How important is it? jiezhengdigital.com /howimportantisit Jie ZHENG Posted by Jie ZHENG on November 5, 2016 in Encouragement | 0 comments How important is it? Do you want to know why I do not get angry? When I am challenged with possible argument, this sentence helps me a great deal.
In my most life, I could tell you that the only person that could provoke me was my ex-husband when/after he drank. After I used this sentence, it was easier for me to handle the situations. This is a hard topic for me, because not angry is easy for me and it makes me hard to explain or to share with you. I do get upset, disappointed, but no anger, no hatred. Life for each person is special. You have your own story, I have mine. Each one, each family have their own issue, either poor or rich, there is always something going on. To understand this after I get older, I become not hard on any one. I see/listen to/hear stories about disputes, arguments all the times. It is ridiculous that people can argue on tiny things. Knowing what I do not want, is a step for me to know what I want.
When a person starts some conversation, many times, what leads to argument are small things. A good example is daily marriage life. People could argue about anything, like the wife squeezes the tooth paste from anywhere of the tube, the husband squeezes from the bottom and tries to keep it neat. One day, the husband just exploded and complained about what he thinks is the correct way to squeeze the tooth paste. Sounds familiar? Is it about the way of squeezing the tooth paste itself? What is he really upset about? Then after some tiny thing trigers, the disputes could go further. It could turn into a snow ball if not careful. If I were the wife, after my husband says that, I would think “how important is it?” Even I might not agree or care to be so strict on myself, I do know I love my husband. What is the big deal? I would just say, “sorry, I will do better next time”. Then, when he gets calm later, I might ask him how I feel about this thing. I even might ask him what is wrong, what bothers him. If I were the husband, after I say that, I would note that I was complaining. (I am saying “IF”, because I cannot deliver message that way. Even I wanted to say things like this, I would want to make sure that I say it in a nice way). Then I would ask myself “how important is it?” It is just a tube of tooth paste. I could just ignore that, or I could get another tooth paste and squeeze out the way I prefer.
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Do you get it? This is a powerful sentence. It can be used in so many ways in life. It can help you communicate with people better and understand them better. Many things are not so important as we think. This sentence also reminds myself where do I/us come from and where do I want to go. If they are not that important, then would I do things differently? If you have not tried it, please, try this magic sentence next time. Please share with me how you feel after you apply this into your life. Guess what, in today’s wakeup call of six figure mentors, Mr. John Jackson talked about some “unconventional wisdom”, one of them is “disagree and lose the argument”. I was writing this blog and stopped for our call. I smiled when I heard that. How amazing!! This is The Six Figure Mentors!
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Have a great day! Jie ZHENG June 8, 2016 (First Edition) At Columbia, SC
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