Talked With L digitalbloggers.com /communications/talkwithL Nov 29, 2016 135 views Written by JIE ZHENG
Author JIE ZHENG
Articles written: 18 Joined: 01 October 2016 Niche: Communications Internet and Businesses Online Self Improvement
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Every day, I am learning to communicate with people. I have a friend that I do not understand why he does not talk with me, then I have another friend, new friend (let me call him "L" here, I just made it up with a letter. ) that talks with me a lot. I am a person with consistence. When I like or love someone, I do it every day. When people come to my life for a while and they are not consistent, it is painful for me. I did not know what was wrong of me. Did they not like me or what did I do wrong? If they do not want me in their life, why they cannot say something? Keeping quiet does not help me understand what is in their mind. Then, someone else, they want to talk with me, while I do not want to be their girlfriend. When this happens, I am cruel and straight by telling that person at the beginning, that I only can be as their friend.
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I said that to L at the very beginning. Anyway, yesterday, L told me that he is crazy about me. And I accidently hurt him. What did I say? I told him something like: "please keep distance from me. I am not going to marry you." I thought with me saying that, he knows that I do not want to go to that level and I do not want to hurt him. How to explain this to you? If I like someone, I will let him know. I am not playing games. I want a firm and strong relationship. I cannot flirt to anyone, give them hope, then hurt them in future. I hurt no one with purpose. I want loyalty. I must do things in alignment with what I want. L can be a good sale. He always calls for action somewhere in the communication. LOL. He really tries to communicate with me. With this, I respect him more. After many texts, he still called me last night. He told me how he felt. He told me that he felt hurt when I said that. The bottom line is he does not want to frighten me away. He only wants to have my friendship. I guess because I listened and I shared with him what I learned from my community at the Six Figure Mentors. The wisdom helped him some. He does not have any female friends before me, that he can trust and open the heart to share. He only had his girlfriend, which he thought that was his best friend. Before he called me, he was not that one I wanted to talk or expect to talk. While, that 50 minutes talk really taught me something. I told him that I only expect words like that from my boyfriend or husband. I value someone that wants to spend time in talking with me and knowing more about me, even he knows there is only friendship that I want from him. He asked "why". That was what I learned in this community and I sometimes still forget to ask why. Even it is friendship, it is still mutual. We must cultivate and talk with each other. I said sorry to him. Yes, I want to have him as a friend. Why not? For those that do not talk with me, if I tried and they still do not communicate, I know it is painful, I just have to accept that and move on. I must remind myself the new people that come into my life and I will attract more people who like me. We hear this, "Either you are a blessing in my life or you are a lesson in my life". I hope I will always be a blessing in your life. I know I will. I also hope you choose to be a blessing in this world. Have a blessed day! Jie Zheng Nov. 29, 2016
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