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FEBRUARY 4, 2021 | The Jewish Home OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
It was the night before my sister’s engagement when I got the call from a shadchan who had an amazing idea for me. Because things were set for my sister’s engagement, my mother agreed
for me to start dating and go out. Little do I know what was about to unfold. A week later, I had my first date with Avromi*. At this point, my sister had been engaged for all but a week when havoc wreaked in my house. A wedding date could not be decided because “the other side” was so nervous about Covid. They refused to meet my parents in person. When it came to talking monetary things, they were extremely stingy and stubborn. It seemed like they were using Covid as an excuse to make the most bare bones wedding. Long story short, my sister couldn’t take the pressure and the family and broke the engagement. I’m still dating Avromi and one thing I have learned from my sister’s situation is to get to know his family. This is so not how things were supposed to work out. I feel so guilty every time I go on a date, when I leave hearing my sister cry in her room. My mother is tempted to tell me to break it off until my sister finds the right one. I think that would be a grave mistake. I figured I would write in… Any thoughts would be helpful Thanks. Talia*
Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.
