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//spring 2016 AGE S & STAGE S 08 babies out and about with baby

toddlers & preschoolers detecting early signs of autism

school agers kids and test anxiety

teens & tweens helping a teen who helps too much

FAMILY 16 moms doula or midwife? 18 dads set up camp this spring! 19 pets is your family ready for a pet?

COLUMNS + GUIDE S

local spotlight the women who made WonderLab

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hidden gems the best finds only the locals know! family friendly 5ks hit the pavement with these local races

IN E VE R Y ISSUE 05 greetings 07 snippets 23 before we go...

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M E E T T H E S TA F F

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PUBLISHER Mary Wynne Cox | Mary@bloomingtonparentmagazine.com

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snippets

meet makenlei

// age 5

Makenlei is more than just your average five-year-old. Instead of baby dolls, glitter and princesses, this tomboy loves to be outdoors. If she isn’t playing sports, she is spending time with her family at Dale Hollow Lake. Makenlei never leaves home without her best pal Monkey Joe. She loves to play her own version of doctor which is called “check-up beauty shop”and aspires to one day be a doctor or a dentist.

photo by: Lynette Weber Photography

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snippets

BITS OF INFO YOU MIGHT NOT KNOW! LIVE LONG & PROSPER!

FUN FACT HOW MANY STEPS DOES THE AVERAGE RUNNER TAKE IN A 5K RACE?

Attention Trekkies! Where does Captain Kathryn Janeway from Star Trek: Voyager call home? Bloomington, Indiana of course! Our city is cited as her hometown in the series.

• 2,800 steps • 4,300 steps • 6, 200 steps

Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bloomington,_Indiana

If you guessed the last answer, you’re correct – that’s 3,100 steps per foot! Speaking of 5Ks, hoof it on over to page 22 for a list of family-friendly races in our area. Source: www.answers.com/Q/How_many_steps_in_5k_race

DO YOU KNOW WHAT A “FLUFFLE” IS? It’s what you call a group of bunnies! And here’s a couple more fun facts about spring babies: When a mother hen talks to her eggs, the chicks inside will sometimes peep back! Everyone knows a baby sheep is called a lamb, but did you know that a herd of sheep is sometimes referred to as a mob? “Ewe” better believe it!

5 TO 10 YEARS That’s how long the average pet goldfish lives really! According to petgoldfish.net, the oldest goldfish on record was won at a fair in England by a seven-year-old boy in 1956. This fish was named Tish, and “having achieved fame late in life, died at the age of 43 peacefully in his bowl.” WONDERING IF YOU’RE UP FOR THIS KIND OF PET COMMITMENT? Take our quiz on page 19 to find out if you’re ready to bring home a new family member (of the furry kind, that is.) Source: www.petgoldfish.net/interesting-goldfish-facts.html

PIZZAPALOOZA When it comes to pizza, there is no shortage of pies in Bloomington. With 52 places to grab a slice, Bloomington ranks #4 in the top cities of Indiana with the most pizza shops (Who beat us out? Indianapolis, Fort Wayne and Evansville.)

10,750 ACRES Of water that is! Which is what Lake Monroe holds – the largest man made body of water in Indiana.

Source: www.pizzashops.info/Indiana/Bloomington/

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ages & stagges // babies

out & about with

BABY HAVING SOME FUN WITH YOUR LIT TLE ONE words by // Louise Schlesinger

ondering what local activities you and your baby can enjoy together? Or how you can connect with other local moms? Bloomington has a multitude of destinations designed with baby in mind. Keep this list handy and take advantage of all our city has to offer its youngest residents. MONROE COUNTY PUBLIC LIBRARY Visit the Learn and Play Space for young children. Opening this spring is a cozy new Baby Space with toys and books for infants who are not yet walking, plus a dedicated area for nursing. Meet other families and participate in activities at drop-in Baby and Me programs, which promote early literacy development, with evening and morning class options. www.mcpl.info BANNEKER COMMUNITY CENTER Meet other parents and babies at Toy Time on weekday mornings, or enjoy free play anytime in this special carpeted space on the third floor. www.bloomington.in.gov/Banneker HOOSIER MAMAS Join this network of Bloomington mothers who regularly meet for play dates and more. This group also offers a monthly “moms only” book club, “Craft N’ Chat” meet ups and social opportunities for dinners or movies out. www.meetup.com/hoosier-mamas/ TWIN LAKES RECREATION CENTER

A B OV E : m o n ro e c o u n t y l i b ra r y p h o to by / / Au b rey D u n nu c k RIGHT:green nursery play area photo by // The Green Nurser y N E X T PAG E : v i b e y o g a p h o t o b y / / C o l i n C l a r k , b a b y s w i m c l a s s p h o t o b y / / M o n r o e C o u n t y Y M CA , b a b y w i t h s o c c e r b a l l p h o t o b y / / M o n r o e C o u n t y P a r k s

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Take a Signing Babies class and learn ASL (American Sign Language) together to facilitate your little one’s early speech and memory development. www.bloomington.in.gov/twin-lakes-recreation-center

IU DEPT. OF PSYCHOLOGICAL & BRAIN SCIENCES CHILD DEVELOPMENT LABS Participate in research to further our understanding of how babies develop. Most studies involve a one-time visit to the lab, where a research assistant will observe your baby engaging in game-like activities. Scheduling is flexible, and campus parking is free. With each visit, your baby gets a small gift. Fill out one form, and you’ll be contacted about opportunities in each of the four labs. psych.indiana.edu/childscientists.php THE GREEN NURSERY Located in Fountain Square Mall, this natural baby products store has a baby/ toddler play area and offers clothdiapering workshops. It also provides push toys for beginning walkers to use in the mall hallway. www.thegreennursery.com/local.html

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VIBE YOGA Check out the Mom & Baby yoga class! Despite the class name, dads and other adult caregivers are welcome, and no prior yoga experience is required. During your yoga practice, you can hold your baby, or your baby may sleep on a nearby blanket. Classes incorporate babies’ needs. www.vibeyogastudio.com SWEETROOT DOULAS Meet up with other parents at the New Mom Group or the Walking Group. Wear your baby at the Mom & Babe Fitness class. You can even bring your newborn to your own massage, plus learn baby massage techniques! Family education classes cover nurturing your infant, incorporating Montessori concepts in the home environment and more. www.sweetrootdoulas.com MONROE COUNTY YMCA Slip into either facility’s pool for parentchild swim lessons with your older baby, and enjoy their toddler play features, too. Both facilities also have indoor and outdoor tracks, plus trails, suitable for strollers. www.monroecountyymca.org WONDERLAB Stimulate your older baby in the science museum’s Discovery Garden, which has tactile activities, picture books and live animals. Be sure to find the bubbles in the museum too! www.wonderlab.org

OUTDOOR PARKS, TRAILS & POOLS Many of our terrific city and county parks have baby-friendly swings and other playground equipment. Local parks also offer a variety of relatively level paved and unpaved trails for walking through fields and woods, along streams and around ponds. There are many pedestrian trails, too, the best known being the B-Line Trail, Clear Creek Trail and Karst Farm Park Greenway. When the Bryan Park and Mills Pools open, check out the baby friendly splash pads. www.bloomington.in.gov www.mcparksandrec.org

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autism

DETECTING EARLY SIGNS OF

IDENTIFYING POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN w o r d s b y // Cynthia Bowman

ccording to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), one in every 68

children is diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). A government survey in 2015 puts the rate even higher at 1 in 45 children. Early intervention is key to helping kids with ASD achieve their maximum potential, but unfortunately many children who may be at risk are not evaluated before the age of three. What are the early indicators of autism that parents should be aware of?

Autism is a spectrum disorder, meaning it includes a wide range of behaviors. While children with autism can vary significantly on the spectrum, some common red flags of a problem do exist. Cathy Pratt, Director of the Indiana Resource Center for Autism in Bloomington, gives these signs that would cause concern in a young child:

Although early detection is preferable, it is not always possible. Pratt says that parents and healthcare practitioners are getting better at seeing the warning signs sooner – in some children. “There are children who may manifest the characteristics from the very beginning while others will manifest the characteristics later,” she says. “It does not mean that they did not have the predisposition for ASD, it’s just that the signs were not significant or apparent enough.”

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NOT SMILING AND BABBLING AT OTHERS

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NOT WANTING TO BE PICKED UP OR CUDDLED

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NOT TURNING HIS OR HER HEAD WHEN BEING CALLED

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PREFERRING MINIMAL TO NO EYE CONTACT

WHAT SHOULD A PARENT DO IF THEY SUSPECT THEIR CHILD IS SHOWING SIGNS OF AUTISM?

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LOSING SKILLS HE OR SHE ONCE HAD

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NOT ENJOYING SOCIAL GAMES OR PEEK-A-BOO

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NOT POINTING TO SHOW INTEREST OR USING GESTURES LIKE WAVING “BYE BYE” BY 12 MONTHS

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NOT LOOKING AT OBJECTS SOMEONE MAY POINT AT BY 18 MONTHS

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NOT IMITATING MOVEMENTS AND FACIAL EXPRESSIONS BY 12 MONTHS

It’s important to act early if you think your son or daughter may have ASD. Don’t take a wait and see approach. Heather F. of Bloomington noticed something was different about her daughter when she was just four months old. “I have worked in healthcare for most of my adult life, so I had some basic knowledge of autism,” she says. “One of the most obvious signs that something wasn't ‘right’ and that it could be autism was “Always believe in your child her lack of ability and seemingly desire, to and their capabilities to help communicate anything to us, even her most basic them achieve their potential.” needs. She would not show any signs of being hungry, thirsty, [having] dirty diapers or any needs that needed to be met.” After researching various treatment options, Heather found a combination of programs that her daughter has responded well to.

Pratt suggests parents read more about how to detect autism and find appropriate assistance in their “Roadmap to Services” brochure on their site at www.iidc.indiana.edu/pages/Act-Early-Roadmap-to-Services

IS AUTISM ALWAYS NOTICEABLE IN VERY YOUNG CHILDREN?

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Early intervention can have an important impact on your child’s development. Ask your pediatrician to do an autism screening. Be knowledgeable of how your child is progressing on his or her developmental milestones and bring video footage of any behaviors you may be concerned about. Based on that exam, further assessment can be scheduled if necessary with autism professionals. Heather’s advice to parents of children with ASD is to learn as much as possible about all treatment options and trust that you know your child best. No two children with ASD are exactly alike, so finding a program that works for your individual son or daughter will take some research. One of Heather’s favorite sayings is “If you know one child with autism, then you know one child with autism.” If you suspect your child may have any issues with their development, don’t hesitate to pursue that gut feeling. And most importantly, as Heather says, “Always believe in your child and their capabilities to help them achieve their potential.” The Indiana Resource Center for Autism highly recommends that while you are waiting for an assessment or diagnosis, begin looking into other services. For children under age three, contact First Steps by calling (800) 545-7763 or visit www.infirststeps.com. For children older than three, contact your local school district who can talk with you about appropriate preschool options and help you access the services and professionals that can assist your family.

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kids & test anxiety HELPING ST UDENTS GET OVER THEIR JIT TERS words by // Melissa Glidden

t’s the morning of your 10-year-old daughter’s big spelling test, and she’s hardly touched her breakfast. She’s complaining of a stomachache and you know her next question will be if she can stay home today. While that stomachache could be the result of having had one too many scoops of ice cream for dessert last night, it might also be a sign that she is struggling with test anxiety. According to the American Test Anxiety Association (ATAA), high levels of test anxiety – defined as severe emotional distress prior to taking an exam affects about 20% of students. Recognizing test anxiety in younger children can be a challenge, but by tuning in to their emotional cues and employing some preventative tactics, it’s possible to nip test anxiety in the bud before it begins affecting a child’s performance in school, self-esteem and academic future. Jennifer Staab, a school counselor at Batchelor Middle School, explains that oftentimes children in the upper-elementary grades experience test anxiety somatically: that is, they begin complaining of stomachaches or headaches prior to taking exams. “It looks different from student to student,” says Staab, “but generally we see avoidance behaviors like hiding in the restroom, or physical manifestations, such as stomachaches, headaches, shortness of breath or rapid pulse.” Dr. Cheryl Lewandowski, a school psychologist with Monroe County Community School Corporation, also adds that children “may shut down or cry during a test if they feel overwhelmed.” Lewandowski says that although rare, some young students even experience panic attacks prior to exams. Fortunately, there are several things parents and caregivers can do to support their test-anxious child, both on the day of exam and in the long term. CHECK YOURSELF, AND MODEL CONFIDENCE.

for children with test anxiety, as well as encouraging them to repeat positive affirmations such as, “I will do well on this test,” and “I am successful.”

Are you unintentionally projecting your own anxiety on your child? Parents can often feel a great deal of pressure themselves to have their student do well academically. Be aware of any negative messages you may be sending your son or daughter about their performance. Also, show your son or daughter how you manage stress in your own life. For example, let him or her watch you practice the night before a big presentation at work, and share how you plan to cope with any pre-presentation jitters.

PREPARE FOR THE TEST, GET TO BED EARLY AND EAT A HEALTHY BREAKFAST. “The most basic thing parents can do is make sure their student gets a good night’s sleep and a solid breakfast,” says Staab.” The night before an exam, limit the use of electronic devices before bed, as they can have a negative impact on sleep quality. Even if your child has prepared well for a test, being groggy or hungry will only negatively impact their performance.

DON’T MINIMIZE YOUR CHILD’S FEELINGS. Although you may be able to put the outcome of a fourth grade spelling test in perspective, in your child’s world, this is a big deal. Let him or her know that their worries are important to you. Simply responding with a phrase like, “This situation sounds really difficult for you,” can go a long way in making a child feel supported.

Staab, so talk with the teacher if you feel this may be appropriate. Teachers can also be enlisted to remind a child to practice relaxation techniques before and during an exam.

COMMUNICATE YOUR CONCERNS WITH TEACHERS AND COUNSELORS.

PRACTICE RELAXATION SKILLS AND USE POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS.

Occasionally accommodations can be made to support a child with a history of generalized anxiety, such as being given extra time on a test says

Lewandowski says that practicing deep breathing and progressive muscle relaxation can be helpful

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Finally, make sure your child understands that you value them for more than their good grades and accomplishments. Celebrate these achievements, but also ensure that you – and your child – recognize the unique qualities and characteristics that make them special.

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HELPING A TEEN WHO

helps too much w o r d s b y / / J e n n i f e r S p e n c e r, P h D

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a g e s & s t a g e s / / t we e n s & t e e n s

y h i g h s c h o o l d a u g h te r h a s a ve r y sw e e t , e m p a t h e t i c n a t u re . W h i l e t h i s i s a g re a t q u a l i t y, s h e s e e m s to b e a m a g n e t fo r k i d s w h o w a n t to s h a re t h e i r p ro b l e m s w i t h h e r. S o m e t i m e s s h e h e a r s s o m e p re t t y h e a v y m a te r i a l – a b o u t i s s u e s t h e s e k i d s h a ve a t h o m e , d r u g u s e , s e x u a l re l a t i o n s h i p s , e t c . S h e wa n t s to h e l p t h e s e f r i e n d s , b u t I ’ m c o n c e r n e d a b o u t h e r c a r r y i n g to o m u c h o f t h e i r b u rd e n – a n d g e t t i n g i n ove r h e r h e a d . H ow c a n I s u p p o r t h e r n a t u ra l c o m p a s s i o n fo r p e o p l e i n a w a y t h a t d o e s n ’t ove r w h e l m h e r ? BOUNDARIES The best thing you can do for your daughter is teach her how to have good boundaries. Adolescence is an age where boundaries are constantly tested and explored. This is necessary for developing independence. However, adolescents can easily get in over the heads in an effort to be helpful to a friend. Teach your daughter to pay attention to how her friends’ disclosures make her feel. If she feels overwhelmed, confused or anxious, that is a good way to gauge that a boundary has been crossed. Kids (and adults) can also feel irritated with the friend or emotionally drained by the discussions in these situations as well. This is another indicator that what the friend needs is more than the listener can comfortably absorb. Have her understand that it is ok to simply tell the friend that the conversation is more than she can manage. Adolescents need to know that it is okay to protect themselves emotionally in overwhelming situations. VALIDATION Another option if the boundary has not been crossed, but the friend is distressed, is to learn some validation skills. When a friend discloses distress, adolescents often have no clue what to do next, and often feel obligated to continue to try to help anyway. A child with an empathic nature might feel troubled to offer nothing. Or worse, the child might feel that she has been unkind to her friend if she does not offer help. Teach your daughter that she can set a boundary and still validate her friends’ feelings, without trying to offer advice on how to fix the issue. The advice is

often where kids go wrong in these situations – not by offering bad advice, but by feeling responsible to somehow resolve the problem. Your daughter can be a support to her friends by simply commenting and rephrasing the feelings that the friend has expressed. (For example, if the friend is distraught over a parental divorce, your daughter could tell the friend that she is sorry the friend is sad). This allows the friend to feel some comfort, but does not put your daughter in a position where she feels responsible to do something more. This can be a slippery slope though, as even offering validating comments can put your daughter in a situation where she feels overwhelmed by her friends’ distress. Validation must be constantly balanced with maintaining a good boundary. As soon as your daughter starts to feel uncomfortable or distressed herself, that is the line for the boundary, and she needs to enforce it. Keeping open communication with a parent can help the adolescent reinforce boundaries with the friend.

Domestic violence is sometimes seen among adolescents, who are especially ill-equipped to understand it. If a friend is being controlled by a partner, this is another instance to report. Power and control issues are problems by themselves, but also a precursor to aggression and violence in the relationship. A common issue among adolescents (more often seen in girls), is selfmutilation or “cutting.” This symptom is typically not suicidal behavior, but is indicative of emotional dysregulation. The cutting and deep distress of the adolescents who do this will be beyond what your daughter should manage. Talking about suicide and substance abuse are also immediate “black and white” issues that need an adult’s attention. Treatment is effective, but only if the adults know what is happening. Teach your daughter not to keep these issues in confidence if her friends are disclosing this level of trouble.

GETTING AN ADULT INVOLVED Adolescent distress comes in many forms, with a lot of grey area. However, there are some issues that simply do not belong in the hands of the children. Give your daughter some black and white rules for when she must involve an adult. Any friend who is discussing abuse or neglect should be reported to an adult who can help. The school guidance counselor is an ideal person to approach for assistance.

Dr. Spencer is a psychologist with twenty five years in practice. She is the owner of Spencer Psychology, a group practice in Bloomington that sees adults, adolescents and children. The practice focuses on research validated treatments including cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and a neurological reprocessing technique (EMDR) for clients who have experienced trauma. More information is available at www.spencerpsychology.com

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family // moms

doula or

MIDWIFE?

FINDING THE RIGHT FIT FOR YOU wo rd s by / / A n d re a L i m ke

o n g ra t u l a t i o n s – yo u ’re p re g n a n t ! S o m a ny f u n a n d e x c i t i n g t h i n g s l i e a h e a d – d e c o ra t i n g a n u r s e r y, t h i n k i n g o f n a m e s , s h o p p i n g fo r t i ny baby clothes – but what about the actual act of childbirth? Does thinking of this part of becoming a p a re n t t u r n yo u r e x c i te m e n t to a n x i e t y o r fe a r ? Especially if this is your first pregnancy, you may have more questions than answers about the process of giving birth. To help navigate this unknown territory, many families choose to utilize the services of a doula and/or midwife. These professionals can offer varying types of support to make childbirth a more comfortable and enjoyable experience. Doulas and midwives play different roles during a woman’s pregnancy and delivery, so it’s important to understand what each offers. First, you can decide to work with a doula, a midwife or both. According to the American Pregnancy Association, “A doula is a professional trained in childbirth who provides emotional, physical and educational support. The doula’s purpose is to help women have a safe, memorable and empowering birthing experience.” This interaction may vary from family to family, but it can include instruction on diapering and feeding options, teaching a partner the proper techniques to assist during labor or simply talking over a birthing experience and easing anxiety. Linnea Mugford, a certified doula in Bloomington, gives several reasons why a family may choose to use a doula. “They may live far away from extended family, and want an extra pair of hands in the first few weeks after baby is born. They may be adoptive parents who have very little time to get set up to receive a new baby. They may anticipate needing a lot of support during labor. They may simply want someone who can help them filter through the overwhelming amount of information available to new and expectant parents.” A doula can be the extra support you are looking for during the months leading up to the birth of your infant. If you are interested in receiving more specific medical care, a midwife may be the right fit for your family. The American Pregnancy Association

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family // moms

defines a midwife as, “A health care professional who provides an array of health care services for women including gynecological examinations, contraceptive counseling, prescriptions, and labor and delivery care.” Michelle Sanders, a local certified professional midwife, also adds that midwives provide care for low-risk mothers during pregnancy, birth and six weeks post-partum. They may also give routine care for the newborn, although in Indiana, they must refer the baby to a pediatrician or family care doctor within two weeks of birth. According to Sanders, many families choose to use a midwife because, “Birthing at home statistically reduces the rates of interventions such as cesarean section and episiotomy.” The option to deliver your baby at home can also provide more comfort and less stress for the mother while allowing other family members, such as young siblings, to be involved. When choosing a doula or midwife, interview each professional carefully to determine if they will meet the needs and expectations you have for your birthing experience, and that you connect on a personal level. Here are a few questions to ask: •

WHAT IS YOUR EXPERIENCE AND TRAINING?

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ARE YOU CERTIFIED?

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WHAT SPECIFIC SERVICES DO YOU OFFER?

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DO YOU WORK WITH A TEAM?

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ARE YOU AVAILABLE AT THE TIME OF OUR BABY’S BIRTH?

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WHAT IS YOUR BIRTHING PHILOSOPHY?

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WHAT ARE YOUR FEES AND WHAT SERVICES DOES THIS INCLUDE?

Since doulas and midwives offer families different types of support, you’ll want to carefully consider exactly the type of assistance you’re seeking. While doulas provide many levels of care, clinical support is not a part of their scope of service. Sanders emphasizes that “Many women who hire a midwife also hire a doula, which makes for a well-rounded birth team.” Both types of professionals can make the experience of having a baby less stressful and uncertain, allowing you to focus on the excitement and joy of adding a little one to your family

FOR ADDITIONAL INFORMATION AND RESOURCES, VISIT THESE HELPFUL WEBSITES: Bloomington Professional Doulas www.bloomingtondoulas.com Mother Nurtured Midwifery – Bedford, IN www.mothernurtured.com DONA International (Doulas of North America) www.dona.org Midwives Alliance of North America http://mana.org

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family // dads

set up camp this spring! GRAB YOUR GEAR AND GET OUTSIDE WITH THESE QUICK TIPS wo rd s by / / Ka re n R i n g

p r i n g h a s a r r i ve d ! Wa r m b re e z e s a n d s u n ny d a y s a re fi n a l l y h e re . D a d s , yo u k n ow w h a t t h a t m e a n s – t i m e to p a c k u p t h e fa m i l y fo r a w e e ke n d c a m p i n g t r i p ! BUT ISN’T IT STILL A BIT TOO COLD TO SLEEP OUTDOORS? Provided you are well-prepared, cooler temps make for some very comfortable sleeping weather, as opposed to the summer months when the heat can make sharing a tent almost unbearable. Mild temperatures also make long afternoon hikes more pleasant, help keep bugs at bay and promote snuggling around the campfire at night. Heading out before peak season is also a great way to take advantage of more affordable rates. HOW DO I PREPARE FOR CAMPING ON COOLER NIGHTS? Preparing for a spring camping trip is really not that much different than planning for an outing in the heat of summer. However, there are a few considerations to keep in mind: dress in layers. Let’s face it, spring weather in the Midwest can be fickle. Highs in the 70s during the day may turn to temps that hover close to freezing at night. Dressing in layers is the best way to combat these temperature fluctuations – bundle up for the cooler mornings, shed some layers in the heat of the day and re-layer to face the chill of the evening. Mittens, stocking caps and thick, wool socks will also help ensure your extremities stay nice and warm all night long. Be sure to pack a few wool blankets that you can wrap up in while sitting around the campfire or layer over sleeping bags. prepare for rain. Did we mention spring weather is fickle? A rain-soaked tent is the quickest way to spoil a perfectly good camping trip, especially when you add cooler weather to the mix. Be sure to pack rain gear for your family members, but also ensure your tent is able to withstand an unexpected shower. Over time the tent’s factory-applied waterproofing can wear off.

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To learn more about how to waterproof your tent, visit: http://boyslife.org/outdoors/ask-the-gear-guy/8198/waterproof-myinexpensive-tent/ Indiana is chock-full of fabulous campsites. Here are a few of our favorites for spring camping. JELLYSTONE PARK AT LAKE MONROE Just a short drive from Bloomington and a mile from Lake Monroe, Jellystone is a great family camping destination. Choose from fullservice cabins, full-hookup campsites or get back to nature with one of their primitive tent campsites. The whole family will enjoy the walking trails and scenic waterfall, and kids can choose from several available activities, including visits with Yogi Bear and his crew.

HARDIN RIDGE RECREATION AREA On the other side of Lake Monroe, Hardin Ridge is a 1,200-acre recreation area located in the Hoosier National Forest. This is the perfect spot for the active family, with ample hiking and biking trails and a public swimming beach. The full-service campground features over 200 well-developed campsites, or you can opt for a lakeside cabin. SHAKAMAK STATE PARK A bit further away, but well worth the drive, Shakamak State Park is located just outside Terre Haute. Roughly two-thirds of the campsites are in a wooded area, making this a great campground to immerse your family in the beauty of spring. Both primitive and modern campsites are available. With the right clothes and gear, the mild temperatures of spring can provide the perfect setting for a memorable family camping trip!

family // pets

is your family ready for a

PET?

FIND OUT BEFORE YOU BRING A FURRY FRIEND HOME wo rd s by / / Ka re n R i n g

Adopting a pet is a huge commitment and one your entire family needs to be on board with for the life span of the animal. Take our quick quiz to see if you are ready to initiate the family pet discussion. Our family is considering a new pet because: a) the kids have been begging for years and I am just tired of saying no. b) all of my kids’ friends have pets – I guess we might as well get one too. c) we all love animals. A pet would be a wonderful addition to our home. The thought of having to clean up after a pet on a daily basis is: a) unthinkable – who has time to deal with one more mess? b) a bit of a concern, but I’ll just get my kids to do it. c) no problem. I’m used to changing diapers and wiping spit up off my clothes – I’ve got this! Dog owners spend an average of $225 on annual well visits and $66 per trip to the groomer. These numbers: a) come as a total shock – count me out! b) surprise me – time to take out a loan! c) are what I had planned on and will work in our family’s budget. You just found your cat using your brand new sofa as a scratching post for the umpteenth time. You: a) head back to the shelter to see about a refund. b) put the cat in time out to let him think about what he has done. c) use your voice to let the cat know that behavior is not allowed and then place him on his own scratching post, which is within easy reach of the sofa. The pouring rain shows no signs of letting up and your dog is giving you that look. You: a) decide he can probably hold it a little longer. b) think just maybe you can be the first person to convince a dog to use the toilet. c) grab an umbrella and take your dog for his regularly scheduled walk. If you answered anything other than “c” to any of these questions, it might be best to put the idea of a pet on the back burner for now. While we are having a bit of fun here, adopting a pet is a serious matter. Be sure to consider your family’s perspective, as well as the needs of the animal, before welcoming this new family member into your home.

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columns + guides // local spotlight

the women who made

WONDERLAB HOW THIS POPULAR BLOOMINGTON MUSEUM GREW FROM VISION TO REALITY words by // Louise Schlesinger

o n d e r L a b. Yo u k n ow i t a s t h e a w a rd - w i n n i n g s c i e n c e m u s e u m i t i s to d a y. B u t b e fo re to d a y ’s fa c i l i t y e x i s te d , Wo n d e r L a b wa s l o c a te d i n a s m a l l s p a c e d o w n to w n i n t h e h i s to r i c W i c k s B u i l d i n g ( 1 9 9 8 - 2 0 0 2 ) , a n d b e fo re t h a t i t wa s a n o u t re a c h p ro g ra m ( 1 9 9 5 - 1 9 9 7 ) . In fact, this local landmark might not have existed at all were it not for a group of individuals who were brought together by Debra Kent, then a young mother, who had the idea of creating a hands-on science museum in Bloomington. Two other individuals were instrumental from the start as volunteers and have since shaped WonderLab over the years: Catherine Olmer, WonderLab’s Executive Director and Indiana University Emerita Professor of Physics, and Karen Jepson-Innes, a biologist who is WonderLab’s Associate Executive Director. Both Catherine and Karen had childhood experiences that influenced their involvement with WonderLab. Catherine grew up in Boston and recalls visiting that city’s famed Museum of Science. Karen vividly remembers a more informal introduction: studying rocks outside with her grandfather. Both women strongly believe that young children have a natural instinct to try and understand the world through tactile and direct experiences. According to Catherine, “We want to expose children to science as they apply their natural curiosity to try to understand their world. We want to encourage them to have the skills to be tomorrow’s problem solvers. Children start to define themselves at an early age, so if we wait until middle school to give them real exposure to science, it may be too late.”

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Creating a homegrown Bloomington resource also motivated both women. As Catherine notes, “So much of learning happens when you go back to it time and time again, and it’s not just a once a year thing. So, having a resource right here in one’s own community is vital.” Karen was a mother of two young children when she got involved. “I was motivated as a scientist and a parent. It might be hard to believe now, but except for the public library, we just didn’t have a place in Bloomington to go to when we needed to do something fun and educational with the children indoors.” Catherine and Karen directed the years of planning that went into designing the current WonderLab experience. Karen compared the process to that of building a new home “with really wacky furniture.” They wanted WonderLab’s exhibits to be instantly engaging and intuitive without instruction. They also wanted exhibits to provide the opportunity for visitors of all ages to use the tools of scientific inquiry: sharing and testing ideas, answering questions through observation, retesting and asking related questions.

Moreover, Karen notes that they “wanted to create a bridge between working scientists and the public, and empower nonscientists, particularly teen volunteers, to share their knowledge of science with the community.” Looking ahead, Catherine says the challenge will be to continue to make WonderLab’s “real, concrete phenomena exciting to people who are living in an increasingly virtual environment.”

hidden gems THE BEST FINDS ONLY THE LOCALS KNOW! w o r d s b y / / J u l i e Wa r r e n , D i r e c t o r o f To u r i s m , V i s i t B l o o m i n g t o n

Spring time is a great time to get outdoors (finally!) and enjoy the natural beauty of Bloomington. But it’s also a temperamental season, with cool, rainy days often on the forecast. For this reason, we’ve come up with two kid-friendly activities that will suit the changing weather and your kid’s changing interests. GRIFFY LAKE AND NATURE PRESERVE 3300 N. Headley Rd., https:// bloomington.in.gov/griffylake Most people know about Griffy Lake and the 1,200 acres of nature preserve that surround it. But you might have forgotten about the nearly two miles of trails that are perfect for little hikers, with just a few hills and plenty of flora and fauna to admire. And you may need a little reminding that the boathouse is open April through November, with kayaks and canoes available for rent for just $8 an hour. It’s a gorgeous and peaceful setting just a few minutes outside of town, great for a quick jaunt into the (almost) wilderness. MATHERS MUSEUM 416 N. Indiana Ave.www.indiana. edu/~mathers/ This museum of world cultures (with thousands of objects and photographs representing every inhabited continent) has fascinating exhibits that kids of elementary school age will enjoy, including an interactive kitchen from the 60’s and another on monsters from around the world. Check their calendar for special hands-on activities, like family craft day or exhibit openings like the one on April 24th featuring Indiana Folk Arts which includes free root beer floats! Admission is always free to this museum, but the experience is rich.

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columns + guides // family friendly 5ks

FAMILY FRIENDLY

WALK, RUN OR STROLL YOUR WAY THROUGH THESE LOCAL RACES!

t ra p o n yo u r r u n n i n g s h o e s ! We ’ve g o t yo u r g u i d e to f u n fi t n e s s e ve n t s t h a t w i l l g e t t h e w h o l e fa m i l y m ov i n g t h i s s p r i n g .

APRIL 2016 fools 5k Location: Freeman Soccer Field, Seymour Date: Friday, April 1 Start Time: 6:30 p.m. Events: 5K and Kids Run Info: www.fitness1440.com/seymour/

thrive alliance / jcb 5k Location: United Way, Columbus, IN Date: Saturday, April 9 Start Time: 8:00 am (9:00 am for Kids Race) Events: 5K Walk, 5K Run, Kids Races Info: www.indianatiming.com

This inaugural run is sponsored by Fitness 1440 in Seymour. Proceeds will go towards St. Jude Children's Research Hospital.

The Thrive Alliance / JCB 5K is a fundraiser to raise awareness and support of local caregivers. This is a great opportunity for the community to get involved and show support for caregivers, older adults and persons with disabilities.

the arc's i can 5k & autism walk Location: Columbus (see website for upcoming details) Date: Saturday, April 2 Start Time: 9:00 am Events: 5K Walk, 5K Run, Free Family Autism Walk Info: www.signmeup.com/site/online-event-registration/112544

feline frolic 5k Location: Morgan County Court House Square, Martinsville, IN Date: Saturday, April 23 Start Time: 9:30 am Events: 5K, 1 Mile Fun Run Info: www.facebook.com/FelineFrolic5K/

Celebrate Autism Awareness Month in April by participating in this 5K and Walk from the Columbus Autism Network.

Join this color run where even dogs are invited!

hoosier half marathon and ftk 5k Location: DeVault IU Alumni Center Date: Saturday, April 9 Start Time: 8:00 a.m. Events: Half Marathon and 5K Info: www.hoosierhalf.com Indiana University and the City of Bloomington play host to a challenging race where participants will find 13.1 miles of rolling hills and amazing views of campus, downtown and countless Spring blooms.

run for the ivy Date: Saturday, April 23 Location: Ivy Tech Community College, Columbus Start Time: 8:00 a.m. Events: 10K run, 5K run/walk, kids run Info: https://connect.ivytech.edu/events/runfortheivy The Run for the Ivy is an event for everyone with proceeds used for Ivy Tech Community College scholarships, programs, and outreach.

friends of mccormick’s creek 5k Date: Saturday, April 30 Location: McCormick’s Creek State Park, Spencer, IN Start Time: 8:30 a.m. Events: 5K run/walk, 1 mile fun run Info: https://mag7raceseries.com/?event=friends-ofmccormicks-creek-5k-owen-co-ymca Support the Owen County YMCA and Friends of McCormick’s Creek at this 5K and fun run.

MAY bonkers tri Date: Saturday, May 14 Location: Fourwinds Resort, Bloomington Start Time: see website for details Events: half, olympic, sprint triathlon Info: http://racemaker.org/event/bonkers-triathlon/ The race is based completely out of Fourwinds Resort and features a Half, Olympic and Sprint distance triathlon. run with the foxes Date: Saturday, May 21 Location: Cherry Lake Shelter near Morgan-Monroe State Forest Start Time: 9:00 a.m. Events: 13.1M, 10M, 10K trail run | 5K trail run/walk Info: www.hoosierhikerscouncil.org/run-with-the-foxes/ Come for the 22th annual spring trail run/walk through the woods and hills of southern Indiana! A 5 K, 10 K, 10 mile and 13.1 mile course are run on a natural foot trail that meanders through the mature hardwood forests of Morgan-Monroe State Forest.

*Please note: This list represents a partial listing of races available with details at time of press. Be sure to check online for newly added races and up to date information!

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b e fo r e we g o

before we go...

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I was sending an email to some advertisers and was copying and pasting the text. I didn't realize that instead of saying "I know how busy you are…” I said "I know how busty you are." I didn't catch the mistake until I had sent out at least 20 emails.

M A RY COX Publisher

Since I work mostly from home, oftentimes I turn on my computer and start working as soon as the kids get on the bus. I got so engrossed in whatever project I was doing one day that I barely looked up until the UPS driver rang my doorbell with a package delivery. I was quite a vision still in my pj’s with crazy bedhead at 2:00 in the afternoon – he probably thought I was watching soaps and eating bon bons all day!

When my oldest son was in first grade, I dropped him off at school on the Monday after winter break. The only problem was, school didn't actually start back up until Tuesday. Thankfully, the office staff caught me before I drove away! My son was thrilled. I was mortified.

KAREN RING

Advertising Coordinator

S U S A N B R YA N T Editor

I am a multitasker and I always do things at a fast pace, just like most people. In point, there have been several occasions when I have gone to write my name and have spelled it wrong.

K A H L I E CA N N O N Associate Art Director

I was out running a bunch of errands and one included a stop at the Apple Store. Luckily, the wait was so long I decided to leave because when I got back to my car, my keys were in the ignition and the car was still running.

W E N DY C OX Web Developer

Earlier this school year when my boys were car riders because we were temporarily living out of the school district I forgot that it was an early release day and I was supposed to pick them up 30 minutes early. The school called me and said they were in the office waiting and asked if I could please come get them right away.

R OX A N N E B U R N S Business Manager

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