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Rabbi Yaakov Hamer
Finchley Central Federation/Shaarei Orah
Complacency, Defining, Belief And Training We have all heard about the popular method of therapy used in psychology called Cognitive Behaviour Therapy or CBT. How many of us, however, have heard about the method of therapy called CDBT? This is a method which predates CBT by several thousand years in which The Torah outlines four stages of progression and development which, although begins with complacency, ends with a successfully rehabilitated person. This approach has been used to help thousands of people with their issues if done methodically and taken seriously. The stages are complacency, defining, belief and training.
geula is to realise that I am bearing something negative. I cannot remain complacent and ignore this. This is something damaging and must be rectified. Hashem tells us, the beginning of redemption is to realise that there is a problem and decide to break free.
Initially, when one has an issue which is adversely affecting one’s life, the tendency is to be complacent. One avoids any change or even clearly contemplating that they might have a problem. If that is their approach, it is virtually impossible to help them. The first thing they must do is to realise that something is very wrong and needs to be dealt with. The first stage is not to be Complacent.
Next comes belief in oneself and one’s ability to change. וגאלתי אתכם – בזרוע נטויהI will redeem you with an outstretched arm. חז”לsay this
The next stage is for the person to clearly identify and define the problem. What exactly needs to be done? What is the area of weakness that I am susceptible to? This is a sobering experience in which a person must be critical and judgemental and focus on the area in need of repair. The famous maggid, Rabbi Sholom Shwadron would often comment on how peculiar it was to see intelligent, mature, religious people dash out of a chupa to go to the reception in order to start to indulge in the food. He once saw a man who did not receive his main course and literally ran half way across the room to remind the waiter of his oversight. Reb Sholom asked the man why is he so caught up in his meal that he was willing to belittle himself and run after the waiter. The fellow’s response was, ‘’Reb Sholom, it is a Seudas Mitzvah!’’ Justifying faults is a common human defence mechanism as we don’t like to admit that we have an area which requires hard work. Step number two, therefore is to Define the problem. Once this is achieved, a person is ready to act. They do, however need to believe in themselves and realise that they have the potential to succeed. It is not enough to define the problem unless one believes that they have the support, the tools and the capabilities to overcome their issue. This third stage is simply Believing in one’s ability to fight and emerge victorious. The final stage is training and habituating oneself in their new regimen. Up until now, it’s all been theoretical. Henceforth, a person must continuously train themselves to behave in a new manner. Training. These four stages are, in fact, alluded to in the four expressions of redemption at the beginning of the parsha. V’hotzeisi, v’hitzalti, v’goalti, v’lokachti. The first stage is – והוצאתי אתכם מתחת סבלות מצריםI will remove you from the ‘burden’ of Egypt. The word סובלconnotes someone who has been afflicted with something negative and bears it. The first stage of the
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After that has been established, – והצלתי אתכם מעבדתםI will save you from your servitude. I will save you from your unique, individual problem which you struggle with. What is your Avoda which brings you down? For the Bnei Yisroel it was their service of the Egyptian gods. Other people need to define their particular problem so they can attempt to remedy it.
is referring to krias yam suf which solidified our belief in Hashem and Moshe. According to our explanation, the pshat is, I will redeem you by showing you that you have power! Needless to say, belief in one’s ability to succeed is synonymous with belief in Hashem as the source of this strength. With siyata d’Shmaya, you have an outstretched arm and you must believe in yourself.
Finally a person needs to start to train themselves and act in the manner which they have outlined. – ולקחתי אתכם לי לעםI will take you for my nation. This refers to Matan Torah, where we received the תורה which compels us to actually put everything into practice and habituate ourselves in a lifestyle which will lead to spiritual and emotional success and happiness.
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