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Spirit
Sue Peters
“Woman on a Mission”
BODY
Shameless Intimacy Alfresco Dining Summer Glow
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Back to School Special The SHF Factor & Savvy Tips for Parents Poetry from the Heart
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Belinda Loxley The Gift of Art Back to school - The SHF Factor Savvy Tips for Parents Poetry from the heart
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Cristina was born in Portugal to Portuguese parents and immigrated to Australia at the age of 5 years old. She has lived and studied for the most part on the Gold Coast. Cristina attained university degrees in Biomedical Science and Bachelor of Medicine/ Bachelor of Surgery. She is also a qualified personal fitness trainer and nutritionist. “I have a special interest in holistic medicine, with a focus on natural and anti-aging medicine”. She is currently working in general practice on the Gold Coast. Cristina is married to a wonderfully supportive man, named Brad, who is a physiotherapist on the Gold Coast. “I have a burning desire to see people live whole, healthy, and balanced lives in the fullness of God’s plan for them”.
Candice Schmidt Counsellor Candice desires to see people thrive in every area of life. She has been married for 15 years to a Paediatrician and they have lived in South Africa, New Zealand and Canada but have called the Gold Coast, Australia home for the last 4 years. They have four children between the ages of 4 and 12. Her passion is to “Live well, laugh often, love much”. She has a Degree in Psychology and a Diploma in Counselling. She loves to help people live to their full God-given potential spirit, soul and body. She enjoys individual, couple and family counselling and watching God bring healing and restoration. She is a trained facilitator of ‘Toolbox Parenting’ which offers families hot tips on parenting well.
Barrie Nicholson Educator Barrie Nicholson is the Deputy Head of Primary at King’s Christian College, Reedy Creek, Gold Coast, Australia. Barrie holds a Bachelor of Education and has been involved with education since 1970. Barrie spent many years as a classroom teacher in both the public education sector in New South Wales and the private education sector in Queensland. He and his wife Patricia have been married for 34 years have 4 children and 5 grandchildren. Barrie has been involved in ministry as a Pastor and also in Politics in recent years.
Michelle Dennis Evans Writer Michelle writes to inspire, take people on a journey and escape their world. She is married, with four children. Michelle is published in the 12 Days of Christmas by Jim Wisneski, Best of Friday Flash 2009 Anthology and Eclectic Flash fiction magazine and in ‘Daily Flash: 365 Days of Flash Fiction.’ She enjoys sharing her faith, family, fiction and homeschooling journey at www.michelledevans.blogspot.com and @michelledevans on twitter. Writing brings joy to her soul.
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Thank you also to all of our readers who have sent through words of encouragement and support for Indulge! We love your feedback so please let us know if you have any thoughts on what you read. You can email me or post a comment on our iluvthoseshoes facebook page. A big congratulations to Edna Peterson from Western Australia who received a $25 Target voucher for subscribing to Indulge on the iluvthoseshoes website subscribe page. When you subscribe to Indulge eMagazine you will receive a sneak peek each month of what is coming up in the next issue of Indulge as well as other key information. What I love the most about this job are the truly amazing individuals that I am privileged to meet. In the past few months I have felt inspired, challenged, enthralled and grateful for the people who have and will grace the pages of Indulge eMagazine. It is with much please that I introduce two of these wonderful women to you this month. Sue Peters is the Queensland Women’s Leader for the Baptist Denomination and she features in our Spirit section this issue. Sue is a remarkable woman with an inspirational story. As you move to our Soul section you will be indulged in the visual treat that is Belinda Loxley’s work. It was a pleasure to meet Belinda and witness her artistic gift and the noble way she has spent her time over the recent years. The rest of Indulge is filled with words of wisdom and fun food for you to enjoy so we hope you enjoy!
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Sue Peters ‘Woman on a Mission’ is the perfect phrase to describe Sue Peters. ‘She is…’ a force to be reckoned with, her vision is strong and she is making big changes in women’s lives. Sue is delivering THE message that all women need to hear… “you are loved, you are valued”. A message that women constantly seek but some never hear.
Sue has created over the last year a set of conferences entitled “She is…” that are the vehicle for this message that rests deep within her spirit. She had formed a wonderful team who work tirelessly to build each conference into a special experience. As soon as you meet Sue you can see she is a woman of purpose, capacity and love. This is in stark contrast to her beginnings, as you will discover when you walk through her life’s journey that she shares over the next few pages. Her journey has not been easy but she has overcome and I have to say has a great sense of humour despite everything. Be inspired to rise up in your God-given capacity as you read Sue’s story!
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Emptiness in my heart
‘Time to get up’. I heard my mother’s voice at the doorway of my bedroom. I slowly opened my eyes and looked around, not quite believing I had actually woken up. Last night when I’d swallowed the pills, I thought I’d wake in heaven this morning. I shifted my head and the vomiting began. Over and over again, my stomach worked hard to purge the poison from within; poison I had put in there. Poison with but one purpose – to end my life. My fourteen year old heart had had enough. I had nothing left. I had suffered at the hands of bullies for some time at school. Many times it was of my own making – lying, deceiving, and creating dramas. I couldn’t face one more day of the physical and emotional torment, so I took the pills with the plan I would not wake up on this earth again. This was my rock bottom moment. I was hospitalised for a while and during my recovery, I sensed emptiness in my heart. I knew I was missing something – I knew deep down there was a hole inside of me. That hole made me feel I wasn’t good enough, that I would never amount to much, and that I wasn’t worthy of having big dreams.
Unconditional love
God had big dreams for me though. My sister had been going to the local Baptist youth group and I decided that perhaps I should start going along with her. Maybe something there would help fill that hole in my heart. I met a tall, gorgeous, gentle, young guy who set my heart fluttering. He invited me along to the Sunday night service, and I went so we could hold hands and pass notes to each other during the service. I hadn’t expected that this would be the place I would hear about Jesus for the first time. I heard that He loved me and wanted to be a part of my life. I heard that He would wipe my slate clean and forgive me of everything I’d ever done wrong. He would do a new work in me and I would be loved by Him forever. I took a plunge. I dove into
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an unknown world of unconditional love and said yes to Jesus. I accepted His beautiful and perfect forgiveness and asked Him to be the Lord of my life. I can’t honestly say life became a bed of roses from that point onwards. There were (and are) constant struggles, but now I had replaced rock bottom moments with a rock solid foundation on which to hold. I finished school and at twenty years of age, went on to marry the other rock in my life - that gorgeous young guy from youth group, Darryl. It was after moving out of home that I began to understand for myself what a relationship with Christ truly meant. I began to depend on Him daily. I began to serve Him in small ways, and I began to get a sense of His love for me. My husband felt a tug to enter into pastoral ministry. And so, with the backing of our church family, we headed off to bible college to begin a new chapter in our lives.
Picture perfect
As my husband fulfilled His God-given dream, I pushed toward achieving my own dream: I wanted to have babies, be a stay-at-home mum and be a picture perfect pastor’s wife. In my mind, I would have perfect, well-mannered children, with a super organised house and be the very model of what a young pastor’s wife should be – I would teach Sunday school, have perfectly straight hair, play the organ and know 1001 ways to serve mince to the visiting missionaries. So with this in mind, I set about achieving my goal. After some struggles, we began our small family. First Amy and then two years later, Leah was born. Darryl soon finished his studies and began working as an Associate Pastor at a Brisbane church. I tried my hardest to be the perfect pastor’s wife. I helped run kids’ clubs and led bible study groups. I worked hard at keeping busy, filling my days, so as to not think about how unhappy I was. I felt like I was wearing someone else’s dress that was two sizes too small. It was uncomfortable and tight, and although I struggled desperately to make it fit, it just wasn’t working.
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It didn’t make sense. I felt I had achieved all I could ever hope and want for in this world. Life should have been good, but then came a return of the darkness and hopelessness I’d felt as a teenager. A blackness came upon me and I was sucked back down, deep into a hole of depression. Looking back, I’m sure it was postnatal depression but at the time, to me, it was utter hopelessness, and now I had two little ones depending on me.
Unfulfilled potential
Probably the hardest thing I had to wrap my head around during this time was the knowledge that for all intents and purposes, I had achieved my lifelong dream: to be a wife and mother. And yet, I still wasn’t happy. I couldn’t see any way out, and my life was not all that I had hoped it would be. I went on medication prescribed by my doctor and began the long climb out of that dark pit. I was able to function again, able to go through the motions, but without real, true, deep joy. I often felt like I was viewing life through a slightly fuzzy lens: I was a part of the action, but couldn’t wholly and unreservedly join in. Perhaps this half-life was the best I could hope for.
God was not finished
But God wasn’t finished with me yet. My husband was offered a pastoral position in a picturesque country town in Southern Queensland. Hoping for a quieter life in which to find peace, we packed up and moved. Little did I know the impact this small country town would have on me. I desperately missed my network of friends and family back home, but determined to give it my best shot, I joined every group the church offered and slowly began making friends and connections. I decided to take a trip with some women from the church to a women’s conference in Sydney. I was hoping I might get to know these five women on a deeper level – that we might form a more solid friendship as we heard some nice, gentle messages about God. What I wasn’t expecting was to be touched by God in a way I’d never experienced: He offered me healing. He promised redemption from a generational struggle with depression and anxiety. I reached out my hand and grasped His, never again to walk that path of depression. I threw away my medication and by faith followed His lead. I took steps to get myself in the best possible position to
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hear from Him; I was hungry for His word and desperate for His filling. I heard messages about how much God desperately loved me, how I was an integral part of His plan and how my purpose was so huge. I had no time but to get on board now.
Positioned with purpose
It’s funny how in reflection you can see God’s hand, but do not always realise it at the time. God was moving me, positioning me and preparing me, for a work that was to come. Firstly, He dropped me amongst a group of passionate, sensational women who believed in me. They encouraged me, questioned me, pulled me and pointed me toward God. I uncovered truths about God and just how much He loved me: that to Him I was precious, His daughter. I struggled to get my head around the thought but, bit by bit, I accepted His love, allowing Him into every corner of my life. Secondly, I learnt that God had made me just the way I am. I needed to stop trying so hard to fit into what my idea of the perfect mum and perfect pastor’s wife was.
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I am not, nor ever will be, a quiet church mouse, lacedoiley wearing, organ playing kind of pastor’s wife. I am an extroverted, passionate, crazy haired, not-in-thebackground kind of woman and my God (and my husband) love me for that. Thirdly, my God-girlfriends asked what my dreams were and I suddenly realised they were bigger than just staying home with the kids. Being a stay-at-home mum is a noble profession for sure, but perhaps it wasn’t necessarily for me. I knew deep down in my heart that I wanted to serve God, so I enrolled in a Theology degree – not quite knowing where it would take me.
The key to unlocking passion
Whilst studying, I continued to seek ways of growing in my relationship with God. I went to a counsellor and spent time uncovering the lies I had believed about myself for years - lies that told me I would never amount to much, that I was nothing more than average, and that I shouldn’t think too highly of myself. As I unravelled those lies I had long held dear, God replaced them with His truths: I can do all things through Christ who gives me his strength, I am precious and honoured by God, and because God thinks I am so special, He was willing to die for me - for little old me! It’s amazing how those truths turned
Capacity around what I believed about myself. Believing those truths became the key to unlocking God’s passion in my heart. I looked for opportunities to serve Him and took onboard whatever opportunities came my way. I remember distinctly one day praying to God, ‘Please Lord, increase my influence beyond the small group of women I have contact with. I want to tell more women of your love and forgiveness, of the freedom that can only be found in you’. In my mind, I imagined He might open up possibilities within our small town to reach other women but God had more in mind.
Bursting at the seams!
It’s so amazing how God works. He takes our small dreams and turns them into something beyond our wildest imaginings. He’s taken me on a journey and now I am the Director of Women’s Ministry for Queensland Baptists. I am the youngest woman to ever hold this position and (although a little daunting) I know God has positioned me here for such a time as this. Every now and then, I get scared of the task God has placed before me and worry that I am not ‘enough’ to fulfil His plans. But God has given me His strength and I’m up for the task. I’m constantly asking Him to increase my capacity. In turn He has told me to ‘enlarge your house, build an addition. Spread out your home, and spare
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For such a time as this...
SHE IS...
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no expense! For you will soon be bursting at the seams.’ (Isa 54:2) I can’t wait! I want desperately for the women in my denomination, women in general and especially the upcoming generation - my daughters - to know just how big they can dream when they trust in God and know His perfect and beautiful love for them. I want them to know that the verse, ‘I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me’ is not just a great verse we all learn in Sunday school but a reality. (Phil 4:13) I can do ALL things - not just some things - not just the things my peers say I can do. No! ALL things – even those things I can’t yet imagine! We must never be content with feeling mediocre. We were not created by, nor do we serve, a mediocre God. He wants us to dream big and be willing to have a go. In uncovering my purpose, the very reason for which I was made, I have discovered that being myself, serving my God amongst His women and telling them of His love, was the only way in which I could ever rest in His love, with all joy and contentment. n 14 | www.iluvthoseshoes.com
In 2010 Sue created the “She is...” conferences in Queensland. These gorgeous conferences and retreats were designed to tell women the truth about just who “She is...” that she is worthy and valuable before God, that she is significant to His plans, that she has incredible capacity to do amazing things and that she is so deeply loved by God that He sent His son to die for her. A thousand women were impacted by the “She is...” message in 2010 with lives changed for eternity, new foundations laid and healing begun. We look forward to 2011 when Sue and her team share God’s truth about freedom and possibilities, capacity and overcoming.
She is... 2011 dates...
She is... Central Coast (Hervey Bay) 18th June She is... Far North Qld (Cairns) 8th-10th July She is... Sunshine Coast (Mapleton) 5th–7th August She is... Brisbane (Mitchelton) 20th August She is... Central Qld (Rockhampton) 9th–11th September She is... North Qld (Townsville) 1st October More information about the She is... conferences can be found at http://qbwm.wordpress.com/ or by emailing admin@qbwm.org
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Belinda Loxley w The Gift of Art Beautiful paintings to invoke the adventure of childhood in all of us...
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The Gift of Art
Words Charissa Steffens Photography Natasha Smith NSP Studio Photography
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or the past nine years Belinda Loxley has spent her time transforming the Royal Children’s Hospital in Brisbane from a dull, sterile environment to a wonderland of adventure and delight.
We met Belinda outside the hospital chatting to an old colleague; in fact as you walk with Belinda around the hospital you quickly realize that she is respected and cherished by many. Staff and volunteers call out to her and descend for a big hug and brief chat. It is clear that Belinda has impacted many hearts in her time here and after spending a few hours with her I can understand why. Nine years ago she arrived as a volunteer with a desire to give back into the community. Belinda muses that she had no formal training as an artist. “I did not even select art as a subject at school” but she enjoyed drawing and decided to “give what she could”. Eventually money was found, raised and donated to keep Belinda painting.
As we travel through the endless maze of hospital corridors you see glimpses of her work. She points out a bumblebee above a light switch, a signpost pointing to a ward, a mischievous butterfly journeying along; everywhere you look is an investment of her time and passion for others. Belinda guides us to the Surf Ward. The walls are alive with Belinda’s creations. They are a brilliant blue canvas teeming with mermaids, pelicans and octopuses that frolic in the beams of the sunglass wearing sun. Belinda explains how “the bright colours lift spirits and bring enjoyment to the patients”. Above each bed is a unique and special piece Belinda has designed with input from the staff, patients and parents. “Some of the staff and patients have been so excited that they have even participated in the painting themselves” Belinda explains. Our next stop is at the Day Procedure Ward, which is one of her ‘favourite areas’. The theme Belinda worked with was ‘kids playing’. As you approach the entrance, pink walls with white polka dots and stripes abound. Butterflies flutter, sunflowers dance, rainbows radiate and it is even raining cats and dogs on one wall. Belinda points out the detail in each mural with love and enthusiasm. “The need to be sensitive with the selection of material the patients will see is very important” she explains. For example, food is often not included within her creations as many patients are on restricted diets.
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As she opens a door to one of the treatment rooms a breathtaking jungle scene engulfs us. Belinda explains “I have painted scenes to help keep the children relaxed and calm throughout their treatment.” She has achieved this by encompassing “focal points where children can hunt for a favourite animal”. Or, she explains “they can use their imagination to tell a story about what is happening”. Belinda believes that we need to foster our imagination, which is something that we lose as we become ‘big people’. One of her favourite quotes is from Albert Einstein: “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand.” As we are standing in a ward a nurse approaches and asks Belinda to speak with a patient. She disappears and returns to tell us that the patient had been describing to her what was happening on the walls of her room. When I ask how that makes her feel she simply says “I feel privileged to be able to lift the patient’s burden for a period”. From her time at the Royal Children’s Hospital in Brisbane, Belinda is overflowing with heartfelt stories. She has formed a ‘close bond’ at times with the families that have passed through these rooms. Some stories are full of hope, such as the little boy too traumatised to talk until
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he saw one of her murals. Other stories bring a tear to your eye; such as the time she was asked to paint the casket of a little one. She has witnessed great sadness and become a “very grateful” and giving person because of it. As we walk past the hospital school for patients, one of the staff members shouts out to her “I LOVE IT!” referring to Belinda’s painting of the outdoor playground. She modestly recalls how she worked through the middle of winter with her lips turning blue to finish so the students would be able to enjoy the area. As our time with Belinda comes to an end she comments that the ‘countless hours’ at the hospital have been one of the “most positive periods in my life”. It has been a symbiotic relationship between Belinda and the hospital. She has been thrilled to give of her time and talents over the past nine years and in return has enjoyed the ‘family’ of staff and patients who have made her life richer and fuller than she ever imagined. Belinda’s artwork is available for sale. She can also create a special order just for you on canvas or a piece of furniture. Contact her on 0437809650; Facebook or email her at cloudpony@hotmail.com To find out more about volunteering at a Royal Children’s Hospital go to www.workingwonders.com.au
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The SHF Factor for
Tips for parents to help their child start school happily whether for the first, second or third time around. Words $ Barrie Nicholson
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he differences between children starting school can be enormous; some arrive ready, a smile on their face, proud of their new uniform and looking forward to starting a magnificent adventure in their lives. Others just want to turn around and go home…they hide their faces, grip their parents hands, neck, legs, anything they can! They are terrified of the “unknown that stands before them.” For parents it can be just as traumatic, on countless occasions I have seen a red-faced mum or dad, tears flowing freely down their cheeks, craning their necks for a last glimpse, hoping beyond hope that their precious one is alright and has settled down. What I believe helps children feel confident about school is having the SHF formula in place…once it is there they seem to cope well and are willing to go off to school with a ‘spring in their step.’
SHF stands for feeling SAFE, feeling HAPPY and having FRIENDS
Parents and schools alike have a major part to play in seeing this combination set in place to give children (no matter what age) the opportunity to do well at school.
Parents…be positive about school; talk up the experiences that await the children. If children are starting school for the first time, dress them up in their new uniforms, make a fuss over how good they look, take photos, invite other family members around to add their encouragement (grandparents are very good at this!). Take some practice drives to school, comment on the look of the classrooms, the play equipment, excursions, incursions (e.g. visits by police and fire officers or one of my favourites, barnyard babies). Share some of your positive experiences from your own school days. Reassure your child that you will be there for them at the end of the day (amazingly, some children have thought their parents abandoned them when they left them at school!) Schools are usually very aware of the emotions that race inside children and have procedures
in place to make it much easier for the children to start school on a positive note.
Orientation day for new students really helps; usually all the new students come on an allocated day,
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r Starting School... dressed in their school uniform and accompanied by a parent. A central meeting place (e.g. lecture theatre or hall) enables everyone to gather together in one accord and after a few introductions of key personnel; teachers take the new students and family members off to their new classroom, pointing out “areas of importance” along the way (e.g. play areas, toilets, bubblers.) At the classroom students get to sit at “their desk”, read books, colour and draw or build. Bag racks, hat hooks, tuck-shop trays, reading folders, the library, all these essentials are shown to the students and explained by the teacher, or, as some schools do, by the Year 6 or 7 school student leaders who happily come in for the day to help out.
Many schools employ the “BUDDY” system
To finish off, two other factors that affect the SHF formula come into play – being listened to and having constant communication between the student, school and home.
When we listen effectively to others, it tells them we care about them, we are interested in what they say and we value them highly. When students, parents and teachers communicate regularly and listen intently, then the road to the students feeling SAFE, HAPPY and having FRIENDS has less “potholes” and “safer curves”. Our children are precious and the key to the future. Each individual is important and has so much potential. We help them realize this potential when we provide environments where they know they will be treated fairly, will be listened to and encouraged to “go beyond”.
to help the new students assimilate into the school environment more easily – for first timers in Prep or Kindergarten (depending on the State) these buddies link up with them in the playground during breaks, organizing The SHF factor is vital! Let us be diligent in games and activities that help develop social skills. providing environments, which encourage and foster it Some schools use their Year 6 or 7 student leaders to be so that our kids will love going to school and become the involved. In older grades, buddies are usually students successes they are supposed to be! who have been part of the school culture for at least a year and know the “ins and outs” of both classroom procedure and playground dynamics. Sometimes these buddies stay as friends or, over time, students make friends with others.
The “Seasons” program that was developed by Catholic Education has been of benefit to hundreds of students over the last decade. The “Seasons for Growth Grief Education”, program came as the result of a worldwide study conducted by the World Health Organization (WHO), which tracked the effects of unresolved grief on school students. Grief was identified as one of the main deterrents for students doing well at school. In this program students who have been through divorce in the family, death or separation from family members, or who have changed countries, states, cities, localities or schools are given the chance to “tell their story” and also realize that there are other people who have gone through similar grief experiences as themselves and they are “not alone”. Often very close friendships are formed through involvement in “Seasons”. Schools that have used this program have witnessed dramatic turnarounds in the lives of many children.
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Preparing to go back to School Shop early
Words $ Candice Schmidt
School uniforms – check when the school shop opens and look out for sales in the shops that start early January. Often the popular stuff sells out early. Stationery and book covering - check the home supplies, sharpen pencils and have it all ready before school starts. Name labels - I like to order online. If you have a few children, I find it cheaper to put our surname and a mobile number on the label so it can go on any child’s item.
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There are great resources to buy for handwriting or Grade-appropriate Maths and English books. Play educational children’s games online that improve maths/spelling etc. (Check you have online protection software like Net Nanny to prevent stumbling onto inappropriate content.)
Sleep
The week before school is a good time to adjust bed times to get them in sync for school hours. Tired children tend to be grumpy and irritable and don’t succeed as well at school. Studies have shown good sleep, exercise and nutrition helps ADHD but of course it benefits all children. The recommended amount of sleep per day for Preschoolers is 11-13 hours, children aged 6-12 need 1011 hours and teenagers need around 8.5 - 9.5 hours.
Get organized!
Have a tiered tray for each child to put their homework books, school diaries and notices. Have a daily checklist. I have one for each child that they can tick off the school routine such as - Wake up happy, make bed, pyjamas away, get dressed, eat breakfast, brush teeth, check backpack has what is needed including lunch box, hat and drink bottle. Add any chores that need to be completed. Have a list for after school too. Have a weekly calendar on the wall that lists library days, sports days and any extra curricular activities. Kids can check they have what they need for each day of the school week.
Plan nutritious kids lunches Prepare your kids academically
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Stock up the pantry and fridge with nutritious snacks. Nutritionists recommend including dairy (yoghurt/milk/ cheese), fresh fruit, crunchy veggie sticks (can add a dip like hummus), protein (lean meat/egg/nuts but watch out for allergies) and carbohydrates such as sandwiches/ wraps/sushi/pita bread and crackers. Read food labels – choose products with sodium<
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GREAT 600mg, sugar content <15g and total fat <20g. Choose items free of additives such as preservatives, colours and flavours. A BPA free lunch box and water bottle is recommended.
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out the uniforms and packing backpacks the night before. It helps alleviate the morning panic when they can’t find what they need. Talk about wake up times and give a time when all jobs need to be done by.
Eat together regularly as a family
Meet the teacher
Studies show families who eat together are healthier, better adjusted and kids do better at school. Ask questions like “what was the highlight or the downer of the day” or “what made you laugh today?”
Prepare your kids mentally
All of these strategies will hopefully help you work smarter, not harder and less stress means more opportunities for good connections as a family.
It helps to meet the teacher personally and to know where their classroom will be. Communicate any thing that will help the teacher teach your child better such as if they do better at the front of the class.
A new year, a new teacher, new friends and maybe a new school can make a child feel anxious. It is good to ask questions to find out what your children are thinking and feeling. Get them to set some goals for the year Organise a few play dates with children from their grade to reconnect before the holiday ends. Talk to the kids about the morning routine and ask them for ideas how to make the rush less stressful. It helps if they feel they have contributed to the solution. Suggestions include making school lunches or putting
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BOOK REVIEW by Michelle Dennis Evans AS BLACK FROM WHITE Sally Graham’s story is one that we read thanking God that she has moved forward and isn’t still living a heart shattering life. As a teenager, she entered into a lifestyle of destruction which went from bad to worse, landing her in jail. After 16 months in jail, Sally wanted to come out and stay clean, but she was released only to ‘score’ that very day and head straight back to her previous lifestyle. Ready to end her own husband’s life, she made one final cry out to God, asking God if He was real. As you read ‘As Black from White’, the slight insight Sally gives us into alcoholism and dealing drugs, will encourage you to pray constantly for any loved ones you know who are living a dark lifestyle. She has shown me how God can turn a life around completely and in Sally’s case as far as black from white. God never gives up on His children, showing us that we should never give up hope. This is a book that will have you laughing and crying as Sally spills her very personal, very real journey onto the pages of ‘As black from white’. ‘As black from white’ can be purchased on line at As Black from White http://www.asblackfromwhite.com.au
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Waiting
by Nicky Hurle I waited for you to conceive my child The answer to my prayer To know within Your origin To feel you nestling there I waited for you to be my daughter The vision of my soul Conceived in love Sent from above To make my barren heart whole I waited for you to arrive my darling To hold you in my arms To touch your skin And feel within The wonder of your charms I waited for you to appear my baby To see my prayer come true To watch you grow And let you know My life was complete in you I waited for you in vain, beloved, For you were not to be My heart was torn My soul it mourned For loss I could not see I waited for a miracle dearest Immaculate to me But time has passed And I’ve finally grasped You will always be free And so I’ll wait forever Rebekah But behind the acceptance and guard The tears and pain They still remain In a heart eternally scarred.
Poetry from the heart... She is Beautiful
By Michelle Dennis Evans Signs of beauty ringing loudly Hair, make-up, hand bag and shoes Signs of beauty as she breathes A thought, a concept, an attitude Signs of beauty illuminate Every step she takes, she smiles Signs of beauty rule her life Sounding loudly in her eyes Signs of beauty through all she does Hands and feet, worked and worn Signs of beauty in her heart Emanate radiance since she was born Signs of beauty bare and barren Yearning, disheartened, abandoned Signs of beauty in her soul Rich, prosperous, passionate friend
photography by David Steffens
Flowers
by Patricia Nicholson
I love flowers they add colour, to a garden or freshness to a home. They come in numerous shades and shapes. Closely observed they have the most incredible patterns and designs. It never ceases to amaze me. How our creator can place stars in the sky. The sun with itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s ferocity. Know the depths of the deepest ocean. The height of the mighty Matterhorn and yet, form the tiny design within a flower. All from the same creative loving hand. Indulge | January 2011 | 29
body Health
Dr Cris talks about Shameless Intimacy
Beauty & Fashion Summer Glow Summer Style Success Packing Perfection
Food
Enjoy Alfresco Dining
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ShamElesS Intimacy Words $ Dr Cristina Beer
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s a doctor, qualified personal trainer, and nutritionist with a special interest in natural medicines, I have observed how many women struggle to achieve good health and keep it. I have had the privilege to walk the journey alongside these same women towards wellness. This I believe is what the bible refers to when it speaks of ‘health’ in 3 John 2. That is, the term wellness encompasses not just absence from illness and disease but actual resistance to it. Although our full, modern-day lifestyle may not readily lend itself to being conducive to such a state, I believe it is possible.
God has provided us with an amazing ‘Earth Suit’ that has the capacity to repair itself when provided with the right substrates. Sometimes our bodies need some help. This may be in the form of conventional medicine. But by and large, the small, everyday seemingly insignificant neglects can coalesce to become major oversights contributing to poor health with the passage of time. This is where I sense that my passion and knowledge meets a real need for insight into how genuine wellness is obtained. I have a burning desire to help enable women to live out their God-ordained purpose, unconstrained by poor health. But because I realise that physical wellness begins by inward transformation, I feel I have been led to write my first article touching on this sensitive issue. My deepest hope is that it helps you along your own journey toward wellness.
Shameless Intimacy Touched from heaven, Changed by grace, Called for a purpose, Without disgrace… A poem just for you
Often as women we can feel less than adequate. From personal observation and experience, this often finds expression in the dissatisfaction with our appearance. This may range from a slight aversion, or looking in the mirror more often than is absolutely necessary, or even a deep sense of self-hatred. Conversely, it may also declare itself in an obsession with appearance and in that insatiable quest to correct every perceived flaw. But when we attempt to cover up those lumps and bumps, what I sense, is that there is a deeper issue. This issue fills our Heavenly Dad’s heart with sadness and moves him to tearful compassion. I have studied, prayed, and meditated on the heart of the matter, and I always come back to one question; the origin of which I think you’ll recognise:
“…Who told you that you were naked? ”
Genesis 3:11 I believe what God was saying to Adam then, He says to us today. That is, who told you that you were vulnerable? Who told you that you were to live in shame, or guilt,
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or with a feeling of inadequacy? Who told you that you needed to hide yourself from Me? Who told you that you were to be afraid of approaching Me in shameless intimacy? I do not believe that God voiced those original words in a tone of chastisement, but rather in confirmation of Adam’s steadfast identity. To that rhetorical question, I believe that God was in essence saying, “Because it certainly was not Me.” How much more then, under the New Covenant, should we come to our Heavenly Dad in our entirety, with arms outstretched to receive His acceptance. For until we learn to see ourselves the way He sees us, outward change will unlikely be permanent, or met without strife, disappointment, and emptiness. Know that God sees you as His daughter, cherished like the day He made you; not naked but clothed in His Shekinah glory, without spot, without wrinkle, without blemish. Perfect. Just the way you are right now. Yes, I’m definitely looking forward to sharing with you in the months ahead some keys to living a physically healthy and whole life! But unlike other popular health and dieting advice out there, I don’t want to mislead you into an unbalanced, backward approach to achieving real change. Genuine transformation does not begin by focussing on
the outer first, but by an inner shift foremost. So in the context of what we’ve explored above, do some ‘soul’ searching. Sincerely ask God to reveal to you the answer to the question “Who told me I was naked?” and know that it certainly was not God.
Cristina is a medical practioner and has attained university degrees in Biomedical Science and Bachelor of Medicine/Bachelor of Surgery. She is also a qualified personal fitness trainer and nutritionist. She is currently working in general practice on the Gold Coast, Australia. Cristina has a special interest in holistic medicine, with a focus on natural and anti-aging medicine.
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Summer Glow
Top tips for glowing skin
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Cleanse skin morning and night with a gentle sodium lauryl sulphate-free cleanser. So many of the cleansers on the market today are full of harmful chemicals that you are putting right back into your skin.
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Exfoliate twice weekly. Dead skin cells on the surface not only clog up the pores but make your skin look tired and dull. Look for an exfoliator with small particles, harsher scrubs over stimulate the skin and can lead to pimples.
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Use a toner to balance your pH levels in the skin. Make sure you remove any extra residue.
Always use a moisturiser with SPF to protect the skin during the day and use a richer more replenishing moisturiser at night.
looking good secrets Words $ Tanya Epis Fashion Editor
Water is the key. For glowing skin drink lots of water (approx 8 glasses per day) and keep sugar to a minimum. Inside care makes a difference to the outside. Less is more. When applying make-up remember you only need half the strength for day time. Colour check. Make sure your make-up tones suit what you are wearing. Clear our clumping. Wipe your mascara brush gently with a tissue before applying and you will reduce clumping. Finish well. At the end of the day always remove mascara at night to avoid lash damage. A good make-up remover is oil based and helps to gently cleanse. 34 | www.iluvthoseshoes.com
The most important meal. Never skip breakfast! Enjoy a nutritious breakfast that delivers essential vitamins and minerals to your body and your skin will glow. Avoid late night snacks. Especially those that contain sugar and caffeine. Coffee that is consumed at 7pm can still be in your system at 11pm and sugary foods late at night make you skin look dull the next day. Find your perfect blush match. The best time to determine this is after a work-out. Older skin looks better with an oilbased foundation. It gives your skin a dewy look and naturally highlights your cheekbones. Some have iridescent light reflecting particles in them which can reduce fine lines.
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Words $ Sandra Stewart Sydney Stylists
ehold the fabulous Australian summer weather is in full swing. The sun, the sand and balmy nights, summer is a glorious time!
Unless you are suffering from sunburn; fallen victim to an overzealous spay tanner; wearing something tight; hot and hideously uncomfortable. The key to style success this summer is to keep it simple. Clothes and make-up alike should be kept practical and chic. Clean lines and flowing dresses work well, as do drapery layering and jersey. For those who prefer a casual look opt for embellished sandals, sunglasses, a t-shirt and a carry all bag. A fabulous draped jersey dress can be a multitasking lifesaver in summer. Just throw on a belt, add a bag and flats for shopping trips, and simply swap the flats for heels and add a clutch for evening cocktails. If you are shopping for a new outfit get inspired by the seasons hottest trends and look out for luxurious fabrics, vivid colours, printed silks as well as soft neutrals. Team your summer outfit with an effortlessly chic hairstyle, pull your tresses back into a sleek bun or ponytail or wear loose with tousled waves. Swimwear should be carefully chosen to flatter and enhance your body shape, a good fit is always beneficial. If you feel uncomfortable wearing a bikini, a one-piece swimsuit is just as popular as a bikini this season. For a beach cover-up invest in a fabulous kaftan to get you from the beach to the bar without fuss. Hats and sunglasses are not only summer fashion accessories but serve a much greater purpose... sun protection! Excessive sun exposure is highly damaging and causes premature ageing in pigmentation and leads to fine lines occurring.
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If you are on the hunt for a summer frock look for flowing fabrics - light breezy dresses with lots of movement and dazzling embellishments. Team your new dress with dainty sandals or open strapped stilettos. Aim for style that appears effortless (even if it took an hour and a half to get ready!). Avoid skintight mini dresses and closed shoes - as these appear fussy and impractical. And last but not least if you spray tan, opt for a healthy glow that would mimic your natural skin colour after an afternoon in the sun. Take your time and invest in pieces that are multitasking chic and practical, keep make-up fresh and minimal and hair effortless to create an easy breezy summer look. http://www.sydneystylists.com/
Packing Perfection
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id you struggle to pack for a recent vacation and wonder how you could do it better in the future? Our Fashion Editor Tanya flies frequently to Melbourne and here she shares her top ten items to take for an unpredictable climate. Jeans - you can wear them anywhere, anytime 1 2 3
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A nice pair of black tailored shorts
Alfresco Dining With the hot and humid weather upon us, it’s time to take dining outdoors.
Tzatziki Burgers Prep 20 mins I Cook 10 mins I Serves 4 500g lamb mince 40g pine nuts 80g fetta marinated in oil 1/3 cup sun-dried tomatoes in oil 1/4 cup fresh basil, chopped finely 1 egg 1/2 cup fresh breadcrumbs lettuce and tomatoes to garnish 4 buns TZATZIKI 1 cup thick Greek-style yoghurt 1 Lebanese cucumber, grated 2 garlic cloves, chopped finely 2 tbsp chopped mint 36 | www.iluvthoseshoes.com
METHOD
Words $ Angela Frost Food Editor
Place lamb, pine nuts, fetta, sun-dried tomatoes, basil, egg, and breadcrumbs into a bowl. Mix with your hands until well combined, then form into four patties; chill for 30 minutes. To make Tzatziki combine yoghurt, cucumber, garlic and chopped mint. Season. Chill until serving. Preheat barbecue plate on medium heat. Cook patties for 5 minutes on each side or unitl cooked through. Place buns onto barbecue plate and cook for 1 minute or until toasted. Place patties onto bun bases then top with Tzatziki and your favourite salad filling.
Sticky Pork Ribs
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Prep 45 mins I Cook 40 mins I Serves 4 1.7kg American-style pork spare ribs 1/2 cup Soya Sauce 1/2 cup Maple Syrup 1 cup (250ml) tomato sauce METHOD Step 1 Combine tomato sauce, soya sauce and maple syrup in a jar. Shake well to combine. Step 2 Bring a pot of water to the boil. Add ribs and boil for 45 minutes. Drain Step 3 Place ribs in a baking dish and pour over marinade. Step 4 Preheat oven to 190°c or 170°c fan forced. Bake ribs for 40 minutes or until golden, turning every 10-15 minutes.
Serve with the Christmas Coleslaw recipe in our December issue.
These ribs are easy to make and very easy to indulge in!
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POTATO AND BACON ROSTI WITH GARLIC
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Prep 30 min I Cook 25 min I Serve 4 Olive oil 4-5 garlic cloves, finely chopped 1kg green prawns, peeled and deveined HERB YOGHURT SAUCE 3/4 cup plain Greek-style yoghurt 1 tbsp chopped chives 1 tbsp chopped basil 1 tbsp chopped flat leaf parsley POTATO AND BACON ROSTI 800g potatoes 2 tbsp plain flour 3 rashers of bacon, chopped finely olive oil Herb yoghurt sauce Combine all the ingredients, season to taste and mix well. Potato and bacon rosti Peel and grate potatoes, squeeze out all moisture from the grated potatoes. Combine potato, flour and bacon in a bowl, season to taste and mix well. Heat a little oil in a non-stick frying pan. Divide potato mixture into 4 Pattie-like shapes. Cook 2 rostis at a time, pressing down to form a round shape. Cook for 5-6 minutes until golden and crisp, then turn over and cook for another 5 minutes. Keep them warm in the oven while you cook the other 2. Place last 2 rostis in the oven to keep warm while you prepare prawns. Garlic Prawns Heat 1/4 cup olive oil and garlic in a fry-pan . Cook over a low heat for 6-8 minutes or until garlic just begins to change colour. Increase heat slightly and add prawns. Cook for 2-4 minutes until prawns turn orange. Place a potato Rosti on a serving plate, spoon herb yoghurt sauce over and top with prawns, drizzle with garlic mixture from frying-pan. Serve immediately.
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The kids will love you for making this for them... it is delicious !
Blackberry Ice Cream Cake
Prep 7 hrs to freeze I Serves 8-10 1 litre vanilla ice cream 300mls cream 1/4 cup icing sugar 415g can Blackberries in syrup, drained 1/2 cup chocolate bits 3 tbsp cocoa for dusting METHOD 1 Spread half the vanilla ice cream into the base of a 20-23cm loose bottom cake tin. Place in the freezer. 2 Place the remaining ice cream back into the freezer 3 Whip the cream and icing sugar together until very thick. Fold in the blackberries and chocolate bits. Spread the blackberry cream over the base of the ice cream in the cake tin and return back to the freezer for two hours. 4 Spread the remaining vanilla ice cream over the blackberry cream and return to the freezer for at least 5 hours, preferable overnight.
5 To serve, warm a cloth and run around the outside of the cake tin. Remove the sides and place the ice cream cake onto a plate. Dust with cocoa and cut into wedges.
Simply Pear Tarts
Prep 15 min I Cook 12 min | Serves 4 1 sheet frozen butter puff pastry, thawed 400g can pears halves, well drained, sliced thinly 2 tablespoons butter, melted 1 tablespoon caster sugar Cinnamon Sugar METHOD 1 Preheat oven to 220°C. 2 Place pastry on a floured surface, then cut out 4 circles. 3 Place circles on a lined baking tray, with a sharp knife, score a 1cm band inside the circle, without cutting right through. 4 Arrange pear slices on the pastry, staying inside the inner circle. 5 Brush with butter and sprinkle with sugar, then top with cinnamon sugar.
6 Bake until pastry is crisp and golden about 12 minutes. 7 Serve with Cream or Ice Cream This recipe can be prepared ahead of time. Just place baking tray in the refrigerator until you are ready to cook. They can be served hot or eaten cold with a cup of coffee. You will find cinnamon sugar with the spices at your local Supermarket. Enjoy !
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