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Features COVER STORY

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A.J. Jacobs brings tales of mind, body, spirit to PDX….……………………..32 Friends of Center Brunch speaker launches author series…………………37 JEWS WITH ATTITUDE Tested pot is safer pot……..…………………………………………………………..8 BUSINESS Ins & Outs………………………………………….……………………………………10 FOOD Chef’s Corner: Add love to family meal …....………………………………….. 26 NW Nosh: Very Veggie Valentine…. …….…...…………………………………..28 Teens seek Pesach recipes………………………………………………………….31 YOUNG ADULTS This is one app athletes need …....……………………………………………….44 OSU student finds place at Hillel International……………………………….45 VOLUNTEERS Horses, staff and clients stride forward …....………………………………….46 SENIORS And Heeeere’s Danny………………………………………………………………...50 ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT Turning emotions to sound…....………………………………………………….. 52 Exhibit explores Israeli-Palestinian “family” ………………………………….54

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WEDDINGS 12-25 Their Chuppah is Forever…..……………………………………………………….….14

Toot & Shoot make weddings memorable……………………………………...… 16 Our big, fat inclusive wedding…..…………………………………………………… 18 Innovative wedding footwear……..……………………………………………….… 20 Gold bangles transcend changes …..…….……………………………………..… 21 Mikvah and Marriage………………..……………………………………………….… 22 Marriage mores in Israel…………………………………………………………….… 24 Wedding Directory……………………………………………………………………….25

JKids & Teens too Pedestrian safety is no game........…………………………………………………..39 NW teens experience international convention…..……………………………..40 Teens can be self-reliant….……………………………………………………………42

JLiving With Life & Legacy the future is now………………………………………………..58 Life & Legacy adds two more years………………………………………………….60 FACES from recent events …….……………………………………………………….62 Previews of things to come …….…………………………………………………….64 Calendar …….……………………….……………………………………………………65

Columns 21 To Life by Amy Hirshberg Lederman 26 Chef’s Corner by Lisa Glickman 28 NW Nosh by Kerry Politzer 42 Family Time by Debra Rich Gettleman 57 Ask Helen COVER PHOTO: A.J. Jacobs

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Weddings are all about new beginnings.

They are the start of a new family, a new life together, a new home and new dreams.

But marriage also carries on traditions, some of which stretch back millennia.

Many women enjoy the reprieve provided in the Jewish tradition of a pre-wedding visit to the mikvah. As one woman wrote, “In the frenzy and excitement of the days preceding our wedding, it was like an oasis of spirituality and meaning.�

Our To Life columnist writes about how a gift of jewelry handed down through generations provides her with a tie to both her family and evolving Jewish practice.

Other families take the opportunity to create new heirlooms, including chuppahs.

Speaking of new beginnings, Oregon Jewish Life has also matured to a new stage of life. Four years ago we began mailing complementary copies of the monthly magazine to thousands of readers. About half of our readers have traditionally picked up the magazine for free at their synagogue, library, grocery store or other pickup locations. Those free pickup points have been expanded, but we have launched a subscription service for those who want to get their monthly magazine in their mailbox.

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Jews With Attitude

From left, Iron Laboratories CFO Howard Lutz, CEO Rob Teitel and COO Mike Goldman.

Medical or recreational, tested pot is safer pot

By Deborah Moon

Oregon laws and regulations regarding both medical and recreational marijuana continue to evolve. But one thing is sure, knowing just what you are smoking or eating is not only a good thing, in some cases it is vitally important.

The Oregon Liquor Control Commission, which also regulates marijuana, licenses labs approved to test marijuana sold in dispensaries around the state. Currently marijuana sold in Oregon must be tested for pesticides. Rules on what is tested and how the tests are performed are still in flux, with final regulations scheduled to take effect in June.

On Jan. 11, the OLCC released a list of 250 pesticides that

cannabis growers are permitted to use on their crops. However, they must still follow pesticide labels, which must list agriculture use and broad leaf applications.

One lab arrived in Oregon last fall, bringing the experience they developed helping another state create its testing benchmarks. Three Jewish businessmen – CEO Rob Teitel, COO Mike Goldman and CFO Howard Lutz – from Michigan expanded their established lab, opening a marijuana testing lab in Eugene.

Iron Laboratories, the longest-running and first accredited cannabis testing lab in Michigan, opened in Eugene in October 2015.

“We are ISO 17025-accredited in Michigan, which makes

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us one of the few accredited (cannabis) labs in the county,” says Iron Lab CEO Rob Teitel.

(ISO 17025 is the main standard used by testing and calibration laboratories.) Rob is affiliated with the Downtown Synagogue in Detroit and became a bar mitzvah and was married at Reform congregations in Michigan.

In addition to testing for pesticides, Iron Labs tests for the presence of microbacterials (mold and bacteria) and potency.

“For the sickest of MMJ (medical marijuana) patients, testing for molds and other impurities is definitely critical,” says Rob. The Iron Labs website notes that more than 80% of marijuana shows traces of mold. Consuming high levels of mold and bacteria, for medical and recreational users alike, can cause severe health risks that can be avoided with the proper screening process.

Potency information is also important for patients.

“With Iron Laboratories testing for potency, impurities, pollutants and any contaminants that could be in your cannabis products, a new platform for safety, quality and reliability is here."

– Mike Goldman “Potency testing is vital,” says Mike. “This information can be provided to the primary physician so the patient can be properly dosed.”

Rob adds Iron Labs tests the levels of THC, CBD and other cannabinoids, so a patient or consumer of cannabis products won’t face unintended effects from improper dosage. “For example, cancer patients or patients with seizure disorders require specific content information to properly dose for their disorders,” he says.

Determining the strain of the cannabis is also important for medical marijuana. Iron Labs website notes that potent sativa strains can cause sever anxiety and potent indica strains can cause sudden drowsiness.

Howard says he believes testing and structure are very sensible

approaches to legalized marijuana. Mike adds that he believes Oregon is taking a good approach to the fledgling industry.

“Everyone deserves safe cannabis products,” says Mike.

“Oregon’s legalization and medical markets are regulated and controlled with oversight by professional groups and state officials. It’s a pleasure to see an organized approach, which eliminates individuals that should not be in this industry.”

He believes that Oregon is setting a “fantastic example” for other states to follow. With Iron Laboratories, he is eager to provide “the best safety measures” for medical and recreational users.

In addition to following Oregon’s guidelines for testing, Mike says Iron Labs also provides testing and consulting services not required by law. For instance, the lab offers visual scoping, a test that detects any pests on the product.

“As a Jew I feel it is my responsibility to help people,” says Mike, who is affiliated with Temple Israel and the Friends of the IDF. “With Iron Laboratories testing for potency, impurities, pollutants and any contaminants that could be in your cannabis products, a new platform for safety, quality and reliability is here. Think of it like this – without testing, consumers would not know what could be on or in the products they use.”

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MJCC ADDS MARA ZELLINGER AND JANELLE MARSHALL TO STAFF

Mara Zellinger has joined the staff of the Mittleman Jewish Community Center as assistant program manager.

Mara began her new job Dec. 28. This Chicago native lives in Northeast Portland with her husband and two young children. Her 3-year-old daughter attends the Gan Portland Jewish Preschool and her son is 18 months old. The family has lived in Mara Zellinger Portland for two and a half years.

She served as a captain in the U.S. Air Force. Since then she has worked in many Jewish organizations, including the JCC in Tampa, FL. In her free time she likes to explore the beautiful Pacific Northwest.

Mara will have oversight of programs that relate to the arts, Jewish culture and social events.

Janelle Marshall is the J’s new camp, sports and recreation manager.

Janelle holds a B.A. in recreation from Western Washington University, with a concentration in community recreation, and an M.S. in sport and recreation studies from George Mason University, with a concentration in recreation administration. Janelle’s masters’ thesis focused on the positive impact of working at camp on young adults aged 18-25. For the last two years, Janelle has worked at the Janelle Marshall YMCA in Reston, VA, as a sports specialist and assistant program director for youth development.

That position included oversight of camp programming. Previously, she worked for the Girls Scouts of Western Washington as the program director at Camp River Ranch.

Janelle serves as an Air Transportation Craftsman, Technical Sergeant with the United States Air Force Reserves. A member of the U.S. Air Force since 2008, Janelle participated in Operation Enduring Freedom in 2010-2011.

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SARAH GOLDBLATT CREATES PORTLAND JEWISH FREEBAY

Portland Jewish Freebay is a new group that facilitates one person’s trash becoming another’s treasure.

The group was created on Facebook by Sarah Goldblatt, director of children’s programming at the Portland Kollel, where her husband, Rabbi Yossi Goldblatt, is director of development & programming.

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the first day, when one woman found a new home for a piano she no longer needed.

“People post stuff and it gets claimed in a few hours,” she says.

Sarah says she created the group as a project of the Portland Kollel, whose tagline is Discover Your Jewish Connection.

“Members can post the stuff they want to get rid of and make someone’s day,” says Sarah. “My deeper goal for the group is to connect Jews from throughout the community through chesed, loving kindness and friendship.”

She says her hope is that some people who meet to exchange items might find a connection and become friends. She likes to find ways “to connect people in the Jewish community in a nice way.”

Portland Jewish Freebay is based on the Jewish Cleveland Freebay group created on Facebook in 2012. That group now has 2,000 members. To join the Portland group, search for Portland Jewish Freebay on Facebook. sarah@portlandkollel.org

ROB LINDEMANN FOUNDS ROBPROPHOTO

As sole owner and photographer of RobProPhoto, Portland native Rob Lindemann records special moments and creates portraits for individuals, families and businesses.

Rob graduated from Portland Jewish Academy, attended B’nai B’rith Camp and studied at Congregation Beth Israel. He says his local Jewish upbringing gives him a unique and knowledgeable perspective in working with Jewish families and events. His recent work is highlighted at the Oregon Holocaust Museum documenting the anniversary of the Oregon Holocaust Memorial and its survivors. Rob also collaborated with Chabad of Oregon to gain funding for The Gan Portland Jewish Preschool and helped spread awareness of the importance of Jewish education in North Portland. Recently Rob documented the Hanukkah candle lighting, which featured Mayor Charlie Hales and the famous ice sculpture menorah at Director Park.

Rob works one-on-one with all of his clients to make sure their vision becomes reality. Whether a personal or business portrait, wedding or corporate event, Rob’s love of photography and technical knowledge will guarantee complete satisfaction of any project. He photographs weddings and engagements, senior and graduation portraits, business portraits, corporate events, pet portraits and more.

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Weddings

Their Chuppah is Forever

By Polina Olsen

Rachel’s three siblings have used her chuppah at all of their weddings. This photo shows Rachel (purple), with her brothers Ben (green) and Nate, and sister-in-law Adrienne Garcia carrying the chuppah for Rachel’s twin sister Janet’s 2005 wedding to Adam Strong. Photo courtesy of Rachel Lambert

Every time Cantor Barbara Slader helps a couple plan their wedding, it brings back the joy of her own.

Those memories of her 1991 wedding include family, flowers and the centerpiece, a chuppah created by Barbara’s friend, artist Jane Levy Campbell.

In fact, handmade chuppahs have become a tradition and ritual for many Portland couples. The square or rectangular wedding canopy, usually made of cloth and supported by four staves, goes back to biblical days and symbolizes the home a new couple will build. Open on all sides, it reflects how Abraham and Sarah opened their tent to welcome everyone.

“This was an opportunity for something filled with love, creativity and personal connection,” Barbara says. “Anytime you add beauty to your Shabbat table, tallit or other ritual object, it amplifies the mitzvah. I made the poles out of closet rods, and Jane made the chuppah from a semi-sheer, heirloom tablecloth.

She added swags of ribbons, and I asked the florist to make small bouquets of spring flowers to fasten to the top of each pole.”

Although the heirloom tablecloth went home with her friend Jane, Barbara’s chuppah lived on. “We had a 25-year supply of ribbons,” she says. “I put them on sewing baskets and festooned them around the dining room every time there was a holiday or celebration.” The poles came in handy at weddings where she officiated, although they’re shorter now.

“I was about to marry a couple on the Crystal Dolphin Dinner Cruise, when I realized the ceiling was too low for the poles,” Barbara says. “Guests were coming in 10 minutes. I said, ‘Quick, does anyone have a wood saw?’ Fortunately, the ship’s engineer did, and he took off a few inches.”

Artist Laurie Fender made a chuppah for her daughter Aliza’s wedding 16 years ago. “It was 6 by 6 feet and the centerpiece detached,” she says. “I took the centerpiece off and Aliza framed it. Then when my daughter Reyna married, I made another centerpiece for the same chuppah.”

Laurie incorporated lace handmade by Aliza’s greatgrandmother, Anne Fendel. “It took one year, and when I finished we had a celebration at Neveh Shalom,” Laurie says.

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your life.

“When I create something holy, it represents home,” Laurie says. “When I started the chuppah, I called a friend and told her I couldn’t sew this without a blessing to sing. Every day I sewed, I sang the blessing over and over.”

When Rachel Lambert married in 2003, she created what became an heirloom treasure. Filled with Jewish and family symbolism, the embroidered and appliquéd chuppah serves as a bright tapestry in Rachel’s home between family weddings.

“I thought it was a cool idea but couldn’t be done,” Rachel says. “Then, I realized that even though I had no experience making quilts, I had access to incredibly talented friends.”

Rachel was active in the Society for Creative Anachronism and spent several evenings a week making crafts with other women in the group. All joined in the chuppah-making project, beginning with cutting templates from manila folders.

“I had a silk shower, not a wedding shower,” Rachel says.

Handmade chuppahs have become a tradition and ritual for many Portland couples. The square or rectangular wedding canopy, usually made of cloth and supported by four staves, goes back to biblical days and symbolizes the home a new couple will build.

“Everyone brought scraps of silk to make the chuppah. I made orange-currant and chocolate-hazelnut scones, curried chicken salad sandwiches and fresh clotted cream. I gave out gift bags of things they would need for helping with the chuppah, like embroidery scissors and titanium needles.”

Basically Rachel’s chuppah is four squares framed together and turned on their side to form a diamond. The large tree

motif in each square represents the fours sibling in her family and the four seasons – winter, spring, summer and fall. Hebrew letters around the sides say ‘You are my beloved and I am yours,’ from the Song of Solomon. “The filigree is based on the pattern I made for our wedding band,” Rachel says. “Square lines represent my husband, Scott Dean Casebeer. He is reason and stability. Loopy lines are me – more creative.”

Her twin sister, Janet Strong, included a butterfly in the top “summer” square she sewed. The Chinese, Janet says, believe butterflies symbolize a happy marriage. One friend, artist Lois Hale, served as project architect and spent months adding fine embroidered details such as a worm in the apple and a red star in the night sky. Beloved animals appear throughout the design including a favorite dog and friends’ pet cats.

“I started this project with silly sketches, and I thought it was a dream,” Rachel says. “Now I have something that will be cherished by my family for generations.” Since Rachel’s wedding, her three siblings have also married under the chuppah. They frequently have their extended family Shabbat at Rachel’s house, where it hangs on the living room wall.

“I hope other people feel inspired to do the same thing,” says Rachel’s sister, Janet. “It’s about community, family bonding and a high-quality heirloom that will last forever.”

Rachel and her husband, Scott, display the chuppah on their wedding day.

Rabbi Yitzhak Husbands-Hankin marries Barbara and David Slader.

Photo by Barbara Gundle, courtesy of Barbara Slader

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Weddings

Father and daughter team up for Toot and Shoot

By Polina Olsen

They started with one wedding and then it snowballed. Toot and Shoot, the father/daughter, musician/photographer team was a hit. Based in Los Angeles, they worked mainly in the entertainment industry doing weddings and bar mitzvahs for the stars.

When they moved to Portland in 1986, they continued commuting to Los Angeles and working locally. While both are independent professionals with their own clients, they still enjoy teaming up for a Toot and Shoot.

“One time my dad played a wedding, and I was the photographer,” says Melody Saunders, the shoot half of the pair.

“The bride introduced my dad as ‘the one who plays at all my weddings.’ This was her fourth! My dad and I had a circuit, a slew of Jewish people in the Bel Air area.

For some families, we "I started like most musicians did all three of the kids’ weddings and in New York. We played the bar mitzvahs.”

Melody’s father, Dick borsht circuit (Catskills resort Saunders, has been area) every summer backing a musician since childhood, beginning up people like Red Buttons as cantor for the New York synagogue and Danny Kaye. It was very where he attended Hebrew school. He Jewish. We grew up on that plays the saxophone, stuff, and it never leaves you." clarinet and flute and has performed – Dick Saunders on television, radio and film. Focusing on swing, pop and Dixieland, he also works with Italian music and, of course, Yiddish and old klezmer tunes.

“I started like most musicians in New York,” he says. “We played the borsht circuit (Catskills resort area) every summer backing up people like Red Buttons and Danny Kaye. It was very Jewish.

We grew up on that stuff, and it never leaves you.

“I did shows for Jewish organizations like Hadassah and B’nai B’rith, and I played at George Burn’s birthday party. When

Cathy Crosby and Leo Hanson wedding. Photo by Melody Saunders

Ray Bolger joins the Dick Saunders Band while attending the wedding of his conductor’s daughter, Judy Garf. Photo by Melody Saunders

Milton Berle’s daughter got married, he brought us in a day ahead. The tempo had to be perfect as she walked down the aisle and approached the chuppah. It was choreographed like a TV show.”

Dick and Melody worked together for a Los Angeles company called Renta Yenta.

“They put on elaborate creative events,” Dick says. “One time

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Dick Saunders and daughter Melody.

Photo courtesy of Melody Saunders

they brought people to the airport on an English bus, flew them to a San Francisco mansion for dinner and then flew them back.

I had a violinist play as they got off the plane.”

Like her father, Melody also found her passion during childhood. “My dad gave me a camera when I was a kid, and I’ve been photographing ever since,” she says. “I love doing animals, portraits and events. My eye is pretty good. I shoot a party as if it were my own. A lot of fun things happen – things people are so happy to see later.”

Melody aims to please whether her subject is human or animal.

“At one wedding the lady asked me not to shoot photos of the bride’s and groom’s families together because she knew they were going to get divorced,” she says. “At another wedding, the son

getting married was short and stout and his brother was tall and thin. Their mother asked me to make the short one look taller and the tall one look shorter. She was short and stout and wore a bright flowered dress. She asked me to make her look tall, thin and elegant. Anyway, they all seemed happy. They ordered lots of pictures and gave me a beautiful set of knives.”

Today father and daughter are busy working together and separately. Melody has shown her work at the Lawrence Gallery and at a Faces of Greece exhibit at the Greek Cusina in downtown Portland. Dick works with the symphony, volunteers at the Lake Oswego Farmer’s Market and plays at the St. Honoré Boulangerie to celebrate Bastille Day every July 14. He puts together bands of different sizes.

“I play anywhere from duo to six or seven people, and I have an 18-piece band available” he says. “I use different people. I did a duo for the Rotary Club one week ago where they auctioned off an Italian dinner. We used an accordion and flute, and they hired a chef from Italy.”

Dick looks forward to an upcoming occasion at the Portland Yacht Club where he and Melody regularly work together at weddings. “This event is for the installation of the new commodore,” he says. “That’s the club’s leader for a year. They have a formal march as the band plays ‘Anchors Away.’ ”

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Weddings Our

BIG

FAT

By Hila Ratzabi

inclusive wedding

When José and I first started dating, my Jewish parents were not pleased. Though my mom is fairly liberal, some instinct flared up in her that has roots in centuries of Jewish fear of disappearance. Though that fear has lessened over the decades for many Jewish families, particularly in the United States, it still rises up for many people, sometimes unexpectedly. What if my daughter loses her Jewish identity? some parents wonder. What if the grandchildren aren’t raised Jewish? Is this the end of the line?

For me and many other Jews like me, this fear is unfounded.

I went to Jewish day school from kindergarten through high school and even went on to get a degree in Jewish philosophy.

While my Jewish practices have changed over the years, I have always been a proud and engaged Jewish woman. I was, and remain, confident that my connection to Judaism is strong enough to share with my husband, who is not Jewish, and our future children.

The road to acceptance took a few years, but by the time we were ready to get engaged my parents had thankfully come around. They gave us their blessing, and we set out to create a wedding that reflected my Jewish heritage and José’s Mexican culture.

We had it fairly easy in that José does not identify with a particular religious tradition. He is a scientist and committed atheist; as a child he briefly attended a Baptist religious school in the small town in Baja where he was raised, but he definitively broke off with religion when he awakened to his atheism. While being an atheist, José has always supported and joined in with 18 FEBRUARY 2016 | OREGON JEWISH LIFE

my Jewish practices. I’m not a believer either, but I love Jewish holidays, attending services and grappling with the big questions in life. Judaism is the lens through which I consider ethical dilemmas and the source of my commitment to social and environmental justice. These are things we’re able to share.

We found an amazing Reconstructionist rabbi, Rachel Weiss, of Congregation Beit Simchat Torah, a gay/lesbian synagogue in New York City, to officiate at our wedding. Aside from being open-minded and accepting, Rabbi Weiss also had the added bonus of being fluent in Spanish. She had previously worked with Mexican immigrants, and we felt she understood both of our backgrounds.

Together with Rabbi Weiss, we designed a ceremony that honored the dual heritage we were bringing together. We included traditional Jewish elements, including the chuppah, the seven blessings, the circling of bride and groom, the ketubah and the ring exchange. We wrote our own ketubah text instead of using the traditional text, and changed the language of the ring exchange and seven blessings to be more inclusive and universal.

The witnesses who signed our ketubah included two of our close friends, who happen to be another interfaith/intercultural couple –Jewish and Indian. We had watched them create a beautiful marriage that included both of their cultures and were inspired by their example.

José’s grandmother was central to his upbringing, often standing in as a second parent since he didn’t have a father in his life, so we wanted to make sure she was included and would understand what was going on at the wedding. Since

his grandmother doesn’t speak English, Rabbi Weiss explained each part of the ceremony before it was performed in both English and Spanish. José’s grandmother found the customs fascinating and listened intently as they were described.

We also had traditional Mexican paper cutouts (papel picado) created for our wedding, which served as decoration at the entrance of the garden where the ceremony took place.

My own Jewish background is somewhat mixed, in that my mother is Ashkenazi and my father is Yemenite on his father’s side and Sephardic on his mother’s side. To honor my late grandmother, Rabbi Weiss sang a Jewish song in Ladino, the Judeo-Spanish language that my grandmother had spoken. This was another way to bridge our cultures, having a taste of the Spanish language woven into an ancient Jewish song.

When it came to the reception, we just wanted to throw an awesome party.

The raucous klezmer band Golem was essential to making that happen. The wedding took place in an art museum on Long Island, and since both José and I dabble in visual art, we made minipaintings on mini-easels as souvenirs for our (very impressed) guests. We also brought a giant blank canvas and paints for guests to create a piece of collective artwork for us. The painting now hangs in our living room, reminding us of that incredible day.

During the reception, my mom gave a speech that chronicled her and my dad’s evolution in coming to accept and share the joy in our relationship. They had truly done a “180,” realizing over time that they had nothing to fear in my marrying “outside” the Jewish faith, and that I had found the life partner who was exactly right for me, and whom they loved like a son. Now, three years later, I am pregnant, and we all can’t wait to bring another person into our crazy, mixed family.

Among our plans for the baby: teaching it Hebrew, Spanish … and if there’s time, maybe even English.

Reprinted with permission from InterfaithFamily

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Five gold bangles and a world of difference

By Amy Hirshberg Lederman

The morning of my wedding day, my mother called me into her bedroom.

“Sit with me, mi alma,” she said quietly, patting the spot next to her on the bed.

I sat down beside her, the softness of the mattress causing our bodies to curve into each other like a pair of parenthesis.

She turned her face towards mine, looking happier than I had seen her in years. I attributed it to the fact that her almost30-year-old daughter was finally getting married. Smiling, she handed me a box.

Inside the box were five beautiful, gold filigree bangle bracelets of different patterns. The gold was unlike any I had ever seen, and the bracelets became warm as I held them in my hands.

I turned them over and, one by one, slid them onto my right arm. They made a tinkling sound when they touched one another.

“Oh, Mom, I love them! Where did you get them?”

She answered by telling me a story about my greatgrandmother, D’Jmilla (pronounced Jamilla) Danino, who, at the age of 12, was married to a man more than three times her age to become his second wife. Born in 1882 to a poor family in Alexandria, Egypt, she had no choice but to respect the arrangement her parents had made. One afternoon he arrived with gifts and within the week, she was on a ship with her new husband sailing to Haifa, never to see her parents again. The bracelets on my arm were the same ones D’Jmilla had received from her husband as a token of their engagement.

It is hard for me, as a woman living in the 21st century, to fathom such an arrangement, which altered young D’Jmilla’s life forever. I barely got a vote as to whom my daughter dated in high school, let alone arranged for it.

It is hard to believe that as recently as the early 1900s, my great-grandmother spent her adolescent days cooking and cleaning alongside the same woman who shared her husband’s bed at night. For Sephardic Jews who lived in communities influenced by Islam, like Egypt, Yemen, Morocco and Turkey, polygamy was an accepted practice. The bitterness that D’Jmilla tasted each day was not from the dark Turkish coffee she drank every morning at breakfast, but from his first wife who was unable to give him the son he so desperately desired.

The Bible is filled with stories of the unhappiness that existed in polygamous marriages: Sarah was derided by Hagar because she couldn’t have a child, Leah was jealous of Rachel because Jacob loved her more, and Solomon’s many wives brought idolatry into the land of Israel. My great-grandmother suffered a similar fate when, at the age of 13, she gave birth to my grandfather. Still a child herself, she cried whenever baby Albert did, having no one to guide her. What saved her during those difficult and lonely years was her wit, wisdom and the undying love she felt for her son, my grandfather.

The laws of polygamy within the Jewish tradition, which often created hardship and injustice for women, have thankfully changed. In Eastern Europe, a ban on polygamy was decreed

by Rabbi Gershom in the 10th century. Although Sephardic Jews did not accept Rabbi Gershom’s prohibition, when Israel was created in 1948, the Israeli government permitted those marriages already in existence to stay in effect while forbidding any future ones. Today, the ban on polygamy is universally accepted in the Jewish world.

I treasure wearing my gold bracelets for many reasons. They help me remember my great-grandmother, a woman whose courage, strength and devotion carried her through a lifetime of struggle. They remind me of my mother, who wore them as a young girl when she was raised by D’Jmilla as a result of her own parents’ tragic and untimely deaths. And they give me a sense of optimism about my future as a Jewish woman. For it is because of the wisdom of my tradition and its ability to change and respond to laws that are patently unfair or result in causing hardship and injustice, that I can have faith and hope for the future of my children and grandchildren.

Amy Hirshberg Lederman has written more than 300 columns and essays that have been published nationwide. amyhirshberglederman.com

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Weddings

Mikvah and Marriage

By Deborah Moon

Located at 6612 SW Capitol Hwy., Portland, Mikvah Shoshana offers women a spa-like setting as they prepare for their wedding.

Mikvah before marriage is an awesome and auspicious way to start a new life together with one’s beloved, says Simi Mishulovin, who helps women prepare for immersion in Portland’s Mikvah Shoshana.

Immersion in the mikvah on the threshold of marriage is the first step to fulfilling the Jewish call for the consecration of human sexuality.

“Tremendous amounts of time and energy are expended in planning a wedding,” notes Simi. “There is an innate human hope that a perfect wedding equals a perfect start in life. Yet all thinking individuals recognize human limitations. That which we most need and want – health, good fortune and children –is beyond our control. … Immersion in the mikvah is an important way of drawing God and His blessing into the marriage.”

Following are some local women’s impressions after experiencing this mitzvah.

Marie Gouz: “I loved going to the mikvah before I got married. I’ve never felt so connected to my Jewish heritage. Jewish women have been going to the mikvah for thousands of years; it was humbling to feel so connected to my roots. Plus, it felt like a spa!

I had no idea what to expect, and I loved it.”

Michelle Iimori-Goldenberg: “When I went to the mikvah before my wedding, even though I was nervous because it was my first time, I received a warm introduction to the mikvah itself and the process, which enabled me to have a truly spiritual experience. As a result, going to the 22 FEBRUARY 2016 | OREGON JEWISH LIFE

mikvah became a part of my life and has brought me closer to G-d and my husband.”

Jaimie Harper: “Going to the mikvah was a very meaningful part of my wedding preparation. In the frenzy and excitement of the days preceding our wedding, it was like an oasis of spirituality and meaning. I loved the space – it was calm, peaceful and supportive. I felt like I was at a spa. My friends could be there with me to enhance the experience and the celebratory spirit. I loved singing with them after my immersion.

“Having never been to the mikvah before, Simi was so gracious and made me feel absolutely comfortable helping me to understand the mitzvah and how to prepare for my immersion.

“I look back on the experience positively and am so glad I made it a priority as I planned for this very important transition in my life.”

Anonymous: “Because it was not our first marriages, and we wanted to do it right this time, we were encouraged to use the mikvah. With its beauty and sacredness the mikvah meant more to us than the big wedding that we had the following day. This was very cleansing and a great beginning to our new life together.”

Mikvah Shoshana is open to women from the entire community regardless of level of observance and affiliation. For more information, contact Simi at 503-309-4185 or Simi@ ChabadOregon.com.

A mikvah is a ritual bath satisfying very specific requirements that incorporate “living water” (running or moving water from a God-given source such as rain, snow, ice or a spring). Immersion in a mikvah is performed for ritual purification and a change in status,including before a wedding ceremony. The purpose of immersion is not physical, but spiritual, cleanliness.

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Marrying Mores in Israel

By Teddy Weinberger

Very few American Jews marry before they finish college. And even high school sweethearts are usually prepared to wait – or are convinced by their parents to do so – until they turn 21.

In Israel, with university coming after a lengthy post-high school period (including army service, travel, making up for screw-ups in high school, and then studying for and taking the university entrance examination), a matriculating bachelor’s student is typically in his or her mid to late 20s. Obviously, teenagers aren’t going to be expected to wait that long, and this is especially true in the modern religious community, with very conservative sexual mores the ideal. Whereas in America the Jews getting married at 21 or younger are typically ultraOrthodox, here in Israel, if a modern religious couple is in love

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by their late teens, you can’t exactly tell them to wait until they finish college.

Not all couples who marry young have known each other for very long. Because modern religious culture is accepting of early marriages, a pair of 19-year-olds who both feel ready to take the plunge might reach this decision after having known each other for just a few months. Often what binds the pair is their religious commitment and not necessarily a sense that they are each other’s beshert. As long as this religious commitment remains in place (and for most people it does), these marriages are successful. This being the case, I suggested to my friend and rabbi, Lior Engelman, who himself married at 19 when his wife was 18, that perhaps the modern religious community should adopt a system of arranged marriages just like the ultraOrthodox. Such a system would solve a growing problem for the modern religious: Alongside those who marry young are those who find themselves single as they approach – and sometimes pass – the age of 30. Rabbi Lior said that not every young person is ready for the demands of married life, which often need to be juggled with parenthood (the sector’s conservatism extends to birth control), army service, work and university studies. So there went that idea.

Coincidentally, a few days after my conversation with Rabbi Lior, my former study partner, a Karlin-Stolin Hassid, closed the deal on a shiduch (match) for his 18-year-old son. Before the arrangement was finalized, his son met with the girl twice (the “extra” second meeting was held at the young woman’s request – apparently at the first meeting the boy hardly uttered a word).

At the l’chaim held to toast the couple, the new chattan (groom) was asked if he was worried. He said “No” because he does whatever his mother tells him to do. He did, however, ask to be reminded of the bride’s name.

Sarah and I have five marriageable children, ranging in age from 21 to 28. Precisely because the modern religious community tends to live within (rather than apart from) contemporary Israeli society, my kids wish to experience the touchstones of Israeli youth in the normative way – as single people. It’s not normative to be married during one’s army service, nor is it normative to be married while one goes on a post-army trip abroad. The interesting thing is that those of my kids who have “delayed” marriage have not done so because they want to “play the field.” They just didn’t want to be married at the age of 20. However, now that our oldest is in his late 20s, I think it’s important for someone to tell my children: Don’t overdo it.

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Food

CORNER The year is 1967 and I am in the back seat of my parent’s Pontiac Bonneville. KISN radio is spinning the latest Dionne Warwick tune.

Her silky voice sings the lyrics: “What the world needs now is love sweet love. It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.”

In light of current events, it’s easy to see that love is something the world could still use a whole lot more of. It was a different world in 1967, but many things, sadly, remain familiar. Our world continues to struggle with wars, hunger and oppression.

Political polarization, racial inequality and subjugation persist, and we become acutely aware of it instantaneously thanks to the electronic devices we can no longer live without. We may feel helpless to change the strife in our world, but we still have control over what happens in the comfort of our homes, where we can choose to turn off the devices and share a little love in the way of a thoughtfully prepared meal.

Many families have begun to choose to be present at the dinner table. Busy schedules are making way for the awareness of how important it is to come together, take pleasure in a meal and share the happenings of the day. Meal preparation is moving away from frozen, prepared and additive-laden, one-box meals or calorie-crushing fast food or takeout. Today it has become easier than ever to locate fresh, healthy, seasonal and local ingredients if we are willing to show a little love by caring about the choices we make.

Show some love to the farmers who care enough not to use pesticides or genetically modified seed to grow their produce.

Purchase meats from the ranchers who care for livestock naturally by feeding their animals grasses and grains and not loading them up with unnecessary antibiotics. Show some love to the local cheesemaker, winemaker and artisanal food manufacturer, who hold true to their standards by producing products that don’t use artificial colors or preservatives. Patronize restaurants that boast local and seasonal fare and choose establishments that take pride in the food they prepare and serve. These are the individuals who show their love every day by making a choice to take pride in what they do.

This Valentine’s Day go ahead and give your sweetie that box of chocolates, mushy card or colorful bouquet. Then show some real affection by turning off the distractions and being present with your Valentine. Share a delicious, romantic meal together and spread some love because it’s a good thing to do … no not just for some, but for everyone.

ADD LOVE TO THE FAMILY MEAL Story and Photos

by Lisa Glickman

Coeur a la Creme is a classic recipe that uses very few ingredients, yet results in an impossibly creamy and light dessert. It requires no cooking, but in order to make it into its definitive heart shape, you will need to buy a special ceramic mold with holes in the bottom to drain out a small amount of the liquid.

The mold may seem like a one-trick pony, but it works beautifully as a Valentine’s Day vessel to serve candy, cookies or fresh berries. I located flash-frozen Oregon strawberries to make the sauce for an amazing taste of a warm summer day, even in frosty February.

Coeur a la Creme

12 ounces cream cheese, at room temperature 1¼ cup confectioner’s sugar 2½ cups cold heavy cream

Seeds scraped from 1 vanilla bean ¼ teaspoon grated lemon zest

1 bag Sturms Berry Farm frozen Oregon strawberries, thawed

Lisa Glickman is a private chef and teacher who lives in Portland. She has made TV appearances on COTV in Central Oregon and appeared on the Cooking Channel’s “The Perfect Three.”

She can be reached at lisa@lisaglickman.com.

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Sugar to taste

Fresh strawberries for garnish (optional) You’ll also need: Cheesecloth

7-inch, heart-shaped Coeur a la Creme mold or strainer

Place cream cheese and confectioner’s sugar in the bowl of a stand mixer. Beat on high for 2 minutes until well blended. Turn mixer to low and add chilled cream, vanilla seeds and lemon zest. Beat mixture on high until cream is whipped and mixture is thick like whipped cream.

Line the Coeur a la Creme mold with cheesecloth, leaving enough overhang to cover completely. Pour mixture into mold and fold cheesecloth edges over top. Place on a plate or over a bowl to catch liquid (there won’t be very much) and refrigerate overnight. To serve place about 2-3 cups berries in a blender or food processor. Puree berries until smooth. Place puree in a saucepan over medium heat and add sugar to taste, about ¼ cup. Heat mixture until sugar dissolves. Remove from heat and allow to cool. Chill until needed.

To serve, pour a puddle of the puree on a serving plate. Carefully unwrap Coeur a la Creme onto center of plate and garnish with fresh strawberries if desired. ~~~ These crispy crackers are very similar to some that I have seen in the gourmet section of my local grocery store. The batter is baked in small loaf pans, allowed to cool and then sliced thin and baked into a crispy, chewy, sweet and savory cracker.

It pairs beautifully with Beecher’s Flagship sharp cheddar and a drizzle of Mickelberry Gardens’ local wildflower honey. The loaves can be frozen and then partially thawed before slicing and re-baking into crisps.

Dried Fig and Pistachio Crisps 1 cup organic whole wheat flour 1 cup all-purpose flour

2 teaspoons baking soda ½ teaspoon kosher salt

¼ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 2 cups whole-milk yogurt ¼ cup brown sugar ¼ cup honey

½ cup roasted pumpkin seeds

¼ cup black sesame seeds (substitute toasted white sesame seeds if preferred)

½ cup chopped dried figs

½ cup chopped pistachios

1 tablespoon chopped fresh rosemary Preheat oven to 350º. In a large bowl, stir together the flours, baking soda, salt and pepper. Add the yogurt, brown sugar and honey and mix until just blended. Fold in the pumpkin and sesame seeds, figs, pistachios and rosemary. Spoon batter into three mini loaf pans that have been sprayed with nonstick spray. Bake for about 25 minutes until golden and springy to the touch.

Wrap tightly and freeze slightly before slicing. Slice thinly and place on a baking sheet. Bake slices in a 350º oven for about 15 minutes or until slightly crisp.

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NW Nosh

Veggie

A Very

Valentine

By Kerry Politzer

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Slow Roasted Onion Flan Photo by Carly Diaz

Are you seeking a romantic restaurant for a Valentine’s Day rendezvous?

Then whet your appetite with one of Portland’s high-end vegetarian tasting menus. Two of the following restaurants (Farm Spirit and Natural Selection) maintain entirely vegetarian kitchens, so there is no opportunity for meat and milk to mix.

Aviary

This celebrated Asian fusion restaurant, which offers a daily vegetarian tasting menu, will serve a special four-course, prix-fixe dinner on Valentine’s Day. Chef Sarah Pliner, who once eschewed meat, is especially committed to serving delicious vegetable-focused cuisine. This Valentine’s Day, she will offer an exciting menu that features a chanterelle terrine with a layer of quince gelée, pickled chanterelles and brioche toast, and a chestnut soup with crème fraiche, Brussels sprouts, maple syrup and salted duck egg. Says Pliner of her culinary innovations: “It’s much harder to find a way of preparing vegetables that feels like it’s enough, at the same time avoiding the usual tired vegetarian options – like risotto and pasta. The reward is when I do manage to come up with something original that works, vegetarians seem to really appreciate and recognize the effort.”

1733 NE Alberta St., 503-287-2400, aviarypdx.com

Castagna

On Valentine’s Day, Chef Justin Woodward will serve a multicourse, vegetable-based menu. Woodward, who has been nominated for the James Beard Foundation’s Rising Star Chef award, prides himself on cuisine that is “seasonal and progressive.” The Willamette Week dubbed Castagna “Portland’s most adventurous kitchen.” Diners have been known to ooh and aah over its modernist masterpieces.

752 SE Hawthorne Blvd., 503-231-7373, castagnarestaurant. com

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Chanterelle and Quince Terrine

Roasted parsnips, coriander, filbert, yogurt apple puree

Photo by Carly Diaz

Farm Spirit

It’s rather difficult to score a table at Portland’s first (and only) vegan tasting-menu restaurant. However, Valentine’s Day promises to be the ideal holiday to try to snag a reservation.

Farm Spirit’s extra-special meal will consist of 15-plus courses of “horticultural cuisine.” The dinner, which will last for more than four hours, will end with three desserts: vegetable-based, fruit-based and chocolate. You are sure to be mesmerized by the culinary creativity of chef/owner Aaron Adams; in the past, he has served purple carrots dressed with rosemary pinot noir vinaigrette and toast with walnut milk jam and raisin puree. Says the chef: “Our approach is modernist; we look at the ingredients

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Natural Selection

with new eyes. What is this, what can I do with it? We try not to have preconceived notions so that we can come out with surprisingly great new things that never existed before.”

You can book your dinner online at farmspiritpdx.com; tickets are $98 not including supplements.

1414 SE Morrison St.

For the past five years, this fine, Mediterranean-focused vegetarian restaurant has enchanted diners with its creative cookery. Chef Aaron Woo creates beautiful preparations of local, seasonal ingredients; his artistry has been lauded by Sunset Magazine, Portland Monthly and Eater.com. Natural Selection’s five-course Valentine’s Day dinner, which includes a wine-pairing option, will be entirely vegan and gluten-free. That does not mean it is devoid of decadence: Chocolate, a traditional aphrodisiac, will make an appearance in the dessert course.

3033 NE Alberta St., 503-288-5883, naturalselectionpdx.com

Teens seek recipes for Pesach cookbook have a chance to pre-order a cookbook and save 20%.

The senior ambassadors and Oregon NCSY Director Meira Spivak will decide if recipes are kosher for Passover or have Passover equivalents.

“We are not only accepting gluten free, but plan to put the total number of gluten-free recipe included on the cover,” says Meira.

The teens will edit and format the recipes to create the PDX Passover Cookbook. The teens will market the book as a fundraiser.

“It’s a wonderful way for us to walk away from our time with the program not just with the memory’s and the enhanced love for learning and Jewish culture but also with a physical representation of a time that we were able to bring the community together to do what Jews do best and make delicious food,” says Hannah.

Portland teens are seeking recipes to create a local Passover cookbook.

“The project was created to allow the senior ambassadors for NCSY to have a project to work on that both fosters Jewish culture and allows us to be involved in our Jewish community, says Hannah Rosenbloom, on of the board of seniors who want to be leaders and more involved in the NCSY program. “The Passover cookbook does this perfectly because not only does it involve the entire community and their recipes and input it also allows all of us to have a project that we can be passionate about and work on together as a last big hurrah of our involvement in high school NCSY.” Hannah is joined on Oregon NCSY’s senior ambassador board by fellow 12th graders Daniel Hurwitz, Sammy Schnitzer, Justin Bloom and Emilia Hurwitz.

The PDX Passover Cookbook invites community members to submit recipes for the cookbook online at oregon.ncsy.org/ articles/passover-cookbook. Cooks who submit a recipe(s) will

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A.J. Jacobs: Humble know-it-all brings quest for bodily perfection and biblical living to Portland

By Deborah Moon

Bestselling author A.J. Jacobs has spent a year each experiencing the best the world has to offer the mind, body and spirit, taking away something lasting from each exploration. He’ll be sharing some of his journeys with Portlanders at the Feb. 21 Friends of the Center Brunch (see page 37).

His first book, The Know-it-All: One Man’s Humble Quest to Become the Smartest Person in the World, rocketed him to fame, spending two months on the New York Times bestseller list. He still uses the treadmill desk he used to write Drop Dead Healthy: One Man’s Humble Quest for Bodily Perfection. But his most precious carryover is undoubtedly from The Year of Living Biblically: One Man’s Humble Quest to Follow the Bible as Literally as Possible. Attempting to follow all of the commandments of the Torah that are possible in the modern world, he and his wife, Julie, succeeded in “being fruitful and 32 FEBRUARY 2016 | OREGON JEWISH LIFE

multiplying” with twins, Lucas and Zane, born near the end of the year to join older brother, Jasper. But from that book he also discovered a sense of belonging and community that had been missing from his own Jewish upbringing.

“It (Living Biblically) did have a profound effect on my life,” said A.J. in a phone interview. “We joined a temple, Rodeph Shalom, in New York. I like giving my kids the basics of our heritage. … I grew up with no Jewish celebrations, no services.”

A.J. says that sense of belonging has also inspired his next book, an attempt to create the largest family tree ever – one that encompasses the entire human race.

He invites everyone to visit his website ajjacobs.com to join the tree.

“If you are an Ashkenazic Jew it is remarkably easy,” he says. “If you are Jewish, it’s easy to figure out how you are connected. The site walks people through (the process).”

He notes, “Obviously the Jewish community is incredibly connected. The

average Ashkenazi is on average the fifth cousin of any other Jewish person picked at random.” But he says his current quest to build a family tree, which he describes as more of an interlocking forest, goes well beyond the Jewish community. He says the global family forest includes “everyone.”

“The world is one big family,” says A.J., noting that the statement is supported by both the Jewish teachings that we are “all God’s children” and by scientific evidence showing all humans trace their roots to common ancestors.

“It’s my admittedly quixotic dream that when we realize that we’re all related, we’ll treat one another with more civility,” he wrote in a Jan. 31, 2014, article in the New York Times entitled “Are you my cousin?”

On his website, A.J. describes himself as “author, journalist, lecturer and human guinea pig” and notes he has written “four New York Times bestsellers that combine memoir, science, humor and a dash of self-help.” In addition to his mind, body and spirit trilogy, his collection of essays called My Life as an Experiment: One Man’s Humble Quest to Improve Himself also made the bestseller list.

His appearance at the Friends’ brunch won’t be the first time he has visited Portland. At least two of his book tours have brought him to the iconic Powell’s bookstore, where he says “the crowd was fabulous.”

On his upcoming visit, he is looking forward to connecting with his “cousins” and sharing more of his biblical journey.

Trying to follow all of the commandments as literally as possible was daunting. But he says the biggest challenge was avoiding those sins we are all guilty of to some degree.

“Coveting, gossiping and lying – I’m a journalist in New York City, that’s 80% of my day,” he says.

“I still do it, but I think I got better. I’m proud of that.”

The modern world made some of the commandments a challenge.

“Some of the laws were difficult to follow in modern America,” he says. “Stoning adulterers is frowned on.”

Though he says he did manage to cast some small pebbles at one.

Sacrifices were another challenge.

Since animal sacrifice was out, he offered up some grains and vegetables.

Eating offered some interesting experiences, as well. Following the Torah literally required he avoid things such as pork, shellfish, eagles and hawks. But following the pre-rabbinic dietary laws allowed him to eat things that kosher laws forbid.

“You can have a cheeseburger but can’t boil a baby goat in its mother’s milk,” he says.

As part of his exploration of following Torah text from before the rabbinic era that arose after the destruction of the second Temple, he spent time with a community of Karaite Jews in Daily City, CA. Karaites consider the written Torah the ultimate authority of halakha and reject the oral laws of the

On becoming an optimist:

"There is comparatively less terrible stuff than 1,000 years ago.

The good old days were not so good. … We live longer and are less violent as a species."

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Talmud.

“I did not convert to Karaite, but I did like hearing their story,” he says.

He notes he also read about the Jews of Ethiopia, who had spent millennia practicing Torah Judaism since they were cut off from the mainstream Jewish community before the Talmudic era. Unlike the Karaites, however, the Ethiopian Jews adopted the oral laws after being airlifted to Israel in recent decades.

Like the Ethiopians, A.J. has embraced a Judaism he knew little about before his biblical year.

“I like the rituals,” he says. “I find meaning in the Shabbat candles.”

He also appreciates the gratitude Judaism encourages. “Gratitude is big in the blessings – there is a lot of saying thanks.”

“I realized there are hundreds of things that go right every day that we don’t think about,” he says. “We tend to think about what goes wrong.”

He also found truth in the saying “deed before creed.”

“If you act in a certain way, it will change your mind,” he says. “This happened to me during my biblical year.”

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Trying to follow all of the

commandments as literally as possible was daunting.

But he says the biggest challenge was avoiding

those sins we are all guilty of to some degree.

“Coveting, gossiping and lying – I’m a journalist

in New York City, that’s

80% of my day,” he says. “I still do it, but I think I got better. I’m proud of that.”

Though he hates entering a hospital, when his son was ill, he went to visit him in the hospital.

He says acting compassionately tricks the brain – “I became more compassionate.”

He also changed his perceptions when reading the entire Encyclopedia Britannica for Knowit-All. Looking at the “broad sweep of history” made him more optimistic. “There is comparatively less terrible stuff than 1,000 years ago. The good old days were not so good. … We live longer and are less violent as a species.”

His quest for a healthier body had more concrete results. In addition to continuing to use his treadmill desk, he has maintained some of the dietary changes from that year. “I try to eat actual food,” he says.

He says his wife of 14 years has liked some of the experiences and changes that arose during the writing of each book; others she was not fond of.

Becoming more grateful was a plus of the biblical year, but “she did not like my crazy long beard. I didn’t get any kisses for seven months.”

During his year of living biblically, A.J. Jacobs tried out his sheep-herding skills in downtown New York City.

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The Jacobs family, from left: A.J., Jasper (11), Lucas (9), Julie and Zane (9).

A.J. Jacobs and his wife took the commandment to be fruitful and multiply seriously. Twins Lucas and Zane were born near the end of A.J.'s Year of Living Biblically.

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He says when he was working on Drop Dead Healthy, Julie “wanted me healthier, but she was not a fan of the juice fast.”

“She has been very patient,” he says.

A.J is now editor at large at Esquire magazine, a commentator on NPR and a columnist for Mental Floss magazine. In his website bio, he says he uses that column to try “to make readers feel better by describing daily life in past centuries. The good old days were terrible (“mind-bogglingly dirty, painful, fetid, smelly, sickly and boring”).” He has appeared on “Oprah,” “The Today Show,” “Good Morning America,” CNN, “The Dr. Oz Show,” “Conan” and “The Colbert Report.” He has given several TED talks, short powerful talks orchestrated by TED, a nonprofit devoted to spreading ideas that began in 1984 as a conference where Technology, Entertainment and Design converged. One of those talks focused on creating a one-world family.

A.J.’s spirit and sense of purpose are infectious, and one can’t help but root for him.

If the world is lucky, that latest TED talk and his next book will give a nudge toward the more tolerant society he hopes for.

Friends of the Center Brunch launches author series The Feb. 21 presentation by bestselling author A.J. Jacobs at the Friends of the Center Brunch will kick off the First Annual Jewish Author Series at the Mittleman Jewish Community Center.

Following A.J.’s talk, the series will continue with three other Jewish authors March 3, 9 and 15.

MJCC Executive Director Steve Albert says the center wanted to bring in a brunch speaker who would appeal to a broad audience, who had a message that related to Jewish identity and who tied in with the MJCC’s expansion of cultural, educational and arts programming.

“I’m excited because A.J.’s appearance at the MJCC underscores our organization’s renewed commitment to providing high-quality cultural programming to our community,” says Steve. “We want to be one of the venues that Portlanders think of when they think about arts and culture in our city, and authors like A.J. Jacobs are helping us to achieve that goal.”

“I find his personal Jewish journey, as described in The Year of Living Biblically, to be inspiring and intriguing on a number of levels, and I think his message will resonate with a diverse audience that includes people of all ages and faiths,” says Steve.

The author series that follows is part of the annual Portland Jewish Book Month celebration, which was expanded this year to reach beyond one book and one month. The six-month celebration also includes a number of events focusing on the novel Davita’s Harp. Information on the Davita’s Harp programs will be included in the March issue of Oregon Jewish Life.

The talks at the MJCC begin with Laura Dave, author of Eight Hundred Grapes. At 7 pm, March 3, she will discuss her heartbreaking, funny and deeply evocative novel about love, marriage, family and wine. On March 8 at 7 pm, Thresholds author Sherre Hirsch will explore how to thrive through life’s transitions to live a fearless and regret-free-life. Laura Nicole Diamond, author of Shelter Us: A Novel, wraps up the author series at 7 pm, March 15.

For information and registration for the author series, visit oregonjcc.org/authorseries or contact Len Steinberg at lsteinberg@oregonjcc.org.

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Kids & Teens too

Kids &Teens too

A child-friendly resource for parents

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Virtually Dangerous

This is no game: Young pedestrians are at risk crossing streets

Courtesy Ben-Gurion University

“As predicted, we found that child pedestrians age 7 to 10 had the “Look both ways before you most difficulty in identifying when cross the street” may be sage it was safe to cross and recognizing advice, but it is also apparently hazards caused by parked vehicles or necessary for children as old curvature in the road that restricts as 13 according to a new study field of view,” Dr. Meir says.

by Ben-Gurion University of Older children did not perform the Negev researchers, who much better and lingered on the have pinpointed many of the curb for an excessive amount of behaviors that lead to child time, which indicates that they are In the Ben-Gurion University of the Negev study, children were asked pedestrians being hit by cars. less able to distinguish between to push a button when it was safe to cross the virtual reality street.

Traffic accidents are one safe and hazardous situations than Participants’ eye movements were recorded to identify areas or objects of interest and unique behaviors. of the most common sources adults. In interviews, the children of injuries and fatalities for did not express an understanding children on foot around the of how crossing safety could be world. In Israel, automobiles cause 2% of child deaths. impacted by factors such as car speed and field of vision.

The study, published in the online journal Safety Science “These results can serve as a tool to construct a hazard(Elsevier), was conducted at the BGU Virtual Environment perception training intervention for youngsters,” Meir says.

Simulation Laboratory, one of the world’s most sophisticated “Moreover, the differences that emerged between the various age traffic research facilities, which enables researchers to measure groups reinforce that child pedestrians cannot be trained as a pedestrian reactions to virtual reality scenarios. group, but rather the training needs to be adjusted to the level of “While we already knew that children were less able than experience the child has gained.” adults to recognize road crossing hazards, our goal was to More effective training based on Meir’s research may already pinpoint which behaviors might lead to accidents and develop be working. She recently conducted another study on hazardtraining to correct them,” explains Anat Meir, Ph.D., a lecturer detection training of 7- to 9-year-olds and then compared in the Department of Industrial Engineering and Management. their performance to untrained children. The children who had Other researchers involved in the study include Prof. Tal Oronundergone training faired significantly better, approaching the Gilad and Dr. Yisrael Parmet. skills of an adult pedestrian.

The study examined experienced-based hazard perception The study, “Are Child-pedestrians Able to Identify Hazardous differences among child pedestrians and relative to experienced Traffic Situations? Measuring Their Abilities in a Virtual Reality adults. Overall, the experimental design included groups of Environment,” was funded by the Ran Naor Foundation.

7- to 9-year-olds, 9- to 10-year-olds, 10- to 13-year-olds American Associates, Ben-Gurion University of the Negev plays a vital role and experienced adult pedestrians. The study simulated 18 in sustaining David Ben-Gurion’s vision, creating a world-class institution prototypical streets in Israel and used an eye-tracking device of education and research in the Israeli desert, nurturing the Negev to study how 46 adults and children evaluated when it was safe community and sharing the university’s expertise locally and around the globe. to cross. Participants’ eye movements were recorded to identify areas or objects of interest and unique behaviors.

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Kids & Teens too

Five Oregon teenagers were among 22 teens from the entire Pinwheel (Pacific Northwest) Region who attended the 65th annual United Synagogue Youth convention in December. Photos by Jackson Krule

Northwest teens experience international convention

More than 700 teenagers from United Synagogue Youth, including five from Portland, gathered in Baltimore Dec. 27-31, 2015, to celebrate, learn and give back at USY’s 65th International Convention. A program of The United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism, USY is America’s largest Conservative Jewish youth group.

The gathering focused on teen advocacy with education tracks including sessions on combating anti-Semitism, political activism in U.S./Israel relations, LGBTQ issues and gender equality, race and poverty, mental health awareness and more.

Three Portlanders who attended the convention shared their perceptions of the gathering. All three are members of Congregation Neveh Shalom and attend Lincoln High School.

Hannah Glass, 16, says she enjoyed the learning track she participated in. “I heard from multiple speakers from

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organizations with different opinions, such as Stand With Us and J Street, that advocate for Israel,” says Hannah. “Israel advocacy is something that takes hearing from many people to understand where you stand, and I am really grateful that I had the opportunity to expand my knowledge in that way.”

Hannah Sacks, 17, also enjoyed her learning track sessions.

She participated in the LGBTQ track. “It was so interesting to hear the perspective of gay rights from a Jewish standpoint, especially since I live in such a liberal city,” she says.

This was the fourth USY International Convention 17-yearold Jack Friedman has attended. He says he wanted to attend because it gave him the opportunity to reconnect with some of the friends he made on USY Pilgrimage (a six-week summer program in Israel) and because of his experiences at past conventions.

Teens participated in several

hands-on social action projects

including creating school supply kits, blanket making, food

preparation and compiling winter necessities packages for the homeless.

“Truly, there is nothing like the feeling of walking into opening session at the beginning of IC,” says Jack. “The feeling of seeing so many Jewish teenagers in one place is truly indescribable. It is one I never experienced before going to IC, and likely one I’ll never experience again.”

USY partnered with several organizations at the convention to educate and equip the teens to take action; those organizations included the Anti-Defamation League, Sojourn, Keshet, Avodah, U Mattr and AIPAC. The teens heard leading professionals in the field of social justice including keynote speaker Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel, American Jewish World Service President Dr. Ruth Messinger, renowned “Mitzvah Man” Danny Siegel, Center for Citizen Empowerment and Transformation CEO Sam Daley-Harris, and USY’s 2015 Danny Siegel Changemaker-inResidence and Cleveland social entrepreneur Matthew Fieldman.

Teens participated in several hands-on social action projects including creating school supply kits, blanket making, food preparation and compiling winter necessities packages for the homeless. Local Baltimore partners include the Weinberg Housing and Resource Center, various other local shelters, Living Classrooms, several area hospitals and more. To strengthen USY’s partnership with other Jewish youth groups, these projects will be delivered to the Baltimore community by BBYO teens during their February 2016 convention.

The teens also engaged in Israel-related projects in honor of Ezra Schwartz, a former USYer who was recently killed by a terrorist attack in Israel. Schwartz died while delivering food to soldiers in Gush Etzion, so to honor his memory and commitment to Israel, the teens will participate in a letter-writing campaign for the Israel Defense Forces.

In addition to social justice, the convention brought together Jewish teens from across North America to celebrate, interact with each other and spread their ruach (spirit) to the local community. The teens explored Baltimore landmarks including the inner harbor and the National Aquarium, got a taste of Israeli culture with musical guest Hatikva 6 and celebrated 65 years of USY conventions.

This report was based on email interviews with Oregon teens and a press release from USY.

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Kids & Teens too

Family Time

Self reliance

By Debra Rich Gettleman

“Why aren’t you at the bus stop?” I sleepily barked at my 15-year-old son, Levi, as I pulled on a sweatshirt and emerged from another night of tossing and turning. “It’s 6:20. I can’t drive you to school. I have a breakfast meeting.”

“Mom,” he calmly reassured me, “Relax. My regular bus driver is out this week. There’s a sub taking his route. She’s not my regular driver, but she’s very nice. She has to run her route first so she won’t get to my stop until 6:42. I spoke with the dispatcher earlier this morning.”

“You spoke with the dispatcher?” I asked with complete incredulity.

“Yeah,” he said, “After waiting at the corner for 25 minutes in the cold last week, I decided to look into things and learned about the change in drivers. Apparently Ernie is out having some minor surgery. So Sheila is filling in. I expect Ernie will be back on Monday.”

“You spoke with the dispatcher?” I muttered still struggling to comprehend the reality at hand. How is it possible, I wondered, that a child of mine could be this organized, systematic and methodical? These are not skills that I possess in any quantity.

His creative spirit, sense of wonder and off-the-charts enthusiasm smack sharply of all things me. But this … this … unbridled resourcefulness and time management talent was his and his alone.

“Well, have a great day,” I announced as I started my coffee, still pondering this incredible occurrence. He gave me a quick peck on the cheek, grabbed his backpack and headed out. “You too,” He said. “Hope your day is amazing.”

Two days later I had all but forgotten my son’s shrewd ingenuity and was focused instead on his typical teen boy behavior; the atrocious mess in his bedroom, his laundry littering the floor, his sassy comebacks to … almost everything.

“You haven’t heard about my ridiculous morning,” he said as I shuffled his breakfast dishes into the dishwasher at 4:30 in the afternoon.

“You know, Levi,” I griped, “I’m not your maid. You know better than to leave dishes in the sink. I have more important things to do than clean up all day after you and your brother.” I was frighteningly sounding like my mother and hating myself in the process.

“Sorry,” he chirped casually, “It won’t happen again.” This was a vow I had heard thousands of times before. I thought about calling him on it. But then a vision of him boarding a plane for college and leaving me forever flooded my senses, and I decided 42 FEBRUARY 2016 | OREGON JEWISH LIFE

to drop the maternal haranguing. I took a deep breath, thought about what was really important, and said, “Tell me about your ridiculous morning.”

“Well,” he began, “I was at the bus stop at 6:15 today. My regular driver was supposed to be back. But there was a big truck right at the corner. There was another sub, and I guess she didn’t see me behind the truck, and she just drove right by me.

So I immediately called the bus company and spoke with the dispatcher on duty. I told him what had happened while I was running to the final stop in the neighborhood. It was about a half mile away. But I ran hard. I told the guy to radio the driver and let her know that she’d inadvertently passed me and that she should wait for me right outside the back gate. So that’s what they did. Of course she was irritated when I finally got there and said, ‘Next time, be out there on time.’ To which I respectfully replied that she clearly had not received a full explanation of the event. I clarified that I was there on time and that she didn’t see me and drove right past me. ‘Oh,’ she reluctantly acknowledged, ‘Sorry.’”

Again I was stunned by his problem-solving capabilities and take-charge attitude. I had to concede to myself that had this happened to me I would undoubtedly have headed home, woken my parents, and insisted on someone driving me to school. This was a young man, unlike any teenager I have ever known, who saw a problem and instead of turning it into his parent’s responsibility, relied upon his own quick thinking and inventiveness to remedy the situation. This is a kid, I realized, who can make it on his own.

That thought was both empowering and crippling if truth be told. I felt a deep sense of pride and admiration for Levi’s selfreliance and strength of character. At the same time, there is a slight sense of loss when a parent recognizes that their offspring can survive and thrive without any assistance from them.

“You’re one amazing young man,” I told Levi as he shoveled in the remainder of the last bag of cinnamon pita chips I was saving for myself. He looked a little like Cookie Monster with the crumbs carelessly cascading from his mouth.

“Thanks,” he said smiling broadly. “You’re a pretty amazing mom too.”

Debra Rich Gettleman is a mother and blogger based in the Phoenix area. For more of her work, visit unmotherlyinsights.com.

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Young Adult

Young athletes need this app

as an educational tool for its 400,000 athletes.

Dr. Handmaker stresses that the app is not a diagnostic Ever since the 2010 Sports Illustrated cover story on tool, but rather an educational apparatus designed to teach concussions in the NFL, the subsequent suicides of Junior Seau, college athletes what to expect, how to react and the negative famed Pro Bowl linebacker for the San Diego Chargers, and consequences to electing to hide their concussion symptoms. other high profile players, the world has taken a serious look at However, he doesn’t rule out the possibility that the current the dangers of concussions, CTE and other sport-related brain app may lead to more advanced applications down the road. “If injuries. Junior Seau’s autopsy revealed CTE, chronic traumatic we win the next phase of the NCAA grant, the app could be encephalopathy, a condition arising from multiple concussions. deployed to all NCAA athletes through a social media campaign Other NFL alumni have with Twitter, (#braingainz), also emerged from the Facebook and Instagram,” he shadows with a variety explains. The social media plan of mental illnesses that has been inspired and aided physicians, the media by the participation of several and the NFL, have prominent U of A Wildcat concluded are the result football players. of multiple head injuries One of the dangers Dr. and repeated concussions Handmaker and his colleagues sustained while playing are attempting to combat is the contact sports. compulsion many athletes feel CACTIS Foundation to “play through” a concussion, Chairman and CEO Dr. to prove their invincibility and Hirsch Handmaker is not let down their teammates or also managing member of disappoint fans.

Conquering Concussions, “Most concussions will heal LLC. He says the issue over time,” says Dr. Handmaker. of concussions in the “But an additional concussion NFL, along with a that occurs before the brain has series of class action healed at a biochemical and lawsuits and strong microscopic level can lead to Dr. Hirsch Handmaker advocacy campaigns for serious and occasionally fatal younger athletes, have all results, and potentially CTE.” contributed to the current public obsession about the dangers of With the app, the aim is to inform young athletes how to concussions. Dr. Handmaker, a research professor of radiology at recognize signs of a concussion, experiencing them first in virtual The University of Arizona College of Medicine-Phoenix, along reality. Knowing the symptoms empowers athletes to speak up with several colleagues, have applied their expertise to design and get the rest and medical attention necessary to heal from a a smartphone app that exposes athletes to the symptoms of sports-related concussion. concussion using virtual reality. The team applied for an NCAA Dr. Handmaker grew up in Tucson in a traditional “Mind Matters” grant with their idea.

Conservative Jewish home and graduated from the U of A, “One of us had learned of Google cardboard virtual reality before leaving for medical school, a stint in the military and 22 and used it as the ideal vehicle to deliver what we know about years of practicing in San Francisco. He returned to Phoenix concusssions to athletes. The app lets them experienced the and Scottsdale where he and his family joined Temple Kol Ami, symptoms of concussion, so they know when to seek help,” he where he remains a member. says.

Dr. Handmaker credits his interest in medicine to close family Dr. Handmaker and his partners already have been awarded members who were observant Jews. “But more than that, they the grant’s Phase I and Phase II awards, totaling $100,000, to were ethical and spiritual Jews who were dedicated to their create a prototype of their app. They will present “Brain Gainz” families, their professions and doing mitzvot for the people in at an award ceremony on Feb. 5 in Indianapolis, where the their sphere of influence.”

NCAA will decide if one or more of the five prototypes will be awarded a final prize to have their model adopted by the NCAA

By Debra Rich Gettleman

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Hillel International scholarship experience

By Steven Nemer

Steven Nemer with Hillel CEO Eric Fingerhut at the Jewish Federations of North America General Assembly.

The Jewish Federations of North America General Assembly was the apex of my involvement with Oregon State Hillel.

As the only student from Oregon, I was not only able to take part in the Hillel International Scholars program (one of 36 national students chosen by Hillel International to attend), but also to act as a representative of the students from Oregon and the Pacific Northwest. It took me a while to realize the opportunity I had gained from my acceptance, but once I was there the rewards were immeasurable.

I came to the conference in Washington, D.C., with an open mind and a clear set of goals. I wanted to learn what Jewish life on campus is like in more established communities across the nation, what Oregon State Hillel can accomplish for its students, and the steps that we as staff and students can take together to meet our potential. With representatives from every Jewish federation in North America, joined by leadership from other organizations around the world, there was not only space for sharing best practices, but the opportunity to discuss the major challenges facing Jewish life today.

The general assembly taught me the importance of Hillel on the Oregon State campus and the factors that make it such an excellent program. The Oregon Hillel Foundation provides a place for the Jewish student community to celebrate who they are while building meaningful relationships and strengthening Jewish identity. Most of what I brought back from the general assembly has been helpful for the student leaders and staff who have built the organization from the ground level; considering

how early Oregon State Hillel is in its development, we have done a great job. Having tangible evidence of that excites all of us for the future.

The breakout session that meant the most to me personally was about interfaith families. These families will make up the majority of America’s Jewish population very soon, and it made me feel more comfortable about my interfaith upbringing. My biggest surprise of the conference was how people did not mind my “far from traditional” childhood. Even the title of the breakout session on interfaith families was inclusive: They called it “Big Tent Judaism.” If that outlook is continually shared by Jewish leaders as it is on our campus, then the future is bright.

While I was able to learn a tremendous amount about Jewish life and what a Hillel can do, the interactions and relationships built during the process were what made this experience so pronounced. At the end of every day my room was filled with guests and meaningful conversation.

Since the general assembly, I have already been in contact with several students and Jewish professionals I met there. I have no doubt this conference will have a lasting impact on my life.

Even the title of the breakout session on

interfaith families was

inclusive: They called it “Big Tent Judaism.” If

that outlook is continually

shared by Jewish leaders as it is on our campus, then the future is bright.

Steven Nemer, a junior at Oregon State University, is originally from Portland and is now living in Bend. He was one of one of 36 student fellows from around the country who attended the general assembly.

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Volunteers

Janet Stedman

Horses, staff, volunteers and clients make great strides together

By Deborah Moon

Awareness of the benefits of therapeutic riding programs got a boost in the Jewish community when William Shatner spoke in Portland last year about the millions of dollars he has raised for equine riding programs. But the many benefits people of all abilities reap from horses was no secret to at least two women in Portland’s Jewish community who are long-term volunteers at Forward Stride, the largest therapeutic center of its kind in Oregon.

Founded in 2003, Forward Stride is a PATH International Premier Accredited Therapeutic Equestrian Center. Research shows children with physical, mental and emotional disabilities benefit from horseback riding, showing gains in areas as diverse as balance, muscle tone, hand-eye coordination, self-esteem and communication.

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Volunteers Janet Stedman and Merri Vaughn have seen those benefits firsthand.

Merri says for the past several years she has helped with the Horses for Heroes program, where she has seen veterans find healing and regain confidence.

“I’ve watched barely verbal kids shout to their ponies, ‘Go, Ladybug, go!’ I have seen so many kids grow up over the years and make friends and gain skill,” says Merri. “It’s a wonderful place.”

Janet, 61, heard about Forward Stride in 2008, when a friend suggested she volunteer there following her retirement.

“Her intent was for me to volunteer with the children, as I had previously been a pediatric nurse and have an affinity for youngsters.”

Over the years, Janet has seen how everyone involved in Forward Stride benefits.

“I have seen many, many clients find their own successes in the therapy provided by Forward Stride,” says Janet. “Strengthening, self-confidence, friendships, meeting goals, finding new goals and meeting those goals … the opportunities are endless. It is truly a place and a community where successes are found every day for everyone involved.

While a client is gaining strength and coordination, the volunteers walking alongside are also learning and gaining from the experience. It is a neverending cycle of learning and sharing and appreciating, and so much good humor and laughter.”

Given her lifelong fascination with horses, Janet says she originally planned to take riding lessons and volunteer an hour a week at Forward Stride.

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community – the horses, the trainers, the fellow volunteers,” she says, noting the community of riders and volunteers reaches from age 2 to 80+. “It became my most lovely place to be and provided me a haven during some very rough times of personal loss. Before I knew it, I was there more than I was not, and now it is a daily part of my life.”

In addition to the support and friendship she has found with other volunteers and staff, she has discovered that “horses are the best possible creatures with whom to share one’s life and emotions.”

Janet grew up in Pittsburgh attending a Reform congregation, where she was confirmed. These days she says she celebrates her Jewishness culturally. She enjoys challah and matzah ball soup, which she considers the comfort food of her childhood.

Volunteering was also something she says she likely picked up from her Jewish upbringing.

For Merri, Judaism became part of her life when she and her husband, Ehren, were considering how to raise their children.

Merri says she never felt part of the Christian religion she was raised in, so she began to explore her husband’s faith. She studied with Rabbi Debra Kolodny at P’nai Or and is now involved with the UnShul Rabbi Kolodny recently founded.

She liked what she found and converted a year ago: “The aspect of Judaism that spoke to my heart is the concept of wrestling with God. … I like that as a Jew I am expected to study and think and debate spiritual issues. I feel at home with this idea.”

She also feels at home at Forward Stride. “I have watched Forward Stride do amazing work for the past seven years; I love being a part of that.”

Both Janet and Merri are looking forward to the nonprofit center’s Cowgirl Ball (see box).

Janet describes the Cowgirl Ball as a “great way for folks to get an idea who we really are. …

(It’s) our evening to celebrate our community and we go all out.”

Cowgirl Ball WHAT: Dinner, drinks, auction, dancing and "Buck" the mechanical bull. Music by The Ventilators.

WHY: Benefit for Forward Stride, a nonprofit dedicated to improving lives through equine-assisted activities and therapies.

WHEN: 5:30-10 pm, Saturday, Feb. 27 WHERE: Mittleman Jewish Community Center, 6651 SW Capitol Hwy., Portland TICKETS: $75; forwardstride.org or Abigail Frainey 503-590-2959 or abigail.frainey@forwardstride.org

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Seniors

Dan and Marion Ross. Photo by Liz Lippoff

And Heeeere’s … Danny!

By Liz Rabiner Lippoff

Dan Ross was in the trucking business in New York City in the early 1950s and, while it paid the bills, he didn’t enjoy it at all. Married, with a 3-year-old daughter, he was contemplating his options one day while riding the subway. What should he do? What did his future hold?

Then he looked up – and wham! There it was! An ad for the Radio and Television Institute screamed “Television Needs YOU!” All it lacked was a picture of Uncle Sam, but Uncle Sam stepped in anyway in the form of the GI bill that financed Dan’s education for his new career as a television stage technician.

He learned to operate cameras, manage the lighting, supervise props … he could do practically anything happening behind the scenes.

One could argue that television in the early 1950s was changing at a pace comparable to what is happening with cell phones today. In those early days of TV, the television schedule was pretty robust: five stations! (although they all went blank after their late-night shows.) There were live shows, but they were only live where they were actually produced. Stations farther away had to wait for a tape of the show to be shipped.

AT&T, however, was about to complete the transcontinental coaxial cable that would enable a show broadcast in New York to air live in California. Most shows were still in black and white, 50 FEBRUARY 2016 | OREGON JEWISH LIFE

but color television was clearly the next innovation; the FCC was contemplating which technology to approve to broadcast the new mix of color and black and white programs. An exciting time for sure for a newly minted stage tech!

Everything in New York, though, was unionized, and Dan couldn’t find work. With Marion eight months pregnant with their second child, Dan decided to check out LA. Hollywood!

Burbank under construction! He found that NBC was about to start productions at the El Capitan Theater that would be broadcast live on both coasts, thanks to the new co-axial cable.

They were hiring 14 new people for the launch, so Dan set his sights there. Dan, however, didn’t go through personnel. Oh, no, not Dan. Instead he found out who was in charge of staging operations and called the man directly. Dan became one of the 14 hired, and the family headed west.

Dan and Marion told me about those years while Dan swiped through his iPad and showed me photos. Marion stayed home at first to raise their three children but later found a career as well, starting as a part-time playground monitor at the kids’ school and working her way up to eventually become an executive at the school district. Throughout his long career, Dan worked on historic shows with many of TV’s greats. He spent time with both the “Eddie Fisher Show” and the “Dinah Shore Show” (“she was a warm, friendly person,” Dan says). He was even the property guy who was in charge of the duck on Groucho Marx’s

“You Bet Your Life.” who agreed to perform an For you youngsters, innovative, non-invasive Groucho’s show was a quizprocedure on Dan. It worked slash-comedy show featuring so well that Dan and Marion Groucho’s famous ad libs and stood up and danced for the plenty of laughs. The duck was doctor at their follow-up visit. a pitiful stuffed thing designed Today Dan, Marion and to look a little like Groucho their dog, Precious, live himself. Before each show, Dan an active life at the Rose and the director would decide Schnitzer Manor in Portland. on the day’s “secret word.” Then Marion says she does miss Dan listened to the show on having her own home, but a headset, and when someone they stay involved both with said the secret word, Dan used their friends and in their a pulley to drop the duck down new community. They like and surprise everyone. Another their apartment, and the Dan Ross and Marion Ross with Johnny Carson at the “Tonight Show” anniversary party, 1984. man would blow the trumpet, people, they say, “bend over and the contestant would win backwards to make you $100. Back then, $100 was real happy.” From what I can tell, money! they have hardly slowed down a bit.

His big break, however, came in 1972 when he was a lighting Dan is 94 and Marion is 90! If you run into them at the specialist on “Days of Our Lives.” “Tonight Show” producer Manor, please wish them a happy 70th anniversary. He’s Freddie de Cordova was as frustrated as Johnny Carson was probably the guy looking up at the lighting fixtures, thinking, with the difficulty of getting Hollywood talent to fly all the “Hmmmm. I know I could improve this.” way to New York, even for an appearance on the popular show.

Liz Rabiner Lippoff is a marketing consultant, freelance writer and He promised Johnny: if you relocate to Hollywood, I’ll get you community volunteer. LizInk.biz all the talent you want. In the new LA studio, however, the “Tonight Show” crew was having trouble with the lighting.

“When Johnny wanted to introduce someone,” Dan says, “he didn’t like having to wait for lighting to catch up to his pace.

He said, ‘I never had this problem in New York.’ ” Worried that Carson would move the show back to New York, the lighting supervisor came to Dan for help. Dan jumped at the chance, although during his first day on the new job, he had to ask someone to point out Johnny Carson. “They were surprised, but I had never watched the show because I was working all day long,” Dan says.

Dan found they had a huge lighting board with hundreds of plugs, but it would need a major overhaul. Dan went in after hours, on his own time, pulled out every single plug and started from scratch. “Either it’s going to work, or they’re going to fire me,” he recalls thinking. “I changed it contrary to how it’s usually done, and I thought, ‘Theoretically it should work.’ We tried it out that night … live! … and it worked perfectly. Johnny stayed in Burbank, and the rest was history.” When Dan retired Embrace an active lifestyle. Start a new adventure with us in 1986, Carson brought him on set to congratulate him and to and begin new friendships. Discover the variety of activities, thank him (Carson called him “Danny”). Ask him to show you socials, themed dinners and lunches, and theater and music the video. Ask him to show you his Emmy! outings here at Courtyard Village. What are you waiting for?

Even in retirement, Dan can’t get away from lighting. He and Marion moved to Portland to be near their children, and 503-297-5500 i CourtyardVillage.com he worked part time at Oregon Public Broadcasting. They said 4875 SW 78th Avenue in Portland their lighting wasn’t working well, and he said “No wonder! It’s ancient!” They asked him what they should buy to upgrade, and (next to Fred Meyers Raleigh Hills) he helped set it up.

Dan had congestive heart failure two years ago, with a grim prognosis, and at his age he was not a candidate for surgery.

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Turning emotion into sound

By Jenn Director Knudsen

Sharon Fendrich is like so many moms: She, too, sings to herself while idling in the school pickup line. But unlike most moms, Fendrich – a professional musician and vocalist – is truly inspired.

She uses her precious few moments before welcoming her two children into her minivan to record a few bars into her phone to keep their memory and sound fresh. Talia, 11, is in fourth grade at The International School, and Max, 4, attends The Gan Preschool.

Fendrich, 40, also is productive in slumber. “I write (music) while I’m sleeping,” she says in an interview at home with her husband, Mark Epstein. “Only, it’s not so wonderful when it disappears when you awaken.”

Fortunately for her and her growing fan base, there’s plenty that remains, along with increasing inspiration – from Judaism and current events – from which to draw.

Released in November and available on iTunes, “Memory of a Bittersweet Love” is Fendrich’s first single, a pensive, mellifluous New Age instrumental heavy on lively piano. Her second, “Song of the Dove,” is due out this month. She hopes the third – and many successive pieces, comprising an entire album – will follow in a year’s time.

And soon she’ll be coming to a venue near you. Well … not likely.

Musically inclined since age 3, Fendrich’s piano teacher introduced her at age 15 to Chopin.

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Epstein on the couple’s couch in the first-floor room they’ve turned into a recording studio, complete with the Steinway baby grand piano she’s had since age 14 and an Alesis QuadraSynth8 keyboard.

“I wrote poetry and music,” as a child and teen, she continues.

“And then my soul came out in the music. I suddenly had a venue for all emotions. … I grew up in a volatile environment, and I’d scrambled to find footing and safety.”

Music, which has no walls and endless opportunities for exploration, became – and remains – Fendrich’s ultimate safe place; much of her current work is improvisational, first written out by hand and transcribed later.

“It’s a place I go when I’m happy and sad, too; I went there after the (Nov. 13, 2015) Paris attacks,” she says.

Fendrich’s relationship to and with music deepened in college.

At Tufts University, from which she graduated in 1989, she was always part of the musicians’ community. But she maintained a unique position in it.

“All of my associates in college were in performance groups,” she says.

She instead spent time outside her international relations and ethnomusicology classes studying composition, orchestration and conducting. She once conducted the fourth movement of Mozart’s “Requiem” with a full chorus and co-scored an entire film.

“There’s a belief that you have to perform in order to make it,” she says. “And I don’t believe in that. It’s not about me, the performer. It’s about the music.”

The Fendrich-Epstein family permanently settled in Portland

in 2014, and they are The rest is consumed with active at Congregation mothering her children and Neveh Shalom, where assisting Epstein, 49, with Talia, a fifth-grader, his job search as a software soon will begin engineer and IT director. preparing for her bat She also is on the steering mitzvah. committee of Chevra Kavod Fendrich decided to Hamet ( Jewish burial brush up on her leyning society serving the non(Torah chanting) skills, Orthodox community), and, last summer, she and she shares her talents took to learning her with her late grandmother’s daughter’s forthcoming contemporaries, singing Haftarah.

Monday afternoons in the Neveh Shalom Rose Schnitzer Manor Cantor Deborah Chorus.

Bletstein says, “Sharon Sharon says some RSM is a naturally gifted residents have a “mopey” singer who transmits demeanor when they first the chanted Hebrew sit to listen to the chorus.

Sharon Fendrich and Mark Epstein. Photo by Jenn Director Knudsen texts of Torah and Epstein jumps in, saying that Haftarah beautifully. after they experience the She overwhelmed the congregation with her gorgeous chanting music, “They leave with a spring in their step.” of the Haftarah on the first day of Rosh Hashanah this past fall.”

“Every step I take, I feel my heritage on me and in me.

Fendrich prepared for two months solid for the new challenge Eventually, Jewish music will come out of (all my experiences),” and remembers that after chanting the New Year Haftarah, “Dr. says Sharon. “I give color and sound to human emotion.”

(Victor) Menashe had tears in his eyes and didn’t have the words Sharon Fendrich’s music can be heard, enjoyed, downloaded to thank me. And that’s what I want: people to enjoy the music and purchased at dreamlandproductions.com/music. when it’s personal, private, enjoyable.”

She continues: “When I’m up there (on the bimah) I feel spiritually moved. What I wanted to gift my congregation is the connection that I feel with my heritage,” she says, referencing the emotional legacy of her maternal grandmother, whom she A R T I S T S R E P E R T O R Y T H E AT R E describes as her “best friend” and “rock.” Her grandmother escaped Germany in 1936 and died only four years ago.

Sharon says, “I am someone who, to a fault, leads from my heart and my connection to my ancestors.

“To me, music is music no matter where you are. And human emotion is at its rawest either in a sanctuary or in a room by yourself,” she says, adding rhetorically, “How do you get human emotions into music?”

When not in the school pickup lines or grasping at elusive tunes from dreams, Sharon is infusing notes with what flows from her heart and gut.

Sharon says that “Memory of a Bittersweet Love,” produced

by Dreamland Productions, captures in sound the feeling of “anyone who’s been in love and lost it and must reconcile their profound joy and carefree happiness” with loss. “(I) was moved when I listened to her new musical composition,” Neveh Shalom’s Senior Rabbi David Kosak says of the single. “Sharon is a person of some spiritual depth, and WORLDS COLLIDE, COMPASSION the clarity of her vocal talent seems an honest expression of who PREVAILS she is as a person, as well.”

SEASON SPONSORS: Writes Stephen Hill, an esteemed producer of New Age music, of “Memory of a Bittersweet Love”: “(the) …

FEB 9 - MAR 6 composition, performance, production are all quite competitive with other New Age piano artists.”

F E AT U RI N G RES I DE N T A RT I STS With Enya (who rarely performs and relies heavily on SHOW SPONSOR: MICHAEL MENDELSON instrumentals) and Chopin as Sharon’s musical muses, she & JOANN JOHNSON sneaks in about 10 hours a week for her creative craft.

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Dare I Call You Cousin

Exhibit compassionately explores struggles of Israelis and Palestinians

By Elizabeth Schwartz

In 2010, award-winning poet and activist Frances Payne Adler became alarmed by news reports of Israeli settlers in the West Bank throwing stones not only at their Palestinian neighbors, but also at IDF soldiers, whose job it was to safeguard the Palestinians.

“I have been concerned about the settlements for many years,” says Fran. “When I heard about the settlers throwing stones and eggs at the soldiers – because they were protecting the Palestinians – I thought, ‘I don’t know enough about this – the mindset that would cause the settlers to do this.’ I wanted to educate myself, and I knew I couldn’t do it from here. I needed to go there, see for myself, talk to people.”

The following year, Fran traveled to Israel, her first visit in almost 30 years. She rented an apartment in Musrara (Morasha), a neighborhood “right on the seam between West and East Jerusalem. I bought my vegetables in the Arab section and my challah in the Jewish section,” she says.

Fran lived in Musrara for two months; there she met a variety of people, both Israeli and Palestinian, and she began gathering their stories. The result is a collaborative exhibit, “Dare I Call You Cousin,” created by Fran, Jerusalem photographer Michal Fattal and Tel Aviv videographer Yossi Yacov. The publicity materials for “Cousin” describe it as “an exhibition of photos, poems and videos, compassionate to the struggle of Israelis and Palestinians on both sides of the Green Line.” Cousin will be exhibited at Havurah Shalom from Thursday, March 3, through Sunday, March 13.

While Fran emphasizes the collaborative nature of the exhibit – “It’s not my project; it’s the product of all three of us,” she says Cousin is her brainchild. For Fran, who moved to Portland in 2007, Cousin marks the latest in a series of collaborative social action art installations she has been creating with photographers since the early 1980s; previous works focused on health care, homelessness and domestic violence. A nationally recognized See samples of exhibit on page 56 54 FEBRUARY 2016 | OREGON JEWISH LIFE

Frances Payne Adler

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poet, Fran also founded the Creative Writing & Social Action Program at California State University-Monterey Bay in 1994, where she taught for 15 years. Fattal, who works for Ha’aretz, has published pictures in the New York Times, the International Herald Tribune and The Guardian, among other news outlets.

Yacov, who comes from the world of documentary film and TV news, has been filming the Israeli and Palestinian peace movements for years. Since 2006 Yacov has worked for human rights organizations including Breaking the Silence and the Association for Civil Rights in Israel.

“Cousin is the most difficult thing I’ve ever written, because of the subject matter,” Fran says. “Touching it is like – you need asbestos gloves. Like all Jews, I was told not to talk about this;

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I was acculturated to silence. But my whole professional life as a teacher and writer is about breaking silence.”

Fran found parallels to the issues raised by Cousin in stories from her own family. “My grandmother Bessie left Russia alone at age 13 after Russian soldiers beat her up. I remember her asking me, ‘Francela, do you know what it’s like to feel homeless in your own country?’ That stayed with me.” Fran’s mother-inlaw, a Holocaust survivor, spoke often of the vital role non-Jews played in helping her and her children survive. “That stayed with me, too,” Fran says. “Finally, I asked myself, ‘What may or may not be happening in the world I live in that I should be doing something about?’ Cousin is about breaking silence, bearing witness and taking it beyond the page. I want this exhibition to create breathing space for community discussion.”

The title “Dare I Call You Cousin” has several meanings, says Fran. “First, it’s not a question. In Israel there’s a saying, ‘lama lo’ – why not? But they don’t say it as a question, they say it as a statement. There’s also the history of Abraham being the patriarch of both Israelis and Palestinians – they are first cousins.

And finally, it’s thought-provoking: Dare I, a Jew, call you, a Palestinian, my cousin, and vice versa.”

Today, Fran feels more optimistic about the possibility for peace. “I met so many people, Israelis and Palestinians, who are working nonviolently, with great passion and determination, for change. I hadn’t heard about them before.”

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Dare I Call You Cousin Exhibit opening: 6-9 pm, Thursday, March 3 Exhibit hours and events: Sunday, March 6: 2-5 pm, exhibit open Tuesday March 8: 7-7:30 pm view exhibit; 7:30-9 poetry reading Thursday, March 10: 7-7:30 pm view exhibit; 7:30-9 videos and discussion Sunday, March 13: 2-3 pm view exhibit; 3-5 videos and discussion Location: Havurah Shalom, 825 NW 18th Ave., Portland “Dare I Call You Cousin” is funded in part by Portland’s Regional Arts & Culture Council, hosted by Havurah Shalom and cosponsored by J Street.

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Students Yael Keinan and Areen Nashef, in front of flags of donor countries, at Jerusalem's Hand in Hand School, one of the only bi-cultural, bilingual, integrated schools for Arabs and Jews in Israel."

Hand in Hand was co-founded by Portlander Lee Gordon. Photo by Michal Fattal

So What The idea right there in plain sight, obvious as breathing with a hat on, though few of their Israeli and Palestinian neighbors and friends and cousins could see it, their eyes cataracted with fear. But for Areen and Yael in first grade, it was easy.

Teachers filled the classroom with Arabic and Hebrew, and so what they had no words yet to talk to each other.

They used their hands, wrapped books together, ate figs and pomegranates together, played ball together under the olive trees.

So what if they disagreed and agreed all the way up the ladder of grades, they learned each other's languages and listened, didn't they, heard with their ears and toes and rows of desks, cluttered and spattered with their complicated lives.

They spoke, didn't they, they understood, their arms around each other's waists.

And their words rose with the years, We don't blame each other for the adults' mistakes, we are sisters.

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Above, Hanna Barag, at Qalandiya Checkpoint, between Ramallah and Jerusalem, and below Sundus Al-Azzeh, in Hebron/Al-Khalil, West Bank, are bothworking for peaceful resolution of the struggle. Photos by Michal Fattal

A Nosh of Jewish Wisdom: Too much of a goodin thing can Be cautious, not guarded be very much too much.

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Helen

After rough year, get your mojo back by engaging the world Dear Helen:

I’m finally ready to start dating after five years “off the market.” I had two failed marriages. After each I wanted five years of my life back, so I waited and did a lot of counseling so I wouldn’t repeat the same issues yet again. I’m self-supporting, decent looking and generally considered intelligent, cheerful, funny and a good person. But I’m not merely rusty with dating … I’m hopelessly out of my element with everything from communications to touching. I’m also a 20th-century gal in a 21st-century dating scene.

Ready, Or Not?

Dear Ready:

Your question reflects ambivalence that may protect you from another bad choice. But it also may keep you so guarded that you’ll miss out on a good one.

There are two routes: speed dating and slow dating. The advantage of speed dating (in person or online) is that you’ll learn to talk about yourself and also see there are many, many people looking to connect. Unless you’re painfully shy it’s a good place get your feet wet and to identify both icebreakers and deal breakers. Don’t have unrealistic expectations. After seeing an array of prospective suitors you’ll realize that virtually everyone feels as awkward as you. Look for events based around whatever demographic you care most about, whether that’s Jewish, professional or random within an age range. Follow the usual cautions about not giving out private contact information too soon. Some people use dedicated cell/email for their early dating life.

When you do meet someone you want to date, as described above or through more traditional means (like a fix-up through friends), strive for accessibility and openness but don’t feel responsible for full disclosure on everything you are or feel (from political opinions to food allergies) within the first three hours. Think of it like a job interview. Share stories about various aspects of life. Think about favorite books, movies, hobbies, etc. Be careful about criticizing people you may know in common, or assuming a level of familiarity that’s inappropriate too soon. But if you hear ‘I love Donald Trump!” run away fast.

As for touching, there’s nothing more romantic than

anticipation, good-night kisses and exploring intimacy. It’ll add spice and buy time while you learn about whomever you’re exploring. Enjoy the ride.

Dear Helen:

My husband of 30 years is about to retire. He is ALWAYS GOING TO BE HOME!! His idea of doing something on his own is to go for a bike ride. But a 65-year-old guy with a bad back can only be gone for so long, as in not long enough! How can I get him interested in anything that gets him out from underfoot? It’ll matter in summer, but even more so during my teaching year. I’m afraid I’ll kill him if I don’t have any alone time.

Too Much Hubby

Dear Too Much:

Finding privacy in a marriage or live-in relationship is hard.

Many of us leave home to relax with friends, but that’s not the same as sitting quietly with a good book, unplugging the phones and knowing the only thing that might interrupt the calm is a pet nosing for a treat. Your fear is legit: He’s probably a little afraid of all the newfound open space/time he’ll have, and he may cling to you as a security blanket.

The bad back suggests that yoga or classes at a gym are great places to start. Also, volunteering. Sit down with a list of nonprofits whose missions you support and talk about which ones interest him. Perhaps he has always had a secret yen to learn something new, from woodworking to watercolor. Find him a class. Suggest that he tackle the list of honey-do projects every household has. He’ll still be home, but your together time can be more playful without the chores looming. You’re going to have to be more patient than you feel, especially this summer.

But by autumn you should have established a routine that gets you quiet evenings and weekends.

A resident of Eugene since 1981, Helen is a member of Temple Beth Israel, where she studies and speaks on Torah. She claims to have black belts in schmoozing, problem-solving and chutzpah. She’s a writer and an artist (kabbalahglass.com). Please email your questions to helen@yourjewishfairygodmother.com and subscribe to the blog at kabbalahglass.com/blog/ OREGON JEWISH LIFE | FEBRUARY 2016 57

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Rabbi Steven Leder

With Life & Legacy the future happens now

By Polina Olsen

Only humans imagine the future. Parents make decisions with the present and future in mind. Oregon Jewish Community Foundation does the same.

The Life & Legacy program, a partnership of OJCF and the Harold Grinspoon Foundation, helps local organizations promote bequests and estate gifts to the Jewish community to ensure a Jewish future for generations to come. The legacy plans that donors create is one step in being a good ancestor.

That topic will be the focus of Life & Legacy’s secondyear celebration Feb. 17 (see box) when it hosts Rabbi Steven Z. Leder, who has been named “One of America’s 10 Most Influential Rabbis,” by Newsweek magazine.

“Being a good ancestor includes helping our children and grandchildren navigate this often shallow and confused culture which in many ways is so antithetical to Judaism,” Rabbi Leder said in a recent telephone interview. “If we lived in the America of Jefferson and Lincoln, I wouldn’t be as concerned, but we live in the age of the Kardashians. Parents must help children navigate a culture of excess and understand how the overt and covert messages in our culture seduce us into believing the material can be spiritual.”

In one respect humanity is similar to other life on earth, he says, referencing philosopher Marshall McLuhan’s quote: “I don’t know who discovered water but it wasn’t the fish.” Like fish, Rabbi Leder says, “We are so immersed in our own culture and environment that we aren’t aware of it.”

Rabbi Leder emphasizes that children will not develop a meaningful respect for the power of money or the importance of the Jewish community without strong guidance from their parents and grandparents. He urges people to match their true values with ones that they profess.

“Every politician who’s been taken down by a financial scandal professes one set of values and lives others,” he says. “This can happen to philanthropy. People will say to their children, ‘Israel is important, the synagogue is important, Jewish continuity and education are important,’ and then you look at their estate plan, and the money is going to art museums and the university. In Portland, we’re going to be talking about the important concept of alignment.”

Rabbi Leder has authored two books, The Extraordinary Nature of Ordinary Things and More Money Than G-d: Living a Rich Life Without Losing Your Soul. The senior rabbi of Wilshire Boulevard Temple in Los Angeles, he received the Louis Rappaport Award for Excellence in Commentary by the American Jewish Press Association and the Kovler Award from the Religious Action Center in Washington, D.C., for his work in African-American/Jewish dialogue.

OJCF Legacy Development & Marketing Manager Gail Mandel has heard much about Rabbi Leder and looks forward to meeting him.

“He talks about being a good ancestor,” she says. “Each of us is an ancestor in the making for the generations still to come.

Fundamentally part of being Jewish is to leave the world a stronger and better place. People tend to not talk about what is fundamentally important to them, and he thinks it’s important for people to stop and convey this to subsequent generations.

Providing for the future and being a good ancestor ties in well with Life & Legacy, because we are trying to secure our organizations to be strong for generations to come.”

OJCF Executive Director Julie Diamond agrees: “We are so thrilled to welcome Rabbi Steven Leder to Portland for this festive occasion in honor of our legacy supporters. He will bring joy and inspiration to a thought-provoking discussion about what we are leaving to future generations. Rabbi Leder’s dynamic style and important message will make this a night not to be missed.”

For more information about Life & Legacy contact Gail Mandel at gailm@ojcf.com or Julie Diamond at julied@ojcp.org or visit ojcf.org.

Legacy Celebration/Year 2 WHEN: 5-7 pm, Wednesday, Feb. 17 WHERE: Mittleman Jewish Community Center, 6651 SW Capitol Highway, Portland WHAT: Wine and hors d’oeuvres at 5 pm, presentation begins at 5:30 WHO: By invitation only, exclusively for Legacy Supporters; no cost to attend and there will be no fundraising.

For more information, call 503-248-9328

Life & Legacy participating organizations Cedar Sinai Park, Congregation Beth Israel, Congregation Neveh Shalom, Congregation Shaarie Torah, Jewish Family & Child Service, Jewish Federation of Greater Portland, Mittleman Jewish Community Center, Oregon Jewish Museum and Center for Holocaust Education, Portland Jewish Academy and Temple Beth Israel, Eugene.

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The Tillie and Manuel Nepom Memorial Fund of OJCF was created by the couple’s grandchildren to honor their memory and help secure the future of Congregation Shaarie Torah’s cemetery. “The Torah commands us to ‘honor thy father and thy mother’ in death, as well as during life,” says Eden Rose Brown. “My siblings, cousins and I created this fund to help provide the means to maintain and beautify the Shaarie Torah Cemetery so current and future generations can provide their ancestors with the honor, respect and dignity they deserve.” Pictured above are the donors to the fund: the Brown, Erlich and Goldenberg children. Photo by Gary Whitehouse

Life & Legacy expands on success and adds two more years

By Gail Mandel

With the completion of the community’s second successful year in the Life & Legacy planned giving program, the Oregon Jewish Community Foundation has announced its commitment to continue sponsoring the initiative in Oregon and Southwest Washington through 2017. This exciting development is possible thanks to the Harold Grinspoon Foundation’s strategic decision to expand the original two-year Life & Legacy program to a four-year partnership, given its goal of permanently changing the culture of philanthropy in a community.

“OJCF’s board of trustees is thrilled with the impact Life & Legacy has had on our community and wholeheartedly supports the continuation of the program to provide our partner organizations with the resources needed to build vibrant legacy programs,” says OJCF Executive Director Julie Diamond. “Our partnership with the Grinspoon Foundation strengthens the foundation’s leadership role in many ways that will continue long after the formal program concludes.”

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The Life & Legacy initiative has motivated the 10 participating organizations to work together to integrate afterlifetime giving into the cultural fabric of their institutions and to build their endowments for future financial sustainability. “I’ve been at Temple Beth Israel for over 10 years, and this program has been such a blessing,” says Nina Korican, executive director of Temple Beth Israel in Eugene. “For the first time I feel secure about our ability to maintain a legacy program and ensure the synagogue’s future.”

“Incorporating legacy giving into the culture of an organization and a community takes time,” says Life & Legacy National Director Arlene D. Schiff. “With the success of the program to date, it only makes sense for HGF to continue to partner with communities and organizations like OJCF, to not only secure declarations of intent for legacy commitments, but to train, support and provide monetary incentives to get them to the next phase – working with donors to legally formalize their commitments and to ensure that organizations have strong stewardship practices in place that keep donors engaged,

feeling appreciated and satisfied that they have made a good investment.”

During the first two years of Life & Legacy, the local community secured 396 Declarations of Intent with an estimated future value of $17.7 million to benefit our Jewish organizations.

“We are beginning to experience the cultural shift here in Oregon and see the practice of legacy giving take root,” says Schiff. “The Grinspoon Foundation is excited to expand upon its existing partnership with OJCF and its legacy partner organizations to assure that the vibrant Jewish community that currently exists is here for future generations.”

In years three and four of Life & Legacy, OJCF will continue to fund the program, in financial partnership with HGF, and provide training, resources, tools and guidance for the participating organizations. Incentive grants for meeting annual goals of formalizing commitments and securing new declarations of intent will continue at a reduced level.

In addition, the foundation has launched Life & Legacy Abridged, an accelerated version of the legacy initiative for OJCF partner organizations that are not a part of the formal Life & Legacy program. The new Abridged program will further increase the reach and impact of Life & Legacy throughout the community.

“Life & Legacy has introduced an unprecedented level of collaboration among our community’s organizations,” says OJCF Board President Jeff Wolfstone. “It is a privilege for the foundation to sponsor this program that fosters camaraderie and respect among our Jewish institutions while helping secure the future of our shared community.”

The initiative’s impact on Jewish communities across the country continues to grow. Life & Legacy now works with 29 communities and 13 Hillel campus affiliates. As of Sept.

30, 2015, Life & Legacy trained teams, representing 289 organizations across the country, had secured more than 6,700 legacy commitments with an estimated value of more than $257 million in future gifts to the Jewish community. To date more than $23 million in gifts have been received, helping the recipient organizations build their endowments.

“As planned, Life & Legacy is on track to achieve its goal of integrating legacy giving into the philanthropic culture of the North American Jewish community,” says Schiff.

On Feb. 17, OJCF will host its second annual legacy celebration to thank and honor our community’s legacy supporters and to acknowledge their commitments to the organizations they value and treasure (see story, page 58).

“Life & Legacy is enabling OJCF to work with the entire community to change the language and landscape of giving in Oregon and Southwest Washington,” says Diamond. “It is an honor to do this work and be a part of this nationwide legacy program that will help ensure strong futures for Jewish communities across the country.”

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FACES FACES&&PLACES PLACES

FITNESS PALOOZA – Clockwise from lower right Aprill McCallister and Alex Shelton leading BODYPUMP, a new LesMills class at the Jan. 10 Fitness Palooza at the Mittleman Jewish Community Center. Sunday morning basketball at the MJCC attracted the usual crowd during the Palooza. Members and guests try out one of the new LesMills classes. Photos by Naim Hasan Photography

SPIRIT OF UNITY AWARD – Baker Prairie Middle School was one of 10 schools to receive the 2015 Harold Schnitzer Spirit of Unity Award from the Wholistic Peace Institute. The award is given to schools across Oregon whose students initiate peace and service projects.

(Below, from left) Noble Peace Prize Laureate winner Professor Robert K. Miller, presents awards to Josie Lapp, Karrie Garrett, Ruby Kayser and Nancy Olmsted during the Spirit ofˆUnity ceremony.

(Bottom) Canby native and Wholistic Peace Institute founder Gary Spanovic (right) presents Baker Prairie Middle School Principal Jennifer Turner (left) with her award as 2015 Peace Educator of the Year

PJ HAVDALLAH – Children enjoy havdallah at a recent PJ Library program in Southern Oregon.

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WINDOWS ON HISTORY – Stained glass windows made at Bullseye Glass in Portland by Steve Klein and Richard Parrish have been installed in Temple Beth Sholom in Santa Ana, CA. A story about the project was featured in the May 2015 issue of Oregon Jewish Life. The windows present a brief history of Judaism through images of iconic and important synagogues. “Reactions from the congregation just keeps coming in - statements of thanks for prompting people to think about their heritage or in some cases start to search for their heritage,” says Steve.

HELISKIING – Portland native Jordana Levenick celebrates her 40th birthday in a big way. She and her husband, Ryan, joined her stepdad Jeff Hammer for heliskiing in Blue River, BC, Canada. Jeff has been doing this trip for over 25 years with Mike Weigele Helicopter Skiing and Jordana says she and Ryan are “hooked.” “Best adventure of my lifetime to date. Maybe the hardest physically I have ever worked for the biggest reward,” says Jordana.

Students at Maayan Torah Jewish Day School enjoy a family Hanukkah celebration.

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Ashland Havurah hosts seminar on love

PREVIEWS

peoplehood idea, in the United States Havurah Synagogue in Ashland will host Marianne Williamson for and the world. a three-hour seminar entitled “Love as a Spiritual Revolution.”

In addition to An internationally acclaimed spiritual author and lecturer, the opportunity to Marianne will share insights from her bestselling book A Return study with Pianko, to Love from 6:30 to 9:30 pm, Feb. 11, at the Mountain Avenue the weekend Theatre in Ashland. will also feature The following paragraph from that book is considered an anthem Shabbat services for a contemporary generation of spiritual seekers: led by David Fuks, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest formerly CEO fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our of Cedar Sinai darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be Park in Portland. brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to Noam Pianko The weekend be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the will also include world.” schmoozing time, delicious catered community meals, lighthearted Havurah Rabbi David Zaslow says, “In every generation there are entertainment and some dancing, all within view of the magnificent many incredible teachers, but only a handful are true luminaries.

Columbia River at the Holiday Inn Express in Astoria.

Marianne is one of those brilliant lights who seems to have been The event uses the entire meeting and deployed by the Divine to aid us in dining capacity of the hotel, so attendees understanding our interconnectedness, are limited to 70. Registration can be and the underlying power of love that is done online at weekendinquest.org, or the underpinning of the cosmos. This is a by check and mail using a form you can one-of-a-kind opportunity for people on all download and print from the website. You paths and in all religions to come together can also contact Mimi Epstein at 503to learn and celebrate together.”

203-2671 or mimiepstein42@comcast.

He adds that Marianne is “well qualified net. to clear a path in the wilderness to help us find what all of us are seeking – the miracle of love.”

Pentacle Theatre in Salem inspires A native of Houston, Marianne founded and educates through The Diary of Project Angel Food, a meals-on-wheels Anne Frank program that serves homebound people The Diary of Anne Frank reveals power, with AIDS in the Los Angeles area. Since anguish and inspiration within the words its opening in 1989, Project Angel Food written by a young Jewish girl during the has served more than 8 million meals.

Holocaust. The challenge today is keeping Marianne also co-founded the Peace Anne Frank’s story alive – and using it Alliance. Advance tickets are available as a springboard to combat modern-day online at brownpapertickets.com or at the intolerance and prejudice.

Music Coop, 268 E Main St. in downtown Pentacle Theatre, the 61-year-old Ashland. Premier seating in advance; award-winning community theater in $75, general seating, $65. Tickets at the Salem, will produce 16 performances of door are $80/$70. Limited scholarships the 1997 Kessleman adaptation of The and discounted tickets for groups of 10 or Diary of Anne Frank March 4-26 as part of more, as well as tickets for those requiring the theater’s 2016 season. wheelchair access, are available by calling The 7:30 pm, March 15 performance 541-488-7716. is a benefit for Salem’s Temple Beth Marianne Williamson Sholom.

Spend Weekend In Quest March 4-6 In addition to the show, Pentacle in Astoria Theatre will provide a wide variety of educational programs and The 10th annual Weekend in Quest, sponsored by the Institute experiences about Anne Frank and the Holocaust. Several of these for Judaic Studies of the Pacific Northwest, will take place in Astoria, programs are conducted in partnership with Anne Frank Center USA March 4-6, 2016. Registration is now open. in New York and include: The event features Professor Noam Pianko, director of the Samuel Traveling exhibit – Anne Frank Center USA will provide a visual and Althea Stroum Center for Jewish Studies at the University of exhibit to be displayed at Pentacle Theatre during the play’s run. The Washington in Seattle. docent-led exhibit features Anne Frank photographs and historical Are Jews a nation, religion, ethnicity, culture or descent-based artifacts, a 28-minute documentary and other materials about the community? Pianko, a respected teacher and well-published Holocaust. Community members can view the exhibit even if they researcher on this subject, will present four lectures during the don’t attend the play. weekend on the topic: “Is There a Future for Jewish Peoplehood?”

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PREVIEWS Theatre’s The Diary of Anne Frank to help them better understand their characters and the play’s historical importance.

Educational programs – A variety of teacher training and student programs will be conducted to help Salem-area students learn about Anne Frank and the Holocaust.

American Sign Language – American Sign Language interpreters will be provided at two performances of The Diary of Anne Frank.

For more information about Pentacle Theatre or tickets, visit pentacletheatre. org or call the Pentacle office at 503-4854300. For more information about the production and prices for the March 15 fundraiser, contact Amber Giddings at Temple Beth Sholom, 503-362-5004.

OJMCHE host February speakers Oregon Jewish Museum and Center for Holocaust Education presents two speakers in February.

On Feb. 3, come to the museum at 7pm for “Delicate Regard – An Artist Talk with Anika Smulovitz.

In conjunction with OJMCHE’s exhibit Pointing the Way, an exhibit about ceremonial Torah pointers, Boise-based artist Anika Smulovitz will speak about her art and metalwork. Two of Anika’s Torah pointers are held in the Barr Foundation’s collection, one of which is currently on display at OJMCHE. This lecture is co-sponsored with the Museum of Contemporary Craft and is underwritten by Clay Barr and the Barr Foundation Judaica Collection.

Tickets are General Public: $5; MoCC and OJMCHE Members: Free, but RSVP

required.

At 1 pm, Feb. 7, Miriam Greenstein will be the third of four Sunday Holocaust Speakers’ Bureau presentations at OJMCHE. Born in Poland in 1929, Miriam Greenstein was the only member of her family to survive the Holocaust. After moving several times with her family to evade the Nazis, she was captured and forced into the Lodz Ghetto in 1941. From there she was sent to the Auschwitz, Bergen Belsen and Magdeburg concentration camps before she was forced to return to Bergen Belsen. There she survived until British troops liberated the camp in 1945. After the war Miriam moved to Portland to be with her only living relative. Today she is an active member of the Speakers’ Bureau.

Free with museum admission For more information on either presentation, call 503-226-3600 or visit ojmche.org.

FEBRUARY CALENDAR

Donate used books for annual sale The annual PJA/MJCC Used Book Sale returns in April, but now is the time to donate used books for the sale.

The book collection drive starts Feb. 1. Please donate used books to the Mittleman Jewish Community Center front desk, 6651 SW Capitol Hwy., Portland.

Donations accepted Feb. 1-March 25.

Plan to come to the sale at the same location April 3-5. Sales benefit Portland Jewish Academy and the MJCC. Email pjabooksale@gmail.com for questions or to schedule a pick up if needed. No encyclopedias please.

Thursday. Free. 503-226-6131

Ceremonial Torah pointer

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FEBRUARY CALENDAR Feb. 5 PJ Story Hour Yad b’Yad. 9:30-10:15 am, at Rose Schnitzer Manor, 6125 SW Boundary St. Join PJ Library as we bring back Yad b’Yad with Kim Schneiderman! Intergenerational singing and stories at Cedar Sinai Park every Friday. 503-892-7415 PJ Library Southeast Weekly story hour. 1010:45 am at Seahorses, 4029 SE Hawthorne, Portland. Weekly (every Friday) story hour for young families with music and PJ Library books!

Free. 503-892-7415

Feb. 6 Tot Shabbat. An engaging and interactive Shabbat program for preschool kids. 10:45 am at Congregation Shaarie Torah, 920 NW 25th Ave., Portland.

For ages 2 to 6 and parents are invited to stay.

Free 503-226-6131

Feb. 9 The Sephardic Winter Film Fest continues with “Jerusalem: Center of the World.” 7 pm at Congregation Ahavath Achim, 3225 SW Barbur Blvd., Portland. 503-892-6634 or jewishfilmportland.org

Feb. 9-March 6 “Mothers & Sons” at Artists Repertory Theatre.

Artistsrep.org

Feb. 10 Davita’s World: The Draw of Jewish Learning.

12:30 pm at the MJCC. A Taste of yeshiva: Experience the style of learning that execited and nourished the heroine of “Davita's Harp.” Part of the Jewish Theatre Collaborative’s Page2Stage “Davita’s Harp” season. 503-512-0582

Feb. 11 OJCF Professional Advisors Group hosts lunch meeting to share important information about how we can serve and protect our elders effectively Noon- 1:30 pm at the Multnomah Athletic Club.

Moderated by David Fuks, former CEO Cedar Sinai Park. Speakers: David Molko, Jewish Family and Child Services; Tim Nay, founding president of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys; and Lesley Sacks, social worker with Hospice Care of the Northwest. 503-248-9328 or ojcf.org

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PJ Library Weekly story hour in Lake Oswego. Join us for a weekly story hour for young families with PJ Library stories, crafts and music! 9:30-10:15 am at Realty Trust Group, 600 A Avenue, Lake Oswego.

Every Thursday. 503-892-7415 Mega Challah Bake. 7-9:30 pm at the MJCC. Hosted by Chabad of Oregon. 503-977-9947 Love as a spiritual revolution. See page 64

Feb 15 Presidents Day Reptile Show and Story Time.

Come visit Mr. Lizard and his Mobile Zoo and bring your parents and siblings too! Plus, enjoy snacks and stories with PJ Library. Parents join the fun, schmooze, sip tea and coffee, and nosh. $6 per child, $24 family max. Programs for ages 2-4 and 5-11. 10 am-noon at Kesser Israel, 6698 SW Capitol Hwy., Portland. 503-222-1239 or jodi@ kesserisrael.org Israeli Folk Dancing at Leedy Grange. 7-9 pm every third Monday at 835 NW Saltzman Road, Beaverton. $6. 503-313-4552

Feb. 17 OJCF Life & Legacy Celebration. See page 58

Feb. 19 PJ Story Hour Yad b’Yad. 9:30-10:15 am, at Rose Schnitzer Manor, 6125 SW Boundary St. Join PJ Library as we bring back Yad b’Yad with Kim Schneiderman! Intergenerational singing and stories at Cedar Sinai Park. 503-892-7415

Feb. 21 Friends of the Center Brunch featuring A.J. Jacobs. See page 37

Feb. 25 Dad’s Night Out. Dad’s Night is an open and welcoming group of dads (of all ages!) who get together for a drink, some nosh and interesting relaxed discussion led by a local rabbi. $5 suggested donation, open to all Jewish dads and dads who are raising Jewish kids. Come have a drink with the rabbi! For location: jgreenberg@nevehshalom.org

Feb. 27 Cowgirl Ball supporting Forward Stride therapeutic riding program. 5:30 pm at the MJCC. See page 49

Feb. 28 Mah Jongg Tournament. 11 am at Congregation Neveh Shalom, 2900 SW Peaceful Lane, Portland.

Please join us for a fun-filled day of Mah Jongg and friendship. Experienced and new players welcome (no teaching). 11 am-noon: Brunch and explanation of rules; noon-4 pm: tournament and prizes. Hosted by Neveh Shalom Sisterhood.

Register by Feb. 21 at nevehshalom.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/MajJongg2016.pdf.

503-929-1680

March 2 Conversos presented by Rabbi Joshua Stampfer, co-founder of the Society for Crypto Judaic Studies. 7-9 pm at Congregation Beth Israel, 1972 NW Flanders. Portland. At the end of the 15th century, the Inquisition forced the Jews in Spain to leave or convert to Catholicism. Many of those who converted, or “conversos,” continued to practice their faith illegally and in secret. Many immigrated to Spanish American colonies where enforcement by the Inquisition was less stringent than in Spain.

During periods of persecution by the Mexican Inquisition, crypto-Jews migrated to isolated frontier areas, including northern New Spain, which later became New Mexico. 503-222-1069

March 3 Indoor Playground with Chai Baby and PJ Library.

10 am-noon of first Thursday of month at MJCC, 6651 AWJ Capitol Hwy., Portland. Playing, running, kosher snacks, storytelling and prize drawings! For parents/caregivers and their children up to 5 years old. Free. 503-535-3539 Jewish Author Series presents Laura Dave.

See page 37 “Dare I Call You Cousin” exhibit opens.

See page 54

Feb. 26

March 4-6

B’kol Echad: A Musical Shabbat at Shaarie Torah. 7 pm at Shaarie Torah as we welcome Shabbat together. Spirited singing, prayers in Hebrew and English, raucous noise and peaceful silence – everything you need to open the gates of Shabbat. Every 4th Friday of the month.

503-226-6131

Weekend in Quest. See page 64 ADDING EVENTS: TO obtain a password to enter events on our online calendar, go to Quick Links at the bottom right of our homepage (ORJewishLife. com). Click on Calendar Access Request and fill out the form.

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