AIN’T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THIS BUT YOU READ IT ANYWAYS... By Edith Smith
7 MISTAKES DONE WHILE DATING ONLINE
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You’re lying or misrepresenting yourself. It’s common for people to post pictures on their profiles that flatter them but look nothing like how they really look in real life. That’s all well and good as long as you never meet that person, but isn’t that kind of the point? You are not online dating to attract as many people as possible
You all need Jesus
WHO SAID WHAT? MATCH THE QUOTATIONS... a) “This place is full of sluts”
1. Lily Allen
b) “They didn’t listen to the women of Texas. But they’ll have to listen to me.”
2. Stephanie Smith, (New York Post reporter)
c) “I have a baggy pussy” d) “I’m 124 sandwiches away from an engagement ring,” e) “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a
woman.”
3. Wendy Davis 4. Godfrey Bloom 5. Margaret Thatcher
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You’re not disclosing your intentions. People are online dating for all kinds of different reasons. Whatever it is, be explicit about it. You’re airing your dirty laundry. We all have relationship baggage but you might need to take some time to yourself before trying to navigate the dating world.
Top 10 Most Expensive Photographs In The World #1 Rhein II - Andreas Gursky (1999) $4.3 million The most expensive photo ever sold is a grey river beneath an overcast sky. It was shot in 1999 and sold in 2011.
#2 Untitled #96 – Cindy Sherman (1981) $3.9 million This self portrait was the world’s most expensive when it sold in2011.
#3 Dead Troops Talk – Jeff Wall (1992) $3.7 million
Jeff Wall’s conceptual photo of a battlefield of dead Soviet soldiers talking to one another.The attention to detail is outstanding, and very gruesome.
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4. You’re not being specific enough about yourself. If there’s something that is a big part of who you are, you should put it on your profile. 5. You’re narrowing your search too much (women). Try to keep an open mind by getting rid of some or all of your filters and see what you find. 6. You’re not narrowing your search enough (men). Men tend not to be too choosy but Think about what compels you to send someone a message 7. You’re getting distracted. I know it’s difficult, but keep your goal in mind. Why did you sign up for online dating? What were you looking for?
BITCH STOLE MY LOOK! Do i love this dress? Hell yes! Anyways, Leann Rimes was spotted at a gala event in Beverly Hills last night. She chose the same Donna Karan Gray Draped Plunging Neck Dress previously spotted on both Kim Kardashian
and Jennifer Hudson who whore it before at the at the Chicago International Film Festival Hudson takes the win for me, it suits her svelte figure and her accessories are on point. What do you think?
Donna Karan Gray Draped Plunging Neck Dress
The $1,895 dress has a figure-skimming silhouette, a plunging v-neckline, long sleeves, bias ruching across the hips, and an envelope skirt with a center vent.
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Bruno Mars spoke with the San Diego Union-Tribune from a concert tour stop Seattle on June 9. Here is a transcript of most of that interview. Q: To begin with, if you could sit down with one of the following three artists — Bob Marley, Miles Davis or Elvis Presley — who would you pick and why? MARS: Whoo! That would depend on what day it is. Today, I’d like to talk to Bob Marley. I’d just like to ask him what was his method. Bob is one of the greatest songwriters ever. I don’t know if people understand how powerful his songs are and the simplicity and genius behind them, from ‘Redemption Song’ to ‘Is This Love?’ and ‘I Shot the Sheriff.’ I feel, as a songwriter, it’s one of the hardest things to do — to sit down and say how you feel. He really did that on all his songs and it was just so genuine, and I want to know how he did it. Q: I was lucky enough to interview Ray Charles a few times, and I asked him what his criteria was for picking songs to perform that were written by other artists. He replied that he felt he had earned the right to tweak the song musically any way he likes, but that if he can’t connect immediately with the lyrics, he won’t even bother. Your live shows sometimes include parts or all of ‘Billie Jean’ by Michael Jackson, ‘Smells Like Teen Spirit’ by Nirvana, ‘Seven Nation Army’ by White Stripes and the Barrett Strong classic ‘Money,’ which The Beatles later covered. What is your criteria for picking songs by other artists? MARS: Well, my background is I used to play (in bands at) bars and pubs. We used to cover Nirvana and sing ‘Bilie Jean’ over ‘Smells Like Teen Spirit.’ We did that at the bars and would get everyone going. That was part of the show and we used to do this back in the day to make a buck. Defintiely, I gotta be able to sing it. I grew up with so many different songs that the ones that are fun to play are the ones I want to do. Q: You grew up performing songs by both Elvis Presley and Michael Jackson. From a musical perspective, what did you learn from each of them? MARS: Really, it was just their command. The biggest thing is the command they both have on stage... how they can control the crowd and the band. I think there’s a performance of Elvis on the
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Ed Sullivan (TV) show where he does ‘Hound Dog.’ At the end he slows it down, and — to me — it looked like an improv moment, not like something they rehearsed. It was like he (Presley) saw girls (in the audience) freaking out and said to himself: ‘Watch me slow it down — and then really go nuts.’ And he slows it down at the end and (then) starts his little dance, and he had them. The confidence Elvis and Michael exuded from stage, I’m a fan of. Q: A little earlier in this interview, we discussed Elvis Presley and Michael Jackson, two bigger-thanlife icons who both had very tragic endings. From a career perspective, do you look at their lives as cautionary tales? MARS: Sure, sure. There will never be another Michael Jackson, a huge pop star since (the age of) 7. With my being from Hawaii and being very family oriented I don’t really have a fear of a tragic ending. I dont see any tragic ending for me. Q: How big was it to you to win a Best Male Pop Vocal Grammy Award this year, especially being nominated in the same category that Michael Jackson won for back in the day? MARS: I was nominated with Michael Jackson! He was nominated for ‘This Is It,’ the song that came out of the movie (of the same name. In a way, I owe it to him. I feel like, if it wasn’t for his music and my upbringing listening to him...I don’t know what kid didn’t listen to him at my age. You aspire to be as great as he is as an artist. I don’t think any artist in pop, rock or hip-hop has ever done it any bigger than him. You know what I mean? He’s the man. Q: You are obviously very serious about your music, but I wonder if you could talk for a minute about how important it is to include humor in your songs. For example, there’s your carrot metaphor in ‘Runaway Baby’ and the physically painful extremes you detail in the lyrics to ‘Grenade.’ MARS: Well, I think I don’t take myself too seriously. You know as far as, it’s a fun life. I take my music serious, but I like to have fun. When people meet me, that’s what they get out of it. I want there to be a piece of me in my music, you know? I genuinely believe that’s the secret of all the success that’s happened (for me). Even with (my song) ‘Just the Way You Are,’ it’s a very simplistic love song with words that have been said before in 1,000 other love songs. But people can hear my songs are coming from something real. I mean what I say; I’m not just writing to impress critics or young girls, or older girls. The way I talk is the way I write a song.
Q: The dapper hat you wear is, I believe, a fedora, which was a signature look of Frank Sinatra. Any connection? MARS: Um, as far as smoothness, maybe. No, I’m kidding. Frank is awesome, (but) I wear a fedora because I cut my hair one day. I used to have a big old Afro and I cut it one day and felt very naked. So I picked up a Fedora and started wearing it. Q: The old saying about hindsight being 20/20 is usually true. In hindsight, was getting dropped by Motown Records when you were 18 a good thing, even if it really sucked at the time? MARS: It was probably the best thing that ever happened to me, as far as being a reality check and (learning) what it really takes to break into this (business). I was so young at the time that, at 18, I probably thought being signed (to Motown) was it for me. But you don’t know what the hell you’re doing at 18. And when I got dropped, that’s when I thought: ‘I’ll do everything on my own; I’ll write my own music and produce it.’ I was very frustrated (at Motown) because I was in (recording) studios with producers, trying to explain to them how I wanted these songs to sound. And how can you explain something you haven’t done yet? Q: You’ve worked with a diverse array of artists, from Sugarbabes, Brandy and Matisyahu to Cee-Lo Green, Travis McCoy and, of course, Germany’s Geri Der Klostertaler. Are you now in a position to turn down offers, and who is on your wish list of people you really want to collaborate with? MARS: I’d like to collaborate with Alicia Keys and Kings of Leon. I recently did a song with Eminem and would love to do another. My goal is to find a new artist; I’d love to produce a whole album that I’m not singing on. Q: In pop music, the public usually see the results — the hit records, the Grammy Awards performances, the concert tours — but not all the work that goes into getting into the spotlight. And not everyone realizes that, even if you have a lot of talent, chances are you won’t make it. Based on what you’ve experienced so far, what have you learned that you think would be particularly valuable for a young musician who looks up to you as a role model and hopes to follow in your footsteps? MARS: Be in control. Know who you are. And don’t try to be different just to be different. U-T San Diego 22
Dating
Finding ‘The One’ Paul Hudson
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hen you’ve met the one, you know you’ve met the one.” Honestly, I can’t imagine it actually works that way. What about all of the individuals who thought they met the one until coming to realize he or she wasn’t the one when the relationship didn’t last? They “knew” they met the one until the relationship continued and failed rather than prospered. If “knowing” that someone is the one is all that’s needed, then the majority of people have let go and lost “the one” several times before finding their final “one.” Overall, the concept of “the one” I find to be a bit bothersome. Not in the sense that there isn’t or couldn’t be one person in our lives who makes it worth living, but the idea that there could only be one person in the world who could fulfill our dreams. I’d rather believe that there are plenty of individuals out there who could potentially be the one. What people need to come to realize is that we function in a reality governed by space and time — you are only exposed to most of the people you are exposed to by chance. So do the math: If there is only one person in the whole entire world out there for you, what are the chances that you’d come to meet them? Slim to none. The chances are less than one in a billion because you won’t meet all seven billion people on the planet. In fact, you won’t meet most of them. So, meeting the one, if there was truly only one, would have to be a miracle. Believe what you will, but I don’t believe in miracles, only chance. You either meet a person or you don’t meet a person – it’s all by chance. You could argue that there is some mystical hand guiding us towards that one person, but I don’t buy it. Regardless, chance is chance and whether being lucky and meeting a person you will love forever is simply luck or a greater design does not matter; it will happen or it won’t. The only thing you can do is be damn sure to give it your all when you think you may have hit the lottery. This takes understanding the characteristics that would allow being with and loving the one. These characteristics, however, don’t only pertain to the other party; they pertain
to you. What makes the relationship with the one is that both parties can handle it. Love can be very, very overwhelming. I’m not talking about blinding to the point where you don’t see the others’ flaws; that’s true, as well. I’m talking about what happens once that blindness wears off – which it always does – and we are thrown into a less fluffy reality. It’s like waking up from a dream only to wish you could fall back asleep again. We romanticize the sh*t out of our relationships when we first fall for someone. Which is great, until your love stabilizes and the novelty of it all wears off. Then you are stuck with two individuals who still love each other, but are prone to
The person who can potentially be “the one” for you is the person who opens your eyes to a new, slightly different reality. He or she will expose you to parts of the world you didn’t know existed. This person will change your life and do so for the positive. He or she will make your life better, a whole lot better. Throughout our lives, we meet plenty of individuals. Some great, others awful; it’s simply the way it is. But even the awesome people we meet usually aren’t capable of broadening our horizons. Most people either confirm the beliefs we have or give poor arguments for why we ought to change our beliefs. Very, very few people are actually able to make us believe in something different. The one will make you feel like you are living more because you will literally be experiencing more, even if that doesn’t mean physically experiencing more, but only mentally. When you find the one, your life will be significantly grander. You, of course, have to add sexual chemistry to the mix, but since that’s a given, I won’t delve into the details. What’s most important is for us to understand that even when we find one of the ones, it’s not guaranteed to work out. Space and time don’t only regulate the people we meet, but also the people we are – our level of maturity, our humor, our character. Each and every day, you are a different person – the same goes for everyone else. The real key to finding the one and sticking with this person is meeting him or her at a time when you are both ready to settle down. That is truly the deciding factor. No matter how much you love a person or how much he or she loves you, if either of you aren’t ready to accept that you found the one person to love and cherish forever, then you won’t work out. When we aren’t ready our minds bring up too many questions and concerns, making us waiver, uncertain about how we feel and of what this person actually means to us. Knowing that you’ve found the one is when you are both certain that neither of you will waiver, or decide to give up. Unfortunately, luck once again plays a role. You may be able
Chance is chance and whether being lucky and meeting a person you will love forever is simply luck or a greater design does not matter; it will happen or it won’t. The only thing you can do is be damn sure to give it your all when you think you may have hit the lottery. questioning whether or not they are still “in love” with each other. No one ever bothers to define what being “in love” means. They always give you that half-assed answer of: You just know. Just knowing is obviously not information ascertained from somewhere outside of us. Therefore, it must originate form within us; meaning that being in love is simply the way we feel. We either feel we are in love or we don’t. The problem is that we too often relate feeling of love with the bodily changes we experience and not with the changes in the way we see things.
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