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DOUBLE VISION: SEEING TO THE NEEDS OF OTHERS

Rabbi Alan Garber

Rav of Shenley United Synagogue

Our sedra opens with the narrative of how Abraham on the third day after his circumcision offers hospitality to three desert travellers.

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something outside so they wouldn’t feel awkward about leaving if they had to go in a hurry. This also explains why Abraham served both milky and meaty food. If they were in a rush they could partake of the light milky food and if they had more time, then Abraham had a large lavish meaty meal ready for them to be able to eat at a more leisurely pace.

There are many nuances in the text which teach us how to offer

Therefore Abraham not only had an open heart to help others, but

hospitality: the fact that he acts with speed and enthusiasm; he says

he also had his eyes open to see exactly what people needed. The verse

little and does much; he leads by example and gets other members of

explains that Abraham “lifted his eyes and behold he saw three people

his household involved in the hospitality; and he shows his guests

standing upon him, and he saw them and he ran to greet them from the

tremendous honour and respect.

opening of the tent and bowed toward the ground.” (GENESIS 18:2)

One interesting detail is that he invites his guests to sit under a tree and

Rashi asks, “Why is the phrase ‘and he saw’ repeated?” He teaches

eat. We know that Abraham is a wealthy man and that he had a famous

us that the first ‘and he saw’ was a physical seeing and the second was

tent that was open on four sides. So why did he leave his guests outside

a seeing of understanding and perception of the needs of these people.

and not invite them to come inside?

There is a famous story of a Jew who came to Rabbi Yosef Dov

The answer is a tremendous lesson in how to perform acts of kindness.

Soloveitchik (the Beis HaLevi), before Pesach and asked whether milk has

When Abraham was looking to help someone he looked to see exactly

the status of “a national beverage”, and whether it could be used instead

what that person needed.

of wine for the four cups at the Seder. The Beis HaLevi understood that

As travellers, they were on a journey to arrive somewhere, presumably

he would not ask the question about drinking milk at his Seder if he were

by a certain time. Had Abraham offered them to come inside, they may

having chicken or meat for his meal. He therefore sent him not only money

have felt obliged to stay. He therefore initially offered them to have

for the wine for the four cups, but also for meat as well.

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1. Why is it called Akeidas Yitzchak and not attributed to Avraham as it is counted as one of his ten nisyonos?

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Yitzchak: The Last Laugh The patriarch who exemplifies the trait of avodah, divine worship is Yitzchak.

His particular service of G-d was that of din, “judgment”. In his absolute negation before his Creator and his punctilious devotion, Yitzchak’s observance was without any personal agenda and accorded exactly with the letter of the law. He was a faithful G-d-fearing servant who consciously lived in the awesome presence of his Maker. However, this fear was not from without but from within.

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He possessed the fortitude to fearlessly battle and to defeat the evil inclination by staying on the right track, and by not deviating from it whatsoever.2 Indeed, Yitzchak did not depart – not even one iota – from the pathway forged by his saintly father. Several episodes that occurred to Avraham similarly played themselves out in Yitzchak’s life3 and Yitzchak was, in fact, the spitting image of his father.4 The emphases in their respective divine worship were not contradictory.

Yitzchak’s din, “judgment” was the next stage to his father Avraham’s chesed, “loving-kindness”. Their respective traits, albeit on opposite ends of the spectrum, came to complement each other, It is the strictness of “fear” that comes to balance and to temper the outburst of “love”. Kindness without limits can be destructive. Water is a blessing; but an over-abundance of water results in a destructive flood. Therefore the imposition of boundaries (as a function of din) initiated by Yitzchak permits there to be a definitive framework for the original forces of Avraham’s benevolence (chesed) to find their full expression.5 Interestingly, Yitzchak’s supernatural defiance of all expectations – both in his miraculous birth and his children’s survival – relates to the themes of laughter and resurrection.

Laughter is, simply put, the human reaction to the unusual or the surprising: such as a complete reversal of expectations. A man walks on the street only to slip on a banana peel. This is amusing because of the abrupt and unexpected chain of events. So too, is laughter the natural reaction where one experiences salvation from a hopeless situation.

1 This is also called gevurah, “might” or pachad, “dread [of G-d]”.

2 “Who is the strong one (gibur from the word gevurah)? The one who overpowers his [evil] inclination” (Pirkei Avos 4:1).

3 For example, both referred to their respective spouses as their “sister”; both were concerned of the kidnapping of their wives; both dug wells in Pelishtim etc.

4 See Rashi, Bereishis 25:19.

5 The scoffers argued the lack of continuity between Avraham who exemplified chesed, “kindness” versus Yitzchak as din, “judgment”. Hence the double Torah stresses “Yitzchak son of Avraham” and “Avraham gave birth to Yitzchak” (Bereishis 25:19).

Yitzchak’s name, meaning “he will laugh”, indicated how his

laid out before Him.”14 He stood up from the altar to recite the

life would scoff at the laws of the natural realm. Yitzchak’s very

blessing for the resurrection of the dead.15

being generated disbelief and laughter.6 The announcement

So, in stark contrast to his wicked son Eisav, an expert

of Yitzchak’s birth, a reversal of Avraham and Sarah’s

huntsman “who lived by the sword”,16 a killer who transformed

expectations that contradicted the rules of nature, provoked

the living into dead, Yitzchak personifies the transformation of

a response of laughter.7 And Yitzchak’s existence perpetually

death into life. Resurrection – including the future resurrection

challenged the attitude that life is predictable. On the contrary,

of the dead at the end of days17 – is identified with him.

where man exclusively lives to worship his Creator, he

Yitzchak’s name rearranges to form the phrase keitz chai, “the

transcends all natural expectations.

living end”18 which refers to the resurrection at the “end of

It is true that from a spiritual perspective laughter has negative

days”.

connotations. Take, for example, the banishment of Yishmael from Avraham’s household on account of tzachok, “laughter”, a word alluding to his contravention of all three cardinal sins.8 But this laughter was a cynicism which mocked religious belief; its imagery is likened to oil on a shield which deflects the arrows of faith.9 Laughter negates the inspiration that would otherwise motivate man – it inexcusably profanes that what is sacrosanct.10 This proves ruinous to all attempts to venerate G-d and faithfully serve Him with all our energies.

However, Yitzchak’s laughter finds an important place in divine worship: it jeers at the evil inclination for foolishly trying to lure man to contradict the will of G-d. It is to laugh at those that laugh at our life of spirituality. Yitzchak’s life of dread larks at all those whose attitude opposes fear of Heaven. He mocks, in turn, all those who define their existence based upon the limitations of the natural realm. All opposition towards spiritual growth is similarly “laughed away”.

This explains why Yitzchak’s birth and life were synonymous with techias hameisim, “the resurrection of the dead”.

That he was born to parents of advanced age led to their rejuvenation – akin to a new lease of life.11 And he was the

Nothing appears to be more somber, hopeless and tragic to man than death. Consequently, there can be no greater relief and salvation from death than its reversal, where the dead are resurrected to live once again. This process generates much laughter and happiness.

It is Yitzchak who relates both to resurrection and to laughter which are destined to turn the world on its head.

Jewish humor mocks Eisav’s philosophy that life in this world is the only thing of significance. Throughout history, Yitzchak’s descendants resiliently worship G-d whatever their circumstances. They laugh at the evil inclination. They satirize those who submit themselves to the natural order. Testimony to this is their miraculous survival and devotion to Torah throughout bitter suffering.

In its reversal of fortunes, emerging from the contrast of opposites, what greater reversal and laughter is possible than the turnaround of human civilizations’ attitudes? What transformation can compare to the return from death to life leading to the universal reverence before G-d?

The Messianic era inverts the world. In the words of the prophet, “For then I will reverse the nations …”19 Into such a setting, the theme of laughter features prominently. Most of the

only one to the forefathers to die and live again. At the climax

world has lived a life of illusion, without reference to spirituality

of the akeidah, Avraham offered a ram in lieu of Yitzchak. But

and to the future world-to-come. Worse still, from generation to

in spiritual terms, Avraham’s original sacrifice of Yitzchak was

generation, they derided the Jewish people’s beliefs and their

consummated.12 That means to say, in G-d’s mind, Yitzchak

way of life.

died as an offering13 such that “the ashes of Yitzchak were

So, like the woman of valor in Shlomo’s paean, Yitzchak’s progeny will “laugh on that last day,”20 when all creation, in

6 Laughter is contained within the numerical value of the letters of Yitzchak. The letter yud (10) alludes to the ten trials of Avraham. Tzaddi (90) was the age at which Sarah gave birth to Yitzchak. Ches (8) refers to the eighth day of circumcision, raising one’s physicality to the spiritual, and kuf (100) is the age at which Avraham fathered Yitzchak (Rashi, Bereishis 17:19).

7 “Avraham fell upon his face and laughed saying to himself, ‘To a man of a hundred years shall [a child] be born? Shall Sarah, a woman of ninety years, give birth?’” (Bereishis 17:17). “When Sarah heard the news, she also laughed at the prospect of having a child” (Bereishis 18:12-15). Yitzchak’s birth was nothing short of miraculous as his mother Sarah was not only elderly but lacked a womb (Bereishis 11:30).

8 Bereishis 21:9 & Rashi ad loc.

9 Ramchal, Mesillas Yeshorim Ch.5 10 See our essay on Avimelech: Father and King.

11 See Bereishis 18:2 12 Bereishis Rabbah 55:5. See Zevachim 62a 13 Pirkei DeRebbi Eliezer Ch. 31

rapport with the ideal level of din, “judgment” finally comes to proclaim G-d’s Kingship and Oneness.

14 This otherworldly element to Yitzchak means that no expression of “remembrance” is necessary for him (Rashi, Vayikra 26:42 citing Toras Kohanim 8:7) 15 Pirkei DeRebbi Eliezer Ch.30 16 Bereishis 27:40 17 Of the first three blessings of the Amidah that correspond to the Avos, the second blessing of the Amidah prayer—“Blessed are You Who resurrects the dead”—corresponds to Yitzchak.

18 Tikkunei Zohar Chadash 26. The otherworldly element of Yitzchak explains why “remembrance” is unnecessary (See Vayikra 26:42). His affinity to the world-to-come meant that he was the only one to whom G-d actually attached His Name to a living human being during his lifetime. See Zohar 1, 60a.

19 Tzephaniah 3:9 20 Mishlei 31:25

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Hashem is, as the kids’ song informs us, truly everywhere. Nothing can exist independent of the Source of all of Reality. Yet there is a gulf, a vast expanse between that reality and the perception of so many. This is the world of total otherness, a world in which there are creatures that have no sense of anything else other than this world. Some even sense that they themselves are the masters of this world, or even that nothing else exists other than themselves. It is, on the face of it, a material world: things couldn’t get more discretely tangible, more self-absorbed.

There are two ways to counter this misconception, to foster a sense of the Divine, the existence and dominion of Hashem. They are both called Shechina – the perception of Hashem.

This comes in two ‘flavours’, each with distinct advantages and disadvantages. One is a perception that is foisted upon us, where we do not contribute to the fostering of that perception, other than being passive bystanders. This is called ‘Nes’ – miracle. Its advantage is that is not open to interpretation or mistake. It is blatant, and forces us to acknowledge Him. The downside is that it is transient, for we had no active input into the process, and for that reason, its effect is liable to be lost relatively quickly.

On the other hand, there is another form of Shechina that is formed

short of miraculous. Encountering the Divine is an experience that is all-

as a result of choice, electing to perceive the Divine in nature, in often

consuming, Neviyim would typically lose consciousness, being so taken

otherwise unremarkable events where there are patently other options of

up in ecstasy. Yet Avrohom has so developed his sensitivity to the needs

interpretation. The upside of this form of Shechina that is created by our

of others that he is still able to notice them.

own avodah (toil), is that its effect is transformational, it involves us, and

He then does a startling thing, he puts Hashem himself ‘on hold’ ,

impacts us for much longer - it becomes part of us.

pleads with him not to leave - ‘Your celestial call is really very important to

We are now ready to understand Avrohom’s intuition. The careful

me, I’ll play you some music, and get back to you after I have slaughtered

wording of the gemora gives the game away. He knew that there is one

some calves, ordered some loaves to be baked and generally looked after

thing that MUST be greater than Kabbolas Penei Hashechina – being a passive bystander in the reception of the Shechina – and that is an

my guests.’

Chazal use this episode to teach us that Hachnosas Orchim is greater than Kabbolas Penei Hashechina, that offering hospitality outweighs the importance of a Divine encounter - a truly revolutionary idea.

The problem with this is that, only with hindsight is it possible to extrapolate this inspirational life lesson. But how did Avrohom know, in the first instance, that this was the right course of action? It might have been the ultimate insult, a truly dangerous course of action!

The answer lies in an exploration of the concept of Shechina, loosely

opportunity to foster a deep recognition – a spiritual ‘lightbulb’ moment in the hearts and mind of others. By exposing them to incredible hospitality and subsequently directing their gratitude to He who lays on the most spectacular buffet of all time, the Master of the Universe, he sparked a recognition of Shechina – He was instrumental in creating Shechina.

Every encounter we have with others, Jew or Gentile, is an opportunity to emulate Avrohom Ovinu, to leave those whose lives we touch with the perception of ‘Ashrey oviv Shelomdo Torah’ fortunate is his father and Rebbe who taught him Torah, to signpost Hashem’s existence, to partner Him in the creation of Shechina.

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BLESSINGS

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The Wording of Different Blessings

If the word HaOlam (of the world) is omitted, the blessing will be invalid and must be repeated6.

Introduction

The right intention (Kavanah) when reciting a Blessing

Blessings are divided into three different categories: 1. Birchos Hanehenin – Blessings recited over foods, drinks and fragrances; 2. Birchos Hamitzvos – Blessings recited over the fulfillment of a mitzvah, i.e.: before doning tefillim or lighting Shabbos candles; 3. Birchos hashevach or Birchos Hodaah – Blessings of praise or thanksgiving, i.e.: after witnessing natural phenomena such as thunder, lightning, rainbows, etc…; the final three blessings of the Sh’moneh Esreh and others1.

The Wording All blessings belonging to any of the abovementioned categories

When reciting a blessing we should think of the literal meaning of all the words we are saying as well as the specific meaning of each of the words: In relation to G-d’s Holy Names: When pronouncing Hashem’s name we should think that He is Adon HaKol, literally the Master over all. We should also think of the letter combination in Hashem’s name, the Yiud, the Heih, the Vov and the Heih which stand for Hayah, Hoveh veYihyieh – Was, Is and Will Be7.

When pronouncing the word Elokeinu we should think that the Creator is Almighty and has absolute power over all and everyone8.

will invariably start with the general opening: “Baruch Atah H’ Elokeinu

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Melech ha’olam” to be followed by words pertaining to its own specific

Our Sages have taught us9 that one should not “throw” a Blessing off of one’s mouth but rather, one should ponder and reflect as one calmly recites a Brochah.

category.

For example, Baruch Atah H’ Elokeinu Melech ha’olam asher kid’shanu be’mitzvosav vetzivanu lehaniach tefillin before performing the mitzvah of putting on tefillin; …lishmoah kol shofar before blowing a shofar; …al mikrah megillah before reading the Megillah, etc.

Since these are all mitzvah-related blessings we declare that Hashem has sanctified us with His commandments and has ordered us to perform such and such a mitzvah.

Birchos Hanehenin, Hashevach and Hodaah are not commandmentrelated blessings, but rather blessings related to enjoyment, praise and gratitude, therefore, the words Asher kid’shanu bemitzvosav are not part of the text.

Full requirement, bare minimum and do overs Every blessing must include the Almighty’s names HaShem Elokeinu; a declaration that He is our G-d; as well as Melech HaOlam, which is a declaration that He is King over the entire universe .

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If a person omits the word Atah (from Baruch Atah), and just says Baruch Hashem Elokeinu… the blessing will still be valid, bedieved – postfacto . The same is true if a person just says either Hashem or Elokeinu 3

The Mishnah Brurah10 quotes the Sefer HaChassidim who mentions that when one recites a blessing before eating a fruit or doing a Mitzvah, one should turn one’s mind towards the Creator and reflect on the fact that through His wonders and His goodness, He gives us fruits and bread so that we may enjoy them. We should not recite blessings by rote and without pondering on what is being said for because of this very behaviour, the Almighty became upset at His people and sent His prophet Yeshayahu with the following message: “These people come near to me with their mouth and honour me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me”11.

Indeed, there are many instances in which the absence of the correct thoughts, intentions and concentration we must have when reciting a brachah or performing a mitzvaoh will render itabsolutely invalid12.

Given that all of us normally like to be heard when we speak, why not make sure that each word of our blessings be imbued with the right thoughts, intentions and concentration?

Now imagine doing it 100 times a day… Well, that’s our topic for next week.

Have a Blessed Shabbos!

but not both of them4. However, if both names were omitted, the blessing will be invalid and must be recited again .

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1 2 3 4 5

Rambam, Hilchos Brachos 1:2-5 Shulchan Oruch – O:C 214:1 Mishnah Brurah 214:3 Mishan Brurah Ibid:4 Shulchan Oruch – O:C 214:1

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Ibid. See also Mishnah Brurah 214:6 and Biur Halochah s.v. Veafiluh.

Shulchan Oruch – O:C 5:1 Ibid.

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4. What do we gain from the actions of sacrifice of Avraham at the Akeida?

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Rabbi Avrumi Hecksher “Dorshei Hashem, Zerah Avraham O’havo, hame’achrim latzeis min haShabbos ume’maharim lavo” – “those who seek Hashem, the offspring of Abraham His beloved, who delay leaving the Shabbos and hurry to welcome it…”

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Hashem reluctantly let him go. It was obvious that although he now wasn’t forbidden to go, nevertheless Hashem would have far preferred if he had remained in Midyan. But that didn’t interest Bilaam at all. “Lo uchal la’avor es pi Hashem” – “I can’t transgress the word of Hashem”, implying that I don’t care at all about His wishes – if he doesn’t absolutely forbid it, I’ll be up early in the morning to saddle my donkey!

Avraham was the opposite, someone who truly loved Hashem. He wanted to do anything he possibly could to make Hashem happy.

Whether he was instructed to do it or not was completely irrelevant. So

In next week’s sedra we read about the final and ultimate test of

even though he had a good excuse and good reason to decline Hashem’s

Avraham Avinu, when Hashem instructed him to offer his beloved son

suggestion to sacrifice his son, such a thought never crossed his mind.

Yitzchak as a burnt offering on a specially prepared altar. The question is

Yitzchak was not the cup of tea, but rather the biscuit by the side.

famous. But why is this so important? Surely there have been many Jews over the years who have willingly given up their life for the sake of G-d and our religion; a mere 70 years ago there were thousands of Jews who did so! So what was Avrohom’s big test?

The Ran (Rabeinu Nissim, c.1290-1375) offers a fantastic and original explanation. Avraham had already been promised by Hashem that he would merit many offspring through this beloved son Yitzchak. So Hashem couldn’t possibly instruct him to kill Yitzchak, but rather He requested it. “Please, Avraham”, He said, “Let Me go back on My word.

Let’s forget about the promise I made.” That’s why He said “Kach na es bincha”- “Please take your son.” Tests and commands are not normally introduced with the word “please”, but this was no command – it was a

We are all Jewish, like it or not. We all have to listen to Hashem, like it or not. But there are two very different approaches to keeping the Torah and the mitzvos. One could resent it all – such a long list of instructions, so many restrictions! I’ll keep to it because I have to, but as soon as something is permitted according to the letter of the law, I’m all for it!

Or, on the other hand, one could learn to appreciate the beauty of it all.

This is the will of Hashem, this is His desire and what would make Him happy. And even if something is permitted by law, if I know that He would appreciate or prefer if I refrain from it, I’ll happily oblige, because I love Him so dearly. To put it bluntly, it’s the difference between the attitude of Avraham Avinu and that of Bilaam.

One classic example is the beautiful mitzvah of Shabbos. According

plea.

Which leads us to ask, if Avraham didn’t have to sacrifice his son

to the letter of the law, I can run around till almost the very last minute

whom he loved so dearly, why did he agree to it? After all, he would

before sunset on Friday evening, and once again from the minute three

receive no punishment if he didn’t do it, and Hashem wouldn’t even have

stars are visible at the conclusion of Shabbos. But that is an indication that this whole Shabbos business was a burden, an unwelcome nuisance

any complaints.

Here lies the key. Your dad asks you for a cup of tea. You serve him his drink with his favourite biscuit by the side. He didn’t ask for the

in my week. Someone who appreciates the beauty of the day will no doubt approach it as Avraham would; he would rush to bring in the holiness of

biscuit, so why did you put it there? Because you know that’s what he

the day, and delay its departure. That’s the attitude of Avraham Avinu,

wants. The love which you displayed by adding the biscuit far exceeds

and someone who follows this line can be titled his offspring. “Those

the expression of love which you achieved by serving him the tea. When

who seek Hashem, the offspring of Abraham His beloved, who delay

there’s a real feeling of love and a strong healthy relationship, you’ll do

leaving the Shabbos and hurry to welcome it…”

far more than you have to; you’ll do anything which you know the other party would appreciate.

It’s a question one must ask oneself – am I happy to be a Jew? Would I prefer not to have this long list of restrictions? Or is my connection and

Bilaam wanted to curse the Jewish nation, but Hashem refused to grant him permission. So he asked and nagged again until finally

relationship with my Creator so strong and healthy that I’d do anything I possibly could to make Him smile? Food for thought, indeed.

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Squeezing Fruits on Shabbos It will often happen that when I give a class to a group of Russian boys who are still fresh in their Yiddishkeit about the beauty of the halachos of Shabbos, one of them will inevitably call out: “Rabbi, do you really have to tell us all this? Just don’t tell us all these details and we won’t know about them, making our lives a lot easier!” The truth is, the opposite is true! Many people have the idea that with hilchos Shabbos, the more one knows, the more ‘becomes’ forbidden. In my experience of teaching (even a group of older ladies!) they were pleasantly surprised to find out that many things they thought to be forbidden actually turned out to be allowed. Allow me to share with you a few practical halachos on Shabbos.

One of the 39 prohibited melachos on Shabbos is Dosh - literally to thresh1. This prohibition includes any type of removing an item from its natural casing or shell. In the mishkan this was accomplished by the removal of the kernel from its husk. One of the Toldos of this melachah is S’chita – squeezing.2 This is because squeezing a fruit is the removal of the liquid from its natural shell.

1. SQUEEZING FRUITS

and grapefruits in this list as they are also very commonly squeezed, the final halachah is that only grapes and olives fit into this category4.

CATEGORY B: Fruits that people squeeze for their juice.

It is forbidden to squeeze on Shabbos any fruit that is commonly squeezed for its juice. This is a Rabbinic prohibition.5

Q. What is included in fruits ‘commonly squeezed’?

A. Any fruit that is commonly squeezed in that place for its juice is included in this category.6 Similarly, if it is not squeezed in that place, but is commonly squeezed in other countries in the world, 7 or the drink is imported into the country and sold there, it is now forbidden to squeeze those types of fruits in that place.8

Q. Is it permitted to place a lemon into tea?

Examples of fruit/vegetables that fit into this category: Orange, grapefruit, apple, pear, peach, plum, apricot, cherry, pineapple, mango, banana, strawberry, kiwi, pomegranate, tomato.

Eating Grapefruit

CATEGORY C: Fruits that no-one squeezes.

Q. Is it permitted to squeeze fruits on Shabbos?

A. There are three separate categories of fruit in regard to this halachah: a. Fruits that are primarily for their juice, b. Fruits that are commonly squeezed for their juice, c. Fruits that are not squeezed for their juice.

CATEGORY A: Fruits that are primarily for squeezing.

It is forbidden to squeeze a fruit that is primarily used for squeezing it for its juice. The only two fruits that fit into this category are grapes and olives.

Consequently, squeezing these fruits for any reason is forbidden by the Torah3.

Although some poskim include oranges .‫ ובגמ' עה‬.‫ מתנ' שבת עג‬1 :‫ מתנ' שבת קמג‬2 .‫ והרמב"ם פ"ח ה"י‬.‫ גמ' שבת קמה‬3

does come out, it is completely unintentional.

Furthermore, one may even use the juice that seeped out from any fruit in category B or C for the fruit salad11.

A blunt knife should not be used as this will definitely produce liquid from the fruit.

It is permitted to squeeze any fruit or vegetable that is never squeezed for its juice even for its juice.9 Examples of fruit/vegetables that fit into this category are: Melon, peppers, watermelon, onion, celery.

Q. Is it permitted to cut fruits that are forbidden to squeeze [category A and B] if some juice will inevitably come out due to the pressure of the cutting?

A. Yes, even grapes may be cut normally on Shabbos10. This is because when one uses a sharp knife it is not definite that any juice will be squeezed, and even when some juice .‫ שו"ע סי' שכ ס"א‬4 .:‫ ברייתא שבת קמד‬5 .‫ בה"ל ד"ה ובמקום‬,‫ רמ"א סי' שכ ס"א בדעת המג"א ס"ק א‬6 .‫ דלא כהרמ"א שמיקל בזה שבאותו מקום מותר‬,‫ מג"א ס"ק א‬7 .‫ אבל המ"ב ס"ק ח' מחמיר אפי' בלא תנאי זה‬,‫ זה לפי המג"א‬8 .‫ ערוה"ש סי"א‬,‫ מ"ב ס"ק ז‬,‫ מג"א ס"ק ט‬,‫ וכ"פ השו"ע ס"א‬.‫ ברייתא שם קמד‬9 .‫וכ"כ הגר"ז בס"א שהעיקר להקל בזה‬ ‫ אינו עוסק כלל בסחיטה‬.‫ ב‬,‫ דאינו מתכוון לסחטו ולא ניחא ליה שמשקה יוצא‬1 0 .‫ וכן שמעתי מהגר"ע אוירבאך שליט"א‬.‫ורק במעשה אכילה‬

A. Yes [It should only be placed into a kli shlishi]. One must be careful not to squeeze the lemon even with a spoon whilst it is inside the tea whilst stirring it.12

One may slice a grapefruit in half as usual and eat it normally – with a spoon – even though some juice will inevitably be squeezed during the process13. This includes even scraping out any leftover pieces of fruit at the bottom even though a substantial amount of juice will be squeezed out in the process14. Furthermore, the leftover juice may be drunk afterwards15.

One may not, however, squeeze out any of the remaining fruit after eating it, either by actual squeezing or even by pressing the spoon on the bottom of the grapefruit16. Any juice that overflowed from the grapefruit onto the plate underneath may be consumed17.

For Halachic Questions: Thepocketseries@gmail.com ‫ המשקין‬,‫ וכיון שרוצה לאכול הפרי‬.‫ שאין סחטן מדעת ואינו מכוון לסחיטה‬1 1 ‫ זה לא ניחא ליה שאבד המשקה‬.‫ א‬,‫ ואפי' את"ל שזה פ"ר‬.‫שזבו מותרין באכילה‬ .‫ הוי כמו סחיטה לגופן שהמשקה שזב מותרת‬.‫ וב‬,‫מהפרי‬ .‫ שש"כ פ"ה ס"ב‬12 .‫ שש"כ פ"ה הע' מט בשם הגרש"ז זצ"ל‬1 3 .‫ הגרפ"א פאלק שליט"א‬1 4 ‫ כיון שהסחיטה נעשה לצורך גופן של פרי והפרי עומד לאכילה כיון שלקח‬1 5 ‫ אין על המשקה הזו דין משקין שזבו ומותר‬,‫האשכולית להדיא כדי לאוכלו‬ .‫ הגרח"פ שיינברג זצ"ל בס' אוצרות השבת עמ' תסב‬.‫לכתחילה לשתות‬ .‫ קצוה"ש סי' קכו ס"ק יד‬,‫ כיון שזה סחיטה בשביל המשקה ולא לאוכל‬16 ‫ א"כ לא שייך כאן הגזירה של משקין שזבו כיון‬,‫ שודאי בזה אינו ניחא במשקה‬1 7 .‫שהפרי מיוחד לאכילה‬

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‫לרפואה שלמה בקרוב בתוך שאר חולי ישראל‬ 6. Avraham’s zeal going to the Akeida precedes an enemy of the Jews who does the same. Who?

PANIC IN SHUL, PART 2

Rabbi Yaakov Barr

MSc (CBT), Pg Dip, BABCP (accred). Psychotherapist in private practice in London specialising in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy

If public speaking is a fear affecting so many millions of people, it stands to reason that having to do certain mitzvos in public can also invoke great fear for many of us.

Moishe dreads going to any family simchah. As a teenager he once

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Close your eyes and imagine yourself succeeding at the goal – picture it as already complete.

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Make the picture in your mind as clear and complete as possible with vivid details. For example Moishe should imagine how the simchah hall looks, what colour the flowers are on the table, what he is wearing and what sounds he can hear.

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Imagine what it feels like to be successful at your chosen goal. Are

laughed when he was in the middle of reciting one of the sheva brachos.

you relaxed, happy, proud? Also, see if you can imagine a sense of

Understandably he felt humiliated at the time. Ten years on, he still worries

peace that you might feel inside at having achieved your goal.

that he might laugh again, which is something he could never live down. He tries his utmost not to get any kibud (honour) and throughout each simchah his anxiety spirals.

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Try to do these steps at least twice a day for 10 minutes if possible first thing when you wake up and again right before you fall asleep.

If you are feeling overly stressed about a goal, take a few minutes to

Yossi has now been forced to ask his wife to stop inviting guests. His

visualize your success at that situation several times a day. This will

wife and children enjoy having guests and so surprisingly does Yossi.

help your body feel less stressed and anxious about it and you will

However he gets so nervous when he makes Kiddush, his voice stutters and his hands shake, that it has just become too embarrassing for him. What is interesting is that Yossi has no problem speaking to the guests or singing zemiros. He can even make Kiddush in front of his close family perfectly,

begin to see and experience the goal more positively.

EXPOSURE THERAPY Exposure therapy is perhaps the most effective and proven avenue

but when guests are in attendance, it becomes a completely different story.

for gradually becoming used to coping with panic in shul. The premise

Robert is a baal teshuvah. His Hebrew pronunciation is good but not

behind exposure therapy is that you need to be exposed gradually over

completely fluent. He imagines that everyone is laughing whenever he reads

time to the situations that you fear in order to desensitize yourself and

Hebrew words. Shul is not a happy experience for him.

reduce anxiety. Although exposure therapy is generally conducted by a

Here are some more effective self-help techniques to overcome this debilitating problem.

therapist in the context of treatment such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), you can also practice exposures on your own.

Visualisation

By taking small steps in facing your fears and accomplishing small

Visualisation is a powerful tool that our minds use all the time - maybe

goals, you will have the confidence and strength to handle more difficult

without even being aware of it. Often when people are not succeeding

situations. Yossi, who we mentioned above, might start off practicing

at something, it is because they are habitually and subconsciously

making Kiddush in front of only family or friends who know he has this

visualising failure, discomfort, and negative situations. If you want to

problem. Once he succeeds in this, he can aim for the next step up. He

succeed, you need to begin taking control of the images in the mind.

simchah where nobody is paying much attention to him. Once he has

HERE IS HOW TO DO THIS: 1

might try making Kiddush for one person he does not know in a loud

Decide on a specific goal you wish to achieve, such as being able to

mastered this, he can aim higher‌..

get an aliyah like everyone else. The goal should be realistic. So in

The trick is to be imaginative and patient as you slowly expose yourself

the above example, Moishe should not expect from himself that he

more and more to your most feared situations. If you find that a particular

needs to pronounce his brachah absolutely perfectly without a single

step is still problematic, stay with it until your anxiety is reduced before

hesitation.

moving on to the next one.

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7. Where did the Akeida take place?

KINDNESS, A TRUE BLESSING

Yitzi Grunhut Nishmas Yisroel

“…And through your offspring, all the nations of the world will be blessed.”

(BEREISHIS, 22:18) After nine great ordeals, Avraham had passed the greatest test of them all, the Akeidah. This demonstrated his steadfast trust in Hashem by going completely against his natural mercy and kindness by which he emulated Hashem. Hashem tells Avraham that his children will be responsible for the welfare and wellbeing of all the other nations. It seems rather perplexing to call this a reward in the form of a blessing.

Why would Avraham be concerned with another’s welfare over his son’s?

Granted that he was very caring, the effect of the brachah should be mentioned as a secondary benefit and not as the primary reason?

Avraham Avinu had reached perfection in acting with kindness.

So much so, that he is referred to as the Pillar of Chessed (the closest semblance humanly possible to the kindness of Hashem). However, just as Man is finite, in contrast with Hashem, so too are the extent of his actions. Therefore, to ensure that Avraham’s legacy will continue to live on through his children, Hashem rewards him that his children will be the actual source of all goodness. The infinite blessing that Hashem bestows upon this world, will flow through his children. This blessing was the most beautiful one that Avraham could hope for.

However, this is as much a blessing as it is a responsibility. Those that strive for true perfection and wish their children would do the same do not settle for a big blessing that will result in a cozy and comfy life.

They want the responsibility and ability for their children’s actions to be powerful and pray that they use these in the best way possible.

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We see this phenomenon earlier on when Avraham is told about the calamity that is about to befall Sodom and Amorah. Hashem doesn’t need to justify why He tells Avraham certain things but for the aforementioned reason He does. “Because Avraham will educate his children to do

1 Perhaps the idea here is that Yitzchak was willing to keep up his life for Hashem and with death it would finish. However, the pain of Avraham, a father who was willing to kill his long awaited special son and go on living with it is much greater.

(This is like people say: Living for Hashem is more difficult than dying for Hashem because it is for much longer.)

2 "Akeda" means "tied". It refers to a special tying of hand and feet together as was done to Yitzchak (SEE GEMORA SHABBOS 54A).

3 Yitzchak was 37 years old ay the Akeida. Rabbeinu Bechai (CHAYEI SARA, 23:1) sees an allusion to this in the passuk ‫ויהי"ו‬ that has the gematria of 37 that were the number of main years of Sarah when she had Yitzchak. (He was born to her when she was 90 and she died when she was 127.)

4 Rabbi Chaim Volozhin (RUACH CHAIM, 5:3) explains the phraseology and emphasis of Avraham Avinu, our father.

All his actions, nisyonos, were the first of such done by Man and therefore to him they were extremely difficult. However, after doing them, to his descendents they are now part of our nature and therefore much easier for us to do. The mashal

PARSHAH

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righteousness and justice…” Avraham was no fool, nor a time waster. He knew very well that the five cities as they were should be destroyed. Yet he prayed that there should be someone who would influence the five cities’ citizens for good. No tzaddik in their right mind would actually remain in Sodom and its neighbouring cities. Acts of kindness were punishable by death. The story of Lot and the angels proved that. Rather, the prayers were in order to bring a hisorerus into the hearts of the influential few.

That is true kindness, to see the greatness in man and pray that another can access it in order to save thousands. Avraham had hereby shown, “I care.” He made it his responsibility to try and save them.

Klal Yisrael controls the faucet of brachah to the world on a personal and general level. We can open the taps and let Hashem’s light shine forth.

However, this can only be done with chessed. As we are told that Yetzias Mitzrayim was in the zechus of tzedakah that we performed towards one another. What acts could we have done? What could we give? We barely had any possessions of our own! It was a smile, a good word, a pat on the back, a hug. When does Am Yisrael Chai come into play? When we rejuvenate another fellow Jew. You cannot have a nation of live people, if one is left out. We truly experienced an uplifted and invigorated nation this past Shabbos with the amazing Shabbos Project taking place all over the world. People hosted complete strangers in their homes for meals, just because they were Jewish.

Chazal tell us that all the days of the week are in pairs. Sunday with Monday, etc. Shabbas was ‘sad’ that it was alone. Hashem promised that Klal Yisrael would be its mate. The joy of this reunion is seen when each one of us has a twinkle in our eye on Friday night, when we leave our house for shul smelling the Shabbos challah scent or hear Lechu Neranenah echo through the shul. It is then when we come alive. We sing, tell inspiring stories and recount beautiful divrei Torah. We are strengthened and we strengthen one another. Ish es re’ehu ya’azoru u’le’achiv yoimar chazak!

to this is like the electrician who puts in the wiring and then afterwards everyone can just press the light switch to work it.

Perhaps what we gain from the Akeida with is the ability to chose the love of Hashem over the love of our children.

5 Since the Akeida is such a source of merit for the Jews it is mentioned in many places and several times on Rosh Hashana. Some of them: The ideal shofar to take is from a ram to remember the ram used at the Akeida (see O.C. 586:1).

Some people eat the head of a sheep to remember the ram brought in place of Yitzchak (O.C. 583:2). The reading from the Torah on the second day of Rosh Hashana is about the Akeida.

6 It was Bilom. (SEE RASHI, PARSHAS BALAK, 22:21) 7 The Akeida was done on the mizbayach at a special place where many other people performed sacrifices. The Rambam (HILCHOS BEIS HABECHIRA, 2:1-2) lists this place as the same one where Noach brought up his sacrifices after leaving the tayva and the altar where Kayin and Hevel brought their offerings as well as where Odom brought his sacrifice. It was also the place of the mizbayach of the first Beis Hamikdash.

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