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HARRINGTON JUNIOR CLASSIC CARS
Harrington Group offers a dazzling collection of half-scale classic vehicles for adults and children alike. The junior cars are available in either electric or gas and customers can choose from a 125cc combustion engine or an electric drivetrain. The cars can reach 28 mph and, although not street-legal, are great for private roads. They can accommodate one adult or two children, and each vehicle has a speed restrictor and seatbelts. The line-up includes the Series 1, 300 SL, 250 Spyder, Daytona, XK, Cobra, GB6 Short Chassis, Land Junior, Willys Jeep and a single-seater race car inspired by the Lotus 25. Future models will include a Formula 1, 156 Sharknose, a 356 Speedster, and a Defender. Every jig-built chassis houses independent suspension, gas shock absorbers, a limited slip differential, a hydraulic braking system, and vented disks. Every detail is considered to replicate a full-size classic car from the fiberglass bodies to the beautiful finish in DuPont paint. Prices start at $16,000 and go up to $26,000. groupharrington.com BALLET FOLKLORICO QUETZALCOATL
The acclaimed Ballet Folklorico Quetzalcoatl, now celebrating its 40th anniversary, returns to the McAninch Arts Center (MAC) in Glen Ellyn at 7:30 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 11 for an evening of rich and vibrant Mexican folkloric dance. The show features magnificent traditional costumes and thrilling dance by an ensemble of nearly 100 dancers performed to classic songs from various regions of Mexico as played by an ensemble of live musicians. For tickets, visit atthemac.org. ASIAN IMPROV ARTS MIDWEST (AIRMW)
Asian Improv aRts Midwest (AIRMW), directed by multi-instrumentalist and media artist Tatsu Aoki, presents the 28th Annual Chicago Asian American Jazz Festival at Elastic Arts, 3429 W. Diversey Ave., #208, at 8:30 p.m. Friday, November 10 and Saturday, November 11. The November 10 concert features solo sets by Chicago-based multi-media artist Takashi Shallow, Pittsburgh-based shakuhachi player, composer, and visual artist Devon Osamu Tipp. AIRMW founder Tatsu Aoki will join Tipp in the world premiere of a collaborative work. THE NORTH SHORE WEEKEND
Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D.
Speaker and Peak Performance Consultant
Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo is a Lake Forest psychologist and concierge life coach who is famous for her work with professional athletes. Her career as a best-selling author, keynote speaker, and media guest have made her one of the most sought-after experts in the world for those who seek to harness the power of mindset. In 2019, she founded EleVive, a business that helps teens and their parents navigate life’s challenges. Her new column in The North Shore Weekend addresses these issues and more.
When your child gets cut from a team, don’t cut your support. Dear Dr. E— We just found out that our son didn’t make the team. He’s taking the cut pretty hard—he loves this sport and seems like everything he does (and wears and says) centers on the game. What can we do to support him here? —Bummed in Baltimore Bummed, First, I empathize with you. Witnessing a child’s disappointment is one of the hardest things we parents do—and, because life is life, it’s something we have to do all too often. While this may not be a comforting thought, consider this: Every time our children fail—or fail to get what they want—it means they are reaching beyond their comfort zone. This is a very good thing and one that deserves to be encouraged and celebrated. One thing I want you to remember is that when a person is sitting in disappointment (at any age!), they are likely in what I call the Red Zone—an emotional state of heightened distress. Your job as his parents is two-fold: • Stay OUT of the Red Zone when helping your son—it will be impossible to help him deal with disappointment if you are clouded by anger, sadness, frustration, or worry. • Help him see his way out of the Red Zone by validating what he is feeling and helping him process his experience. Remember, you are not here to “rescue” him—dealing with disappointment is a normal part of life, and managing it effectively will boost his resilience and problemsolving skills for the future. You can help him navigate through this time by asking questions that help him process what happened. Things like: • What did you learn about the team or the sport? • What did you discover about yourself?
• If you could do it again, what would you do differently? • What do you love about this sport so much? • Is there anything positive that could come out of this? • What are other parts of your life that make you feel that way? I’d invite you to give your child enough time to answer these questions and avoid jumping in to prompt or add an answer. (He may surprise you!) Look for opportunities to validate his attempt, his growth, your support and love, and his larger identity beyond the game. With time and encouragement, your son will emerge from this experience better for it—and ready to tackle the next challenge with confidence. Dr. E
Struggling with teenage mood swings? Hold on tight—and try this. Dear Dr. E— My teenager’s emotions have been all over the place—and at times she feels so distant. Is this normal? —Moody in Memphis Dear Moody, When our kids hit the teenage years, we often look with nostalgia on the “Terrible Twos.” Remember when we thought THAT was hard? The short answer is YES—teenagers are moody. Hormones mixed with a developing prefrontal cortex mixed with social pressures, excitements, expectations, and opportunities are not always a great mix. That said, there are some red flags to watch out for to make sure what you’re noticing isn’t tipping into troublesome territory. • Check for changes. Swings in appetite, sleep, social interactions, and activities can indicate it’s time to start asking questions. • Problem-spot performance. A decline in grades or sports performance can be a sign that their focus or feelings have shifted. • Self-care signals. If you notice your teen has stopped showering or changing clothes, it could be a sign they are withdrawing or depressed. Listen for times when they turn down things they usually love or opportunities to hang out with people they used to care about. If any of the above rings true, broach your teen carefully and with compassion. Refrain from judgment—even in your mind (your teens have a sixth sense about this). And, if needed, get the help that will help them best—and be sure to ask them what they think this is! Dr. E
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