Stand Still jiezhengdigital.com /standstill/ Jie ZHENG Posted by Jie ZHENG on November 19, 2016 in SFM and me | 0 comments
Stand still.. What do you think of when you read this?
I do not know since when, I could just sit down quietly for as long as I want. I can feel my heart is at ease and peaceful most of my day. I remember in my first marriage, many times, if I chose to be quiet and do nothing, if I chose to pause and set back, I regained my serenity.
I find myself painful when I could not get something or some result that I expected. Once I sense myself getting further hurting, I could just tell myself, it is time to let go. I get hurt because I think that is the right action that the other person should do. But they have their own reasons, they chose the behavior that I could not even think of or do to anyone. In some cases, it is about commitment. Some one said he would return the phone call, he would do this or do that, but in the end, that person failed in his promise. Then I did not understand. I feel hurting. After I notice myself hurting, I would try to communicate with that person how I felt. Then after that, I tried a few more times, after I think I did my part of job, I chose to stand still, did nothing with that person and brought myself back to what I need to do at that moment.
Usually, when I stand still and let go, I could get some answer after a while, such as why that person did that. I may not fully understand, but it is okay.
Another example of standing still, is in the process of my divorce. To be honest, I went quite well, more than I expected myself to behave during separation. I only requested myself to live each day and take care of myself. This came down to simple things: sleep, eat, work, walk. I did not even one day worry about what the other person was going to fight. I just let everything happen, let the attorney do her work, accepted everything coming, then responded based on the information at that time.
The most important part of standing still at times, is the peace at heart. I believe in myself doing the right thing to people around me. When things or persons are out of my control, 1/2
after work hard enough, I choose to stand still.
Trust that the universe will handle the rest.
I hope this helps you.
Have a good day!
Jie ZHENG May 17, 2016 at Columbia, SC (first edition)
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