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NOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2018

departments AROUND TOWN

08 Spending the Day in Kettering 16 Festive Holiday Fun with Five Rivers MetroParks

CHILDREN'S HEALTH

20 Learn the Signs of Scoliosis

PARENTING

22 Ask the Teacher

LOCAL SPOTLIGHT

24 Good Neighbor House

IN EVERY ISSUE

06 Editor's Note 26 To Do With Your Crew 27 Wacky Calendar

features

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Great Experience Gifts for Kids

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Holiday Fun Guide

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Handling a Frantic Holiday Season

Memorable gifts don't always have to be things – they can be experiences, too!

Free, festive activities for the entire family

Here's how to navigate three common stressful situations

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EDITOR'S NOTE

WORDS BY NICOLE SIPE

PUBLISHER Mary Wynne Cox mary@daytonparentmagazine.com ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER Hannah Mohler hannah@daytonparentmagazine.com EDITOR Nicole Sipe nicolesipe@daytonparentmagazine.com ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Katie Clark katie@daytonparentmagazine.com Brooke Litherland brooke@daytonparentmagazine.com ADVERTISING COORDINATOR Karen Ring karen@daytonparentmagazine.com

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year We’re officially approaching a great time of year – a time that people refer to as “the holidays.” To me, the holidays begin a few days before Halloween and go until January 1. Or, to put it another way: The holidays begin with the Hallmark Channel’s Countdown to Christmas and end the day I should start fulfilling my New Year’s resolutions. It’s a time filled with leftover trick-or-treat candy, Thanksgiving dinners and Christmas cookies. It’s a time for baking pies, drinking hot chocolate and eating … well, eating all the things, because it’s the holidays and you need to munch on something while watching the Hallmark Channel, right? (Did I mention that my New Year’s resolution will be hitting the gym consistently?)

The holidays are also a time for gift giving. If you haven’t yet found the perfect present, consider giving something that doesn’t come in a box: the gift of experiences. You’ll find lots of suggestions for thoughtful, memorable gifts in “Great Experience Gifts for Kids” on page 10 that will get your kids out of the house, learning stuff and making memories. Some of these ideas, like memberships to local museums and zoos, are the gifts that keep on giving, because you can visit all year long.

And if you’re looking to get into the holiday spirit, check out our Holiday Fun Guide on page 12, which lists lots of fun, festive and – best of all – free holiday events around town. You’ll find some great places to celebrate the season around Dayton.

It’s the most wonderful time of the year, so go out and make the most of it!

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CREATIVE DIRECTOR Katie Clark katie@daytonparentmagazine.com DIGITAL PUBLISHER Wendy Hasser wendy@daytonparentmagazine.com DIGITAL EDITOR Brooke Litherland brooke@daytonparentmagazine.com BUSINESS MANAGER Roxanne Burns roxanne@daytonparentmagazine.com CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Lauren Lemons, Haley Paddock, Jennifer Thompson, Deb Krupowicz

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OUR COVER KID

MEET SAMANTHA fun facts I am 1 year old on November 7th and my nickname is Sammy.

My favorite food is bananas!

I love reading my Elmo book.

My favorite activities are playing outside and going for walks around the block.

My favorite song is "Wheels on the Bus" and it always makes me giggle!

I love dogs, especially my German Shepherd named Leia.

COVER PHOTO BY: Leah Kelley Photography www.leahkelleyphotography.com

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AROUND TOWN

WORDS AND IMAGES BY HALEY PADDOCK

Spending the Day in Kettering Exploring Dayton one city at a time Venturing out during the colder weather months can sometimes seem daunting, but a trip to Kettering will delight your entire family. Explore our itinerary of places to go and things to do, and you’ll soon discover Kettering offers plenty of activities to keep you moving and comfort foods to keep you warm.

evening MAMMA DISALVO’S 1375 East Stroop Road Since 1979, Mamma DiSalvo’s has been serving up secret family recipes in hopes of being the area’s best authentic Italian restaurant! All menu items are cooked from scratch and their famous sauces are made fresh daily. The DiSalvos strive to make everyone feel like family, and yours is sure to feel right at home.

morning

BARRY BAGELS

EPIC COFFEE SHOPPE

4313 Far Hills Avenue “Everything is better on a bagel” — and with a motto like that, you can be sure your breakfast will be far from boring.

Barry Bagels is a family-run restaurant serving up freshly baked bagels every day.

Choose from over a dozen varieties, spreads and toppings to create a delicious start to your morning.

MURPHY’S USED BOOK STORE 2852 Wilmington Pike If anyone in your crew enjoys reading, they’ll love stopping into Murphy’s Used Book Store. Visit their website for a free book coupon before you go, and be sure to ask about their new book subscription offer for kids.

THE MAGIC CASTLE 4990 Wilmington Pike TOP LEFT BARRY BAGELS BOTTOM LEFT THE MAGIC CASTLE TOP RIGHT EPIC COFFEE SHOPPE BOTTOM RIGHT MAMMA DISALVO'S

Head over to The Magic Castle for some family fun, or perhaps a bit of competition!

The arcade has games for both young and old, and there are prizes to be won. For kids 11 and under, the Soft Play jungle gym offers three levels of obstacles to climb, slide and crawl through.

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22 West Stroop Road

afternoon BIG SKY BREAD COMPANY 3070 Far Hills Avenue On a chilly day, nothing sounds better than a hot bowl of homemade soup and a slice of “the best bread under the sky.”

Stop into Big Sky Bread Company for a fresh, warm lunch and baked sweets the whole family will love.

KETTERING ICE ARENA 2900 Glengarry Drive Once you’ve fueled up from lunch, you’re ready to hit the ice with your kiddos for a favorite winter pastime. Kettering Ice Arena offers afternoon open skate sessions for all ages, and ice skates are available to rent.

Epic Coffee Shoppe is an inviting cafe offering a full selection of espresso and tasty treats. We recommend grabbing an artisan hot chocolate for the kids, and maybe one for yourself, before you venture out to your last stop of the night.

FRAZE PAVILION HOLIDAY LIGHTS 695 Lincoln Park Boulevard Bundle up, sip your hot chocolate and take in the holiday-themed sights outside the Fraze Pavilion.

Hundreds of lights are proudly displayed throughout the trees, and you may even hear a familiar tune as you stroll along the pathways and close out your day in Kettering.

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great experience gifts for kids Memorable gifts don't always have to be things – they can be experiences, too!

WORDS BY NICOLE SIPE

Family Memberships

Do you remember the toys your child had to have last year? Probably not – and chances are, neither do they. Instead of wrapping yet another toy this holiday season, try giving a gift that won't get lost, broken or abandoned in the play room: a gift of experience. Here are some thoughtful, out-of-the-box ideas for gifts that will be remembered long after the holiday decorations have been put away.

Memberships to local museums, zoos and other attractions are the gifts that keep on giving all year long. Dayton is home to countless familyfriendly places that offer memberships, so pick your favorite and look forward to exploring all year. As a bonus, many memberships come with added benefits, such as member-only hours, guided tours, food and gift shop discounts, and early access to special exhibits.

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For an even bigger bonus and bang for your buck, check whether your museum or center of choice is a member of the Association of Science-Technology Centers (www.astc.org/ passport). Members of ASTC-affiliated museums get free or discounted admission to other museums in the network. This is a boon for families who like to travel and explore new museums.

Classes & Lessons If you’re looking to give “the gift of doing,” then you’ll find that by gifting a class or lesson. Dance, swim, music, art, sports, fitness: If it exists, there is probably a local class your child can join to do more and learn more about it. You can gift lessons that you know your child will love, or use this as an opportunity to introduce them to an entirely new activity. Even better: Gift a class that you and your child can do together. You’ll be learning and spending quality time together.

Tickets & Passes Tickets to a fun event, such as a family-friendly concert, sporting event or traveling show, can be an excellent holiday gift. Or, you can buy season tickets to a favorite venue, such as a theatre, orchestra or ballet company, and enjoy multiple performances throughout the year. The choice is yours and depends on your budget.

For thrill seekers, passes to an amusement park make a great gift idea. If the nearest amusement park is a far drive away, then make it a road-trip gift. Include the park tickets with a basket of goodies to enjoy in the car � think fun snacks, and maybe a game or two, such as Mad Libs or travel Bingo.

Most of the time, you don’t have to travel far from home to give a great gift. You can have fun and make memories in your own community. Passes to a local ice skating or roller skating rink, bowling alley, miniature golf course, batting cage, indoor play center or trampoline park can make for a fun and festive night out with the family. Or, make it a movie night with tickets to see the newest animated film at a local movie theatre.

The Benefits of Experiential Gifts The research is in: Experiences, not stuff, makes us happier. According to a study by psychologists at San

Francisco State University,

people who spend money

on experiences rather than

material items felt like the

money was better spent, and

that make them feel happier.

This season, consider giving

gifts of experience – not

just gifts of stuff. Not only

will you cut down on the

clutter that finds its way

into your home (and the

homes of others), but

you might also find that

giving experiences

makes you happier, too. From museums to classes to activity centers and everything in between, the joy of experiencing new things with your family and making memories will last a lifetime.

Gifts That Keep on Giving

Boonshoft Museum of Discovery www.boonshoftmuseum.org

Columbus Zoo www.columbuszoo.org

COSI (Center of Science and Industry) www.cosi.org

Gifts to Learn Something New

Dayton Raiders Swim Academy www.swimdayton.com

The Little Gym of Dayton www.thelittlegym.com/ DaytonOH

South Dayton School of Dance www.sdsdonline.com

YMCA of Greater Dayton www.daytonymca.org

Gifts for a Fun Time Out

Kings Island www.visitkingsisland.com

Victoria Theatre Association www.victoriatheatre.com

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HOLIDAY FUN GUIDE Free, festive activities for the entire family

THE AIR IS GROWING COLDER, HOLIDAY LIGHTS ARE HUNG AND SANTA IS COMING TO TOWN. IT’S THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR FOR FAMILY FUN, SO CHECK OUT OUR LIST OF LOCAL THINGS TO DO FOR FREE!

Dayton Holiday Festival

The Grand Illumination in Downtown Troy

Horse-drawn Carriage Parade and Festival

troymainstreet.org

www.lebanonchamber.org/events/ chamber-events-1/2016-lebanonchristmas-parade-8

WHERE: City of Troy, 100 S. Market Street WHEN: Friday, November 23 DETAILS: Carriage rides, musical

performances, Kris Kringle Market, a holiday book reading and, of course, Santa arriving on a fire truck!

WHERE: Downtown, 23 N. Main Street

Englewood Holiday Celebration

WHEN: Friday, November 23

www.englewood.oh.us

DETAILS: An annual tradition your family will surely want to continue for years to come, the Dayton Holiday Festival might just be the highlight of your holiday season! The evening begins with the Grand Illumination tree lighting and a children’s nighttime parade featuring over 100,000 lights. Kids can pick up a pair of free “magic” glasses before the event to experience a delightful surprise in the lights. But that’s not all — you’ll find holiday treats, live music, live reindeer, photo opportunities on Santa’s sleigh, free carnival rides, crafts, games and so many more holiday surprises for the entire family to enjoy!

WHERE: Englewood Government Center, 333 W. National Road

www.downtowndayton.org/things-to-do/ holiday-festival

WHEN: Saturday, November 24 DETAILS: Doors open at 6 pm with a holiday

performance by the Englewood Civic band beginning shortly after. Children’s entertainment occurs throughout the evening and includes balloon animals, cookies and a visit from Santa.

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WORDS BY HALEY PADDOCK

Afterward, parents and children will be invited to participate in a creative movement session and to make an angel’s halo and wings craft.

WHERE: City of Lebanon, 212 N. Broadway

Santa Paws

WHEN: Saturday, December 1

www.playkettering.org/event/santa-paws

DETAILS: Two parades to choose from at this family-friendly event! Festivities begin at 10 am, the daylight parade begins at 1 pm and the traditional parade, which closes out the event, begins at 7 pm. Additional highlights at the festival include gift and food vendors, carolers, carriage rides, Santa visits and rides to the North Pole aboard the LM&M Railroad North Pole Express.

WHERE: Kettering Recreation Complex, 2900 Glengarry Drive

The Littlest Angel daytonmetrolibrary.evanced.info/signup/ eventdetails?eventid=65180&df=list&nd= 100&backto=list&startdate=2018/12/01& enddate=2018/12/20 WHERE: Dayton Metro Library, 215 E. Third Street WHEN: Saturday, December 1 DETAILS: The Dayton Contemporary Dance Company will perform excerpts from The Littlest Angel by Charles Tazewell.

WHEN: Saturday, December 1 DETAILS: Take a Christmas photo with your furry friends! A festive backdrop and props will be set up from 9-11 am, so bring your camera, pooch and the rest of your crew for the perfect photo op. Vendors will be set up to offer treats and dog stocking-stuffer ideas.

Centerville Tree Lighting www.centervilleohio.gov/index.php/ city-calendar WHERE: Benham’s Grove, 166 N. Main

Street

WHEN: Sunday, December 2 DETAILS: Enjoy an evening filled with familiar holiday tunes played by the Centerville Community Band. Santa also promises to make an appearance at this free annual event that begins at 5 pm.

Vandalia Christmas Tree Lighting vandaliaohio.org WHERE: Vandalia Recreation Complex, 1111 Stonequary Road WHEN: Sunday, December 2 DETAILS: This tree-lighting ceremony begins at 6 pm and will be followed by hot cocoa, a craft for kids and a chance to see Santa Claus.

Christmas in the Park www.bellbrooksugarcreekparks.org/ programs/programs-and-activities/ christmas-in-the-park

Trotwood Tree Lighting trotwood.org/community/calendar WHERE: Trotwood Parks & Recreation, 3035 Olive Road WHEN: Saturday December 8 DETAILS: Gather for the Trotwood tree lighting from 4-6 pm and join in on caroling, games and photo ops with Santa.

U.S. Air Force Band of Flights Holiday Concert www.nationalmuseum.af.mil/Upcoming/ Events

WHERE: Bellbrock Park, 57 N. Main Street

WHERE: National Museum of the U.S. Air Force, 1100 Spatz Road, WPAFB

WHEN: Saturday, December 8

WHEN: Saturday, December 15

DETAILS: An annual Bellbrook tradition, this festival begins with a park lighting ceremony to help welcome Santa! Local music groups sing carols and kids can enjoy hot chocolate, crafts and a gingerbread house contest. The festivities begin at 4 pm and end at 7 pm. Be sure to visit the website for more information on entering the gingerbread competition!

DETAILS: The Band of Flights promises a night filled with both new and classic holiday sounds. Tickets are free but required, and the concert begins at 7:30 pm.

Miamisburg Community Holiday Event & Parade exploremiamisburg.com/communityholiday-event-parade WHERE: Downtown Miamisburg WHEN: Saturday, December 8 DETAILS: Fun begins at 2:30 pm with a festive parade of more than 60 themed floats.

After the parade, you’ll find attractions, such as cookie decorating, holiday bingo, horse-drawn wagon rides, caroling and more.

Everything leads up to the Christmas tree lighting at Riverfront Park beginning promptly at 5 pm.

Fireside Christmas Carols www.bellbrooksugarcreekparks.org/ programs/programs-and-activities/ fireside-christmas-carols WHERE: City of Bellbrook, 2751 Washington Mill Road WHEN: Saturday, December 15 DETAILS: From 7-8 pm, kids and adults of all ages are invited to gather around the fireplace to sing classic and beloved carols. Hot chocolate is provided, so bring a batch of your favorite Christmas cookies to share for a special holiday treat.

Holiday Luminary Hike www.bellbrooksugarcreekparks.org/ programs/programs-and-activities/ holiday-luminary-hike WHERE: Ron Kehl Park, 1730 Sonoma

Court

WHEN: Friday, December 28 DETAILS: Bundle up and make sure you have boots rugged enough for muddy, icy trails!

Spend some time outdoors and get into the holiday spirit as festive luminaries light the pathways along this winter nature trail. Event times are 6-7 pm.

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AROUND TOWN

WORDS BY LAUREN LEMONS, COMMUNITY ENGAGEMENT COORDINATOR, FIVE RIVERS METROPARKS

Festive Holiday Fun with Five Rivers MetroParks A flurry of school plays, shopping excursions, cooking and wrapping presents: The holiday season can be so hectic, you don’t actually get to enjoy it. Because the reason for the season is giving and spending time with loved ones, MetroParks encourages families to slow down and enjoy the holidays with a variety of festive activities.

LACE UP YOUR SKATES Boasting beautiful views of the Great Miami River and downtown Dayton, the MetroParks ice rink offers the region’s only open-air skating experience. Visitors can rent skates, sign up for lessons, cozy up with a cup of hot chocolate and more.

Ice skating is a great way for the family to stay active during the winter months. Make a new holiday tradition with a family skate on Christmas Day or start the new year right by getting some fresh air and exercise on the ice. The MetroParks ice rink is open Nov. 23 through Feb. 28, 2019. Admission plus skate rental is $7 per person.

• Ice Rink Opening Weekend Friday, Nov. 23, 11 am to 10 pm The holiday season officially kicks off with the grand opening of the MetroParks ice rink.

• Christmas Eve Skate Monday, Dec. 24, 11 am to 5 pm Enjoy holiday music, hot cocoa and more as you make lasting memories with your family on the ice.

• Christmas Day Skate Tuesday, Dec. 25, 1 to 8 pm Make a visit to the MetroParks ice rink part of your family Christmas tradition and skate to holiday music under the pavilion.

• New Year’s Eve Skate Monday, Dec. 31, 11 am to 10 pm Before the ball drops, visit the rink for some fun with your family.

• New Year’s Day Skate Tuesday, Jan 1, 1 to 8 pm Many families make resolutions to be more active, so start the new year right by hitting the ice for some heart-pumping family fun.

SHOP SMALL, FRESH AND ALL SEASON LONG Downtown Dayton is your destination for shopping small during the holidays. Offering fresh and local produce, prepared dishes, gifts and more, the 2nd Street Market offers a one-stop shopping experience for busy families. New this year, the market is open on Sundays through Dec. 30, which provides shoppers with more time to stock up on kitchen staples, festive goodies and gifts.

• Stock Up Wednesday Wednesday, Nov. 21, 11 am to 3 pm Open the day before Thanksgiving for your last-minute shopping needs, Stock Up Wednesday is a great opportunity to create a fresh, delicious meal or pick up prepared dishes for your holiday feast. Many vendors take advance orders.

• Santa Visits the Market Saturday, Dec. 15, 10 am to 1 pm and Sunday, Dec. 16, 11:30 am to 1:30 pm Meet the jolly man himself and snap a picture before enjoying lunch and shopping for gifts at the market.

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• Christmas on the Farm Sunday, Dec. 2, Noon to 4 pm at Carriage Hill MetroPark Experience what holiday fun was like on an 1880s farm while your family strings cranberries and popcorn, samples warm chestnuts and plays traditional parlor games.

• Aullwood Winter Luminary Sunday, Dec. 2, 6 to 8 pm at Aullwood Garden MetroPark Welcome winter with a peaceful evening walk through the luminary-lit paths of Aullwood Garden MetroPark, and then enjoy a warm beverage, cookies and a visit with Santa in the house.

• A Holiday Evening at Carriage Hill Saturday, Dec. 8, from 6 to 8:30 pm at Carriage Hill MetroPark Enjoy a candlelight stroll through the farm and experience what it was like at night in the 1880s. Listen to holiday music, play parlor games and more.

Learn more about all the ways you can enjoy the holiday season in your Five Rivers MetroParks by visiting www.metroparks.org.

PHOTO CREDITS FIVE RIVERS METROPARKS

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HANDLING A WORDS BY JENNIFER THOMPSON

FRANTIC HOLIDAY SEASON

Here’s how to navigate three common stressful situations

It’s the most wonderful time of the year – and some would argue, the most stressful. You vow that this year will be different. But how? There are cards to mail, presents to wrap, cookies to bake, parties and programs to attend, and let’s not forget all the festive, memorable outings you can’t possibly miss.

How do you manage to fit all the magic of the holiday into just one little month without turning into the Grinch?

To help make this holiday season the winter wonderland you have been dreaming of (and help keep the Grinch at bay), we’ve asked two experts for advice on how to handle potentially stressful situations you may find yourself facing this time of year.

Stressful Situation #1 Every year, you and your spouse travel back home for Christmas.

This year, you would like for your children to wake up in their own beds on Christmas day. More than likely, this will hurt your parents’ feelings. You are nervous to have the conversation, but feel strongly about the importance of making these special memories in your own home with your family.

Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW, CFLE, author of The Parent’s Toolshop: It's completely reasonable that you would want to spend at least one holiday at home. Just word your request in a way that is appreciative of how precious family time is and focus on

when you can get together. For example, “We (you and your partner/spouse) have such fond memories of Christmas morning that we want our children to have those 18 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM November/December 2018

kind of memories. So, as long as our children are young and at home, we will be spending Christmas morning at our house. We’d love to spend Christmas with you too, so we can attend any other family gatherings that are scheduled any other time than Christmas morning."

You may add, “Anyone who wants to spend Christmas morning with us and the children are welcome to come to our house.” If you want the morning for yourself, offer for them to come later.

As for hurt feelings, any parent who values family will understand such a request. It’s very reasonable! If they say it hurts their feelings, then they are putting their needs above yours and is a reflection on their character. Do not take on any guilt.

Kim Guy, regional director of business development and licensed independent social worker: Grandparents were parents, too! While it may be a tough conversation to start, reminding your parents of the wonderful memories you and your family formed when you were a child and how you want to replicate that for your own kids is bound to remind them of how much they enjoyed those times when they were young parents themselves. The sooner you can have the conversation, so everyone’s plans can be formed without disruption, the easier it will probably be on everyone to adapt to your changing family structure.

Stressful Situation #2 Money is tight and you have a lot of gifts to buy. You would like your family to start drawing names for a gift exchange instead of purchasing individual gifts, but nobody seems to be on board.

Pawel: Rather than posing one idea, ask everyone to brainstorm ideas. There may be other options besides drawing names.

Some possibilities are: make donations in someone’s name, make handmade gifts, give services/favors, agree to a cost

limit, give permission to not buy for everyone, have a “white elephant” gift exchange with re-gifts under $5.

Guy: Talking about finances is never easy, but a general conversation may be necessary in this situation. If your family understands the reason you want to draw names for a gift exchange, they may be more receptive. If there is concern about losing some of the fun, try a Secret Santa gift exchange, where each person buys a couple of small gifts and one larger gift for the person they choose. Remind your family of the “reason for the season,” whatever that looks like for your family. If these ideas still do not sway your loved ones, you could offer to cook or provide the majority of the meal as your gift to everyone.

Stressful Situation #3 As the holidays are approaching and you begin to think about everything that needs to be accomplished, your anxiety begins to sky rocket. You want to be less frazzled and enjoy the season, but everything feels important. Maybe this will be the year you don't try to do it all. What do you say "no" to? Won't you be letting people down?

Pawel: It’s not easy to say “no,” but it’s really freeing to do so. Especially if you can learn to do it in ways that feel empowered and non-apologetic.

You could say something like, “I’ve noticed that I’ve not been enjoying the holidays. I feel stressed and frazzled. This year, I’m going to do less, because I believe less will be more. I’m committed to making the holiday more enjoyable and memorable.

I’d love your support in doing this, because it’s going to be hard. You know I do a lot for others and feel guilty doing things for myself. I’m sure you’ll agree, however, that that’s the very reason I should allow myself to be nice to myself, too.”

As for what to say no to, you have an inner guidance system that will tell you very clearly. If you're doing it for others, you’ll feel guilty. If you want to do it, you’ll feel joy. With each decision, see if you feel lighter or heavier. Yes, there may be some things you do out of obligation, or because you are responsible for them. Be consciously aware of why you are doing them and consider the possibility of not doing them. What’s the worst that could happen? If it would be catastrophic, then do it, but change how you do the task, internally. Have you ever seen a janitor singing while scrubbing toilets? As the Zen saying goes, “Before enlightenment: chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment: chop wood, carry water.” What that means is that you might not change what you do, but how. Find a way to be joyful in whatever it is that you choose to do and avoid the illusion that you have no choice.

Guy: Saying no is not only healthy, but necessary. Particularly when holiday stress is involved. When you are running on empty, even activities that should be fun feel like a chore. Start by organizing a lists of the things you want to do, or feel you need to do. Take time to go through each list and decide if it's a priority or not; maybe even rank them in order. Once you know your priorities, add them to your calendar to see if they are reasonable and will add joy to your holiday season. So, make a list, check it twice, and be nice to yourself – so you don’t start to feel grouchy and naughty!

Whether you bake 100 cookies and deliver them to every person you know, or choose not to bake a single thing – that’s OK. Have conversations and decide what is best for your family this holiday season. Not everything in life is Pinterest-perfect. The important thing is being with those you love, setting healthy boundaries and celebrating the beauty of the season as stress-free as possible – together.

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CHILDREN'S HEALTH

BROUGHT TO YOU BY DAYTON CHILDREN'S HOSPITAL

Learn the Signs of Scoliosis Simple spine checks can catch curvatures early You might remember when you were in grade school that the school nurse checked your spine one day each year. You probably thought nothing of it as a kid, but now that you are a parent, you can understand the importance of children being checked for scoliosis and finding it early. With school back in session, your kids may undergo this same scoliosis test, but do you know what this test means and the signs of scoliosis?

Scoliosis is when the vertebrae down your back form a curved line instead of being straight. Sometimes they also rotate or twist like a corkscrew. Two percent of girls and 0.5 percent of boys have scoliosis, and it tends to run in families. Usually, the cause is unknown and occurs in otherwise healthy kids and adolescents. Small curves usually don't cause problems. But a curve that gets worse can be bad for a person's health and cause pain.

“A lot of times, scoliosis gets missed because the signs are so subtle,” says Molly Depoorter, RN, spine clinic coordinator at Dayton Children's Hospital. “Signs of scoliosis usually appear between the ages of 10 and 14 years of age. You also need to watch for spine curvature during growth spurts. One month, a kid’s spine can be completely fine, and the next month it could be curved – all because of a growth spurt.” As part of her job, Depoorter visits schools around the Dayton area, checking kid’s spines for signs of scoliosis.

When monitoring for scoliosis, check for these signs: 1. Skirts and pants are somewhat lopsided 2. One shoulder blade may be higher or more prominent than the other 3. Extra space may exist between the arm and the body when the arms are hanging at the sides

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4. One hip may appear to be higher or more prominent than the other 5. The head is not centered over the pelvis 6. When bending over so the back (spine) is horizontal, one side of the back may appear higher than the other

If you notice any of these signs, contact your child’s pediatrician. A pediatrician can check the percentage of curvature and decide if it is appropriate to refer to an orthopedic physician. Curvature that is 10-20° will be referred back to a doctor. If the curvature is 20-40°, the physician may consider a back brace. If the curvature is greater than 40°, the physician may consider surgery. They will also continue to monitor the child’s growth every six months until he or she is done growing.

Monitoring your children for scoliosis can be quick and easy if you know the signs to look for.

Now that you know, this important routine spine check is something you can mark off your checklist!

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PARENTING

WORDS BY DEB KRUPOWICZ

Ask the Teacher

Breaking an interrupting habit, teacher gifts and coding for kids

Q:

MY HUSBAND AND I ATTENDED PARENT/ TEACHER CONFERENCES FOR OUR FOURTH-GRADE DAUGHTER A FEW DAYS AGO. OUR DAUGHTER’S TEACHER SAID THAT OUR DAUGHTER WAS IN THE HABIT OF INTERRUPTING WHILE SHE WAS TEACHING AND WHEN SHE WAS WORKING WITH OTHER STUDENTS. WE REALIZED THAT THE SAME THING HAPPENS AT HOME. HOW CAN WE HELP OUR DAUGHTER TO BE MORE RESPECTFUL?

A:

Begin with a conversation, asking your daughter to explain her understanding of interrupting. Share openly what her teacher said at the conference. Have her think of any examples of times when she may have interrupted someone at school or at home. You may have to coach a bit here!

Make it very clear to her that you understand her need to ask a question or to share a thought, but that others also have that same need. State your expectation very directly: She must not interrupt others except in the case of an emergency.

More than a clarification of expectations is required. Develop a specific game plan.

Instruct your daughter to do the following when she has something to say: Stop first and take a few seconds to look around and observe what others are doing. If the teacher is talking to the class or to another student, or if you are talking with someone else, she should write down her question or a few key words of what it is she wants to share so that she doesn’t forget it. While she is waiting for her opportunity to talk, she should do something else constructive.

Your daughter’s teacher and both of you should use a coordinated strategy to help your daughter correct this behavior. Agree on a hand signal that you will all use if your daughter starts to interrupt. Maintain your focus on the person with whom you are talking; do not make eye contact with your daughter. Simply hold up your hand, using the established signal. As soon as you are able, initiate discussion with your daughter.

Because this has become a habit, it may take a while to change this behavior. Be patient and consistent.

Q:

I ALWAYS HAVE A HARD TIME COMING UP WITH GIFT IDEAS FOR MY CHILDREN’S TEACHERS. WHATEVER I THINK OF SEEMS TO BE SUCH AN INADEQUATE WAY OF SHOWING WHAT WE THINK OF THEIR DEDICATION. WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST?

A:

Most teachers do what they do because they love kids, and they take great pleasure in helping them learn. Knowing their efforts are noticed and appreciated is a great boost.

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Every teacher wishes he or she had more time and more opportunity for relaxation. Consider ways your gift can provide that: a gift card for a cup of coffee, a movie, dinner, a manicure or a bookstore.

Put together a gift bag with a magazine or a puzzle book, a few chocolates and some warm socks. Make a coupon for a soup supper that you prepare and deliver after school for a date to be determined.

Add a note from your child and from you that expresses your thanks. Anything that provides a teacher with a few minutes to unwind will send the clear message that you value all of the time dedicated to your children.

Q:

MY THIRD GRADE SON SEEMS TO SPEND A LOT OF HIS TIME IN STEM CLASS “CODING.” AS HE DESCRIBES IT, IT SEEMS LIKE MORE COMPUTER GAMES THAN ANYTHING ELSE. I AM JUST NOT SURE I UNDERSTAND HOW PUTTING THINGS INTO CODE HELPS HIM IN ANY OF THE AREAS OF STEM FOCUS. WHAT IS THE POINT OF IT?

A:

When students are “coding,” they are doing what much older students of the last generation called “programming.” Current technologies offer opportunities for even very young students to “code.” This experience helps move them from the role of a passive technology participant to the role of creator. It integrates not only mathematical concepts and logic in sequencing and design, but also collaboration and communication with assessment and evaluation. The insights in evaluation lead to an understanding of identifying errors and a desire to work to rectify them for a successful result.

Coding provides an authentic means of practicing problem solving. Patience and perseverance are needed to re-think and re-create components that are not working as intended. The activity promotes genuine confidence building as students attain success using their own creative thinking, hard work and problem-solving skills.

Often students who struggle in traditional academic endeavors find a sense of success with coding.

ASK THE TEACHER is written by Deb Krupowicz, a mother of four who holds a Master’s degree in Curriculum and Instruction.

Deb has over twenty years of experience teaching preschool, elementary and middle school students. Please send your questions to her at asktheteacher@indyschild.com.

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THIS ISSUE'S SPOTLIGHT WORDS BY HALEY PADDOCK

Local Spotlight: Good Neighbor House Easing financial burdens with affordable food, health and wellness services For me personally, a huge bonus is when I meet someone dropping off a donation and they say, “I remember when I had nothing and I came here for help. I have been waiting for the day I could give back.” And that’s what our mission is all about — enabling community members to give back after they themselves have become healthier, or more financially or emotionally stable.

WHAT SERVICES DOES GNH PROVIDE? Thrift Store: Open to the public, with affordable clothing and household items for purchase using cash, credit card or GNH Bucks.

Food Pantry: Food provided every 30 days to families in need of grocery assistance.

Special Dietary Needs Pantry: Special groceries for clients with diabetes, hypertension or renal disease.

The holiday season is upon us, and although it is often a time of great joy, for some, it can be a season of great financial strain. Higher expenses can sometimes leave families trying to decide what things they can do without in order to afford basic necessities.

Thankfully, the Dayton community can count on their neighbors at Good Neighbor House. GNH believes that oftentimes, the people who work the hardest are also the most overlooked in terms of unmet needs.

They understand that unexpected events can lead to financial stress for a hardworking family, and that even the best-laid plans can fall apart.

Dental and Medical Clinics: Affordable dental and medical care. Insurance is accepted and self-pay patients are offered a sliding-scale discount based on income and family size.

Dayton Parent spoke with Marcia Ehlers, assistant director of human services and outreach, to learn more about GNH and how they extend a helping hand to the community throughout the entire year.

Eye Clinic: Basic visits are free and everyone gets a voucher for free prescription eyeglasses.

HOW DID YOU BECOME INVOLVED WITH GNH, AND HOW HAVE YOU SEEN GNH HELP OUR COMMUNITY?

WHAT ARE GNH BUCKS?

My mother was one of the founding ladies of GNH after spending 10 years as a missionary nurse in Brazil. She worked tirelessly to help our neighbors and was a volunteer up to a few weeks before she passed away at the age of 94.

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Counseling Services: Free counseling

When we realized that some clients just could not afford to buy much in the thrift store, we introduced GNH Bucks. Clients can take a free, hour-long wellness class to earn a $20 voucher for clothing. Classes are offered two to three times a day (except Fridays), and we also offer classes twice a month to earn a $20 voucher for household

items. The classes cover topics such as cooking, exercise, painting and crafts, and there is no limit to the number of classes a client can take.

DO YOU HAVE PROGRAMS TO HELP EASE HOLIDAY-RELATED BURDENS? We have a program called Operation Christmas Wish to help GNH client families with Christmas gifts. From November 5 through December 7, we will collect new, unwrapped toys for children ages 1 to 12. Donors can sign up to “adopt” a family and purchase toys or basic household necessities to gift to a family in need.

GOOD NEIGHBOR HOUSE NEEDS YOUR HELP! Volunteers are desperately needed, and so are your generous donations!

If you are interested in sharing your knowledge by teaching a wellness class, please contact Marcia Raglin at (937) 224-3003, extension 102.

To adopt a family for Christmas or for additional information on volunteer and donation opportunities, contact Marcia Ehlers at (937) 224-3003, extension 108. You can also learn more at www.goodneighbor house.org.

PHOTO CREDIT THE GOOD NEIGHBOR HOUSE

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to do with your crew NOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2018

DAYTON HOLIDAY FESTIVAL

A CARILLON CHRISTMAS

The Dayton Holiday Festival is your source for family-friendly holiday fun in downtown Dayton at the Courthouse Square. The festival kicks off Thanksgiving weekend on November 23 from 4-9 pm with live entertainment, carnival rides for kids, holiday games and crafts, horse-drawn wagon rides, live reindeer and much more. All activities for the day are FREE of charge. The fun continues throughout the month of December with activities like the Tike’s Shoppe, a family movie series at The Neon and pizza with Santa! For more information, visit daytonholidayfestival.org.

Carillon Historical Park’s 65-acre campus transforms into a winter wonderland of sparkle, magic and holiday cheer! Be prepared to see Santa’s Toy Shop, The Carillon Carolers, head to the Candy Cane Slopes, write letters to Santa, see model train displays, shop at the museum store and lots more! As one of the newest traditions in Dayton, A Carillon Christmas is a sight to see, happening November 29-December 30 from 5-10 pm daily at Carillon Historical Park.

The official lighting of the tree will be Wednesday, November 29 at 6 pm. Admission is $8 for adults (ages 18-59), $7 for seniors (ages 60+), $5 for children ages 3-17, and free for children under 3 and Dayton History Members! Visit daytonhistory.org/events/ special-events/a-carillonchristmas for more information.

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WILDLIGHTS AT THE COLUMBUS ZOO

DAYTON BALLET PRESENTS THE NUTCRACKER

View the Columbus Zoo in a new light during Wildlights, a spectacular celebration of winter.

The entire zoo will be transformed into a winter wonderland, covered in more than three million LED lights, and will brighten your holiday season with plenty of festive activities for the whole family, including a visit with Santa Claus. Wildlights runs from November 16 through January 6, 2019. The Columbus Zoo opens daily at 10 a.m., with Wildlights activities operating Sundays through Thursdays from 5-9 p.m., and Fridays and Saturdays from 5-10 p.m. Find out more at www.columbus zoo.org.

One of Dayton's biggest and best holiday performance arts tradition is the beloved The Nutcracker. Join little Clara in her dreamland adventures as she takes a magical trip to the Land of Sweets with the Sugarplum Fairy and her dashing Cavalier. Dayton Ballet's The Nutcracker comprises an enormous cast, including the full professional Dayton Ballet company, dancers from Dayton Ballet II and the Dayton Ballet School, and more than 100 children from the local Dayton area. Catch performances December 14-23 at the Schuster Center. For tickets, visit daytonperforming arts.org/1819/balletperformance/nutcracker.

WOODLAND LIGHTS In its 25th season, Woodland Lights offers a fantasyland of holiday lights and displays along a half-mile wooded path. The month-long festival will have more lights, more vignettes and the same winter whimsy that enchants thousands of visitors every year. New this year is Grinchworld, where you can help the Grinch plot on Mount Krumpet, steal the Who's stockings, pack his sleigh, and even help carve his roast beast!

Every night features all new amusement rides for kids and adults, live animals, carriage rides, bonfires and concessions provided by local vendors. Visit Woodland Lights Friday through Sunday from November 24 through December 3, then nightly from December 8 through 30. Closed December 24 & 25. Admission is $8, and free for ages 2 and under. Find out more at www.woodland lights.org.

WACKY FUN & calendar DAY TON PARENT

NOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2018

Did you know that there is an official holiday for just about anything you can think of?

Here are a few fun days worth celebrating!

NOVEMBER

11/19 WORLD TOILET DAY

DECEMBER

For the seat that always has your back(side).

12/4

Celebrate this day the “write” way!

11/23

Show off your kicks!

11/3

What do you hear?

11/2 FOUNTAIN PEN DAY

SANDWICH DAY

Make ours a grilled cheese.

11/7

WEAR BROWN SHOES DAY

DAY OF LISTENING

11/26 CAKE DAY

WRIGHT BROTHERS DAY

12/5 INTERNATIONAL NINJA DAY A day for masked spies… if you can find them.

The more sprinkles, the better.

WOBBLY WEDNESDAY

ORIGAMI DAY

12/20 GO CAROLING DAY

12/21

11/29

Practice your paper-folding skills.

They believed they could flyyyy!

Sing your heart out.

Don’t lose your balance!

11/11

12/17

SHORT GIRL APPRECIATION DAY

SQUARE DANCING DAY

Shorties, unite!

12/27

The day to do-si-do.

VISIT THE ZOO DAY

11/13

12/8

Say hello to the giraffes for us.

WORLD KINDNESS DAY

Don’t forget the milk!

BROWNIE DAY

12/30

12/11

One word: Mmmm!

Be the good you wish to see!

11/18 APPLE CIDER DAY

Permission to drink your apples.

BACON DAY

HAVE A BAGEL DAY

And some cream cheese, too.

12/15 CAT HERDER’S DAY

Good luck with that one.

Source: www.daysoftheyear.com

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