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T HE SCIE NCE OF GR AT I T U DE

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SPECIAL NEEDS GUIDE

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Who doesn’t love to hear that phrase? Whether it’s said over a quick text or at the end of a heartfelt conversation, these are the words that let us know that yes, our kids really do appreciate us. In November, we’re reminded of the importance of recognizing who and what we should be thankful for. The challenge is to keep this attitude of gratitude a year-long goal and not just bring it out with the cranberry sauce on Thanksgiving Day.

Did you know that cultivating gratitude in kids not only makes them happier, but more optimistic, less depressed and more satisfied with school as well? Plus, being thankful is actually a skill you can teach them. This month our article The Science of Gratitude details some research-based methods to encourage this behavior in your family. (And for ideas on how children can give back to others, take a look at our guide Volunteer Opportunities for Kids!)

Speaking of being thankful, how many of us don’t appreciate our good health (or our children’s) until something goes wrong? Until that moment, it’s easy to forget just how much

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this blessing really means. Read the story of Chris and Beth Edwards in When Cancer Hits Home to see how this local family has coped with a cancer diagnosis for their young son, Ben. November is also National Adoption Month.

While many families envision holding a newborn in their arms when they think of adoption, having a broader perspective of how to grow your family could open doors you never thought of. Check out Five Reasons to Consider Adopting an Older Child for some insight on why this could be the best decision for your family.

There’s lots more to flip through in this issue (children’s music lessons, school open house visits, the latest technology for special needs, to name just a few topics) so I hope you’ll take a look and find something that speaks to you. It’s our privilege each issue to bring you the information and resources we hope will enhance your family’s experience. This November, and every month, we say a huge thank you for choosing Indy’s Child.

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spotlight CHECK IN TO T HE L I T T LE Y ELPER S CLUB Yelp has been making waves in the Indianapolis area for a while now, offering adults the opportunity to rate, review and search referrals of local businesses like restaurants, salons and more. New in 2015 is the Little Yelpers Club, open to kids ages 11 and under. Yelp says “Whether you have wee ones in your life 24/7 or just occasionally babysit your nephew for the afternoon, we're hooking you up with all the hot spots for tots.” Past events have included a donut-decorating date with Jack’s Donuts of Fishers and meatball/cookie-themed storytime with Indy Reads. Plenty more activities are still to come!

Stay tuned to Yelp for an announcement of their late fall event with the Indianapolis Repertory Theatre (IRT) and a partnership announcement with Indy’s Child that we’re thrilled about!

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INDY DA NCE AC ADE MY CELEBR AT E S DA NCE FOR A C AUSE It’s a dance party with a purpose, hosted by the Indy Dance Academy. This free celebration is open to the public (not just registered IDA families) with music, simple choreography, line dancing, games and more. Partygoers are asked to bring canned donations to provide food for those in need in the Indianapolis community.

November 7 Register and see more at: http://indydanceacademy.com

Boy Scouts L aunch Co -Ed ST E M program in Indiana Boy Scouts of America, Crossroads of America Council has launched a new program, STEM Scouts, that will give youth– both boys and girls – in central Indiana a new, fun way to discover science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM). The coed program, available to elementary, middle, and high school students, provides a great opportunity for collaborations and gives all youth a chance to become STEM experts.

www.yelp.com/indianapolis-in-us Parents can register their child for a STEM Scouts lab at www.stemscouts.org.

F UN FA M ILY SHOWS DEBU T ING T HIS MON T H AT T HE IRT Each season, the IRT brings delightful family-friendly shows to life onstage, including the annual performance of A Christmas Carol. This Charles Dickens masterpiece returns for its 25th year at the IRT. Also new this season is Peter Rabbit and Me, which follows the story of a young Beatrix Potter and the adventures of Flopsy, Mopsy, Cottontail and Peter Rabbit. Keep your eyes peeled for a special day of fun at both shows with Indy’s Child!

November 15-December 26: A Christmas Carol November 21-December 20: Peter Rabbit and Me Indiana Repertory Theatre, 140 W. Washington Street, downtown Indy Tickets available at: www.irtlive.com

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month One of our favorite holiday activities returns November 21 at the Eiteljorg Museum: Jingle Rails: The Great Western Adventure! Watch seven G-scale model trains traverse a land of natural materials (twigs, moss, nuts and more) all decked out for the holidays. The display offers more than 30 different features including Mt. Rushmore and The Grand Canyon, and Indianapolis favorites Lucas Oil Stadium and the Soldiers’ and Sailors’ Monument. Your mini engineer will love to watch the trains go past one of the thirteen walk-under bridges too.

November 21-January 18 Eiteljorg Museum, downtown Indianapolis Find more at: www.eiteljorg.org/explore/exhibitions/ jingle-rails-the-great-western-adventure

GE T K IDS COOK ING IN T HE K I TCHE N! Children’s cooking classes are available all over town and this month on IndysChild.com we’re detailing just where to take your budding chef to hone his or her cooking skills. Have you heard of Sprouts Cooking School, one of the newest spots for kids? Offering seasonal cooking classes and recipes, Sprouts is just one of many great spots around town catering to kids’ culinary kicks.

Read more at: https://indyschild.com/ cooking-classes-for-kids-indianapolis

A special event for prospective adoptive families November is National Adoption Month – something The Children’s Bureau is helping to celebrate by introducing the idea of adoption to prospective families. Join Director of the Indiana Department of Child Services Mary Beth Bonaventura and First Lady Karen Pence for this free program including a small reception, information, giveaways and free admission to The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis.

November 5, reception from 3-4 pm; Open event runs 4-7:30 pm The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis, 3000 N. Meridian St, Indianapolis Learn more at: www.nationaladoptionmonth2015indy.eventbrite.com

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Delivery Room Dilemma When visitors equal stress Your baby’s arrival is just around the corner. You’re flooded with excitement, pangs of anxiety and requests from loved ones for an invitation into the delivery room.

Would mom help or hinder your birthing experience? Would Aunt Ida pile on stress with her eccentric chanting while you push? Should your best friend come in to take pictures?

Whose presence would be most soothing as you welcome your baby into the world?

Some moms-to-be want to be surrounded by loved ones, and even live-tweet their progress between contractions. Others prefer a quiet, private experience, accompanied only by their spouse and medical team.

Kathy Ryan, clinical coordinator for the Monogram Maternity program at St. Vincent, helps mothers personalize their birth plan. “Some women say, ‘Oh, my mom will be great!’ Others say, ‘Oh, my mom will make me so nervous!’ Others don’t think about visitors until their delivery day and realize, “Oh, gosh, if my aunt is in the room I’ll go crazy,’” says Ryan.

Some hospitals allow only a spouse and one additional person, while others have no limits.

Whatever your preferences, having a birth plan and those conversations ahead of time can help ensure a smooth, satisfying delivery.

• Define roles for each visitor. If you want your spouse to have a front-row seat but keep your mother-in-law and best friend above the sheet, make those wishes known. Also clarify whether visitors can photograph the delivery.

Visitor-induced stress can be avoided by following these steps: • Inquire whether your hospital has restrictions on the number of guests allowed in the delivery room.

• Stress can stall labor, and it’s important that visitors know their role is to support you. If you’re worried about entertaining guests, you won’t be able to focus on delivering your baby.

• It’s okay to change your mind. It’s your birthing experience, and you call the shots on who is (or isn’t) welcome to watch.

In all, the goal is to keep impromptu or unwelcome companions from dialing up the stress in the delivery room and draining the joy out of your birthing experience.

Sure, some loved ones may not be pleased with being left out of the delivery room. In those cases, Ryan is happy to take the blame and manage that conversation. “I can talk to them because I don’t have to sit with them at Thanksgiving,” she says. “Most families understand that we want our patients to have the best experience, and stress should not be a part of that.”

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Plus, there are other ways to involve visitors without bringing them into the delivery room. “There’s labor and birth: two different things,” Ryan explains. Visitors can help during labor and not be involved during birth.

Along those lines, it’s helpful to give a task to each visitor, like helping with relief techniques during labor. “We give them ideas on how to be helpful because it’s an anxious time and they don’t know what to do with themselves,” says Ryan.

Your family and friends are excited to meet your baby. Early planning can clarify expectations, eliminate stress and avoid hurt feelings of last-minute delivery room visits. The sooner you define your birth plan, the more satisfying your experience will be.

“It’s your day,” Ryan concludes.

“This has to work for you.”

Visit MonogramMaternity.com to learn more or call 317.338.2229 to schedule your tour today.

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Making the Holidays Memorable Jenny Tucker, Family Programs Teacher at The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis

As the air turns colder and snowfall looms on the horizon, our thoughts turn to time spent with family and the magical memories we want to create.

Whether it’s Santa zooming in to visit children and families in a real race car, zipping down the 47’ Yule Slide or having a faux snowball fight inside Jolly Days Winter Wonderland, The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis has plenty of family fun ideas to share this winter.

Start the fun on Friday, November 27 with Santa’s Big Arrival! IndyCar driver Ed Carpenter will give Rudolph and the boys a day off as he gets behind the wheel to deliver the Jolly Old Elf to the world’s biggest children’s museum. Santa will then be posing for pictures with all the good little boys and girls inside

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Jolly Days. Families are invited to enjoy ice “skating” in their socks, “bake” goodies in the Cookie Café and take a trip down the Yule Slide.

Mark the calendar for a unique chance to have breakfast with Santa on Saturday and Sunday mornings from November 29 through December 13, 2015. Celebrations continue through New Year’s Eve with a familyfriendly Countdown to Noon on December 31.

One way to keep those wonderful memories and family traditions alive throughout the season is to print out a picture of your favorite experience. Use that photo to create your own snow globe to put on the mantel or share with family and friends as a special gift.

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Family Memories Snowglobe Recreate this classic winter toy with a customizable twist! You will need: • A mason jar • Fake snow • Cardstock or family photograph that will fit inside the jar • Small white puff balls • Fishing line • Needle • Tape [PHOTO CREDIT] The Children's Museum of Indianapolis

• Markers (if needed) • Hot glue

Directions: Thread the needle with fishing line and push it through three of four puff balls to create a line of falling snow.

Make 4 to 5 lines of snow.

Tape one end of each line to the bottom of the lid with the tape (packing tape may hold things together better than scotch tape). If using a photograph, attach the bottom of the photo to the bottom of the jar with a few dots of hot glue so that it is standing upright.

Another option is to have your children draw a picture or write a note on cardstock (use both sides).

Fill the rest of your jar with faux snow, winterthemed sequins, glitter or small figurines. Screw the top onto the jar with the falling snow hanging down; adjust it as necessary so that the artwork or photograph can be seen. Let the magic live on for years to come!

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Research to Real World: What is the Purpose of Kindergarten?

The value of learning through play

Jessica Beer, PhD

Developmentally appropriate schools offer advantages in emotion regulation, child stress, behavior problems and motivation for school, reading and math compared to schools that push direct instruction. These advantages last through the primary grades.

Do not compare… investigate

Take a moment to reflect on your kindergarten year. Mine goes back many years but the happiness of it is still so easily accessible. Remembering how excited I was to see my friends, finger-painting at the easel, singing a song about ducks, taking a chance on the monkey bars, playing dress-up, looking through new books and creating a tissue paper owl to take home to my mom and dad.

Was I learning? Was I playing? Did it prepare me well for first grade?

What is the purpose of kindergarten?

The answer to that question varies widely among parents, educators, developmental scientists, superintendents, school districts, states and countries. Perhaps the more pertinent question is “Who is answering that question for my child?” because they will make decisions about what happens in the classroom.

As parents, we want to make an informed decision of what kind of kindergarten classroom our children experience.

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What does the science say?

For children of preschool and kindergarten age, the science leans heavily on the value and promise of learning through play for later academic success. Guided play and scaffolded play are developmentally appropriate approaches to learning that can be used by educators in the classroom and by parents at home.

It involves observing children to meet them where they are developmentally, co-playing, asking open-ended questions and suggesting ways to explore materials that children might not have thought of on their own.

These interactions occur within a planned play environment enriched with toys, objects, play-stations and hands-on, active, child-directed opportunities to engage with this environment.

Do not compare your child to what other children can do. There is always that child in the preschool class who can read. Parents tend to think, “Oh no, I’m doing something wrong, my child cannot do that.” Then you go home and drill reading skills. It’s called “drill-and-kill” for a reason: it carries with it stress and burn-out. There is no research that documents long-term gains from learning to read in kindergarten. An alternative approach is to investigate. Find out early literacy skills typical for children the same age and stage as yours and developmentally appropriate ways you can encourage these skills. I promise you will have more fun!

What to do?

Explore the options for education in your community, read publications on different approaches to early education, interview your educator and observe different kindergarten classrooms. You know your child, so what makes the most sense for him or her? You can always change your mind.

What questions should I ask about kindergarten? * What child development and educational philosophy guides your curriculum development? Is it a playbased curriculum or common core standards? (Do you as a parent agree with those standards?) Are they developmentally appropriate? * How is the classroom set

up? Are there opportunities for children to work at play stations that involve art, building, pretend and collaboratING with classmates?

* What is the schedule for

the day and week and how much time is spent in each segment? How much time do children spend in active, child-directed activities and in teacher-directed instruction? How long are children expected to sit in one place?

* How is technology used in the classroom?

Resources for Parents Alliance for Childhood. Use this for publications on what to look for in classroom environments www.allianceforchildhood.org/ publications Zero to Three. Use this for publications on early literacy and developmentally appropriate expectations www.zerotothree.org/brainwonders

Developmental psychologist Jessica Beer combines her real world experience as a mother with her professional training as a researcher to provide parents with a practical way to apply the most current findings in childhood development research to their everyday life. Jessica is also a co-founder of The Urban Chalkboard playcafe, and welcomes questions and feedback from readers at experiencematters@ theurbanchalkboard.com.

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ntroducing children to the pleasure of making music gives them a gift they can enjoy for the rest of their lives. Parents seeking to begin this process often have many questions. Is there a right time to begin music lessons? What instrument should a child start with? How do we find a good instructor? Before you tickle those ivories into a twist, read the advice of local experts on how to hit

a high note when starting your child off on their path to creating music.

W h e n t o begi n It’s never too soon and it’s never too late – a love of music can be developed at any age. Eileen Papesh, manager of Gymboree Play & Music of Carmel, says, “Humans are never too young or too old to appreciate and understand music.”

Is there a guideline to help parents decide the best time to introduce their child to formal lessons? Most instructors agree that a readiness truly depends on the

particular child and his or her interest in learning an instrument.

it’s never too early to start developing a child’s appreciation for music.

Introductory classes can teach little ones about music basics, including song structure and rhythm.

Elyse Causey, general manager of the School of Rock in Carmel explains, “Anytime your child begins to show interest in music, instruments or singing, take advantage of it!” Most music teachers and facilities typically will not start private lessons until a child is between five and eight years old, but Causey says it’s never too early to start developing a child’s appreciation for music. Introductory classes can teach little ones about music basics, including song structure and rhythm.

Laura Perry, with Nurture the Child Kindermusik, offers a few thoughts for parents new to musical instruction.

First, she says that a child should ask for lessons. He or she also needs to be excited about working through the rudimentary aspects of these lessons.

Learning an instrument takes disciplined practice. Perry suggests that every child should have enough will to sit down with his or her instrument 20 to 30 minutes every day. And the right time for a child to begin lessons needs to be the right time for mom and dad, too. Perry says, “The parent of the child must be committed to the child’s lessons and daily practice.”

F i n di ng a n i nst ruc t or Enjoyment is a crucial component when it comes to engaging a child in a music lesson. As Causey says, “If your child doesn’t enjoy going to lessons, there’s no way they’ll want to practice or even go in from week to week.”

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An instructor’s personality and their professional credentials can make all the difference. Joyce Buchholz, an instructor at Meridian Music, suggests parents choose a school with seasoned teachers that will help match your child with the best instructor, given his or her personality and age.

your child is interested in, definitely get them started on it. Some instructors will start piano lessons fairly young, some around five years old, so it can be a good way to get going on lessons early.” Causey adds that the piano can be a wonderful foundation for learning other instruments in the future.

Premier Music Studios co-owner and piano instructor John Dick says, “You want to look for an instructor who not only likes children, but interacts well with them.” In terms of teaching credentials, most instructors will give references.

In Papesh’s Gymboree Play & Music program, students start with percussion instruments.

According to Papesh, “This allows children to start working on simple musical techniques, like steady beats and easy rhythms.”

It is also helpful to ask an instructor the average time it takes for a student to get through a method book, says Daniel Patterson of the Daniel Patterson Music Studio. “A good teacher will average about four to six months per student.” Next, consider asking for a trial or introductory lesson. “It’s a big financial commitment and the student-teacher relationship is so critical.”

Still, others feel the piano is a great way to begin musical instruction.

“The piano is always a good option to begin with,” says Joyce Buchholz from Meridian Music. “University Music Schools recognize the power of the piano as a teaching and reference tool for all musicians.”

C ho osi ng a n i nst ru m e n t Many parents wonder if piano is the best instrument for their child to start with. Perry says, “Piano is not for every child. It is true that children can learn music basics on piano but the piano is a difficult instrument to play.”

She suggests the violin, trumpet or flute as introductory instruments, since they are all linear and require a single line to follow. Although she is quick to say that the best instrument for your child is the one that he or she wants to play.

However you decide to begin music lessons with your child, know that the benefits he or she gains will go well beyond just learning an instrument.

Studies consistently show that kids who participate in musical education often enhance their academic and social skills as well as their creativity and discipline – and that’s music to any parent’s ears.

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CONSIDER ADOPTING AN OLDER CHILD Em br acing a differ en t pat h to pa r en ting

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any people associate adoption with bringing a brand new baby home from the hospital.

But what if the right child for you is actually a grade schooler or teenager? In honor of National Adoption Month this November, read on to find out why welcoming an older child into your life could be the best decision for your family.

1. there’s an immediate need “There’s a real urgency for children in our state,” says Sharon Pierce, President and CEO of The Villages, who believes Indiana currently faces a foster care and adoption crisis. Between August 2014 and August 2015, the number of Children in Need of Services (CHINS) in Indiana increased by nearly 4,000. Typically, well over half of the children available for adoption are between 11 and 17 years old, says Pierce.

A need exists internationally as well, says Karlene Edgemon, M.S., L.S.W., Director of Social Services at MLJ Adoptions International. Her agency works with foreign countries where older children have been unable to find adoptive homes. “Generally, these orphans are waiting patiently for a loving home and wish desperately to become part of a family,” she says.

2. an older child may be the best fit for your family Rae Hostetler, mom of 16 year-old Tom and 13 year-old Zack, always felt a “tug” to adopt. While she and her husband, Bruce, initially assumed they would adopt an infant or toddler, their plans changed as wait times grew longer. “As our son Tom continued to have birthday after birthday, we started discussing the fact [that] we didn’t want our children’s ages to be so far apart,” she explains. In April 2008, the family traveled to China to adopt then six-year-old Zack.

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“From the moment Zack walked into our house, he was part of the family.”

Sibling age is just one factor prospective adoptive parents should consider in the process. Edgemon notes that adopting an older child may also be a good choice for adults choosing to start a family later in life. “Children who are considered harder to place, such as older children, are more readily available to older parents who wish to adopt and the adoption process can often occur more quickly,” she says. Whatever your family’s specific circumstances, agencies work very hard to make good matches between parents and children, says Pierce.

3. older kids offer unique advantages Not everyone is prepared to care for a newborn. For some, the thought of being responsible for the daily care of a baby can be overwhelming.

Feedings, diapers and disrupted sleep schedules may not work for everyone. Adopting an older child has its plusses in this regard.

Edgemon gives another benefit of adopting an older child: “You can immediately begin having fun together - laughing, joking with each other and building rapport.

Diane Stiles, LCSW, Clinical Director at Adoption Support Center, adopted her then 3 year-old and 5 ½ year-old daughters twenty-one years ago.

She believes it can be easier to share interests and discover new ones with an older child. “Older children’s personalities are more formed,” she says. “You have more of an insight into the people they are becoming.”

4. you’ll likely have access to helpful information As a prospective adoptive parent, you’ll have many questions about the child who may come into your life.

Fortunately, parents who adopt an older child generally have access to more information about their child’s history, says Edgemon. “Due to [the child’s] time ‘in care’ or ‘in the system’ more records have been accumulated and more data – medical, social, psychological, educational, behavioral – is available to the adoptive parents.” In addition, unlike infants, “Older children can talk and tell you what is on their mind,” says Stiles. “No guess work as to what hurts!”

5. You can have a huge impact Many children in the foster care system are hungry for a typical family experience, says Pierce.

Unfortunately, Edgemon reports, older children in care are less likely to find permanent families and may start to feel “unlovable” as time passes. “You can absolutely change their world by offering them the opportunity to be adopted,” she says.

A decision to adopt may even have benefits beyond your immediate family. “It is also the opportunity to make a change in the cycle of poverty and impact the next generation,” says Stiles.

If one or more of the listed reasons resonates with you, consider contacting an agency to learn more. Hostetler urges, “If you have the idea that adoption is right for you – do it. Every child deserves a family.” * Continued on page 22 NOVEMBER 2015 // INDYSCHILD.COM

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*You’re patient and understanding. *You have a solid family support system. *You have a good sense of humor. *You’re flexible.

Are You a Good Fit for an Older Child?

Wondering what it takes to be a good match as an adoptive parent to an older child? Here you’ll find some personal traits and characteristics that can make someone a strong candidate.

*You have past parenting experience (helpful, but not required). *You know how to use smart phones, computers and other tech devices. *You will advocate for your child and seek out support when necessary.

Sources: Sharon Pierce and Karlene Edgemon, M.S., L.S.W.

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the science of gratitude Sara Konrath, PhD

{ T he far - reaching effects of raising grateful children } Social relationships are filled with moments of giving and receiving.

Gratitude is an important way that these relationships stay smooth. As parents, we are continually giving to our children.

Think about a time when you slaved over the stove for an hour, cooking a delicious, healthy meal, only to have your child give you that “ew” face. Now try this same scenario, but in the end your child’s face lights up, with an exclamation of “Mmmm, thank you, this looks yummy!” Here’s a reality check: research finds that children ages six and younger only say thank you about 20% of the time when receiving things.

So don’t take it too personally.

But by the time they hit age ten, this dramatically rises to about 80% of the time, thankfully. What happens? Children start to develop cognitive empathy skills, which helps them to notice when other people are intentionally doing kind things for them.

Gratitude is intimately linked with empathy.

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If you know several children, you won’t be surprised to learn that research finds that gratitude is a personality trait. Some people are naturally more grateful, while others struggle to notice the good in their lives. But it is possible for people to become more grateful through daily practices or direct teaching about gratitude. In fact, the research shows that these exercises work even better for those who struggle the most to be grateful.

Gratitude-building studies have been done on both children and adults, finding similar results. When people try to be more grateful, not only does it work (they become more grateful), but the benefits start to spill over into other areas of their lives. They start to feel happier, more optimistic, less depressed, and for children, more satisfied with school. Children who are more satisfied with school end up doing better academically, so gratitude could potentially boost students’ motivation to study. Adults start to sleep better, exercise more, and feel physically healthier. Not surprisingly, since gratitude is so intimately embedded within social relationships, people start to feel closer and more connected to others, and their relationships begin to improve. These experiments also find that people are even more willing to help strangers after spending time reflecting on the things that they are grateful for.

All of these outcomes can happen in as little as two weeks of practice, and the research finds that they can last up to six months. Who knows how much longer they can last, since there is limited research looking beyond six months. But pulling out gratitude as a once-ayear platter to go with the Thanksgiving turkey is probably not going to cut it.

Here are some research-based practices to help increase gratitude.

These work for both children and adults.

1. Counting blessings Keep a daily gratitude journal for two to three weeks. At the end of each day, write down five things that you are grateful for that day. Pay special attention to the ways that other people gave to you. Yes, there are apps for that, if you would prefer to jot things down on your phone throughout the day.

2. Gratitude letter Write a letter to someone whom you have never properly thanked. Then read the letter to that person, preferably in person. This could be an excellent Thanksgiving tradition – to pick a name of a family member out a hat and then read these letters around the table. It might seem ridiculous for those of us who struggle to pass the potatoes without conflict, but in those cases, it might be especially worth a try.

3. Gratitude lessons Research finds that this direct teaching method, which was developed by Jeffrey Froh at Hoffstra University, works well in elementary school children. It involves teaching children that when others are nice to us, they do it on purpose (good intentions), using their time, treasure, or talent (cost to others), and that it helps us (benefit to us). You can find free lesson plans on his website, or check out his book Making Grateful Kids.

Gratitude is about shifting your perception. No one has a perfect life, even though it might look that way through the distant filtered lenses of social media. But everyone has something to be grateful for. One of the most powerful ways to raise grateful children is likely to be a grateful adult. Raising grateful children means raising our own gratitude levels as well.

Sara Konrath, PhD, is an Assistant Professor at the Indiana University Lilly Family School of Philanthropy. Her research has found that empathy is declining among young Americans since the late 1970s. In her current work, she is testing whether an empathy-building smartphone app can help increase teens’ (ages 12-17) empathy and prosocial behavior. Email appstudy@iupui.edu if you live in Indianapolis and would like more information.

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Volunteer forKids Kids Opportunities for A guide to Indianapolis area organizations that allow kids to give back Jeanine Bobenmoyer

“ We rise by lifting others.” This quote by Robert Ingersoll is such a wonderful way to kick off our guide to volunteer opportunities for kids. Through all the work parents do on a daily basis to serve their own children, helping reshape young minds to serve others in need is a valuable life lesson. Here we highlight several different Indianapolis - based organizations that welcome young volunteers and some easy suggestions for teaching the grace of volunteering at home.

Humane Society of I n dianapolis

Wheeler Mission

Parents and kids ages 8+ can work onsite directly with the animals in the Parent & Me program. The Paws & Claws Club gives students ages 10-15 the opportunity to meet animals and learn more about their care. Or, families are needed to foster animals as they wait for a permanent home.

One-time housekeeping, meal service or pantry inventory tasks are ways families can provide service at Wheeler Mission. Youth under the age of 18 are required to have a parent or guardian present during volunteer hours.

Location: 7929 Michigan Road, Indianapolis 317-872-5650 or www.indyhumane.org

Did you know The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis is a non-profit organization? Families are welcome to volunteer together in a variety of ways. Youth must be 8 years or older, and each opportunity is carefully crafted to allow families time spent together while giving back.

Location: 3000 North Meridian Street, Indianapolis www.childrensmuseum.org/content/familyvolunteering

Zoo Teen volunteer opportunities, open to kids 14 and over, include learning about animals, assisting with special events, gardening and groundskeeping, animal care and serving as a naturalist.

317-630-2041 or www.indianapoliszoo.com/

I n dy Urban Acres

• Have young ones draw pictures and transform them into valentines for your local senior community center.

Location: 7700 East 21st Street, Indianapolis

• Take healthy treats to your local fire station along with some family artwork thanking them for their service to the community.

Keep Indianapolis Beautiful

Location: 3737 Waldemere Avenue, Indianapolis

KIB opens up their volunteer opportunities to every age for activities like tree planting, park clean up, adopt a block and other community initiatives like local race help.

317-925-0191 or www.gleaners.org

Location: 1029 Fletcher Avenue, Indianapolis 317-264-7555 or www.kibi.org

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• Pick up litter in your neighborhood or at your favorite park.

Gleaners Food Bank of Indiana

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Other ways families can volunteer from home

This 8 acre, organic farm donates 100% of its fresh produce to local food pantries. Volunteers of all ages are needed for weeding, planting and cleaning produce. Families can schedule time or participate in open volunteer events on the first Saturday of each month from 9 am-12 pm.

317-654-4217 or http://indyparksfoundation.org/ site/what_we_do/indy_urban_acres_farm

Families with children ages 9 and up are put to work inspecting and assembling food baskets (including the BackSacks: Weekend Food For Kids baskets), performing clerical duties, and/or helping with stocking and organizing items.

317-635-3575 or http://wheelermission.org/ get-involved/volunteer/level-three-familiesgroups/

I n dianapolis Zoo

Location: 1200 West Washington Street, Indianapolis

The Children’s Museum of I n dianapolis

Location: 205 East New York Street, Indianapolis

• Write letters to service members who are deployed.

Send homemade pictures or cards to brighten their day.

• Pick a local fundraising walk or run with a mission close to your family’s heart. Work together to fundraise through a lemonade stand, bake sale or other method, and then participate in the walk together.

• Keep connected to websites like VolunteerMatch or DoSomething to search for other family-oriented opportunities in your area.

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Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey® Presents Circus XTREME Newest Edition of The Greatest Show On Earth® Blends Extremes for the Ultimate Family Entertainment Experience Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey® Presents Circus XTREME features artists who redefine the word extreme in everything they do, magnifying traditional elements of the circus and combining them with never-before-seen spectacles, original fast-paced performances and incredibly hilarious moments. The multi-year tour offers extreme thrills, exotic animals and extraordinary performers that add up to the ultimate family entertainment experience.

High-wire wizards, powerful strongmen, BMX trick riders, trampoline daredevils, inconceivable contortionists, a high-flying human cannonball, a bungee aerial skydiving display and an international assembly of more than 100 world-renowned artists provide 2 ½ hours of thrilling entertainment.

With such an exciting lineup, The Greatest Show On Earth® guarantees to dazzle and astound, and a Ringling Bros.® show wouldn’t be complete without a full menagerie of amazing animals. Circus XTREME features beautiful Bengal tigers, two-humped camels ridden by brave Mongolian women, impressive horses and the most popular members of the Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey family: the magnificent Asian elephants.

“We pulled from the realm of extreme sports and competitive acrobatics and brought them into the world of the circus, making this the most contemporary show we’ve ever created,” says Producer Alana Feld.

“We’ve also pushed the limits of all of our amazing artists and performers to create new and different exhilarating elements, providing audiences with extreme family fun.”

“With Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Presents Circus XTREME, we wanted to create a show that keeps pace with modern families and caters to the ‘edge-of-the-seat’ thrill that parents and kids are seeking in live entertainment,” says Producer Nicole Feld. “The experience is enhanced by the interactivity of our All Access Pre-Show, and as a mom, I know that’s my daughter’s favorite part.”

The party starts an hour before the show at the All Access Pre-show, which is free with your ticket purchase. You and your family can meet our international cast of performers and get up close to our menagerie of animals. Try on custom costumes, learn circus skills — like juggling and walking the low wire — from the famous Ringling Bros.® Clown Alley and even have the opportunity to win a one-of-a- kind masterpiece created by one of our very own Ringling Bros. painting pachyderms.

There is a limited number of $35 VIP and $48 front row. Additional fees apply to all price levels. Seven great performances to choose from: Thursday, Dec. 3 at 7 p.m., Friday, Dec. 4 at 7p.m., Saturday, Dec. 5 at 11 a.m., 3 p.m. and 7 p.m. and Sunday, Dec. 6 at 1 p.m. and 5 p.m.

Ticketholders can purchase an upgrade and go backstage with a VIP Behind the Scenes Tour of Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey. The backstage experience includes an insider look at props and wardrobe, an up close and personal encounter with the animals and a chance to meet stars from the show. Fans will also have an opportunity to take pictures and learn educational fun facts. To take advantage of this once-in-a-lifetime exper- ience, just log on to ringlingbros.expapp.com from your iPhone or Android smartphone and provide your name, e-mail and phone number to become a VIP circus insider.

Tickets for Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Presents Circus XTREME are available through www.Ringling.com, by phone at Ticketmaster, 800-745-3000, or in person at Bankers Life Fieldhouse box office. Tickets are afford- ably priced, starting at $11 for opening night and $20 for all other performances with $11 kid’s tickets.

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when cancer hits home Summer Daily

a local family shares their experience with childhood cancer

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n February of 2011, Beth and Chris Edwards had two healthy, beautiful boys. Blake was 4, and Ben 18 months. Then suddenly Ben’s health began to deteriorate. He started needing a wall to support himself when he walked, and he would wake up from naps cranky, disoriented and shaking. After a visit to the pediatrician, he was diagnosed with a double ear infection. Following a round of antibiotics, his symptoms were not improving. In fact, he had gotten progressively worse. On April 18, 2011, a CT scan revealed Ben had a mass on his brain.

The Edwards were in shock. Two days later, their little boy had surgery to remove the tumor and was diagnosed with ependymoma – a disease in which cancer cells form in the tissues of the spinal cord and brain. The surgery was an extremely complicated and difficult one, and the doctors prepared Beth and Chris for potentially bad news.

Thankfully, the surgery was successful, and the tumor was able to be completely removed. After surgery, Ben had 32 radiation treatments to ensure the mass would not grow back. After months of treatment, he was finally declared cancer free and is now in remission.

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A cancer diagnosis is often a parent’s absolute worst nightmare. How do families cope with such a grave situation and manage the care of their sick child along with the ongoing responsibilities of home life? For the Edwards, the caring people around them were essential.

“Coworkers, family members, the people at Riley… there was overwhelming support. You felt like you were never alone,” says Beth.

Joyce Crane is a case manager at Riley Children’s Hospital and has seen how important a support system can be to families in times of crisis. “All of our patients are assigned a social worker.

Ask about a complex care manager. This is someone who takes extra time with your insurance case making sure everything is covered and handled properly…

That came into play as great for us.

[Ben’s] radiation treatments weren’t covered by our insurance, because it was considered experimental. And our care manager was able to do all the research around that and get that approved and 100% covered.”

– Beth Edwards

They meet with the family and help them identify what their internal resources are – their family resources, their friends, their spiritual resources. And then any holes or gaps that are there, they can help them find community resources,” she explains. Staff form a diagnosis and treatment plan and educate families about the disease and treatment. Parents are given a calendar of treatments so they can plan the rest of the family’s lives and activities around appointments.

[ABOVE] Blake and Ben Edwards [PHOTO CREDIT] Riley Children’s Hospital

For families with other children, the cancer diagnosis of their sibling has a ripple effect on the entire family. “If they have siblings, they really get cancer together,” says Chris.

“The emotional fall-out for the family is very difficult. That’s the hardest piece, and we never did figure it out.” Beth adds, “Just because the other child isn’t having problems at the moment, don’t assume that they are coping and okay.”

Another issue families often have to deal with is the unexpected side effects of medication on their child. Some medicines can cause kids to become much angrier and aggressive than normal, with belligerent behavior as a result. Crane encourages parents to still try and maintain normal discipline. In the Edwards’ situation, Beth says, “One day Ben was so upset, and he was trying to hit. I grabbed his arm, and I sternly said, ‘You do not hit.’ The nurse looked at me and she just praised me for still being a mom and not allowing him to misbehave. And what she said stuck with me for a long time. It was, ‘You still need to

be a parent now, because when you have a healthy kid come out of this, you want a well-behaved healthy kid.’"

That realization of treating Ben like a normal child as much as possible throughout the ordeal was key for the Edwards. Ben’s brother Blake played with him as usual – which their radiation oncologist said played a large part in Ben’s recovery and rehabilitation. “That’s important, seeing that they can still have a piece of their normal life,” says Crane. “It’s not all about cancer.

You have to focus on what they can do instead of what they can’t do.”

A lot of healthy people don’t really understand how their insurance works until they have to start using it. We’ve had many instances where families are hit with a huge payment at the pharmacy. It could be thousands of dollars for them to get their drugs. That’s something that families aren’t aware of that’s very frightening to them, but we’re pretty savvy about that and we have lots of resources to help them.”

– Joyce Crane

For support in our area: American Cancer Society www.cancer.org

Cancer Support Community – Central Indiana

(317 ) 257-1505 www.cancersupportindy.org

Franciscan St. Francis Health Cancer Center (317 ) 528-1420

Peyton Manning Children's Hospital (317 ) 338-3067

Riley Hospital for Children – Childhood Cancer Survivors Program

http://iuhealth.org/riley/ cancer/for-parents/ childhood - cancersurvivors-program/

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AAC APPS AND AUTISM How the latest technology is helping kids “find their voice” Maggie Loiselle

In the age of the iPad, tablet technology goes far beyond Facebook and Angry Birds. For many children with autism who struggle to communicate, it’s giving them a “voice” for the first time.

Augmentative and Alternative Communication, or AAC, apps give nonverbal students the ability to select symbols representing words to express themselves via text-to-speech, while giving others a way to communicate with the student in a manner they understand.

The ever-growing number of app options offer a simple-to-understand, portable and relatively inexpensive alternative to traditional low-tech systems, which were often the only option in classrooms even just a few years ago.

“The cheaper and more practical access to AAC systems for our nonverbal kids has been the biggest game changer,” says Darla Ashton, assistive technology coordinator for Carmel Clay Schools. “We have so many kids that are now ‘talking’ with their iPads who never were able to communicate with us before.”

Still, it’s been a leap of faith for the early adopters of AAC apps to switch from the tangible picture and binder systems to an iPad. Heather Nichols, a significant disabilities instructional coach with Carmel Clay Schools who’s worked in early childhood education for ten years, admits she was skeptical the first time she started a student with an app. “I thought it would be difficult to use, but it wasn’t long before I realized this was wonderful!” she recalls. “We really had no idea that these children had the ability, at the age of three, to work with such a dynamic device.”

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For parents who are considering AAC apps or who are new to the technology, Nichols offers some key tips:

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Ask around.

Find out what technology your school offers.

Consult your child’s speech therapist. Connect with other parents. Do your own research. It’s trial and error, so don’t be afraid to try something new. If it doesn’t click this time, try again later. Don’t give up.

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Accept communication in all forms.

Some kids use multiple strategies to communicate — sign language, gestures, pictures and an iPad. Any communication is good communication. If you’re working with an iPad and they want to sign for a drink, accept that behavior because you don’t want to discourage any type of communication.

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Respect the child’s voice.

If the iPad is going to be their voice, you have to treat it as such. You can’t take away a child’s voice, even if they’ve asked to go to the park a hundred times in the last hour!

As for parents’ concerns that AAC systems could hinder a child’s ability to one day speak on their own, research shows just the opposite. Once a student understands how communication works, their verbal spoken output often increases.

For Cindy Seiler, whose 5 year-old son Denver has autism and is nonverbal, the iPad has been transformational both in and out of Nichols’ classroom. “It’s been a godsend. He can ‘say’ things like, ‘Want cracker,’ or ‘Want milk,’ or tell me what’s hurting,” she says. “When there are those moments of frustration and he can’t communicate, the second he gets the iPad in his hands, he’ll stop crying, and he’ll tell me what he wants or what he needs.” Seiler also likes that Denver’s iPad doesn’t make him stand out at school, where tablet technology is now common in the classroom.

Experts suggest that parents of children who use AAC apps learn how to navigate the technology themselves so they can help troubleshoot any problems at home. Parents should contact their school district to inquire about training. Local organizations like Easter Seals Crossroads also offer opportunities for training, so look into the community support available to help your child take advantage of the innovative technology available right at his or her fingertips.

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As for parents’ concerns that AAC systems could hinder a child’s ability to one day speak on their own, research shows just the opposite. Once a student understands how communication works, their verbal spoken output often increases.

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HOME SCHOOLING KIDS with SPECIAL NEEDS

How this educational option can benefit those struggling in traditional classrooms Maggie Loiselle

Where can students with special needs get the individual support, customized lesson plans and flexible schedule to help them thrive? For a growing number of Indiana families, the answer isn’t in a traditional classroom; it’s at home.

Indiana is widely considered one of the best places to homeschool because the state doesn’t impose any curriculum or program requirements, only that students receive 180 days of instruction per year “equivalent to that given in the public schools.”

That flexibility, supporters say, can be ideal for children with all types of special needs, from those with attention issues who function best with frequent breaks and fewer distractions, to children who learn best from hands-on instruction and medically sensitive children who need careful monitoring.

Kay’s story: “He didn’t belong either place” For Kay, a Columbus mom of 6 year-old twins with special needs, her homeschooling journey began after a string of classroom frustrations for her more severely developmentally delayed son, who regressed in developmental preschool and was acting out in his regular kindergarten classroom.

“He didn’t belong either place. He wasn’t going to thrive when separated from typical kids, and he needed more attention than they could give him in a traditional classroom,” says Kay, an elementary teacher by trade. “But I knew what he was like at home. I knew he had more potential than they were giving him credit for.”

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The family made the decision to pull the twins from the traditional school setting in favor of the flexibility and individualized learning opportunities available through homeschooling.

“I can give them both more one-on-one attention than they could ever get in a classroom with more than 20 kids,” Kay says.

“And it’s a blessing because instead of spending most of their time with other people, we get to spend time together as a family now.”

The changing culture of homeschooling Kay’s story is indicative of the changing culture of homeschooling in Indiana, says Alison Slatter, who works on the Indiana Association of Home Educators’ government relations team.

While many families opt out of traditional schools for religious reasons, an increasing number are discovering the option for their kids who are struggling in the classroom.

“Especially when you have children with special needs, you as a parent spend more time fighting the administration, setting up (Individualized Education Programs) and scheduling around tutoring or therapy than you would if you just taught them yourself,” Slatter says.

A longtime homeschooling advocate, Slatter learned that lesson firsthand when her two oldest children, now 9 and 6, began showing signs of dyslexia. Her teaching style has adapted to their learning style, with plenty of interaction and movement to keep their

attention, more in-depth and hands-on lessons and the ability to make adjustments on the fly.

“I remember introducing a new math concept to my son, and I realized he wasn’t ready,” Slatter recalls. “So we put that lesson away for six weeks, and when we got it out again, he did it in 10 minutes. I get to give my kids time to really process and learn.”

One of the most common concerns Slatter fields from parents who are considering homeschooling is the fear that they aren’t qualified or patient enough to teach their children, especially those with special needs.

But she points to a growing number of readymade curriculums, online communities and local groups designed to support homeschoolers.

“There are so many resources now, and we’re very supportive to one another,” Slatter says.

“You get to learn right along with your kids.

What a great example! This isn’t me imparting my knowledge onto you, we’re in this together.”

Special needs-specific homeschooling resources can be found on the Indiana Association of Home Educators’ website (www.iahe.net) and on the Indiana Foundation for Home Schooling’s page (www.indiana homeschooling.org). The Indiana Department of Education also provides homeschool information at www.doe.in.gov/studentservices/home-school.

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NOVEMBER SPECIAL NEEDS EVENTS

SPECIAL NEEDS CALENDAR

FRI 13 An Evening For Autism Location: Mansion At Oak Hill, Carmel Time: 6:30-11:30pm http://aefa2015.auction-bid.org/micro2.php

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Join Answers for Autism and Talk About Curing Autism for the 3rd Annual An Evening For Autism! The evening will include a full, sit down meal with dessert, cocktails, silent auction, and music and dancing with Indiana’s own Dave and Rae.

Collaborative & Proactive Solutions: Understanding and Helping Students with Social, Emotional and Behavioral Challenges

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Location: Avon Middle School North, Avon Time: 8am-3pm www.iidc.indiana.edu/pages/ross-greene-workshop This is the empirically supported model Dr. Ross Greene describes in his influential books “The Explosive Child” and “Lost at School.” Participants in this workshop will leave with an understanding of the underpinnings of the model, along with practical assessment and intervention tools that can be brought back to and used in these diverse settings.

Special Needs Movie Screening “The Peanuts Movie” Location: Studio Movie Grill, Indianapolis Time: 11am www.studiomoviegrill.com/Movies.aspx Family friendly movies are free for children with special needs and their siblings, with adult tickets available for before-noon price. The movies are shown with the lights up and the volume lowered, and children are free to move around, talk or even dance in the aisles during the movie.

S AT 07 Lights Up, Sound Down “The Peanuts Movie” Location: Hamilton 16 IMAX, Noblesville Time: 10am www.goodrichqualitytheaters.com/programs/ lights-up-sound-down/ Goodrich Quality Theaters is proud to present Lights Up, Sound Down (LUSD), a monthly program open to everyone, but specifically giving families & children with Autism and sensory issues the opportunity to enjoy their favorite movies in a comfortable, sensory – friendly setting with the lights turned up and volume turned down in the auditorium. RSVP for FREE tickets to attend. This program is sponsored by WestPoint Financial.

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Epilepsy Foundation Community Awareness Day

Catherine Davies, M.Ed., M.Sc., LMHC, will speak at this Parent Group Meeting presented by Indiana Resource Center for Autism. The content will be geared toward family members of individuals who have a diagnosis along the autism spectrum.

T H U R S 19 Johnson County Autism Support Group Parent Share Location: Mt. Auburn UMC Time: 6:30-8pm http://jcasg.org/ The Holidays are often a challenge for our children and families. Our second meeting is designed for parents to share their helpful tips of getting through the holidays.

Please enter through Door #4 when you arrive.

S AT 21 Strikes for Special Olympics Indiana

www.epilepsy.com/indiana

http://soindiana.org/strikes-for-special-olympicsindiana

Learn more about epilepsy at this afternoon of educational activities and family fun. There will also be community resources and support available for epilepsy patients to explore, professional speakers and a children’s play area.

Free event and free parking.

Four bowlers will be allowed per team with a minimum $200 donation per team. All proceeds benefit Special Olympics Indiana athletes! For more information, please contact Stephanie Manner (smanner@soindiana.org) and register online to join.

W E D 18 Autism Family Resource Center Parents’ Support Group

Location: Check website Time: 6:30pm

www.eastersealscrossroads.org/parents-supportgroup

www.dsindiana.org/DADS.php

The Parents’ Support Group for parents of children with autism meets monthly at the Autism Family Resource Center at Easter Seals Crossroads.Their goal is to provide support and information to families living with autism. If you are a parent or caregiver of a child with autism, you are invited to join us to share your thoughts and ideas and learn from others.

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www.iidc.indiana.edu/pages/parent-group-meetings

Location: Woodland Bowl, Indianapolis Time: 12-4pm

Down Syndrome Indiana D.A.D.S.

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Location: Earlywood Education Center, Franklin Time: 6:30-8pm

Location: IU Goodman Hall, Indianapolis Time: 1-4pm

Location: Easter Seals Crossroads, Indianapolis Time: 5:30-7pm

Join the central Indiana DADS — Dads Appreciating Down Syndrome — for food and fellowship. The group’s mission is to assist and support, through fellowship and action, the fathers and families of individuals with Down syndrome.

Puberty & Sexual Health in Individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorders

[FOR MORE EV E N TS OR TO BE INCLUDED IN OUR MON T HLY SPECI AL NEEDS C ALE NDAR] G O TO W W W. I N DY S C H I LD.C O M!

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SPECIAL NEEDS RESOURCES

SPECIAL NEEDS GUIDE ABA Autism Services by Damar ABA provides proven research-based treatments and interventions for children with Autism and their families, ensuring that children learn, gain confidence and purpose, and engage in meaningful interactions in their everyday lives. 9905 Fall Creek Road, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Kristin Dovenmuehle, Director, Phone: 317-8134690, Email: info@damar.org, www.DamarABA.org

Applied Behavior Center for Autism Carmel CENTER ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Our new Carmel center is also home to our state-of-the-art indoor, therapeutic pool.

This is home to our special needs swim lessons and free open swim days. 1341 Old Merdian St, Carmel, IN 46032 , Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-573-KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www.applied behaviorcenter.org, www.facebook.com/autismhope

Applied Behavior Center for Autism Early Childhood Center ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Our Early Childhood Center (ECC) is a highly specialized center in which clients ages 2-6 grow and develop through individualized programming, typical peer interaction, and early intervention ABA therapy. 7857 E. 88th St, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-849-KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www.appliedb ehaviorcenter.org, www.facebook.com/autismhope

Applied Behavior Center for Autism Greenwood CENTER ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Our beautiful Greenwood facility offers individualized one-on-one therapy programs for children and teens ages 2 and older. 374 Meridian Parke Lane, Greenwood, IN 46142, Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-889-KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@applied behaviorcenter.org, www.applied behaviorcenter.org, www.facebook.com/autismhope

Applied Behavior Center for Autism IndIANAPOLIS North CENTER ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Indy North is our corporate office which also offers individualized one-on-one therapy programs for children and teens ages 2 and older. 7901 E. 88th St, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-849KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@applied behaviorcenter.org, www.appliedbehavior center.org, www.facebook. com/autismhope

Easter Seals Crossroads

Offering comprehensive disability services for people of all ages. Early Intervention, Autism Services, PT, OT, Speech Therapy, Feeding/Swallowing issues, Augmentative Communication, Assistive Technology, Multi-sensory Therapy Rooms, Summer Camps, Life/Social Skills Groups, Deaf Community Services, Autism Family Resource Center, 4740 Kingsway Drive, Indianapolis, IN 46205, Phone: 317-466-1000, Email: info@ eastersealscrossroads.org, http://www. eastersealscrossroads.org

HEAR INDIANA Applied Behavior Center for Autism IndIANAPOLIS West CENTER ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Our Indy West center is proud to offer individualized one-on-one therapy programs for children and teens ages 2 and older.

6865 Parkdale Place, Indianapolis, IN 46254, Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-849-KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@ appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www.applied behaviorcenter.org, www.facebook.com/autismhope

Autism Parent Care, LLC Offering one to one intervention to children and adults with autism. Academic subjects and ABA included.

Insurance Billable. 395 S 9th St Noblesville, Phone: 317-503-1296

For over 40 years, Hear Indiana has helped deaf and hard of hearing children achieve their full potential. Our mission is to empower children with hearing loss who communicate through listening and spoken language, and to support their families on this journey​. Hear Indiana offers a full range of diagnostic audiology services to evaluate hearing status from newborns to teenagers. ​​We also have speech-language patholog​ists who specialize in teaching children with hearing loss​to listen and speak through the use of amplification and/or cochlear implant.

Hear more at HearIndiana.org, 317-828-0211, info@ SHRCindiana.org. We accept most major insurance​plans​ as well as Medicaid.

Maria Montessori International Academy

Want a unique way to educate your child? Try MEBA! Montessori Education with Behavioral Analysis (MEBA) all in One! Half days or full time for working families.

Practical Life skills, OT, PT and Speech Therapy.

Zionsville, Carmel and Indianapolis locations, Contact: Vivian Cain, Phone: 317-769-2220, mariamontessori-intl.org

BEHAVIORWORKS ABA We work with you! BehaviorWorks provides Early Intervention for Autism and Indiana Medicaid Waiver Behavior Support Services. BehaviorWorks is a team you can grow with. We use the evidence-based strategies of ABA to create effective behavioral solutions. Are you looking for a fresh perspective? Take action for positive change with BehaviorWorks. 8206 Rockville Road No. 146, Indianapolis, IN 46234, Contact: Ann Baloski, Executive Director, Phone: 317-436-0037, Email: info@ behaviorworksaba.com, www.behaviorworksaba.com

Children's Therapy Connection We’ve grown! Come check out our brand new location, now with more resources than ever to help connect your child with their potential. Services include: First Steps, PT, OT, and Speech/Feeding Therapy, Social Work/Counseling, Social Skills/Communication/Feeding Groups, Kindermusik, Hanen Programs, and Therapeutic Yoga for Kids. We strive to be the provider of choice in central Indiana for quality, comprehensive, and family-centered pediatric therapy services for families of children with disabilities. Visit our website or follow us on Facebook to see how we have grown! 7478 Shadeland Station Way, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Phone: 317-288-7606, Email: info childrenstherapy connection.com, http:// childrenstherapyconnection.com

St. Joseph Institute for the Deaf St. Joseph Institute for the Deaf (SJI) is Indiana's only full-time school dedicated to helping young children (birth to age 8) who are deaf or hard of hearing develop spoken language and literacy skills with the focus of transitioning into their local, community school. Dramatic advances in technology, including sophisticated hearing aids and cochlear implants, give children with significant hearing loss access to sound. With appropriate speech therapy, auditory rehabilitation and language training, children are able to develop spoken language skills. St. Joseph Institute offers a variety of Listening and Spoken Language programs including: early intervention services, internet therapy, full-time preschool program, mainstream support, ongoing consultation, and comprehensive educational training opportunities for families and professionals. With over 175 years of experience, we are professional leaders in the field of Listening and Spoken Language education.

Visit our website for more information. 9192 Waldemar Road, Indianapolis, IN 46268, Phone: 317-471-8560, www.sjid.org

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OPEN HOUSE VISIT Sarah Bricker-Hunt

What to ask to get the most out of the experience

Visiting multiple school open houses in a short time frame can become a dizzying blur.

What key areas should parents hone in on during this brief window into a school’s environment? We reached out to several private schools in the Indianapolis area for some “insider tips” on navigating this sometimes overwhelming process.

{What to expect} Each school will handle their open house experience in a different way. For example, The Orchard School offers multiple open house options – one includes student ambassadors who lead prospective parents on a tour of the school and another occurs during the school day so parents can see students “in action,” according to Grace Trahan-Rodecap, Marketing and Public Relations Director.

At Cathedral High School, an “Irish Welcome” features an optional mass, freshman and senior speakers and the school’s band and choir. The goal is for students to get a feel for the “true spirit” of Cathedral, says Duane Emery, Vice President for Enrollment Management At Brebeuf Jesuit Preparatory School, President Fr. Jack Dennis, S.J. says the focus is on connecting parents directly with the entire school community, with a large number of students pitching in and volunteering to give building tours to families and answer questions directly.

Visitors to a Heritage Christian School open house are treated to a meal and given individualized tours of the school and athletic facilities. Amy Byrne, Director of Admissions and Human Resources, says this year families can even take a sneak peek at the fall musical Mary Poppins.

What questions and suggestions do these school representatives have when visiting an open house?

Here’s a brief list:

• How do you support students who are struggling?

• Do you offer any unique academic programs?

{Mission/Philosophy}

• How much scholarship money do students usually earn at your school?

• What is your school’s primary philosophy or mission?

• What types of financial assistance are available?

• How do you incorporate this philosophy or mission into the various aspects of the school culture?

{School Environment}

• Why have you chosen to work at this school?

What about it appeals to you?

• Look at the configuration of classroom and group study areas to assess technology integration.

• How would you describe the atmosphere of the school? (Ask current students if possible.)

• Get a sense for the space and whether it reflects a top-down or collaborative learning approach.

{Academics}

• What is the average class size?

• How do teachers differentiate instruction for students working at various levels?

• How do teachers and school leaders prepare students for college?

• What is your school’s approach to reading in the early years?

• What are the students’ goals for writing across the curriculum?

• How do you integrate technology into the classroom?

• What academic clubs, sports and electives are available?

• What kind of standardized testing do you do?

• Do you offer dual credit and advanced placement classes?

• Note whether students seem active and happy in their work.

• Pay attention to whether students move easily between groups in the hallways or student areas.

• Observe student-teacher interaction after class and note whether students engage with teachers.

• Look for student projects or artwork and where it is displayed throughout the school.

• Look for representation of how the school embraces diversity.

Be sure to jot down notes during your visit and take some time to write down your impressions soon after you leave as well. This will help keep all the information you’ve received organized and help you and your student make a final decision. After your visit, make sure to contact the school representative with any questions you may have forgotten to ask or get clarification on any issues important to you. Being prepared in advance of your open house visit will help ensure that you’ve made the best choice possible for your student.

Good luck!

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Ask the Teacher Reading requirements, writing feedback and advanced readers Deb Krupowicz

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My son’s teacher requires him to read for twenty minutes five nights a week. We spend twice that amount of time trying to get him to complete the reading.

I am sure these battles will result in him hating to read. How can I make this a positive experience?

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Significant factors in creating a good reading experience are the level of the material and the subject matter. Help your son select a book about something he enjoys with a reading level that is easy for him.

This should help pique his interest and keep him from feeling frustrated. Types and levels of books can be adjusted later.

Create a positive environment for reading that is relatively free from distractions. Engage your son by reading alongside him. If that does not work, read together. Read a paragraph or a page and have him read the next one. Periodically stop to talk about what you have read. Involve other readers in the house if they are available to help keep the atmosphere light.

Another option is to check out audio books from your local library along with their hard copies.

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reading the first 25-30 pages aloud so that your son becomes hooked on the particular story.

If focusing is a challenge, set a timer for ten minutes and encourage him to do something physical like jumping jacks for just a minute or two, then return to ten minutes of reading.

Gradually increase the amount of time spent reading by small increments. Decrease the duration of the breaks. In no time, your son will be reading for the full allotment required.

You can also try turning the assignment into a challenge. Make a chart and graph how long your son is reading without becoming distracted or without complaining.

When he meets the 20 minute challenge, offer a small reward like doing his chores the next day.

Perhaps seeing his own progress will be the encouragement he needs to persevere.

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I am really disappointed in my fifth grader’s writing experience at school. His teacher encourages the students to write, but he does not provide feedback about what he sees – positive or negative. How can I help?

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There are many theories about how writing skills develop best in children.

Some suggest that by reading good writing, good writers are born. Others think that by writing a great deal, skills improve. Both reading and writing practice are important to developing writers, but instruction and feedback are necessary to help children become effective writers.

Start by using the pieces that your son has already written for school.

Use those pieces to determine if he is writing clearly. To help him understand where clarification is needed, look at the thesis or topic sentence first. Discuss whether everything in the piece contributes to the topic. If the body of the writing needs clarification, jot down a question that the writing creates in your mind on a sticky note. Limit yourself to a couple of questions per selection.

Have your son incorporate the answers into his writing.

As you see that his writing has become clearer, give some attention to the mechanics of the piece. Typically, a student will hear errors in punctuation or word usage if he reads the piece out loud.

When his piece is clearly and correctly written, circle a few words for him to “spice up” with more interesting vocabulary choices. Finally, underline a sentence or two for him to write in a variety of ways to help him understand how to vary the structure of his sentences.

These steps should result in improved writing without adding significantly to your son’s work load.

Q:

How do I find books to help my daughter grow as a reader? She is reading well above her peers, but her school library does not seem to have books at her level.

A:

Matching high level readers with appropriate reading material is certainly a challenge. Most elementary schools do not house books beyond the highest level of students in their buildings, making it very difficult for fourth, fifth or sixth grade students to find challenging books.

The classics are the answer.

The vocabulary is much richer and the sentence structure much more complex than contemporary literature. The problems that are explored in the books are presented in a way that is appropriate for middle grade readers. Consult the librarian at your community library or conduct an online search for a good list of titles.

Michael Clay Thompson’s Classics in the Classroom is a great resource. Thompson articulates well the case for reading classic literature and provides a thorough categorized list indicating appropriate ages for reading particular books.

[ A sk the T eacher ] is written by Deb Krupowicz, a mother of four who holds a Master’s degree in Curriculum and Instruction. Deb has over twenty years of experience teaching preschool, elementary and middle school students. Please send your questions to her at asktheteacher@ indyschild.com.

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E D U C AT I O N A N D CHILDCARE GUIDE [SCHOOLS & EDUCATION] carmel Carmel Montessori Schools, Inc. Carmel Montessori School is located on the beautiful campus at St. Christopher’s Church on the NE corner of Main St. and Meridian in Carmel. Our directress is American Montessori Certified with 16 years head-teaching experience. We offer a beautiful, peaceful and positive Montessori learning environment. Extended days available.

1402 W. Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Emily & Scott Rudicel, Phone: 317-580-0699, Email: info@carmelmontessori. com, carmelmontessori.com

Clay Montessori A Montessori school offering morning, afternoon, and full-day programs. Available for ages 3-6 years old. Call for more information. (Affiliated with Fisher’s Montessori) 463 East Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Peggy White, 317-849-9519 or 317-580-1850

Maria Montessori International Academy (Carmel) “Can your 4 year old read this?” OURS CAN! Come discover why our programs are so successful that our kindergartens are in advance reading and math in first grade at both Zionsville and Carmel Public Schools! The program offers education for infants, toddlers, Pre-K, kindergarten, and elementary across subjects, even for very young children, including math, science, Spanish, art and music, as well as reading and writing. 3500 106th St. & Shelborne (Holy Trinity Orthodox Greek Church), Carmel, IN 46032, Phone: 317-769-2220, Cost/Tuition: please call, www.maria montessori-intl.org

Minds-in-Motion, Inc. Minds-in-Motion is a brain-training program based on NASA technology. It utilizes a unique blend of balance exercises, gymnastics and applied technology, all focused on strengthening the brains ability to process and organize information. Minds-in-Motion builds stronger bodies and smarter minds! 879 West Carmel Drive, Carmel, IN 46032,

Contact: Candace Meyer, Phone: 317-571-8752, Hours: 10-week Fall, Winter & Spring sessions + 4-week Intensive Summer, Email: info@mimlearning.com, www.mimLearning. com, Hours/Dates: 10-week Fall, Winter & Spring sessions + 4-week Intensive Summer Sessions, Ages/Grades: 3-18

Starting Line Preschool The Right Start for A Lifelong Love of Learning! Our strong academic-based curriculum prepares and encourages your child to succeed in school while discovering learning is fun!

All of our classes focus on an introduction to colors, number and letters with exciting art and science projects. Math, social studies and sight words are taught in the older classes.Develop Social Awareness & Friendships, Build Confidence and Master Academic Skills for Kindergarten. 110 Third Ave NE,

Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Diane Atkins, Phone: 317-7539397, Email: dkatkins22@msn.com, http://www.

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students from diverse religious, ethnic and socio-economic backgrounds. Students at Brebeuf Jesuit are called to discover and cultivate the fullness of their God-given talents as a responsibility and as an act of worship. CORE VALUES: Education of the Whole Person, A Caring and Diverse Community, The Greater Glory of God. 2801 W 86th St, Indianapolis, IN 46268. Contact: Liz Otteson, Director of Admissions. Phone: 317-524-7090. Email: admissions@brebeuf. org, www.brebeuf.org

Fall Creek Montessori Academy Fall Creek Montessori Academy is a culturally diverse environment where children grow and develop their unique talents and gifts. Through child-centered learning, children excel physically, academically and emotionally.

Conveniently located one mile east of I-69 on 96th St. FCMA serves children at all levels. Programs are available two to five days per week. 8888 Fitness Ln, Fishers, IN 46037, Contact: Diana Brugh, Phone: (317) 436-8606, Email: diana@ fallcreekmontessori.com, www.fallcreekmontessori.com

Children’s Circle Preschool at Second Presbyterian Church

Fishers Montessori

Children’s Circle Preschool is a developmentally appropriate, activity based, Christian preschool. We offer classes for children ages 9 months to 5 years old. We meet the needs of the whole child in a creative and loving environment. Our experienced staff embraces excellence in education by nurturing the whole child- physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Please call for more information or to set up a tour. 7700 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Cara Paul, Director, 317-252-5517, cpaul@secondchurch.org, www.childrenscircle.org

A quality learning environment offering preschool, kindergarten and elementary. Certification through American Montessori Society.

12806 Ford Rd and 131st and Allisonville Rd., Fishers, IN 46038, Contact: Peggy White, 317-849-9519 or 317-580-1850

Children’s Day In Nursery School and Traditional Preschool

indianapolis // EAST Paramount School of Excellence PSoE is a kindergarten through 8th grade urban charter school with innovative technology and state-of-the-art educational practices. PSoE offers a unique vision for developing students as caring young adults that respect themselves, their environment and learn as independent thinkers. Through intuitive curricular design, robotics, wind turbines and green practices, students will receive a solid foundation for real world problem solving. 3020 Nowland Ave, Indianapolis, IN 46201, Phone: 800.778.9334, Email: info@paramountschool.org

indianapolis // north Beth-El Zedeck Early Childhood Center OPEN TO THE PUBLIC. Full Academic Curriculum and Innovative ArtsEnrichment. Our Program recognizes that intellectual, social, emotional and physical development are interwoven. Our children will thrive on exploration, creativity, curiosity, discovery, spontaneity and more important, lots of love!

Type of School: Early Childhood Cost/Tuition: Please call or email for full brochure Hours/Dates: Flexible Hours. Full Time/ Part-Time available. Ages/Grades: 12 months old+, 18 months old+, 2s+, 3s+, 4s+, Pre-Kindergarten (Kindergarten Readiness Class)(3 day or 5 day option) Before/After School Care: Before and After School Care always available as needed. Early drop off as early as 7:30 am and late pick up anytime up until 6:00pm/5:30 pm on Fridays. 600 W. 70th St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Joanie Waldman, Phone: 317-259-6854, Fax: 317-259-6849, Email: jwaldman@bez613.org, www.bez613.org

The Children's Day In Nursery School is a fully inclusive early childhood program with an emphasis on Christian values. It is designed to offer children ages 9 months to 3 years a positive and developmentally appropriate experience in the care of experienced caregivers. We play and learn! Classes are offered weekdays from 9 am to 2:30 pm. The Children's Day In Traditional Preschool program provides a quality developmentally appropriate education for 3, 4 and 5 year olds.

Our program includes weekly Christian Life Skills, First Steps in Music (ICC) and Book Club. Summer Camp CDI is our 4-week summer program for children ages 9 months to age 5 years.

Classes are offered on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Summer Camp CDI runs the month of June.

Please call, E-mail or visit for further information and registration forms. 5500 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Christy Whaley, Phone: 317-253-0472, cwhaley@meridianstreet. org, www.meridianstreet.org

A Children’s Habitat Montessori School For over 40 years, A Children's Habitat Montessori School has been providing a place where children thrive and discover their love of learning. Habitat provides a traditional Montessori school experience for families seeking a half-day preschool and kindergarten, or full-day elementary program.

We are a not-for-profit school based on the principles of Maria Montessori, and we are fully accredited by the American Montessori Society. For more information, visit our website: www.childrens-habitat.org. Hours/Dates: Monday - Friday Regular Day 8:30-11:30 Extended Day 11:30-1:30 Kindergarten 11:30-1:30. Ages/Grades: 18 months - 6 years. 801 W. 73 Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Carmen Nieves, Phone: (317)726-5584, Email: info@ childrens-habitat.org, http://www.childrens-habitat.org

Brebeuf Jesuit Preparatory School You are invited to visit the only Catholic Jesuit school in the state of Indiana that has been educating students in the Jesuit tradition for more than 50 years. Brebeuf Jesuit’s Mission Statement: Brebeuf Jesuit, a Catholic and Jesuit school, provides an excellent college preparatory education for a lifetime of service by forming leaders who are intellectually competent, open to growth, loving, religious and committed to promoting justice. Fostering a culture of understanding and dialogue, Brebeuf Jesuit seeks and welcomes

Early Childhood Center, The Church at the Crossing Our Mothers Day Out (12-35 mos) and Preschool (3 yrs-PreK’s) programs provide relaxed, playful, secure environments that nurture creativity and encourage the exploration of God’s world, with a wide variety of learning materials & readiness skills woven through each unit. Need longer hours? Try our child care ministry, The Neighborhood,

designed for 16 mos-PreK. 9111 N. Haverstick Rd., Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: John Drake or Kelly Belt, Phone: 317-5756508, Fax: 317-575-6509, Email: jdrake@golove.org or kbelt@ golove.org

Fairview Early Childhood Program Fairview ECP has been a part of the Meridian Kessler community for over 22 years. We offer a developmentally appropriate, experienced based curriculum in a warm and inclusive environment. Our program is designed to promote positive social behavior, respect for diversity, and encourages independence, creativity and critical thinking skills. 4609 N. Capital Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Tracy Cooper, Director, Phone: 317-253-4990, Email: tcooper@ fairviewpresbyterian.org, Hours: 8:30 - 5:15 Monday through Friday, www.fairviewearlychildhoodprogram.com

St. Richard’s Episcopal School

Friendship Kids Preschool & Childcare

SRES strives for academic excellence through its classic curriculum with innovative teaching methods; it also provides preparation and knowledge in areas such as faith, leadership, civic responsibility, and global readiness. St. Richard’s offers a rigorous academic curriculum, three world languages, public speaking and leadership opportunities, a strong fine arts program and organized athletics for continued lifetime success. Our newly redesigned Early Childhood Program uses brain-based research and proven instructional practices that lay the foundation in math and literacy skills. The program features unique field experiences, community partnerships, year-round offerings, and a full-day curriculum along with part-time options. 33 E. 33rd Street, Indianapolis, IN 46205, Contact: Abby Williams, Director of Admission and Communications, 317-926-0425 x134, Fax: 317-921-3367, awilliams@strichardsschool.org, www.strichardsschool.org

Friendship Kids Preschool & Childcare is all about preparing your child for their academic futures by providing fun, interactive activities that engage your child's 5 senses, while also learning about God! Learning should be fun, so we incorporate play in all of our activities! Check us out at friendshipkids.com! 963 E Worthsville Road, Greenwood, IN 46143, Contact: Jessica Seelye, Phone: 317-535-2544, Email: jessica@experiencefriendship.com

Sycamore School Heritage Christian School Established in 1965, accredited through ACSI and NCA, HCS is the choice in college preparatory discipleship Christian education for 1,400 students each year grades Preschool-12.

Advanced, Honors and AP classes. Full Fine Arts and 2A IHSAA ATHLETICS. HCS is training up the next generation of Christian leaders through challenging, Biblically taught curriculum including internships and service to others. Bus transportation available. Schedule a tour today! 6401 E. 75th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46250. Contact: Admissions Department, 317-849-3441, Admissions@heritagechristian.net, www.heritagechristian.net

Maria Montessori International Academy (INDIANAPOLIS) “Can your 4 year old read this?” OURS CAN! Come discover why our programs are so successful that our kindergartens are in advance reading and math in first grade at both Zionsville and Carmel Public Schools! The program offers education for infants, toddlers, Pre-K, kindergarten, and elementary across subjects, even for very young children, including math, science, Spanish, art and music, as well as reading and writing. 7507 N. Michigan Road, Indianapolis, IN 46268, Phone: 317-291-5557, Cost/Tuition: please call, www.mariamontessori-intl.org

Montessori Centres Peace and respect for all is our main goal. Montessori Centres has worked with children to develop critical-thinking and time-management skills since 1966. Montessori-certified lead teachers serve children aged 3-3rd grade. Classroom structure and materials allow children to be self-directed and self-paced.

Our well-rounded curriculum includes French and Spanish, art, science, computer skills, grace and courtesy, social studies, nature and outdoor gardening. 563 West Westfield Blvd., Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Lynn Boone, Director, Phone: 317-257-2224, Fax: 317-257-3034, Email: montessoricentres@ sbcglobal.net, www.montessoricentres.com/

The Orchard School The Orchard School, an independent, non-sectarian, progressive school, emphasizing experiential learning. Orchard teachers engage the natural curiosity of children, develop academic excellence, and provide leadership experience through wellrounded education. Orchard’s diverse community and commitment to multicultural education inspires responsible, global citizenship. Founded in 1922. NAIS, ISACS, NAEYS accredited. 615 W. 64th St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Kristen Hein, Director of Admissions, Phone: 317-713-5705, Fax: 317-254-8454, Email: khein@orchard.org, www.orchard.org

At Sycamore, teachers trained in gifted education deliver a curriculum designed to challenge and engage gifted learners.

Art, music, Spanish, PE and technology are taught at all levels.

Extensive field trips, athletics, child care, financial aid, and a wide variety of after school activities are offered. 1750 W. 64th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Dr. Susan Karpicke, Director of Admissions. 317-202-2500, Fax: 317-202-2501, skarpicke@sycamoreschool.org, www.sycamoreschool.org

westfield Montessori School of Westfield, Inc. Located on 3 wooded acres in Central Indiana, the Montessori School of Westfield adheres to the academic traditions of Montessori while serving the present day child. The Montessori School of Westfield serves children from Indianapolis, Fishers, Carmel, Zionsville, Westfield, Sheridan, Noblesville, Cicero and Tipton. We serve children ages 18 months to 15 years. 800 E. Sycamore Street, Westfield, IN 46074, Contact: Mary Lyman, Directress, Phone: 317-867-0158, Fax: 317-896-5945, Email: montessori westfield@gmail.com, www.montessori schoolofwestfield.com

zionsville Advent Lutheran Preschool

indianapolis // northeast Metropolitan School District of Lawrence Township An “A” District, Lawrence Township offers a superior and diverse education pre-school through grade 12. Early Learning Centers appeal to the curiosity of the young child. Elementary schools provide strong academic foundations and progressive magnet foci. Secondary schools implement 1:1 technology and a growing list of rigorous courses and extracurricular activities. 6501 Sunnyside Road, Indianapolis, 46236, Contact: Welcome Center, Phone: 317-423-8200, Email: magnet@ msdlt.k12.in.us, www.ltschools.org

Polly Panda Preschool & Bridgford Kindergarten

Polly Panda provides a safe and healthy environment which enhances each child’s total growth. Our theme-based hands-on preschool program provides a wide-range of experiences that foster learning, creativity and problem solving in all areas. A child’s sense of self-worth, independence and growth in social skills are developed through positive interaction with peers and our well-qualified and loving staff. 2944 E. 56th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46220, Contact: Gail Hacker and Tammy Clark, Phone: 317-257-9127, Email: thepanda@pollypanda.com, www.pollypanda.com

indianapolis // SOUTH Center Grove Montessori and Indiana Montessori Community School Center Grove Montessori Program offers: Hands-on learning, multi-aged students learning together, a key element to the Montessori philosophy, a focus on the intrinsic motivation of children, carefully prepared classrooms balancing children's choice with structure, large blocks of uninterrupted time for learning and building concentration, peace education through global awareness, structured, self-directed learning. 1674 West Smith Valley Rd., Greenwood, IN 46142 and 531 US 31 S, White land, IN 46184, Contact: Brenda Enderle, Phone: 317-833-0335, Email: office@centergrovemontessori.com;info@ centergrovemontessori.com, http://www.center grovemontessori.com

Advent offers a Christian learning environment for children ages 2 through 5, including a half-day kindergarten. Our well-balanced program supports emotional, social, cognitive, physical and spiritual development. All children, regardless of faith or church affiliation, are welcome. Call to schedule a tour. 11250 N. Michigan Rd., Zionsville, IN 46077, Contact: Deb Trewartha, Phone: 317-8736318, Email: dtrewartha@adventlutheran.org, www.adventlutheran.org/298544.ihtml

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Footnotes: Thoughts from the margins of a mom’s life Tenderhearted resolutions

Kelly Blewett

I had taken two children swimming by myself, an ambitious move, especially as dinnertime was approaching. After giving rides on my back, blowing water through the noodle and floating around the whirl pool, it was time to go. But they did not want to leave. This was the beginning of a downward spiral that climaxed eight minutes later, when I found myself in a locker room with a boy who was alternately threatening to return to the pool to resume swimming and refusing to get in the shower. I had a feeling familiar to moms of young children on the verge of a tantrum: I’ve got to get out of here! Without showering the kids or even stripping off their swimsuits, I packed up the bags and hustled us toward the lobby.

When we reached the front, my daughter reached down to get a few stickers from a basket by the door. My son began to do the same. “Oh no, sir,” I said firmly. “No stickers for you after that behavior in the locker room.” “Noooo!” he cried as hot tears began to stream down his face. “Don’t take my stickers!” It was the quintessential meltdown moment. I picked him up, jostling the bags awkwardly and making apologetic faces to those around me as I hurried to the car. Appropriately enough, it was raining.

Once moving toward home, my daughter piped up. “You were very rude, William!” she cried. “You were very mean to Mommy and to me!” He shot back, “I was not!”

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and cried louder. I was keeping quiet, planning on a talk when we got home. I’d already issued a punishment back in the locker room (“No swimming on Friday”) and didn’t want to escalate things now. But I felt that my daughter was saying the things I wanted to say to my son. I was glad she was working him up, but then suddenly I realized that I shouldn’t be.

“Stop Caroline,” I said. “It’s not up to you to talk about William’s behavior.” And then to my complete surprise, William responded, “Thank you Mommy.” The anger had drained from his voice. A more peaceful feeling came into the car. What a tender little reversal! What did it mean? Upon more consideration, I think William’s feelings of isolation and shame diminished when I, having already punished him and removed him from the situation, came alongside him.

By not letting his sister tear him down, I communicated to William that I was with him and for him. Being passive in this situation would have been easy, and maybe even satisfying – but ultimately it wouldn’t have helped my boy. Staying attentive and in an alliance with our kids, even when it’s tough to do so, may lead to more sensitivity in conflict and more tenderhearted resolutions. As a mother who wants the affectionate bonds with my kids to stay strong even in the midst of a YMCA meltdown, I certainly hope so!

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A Dad Influence Screened out Pete Gilbert

during their fifteen minute recess (yes, fifteen minute recess.) They were restless at bedtime, whined when we told them to get off their screens and whined again asking when they could get back on their screens.

It wasn't working out.

Limiting screen time didn’t really help and eliminating screens altogether seemed a little unnecessary. My wife and I came up with a new plan, "No screens on school nights."

"No screens on school nights."

It's the newest rule around our house. Before you think I turned into the sinister dad that banned dancing in Footloose, hear me out. Screen time isn't evil; it just needs to be used in moderation.

Our family started out allowing two 15 minute sessions of screen time per day.

All was well. It became a problem when those 15 minutes turned into 30 minutes, then 45 minutes or longer. Our kids were coming home from school, arguing who was getting what screen, and spending far too much time playing Minecraft or watching kids play with toys on You Tube. (Why kids would prefer to watch someone play with a toy rather than actually play with a toy themselves is beyond me).

Our kids weren’t interacting with each other or with me or my wife. They weren't burning off any extra physical energy that didn't get out of their system

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In the two months since we started this new approach, it's worked really well for our family. The kids play together more, they are more creative, less whiny and go to bed easier at night, likely because they've exhausted themselves with physical play and they haven't been staring at the blue light of a screen for an hour right before bed. On the weekends, we go back to using tokens for screen time. Since our kids aren't on screens during the week, we don't feel bad if we let them stay on their devices a little longer on these days.

This system may not be for everyone, but if you're frustrated with your own kids’ relationship with whatever screen they choose, a “No screens on school nights” policy may be something to consider for your family too.

For links to all my blog posts please stop by my Facebook page and check out my all new page on the Indy’s Child web site (formerly True Confessions of a Stay at Home Dad). [Facebook.com/adadinfluence]

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D A I LY E V E N T S / / N O V E M B E R 2 0 1 5

NOV E MBER calendar SUN 01

FRI 06

Holliday Park Fall Festival

Children’s Museum After Dark: Sacred Journeys

Location: Holliday Park, Indianapolis, Time: 1:30-4:30pm, www.hollidaypark.org/

Celebrate autumn during the annual Holliday Park Fall Festival! Join the fun of music, a campfire, refreshments and exciting fall activities. Sponsored by the Friends of Holliday Park. FREE.

T U E S 03 The Day The Crayons Quit Storytime Location: Pottery Barn Kids, Fashion Mall At Keystone, Indianapolis, Time: 11am,

www.potterybarnkids.com/customerservice/store-events.html

Location: Children’s Museum Of Indianapolis, Time: 6-9pm, www.childrensmuseum.org/

visit/after-dark

Experience The Children’s Museum, After Dark! This recurring event series is exclusively for adults 21 and older and occurs after the museum closes to visitors. Eat, drink, mingle, and enjoy the one-of-a-kind 2015 exhibit lineup.

Family Friday Night Campfire at Holliday Park Location: Holliday Park, Indianapolis, Time: 6:30-8pm, www.hollidaypark.org/

calendars/2015/november2015.html

Enjoy weekly storytime at Pottery Barn Kids of the Fashion Mall where they read aloud some favorite children’s books for little and big ears. Become a book club member and receive a special gift after attending five storytimes. Will feature special activities around favorite kids book The Day The Crayons Quit.

Join for a fun family Friday night adventure around the campfire at Holliday Park. Each night focuses on a different topic and starts around the campfire. Holliday will provide the roasting sticks and s’mores, families are welcome to bring hot dogs and make a meal of it! Registration is required - $5/person.

Free LEGO Mini Build

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Location: The LEGO Store, Castleton Mall, Time: 5-8pm, http://shop.lego.com/en-US/

First Saturday Member Morning

The monthly mini model build has been a popular hands-on monthly event in LEGO® Stores since 2009! Visit the Castleton Mall LEGO Store on the first Tuesdays and Wednesday of every month to build a cool mini model, and take it home – for free! Due to safety and build experience standards, builders must be between the ages of 6-14 to participate. Registration is on a first come first serve basis and quantities are limited.

Registration is required to be done online or by calling the store directly. This event fills up fast so call early. {Takes place Wednesday, 11/4 as well.}

childrensmuseum.org/

MiniBuilds

Location: Children’s Museum, Indianapolis, Time: 9-10am, https://www.

Get your hands on all the fun an hour before everyone else! Enjoy all of your favorite exhibits at the Children’s Museum Of Indianapolis on the first Saturday of the month as the museum opens an hour early just for members. Ride the Carousel, scale the Rock Wall (a limited number of tickets available at 9am), and beat the crowds. No need to register ahead of time… just show up and start having a ball!

Family Day at the IMA: Secrets

T H U R S 05 Museum Of Miniatures Community Exhibit Opening Location: Birdie Gallery, Noblesville, Time: 10am-5pm, www.museumofminiatures.

org/events.html

The Museum Of Miniatures – a favorite family spot in Carmel – partners with the Noblesville Birdie Gallery to bring some of their collection to this northern spot. Exhibit will run through December.

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Location: Indianapolis Museum Of Art, Time: 10am-3pm, http://www.imamuseum.org/

familyactivities/family-day-gardensharvest

Each month, the Indianapolis Museum Of Art treats the local community to exciting Family Day programs on the first Saturday.

Every Family Day event is tailored to a specific topic so in November it’s a special ‘Secrets Day. Check out a morning Cereal Cinema screening of The Secret of NIMH in the Toby Theater, then join a special tour of

some of the museum’s best hidden secretes.

Hear untold stories about their collection and peak behind the curtain into the inner workings of the IMA. Head into the galleries to Take a Secret/Leave a Secret and predict your future with fun hands-on activities.

SUN 08 Lil Pop Up Class: Christmas Ornaments Location: Indianapolis Art Center, Broad Ripple, Time: 12-2pm, http://indplsartcenter.

org/

Pop-Ups are ‘art adventures in every medium’, or mini classes offered by the Indianapolis Art Center on a regular basis. This class is for special Christmas ornaments designed especially for ages 6-12. Come in to paint and decorate ceramic ornaments for the holidays.

Ornaments can be taken home when participants are done.

T U E S 10 Jungle Tales at Garfield Conservatory Location: Garfield Conservatory and Sunken Gardens, Indianapolis, Time: 10-11am, http://

garfieldgardensconservatory.org/

Bring your preschooler to this monthly program with a focus on the natural world at Garfield Park Conservatory. “Jungle Tales” touches on a different topic each month {for example last September was “All About Sunflowers!”}, and uses nature-related stories, activities and crafts to emphasize the focus.

Not only does the staff at Garfield Park Conservatory do a wonderful job with their curriculum and style, but the setting along sets itself apart from the typical classroom environment.

Jungle Jams: Preschool Rhythm Class Location: Brightwood Branch Library, Indianapolis, Time: 1pm, www.imcpl.org/

THURS 12 Prairie Tykes: Happy Harvest Location: Conner Prairie, Fishers, Time: 9:30-11am, www.connerprairie.org/

Things-To-Do/Events/2015/Prairie-Tykes-/ Prairie-Tykes Prairie Tykes is custom made for little ones and parents or grandparents! Connect one-on-one while you make crafts, dance, sing and take part in the special activity of the day.

This week, attendees will join for a harvesttime celebration such as grinding corn, trying a cornbread snack and learning about pioneer foods. Available other dates/times – see the website for full details.

FRI 13 Little Farmer’s Market: Healthy Eating Class For Preschoolers Location: Spades Park Branch, Indianapolis, Time: 2pm, www.imcpl.org/events/

detail/?event_id=4168

Preschoolers ages 3 - 6 and an adult are invited for a fun workshop with the Marion County Health Department to learn why fruits and vegetables are so fabulous! There'll be games, stories, and even a little snacking! This workshop includes food. All activities are peanut free.

S AT 14 DAN ZANES AND FRIENDS Location: The Tarkington, Time: 10 a.m. and 2 p.m., www.thecenterfortheperforming

arts.org

Grammy Award winner Dan Zanes puts on an exciting show where folk music, party songs, early rock-and-roll music and soulful originals collide. Dan Zanes has toured the world performing music designed for kids and his widely- acclaimed music has been featured on Sesame Street, Playhouse Disney, Nickelodeon, HBO Family and Sprout. Come sing, dance, listen, and learn with Dan Zanes!

events/detail/?event_id=4167

Preschoolers under the age of 6 and an adult are invited to get ready to move to the beat of their favorite jungle animals. Bongo Boy Music Center will bring animals to life by introducing basic rhythms and life skills, along with moving to the groove!

MON 16 Little Lab Preschool Science Workshop Location: Hamilton East Public Library Fishers Branch, Fishers, Time: 10-11am, http://hepl.

lib.in.us/evanced/

Kids are invited to join Professors Molly & Suann in exploring Science, Technology, Engineering, Art & Math. Each month we will READ, TALK, EXPLORE basic science

concepts; this month’s theme is about staying warm in the winter. Registration is required for this hands-on program designed for 3-6 year-olds and their caregivers. Perfect for inspiring budding scientists!

T U E S 17 The Big Friendly Giant {BFG} Onstage Location: Clowes Memorial Hall, Butler University Campus, Indianapolis, Time: 10am and 12pm, www.cloweshall.org/events/

by-month/november/event/809-the-bfgbig-friendly-giant

Join two misfits on an unforgettable odyssey, a 15-foot-tall vegetarian giant with vocabulary problems and a little orphan girl called Sophie. Together, Sophie and her new "jumbly" friend, the BFG (Big Friendly Giant) devise a plan to save the children of England from child-eating giants. Dahl’s personal favorite story comes to life with puppets and people creating a fantastical world of towering giants and magical adventures.

Shake Rattle And Roll Baby Music Class Location: Glendale Branch Library, Indianapolis, Time: 10:30am, http://www.

every swing and flip, George and his friend Chef Pisghetti take the audience through a fun-filled adventure where they learn more about Rome...and meatballs...and the “secret ingredient” to cooking!

Milk & Cookies Craft Time Time: 6-7pm, www.fishers.in.us/PARKS An ideal Christmas gift and a popular Pinterest craft, kids will love decorating a mug with different colored sharpies. While the mug is baking, children will layer ingredients and create the perfect cookie in a jar filled with cranberry and white chocolate oatmeal cookie fixings. Registration is required.

Family Film Festival: Alexander And The Terrible, Horrible No Good Very Bad Day Movie Location: Greenwood Public Library, Greenwood, Time: 6-8pm, http://

greenwoodlibrary.evanced.info/signup/ EventDetails.aspx?EventId=16118&lib=

Join in on free movie fun with the Greenwood Public Library. All ages are welcome to this showing of Disney’s Alexander And The Terrible, Horrible, No Good Very Bad Day and popcorn will be provided. FREE.

imcpl.org/events/detail/?event_id=3961 Babies up to age 2 and an adult are invited for an interactive musical program with Bongo Boy Music Center. This program will include the use of musical instruments, action songs and movement, and will require the participation of the caregiver.

T H U R S 19 Curious George Live Location: Clowes Memorial Hall, Butler University Campus, Indianapolis, Time: 10am and 12pm, http://www.cloweshall.org/

events/by-month/november/event/808curious-george

Join the inquisitive, lovable little monkey Curious George, star of books, movies and the award winning PBS television show in this delightful new musical. All–You-Can-Eat Meatball Day came just once a year. With

F R I 20 Parents Night Out at Urban Chalkboard Location: The Urban Chalkboard, Carmel, Time: 5-8pm, www.theurbanchalkboard.com/

All ages (children must be walking) are welcome to this fun Parents Night Out program. Staff will play, make a craft, eat pizza, and wind down with a movie in the studio. Bring jammies and a cozy blanket and your little ones will be ready for bed when you return. $30 first child, $15 additional children. Advanced reservation required.

Midnight Shopping On Mass Ave

Shop local, shop late. Enjoy all that Mass Ave has to offer on this late night of shopper devoted to helping customers get a jump start on their holiday shopping! Participating shops will be open until Midnight – including family favorite Mass Ave Toys! - so patrons can enjoy a late night of Indy's best shopping, dining and entertainment!

S AT 21 Greenwood A Glow Location: Greenwood Public Library, Greenwood, Time: 3-7pm, www.greenwood.

in.gov/

Each year Greenwood-A-Glow celebrates the Holiday season beginning with the Greenwood Public Library for crafts, shows, food and Santa Claus. The night caps with the annual Tree Lighting Ceremony at the Greenwood City Center. Perfect fun for all ages.

MON 2 3 Family Films at the Library Location: Carmel Clay Library, Carmel, Time: 10am and 11am, www.carmel.lib.in.us/

Join Library staff for a few short, action-packed films based on popular children's stories. Free tickets are required and available on a first-come, first-served basis at the Children's Reference Desk 30 minutes prior to the scheduled program start time. This program will be held in the Storytime Room and is for children ages 2-5 and their caregivers.

Santa and Mrs. Claus Helicopter Landing In Indianapolis Location: Indiana State Museum, downtown Indianapolis, www.indianamuseum.org/

The Celebration Crossing fun opens with holiday merriment from the sounds of bands and choirs to the arrival of Santa and Mrs. Claus on the front lawn of the Indiana State Museum by helicopter. This annual event is open to all ages and FREE. Museum admission separate.

Circle Of Lights Tree Lighting Ceremony Location: Soldiers and Sailors Monument, Monument Circle, downtown Indy, Time: 6pm,

www.visitindy.com/indianapolis-eventscircle-of-lights-tree-lighting

Circle of Lights kicks off each year on Monument Circle the day after Thanksgiving.

Each year one child is selected to help “flip the switch” with Santa and the Mayor. Families can visit Santa’s Workshop (complete with toy soldiers and sailors) try peppermint sticks, and find ornaments, elves in the workshop and an abundance of toys. Fireworks cap off the night.

S AT 28 Community Day at the IMA: Silent Night Location: Indianapolis Museum Of Art, Indianapolis, Time: 5-8pm, www.

imamuseum.org/special-event/ community-day-silent-night-0

F R I 27 Santa’s Big Arrival Location: Children’s Museum Of Indianapolis, Time: 8:30-10am, www.childrensmuseum.

org/visit/calendar/view/119

Ring in the holiday season with an exciting arrival of our jolliest celebrity! Participate in a fun family sing-along, be the first to explore the Jolly Days exhibit, and take your family picture with Santa!

The Silent Night program offers visitors the opportunity to explore the joy of silence on what is traditionally the wildest, most hectic weekend of the holiday season. Offering a relaxing alternative to shopping malls, advertisements, and crowds, Silent Night encourages families to take “slow-looking” tours around the galleries, listen in on a headphone concert, enjoy a reading room, massage and meditation spaces. Museum and Gardens are free all day.

Location: Mass Avenue, downtown Indianapolis, Time: 5pm-midnight, www.

facebook.com/events/444385509087042/

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ONGOING C ALE N DAR

Jolly Days November 21st through January 3, 2016 Location: Children’s Museum Of Indianapolis,

A Christmas Carol November 14th through December 26th Location: Indiana Repertory Theatre, www. irtlive.com/plays-and-events/2015-2016season/a-christmas-carol A favorite holiday tradition. Indy’s favorite holiday tradition returns for its 25th year at the IRT. Scrooge’s visits to the past, the present and the future bring us hope in the dark of winter, when we need it most. Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol celebrates the power of kindness, family and love in this beloved tale filled with laughter, tears and redemption.

Tickets start at $15.

Peter Rabbit And Me November 21st through December 20th Location: Indiana Repertory Theatre, www. irtlive.com/plays-and-events/2015-2016season/peter-rabbit-and-me Cherished characters and their playful adventures. Meet young Beatrix Potter as she first begins to reshape her everyday life into the enchanting world of Flopsy, Mopsy and Cottontail. Join Peter Rabbit on his exciting adventures in Farmer McGregor’s Garden.

This beloved classic is filled with humor,

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surprise, colorful characters and the simple magic of children’s imaginations. Tickets range from $8-$20.

Celebration Crossing At Indiana State Museum November 27th through December 31st Location: Indiana State Museum,

www.indianamuseum.org/ The wonder of Christmas arrives to the Indiana State Museum with the annual Celebration Crossing excitement. Families will enjoy seeing the showroom-style Santa’s House, live holiday music, holiday meals in the L.S. Ayres Tea Room, rides aboard the sweet L.S. Ayres train, and cheerful activities on the lawn of Santa’s home.

Conservatory Crossing November 27th through December 31st Location: Garfield Conservatory and Sunken Gardens, http://garfieldgardens

conservatory.org/events.html Enjoy the wonderland of the Garfield Conservatory as they transform their inner

lobby into a beautiful winter paradise. See the Conservatory decked out in its holiday best with a brilliant display of poinsettias and enjoy model trains, train village and thousands of twinkling lights. Display done with support from The Indiana Rail Road Company.

Christmas At The Zoo November 27th through January 3, 2016 Location: Indianapolis Zoo and White River Gardens, www.indianapoliszoo.com/

events-and-groups/zoo-events/christmasat-the-zoo Surround yourself with the magic and beauty of the holiday season as the Indianapolis Zoo hosts its 47th year of Christmas at the Zoo presented

by Donatos and Teachers Credit Union, with an extra weekend of fun added this year! A visit to Christmas at the Zoo is unlike any other time of the year as they bring together the best of the holiday season with a "wild" twist! As the sun sets over the White River State Park, enjoy the warm glow of twinkling lights, creating a magical nighttime experience. Enjoy a free visit with Santa, decorate cookies with Mrs. Claus, and enjoy a scavenger hunt. There is holiday fun for all ages!

www.childrensmuseum.org/jollydays Enjoy traditional holiday favorites such as the two-story Yule Slide, Jingles the Jolly Bear, and visits with Santa. Explore “outdoor” fun like ice fishing and sock-skating—all without the frozen fingers! “Bake” wintertime goodies and share memories with your family. Who knows?

You may even be there when a “snowball” fight breaks out.

Nickelodeon’s Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles “Secrets Of The Sewer” Occurring daily through April 10, 2016 Location: The Children’s Museum Of Indianapolis, www.childrensmuseum.org/

exhibits/future-exhibits Since 1984, these four iconic turtle brothers have rocked it with their talent and teamwork, inspiring generations. Now families can now join these pizza-eating, crime-fighting “Heroes in a Half-Shell” to hone their ninja skills and problem-solving intellects while learning the secrets of the sewer! Nickelodeon’s CGanimated series breathes new life into the popular characters and now families will be able to join the team at The Children’s Museum Of Indianapolis.

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