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Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
Hi there! I was wondering if the panel can come up with some helpful tips for a guy who is just starting out in the dating world. Any advice would be appreciated, Yoni*
The Shadchan Michelle Mond
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hank you for this question that will undoubtedly help many singles. I would like to start with the concept of building an initial connection. There are peripheral factors which play into the experience of a date before you even open your
mouth to speak. When you go on a date you should look at it as if she is your guest and treat her as such. Be attuned to external factors which will make the date more comfortable. Some examples of this are the following: 1. Make sure the car is clean and smells pleasant 2. Clean under your nails and make sure you are showered and dressed nicely
3. Get a handful of fresh new dress shirts/pants and new shoes just for dating 4. Get to the date on time 5. Have your date planned ahead of time, including researching the place 6. Offer that she can adjust the AC/heat in the car for comfort 7. Always buy her a drink/offer snacks You are taking this girl out, and
you have a responsibility to take care of her like a mensch, as if you were taking care of a guest in your home. The next level of comfort will come with conversation and comfortable connection. Examples of successful connection are the following: 1. Don’t drop the ball. Conversation should go back and forth (like a game of catch). It should go
Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.
