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FEBRUARY 4, 2021 | The Jewish Home OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
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Rabbi Dr. Abraham J. Twerski, zt”l A Brilliant Torah Scholar and a Mental Health Giant By Zvi Gluck
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t Amudim, we know all too well just how hard it has been to get the Jewish community to accept the realities of mental health challenges, and we have been humbled to see how the tide has turned in a positive direction in recent years. But we also know equally well that none of what we do today would be possible without the groundbreaking work of a giant of a man who blazed the trail that we follow today – Rabbi Dr. Abraham J. Twerski, zecher tzaddik l’vracha. There is no doubt that Rabbi Dr. Twerski deserves to be remembered as a tzaddik, a title that he rightfully earned in his lifetime. While it would be relatively easy to be blinded by his impressive years of work as a psychiatrist, or even as the author of dozens of books, not to mention a brilliant talmid chacham, but Rabbi Dr. Twerski was so much more than that. He was a man who positively impacted countless families and individuals in so many ways, a point that was abundantly clear to anyone from his tzavaa, which specifically stated that no eulogies be made upon his passing. Instead, Rabbi Dr. Twerski asked that his well-known composition, Hoshia Es Amecha, be sung, in the hopes that the melody that brought joy to so
many for decades would weigh heavily in his favor as he stood before the heavenly court. My father and Rabbi Dr. Twerski shared a close relationship that spanned 60 years, and when I became involved with those in danger of slipping through our societal cracks, it was a privilege to be able to reach out to the man who was known simply in our family as “Reb Shia.” I will never forget the time I reached out to him to discuss the suitability of 12 step meetings, trying to ascertain how I could send anyone to a meeting that more often than not was being held in a church. Explaining to me that cases that had reached that level were clearly dinei nefashos, he told me straight out, “When a patient has cancer, do you look for the best doctor or a Jewish doctor?” His thoughts on that particular matter were published in one of his many books, and he made it clear to me that he was more than happy to have a discussion on the matter with anyone who saw the issue differently. In addition to being available to offer guidance on specific cases or emergencies as they arose, Rabbi Dr. Twerski was helpful to me in many other ways. Nearly 15 years ago, I found myself dealing with a crisis involving a family that had multiple
children living in an abusive environment. With numerous rabbonim weighing in with different views, I reached out to Rabbi Dr. Twerski for an outside opinion and he introduced me to someone who he felt could get to the heart of the matter, Dr. David Pelcovitz. Not only had Rabbi Dr. Twerski put me in touch with an individual who was perfectly suited to help me navigate the complexities of this particular case, he opened up a golden opportunity for me, and Dr. Pelcovitz has been a tremendous inspiration to me personally and an invaluable asset to Amudim since the day we first opened our doors in 2014. Over the years, Rabbi Dr. Twerski became a guiding light for Amudim. While he wasn’t able to join us for our 2015 mental health conference, he worked with us every step of the way to create the program’s different elements. He spent hours on the phone with Mendy Klein, a”h, and me in order to maximize the event’s potential and, with his help, it was a groundbreaking two days that gave mental health professionals the opportunity to share their feedback from the trenches, helping us focus our efforts to help as many people as possible in their personal struggles. Rabbi Dr. Twerski also taught me
the importance of recovery, explaining that while there are those who go through recovery with a goal of how to live their lives and typically fare well in the long run, there are others who live just so that they can be in recovery and they keep repeating the same destructive patterns over and over again. Rabbi Dr. Twerski brought home the lesson that you need to proactively end the vicious cycle haunting those in the latter group by giving them the tools to approach life and its sometimes-daunting circumstances in a healthier way. But perhaps one of the most incredible lessons I learned from Rabbi Dr. Twerski came during a Zoom conference for high level mental health professionals, community leaders, and philanthropists that took place approximately two years ago. One participant voiced their opinion that a person can only be helped once they have hit rock bottom, and when I disagreed wholeheartedly with that statement, another person jumped in, saying that Rabbi Dr. Twerski had said exactly that in one of his books. Wasting no time, Rabbi Dr. Twerski explained that while he had made that statement 30 years ago, it no longer applied in today’s world, where hitting rock bottom typically means death.
