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We didn’t need the publication of a new book filled with behindthe-scenes gossip to know that Donald Trump is an unconventional and, at times, inappropriate president. His use of Twitter provides many examples of this fact.

But amid another flurry of questionable tweets on Jan. 4, Trump also talked about threatening aid cuts to the Palestinian Authority (PA). Most of the mainstream media treated

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Different Missions in Life for Men and Women

By Rabbi Pinchas Winston God told Moshe and Aharon in Egypt, “This month will be for you the beginning of the months; it will be the first month of the year for you.” (Shemos 12:1) One of the most controversial blessings has to be the one that women make each morning: “Blessed are  CONTINUED ON P. 18

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FEATURES

Philosophy of Life for the Non Equestrian

An Unexpected Life: Frum and Childless

Everything Is A Gift

By Dana Mase I remember the day my parents got divorced.

I was twelve and awkward. I was embarrassed to tell anybody what was happening. I was ashamed, as if my parents problems were my fault.

I was afraid that people would think I was weird if my parents were divorced. But the need to tell someone was pressing up hard inside of me. It was just too big of a mountain to keep hidden. So I decided to share my new status in life with my best friend Leslie Pedler.

We were in home economics class (better known as cooking class). Leslie and I were cooking partners that day and our assignment was to make hot milk. I always got the worst food to cook because Mrs. Werner the teacher hated me. For being a Jew. As we were standing in front of the stove stirring the hot milk in a pot, I spilled the beans. Turning bright red, stumbling over my words, I said to Leslie, “Um, hey Leslie, guess what?” (nervous giggle) “My parents are getting divorced today.” Then, as if on cue, Mrs. Werner punished me for talking.

The day that my father left, I didn’t know. I didn’t know that nobody would tuck me in at night anymore. I didn’t know that we wouldn’t be able to pay the bills as they piled up into a hill on the dining room table. I didn’t know that I would hear my mother cry every night through the bedroom wall. I didn’t know that my Daddy wouldn’t be around to protect me.

I didn’t know how much impact my father’s absence would have on me.

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(Installment #4 in the series)

By Bayla Sheva Brenner

ed Tigger. I needed the meanest, most rebellious, most difficult horse to help me get through the most traumatic years of my life.

Tigger was a surly 15.3 hand liver chestnut quarter horse. He was owned by Bill Lorimer of Roosevelt Stables in Ohio where I was a 12 year old riding student. Nobody wanted to ride Tigger because of his sour and dangerous temperament. He was one extremely angry horse. I don’t know what happened to him to cause him to be this way, but I would guess he was mistreated and abused by the previous owners. Horses learn how to survive in hostile environments just like people learn how to adapt to hostile environments.

He had surmised that the best way to protect himself was by keeping people at a distance. I could relate. I didn’t want to be close to anyone either. Except Tigger.

The first time I went to get Tigger out of his stall he charged at me with his ears flat back and a nasty snarl across his face. He lunged at me with his teeth snapping to bite. He definitely didn’t want to be friendly. He tried to intimidate anyone who entered his personal space and he succeeded in intimidated me. I couldn’t get him out of his stall. I didn’t even try because he was so scary. But I wanted to ride Tigger and see if I could handle him. I loved the challenge. He looked so athletic and promising. I felt like this horse was destined to be my horse. I begged Bill, the owner of the stable, to let me have a chance to ride Tigger. He wasn’t sure about this idea because I was only 12 and Tigger was a handful  CONTINUED ON P. 33

Yom Tov Without Children Every year before Pesach, Chana pleads with Hashem, “Please don’t let us be alone for Sedarim.” Inevitably, they’re invited out; she finds that it’s a mixed blessing.

“Every time we go to someone else’s home, I see them with their large families, together for all the yamim tovim; I get such pangs,” she laments. “I will never have that.”

On Simchat Torah, while mothers watch their children dancing with their fathers, for the childless woman, it can feel heartbreakingly lonely in the women’s section. “At Purim events, parents and kids get together and I feel like I have no reason to be there,” says Chana.

When Pesach comes around, Sarah and her husband opt for programs overseas. They’ve been to Sicily, Sardinia and Puerto Rico and Croatia—among other locations.

“We meet a lot of people, hear great Torah lectures.”

Others prefer to stay home. “We have a full yom tov table both nights,” says Dassi, an attorney in her fifties living in Manhattan. “Our guests ask the Four Questions in different languages. You can create a whole new way of enjoying the holiday.”

Bracha and her husband agree; they invite Russian immigrants and those without spouses to their Sedarim.

Different Path/Unique Purpose A childless woman sees herself on the periphery of mainstream frum life. She was born a woman, with a woman’s nature and inclinations, so why does her life look so different from most of her peers?

“I don’t know things that other women know,” says Tziporah. “That is probably the most challenging part—not having any idea of what it means to have [a child] grow inside of you, watching him or her grow up and later separate from

you. That’s a huge part of the human experience that I don’t know anything about... It makes me feel not quite part of the human race.”

While vacationing with her husband in Maine, Yidis caught a powerful glimpse of the childless woman’s unique role.

We were out in a boat. The tour guide pointed out a black bird, a cormorant. It looked awfully silly standing on a rock with its arms [spread] out, airing out its wings, like it was airing out its underarms. He explained the cormorant is different from other birds; the feathers are not as water resistant as [those of] other birds. Because of that, it can dive very, very deep.

Because it has a heavier structure [denser bones than most other birds], it’s not able to fly as high as other birds; it can only fly over the surface of the water. I thought, “What if this cormorant spent its days looking up at the other birds and thinking: ‘Boy, I can’t fly like that. Look at them soaring and swirling in the upper skies, having a blast. What happened to me?’” If he were to spend his days like that, he’d be one miserable cormorant. But, if he were to say to himself, “Hashem gave me this particular ability to go deeper than any other bird, to go way beneath the surface and to bring up things that no other creature can,” he would have a completely different perspective. A smart cormorant thinks about the gifts God gave him.

Stay tuned. “Different Path/ Unique Purpose” segment to be continued with next installment, “Leaving Their Mark.”

Bayla Sheva Brenner is an award-winning freelance writer living in Pomona. She can be reached at baylashevabrenner@outlook.com.

Reprinted with permission from the Summer 2014 issue of Jewish Action, Vol. 74, No. 4.

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Operators Still Blamed for Crashes

By Jeffrey M. Adams In a collision involving autonomous vehicles, the question of liability is murky at best. Is the operator at fault, the manufacturer, the software designer? Unfortunately the trend has been to blame the operator, with manufacturers suggesting that humans should be ready to take over when self-driving systems hand over the controls. Research shows, however, that humans are not well adapted to re-engage with complex tasks, like driving in an emergency situation, once their attention has been allowed to wander.

As more and more vehicles become completely driverless, it makes

less and less sense to hold their “human operators” liable. Instead, we see strict liability as the best solution where manufacturers take full responsibility for crashes when the robot system is driving. This same principle already applies to common carriers like bus companies, airlines or train operators, where passengers are completely dependent on the carrier for their safety. Auto insurance as we know it today would be eliminated under this scenario because who needs an insurance policy if they’re not driving!

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Self-driving technologies and eventually fully-autonomous cars will likely be a reality sooner than later. Consider these tips along the way: 1. Do your research: Cars that already have automated safety technology, such as back-up cameras or automatic braking, are al-

ready on the road today. Before you purchase a new car, review safety ratings for both the mechanical and the computer-driven technologies already on board.

2. Stay vigilant: Just as you would if you were driving a car with no automated features, keep your attention on the road. It’s tempting to believe that once self-driving cars are introduced, you can relax your focus. Don’t exclusively rely on automated features to keep you safe.

3. Support accountability: There are laws currently being written about liability and safety when it comes to driverless cars. Support the laws and lawmakers that insist on strict liability for autonomous vehicle manufacturers.

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#18 / January 17, 2018 / 1 Shevat, 5778

News and Views From Bais Medrash Ohr Chaim AKA SCHEINER'S

By Shmuel Zitter Shovavim Program: Once again the invigorating Shovavim Program has begun and will continue for the six weeks of Shovavim. The learning program takes place every Friday morning, from 4AM- 7AM, of these auspicious weeks, followed by Shachris and a full-scale breakfast.

The first Friday morning, close to 100 participants braved the elements, coming to learn, in the early hours of the morning. The learning began

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in the tent, with many continuing to stick it out, even as the tent continued to sway in the wind and despite the frigid temperature – their delight and pleasure etched on their faces.

This past Friday morning, once again approximately 100 participants came to learn, in the early hours of the morning. The learning took place in 20 Forshay, with an overflowing crowd. Once again many types and stripes can be seen, as a wide variety – from across the spectrum of the community – joined forces in Ohr Chaim, in this colossal Kiddush Hashem of learning in the wee hours of the morning. One of the participants mentioned that he owes so

much to the Shovavim Progam; he does not believe he would manage to persevere the 3 hours on his own.

Additionally, it was such a wonderful sight to see bochurim from the Yeshiva Shaarei Torah who came to join the learning and continued straight from there to their regular Friday morning yeshiva schedule.

There was a shiur this past week from Rabbi Gottlieb, Rav of Beis Hatorah in Monsey, on the topic of “Practical Halachic Ramifications of the Kiddushin & Nissuin.” He discussed many fascinating aspects of the chupa, including the importance of having kosher and upright eidim.

He also discussed that according to many poskim there is no need to have eidim for the boddekin. Some do require it, the reason being that there are those that consider it to be an application of chupa.

Rabbi Scheiner gave a shiur this past Friday morning, in continuation of the topic of Tosfos Shabbos, the mitzvah to add on to the Shabbos.

The topic was “Tosfos Shabbos and

Mincha – the correct order for men and for women.”

As always, these shiurim are available on the shul’s website 18Forshay. com and Torahanytime, and on MP3 in the shul.

For more information about any of these many exciting learning programs – including the Kollel Boker, Night Kollel, Sunday Morning Halacha Chabura, and much more – please contact Rabbi Nachum Scheiner @ 845 - 372 - 6618, or email to: Ohrchaim18@gmail.com.

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Parenting a Child With Special Needs: 10 Things We Want You to Know  CONTINUED FROM COVER

Once we get to know people better, we find that some of our assumptions are correct and some are way off. Along the way, we will often discover unexpected things about one another.

In our case, many people have said, “Oh, I didn’t realize you have a child with a disability.” What would make people assume one way or the other? What do ‘special-needs parents’ look like, and how do we conform or differ from that description?

How does the person’s impression of us change once they find out?

With this in mind, we will share our top ten things we wish people knew about parenting a child with a disability. Keep in mind that these are our impressions, and each of these may warrant its own article at some point. With that, here we go!

1. We are still just regular people, so you can talk to us about regular things. Our son has autism, and he also has a sleep disorder. This has meant many, many years of irregular sleep. Over the years, friends of ours would be talking about a child who was up all night and say that they were tired. Then they’d catch themselves mid-sentence and say, “Oh, I am so sorry, I shouldn’t complain, you never sleep.”

It is so sweet of our friends to have compassion for our plight, but sometimes it feels normal to have regular conversations about regular things.

Don’t apologize. Everyone has legitimate reasons for being tired.

2. We don’t believe that Hashem gave us what we can handle. This seems to be the catch phrase that people say whenever someone is going through something difficult. Michelle heard it for the first time after her father passed away. People say it to us all the time: “Hashem only gives tzoros to people who can handle them.”

We think differently. As Michelle’s mother wisely put it: “Hashem gives

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you what He gives you, and He gives you the strength to handle it.” We are grateful to Hashem for being with us every step of the way, and we pray for continued strength.

3. We believe in miracles. Hearing that we have a child with special needs often leads to sympathetic glances or comments. We aren’t looking for sympathy. We’ve seen open miracles with our son and with other children, as well.

Sometimes it is in the form of an amazing night’s sleep, or a doc-

When raising typical children, we all have to pick the school that provides the best environment.

The same is true for our children who have disabilities. In addition, not all teachers are created equal.

Just because someone had a bad experience one year with one teacher does not mean the whole yeshiva or school is a bad place, and the same is true for public

Avi and his father enjoy a lighthearted moment at the end of the summer, 2017.

tor’s visit or blood test that went smoothly, or a favorable school placement. Miracles do happen.

Just make sure you have the clarity to notice them.

4. When you’ve met one child with autism, you have met one child with autism. Each child with autism is completely different. What works for one child may not work for another. Each family’s struggles and successes are completely unique. With this in mind, network and learn from other parents, but be wary of those who say they “know” about a particular condition or disability.

5. All parents have to choose the best school for their children.

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school. We look at all of our options and try to choose the school that can best help our child meet his or her potential.

6. Some ‘normal’ things are very different because our child is disabled. “It’s always hard to send a child off to camp for the first time,” we heard from many well-meaning friends. That’s true, but sending a child who is completely dependent on us and unable to communicate is actually harder, and comes along with a lot more worry and anxiety.

7. Our highs are higher and our lows are lower. When our child masters a simple skill after months of effort, we’re not hap-

py; we’re overjoyed. This is why you’ll see parents making a ‘siyum’ for an older child who finishes one parsha, for example.

It may be challenging to understand this mindset when one’s children are neurotypical and meet their milestones regularly.

At the same time, unfortunately, a bad day for a typical child might end with a time-out or a consequence, where a bad day for us might end in the hospital, G-d forbid. The point here is to try to maintain perspective, and it’s a two-way street (see #1).

8. We want you to talk about our child to your children. We want your children to understand that our son is different, and how that may manifest itself. We do not want you child to be scared. If you are comfortable with us being part of that conversation, or you want some guidance in how to conduct that conversation, please let us know.

9. We want you to ask about our child. Don’t be afraid to ask how our child is doing. It is not a secret, and we love sharing his milestones and growth. If something is less comfortable, we won’t share it. Don’t ever feel like you are prying.

10. Acceptance, Acceptance, Acceptance. You are role models for other community members, not to mention role models for your children. We have to work together to build a more inclusive community in which all of our children will learn, grow, and benefit.

In order for this to happen, acceptance is the key. Let’s engage in the dialogue and build acceptance in our community.

Michelle and Yaakov Steinhart live in the Monsey area and are proud parents of Avi, who has autism. They welcome comments and questions at Steinhart5000@gmail.com.

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Community News

Meet the NEW Uncle Moishy on Sunday, February 4th!

By Yeshaya Rotbard February tends to be the coldest month of the year, and for many, Sunday tends to be the busiest day of the week - with carpools and other chores that, understandably, get pushed off until the weekend. Even so, this is the time of year when Uncle Moishy makes his annual pilgrimage to Rockland County. And this year, it’s a new Uncle Moishy, and his date of arrival is set for Sunday, February 4th.

For over 30 years, JEP of Rockland (The Jewish Education Program) has been bringing Uncle Moishy to our town, and for good reason. Both JEP and Uncle Moishy share a common goal: Both reach out to the Jewish community at large in an effort to share Torah values and Jewish ideals, and they do so in a manner that is at once joyous, practical, and meaningful. Uncle Moishy appeals to Jewish youngsters through an engaging mix of lightheart-

ed story and song. JEP does so through an engaging mix of classes, lectures, a vibrant Hebrew School, social events, Shabbatons, holiday get-togethers, and hands-on activities that brings Jews and mitzvah observance together in a meaningful and satisfying way.

Also, over these past 30 years, as life undergoes its ups and downs and various changes, JEP, as well as Uncle Moishy, do their best to stay “on message.” The melodies and lyrics may vary, but the uplifting sound, appeal and purpose remain uncluttered and pure: to take pride in one’s unique identity and heritage, to honor one’s

parents, to be kind and considerate of others, to value Torah and mitzvos, and stand up for what is good, precious, and right. Through one cheerful song after another, through the gentle banter and antics that take place on stage, these are the messages Uncle Moishy’s audience of children come away with, and with hands clapping and toes tapping, these are the ideals that Jewish parents want their children to take to heart when they attend an Uncle Moishy concert.

As for Uncle Moishy, his visit to Rockland, as always, aims to give Jewish children a joyous, memorable afternoon, and then he moves on to his next concert destination. As for JEP, they are stationed in Rockland and their aim, as an outreach and educational organization, remains the same: to assist individuals and families, young and old alike, at every stage of their growth in Torah-true Judaism. Toward this end, JEP’s var-

ious outreach divisions include the JEP Bobbi Lewis Hebrew School, giving public school children a joyous and exciting learning experience; JEP’s Hebrew High infuses Jewish teens with pride in their heritage through Torah classes, mitzvah projects, and social activities; and the Arthur Hoffnung adult lecture series offers weekly classes for Jewish adults.

JEP’s annual Uncle Moishy concert provides Rockland residents with an uplifting venue for a Sunday family outing; at the same time, it gives them a chance to offer their vital support for all that JEP does on behalf of Rockland Jewry. That’s a “Win-Win” for all concerned.

This year’s concert will take place on Sunday, February 4th, at 3:00 p.m., at the Ramapo Senior High School, located on Viola Rd., just east of Rt. 306, in Monsey, New York. For further information, call JEP at 845.425.7556.

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January 1st Yom Iyun Symposium on the Halachos of Schirus Poalim in Monsey The recently established Choshen Mishpat Kolel of the Halacha Institute of Monsey hosted an exciting Yom Iyun on Jan. 1st on the halachos between employers and employees, in its inaugural legal holiday halacha

Rav Krancer addressing the tzibbur

seminar. The Yom Iyun took place at the Village Green Shul in Wesley Hills, and was met with great enthusiasm by all the participants. The shiurim intrigued the crowd, as the issues were very practical dealing with matters that affect anyone who is either an employee or employer. The letures were interactive, drawing a slew of queries from the assmeblege.

Preceeding the shiurim, Rav Simcha Bunim Berger, Mara D’asra of the Village Green Shul, gave divrei bracha for the attendees and described the zechus that his kehilla boasts in hosting the Kolel Choshen Mishpat in their Shul. After Rabbi Berger the symposium featured a shiur by Rav Don Krancer, Rav of Kehillas Derech

Emes in Wesley Hills, on the mitzvah of paying one’s worker on the day the work was done, and how and when the mitzvah applies in today’s world.

Afterwards, Rav Shlomo Perlstein, Rosh Kolel Choshen Mishpat, Dayan and Moreh Horaah, gave a shiur on the halachic obligations of an employer or employee who backs out on the commitment given to the other party. Rav Perlstein mentioned many different cases he dealt with on this issue over the years, including his years as a dayan on the Beis Din of Rav Nissim Karelitz shlit”a, as it is so commonplace and the halachos are so comlex.

The yom iyun, besides for the harbotzas Torah, was a tremendous Kiddush Hashem, bringing people to-

gether from all over Monsey, on what others use merely as a vacation day, to be immersed in Dvar Hashem Zu Halacha.

In addition to the Yom Iyun symposium, the Halacha Institute of Monsey offers a phone Beis Horaah as a service to the community, fielding halachic questions Sun. through Thurs. bet. 9pm and 10:30 pm. The phone number is 845-376-5379.

BM) has enhanced the community with its yearly Melave Malka event in mid-winter. Not only is the event one where old friends can socialize, and not only is the gourmet cuisine most worthwhile to come for, and not only are the featured speakers ones that customarily mesmerize their audiences (examples of past speakers are Rav Fischel Schachter, Rav Nosson Segal, Rav Mordechai Berg Z"L, Rav YY Rubinstein, and R Eli Mansour), but the Melave Malka is the engine that fires all of the many programs offered throughout the year as it is the single fundraising event that funds the MNSBM for the entire year.

This year’s Melave Malka will take place Motzaei Shabbos, Feb. 3rd, Parshas Yisro. This year's speaker, Rabbi Mordechai Weinberger, former Rosh Yeshiva of Mesivta Bais Shraga of Monsy and currently Rov of the Agudath Israel of Avenue M, continues in the tradition of past speakers as one who will keep his audience spellbound. Introductory remarks will be delivered by Reb Nosson Schwab, a shochen tov of the Night Seder who

also was one of the founders of the Night Seder's Daf Hashavuah Chaburah and a well-known Monsey askan and businessman.

The evening is dedicated to the memory of Reb Nossie Munk and Hechaver Ray Levi, fixtures in the Night Seder for many years and whose loss weighs heavily on the entire Monsey community.

The entire Monsey community is warmly welcomed to participate in an evening of Torah and Sheves Achim Gam Yochad and one that is so crucial to the success of the future of the Night Seder. Please email info@nightseder.com or call Rabbi Dov Perlstein at 845-558-0600 for more information, sponsorship opportunities, or to learn about the many learning opportunities available for you at the Monsey Night Seder Bais Medrash

Rav Perlstein delivering a shiur at the Yom Iyun

Brimming at The Seams

By Aaron Subar There was a once a great Talmid Chochom who came into a Bais Medrash and saw many students toiling in Torah, in Gemara, and in Pilpul Hatorah. However, he observed that they were not learning Torah Lishma, but were rather learning to best the other person. He said to them, “I see that this Bais Medrash is brimming to its seams with Torah learning.” The students were flattered by the apparent praise. He said to them 'I am afraid you don't understand. The Torah learning of someone who learns Torah Lishma rises before Hakodosh Boruch Hu, since Torah is called ‘fire’ and fire rises. But if one learns Torah Shelo Lishma, it doesn't rise and remains in the Bais Hamedrash below.

That is why I told you that the Bais Medrash is filled with Torah; it is not rising because it is Torah Shelo Leshma.” The message found its mark.

It could be said that a visitor to the Monsey Night Seder Bais Medrash, on any given evening, will see the Torah learning rising up to the heavens, since those that dedicate themselves to come to their chavrusas, chabu-

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rahs, or shiurim are certainly coming Lishma. To tear oneself away from the comfort of a warm home after a nice dinner, some even before they have dinner come straight from work, and trek out to spend the better part of an evening engrossed in Torah learning is a goal to which every baal habayis can aspire. With the many oppor-

tunities to learn at the Monsey Night Seder, located in Bais Medrash Shaarei Tefillah, 29 Parker Blvd., anyone from the novice to the accomplished talmid chochom can find a learning program to suit them so they can both learn lishma but also get a geshmak in their learning.

For the last nine years, the Monsey Night Seder Bais Medrash (MNS-

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Monsey Sports

Hockey Fever Takes Hold in Monsey

By Gavriel Jacobson Every Jewish kids’ ears perk up when they hear the names Sandy Koufax and Hank Greenberg. When they step onto the diamond and play a game of baseball with their friends they imagine themselves throwing Koufax’s knee buckling curveball or smashing a home run like Greenberg.

Baseball is a sport that has been played by members of our community for years and the Jewish players have created a strong sense of pride amongst our youth. Five years ago, if I were to ask about Mathieu Schneider and Jeff Halpern, most kids wouldn’t know that they two are Jewish athletes that have excelled in their sport.

Jeff and Matthew play ice hockey, a sport that for many years has taken a back seat in popularity to the more conventional sports. Previously, unless you were from Canada, you had no idea had to hold a stick, let alone score a goal. More recently, in Jewish communities around the country, and in Monsey specifically, the trend is changing; ice hockey is more popular than ever.

The hockey fever in Monsey is taking the city by storm with three games played every week. There are

two games every Thursday night, one for beginners and one for more advanced players. Each game features 22 players with two lines of five players and a goalie on each squad; with post-game cholent and a cold beer as their prize. The more advanced game is run by David Rosenberg and played at SportOrama. Additionally, games are played on every public holiday.

The beginner’s game is played at the Palisades Ice Rink and is really picking up. Though it started only 7 weeks ago and featured players that could barely skate, with each passing week, the players improve and the games become increasingly competitive.

While many of the players are from Rabbi Levitan’s shul, other members of the Monsey community also join.

It is truly a family atmosphere, with wives and children cheering on their dads and husbands. Even the kids get in on the action serving as scorekeeper for every game.

Every Motzei Shabbos you can find members of Rabbi Senter’s

shul taking to the SportORama ice.

The game had some modest beginnings, with coordinator Aryeh Lazarus borrowing equipment for all 20 players before the first game. The dedication has shown and the game has continued every week for the past three years. The game provides a fun and healthy communal and family atmosphere where friends and even father/son duos can compete together.

It isn’t only the adults who are getting in on the action. Though it

started as a fledgling yeshiva hockey group over ten years ago, the group has since grown by leaps and bounds. There are currently approximately 90 kids that play at the SportOrama every week; with three hour long sessions to cater to the various ages and levels.

Hockey is exploding with the passion running through the veins of all those who play it. So put on some skates, pick up a stick, and get out on the ice. You don’t want to be left out in the cold.

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Monsey Health Club – A Baal Teshuva’s Perspective

By Barry Mase When I first moved to Monsey about 23 years ago right off the “Baal Teshuva express train”, one of the first things I did was join a couple of sports leagues – Basketball and Softball. Coming from the other side of the tracks, as it were, I always felt as though there was no way I’m not going to be a better ballplayer than these guys with their omnipresent black pants and white shirts. I mean, come on! Not going to happen. How in the world are these Yeshiva guys going to even compete with me? A grizzled veteran sports hero from the mean streets of public school Canarsie Brooklyn. There’s just no way!

Now, of course, dear reader, you’re probably expecting me to shift gears and tell you that I was all wrong. That these Yeshiva guys were good ballplayers and I learned a humbling lesson about sporting greatness from the mean streets of Lakewood or something along those lines. But, I can’t really say that. The truth is that some of the guys that I played with

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were pretty awful and some were pretty okay and some were, well, okay. Actually, not much different than the guys I grew up with as well.

There were the better athletes and the less good, but by no means, was anyone a superstar. Just a bunch of 5’9” Jewish kids pretending, like myself, to be a sports icon.

On reflection, the real question is why would I even think of myself as some kind of sports hero? Was it a function of my loving parents telling me how great I was? Maybe… It certainly can’t simply be about making my Junior high school basketball team in – 7th grade or almost making my high school team in 11th grade. I mean, come on already. 7th Grade was a long time ago. I was 13.

I’m now 57. Why do we carry on with such fantasies about ourselves? I suspect I’m not alone.

Well, the years went by and slowly but surely I stopped playing in these leagues. I’m not exactly sure why or even when I stopped, but it happened. Something about having to show up on time in some sort of

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structured way and I just wasn’t into that anymore. I wanted to continue to play but without the whole “we’re in the big leagues so fight to the death” type of attitude that unfortunately pervades these sports leagues. Okay, guys. Nobody is that good. Time to relax. It’s not life or death.

Next phase in my exalted sports career: Those leagues started getting annoying, I stopped joining and before long, I wasn’t playing ball anywhere. A couple of pickup games here and there but nothing consistent. So, for the sake of exercise, I joined the local Health club.

Now, before I go on, I must comment on this health club phenomenon.

When you’re young, you don’t think about getting exercise. You just play ball. That’s all you do. You don’t go somewhere to exercise. Your very existence is exercise if that even makes sense. Playing ball with friends is natural and you don’t ever think that’s going to change. You take it for granted that you’ll always be playing ball.

And then one day, you quit a league and that day turn into a month and that month turns into a decade.

You’re no longer active, even though you kind of think you are, but, in reality, you’re pretty sedentary. Yikes.

So what do you do? Well like most of us, you look to join a Health club and before you know it you’re on the dreaded treadmill, with a bunch of other folks spinning their legs in an endless cycle of meaningless activity.

At least, it seems that way at times.

Surely there’s got to be a better way I tell myself as I enter the doors of the shiny Health club facility in my area.

Now a few words about this Health club and really the point of this whole story. For many years, this club catered to a non-Jewish and non-reli-

gious crowd. Very few Orthodox people went to this club even though it was located right smack dab in the middle of Monsey. At some point, the non-religious Jewish owner decided to cater to the Orthodox community by making separate hours, separate swimming etc. etc. By all accounts, the club’s membership soared and the place was packed with Frum people. They even opened a small Kosher restaurant in the club and boy it seemed at least to my mind that the owner would be thrilled to death.

So what happened? I happened to run into the owner of the club shortly after I joined and I asked him what he felt about all of this new exploding business with the religious community. Unbelievable!? Terrific!?

Tremendous!?

He told me he felt…. disappointed. He felt disappointed because one of the new members – a religious Jewish Orthodox person came in and told him, proudly, how he was tricking somebody from the local government or business community over something or other and was getting away with it. Something like that. I actually don’t remember the details.

It’s really not important.

What is important to remember is what an awesome responsibility it is to be an Orthodox Jew. We sometimes, forget what a privilege it is to live a religious Jewish Life and the impact it has on all those that we come in contact with. None of us are angels of course, but once you are born in to or become part of this awesome “Hashem club” later in life, we have to talk the talk and walk the walk as they say. And I don’t mean on the dreaded treadmill.

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“MENTCHEN” RABBI LEFKOWITZ’S 5TH GRADE CLASS is working hard on learning the causes and how to be careful with Onnas Devorim through the Shomrei Halashon Program. The class won the national raffle to be able to choose a boy to win a prize. Pictured here is Shlomy Rosenfeld who won the chocolate fountain from the Moshlei Halashon Program. Maybe next month we will be able to win an ice cream party for the whole class.

Keep it up 5th grade and continue to be Moshlei Halashon!

ASHAR Sefer Bereishit Siyum The entire ASHAR Gan Esther Early Childhood family celebrated the completion of the first book of the Torah, Sefer Bereishit! The children reviewed the Parshiot in the Sefer and prepared two Parsha booths for our interactive Siyum. Each grade gathered in the gym for a mini lesson connecting the table activities to the Parsha depicted at each station. The children then enjoyed the hands-on Parsha activities at each station. The program ended with the children singing, “Chazak, Chazak, V’Nitchazek!” Morah taught the children that when we learn Torah it makes us stronger and stronger!

THE GIRLS IN MRS. BERGER’S 6TH GRADE CLASS received an outline for a Mystery Puzzle Piece Book Report. Their goal was to create a nine-piece puzzle, on an oak tag, that gives the reader clues about the mystery story they read. They assembled their puzzle “book report” in class and

decorated the oak tag. They worked very diligently and the final outcome was magnificent. At Parent-Teacher Conferences, please admire the students’ work, which is displayed in the corridors. If you can find Sherlock Holmes III, please let us know, so he can solve all the mysteries for us.

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Boy are we having fun! Preschoolers at The Hebrew Academy have lots of options for indoor play, including our exclusive ‘Bouncy Room’ and ‘Imagination Room’.

And on the keyboard...Chaim Morgenstern, 2nd grader at The Hebrew Academy Keyboard Lab. THA has a full Music program for students K-8 where they learn how to read music and play a variety of musical instruments, including Glockenspiels, Drums, Piano and Guitar.

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Torah & Inspiration

Correct Time for Performing Milah

By Rabbi Nachum Scheiner This is in continuation of highlights of recent shiurim, given at the Night Kollel of Beis Midrash Ohr Chaim, – by Rabbi Nachum Scheiner, who is also a mohel mumcheh.

The Shulchan Aruch (Y”D 262) states that one can perform the mitzvah of milah the entire day, beginning from the time of alos hashachar (dawn), but one should preferably wait until sunrise.

The commentators raise an interesting question. We find in regards to nighttime mitzvos, that although essentially the entire night is acceptable, the Chachamim decreed that one must perform the mitzvah before

midnight. This is mentioned in the very first Mishna in Brochos – in regards to the reciting of the Shema, as well as in regards to other nighttime mitzvos. This is to ensure that one will not let the entire night slip by, thereby missing out on fulfilling the mitzvah.

The question is: why do we not find the same concern for the mitzvos that are to be done during the day? The Chachamim should have, similarly, limited the time, saying that they must be performed by midday, to ensure that one will not let the entire day slip by and miss out on the performance of the mitzvah.

Tosfos in Zevachim 57b answers that in regards to daytime mitzvos this is unnecessary. The end of the

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day – sunset – is something very clear and there is no concern that someone will miss the time. However, the precise moment of the end of the night, i.e., dawn, is not so clear to people; hence, the necessity for this safeguard. We can extend this logic to explain all such mitzvos, and therefore one can, indeed, perform the mitzvah the entire day and there is no reason to curtail the time of its performance.

This concept is also mentioned

by Rashi in Megillah on the aforementioned Mishna. The Mishna states that although a day begins at dawn – making that the beginning of the time for one to perform daytime mitzvos – one should preferably wait until sunrise to perform these mitzvos. Rashi explains that this is because the precise time of dawn is not clear to the average layman; the Chachamim, therefore, recommended that one wait until sunrise, when it is clear to all that the day has begun.

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those who are enthusiastic and full of vigor will do the mitzvah at the first opportunity, rather than pushing it off for later. This is learned from Avraham Avinu, who awoke early, to go to the Akeidah, first thing in the morning.

We need to clarify if this concept of mitzvah performance with alacrity requires one to perform the actual mitzvah at the earliest time, or would it be sufficient for one to just begin preparation for the mitzvah, even if the actual mitzvah will be done later on in the day.

Thus, in regards to the mitzvah of milah, is one required to perform the actual milah as early as possible, or is it sufficient for one to just begin preparation for the mitzvah, but the actual mitzvah can be done later on in the day.

Interestingly, there are fascinating letters discussing this very question, between Rav Leibel Eiger, and his cousin, the Michtav Sofer, Rav Shimon Sofer, the son of the Chasam Sofer, which will be featured, b’ezras Hashem, in the next article.

Rabbi Nachum Scheiner of Bais Medrash Ohr Chaim has been raising the bar of Torah learning with great success throughout the Monsey community. Rabbi Scheiner heads the Kollel Boker, the Evening Kollel, the Sunday morning Halacha Chabura, Yeshivas Bein Hazmanim, Yarchei Kallahs on legal Holidays, and the Friday morning Shovavim Learning.

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Torah & Inspiration

“Tell Me a Story”

By Rabbi Dr. Tzvi Hersh Weinreb Since back in early autumn, when we began reading the Book of Genesis in the synagogue, we have been reading one long story. It has been a very dramatic story, extending over many centuries. It began with the creation of man, and proceeded with the narrative of the transformation of a small family into a large nation.

For the past several weeks, the plot has thickened. That nation became cruelly enslaved. In this week’s Torah portion, Parshat Bo (Exodus 10:1-13:16), the story takes a suspenseful turn. We sense that the redemption from slavery is imminent.

But before redemption begins, the narrative is interrupted.

The Torah shifts gears. It is no longer a story that we hear, but a set of God given commands: “This month…shall be the first of the months of the year for you. Each member of the community shall take a lamb…Your lamb shall be without blemish…You shall keep watch over it until the fourteenth day of this month and…slaughter it at twilight, eat the flesh that same night…not eat any of it raw…not leave any of it over until morning.”

(Exodus 12:1-10) Whereas the novice reader of the Torah is jolted by this drastic transition from the narrative mode to a set of laws, Rashi and Ramban were not surprised by this sudden shift. They wondered why the Torah would focus at such length on storytelling and not proceed directly to this passage of ritual law.

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much of the Torah, perhaps even most of it, is one long and fascinating story.

Why does a book designed to teach the reader about proper religious belief and practice take the form of a narrative?

I think that the reason is quite simple. The Torah recognizes the power of the story to influence the minds and hearts of men. An author who wishes to profoundly impact his reader will do well to choose the narrative mode over other modes of communication. In secular terms, a good novel is more powerful than the best law book.

Taking note of this important lesson enables us to understand an otherwise puzzling phenomenon.

Despite the fact that the Exodus from Egypt was, and remains, the central experience of Jewish history, there were at least two Jews who alive at the time of the Exodus who did not experience it directly. I refer to Gershom and Eliezer, the two sons of Moses. They remained behind in Midian when Moses struggled with Pharaoh. They did not witness the ten plagues. They missed the thrilling flight from Egyptian bondage. They did not personally experience the wondrous miracle of the splitting of the Red Sea. They were brought back to Moses by their maternal grandfather Yitro, so it is not at all clear whether they were even present at Mount Sinai when the Torah was given.

The early twentieth century Chassidic master, Rabbi Yehoshua of Belz, wonders about this puzzling fact. His answer is a most instructive one: God wanted Moses to tell his sons the story of the Exodus. He wanted Moses to be the storyteller par excellence, the one who would

model storytelling for every subsequent father in Jewish history. Gershom and Eliezer were denied witnessing the Exodus because God wanted them to serve as the first Jewish children who would only hear its story; who would not know the real-life experience of the Exodus but only hear its narrative told to them by their father.

This, teaches the Belzer Rebbe, is the simple meaning of the verse in this week’s Torah portion: “…So that you (singular in the Hebrew) may tell the story, in the ears of your son and son’s son, of how I made a mockery of the Egyptians and how I displayed My signs among them–in order that you may know that I am the Lord” (Exodus 10:2). The singular “you” at the beginning of the verse, explains the Rebbe, refers to Moses himself.

He is to tell the story to each of his sons individually, because he is the only father then alive whose sons would hear the story of the Exodus second hand. In this manner, Moses set the stage for all subsequent Jewish fathers. A Jewish father must be a storyteller!

A good story’s power is familiar to all of us. The secret of the Chassidic movement’s success was not its texts or teachings, but the inspiring stories it told to its early adherents.

To this day, Chassidim maintain the tradition of storytelling in their melava malka, or post-Shabbat repast, every week.

Personally, I long ago became familiar with an approach to psychotherapy called narrative therapy, in which the patient uses his or her own personal narrative as the basis for curative change. My favorite mentor would emphasize that when a therapist first encounters a patient, his opening question should not be, “What’s your problem,” but rather, “Please tell me your story.”

As I reflect upon those of my teachers who left a lasting impression upon me, I recall the fact that they all told stories. Indeed, I remember those stories better than the academic lessons they taught me.

I remember a youth group leader named Shmuli who told us stories

and gave us cupcakes every Shabbat afternoon. I later learned that he obtained those stories from an early Chabad publication entitled Talks and Tales. Those tales left me with a taste for religion that even surpassed the taste of those delicious cupcakes.

I remember my seventh-grade teacher who read us the stories of William Saroyan at the end of each class, laying the foundation for my abiding love of literature. And, of course, there were the stories my unforgettable Talmud teacher told us about the heroes of rabbinic history, which ultimately inspired me to pursue a career in the rabbinate.

Frankly, I fear that storytelling is becoming a lost art with the rapid change of our modes of communication. Grossly abbreviated electronic messages have replaced the face-to-face encounters that are essential for storytelling. The absence of the good story will effect personal development negatively and will impede the spiritual development of our children and grandchildren.

For me, Torah is but the most outstanding of the many stories which shaped my Jewish identity. I can think of only one modality that rivals the narrative as a basis for emotional growth. That modality is music. But space limits me to describing the narrative nature of the Torah in this column. I will reserve my take on the Torah as music for another Person in the Parsha column.

Watch for it.

Rabbi Tzvi Hersh Weinreb is the Executive Vice President, Emeritus of the Orthodox Union. Rabbi Weinreb’s newly released Person in the Parasha: Discovering the Human Element In the Weekly Torah Portion, co-published

by OU Press and Maggid Books, contains a compilation of Rabbi Weinreb’s weekly Person in the Parsha column. For more information about his book, go to https://www.ou.org/ oupress/product/the-person-in-theparasha/. For other articles and essays by Rabbi Weinreb, go to http:// www.ou.org/torah/parsha-series/ rabbi-weinreb-on-parsha.

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Touching the Heart of a Difficult Person

By Ed Yisroel Susskind, Ph.D. Parshas Bo What if you are in an ongoing relationship with a person who is very difficult? Perhaps it is in relating to a spouse, family member, or someone at work. Can you be close to such a person?

Let us use marriage as an example. When I meet with a pained couple who still want to save their marriage , I share with them five “techniques” that come both from Torah and Psychology: “If you want to create a satisfying marriage, be (1) masterful, rather than intimidated; (2) warm, not indifferent; (3) tolerant, not judgmental ; (4) generous, not stingy; and (5) most of all, calm, not angry. “ Yes, your spouse does have problems requiring change. They may change, but only if you can be more respectful of their difficulties. So long as you choose to live together, abide by this code. [ At the same time, there may be places where you need to set firm limits to prevent your being abused.

You may refuse to “enable” harmful behavior or even choose to separate temporarily.]

Unfortunately, my client may respond, “You are asking the impossible. I don’t respect or care about them, since they have been bad to me. My marriage is a huge disappointment. As a therapist, Dr. Susskind, you should respect my feelings.

You are asking me to be what I cannot be! I am not a tsaddik.”

Can Torah and psychology help you to change your basic character?

Parshas Bo (Ex.10:1-13:16) contains Torah’s classic answer.

Both Torah and psychology agree that it is hard to control what we feel.

The aspect of our lives that is most susceptible to voluntary control is our behavior. So, for example, I can feel angry at a rude driver but still control my actions.

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What about controlling my thoughts? With regard to that driver, I may perseverate about getting even with him during the rest of the day, or I may let it go.

Both Torah and psychology agree that: (1) It is harder to control your thoughts than your actions; (2) nonetheless, you can learn to control your thoughts.

But what about controlling feelings? Torah commands us to take control over our feelings. For example, we are commanded to love Hashem with all of our hearts. Our Sages ask, “How can you command someone to feel love?”

So how do we control our feelings? Cognitive therapy asserts,” if you change your thoughts, your feelings will change.” But, sometimes we are unable to fight powerful irrational thoughts just using countervailing thoughts.

So Torah provides us an alternate behavioral approach .

While discussing how we are to eat the Passover lamb, the parsha (12:46) says that we may not break the bones of the cooked lamb: “v,etzem lo tishberoo-vo”.

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‫בֹו‬-‫ ֹלא תִ ׁשְ ּבְרּו‬,‫ו ְעֶ צֶם‬.

Why does Hashem care whether or not you break the bones? A classic commentary, Sefer Hachinuch, explains the reason for this commandment (mitzvah # 16) ; poor people break bones of the meat dish they are eating, in order to capture every morsel of edible food; rich people do not do so. On Passover, we are supposed to feel like kings. If you behave like a king, you are more likely to feel like a king. In the language of Sefer Hachinuch, “hau-odom nif’al k’fee pe’ulosov”; this is a play on words that translates as “ a person’s actions act upon him.” ‫האדם נפעל כפי פעולותיו‬ ******** Why did I begin my 5-part list above with “be masterful, not intimidated.”?

For your spouse to see your “gifts” to them as acts of love, they must know that you are powerful, that your giving to them is solely because you care about them. Otherwise, they will interpret any kindness that you offer as coming from fear and weakness.

The instruction for us is: It may be hard for you to control your thoughts and feelings; nonetheless, you have greater control over your behavior. If you want to feel kinder toward a person, begin by acting kindly toward them. The kind action will ultimately penetrate into your thoughts, and then further permeate your feelings.

May we use our actions to generate feelings of compassion and appreciation for those around us; Torah (Proverbs,27:19) promises that there is a great probability that they will ultimately respond reciprocally, ‫ ַכּמַ ּי ִם הַ פָ ּנִים לַפָ ּנִים ֵכּן לֵב הָ ָאדָ ם לָ​ָאדָ ם‬.

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Mitzri Mocking

By Rabbi Yaakov Yosef Schechter 10:2 “‫ולמען תספר‬ ‫באזני בנך ובן בנך את‬ ‫אשר התעללתי במצרים‬ ‫ואת אתתי אשר שמתי‬ ‫ וידעתם כי אני ד‬,‫”'בם‬ “So that you may relate in the ears of your son and your son’s son that I performed in Mitzrayim, and My signs that I placed among them – so that you may know that I am Hashem.”

Rashi explains that the word “‫”התעללתי‬ does not mean, “doing or action” for the Torah would have written it differently, “‫עוללתי‬.” Rather the word here means, “amused” – mocked – Hashem amused Himself with the Mitzriyim. Targum Onkelos translates the word, “‫ ”התעללתי‬as “‫ – ”נסין‬miracles.

The Posuk could have just said - “And My signs that I placed among them” – referring to the Makkos that Hakodosh Boruch Hu afflicted the Mitzriyim with. What is the Torah telling us with the word, “‫”?התעללתי‬ Hakodosh Boruch Hu mocked the Mitzriyim – they thought that things were working out for them better than it could have. It could have been worse; they could have been destroyed completely by certain Makkos, but weren’t. However, in truth, that which seemed good to them, was in actuality very bad for them.

Their temporary goodness was just a reprieve from the evil befalling them, so that more and more bad could continue to happen to them. Hakodosh Boruch Hu was acting with them Midah K’neged Midah. The Medrash tells us that at first the Mitzriyim were nice to Klal Yisroel. They had them working for the honor of the king, Paroah, and even Paroah was working along with them. The Mitzriyim made it as if it was prestigious that they were being honored by working for the king. They had Klal Yisroel work very hard, and write down exactly how much they accomplished.

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Torah & Inspiration duce – and were then forced to produce a minimum of what they had written down - no matter what. The Mitzriyim made like they were being nice, for the ultimate purpose of being exceedingly wicked to Klal Yisroel. Hakodosh Boruch Hu acted in this manner towards the Mitzriyim.

It appeared that some of the Makkos were not so severe, and had a positive aspect to the Makkos, when in fact the reason for that was so that they would be hit harder later.

There were two reasons for this. Firstly, so that the Mitzriyim would become arrogant and deserve further punishment. And secondly, so that everything should not be destroyed initially, so that more and more Makkos would inflict greater pain upon them. (‫)אדרת אליהו‬

Paroah’s great arrogance that made him liable to receive all of the Makkos. (‫)בן איש חי‬ Bereishis 15:13 “‫ויאמר לאברהם ידע‬ ‫תדע כי גר יהיה זרעך בארץ לא להם ועבדום‬ ‫“ – ”וענו אתם‬And He (Hashem) said to Avrohom, ‘Know with certainty your offspring shall be aliens in a land not their own – and they will serve them and they will oppress them.” Hako-

The first time that Hakodosh Boruch Hu sent Moshe to Paroah, He did not allow Moshe to make any sign or wonder in front of Paroah, rather Moshe was only allowed to speak to Paroah. When Moshe was sent on his second mission to Paroah, then he was given permission, as it says in Shemos 7:9, “‫כי ידבר אלכם פרעה‬ ‫ ואמרת אל אהרן קח את‬,‫לאמר תנו לכם מופת‬ ‫“ – ”מטך והשלך לפני פרעה‬When Paroah speaks to you, saying, ‘Provide a wonder for yourselves’, and you shall say to Aharon, ‘Take your staff and cast it down before Paroah’.” This is difficult to understand, for it would seem that Moshe should have performed a sign or wonder the first time he met Paroah so that Paroah would know that he was a messenger of Hashem.

Hakodosh Boruch Hu did this purposefully, so that Paroah would err and believe that Hakodosh Boruch Hu did not have the ability to send a wonder. This caused Paroah to become even more arrogant, and it was

dosh Boruch Hu decreed upon the progeny of Avrohom that they would work hard and be oppressed. Paroah was punished for what he did to Klal Yisroel. Paroah could have brought forth an argument that he should not have been punished for he was just fulfilling the decree of Hashem.

If you will say, but Paroah inflicted Klal Yisroel with exceedingly difficult work and pain, Paroah could have answered that he was only doing so to ensure that he fulfilled the word of Hashem. He was erring on the side of more afflictions, to ensure that he did his job. Hakodosh Boruch Hu knew that Paroah was not inflicting Klal Yisroel to keep the word of Hashem, and did not want Paroah to be able to say that he was only doing so to keep Hashem’s word. Therefore, Hakodosh Boruch Hu had Moshe go to Paroah the first time without any miracles, signs, or wonders. Paroah assumed that Moshe, and by extension Moshe’s Sender, Hashem, were

not able to perform miracles or wonders. This caused Paroah to have great haughtiness, and he said, “‫מי ד' אשר‬ ‫“ – ”אשמע בקולו‬Who is Hashem that I should heed His advice.” “'‫לא ידעתי את ד‬ ‫“ – ”וגם את ישראל לא אשלח‬I do not know Hashem, and also I will not send Yisroel out.” Had Moshe performed a miracle, Paroah would not have had the audacity to state with disdain, “Who is Hashem?” By Paroah saying these words against Hakodosh Boruch Hu, he deserved all of the punishment he received. “‫ – ”את אשר התעללתי במצרים‬Hakodosh Boruch Hu made a mockery of Paroah and the Mitzriyim, by sending Moshe to Paroah without any wonders to perform, which caused Paroah to become arrogant thinking that he was greater than Moshe and Hashem. “‫ – ”ואת אתתי‬And then Hashem afflicted the Mitzriyim with many Makkos, which they deserved. They would not be able to exempt themselves from what they did to Klal Yisroel, for they did so thinking and saying they were greater than Hashem, and had no reason to listen to Him. (‫)בן איש חי‬ There were two great types of wonders that occurred in Mitzrayim. The first type was the actual Makkos causing great harm, that which the world had never seen before and will never see again (before the coming of Moshiach). The second type of wonder was how the Makkos only inflicted harm upon the Mitzriyim and not Klal Yisroel. This was also contrary to nature, as was clearly seen by many of the Makkos. While Klal Yisroel drank water, the Mitzriyim were drinking blood. Even if they were drinking from the same cup – the Mitzriyim had blood coming into their mouths and Klal Yisroel had water coming into their mouths. The Makah of the wild animals only went into the homes of

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Different Missions in Life for Men and Women  CONTINUED FROM COVER

you, Hashem, our God and King of the world, that He made me according to His will.” For, if men bless God saying, “… that He did not make me a woman,” why do women not bless Him by saying something similar like, “… that He didn’t make me a man”?

Furthermore, the implication from the blessing that women do make is that men were not created according to His will. Some women might argue that this is indeed true since given how some men act, could God really take responsibility for such creations?

They think not, even though nothing can exist if God does not approve of its being part of Creation.

An answer to the question posed above can be extrapolated from this week’s parshah. In this week’s parshah, the Jewish people get their first mitzvah, which is to sanctify the

new moon, even though they would not be able to perform it until reaching Eretz Yisroel, and after conquering and dividing the land and establishing a Sanhedrin, which eventually took 14 years altogether.

The question is why, since so many other mitzvos seem to be more fundamental to Judaism, and therefore the redemption from Egypt. Secondly, why not give a mitzvah that is immediately relevant, rather than one that could and did take decades to first perform it? What is so central to being Jewish about sanctifying the new moon each month?

Everything, of course. As the Talmud explains, the moon represents the Jewish people, who like the moon, have waxed and waned throughout history. But, more importantly, just as the moon does not emanate its own light, but rather it reflects the light of the sun to the

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the Mitzriyim and not Klal Yisroel’s homes. This was by all of the Makkos, and this was the second type of wonder. “‫– ”אשר התעללתי במצרים‬ This refers to the wondrous Makkos that Hakodosh Boruch Hu brought in Mitzrayim. “‫ – ”ואת אתתי‬This refers to the wondrous miracles in that the Makkos only afflicted, “‫ – ”בם‬in them – the Mitzriyim and not Klal Yisroel. (‫)אדרת אליהו‬ Why did Hakodosh Boruch Hu perform all of the miracles in Mitzrayim? Hakodosh Boruch Hu could have wiped the entire Mitzrayim off the face of the earth in one moment.

Yet Hakodosh Boruch Hu afflicted them one at a time all for the sake of Klal Yisroel. Hakodosh Boruch Hu wanted Klal Yisroel to see and know that Hakodosh Boruch Hu acts Midah for Midah, and for all that the Mitzriyim did to Klal Yisroel, they were punished appropriately. “‫ ”ולמען תספר באזני בנך ובן בנך‬- Klal Yisroel did not understand all of

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these details at that time, they were in it and could not see all of the great details, and how everything was planned out exactly. However all of these miracles are to be repeated from generation to generation, and for us to understand the precision with which Hakodosh Boruch Hu operates. What may have looked good to the Mitzriyim, was actually bad for them, and what may look bad for Klal Yisroel is actually good for them. Klal Yisroel were to see the Makkos that occurred in Mitzrayim, and more importantly, to see, “‫ – ”אשר התעללתי‬that Hakodosh Boruch Hu mocked the Mitzriyim. It was not just so Klal Yisroel should be freed from Mitzrayim, but so that, “‫ – ”'וידעתם את ד‬so that Klal Yisroel should know Hashem. May we be Zoche to follow in the ways of Hakodosh Boruch Hu, and - what is to be passed on from generation to generation – to know Hashem.

Rabbi Yaakov Yosef Schechter is the author of Parshah Pshetl.

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world, likewise are the Jewish people meant to reflect God’s light—Torah—to mankind in order to rectify it.

Wrapped in the first mitzvah given to the Jewish people is the entire mission statement of the nation.

In more Kabbalistic terms, the moon, which is considered to be feminine, and associated with the Shechinah—the Divine Presence— is a mekabeles—a receiver. It has no light of its own to interfere with the light of the sun; if it receives none then it has none, and that is the way it should be for a Jew with respect to God. Avodas Hashem—Service of God—is primarily about working on oneself until one becomes this way.

Women are naturally set up this way. They are constantly receiving and then giving to others. The most obvious representation of this idea is the entire process of childbirth, during which a woman receives from a man, allows for the development of what she has received, and then gives birth to it in a far more complete form.

This is very similar to the Torah-learning process. The original ideas must come from God via His Torah, but once received, we must think about them and work with them, until we have developed them to the point that we can express them in a way that is novel and yet consistent with the original concept.

This is a feminine-like procedure, crucial for grasping Torah and for the educational process.

I once heard a story of two great rabbis who were very close. However, one was older than the other, and presumably wiser as well. At the eulogy of the older one, the younger rabbi recounted a story where the two of them were walking home together discussing an important point. The elder rabbi, after trying several times unsuccessfully to have the younger rabbi understand his point finally told him, “You are not being a listener.”

In other words, the younger rabbi was hearing him, but not listening to him. He heard the words, but they were not registering on the level for which they were intended by

the elder rav, and therefore lacked the necessary impact. Apparently, the younger rabbi recounted, his own perspective blocked him from seeing the perspective of his mentor; it blocked him from being a proper mekabel—a receiver.

That is a naturally male thing to do. It seems, in general, more natural for men to be givers rather than receivers, usually because of pride.

There is something about the male ego that demands that a man do things on his own, without the help of others. Men seem to need independence more than women do, which is why my wife is ready to ask directions the moment we are lost, and I won’t until I have made every effort to solve the dilemma on my own.

It’s an issue of hisbatlus—self-nullification. Sounds bad, right? I mean, who would want to nullify himself?

Only someone who wants to live with true freedom. For, in truth, what is being nullified is not the person, but his ego that interferes with his becoming a proper mekabel. Hisbatlus is a spiritual house cleaning that rids a person of all those extraneous ways of thinking and habits that prevent the person from becoming a full member on God’s team.

In fact, this is the entire point of exile in the first place, which is why great rabbis like the Vilna Gaon used to impose it on themselves, something I can personally relate to a little when going on speaking tours. While traveling, you live out of context, staying in places that you cannot call home, working out of a suitcase. It all makes life seem quite transient, and tends to make you more aware of your surroundings than of yourself. You feel more like a spectator than spectated…

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Jewish View of Money

By Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan An excerpt from Rabbi Kaplan’s Handbook of Jewish Thought.

One’s love for God must exceed his love for all material things. We are commanded, “Love the Lord your God… with all your might” (Deut.

6:5) -- that is, even at the cost of all your wealth. Therefore, there are times when a person must be ready to sacrifice all his possessions for the sake of God, even though he is not required to give his life.

If one lives in a place where it is impossible to keep our religion, he must move to a place where it is possible, whatever the expense or loss.

One must sacrifice all one’s possessions rather than actively violate any negative commandment in the torah...

One should therefore never do business where the Sabbath is the main market day, since he may succumb to the temptation of gaining extra profit on the Sabbath...

Although one must impoverish himself rather than actively sin, one need not do so for the sake of doing good. From the two agricultural tithes, we learn that God does not intend for us to use more than onefifth (20 percent) of our means for religious purposes. Therefore, one need not spend more than a fifth of his money in order to perform a positive commandment, even if he will never have another chance to do it.

For example, one need not spend more than this amount for a tallit or tefillin, a sukkah or etrog for Sukkot, or matzah for Passover.

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does so is counted among the foolishly pious who bring destruction to the world. However, one may leave as much as one-third of his estate to charity in his will.

In any case, a minimum of onetenth of one’s income belongs to God, and should be used for charity or other religious purposes. This is a measure handed down from the Patriarchs, as Jacob himself said to God, “Of all that You give me, I will set aside a tenth to You” (Genesis 28:22). Similarly, the Talmud learns that we must give one-tenth of our income to charity from the verse, “Honor God with your wealth, and with the first fruits of all your produce” (Proverbs 3:9).

er, a person of ordinary means who gives less than a tenth of his income to charity is considered a miser.

If one is accustomed to use his tithe for charity alone, he may not use this money for any other religious purpose. However, he may use it to buy religious articles or books, which he will also lend to the poor, as long as they are clearly designated as such.

If there is an urgent need for charity or to perform any other commandment, one must sacrifice a fifth, or at least a tenth, of all his possessions. After the first time, however, one need only tithe from his yearly income. In any case, the very wealthy should give as much as is needed.

It is a positive commandment to give charity, as the Torah states, “Open your hand generously, and extend to [your needy brother] any credit he needs to take care of his wants.” (Deut. 15:8). The minimum that one can give to fulfill this commandment is one-third of a shekel per year. It is thus written, “We have accepted upon ourselves to donate a third of a shekel annually for the service of the house of our God” (Nehemiah 10:33). This amount must be given by the poorest of the poor, since he would otherwise violate the commandment of charity. Howev-

cles available, but should spend as much as a third more to obtain better ones. Whenever one has the choice between two such articles, he should spend a third more to buy the better one. For example, rather than buy a cheap tallit, one should spend a third more for a better one.

Enhancing the Mitzvot We are required to perform God’s commandments in the choicest and most beautiful manner possible, as the Torah states, “This is my God and I will glorify Him” (Exodus 15:2). Therefore, whenever possible, one should not use the cheapest religious arti-

One who spends more than the required extra third to enhance his observance of the commandments is assured that God will amply repay him here on earth. Therefore, any unanticipated income should be used for this purpose.

One should always give his best for God, as we find, “The choicest belongs to God” (Leviticus 3:16). Thus, when a congregation builds a synagogue, it should be constructed as beautifully as possible, as the scripture intimates, “Our God has granted us favor… in order to raise up high the House of our God” (Ezra 9:9) There should be no show of poverty, false economy, or skimping in building a house dedicated to God’s Torah.

Nevertheless, this should never be done at the expense of other charitable works, nor of denying affiliation to those of lesser means.

However, even where sacred things are concerned, lavishness and richness should be dictated by aesthetics and good taste, and not by mere ostentation and the desire to spend money. For example, one should not use gold where silver would do just as well.

We are taught that the Torah has regard for our money, and it should not be spent wastefully. We find this in the case of a plagued house, where it is stated, “The priest shall give orders that the house be emptied out before [any] priest comes to see the mark, so that everything in the house will not become unclean.

Only then shall a priest come to see the house” (Leviticus 14:36).

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Parshas Bo: Staying Inside

By Akiva Mase Disclaimer: The following is heavily based on a Shiur given by Rav Wagschall of Yeshivas Mir. We find that in anticipation for Macos Bechoros(Plague of the Firstborn), Hashem warned Klal Yisroel to not leave their houses. Hashem even commanded Klal Yisroel to make a marking on their doorposts to signify that they were indeed Jews. Obviously, Hashem has the capability to protect the B’nei Yisroel without the help of signs and the like. Rather, what happened in Egypt was a manifestation of the Gemara in Bava Kamma (60b). The Gemara there says that once the Mashchis (Destroyer) is given permission to destroy, he does not differentiate between Reshaim and Tzaddikim.

Rather, he destroys all that is found within his jurisdiction. Therefore, in Egypt, Hashem commanded the Jews to stay inside, and mark their doorposts to signify that they are not within the jurisdiction of the Mashchis.

We find explicitly in the Torah that this Macah was also to effect the firstborn animals. If this is the case, why wasn’t Klal Yisroel advised to shelter their first-born animals, as well as themselves? Like the Gemara says, once the Mashchis has permission to destroy, he’ll destroy everything in his path. So, wouldn’t the Jewish-owned animals be destroyed along with the Egyptian-owned animals, if left outside?

In Tehillim 135, David HaMelech says, “It was He who smote the firstborn of Egypt, from man to beast.

He sent signs and wonders into your midst, O Egypt…” It is interesting to note that first David HaMelech speaks of Macos Bechoros, and only afterwards mentions the other “Signs and Wonders.” Why would David speak of the Nissim(Miracles) out of order? Wouldn’t it make more sense to first speak of the first nine plagues, and then speak of the tenth?

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The answer to this question could be found in the Even Ezra on those Pesukim.

David spoke first of Macos Bechoros because it was a “Neis Besoch Neis. (Miracle within a miracle).” The first miracle was the actual plague that Hashem created. The “miracle within a miracle,” was that the first-born Jews were spared from this plague.

This answer, however, is problematic. By every single plague, there existed this same “miracle within a miracle.” By all the plagues, the Jews were not affected! So what does the Even Ezra mean by saying that Macos Bechoros was a special miracle?

dusha of the Bechor. He says that the Bechor was saved because Hashem made them Holy. Their Holiness didn’t come as a result of a miracle, rather their being made holy was the miracle that saved them. Why would being holy save the Bechoros? Does the Gemara not say that the Mashchis doesn’t differentiate between Tzaddikim and Reshaim?

Possibly we can explain the Gemara that the Mashchis doesn’t differentiate between tzaddikim and reshaim that are within the level of his jurisdiction. As is well known, Klal Yisroel was on the forty-ninth level of Tumah. They absolutely were within the same realm as the Egyptians. But once

Seemingly, the Mitzvah of Pidyon HaBen, “Redeeming the Firstborn,” arose because of the miracle of Macos Bechoros. Because Hashem saved the firstborns’ lives in Egypt, they, in turn, owe their lives to Hashem. This is the special Kedusha of the Bechor.

However, the Seforno makes a surprising statement about the Ke-

the bechoros were made holy, they were no longer in the same realm as the Egyptians, and thus, the mashchis had no right to destroy them.

This idea explains the Even Ezra very well. By all the other plagues, Hashem merely placed the plagues where the Egyptians were found.

That is why it didn’t affect the Jewsit was never placed in Goshen to be-

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gin with. By Macos Bechoros, however, there was a special Neis that didn’t exist by all the others: the holiness that Hashem bestowed upon the firstborns. This is why the Even Ezra calls Macos Bechoros a Neis Besoch Neis.

However, this idea creates a new question: If Klal Yisroel indeed became holy, and were no longer going to be affected by the Mashchis, why did Hashem command them to stay inside at all?

On a symbolic level, Hashem commanded Klal Yisroel to stay inside their homes to impart an important lesson. The holiness and uniqueness of the Jews cannot be maintained if they “go outside.” By interacting and familiarizing ourselves with the world of the Non-Jews, we in essence cause our special Kedusha to be lost. The Jewish neshama is very unique, and does not need to be aided by what exists in the world at large. Actually, the world outside our own will adversely affect our Kedusha! Hashem was telling Klal Yisroel to stay inside, because the moment they leave, the kedusha is at risk of leaving as well, which would result in the Mashchis having the right to destroy them.

This brings us back to our initial question: why didn’t the animals have to go inside to be saved, just like their owners? Now, the answer is simple. The animals, being that they belong to the Jews, were also on a different spiritual plane than the Egyptians. They were therefore not subject to the Maca that the Mashchis brings. The actual Jewish People stayed inside because their Kedusha was at risk of being of being negated. The animals, however, are at no such risk for obvious reason- the intermingling with the Nations is what causes Kedusha to be lost, and that cannot apply to animals.

Akiva Mase is a bochur learning in the Chaburah Elyonah in Yeshivas Ohr Reuven.

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tolls and avoid those fines and penalties. Those can mount up fast, specially if you don’t have your current address on file with the DMV. “The Thruway Authority is going the extra mile to reduce the burden on motorists as we increase awareness about the Tolls By Mail program,” said a spokeswoman.

For the Gov. Mario M. Cuomo bridge, if the first toll bill by mail is not paid by the customer, a $5 late fee is imposed on the second notice. If the second notice is also ignored, violation fees of $100 per toll are imposed — and those start at the end of the billing cycle. Cross 10 times in a month and don’t pay and you would owe $50 for the tolls, $25 in fines and $1,000 in penalties within three months.

The cashless tolling system went in in April 2016, on the old Tappan Zee Bridge. About 80 percent of the 140,000 drivers who cross Tappan Zee every day have E-Z Pass, Thruway officials said.

“Cashless tolling is a critical part of modernizing our infrastructure. Reduced congestion and air pollution, along with improved safety, means better quality of life for all. Open road cashless tolling represents the future for efficient transportation,” said Acting Executive Director Mathew J. Driscoll in Tuesday’s announcement.

This Hudson River crossing is important to the Thruway Authority, providing one-fifth of its annual revenues.

But in the past two years, problems, bills, and lost revenue have mounted.

The New York State Thruway Authority is owed a total of about $8 million in unpaid tolls by drivers crossing the Mario without EZPass, according to The Journal News, which filed a FOI request for the data.

The paper is hosting a forum Tuesday evening about the issues.

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must pay all outstanding toll balances by Feb. 21. The amnesty will then be applied to violation fees for passenger vehicles of Tolls By Mail customers with open violations that were issued between April 24, 2016 through Jan. 31, 2018.

The Thruway Authority also announced an action plan to increase educational outreach about billing for cashless tolling at the Mario.

It’s about the tolls and how to pay bills on time and avoid fees, violations and possible registration suspension.

should ensure all drivers understand the new system and avoid major fines,” he said.

However, he’s still calling for an overhaul of the toll fines and penalties.

“I am also continuing my request to the Thruway Authority for reductions of the fine structure,” he said. “I sent this letter on 11/21/17 describing how $100 per violation can lead to shockingly high fines. Discussions have been positive and I am hopeful we will achieve these reductions. My office has successfully worked with

News of the amnesty and the new education plan pleased Assemblyman Kenneth Zebrowksi, who has been working with Rockland constituents complaining about the problems with Tolls by Mail.

“These changes should help to inform drivers and reduce fines. While cashless tolls help with traffic and congestion, it is important that the State adapt when new technology causes confusion. These efforts

many constituents and the EZ Pass/ Thruway Authority to resolve individual issues. I encourage residents to continue to call my office should they receive a confusing bill.”

The Thruway Authority’s new steps include: yy Installing more specific roadway signage that clearly outlines payment options to avoid late fees and penalties. The signage will better highlight for motorists that

they have passed a tolling point and if they don’t have E-ZPass, they need to pay via Tolls By Mail.

The signs will clearly instruct drivers who don’t use E-ZPass to “AVOID PENALTIES” by calling **826 for toll payment options. yy Improving the wording on tolls bills and envelopes to emphasize ways to avoid fines and penalties. The revised Tolls By Mail bills and envelopes will make it clear how a customer can avoid fines and penalties by paying tolls by the due date. The envelopes will prominently say, “AVOID FEES,” and toll bills will say, “Avoid fees of up to $100 per toll transaction by paying your Toll Bill by the due date.” yy Updating the Thruway App and websites – thruway.ny.gov, e-zpassny.com, and tollsbymailny.com – to direct users to update their address with the Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV).

This will remind drivers that New York State law requires motorists to keep their address current with the DMV to ensure bills are mailed to the proper owners and that they must update their address with the DMV within 10 days of moving. yy Working with other agencies to increase E-ZPass educational outreach to showcase E-ZPass as the most convenient and cost–effective way to travel on New York’s roadways, bridges and tunnels. yy Developing a public service announcement on how to pay tolls and avoid fees and penalties that will be displayed at Thruway Service Areas, DMV offices, websites, etc.

Officials said the current outreach effort will be continued as well. It includes informative educational materials in Thruway Service Areas, signage for more than a mile leading up to the Governor Mario M. Cuomo Bridge, and information on thruway. ny.gov, e-zpassny.com, and tollsbymailny.com.

“The Thruway Authority’s commitment is to improve our customers’ experience by increasing educational

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Investigators Determine Cause Of Monsey Schoolhouse Fire, Police Say

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A Letter From a Concerned Rockland Resident “The overwhelming majority of older adults prefer to age in place, remaining in their current homes or communities. Most seniors — 93 percent of Medicare enrollees aged 65 and older in 2009 — are already aging in place in traditional communities.” (www.huduser.gov/portal/periodicals/em/fall13/highlight1.html)

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Rockland County, NY – The cause of a small schoolhouse fire in Monsey has been determined by investigators, officials said.

First responders were dispatched to Elyon Road in Monsey shortly before 2:45 a.m. on Sunday, Jan. 7, where there were reports of a fire in a building used as a schoolhouse in Rockland County.

Upon arrival, crews from the Spring Valley and Hillcrest Fire Departments were able to swiftly and

safely extinguish the flames once power was cut off to the building by Orange and Rockland Utilities. The Rockland County BCI and Ramapo Police Department then took over the investigation into the fire.

According to police, the fire was caused by an exhaust fan inside the building, and was not set intentionally. No foul play was reported. Police said that the investigation into the fire has since been closed.

(Source – Ramapo Daily Voice)

Most of the Senior Citizens who bought houses in the Town of Ramapo and lived here for several decades before the Town of Ramapo created their Comprehensive Plan and Zoning Districts less than 15 years ago never imagined the Town would show such contempt for long-time residents. Yet as recent criminal court decisions have shown, that was precisely the attitude of certain leaders who acquiesced to a small group of developers and realtors without regard to the needs, desires, rights and established expectations of residents who, over the course of just a few years, found themselves besieged by urban tenements.

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outreach to address concerns related to the billing process but it should also be recognized that there must be a balanced and an effective system to enforce the rules for all motorists who use the bridge,” Driscoll said.

Thruway officials offered drivers these tips about dealing with the MCB tolls, fines and penalties: Customers who don’t have an E-ZPass and use the Governor Mario M. Cuomo Bridge can pay their toll before a bill arrives by visiting tollsbymailny.com and pay in a few short steps by providing their license

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plate number, along with a payment method and period of time traveled. Motorists can also access additional information about how to pay by calling the Tolls By Mail customer service center at 1-844-826-8400.

New York State law requires motorists to keep their address current with the Department of Motor Vehicles to ensure bills are mailed to the proper owner. Drivers must update their address with the DMV within 10 days of moving. The New York State Department of Motor Vehicles has enacted regulation that allows suspension of the vehicle registration of motorists with three or more unpaid tolls, violation fees and other charges

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resulting from violations on different days, as well as registration suspension of commercial vehicle owners with $200 or more in unpaid tolls and violation fees, within a period of five years. Repeated notices are sent before eligibility for suspension.

Motorists who use cashless tolling but claim they have not received a toll bill should contact the Tolls By Mail Customer Service Center at 1-844826-8400 immediately to address the issue, and avoid any fines. For questions regarding Notices of Toll violation, contact the E-ZPass Customer Service Center at 1-800-333-8655.

State officials also urged motorists to sign up for E-Z Pass.

The new administration of the Town of Ramapo promised a moratorium on developments and a new Comprehensive Plan. Neither has yet begun. I do not know how much the County can influence the Town of Ramapo to fulfill its promises but I do ask that you and the County continue your strong advocacy for the rights and protection of elderly in Monsey and the rest of Rockland County by ensuring the Town of Ramapo respects the rights of Senior Citizens to live in the peace and comfort they earned decades before real estate special interests obtained “rights” through a seriously flawed Plan.

At the beginning of this letter I included a statement and link about Aging In Place. I very strongly urge the Town of Ramapo to rectify the omission of that concept from the 2004 Comprehensive Plan as quickly as possible.

Thank you.

Asher Kaufman Monsey, NY Drivers are strongly encouraged to take advantage of the most convenient and cost- effective way to travel New York’s roadways by signing up for E-ZPass. With a New York E-ZPass tag, drivers save on tolls across the state, including a five percent discount along the entire 570-mile New York State Thruway.

E-ZPass tags are available for purchase at many Thruway Service Areas and approximately 840 retailers across the state.

To sign up for an E-ZPass account , go to www.E-ZPassNY.com; at E-ZPass Customer Service Centers; or by calling the E-ZPass Toll Free Customer Service Center at 1-800-333TOLL (8655). E-ZPass can be paid for with a credit card, check, money order or in person at any E-ZPass Customer Service Center.

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Mahwah Firefighters Move Indian Camp Propane Tanks To Protect Ramapo River Mahwah, NJ – Mahwah firefighters secured several propane tanks Saturday amid concerns that they’d float into the Ramapo River, which supplies water for millions of people in New Jersey and New York.

Firefighters moved the tanks after being called to the Split Rock Sweetwater Prayer Camp, west of Route 202 in the Ramapo Mountains, where the recent rain and melted snow raised fears of serious flooding.

The area is the first along the Ramapo River in Mahwah that floods -- and, some fear, could someday be washed out completely.

The Ramapough Lenape Nation camp, on what is considered a sacred site, is name for both the Split Rock site in the area mountain’s and “sweet water,” which is the Lenape meaning for “Ramapoo.”

It was jointly created in October 2016 with the Standing Rock Indian Reservation as a way of educating the public on

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Rockland’s First Baby of the Year Visits County Executive Ed Day

The area is the first along the Ramapo in Mahwah that floods -- and, some fear, could someday be washed out completely.

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the threat of the planned AIM and Pilgrim oil pipelines to the local water supply.

Plans are for the lines to stretch 178 miles each underground from Albany to Linden and carry 200,000 barrels a day of volatile crude oil south and an unspecified amount of gasoline and aviation fuel north.

The tribe has vehemently opposed the $1 billion project.

(Source – Ramapo Daily Voice)

New City, NY – Baby Boy Fuchs, the first baby born in Rockland in 2018, now named Eliyahu Meir, visited County Executive Ed Day who said that the newborn is cause for celebration and unity for the entire County.

“Seven minutes into the New Year you have given this County something joyful to rally around,” the County Executive told parents Zev and Shuli Fuchs of Monsey. “This baby reminds us that we have so much in common, including the same desires for our families.”

Eliyahu, along with his parents and siblings, Roni, 6, Shevy, 4, and Raizy, 2, received gifts from community leader

Rabbi Abraham Klein of the Regional Community Council Association.

“He was meant to bring joy to the community,” Klein said.

“Rockland County is a home for everyone.”

Eliyahu was born at 12:07 a.m., on New Year’s Day at Good Samaritan Hospital in Suffern.

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Cuomo Proposes New Name For Stewart New Windsor, NY – Gov. Andrew Cuomo wants to expand and rebrand Stewart International Airport.

The governor wants the Port Authority to spend $34 million to build a permanent U.S. Customs and Border Protection federal inspection station to allow the airport to expand its international service. Stewart currently flies to Norway, Ireland, Northern Ireland, and Scotland. The airport currently uses a temporary federal inspection station.

Cuomo also wants to rename the airport “New York International at Stewart Field.”

“By transforming Stewart Airport into a state-of-the-art transportation destination, we are providing an inviting gateway to the region and supercharging an economic engine for the entire Mid-Hudson Valley,” Gov-

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ernor Cuomo said. “This international transportation hub will provide a world-class passenger experience, attract new visitors and businesses and continue to move the Mid-Hudson Valley forward.”

Cuomo said the airport’s name does not tell travelers where the airport is geographically located.

(Source – Ramapo Daily Voice)

Coyote Education Q&A Coming To Rockland

As development continues throughout the Hudson Valley, coyotes are adapting to living in towns and are venturing into yards as a way to find food.

To help residents learn about ways to deal with coyotes, and to overcome what they say are “unwarranted fears,” Clarkstown hosted a unique education seminar and question and answer session with Frank Vincenti of the Wild Dog Foundation this past Thursday, January 11th.

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The informative event focused on: yy The genetics of New York coyotes yy What coyotes eat yy How to prevent conflicts with coyotes yy The important role they play in the eco-system yy What is a coywolf For additional information, contact Supervisor George Hoehmann’s office at 845-639-2050.

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Rockland Youth Bureau Announces Applications Available for Summer 2018 Conservation Corps Program New City, NY – The Rockland County Youth Bureau is accepting applications for the 2018 Rockland Conservation & Service Corps.

Conservation Corps members will perform a variety of outdoor, environmental community service projects throughout the Rockland region. Responsibilities include educating the public about ecological conservation and environmental health issues, conducting field research, building and maintaining nature trails, teaching environmental education, planting gardens, patrolling streams, facilitating clean ups and implementing recycling programs. Corps Members will take an active role in beautifying, protecting and preserving Rockland’s parks, open spaces and precious resources.

To be considered, students must be at least 18. Members are required to serve 350 hours between May 29 and August 10 at local sites that may include the Rockland County Division of Environmental Resources, the Clarkstown Planning Department, the Town of Ramapo, the Rockland County Drainage Agency, Rockland County Solid Waste Management Authority and Cornell Cooperative Extension, among others.

“This is a chance to go beyond the classroom and gain work experience while earning money,” said County Executive Day. “At the same time, members make a lasting contribution to their community.”

Members are paid a $2,100 stipend that is paid bi-weekly. Fifty hours of training are included in the 350-hour time commitment where members are trained in areas including environmental education, trail building, conservation, curriculum development, leader-

ship, team building, safety as well as a variety of other pertinent topics. Members will also earn valuable work and service experience, network professionally and socially, potentially earn college credit and make improvements in the community.

“It’s a terrific way to build a resume, get work experience, be outdoors all summer, make contacts and meet new friends,” said Kathy Galione, Youth Bureau Program Coordinator.

Applicants must demonstrate their enthusiasm for environmental issues, be committed to serving their community and be willing to participate in outdoor activities that include hot and rainy weather conditions and wet and/or wooded environments.

This is a full-time, 35-40 hours per week, opportunity over the summer that is considered community service not a job. Candidates that are selected for the program will have a summer schedule that will permit the completion of the 350-hour time commitment.

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A Tale Of Two Students Back in the 1980s I had two students who were opposites in every way visible to the untrained eye.

On the one hand there was Todd.

Todd was an unhappy, angry child who was acting out in a violent way.

His bad behavior was the only thing I knew about Todd when he joined.

His father was in prison and his mother worked two jobs to support him and his sister. His uncle pitched in to provide a father figure when he could. Todd was a failing student who seemingly cared about nothing and would openly defy all authority. He even threatened authority figures with violence and pushed around other children to get them to do what he wanted.

Then there was Armond. Armond was a withdrawn meek child who was constantly being bullied.

His parents were hard working immigrants and over protective parents. Armond struggled in school and was embarrassed about it. He felt much more was expected of him but he was doing the best he could

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since he was an immigrant. He rarely volunteered to answer questions in class even when he was sure he had the correct answer for fear he would be teased.

Todd’s uncle brought him to us for discipline; Armond’s parents wanted self defense for their son to stop the bullying. Neither boy wanted to be there. The classes were physically demanding, extremely structured and curriculum oriented. Todd had to be disciplined regularly, Armond always did as he was told.

At the beginning of class the students would line up to kick the hanging bag. It was challenging and fun for all the students to show how powerfully or creatively they could beat it up. The earlier you got to class the more times you got to hit the bag. It was a great outlet for the kids to make the transition from school and to let out some frustration on the bag. It was also a great time for me to observe them, learn about their personalities and how they interacted with other children.

I noticed that Todd always jumped in line and pushed others back; Armond was always pushed back and hardly ever got a chance to kick the bag.

I pulled Todd aside and told him that every time he jumped the line or pushed anyone in line he would skip a turn and have to do 50 jumping jacks in front of the class. I pulled Armond aside and told him that in this class he could not allow himself to be pushed around, and that he was required to push back, and not to be afraid because I would be watching and would “have his back”.

Fast forward 3 months to yellow belt testing… Todd’s mom and uncle came up after the test to thank me for the work I was doing. Todd was saying “Yes mom” instead of always arguing, doing his homework and most importantly not getting into trouble at school. Armond’s mom and dad said they didn’t know how, but their son was now getting “A”s on his report card and raising his hand in class frequently.

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Both boys really had much in common. They both lacked self confidence, self worth and self esteem. They acted on these deficiencies in different ways. Todd was constantly trying to prove to himself his worth by lowering the value of others. Armond coped by withdrawing and trying to just not be noticed.

In this way the bully and the bullied are one and the same. Once being shown a way to achieve success within the accepted norms they can both thrive.

Footnote: Fifteen years later, about 10 years after achieving his black belt I ran into Todd in Manhattan. He was wearing a Navy uniform and had become an officer. He said “Sir I want to thank you, if it wasn’t for you I would be in jail or dead”. That statement made all my hard work building his character worth it.

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6 Food Items that Seem Healthy But Are Not

By Beth Warren It’s hard to decipher between a health food or a dessert. Even with the best intentions to choose an all-natural whole food item, such as a date-sweetened bar like a Larabar, you may not realize that it has just as much or more sugar than a candy bar, albeit made from better quality ingredients.

Consumers have to pay attention to all aspects that make up the food, not simply one. It takes more than reading the ingredient list to ensure a product is “healthy” and also involves the nutrition facts panel and vice versa to ensure that all components are health promoting. Here are 6 Food Items that Seem Healthy But Are Not: All Organic Foods - Just because a food is deemed organic, doesn’t change its health caliber. A cookie is still a cookie, for example, even though it is made from organic ingredients. Although the type of ingredi-

However, they are typically high in simple carbohydrates and salt there’s a reason why you can’t just stop at one. The carb count, and even the calories, quickly add up.

Fat-Free or Reduced Calorie Items (e.g. Weight Watchers treats/Diet Muffins) - When fat is taken out of a product, something is substituted in its place to make it tasty, typically in the form of added sugar. Added sugars trigger you to consume more of what you are eating. That, combined with the fact that taking fat out of a product leaves you less satisfied, will cause you to consume more at that time and overall in the day.

Bars - Various snack bars or meal replacement bars can be a hidden culprit for an unhealthy choice, even if they are all-natural. Some have loads of sugar, not a lot of protein and an abundant amount of calories. For a snack, be sure to choose a bar that is about 200 calories or less, 10 grams

ents may be of better quality, the nutrient composition can remain the same, which may or may not be good for your health.

Coffee/Tea - In and of itself, coffee and tea can have health promoting properties. However, if you begin to laden them with added sugars, artificial flavorings and high fat additives, they can quickly become an unhealthy choice.

Pretzels - A lot of people feel pretzels are a healthy choice for a snack.

of sugar or less and about 3-6 grams protein. For a meal replacement, opt for a bar that is about 200 calories, 10 grams of protein or more and less 10 grams of sugar. Either way, be sure it is made from ingredients you can pronounce and not multiple sources of added sugar, even if they are natural.

Gluten-Free Packaged FoodsJust because a product is gluten-free doesn’t mean it is a healthful choice, less processed, low in carbohydrate or grain-free. In fact, it can sometimes be even more processed with corn, potato starch and other carbohydrate-based ingredients.

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Incontinence in the Elderly

By Lauren Wieder This week I’d like to discuss incontinence, not only to clarify physical issues, but also to help achieve a greater quality of life for elderly family members and peace of mind for all caregivers.

Incontinence is the lack of voluntary control of bowel and bladder.

According to the Department of Aging, 38% of women and 17% of men over the age of 65 have an incontinence problem. This can occur for many reasons, such as the disease process of Parkinson’s or Multiple Sclerosis (MS), physiological issues, or neurological damage.

Causes of incontinence can vary between men and women. Most issues for men are from the prostate gland known as Prostatitis (inflammation of the prostate) and/or Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia, (an enlarged prostate, BPH). Other causes can stem from injury or damage caused by a surgical procedure. In women, one of the major causes could be due to an organ prolapse which is caused when the bladder, rectum or uterus shift position. In turn, the bladder is unable to function properly causing leakage.

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treatments from your physician. Let’s touch on each one briefly. yy Stress Incontinence is pressure on the bladder caused by coughing, sneezing, laughing, lifting, jumping, or exercise. yy Urge, as the name implies, is a sudden need to use the bathroom, caused by the brain telling the bladder it’s time before the bladder is actually full and ready. yy Overflow happens when a small amount of leakage occurs when the bladder is full. One reason for this type of incontinence is caused by holding the urine or using medications that can cause urinary retention.

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yy Functional incontinence pertains to any physical abnormalities preventing the person from reaching the bathroom on time. One particular issue− which not only strikes the elderly, but the younger population as well − is arthritis.

When movement become confined or slowed, it is difficult for many to make it to their destination on time.

Not only does this problem make the elderly uncomfortable and embarrassed, incontinence can also cause physical issues as well, if not taken care of in a prompt manner.  CONTINUED ON P. 30

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6 Skills to Learn Before Marriage

And if you’re already married, it is never too late!

By Slovie Jungreis-Wolff Relationships take work and some of the most important work happens before marriage. Here are six important skills to learn before marriage. And if you’re already married, it is never too late!

ting your dirty dishes away or hanging up your coat instead of leaving it over the chair may seem small but it is a good start to taking care of your things. Pay attention to the times you promise to do something and somehow don’t come through.

If you say that you will be there for someone or run an errand as a favor, don’t cop out. Respect others – their time, their possessions and their emotions as you would wish to be treated yourself.

3. Be self-reliant

1. Work on moodiness Moodiness is a relationships killer. I’m not speaking about any mood disorder, just plain being temperamental. Living with someone whose emotions are unpredictable is difficult. You never know if the door will open and you will find a smile or dark cloud. Yes, we all have difficulties but that doesn’t mean that we need to be difficult. Some of us are ultra-sensitive. Say the wrong word and we withdraw into a shell. Others allow small incidents to grow into large mountains. We shut down and behave as if everything is terrible.

Next time you are grumpy, catch yourself. Work on overcoming the dark face, the lack of humor. Separate that which is getting you down from the overall picture. Try to see life through an optimistic lens. Moodiness is catchy. Don’t be the one to spread the germs.

2. Be responsible Relationships require responsibility. Saying that you’ll do something means that your word stands.

Not coming through erodes trust, the very foundation of the relationship. To be respected you want to be counted on and taken seriously.

What can you do now?

Work on being on time. Be accountable. A simple act like put-

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Don’t come into a relationship as weak or needy. You should not be dependent on others to fill your void. Before entering a relationship it is crucial to experience self-reliance.

Knowing that you have the ability to get through tough situations, to help yourself and to navigate life allows you to stand strong. Otherwise, you allow another to define your selfworth. With a word or gesture they can strip you of your confidence and transform you into a pitiful person.

Self-reliance means that you can depend on your own abilities. You are confident and self-assured. You know who you are. You don’t rely on others constantly. You are able to spend time alone without being down. Work on learning new skills, taking a class, being open to meeting new friends so that your world is always growing. Don’t get stuck thinking you can’t evolve.

Judaism teaches us to “Love others as you love yourself.” Before loving others we must first know how to love ourselves.

4. Become a better communicator Communication is the key to connection. Instead of receding into a stony silence, explain what is bothering you. Leave the blaming, griping, complaining and sarcasm behind.

Don’t accuse. Don’t give speeches.

Just ask for a few moments to speak your feelings with dignity. Say “I feel hurt/badly/sad/ when…” instead of

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saying “How could you have….or ‘What’s the matter with you?”

Get used to giving compliments.

Recognize that everyone appreciates thankfulness. Watch how happy you can make someone with words of gratitude. Express affection to the people in your life that matter.

Stop looking at your screen while you are talking to people. Start connecting again eye to eye.

Sadly, some adults grow up never having heard the words “I love you” when they were children. The cycle continues to the next generation. Don’t be afraid to communicate tenderness.

Being a good communicator also means that you are a good listener. Hear what others are trying to tell you. Don’t judge. Open your heart to the thoughts of those around you. If you disagree be careful not to make the other person feel small. You won’t always think alike but tensions arise when you think you must always win and see others as your opponent.

Everyone loses.

5. Be kind The Hebrew word for love is ‘ahavah’, coming from the Hebrew root ‘hav’ which means to give. The more we give and invest in another, the more we come to love. The greater the giving, the greater the love.

Kindness is our route to love. Relationships require sensitivity, empathy, thoughtfulness and compromise. Being kind encompasses all these traits.

Seek out opportunities to be kind throughout your day. Ask how you could be more sensitive to co-work-

ers, friends and family members. Little acts of kindness like not belittling when someone messes up, taking the time to listen to the troubles of another, giving someone a ride, getting a hot cappuccino not just for yourself are all ways for us to build our kindness muscle.

Each night before going to sleep ask yourself how you made this world a little bit better because you were here.

6. Patience Relationships are not perfect. Living with others means that we learn to adjust, grow, hope, anticipate, and forgive. We are tested with unexpected challenges. Life is exhilarating and sometimes disappointing. There is both joy and sadness. We must work through the hard times. Handling only the good times is an impossible formula for lasting love.

Our world encourages instant results. Instant gratification means that we want it all and we want it now. We grow restless too quickly. With a click

we order next day delivery. From our ready sushi to our instant communication, we are not used to waiting.

There is no instant fix when it comes to relationships. Real results require patience.

Take time out of your day to work on patience. Watch how often you lose composure when things seem to take too long. Honk a little less, resist an instant response that may be hurtful. Patience is an incredible asset in marriage and parenting.

Working on these skills is not easy, but the results are certainly worth it.

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Similarly, we find that God performed miracles, to save not only our lives, but also our possessions, as when He caused water to flow in the wilderness both for the Israelites and their livestock.

Don’t Be Wasteful It is forbidden to wastefully destroy any useful object, as we learn from the commandment, “You must not destroy [the city’s] trees” (Deut.

20:19). One who wantonly destroys furniture or utensils, tears clothing, or wastes good food, is guilty of violating this commandment. Furthermore, if he does so in anger, it is considered as if he had committed idolatry. One should not destroy anything over which a blessing can be said, as it is written, “Do not destroy [the grapevine] for the blessing [over its wine] is in it.” (Isaiah 65:8).

All such destruction is only forbidden when it is without purpose. If there is any logical reason or use for

it, it is permitted. Furthermore, where there is any question of health, it is certainly better to destroy one’s possessions than one’s well being.

It is similarly forbidden to damage or destroy another’s property, or to do anything which might even directly cause such damage. If one causes damage, he is required to make restitution, as it is written, “If one kills an [other’s] animal, he must pay for it, [the value of ] a life for a life” (Leviticus 24:18).

Cheating and Stealing It is forbidden to rob, steal or illegally hold on to any property or money, as we are commanded, “Do not steal… Do not [unjustly] withhold that which is due your neighbor.

Do not rob” (Leviticus 19:11, 13). One must therefore be extremely careful not to take illegal possession of any money or property in any manner, no matter how trivial its worth, whether it be from an adult or a child.

It is forbidden to steal as a joke or to tease, even if one intends to return

it immediately. The prophet thus says, “If a wicked man… pays for what he stole” (Ezekiel 33:15), from which we learn that stealing is considered wicked even if the thief originally intended to pay for or replace the stolen article.

We are commanded to return any property that is illegally in our possession, as the Torah states, “He must return the stolen article, the withheld funds, the article left for safekeeping, the found article” (Leviticus 5:23). If the stolen article is available and intact, it must be returned, otherwise, restitution must be made for its value at the time of the theft. If the owner has moved to a distant town, we are not required to bring the stolen article to him, but must inform him so that he can come and get it. If the owner dies, restitution should be made to his heirs.

One who robs or cheats the public has no one to repay and can never actually rectify his crime. However, he should do his best to work for the public welfare and supply public needs, in order that those from whom

he stole can benefit indirectly. If he is able, he should also make a public confession and ask forgiveness.

It is forbidden to buy a stolen article, as one thereby becomes an accomplice to the thief and encourages him to steal more. Regarding this it is written, “One who shares with a thief hates his own soul” (Proverbs 29:24).

It is likewise forbidden to make use of a stolen article or derive any benefit from it. One should therefore not buy anything that is likely to have been stolen or obtained dishonestly. One who deals with stolen property in any way is considered like one who robs the public, and his repentance is extremely difficult.

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The skin is the first barrier of protection for the body. Remember when your children where little and received a cut? Everyone was concerned regarding infection, because this cut is open to outside bacteria. Going back to the elderly, when they are incontinent, moisture adheres to the skin causing redness and breakdown. The breakdown opens to the outside bacteria, which can cause infection.

Emotional issues always seem to take a back seat to the physical issues of this problem, but they should not be overlooked. Because we are so diligent addressing the physical aspect of incontinence, we forget that incontinence can occur at any time, regardless where our family member may be. We may be at a family simchah, at a park with the family, visiting friends, or on vacation. Whatever the situation, caregivers must be extremely careful to be aware of the potential for embarrassment.

Health to improve the quality of life for your loved one. The number one treatment is bladder control training. This is learning how to exercise the muscle which controls the bladder. It will also help the senior get in touch with the signal the body sends when the time comes. Also, daily toileting schedules for those with a more severe case can be very helpful. Finally, any life style changes needed to improve the quality of life despite incontinence can be discussed with your physician.

In a case of a senior with Alzheimer’s (though this advice can include all seniors), avoid drinks such as coffee, tea, sodas or any caffeinated drink. These tend to increase urination causing the direct effect of incontinence. But never limit water!

Alzheimer patients are less aware of the need to use the bathroom, so this suggestion is directed more to this senior population. Caregivers should always provide bathroom breaks and clothing that is easy to remove.

Here are just a few tips for all the caregivers who work tirelessly, jug-

Dependence upon another family member can be a cause of embarrassment. Loss of independence is a major concern when dealing with needs of the elderly. The senior family member may feel he or she is too embarrassed to leave the house − causing isolation, loneliness and depression. As caregivers we must be extra patient, using kind, soft words.

Finding a diagnosis is not as complicated as you may think. If you notice an elderly family member experiencing signs of incontinence, follow up with your physician or urologist. He can order some simple urine and blood tests that could indicate a need for further assistance. To take it one step further, the urologist is capable of testing. The efficiency of bladder emptying can be tested using urodynamic testing such as ultrasound or uroflowmeter. Your physician will know what test will best suit your family member.

Once diagnosed by the physician, the proper treatment will be discussed

gling family, work and social life. You can help your loved one when you: 1. Support 2. Encourage 3. Assist 4. Maintain dignity/Privacy 5. ALWAYS REMAIN POSITIVE Most of all, find time and space for relaxation for yourself in order to remain healthy both physically and emotionally. This effort will benefit both you and the elderly family member in the long run.

Feel free to contact me for any question or thoughts you would like to share at: Knowledge First Lauren Wieder, RN, BSN Consultant Bridginghealthcare 58@gmail.com Lauren Wieder is from Cleveland, Ohio and has been living in Monsey for 29 years. She's been a nurse working with the geriatric population for 13 years.

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Home Care is provided through a Licensed Home Care Agency, either the traditional route of the agency providing the aide or through CDPAP. This is true for both qualifying pediatric children and adults. The person receiving the care is called the Consumer. The person providing the care is called the Personal Assistant or PA. Once your eligibility is determined, as well as the type and

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Dear Basya Dear Basya,

Dear Overdid it and Regretful,

I overdid it this weekend and really let loose and now I regret it. Is there a liquid diet or a cleanse that you recommend just for a few days to reset my body? Once I lose the few pounds I will definitely go back to your healthy balanced plan.

You are asking a great question.

It seems like a quick fix to detox for a few days and get rid of all the extra calories that we consumed fast, after which we can return to moderate eating and steady weight loss.

While in theory this makes sense, in reality this never works. I have seen hundreds if not thousands of clients and have found that the fastest and

Please advise, Signed, Overdid it and Regretful

most consistent fix for losing the extra weight from a bad day or weekend is to just simply get right back on plan. You can skip snacks in favor of lighter fare such as fruit but do not cleanse and do not drastically cut calories, even for a day or two. It simply doesn’t work. You will lose a bit of water weight but will be too hungry to keep to a moderate plan once you are done cleansing. Additionally you will slow your metabolism so that everything you eat post-

cleanse simply sticks to your waistline.

Your best bet is to continue eating according to your plan, leaving off any unnecessary extras such as treats or extra fruits. After a few days the extra calories will be gone, and you will be back on your weight loss journey. Do not try to speed up the process.

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Everything Is A Gift  CONTINUED FROM P. 5

of fury. But Bill was primarily a businessman and wanted to get this impossible horse out of his hair. So Bill entered his stall with a broom in one hand and a chained lead rope in the other. After he managed to catch him, he gave me Tigger’s lead rope and walked away. This was the beginning of a long and powerful “partnership” with one of my most favorite and influential horses in my life.

The timing was right for Tigger to enter my life. He was a gift during the most confusing and painful years I have experienced. He kept my feet on the ground. This horse gave me the gift of hope.

I have learned that everything in life is a gift. Even the things that don’t seem like gifts are gifts. All of my hardships are gifts. All of my tears are gifts.

All the uphill struggles are gifts. All my bad decisions are gifts. All my good choices are gifts. I may not have the

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Penne Tuscana Ingredients: 1 lb box of penne pasta 1/3 cup of capers 1/2 cup chopped sun-dried tomatoes 1/2 cup Wesley kosher roasted garlic

Seared Tuna with Garlic Aioli

1/2 cup Wesley kosher garlic dip 1 tablespoon Wesley kosher pesto Salt and pepper to taste Directions: 1) Cook the pasta as per the manufacture specification.

2) drain the pasta reserving 1/4 cup of the pasta cooking water.

3) return the pasta to the pot turn on the heat, add all other ingredients. Cook for 3-4 minutes to ensure everything is cooked through.

You can add our WKD (Wesley kosher deli) grilled chicken with herbs for a quick one pot delicious meal.

Ingredients: 1 tuna steak 1 inch thick 1 cube crushed garlic 3 tablespoon olive oil + 1 teaspoon olive oil 1/2 cup finely chopped parsley Salt and pepper to taste 1 container of Wesley kosher garlic dip

2) Rub the mixture onto the tuna. Let sit for 1 hour minimum up to overnight.

3) Pre-heat a cast iron skillet or a heavy bottom frying pan add 1 teaspoon olive oil.

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Wines to Cozy Up to This Winter Wine Blogger Gabriel Geller’s Short List Bayonne, NJ – Sometimes, a “quick trip to the wine shop” turns into a long journey through miles of aisles as you ponder the endless options. And if we’re being honest, it often boils down to the labels that catch your eye the most.

But if you’d rather spend less time selecting wine and more time enjoying it, Gabriel Geller has a short and sweet (but not too sweet) list of suggestions. The wine blogger, critic, and Royal Wine Corporation executive recently alerted his readers to two wines that are especially wonderful for winter.

Château Larcis Jaumat, SaintEmilion Grand Cru, 2015 (SRP $29.99) (not Mevushal*)

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2015 is an outstanding vintage for Bordeaux, says Geller, “but for most of us mere mortals, these wines will be either just dreams or reserved for very special occasions.” The good news is, even the entry and mid-level wines are good to excellent.

Château Larcis Jaumat is moderately priced because it’s not from a famous, classified estate, even though it’s made with the same grapes by the same process. And while most great Bordeaux typically need 5-10 years in the cellar to develop and mellow, Larcis Jaumat is great to drink now and will keep adding

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layers of flavors and aromas over the coming decade.

This elegant, medium-bodied wine carries notes of ripe black currants and raspberries with hints of smoke and forest floor. It features layers of flavors, velvety tannins, and well-balanced acidity as well as a long, earthy finish. Grab it now, urges Geller!

Tabor, Tannat, Shifon Vineyard, 2013 (SRP $39.99) (not Mevushal*) Geller calls this very unique Israeli wine a must-try. This first release from Tabor comes from the Shifon vineyard, 950 meters above sea level in the Golan Heights. “It is one of

only two kosher Tannat that I know of,” he says.

Very different than most Israeli red wines, Tabor is full-bodied yet neither too fruity nor too oaky. The aroma and flavor showcase notes of thyme, peppermint, and eucalyptus with juicy red fruits (strawberries, currants, plums).

Fans of high acidity and bold tannins will savor this refreshing, masterfully-crafted novelty. Geller is watching this wine with interest to see how it will change with time. *Mevushal: Some Kosher wines are processed as Mevushal, which means ‘cooked’ in Hebrew. Some wineries produce their Mevushal wines by heating the must (grape juice) via a flash pasteurization or flash-détente process prior to fermentation, while others apply that procedure on the final product, prior to bottling. #18 / January 17, 2018 / 1 Shevat, 5778

Report Details Scope of Persecution National Jewish News in the Cradle of Christianity ments, but from their populations Pence’s trip

By Sean Savage/JNS While Christianity traces its birthplace to the Middle East, that region has been arguably the most hostile area for the religion in recent years.

A new report by the Christian charity group Open Doors has found that most of Israel’s neighbors, including Egypt, Jordan, Syria and the Palestinian territories, are among the world’s most dangerous places for Christians.

Susan Michael, U.S. director for the International Christian Embassy Jerusalem (ICEJ), told JNS that “Islamic extremism originated in the Middle East and is the main cause of persecution of Christians in the world today. It is a dangerous and violent ideology that must be stopped.”

Egypt Egypt’s embattled Christian minority, which comprises roughly 10 percent of the country’s population and stands as the largest Christian community in the region, has been the frequent target of Islamic terrorism. Coptic churches in Alexandria and Tanta were struck by suicide bombers last April, killing 45 people on Palm Sunday. Last December, at least eight Christians were killed in a terror attack on a Coptic church south of Cairo.

According to the Open Doors report, Egyptian Christians suffer in “various ways” such as pressure on Christian converts to return to Islam, severe restrictions on building places of worship and congregating, and violence.

“Egyptian Christians have had significant attacks and pressure from extremist elements seeking to impose sharia standards on minority faiths, as well as from ISIS factions that want to use Christians as a useful target to undermine the Egyptian government and economy,” David Curry, president and CEO of Open Doors USA, told JNS. He added that the report “shows that people who want to make a decision to explore or practice the Christian faith face great cultural pressure, if not violence.”

Adel Guindy, the former president of Coptic Solidarity, a U.S.-based #18 / January 17, 2018 / 1 Shevat, 5778

human rights organization that promotes equality for Coptic Christians in Egypt, told JNS that the situation for the Copts has worsened considerably under President Abdel Fattah El-Sisi—despite his rhetoric in support of Christians and against radical Islam—and has reached “an all-time high.”

“El-Sisi is quick to blame it on ‘external forces,’ [but] it is in fact homegrown. It’s a direct result of a permeating hate culture that dominates the entire public space,” Guindy said.

“Furthermore, the ‘big violence’ events that attract international media’s attention are in fact a mere tip of an iceberg of systemic and systematic discrimination and persecution that amount to a state-sanctioned ‘war of attrition,’” he said.

In July 2016, Pope Tawadros II of Alexandria (pictured in front at center)—the leader of Egypt’s Coptic Orthodox Church— hosts Ignatius Aphrem II (left), patriarch of Antioch and All East of the Syriac Orthodox Church, and Aram I, head of Lebanon’s Catholicosate of the Great House of Cilicia of the Armenian Apostolic Church.

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The rest of the Middle East Elsewhere, the Open Doors report noted that Christian converts in Jordan face “a great deal of persecution, Christians in the Palestinian territories (Gaza Strip and West Bank) are “caught in the middle of the ongoing Israeli-Palestinian conflict,” and that “Islamic militant groups are the clear threat” to Syrian Christians.

“The persecution of Christians in Egypt, Jordan and the Palestinian territories does not necessarily come from their govern-

who have been indoctrinated with Islamic theological teachings that are hostile to non-Muslims. It will take a significant amount of years of intentional education to change that attitude,” said ICEJ’s Michael.

The report identified North Korea as the country where Christians face the highest level of discrimination, followed by Afghanistan and Somalia. More than 3,000 Christians were killed worldwide due to their faith last year.

Other Middle Eastern and North African countries that were ranked among the top 10 most dangerous places for Christians were Libya, Iraq, Iran and Yemen.

“Whether in North Korea, Afghanistan, Iran, the Palestinian territories or elsewhere, the persecution of Christians has reached near-epidemic levels,” said Rabbi Yechiel Eckstein, founder and president of the International Fellowship of Christians and Jews. “We urge world leaders and international organizations like the U.N. to bring this crisis to the top of their collective agenda and seek to protect endangered Christian minorities and all people of faith.”

The persecution of Christians in Muslim-majority countries presents a stark contrast to the world’s only Jewish state, where the Christian population has steadily increased in recent years to about 170,000, according to Israel’s Central Bureau of Statistics. Israeli Christians enjoy freedom of worship, and even regularly outperform their Jewish and Muslim counterparts in high school matriculation exams.

“The Arab-Christian minority in Israel is a minority within a minority and faces some challenges, but they are citizens of a democracy that protects their freedom of speech and freedom of religion,” Michael said.

“This is in such contrast to the Muslim countries around them, where Christians and their places of worship are regularly attacked. There is a growing number of Christians voluntarily serving in the Israel Defense Forces in order to protect their country and their freedoms from the forces of Islamic militants wanting to destroy Israel.”

Vice President Mike Pence is slated to visit Israel, Egypt and Jordan from Jan. 19-23. According to his spokesperson, Alyssa Farah, Pence is expected “to reaffirm our commitment to work with the U.S.’s allies in the region to defeat radicalism that threatens future generations.”

Coptic Solidarity’s Guindy said that Pence, who is a devout evangelical Christian, should take the opportunity to press Egypt’s El-Sisi on human rights and the protection of Christians.

“It’s certainly important to engage Egypt as a partner in the war against Islamic terrorism. But this should not come at the expense of human rights, civil society and upholding equal citizenship rights for all—including, and especially, Christians and others who do not belong to the Sunni-Muslim majority,” he said.

Michael said that Pence “should require that [countries where Christians are widely persecuted] educate their people to be peaceful and respectful of religious minorities by placing controls on their imams, school textbooks and the media; and make future U.S. financial assistance contingent upon them doing so.”

The future for Mideast Christians Guindy said that recent trends “make it difficult to predict” whether Mideast Christians can survive “the current tsunami” of persecution.

“The picture is rather gloomy, and the fact that Christians’ presence in the Middle East has shrunk from onefifth of the population a century ago to barely 3 percent today speaks volumes….Islamist pressure, coupled with the West’s lack of action beyond hollow words of sympathy, make it difficult to be realistically optimistic,” he said.

Michael is more optimistic.

“Leaders of Middle Eastern countries are currently doing a lot of soul-searching because of the violence and civil wars generated by extremism, and this should slowly trickle into Africa and Asia,” she said.

“The challenge facing these leaders, however, is changing the hearts and minds of their people.”

(Source – JNS)

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that idea as being as loopy as the latest exchange of insults with North Korea’s dictator. But while it’s easy to mock Trump’s social media habits, this one made sense and showed that, not for the first time, the president’s instinctual distrust of experts and the foreign policy establishment may have served him well.

The minuscule amount of the national budget that goes to foreign nations generally serves American interests. In the case of Israel, which is the largest recipient, almost all of the money it gets is spent in the U.S. It’s also part of a strategic alliance in which America receives a great deal back in terms of intelligence and technology.

But not all foreign aid serves U.S. interests. The money sent to the Palestinians illustrates this painfully obvious conclusion. Yet despite the abundant proof that keeping it flowing is counterproductive, the socalled experts seeking to restrain Trump can’t seem to grasp this fact.

Aid to the PA is seen as necessary to prop up the only available interlocutor for peace with Israel. We’re also told that funding the PA is a necessary part of its security cooperation with Israel.

There are elements of truth to these assertions. If the PA were to collapse, that would likely lead to Israel having to reassert direct control of the West Bank rather than the current situation in which the overwhelming ma-

President Donald Trump and PA leader Mahmoud Abbas.

jority of Palestinians are governed by the corrupt Fatah party led by PA leader Mahmoud Abbas. But the PA’s need for cash to prop up its kleptocracy is exactly why the U.S. should be using its financial leverage to make it clear to Abbas that a quarter century of his organization holding the U.S. hostage in this manner can’t continue. Abbas’s threats of dissolving the PA are bluffs that should have been called long ago.

The same is true of security cooperation. Abbas relies on Israel to ensure his survival against the plots of his Islamist rivals as much, if not more, than the Israelis rely on the PA to help keep terror under control in the West Bank.

The PA also uses the hundreds of millions of dollars it gets from the U.S.

to provide salaries and pensions to terrorists and their families. Congressional efforts to hinge U.S. aid to ending the PA’s subsidies via the Taylor Force Act deserve the president’s support.

The same is true about the massive American contributions to UNRWA, the United Nations refugee agency that is solely devoted to the Palestinians. While UNRWA is credited with feeding and educating Palestinians, its main role is in maintaining the Arab refugees as a stateless people to perpetuate an ongoing threat to Israel’s existence. An equal number of Jews were forced to flee their homes in Arab and Muslim countries after 1948, but they were absorbed in Israel and the West. Yet

UNRWA has been part of the effort to prevent Palestinian Arabs from being absorbed elsewhere, thereby allowing them to cling to their dream of destroying the Jewish state.

UNRWA’s schools have courses and books that promote hatred of Israel and Jews. Just as outrageous is the fact that UNRWA employees are often involved with Palestinian terror organizations, and its schools and other facilities have been used to store Hamas weapons where they would presumably be safe from Israeli retaliation.

American governments have tolerated this situation because they felt there was no alternative. But whether or not it is because he isn’t so versed in policy, and therefore is not burdened with the conventional wisdom that has made destructive programs seem reasonable, Trump appears to be unwilling to keep throwing good money after bad.

You don’t have to be supporter of Trump or Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s government to understand that he is right to demand that if the Palestinians want U.S. money they must, at the very least, come back to the negotiating table and cease funding and fomenting terror.

It isn’t so much a case of “America First” to demand that recipients of U.S. largesse cooperate with U.S. policy, as it is one of common sense.

Whatever his other faults, Trump’s insistence on this is neither foolish nor proof of his being unfit for office.

(Source – JNS)

Yachad’s IVDU School of Long Island Shares Unique Program with Parents & Educators of Children With Special Needs Long Island, NY – Yachad’s IVDU School of Long Island hosted an open house on January 3rd to share its important programs with parents and educators of children with special needs. Attendees had the opportunity to meet the administrators, as well as special education classroom teacher Leah Rivka Karr. They toured

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the current classroom and learned more about IVDU Long Island from David and Dasi Fohrman, parents of an IVDU student.

The IVDU School of Long Island, an agency of Yachad, the National Jewish Council for the Disabled, opened in September 2017 to provide a holistic spiritual, social and academic educa-

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tion to children with various academic and social challenges, whose needs were simply not being addressed by existing local school programs.

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The Jewish Entrepreneur Hires Robert Safren as New Program Director The Jewish Entrepreneur is proud to announce the hiring of Robert Safren, recently retired from a management position in the private sector, to further develop the organization and increase its impact within the Jewish community.

“I am excited to join such a dynamic organization,” said Safren. “The success that TJE has seen to date in growing the bottom line for many businesses in our community is extraordinary, and I am looking forward to playing a key role in driving that growth.” While initially focused on the East Coast, TJE is in the process of expanding nationally.

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The Jewish Entrepreneur (TJE) is a non-profit organization that empowers the entrepreneurs and aspiring entrepreneurs in the Jewish community. TJE matches experienced busi-

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ness owners and professionals with individuals in need of expert advice or guidance as they grow or start a business. Since its inception three years ago, TJE has matched over 500 business owners with mentors tailored to their specific needs. This has resulted in meaningful growth and development in many of those businesses.

If you are an experienced business owner or professional and would like a rewarding opportunity to give back and help develop the next generation of business leaders in our community, please join our ranks as a mentor by emailing Robert Safren: robert@thejewishentrepreneur.org. If you are in need of sound business advice, judgment or guidance, please visit our website to connect with a mentor: tjenetwork.com.

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host of unmet needs for their children, foremost among them, an elementary school. “We are honored to have been able to open a school to meet the community's lack of a high quality educational facility for Jewish children with learning challenges,» said Rabbi Ahron Rosenthal, director of Yachad New York.

One of the parents in this year’s class reports that it’s the best option by far for her child. “The school started because parents felt there was a need that wasn’t addressed,” said Program Director Dr. Leah Israeli, “they had no viable alternative other than sending them on a bus #18 / January 17, 2018 / 1 Shevat, 5778

to Brooklyn, and that wasn’t a good long-term solution.” The school has been a game-changer for parents, students, and the community.

The IVDU school teaches students to find their voice and become their own best advocate. It equips them with all the skills to help them navigate the world independently. With low student-to-teacher ratios, the school has a full academic program, including reading, writing, math, art, music, and gym, as well as counseling and physical, occupational, and speech therapy. All teachers and therapists have master’s or doctoral degrees in their fields.

The Brooklyn IVDU school, established in 2002, and the new Long Is-

Agudath Israel of America, a national Orthodox Jewish organization, commends the Trump Administration and the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA) for expanding federal assistance eligibility to houses of worship damaged in natural disasters.

The policy change reflects the request the White House recently made to congressional leaders to pass legislation that would allow houses of worship to receive such disaster relief aid. The House has passed such legislation; the Senate is expected to do so in the coming weeks. FEMA’s official announcement of the new policy indicated that the change will be reflected in the agency’s Public Assistance Program Policy Guide.

Agudath Israel has been among the organizations in the forefront of promoting, though both policy change and legislation, the equitable treatment of religious entities in federal programs. In regard to FEMA in particular, we have been engaged for over two decades in helping houses of worship (and religious schools) obtain a full measure of FEMA aid for the repair and restoration of their disaster-damaged facilities. Unfortunately, unnecessary and unfair limitations placed specifically on houses of worship by FEMA have presented formidable challenges, precluding such relief. Withland IVDU, share an experienced administration: Dr. Jeff Lichtman, Dean of the IVDU Schools; Mr. Jack Gourdji, Executive Director; Mrs. Miriam Reifer, School Administrator and Dr. Israeli, Program Director.

Modelled on the proven structure of the Brooklyn IVDU school, classes are arranged based on the academic and social skills of each student. IVDU Long Island currently has one co-educational kindergarten through second grade class, and

out the much needed aid, they often face staggering costs that make rebuilding prohibitive.

There is no constitutional reason to treat houses of worship in this discriminatory manner. Indeed, denying the benefits of a widely available public program that is religion-neutral evinces a form of hostility toward religion that is prohibited by our nation’s laws and values. Agudath Israel applauds FEMA’s new policy that houses of worship should be treated like other vital nonprofits and receive federal assistance without prejudice or discrimination.

We will continue to work with the Trump Administration and congressional leaders to solidify and enshrine the new FEMA policy in legislation so that it becomes a permanent and consistently-applied provision in the federal disaster relief program. has plans to expand to grade-specific classes ranging from kindergarten through fourth grade for the 20182019 school year. “IVDU is committed to serving as many students as we can and be as inclusive as possible, because all children deserve access to an appropriate education. Everyone belongs,” said Dr. Israeli, emphasizing Yachad’s core values.

To learn more about the IVDU School of Long Island, please call: 718-758-2999 ext. 3.

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