Hearten Magazine {Rural Weddings}

encouragement & ideas for your twin cities wedding

summer 2013 • volume 3, issue 1

CONTENTS

4 Letter from Becca 6 True North {authentic minnesota weddings} 8 Q & A {sky focus films} 10 Urban Exile {a rustic escape, modernly} 38 Ceremony {alternate bible verses} 40 Dive Bar Darlings {high fashion, unexpected setting} 54 Luscious Summer {summer floral ideas} 62 Inspiration Workbook {a how-to for rustic style} 78 Glossary {patisserie 46 on sweet knowledge} 2

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Where the woods meets the skyline.

We are at a time in the history of civilization when more people than ever live in urban areas. And yet, as this connection is stretching and evolving, the call of rural life here in the Midwest is still strong. Each of us city folk can feel a rural connection in our recent past, sometimes in our own childhoods, that plays in our memories as we dream of fields and gravel roads.

And so in this issue of Hearten, we play with the border where rural and urban intersect here in Minnesota. We feature haute couture in an essential rural staple - the dive bar in Dive Bar Darlings. We ponder moving back to the woods in Urban Exile. We provide a playbook for integrating rustic elegance into your own wedding in our first ever Inspiration Workbook, and we discuss alternatives to the most common scripture readings. Plus profiles of local wedding pros, dessert glossary, photos from local weddings, and more.

Won’t you join us for a little walk in the woods before your wedding? ~ Becca Dilley Founder, Independent Wedding Association

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hearten Summer 2013 Volume III, Issue 1 Editor in Chief Becca Dilley

Art Director Amy Armato

Contributing Independent Wedding Association Members

A Day In Provence, A Truth Be Shown Photography, Amber Rose Hair + Makeup, Armato Design, Bash Collective, Becca Dilley Photography, Brandon Werth Photography, Brett Dorrian Artistry Studios, Canary Grey, Chowgirls Catering, Cocoa + Fig, Distinctly Debbie, Emma Freeman,Flora Bella, Jeff Loves Jessica Photography, Juliane James Place, Munster Rose, NE United Methodist Church, Paperista, Patisserie 46, Posh Bridal, Rocket Science Weddings + Events, Sewell Photography, Sky Focus Films, Studio Laguna Photography, The Vintage Type

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true north authentic minnesota weddings

JEFF LOVES JESSICA PHOTOGRAPHY

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Will and LeAnn carefully planned the ultimate vintage, DIY wedding day and celebrated in a place that was close to their roots in rural Minnesota. The couple poured much love and hard work into every detail, beginning by carving out a piece of prairie on LeAnn’s parents’ property for a whimsical outdoor chapel ceremony site. They recruited all of their family and friends to contribute to this homespun affair. LeAnn’s mother designed and handmade her beautiful vintage lace gown!

While Will’s mother and sister went to work designing all of wedding florals, LeAnn baked two dozen pies to serve in lieu of wedding cake.

Venue: P rivate home near Wendell, MN Photography: Jeff Loves Jessica Hair & Nails: ManeFrame Salon and Boutique Dresses: The Teal Door (Etsy Shop) Men’s Vests: Land’s End Men’s Neckwear: The Tie Bar Photo Booth: Bride & Groom

Greg and Michelle celebrated the first day of fall with a lovely backyard wedding, bountiful harvest of food, and vintage decor. As the owner of Rudy’s Rustic Rentals, the bride naturally had a vintage rustic vibe to her decor, which featured her hand-made farm tables.

STUDIO LAGUNA PHOTOGRAPHY

Rentals: Rudys Rustic Rentals & The Vintage Type Draping: Ultimate Events Catering: Chowgirls Killer Catering Late night food: Bacon Trolley Flowers: Nutmeg Style Photographer: Studio Laguna Photography

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Q&A

Sky Focus Films tells us why they love filming your big day.

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What is Sky Focus Films is all about?

Sky Focus is about depicting the joining of two lives, two families, and many times, from different backgrounds, countries, or cultures. We create love stories around people, defined by themselves and a little imagination.

You recently moved from out West - what excites you most about the wedding industry in the Twin Cities?

As a videographer out West, I shot many weddings in wide open spaces, on top of mountains, and down in rocky valleys. Here, I most look forward to the urban lifestyle, cultural diversity and traditions, and the 10,000 Lakes. New venues open up new challenges along with more sources of inspiration.

What style defines Sky Focus Films?

First, we are storytellers. We are there to step into the couple’s story. The overall tone, look, music, and final product all are born out of the personalities of and conversations with the bride and groom. Just as we step inside the wedding day, those who have seen our work have frequently told us they feel as if they’re a guest or a part of the wedding when watching. Our goal is give the couples that experience again, let them re-live the day not only visually but emotionally.

What kind of end product can brides expect from you?

They can expect something moving, something emotionally captivating, and true to who they are: funny, sentimental, quirky. But always an honest representation of the couple and their day.

What is your favorite part about weddings?

The cake. No, really I love the couples. We get the opportunity to meet some amazing individuals and hear their stories. I always tell everyone that watches our films, it’s the couples that make our films what they are. It’s their love and passion that shines the brightest, we just provide the window. Then cake!

What are some of the most unique things you’ve seen at weddings?

We’ve shot some pretty incredible things. We’ve shot a ceremony on a mountaintop after 2 feet of freshly fallen snow in -6 degree temps. A bride performed a fire dance with her guests at her reception.

We’ve shot a circus performance during a reception. As a couple had just completed their ceremony, a World War II cannon was fired as tradition as they walked down the aisle together. We have also shot many different culturally specific ceremonies and reception traditions which always keep us on our toes.

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URBAN EXILE

Alyson Newquist, owner of Juliane James Place and creative force behind Bash Collective, creates a story of a return to the rustic life today, via Minnesota’s logging history.

Urbanites often view the rural as a land of last resort. The rural is a place to visit romantically and not to occupy permanently. Weddings particularly fetishize the rustic nature of rural America.

I created our wedding venue in rural America knowing this obsession with rustic-ness would help us succeed. But I sought out this rural-ness specifically because of the FREEDOM it offered my wife and me. The privacy. The seclusion. The ability to create what we didn’t yet know how to make. The space to learn to create.

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THE SETTING I wanted to find a real story from early-20th century rural Minnesota about a couple who chose to get married and live up north in a rural area and found an account of a couple living in a logging camp outside of Cloquet, MN (not far from Juliane James Place). The husband worked long hours logging while his wife cooked and cleaned for no pay for the other men on-site in exchange 14

for the couple’s newlywed cabin. For this shoot, we imagine the two of them running away together to make a life for themselves filled with simple beautiful things like flowers and pottery and silk and leather and fur. Perhaps living as equals and carving out the life they wanted. Arriving in a magical land in the middle of the woods and making each day more interesting than the one before it.

Because they were free and together and living intentionally.

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THE FLORALS Jackie from Munster Rose designed the florals around words like freedom and lightness.

PHOTOGRAPHY Photographer Wing Ta of Canary Grey lent her eye and direction to each of these shots in a way that makes me remember again why photography is an art. Our original photographer and collaborator Brandon Werth was unable to photograph the piece because his wife went into labor and Wing was able to bring her own vision to the shoot.

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AMBER ROSE was able to capture easily the natural beauty of the bride, integrating the floral and jewelry accessories to create several looks.

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PROP IT UP NOW, a Minneapolis based vintage and prop rental company, lent period style pieces including the rifle, copper pots, and camp stools from their diverse selection of weddings rentables.

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At BASH COLLECTIVE we work with a lot of rural brides and the one thing they all have in common is their unique sense of self and an ability to have fun with just their girls, some awesome outfits, and a hell-bent intention on having fun whether it be in a dive bar or in a backyard (the kind with at least 15 acres) around a fire pit.

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LINKS HAIR + MAKEUP | Amber Rose Hair + Makeup

FLORAL + FLORAL STYLING | Munster Rose PROP/VINTAGE RENTALS | Prop It Up Now MODELS | Luke + Emilie from Ignite CLOTHES | Zara Free People Urban Outfitters H&M PHOTOGRAPHY | Canary Grey FASHION & VIGNETTE STYLING | Alyson Newquist for Bash Collective CREATIVE DIRECTION | Alyson Newquist for Bash Collective LOCATION | Juliane James Place

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ceremony alternate bible verses

If you are planning your wedding in a church, you might be ready to think about your options for readings during the ceremony. Pastor Sarah Lawton of NE United Methodist Church has shared some of her favorite (and lesser used) passages for couples planning their wedding and looking for ways to combine the unique and the sacred.

Many couples might choose to use the ceremony suggestions exactly as your church presents it in their Book of Worship.

Before you decide, know that many churches have options, typically around language, within the confines of tradition.

You can be sure that a wedding planning session with your clergyperson will require you to make some decisions about your ceremony - it might be the Scripture reading, language preference, or music. As a pastor, I hope that you and your partner will spend some time thinking about who you are as a couple and what is meaningful for you. The words spoken at a marriage ceremony carry the weight of intention and blessing - whether they are created on the spot or the have been used for a thousand years!

Scripture is a great place to start, especially if you are planning on having a wedding in a church or mosque or synagogue. You have probably heard 1 Corinthians (“Love is patient, love is kind...”) also known as “The Mother of all Wedding Scripture Readings”. This text is used perhaps more than any other at weddings, because of its clarity and inspiration. And while it is a wonderful choice, there are some great other options and alternatives.

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by Pastor Sarah Lawton

When looking for alternative choices, one option is to choose a different translation, like this version of 1 Corintians from "The Message"

If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.

If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all the mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing.

If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.

Love cares more for others than for self.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.

Song of Solomon 8:7a

Many waters cannot quench love, Neither can floods drown it

Song of Songs 16a

My beloved is mine and I am his

1 Peter 4:8

Above all, love each other deeply,because love covers over a multitude of sins.

Using a partial line is also an option to keep your reading short and sweet

Colossians 3:12-17

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Hosea 2:18-20

In that day I will make a covenant for them with the beasts of the field, the birds in the sky and the creatures that move along the ground.

Bow and sword and battle I will abolish from the land, so that all may lie down in safety.

I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in[a] righteousness and justice, in love and compassion.

I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the Lord.

Song of Solomon 2:10-14

My beloved spoke, and said to me: “Rise up, my love, my fair one, And come away.

For lo, the winter is past, The rain is over and gone.

The flowers appear on the earth; The time of singing has come, And the voice of the turtledove Is heard in our land.

The fig tree puts forth her green figs, And the vines with the tender grapes Give a good smell.

Rise up, my love, my fair one, And come away!

“O my dove, in the clefts of the rock, In the secret places of the cliff, Let me see your face, Let me hear your voice; For your voice is sweet, And your face is lovely.”

Choosing a poetic reading can leave interpretation more open

Choose a theme, like this one of forgiveness, that ties into your relationship

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.

But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.

But how can one keep warm alone?

Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.

A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Genesis 2:24

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Mark 10:8

and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.

Some passages relate directly to marriage.

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The beer-stained heart of small towns, a rural oasis on a long country drive, a good place for a bottle of Premium. The dive bar is both homey and edgy, both comforting and raw, and a great retreat from your wedding.

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Using only clothes that could be obtained easily by a rural bride, the accessories are all from H&M, Forever 21, or Macy’s.

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Dresses from online retailers Zara and Nordstrom are great choices for stylish ladies planning a party or a wedding in an area without a good shopping location nearby.

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Brett Dorrian Artistry Studios used pops of color in the makeup palette to give a “more is more� feeling.

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Rural flare for fashion can feel over produced, so Brett Dorrian Artistry Studios created a variety of textures in hair to bring a raw quality to the colorful palette.

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Links Clothes P osh Bridal

Nordstroms H&M Forever 21 Macy’s Zara

Hair & Makeup Brett Dorrian Artistry Studios Location Lee’s Liquor Lounge Photography A Truth Be Shown Photography Becca Dilley Photography

Styling Alyson Newquist for Bash Collective

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luscious summer The Best of Summer Bouquets

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MUNSTER ROSE

Photos: Opposite: Brandon Werth Photography This page (clockwise from top): Brandon Werth Photography, Brandon Werth Photography, Matt Lien Photography

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Photos (clockwise from top left): Laura Ivanova Photography, Sewell Photography, Laura Ivanova Photography

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a day in provence

Photos: Spencer Combs Photography

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Photos: Emma Freeman Photography

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FLORA BELLA

Photos: Erin Smith Photography

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MUNSTER ROSE Photo: Photogen

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LINKS

a day in provence flora bella munster rose

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Inspiration Workbook Rustic Elegance, Farmhouse Chic, Upscale DIY– we asked the experts for tips on integrating a rural flair into your wedding, one step at a time.

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This Luxe Farm tablescape is all about welcoming, fun elements to make your guests feel right at home.

Mixing bright colors in the floral with monochromatic place settings brings a contemporary feel to a rustic tablescape.

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Houseplant cuttings are the basis for these

florals by Ashley Fox. Easy to find, textural, and homey, they add to this loose design of blooms using peony, hellebores, spray roses, and a few branches.

Bring in some some

classic barn yard nostalgia

with farm animal escort cards, all painted white.

They make great conversation starters, and bring a farm feel to the tablescape.

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The berries, one of our favorite parts of the shoot, look rich and flavorful and say

“It’s pretty here.

Sit and eat!”

Gold mercury glass is warm and inviting.

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Refined rustic at its best!

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The wooden folding chairs from The Vintage Type are an easy way to add a rustic–but not too country–touch to any event. They work well indoors and outdoors.

Menus, table numbers and creative place cards

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by Paperista make guests feel fully included in the festivities.

Taking elements from the invitation such as font and color and then introducing them on the day of the wedding brings the design full circle, leaving guests feeling that the wedding was fully thought out from beginning to end.

Create small pockets of elegance

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amidst a rustic setting - this dessert table from Cocoa & Fig features fresh fruit tartlets topped with raspberries and blueberries as well as cake lollipops (striped with navy blue to complement the wedding colors). Vanilla French macarons, banana pudding shooters, chocolate bouchons and black velvet mini cupcakes round out the spread.

Bring a bit of the outside in

by incorporating seedlings (these herbs make great wedding favors).

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Links Luxe Farm

Chair Rental Floral Menu Napkins Photography Styling

Dessert Table Desserts Photography

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The Vintage Type Ashely Fox Designs Paperista Linen Effects Studio Laguna Blush & Whim

Cocoa &Fig Paper Antler

Sewell Photography

Placemats

keep the feeling casual. The vintage-inspired print is made modern with bold color

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Saturated & bold colors

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The contrast

between the textural wood table and contemporary, bold colors brings interest to this tablescape.

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This artistic calligraphy is a current vision of a retro pattern brings boldness.

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Modern tableware

brings clean lines to contrast with the mostly vintage-inspired decor

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Links Modern Rustic

Chairs

Cup & Saucer, Silverware Floral

Paper

Photography

Styling

Tables

Yellow China

Ultimate Events Apres Party +Tent Distinctly Debbie Paperista Becca Dilley Photography Rocket Science Wedding + Events Bash Collective The Vintage Type 77

glossary {Bite-sized}

These are confections that don’t need utensils, otherwise known as “finger-food”. These items are great for when you want your guests to try a variety of things! Or for receptions that have limited seating.

{Dacquoise}

I n the meringue family. A combination of nuts, sugar and egg whites, and often time, flour. Provides a subtle crunch, but the moistness of a sponge.

{Financier} {Floral} {Ganache} {Gelée} {Linen} {Meringue} {Nougatine} {Pastry Cream} {Pate Choux} {Petite Gateaux} {Profiterole} {Serving} {Serving Pieces} {Signage}

Brown butter almond pound cake.

Flowers or greenery that help fill in the gaps on your sweet table. Floral really helps tie together your sweet table with the rest of your event.

A creamy blend of chocolate, butter and cream.

F ruit pureed and set with gelatin, pectin or agar agar, to provide a clean fresh filling for petite gateaux or tarts.

The table cloths that will cover your table. You can use a simple clean white or sleek black or play it up with some texture and color. Just make sure the linen doesn’t distract from what is atop the table.

A mix of egg whites, sugar and salt.

A combination of caramel and nuts of any type.

Traditional custard made of milk, egg yolks, cream, sugar and cornstarch. Similar to pudding. combination of flour, milk, butter, eggs and sugar. Mixed to form a paste that is baked, and then A used for éclairs, chouquettes & profiteroles.

I ndividual cakes, consisting of layers of mousse, creams, gelées, custards, crunchy pieces. All made to fit the bounty of the season.

Pate choux, filled with either pastry cream or ice cream, accompanied by a chocolate sauce.

T he amount that you estimate each guest to take. Decide whether you will be serving items that need a plate and fork, are bite-sized, or both. Guest count, duration of event, budget and alcohol consumption are all things to factor in when deciding on how much to serve.

T he platters, cake stands and other vessels that you use to serve your desserts on. Be creative! Use mason jars and old milk crates with your grandmother’s china or old dresser drawers and antique silver with small milk glass plates. riefly states what items are on the sweet table. Usually one sign per item, unless your table is B “double-sided” then it’s best to have two signs per item, one for each side.

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our overall table design. When using different vessels, heights, colors, linens and floral your sweet Y table can really make a statement to your guests. I personally work with a lot of wood, antique silver, glass apothecary jars and moss, it gives off a very rustic yet romantic look.

{Sweet Table}

A display of confections artistically arranged on a “buffet” style table for your guests to serve themselves. I always recommend to my clients that having an odd number of desserts is more appealing to the eye, keeping in mind that too many options can be overwhelming so don’t over do it!

Incorporating different textures and colors when designing a sweet table can determine the overall look, as well as making sure you have an appropriately sized table.

{Table Size}

Standard table sizes include 4 foot, 6 foot, 8 foot, half round, 60 inch round and serpentine tables.

When working with your event planner, decide where the best location for your sweet table will be and then depending on how many desserts you plan to order, with help from your event planner you can decide on what would be the correct table size. You can also rent old hutches and dressers from local vintage rental companies to display your confections!

{Tart} {Verrine}

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The low-down on dessert tables from Patisserie 46.

A classic European twist on the American pie. Consisting of fruits, chocolates, and nuts.

Seasonally focused.

Miniature dessert in a glass. Consisting of chocolate creams, or lemon curds.

{Clockwise from top left} Pate Choux/Pastry Cream, Bite-sized macarons, Sweet Table, Profiteroles and dessert table.

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