Let Go Of A Relationship digitalbloggers.com /self-improvement/LetGo Nov 09, 2016 4 views Written by JIE ZHENG
Author JIE ZHENG
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Early 2014, I came to a point that I had to let go the relationship. That was one of the hardest moments for me in my life. I did not want to let go because I thought letting go means I admitted I failed. How could someone let go of me once they love me? That was one question I never quite understand, even today. What about I told you, letting go means love yourself. Would you let go now? Letting go is not what I want. It is the decision that I know things are out of my control, I surrender. If it comes, it comes; if it goes, it goes. I cry and see him going to another path, without me around. I wipe my tears, I stand up, I stumble and move my next step. I love deeply, how could someone ever know and appreciate this? I do not know. I am not God. I do not know his plan for me. I can only trust and live today. Do I want to live alone? Oh hell no. While I must love myself by letting go. How did I do by letting go? I did not contact him since the day I left. I made him disappear in my world. We only had past and memory. I do not know any other way. I cannot be friend like others can. Maybe you can. I can't. He has to be completely out of my life. That is my way of healing. I can share with you something else that helped me let go a relationship. 1. Forgive him/her. You do not have to see him to forgive him. You can do the forgive exercise. You can also refer to my blog about some links I shared there. (Click here: You Are Enough ,or, http://digitalbloggers.com/self-improvement/YouAreEngough) 2. Accept the fact. Know that some people are meant to be in your life only for a while. It does not mean you did things wrong. You cannot force anyone or anything. Let them be. 3. Think about the good and the bad. It is not possible that you only had bad memories. He gave you something only he gave you. Value them. Be thankful about the good things. 3. Trust you will have more space for someone or something better. Do not waste your today. Think about your goals and your dreams. If you believe them, they will come to you. Be more patient. 4. Reach out. Find someone that you can talk with. You never know what your friends are going to say to encourage you. Sometimes I want to kill myself. No, I cannot do that. I will do that after my parents die some day. Still I have this thought. I should not have this thought, right? What the hell was I thinking or talking about? Anyone who met me would not understand because I look quite nice both outside and inside, and I have enough. While, I do have this thought once a while. Yesterday, I thought about killing myself again. I do not understand why someone would not fight for me. This thought is so stupid and selfish. I reached out yesterday to SFM (the Six Figure Mentors) community friend Frank. He shared with me link below. It is about 31 min. They have 3 parts. Below link is the part 3. Higher Power Podcast Episode 26 - Do You Believe Everything You Think And Say? Part 3 Or Click below: https://soundcloud.com/higherpowerpodcast/higher-power-podcast-episode-026-do-you-believe-everything-youthink-and-say-part-3
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Last night, I also reached out and called my local friend. Before that, another girlfriend happened to call me last night. She was happy that she trusted her mind and called me. They both called me this morning to check on me. Yes, I am still alive. Yes, I am working and keeping myself busy. 5. Remember, you are awesome! Anytime, if you need me, if I can do something for you, please reach out to me (facebook @ jiezhengdigital). Many people help me. I have come a long way. I want to carry it on. Have a great day! Jie Zheng Nov. 9, 2016
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