Let’s Play Ball!

If you and your partner who has testicles are new to ball play or have experimented for some time, you know that communication is key. Afterall, the safety of his crown jewels are in your hands … literally. What are some of the best positions for sucking balls?

When you want to go to town on your partner’s balls, position yourself front and center for the fun. Have your partner lay on his back, he can pull his knees towards his chest if he likes, or just relax with them spread wide apart for you to get to work! Lie on your stomach between his legs (prop yourself up on your elbows) and position yourself in a way that can be comfortable and not strain your neck or head.

A modified Saddle straddle is another great position. Have your partner straddle your chest and move forward far enough so that their balls can easily be placed in your mouth. This position gives you less freedom to move around, however it’s an excellent position for him to teabag you and watch your face while you pleasure him.

You can also 69 each other for double the pleasure. Aside from sucking them, what are some other oral and manual techniques you would recommend?

FEATHER PLAY: For beginners, soft touch can be quite erotic in addition to sucking. Feather play can put your partner over the edge. Using a feather, pay particular attention to the seam on the scrotum. Allow the feather to travel down to the taint and inner thighs as well. He will squeal with excitement!

SOFT TOUCH: With your fingertips and fingernails, softly graze the various parts of the scrotum, be repetitive in your movements, explore the area slowly and let your fingers again travel to his taint.

SUCKING BALLS IS AN ARTFORM: If your partner is not used to having his balls sucked, start slow. He may have very sensitive balls and may prefer that you not put them entirely in your mouth. He may want you to start by licking them. Allow your tongue to explore the area in a slow, but methodical way. Pay attention to the sounds he makes. If he starts to get excited from one area, make sure to revisit that spot regularly. Keep it soft and slow until he tells you otherwise.

HAIR OR NO HAIR? Experimenting with a freshly shaved scrotum vs. an unshaved scrotum will also change the feeling your partner receives. A few days worth of stubble down there can also be a game changer. Try all three!

COCK RINGS: Try a dual loop cock ring (vibrating is an option, too) that is made to go around the shaft of the penis and around the scrotum separately. There are varying sizes, so depending on the restriction and pressure your partner enjoys, you may want to experiment here. The added pressure around his scrotum will enhance everything you try. Never used a cock ring before? Start with a simple vibrating ring that will pleasure you both. As you become experienced with a cock ring, you may want to try one of the many variations available that constrict your scrotum even further.

There never should be unstated expectations.

Joe Kort, Ph.D., LMSW AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor of Sex Therapy

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