JENNY’S JOURNEY A Tapestry of Memory and Love
“Harvesting Memories: The Roots of Resilience and the Melody of a Life Well-Lived”
Introduction:
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n the pages of memory, the vividness of our past can sometimes seem like a watercolor painting, its edges blurred, details fading into the canvas of time. Yet, some recollections stand out in brilliant hue, as if they were etched upon the soul. I was blessed with such a childhood, one so rich and full that it feels like a tapestry woven from the golden threads of idyllic days.
But this story of my upbringing is not simply about the land or the chores; it’s about the roots from which I’ve grown—the nurturing soil of my parents’ unwavering love and guidance. My mother and father were beacons of integrity and grace. They instilled in me a reverence for the Almighty, the discipline of scripture memorization, and a commitment to community as we gathered in our humble church. I can still hear the melodies of our voices, harmonizing Nestled within a ten-acre haven, my youth was a symphony of nature’s whispers in the back of a Volkswagen bug, as we made our way down dusty roads to and the earthy smell of the farm. With my trusty horse as a companion, I Seward Baptist Church where Mom’s piano and Dad’s song leadership filled traversed the expanse of our land, a free spirit under the open sky. My days the sanctuary. were filled with the kind of adventures that only the wild can offer—hunting, fishing, and embracing the untamed beauty of the outdoors. I attended one Their selflessness knew no bounds, their presence a constant in the bleachers of the country’s most esteemed private schools, shouldered daily farm chores, at every game I played, cheering not just for me but for the joy of the sport managed a dairy in my early teens, and labored in the hayfields under the itself. It is from this stock I hail, a lineage rich with love and sacrifice. relentless summer sun. If there’s a finer forge for character and resilience, I know it not. Now, five years since Dad’s passing, the time has come to journey through the chapters of Mom’s remarkable life. As we recount her stories over games of Rummikub and bowls of salty popcorn, I invite you to join me. This is more than a reflection; it is a celebration of a woman whose life is a testament to love, strength, and grace. So, settle in, allow the warmth of gratitude to envelop you, and let us delve into the life of a truly remarkable woman.
“Bridging Generations: The Legacy of Jenny McMonigle—A Tapestry Woven of Faith, Resilience, and Unconditional Love.”
Note from The Author, John McMonigle:
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n the embrace of memory and the spaces of reflection, I have rediscovered the chapters of my mother’s life—Virginia Lee McMonigle, known affectionately as Jenny. This memoir is more than a tribute; it’s a reconnection across time and geography, from the heartland of Oklahoma to the distant shores of New Zealand. Each page turned is a step back into the warmth of a Christian home where faith was not just taught but vibrantly lived. Jenny’s journey, marked by the constancy of spiritual devotion and the trials of a full life, mirrors the steadfastness of the biblical figures she has always held close. As I chart the course of her eight decades on the cusp of her 80th birthday, the conversations and shared silences in her company have been an unfolding of revelations. Laughter and prayer have woven together the tapestry of our rekindled bond. From her diligent care of a home that resonates with love, to a garden that blooms with the care she has always extended to all, Jenny is the living epitome of the Wife of Noble Character. Her life—rooted in love for my father, her children, and her Savior—is a testament to the enduring power of faith and the grace of a life well-lived. It is my honor and my duty, inspired by the fifth commandment, to honor such a remarkable woman through these pages. For in her story, we find not only the chronicles of Jenny McMonigle but the shared legacy of family, friendship, and unwavering faith.
Foreword to Jenny’s Journey
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t’s a privilege to share about my sister Jenny in this heartfelt memoir. Jenny and I, being the third and fourth among eleven siblings born to Fred and Virginia Cherry, have shared a bond that’s both deep and delightful. Born on August 6, 1943, Jenny—officially Virginia Lee after our mom—has been the beacon of light in our family, known affectionately to all as Jenny.
Growing up, our days were filled with laughter, secrets, and countless adventures. As sisters close in age, we experienced life side by side, creating memories that are both precious and enduring. Jenny’s spirit, always vibrant and joyous, made every moment memorable. What truly stands out about Jenny is her unwavering loyalty, her keen sense of humor, and her remarkable intelligence. While she modestly underplayed her academic prowess, Jenny’s strengths lay in her people skills—her beauty and popularity were testament to this. Her reign as the football queen in high school and later as homecoming queen in college spoke volumes about how much she was admired and loved. Jenny’s adult life has been just as inspiring. Her commitment to her faith and her community is exemplary. Her home has been a hub for weekly Bible studies, and her involvement in the church extends from welcoming newcomers to participating in Bible School and offering support to those in need. Her actions, always speaking louder than her words, reflect the depth of her caring and compassionate nature. Professionally, Jenny’s organizational skills, logical thinking, and meticulous approach made her an invaluable member of my editorial team at a large publishing company. Despite the familial connection, Jenny’s excellence in her role was undeniable and widely recognized. Her sense of humor, a delightful blend of wit and warmth, has always been one of her most endearing qualities. It’s this trait that draws people to her, creating an atmosphere of joy and camaraderie that is simply infectious. In chronicling Jenny’s journey, this book pays tribute to a truly remarkable woman. Her life, filled with love, laughter, and an unwavering commitment to her values, is a testament to her extraordinary character. I am beyond proud to call Jenny Lee my sister and best friend.
“Rooted in Virtue, Nurtured by Kinship: Celebrating the Cherry Family Legacy”
Acknowledgements:
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n a church gymnasium, bathed in the soft glow of shared memories and laughter, we, the sprawling Cherry family, converged in a celebration of kinship that spanned generations. On that heartwarming day in 2023, 219 souls gathered, each a unique thread in the vibrant tapestry that is our family heritage. Around us, tables groaned under the weight of a feast fit for the multitude, a testament to our tradition of togetherness.
It was amidst this bountiful spread that I found myself enveloped by a profound sense of gratitude for the virtues that thread through our lineage—a tapestry woven from the fibers of character, resilience, and love that our Mom, has so beautifully exemplified. This family, bound not just by blood but by an unwavering commitment to unity, revels in joy together, shoulders the weight of sorrow as one, and relentlessly pursues excellence in every endeavor. Josh Bullard, Mom’s oldest sister Starley’s first son, rose to speak and brought to life the illustrious chronicles of our esteemed ancestry. He spoke of Fred Cherry, a name forever immortalized in the hallowed halls of The University of Oklahoma for his All-State prowess in football and track, a man whose academic and athletic legacies are etched in stone. Josh’s words were a powerful reminder of the extraordinary family to which we belong and the blessings that accompany our shared name. I stood there, humbled by the grace that flowed as freely as the conversations around me—dialogues imbued with wholesomeness, cheer, encouragement, and above all, a selflessness that spoke of pure, unadulterated love. This acknowledgment extends beyond mere words—it is a heartfelt salute to every member of the Cherry family, whose collective spirit is the embodiment of all we hold dear.
TA B L E O F C O N T E N T S Chapter One:
Preface: The Story of Us
Chapter Two:
Roots and Beginnings: The Cherry Family Tree
Chapter Three:
Oklahoma Childhood: Swings and Sweet Peas
Chapter Four:
Early Adventures: Horses and Homesteads
Chapter Five:
School Days: Kindergarten Rocks and Reading Contests
Chapter Six:
Teenage Years: High School Popularity and First Loves
Chapter Seven:
Love and Marriage: Meeting Tom McMonigle
Chapter Eigth:
The Challenge of Motherhood: Joy and Loss
Chapter Nine:
Overcoming Adversity: Carmen’s Crisis and Career Changes
Chapter Ten:
Returning to Passions: The Horses of Life
Chapter Eleven:
The Wisdom of Teaching: From Kindergarten to College
Chapter Twelve:
The Love of Books: A Library of Life
Chapter Thirteen:
A Life in Motion: Running Towards 80
Chapter Fourteen:
Coping with Loss: Acceptance and Strength
Chapter Fifthteen:
Music as Solace: Playing Life’s Symphony
Chapter Sixteen:
Influences and Inspirations: The People Who Shaped Jenny
Chapter Seventeen:
Spirituality and Scripture: Faith’s Guiding Light
Chapter Eigtheen:
The Joy of Travel: From Farms to Cruises
Chapter Nineteen:
Reflections on Change: From Farmland to Fairways
Chapter Twenty:
The Simple Pleasures: Ice Cream Flavors and Favorite Colors
Chapter Twenty-one:
Final Thoughts: Looking Back, Moving Forward
“From the red soil of Oklahoma to the heart’s core, the Cherry-McMonigle legacy is a testament to the enduring bonds of family, faith, and the unbreakable spirit of Jenny.”
Chapter One: The Story of Us
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n the heart of Oklahoma, where the wind comes sweeping down the plain, the roots of a family tree have held firm against the test of time and elements. It is here, in the bustling metropolis of Oklahoma City and the tranquil pastures of Overton, Texas, that the story of Virginia Lee Cherry—later McMonigle—began. Born on a warm August day in 1943, Jenny, as she would come to be known, entered a world at war, a world in flux, but her foundation was as solid as the red earth of her home state. Jenny’s narrative is not just her own but is intricately interwoven with those who came before and after her—parents and grandparents who laid the foundations, siblings who shared the joys and trials of growing up in a large family, sons who continued her legacy, and grandchildren who carry forth the spark of her spirit into a new era. Her earliest memories flicker like a sepia-toned film, full of the laughter of siblings, the scent of sweet peas climbing the backyard fence, and the comfort of a swing set that stood as a monument to childhood simplicity. The Cherry family, with Jenny as one of eleven siblings, was a symphony of personalities, each contributing a unique note to the harmony of family life. As Jenny recounts tales from her childhood, they are not just memories but lessons woven into the fabric of her being. Living in Oklahoma City, she and her sister Mary donned matching dresses, symbols of their unity and belonging. The swing set in the back yard wasn’t merely a plaything; it was a vessel for dreams and a platform for the imagination.
The Cherry household was a place where values were instilled not by preaching but by living. Her father, Frederick, a man who turned from his vices to profess a steadfast faith, and her mother, Virginia Pearl, a high school basketball player from Texas, were pillars of strength and resilience. The order of birth of her siblings, each with a story and a path of their own, sketched out the constellation of Jenny’s universe. The arrival of grandchildren brought new joy into Jenny’s life. Each birth was a chapter added to the family’s ongoing saga, a narrative rich with accomplishments, heartbreaks, and the simple, unadulterated joy of being together. The turning of seasons brought Jenny to her 80th year, a milestone that beckons reflection and celebration. It’s an opportunity to gather the threads of a life welllived and weave them into a story to be shared, a legacy to be cherished. The questions asked and answers given during long conversations between mother and son are but excerpts of an epic—a testament to a life that has navigated the ebb and flow of time with grace.
“From the red soil of Oklahoma to the heart’s core, the Cherry-McMonigle legacy is a testament to the enduring bonds of family, faith, and the unbreakable spirit of Jenny.”
“The Cherry family tree, with its deep roots and sprawling branches, stands as a living testament to a legacy of resilience, love, and the enduring spirit of the American heartland.”
Chapter Two: Roots and Beginnings, The Cherry Family Tree
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n the tapestry of Jenny’s life, the threads of heritage and legacy are as vibrant as they are enduring. The Cherry family tree, deeply rooted in the fertile soil of Overton, Texas, and stretching its branches northward to Oklahoma, is a living history of America’s heartland. It is within this familial framework that Jenny’s character was shaped, her values formed, and her future forged. The story of the Cherry family is a journey through time, beginning with Frederick Tensley Donne Cherry and Virginia Pearl Salyer. Frederick, born in the winter of 1912, was a man of the earth, raised in Okmulgee, Oklahoma, where the windswept plains taught him about resilience and the value of a hard day’s work. Virginia Pearl, born as the world recovered from the Great War in 1917, brought the spirit of Texas with her—a spirit of independence and strength that would later be mirrored in her daughter Jenny.
The Cherry homestead was a microcosm of the wider world, with lessons in every corner. From the backyard of their Oklahoma City home, where the sweet peas blossomed, to the café run by Nanny and Pop in Texas, each setting was a classroom for life. Jenny’s memories of these places are vivid and poignant—a butter dish from the café, a symbol of the sustenance provided by family, and the backyard swing, a reminder of the joyous abandon of youth. As the second generation of Cherrys came into being, the narrative expanded. Grandchildren added new dimensions to the family’s saga, each birth a renewal of hope and a continuation of the Cherry legacy. It is this legacy that Jenny now passes down, a rich heritage of love, faith, and fortitude.
In her twilight years, Jenny reflects on her lineage with a mix of nostalgia and pride. The Cherry family tree stands as a testament to the lives lived, the As the leaves of the family tree unfurled, they revealed a lineage marked by both challenges faced, and the love that bound them together. It is a reminder that triumph and tragedy. The Cherry siblings, each with their own path, created a our beginnings, though humble or grand, shape the course of our lives in mosaic of experiences. There were joys in achievements and the bitter pang of ways we can only appreciate with the wisdom of age. loss, as in the case of Carmen, whose life ended in despair. Through it all, the family endured, their bonds tested but never broken.
“Under the Oklahoma sky, amidst swings and sweet peas, a young girl’s laughter melds with the rustling whispers of her childhood, each memory a petal in the garden of her past.”
Chapter Three: Oklahoma Childhood: Swings and Sweet Peas
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enny’s earliest recollections are painted in the warm, golden hues of an Oklahoma childhood, a canvas where innocence and imagination played freely under the watchful eyes of sweet peas climbing the backyard fence. It was in the bustling heart of Oklahoma City, at 909 NE 18th Street, that young Jenny’s world unfolded—a world where the simple joy of a backyard swing set could be as vast as the universe.
As the seasons changed, so too did the backdrop of Jenny’s childhood. The passage of time brought new siblings into the fold, and with each addition, the family dynamics ebbed and flowed like the sweet peas that grew along the fence—intertwined, resilient, and beautiful in their complexity. Jenny’s role as a sister evolved with each new birth, the familial tapestry growing richer and more colorful with every thread.
The Cherry home was a hive of activity, bustling with the energy of eleven siblings. Yet, amidst the chaos, there were pockets of quiet beauty and moments of serene symmetry, like the matching clothes that Jenny and her sister Mary wore—symbols of their shared journey through childhood. These garments, often alike in every stitch, spoke of the unity and togetherness that would be a hallmark of the Cherry family.
Despite the inevitable hardships and the shadow of loss that touched the family, the essence of Jenny’s childhood remained untarnished, a time of life that was as sweet as the peas that graced the Cherry family garden. It was a childhood that set the stage for the person Jenny would become—a strong, loving, and faith-filled woman, rooted in the love and lessons of her early years.
In the Cherry household, life was rich with the rituals of daily living. The backyard was a sanctuary where the fragrance of sweet peas perfumed the air, a living testament to the care and attention of Jenny’s mother, who cultivated both her garden and her children with equal devotion. The swing set, a simple structure of metal and rubber, became a vessel for flights of fancy, a favorite spot for Jenny and her siblings to while away the hours, their laughter rising and falling with the arc of each swing.
“In the dance of light across the prairies, Jenny’s early adventures on horseback wove a pattern of joy, learning, and growth, setting the pace for the journey of a lifetime.”
Chapter Four: Early Adventures: Horses and Homesteads
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he gentle neigh of horses and the scent of Oklahoma soil mingling with the fresh country air mark the beginning of Jenny’s early adventures. It was here, among the grassy plains and under the expansive skies, that her love for horses first galloped into her heart, a passion that would trot alongside her through the years.
The joy of horseback riding was more than a pastime; it was a responsibility and a teacher. Caring for Sugar, the lazy horse who preferred lying down over galloping, taught Jenny about patience and empathy. Her memories of rounding up cows on horseback, the animals instinctively leading her back to her grandfather, are etched in her mind as deeply as the trails she once rode.
Jenny’s childhood was embroidered with the vibrant threads of outdoor escapades, the kind that turn homesteads into playgrounds and chores into adventures. Her father’s shift from state employment to the calling of a preacher transformed the family’s life, bringing with it a move that would forever change Jenny’s connection to the land. The family’s new abode, though humble and rustic, with its dark corners and critter companions, was a crucible where Jenny’s independence and courage were forged.
These early adventures were not without their scrapes. Falling from a horse onto a fence or being catapulted into the air taught lessons in resilience and the importance of getting back in the saddle. Through these experiences, Jenny learned the value of perseverance, a trait that would become a cornerstone of her character.
The Cherry homestead wasn’t just a house; it was a character in itself. It was there that Jenny and her siblings rode Stinky and Inky, horses that would carry them not just across fields but through the trials and tribulations of growing up. It was a place where each sunrise promised new challenges and every sunset brought the family together, their bonds strengthened by shared experiences.
Yet, it wasn’t all about the grit and dust. There were moments of pure glee, like the thrill of crack the whip, the cheers from playing baseball and softball, and the pride of leading in school plays. Jenny’s role as Frosty the Snowman and Snow White was a prelude to the many roles she would play throughout her life—a student, a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, and a teacher.
“In the hallowed halls of learning and on the fields of play, Jenny found her cadence, her voice, and her way—each lesson a stepping stone, each book a new day.”
Chapter Five: School Days: Kindergarten Rocks and Reading Contests
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midst the robust laughter and rambunctious play of a large family, school days arrived as a new frontier for young Jenny—a place where horizons expanded beyond the familiar confines of home. Her journey into education began with the simple, yet significant, act of walking to kindergarten alone. It was a short distance from home, but with each step, Jenny marched towards independence and self-discovery. The path to school was not just a sidewalk; it was a rite of passage. Along the way, she braved the gauntlet of older children from the neighboring Catholic school, whose taunts and thrown rocks tested her resolve. Yet, Jenny navigated these trials with the same quiet dignity that would come to define her later years. Kindergarten was a world of crayons and storytelling, where Jenny found joy in the vibrancy of colors and the boundless landscapes of imagination. It was also here that she encountered her first bittersweet taste of life’s impermanence when her beloved pet, “Mo,” the cocker spaniel, met an untimely end. Through such experiences, Jenny began to grasp the complexities of the world beyond NE 18th Street.
As the years progressed, the blacktop of the schoolyard became the stage for skinned knees and the triumphs of childhood games. It was a proving ground where Jenny honed her competitive spirit and athletic skills. Whether playing baseball, softball, or the exhilarating game of crack the whip, she embraced the camaraderie and challenges of team sports. Jenny’s academic pursuits were equally vibrant. Reading contests captivated her, and she threw herself into them with gusto. The orange books of the school library opened windows to worlds unimagined—spaces where inventors and trailblazers like George Washington Carver came to life, stirring within Jenny a profound love for learning. Her involvement in school plays, where she shone as Frosty the Snowman and Snow White, unveiled a flair for the dramatic. These roles were early glimpses of a girl who could step into any character, a trait that would later allow her to navigate the varied roles life handed her. These formative years also saw the beginning of a lifelong passion for music. Though Jenny didn’t realize it at the time, the melodies she played on the French horn in the school band were the first notes of a symphony that would play throughout her life—a symphony of resilience, joy, and harmony.
“Beneath the glow of the Friday night lights, a young girl’s heart learns the rhythms of joy and the blues of sorrow, each beat a step in the dance of her formative years.”
Chapter Six: Teenage Years: High School Popularity and First Loves
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he transition from child to teenager is often marked by a whirlwind of emotions and new experiences, and for Jenny, this was a time of blossoming identity and the sweet pangs of first love. As she stepped into the halls of high school, the echoes of her footsteps seemed to announce the arrival of a new chapter—one filled with the exhilaration of young romance and the trials of social navigation.
In the midst of pep rallies and band performances, the tender shoots of first love took root. Bob Montgomery, Jenny’s seventh-grade beau, offered her the first taste of young romance, their hands clasping with the innocence and intensity that only teenage love knows. The DeMolay dance, with its formal dresses and shy glances, was a rite of passage that would linger in Jenny’s memory like a sweet melody long after the music stopped.
High school for Jenny wasn’t just about textbooks and exams; it was a vibrant social arena where she emerged as a beloved figure among her peers. Her popularity wasn’t sought; it seemed to naturally gravitate towards her, an acknowledgment of her genuine warmth and the easy grace she carried. This was exemplified by her crowning as Miss Popularity, a title that brought with it both pride and the weight of expectations.
As the days of high school danced by, Jenny navigated the complexities of the heart with a quiet resolve. The joy of new relationships was sometimes tempered by the sting of heartbreak, as with Nicki Mickey Joyce, whose sudden passing left a shadow on Jenny’s young heart. But true love was waiting in the wings in the form of Tom McMonigle, whose blue eyes and earnest affection would eventually lead to a lifelong partnership.
Yet, even as accolades came her way, Jenny remained grounded. She carried within her the humility that came from being one part of a large family—a family that taught her the value of authenticity over acclaim. Her roles as a cheerleader and a member of the band were not just extracurricular activities; they were expressions of her zest for life and her commitment to community spirit.
Her teenage years were a tapestry of moments both high and low—JUG club meetings with Fritos and bean dip, the awkwardness of a first French kiss, and the thrill of driving with friends to get chocolate cokes. These years laid the foundation for the woman Jenny would become: confident, loving, and always true to herself.
“In the dance of destiny, two hearts find their rhythm in unison, weaving a love story not of fairy tales, but of enduring partnership and shared dreams.”
Chapter Seven: Love and Marriage: Meeting Tom McMonigle
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n the tapestry of Jenny’s life, the thread that would weave most intimately through her years was her encounter and subsequent union with Tom McMonigle. This chapter of her life was not just about finding love; it was about discovering a partner who would walk with her through every season, every challenge, and every joy. Their story began in the hallways of their high school, a place where futures were being dreamed and destinies unknowingly aligned. Tom, with his striking blue eyes and earnest demeanor, caught Jenny’s attention in a way that was different from the fleeting romances of her earlier teenage years. It was a connection that spoke of deeper possibilities, of shared dreams, and a mutual understanding that resonated with Jenny’s heart. Their courtship was a dance of young love in an era where innocence still lingered in the air. From the “howdy party,” a school social where Tom first mustered the courage to ask Jenny out, to the orange-checked dress that she wore, every detail was etched in the memory of their growing love. The simplicity of their dates, the shared laughter, and the discovery of each other’s dreams and fears laid the foundation for a bond that would stand the test of time.
Yet, their journey to the altar was not without its obstacles. The challenges ranged from societal expectations to personal doubts, and the pressures of being a minister’s daughter weighed heavily on Jenny. The path to commitment was a journey of self-discovery for both Jenny and Tom, as they navigated the complexities of young love amidst the expectations of their families and community. Their wedding, a modest and intimate affair, was a testament to their love—a love that was not about grand gestures but about the quiet, steadfast commitment to one another. It was a union that began humbly, reflecting the very essence of their relationship: genuine, unpretentious, and deeply rooted in mutual respect and affection. As they embarked on their life together, facing the ups and downs of marriage, parenthood, and the myriad challenges life presented, their love remained a constant, evolving and deepening with each passing year. Tom and Jenny’s story is a reminder that true love is not found in fairy tales but in the shared journey of two hearts navigating the complexities of life together.
“In the tapestry of motherhood, woven with threads of joy and strands of sorrow, Jenny’s heart beats a rhythm of enduring love and resilient grace.”
Chapter Eight: The Challenge of Motherhood: Joy and Loss
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mbarking on the journey of motherhood, Jenny McMonigle embraced a role filled with the highest peaks of joy and the deepest valleys of sorrow. Her story of motherhood is one of unconditional love, enduring strength, and the profound resilience that comes from facing life’s most challenging moments. The birth of her first son, Ty Randall McMonigle, marked the beginning of Jenny’s adventure into motherhood. It was a role she stepped into with the same grace and determination that had characterized her life. The joy of welcoming Ty into the world was a transformative experience, imbuing Jenny’s life with a new sense of purpose and depth. However, motherhood also brought with it unforeseen challenges. The early years were marked by the struggles of young parenthood, the balancing act of nurturing a new life while navigating the complexities of marriage and personal growth. The birth of her second son, John Mark, and later, Mace Tyndall, added to the tapestry of her family life, each child bringing his own unique personality and set of joys and challenges.
Tragically, the path of motherhood took a sorrowful turn with the untimely passing of Ty. The loss of a child is a heartache that defies words, a shadow that lingers long after the light has faded. For Jenny, it was a time of unimaginable grief, a period where the foundations of her world were shaken. Yet, in the face of this profound loss, her faith and the support of her family became her pillars of strength. Through the tears and the laughter, the triumphs and the trials, Jenny’s journey as a mother was a testament to her unwavering love and the resilience of the human spirit. Her ability to find joy in the midst of sorrow, to embrace life even in the face of loss, speaks volumes about her character and the depth of her love for her children. Jenny’s story of motherhood is not just about the children she raised; it’s about the journey she undertook, the lessons she learned, and the love she shared. It is a narrative that many mothers can resonate with—a story of unconditional love, unending strength, and the courage to move forward, even in the face of the greatest loss.
“Amidst the storms of loss and the winds of change, Jenny navigates the seas of adversity with a steadfast heart, finding new horizons of purpose and hope.”
Chapter Nine: Overcoming Adversity: Carmen’s Crisis and Career Changes
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n the journey of life, adversity often arrives unannounced, altering the path we walk in profound ways. For Jenny, the crisis that unfolded in her sister Carmen’s life was one such turning point, marking a period of deep reflection, resilience, and ultimately, transformation. Carmen’s story is a poignant reminder of the fragility of human life and the complexities of the human mind. Despite her brilliance and potential, Carmen struggled with inner demons that eventually led to her tragic demise. Her untimely death by suicide left a void in the family, a wound that would never fully heal. For Jenny, this loss was not just a personal tragedy but a stark lesson in the unpredictability of life and the silent battles that some face. This period of grief and introspection coincided with significant career changes for Jenny. With the unwavering support of her husband, Tom, and the responsibilities of motherhood ever-present, she bravely navigated these new waters. The challenges were manifold, from the emotional toll of Carmen’s loss to the practicalities of career transitions, but Jenny faced them with her characteristic fortitude.
The shift in career paths was not just a change of occupation but a journey of self-discovery. Jenny’s decision to embrace teaching, despite initially never wanting to pursue it, showcased her adaptability and commitment to growth. Her entry into the world of education was not merely a professional choice; it was a calling. In the classrooms and corridors of schools, Jenny found a new way to make a difference, to touch lives, and to channel her experiences into something meaningful. Jenny’s story in this chapter is a testament to the human capacity to rise from the ashes of despair and to find new purpose in the face of adversity. Her resilience in overcoming personal loss, coupled with the courage to embark on a new career path, serves as an inspiration. It is a narrative of hope, a reminder that even in our darkest hours, we can find the strength to move forward and the courage to embrace new beginnings.
“In the graceful stride of a horse, Jenny rediscovers the melodies of her soul, riding once again on the wings of freedom and the winds of youthful dreams.”
Chapter Ten: Returning to Passions: The Horses of Life
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hroughout Jenny’s life, horses have been more than just animals; they have been companions, teachers, and symbols of freedom and resilience. In this chapter of her life, Jenny’s return to her equestrian passions marks not only a rekindling of an old love but also a metaphorical journey back to the core of her being. The bond between Jenny and horses traces back to her childhood adventures on horseback, a time when life was simpler, and joy could be found in the rhythmic gallop across open fields. As life’s responsibilities took precedence, this passion was tucked away, like a cherished keepsake waiting to be rediscovered. The reawakening of Jenny’s equestrian love came later in life, a period often marked by reflection and a return to one’s roots. Her decision to revisit this passion was more than just a hobby; it was an embrace of her heritage, a nod to the freedom and strength she felt as a young girl riding through the Oklahoma countryside.
This chapter is not without its trials, as epitomized by the story of Diamond, the beautiful black horse with a challenging demeanor and an unforeseen illness. The experience with Diamond was a bittersweet reminder of life’s impermanence and the need to cherish every moment. Yet, it also reinforced Jenny’s resilience, her ability to face difficulties with grace, and her capacity for unconditional love and care. The narrative of Jenny and her horses is interlaced with lessons of life—about facing challenges head-on, about the healing power of connecting with nature, and about the unspoken bond between a horse and its rider. These lessons go beyond the stables and the riding trails; they speak to the essence of Jenny’s character—her strength, her gentleness, and her indomitable spirit. In the twilight of her years, Jenny’s return to her equestrian roots is a beautiful fullcircle moment, a reconnection with a part of her soul that has always yearned for the open skies and the gentle nudge of a horse. It’s a testament to the idea that our passions, no matter how long they lie dormant, can always provide a source of joy and rejuvenation.
“From the vibrant chaos of kindergarten to the thoughtful halls of college, Jenny’s journey in teaching weaves a legacy of wisdom, nurturing a generation of minds and hearts.”
Chapter Eleven: The Wisdom of Teaching: From Kindergarten to College
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n the tapestry of Jenny’s life, the transition from motherhood to a career in teaching was not just a professional shift but a continuation of her inherent nurturing spirit. This chapter of her life, marked by her journey from teaching kindergarten to impacting lives in college, underscores her profound influence as an educator and mentor.
As she advanced in her career, Jenny’s influence extended to college students, a testament to her versatility and depth as an educator. Here, she not only imparted knowledge but also wisdom, drawn from her own life experiences. She became a role model, particularly for young women, exemplifying strength, independence, and the importance of pursuing one’s passions.
Jenny’s entry into the world of teaching was a confluence of necessity and latent passion. Initially reluctant, she soon discovered that the classroom was a natural extension of her innate abilities to guide, inspire, and support. Her initial foray into teaching at the kindergarten level was marked by an intuitive understanding of young minds, an ability to connect with children at their level, and a talent for making learning both fun and impactful.
Teaching, for Jenny, was not merely a job but a calling. She instilled in her students not just academic knowledge but also life skills, helping shape their characters and future paths. Her legacy in teaching is measured not just in the success of her students but in the values, compassion, and resilience she fostered in them.
Her approach to teaching was not confined to traditional methods. Jenny’s creativity and resourcefulness shone through in her unique blend of instruction and life lessons. She brought subjects to life, interweaving academic learning with moral and spiritual values, much like she did at home with her own children. Her classrooms were more than spaces for learning; they were environments where young minds were encouraged to explore, question, and grow.
“In the quiet rustle of pages, Jenny finds the rhythms of other worlds, each book a journey, each story a treasure in the library of her life.”
Chapter Twelve: The Love of Books: A Library of Life
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or Jenny McMonigle, books have been more than just pages bound together; they have been windows to other worlds, companions in solitude, and guides through the intricate journey of life. Her love for reading, seeded in the tender years of childhood, blossomed into a lifelong affair with the written word, creating a personal library that was as much a sanctuary as it was a source of endless knowledge and joy. Jenny’s early encounters with books were akin to discovering new continents, each story a voyage to unknown lands. This passion for reading was nurtured in the quiet corners of libraries and in the cozy nooks of her home, where she would lose herself in the narratives of heroes, pioneers, and great thinkers. The stories of historical figures like George Washington Carver not only entertained but also educated her, leaving imprints of inspiration and wonder.
As she grew, so did her library, evolving into a diverse collection that reflected the many facets of her interests and experiences. Her shelves were lined with titles that spanned genres and eras, each book a chapter in the narrative of her life. From the sobering accounts of historical tragedies to the uplifting tales of human triumph, her collection was as eclectic as it was profound. In her adult years, Jenny’s library became more than just a personal retreat; it was a tool for teaching and a means for connecting with others. Her books became extensions of her wisdom, passed on to students, friends, and family, each recommendation a piece of advice, a gesture of care, or a means of sharing experiences. The library also served as a haven during times of trial. In the pages of her books, Jenny found solace and strength, companionship and courage. They were her constant friends, always ready to offer a new perspective, a fresh insight, or a moment of escape.
“With the wind in her hair and determination in her stride, Jenny races towards 80, embracing each mile with the vitality and zest of a life lived in full motion.”
Chapter Thirteen: A Life in Motion: Running Towards 80
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s Jenny approached her 80th year, her life story took an inspiring turn, marked by a remarkable commitment to physical fitness and a determination to keep moving forward, both literally and metaphorically. This chapter of her life is a celebration of vitality, showcasing an enduring spirit that refuses to be defined by age. Jenny’s journey into running was not just a late-life hobby but a testament to her belief in constant self-improvement and living life to the fullest. The decision to start running, particularly in her later years, was a bold statement against the conventional expectations of aging. It was a demonstration of her belief that it’s never too late to start a new chapter, to set new goals, and to challenge oneself.
journey through life – a path marked by persistence, resilience, and the joy of achievement. Every training session, every stride taken, was a reflection of Jenny’s indomitable will and her commitment to living a life defined not by years but by experiences. This active pursuit also mirrored her mental and emotional agility. Just as she kept her body in motion, Jenny kept her mind and spirit vibrant, engaging with life in all its facets. Her running was interwoven with laughter, camaraderie, and a sense of purpose, elements that have been constant companions in her life’s journey.
Moreover, Jenny’s running was a powerful message to her family, friends, and Her participation in 5K races, a feat impressive for individuals of any age, community. It demonstrated the importance of self-care, the beauty of aging was not just about the physical act of running. These events symbolized her gracefully, and the limitless potential that lies within each person, regardless of age.
“In the silent echoes of loss, Jenny finds a strength that whispers of hope, acceptance, and the enduring power of love that transcends life’s darkest moments.”
Chapter Fourteen: Coping with Loss: Acceptance and Strength
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n the journey of life, loss is an inevitable companion, casting long shadows of sorrow and grief. For Jenny, coping with loss has been a path marked by deep introspection, profound resilience, and an enduring faith that provided solace in the darkest of times. This chapter of her life is a poignant reflection on the nature of grief and the strength required to move through it.
Beyond personal loss, Jenny also faced the shared grief of her sister Carmen’s tragic end. This, too, was a stark reminder of life’s fragility and the need to cherish each moment. Jenny’s experience with loss taught her the importance of empathy and the value of being a pillar of strength for others in their times of need.
The loss of her son Ty was a crucible of unimaginable pain, a moment that forever altered the landscape of Jenny’s heart. In the wake of such a profound loss, she found herself navigating a world that had irrevocably changed. Yet, in this abyss of grief, Jenny did not succumb to despair. Instead, she drew upon an inner well of strength, fortified by her faith and the support of her loved ones.
Through these trials, Jenny emerged with a deeper understanding of life’s impermanence and a renewed commitment to living purposefully. Her story of coping with loss is a testament to the human spirit’s capacity to heal, to find light in the midst of darkness, and to emerge stronger, more compassionate, and more appreciative of life’s fleeting beauty.
Jenny’s journey through grief was not a linear path but a complex tapestry of emotions, where moments of deep sadness were interspersed with periods of reflection and acceptance. She learned to hold her memories close, honoring Ty’s life not just in mourning his absence but in celebrating the time they shared. Her ability to acknowledge the pain without letting it define her speaks volumes about her character and resilience.
“In the symphony of life, Jenny finds rhythm and resonance in music, each note a heartbeat, each melody a reflection of life’s intricate compositions.”
Chapter Fifteen: Music as Solace: Playing Life’s Symphony
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or Jenny McMonigle, music has been a constant companion, a source of solace that has echoed through the various stages of her life. This chapter is a melodious narrative of how music, in its various forms, has been a balm for her soul, uplifting her spirit in times of joy and comforting her in moments of sorrow.
In adulthood, Jenny’s musical journey took on deeper significance. Music became a refuge, a place where she could retreat and find peace amid the chaos of life. Whether playing hymns on the piano at church or losing herself in the melodies of her favorite records, music provided a sanctuary for her thoughts and emotions.
Jenny’s relationship with music began in the innocent years of her youth. Her early forays into music, starting with piano lessons as a child and later learning the accordion, were the first notes in a lifelong symphony. These experiences were not just about mastering an instrument but about finding a voice and a medium for expression.
Moreover, music was a means of connection with others. Her weekly gatherings to play with friends became a cherished ritual, an outlet for shared joy and communal healing. These sessions were more than just musical; they were a testament to the power of music to bring people together, to heal, to comfort, and to enrich lives.
As she grew older, music remained a steadfast element in her life. In her teenage years, the French horn became her instrument of choice, allowing her to be part of the harmonious collaboration of the school band. This period of her life was not just about musical performances but about being part of something larger than herself, an experience that taught her about harmony, teamwork, and the joy of collective accomplishment.
Jenny’s life, much like a symphony, has had its crescendos and decrescendos, its moments of triumph and passages of melancholy. Yet, through it all, music has been a consistent theme, a soundtrack that has underscored her journey with its melodies and harmonies. nal retreat; it was a tool for teaching and a means for connecting with others. Her books became extensions of her wisdom, passed on to students, friends, and family, each recommendation a piece of advice, a gesture of care, or a means of sharing experiences.
“In the gallery of her life, each person Jenny encountered painted a stroke, contributing to the masterpiece of her being, a portrait of love, strength, and inspiration.”
Chapter Sixteen: Influences and Inspirations: The People Who Shaped Jenny
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enny McMonigle’s life, a rich tapestry of experiences and emotions, has been profoundly shaped by a myriad of influences and inspirations. This chapter delves into the people who have played pivotal roles in molding her character, guiding her decisions, and impacting her journey. It’s a tribute to those who have left indelible marks on her heart and soul, shaping the woman she has become.
Beyond her immediate family, Jenny’s life was touched by figures outside her kin. These included mentors, friends, and even students, who each, in their own way, contributed to her growth. Figures like Russ McKnight, a pastor, provided spiritual guidance, while her sister, Starley, alongside her sister Mary, offered emotional support and companionship.
Jenny’s husband, Tom, was another significant influence, being not just a partner At the core of Jenny’s influences stands her family. From the sturdy roots in marriage but a co-navigator in the journey of life. His presence, support, and provided by her parents, Frederick Tensley Donne Cherry and Virginia Pearl love were constant sources of strength and comfort, helping shape many of Salyer, to the branches of her siblings, each family member contributed unique the decisions and paths Jenny chose to take. fibers to the fabric of her being. Her father’s transformation from a life of vice to one of faith laid the foundation for Jenny’s own spiritual journey, while her These people, among others, were the composers of the symphony that is mother’s resilience and strength in the face of adversity served as a beacon of Jenny’s life. Each one played a distinct note, contributing to the melody that defines her. Their influences were as varied as they were profound, collectively inspiration throughout her life. guiding Jenny through the highs and lows of her life’s journey. The tragic story of her sister Carmen, though heart-wrenching, brought profound lessons about the complexities of the human psyche and the need for compassion and understanding. Similarly, the bonds with her other siblings provided a spectrum of experiences that enriched Jenny’s perspective on life and relationships.
“Amidst the ebb and flow of life’s tides, Jenny’s unwavering faith and deep spirituality shine as her guiding light, illuminating her path with the enduring glow of grace and wisdom.”
Chapter Seventeen: Spirituality and Scripture: Faith’s Guiding Light
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n the narrative of Jenny McMonigle’s life, her spirituality and unwavering faith have been the guiding light, illuminating her path through both joyous peaks and shadowed valleys. This chapter explores the profound impact of her spiritual journey, deeply rooted in scripture and unwavering faith, which has provided her with strength, direction, and a sense of purpose throughout her life.
As Jenny grew, her faith became a personal journey, one that she embraced with her whole heart. Her baptism at age seven was a significant milestone, marking her conscious decision to walk a path of faith. This moment, symbolized by her maroon and white Battle jacket, was a vivid memory etched in her mind, a testament to the seriousness with which she approached her spiritual commitments.
From her earliest days, spirituality was more than a practice; it was a way of life. The teachings of her father, who left his job to become a preacher, laid the foundation for her enduring faith. His decision to embrace a life of spirituality had a lasting impact on Jenny, instilling in her a deep sense of devotion and a commitment to living a life guided by Christian principles.
Throughout her life, Jenny turned to scripture for guidance and solace. The Bible was not just a book, but a companion and a source of wisdom. Her ability to quote verses and draw lessons from Biblical stories showcased the depth of her connection with her faith.
Jenny’s spiritual journey was not just nurtured within the walls of the church but also in the quiet, reflective spaces of her home. Her mother’s nightly Bible stories were a staple of her childhood, weaving the rich tapestry of Biblical narratives into the fabric of her daily life. These stories were not just tales from the past; they were lessons, inspirations, and a source of comfort and guidance.
In her adult years, Jenny’s spirituality found expression in her involvement in the church, her role as a mentor to others, and her daily living. Her faith was a beacon that guided her through life’s storms, a constant reminder of hope and the enduring presence of God’s love.
“From the rustic tranquility of farms to the majestic serenity of cruises, Jenny’s journeys are a tapestry of discovery, each destination a new verse in the poetry of her life.”
Chapter Eighteen: The Joy of Travel: From Farms to Cruises
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enny McMonigle’s life, rich in experiences and relationships, is also marked by her adventures across diverse landscapes, from the rustic charm of farms to the majestic grandeur of ocean cruises. This chapter of her story is a celebration of her wanderlust, a testament to her belief in the enriching power of travel and exploration. Jenny’s travels began modestly, with journeys not too far from home. These early trips, often to rural settings like farms, were not about luxury or leisure but about connecting with the land and understanding the rhythms of nature. It was here, amidst the simplicity of farm life, that Jenny found a sense of peace and grounding, a reminder of the fundamental joys of life. As time went on, Jenny’s horizons expanded. The trips became more adventurous, and the destinations more varied. One of the highlights was a cruise to Alaska in 2000, a journey that took her far from the familiarity of Oklahoma’s plains. This cruise was not just a vacation; it was an odyssey into the heart of nature’s splendor. The towering glaciers, the expansive seas, and the pristine wilderness offered a perspective that was both humbling and exhilarating.
The joy of travel for Jenny was more than the sights and sounds of new places; it was an opportunity for reflection and personal growth. Each journey, whether it was a road trip to Idaho in 1970 or a visit to Lake Tahoe, was a chapter in her book of life, filled with stories, lessons, and memories to cherish. Travel also provided Jenny with a deeper appreciation for the diversity of the world and its people. It broadened her understanding, challenged her perceptions, and enriched her life in immeasurable ways. The experience of different cultures, cuisines, and customs was a source of joy and wonder, a reaffirmation of the beauty and complexity of the world.
“From the earthy embrace of farmland to the lush greens of fairways, Jenny’s journey is a testament to embracing life’s changes, finding new joys in every landscape.”
Chapter Nineteen: Reflections on Change: From Farmland to Fairways
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enny McMonigle’s life has been a journey through varied landscapes, both literal and metaphorical. In this chapter, we explore her transition from the rustic charm of farmland living to the manicured elegance of life on a golf course. This shift in scenery symbolizes not just a change in physical surroundings but also reflects the evolution of Jenny’s life, her adaptability, and her ability to embrace new chapters with grace and enthusiasm.
The move to the golf course community, on the other hand, opened up new avenues for social interaction and leisure. It brought a different kind of beauty – manicured lawns, pristine fairways, and a community of neighbors who shared a love for the game. For Jenny, this was not just an opportunity to engage in a beloved sport but also to form new friendships and build a new community.
This change also brought about a lifestyle that was more relaxed and leisurely, a The move from the farm, with its open skies and the honest toil of rural life, to well-deserved respite after years of hard work. The golf course became a place the Oak Tree golf course community marked a significant change in Jenny where Tom and Jenny could unwind, enjoy their shared interests, and socialize and Tom’s lives. This transition was more than a mere change of address; it with friends. It was a setting that allowed them to revel in the achievements of was a step into a different way of life. The farm, with its red clay roads and its their life together, offering a peaceful backdrop to their golden years. closeness to nature, represented a period of hard work, family bonding, and simple pleasures. It was a place where life was lived close to the earth, where every day brought the satisfaction of physical labor and the joy of close-knit family life.
“In the swirl of a chocolate almond ice cream and the tranquility of the color blue, Jenny finds joy in life’s simple pleasures, each one a note in the symphony of the everyday.”
Chapter Twenty: The Simple Pleasures: Ice Cream Flavors and Favorite Colors
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n the myriad of experiences that make up Jenny McMonigle’s rich and varied life, it’s the simple pleasures that often shine the brightest. This chapter celebrates those small yet significant joys that bring color and flavor to her daily existence. From her favorite ice cream to the hues that color her world, these simple pleasures are a reminder of the beauty and happiness to be found in the everyday. Jenny’s fondness for chocolate almond ice cream from Braum’s is more than a culinary preference; it’s a symbol of life’s sweet, uncomplicated joys. Each scoop is a reminder of the importance of savoring the moment, of indulging in life’s little delights. Whether enjoyed on a quiet afternoon or shared with loved ones, this simple treat holds a special place in her heart, evoking memories and smiles.
Similarly, Jenny’s love for the color blue, as clear and vast as the Oklahoma sky, speaks to her appreciation of the world’s natural beauty. This preference is reflected in the spaces she inhabits, the clothes she wears, and even in the serene moments she cherishes. Blue, for Jenny, is more than a color; it’s a feeling of calm and tranquility, a slice of the sky that she carries with her. These simple pleasures extend beyond flavors and colors; they encompass the everyday experiences that bring joy to Jenny’s life. The laughter of her grandchildren, the chirping of birds in her garden, the feel of a book in her hands, and the fragrance of her garden flowers are all threads in the tapestry of her happiness.
“With a heart full of memories and eyes set on the horizon, Jenny stands at the crossroads of past and future, her life a beacon of hope, love, and enduring grace.”
Chapter Twenty-One: Final Thoughts: Looking Back, Moving Forward
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s Jenny McMonigle reflects on the rich tapestry of her life, this final chapter is a contemplative blend of retrospection and anticipation. It’s a space where the wisdom of the past meets the promise of the future, where lessons learned are lanterns illuminating the path ahead. This closing segment of her story is not an end but a thoughtful pause, a moment to gather the threads of experience and weave them into the fabric of what’s yet to come.
In looking forward, Jenny embraces the future with the same optimism and strength that have been her constant companions. She acknowledges that every day is a gift, an opportunity to make new memories, to learn, and to continue contributing to the lives of those around her. Her plans may be tempered with the wisdom of age, but her spirit remains as vibrant and engaged as ever.
Jenny’s story is a powerful reminder that life, in all its complexity, is a beautiful journey, and that every moment – whether filled with laughter or tears – is a Looking back, Jenny’s journey has been one of remarkable resilience, profound precious part of that journey. Her legacy is one of love, resilience, and the love, and unwavering faith. From the innocence of a childhood marked by enduring power of faith, a legacy that will continue to inspire and influence swings and sweet peas to the complexity of adulthood’s joys and sorrows, each generations to come. phase of her life has contributed to the person she is today. Her experiences – as a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, a teacher, and a friend – have been diverse chapters in a life well-lived, rich with lessons and blessings alike.
“With a heart full of memories and eyes set on the horizon, Jenny stands at the crossroads of past and future, her life a beacon of hope, love, and enduring grace.”
“Conversations with Jenny: A Chronicle of Inquiry and Revelation”
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escription: This section, “Conversations with Jenny,” is a curated collection of dialogues and reflections, a chronicle that offers an intimate glimpse into the life and thoughts of Jenny McMonigle. The questions posed and the answers given shed light on Jenny’s experiences, beliefs, and the wisdom garnered over the years. These exchanges, captured in their authentic form, reflect the depth of conversation between Jenny and her loved ones, providing a unique and personal insight into her journey. In this compilation, you’ll find a blend of first-person and third-person narratives, mirroring the natural flow of a conversation that oscillates between personal introspection and objective storytelling. This format adds to the authenticity of the dialogues, making them more relatable and engaging. The questions range from reflections on childhood memories to musings on life’s later stages, each eliciting responses that are both reflective and forward-looking. Through these pages, you are invited to join in the dialogue, to ponder the questions, and to find resonance in Jenny’s responses. This section is not just a record of past conversations; it is an invitation to continue the dialogue, to reflect on one’s own journey, and to appreciate the profound simplicity and complexity of life.
“In the realm of shared memories and heartfelt dialogues, ‘Conversations with Jenny’ weaves a narrative of introspection, wisdom, and the enduring bonds of communication.”
Jenny’s Journey: A Memoir Subject: Born: Married: Born:
Virginia Lee Cherry - McMonigle August 6th, 1943, in Overton, Texas William Thomas McMonigle December 12, 1942 - 2018
Sons: Ty Randal McMonigle, Born 5/15/1963 John Mark McMonigle, Born 11/06 1964 Mace Tyndal McMonigle, Born 1/09/1970 Father: Frederick Tensley Donne Cherry Born: 2/06/1912 - 1970 Raised in Okmulgee, Oklahoma Mother: Born:
Virginia Pearl Salyer - Cherry 11/30/1917-2013
Raised in Texas, played high school basketball in Texas Grandchildren: John Ryan McMonigle, Born 1/28/1999 Michael Joseph McMonigle, Born 3/14/2000 Kelley Paige McMonigle, Born 10/16/2003 Riley Ann McMonigle, Born 10/14/2005 Emerson Thomas McMonigle, Born 5/23/2018
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s the seasons of life continue their relentless march, a significant milestone approaches for Jenny—her 80th birthday on August 6th, 2023. This year presented a golden opportunity, a few precious months spent in the comforting embrace of Oklahoma’s rolling plains and warm breezes. It was a time of reconnection, of shared sunsets and long talks into the twilight. I found myself seated across from my mother, whose stories were as familiar as they were foreign, and I was struck by a profound realization: despite the years of love and laughter, there were layers to her I had yet to uncover. In the quiet moments, between the hum of memories and the quiet daily routines, I sought to bridge the gaps that time had inadvertently created. With each question asked and every tale unwound from the tapestry of her life, I found not just the mother I knew, but the woman who had lived a life rich with experiences I had never fathomed. It was a journey of discovery, not just for me, but for both of us, as we ventured through the archives of her heart and the annals of her vivid past. This section, the prelude to the heartfelt Q&A, is an homage to the woman whose resilience has been the cornerstone of our family. Herein lies the essence of Jenny—her triumphs, her trials, her unspoken thoughts, and her unabashed dreams. It is a warm embrace of her legacy, a son’s adoring gaze into the life of a woman whose strength and tenderness have been the guiding lights of his existence. It is an invitation to you, the reader, to join us in this intimate dance of questions and answers, as we celebrate the life of a remarkable woman on the cusp of her 80th year.
1) Q: What is your earliest memory of being a sibling of eleven? A: When we lived in Oklahoma City, Mary and I would wear matching clothes. We had a swing set in the backyard with sweet peas growing on the fence at 909 NE 18th Street. I have pictures of it from when Tom and I would go for his cancer treatments, and we would take pictures of it. I also remember being sent to Texas when Mom was having babies to stay with Nanny and Pop, who ran a café. I’m not sure which town in Texas it was. I was three years old when Carmen was born, but I don’t remember that. (Mom showed me a butter dish from that café in Texas). The order of birth: i. Starley Ann Cherry – Bullard ii. Ronald Wade Cherry iii. Mary Frances Cherry – Burleson iv. Virginia Lee Cherry – McMonigle. Nanny and Pop came from Virginia, and Virginia Pearl Cherry was my mother’s name. Mom gave her mother the nickname “Virgie.” v. Carmen Coryne Cherry came three years afterwards. She never married and committed suicide. Being a big sister to Carmen was normal until she graduated high school. She was very smart and was going to be a doctor, but she started acting out her senior year. Pop was an alcoholic in Mom’s upbringing. Fred Cherry was a drinker, smoker, card player but dropped it all when he professed Christ. vi. John Wallace Cherry. Being John’s sister was like fighting cats and dogs. He was strong-willed, bigger-than-life personality. vii. Fred Smith Cherry – Fred Smith was a family name. He was a collector, counted everything, and kept track of everything. viii. Sarah Janyeth Cherry – Wilkins. I hardly remember Sarah growing up until Mom married Tom, and Sarah hung around all the time. ix. Mark Randall Cherry – Baby brother, cute as could be. I don’t remember much about him until later. x. Ruth Elaine Cherry – Couts. Baby sister had a good time with her teaching at CHA. xi. Rachel Lynn Cherry Fraim – Mark, Ruth, and Rachel were so young. Mom was busy doing grown-up things, but she does remember changing diapers.
2) Q: What is your earliest memory of Nanny and Pop? A: They had a dog named Pepper. We stayed in Texas with them when babies were being born. Pop had a pickup with sideboards on it. Mom, Mary, and Carmen would go to Texas, and the doll dresses would blow out in the back of the truck. Virgie had made the dolls. Mom grew to absolutely love Pop and Nanny after they moved to Oklahoma. Nanny was one smart lady but didn’t talk much. She was a serious person who never joked or laughed. She was a worker, and life was hard on them. Pop was a drinker, and they would have to go and take him out of the bars. Pop bought a ranch North of Guthrie, and there was a restaurant on the top of the hill. Pop would go in and buy them a Coke. Mom remembered it burning her nose, and Pop would get a bottle of beer (it would be their little secret). Mom had fun with Pop, and they would sing “100 Bottles of Beer on the Wall.” The ranch had cows, and Pop would put Mom, Mary, and John on a horse to go round up the cows, and somehow the horse would bring them back to Pop. Pop taught John how to work, and he liked having Mom, Mary, and John with him. His nicknames for Mom were “Squirt,” Mary was “Sockem,” Carmen was “Pood,” John was “Buck,” Freddy was “Bottle Tale,” and Sarah was “Stincky.” 3) Q: When did you fall in love with horses? A: I don’t know when exactly, but Pop liked buying us a horse. I went with Pop everywhere, even to the cow sales. I was Pop’s sidekick. Starley and I would ride a ornery horse that Pop bought us. The horse would run straight to the fence and turn sharply. Mom fell on the fence and cut herself. Pop later sold the horse not knowing about the incident. The next horse was Sugar, who was lazy and just wanted to lay down. Mom watered and fed the horses, and it was a long walk. There were snakes in the well house where she turned on the water. 4) Q: First school memories? A: I would walk to kindergarten by myself after lunch. It was two or three blocks from the house. I had to walk by a Catholic school, and the kids threw rocks at me.
5) Q: Do you remember being happy? A: Yes, kind of... We played and roller-skated on the sidewalk with Mary. We had a nice house. Daddy worked for the state and was a petroleum engineer, a graduate of Oklahoma, and a star football player. He also ran track in college. 6) Q: First encounter with death? A: My cocker spaniel was found dead when I came home from school. “Mo” is remembered at death, but not so much during his life. 7) Sleeping with the windows open? A: Starly Ann had the upper bunk, Ronnie had the middle, and I had the lower bunk. I would sleep by the window with it open. We would catch fireflies and crawl up the trees. 8) Q: Dolls and Park? A: Mom would take us to the park, and we played with our dolls. We used to sell items to the store owners like hangers, pop bottles, or whatever. 9) Q: Salvation? A: I was seven years old when I walked the aisle and gave my life to Christ. I was later baptized at Trinity Baptist Church in Oklahoma City. Virgie and Nanny raised me. Virgie raised us to go to church. Virgie would play the
piano, and we would sing hymns. John, Sarah, and I would be the ones to say prayers at meals. 10) Q: Fred (Daddy) becoming a pastor? A: We lived on 909 NW 18th Street, and Daddy worked for the state. Daddy went to Oklahoma University, where he played football. Daddy was a Christian and Virgie sang in the choir at First Baptist Church. 11) Gradeschool: Q: What are some of your memories from gradeschool, like riding horses and playing tennis? A: Back in gradeschool, Mom often rode two horses named Stinky and Inky. There were also tennis courts built by the college across the street, where Mom and Carmen played and became quite skilled. Mom would sometimes ride a paint mare named Trixie to school and tie her up at the baseball field. She was active in baseball, softball, and even a game called “crack the whip.” Mom often had skinned knees from falling on the blacktop. She also participated in school plays and landed many lead roles, like Frosty the Snowman and Snow-White.
12) High School Memories: Q: People often say that you and Dad were quite popular in high school. Can you share some memorable moments from your high school days? A: “Oh shoot yeah!” Bob Montgomery was my boyfriend in 7th grade. My first boyfriend that I liked and we held hands. Virgie made me a formal and Bob took Mom to the DeMolay dance. 7th and 8th grade were at Russell Dougherty and out the back gate was a little restaurant called The Sportsmen and this is where all the flirting went on. I was in from milking the cows and riding the horses and didn’t know what I was doing while flirting. We were the country bumpkins. But Starley, Ronnie and Mary had gone before Mom and so she was known as Mary’s little sister. If a boy asked Mary on a date and was refused, he would usually then ask Mom. The armory skating rink was the popular date venue on 5th and Boulevard. We swam right west of the drugstore in the summer and right across the street was the park which was next to the Armory skating rink. In 9th grade Mom won Miss Popularity. Mom was so embarrassed. Richard Dockery won Mr. Popularity. He left after the 9th grade. He French kissed Mom at the ceremony and she thought it was very gross. She was a cheerleader and played a French horn in the band. She would run from the cheerleading post up to the band and play and then run back down to cheerlead. In 9th grade they put on a musical called HMS Pinafore, Her Majesty… She sang in a sextet (6 girls) alto. The costumes were sent off for and Mom was handed one that was pretty with a low neck and the other girls were jealous. That was so fun! We practiced a lot and then opened it up to public viewing. Mom dated Mickey Joyce in 9th grade. Mickey was two years older and a Catholic. They had a wreck on a slick bridge. The car spun and her door opened, and she flew out landing on her bottom twirling like a top. The romance with Dad began as a Junior. Her Dad, Fred Cherry had made her break up with him Mickey because Nicky Mickey was a Catholic. She snuck out to see him until she felt bad that if caught it would make her dad sad. John Reid, Moms’ next boyfriend, died his freshman year in college and had appendicitis attack and didn’t tell anyone because he wanted to play in a football game. John Reid Pippin was from a well-known family. John’s father doted on him, and John was well liked and a gentleman, but Mom wasn’t romantically inclined. Mom dated Jim Devoe her sophomore
year. Mom first noticed Tom McMonigle at the first of her junior year and she thought he was really cute. (handsome) Loved those blue eyes! He didn’t want to ask Mom for a date because he thought Mom wouldn’t go. Moms’ friend Becky had a class with him and Becky was the go between and she got Tom to ask her out after Mom assured Becky she would go. Dad asked Mom to go to a “howdy party” which was a school social. It was a dance in the big cafeteria. Mom wore an orange checked dress. Mom was tanned and looking “pretty good”. That was it! Mom had broken up with Jim Devoe (Duford) and he didn’t like it. Mom and Dad were at the First Baptist church, and he saw John Reed in the back of Mom’s family car. Jim grabbed Mom and dragged her to Russell Doughetry and he was telling her what she could do and he hauled off and hit Mom. Mom was furious and she later found out that his father beat him. That was the end of their friendship. We had JUG which was a club for just us girls and you had to be invited and initiated. They would get together and eat Fritos and bean dip and the boys would hang around. It was a white jug. They would have party’s at farms and houses and go down to the Kirkland drug store and get behind the counter and make chocolate cokes. In the 9th grade Mr Monsun (Mr Monster) was the art teacher with dandruff and the girls would tease him and sit outside and tell him they would not come in. Mom would say they were going downtown to get art supplies but would go to the bakery. She got in trouble eating popsicles when the principle came in and Mom thru her popsicle into a tuba. They were so mean to Mr. Monster, they Virginia Kephart would get down on their knees and push Mr Monster over backwards. Virginia kept a messy bedroom that Mom always wanted to clean. Frequent visits to Mr Anderson, the principle caused them to straighten up a little bit. There was only one policeman in town. As a junior Mom stayed with cheerleading and therefore was forced to drop band. Mom was part of student council and they would meet early and decide things for the school. Mom got kicked off because she couldn’t get to town early enough. That was when Ronnie was taking Mom to school in the back of his maroon Willis jeep. One time Mary and Mom scrunched down behind the back seat of his jeep while he was on a date with Sandy.
13) Highlights in Life: Q: Can you tell me about some of the highlights in your life, moments that brought you joy? A: Babies brought me immense joy, each one of my sons. Despite the challenges, having babies was worth it. However, I’ve always had a hard time feeling pure joy. Moments like winning homecoming queen felt undeserved and burdensome. I often felt like I fooled everyone because deep down, I didn’t feel good enough. Overcoming that feeling has been a lifelong journey. 14) Your Great Escape: Q: What has been your great escape in life, something that takes you away from your worries? A: Books have always been my escape. They transport me to different worlds and teach me valuable lessons. Not the cheesy romance novels, but good fiction that offers real insights and perspectives. 15) Coping with Life’s Lowest Points: Q: How did you cope with some of the lowest points in your life, like dealing with the pressures of pregnancy before marriage? A: Coping with the pressures of getting pregnant out of wedlock and the expectations of being a minister’s daughter was tough. I didn’t tell anyone until I had to, even though Tom had asked me to marry him multiple times. My family’s initial refusal and other challenges weighed on me. But eventually, I said yes, and we faced it together.
16) The Wedding: Q: Can you share some details about your wedding, especially considering the unconventional circumstances? A: Our wedding was a unique experience. We initially didn’t want to get a license in Oklahoma County because we wanted to keep it discreet. However, we eventually decided to get married in a different county. There was a lot of confusion, but we eventually had a small ceremony at home. It was a time when I just wanted to be someone else. 17) Early Marriage Adventures: Q: What were some of your early adventures as a young married couple? A: We first lived at Cherry Hollow for a few days and then moved to Dallas when Tom got a job there. We lived in various places, including a house near Love Field where we could hear planes flying overhead. We faced challenges, like a break-in attempt, but we kept moving forward. Ty was born sick, and we didn’t have insurance, but we always saw each step as a step up. 18) Coping with Loss: Q: How have you dealt with the loss of loved ones in your life? A: Dealing with loss requires acceptance. You have to acknowledge the pain, realizing that it’s a natural part of life. Self-pity is a downward spiral, so it’s crucial not to dwell in it. One of my guiding principles is to choose the sorrow that leads to life.
19) Impact of Crisis on Carmen: Q: How did the crisis involving Carmen affect your life? A: The crisis with Carmen had a significant impact on our family. It tested us emotionally and challenged our bonds. While it was difficult, we learned to cope and support one another through the tough times. 20) Memories of Diamond the Horse: Q: Can you share some memories of Diamond, the big black horse you bought? A: We used our tithe money to buy Diamond, a big black horse, but he had health issues, including cancer and a bloody nose. Diamond was a challenging horse and eventually had to be put down. After that, we bought had Lady, the horse that JM was very close to. We went back to tithing. Q: I remember you being an amazing kindergarten teacher. What made you such a good teacher? A: Ralph hired me to teach at CHA and mentioned I would have to write the curriculum. That helped pay for you and Mace to attend CHA. The teachers’ meetings in Pensacola, Florida, were invaluable. I mastered the “look of death,” a technique where you simply look at a child and wait—it worked every time. I was committed to being a good teacher, and thankfully, it all worked out well. I was to teach each of my subjects from the Bible. For instance, Math was derived from Genesis. There were annual teacher meetings in Dallas, where Ralph persuaded me to present my numbers class based on Genesis, and it was well-received. Every teacher wanted the handout. This approach evolved into teaching not only Math but also Bible, and art. It entailed a great deal of learning while simultaneously remodeling the house, raising you and Mace, and attending church three times a week.
Q: Bolivar College: A: My first year at Bolivar was a blast. The camaraderie with the girls was wonderful, and the dormitories were comfortable. On weekends, we spoke at churches, where I often played the piano. We engaged in playful antics. I particularly recall the librarian hosting us and serving baked potatoes—once, I bit into what I thought was a crispy skin, only to find it was a clod of dirt! Q:You have an amazing library. Have you always been a voracious reader? A: Absolutely. I fondly remember borrowing books from Daddy’s library. Reading about the atrocities at Auschwitz was horrifying, learning about how those Jewish people were deceived into thinking they were headed to a better place on the trains. In fourth grade, Mrs. Matthews held a reading contest, and I was always eager to win. The contest featured orange books on various inventors and notable figures like George Washington Carver. I adored those books—they transported me to different worlds. We read the Bible nightly and memorized scriptures through BMA. Virgie had Pop or Mr. Marx craft a wheeled box filled with all 66 books of the Bible. She’d teach us all the books and conduct sword drills at church. It’s hard to fathom the extent of Virgie’s efforts; she was always so composed. I’ll never forget when she donned her first pair of jeans, having always worn dresses while doing all her work at home. Q: What now do you most look forward to? A: I cherish my Bible studies and your music sessions, enjoying and Rummikub, chatting on the phone with friends, gardening, cycling around the neighborhood, coloring with pencils, and playing the accordion.
Q: Artistic: Mom is very artistic. Her teacher bulletin boards were “world class,” and her artistic talents show up all around the house. Her colored pencil book is quite extraordinary. Mom always had students’ papers to grade and her style showed up every time pen touched paper. Color and music are Mom’s favorite creation topics. Shading flowers and leaves with colored pencils are remarkable works. A: My artistic flair finds its way into every aspect of life, from the bulletin boards I created as a teacher, which were considered top-notch, to the artistry that infuses our home. My passion for art is evident in the colored pencil book I cherish, and my unique touch is apparent each time I grade students’ papers. My favorite creative expressions revolve around color and music, especially when I’m bringing flowers and leaves to life with colored pencils. Q: You run a 5K every year. This is remarkable at the age of 80. Tell me about your history with this race and our drive to do it. A: Our church offers a class called “Run for God,” complete with a book, where we meet weekly to learn how running and winning a prize parallels Paul’s teachings in the New Testament. The class begins twelve weeks before the first 5K, and afterward, we’d practice in the parking lot. It was there I realized how out of shape I was. So, I began training annually for the race. Even the year I broke my foot, I ran regardless. Another year, when I was anemic, Mary supported me across the finish line. Each year, we register in Oklahoma City, get our shirts and shoes, and remind ourselves that achieving a goal requires not just thought but also dedication and preparation.
Q: How have you dealt with loss? A: Acceptance is key. There’s no alternative to accepting loss. I believe in recognizing the pain it brings and understanding that it’s a natural, shared human experience, not exclusive to me. Self-pity is a dangerous spiral to avoid. A verse I encountered sums it up well: there are two kinds of sorrow— one leading to life, the other to death. Always choose the sorrow that leads to life. There’s always a purpose to loss, and it’s always manageable. Q: You are musically gifted, and you have girlfriends over each week to play instruments together. What has music meant to you? A: Music has been a vital form of praise for me, a way to express what words cannot, especially since I don’t consider myself a good singer. My musical journey started in third grade with piano lessons from Virgie. On Saturdays, after grocery shopping, Mr. Morris would teach us. Starley, Mary, Ronnie, and I all took turns. Ronnie and I would play duets. Later, in junior high, I took accordion lessons, inspired by Starley. I learned all the left-hand buttons using a chart, becoming somewhat self-taught after just a few lessons. Virgie’s baby grand piano at Cherry Hollow was a centerpiece for our musical activities. Virgie had a natural talent for dancing and singing, and even without formal lessons, she could pick out tunes on the piano and sang in the church choir. She always had music playing—humming or singing when not fussing about something. I played the piano at various churches, and Dad led singing at Seward church. The encouragement he lacked at home made me think of the potential he had for even greater things. Now, in my home, there’s a black baby grand piano with a CD player. I love to let it play and dance around the house with my mop and broom. Every Wednesday, my friends Joyce Woolever and Susan Reynolds come over to play guitar and keyboard, respectively. We play for three hours, from 2 to 5 PM, enjoying hymns and movie background music. My enjoyment of music extends to my Bose CD player and vinyl record player—I treasure finding records at garage sales.
Q: Who in your life influenced you the most? A: Different people have influenced me at various times. Tom, of course, has had the most significant impact, having spent the most time with him. Pastor Russ McKnight and my siblings Starley and Mary provided considerable support. Nanny, Pop, and Virgie also rank highly as influences. There have been times in my life when I was more susceptible to the impact others had on me. Q: Do you have a favorite passage of scripture? A: Yes, it’s John 3:16. Q: Do you have a favorite hymn? A: I could list 20 or 30 favorites. “Jesus Paid It All” is one I want played at my funeral. Others dear to me include “I Must Tell Jesus” and “What a Friend We Have in Jesus.” Q: What is your favorite flavor of ice cream? A: Chocolate Almond from Braum’s. Q: What is your favorite color? A: Blue, as vast and inviting as the sky. Q: What has been your favorite car? A: I’ve adored the Volkswagen bugs and my Mercedes. I also have fond memories of our Ford truck and the red and white Blazer. Q: What have been your favorite trips?
A: The drive to Idaho in 1970 and the cruise to Alaska in 2000 stand out as exceptionally fun. The trip to Lake Tahoe was also a wonderful experience. Q: Do you dream of traveling anywhere? A: No, I don’t have any travel dreams currently. Q: Was moving from the farm to the Oak Tree golf course a significant change in your life? A: Yes, it was fun, exciting, and a bit overwhelming. We had to process the emotions gradually. Dad became more social, reconnecting with high school friends and playing golf several times a week. I started hosting music and Bible study groups at home. While I missed the farm’s hard work and its distance from everyone, the first home that was truly ours, where we knocked down walls and remodeled, held a special place in my heart. I really liked that little house, despite eventually growing weary of the red clay muddy roads and perpetually dirty car. Friends in Texas could even recognize our car by the red dirt on it. Q: What color are your eyes? A: Brown. Q: What is your blood type? A: O positive. Q: What keeps you awake at night? A: Caffeine.
“Journey’s Melody: The Resplendent Life of Jenny, Virtue in Motion”
In Closing:
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s the sun rises over Oak Tree, its golden rays might just catch the fleeting figure of Jenny, ageless in spirit, pedaling her bicycle with the vigor of a carefree youth. On other days, she’s the poised figure on the green, golf club in hand, her swing as smooth as the summer breeze. Indoors, her hands deftly weave magic, whether sewing, stenciling, or tending to her flourishing garden. The melodies of her accordion and the tender notes from her piano are the soundtrack to her industrious serenity. Jenny’s days are punctuated by the gentle chime of the telephone, each ring heralding another soul seeking the wisdom she dispenses as naturally as she breathes. Her Bible study and music group sessions are more than mere gatherings; they are havens of fellowship and joy. One cannot overlook the mischievous twinkle in her eye, that knowing smile that speaks volumes of a life richly lived. Her impeccable style is not just in her attire but woven into the very fabric of her being—a testament to her innate elegance and grace. When I behold all that she is and all that she does, I am moved to declare her a “virtuous woman,” a living embodiment of timeless wisdom and strength. With a heart full of admiration, I raise a toast to Jenny. May the tapestry of your extraordinary life continue to be a source of inspiration and a beacon of love to everyone you grace with your presence.
“Verses of Virtue: The Poetic Essence of Jenny’s Journey”
In Tribute to a Poet’s Heart: In every gift she gives, there lies a treasure beyond the tangible—a poem, lovingly crafted, adorning the back like a secret garden of words. It’s Jenny’s signature, a personal touch that transforms a simple offering into a keepsake. These verses are the fruits of labor, often days in the making, that echo the depth of her heart and the care in her soul. And so, in the spirit of her poetic gifts, I venture to honor her art with an ode of my own—a poem for Jenny, whose life itself is a beautiful stanza.
A Poem for Jenny I
n the quiet dawn, Jenny walks the dew-kissed green, A penny caught in sight, a glint ‘neath the sun’s sheen. Not one to pass by, a simple coin on the ground, Each penny, a story, a memory, found.
With a frame not too skinny, but spry and quite keen, She carries the wisdom of years seldom seen. In the distance, a horse’s whinny, a joyful sound, Echoes her laughter, a melody profound. A soul never confined, nor one to be penned, Her spirit, a canvas, on which life blends. Jenny, a name that whispers tales of grace, Of warm smiles that light up the dimmest place. Her hands, they’ve sewn seams of family and friends, Stitched through time with love that never ends. An accordion’s hum, piano keys’ dance, In her music, you’ll find, life’s sweetest romance. So here’s to Jenny, a verse just to start, For a poem about her, is a work of heart. Cheers to the moments, the love she’s instilled, In each word she writes, her warmth is fulfilled.