with my second daughter … and I also feel guilty for not getting her involved in many extracurricular activities. But as tempting as it may be to sign her up for lots of lessons to alleviate my self-reproach, I know that’s not the solution. I realize that I’m not going to be that perfect parent; no one is. The best I can do is make the most of our situation. Spending quality time with each of my kids is something we all will appreciate. And the guilt? Well, hopefully with time that will fade. Wish me luck!

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book corner By Arden McLaughlin of the Charlotte Mecklenburg Library For some reason, whenever back-to-school time rolls around, I reminisce about my mom carting me to South Iredell High School every day in August for cheerleading practice. I loved getting back to my high school; I’m not sure if it’s because I was done with the summer or if I was ready to see the cute soccer players working out at the same time we were. Then, I remember my early school days and how I spent my months in the summer praying for the perfect teacher. Basically, every summer always meant anticipating the school year. Isn’t that how it goes? For so many of our little ones, school is the center of their worlds. It’s always a rite of passage and sometimes a dreaded ordeal, but it’s forever hovering on the horizon. So, let’s dive into some great books to get your little ones geared up for SCHOOL!

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is one of the you can do to prepare your little one for a lifetime of learning. Research tells us that when you read to a young child, you naturally touch on important pre-reading “building blocks” that begin to develop at birth and must be mastered before your child can become a reader.

Your library can help.

The book I am most excited about is the latest in the Skippyjon Jones collection. (I actually named my cat Skippyjon Jones after this little guy!) Skippito sneaks off to school (school is only for dogs, according to Mama Junebug Jones). Since we all know Skippyjon Jones is a Siamese cat that thinks he is a Chihuahua, dog school is actually the perfect place for him. Check out his latest antics in Skippyjon Jones, Class Action, by Judy Schachner. Keep in mind, the Skippyjon Jones collection has board books and chapter books. Plus, each picture book comes with an audio CD so your little one can listen to Schachner over and over without bugging you to get through the Skippy language! Many of us start off a new year with a goal. Louise the Big Cheese is no different. She wants to make straight A’s, but got stuck with the toughest teacher in her grade. I totally remember when that happened to me! Actually, I think it happened to me almost every year. If you’ve got a little one who is facing a hard year with a tough teacher, get Louise the Big Cheese and the Back-to-School Smarty-Pants, by Elise Primavera and Diane Goode, for them at your local library or bookstore. It’s often helpful to process struggles through a fictional character’s story. There are always a few little ones who create every story possible about what might happen as they head back to school. For these kids there is a great new book simply called Back to School Tortoise, by Lucy M. George and Merel Eyckerman. In the beginning of the book, Tortoise is worried about falling down, mean 12

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« Need child care for your little one? Read how to find a perfect fit. »

ll parents need a break sometimes. Perhaps you are pregnant with your first baby and will be returning to work following your maternity leave. Or maybe you’re ready to head back to work and are looking for after-school care for your elementary or preschool-aged child. Even nonworking moms require assistance – sometimes they crave a sporadic break, and their little ones are often fond of interacting with other children their age. Whether it’s five hours or 50, finding someone you trust in an environment that will help your child thrive can be overwhelming and even frightening. Rest assured that many solid options are available. Once you narrow down your needs and desires, steering your way through your choices can be very clear-cut.

Before you start your search ... We suggest asking yourself these questions: • Can you or your spouse afford to stay home? At the same time, does this solution provide the greatest level of happiness to you or your significant other? • What is your budget for child care? • What are the ages of your children? Babies will have different needs than a 5-year-old. • Do you have relatives nearby who may help? Is it someone who would be a good fit for your child and would they be happy caring for your little one? • What times will you need care for your little one(s)? Is your schedule flexible? Do you need year-round care? • How important is location for you? • Does your child have any special needs (emotional, physical, etc.)? Recognize that your needs may change over time. Older children are developing play and learning styles. Interaction with other kids, as well as individualized attention, are two concerns that should not be ignored. Though an older child may not require play with peers as greatly as a baby, as he gets older, he may benefit (and greatly enjoy) that interaction. In addition, if you add more family members, other options may become more advantageous from a cost perspective. The bottom line here is that the type of care you initially choose may not be suitable in later years. The good news is that there are lots of options available to you, regardless of your needs and wants.

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Center-based programs » » » » » » » By and large, center-based programs are the most readily available and probably the best known. These programs may stand alone or operate within a school, in a workplace, a home, church or synagogue. Care is offered in a group setting with planned activities. Often children are grouped by age, though sometimes the classes are comprised of mixed ages. Factors about this care that many find attractive include the training and supervision teachers receive, the hours of availability (most centers are open every weekday, except in the event of severe weather or pre-announced closings for holidays). Many center-based programs offer both full- and part-time enrollment. While a handful offer services to care for your child when she’s sick, most do not. Center-based programs must be licensed by the state and conform to state regulations in the areas of teacher-to-child ratios, staff qualifications and facility standards. Many parents prize those factors. Many of these types of programs offer vast spaces filled with the latest and greatest in technology and more. Kids ‘R’ Kids, for example, has a 2,500-square-foot activity room at its Blakeney location, ideal for after-school students looking to relax or complete their homework. The Kids ‘R’ Kids school located on Ben Craig Drive boasts an indoor gym, outdoor playgrounds, computer labs and more, with ample space to entertain and educate kids on a daily basis. A computerized monitoring system implemented at all of the Kids ‘R’ Kids facilities allows parents to watch their children over a secure Internet connection from work, home or anywhere. Although as KRK parent Amy Ratterree says, the quality of the program and the trust she has in the staff keep her quite content. It’s a rare moment when she does check in online. “I thought when we started at KRK that the webcam would be something I would use all the time; however, because I trust the staff and management, and the fact that I know my kids are happy, I don’t feel the need to look,” says Ratterree. “I do like the idea of being able to look if I wanted to, and it is more of a comfort to know that it is there if I felt the need to check on them (if they had a rough morning at home or something).” Centers vary in terms of philosophy, curriculum, size, number of staff members in each classroom, profit/non-profit status, and parent participation. Nowadays, children in center-based programs have options to learn everything from yoga to Mandarin Chinese. In fact, The Goddard School offers manners, sign language, world cultures and foreign languages (including French, Spanish and

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Chinese), plus many more options at its University Area location. The programs offer way more than most of us are able * Average full-time weekly fee to teach at home. With all of the great for a 2-year-old in a child qualities offered by care center. center-based programs, demand often outstrips the supply. Kristen Vining recently moved from Uptown to Fort Mill to get into the South Carolina school district before her twins start kindergarten in 2012. “Although we didn't have many options due to waiting lists, Smart Kids (being brand new) offered immediate care,” she says. “As full-time working parents, it is comforting to know that Smart Kids not only takes tremendous pride in ensuring the safety of our twins, but as well in stimulating their little brains through dramatic play, manipulatives, arts and outdoor play.” The Vinings’ first choice remains Carolina Kids, where the waiting list is unknown. “We love how warm and friendly the front office staff was during our tour (as well as the teachers) … we love the positive feedback that other parents have shared. We love that it is very convenient to our new home, and we love their principles and philosophies.” The Vinings are hopeful that spaces there will open up for their twins in the upcoming months.

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Part-day preschool » » » » » » » Preschool is a wonderful option for parents with flexible schedules, part-time jobs, or moms just needing a little time for themselves. “Part-time” programs typically operate for four hours or less and generally serve infants through 5year-olds. More often than not, they operate on the same calendar as the local school system, though sometimes the days vary slightly. Many programs are based in churches, synagogues or community centers and can provide a simple, convenient choice for parents seeking a part-time solution for child care. While not required to be licensed by the state, some preschools voluntarily seek accreditation through various national agencies. Ivybrook Academy (formerly known as Learning Links Academy), located in Weddington and newly in Fort Mill, is currently in the process of being accepted into the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC). As with many preschool programs in this area, Ivybrook also 16

requires all of its teachers to hold a degree in an education-related field, though the state does not require that, either. Maggie Wheeler has been at the school since its inception in 2007. “There is no doubt that there is a strong academic focus at the school, but the teachers have found a great balance between learning and playing, and intertwining the two,” she says. “Kids are assessed periodically throughout the school year so each child essentially has an individualized curriculum, which I feel sets them up for success. Neither of my kids have ever felt overwhelmed by what they were learning or even been bored, for that matter. “As a stay-at-home mom, the half-day hours worked out perfect for me and seemed to be enough for the kids,” Wheeler continues. “I had enough time to run errands and get housework done and the kids always enjoyed going. The progression of how many days a week they went (progressing from one day to five days over four years) seemed to help with the transition into the full week of elementary school.” Part-day preschools, whether religiousbased or non-denominational, can also fit the bill for working parents. Take Nikki Dragone of the Arboretum area. “At the time I enrolled my oldest at Christ Lutheran Preschool, I was going on maternity leave with my second child and needed child care close to home,” she says. “I had to pull my oldest out of full-time day care, and wanted to continue with a part-time program because I wanted to continue the socialization.” Many people flock to the numerous religious-based programs around town; you’ll find this out quickly come January when you try to enroll your little one in preschool. “CLCC was a great choice for several reasons: It is a Christian-based program, has a fantastic curriculum, has flexible days options (two, three, four and five days), and most importantly, the administration and teachers LOVE their jobs; it shows every day you walk in the doors. They truly love children and create a loving and fun environment for the kids. My kids want to go to school – that is the best sign there is,” Dragone says. “I have both children enrolled part-time, five days a week, and have a part-time nanny. I feel this is a great combo and the best of both worlds!”

Licensed family child care homes » » » » » » » In March 2011, there were 273 regulated family child care homes in Mecklenburg County, according to Child Care

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Resources, Inc. According to that agency, a family child care home is licensed to care for five or fewer preschool-age children, and an additional three school-age children. This includes preschoolers living in the home, but the provider’s own school-age children are not counted. (Individuals caring for one or two children are exempt from being licensed.) For those considering this type of child care, you’ll be interested to know that home providers must undergo a criminalrecords background check; they must have training in child development and CPR each year; and their home must meet basic health and safety standards. Ageappropriate toys and activities, in addition to nutritious meals and snacks, must be provided to the children under their care. There are definite pros and cons to LFCCH. Cost is a big benefit. Child Care Resources reports that LFCCH rates were $158 and $156 for an infant and toddler respectively at a “five-star” facility, as compared to $200 and $195 for a five-star child care * Percentage of people who value center in close proximity to home when Mecklenburg County. selecting their child care source. Those numbers were similar in neighboring Cabarrus County. Aside from being cost-efficient, flexibility is a big plus. Many parents like having their child interact with children of different ages, but some parents prefer for their little one to be with similarly aged children. Other considerations are that the environment in this type of care is smaller, and when the caregiver is sick, there is no back-up.

In-home child care » » » » » » » Having a caregiver inside the home is becoming increasingly attractive to many parents, but it’s not an option that works for everyone. Those who select this alternative generally have multiple children (as it makes it more affordable) or travel extensively and require someone at their home a great deal of the time. And on that note, families must be OK with a non-family member spending a good amount of time within their home. Having a nanny or an au pair can be a fantastic experience for those who are amenable to opening their home to an individual who just may become an extended part of the family over time.

Au Pair An au pair is a domestic assistant from a foreign country who works for and generally lives with a host family. Au pair means “on a par” or “equal to” in French; the relationship of an au pair to a family is intended to allow her to become part of the family. She is generally responsible for child care and some housework and in return * Number of licensed facilities receives a small experienced in serving specialmonetary allowance needs children in plus room and board. Mecklenburg County The benefits of using an au pair are many. She can offer great flexibility, something working parents value tremendously; she can also open your entire family’s eyes to another culture, while you help her acclimate to an American lifestyle. Au pairs often develop a “big sister” sort of relationship with the children. SouthPark mom Erin Brighton had a plan while pregnant – her baby would go to a nearby daycare affiliated with her husband’s job. “When I found out that I was having twins, however, the cost of

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two children in day care and the limited availability of two infant spots sent that plan out the window,” she says. Brighton used an agency. Their first au pair was from Cusco, Peru. “Having an au pair is like a cross between suddenly having a teenage/young adult daughter and a college roommate,” she says. “You need to walk a fine line between being concerned for their safety but letting them explore and have the freedoms they came to the U.S. to experience.” Overall, the au pair scenario can be an amazing experience for both parties. Nanny A nanny also provides assistance in the home, though a major difference is that she typically does not live with the family. Her responsibility is to care for your children and their wellbeing. With the right fit, a nanny can become an integral part of one’s family. Jackie McFee used a center-based program for six years, but made the switch to a nanny a few years ago … and she hasn’t ever looked back. “Once the scaled tipped to three kids, with our eldest heading to kindergarten, the morning schedule became too difficult to manage,” she says. “Too many kids going in too many directions all with different needs. The biggest thing that changed our minds to switch to a nanny, though, was that Matt [her husband] and I BOTH travel; we needed a back-up plan if

we both were going to be out of town. With no family in Charlotte, we were always scrambling trying to make it work. Secondly, as kids get older they have activities that they need to attend – we also desperately needed help in this area. As babies, they don’t go anywhere; but once school hits: swim team, gymnastics, piano, it never ends! Matt and I joke that Sharon (our nanny) is MY wife!!” Though McFee found her nanny through a personal recommendation, there are agencies out there that assist with nanny placement. Charlotte Care Services is not a nanny agency, but they will assist in finding a caregiver for you, whether it’s for day, night, certain weekdays or even weekends. Many nanny agencies will charge a referral fee; Charlotte Care Services instead charges a one-time registration fee. They also do background checks and check referrals, providing additional peace of mind. For those who work part time or simply need sporadic help, this is a flexible, easy way to go about finding a good fit for your family. As McFee says, “Having a stable, safe, organized home environment is priceless.”

Montessori curriculum » » » » » Montessori education has been around since 1870 and is based on the principles of an Italian physician, Dr. Maria Montessori. The individualized program of education allows children to work together with mixed ages and abilities,

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thus utilizing each other to teach and learn from one another. Their own experiences in this carefully prepared and ordered environment help to promote learning in development of the senses, conceptual or academic * Number of licensed child care development, and programs (including licensed competence in part-time preschool programs) in practical life activities as well as character Mecklenburg County in 2010. development. In Charlotte and its surrounding cities, many families choose a Montessori program for their child care needs. Claudia Prager, a full-time working mom with two kids aged 5 ½ and 2 ½, is one of them. Her kids started at the Charlotte Montessori Program when they were each 18 months old, and she and her husband are more than pleased. “It is not a day care but rather a place of learning for children,” she says. “The selfdirected and collaborative environment has helped both of my children to grow to become very independent and organized and helped them focus their attention on tasks for long periods of time. The children

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pick their own ‘work’ and are able to learn at their own pace. I recently observed in my son's Montessori class and was amazed at how orderly and disciplined and independently focused on their activities this group of 3- to 5-year-olds was. They would nicely do their ‘work’ and would put their work away when they were done with it and then get the next work. There was no chaos at all! I wouldn’t call it rigid BUT there is a correct order and process for doing each activity. “The Charlotte Montessori Program also has a very strong multi-cultural focus, which is perfect for us as I come from Germany and want my children to grow up with an appreciation for different cultures and diversity in general,” Prager continues. So would she suggest this type of care to others? “Absolutely. I have seen the positive effects on my kindergartner as I compare her with other children that were not in a Montessori program,” she reports. “She has flourished this year in kindergarten.”

Private kindergartens » » » » » » Private kindergartens recently have become more popular, especially since CMS changed the age cut-off date for rising kindergartners. Housed at a few child care centers around town, these programs offer similar curricula to what the public schools provide, yet in a smaller, more intimate

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setting, most with two full-time teachers. Private kindergartens typically operate on the public school calendar, enabling families with older children to be on the same schedule. The Blakeney Kids ‘R’ Kids also allows their kindergarten students to attend their after-school program or their care on teacher workdays and public school holidays at no additional charge – a nice added bonus, no doubt. The Primrose School at Afton Village, in Concord, opened its private kindergarten in 2009. The program has seen a tremendous increase in demand over the past three years, according to school owner Judy Walker. Walker’s belief is that all children can benefit from a private kindergarten program. “There’s been a lot of attention in the news lately about education in America, in particular high-quality Pre-K and kindergarten education,” she says. “A high-quality, well* Percentage of annual income rounded early spent on child care for a toddler childhood education in a family of three in forms an essential Mecklenburg County. foundation for a

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The Pros & Cons Center-based programs PROS Offer a child-development/preschool curriculum Must be licensed by the state Options may include extracurricular activities, computers, second languages, transportation and more Allow your child to be in the company of similarly aged children Operate on most work days Staff members are trained in childhood education CONS Some children may not adapt to the larger setting Less individualized attention

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childâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s future success. What and how they learn at a young age impacts how well they will do in school, and eventually in their careers and even relationships. This includes acquiring academic skills, learning to have confidence in their own competency, and internalizing what it takes to be a good person. Parents should choose a Pre-K and/or kindergarten program with a balanced approach.â&#x20AC;? She continues that â&#x20AC;&#x153;readinessâ&#x20AC;? means not only learning how to think critically, use mathematical concepts, love reading, and even learn basic Spanish vocabulary, but also how to share and show selfcontrol. â&#x20AC;&#x153;This supports a very positive transition to elementary school,â&#x20AC;? she says. Jennifer Hefnerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s son Cayden recently graduated from the Afton Village program. â&#x20AC;&#x153;After watching my son learn and grow while he attended Primroseâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Pre-K and kindergarten, I know he is more than ready to begin first grade next fall,â&#x20AC;? she says. â&#x20AC;&#x153;He is excelling in all areas of academics as well as in his social skills. He is a confident and inquisitive child with a love for learning. I attribute his desire to learn to the strong foundation he has received while at Primrose.â&#x20AC;?

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includes programs for children in kindergarten up through high-school students outside of school hours. A majority of the time families require care during the afternoon hours, but teacher workdays and some holidays are also days that need to be considered by both parents and providers. Today, you can find numerous care options for your grade-schooler; many schools offer after-school care, as do center-based providers, recreation centers, youth-serving organizations, sporting facilities/programs and more. Providing both before- and after-school care, these outlets offer enrichment, academic instruction, recreation and supervised care. The YMCAs of Charlotte have a sizeable after-school program at all of their main branches and provide care for many, many students in the area. Sandra McPhaul is the director of the After School Programs at the Simmons YMCA. “We know that learning doesn't end when the school bell rings,” she says. “The way your children spend time after school can make a big difference in their personal development and your family-life balance. At the Y, kids engage in a variety of exciting physical and imaginative activities that encourage them to explore who they are and what they can achieve. Through guided play, children

learn to respect themselves and others, work out their differences, and discover the value of friendship. Academic support from caring role models enriches your child's educational experience and enables families to spend more quality time together.” Obviously, a good portion of the time spent in any after-school program is spent on homework and working ahead, which also benefits parents. Once you pick up your children, you’ll have the opportunity to spend time with them however you wish, whether on schoolwork or just having fun.

Drop-in centers » » » » » » » This flexible option is a unique, newer alternative that kids and parents like. Though it’s not a permanent solution, in times when your regular care or sitter is not available or when you just need a few hours without your kids, drop-in centers can be just the answer. For the most part, it’s an affordable option (generally $7 to $10 per hour per child; sometimes a registration fee is also required), and the little ones view it as a day/night out for them. Though various drop-in-only centers pop up every now and then around town, some center-based programs also offer drop-in care, which can

only sweeten the deal. In this scenario, you’re guaranteed to have a facility with the star rating and state licensing you desire, along with qualified teachers. Regular drop-in facilities are not required by North Carolina to be licensed as other full-time facilities are, but most providers and teachers are CPR-certified. Kid Time opened in Huntersville in 2006 and provides drop-in care for children ages 18 months and up. Though not required, they follow North Carolina’s guidelines for ratios of teachers to children, maintain sick children policies and also have immunization records on file. “We’ve had a lot of families who have been regulars since their kids were 18 months old,” says owner Pamela Shaw. Still, they get newbies regularly – 10 new children a week, on average. “Sometimes families will be out shopping and the kids start to act up/drive their parents crazy … so they bring them over and drop them off with us,” says Shaw. Others utilize the drop-in care on a regular basis, such as every Monday/Wednesday/Friday. This particular center is peanut-free and doesn’t cook food at the facility. Instead, parents can bring lunch or snacks or will have take-out food brought in. * Source: Child Care Resources, Inc.

children can have the best of everything Anyone who has tried to find child care in a center-based program knows that waiting lists can be long and often move slowly. It’s not uncommon to have to wait one to two years for openings at some schools. For David and Shannon Willis of South Charlotte, the choices that were available, with or without a waiting list, didn’t fit the bill for what they were seeking for their own children, now ages 2 and 4. “There were newer facilities with all the bells and whistles, but the curriculum and teachers were not very strong,” says David. “There were more established facilities, but their technology and curriculum were outdated. We wanted an environment where our children could have the best of everything – a strong, structured curriculum that enables them to get ahead, computer systems that support their learning experience and prepare them for school, and a teaching staff that is qualified to deliver what each child needs individually to succeed.” The Willises had long been interested in early education and after their second child was born, the timing was finally right. Unable to find the child care they desired, this full-time working pair found a program that met their high expectations and decided to bring it to Charlotte. The Kiddie Academy franchise has been around for over 30 years and offers all of the qualities the Willises wanted for their own little ones. Some of the differentiating factors that appealed to them, and ones they will incorporate into the Charlotte location include: 1. Hire only the highest quality teachers. All teachers should be properly qualified and loving, exemplifying God's love every day. Teaching shouldn't end when the lead teacher leaves each day. Assistant teachers should be equally capable. “Our Life Essentials proprietary curriculum can be implemented by all of our teachers ensuring children have a chance to learn all day long. The curriculum is very good and it doesn’t remove the teachers’ individual abilities to 20

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be creative and utilize their experiences,” says David. This, he feels, will bring satisfaction to the teachers, bring personality to the classroom, and help the children learn in a more “real” fashion. 2. Provide only the highest quality food. Nutrition is critically important to the healthy development and learning environment for young children. Kiddie Academy will have healthy, well-balanced, nutritious meals prepared by a qualified chef every day. 3. Deliver a strong language program. Foreign language should be taught early and often, not just once a week for 30 minutes. Shannon was born and raised in China, and the couple spent years working in both Shanghai and Beijing. They realize the importance of knowing languages other than English and the benefits of teaching it to the youngest ones. Therefore, Spanish and Mandarin are built into the curriculum and reinforced each day. 4. Exposure to the latest technology is critical. Touch screen computers and SmartBoards will be used throughout the academy and are integrated into the learning environment on a daily basis. The Willises realize that little things can make a difference. As parents who both work full time and have needed child care for their own boys, they appreciate that parents want only the best for their children. They are aiming to please. Their new center opens in early August and enrollment has already begun. Parents of children ages 6 weeks to 12 years can find out more about the new academy located at 9310 Blakeney Center Drive, just near Elevation Blakeney, by calling 704.438.8655.

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Charlotte offers many wonderful private school options. Here is a sampling of the area’s prestigious institutions. British American School of Charlotte The British American School of Charlotte opened in 2004 and was the fifth of the British Schools of America to open. Contrary to popular belief, you need not be British to attend. The student body is predominantly American, but nearly 30 percent of the students are from around the globe. At BASC, small teacher-to-child ratios allow the curriculum to be individualized for each student. BASC strives to educate students about world culture; children are also introduced to reading, writing and mathematic concepts at an earlier age than most American schools. Small numbers mean parent (and student!) voices are heard. The differing calendar year essentially consists of three semesters split

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into halves and an eight-week break in the summer. BASC aims to provide a broadly based and tailored British-style education for students aged 3 to 17. Delivered by youthful, energetic, educated teachers and staff, BASC’s curriculum represents the very best of current practice in the United Kingdom with an international perspective appropriate to its American home. Find out more by calling 704.341.3236 or visiting www.britishschoolofcharlotte.org.

Cannon School Since its founding in 1969, Cannon School has focused intently on each individual student. Today, the school occupies a 65-acre campus just off the I-85 corridor. Its central location and well-rounded collegepreparatory curriculum attracts families across the greater Charlotte, Cabarrus County, Lake Norman, and Davidson areas. Cannon families love the school for its: • strong sense of community and collaboration. • warm and nurturing environment. • innovative, cutting-edge teaching strategies that develop life-long learners with the skills to be effective 21st century citizens. • small class sizes. • commitment to the whole child. • character development. Visit Cannon School on Wednesdays between 9 a.m. and noon and experience all the ways that they go beyond. Admission office tour guides will be available to answer your questions and take you on a tour of their junior kindergarten through grade 12 campus. For more information, visit www.cannonschool.org/littleones or call 704.721.7199.

Charlotte Christian School British American School of Charlotte Laying the foundation for learning in a nurturing, creative,academically stimulating environment. Full or part-time programs are available. Contact us today for more information. 704.341.3236 K.conroy@wclschools.org www.britishschoolofcharlotte.org

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For more than 60 years, Charlotte Christian has provided excellence in Christian education as a Christcentered, college-preparatory school. Each young man and woman is prepared to be an extraordinary thinker and a Christ-honoring decision maker. The students will discover a deeper knowledge in academics; discover teamwork in athletics; discover a creative side in fine arts; and discover God’s truth in spiritual life. “At Charlotte Christian, we recognize that a parent’s decision for their child’s education is of paramount importance. Thus we earnestly seek to partner with

parents to instill in our students the belief that ‘all truth is God’s truth,’ which is foundational for a Biblical worldview. Students at Charlotte Christian spend their academic, athletic, and fine arts time with committed, caring, and passionate faculty members and coaches. As a college-preparatory school for junior kindergarten through grade 12 students, we offer a rigorous curriculum that integrates Biblical truth and prepares students for institutions of higher learning and life beyond,” says Head of School Barry Giller.

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Charlotte Montessori School Charlotte Montessori School specializes in the care and education of children, ages 15 months through 6 years. Located in Historic Dilworth, the school serves families in the Charlotte Metro Area, as well as those working in Uptown. "We believe that well-trained, nurturing Montessori teachers are the key to your child's educational and emotional growth," says Director Ana Leahy. "Our teachers are highly trained professionals who understand the child's physical and cognitive development, and supply the lessons to continually

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challenge and reinforce his knowledge.” In a Montessori classroom, the child develops at his or her own pace, guaranteeing a very individualized education. The end result is a child who begins to think independently, to solve many of his or her own problems, and is fully prepared to go forward into life with confidence. Charlotte Montessori School encourages prospective parents to tour the school and learn much more about Montessori education. This year, Charlotte Montessori School celebrates its 40th anniversary in educating and inspiring children. Visit www.charlottemontessori.com or call 704.332.7733 to find out more.

Charlotte United Christian Academy In 2009, two of Charlotte’s oldest and most respected Christian schools (Resurrection Christian School and Garr Christian Academy) joined forces to become Charlotte United Christian Academy (C.U.C.A.). The result is an educational facility that provides an environment where children ages 3 months through 12th grade feel loved, valued and connected while expanding their horizons. The preschool, lower school, middle school and upper school all boast small ratios led by qualified teachers who provide a rich spiritual inheritance along with a strong academic program. C.U.C.A. is also very well known in the community for its outstanding ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) Program. “In our efforts to truly leave no child behind, we have observed a growing need in our community (and our world) to serve children with special needs, by providing the specialized therapy they need while including them in a typical school environment where they develop socially, as well,” says C.U.C.A. Principal Janet Atwell. “We have already seen incredible success in the classroom using ABA techniques that include verbal behavior techniques in treating children with language delays and other communication disorders on the autism spectrum, as well as other developmental disabilities. Students are gaining language, knowledge and independence each day! Students that may have been at risk of institutionalization years ago are now, with this special training, able to look forward to happy, productive lives.” To find out more about C.U.C.A. or their ABA program within, please visit www.cucawarriors.com/ or call 704.537.0331.

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Countryside Montessori School Located in the University City area of North Charlotte, Countryside Montessori School is dedicated to providing education for children, from toddlers through high school students, consistent with the Montessori philosophy. The school’s mission is to endow students with the desire and ability to learn and the selfunderstanding and social awareness necessary for healthy, productive lives.

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Countryside boasts three wooded campuses divided into three distinct programs: preschool, elementary and middle/high school. The preschool and elementary classrooms are designed for independent work and are equipped with a full array of hands-on Montessori materials and up-to-date learning equipment for each stage of development. The middle and high school programs offer a holistic approach that addresses the needs of the adolescent student and extends learning beyond the classroom with internships, intercessions and individual study. Arts, athletics, foreign language, environmental and service learning complement the classroom experiences. Countryside Montessori School, founded in 1981, is a nonprofit, independent school, accredited by SAIS/SACS and the American Montessori Society. Find out more about Countryside Montessori School by visiting www.countrysidemontessorischools.org or by calling 704.503.6000.

Davidson Day School Davidson Day was founded in 1999 to provide an independent school of excellence for Lake Norman area families. Conveniently located at Exit 30 off I-77, the school serves students from preschool to high school. At all grade levels, the curriculum at Davidson Day prepares students for success and leadership for their entire lives, not just for college. An impressive studentteacher ratio of 7:1 and maximum class size of 18 ensure that each student receives the attention they deserve. Each childâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s education is guided by a personalized Student Growth Portfolio that fosters knowledge, life skills, critical curiosity and global leadership. The world-class education also includes championship sports teams, outstanding arts programs, clubs, service learning opportunities and a Belize archaeology research campus. Davidson Dayâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Early Childhood program, which starts at age 2, offers both traditional and Montessori classrooms. In addition, all Early Childhood students take Mandarin Chinese, Spanish, art, music, theatre, technology and physical education classes weekly. Schedule your personal admission tour by calling 702.237.5229 or emailing admissions@davidsonday.org.

Grace Covenant Academy Conveniently located right off Exit 25 in Cornelius, Grace Covenant Academy is a private Christian school with Biblical values, comprehensive academics, and exceptional educators. Students aged 3 (Pre-K) through fifth grade thrive in a dynamic, Christ-centered environment where small classrooms ensure that they receive individualized attention. In the 10 years since it was founded, Grace Covenant Academy has helped children thrive academically, socially, and spiritually. Students participate in daily Bible instruction, and every opportunity is taken during

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the course of the day to share and apply Biblical truth. They also enjoy weekly chapel time where they experience dynamic worship and engaging lessons taught on their level. The elementary curriculum incorporates a well-balanced range of academic subjects, featuring various programs that include hands-on learning opportunities. Enrichment opportunities include art, music, drama, Spanish, physical education, technology, and library. Families at GCA appreciate the intimate, family-like atmosphere that comes with a smaller school and welcome others to discover all that their school has to offer. Find out more by calling 704.892.5601 or by visiting www.gracecovenantacademy.org.

Providence Day School Since 1970, Providence Day School has fostered in each student a passion for learning, a strong sense of social responsibility, and a commitment to personal integrity. With over 700 networked computers on campus, technology is a highly regarded educational tool. Teachers use wireless laptop computers, document cameras, SMART Boards, and Senteo technology, as well as blogs and wikis for instruction. Providence Day School is also committed to helping students acquire the knowledge, insight, and first-hand experiences needed to live in our global society. A beautiful campus, warm and inviting facilities, a rigorous curriculum and enthusiastic and nurturing teachers have

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helped create one of the finest independent schools in the country. Providence Day School is an independent, coeducational, TK through grade 12 college-preparatory school, recognized by the U.S. Department of Education as a National Blue Ribbon School of Excellence. For more information, please visit www.providenceday.org or call 704.887.6000.

Ramah Christian Classical School A new school to our area, Ramah Christian Classical School, located in Huntersville, offers classical education to children beginning with kindergarten students. Classical education is known to focus on the timehonored “tools of learning,” which provide children with the educational tools they can utilize to both learn and think for themselves. Children at RCCS thrive on the curriculum, which is combined with a Christian education. Ramah Christian Classical School is a "Regent Schools of the Carolinas" school, which is dedicated to operating a school honoring Christ and is committed to providing a classical education challenging the mind, spirit and body. Regent Schools of the Carolinas is a private school system privately funded by preeminent Christian educators and scholars dedicated to partnering with churches to form primary and secondary schools of excellence. Teachers at RCCS are not driven by test scores or a statemandated curriculum. Instead, caring teachers in small classrooms teach each child with their individual learning style in mind. Find out more about Ramah Christian Classical School, offering education for kindergarten through fifth grade, by calling 704.948.7333 or by visiting www.rccschool.org.

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Creating scholars, nurturing spirituality and embracing diversity in Charlotte’s Center City. Trinity Episcopal School serves students in grades kindergarten through eighth and is a place where honor, integrity, compassion and accountability are valued. It is a school where artistic and intellectual pursuits are sacred, where hospitality is practiced, where everyone enjoys community, truth is revered and responsibility is paramount. Trinity Episcopal School’s campus is located at 750 E. 9th St. in the Garden District of Uptown Charlotte's First Ward neighborhood. Center City serves as their extended classroom and a textbook for cultural enrichment, handson learning and opportunities to serve. Trinity is a place of pride and passion, where both teachers and students are fully engaged, our research-based workshop approach to education is embraced, and the energy, excitement and sense of belonging radiate throughout. For more information, please visit www.tescharlotte.org or call 704.358.8101.

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ABC Language Stimulation School 201 East Matthews St., Suite 102 • Matthews 704.443.2990 Ages 3 years to 8 years $7,310 - $14,520 Speech/language delay-focused learning disabilities; 5:1 student/teacher ratio. Licensed/certified professionals: academic teachers, speech and language pathologists and occupational therapists. Arborbrook Christian Academy 4823 Waxhaw-Indian Trail Road 10:1 ratio; founded 2005; utilizes the Charlotte Mason philosophy.

704.821.9952

K - 12th

$4,850 - $5,150

Back Creek Christian Academy 1827 Back Creek Church Road 15:1 child/teacher ratio; accredited by ACSI & SACS; before- and after-school care.

704.549.4101

TK - 8th

$4,106 - $4,841

Bible Baptist Christian School & Preschool 2724 Margaret Wallace Road • Matthews 12:1 ratio; associated with NCCSA; approx. 160 students.

704.535.1694

3 years - 12th

$3,308 - $4,851

Brisbane Academy Preparatory School 5901 Statesville Road 704.598.5208 10:1 ratios; SACS CASI and NPSAA accreditations; after-school and mentorship programs; on-line courses; founded 1986.

Pre-K - 12th

$5,775 - $8,950

British American School 7000 Endhaven Lane 10:1 ratios; Learning Focused Accreditation; approx. 140 total enrollment.

704.341.3236

Ages 2 years - 17 years

$9,550 - $18,600

Cannon School 5801 Poplar Tent Road • Concord Founded in 1969; 9:1 student/teacher ratio; SACS-SAIS accreditations.

704.786.8171

JK - 12th

$10,495 - $17,535

Carmel Christian School 1145 Pineville-Matthews Road • Matthews 704.849.9723 x 2 K - 10th 11:1 student/teacher ratio; SACS Accreditation; Christ-centered and Biblically integrated; middle and high school sports program; founded 1992.

$7,224 - $9,000

Charlotte Christian School 7301 Sardis Road Accredited by SACS-CASI; founded 1950; over 1,000 students.

704.366.5657

JK - 12th

$11,240 - $16,125

Charlotte Country Day 1440 Carmel Road 704.943.4500 10:1 student/teacher ratio; member of SACS-SAIS. Special programs include IB, Int'l Studies; founded 1941.

JK - 12th

$14,480 - $20,815

Charlotte Jewish Day School 5007 Providence Road, Bldg. E Enrollment approx. 115; 1:15 teacher/student ratio; accredited by SACS; Jewish affiliation.

704.366.4558

K - 5th

$12,793 - $13,637; special needs $22,436

Charlotte Latin School 9502 Providence Road Approx. 1,380 students; 10:1 student/teacher ratios; accredited by SACS, SAIS & NCDPI; founded in 1970.

704.846.1100

TK - 12th

$15,350 - $19,250

Charlotte Montessori School 219 East Blvd. 704.332.7733 15 months - 6 years Please check website 12- or 9-month contracts; convenient hours (7:30 a.m. to 5:45 p.m., M-F); Montessori curriculum; degreed teachers; American Montessori Society affiliation; founded in 1971; enrollment 70. Charlotte Preparatory School 212 Boyce Road 704.366.5994 Pre-K – 8th College prep; Montessori preschool; Core Knowledge Sequence K-8; SACS and SAIS accredited and AMS member; before- and after-school care; founded in 1971.

$9,970 - $16,380

Charlotte United Christian Academy 7700 Wallace Road Ratio varies by age; member of ACSI & GCACS; ABA program offered.

704.537.0331

3 months - 12th grade

$4,372 - $6,307

Countryside Montessori School 4755 Prosperity Church Road American Montessori Society Member; accredited by SAIS - SACS; 12:1 average ratio; est. 1981.

704.503.6000

Age 3 - 12th grade

$5,650 - $13,350

Covenant Classical School 3200 Patric Henry Dr. • Concord Founded in 1996; affiliations with ACCS, GCACS, ACSI and PAC - 8; low student/teacher ratios.

704.792.1854

K4 - 12th

$3,900 - $6,500

Covenant Day School 800 Fullwood Lane • Matthews 704.847.2385 13:1 student/teacher ratio; accredited by SACS, NCPSA and Christian Schools International; founded in 1989.

TK - 12th

$4,690 - $11,390

Cyzner Institute 7022 Sardis Road 704.366.8260 Pre-K - 5th Call for rates Private teaching, testing and consulting service for children with special needs; OT, speech-language and more offered to help children function as independently as possible in everyday life; ratios as low as 1:1.

Davidson Day 750 Jetton Street • Davidson 704.237.5200 Pre-K - 12th 7:1 student/teacher ratios; SACS-SAIS accreditation; language immersion programs; before- and after-school care; transportation available; founded in 1999.

$10,400 - $14,300

Dore Academy 1727 Providence Road 704.365.5490 K - 12th 6:1 student/teacher ratio. Dore focuses on teaching students with diagnosed learning disabilities and/or ADHD in ways they can learn; accredited by SAIS and SACS.

$15,405 - $18,680

Evelyn Mack Academy 6850 Monroe Road 704.535.8304 NIPSA accreditation. Special programs: summer enrichment, tutoring and after-school; founded in 1998.

Pre-K - 12th

$5,000 - $7,000

First Assembly Christian School 154 Warren C. Coleman Blvd. • Concord 18:1 ratio; approximately 700 students; homeschool options; founded in 1976.

704.793.4750

K4 - 12th

$4,950 - $5,650

First Wesleyan Christian School & Child Care 208 - A South Church St. • Gastonia Ratios vary by age; 300-plus students; founded 1971.

704.865.9823

Age 2 - 8th grade

$3,300 - $3,500

Fletcher School 8500 Sardis Road 6:1 ratio; accredited by SAIS - SACS; serving students with specific learning disabilities since 1982.

704.365.4658

K - 12th, College Preparatory

$20,150 - $21,200

Friends School of Charlotte 7001 Wallace Road 9:1 ratio; the only Friends School in the Charlotte area; inquire within regarding financial aid.

704.567.9445 or 704.877.8043

K - 5th (growing to K - 8th)

$12,550

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Gaston Day School 2001 Gaston Day Schoool Road • Gastonia Founded in 1967; accredited by SACS; member of NAIS, SAIS and NCAIS.

704.864.7744

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Pre-K - 12th

$5,725 - $13,140

Gaston Christian School 1625 Lowell Bethesda Road • Gastonia 704.824.4128 800-plus students; Biblically integrated, college-prep. program; SACS accreditation; 58-acre campus; founded 1979.

Pre-K 3 - 12th

$2,070 - $6,115

Grace Covenant Academy 17301 Statesville Road • Cornelius Christian affiliation; 15:1 ratios; founded 2001.

Pre-K3 - 5th

$2,300 - $5,500

7921 Sam Furr Road • Huntersville 704.987.9811 Lake Norman Christian ABEKA curriculum; 12:1 ratio; est. 2001; ACSI accredidation and approval of NC Dept. of Non-Public Schools.

K - 9th

$6,945 - $8,290

Liberty Preparatory Christian Academy 246 Blume Road • Mooresville 16:1 student/teacher ratio; university model school.

704.660.3933

K - 9th

$2,800 - $4,350

McKinney Academy 412 Armour St. • Davidson Approx. 70 students; founded 2001; follows the Paideia philosophy.

704.895.9664

K - 5th

$7,750

Northside Christian Academy 333 Jeremiah Blvd. Founded in 1963; ratio is 15:1; accredited by SACS and ACSI.

704.599.9015

TK - 12th

$5,460 - $6,755

Omni Montessori 9536 Blakeney Heath Road Approx. 175 students; Association Montessori Int'l; member of NCAIS; founded in 1985.

704.541.1326

Age 3 - 9th grade

$7,093 - $13,680

Our Lady of the Assumption Catholic School 4225 Shamrock Drive Approx. 114 students; 15:1 ratio; accredited by SACS-CASI and NCDPI; founded in 1948; member of MACS.

704.531.0067

PK - 6th grade

$4,427 - $8,256

704.892.5601

Palisades Episcopal School 14127 Grand Traverse Dr. 704.583.1825 JK - 8th Exceptional classical (true liberal arts) curriculum; Christ-centered learning environment; 10:1 student-teacher ratio; SACS & SAIS accredidation.

$5,000- $10,850

Phoenix Montessori Academy 17609 Old Statesville Road • Cornelius Before- and after-school care available; multi-age classrooms; founded in 2004.

704.892.7536

18 months - 9th grade

$4,670 - $9,020

Providence Christian School 4906 Providence Road 8:1 student/teacher ratio; extended care available from 7:15 a.m. - 6 p.m.

704.364.0824

2.5 - TK

$180 - $300/month

Providence Day School 5800 Sardis Road 704.887.6000 TK - 12th Approx. 1,500 enrolled; 9:1 ratio. Special programs: college prep, after-school care. SACS accreditation; founded in 1970; cited for excellence by the U.S. Dept. of Education.

$14,960 - $20,730

Ramah Christian Classical School 13301 Eastfield Road A member of the Regent Schools of the Carolinas.

K - 5th (growing to K-8th)

$5,000

South Charlotte Baptist Academy 12416 Lancaster Highway • Pineville 704.544.7323 Enrollment: 85. Ratios: 8:1 to 15:1. Christian education; K-3, K-4 and K-5 half or full day; college preparatory; founded in 2003.

Age 3 - 12th grade

$3,800 - $5,500

Statesville Christian School 1210 Museum Road • Statesville Low ratios; ACSI certified; Academic Excellence - Biblical Worldview; founded in 1995.

704.873.9511

JK - 12th

$3,210 - $7,190

St. Ann Catholic School 600 Hillside Avenue 18:1 ratio; Catholic affiliation; accredited by SACS; member of MACS; founded 1955.

704-525-4938

PK - 5th

$4,427 - $8,256

St. Gabriel Catholic School 3028 Providence Road 704-366-2409 Catholic affiliation; member of MACS; SACS accreditation; before- and after-school programs available; founded in 1958.

K - 5th

$4,427 - $8,256

St. Matthew Catholic School 11525 Elm Lane 704.544.2070 Catholic affiliation; accredited by SACS-CASI; member of MACS; gifted, talented and learning-disability programs offered; founded in 1992.

TK - 5th

$4,427 - $8,256

Trinity Episcopal School 750 E. 9th St. 704.358.8101 Located in Center City Charlotte; approx. 420 students. Ratios 11:1 K-3, 12:1 4-5, 18:1 6-8; SAIS & SACS accreditations; est. in 2000.

K - 8th

$13,990 - $15,260

704.948.7333

United Faith Christian Academy 8617 Providence Road 704.541.1742 TK - 12th Approx. 280 students; SACS-CASI Accreditation; 2009-2010 ACSI Exemplary School. Special programs: college prep, before- and after-school care, founded 1985.

$5,400 - $7,675

Village Montessori School 7:1 student/teacher ratio; founded in 2009.

20615 N. Main St. • Cornelius

704.237.3440

3 years - 6 years

$5,500 - $7,500

Weddington Christian Academy ABEKA curriculum; 10:1 ratio; est. 2001.

116 Weddington Church Road • Weddington

704.846.1039

K4 - 6th

$3,550 - $5,300

Westminister Catawba Christian School 2650 India Hook Road • Rock Hill, S.C. Founded in 1981; fine arts & athletic programming; ACSI and SACS accreditations.

803.328.5472

3K - 12th

$3,535 - $7,640

Woodlawn School 135 Woodlawn School Loop • Mooresville SAIS and SACS accreditations; founded in 2002.

704.895.8653

K - 12th

$9,600 - $11,900

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Sidestep the pitfalls your little one may encounter at the start of school with helpful advice from the experts.

ummer goes so fast, and suddenly you are gearing up for fall. Your family is facing lots of changes — earlier bedtimes, shorter days, and the return to school. Some kids transition into a new school year with ease. Others endure a rocky first few days and weeks — maybe even months — as they adjust to new environments, new schedules and new people. It’s hard enough to switch gears from long, lazy mornings and late summer evenings spent at the pool to hurried breakfasts, homework and lights out at 7:30 p.m. It’s an even harder transition when an unexpected problem develops for your little one at school. Say, for instance, your kindergartner refuses to ride the bus because he is scared. Or what happens if your first grader loved her kindergarten teacher, but now dislikes her new teacher and frets about going to school each morning? What if you find yourself continually butting heads with your child over completing his homework each night? How can you comfort your extremely shy child when she complains that no one likes her and she is lonely at school? What’s a parent to do? As my friend once said, when she decided to have babies, she thought she was signing up for nursing and diapers; she hadn’t realized that those little babies so soon would graduate to larger “life” problems that she would be responsible for solving. Yet suddenly — too suddenly — these little ones have developed into real people with backpacks and homework and their own identities. How is it possible that now they are waving good-bye to us from the school bus and facing the school day alone? As parents, how can we help them overcome the problems and fears that may come along with being an independent school student? Where’s the manual? As with most things that come along with parenting, moms and dads must learn to cope with many of these issues as they go along. But we’re hoping to help out here a little. We’ve taken a look at some potential common scenarios your child may face when starting or returning to school. Our panel of experts — two child psychologists and an elementaryschool counselor — have weighed in with advice on how to tackle the problems, so you can be prepared with wise advice at the first sign of tears. Nobody ever said parenting was easy, but hopefully having some tips in your back pocket will help make the road to a successful school year a little bit smoother.

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Scenario 1: It's the start of a new school year and a child quickly decides he dislikes his new teacher. It's going to be a long year! How can a parent get the child to work productively and respectfully with the teacher? There are many possible reasons why a child might not like his teacher. Some of the reasons could be legitimate concerns, so it’s important to talk to your child first to find out the specific reasons for not liking the teacher and determine whether any of his complaints are founded, says Tracy Barcott, Ph.D. Dr. Barcott is a licensed psychologist at Southeast Psych, one of the largest and most respected psychology practices in the region. She specializes in individual and parent-child treatment for children under the age of 6, anxiety and behavioral problems in schoolaged children, and comprehensive evaluation of children for developmental, learning, social-emotional, and autism spectrum disorders. “Listen to your child and empathize, but don’t say negative things about the teacher; let him know that he needs to respect the teacher and that a teacher who expects a lot from him can teach him a lot, too,” Barcott says. It may also be helpful to set up a meeting with the teacher so that you and your child can get to know the teacher better, which might help your child to feel differently. “A good teacher will want to help you resolve this issue, so communicating your concerns in a non-accusatory way and collaborating with the teacher can make a big difference,” she says. As a parent, you can have a great influence over your child's perceptions about a teacher, says School Counselor Emily Brown, who works at Sherwood Elementary School in Gastonia and is also a licensed professional counselor. She suggests helping your child find some positive qualities about his teacher and explaining that he can still learn from his teacher even if she is not his best friend. “Give the relationship time to develop,” Brown urges, “but be sure your child knows you expect him to show respect to the teacher regardless of how he feels about her.”

Scenario 2: School is in full swing and a student doesn't seem to have any friends. She is feeling isolated and lonely. What can a parent do to help? It is important not to overlook or dismiss the loneliness, says Barcott, especially if you suspect bullying may be involved. “Children need opportunities to make friends and practice social skills, so arranging for play dates after school on a regular basis can be very helpful,” Barcott says. “If a child doesn’t have many friends from class to invite, her teacher might have some suggestions for friendly children who could be invited, or children in the neighborhood who are slightly older or younger might be good choices. Getting her involved in after-school

activities can also help her to meet new friends. If the child is bullied at school, getting involved in activities in another part of town, maybe through a park or library, can help her to meet new children and have a fresh start.” Brown counsels recognizing that for some children, making friends takes more time, and while this is concerning as a parent, it is not something you can instantly fix. She suggests speaking to the child's teacher or counselor to share your concerns. “They may be able to help partner your child with others in the classroom who will be a special buddy for your child,” she says. Also, refer to your child's classmates as “friends.” “When your child mentions another student they played with or talked to at lunch, refer to them as a friend,” Brown says. “Children will pick up on this language and begin to feel more confident about having friends in their classroom.” Finally, both Brown and Barcott recommend that for some children, it may be helpful for you to role-play having conversations with friends in order to help build up the child’s confidence when interacting with other children.

Scenario 3: Beyond being lonely, some children may be picked on or become the victim of bullying at school. How can parents counsel their child if this happens, and when should they intervene? Up to half of all children are bullied at some point during their school years, according to the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. As a parent, be on high alert for this problem, because bullying can have long-term effects on a child. Children who are bullied have higher rates of depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and other mental-health conditions, reports the Mayo Clinic. Children who are bullied are more likely to think about suicide, and the wounds done to their self-confidence may linger into adulthood. Any child can be bullied, particularly younger children and those who have few friends or are easily intimidated. At any age, bullying can take many forms. The Mayo Clinic identifies physical bullying as hitting, punching, kicking and other types of physical harm, as well as destruction of a child's property. Verbal bullying includes teasing, name-calling, taunting and racial slurs, as well as spreading gossip or malicious rumors. Cyber-bullying — a newer form that would likely apply to older children — includes harassing emails, instant messages and text messages, as well as intimidating or threatening Web sites, blogs or posts. “Often times when children are encouraged to seek help from a teacher or other school personnel [about bullying], they worry

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that this will actually make matters worse and that their peers will bully them further for being a ‘tattle tale,’” says Sara Marcus, Ph.D., also a licensed psychologist at Southeast Psych. Dr. Marcus specializes in helping adolescents find their identities and formulate their future goals, while empowering families to maintain open communication and loving, trusting relationships. She has special interest in working with children and adolescents who demonstrate risky and challenging behavior and has much success engaging hard-to-reach, resistant clients. “In some instances, [encouraging the child] to ignore the bullying can be an effective way of ending it,” Marcus says. “When the victim displays upset, anger, fear, or other emotion in response to being picked on, the bully feels empowered that she or he is ‘getting to’ the victim. If the victim can remain emotionally neutral in the moment — and cry, get angry, or express fear once safely away from the bully — the bully believes the victim is not bothered and begins to lose interest in picking on the victim.” What can parents do? Parents can help their child come up with assertive responses to being picked on, Marcus says. “It is important to reinforce that two wrongs do not make a right, and that saying insulting or hurtful remarks in response to being bullied is not a good way to handle the situation. Instead, being armed with witty comebacks can be a respectful way of diverting bullies. For example, if a child is being picked on about his sneakers, an assertive response might be, ‘When I went shopping to pick out a new pair of shoes, there were tons to choose from. I picked these because I liked them the best out of all the kinds there. I guess

you would have picked a different pair since you don’t like these.’” If the bullying persists, contact school officials. The Mayo Clinic recommends talking to your child's teacher, the school counselor and the school principal, but advises that you do not contact the bully's parents yourself. You might also want to encourage school officials to address bullying as part of the curriculum.

Scenario 4: Some children struggle with fear — plain old fear of being away from their mom or sometimes fear associated with riding the bus. How can parents help children overcome these school-related fears? “Childhood fear and anxiety is very real and can be debilitating for children,” Brown says. “One way to decrease fears about school is to demystify the experience – read books about going to school, attend open house and walk your child around the school to show them where they will go, explain the daily schedule to them, or role-play being at school. Listen to your child's fears, and assure them with your words and actions that they are safe and supported by you.” Brown suggests using some picture books for children who are feeling anxious about starting school. Her favorites are Wemberly Worried, by Kevin Henkes, and The Kissing Hand, by Audrey Penn. Pull them out before school starts and begin to look at them with your child to get a dialogue started. Barcott says you should be sympathetic about your child’s fears, but do not allow her to stay home because of them, because this makes it harder for her to go to school. “If there is a specific reason for the fear, such as an incident with the teacher or

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another student, discussing it with the school staff might be helpful to resolve the fear,” she says. For fears of riding the bus, perhaps she could meet her bus driver or “tour” a school bus before the first day; having that extra sense of familiarity can really help to reduce anxiety, Barcott says. “You could also arrange to have a friendly teacher or guidance counselor meet her when she gets to school and walk her in from the bus, or perhaps even drive behind the bus and meet her at school yourself for the first day or two to help her have the confidence to ride the bus to school,” the psychologist says. “At home, you could write a storybook together about going to school or riding the bus and engage in pretend play about school. Let your child pretend to be the teacher or parent in some of the scenarios so you can act out for her helpful ways that she can behave or think about the situation.” It’s also a great idea to set up a system for rewards or “prizes” for your child for doing the hard work of overcoming her fears about school, suggests Barcott. “If the child has a very severe fear of school, it may be necessary to implement a step-wise plan to allow her to return to school more gradually, which would involve conversations with the school staff and possibly help from her pediatrician or a therapist,” she says.

Scenario 5: Some children really resist homework, especially after a nice, long summer! Are there any tips on how to improve the nightly struggle

over homework, and how might parents motivate their children to be responsible about it? Marcus provides some great, practical advice for troubleshooting this problem: “I always encourage parents to offer a healthy snack and short ‘chill-out time’ in between getting home from school and starting homework,” she says. “Children’s minds have been engaged all day long at school, and they are likely out of ‘brain fuel’ by homework time. “During the transition back to school after summer, it can be helpful to have your child do homework in increments,” she continues. “The child’s age will play a big part in determining how long each ‘session’ should last. For example, an 8-year-old child can be encouraged to work 15 minutes, take a five-minute break, and return to homework for another 15 minutes and so on. During break times, physical activity such as jumping jacks or jogging a lap around the outside of the house can help blow off steam and encourage refocus. Reading, computer time, a game of UNO — these are other ways to rest your child’s mental energy and allow for some refueling.”

Scenario 6: After six weeks of school, it's apparent that a child is not doing well academically and may have some sort of learning problem. What are the steps a parent should take to ensure the child gets the help he needs? “During a child's first year in school, there is a vast amount children are expected to learn, and teachers recognize that children learn at differing paces,” Brown says. If your child is struggling to learn all that is expected, meet with your child's teacher to express your concerns and find out what you can do to

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work with him at home. Particularly in the case of kindergarten students, read with your child daily and allow him to practice letter sounds and colors and writing his name, Brown suggests. â&#x20AC;&#x153;It is difficult to evaluate a child for a learning disability during kindergarten unless it is an extreme situation with delays in learning, language, ability to care for self, and/or motor skills, but if you strongly believe after conversations with the teacher that your child needs to be evaluated by the special education team, then put your concerns in writing for the teacher or administrator to begin the process of evaluation,â&#x20AC;? Brown says. Barcott advises that there may be some simple accommodations that could be made for the student, such as sitting near the front of the room, which could make a big difference. â&#x20AC;&#x153;If the difficulties persist, it may be necessary to formally evaluate the childâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s learning, which can often be done through the school or privately,â&#x20AC;? she says. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Depending on the findings, your child may be eligible for a 504 Plan [a written document prepared by a child's school that outlines the school's obligation to provide reasonable accommodations for a student] or an Individualized Education Program (IEP) at school, as well as services to address his learning needs.â&#x20AC;? One thing is important to note, Barcott warns: â&#x20AC;&#x153;Keep in mind that social-emotional issues, such as anxiety, depression, or discord at home, can affect a childâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s ability to learn, as well, so addressing any of those concerns could also be helpful.â&#x20AC;?

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Scenario 7: A child's new teacher observes that he is having difficulty paying attention in class and is often distracted. She suggests that he may have ADHD. What steps should parents take to have their child evaluated? Typically, children with ADHD are not distracted and/or hyperactive solely at school, Marcus notes. Instead, these behaviors are observed in most settings in which the child spends time. â&#x20AC;&#x153;With this in mind, parents should consider their own observations of their child, and if these concur with teacher report, further investigation may be warranted,â&#x20AC;? she says. â&#x20AC;&#x153;As a psychologist, I think it is critical to gather information from multiple sources and varied measures in order to accurately identify ADHD,â&#x20AC;? Marcus adds. â&#x20AC;&#x153;These can include behavioral checklists completed by parents, teachers, and the child, psychological testing, classroom and in-office observations, and developmental history. Parents may wish to engage their childâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s school counselor or other support personnel as an initial step in developing an appropriate assessment and intervention plan. If warranted, psychological testing can be performed through the childâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s school or an outside psychologist to determine the best ways to support learning, positive behavior, and symptom management.â&#x20AC;? Some children may require counseling above and beyond what you as a parent can provide. If you think your child may require professional help, ask your pediatrician for resources. Find more info on Southeast Psych, one of our sources, at www.southeastpsych.com.

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Ghostly Goal: Raising $100,000 for Local Schools October is generally known as Breast Cancer Awareness Month with information, walks, and more on the topic. And while Scott Clark’s Toyota is a big supporter of that cause, for the second consecutive year, it’s also embarking on an ambitious goal to support local schools. The objective? To raise $100,000, all of which will go right back to the schools involved. The dealership, located on 74 near the I-485 intersection, hosted the first Scott Clark Toyota 3-D Ghost Walk last year, which was immensely successful. Participating schools sold tickets to their attending families, which bought them endless walks through the exciting and age-appropriate ghost walk (created by the ones who bring you some of the major haunted houses in our area), a hot dog, beverage and bag of candy. The evening was full of ghost bubbles, prizes and super, spooky fun. A total of $12,000 was raised in 2010, all of which was given back to the participating schools on behalf of Scott Clark Toyota. Recognizing the recent CMS budget cuts, and realizing what a success the ghost event was last year, dealership owner Chris Cady is aiming high, hoping to make this year vastly bigger and better. “Last year myself and the entire staff had a blast with the Ghost Walk event,” says Cady. He goes on to say, “This year, in typical Scott Clark Toyota fashion, we are going to crank it up about 10 notches. We look forward to having fun with the families in our community and raising a ton of money for the local schools in the process.” This year’s event will feature a bigger and better ghost walk spanning more than twice the square footage, more spooky games, greatly improved food options, additional raffle prizes, candy, and much more. While over half of the spots are already full, schools that wish to participate must simply sign up for one of the nine dates in October (all Fridays and Saturdays throughout October, plus Oct. 27), sell tickets to the families at the school, provide a few volunteers for their evening’s event, and show up for a frightfully fun evening. The dollars raised will be donated directly back to parent-teacher associations at participating schools. To get your school or business involved in this great fundraiser, please contact Lara White at 704.621.2469. Be a part of this exciting event and help out your elementary school at the same time! d www.littleonesmagazine.com | for local moms ... by local moms

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any women-turned-moms search for the elusive “life balance,” but the pursuit isn’t always easy. Jennifer Mathis of the SouthPark area is a perfect example. Her husband, James, tells how his wife transformed from a mom running their household into a quilting queen. “When I first met Jennifer, she was a second-grade teacher at Myers Park Traditional,” James remembers. “She loved teaching and educating children, but she also was very clear that she felt she was put on this planet to be a wife and mother. We discussed the future and both agreed to make sacrifices in our lives to allow her to stay home and raise our children. Living on a single income can certainly be a challenge, but seeing her nurturing and teaching our two children makes every sacrifice less painful.” Before she was a teacher, Jennifer had worked in corporate America. She was used to tight deadlines, traveling for meetings and burning the midnight oil – all things she’d no doubt encounter as a mom in a different fashion, but with a change, nonetheless. Her position at a branding firm in Uptown Charlotte had her managing many large accounts. Her claim to fame was that she came up with the name of the Honda Element. “It’s impossible for us to see an Element on the road and not have a laugh,” says James. And although she is constantly reminded of her winning ways with words, Jennifer had known in her heart of hearts that the corporate world was not her true calling. She turned to teaching, but imagined a life beyond that, too. “She knew that she had a higher calling that would come later,” agrees her husband. The transition to stay-at-home mom was not difficult in the least for Jennifer, according 38

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to James. “She loves the time with our children (ages 3 and 1) and the time it affords her to organize our family life,” he says. “I did, however, notice some changes after the second year of her staying home. She seemed to be getting a little overwhelmed with hearing ‘mommy’ 50 times an hour, and I saw her looking for other outlets for her interests. She would often tell me that she loved staying home and also thought it was the hardest job she had ever had. It was hard for me to truly understand what she was talking about, because she made it seem so easy and effortless. But I also am in tune with my wife and could tell she needed some fresh air.” She found that outlet in sewing. “She literally taught herself to sew using her mother’s sewing machine; soon she was cranking out onesies, bibs, and infant clothes,” says James. “And all of a sudden, people wanted to buy them – lots of them. For me, it was so rewarding to see others purchasing my wife’s creativity. But what I really loved was that I could tell she was finding that balance that I am sure every stay-at-home parent would understand.” With sewing skills perfected, she sought out other related hobbies. She found her niche with modern quilting. “Once again, she taught herself how to start from scratch and make a quilt any size she wants,” explains James. “She was floored how much she loved the process, the design, the colors, the fabric, the new terminology, the whole thing. I also think that most stay-at-home spouses feel a little guilt for not contributing financially to the family. Jennifer always said she wanted to find an outlet for her creativity and be able to use that outlet to help our family financially.” So she did. Jennifer started a business called Ellison Lane Quilts and opened an Etsy shop that quickly found success. Not content with those

channels alone, she created a blog and founded the Charlotte Chapter of the Modern Quilt Guild. “The online quilting community is creative, passionate, and friendly, and there is a huge world of modern quilters that connect with each other through blogs and Flickr,” says Jennifer. “Many of these women have young families like I do and quilt because, like me, they love it and enjoy the process, the creativity and the outlet it provides. I wanted to connect with some modern quilters locally and found that Charlotte did not have a Modern Guild. “The Charlotte Modern Quilt Guild (CLT MQG) is for anyone interested in modern quilting, a place for members to share their skills, learn new techniques, meet new friends and have fun together. It is open to anyone interested in the modern quilting revolution at any skill level.” (Find it at www.charlottemodernquiltguild.blogspot.com.) With so many new creative outlets for Mathis, one may assume that her attention was being pulled away from her little ones. Not so. “I am convinced that stay-at-home spouses absolutely must find an outlet in order to truly be the most productive for the children,” says James. “She is a better mommy and wife and that is why I support her endeavors wholeheartedly. What do they always say? ‘Happy wife, happy life?’ Amen. “I don't worry about my wife's sanity anymore,” he continues. “She is capable of juggling these parts of her life and it’s my job to support her efforts … and it’s also good for our children to understand that Mommy is not available to them 24/7/365. Mommy has other interests, and that is the reality.” Not only has her quilting business proved to be a success personally, but it’s also afforded her the ability to help contribute to the family’s bottom line.

“When the recession hit, our family felt the sting just like any other,” says James. “I could tell Jennifer felt helpless since she didn’t have a paycheck. Although the sewing was really born as a distraction from two children, Jennifer absolutely was driven to contribute financially to our family. I have come to believe that any stream of revenue to the stay-at-home spouse is really a very important part of their self -value and normal need to contribute. I respect Jennifer very much for wanting to help.” Content with their family of four, Jennifer aims to grow her blog and connections. Her finished pieces can be found in numerous local shops and also on her etsy shop. She aims to expand her reach, teach quilting classes and to balance both of her passions – family and quilting. For today, she’s enjoying her endeavors and watching her little ones as they grow. Not to mention that she’s got a wonderfully supportive husband who encourages her every step. “I really enjoyed talking about my wife,” he says. “I love her dearly.”

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ports physicals are upon us! It's the time of year when kids everywhere are gearing up for fall school sports. Inevitably, they'll be bringing home some sort of “pre-participation” physical form that will need to be completed before the season begins. I can still remember standing in line at my junior high school many decades ago before cheerleading tryouts, as they herded tons of us through for our physicals, blood pressure checks, and urine samples. We've come a long way since then (in terms of knowing how to screen kids), which helps us send them off onto the fields and courts safely. This handy run-down will help you be prepared for your child’s sports physical this year. Sanger Pediatric Cardiology Clinic sponsors mass pre-participation screenings for several area public schools, free of charge, every spring. These events, called “Heart of a Champion” days, offer free physicals, EKGs, and echocardiograms to participants. For more information, contact Sanger Pediatric Cardiology Clinic in Charlotte.

History 101 Perhaps the most valuable part of a child's sports physical is getting a thorough history. It's important to document your child's past history of any serious medical conditions, such as asthma or seizures, as well as any past surgeries, hospitalizations or injuries. The doctor will need to know if your child is on any chronic, daily medications, especially things like asthma inhalers. The next key part of the history is getting a detailed family history. Be prepared to offer information, if it's available, about the medical history of siblings, you and your spouse, as well as grandparents. Specifically, you'll be asked about things like early heart attacks, irregular heartbeats and seizures. Lastly, the history-taking should include specific questions, directed to your child, to identify if he or she has ever had any worrisome symptoms during exercise, like dizziness or shortness of breath. Sometimes, the particular school or athletic organization provides a detailed form with pre-printed questions for parents to fill out, designed to address these important parts of the history. Other times, the school or

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organization will depend on the physician performing the physical to ask these necessary questions and to document if there are any concerns. Exam time After the history is obtained, your doctor will perform a comprehensive physical and obtain your child's height, weight and blood pressure. In addition to a basic physical, an orthopedic exam will be performed to identify any abnormalities of the spine or joints that might place your child at risk for injury during the season. If your child is receiving his sports physical by his regular physician, this often will double as his annual check-up. If the sports physical is done as part of a group screening, or by another provider other than your child’s regular physician, it will still be important for him to have a regular annual physical done in addition to the sports physical. Controversies and the latest buzz Every year, it seems we hear at least one story about a child or adolescent who suffers sudden cardiac death on the sports field. Inevitably, the conversation after a tragedy like that turns to whether or not the child had a previously identified heart condition and whether or not something could or should have been done to prevent it from happening. Much research has been devoted to try to determine if any sort of pre-participation cardiac screening test, such as an EKG and/or an echocardiogram, should routinely be done as part of these sports physicals. Currently, the standard recommendation for a pre-participation assessment is for a history and physical exam alone, reserving EKG and/or echocardiography for those kids who are identified as “high risk” by either historical features, physical findings, or both. These guidelines are endorsed by the AAP, AAFP, AMSSM, AOSSM, and the AOASM. There are some experts who take issue with this approach, however, and here is a highlight of the arguments on both sides of the issue: • For universal EKG screening: A 25-year study from Italy (a where universal EKG screening as part of routine preparticipation physicals became mandatory in 1982) showed a 90 percent drop in cardiac deaths in that country since the universal

screening program began. In addition to the data from Italy, researchers at Mass General Hospital and Harvard University found that by performing universal EKGs in 510 college athletes, they were able to increase detection of a group of potentially life-threatening heart conditions known as cardiomyopathies. • Against universal EKG screening: Reasons cited against universal EKG screening for all student-athletes in the United States mainly focuses on the relatively rare incidence of these “hidden” types of heart conditions (approximately 1 per 220,000 high-school athletes in the U.S. per year). Historically in the United States, one of the criteria for implementing any kind of mass screening is that the condition you are screening for is common enough that performing a screening test for it will be worthwhile, and won't unnecessarily pick up too many false positives, which can have far-reaching implications. Cost and access to the testing are other issues frequently cited as reasons against universal screening. It is likely that this debate will continue for some time. In the meantime, where does this leave the parents of studentathletes? The take-home message should be to take these pre-participation physicals seriously. Know your family history. Talk to your child before the physical and make sure she shares any worrisome symptoms with her doctor. A thorough history and physical is still an excellent way to detect risk factors for an underlying problem, so make the most of the appointment time to ask questions and offer information. Dr. DuMond is a board-certified pediatrician who makes house calls in and around Charlotte, providing at-home urgent care for kids. She also has three kids of her own and hates when they fall sick!

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Out and About August •••••• Nature at Night Hayride WHAT: Bring your family and experience McDowell Nature Preserve at night. Weather permitting, you’ll venture into the prairie in search of coyote, bobcat, deer, and owls while taking in the sights and sounds of the night. WHEN: Fridays – Aug. 5, 12, 19 & 26 at 8:15 p.m. WHERE: McDowell Nature Center and Preserve Call 704.588.5224 for more info.

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the animals and plants that call water home. WHEN: Saturday, Aug. 20, from 10 a.m. – 1 p.m. WHERE: Charlotte Nature Museum Call 704.372.6261 x300 or visit www.charlottenaturemuseum.org.

Fifth Annual Hummingbird Festival WHAT: For the fifth year in a row, celebrate the Ruby-throated Hummingbird – one of the fastest and prettiest birds – at a daylong event. All ages will enjoy crafts, nature walks,

face painting and storytelling, as well as special bird banding demonstrations by ornithologists. The race is on for their great migration south for the winter so you don’t want to miss this last-chance glance at these amazing creatures. WHEN: Saturday, Aug. 27 WHERE: Reedy Creek Nature Center The event is free but donations are appreciated. This event is held rain or shine. Call 704.598.8857 for more information.

Children’s World of Play WHAT: Learn the unique differences of cultures, as well as similarities, by playing with toys from South America, learning origami, playing traditional Japanese games, yelling “BINGO” in Spanish and much more.

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WHEN: Saturday, Aug. 27, from 1:30 – 4:30 p.m. WHERE: ImaginOn (200 E. 7th St.) Visit www.ihclt.org for more info.

WHEN: Saturday, Sept. 10, from 11 a.m. – 1 p.m. WHERE: Concord Mills Food Court Visit www.concordmills.com or call 704.979.5000.

September ••• Kidfest WHAT: A day designed to get kids excited about the nature and culture of the North Carolina Mountains through fun and entertaining activities. Guided hikes, games, storytellers, music and fun. WHEN: Saturday, Sept. 10, from 9 a.m. – 4 p.m. WHERE: Grandfather Mountain (2050 Blowing Rock Highway, Linville, N.C.) Visit www.grandfather.com for info.

Concord Mills Kids Club Fall Event WHAT: Music, games, giveaways and food.

Flippin’ Frogs and Slitherin’ Snakes WHAT: Have a frogtastic time viewing a lily pad full of frogs, toads, lizards, turtles and snakes. Many a reptile and amphibian will be on site for you to see and touch. WHEN: Saturday, Sept. 17, from 10 a.m. – 1 p.m. WHERE: Charlotte Nature Museum www.charlottenaturemuseum.org has complete info.

Charlotte Area Know Your Farms Farm Tour WHAT: The third annual tour is a great opportunity for families to connect with our thriving agricultural community. Children learn to appreciate where their food comes from and are delighted to interact with local cows, pigs, chickens, goats, and sheep. WHEN: Sept. 17-18 from 12:30 – 5:30 p.m. WHERE: Thirty farms in the area participate. Find a complete listing at http://knowyourfarms.com/.

41st Annual Girl Scout Day at Grandfather Mountain WHAT: All Girl Scouts and troop leaders are admitted free with proof of membership. Discount admission for other family members. Staff

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30th Annual Folklife Festival & Craft Show WHAT: Tour the circa-1800 plantation home and outbuildings, see open-hearth cooking in the kitchen, blacksmithing, gunsmithing, woodworking, spinning and weaving. Kids can listen to stories, explore the hay maze, make crafts, visit the farm animals, and more! Visit many traditional and modern arts and crafts vendors selling baskets, pottery, jewelry, lace and gourds; do your holiday shopping early while supporting local talent. WHEN: Sept. 24-25 from 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. WHERE: Historic Latta Plantation Visit www.lattaplantation.org for more info.

Huntersville Family Health and Fitness Day WHAT: Exhibits will show your family the fundamentals and importance of being in good health. Enjoy games, a DJ, crafts and much more! WHEN: Saturday, Sept. 25, from 9 a.m. – noon WHERE: Huntersville Farmers Market Call 704.766.2220 for more info.

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UNCC International Festival WHAT: Over 50 countries are represented in this festival that celebrates the music, dance and food that draws over 10,000 attendants annually. Children will also love the mimes and face painters! WHEN: Sept. 24 from 10 a.m. – 6 p.m. WHERE: The Barnhardt Student Activity Center at UNC Charlotte Visit http://ifest.uncc.edu/ for more info.

Fall Home-school Day WHAT: Tour the circa-1800 Latta home and grounds, see living-history demonstrations, make crafts, and more! Cost: $6/person. Ages 4 and under are free. WHEN: Sept. 28 from 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. WHERE: Historic Latta Plantation Visit www.lattaplantation.org for info.

Bug Ball WHAT: This favorite, family-friendly fundraiser always has guests getting “buggy!” Lots of fun activities await, such as creative children’s activities, bug presentations, entertainment, specialty foods and drinks throughout the evening. Guests are encouraged to come dressed as their favorite bug! Proceeds from this event benefit the Garden’s educational programs. RSVP by calling 704.829.1273. WHEN: Sept. 30 from 5:30 – 9:30 p.m. WHERE: Daniel Stowe Botanical Gardens Visit www.dsbg.org for more info.

July 30 - September 30 Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden takes a new approach to its butterfly display with the newly-minted exhibit, Fields A-Flutter. Butterflies will be featured in the new Meadowood Walk with colorful fields of flowers that will attract a variety of North Carolina butterflies. Experience butterflies emerging for their chrysalides, check out the Caterpillar Crib and learn more about the lifecycle of these remarkable and colorful insects. FREE with Garden Admission 6500 South New Hope Rd., Belmont, NC 28012 (704) 825-4490, www.DSBG.org

October ••••••••••• Latin American Festival WHAT: Impressive music; savory cuisine; local artists and international crafts; inspiring dance presentations; delightful children’s activities – all this and more at this year’s Latin American Festival. WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 9, starting at noon. WHERE: Symphony Park in SouthPark Visit www.festivallatinoamericano.org/ for more info.

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Many parents are embracing a more relaxed approach to parenting.

’ve adopted a new word into my vocabulary. Please don’t tell The Little Engine That Could, but my newfound word is “can’t.” I can’t (there I go again) say I’m proud of my new usage; it’s just something that has happened over time. I’ve had to accept it, and actually somewhat appreciate it. It all started while I was in labor with my fourth child. The doctor induced labor, and during the induction I found out that I could not get an epidural due to medical allergies I had developed. This scenario was not in my birthing plan and I was not faring well. I wanted to crawl in a hole as I labored through the pain, screeching the words “I can’t do this” as though I were being cast for a movie. I’ve never been a quitter and wanted to smack myself for saying it. What I was about to find out, however, was that I’d be utilizing the word much more in the weeks to come. I’ve always been somewhat of a control freak with my kids. I was always the one to get up in the middle of the night, always the one to tend to the baby. But with the birth of my fourth, I found I couldn’t do it all. And the reality was I didn’t want to do it all. With the lifestyle change, I was homebound – another novelty for me. Instead of waking and rushing out the door, I was living with a slower, more relaxed pace. And while I longed for some sense of structure, I have to admit that I also enjoyed the peace. On that same note, my kids were completely at ease. I found them not whining as much and instead leaning towards creative play, even playing with toys I just recently had complained they never touched. I try not to overdo the extracurricular activities – one or two per child is plenty for me. My eldest is just 7, so we aren’t in the fullblown throes of activities yet. But still, I found it so difficult to get everyone loaded up in the car to make it to their classes that I began skipping them. Around the time of this life change for me, I came across the term “Slow Parenting.” Though he doesn’t take full credit for the term, Carl Honoré wrote The Power of Slow: Finding Balance and Fulfillment Beyond the Cult of Speed. More recently, he published Under Pressure: Rescuing Our Children from the Culture of HyperParenting. These two books have become a bible of sorts for those who embrace what has been coined the Slow Parenting movement. What exactly is Slow Parenting? When I posed that question on www.charlottemommies.com, I got numerous responses, many from posters who didn’t necessarily know the term but were very familiar with the practice. Some took it up out of necessity and others out of frustration. After all, in today’s day and age, keeping up with the Joneses has taken on new meaning. And if it means having a concert pianist by age 7 who also plays lacrosse and volleyball and who as a toddler was attached to mom by one of those human leashes … well, some people want nothing to do with it. Amy Johnson of the Steele Creek area is a good example. “I was much busier when I only had my daughter,” she admits. “We www.littleonesmagazine.com | for local moms ... by local moms

did Gymboree classes once a week, storytime once a week and playgroup once a week. She and I were always out and about doing activities with friends and our moms’ group. Once my son came along, though, it became a little harder and I really started valuing our time spent just ‘doing nothing’ at home. I’ve always been a bit of a homebody anyway, so it felt very natural to me. I think it also better taught my kids to entertain themselves at home with their toys and not be bored and wanting to go do something.” I have to agree with her. Through my personal experience, I found that having a fully loaded schedule had my kids relying on my planned outings and daily itinerary. Instead of asking me, “What are we going to do today?” (or tomorrow, which they’d always ask the night before), the girls would get creative and come up with ideas for us to do on the spur of the moment. Or they would be the ones planning ahead for the following day. What a novel idea. Curious to find out more on the topic, I continued my search. And as I delved deeper, I found another name for this mentality: free-range parenting. Just as the term suggests, freerange parenting is the exact opposite of over-the-top, hands-on parenting. It’s a backlash, maybe, against those who watch their little one’s every move, those who take every possible safety precaution inside their household and who won’t let their 12-year-old outside to play alone for fear of what will happen. Free-range parents choose to walk to the beat of another drum. Their philosophy challenges the concept of scheduling every waking moment for their child out of fear that they’ll otherwise fall behind. Of course, this can also be taken to the extreme. You may recall hearing the name Lenore Skenazy, the New York City columnist who let her 9-year-old ride the subway home alone. After writing a column about it, TV programs such as “The Today Show” aired stories that earned her a reputation as “America’s Worst Mom.” Her response? She launched a blog, www.freerangekids.com, to defend her actions and explain her parenting philosophy. Skenazy has since received lots of press, attracted many, many followers, and written a book entitled Free-Range Kids. She despises the notion that “times have changed and therefore we shouldn’t let our kids out of our sight.” Recognizing that times have changed, she cites statistics showing that crime actually was on the rise during the ‘70s and ‘80s (right when most of us who are now parents were little kids roaming our ‘hoods without a parent – or a helmet – in sight) and peaked during the ‘90s. The media (this magazine included) is constantly telling parents what to be wary of, what products to ban from your cabinets and pantries, and how you should be living your lives. With a constant influx of information, it’s tough not to worry or feel that you’re not doing the “right” thing. Some of us are influenced by the overload of information, some succumb to the peer pressure, and others have a drive inside that makes them continue to say yes – even when their plates (and schedules) are overflowing. “I don’t really consider what others think or do when I make decisions regarding my children,” says April E., a local mom of three boys. “I go with what my husband and I feel is important. That being said, I do want my children to be healthy, well rounded, and successful. We have put our kids in

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a foreign-language school, piano lessons, and various sports leagues. Yes, it’s a lot of taxi service, but if it helps mold them into the best men they can be, then I’ve done my job as their mother.” She definitely feels frustrated by their jam-packed schedules. “I feel like I live in my car,” April continues. “I keep a phone book, a supply of snacks and bottles of water, stamps, envelopes, scissors, and tape in my car to make the most of my time in pick-up lines. I feel too busy when there is not enough time for things I love to do, like cook for my crew and exercise a few times a week. When I can't do those things, I'm one cranky mommy!” Sandra J. also feels the stress, but hers is related to trying to keep up. “I feel that if I don’t get my kids into sports by the time they are [age] 3, they will fall behind everyone else.” But with three kids, Sandra and her husband find themselves living separate lives on the weekends as they try to attend the games and practices on differing fields across town. Instead of enjoying the “fun” parts of sports, they’re wishing the season away as they desperately seek more down time. On the flip side, Angie of the Mount Holly area doesn’t stress on the weekends. “I'm lazy,” she admits. “Really, I see parents who have what seems like every moment of their child's life planned out, and it just seems sad to me. Why the need to be busy all the time? Growing up, I was committed to few things – church activities, dance lessons and school, up until high school, when I added a sport. I had free time. I played. I read. The lazy days of summer were just that. It was awesome. We want the same freedom for our child, and we want to have plenty of time together as a family. “[This mentality] has affected our family by making it possible for us to spend time together and to be flexible, because we aren't worried about missing practices, games or performances,” she continues. “I feel like it's the best choice for our family. Lucky for us, we're not concerned with the Joneses. I see families running, running, running, and I just don't want to do that. I want us to be able to spend time together – somewhere other than the car.” As a parent, I feel that I can justly say this: We all want to do the right thing. We all want to raise happy, intelligent kids – but the road that’s going to lead them there may be judged by others. Actually, it’s pretty safe to say that you will come under judgment. For whatever reason, we moms (and some dads) feel the need to critique other parenting practices. The truth is that there is no right way to do it, and chances are good that two sets of parents may embrace vastly different methods and both end up with highly successful children. The “teaching” of parenting is a new concept, one that was likely born with the major changes our world has experienced over the years. Carl Honoré cites globalization (which results in more competition and uncertainty for our offspring), a consumer culture (leading to higher expectations for the perfect results), smaller families (more time and money to spend on each child), and parents starting out later in life, thereby “professionalizing parenting” as the reasons why we have become hurried caregivers. I personally blame the Internet and the abundance of parenting books for the building of pressure. Think about it – you’re told “What to Expect” from the moment you conceive, right? That celebrated book that most

every mom buys tells you exactly how things are going to happen. From there, you are programmed to think you need to seek information on what will happen next, when your baby “should” be doing each thing and what you “should” be doing with your baby. And while there is a ton of good information to be found in these books and on Web sites, it can consume us and overtake our natural instincts. During my “slow down” period, I often found myself feeling guilty. My second daughter has just turned 5, and I have yet to start her in any “real” activities. She does dance once a week and did an after-preschool art program … and, truly, those two things were plenty for my schedule. But she hasn’t tried soccer, she has never taken a music class, and she is very interested in art and would benefit (and LOVE) a good art program. But in stepping back, aren’t we doing enough for now? My point is that many of us put pressure on ourselves because we believe or are being told what we should be doing. But in the extra time that we had as kids, we were able to bond. We played house or made up silly games. We did stickers or simply rode bikes and played outside. We did the fun things that we now remember with fondness about growing up, when our parents weren’t being told how to parent. And we had a great time. I realize that not everyone’s schedule permits such drastic changes, and one also cannot expect to go cold turkey overnight. Changing your mentality from one extreme to another is highly unlikely. But when we are being persuaded to go with meals in minutes, seven-minute abs and one-minute bedtime stories, perhaps we should step back Free-Range Kids, How to Raise Safe, and take a good Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry) look at reality. by Lenore Skenazy Some of the finer things in life The Idle Parent: Why Less Means (aside from sitMore When Raising Kids ups) are being by Tom Hodgkinson sacrificed so that we can achieve more, more, more – without a tangible benefit in sight. As for the kids, they are becoming less and less able to come up with their own activities to keep them busy. If there isn’t a TV, computer or handheld device around, they know not what to do. “The message you get if your parents do everything from driving you to school to waiting at the bus stop to doing your science fair project is, ‘I love you so much but I don’t think you can do this,’” Skenazy says. “That’s why they call it selfconfidence, not parent-assisted confidence.” I can’t say that I won’t go back to my old ways; it would be unrealistic to think so. And by no means am I suggesting you completely change your ways, either. But what I do know is that this “practice” has certainly helped open my eyes to a new way of thinking … one that is more relaxed, less stressful, and perhaps good for the entire family.

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t’s always satisfying to fit in a little learning when traveling with your kids. Most destinations have an art museum, historical site or cultural center you can visit, so you can check the box that you’ve done something intellectual with your kids while away from home. If you’re yearning for more, consider a trip to Colonial Williamsburg, which takes the “educational experience” to an entirely new level. This trip to Virginia is the perfect marriage of a fun family vacation and a fantastic learning experience for kids. It’s truly like traveling back in time, because the whole town is a living, breathing history museum, complete with costumed guides who tell you what it was like to live there. The town’s Historic Area portrays 18th-century Williamsburg as it appeared in 1774, on the eve of the American Revolution. It’s sure to thrill your kids and stuff their minds full of facts about our nation’s past. As a bonus, it should also help introduce them to the concepts of democracy and patriotism. Williamsburg is about 350 miles from Charlotte. Prep your kids for the journey with fun, historical tidbits about your destination. You could start with the fact that for someone living near Charlottesville, Va., as Thomas Jefferson once did, Colonial Williamsburg was four days away — by horse! Luckily for your kids (and you), driving there by car from Charlotte won’t take nearly as long. Plan for a drive of about six hours. Ask your kids if they’ve heard of George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, George Mason or Patrick Henry. Then tell them that from 1699 to 1780, Williamsburg was the political and cultural center of what was then the largest and most influential of the American colonies. There, the fundamental concepts of the blossoming republic — responsible leadership, a sense of public service, selfgovernment, and individual liberty

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— were nurtured under the leadership of where you can park your car (no cars are those American heroes they may have heard allowed in the Historic Area), buy tickets about in school. and get your hands on the week’s schedule Near the end of the Revolutionary War, the of events. Tickets are required to enter the more centrally located Richmond became Historic Area, which is connected to the Virginia’s capital. For a long time afterward, visitor center by a pedestrian bridge. SingleWilliamsburg was just a quiet college town, day tickets for adults are $37.95 and $18.95 home of the College of William and Mary. In for children ages 6 to 17. Note: children 1926, the philanthropist John D. Rockefeller ages 5 and under are free! Jr. began supporting preservation of the There is plenty to see and do in Colonial city’s historic buildings. Eventually, about Williamsburg, and if you’ve got time to stick 85 percent of Colonial Williamsburg’s around, it’s cost-efficient to buy a three-day original area was restored. Now you and pass. They are available online for just your kids can literally follow in the footsteps $41.95 for adults and $18.95 for kids. All of Washington and Jefferson as you amble tickets grant you access to the Historic Area through the town’s shops, taverns, sites, museums and programs, plus use of government buildings, homes and streets, the shuttle buses. gaining an appreciation for the patriots who Wear good walking shoes, because there is helped found the American democratic a lot of ground to cover (remember we’re system. talking about 300 acres of living history). Colonial Williamsburg is the largest livingOnce inside the Historic Area, be prepared history museum in the United States. The to see how families lived, how trades were Historic Area encompasses 301 acres of the practiced, where laws were made, and how original town, 88 original buildings and 225 colonists played, all explained by period rooms. Close to 500 buildings have been reconstructed knowledgeable guides dressed up in period costumes. after extensive archaeological, architectural and documentary Visit www.history.org (run by the non-profit Colonial research. Williamsburg boasts 60 million archaeological Williamsburg Foundation) for helpful, suggested itineraries to artifacts and about 60,000 American and British antiques and follow once inside the Historic Area. The foundation works of art — including weapons, ceramics and glass, recommends that first-time visitors start at the Governor’s costumes, furniture, maps and prints, metals, musical Palace, the symbol of British authority in the colony. Stop in instruments, paintings, scientific instruments, textiles, toys, the Randolph House and Kitchen, the site of important and tools. Yes, there’s something for everyone here! social and political gatherings, where the backyard shows the Claire Jordan, who lives in South Charlotte, took her four range of work undertaken by enslaved men and women and children (ages 8, 7, 5, and 2) to Colonial Williamsburg last their interaction with the white household. April during spring break. “Our trip was a great way for our Follow on to the Courthouse, where you can participate in children to experience history and bring to life the people and trials, and after that to the Magazine, the arsenal where the places they have studied and read about in literature,” she says. colony’s gunpowder and firearms were kept. Hit the Printing “Our daughter has recently finished reading the American Girl Office and Bindery and the Blacksmith before arriving at series about Felicity, a little girl who grew up in Colonial the Capitol, where Virginia patriots voted for independence in Williamsburg, so the trip was especially magical for her! All of May 1776. No trip to Williamsburg is complete without a the employees were in full costume and truly acted as if we browse through the DeWitt Wallace Decorative Arts were present in the days when Thomas Jefferson, George Museum, home to an exceptional collection of English and Washington and American antiques. Patrick Henry Of course, each inspired our family can nation's customize their independence. I route based on highly recommend whatever appeals to this vacation — their ages and children and adults interests. Jordan will enjoy, and our shares how her own grandparents came family spent their Colonial Williamsburg was the site of some defining moments in American history. Prep your kids with the following trivia about important events that took place there: along, which made first morning in the trip all the more Williamsburg: “We went to the tented fun and • May 30, 1765 – Patrick Henry offered to the colonial assembly (called the House of open market area at memorable!” Burgesses) his resolutions in defiance of the Stamp Act. the center of town • May 16, 1769 – George Washington introduced the Virginia Resolves against the to rent costumes Be present in Townshend Acts, one of the colonies’ first challenges to British authority. (they were also the past • May 15, 1776 – The House of Burgesses unanimously adopted Virginia’s Resolution for When you arrive available for Independence and called for other colonies to declare their independence. in Williamsburg, purchase) for the • June 12, 1776 – George Mason produced the Virginia Declaration of Rights, which your first stop kids, next to the became the model for the federal Bill of Rights. should be the Magazine,” she Colonial says. “The market Williamsburg opens at 10 a.m. Visitor Center, The girls picked

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their dress and sash and were given a letter from Lady Margaret with some urgent instructions on where to learn their courtesies and how to help her with her gardening! The boys were given britches, shirts, a saddlebag and musket — they were to report for militia training at 11 a.m. And so our colonial adventure began! We toured the restored buildings, planted a garden of turnips (per Lady Margaret's request!) with Gardener Will, and visited the Governor's Palace, just as the staff was busy preparing for Lady Elizabeth's first ball that evening.” Many programs enhance the Williamsburg experience. Certainly don’t miss Revolutionary City in the Historic Area’s east end. There, every day from 10:45 a.m. to 12:15 p.m., the events of the Revolution play out in family-friendly, live street theater. Also revel in the historic trade demonstrations by silversmiths, wigmakers, shoemakers and tailors, plus cooking demonstrations conducted with 18th-century utensils and techniques. Each experience conveys what it was like to live in this Virginia town more than 200 years ago. Walking tours, ghost walks and evening dramas add more fun. Top it all off with dinner at one of Colonial Williamsburg’s historic taverns — Chowning’s Tavern, Christiana Campbell’s Tavern (George Washington’s favorite), Shields Tavern or King’s Arms Tavern. They are pricey but worth the splurge. Costumed servers will help you enjoy the 18th-century flavors and atmosphere. Make reservations in advance (Jordan recommends reserving a table when you book your hotel accommodations). A kick for kids You may be a history buff who could spend hours wandering around the museums of Williamsburg, but when traveling with kids, you need to make sure you hit the spots that will hook them on history, too. The Colonial Williamsburg Foundation offers these suggestions for family-friendly, handson fun that will keep your little ones intrigued: • Family life at the Benjamin Powell Site. Children can try their hand at a variety of 18th-century household tasks in a setting where they are encouraged to help with daily activities like gardening and food preparation. Special emphasis is given

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Dig I t A fun side trip from Williamsburg is just 10 minutes away at Jamestown, the site of the first permanent English settlement in North America. You can hop on a shuttle bus from the Colonial Williamsburg Visitor Center and be there in no time. In Williamsburg, you’ll soak up 18th-century history; in Jamestown, you’ll step back in time a century further, to 1607. That’s when three ships commissioned by England’s King James I landed in Virginia and settled Jamestown. Jamestown Settlement is a state-operated, living-history museum adjacent to the original historic site (which, to make things super confusing, is called Historic Jamestowne and is operated separately). The Jamestown Settlement museum traces Jamestown's beginnings in England and the first century of the Virginia colony. Kids will love the exhibits and can climb aboard replicas of the three ships that sailed from England to Virginia, as well as explore a replica of the colonists’ fort. Costumed historical interpreters describe and demonstrate daily life in the early 17th century. At Historic Jamestowne, your kids can channel their inner Indiana Jones. Archaeologists are currently excavating the recently discovered site of the 1607 James Fort and are daily making new discoveries. You can walk among the ruins of the town’s original buildings, including the 17th-century church tower. Join a park ranger and learn how John Smith and others carved a settlement out of the Virginia wilderness, take artifact tours and meet characters from Jamestown’s past. Visit www.historyisfun.org for more info.

to interpreting 18th-century childhood and exploring how varied seasons and times of day affected the family’s activities. Programs vary daily, but often include dance lessons, fencing demonstrations, storytelling and games. • Tradesmen tales at the Geddy Site. Kids learn about the family life of an 18th-century tradesman and his children’s daily activities. Hands-on activities and games are offered outside. Behind the Geddy House, tradesmen craft brass, bronze, silver and pewter castings. • Great Hopes Plantation. Families explore the day-to-day lives of free and enslaved Virginians on a middle-class plantation. Great Hopes is an interactive, living-history site where guests are invited to assist with the daily tasks necessary to maintain a farm, from agricultural work to domestic chores and gardening. • Order in the court. Kids can take part in re-enactments of a local court session and learn the ways people took part in the colonial legal system. • People of the past. Guests chat with residents of Williamsburg’s 18thcentury community about their lives, hopes and challenges and meet Thomas Jefferson, Patrick Henry, enslaved preacher Gowan Pamphlet and others. • Brickyard basics. At Colonial Williamsburg’s brickyard, children can jump in feet first and experience how 18th-century bricks were made by treading through clay to smooth it. They can help lay the bricks out to dry in the sun. • Looking at livestock. Children may see many of the new rare breeds of livestock similar to the types that lived in the 18th century, including Leicester Longwool sheep, Hog Island sheep, American milking Devon cattle, American Cream draft horses and several varieties of poultry. Tours are also offered of Colonial Williamsburg’s stables. • Dressing the part. Children get a different perspective on history when they wear Colonial costumes. Costumes for boys and girls can be rented at Market Square or in the Williamsburg Visitor Center. • A feast for the eyes. “A Grand Medley of Entertainments,” an 18th-century variety show, includes music, magic, feats of strength and other amusements guaranteed to please children of all ages. j

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By Leslie Petruk, MA, LPC, NCC

Intentional Parenting-Part 3 In our last two issues, Petruk has presented a general overview of Intentional Parenting, which is based on the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. Below she demonstrates the application of this type of parenting in a step-by-step process. Example scenario: Your 4-year-old daughter starts throwing a tantrum because you have asked her to put her pajamas on and get ready for bed. You are tired, it’s been a long day and you do not have a lot of patience at the moment. Step 1: Take a second to check inside and notice how you are feeling in the moment and what your thoughts are. Let’s say you are tired and annoyed by your daughter’s defiance, and you are thinking of all of the things you have to get done before you go to bed, so you just want her to get to bed quickly. Step 2: Acknowledge the parts of you that are tired, annoyed and going through your “to do” list for the night. Let the parts know that you are aware that they are there and ask them if they can step aside and go hang out in a comfortable room while you help your daughter get to bed. Let’s say the annoyed part is just too activated, which you notice by your heart racing and a knot in your stomach. Put your attention on that sensation; let it know that you get how 64

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annoyed it is, particularly given all that you have yet to do. See if there is anything this part needs from you and let it know that you notice it and ask the part what it wants you to know about it. (Your parts will give you information that is often surprising). Your part may say that it needs you to spend some down time after you put your daughter to bed and before you start on your “to do” list for that night so that you can unwind from the day. It may have additional information for you about some events from the day or how this event with your daughter has triggered something from your past. Let it know that you will come back and spend some time listening to the additional information it has for you and extend appreciation to the part for showing up. Ask the part if it is OK for you to tend to your daughter, with the understanding you will get back to it. Parts are typically agreeable to this as long as they know you will come back to them. Our parts manifest in order to get our attention so that we will notice them and give them the attention they need/want. This process can all take place in one to three minutes. Acknowledging your parts will help them calm down, which will then allow you to be more present for your child. Step 3: In a calm and compassionate voice, let your daughter know that you see how tired she is and how hard it is to settle down for the night. Let her know that if she will cooperate with you, then you will read her a book and tuck her in. She can choose. You now end the day with your daughter on a positive note and feel more connected to her. Step 4: After your daughter is asleep, go back and check in with each one of the parts you identified previously. You may even want to write them down. Take five minutes to sit and notice what is happening inside and which one may need immediate attention. Extend curiosity to the part(s) and see what it wants you to know about it – ask the part what emotions and beliefs it holds. Everyone’s parts hold on to emotions and beliefs based on their own past experiences. An example: The annoyed part may believe that your daughter should be able to get herself to bed because that was expected of you when you were a child. You may ask the part how old it is (when it came into existence). It may be that the annoyed part is protecting you from hurt you felt as a child remembering how alone and isolated you felt. For example, maybe this part came into existence when you were 4.

Step 6: Get to know the 4-year-old. Ask her what she wants you to know about her and what it was like for her at that age. Let her tell you her story. Make sure she tells you everything she wants you to know by asking, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Is that all?â&#x20AC;? This 4 -year-old part may reveal that she believed she didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t matter to her parents enough for them to take the time to put her to bed, or that she felt like she should be able to take care of herself and be a â&#x20AC;&#x153;big girl.â&#x20AC;? Step 7: Ask the 4-year-old if she is aware that she is much older. If not, ask her if she would like to come into the present and in the way that feels right, bring her into the present time. Often times you can ask your parts how they would like to help you in the present. For example, this part might say something like, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll remind you to make time for your daughter at bed time.â&#x20AC;?

in the process, thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not unusual. Sometimes protective parts start jumping in; itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s OK to turn your attention to those parts and hear what their fears and concerns are about you getting to know the part you are focused on. Leslie Petruk, MA, LPC, NC, is the director of SteppingStones Counseling & Consulting of Charlotte and a mother of

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arolinas HealthCare System continuously strives to enhance its patients’ experience in the doctor’s office, on the telephone, on the Web and in the community. One such innovation for patients is an exciting online patient portal called MyHealth Online. Introduced in 2008, MyHealth Online is a response to consumers who want more convenience and control to manage their health. Similar to online booking systems for airlines that allow customers to select their own flight schedule and exact seat on the plane, MyHealth Online enables patients to customize their experience with their physician’s office. Carolinas HealthCare patients may access their secure MyHealth Online account any time day or night to: Schedule an appointment online at a time convenient for you with your physician.

Request a prescription medication refill and select how you would like to receive it (print prescription for pick up, mail prescription or call/fax prescription to your pharmacy of choice). Pay physician practice bills online through this secure portal. Update personal information (such as address and phone number), eliminating lengthy forms in the office. View a list of upcoming appointments. View videos about upcoming appointments, with topics such as “How to Find Us” and “Introducing Your Physician.” Request proxy access to your child’s account in order to access these convenient features on the child’s behalf.

In addition to these convenience features, MyHealth Online also provides features related to patient-centered care. Physicians can send alerts and reminders to help patients stay up-to-date on preventive and follow-up care. Also, MyHealth Online provides helpful health education content that allows patients to learn more about chronic conditions like diabetes, asthma and heart disease, as well as general wellness and prevention. In the future, MyHealth Online will include additional options for patients like secure test results and messaging with physicians. Other patient-centered initiatives that Carolinas HealthCare has introduced include: 18 area urgent care locations to supplement primary care for after-hours and weekend health needs, open seven days a week from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. A children’s urgent care affiliated with Levine Children’s Hospital, open seven days a week from noon to midnight. Online and mobile access to wait times at emergency rooms and urgent care locations at http://cmcwaittimes.org. “Find A Doctor” tool online and on your mobile device at http://findadoctor.carolinasmedicalcenter.org. Realizing that today’s families are extremely busy, the physician practices affiliated with Carolinas Healthcare System have put more tools in their patients’ hands, allowing them to manage their own healthcare needs any time, day or night. For more information about MyHealth Online and for a list of participating Carolinas HealthCare practices, visit https://myhealth.carolinas.org

Fantastically Fun Festivals Don’t miss out on these local favorites.

Matthews Alive! Festival

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WHEN: Sept. 2 – 5 WHERE: Downtown Matthews WHAT ELSE: The Matthews Alive! Festival is a Labor Day weekend celebration dedicated to the support of local nonprofit organizations through music, arts and community involvement. Enjoy free entertainment, more than 160 arts and crafts vendors, special events, a Kids Connection interactive area and a midway full of games and rides. It’s fun for the whole family! Visit www.matthewsalive.org for more information.

WHEN: Sept. 23 – 25 WHERE: Freedom Park WHAT ELSE: Good music, good times and great art have been found at this festival since 1964. Over 150 artists and craft people actively demonstrate and display their art; nearly 1,000 entertainers provide free ongoing performances at the main band shell and many stages surrounding it. The “Family Fun Zone” houses a merrygo-gound, Ferris wheel, trackless train and more. Visit www.festivalinthepark.org for more information.

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Mint Hill Madness

WHEN: Sept. 8 – 11 WHERE: Holy Trinity Greek Orthodox Cathedral WHAT ELSE: One of Charlotte's largest cultural events, the Greek Festival features Hellenic cultural exhibits, authentic Greek cuisine and pastries, entertainment, art, shopping and more! Visit www.yiasoufestival.org/ for more information.

WHEN: Sept. 23 – 24 WHERE: Downtown Mint Hill WHAT ELSE: There’s something for everyone at this highly anticipated event, which includes a parade, arts and crafts booths, food, games, dog show, fireworks, beauty pageant and live entertainment. Find out more at www.minthillchamberof commerce.com/madness.html.

Cabarrus County Fair

WHEN: Sept. 9 – 17 WHERE: The Cabarrus Arena & Events Center in Concord WHAT ELSE: Animals, rides, exhibits and, of course, fair food! Visit www.cabarruscountyfair.com for hours and for more info.

Great Grapes Wine, Arts & Food Festival WHEN: Oct. 1, 11 a.m. – 7 p.m. WHERE: Symphony Park in SouthPark WHAT ELSE: Celebrate the taste of over 200 unique, diverse and flavorful wines as you help uncork the fun. While mastering the art of wine tasting, be sure to attend the wine seminars and the cooking

demonstrations. Shop the offerings from unique artists while listening to some terrific tunes; don’t forget your lawn chairs and blankets! There’s even a kids’ area if you want to bring your little ones. Visit www.uncorkthefun.com/ for more information on this event.

Apple Harvest Festival WHEN: Oct. 15 WHAT: Enjoy hayrides, a petting zoo, live entertainment, a pumpkin patch and more at the Windy Hill Orchard & Cider Mill. Don’t forget to try an apple slushie or an apple cider donut! Kids will love the farm tours and pumpkin patch, as well. WHERE: Windy Hill Orchard & Cider Mill (1860 Highway 5 in York, S.C.) Visit www.windyhillorchard.com or call 803.684.0690 for more info.

The Carolina Renaissance Festival WHEN: Weekends Oct. 8 – Nov. 20 from 10 a.m. – 5:30 p.m. WHAT: A medieval amusement park, a 10-stage theater, a 20-acre circus, an arts and crafts fair, a jousting tournament, an artisan marketplace and a feast – all rolled into one non-stop, day-long family adventure! The festival is one of the most interactive entertainment shows around, created with wonderful amusements and antics ongoing all around you. WHERE: 16445 Poplar Tent Road in Huntersville Visit www.royalfaires.com/carolina/ for more info.

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iPad Impact

Avery Coggins, age 5, with Rachel Hallberg, occupational therapist at Easter Seals UCP Children's Center.

The popular gadget is emerging as a therapy tool for children with special needs. By Kara Harrington

hen Corey and Chris Avery can be in an environment where she is Coggins toured the treated as normally as everyone else in the Easter Seals UCP class, and yet receives high-quality, specialized (United Cerebral Palsy) services to help her advance.” Children’s Center three Today, Avery is one of the students years ago, they left with a benefitting from specialized therapy sessions new spring in their step – a that incorporate the use of an iPad. When the feeling of excitement and a great sigh of iPad debuted in April of last year, it was the relief. They found a preschool that embraced hot, new tech gadget from Apple that had their 2-year-old daughter, Avery, who has many techies anxiously waiting in line to get Down syndrome, and would put her in an their hands on one. Fast forward a year, and inclusive classroom. She would be with other you will find that die-hard techies are probably children her own age and truly be a member the minority users of the iPad. Thanks to its of the class. She would also be able to have ease of use, innumerable applications and speech, occupational and physical therapy relatively low cost in comparison to dedicated J.J., age 3, engaged with sessions to help her progress in her communication devices for people with Hallbergand an iPad. development. disabilities, the special-needs community is The Easter Seals UCP Children’s embracing the iPad and experiencing Center is the only five-star, inclusive great success with it as an preschool in the Charlotte area that educational and communications serves children with and without tool, especially for children. disabilities. Fifty percent of the Avery’s dad, Chris, was one of those center’s enrollment is comprised of techies who couldn’t wait to get an children without disabilities. Ages iPad when they were first range from 6 weeks through Pre-K. introduced. As soon as he became The Children’s Center provides agethe proud owner of one, he realized appropriate educational activities, he was not the only fan in his family plus specialized services such as of the user-friendly tablet computer. speech and physical therapy for His daughter, Avery, now 5, was also children who need them. drawn to the device. He immediately “We felt like we found the perfect saw the value of using it as a learning home away from home when we tool that would keep her engaged and Nicholas, age 2, with Michelle Houston, speech and walked in the door at Easter Seals help her development. language therapist with Easter Seals UCP UCP’s Children’s Center,” says Rachel Hallberg, an occupational Children's Center. Avery’s mom, Corey. “We love that therapist with the Easter Seals UCP

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Children’s Center, and Michelle Houston, a speech and language pathologist, both saw positive buzz in the news and on special-needs community blogs about the iPad. In October 2010, The New York Times published an article on how the iPad was opening up a new world for those with physical and mental disabilities. The wheels began to turn in Hallberg and Houston’s heads about how they could apply the capabilities of the iPad in their therapy sessions and also help some non-verbal students better communicate in their classrooms. They had already seen the progress Avery was making in her development, thanks to numerous iPad apps she used at home. They saw an improvement in her motor skills, letter and number recognition and tolerance for challenging motor skills, such as holding a pencil. Late last year, a donation from Northwestern Mutual for assisted technology enabled the Children’s Center to purchase two iPads – one to assist with speech and language therapy and the other

Recommended iPad apps from Speech and Language Therapist Michelle Houston: • Lunch Box

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to assist with occupational therapy sessions. Now, Hallberg and Houston are among the many iPad users who are witnessing tremendous success using the tablet in their therapy sessions. “Our kids with special needs are more motivated and interested in the learning activities thanks to visually appealing and interactive apps,” says Hallberg. “The iPad is much easier to use, thanks to the touch screen, and as a result, the children are able to see results and success much faster, which builds their confidence. We are seeing the iPad help students be better learners, improve their potential and become more independent, in some cases.” Avery had a hard time learning how to write letters on paper. Learning to hold a pencil was difficult and would easily

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frustrate her. After working with the stylus and a special letter-writing app, Avery is now able to translate the motions from her work on the iPad to writing her letters on paper. The iPad made it easier for her to learn and helped build her confidence. Avery is just one of many children at the Easter Seals UCP Children’s Center benefitting from the iPad. For 3-year-old J.J., who has cerebral palsy, the iPad has given him better access to books. Traditional books require not just holding the book, but also the motor skills to turn pages. On an iPad, all one needs to do is move a finger in a simple swipe motion to turn the page. Hallberg also uses the iPad as a tool to help J.J. build strength by positioning him in a way that forces him to hold his upper body up in order to see the pictures. Controlled movements are a challenge for 2-year-old Nicholas, and his therapy sessions were generally filled with a lot of tears. Now, with determined focus, Nicholas can interact with the iPad screen and see the fruits of his labor faster than with previous therapy tools. As a result, he’s more motivated, engaged and

Recommended iPad apps from Occupational Therapist Rachel Hallberg: • iWriteWords (tracing letters and numbers) • Preschool Adventure (colors, animals, body parts, numbers) • Draw for iPad (basic drawing program but also allows you to email and print pictures) • I (heart) fireworks (cause and effect) • Virtuoso piano (cause and effect)

Hallberg helps Nicholas work on his upper body strength using the iPad as a motivational tool.

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happier during his sessions. “The iPad is a mainstream tool and allows people with special needs to be included,” says Houston. “Previous devices that were designated specifically for the special-needs population are different and stand out. Plus, they are significantly more expensive than the iPad. From a financial perspective, most of the apps we use in our therapies are either free or less than $5, making it a very cost-effective tool. The iPad is a small, portable tablet that holds many of the benefits a room full of therapy tools and toys offer, but with faster results thanks to its ease of use and appealing visuals.” “The Easter Seals UCP Children’s Center promotes the Easter Seals UCP mission of a life without limits, and the iPad certainly helps us move that mission forward,” says Courtney DeTemple, director of the Children’s Center. “It’s an incredible tool that our children with special needs are attracted to, and while it isn’t integrated during the entire therapy sessions, the time it is used is incredibly purposeful and parents notice the increased learning as a result of the iPad.”

Non-verbal children can also benefit from the iPad. A special program allows you to add images specific to the child, such as their cup, bowl or family. The iPad allows the child to communicate their needs and wants and is a more affordable option compared to the expensive dedicated communication computers often used. In addition, most programs have text to speech options. The interest in using the iPads to assist with speech and occupational therapy is even impressing parents of graduates of the Easter Seals UCP Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Center. Long-time Easter Seals UCP volunteer Phelps Sprinkle, whose daughter Roxie graduated from the Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Center three years ago, has been paying close attention to the positive results Hallberg and Houston are having incorporating the iPad into their therapy sessions. He is planning to introduce his daughter to the tablet. If the blog community and parent feedback are any indication, the iPad has made a significant and positive difference for people with disabilities. Its accessibility and affordability make this mainstream tool a significant way to connect with others, improve motor skills and learn basic concepts in a more visually stimulating and interactive manner. The Easter Seals UCP Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Center is a five-star developmental day program that serves typically developing children and children with moderate to profound difficulties from ages 6 weeks through Pre-K. For more information, call (704) 522-9912 or visit www.eastersealsucp.com

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I’ve had four kids in seven years, all the while being the editor and co-publisher of a mom-related magazine; plus I’ve been a product reviewer for the past three years. You’d think I am an expert on baby products. But the fact is, it’s next to impossible to keep up with all the new products that are consistently popping up. It’s amazing to me the number of gadgets, wear and accessories being created to make the parenting experience more enjoyable, easier, and sometimes just more endearing. Here are 10 baby-related items that I find helpful. Some are new, some are not, but are all enjoyed, for sure.

FreeHand Mei Tai

With three older kids, I barely have a hand free, but I want to stay as close to my little guy as I can. The FreeHand Mei Tai Baby Carrier by TogetherBe is just the thing to keep us both content. The FreeHand borrows its design from an Asian-style carrier that has been used for centuries. Versatility is the key. I like that one size fits all, meaning I can switch off with my hubby if need be. You can also adjust the carrier to the baby’s size. I used it when he was 1 week old and can use it up until he weighs 35 pounds. Right now I wear it on my front, but it can also be used on your back or hip. I'm not a big stroller person, so the Mei Tai goes with me wherever I go. I love the fact that it's ergonomically created to not cut into my back or leave me with an aching back/legs after I take him out. When I first had Sajin, I also purchased the Universal Headrest, also by TogetherBe. We all know newborn heads are floppy. This headrest kept his head in place with the help of a piece of comfy fabric that clips to the Mei Tai, keeping it completely supported. It also protected him from the sun, making it a win-win for me. Check out the full product line at www.TogetherBe.com or see them in person at The Milky Way on East Boulevard.

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Pump In Style

After exclusively nursing my first three babies for 12 months each, I was discouraged when my fourth baby was not a good nurser. After numerous visits to both our lactation consultants and our pediatrician, I decided to pump. Exclusively. Yes, it is double duty at its best, but I’m trying to do what best I can. For the past five months, the Medela Pump In Style has been my new best friend. Seriously, I spend more time with it than I do with my husband. The “double expression technology,” coupled with the strong motor, means I can maximize the output in the least amount of time, which is key for me. It has a battery pack, enabling me to use it in the car or elsewhere when need be. I don’t know where I’d be without my Pump In Style, but I do know where it will be in the next few months – with me! Find a complete list of locations that carry the Pump In Style at www.medelabreastfeedingus.com.

The Wubba Nub

Why didn’t I think of the Wubba Nub?! This thing is ingenious. Think about it: Every mom leaves the hospital with the same starter pacifier. And though none of my kids were ever binky babies, my fourth and final one is. So when my neighbor presented me with the “green froggy,” as we call it, it was a lifesaver – for both my baby and me. The benefits of this thing are many. I love that there’s no more wondering where the paci is. It’s amazing how

quickly he’d pop that thing out of his mouth. Somehow it would roll somewhere or under something, and at 2 a.m., the last thing I feel like doing is playing detective. This way the paci is always connected to the animal of choice (giraffe, dog, duck, elephant, etc.), making it easier to find and grab. Even at 10 weeks old, my little one was loving on his froggy. It’s small enough and soft enough for him to hold onto. Truly, he loved this more than a blankie. Find them locally at Pickles & Ice Cream, Audrey’s Once Upon a Time Boutique, Shower Me With Love and Pigtails & Crewcuts.

Baby Elephant Ears

I know, I know – baby what? This invention was named for its shape, which resembles just that – baby elephant ears. The pillow keeps baby's head, spine and neck aligned in the stroller, car seat, changing table, etc. I was so sick of my little guy's head flopping forward when in his car seat

darn handle begins to cut into your inner arm. The Padalily is a seriously padded yet super-cute pad that Velcros around the handle of the car seat, making it much easier to handle. The pad is reversible and comes in many different, stylish options. I’ve used this for new-mom gifts and it’s always been well received. Visit www.padalily.com for a complete list of retailers, including many boutiques in our area.

The Ultimate Crib Sheet

While this item is a bit controversial (some parents of toddlers have safety concerns with it), I’m a huge fan of this for babies. The Ultimate Crib Sheet combines a waterproof pad with extra padding to serve as a mattress pad into a sheet – but the best part is that it snaps around the crib bars. In the case of a middle-of-the-night blow-out or diaper overflow, there’s no need to strip the entire bed … simply snap off the sheet and throw it in the washer. Note to self: keep two of these on hand for those late night occurrences! I will say that the snaps did seem to break over time, but at a price of $21.99, you certainly won’t feel bad about getting another one. Different versions of these sheets are available and most can be found at the major baby retailers around town.

… I was forever trying to reposition him, but not only did he not look comfortable, it couldn’t have been comfortable for him! Nor healthy! This mom-created “pillow” is simply placed wherever you need it. I pretty much used mine in his car seat for the first few months of his life, but I’m sure I'll use it in the stroller, too. One look at it and you'll wish you had one. Seriously, they should make some for grownups who wish to sleep in the car or on an airplane! However, these are most appropriate for 0- to 2-yearolds who are in the cranial-spinal developmental stages. The pillows come in adorable patterns and prints and are made locally, have organic fabric selections and a sustainable fill made of bamboo/corn fiber. At a retail price of $21.99, it makes a great shower gift for the expectant mom. Check out their full product line at www.babyelephantears.com. You can also view/order them at www.amazon.com.

Padalily

I used this product with my girls and was eager to get a “boy” version right away. The Padalily was created by local mom Lily Wannail and provides comfort when carrying the car seat. Remember, I’m not a stoller gal ... if it’s not a jogging stroller, I’m simply opting to carry the car seat. With four kids in tow, I don’t want to spend the time breaking open a stroller. But as your kiddo grows, so does his weight! And that

Leachco Keep-It-Up

Once again – the whole bottle thing is completely new to me. And so are all of the gadgets that go along with them! I had no idea that any of these bottle-holding items were around until my good friend and neighbor (again!) introduced them to me. Now, by no means does my little guy get this all day, and often times he doesn’t get it at all in a given day or even week. But during the times when I’ve got all four kids by myself or three are in the pool and he needs a bottle, this is a great way to have my hands free. Mothers of multiples probably LOVE the Keep-It-Up as they need six hands to begin with! The soft, cushy pillow expands to fit most bottles; you simply tuck the bottle into the pillow and the baby can hold it with his little hands. Even when babies are too tiny to hold the bottle itself, they can hold the Keep-It-Up and feed themselves. For the mom who wishes for more than just two hands, this is a great solution!! Find it locally at many of the big-box baby stores.

PhotoLabels by InchBug

Labeling is essential for any parent, especially when it comes to food items. We’ve all tried the sharpie or masking-tape route, and the name labels that go around the drinks are also really cute. But I was so excited to find these PhotoLabels, heavy-duty labels that are fully microwave-, freezer- and dishwasher-safe.

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Parents simply go to www.InchBug.com, upload favorite snapshots of their children, personalize the text they want on the labels, and presto! The company creates the labels and sends them to the family. The photos and text will not fade or blur from use and will adhere to any dry surface. They’re super for bottles, sippy cups, food containers, sports equipment, camp stuff, daycare items and more. PhotoLabels are made by InchBug, which also makes the Orbit Labels (the really cute bands, for a lack of better term, that go around bottles and sippies). Though I love the bands themselves, these little photos are so cute and personalized, and the kids get a kick out of seeing their little faces on their thermoses. They would make a really cute gift for a first birthday!

Plum Organics Dispensing Spoon

An oldie but goodie, I’ve used the SleepSacks with each of my children and LOVE them. Whatever the weather, most moms will worry that their itty bitty ones will get cold, me included. My little guy was also a squirmer and didn’t enjoy being swaddled, so the SleepSack helped ensure that he didn’t catch a chill. The top-to-bottom zipper made middle-of-the-night diaper changes doable, and the fact that it’s recommended by the SIDS Alliance helped us both sleep peacefully.

Have I told you how much I love my neighbor/friend who has opened my eyes to all these new gadgets? The Plum Organics Dispensing Spoon by boon is such a cool invention. Basically, it’s a spoon attachment that hooks on to the food-spouted pouches. You simply attach it, squeeze and feed! The BpA-, Phthalate- and PVC-free portable spoons come in a handy-dandy carrying case, perfect for tossing in your purse or diaper bag. And while they market it as only attaching to the Plum pouches, they also attach to many of the other brands’ pouches, as well. A quick disclaimer here – YES, I try to “make” whatever baby food I can, but with my crew, mashed sweet potatoes or bananas is sometimes the best that it gets. I just don’t have time to prepare a spinach/apple/rutabaga blend that I can get in the pouch. And while I like nothing more than sitting with my littlest one and feeding him and talking with him, let’s revisit the four kid thing … sometimes we are feeding on the go or (gasp!) I ask my 5- or 7-year-old to feed him for me. Visit www.booninc.com for more info on their dispensing spoons.

SleepSacks are available at large department stores including Target, JC Penny, Babies R Us, as well as Amazon.com.

As moms, you gotta do what you gotta do. And it’s a good thing there are great products out there to help you out!

Order them online at inchbug.com or see them locally at Shower Me With Love, Mud Pie Monograms or An Initial Impression.

HALO SleepSacks

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Fourth Annual Toys for Tots Golf Tournament September 26, 2011 at Cedarwood Country Club Format: Four-Player Teams, Modified Captain’s Choice Format, Field Flighting and Team Mulligans Time: • Registration begins at 8:00 am • Breakfast provided at 8:15 am • Driving range opens at 8:30 am

• Short game instruction from Jason Sutton from Dana Rader Golf School at 9:00 am • Driving range closes at 10:00 am • Color Guard presentation at 10:00 am • Introduction ceremony at 10:15 am • Shotgun start at 10:30 am • Box lunches provided by Jason’s Deli • Buffet at 3:30 pm

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Before you spend a load of money on school clothes or uniforms, think outside the box – outside of the big-box retailers, that is. A family-owned Charlotte enterprise could save you a bundle on first-quality merchandise, and the personal service that awaits you outshines anything you would find at the national chains. The Famous Mart, located at 6600 N. Tryon St., specializes in famous-brand clothing for the entire family at huge discounts. Lots of “professional shoppers” call it a favorite spot in Charlotte – it’s truly a bargain department store where one-of-a-kind, quality treasures await you at incredibly low prices. The Famous Mart only carries first-quality merchandise, with everything from shoes, clothing and uniforms to sporting goods, linens and luggage. New shipments arrive every week from its many suppliers, and The Famous Mart tries to keep items in stock that are in high demand. “The ticket for finding exactly what you want is to go often,” says Louis Sinkoe, one of The Famous Mart’s owners. “It is a browser’s delight.” The Famous Mart’s specialty is school uniforms, having carried them for 20 years. In fact, it boasts the largest selection of school uniforms in the Carolinas, from lines such as French Toast, Classroom and Longstreet, and it carries them year-round. The store’s sales associates can assist customers in making sure they are purchasing the correct color and size for

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Birth Order By Matt Harris

and Booger Robots

have two daughters, Addison, 6, and Avery, who just turned 1. There are big differences in the way they lived their first year on this planet. Your first child really throws you for a loop. Before entering baby world, you could fill down time with naps, mindless TV shows, or having a few beers. After baby, you had to search for ways to get through the day. Suddenly, the gap from the second nap till bedtime was the slowest four to five hours you ever felt. For those who have yet to procreate, imagine a benefits meeting at work. Not just your usual, dull HR meeting, but one that goes on for five hours, with co-workers asking questions that only apply to them. Like, “If I break my toe when on vacation in Jamaica, but don’t realize it till I’m visiting my Aunt Gert in Des Moines, what’s my deductible?” Now, don’t get me wrong; babies are very cute and can be fun. It’s just, with the first one, you feel like you have to fill up their hours with learning experiences and interesting play. You believe, if you don’t, you are a horrible parent and your child will grow up to be the kid in the neighborhood whom no one wants to play with because he builds robots out of his own boogers (weird example, but you get the idea). So, that brings me back to my children. Parenting child number one has changed how we parent number two – sometimes consciously, but to be honest, mostly out of exhaustion. We don’t worry so much about entertaining and teaching Avery every second of every minute we are awake. We have another child taking some of our attention, and if Avery turns out to be the kid manufacturing snot robots, so be it. We have seen the foolishness of our first parenting ways. We have vowed not to spend the money nor repeat some of the time killers we thought were so brilliant with the first child. Before her first birthday, my wife had taken Addie to strawberry and pumpkin patches. A 6-month-old enjoys a pumpkin patch about as much as, well, as much as I do.

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Which, believe me, is not very much. Putting Avery in a dirt pile for 10 minutes gave her the same thrill without the 40-minute drive, heat or bugs. Eight-month-old Addison experienced the Georgia Aquarium in Atlanta. Yes, the world’s largest aquarium, with over 8 million gallons of water. We thought, “She’ll love it! We’ll get a hotel and make it a weekend! She’ll learn so much!” Boy, were we dopes. What did she love? Some lint she found on the carpet that had been soiled by God knows how many feet. The hotel experience? Fantastic. She was so out of sorts that she cried most of the night. Lesson learned: Avery can look at our pet fish in a pint of water. Addie was in some kind of music class, which was great when she got a little older, but did we really need to pay to have a 3-month-old stare at us playing with a parachute? The closest Avery got to a music class was me laying on the couch with eyes half shut banging a mixing bowl with a spatula. I haven’t even mentioned the trips to various farms, ranches, and libraries. Avery hasn’t had any of those experiences, nor has she watched any Baby Einstein videos. Often, my wife will say how guilty she feels that Addison experienced all those fun things and, in comparison, Avery has done squat. To which I reply, “Done squat? Have you noticed the massive amount of toys in the corner?” Avery may have not gone to moms’ day at the movies when she was barely able to focus her eyes more than four inches from her face or been pushed around Discovery Place when she was content to chew on a pair of sunglasses, but I think she’ll be just fine. Either that, or we will be damn proud of that booger robot. Matt Harris is the co-host of the Matt and Ramona Show, aired Monday – Friday from 3 – 7 p.m. You can email Matt your thoughts at Matt@mattandramona.com.

Fall Consignment Sales! Clip this list and stick it in your purse so you never miss a sale!

Name

Location

Date

Contact Info

Web Address

Extra Info

Posh Closet Consignment Sale

S. Charlotte Banquet Center (9009 Bryant Farms Road)

Pre-sale Sept. 14 (4:30 - 9 p.m.); 704.299.3097 Public sale Sept. 15 (10 a.m.-5 p.m.); 30% off 6 - 9 p.m.

www.theposhclosetsale.com

Gently used smocked, boutique, home show and name-brand clothing; sellers keep up to 80% of profits; strollers, kids and bags welcome.

Charlotte Mothers of Multiples

Metrolina Expo Center Bldg. B

Aug. 13, 7:30 a.m. - 2:30 p.m.

www.cmoms.net

$2 entry from 7:30 - 8:30 a.m.; free after. Half-price sale 12:30 - 2:30 p.m.

For Every Season Consignment Sale *See our Ad Pg 78*

The Pointe (beside Knights Stadium) off I-77, exit 88, in Fort Mill, S.C.

Sept. 7 - 9; half-price sale Sept. 10 info@foreveryseason.net 803.327.5473

www.foreveryseason.net

Pre-sale for new/expectant parents! Call or email to reserve your space. Rolling and shopping carts available for use.

UpScale Wee Sale *See our Ad Pg 73*

2525 Dave Lyle Blvd. Rock Hill, S.C.

Sept. 8 - 10 (see ad or Web site for hours); most items 1/2 price Sept. 11

803.980.7153 or 803.322.2980

www.upscaleweesale.com

Earn 66 - 75% commision! New/expectant parent presale - register online; over 600 consignors.

Harris YMCA

5900 Quail Hollow Road

Sept. 10 from 8 a.m. - noon; half-price sale from 1:30 - 5 p.m.

704.716.6843

www.ymcacharlotte.org

No children or strollers permitted BUT child care is available! Keep 60% of profits.

Matthews UMC

801 S. Trade Street, Matthews

Sept. 17 from 8 a.m. - 3 p.m.

704.815.1945

www.matthewsumc.org

Harrisburg United Methodist Church

4560 Highway 49 South, Harrisburg

Sept. 10

704.455.2311 or ctsmemberconnect.net

http://harrisburgumc. ctsmemberconnect.net

Weddington UMC Kids Konsignment

Weddington UMC Family Life Center Visit www.weddingtonchurch.org 13901 Providence Road for date

kidskonsignment@yahoo.com www.weddingtonchurch.org/

Proceeds benefit local Union County missions.

Kat's Kids Sale

Location TBD; email or visit Web site for more info

Sept. 14 - 17

katskidsale@yahoo.com

katskidsale.vpweb.com/

Formerly known as Birkdale Kids Consignment Sale; keep 70% of sales.

Harrison UMC

15008 Lancaster Highway, Pineville

Aug. 25 (6 - 8 p.m.) & Aug. 26 - 27

704.737.7146

www.humcfaithcircle.org/

50% sale Saturday, Aug. 27; see Web site for more details.

University City UMC

3835 West W. T. Harris Blvd.

Aug. 13, 8 - 10:30 a.m.; half-price sale 12 - 2 p.m.

ucumcconsignmentsale@ yahoo.com

www.ucumc.org/

No strollers, please.

Teri's Kidz Consignment

Mooresville location TBA. See Web site for more info

Sept. 18 - 24

terikidzconsign@aol.com

http://terikidzconsign.com/

Keep 70% of profits.

Huge Kids Sale

Cornelius/Lake Norman

Sept. 11 - 17

704.996.1095

www.hugekidsale.com

Earn 70% of sales; strollers welcome, but no bags (including diaper bags) allowed.

CMG Children's Consignment Sale

St. Gabriel Catholic Church

Oct. 15 from 8 a.m. - 2 p.m.

kristendbailey@gmail.com www.stgabrielchurch.org

Cash only; no children. Half price at 12:30 p.m.

Sardis Weekday School

Sardis Presbyterian Church

Sept. 24 from 8 a.m. - noon

swscs1@gmail.com

Sellers receive 70% of sale; other 30% goes to Sardis Weekday School

I am Grow And Let Go

University Area (site TBD. Visit

Sept. 28 - Oct. 1

Nicole@GrowAndLetGo.com www.GrowAndLetGo.com 704.756.1657

Accepts tags from other sales.

Green Jeans Women & 17105 Kenton Dr. Teen Fall Consignment Sale Cornelius

Sept. 22 - 24 (see Web site for hours)

704.650.8126

www.greenjeanssale.com

New local boutique fashion and recycled brand-name/designer clothes for women & teens.

Green Jeans Women & Broadcast Group - 1420 Teen Fall Consignment Sale Convention Dr., Fort Mill, S.C.

Oct. 6 - 8 (see Web site for hours)

704.650.8126

www.greenjeanssale.com

New local boutique fashion and recycled brand-name/designer clothes for women & teens.

Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Consignment Sale Web site for more info)

877.90.CMOMS

www.sardis.org

No strollers permitted; $8 registration fee.

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