Love Yourself - Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
The thing is, I'm not changing myself to fit the mold you desire. This is a common theme I see in relationships. We try to shape other behaviors because of our own trauma. And when have you dealt with your shit enough to begin to self-realize that your partner's behavior is exactly them, in their uniqueness, even when it triggers you. Those triggers show you your shadows. Now, this can feel like a noose around the throat, a piece that tells the reptilian brain that we are under control. As if what we are doing isn't enough. Truth is, you're doing more then enough, you're actually amazing and it's simply your partner's pain-body that is reacting to their past experiences, unable to hold themselves they look to you to either: a)fix their problem or
b)not cause them pain. Unconditional love sits in the middle of the bullshit. In a world where we try to understand 'love' languages and understand the erotic expression and try to make relationships work. In the middle sits love itself. Not trying to be or do anything itself. Love is the very expression of life moving through. Come join me for a small group I'm hosting next week which is all about Owning your Cock. Where I share tools and practices that have been gold to get me here. Always making love to life, even when sometimes life hurts.
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