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TIFFANY Jehorek

VOL. 9 NO. 10 LONGVIEW BUSINESS MAGAZINE

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Forever After

Labor of Love Works of Art

LRMC NICU REUNION Holiday Inn Business After Hours

ZONTA Fund Raiser

LRMC Adopts Heart Saving Surgery

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LMFA LAURA WILSON AND ROLLING STONES EXHIBIT

Tiffany Nolan Jehorek has always taken art very seriously. This passion now leads to her success as executive director and curator of exhibitions for the Longview Museum of Fine Arts (LMFA.) She stepped into this position in the spring of 2016, and from the start has expertly directed and managed the museum's collections and temporary exhibitions. She is especially excited about the upcoming Discovering Victor Thall exhibit slated to open October 5. Through a fortunate string of events, she found out this fascinating art trove was packed away in a Tyler storage unit. "Curating and organizing this show is truly something a larger museum would [ordinarily] undertake," she says. " Credit: Cover photo by O. Rufus Lovett

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h! my it is already October. And, the holidays are upon us. How time flies. We hope this year has been good for our readers because so many good things are happening in our town, Longview, Texas. Longview did get the state’s designation for a cultural arts district. That means revitalization and economic development of Districts 2 and 3 and much more for the city. Hence, this month’s infinitieplus magazine is featuring Tiffany Jehorek. A Beaumont native, she has spent the past 22 years in Longview. As a springboard into her career, she took and completed an introduction to art summer program at the Parsons School of Design in Manhattan, New York following her graduation from high school. She learned drawing, color study, and design and toured various museums and art studios. Jehorek currently is the curator and executive director of Longview Museum of Fine Arts. Please, read her story from page 8. We brought you a story we believe is very dear to your hearts. Longview Regional Medical Center (LRMC) has become the first hospital in East Texas to perform the innovative, minimally invasive procedure to correct the severe heart condition of Severe Mitral Regurgitation. Called Transcatheter Mitral Valve Repair (TMVR,) this operation was performed by cardiologist Dr. Samir Germanwala and cardiovascular surgeon Dr. David Jayakar. Please, read the story is from page 12. There is more. Holiday Inn on Tuttle Drive recently held a Longview Chamber business after hours mixer. It was jam backed. Door prizes, delectable food, beer and other mixed beverages with a rocking Katie Middleton better known as DJ FYA, set the tone for this business soiree. Check it out in pictures on page 17. Then, FLIP the magazine and read about pets in wedding, Linda Voyles, her journey of love and Alzheimer’s; second marriage guide and the 4 c’s of diamonds plus the famed Midtown Art Walk in the Village Shopping Center on Judson Road. Thanks for reading ip magazine. We look forward to serving you again.

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Beginners guide to real estate

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LRMC NICU holds reunion By JOYCELYNE FADOJUTIMI

urchasing a house or property is about more than setting up a home. Although quite a number of people buy real estate to establish their future, long-term abodes, many others recognize the potentially lucrative investment that lies within a real estate purchase. According to the experts at Entrepreneur, even in a bad economy, real estate investments will usually fare better than stocks. Like any other endeavor, there is a right and a wrong way to go about investing in real estate. Novices may not know where to begin their first forays into the real estate market as investors, even if they already own their own homes. Buying a property as an investment is an entirely different animal than buying a home to establish a residence. However, with the right guidance, anyone can dabble in real estate.

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Establish financial goals. Before you even begin looking at properties or put forth the effort of meeting with an agent, you must determine what you expect from the investment. Real estate can provide a steady stream of long-term income. Establish a plan. New investors who do not have a plan in place will likely spend too much or have more setbacks than others who have planned accordingly. Try to make offers on a variety of properties that work in your financial favor. And know what you want to do with the property (i.e., renovate and sell, remove and rebuild, or rehab and rent) before you buy. Fit the house to the plan, and not vice-versa. Start small. If this is your first time out there, stick with properties that will turnover quickly. A good starter property is a small house or a condominium that can be refurbished and then rented. Rental properties offer steady sources of income when renters are properly vetted. Look at many different properties. Become an expert by learning as much as you can about what is out there. Attend open houses; look for vacant/unattractive properties. Only look for motivated sellers. Real estate can be a worthy investment opportunity. With research, a plan and the right price, just about anyone can be a real estate investor. |

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henever a family welcomes its newest, newborn member it is a cherished, blessed event. Sometimes, though, this happiness is tempered by uncertainty and outright fear when a newborn has special needs. Tiny ones with health problems are a great trial both for their loved ones and the medical professionals tasked with caring for the frail little ones. Because of these aspects of birthing and its follow-up, Longview Regional Medical Center (LRMC) is proud to be able to offer these services through its Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU.) The Level III NICU provides specific services for newborns needing medical treatment that is available close to home. This wing of the hospital supplies an optimal environment for regulating proper body temperature and specialized nourishment required by its small patients. This strengthens and builds tiny muscles and organs in the first few days of life when babies are most at risk. This 21-bed unit is a blessing to both its small patients and to their families. The nursery is operated by staff trained in the use of equipment designed for pre-term infants. These dear littles are there for various reasons. Most are premature. Being so ahead of schedule means they need constant monitoring in case of breathing problems. Many have survived difficult deliveries. All of them need more time than usual to get ready to go home. The NICU at LRMC makes certain all of them get the special treatment, care www.facebook.com/InfinitiePlusmagazine

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and support they and their families need. The unit's success was the basis for the recent reunion. It was crowded with former patients, parents, grandparents and family friends. They all enjoyed the food, games, giveaways, photo booth, face painting and all the other attractions. "It was the best experience. I felt comfortable," said Amber Gibson, who attended with her healthy baby. "Everybody made me feel good. Everybody was genuinely nice." Rebecca Martin, another grateful mother, agreed. It really went well," she said. "If it was not for them my baby wouldn't be here." Yet another mother Raven Coston concurs. “I had an emergency C-Section with my twins,” she said. “The whole experience was amazing. They are good at what they do, and I love it.” Neonatologist Dr. Telema Nga has earned the eternal love and gratitude of many parents. Several of them delightedly showed her their hale and hearty babies. She hugged these adoring mothers and fathers as she circulated through the unit. "I like being part of a small community like Longview. I meet the families, work with them for the best outcomes and thereby create an impact," she said. "This work I do is very dear to my heart." LRMC strives to place both its patients and their families at ease and to provide a comfortable, homelike environment for visiting. The NICU is located on the third-floor post-partum nurse’s station. Free wireless internet access is available throughout the hospital.

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COVER STORY

Curator Tiffany Jehorek:

Turns Labor of Love into Works of Art

By JOYCELYNE FADOJUTIMI

iffany Nolan Jehorek has always taken art very seriously. This passion now leads to her success as executive director and curator of exhibitions for the Longview Museum of Fine Arts (LMFA.) She stepped into this position in the spring of 2016, and from the start has expertly directed and managed the museum's collections and temporary exhibitions. "I love this job!" she says. "Yes. it's hectic and everchanging, but it's exhilarating to be part of something that makes a difference in our community." She lives by Martin Luther King's famous philosophy: "No work is insignificant. All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance, should be undertaken with painstaking excellence." Then there is the museum's mission statement that states, "LMFA seeks to enrich our lives, and ignite a passion for the arts." Keeping these mottos in mind makes it hard for her to go wrong. This year, the museum's board of directors decided to point their institution toward its next level, with focus on cosmetic improvements. The awnings need replacing. These and all other structural improvements are being seen to under supervision of the board and assisted by VERABANK and other supporters to insure LMFA is properly set for an ever-changing future serving Longview while remaining Downtown main expression. Jehorekâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s goals are clear and indisputably the right ones. "We are creating a grand entrance and facade to

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enhance visibility and define LMFA's image and credibility throughout East Texas and the U.S. while also creating a defined reception area with seating and space to greet visitors and tour groups," she says. "We hope this area will create a new community living room for the public to gather in and retrospectively enjoy a respite from the world with a little art." Moreover, the Junior League of Longview, the East Texas Alzheimer's Alliance, Leadership Longview, the Watercolor Society, and Asbury House already use the museum as a venue for their meetings. The LMFA board aims to continue and expand this practice. Texas Bank & Trust CEO Rogers Pope, Jr. explains the simple motive behind this custom. "Every great city has a great museum," he says. For Jehorek doing what she does is a labor of love. There is no such thing as a typical day. She writes grants and grant evaluations, works with the board on strategic planning or funding, working with the museum staff on ways of promoting such activities as tours and exhibitions, meeting with artists, collectors and other museum professionals about future exhibitions, dealing with donors and members about funding, and even such prosaic matters as paying bills and assuring herself the building is clean. The two-week gaps between specific exhibitions are used for curating, organizing and installing art displays that may have

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LMFA Pelaia Plaza JT Smith Sculpture Garden ribbon cuďż˝ng July 2018 Renowned artist Victor Thall's work was featured in the 1949 Annual of Contemporary American Painting. The following year, he exhibited his creations with first generation abstract expressionist painters Jackson Pollock, Robert Motherwell and William de Kooning in New York's Whitney Museum's Annual Invitational. However, Thall departed from New York as the expressionist movement gathered momentum. Had he stayed would East Texans now be examining a retrospective of a master's work? Amon Carter

been in the planning stages for years. She always makes sure the works are arranged so that they tell a story for the public. She is especially excited about the upcoming Discovering Victor Thall exhibit slated to open October 5. Through a fortunate string of events, she found out this fascinating art trove was packed away in a Tyler storage unit. "Curating and organizing this show is truly something a larger museum would [ordinarily] undertake," she says. "

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Museum Director Andrew Walker will be guest speaker at the LMFA when the exhibition opens. It will be a great honor for the museum to be graced with such majestic work that tells a unique story. Such events are significant both artistically and financially. Presentations of this genus can cost from 15K to 40K in exhibit fees, shipping, framing, signage, marketing, installation, lighting, curating, educational research, and programming. The museum's annual "Magic and Mayhem" fundraiser held October 26

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at the Summit Club, is the LMFA's annual means of raising operating funds. Tickets are available at lmfa. org. Visitors are encouraged to wear appropriate costumes as they partake of world class exhibits and educational programming. Jehorek is behind it all. A Beaumont native, she has spent the past 22 years in Longview. As a springboard into her career, she took and completed an introduction to art summer program at the Parsons School of Design in Manhattan, New York following her graduation from high school. She learned drawing, color study, and design and toured various museums and art studios. Her parents rented her a room in the Upper West Side, subletting it from retired and renowned ballet dancer Isabel Mirrow Brown. Brown's life was chronicled in the 1977 movie The Turning Point, starring Shirley Maclaine. During that whirlwind summer, eighteen-year-old Jehorek absorbed knowledge at a frenetic pace, riding subways to her Parsons classes in Greenwich Village. She was never without her art portfolio and art supply tacklebox. Many of the ideas and concepts she picked up there still influence her curatorial work. She spent that summer enthralled by New York museum curators as they expounded on exhibit design and how to entice an audience into a space. Still, Texas was in her blood. After finishing at Parsons, she returned home and enrolled in Texas Christian University. "I remember looking at other colleges, but fell in love with Cowtown's rolling hills, western culture and TCU's communications department," she says. "I knew the moment I drove onto campus that Ft. Worth was where I wanted to be. I majored in radio/television/film with a double major in art and business." Since her adolescence she had appeared in commercials. After commencing a serious media career, she freelanced as an on-camera spokesperson for car commercials and industrial videos. These slots further prepared her for the coming position with LMFA. She has written video and commercials, scripts for the museum, and done voiceover and other oncamera tasks when needed. After college, her learning experiences continued. After graduating from TCU, Jehorek started working for an independent corporate video production company specializing in corporate training and marketing films. She picked up on all

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COVER STORY blessing to one's self and community. This philosophy helped the family in 1989 when Jody fell from a cliff in California during a spring break outing. After barely surviving the accident, Jody spent three months in critical condition, but over the following three years made a total, prayer-boosted recovery. The family spent those first three months out on the West Coast with Jody while loved ones back in Beaumont provided strength and solace through incessant prayer. They got yet more spiritual support from new friends they made in California during the ordeal. "It was very humbling to accept the outpouring of grace given to us as my brother fought for his life," Jehorek says. "He is now the proud owner of two World Gyms in Beaumont and living a full life." Living a full, productive life is a trademark of this family. In her younger days, Tiffany would attend Episcopal Church services with her parents and brother, have lunch, and then spend Sunday afternoons driving around Beaumont and adjacent communities, checking out potential locations for gas stations and noting prices and the layouts of established stations. In the summer of 1980, after finishing seventh grade, Jehorek officially went to work with her father. Leaving home at daybreak she accompanied him to work and commenced learning the business, making collections, pumping gas, taking inventory, filing accounts receivables, counting money and cleaning warehouses. "I remember a conversation with my mother and a neighbor as they were discussing whether I should work with my dad for the summer," she says. "They said something like, 'Tiffany, this is most likely the last summer you will have to work with your dad before high school commitments begin to eat up your summer. This will be a special time with just you and your dad that you will never be able to replicate.'" This exchange moved her to throw all her abilities into that summer's work. It built her character and impressed on her the fulfillment brought on by earning the fruits of hard, honest labor. By her own admission it was not a glamorous experience but had its own small perks that came as the work took place. She loved riding in the cab of her daddy's pickup truck,

aspects of this business. She made cold calls, attended networking events, created sales presentation packets, made presentations, closed sales, and produced projects. She also hired script writers, production crews and casts, drew up production schedules, directed editing, and served as a client liaison. She is still performing all these tasks at LMFA. Although not always confident of her chances of success, her family was solidly behind her as she embarked on her vocational odyssey. "As I think about all the work experiences, my volunteer work and my education, I am so amazed at how God has brought all the things I've learned to serve me well in my current position. And to think my dad was worried I wouldn't find a job if I majored in RTVF and Art," she says. "I'm so blessed to have parents who supported me and encouraged me to do what I love and to trust that opportunities would come my way." When Jehorek relocated to Longview in 1996, she immediately joined the Longview Museum of Fine Art while simultaneously taking painting classes. Her talents quickly got her noticed, and she was invited to join the museum's Friends' Guild, where she was quickly elected its president. She would sometimes be toting her babies while making announcement during the yearly Holiday Tea Room By the time LMFA reached its 50th anniversary, Jehorek had worked her way up to the rank of president of its board of directors. Her nine years on its board have taught her a great deal about the museum's history, policies and procedures, giving her vital insight on how to direct this dynamic local institution deeper into the 21st century. Her early years taught her the basics. There is more about Jehorek. Her father established himself as a crackerjack salesman for Gulf Oil in the 1970s and 1980s. Like sweet cream he rose to the top, buying an independent oil company distributorship in Kirbyville about an hour from the family home in Beaumont. As she grew up in Beaumont, her parents Truett and Alice Nolan instilled in her and younger brother Jody the value of combining the Christian faith with hard work in order to be successful and a

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making rounds and listening to Johnny Cash and Loretta Lynnon on the radio. Her parents met while attending Northeast Louisiana University (now the University of Louisiana at Monroe.) They married and had Tiffany, and eighteen months later Nolan came along. Not allowing marriage and motherhood to abort her education, mother Alice earned a degree from Northeast Louisiana, and then moved on to Lamar University, taking her Masters of English while raising two small children. She commenced a career in education, teaching English, reading and journalism to sixth through twelfth graders. She even managed to combine her school teaching with a ten-year stint of working as a feature reporter and community editor for the Beaumont Enterprise. "Looking back, I marvel at how my mother worked such long hours in both career paths, and managed to run carpool, have dinner on the table, help my brother and me with homework, and drive us to all our activities," she says. Her parents displayed endless entrepreneurial spirit, creative thinking, inquisitive nature and were ideal examples of how to live by Christian faith, loving and being kind to others. Her words make it very clear how terribly proud she is to be their daughter. Nowadays, Jehorek finds time for her passions of reading, gardening, exercising and spending time with friends and daughters Daisy and Hope. Twenty-yearold Daisy is starting her junior year at the University of Arkansas, where eighteen-year-old Hope has joined her as a freshman. Jehorek's pride in her childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s' accomplishments is seasoned by the thrill she is feeling about bringing a continuing succession of beautiful art exhibits to Longview, thus increasing LMFA's reputation throughout the country. Her schedule goes on and on as she sits on the board of 100 Acres of Heritage, and the Reel East Texas Film Festival. She is a graduate of Leadership Longview, is a Longview Chamber of Commerce member, past member of Zonta, and worshipped her Lord with the congregations of First Presbyterian Church and Evangelical Presbyterian Church. Without Tiffany Nolan Jehorek and those like her, Longview would be a very diminished place.

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COMMUNITY CONNECTIONS

LRMC adopts heart-saving surgery "The Longview Regional Medical Center heart and vascular team is proud to offer this breakthrough technology for patients in the region. Longview Regional is currently the only facility offering this procedure between Dallas and Shreveport." - Samir Germanwala, DO, FACC, FSCAI. BY JOYCELYNE FADOJUTIMI

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close a condition called mitral regurgitation develops, causing blood to flow back into the heart. This places strain on the heart and lungs by forcing them to work too hard. This results in patients developing enlarged hearts and may lead to heart failure and other cardiovascular problems. Before TMVR was perfected, the only available treatment for this condition was openheart surgery. However, age, advanced heart failure or pre-existing health problems sometimes made open-heart surgery impractical for some patients. The new procedure is less invasive, providing a viable option for those unsuitable for open-heart operations. Physicians carry out TMVR by accessing the heart through a vein in a patient's leg, threading in a thin wire called a catheter. This device is clipped onto the mitral valve. Blood then flows on both sides of the clip, cutting back on backwash into the heart. The operation uses a catheter-based approach with no need for a median sternotomy or cardiopulmonary bypass. Germanwala is delighted with this revolutionary treatment, and eager to expand its use. "The Longview Regional Medical Center heart and vascular team is proud to offer this breakthrough technology for patients in the region," he says. "Longview Regional is currently the only facility offering this procedure between Dallas and Shreveport."

ongview Regional Medical Center (LRMC) has become the first hospital in East Texas to perform the innovative, minimally invasive procedure to correct the severe heart condition of Severe Mitral Regurgitation. Called Transcatheter Mitral Valve Repair (TMVR,) this operation was performed by cardiologist Dr. Samir Germanwala and cardiovascular surgeon Dr. David Jayakar. The mitral valve is found between the heart's two left chambers and has two flaps of tissue which doctors call leaflets. In healthy hearts the leaflets open and close so that blood flows exclusively in the correct direction. In cases where the mitral valve does not completely 903.291.0020 1408 Lago Trail Longview heartis.com

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Visiting loved ones in assisted living facilities

or many seniors, a day arrives in their lives when it is no longer safe or practical to live at home alone. Assisted living facilities can help seniors adjust to their new situations. Such facilities typically offer comfortable surroundings, caring staff and all the amenities of home. Although fellow residents can provide companionship and friendships can develop over the course of time, assisted living facility residents also enjoy regular visits from family and friends. Such visits keep seniors connected with their loved ones and break up routines that, over time, may become monotonous. Some people may feel anxious or awkward visiting assisted living facilities because it may shed light on the frailties or specialized needs of loved ones. Rather than avoid-

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ing visits, individuals can follow these guidelines: Time visits right. Limit distractions. Plan an excursion. Bring along items. Help the conversation along. If a loved one has dementia, visits can be especially challenging. However, simply being present can be comforting for the person even if conversation is stilted. Be patient and positive. Visiting someone in an assisted living facility can buoy residentsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; spirits and make for an enjoyable afternoon.

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BUSINESS CONNECTIONS

Local ZONTA hosts annual fundraiser BY JOYCELYNE FADOJUTIMI

he Longview ZONTA Club has held its annual fundraiser dubbed Ultimate Tailgate Party and Brewfest. The shindig was replete with food, football and draft beer. All proceeds will be donated to the Longview community anti-violence and anti-trafficking units run by ZONTA. There are other worthy causes benefitting from the event. ZONTA President Jaye Latch revealed the Tailgate Party proceeds fund scholarships for girls and women plus other local organs who promote the ZONTA mission. ZONTA projects include the Prom Burlesque that distributes 600 prom dresses to students who would otherwise have had no chance to attend their proms, an event they only have a chance to attend once in their lifetimes. ZONTA also supports the high school service organization of Z Clubs. The mission of ZONTA International is to empower women and girls through worldwide service and advocacy in pursuit of a world in which womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s

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Chamber business after hours enables networking Holiday Inn on Tuttle Drive recently held a business after hours mixer. It was jam backed. Door prizes, delectable food, beer and other mixed beverages with a rocking Katie Middleton better known as DJ FYA, set the tone for this business soiree. Check it out in pictures.

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rights are recognized as basic human rights so that every woman has the chance to accomplish her total potential. In this scenario, the fairer sex will have access to all resources equally and enjoy decision-making rights the same as men. This objective envisions a world in which women can live without fear of violence.

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Take this Super Quiz to a Ph.D. Score 1 point for each correct answer on the Freshman Level, 2 points on the Graduate Level and 3 points on the Ph.D. Level. Subject: HISTORY (e.g., He led expeditions that caused the fall of the Aztec Empire. Answer: Hernan Cortes.)

SCORING: 18 points - congratulations, doctor; 15 to 17 points - honors graduate; 10 to 14 points - you’re plenty smart, but no grind; 4 to 9 points - you really should hit the books harder; 1 point to 3 points - enroll in remedial courses immediately; 0 points - who reads the questions to you? Super Quiz is a registered trademark of K. Fisher Enterprises Ltd. © 2017 Ken Fisher North America Syndicate Inc.

GRADUATE LEVEL 4. Who was the most famous prisoner held at Devil’s Island? Answer________ 5. When first elected prime minister, whom did Winston Churchill replace? Answer________ 6. What was the date “... which will live in infamy”? Answer________

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MID-TOWN WALK A CIVIC WORK OF ART AND HUMANITY By JOYCELYNE FADOJUTIMI

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or Destiny Dixon artistic expertise is a family tradition. Her grandmother and mother preceded her in their lives of enhancing culture through beautiful freehand drawings. She stood beside her on-display work at Jim Bartlett's Fine Jewelry store while her mother and manager Christina Dixon also stood by in support and pride. Destiny is clear on what this means to her. "I grew up in a home where art was important for my grandmother," she said. Destiny took the first step when she started her sophomore year in high

school by taking an art class. Despite now being a college psychology major she still passionately embraces art. "Art has always been my hobby," she said. "God created us different. His work of art inspires me, and we should see ourselves as God's work of art." There were others of this calling in attendance at the Mid-Town Art walk. Abstract land artist Kelly Dillard and painter/photographer Melanie Pinkston also had their work on display. Fine Jewelry store owner Jim Bartlett made the occasion a treat for both the exhibitors and those who came to admire the breathtaking hearts of fire diamonds set up at his october 2019

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business. He provided aged wine and chocolates for his guests, and there were other topics being addressed. Many who came to the art walk brought their furry canine and feline friends to learn about the advantages and opportunities for pet neutering. Judge Beck Simpson supervised this group, explaining how unneutered pets drop multiple litters whose owners typically abandon them to leave Gregg County overrun with strays. For Longview, especially, this has become a major problem. Her Honor spoke of how local rescue groups have met this problem in as humane a fashion as possible, visiting shelters and

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adopting forsaken animals. The judge's compassion is evident in her words as well as her actions. "They all need a chance," she said. "This is why we need people to volunteer and become foster parents to these abandoned pets." She also pointed out that the Animal Protection League offers low-cost neutering. "It is so inexpensive. There is no reason not to have your pet neutered," she said. "It is amazing that one county needs so many animal rescue groups." For neutering and adoption information please call the Longview Animal Care and Adoption Center at (903) 297-7387.

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PETS IN WEDDINGS

ets play important roles in their owner’s lives and are increasingly included in more activities, such as vacations, dining out and even weddings. The National Association of Professional Pet Sitters says more couples are customizing their wedding celebrations and bridal parties to include pets. Dogs and cats are turning up in wedding photos as well as trips down the aisle. Some pets even serve as ring bearers. Before giving your pet a job for the wedding, consider his personality and temperament. How does the pet react around crowds? A dog or cat accustomed to a quiet home may behave differently when placed in a room full of excited people. In addition, confirm that pets are allowed inside your ceremony space. Certain venues may not allow animals that are not service dogs. Make sure to inform guests that an animal will be present, so those with allergies can take precautions. If it isn’t practical to have animals in the ceremony, give them a primary spot in wedding or engagement photos.

Factors to consider before including Fido in your wedding Pets are full-fledged members of many families and even, apparently, families-tobe. In its 2016 American Wedding Study, Brides magazine found that 8 percent of wedding ceremonies included pets. While the couples of yester-year might have left Fido at home, many of today’s couples want their four-legged friends to be there

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on their big day. Though no studies to date have examined which animals are most likely to make an appearance at couples’ nuptials, it’s fair to assume that dogs, which tend to get out of the house more than most other types of pets, are the most common furry bridesmaids, groomsmen or ring bearers. Before including dogs in their wedding plans, couples may want to consider a few factors to ensure asking Fido to be there come the big day is what’s best for couples, their guests and, of course, their beloved pooches.

Eligibility

Some venues do not allow pets that are not documented assistance animals on the premises. Confirm a venue’s pet policy before purchasing any wedding day attire for your dog. Couples who are intent on including their pets in their wedding ceremonies should only consider pet-friendly facilities, which may be hard to find. Couples who plan to take a limousine to and from their wedding also should confirm that the cars allow pets before booking.

Personality

No two dogs are the same. Some dogs might love people and attention, while others might prefer one-on-one time with their owners. Dogs that are sociable and unaggressive may make perfect additions to wedding ceremonies, while animals

that exhibit anxiety around strangers or seem uncomfortable in noisy settings should be kept out of the ceremony.

Health

Dog owners also must consider their pets’ health when deciding whether or not to include them in the wedding ceremony. Couples who bonded over a love of their dog may really hope to include their furry friend in the festivities but should not do so at the expense of the animal’s health. Outdoor wedding ceremonies under sunny skies may produce potentially unhealthy conditions for certain breeds or older dogs. Dogs that have difficulty getting around may need a red wagon (and attendant) to make the rounds at the wedding.

Assistance

Couples will be busy on their wedding days, so they may need to arrange for a caretaker to look after their dog during and after the ceremony. Asking a guest or guests to play this role may be asking too much, as guests will no doubt want to celebrate without having to take care of a dog. A professional pet sitter might work, but that can be costly, as couples must pay for the sitter and will likely need to pay for the sitter to have a seat and a meal during the reception. Dogs can make great additions to weddings, but couples must consider a host of factors before deciding to have Fido join them as they tie the knot.

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Cover Story "A typical day for Al and me was to go to work and do our best, come home and just enjoy whatever the rest of the day had in store for us," she says. "Many days ended with Al singing or humming his favorite song, and we would dance." She adored the way her Al overcame humble beginning to hurtle all obstacles. Growing up in Childress, Texas he was a standout baseball player, earning an athletic scholarship. He had to give up his education to work on the family farm. He loved his family so much that he never complained about a situation that would have moved most to become bitter. "I was so lucky to find him and be a part of his love," Linda says. They were a case of opposites attracting. He was the quiet, polite one while she was outgoing. Both were hard workers who saw the big picture through to the end, when they would enjoy the fruits of their labors. "I would tell my boys, 'You can sit down when you see me sit down,'" she says. She and Al never forgot to pray. Their faith in the power of prayer carried both through his battle with Alzheimer's. When he was diagnosed in 2012, they met this dread affliction head-on. She never forgot to remind those they encountered that her husband needed help with his memory. He usually remembered faces, but names were a problem. She would point this out to those they encountered, and of course they were understanding and accommodating. For Al it was a blessing that made him very happy. Refusing to let this disease dictate how they lived, they stayed active in community matters. Al got involved with Zonta-sponsored Unforgettable Tuesdays. They used and worked with Buckner Westminster Placer for his periodic respite care. Son Dale was a constant companion and source of assistance. Son David never wavered in providing prayer and encouragement. Al had long worked for Voyles Auto Sales and Auto Check, doing state safety inspections, working there until his illness made it impossible. Linda's real estate/property management job made it possible for her to arrange her schedule to

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be available as Al's caregiver. His involvement with Longview AMBUCS (he was a member for 30 years) and her membership in Longview Too AMBUCS (she a member since 1991) were another blessing as she took him to the meetings far as long as possible. Their membership in the Longview Chamber of Commerce was another helpful aspect as Al greatly enjoyed attending ribbon cuttings. He even accompanied her when she showed real estate, and to her office for work. "It was a challenge taking him out, but we both knew that was what was needed to be done for as long as we could do it," she says. Al eventually entered a hospice program through Lifecare Home Health. Many of his prescriptions and toiletry expenses were covered by insurance, and an aide would bathe, dress and feed him every morning. His caring, competent hospice volunteer Mary Tower sat with and entertained Al, taking much of the burden off Linda, who advises all those impacted by loved ones' Alzheimer's to seek hospice care as soon as possible. "That was my lifesaver, and it gave Al and me a lot of peace and comfort," she says. Coping with the scourge of Alzheimer's was something, like every other obstacle in her life, she met head-on. She got early direction by reading The Ten Commandments of Alzheimer's. By following this publication's instructions and with support from her sons as they further researched the affliction, the family was able to make the best of the situation. By working together, they strengthened and supported each other far better than each could have by working alone. "It takes a team, and accepting that you can't do it alone, and there is help if you look for it is what kept me going," she says. Education was another blessing. She realized from the start that misinformation and denial of the disease would make her trial harder. She recommends that everyone impacted by Alzheimer's to get on their computer and learn all they can about this horrid sickness. Those working with anyone with dementia must have limitless patience. Anyone being impatient with or who avoids dementia victims robs them of whatever

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Linda holds a photo she took in Church with her beloved Al

future they have left. Linda eagerly, confidently awaits Alzheimer's first "White Flower." "That will be the first survivor of the dreaded disease," she says. "Early detection means longer hope. It is so hard to hear the diagnosis, but the road is easier once everyone is made aware of what to expect on the journey." Even though Al is gone now, Linda continues her life's journey. She lives each day to its fullest, awakening to her morning prayers to ask for strength and competence one day at a time. She constantly encounters and savors situations that she and Al used to share. She

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still feels his loving presence, and hopes many, many others follow her example in combating Alzheimer's. "I hope anyone reading this article will become involved in the Alzheimer's Alliance of East Texas," she says. Those wishing to help should visit www.etxalz.org. There is also the Dallas-based Alzheimer's Association at www.alz.org. This group hosts the annual Walk to end Alzheimer's. Local support groups can be contacted at www.info@etxalx.org. Like Linda Lea Voyles', these groups' watchwords are love and compassion.

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Linda Voyles: A Journey of Love, Marriage, Family and Alzheimer’s "Love is a beautiful word. To me, it is unconditional and complete acceptance, allowing someone to be their authentic self. Love allows each to have trust, understanding respect, sensitivity, humor, communication, taking time to hear the music and to dance. All of these and more 'until death do us part.'” - Linda Voyles By JOYCELYNE FADOJUTIMI

Linda Voyles

inda Lea Voyles knows the meaning of love, and always has. She dearly loves her two sons, Dale Lessenberry of Longview, and David Lessenberry of Austin, from her first marriage. She also adores her dogs Harley and Roqie. She and husband Al Voyles were married April 18, 1987 and spent 31 cherished years together before his death from Alzheimer's on March 5, 2018. Her watchword is LOVE. "Love--that is a beautiful word," she says. "To me it is unconditional and complete acceptance, allowing someone to be exactly as they are. Love allows each to have trust, understanding respect, sensitivity, humor, communication, taking time to hear the music and to dance. All of these and more 'until death do us part.'" She has no concept of life without love. Her soft heart aches for those who feel unloved, and she prays they never stop seeking it. She reminds them that Our

Lord loves every one of them/us, and to also try to love themselves. For her and Al, this was never a problem in their entire marriage journey. They were friends long before their marriage. She describes him as "a remarkable person respected and loved by so many." When it came to Linda, he made the same decision her parents had made in 1941, when they decided to tie the knot. This amazing couple were loved by all, and when they came together at the alter it was a union of pure and unconditional love that was clear to all who knew them. Nowadays, when friends and acquaintances remark on how special her Al was to them, all she can say is, "I know." She lists Al's three main attributes as: compassion, industry, plus the ability and will to always make the most of any situation. As businesspeople, Al and Linda trained early and hard. While attending Houston's Massey Business College, she was tasked with hand addressing and writing

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special notes for 3500 Christmas cards to be mailed worldwide by Attorney General Maurice Hersh and a Mr. Westheimer. She moved on to a position within the marketing department of American National Insurance in Galveston, and then back to Houston in the employ of Tenneco Oil Company's credit department. In 1962, she happily trained that company's first black female employee. Four years later, she moved to Longview to take a marketing job with Humble Oil. She worked her way up to become Humble's first female safety chairperson, overseeing the safety training of 100 transport drivers. It was in this capacity that she embraced (to this day) the motto, "Get the big picture." Linda left Humble when it moved her office to Dallas. She has spent the past 41 years as a realty broker/ associate and does not plan to retire. She serves as secretary of the Longview Federal Credit Union's (Exxon/ Mobile) board of directors. Like almost everything else in her life--she loves what she does. From the start, Linda’s parents pointed her in the right direction. "My dad fell in love with my mother on first sight and declared to his family and friends that he was going to marry her one day, and he did," she says. Her romantic father did not stop writing love letters and poems to her mother after they were mar-

Cover Story ried. He kept doing it for the rest of his life. Now that they are both in heaven, she is sure he is still declaring his total, unconditional love. She is also certain her mother's famous smile is just as sweet as ever. The Christian faith is a family tradition practiced through the Methodist church. Still, they do not deride other Christian belief systems. "Our family heritage for as many generations as I have studied have all been involved with the Methodist church, and my church home is First United Methodist Church right here in Longview," she says. "However, as children my brother and I were always allowed to go with friends and attend any denomination we wanted, and to make our choice." She realized early on that the love her parents shared was something she would not do without as an adult. She and her older brother were born just 19 months apart, and when their father was drafted into the military and sent overseas, the deep love they received from their family made the separation bearable. It formed a priceless family foundation that kept her clan growing as she had a brother born 10 years later, and sister born a full 19 years later. They were all brought up by the same loving father and mother. It made for a smooth, successful transition into her own married/working life.

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Second

marriage guide

aking a chance on love and marriage for the second (or third) time is certainly worthy of celebration. The Pew Research Center reports that at least four in 10 new marriages now include at least one partner who has been married before, a trend that is on the rise. Planning a second wedding can be challenging, as individuals may be worried about proper etiquette, superstitions or meeting the expectations of others. But there are no hard rules governing second weddings. Now that couples are older and a bit more experienced, wedding planning may be met with greater enthusiasm and patience. These tips can help the process along. Dress it up. Brides need not eschew white if they prefer to wear it for their second weddings. White, cream, ivory, or other shades are perfectly acceptable. Also, brides can make their gowns as lavish or as simplistic as they desire. The length and style of the dress should reflect the formality and scope of the event. Make it unique. Couples who have been married before may want to set this new occasion apart from their previous weddings. Bridesâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; magazine experts suggest discussing previous celebrations and what can be done differently this time around. Couples can use this opportunity to get to know each other more intimately by personalizing their festivities.

Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t feel beholden to intimate affairs. Second weddings tend to be more intimate, as guest lists tend to be smaller and couples tying the knot again may prefer more intimacy and less hustle and bustle. But couples should not avoid inviting people simply because second weddings are typically small affairs. Invite as many friends and family as you want and as your budget allows. Set up a registry. Established couples may have the household basics already in place, but registries can include fun or entertaining gifts that speak to couplesâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; interests. These may include home theater systems, fancy cookware, athletic equipment, or even funds for travel. Involve the children. Couples who have children can make them a special part of their second wedding celebrations. Kids can play any role in the ceremony, depending on their age. If the second marriage comes after an amicable divorce, couples can invite their former spouses to provide support to their children so they can feel comfortable in the wedding. Be prepared. The marriage application process is similar the second time around, but additional documents, such as a divorce decree or death certificate, may be necessary. These legal documents also will be needed for men and women who intend to change their last names after getting married. A second marriage deserves as much celebration as the first and gives couples an opportunity to express their love for each other and their appreciation to their friends and families. october 2019

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The 4 Cs of Diamond

iamonds are the stone of choice for engagement rings and wedding jewelry. Diamonds are durable and remain a timeless way to complement every style. Anyone who is about to purchase a diamond is encouraged to do their research about selecting quality diamonds. At the heart of the diamond grading process are the 4 Cs of diamond quality. The Cs refer to carat weight, color grade, clarity grade, and cut grade. The Gemological Institute of America {GIA}helped to create the Diamond 4 Cs and the International Diamond Grading System. These benchmarks are used to classify all diamonds. The following is the GIAs explanation of each component of the system.

Carat: Diamond carat weight is the measurement of how much the diamond weighs and is equivalent to 200 milligrams per carat. Each carat is subdivided into 100 points. Therefore, a one-carat diamond is 1.00 or 100 points, while a twenty-five point diamond is .25 carats. Naturally, larger diamonds can be rare and desirable.

Color: A white diamond is more valuable the less color it contains. GIA uses a D-to-Z grading system to determine a diamondâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s color value. D would be a colorless diamond and Z the most saturated with color. Clarity: Diamonds are formed by carbon exposed to heat and pressure. Natural internal characteristics known as inclusions and external components called blemishes are the norm. The closer the gem comes to being perfectly pure without inclusions or blemishes, the greater the value.

Cut: To transmit light and sparkle, diamonds must be cut precisely and with great artistry. A diamond will be further graded based on symmetry and proportions, as well as how the stone returns light. Brightness, which is the internal and external white light reflected; fire, or the scattering of white light into rainbow colors; and scintillation, or the sparkle the diamond produces, are factored into how the cut is valued.

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