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Meet the Staff Publisher Mary Wynne Cox

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Associate Publisher & Advertising Sales Jennica Zalewski jennica@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

Editor Susan Bryant susan@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

Creative Director Katie Clark katie@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

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Advertising Coordinator Jennifer Beahrs jbeahrs@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

Editorial Assistant Wendy Schrepferman s.wendy@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

Business Manager Roxanne Burns

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roxanne@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

Public Relations and Events Wendy Cox wendy@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

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GREETINGS Happy Spring!

ON THE RADAR March for Babies, Lemonade Day and more!

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Boys and body image

HOOSIER NEIGHBOR

The interesting people living right next door!

MAXED OUT KIDS

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Quick hummus dip

LIVING WItH AUTISM

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OB/GYN Dr. Susan Benson

SUMMER CAMP GUIDE

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MOMMY MAGIC

TO YOUR HEALTH

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TO DO WITH YOUR CREW

ASK THE EXPERT

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THE LAST LAUGH

The effect of jam-packed schedules on families The ups and downs of one family's experience

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Summer programs you don't want to miss!

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When infertility comes naturally

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THE COUNSELOR'S CORNER

Preschool teachers

RECI-PLEASE

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Michelle Shirk, Emily Ungar, Emma Hostetter, Nicole Turner, Mary Susan Buhner, Stephanie Lowe-Sagebiel Contact Us: Hamilton County Family PO Box 40206, Indianapolis, IN 46240 (317) 417-3031 or (317) 710-6622

A DAY IN THE LIFE OF...

What does your family stand for?

Family fun activities this March and April

Embarrassing parent moments!

Hamilton County Family Magazine is published bimonthly.

Copyright 2015. All rights reserved. Reproduction without permission is prohibited.

ON THE COVER Will, Drew and Bruno from Carmel Photographer: Michelle Tiek Photography michelletiekphotography.com

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greetings

by: Jennica Zalewski, mom of 3

Happy Spring! (phew!)

I must say, based on last winter, I was investigating the best snow blower to purchase for the “snowmageddon” I thought was heading our way. The calendar finally says March though, and thankfully this winter really wasn’t that bad. Spring, here we come!

And speaking of spring, that means we are on the downhill path to summer – time to get our kids to the finish line of school and their extra-curricular activities. Do you have a limit for your children on how many after school clubs, sports, etc. they can join? Or do you subscribe to “the busier, the better” philosophy? As we all now, busy kids mean busy parents – and sometimes the better approach for everyone is to just say “no.” Read our article Maxed Out Kids for some food for thought on the subject.

April is National Autism Awareness month, and with 1 in 68 children considered on the autism spectrum, it’s likely you know a family affected as well. In this issue, the Kostelac family of Hamilton County shares their personal story of raising their young son who is autistic. We hope you’ll find Living with Autism an informative window into their world.

Also, be sure and check out our Summer Camp Guide. Registration begins early so be sure and claim your child’s spot in some of the best local camps in our area!

Jennica Zalewski

Associate Publisher jennica@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

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When life gives you lemons...

Make lemonade! Kids, start making your plans to open shop for Lemonade Day on May 16! Registration begins in March at www.indianapolis.lemonadeday.org. When you sign up online, check out “Lemonopolis” – a fun, new digital experience designed to teach kids about entrepreneurship and prepare them for the big day!

Join the March Gather your family, friends and coworkers together in the fight to give every baby a healthy start. The March of Dimes March for Babies will take place Saturday, May 9 at White River State Park. Help raise money for babies right here at home. Indy’s Child will be there too with fun activities for the whole family.

Get your team and register online at www.marchforbabies.org/event/centralindiana. Also, read how the March of Dimes has personally affected our To Your Health columnist, Dr. Emma Hostetter on page 14.

Get ready to race!

The fifth annual Carmel Marathon Weekend is scheduled for April 18! This event offers something for everyone: the Carmel Marathon, Carmel Marathon Relay, Carmel Half Marathon, Horizon Bank 8K and Stay Healthy Hamilton County 5k.

Bands, DJs and cheer groups will be on hand to entertain runners along the way.

Walkers are encouraged to participate too! For more information, visit www.carmelmarathon.com.

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Lemonade Day was created to inspire the next generation of Hoosier entrepreneurs. Kids are encouraged to "spend some, save some and share some" of their Lemonade Day profits – but most of all, experience the fun of running their own business! Stands can be set up at home, at a location found on the Lemonade Day website or at a high-traffic spot with the permission of the owner/manager of the location.

Spring has sprung!

Spring Fever Bring your kite, Easter basket and binoculars out to West Park on March 28 for an afternoon of fun! Activities will include kite flying, an Easter egg hunt, a spring craft and music. Go to www.carmelclayparks.com for an event schedule. Pre-registration is encouraged!

Clay Terrace Easter Egg Hunt Be sure to stop by Clay Terrace on April 4 for their annual Easter Egg Hunt. This event is free for families, although registration is required. Three different age groups of egg hunters will guarantee everyone finds something! For more information, visit www.simon.com/ mall/clay-terrace two weeks before the event.

Celebrate Arbor Day!

Just for Fun

Arbor Day is April 24 and Fishers has some fun ways to celebrate! In anticipation of a special showing of Gnomeo and Juliet during Movies in the Parks, your family is invited to participate in a flamingo decorating contest! Register and pick up your flamingo before Thursday, April 23. All decorated flamingos are due back to the Fishers Parks & Recreation office by 4:30 pm on Friday, April 24. Flamingos will be on display around the amphitheater that Friday and residents can vote on their favorite flamingos from 7- 8 pm prior to the viewing of Gnomeo and Juliet.

The winning flamingo will receive a prize! Visit www.fishers.in.us to find out more.

march 1st World Compliment Day

march 6th Middle Name Pride Day

march 9th Napping Day

march 20th International Day of Happiness

march 22nd Goof Off Day

march 23rd Something on a Stick Day

april 4th Pillow Fight Day

april 7th No Housework Day

april 12th Walk on Your Wild Side Day

april 16th Photo Credit: Velse Photography

Wear Your Pajamas To Work Day

Little Angel Gowns Do you have a wedding gown, formal or first communion dress that you would be willing to donate? Little Angel Gowns repurposes these garments into complimentary burial gowns for babies that have passed.

Talented seamstresses sew each gown, which is individually wrapped in tissue and presented to families by the medical team caring for their baby. This nonprofit organization is funded solely by donations and works completely on a volunteer basis. To date, over 1,000 gowns have been given to families.

To donate your gown, or to learn more about volunteer opportunities, visit www.littleangelgowns.org.

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by: Emily Ungar, mom of 2

MAXED OUT KIDS The effect of jam-packed schedules on families

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idreen Hart is busy. As a mom of two tweens who are committed to multiple activities, her family wakes at 5:00 every morning and many nights isn’t in bed until 11:00. After a full day of school, her older daughter Zahria has student council and leadership meetings – and that’s before she’s started any of her homework or practiced her cheerleading routine. Her younger daughter Kennedy is also in cheerleading and attends church functions with her older sister.

“It becomes too much, and they get worn out,” says Hart.

The Harts aren’t the only family that keep a turbo-charged schedule. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, nearly 6 out of 10 children between 6 and 17 years old participate in at least one after school activity.

“Extracurricular activities have been shown to benefit children in a variety of ways,” says Dr. Lois Pilipis, Clinical Director at Pilipis Behavior Group in Noblesville. “In my therapy practice, however, I routinely encounter children who are experiencing mood symptoms and behavior problems related to being overwhelmed with school and other activities.”

How children manage a busy lifestyle depends in part on their personality, but also how their parents handle the stress of

about going to things that are supposed to be enjoyable, then it’s time to cut back.”

Dr. Pilipis describes these other signs that your child may be feeling the effects of being over-scheduled: Psychological symptoms: anxiety, depressed mood, irritability

family life. “At the end of the day, if the foundation of the family is not solid, the child ultimately suffers,” says Dr. Pilipis.

“Recent survey research from the American Psychological Association has shown that 7 in 10 parents say that their stress has little to no impact on their children; however, 91% of children report knowing when their parents are stressed and being directly impacted, in the form of not having enough quality time with their parents, being exposed to arguing and yelling, feeling sad and worried, and experiencing physical symptoms.”

Behavioral changes: trouble sleeping, withdrawal from friends and family, a feeling of disconnect from school and related activities, missing or late schoolwork, a decrease in quality of schoolwork, conflict with family members Physical signs: stress, headaches, stomach aches and other complaints of pain Parents may also notice that their children have become too serious about their schedules and have difficulty relaxing.

Children themselves often report feeling overwhelmed.

Ac h i e v i n g ba l a n c e Red fl ag s In a recent post on the Hamilton County Family Facebook page, readers were asked, “If your children are involved in multiple activities, how do you know when enough is enough?” Holly L. commented that “whining is one of the most noticeable things my kid does when she's done. We just finished a year long stint of Tae Kwan Do. Some days she would cry about having to go twice a week because she didn't have time to play at home (being in school all day).” Another reader, Stephanie L., agreed, “When they start complaining

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For some families, even just one extracurricular activity can be enough. Stephanie Abel’s daughter Sadie plays volleyball at her middle school. Though she plays just one sport, Sadie has games and practices five days a week. On Friday evenings, just as many families are beginning to wind down, Sadie has private lessons. For many children pursuing competitive sports or musical activities, tacking on private lessons is the norm – adding to an already busy agenda of practices, tournaments or performances. That’s why Abel’s family works together to make sure they have an oasis of rest amidst their busy schedules.

“Tuesdays and Thursdays are home days,” says Abel. “We try to put away our phones and focus on each other. Sunday is downtime and together time. We teach Sunday school at our church, and that is time to do something together.”

Indeed, scheduling time to relax is exactly what is recommended by the experts. “Parents can help their children achieve a healthy balance by first creating a healthy balance in their own schedules of work, play and down time,” Dr. Pilipis advises. “Another way parents can help their children is by setting some parameters on how children’s (and the family’s) time is structured. This may sound like it would add to the problem of overscheduling, but it actually does the opposite by ensuring there is time saved for family, homework, socializing and relaxation.

A thoughtfully organized extracurricular schedule can also mean a no-nonsense approach to other commitments. “When Zahria first started cheering, her grades were awesome,” says Hart. “They have to be more focused because they have to learn to manage themselves.” Abel’s daughter Sadie has developed the same good homework habits. “She uses her time in school efficiently so she doesn’t have to bring homework home,” says Abel.

For both families, the girls love their chosen extracurricular activities. Carving out the time to complete their other obligations has been worth it.

Keeping the family organized and on track using technology is another way to take the stress out of getting everyone where they need to be.

“In Google Docs, we all share a calendar,” says Hart. Weekends have become a time of relaxation in their household as well. “I think it’s important [the girls] have the time to just do nothing.”

Whether children are committed to multiple extracurricular activities or none, Dr. Pilipis recommends one practice for the whole family to follow. “Children should have at least one hour of downtime per night where they do not use electronics just before bed. This ‘winding down’ hour is essential for promoting healthy sleep habits. I routinely recommend that families implement ‘unplugged’ nights, in which all members of the family spend quality time together at home with no electronics or other distractions. Interestingly, children are often the biggest supporters of this idea.”

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by: Michelle Shirk, mom of 1

LIVING WITH

AUTISM

The ups and downs of one family’s experience

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he CDC reports that approximately 1 in 68 children in the United States have been identified as having an autism spectrum disorder.

In honor of National Autism Awareness month this April, we asked one Hamilton County mom to share the joys and struggles of parenting a child with autism.

Meet the family Amber Kostelac, a stay-at-home mom who writes fiction, lives in Carmel with her husband Bryan, a medical device engineer. The couple welcomed son Ayden to their family in April of 2010.

Ayden was a “really good baby” says Amber, but was sick frequently during his early years of life. He also struggled to meet various developmental milestones. While attending a mom’s group with Ayden, she recalls, “I observed each and every week how the other kids pulled ahead of him in speech and motor development.” Shortly before his third birthday, Ayden was officially diagnosed with autism.

Challenges & successes At the time of his diagnosis, Ayden faced many challenges. He knew few words and spoke them only infrequently. “He rarely imitated any actions,” Amber says.

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Ayden preferred to line up household objects in rows.

In an effort to help him, Amber began reading everything she could about autism. “All the research seems to back up that early intervention with an ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) program leads to the greatest developmental outcomes in kids with autism,” she says. In June of 2013, Amber enrolled Ayden in a full-time ABA therapy program.

Since that time, Ayden has made tremendous progress. He can now make requests, label items and imitate others. While Ayden still struggles with social interaction, he has shown improvement in this area as well. “Sometimes he will tell me which kids he played with during the day, and I am happy to report he has a best friend at the ABA center,” says Amber.

A “day in the life” Despite his progress, Ayden’s autism still impacts many aspects of the Kostelac’s schedule, for example: Playtime: “Ayden has a wonderful sense of humor,” says Amber. “He makes me laugh every day.” Ayden enjoys taking walks, visiting the park and playing flashlight tag with his parents. He also loves singing and dancing. “He began singing Christmas songs in October this year,” says Amber.

While Ayden’s play skills have improved dramatically, he still has difficulty playing independently and remains intrigued by household objects. “Some mornings the first thing he does is take my toiletries in the bathroom and line them up on the counter,” says Amber.

Education: Ayden’s ABA therapy runs from 8:30 am to 4:30 pm, Monday through Friday. Beginning this fall he will attend preschool six

hours per week with an aide in addition to receiving therapy.

The family hopes Ayden will start attending kindergarten at age six. Like many children who are autistic, “Ayden seems to be a whiz at electronics,” says Amber.

She finds iPad learning apps to be a helpful teaching tool.

Mealtime: “Ayden’s always been an extremely picky eater,” says Amber.

Some evenings, she has difficulty getting him to eat even a few bites. He currently follows a gluten free/casein free (GFCF) diet and eats limited sugar and processed foods. Amber believes these dietary restrictions have played an important role in Ayden’s progress.

Bedtime: Amber has instituted a bedtime routine for Ayden that includes dinner, playtime, a bath, pajamas, iPad or television time, then bed.

“Routines and structure help him a lot,” she explains.

That said, Ayden currently sleeps in his parents’ room as an alternative to multiple nightly wake-ups.

“We just had to give in and sleep at some point,” says Amber.

Words of wisdom If you’re raising a child with autism, Amber says, “Don’t go it alone. Utilize the resources in your community.” The Kostelacs have taken advantage of parent respite nights through Easter Seals, and Amber corresponds with a parent mentor she found through Talk About Curing Autism (TACA).

Despite the challenges they have faced, parenting Ayden has been a joyful experience for the Kostelacs. “He is a wonderful little boy and I am proud to be his mom,” says Amber. “I feel he is capable of learning just about anything.”

Local Autism-Friendly Events Looking for a fun family outing? Below, find a list of events and activities specifically geared toward kids with autism or other special needs.

AMC Theatres offers sensory friendly showings of popular films at several Indianapolis area locations. Expect a brighter theater, lower movie volume and an accepting atmosphere. Check www. amctheatres.com/programs/sensory-friendly-films for showtimes.

Work up a sweat at Sky Zone Trampoline Park’s Special Needs Time. For just $8, your child can jump for an hour alongside a parent or guardian. This special event takes place in Fishers on the second Monday of each month. Bounce on over to www.skyzone.com/ fishers to learn more.

Children with learning differences can receive one-on-one or small group swim instruction as part of Stony Creek Swim Center’s Aqua Abilities program. Find complete details at stonycreekswimcenter.com.

Help your child relax with Monon Community Center’s adaptive yoga classes. These classes are intended for kids with disabilities in a number of different age ranges. Visit carmelclayparks.com and click “Browse Programs Online” to see classes and schedules.

If your little one loves horses, consider therapeutic riding lessons at Agape Unbridled Hope’s Cicero location. The center works with children ages four and over with autism, ADD/ADHD, Down Syndrome and a variety of other medical diagnoses. Submit your inquiry at agaperiding.org.

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by: Dr. Emma Hostetter, MD, MPH

Join the March The first time that I held her…I was terrified.

Her tiny frame was hardly bigger than my hand – 32 weeks was not enough time. It wasn’t enough time for her to have plump, rosy cheeks; a hungry suck; a strong cry; a heartbeat that didn’t dip; or even the ability to breathe easily on her own. The feeding tube, breathing tube and heart rate lines entangled and engulfed her. While I despised the sterile NICU room and the looming medical equipment, I felt a sense of overwhelming gratitude that my preemie was born in a medical age where she would not only survive, she could eventually even thrive.

How had this day and age of medical advancement been achieved? Only 65 years ago my uncle, born at 24 weeks had only lived long enough for my grandmother to kiss him goodbye. Who was behind the countless hours of research and education dedicated to promoting healthy pregnancies, preventing preterm deliveries and saving the lives of preemies? While many organizations can be credited with these efforts, March of Dimes shines as an ultimate leader.

This May 9th, you have the opportunity to save the lives of countless babies by participating in the Central Indiana March for Babies at White River State Park. Sign up now to walk and raise funds, start a team, join a team, sponsor someone else who has decided to walk or become a corporate sponsor. Hamilton County has the heart and ability to make a difference that counts.

For more information go to www.marchforbabies.org or join my team at www.marchforbabies.org/themominmemd.

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H A M I LT O N C O U N T Y FA M I LY

School will be out before we know it – do you need a plan? These local activities are sure to make “happy campers” out of your kids this summer!

A Sewin g S tud i o (317) 440-7709 www.asewingstudio.com asewingstudio@gmail.com Located in the Village of West Clay, Carmel

C e n t ral In d i an a Ac a d e m y o f Da n c e (317) 581-2423 www.ciaodance.com studio@ciaodance.com 14950 Greyhound Ct., Ste 4, Carmel

Gy m bo r e e P l ay & Mu sic (317) 574-9626 www.gymboree.com carmelin@gymboreeclasses.com 12524 N Gray Rd, Carmel

Ready, Set, Sew! Children ages 8-16 will learn to machine-sew a variety of one-of-a-kind sewing projects in themed groups, including the popular American Girl® Doll Clothing camp, where campers will sew a wardrobe for their dolls. Most camps run for 2 days (3 hours/ day) during the weekdays. Some of the sewing themes include summertime, school, travel and more. To attend a camp, a pre-requisite class is mandatory & available to beginner sewing students with minimal or no sewing experience. A Sewing Studio also offers kids weekly classes and workshops, as well as occasional adult classes.

There’s something for everyone this summer at Central Indiana Academy of Dance!

A great place for moms and kids to make lifelong friends and learn in a fun environment.

Gymboree Play & Learn Classes, Music Classes, Sports Classes, Art Classes and Preschool Classes are specially designed to help young children learn and develop as they play. Our classes also help you learn about your child and their development while enjoying the simple pleasure of playing together. Parent/ Child and Drop off options.

Bric ks 4 Kid z (317) 572-7357 www.bricks4kidz.com bbeltrame@bricks4kidz.com Located in Fishers Bricks 4 Kidz offers a variety of LEGO®-themed camps that challenge, inspire and entertain.

Our camps offer unique creative play, motorized builds and LEGO-based activities. Themes change weekly to challenge every interest and skill level. See website for theme details. We Learn. We Build. We Play- with LEGO Bricks!

Camp Mommawatc h i www.campmommawatchi.com mommaowl@campmommawatchi.com Camp Mommawatchi is an online retailer that specializes in at-home camp curriculum. Our curriculum allows moms to do camps at home with their preschool and grade school children.

We currently have four themes - sports, the arts, secret agent and science. Each camp purchased comes with an instruction booklet and digital downloads - everything moms need to host their own camp. Moms and kids will love all of the activities, games, crafts, recipes and field trips. Start a new, fun tradition this summer and make lasting memories with your little ones. (Note: we are not a camp for kids to attend, but a camp for you to do yourself.)

C o l l e g e Na n n i es + T u to rs (317) 559-1777 www.collegenanniesandtutors.com Contact: Dean Hershman Your children deserve a great summer.

Wouldn't you love it if your children could have the kind of summer you remembered?

Days outside. Time with friends. Playing catch. A picnic at the zoo. Fun, but supervised. From summer camp to team sports to fun at the waterpark, your children deserve better than another "hall monitor." College Nannies are active role models for your active children. There is simply no substitute for someone who can really understand, engage and have fun with them. Stop hunting for "that neighbor who watches kids in the summer." Stop trying to find another "center."

Now you have a better choice.

Contact us today.

C o n n er P rai r i e A dv e n t u r e Ca m p (317) 776-6000 Ext. 375 Contact: Julie McCarthy mccarthy@connerprairie.org 13400 Allisonville Road, Fishers, IN Conner Prairie Adventure Camp provides a great outdoor, action packed experience! Enroll your child in Adventure Camp for a week's worth of fun and excitement in a unique environment staffed with skilled counselors.

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H e r i tag e C h r is t i a n Sc hool (317) 849-3441 HeritageChristian.net Contact: Carol Williamson eaglecare@heritagechristian.net Eagle Care Day Camp will again be offered for the summer of 2015 with a new addition called Camp Invention. The day camps are designed to teach kids entering K-5 healthy living habits, keep them active, stimulate their minds and learn about Jesus. With a different theme each week, 6 day camps will be offered throughout the summer on the Heritage Christian School campus. Heritage Christian School offers an array of summer camp programs. They also offer Academic Camps, Fine Arts Camps and Sports Camps.

I n d ia n a p o l i s C ommunit y T e n n is P ro gr am (317) 259-5377 TennisProgram.com The Indianapolis Community Tennis Center offers daily tennis lessons, clinics and youth programs.

We also offer full day Tennis Camps. Fun activities offered rain or shine. A minimum of three hours of tennis, table tennis, swimming (certified lifeguard on duty), board games and conditioning. Campers bring own lunch, water jug, swimsuit and towel.

Two snacks are served. Arthur Ashe Reading Room is open to campers with over 1,000 books to check out. Healthy lunches are available at our concession stand for reasonable prices. Program tennis shirt for each participant.

Indi an apoli s Sailin g Clu b' s Sailin g Ca m p www.indianapolissailing.org (registration form under the Junior Sailing Tab) michelle.sarber@gmail.com Located on Geist Reservoir The Sailing Camp is for novice to advanced sailors ages 8-16 years old, 9 to 4 week long camp for 6 weeks out of the summer. Sailing camp is designed to teach basic sailing and water safety for beginners, and more advanced sailing and racing to veterans. Camp is divided by age and ability.

Children need to feel comfortable in and around the water. Life jackets and lunches are required.

Indy E leven (317) 685-1100 www.indyelevencamps.com Contact: Molly Kruger Email: molly@indyeleven.com See website for Central Indiana Locations Your kids can improve their soccer skills this summer alongside Indiana's Team in the World's Game during the Indy Eleven Soccer Camp series! Indy Eleven will conduct a series of fourday camps across Central Indiana between June and August, allowing young players of all abilities ages 6-14 the chance to gain valuable instruction in a fun and informative environment. The registration cost will include 12 hours of instruction, a camp t-shirt and a ticket to an Indy Eleven game at Carroll Stadium during the Fall Season. Each camp will run from 9:00 a.m.12:00 p.m., Monday-Thursday and feature special appearances by Indy Eleven players. Team gear will also be available for purchase on site.

Kiddie Ac adem y (317) 596-1300 www.kiddieacademy.com 11703 Olio Road, Fishers Looking for a summer camp that combines play, exercise, and fun? Kiddie Academy of Fishers is partnering with a new local gym called Kid Fit for our school age summer camp program. Join us as we use the new facility to create opportunities for fun, friendships and exploration. We will utilize our new 2000 square foot gymnasium, local playgrounds and parks, special visitors, and other venues as we "travel the world" to new countries each week.

MyArt www.myartindy.com Contact: Sylvia Runningen, Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville: (317) 443-6831 or sylvia@ myartindy.com Barb Hegeman Zionsville: (317) 774-3729(DRAW) or barb@ myartindy.com Locations: 622 S. Rangeline, Carmel /12244 E. 116th St., Fishers /39 North 10th St., Noblesville/80 W. Pine St., Zionsville

Myart offers weekly and one day summer art camps for ages 5 and up. Students learn drawing and painting techniques to create amazing art all centered on a specific theme. Weekly camps include Cartooning, Wild Animals, Pets, Fantasy, Alaska, Desert and Under the Sea. One day camps include Horses, Little Pony, Ninja Turtles and Pokemon. Campers work in a variety of media, including markers, oil and chalk pastels, watercolor and acrylics on canvas. Every year we offer brand new projects so returning campers are always creating something new and fun!

N o b l esv i l l e Pa r ks D e pa r t m e n t – Fo ot Go l f & Ca m p s (317) 770-5750 www.cityofnoblesville.org administrator@noblesville.in.us Noblesville Parks Department offers a variety of great sports camps. The newest offering is Foot Golf! Foot Golf Specialty Camp, Fox Prairie Golf Course, ages 7-12 yrs. Soccer + golf = Foot Golf! Instead of hitting a golf ball, players kick a soccer ball into a 21 inch diameter cup in as few kicks as possible on our AFGL accredited 18-hole Foot Golf course. Rules and play are similar to golf, with players adapting to the fun and new challenges presented by soccer. This course is incorporated into the West 9-holes at Fox Prairie Golf Course, 8456 East 196th Street.

P r e p at B r eb e u f (317) 524-7050 Brebeuf.org Contact: Hadley Moore prep@brebeuf.org Prep @ Brebeuf will introduce their outstanding Brebeuf offerings, coaches and faculty to a younger crowd. They’ve endeavored to make their schedule as flexible as possible for families with busy summers. These summer workshops and camps will provide students with engaging activities and experiences to enhance their summer vacation.

R e v Raci n g Moto rsp o r t s Ac a d e m y (317) 920-9500 revracingmsa.com 2509 N Delaware Street, Indianapolis Indianapolis’ Rev Racing Motorsports Academy provides a one-of-a-kind, authentic NASCAR experience to camp participants. With racing simulators; NASCAR cars and equipment; and a proven curriculum, participants receive a weeklong look into one of America’s most popular sports. Camps run select weeks in June and July.

S p o r t H o rse, I n c.

(317) 804-1645 www.sporthorse.net 18326 Spring Mill Road, Westfield Camp activities are based on the introduction to horses through SAFETY, RESPECT and FUN. Each day consists of a riding lesson as well as ground lessons. Ground lessons are meant to give campers the knowledge and skills to handle and give basic care to horses. They are taught how to properly halter, lead, tie and work safely in close proximity to horses and ponies. As interest and group ability allow, other topics are introduced such as stabling, feeding, veterinary and farriery care and training methods. Lessons consist of a variety of exercises, drills and games to develop balance, confidence and skills. In addition to learning to ride the walk, trot and basic canter, campers practice finding their balance in different positions and posting at the trot. Age requirement minimum is 5 years old.

S to n y C r e e k S wim Center (317) 773-7399 stonycreekswimcenter.com/programs/ summer-camps/ Contact: Kim Walters Email: kim@stonycreekswimcenter.com 15550 Stony Creek Way, Noblesville Each camp has activities and adventures structured around unique, specific themes. Activities will include sports, crafts, swimming, and water safety. Every day campers will have a swimming lesson and each week campers will have a field trip or an adventure that ties into the theme for that week.

S u m m e r Ca m p S e r i es - Carmel Cl ay Pa r ks a n d Re cre ation (317) 573-5240 www.carmelclayparks.com Contact: Ben Johnson bjohnson@carmelclayparks.com 1235 Central Park Drive East, Carmel Our camps offer a variety from Art, Theatre, Science, Sports and Nature. There is a different theme each week. Theatre campers have the opportunity to act, sing and dance in their very own musical! They can either enroll in stage production or performance. Our Impact camp is geared towards teaching young adults about responsibility. IMPACT stands for Initiative, Motivation, Professionalism, Achievement, Compassion and Teamwork - where they learn essential life skills in a job-like setting. There is truly something for everyone!

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to your health

by: Dr. Emma Hostetter, MD, MPH

When Infertility Comes Naturally Pregnancy issues affect more couples than you might suspect

For many women, childbearing comes naturally.

But for a significant percentage of women, infertility comes just as naturally (myself included). Don’t get me wrong, infertility is not just a female problem.

Male factor infertility and combined infertility play significant roles as well. According to Resolve, The National Infertility Association, 1 in 8 couples struggle with infertility issues. With staggering statistics like these, it’s reasonable to be concerned if baby-making seems to be taking too long the “natural” way. As a woman who has gone through years of infertility treatments resulting in six cycles of IVF and one precious little girl to show for it all, I’m here to walk you through the ropes.

When should I be worried?

When the attempted baby-making timetable stretches from a few months into six months and then a year with only a menstrual cycle to show for it, it’s time to be concerned. While many couples will get pregnant naturally on their own within a few years, The American Academy of Obstetrics and Gynecology recommends that if you have actively been trying to get pregnant for a year without success, you should be evaluated.

If you are over the age of 35 and haven’t gotten pregnant within six months of actively trying, have irregular periods or you or your partner have a known fertility diagnosis, then you should be evaluated right away.

Whose fault is it?

Infertility isn’t really anyone’s fault, but someone has to take the diagnosis. While the woman usually gets the finger pointed at her since she can’t get pregnant, interestingly, female factor, male factor, and combined/unknown cause infertility each make up about 1/3 of the diagnoses. Clearly, trying to assign fault only complicates an already stressful situation, but identifying the underlying source of infertility can help determine appropriate treatment options. So, women, bring your partner along to the infertility workup. Men don’t get a hall pass!

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Does my age really matter?

While some women decide to start their families right away, in today’s society (Hamilton County included) many women put pregnancy on hold as they strive to gain a higher education and find their place in the professional world. When to start having children is a very personal decision, but the idea that a woman can easily start her family at any age or stage of life is misleading.

According to local Fishers mom and physician assistant, Olympia Ming, M.S, PA-C, women should be aware of the potential fertility complications that come with waiting to start a family. According to Ming, many women aren’t ready to start their families until they are in their 30’s, but they also haven’t been educated on how significantly their fertility declines each year after 30. Poor egg quality, genetic abnormalities, unexplained infertility – these are all potential fertility complications for many women. Olympia says that because a woman’s fertility outlook only gets worse with each passing year, physicians

and health care professionals alike should be more proactive in educating women in their 20’s about the complications associated with delayed family planning. Young women should be made aware of potential ways to preserve their fertility through options like egg freezing and lifestyle modifications.

While age isn’t the only factor affecting fertility, it does play a significant role.

Are infertility treatments safe?

Many couples are terrified by the thought of infertility treatments. Over the past twenty years the media has done an excellent job of highlighting rare situations such as octuplets. I don’t know about you, but the thought of eight children all at once is a little too fertile for me! Advancements in research and an increased emphasis on conservative numbers for embryo transfers have quelled many undesirable complications. That being said, infertility treatments such as IUI and IVF are still medical interventions with both risks and benefits. Talk with your doctor about what options may be best for you.

What resources are available to me?

For more information on infertility, visit these sources: The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/EvaluatingInfertility#should The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention – Reproductive Health www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/infertility/ Resolve, The National Infertility Association www.resolve.org/about/fast-facts-aboutfertility.html

Dr. Emma Hostetter is a Fishers family physician and public health specialist. Find her blog “The Mom in Me, MD” on the Hamilton County Family web site or visit her at www.themominmemd. com.

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ask the expert

PRESCHOOL TEACHERS I’m not sure my child is quite ready for preschool. Are there certain signs I should be looking for that would indicate whether or not we should wait?

How important is it to separate my twins in preschool? It would be so much easier with our schedule to keep them together right now.

Whether or not to separate twins in preschool should be a highly individual decision, based on the personalities, temperaments and emotional independence of the children. This is better than arbitrary separation driven by beliefs that say division will lessen behavioral issues in the classroom and enhance each of the children’s individuality. Interestingly, twin development research over the past 25 years, as well as the experiences of families with twins, do not support these beliefs. When twins are allowed to stay together in preschool, they seem to adjust much better, both academically and socially. It appears that, on entering preschool, twins are presented with two

major transitions they are not ready to handle simultaneously – the transition from parents and home, along with separation from their constant companion since birth. Twins often become anxious about each other’s welfare, which can interfere with socialization and learning. It can also interfere with something everyone thought would be promoted by their separation…the development of their individuality. Families should be leery of programs insisting on separation, regardless of the preferences of parents or the children. All twin interactions differ and what might be best for one set of twins might not be for another.

Experts remind us what is most important is “an atmosphere that respects the close nature of the multiple bond while encouraging individual abilities” (National Association of Mothers of Twins Club, Inc., Placement of multiple birth children in school: a guide for educators. 2000.)

Submitted by Debra Pierce, Professor of Early Childhood Education, Ivy Tech Community College

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We like to think that all children are ready for pre-school, especially our Montessori environment, sometime around the age of two and a half to three years. At no other time in your child’s life will he or she learn with such absorption within their environment. You probably already see signs of this exponential learning at home right now. It’s an amazing time to witness your child’s mental capabilities! Having your child attend a well-developed, childfocused, nurturing pre-school program is a magnificent way to aid in his/her development. You will always be your child’s greatest teacher, but your child may show signs of enjoying the camaraderie of being with other children more often or may show a need to have more mental stimulation than what he/she is doing at home.

Children should be well on their way with toilet training, express verbal skills and show some independence. As a parent, even if you’re feeling reluctant about sending your child to pre-school, we’re here to help both you and your child with this transition. If this is the first time they are attending school, we know it’s a huge step, but it’s their first step on a wonderful educational journey and we are honored to take it with you!

Submitted by Kris Spence, Head of School/ Directress, Indiana Montessori Academy

My son will start preschool in the fall. What can I do now to help prepare him for this big step?

Talk to him about what to expect when he gets to school – where he'll be going, what he'll be doing and who will be in class with him. Before school begins, visit the classroom together at least once, preferably when other children and his future teacher(s) are there.

If this is the first time your child will be away from you, he may worry that you're not coming back, or that you'll get lost and won't be able to find your way back to the school to pick him up at the end of the day. Invent a special parting ritual – such as a high-five, or some of our parents are actually “pushed” out the door. And though you might be tempted to sneak out without so much as a wave when you drop him off, don't do it. He will only be more distressed when he realizes you're gone. Instead, make a point of saying good-bye. Don't drag it out or let on that you might be upset, too. Just do it matter-of-factly and confidently and he'll learn to do the same.

All preschool children have to get along with other kids. If your child hasn't spent much time in a group with other children, then activities such as sharing, taking turns and playing cooperatively can be very difficult. Help your child get used to being part of a group by arranging playdates with one or two peers or enrolling him in a music or tumbling class.

Submitted by Teffanie Davis, Owner, Kiddie Academy of Fishers

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the counselor's corner

by: Stephanie Lowe-Sagebiel

Boys and body image "Can boys have body image issues too? It seems like this problem is only associated with girls, but I’m worried that my teenage son is overly concerned with developing 'six pack abs' and achieving the kind of muscular body idealized for men by the media. How should I start a conversation with him about this?"

Wouldn’t it be great if we could make it through our childhood, adolescent and even adult years without defining ourselves by how we look? Although much attention has been given to girls and body image, boys face similar challenges. The language may be different, but the standards are similar. Girls talk about being thin enough, while boys talk about their muscles being “ripped” or “cut.” A Barbie doll is disproportionately tall, skinny and curvy in all the “right” places, and GI Joe is impossibly muscular. These images are presented to children when they are very young and reinforced by peers and the media daily. Some experts even point to the padded costumes of super heroes with their fake muscles that appeal to little boys as another example of how this body type is reinforced as desirable. Indeed, in recent years even boys not involved in sports have been found to use steroids to achieve that hyper-masculine, muscular look.

When approaching your son about this topic, your goal is to create enough emotional safety for him to talk about how he feels about his body without fearing any judgment from you. A comment like, “I’m noticing that you haven’t eaten the lunch I packed for you all week” can open the door for a conversation between you and your son that doesn’t seem threatening to him. Also, since the image of super-muscular men are so often seen in commercials, magazine ads and movies, use these examples as jumping off points for a discussion with your son. Asking his

opinion on the subject can give you some insight about how he views his own body.

Keep an eye out for any red flags that would indicate that your son may be struggling with body image issues, such as:

1.

Changes in exercise routines.

Does he panic if he misses a workout? Is he obsessed with particular exercises that build muscle?

2.

Worrisome eating habits. Is he eating only one kind of food? Does he talk about dieting? Is he overly interested in reading food labels?

3.

Negative language. Does he criticize his own body or make fun of other body types?

4.

Interest in or evidence of steroids.

Does he talk about friends or team mates using steroids? Have you discovered any needles, vials or pill packs in his possession?

5.

Extreme emotional responses to talking about his body. Does he become very defensive or angry when you attempt to talk to him about your concerns?

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Finally, no one is immune to issue of body image. One of the challenges we face talking to our kids on this subject is how we often unintentionally model unhealthy behavior or language ourselves. Many children identify with their same sex parent and if mom is always on a diet and makes disparaging remarks about her own body or dad is obsessive about maintaining his “six pack” and makes jokes about people who are overweight, children will likely pick up on those cues and incorporate them too. As a parent, be aware of the messages you may be sending to your kids about what defines a healthy body type. Showing your child that you accept your own body, with its assets and its flaws, teaches them that they can love their body as it is too.

Stephanie Lowe-Sagebiel is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with Centerpoint Counseling and Baume Psychological Services and has nearly twenty years of experience helping adults, teens and children develop healthy skills to manage life’s challenges.

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HOOSI E R neighbor?

by: Emily Unger, mom of 2

The interesting people living right next door!

Will Lilly be able to participate in the kids’ race?

It’s not a very far run, so it just depends on what’s going on at the time.

Sometimes she has flare ups and those times are worse than others. At one point, she was on eight different medications. Right now she’s doing pretty good. Last year she was able to participate, which was a lot of fun. She was happy!

Above: Courtney Cooley and family

What inspired your idea to organize the 5K Family Fun Run? Any time you have a child at the

Courtney Cooley’s four year-old daughter Lilly can tell you a lot about Peyton Manning Children’s Hospital. Diagnosed with juvenile arthritis, severe asthma and celiac disease, she has spent considerable time there being cared for by various doctors and nurses. You might expect Courtney and her family to keep their distance from the hospital whenever possible, but they’ve done just the opposite. This marks the fourth year that Courtney and her family have organized a family-friendly 5k run to benefit the hospital that has done so much for Lilly.

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hospital, it can be really scary. They [the staff] have always been so kind, and it doesn’t matter what hour of the night it is. They’re always there for questions. It’s been pretty tough.

She sees five different specialists. We just wanted an event to give back to the hospital but also to give back to other children there and benefit them as well.

Are there opportunities for kids to race and help raise money?

For kids, it’s kind of a sprint. We do a race for 4 and under, and then we do ages 5 to 9. We give all the kids medals when they’re done and also free t-shirts.

Who has participated in the 5k?

We have many generous sponsors helping to support the event. Even our pediatrician [Dr. Susan Davis of Carmel Pediatrics] helps to sponsor the race.

Last year, our running number was 181. We have between 60 and 80 volunteers, which helps get the word out.

Run, walk or just come have fun and support the cause! The 5k Family Fun Run has raised over $15,000 in donations in the past three years, with 100 percent of the proceeds benefitting Peyton Manning Children’s Hospital.

When: Saturday, April 11, 2015 Where: Butler University (4600 Sunset Avenue, Indianapolis) Cost: $20 for individuals or $59 for a group of 4. (Run or walk - strollers and wagons welcome) Activities: 5k run, kids’ 50-yard dash, raffles (both for kids and adults), food, balloon artistry, music

Visit the 5K Family Fun Run on Facebook to register or donate online. For more information on volunteering or becoming a sponsor, email Courtney at familyfunrun@yahoo.com

reci-please by: Nicole Turner, Registered Dietician, mom of 2

Quick Hummus Dip Have those New Year’s resolutions to get healthy waned? No need to despair, spring brings with it a renewal for what can be. March is National Nutrition Month® and this year’s theme is “Bite Into a Healthy Lifestyle.” Most people know that eating healthy foods and exercising are important for maintaining good health, but many still fall short in one or both of these habits.

As adults, it is important to model better choices to support healthy habits in the children trying to emulate us.

Instead of being overwhelmed thinking about what to take out of your diet, consider what you can add to it. Keep fresh fruit and vegetables cut up and ready to serve in your refrigerator. Try raw sweet potato sticks as an alternative to carrot sticks. And for an extra kick, try this quick and easy dip for vegetables, pita crisps or pretzels:

.D IRECTIONS:

• Spread 1 1/2 cups hummus in a shallow pan or on a large plate • Top with: – 1/2 cup chopped spinach – 1/2 cup diced cucumbers – 1/2 cup diced tomatoes (Roma, cherry or grape work best) – 1/4 cup shredded carrots

ENJOY!

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a day in the life OF OB/GYN (AND MOM)

Dr. Susan Benson

6:15 am Pretty much every day our family all gets up early. After years of crazy sleep cycles, I am not capable of sleeping in! We get up and have breakfast (I'm a big believer in breakfasts) and head off to work and school.

7:00 am My work day begins between 7 and 8 am each day. If I'm at the hospital, I start earlier with seeing my patients who have had surgery the previous day or who have delivered a baby. If I'm in the office, I start seeing appointments by 8:30 but often need some lead time to get organized!

Dr. Susan Benson, board certified OB/GYN at St.Vincent Fishers Hospital

At any time of the day or night, a baby can decide it’s time for his big debut! Check out the schedule of this local doctor to see how welcoming babies into the world is just one part of her busy day!

7:00 am – 12:00 pm Depending on the schedule for the day, I can be doing a combination of several things: covering labor and delivery at the hospital, seeing patients in the office, operating on patients in surgery and seeing emergencies in the ER. In between all this, I return phone calls from patients and look over incoming test results. This can make for a really crazy, busy day, but that variety is just one thing I love about my job.

12:00 pm – 1:00 pm Many days my "lunch hour" consists of committee and drug rep meetings since this is the only time most doctors are free. If I don't have a meeting, I often use this time to catch up on paper/computer work from the morning. Unfortunately it seems like the documentation part of medicine is bigger than the doctoring part sometimes!

1:00 pm – 4:30 pm Replay of the morning! More patients, surgeries and/or babies. Sometimes this goes on into the evening hours. I always have a backup plan for any after school or evening activities since babies don't always respect my schedule!

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4:30 pm If I’m not still at work, I pick my son up from school. This is also the time when I try my best to get in a little exercise. This keeps me sane and healthy!

5:30 pm – 9:00 pm My other half is also a physician so it can definitely be a crazy balancing act, but we make it work. Evening home activities include helping my eight year old son with his homework and daily golf practice, maybe basketball practice, making dinner and a little family play time. I try to read to my son each night at bedtime and enjoy some one-on-one time with him. I make sure he knows he's at the top of my loaded priority list.

9:00 pm – 11:00 pm "My time."

This is when I get a little time to myself – if I can stay awake!

Watching TV (love college basketball!), internet surfing, reading and relaxing. I love having some down time, but admit sometimes I'm too tired to enjoy it!

11:00 pm and on If I'm on call for the night, any evening activities (including sleep) can be cancelled at a moment's notice and I can be right back at work to deliver a baby, do a c-section, emergency surgery or manage a sick patient.

There are times when the unpredictable aspects of my job test my reserve, and I run low on sleep frequently. It isn't easy and can make life hectic. I love my job however, and feel especially honored when women trust me to bring their children into the world. There's really nothing cooler or more satisfying, even when it happens at 2:00 am!

Nine years into it, I wouldn't change a thing.

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Spring Break in Fort Wayne, Indiana!

This Spring Break, trade in the sunburn for a trip that’s closer to home, and easier on your wallet! Fort Wayne offers outstanding attractions and special events your family will remember forever.

Fort Wayne’s entertainment calendar is filled with special performances and events worth planning a trip around! Younger children will love Disney on Ice, the Wild Kratts, and live butterflies at the Botanical Conservatory. And older families will enjoy Eric Church, Monster X, Alton Brown, Jersey Boys and more!

Not convinced? Then how about a trip to the annual Vera Bradley Outlet Sale, April 8-12 or a glimpse of summer at the opening of our award-winning Children’s Zoo on April 25?

And sports fans are in luck, too! While you’re in Fort Wayne, be sure to catch Fort Wayne’s sports teams in action. Enjoy Komet Hockey, MadAnts basketball, and the Fort Wayne Tin-

Caps baseball team, who kick off their summer season April 12. Did you know that they were recently ranked the #1 Minor League Stadium in the United States?

Fort Wayne also offers dozens of great museums and entertainment options, from Science Central, where you can test your imagination (and the rules of gravity!) in a hands-on laboratory – to the Botanical Conservatory, where families can wander through a sea of lush gardens and tranquil waterfalls.

Information Specialists at 1-800-767-7752 – they’ll be glad to help you plan a getaway to remember!

And, make sure to check out their hotel packages and online Calendar of Events to choose a time that features a special event that will make your visit magical.

Combine one of these special events with a stay at an affordable, comfortable hotel, and dinner at one of Fort Wayne’s hundreds of amazing restaurants, and you’ll be well on your way to planning a great getaway that they’ll never forget.

For more information, visit www.VisitFortWayne.com, or call one of their Visitor

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mommy magic

by: Mary Susan Buhner, mom of 3

What Does Your Family Stand For? Could your children list the values most important to you?

Years ago, I read a book by Dr. Phil about family values. The topic intrigued me and somehow I carved out the time to read it. The book suggested that children should know what their family stands for at all times. In our family, although we were raising our kids with a value system based in faith, we had never truly communicated what that meant specifically. It got me thinking that we needed to provide easy guidelines for what our family stood for. Since our kids were all under ten at the time, we decided to keep our ideas simple and display them on a poster board that hung on the side of our refrigerator.

Here’s what we came up with for our family. First, we told our kids that we knew God made them all to be different from one another – to look different and to have different skills, talents and goals.

We wanted and expected each of them to develop into their own self with support and unconditional love from us. Since we have three girls it was (and still is) a very deliberate decision not to compare them with one another. We made sure they knew that a “plus” for one of them was never a “minus” for another. We decided that our specific family values would be to 1) keep God in your heart, 2) be honest and show respect and 3) work hard.

Our girls memorized these values and understood that this was what our family stood for. As they got older, we assumed that we would have to flesh these concepts out more, but we actually discovered that they were pretty straightforward and didn’t require the extra explanation we thought they might. Even with this family philosophy in place however, I decided that I could still use a “mom mentor” to discuss parenting issues as my children grew.

I chose a dear and trusted friend who was ahead of me in motherhood a solid decade. She had three amazing kids who were all respectful young adults.

They were an extremely close family and I knew that I wanted my family to be like hers when my children were grown. I took her to lunch and asked if I could consult with her from time to time on parenting. I told her about the three values we had as a family and asked for her input. Was I on track? She looked at me and said, “Yes, they are all on track, but you are missing the most important one.” What had I missed?

“Kindness,” she said. “Teach your children kindness.”

That night, I went home and added a fourth value, kindness, to our list. My kids named it the “3 plus 1” list of family values.

My kids have grown, as kids tend to do, and the poster board is no longer on the side of our frig. We’ve found that our “3 plus 1” approach has helped to navigate us through quite a bit over the last ten years.

The take-away? We all have values that are intertwined within our family, but we often don’t articulate them. Taking the time to discuss what is most important to your family – what you really want your kids to identify with – is well worth the effort.

Mary Susan Buhner is a Life Coach for Moms and author of “Mommy Magic: Tricks for Staying Sane in the Midst of Insanity.” Visit her Mommy Magic Fan Page on Facebook and her website at: www.Mommy-Magic.com.

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to do with your crew march & april calendar of events

M A RC H sun 01 Inside Hollywood Film & TV! You're on the Set Occurring Daily (except Mon & Thur) Through July Price: Regular admission pricing Phone: (317) 334-4000 Location: The Children's Museum of Indianapolis www.childrensmuseum.org Go behind the scenes of some of the most popular films and TV shows of all time! Play a part in comedies, dramas, and sci-fi/adventure films and TV shows like Annie, Happy Days, Hook, Ghostbusters, Men In Black, Spider-Man and more! Authentic costumes and props, opportunities for role-play, and hands-on experiences illustrate how the famous films and shows are made and invite families to become part of the cast and crew!

thurs 05 Open Studio at The Sugar Creek Art Center Occurring Each Thursday Through April Time: 11 a.m.-5 p.m.

Price: Free - no registration required Phone: (765) 436-7102 Location: Sugar Creek Art Center www.sugarcreekarts.org This relaxed open studio time is free! All levels of art are welcome, from beginners to advanced artists. Bring whatever you'd like to work on - drawing, painting, knitting, photography, etc and share ideas.

Watercolor supplies may be rented for $3.00. Bring friends and have fun being creative!

sat 07

fri 13

3rd Annual Night to Put the Pieces Together Fundraiser

The Wizard Of Oz

Time: 6:30-10 p.m.

Price: $100.00 Phone: (317) 848-4774 Location: The Mansion at Oak Hill https://vbca.ticketbud.com/3rd-annual-a-night-to-put-the-pieces-together

Time: 7:30 p.m.

Price: $10 (general admission seating) Phone: (317) 843-3800 Location: The Palladium at the Center for the Performing Arts www.thecenterfortheperformingarts. org/tickets/production.aspx?PID=3821

The Verbal Behavior Center for Autism invites you to a fabulous evening of music, dinner and dancing! A 50/50 raffle, special "bling raffle" and silent auction will ensure guests don't leave empty handed. VBCA is a non-profit organization that provides one-on-one ABA therapy to children with autism. All proceeds raised from this event will directly benefit the children and families of our center.

The Great American Songbook Film Series presents The Wizard of Oz starring Judy Garland, Frank Morgan and Ray Bolger. The timeless story of Dorothy Gale's quest to see the Wizard will delight all ages. Heartland Film is proud to bring this Truly Moving Picture Award-winning film to big screen on the stage of the Palladium at The Center for the Performing Arts.

What's in your WILD Backyard?

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Occurring Each Saturday Through March 21st Time: 10-11:30 a.m.

Price: $45 per family Phone: (317) 848-7275 Location: Monon Community Center http://carmelclayparks.com/mcc/ Parents and kids will enjoy learning how to bring birds, butterflies and other wildlife into their backyard and will create a backyard design plan at the last class session! Activities include a scavenger hunt, birdhouse building and more! Participants will receive an Indiana Wildlife Federation membership.

Cereal Cinema: Breakin' 2: Electric Boogaloo Price: $5.00 Phone: (317) 923-1331 Location: Indianapolis Museum of Art, www.imamuseum.org Cereal Cinema is a unique family experience! Created by the Indy Film Fest, The Athenaeum and the Indianapolis Museum of Art the event features the two things every family needs on a Saturday morning—a classic movie that the whole family can enjoy and a cereal bar!

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Jim Henson's Dinosaur Train LIVE! Buddy's Big Adventure Phone: (317) 843-3800 Location: The Tarkington www.thecenterfortheperformingarts. org/tickets/production.aspx?PID=3821 Come join Buddy, Tiny, King, Don and more in this fun-filled, interactive and immersive live trip back in time to an age when dinosaurs roamed the earth‌ and rode trains! Kids will be up and dancing in the aisles.

thurs 19 Blossoms and Buds Time: 10:00 a.m. - 11:00 a.m.

Price: $6 - resident $9 - nonresident Phone: (317) 595-3150 Location: Billericay Park www.fishers.in.us/index.aspx?NID=157 Spring is right around the corner! Sign your little one up to discover the joys of the upcoming holidays and the season!

Kids will enjoy learning about flowers, plants and all things spring!

thurs 26 Opening Day at Conner Prairie Time: 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM Price: $7 - youth, $16 - adults Phone: (317) 776-6000 Location: Conner Prairie Interactive History Park www.connerprairie.org Come enjoy Conner Prairie's opening day.

All outdoor experiences will be open.

Families will delight in interactive experiences intertwined with history, science, art and nature. Bring the whole family our for fresh air and the chance to see all of the new exhibits and upcoming events this season.

sat 28 Circus Day at the Indiana History Center Time: 10 a.m.-5 p.m.

Price: Free admission Phone: (317) 232-1882 Location: Eugene and Marilyn Glick Indiana History Center www.indianahistory.org Come clown around at The Indiana History Center on Circus Day! Guests will enjoy the Hampel Family Circus, whose acts include the Old Time Curiosity Show and Professor Presto Magic Show. The day will also include live animal shows from Amazing World of Animals, clowns, magicians and jugglers. Guests can purchase tickets to enjoy face painting, balloon sculptures, crafts and more!

sun 29 Family Fun with the Carmel Symphony Orchestra Price: $5 - $30 Phone: (317) 843-3800 Location: The Palladium at the Center for the Performing Arts www.thecenterfortheperformingarts. org/tickets/production.aspx?PID=3184 2014 Young Artist Competition winner, conductor David Bowden, will take families on a magical journey as they are invited to sit among the orchestra and hear excerpts of the world’s great classics.

Following this interactive concert, children can participate in an "instrument petting zoo", a hands on learning environment where they can touch and try a variety of instruments!

APRIL

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sat 04

Time: 11:30 a.m.-1 p.m.

Price: $12 - $18 Phone: (317) 595-3150 Location: FIshers Parks and Recreation https://register.parksreconline.com

Ice Cream Social

Clay Terrace Easter Egg Hunt Time: TBA Price: Free - Registration is required Phone: (317) 818-0725 Location: Clay Terrace Shopping Center www.simon.com/mall/clay-terrace It’s time for the annual, action-packed Easter egg hunt! The event has three different age groups. There will be prizes, games and The Easter Bunny might even make an appearance!

Children ages 3 through 7 are encouraged to join us for ice cream cone relay races, songs, stories, a craft, and of course an ice cream sundae bar! We will also make our own ice cream to try. Parents, this is a drop-off class so you can enjoy some quiet time to yourself.

sat 25

fri 10

PB&J presents The Fourth Wall

Adaptive Beach Bash Time: 6:00 p.m. - 8:00 p.m.

Price: Free - Registration is required.

Participants in the Adaptive Programs do not have to be members.

Phone: (317) 848-7275 Location: Monon Community Center www.carmelclayparks.com Celebrate summer a little bit early! Come visit the beach and enjoy games, music, treats and, more! This event is designed to include all individuals with special needs and is a great way to connect with the adaptive community in Hamilton County!

thurs16

Time: 10:30 a.m.

Price: $10 per child (two adults are free with purchase of each child ticket) Phone: 317-843-3800 Location: The Palladium at the Center for the Performing Arts www.thecenterfortheperformingarts. org/tickets/production.aspx?PID=3690 The Peanut Butter & Jam Saturday morning music series explores a variety of engaging musical genres. The entire matinee experience is under 1 hour and is especially geared for youth ages 1-7. The amazing dancers, singers and actors of The Fourth Wall will stretch the boundaries in this unique instrumental performance!

mon 27

Rock The Cradle!

Time: 6:30-8 p.m.

Price: Free Phone: (317) 843-9529 Location: The Ritz Charles www.indyfamilyfest.com

Kids Koncert featuring "Jump and Hop"

Don't miss this celebration for expecting, new and veteran parents and grandparents, too! This FREE event will provide families with information on nutrition, fitness, breastfeeding, child development and the newest parenting products. Families will enjpoy a variety of activities and giveaways. The first 50 expectant moms to arrive will receive a Swaddle Swag Bag of prizes and treats.

Price: Free Phone: (317) 573-5243 Location: Monon Community Center http://carmelclayparks.com/mcc/ Join other parents and kids for a Winter Kids Koncert. The hour-long show is an enriching and engaging experience.

Parents enjoy the freedom to come and go with their kids, and the kids will love to dance and sing-along with the entertaining "Jump and Hop" performers! This live music show is perfect for children ages 2-5.

*PLEASE NOTE: At Hamilton County Family, we work hard to ensure our calendar information is accurate. Occasionally, event specifics change after we go to press. Therefore, we encourage our readers to call locations or visit them on the web to verify information.

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the last laugh Tweens and teens can be so easily embarrassed by their parents – what would your child say is the most mortifying thing you’ve done?

My existence mortifies her! Last time I was at her school she said "Mom, shhhhh you're embarrassing me!" I wasn't talking.

– Katie R. Was watching my 5th grade daughter get off the bus when suddenly a truck full of suspicious looking men started to approach her. Without a moment of hesitation I bolted out of the house and ran towards her....without pants. I don't think she will ever forgive me for that one. – Jennifer C. I'm sure the list is longer than I'm aware of - but the most humorous thing that he found embarrassing was when I pulled out my mini tape measure at Back to School Night to measure the inside of his locker (so we could find a shelf that fit).

He was mortified. "Why do you even own that, Mom??? Oh my gosh. Put that away.” Better yet was when several other parents asked to borrow it for the same thing. – Cheryl W.

*Cartoon by local Fishers artist Patrick Hankley of Drawpartner Graphics – www.drawpartner.com

Subbed at her high school cafeteria. – Desiree M. When I chaperoned a school dance and I went in the middle to dance and the kids formed a circle around me! – Mandi L.

Singing in the mall while walking behind my daughters. – Rick C.

My son’s orientation for high school, made him take a pic with me everywhere in the school. He is still embarrassed to this day. – Jiselle P.

My son got in trouble at school... I was working 3rd shift...

I went into the school in my pajamas, which included my robe... I hadn't even brushed my hair!!! They got the full me, when I wake up!! I'm sure they felt as sorry for him as he was mortified when I walked him to his locker to get his things to leave! – Brandi M.

I can say what my mom has done. She keeps calling my sister's current boyfriend with the name of her EX boyfriend!

Every time this happens everybody gets so embarrassed that the conversation often completely ends. – Lucia B. Dancing down the aisles and rockin’ out to the 80's music playing at Shoe Carnival while shopping for snow boots.

– Tina Y. Yelling for my 14 year old to come out of the dressing room so I could see if what he was trying on fits. – Krista M.

My kiddos are too young to be embarrassed by their mom yet...but don't worry, I have big plans... – Brandy L.

Thanks to our readers for all the great replies – we hope their kids enjoy seeing these responses in print!

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