Mom to Mom - October 2013 by JWM Marketing & Web Design

childhood depression 14

breaking bread 16 date night diva 18

get out & get fit pre natal yoga 20

fun & games coloring 22 puzzles 30

community calendar 24 a little nostalgia 29

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letter from the editor 4 diy costumes 6 clip for a cure 9 mom you should know 10 couch talk

OUR TEAM Matt Scearce – Designer/Layout Eva Williams - Sales Priscilla Metros - Sales Mindy Gear – Contributing Writer Brooke Recktenwall – Contributing Writer Beth Whitaker – Contributing Writer Emma Kester – Contributing Writer Nichole Odijk DeMario – Contributing Writer Amber Neace – Contributing Writer Krystal Taylor – Contributing Writer Front Cover Photo By: Amanda Rose Photography Table of Contents Photo By: Amanda Rose Photography Advertising & Submissions: Mom to Mom, NWI LLC 6212 US HWY 6 Ste. 170, Portage, IN 46368 • (219) 973-5138 Managing Editor / Publisher: Stephanie Vega Edwards stephanie@momtomomnwi.com Sales / Publisher: Roly Martinez 773-416-0665 • rolym05@comcast.net

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Even though I’ve lived in Northwest Indiana for 7 years now, the drastic changing temps still amaze me! It seems like winter and summer stick around FOREVER and spring and fall make a brief appearance. But to my delight, fall came a little early, and it seems to be sticking around. Yippee – I get to keep the windows open and enjoy some fresh air. There is nothing like a crisp fall breeze, especially when you go to bed. I don’t know about you, but curling up in bed with a big ‘ole blanket is the best!! But you know what’s not so great? Trying to get out of bed in the morning when it’s so cold in your room! A couple of weeks ago that happened to me. My oldest daughter came into my room, asking what she should wear for school, and all I could think about was putting the covers over my head and going back to sleep. I told her getting dressed could wait and she should just come in bed and cuddle since it was so cold - but she wasn’t having it!! Why is it that my kids don’t appreciate sleep at all - don’t they realize mommy is in heaven now that the baby is sleeping through the night – I can finally get my sleep back on!!

Before long, my other daughter came into the room, asking for breakfast and I knew this pity party for mom was over. But there was some glimmer of hope at the end of this “getting out of bed” tunnel – my Keurig would be waiting for me, and I could finally treat myself to a hot coffee! I’ve been living off iced coffee for quite some time, but a warm cup was minutes away. Then I remembered, “This is why I love fall so much, why in the world did I think about staying in bed?” I have to save “personal day” for a snowy day – preferably in December! Ok, so what do readers have in store for this crisp and fresh October issue? Well, we’ve got some great articles regarding Halloween – DIY costumes with Amber Neace, and suggestions from our Facebook fans about trick-ortreating alternatives. We also feature a variety of articles in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness, including the story of a local mom who is a breast cancer survivor. And as always, we have your favorites – Couch Talk with Beth, Breaking Bread with Mindy, Get out and Get Fit with Brooke, and the Date Night Diva takes us somewhere healthy! And don’t forget to take a good hard look at our Community Calendar. We have a ton of great events and activities that are going on this month – you won’t want to miss them! So grab a cup of something warm and enjoy the pages of this month’s issue. See you next month!! Take Care,

Stephanie

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fun & games by: Amber Neace

As the sale flyers for Halloween costumes pour in, kids are busy combing through the pages, trying to decide what they want to be. While our kids go back and forth over “what the best costume would be”, us parents sit back and cringe over the cost. When my 6 year old proudly announced that he wanted to be Luke Skywalker for Halloween, I knew I had to get creative - if I didn’t want to spend a ton of money. And as a self-admitted Pinterest junkie, I wasn’t really worried. But once I started scrolling through the feed of costumes, I saw so many other ideas I wanted to try. So, I volunteered my friend with three girls to have them be my models. I made a list of five costumes I wanted to make and went shopping for supplies. Imagine my surprise – and excitement when the total was less than $25!! That’s right - 5 costumes for less than $25 - and just about anyone can make them.

Let’s start with one of my favorite costumes - the candy corn. You can either sew by hand – I did – or use a sewing machine. I bought half of a yard each of white, yellow and orange felt and used a dress that I already had here at the house as a template. I measured the length of the dress and divided it by 3 - that was the length I needed of each color of the felt. After I sewed all three strips together for each side I put them on top of each other, placed the dress over the top and cut out the actual shape of the dress, leave about an inch of excess felt for seam allowance. I then pulled the template dress off, pinned the edges and started sewing. To make sure that the seams held together I used embroidery floss. For the hat I did use my sewing machine, and I followed a tutorial I found online. This can be slightly complicated, especially if you are sewing by hand, but it isn’t so hard that even the most inexperienced crafter can do it. Since it is kind of hard to explain, I suggest looking on Pinterest for the tutorial.

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Candy Corn Costume Felt - $4.50 Orange Leggings - $2.97 Embroidery Thread - $.80 Total - $8.27

Football Costume Brown Felt - $.75 Total - $.75

Now - to my little football! Having a friend with 3 daughters I thought why not make one a little LESS princess. I bought a half yard of brown felt and used a 3-6 month dress as a template and cut out the shape just like with the candy corn costume. Once I sewed the seams together and added a strip of white felt to the bottom, I cut the back all the way down the middle and sewed on ribbon to tie it closed -this gives enough room for layers if needed, and is easy to remove when the time comes. I only used half of the felt that I bought and I put the rest aside to use on another costume. I also used leftover scraps of felt from the candy corn costume to make the laces on the football as well as the white strip at the bottom of the dress.

Mario Costume Red Shirt - $2.44 Red Hat - $2.99 Felt - $.23 Total - $5.66

The next costume I made was Mario. Using overalls that we already had, a red shirt and a red hat (both of which I bought on sale) and some felt, I created a beloved video game character. There isn’t much explanation of how to put this one together but I will tell you this - finding overalls for older kids can be hard but for size 4T and smaller, odds are you can find them at a second hand store.

for this costume - Princess Leia was complete.

Now, on to the costume that started it all - Luke Skywalker. Using khaki pants that I already had, as well as an old karate shirt, all I had to buy was the felt for the belt and the boot covers. But since I had already bout the brown felt for the football costume, I was ready!

Princess Leia was one I was pretty excited to make. I found a tutorial for a no sew version and I think that would have worked out just fine - if the person I was making it for was an older child or teenager.

I started out with a white sheet and cut it in half leaving me with a piece of fabric that is just over 3 feet wide and almost 5.5 feet long. I folded it in half lengthwise then again width wise and was able to cut one corner about 2 inches in to make the hole for the head. Since my son and the girl I was making it for are roughly the same size, I used him as my mannequin. After I draped the fabric on him, I was able to place pins in the shape of the dress and cut off the excess fabric. All it took after that was sewing the seams together and making a collar out of the scrap fabric - and I was done. I did use my sewing machine for this costume. For the belt, I used 2 sheets of foam to cut out the shape of the belt and covered it with shiny fabric using hot glue. That, along with the help of a couple sock buns - youtube this if you don’t know what they are because they are awesome

For the boot covers, I cut out 2 rectangles and rounded out one of the corners and sewed that part together. Then, when you turn them inside out, they fit right over the boot. To make them look more like the boots Luke Skywalker used, I cut 1 inch strips of fabric that were long enough to wrap around my sons leg and hot glued them together. I used velcro to secure the boot covers, and did the same to pieces that wrapped around my sons legs - this created the top of the boot. After cutting a strip of felt for the belt his costume was complete. No stress and barely any mess. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - There is so much you can create from every day things you have around the house. Halloween doesn’t have to be expensive to be fun. Use your imagination and don’t be afraid to get creative. Watch for sales at craft stores and don’t forget to use your coupons!!! Hobby Lobby and Michaels both have coupons you can print online to use on a single item. For Jo-ann Fabrics, you can sign up for their mailing list and have coupons sent to your house. Almost all of the fabric I bought was either on sale or I used a coupon - buying material by the yard will be less expensive. Keep in mind these are just costumes, they do not have to be perfect. Happy crafting! Princess Leia Costume White Sheet - $4.00 Foam - $.66 Silver Fabric - $1.16 Total - $4.66 Misc - Velcro Tabs - $2.47

Luke Skywalker Costume Brown Felt - $.75 Light Brown Felt - $.23 Total - $.98

Total Cost For All 5 Costumes $23.95

feature By: Nichole Odijk DeMario

For those that love to lop off their locks for charity, there’s an opportunity for the entire family to take part to benefit breast cancer research this month. Regis Corporation’s 7,000 salons and 50,000 stylists will host their annual Clip for the Cure Saturday, October 19 throughout the United States, Canada and Puerto Rico. A dozen local salons will be taking part in Lake and Porter counties (see sidebar for details). Participating salons will donate 10 percent of proceeds from each haircut. The funds go towards Regis Foundation for Breast Cancer Research which supports early diagnosis, prevention, treatment and research to find a cure for breast cancer. Anita Kunin, breast cancer survivor and wife of former Regis Chairman Myron Kunin started the Foundation in 1994. Dollars raised go toward research at nationally recognized centers such as Minnesota Masonic Cancer Center and the Mayo Clinic. Since the Foundation was started in mid 1990s, it has raised more than $10 million. Last year alone, stylists gave over 240,000 haircuts. 2012 marked the third year in a row that $1 million dollars was raised during the Clip for the Cure event. “Clip for the Cure is close to our guests and stylists because so many of us knows someone who has been touched by breast cancer. Breast cancer research has been a focus of Regis Corporation for over 20 years, and we’re proud to help raise money and awareness for this cause,” Regis Corporation President and Chief Executive Officer Dan Hanrahan says. The salons will continue to raise monies through the end of the month by selling breast cancer awareness products such as rings, bracelets and other limited-edition pink products. Salons will also be accepting donations to the Foundation. To learn more visit clipforthecure.org and Facebook.com/ clipforthecure.

Local participating salons: Lake County

Fiesta Salons, 1936 E. Commercial Ave., Lowell, 219.696.8609 MasterCuts, 1998 Southlake Mall Ste AL-164, Merrillville, 219.793.9700 SmartStyle, 1100 5th Ave, Hammond, 219.473.1362 SmartStyle, 2936 E. 79th Ave, Merrillville, 219.947.7487 Supercuts, 926 N. Main St., Crown Point, 219.662.9403 Supercuts, 8349 Indianapolis Blvd., Highland, 219.838.4121 Supercuts, 308 Ridge Rd., Munster, 219.836.1396 Supercuts, 136 US Highway 41, Schererville, 219.864.8911

Porter County

Fiesta Salons, 560 E. Indian Boundary Rd. Ste 4, Chesterton, 219.983.1861 Fiesta Salons, 310 Porter’s Vale Ste 130, Valparaiso, 219.465.1043 SmartStyle, 6087 US Highway 6, Portage, 219.364.0870 Supercuts, 1615 Calumet Ave. Ste 700, Valparaiso, 219.476.1768

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by: stephanie edwards

Sandra Schaffer

Since October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, it only seemed fitting to feature a mom who is a breast cancer survivor. Over the years, I’ve heard the stories of many different women who fought the battle with breast cancer and WON. This summer, one of those stories came from someone I know personally. I wanted to share her story not only because she’s someone I care about, but because her story was so encouraging, inspirational and empowering. It all started on July 9th, 2013. “I don’t know what made me decide on that day that I should do a selfbreast exam but I did,” her story began. “To my shock and disbelief, I found a lump.” She immediately called her doctor, and they were able to get her in for an appointment 7 days later. It was on that day; July 16th that Sandra’s worst fears were confirmed. “I had a mammogram done and they confirmed that I had stage 1A breast cancer. I had three lumps in the left and pre-cancerous cells

in the right,” she said. “The news was devastating – it brought me to my knees.” A former marine and current running enthusiast, Sandra couldn’t believe this was really happening. She was in the best physical shape of her life, since her days in the military, and really took care of herself. Sandra turned to her mom - a breast cancer survivor herself, her boyfriend, and her faith to get her through what was to come next. “My mom told me we could get through this – this was just one more thing we’d have to deal with in life,” Sandra said. “And I believed her. I knew with the support system I had, this too would be conquered.” Then two days later, on her 47th birthday, Sandra found out what her next course of action was going to be. “On the 18th, the doctor told me I needed a double mastectomy,” she said. “It seemed like such a radical step, but it was really an easy decision to make. I knew I had to do what was best for me and my son.

Sandra is a single mom, with a 13 year old at home, and she knew she had to be at her best to raise her boy. If going under the knife would have the highest success rate of beating this thing, she knew that it was her only option. Her procedure was scheduled for four days later, and in those four days, Sandra lived life to the fullest. “I went to the Porter County Fair and rode every ride like I was a teenager,” she said. “On that Saturday before my surgery I participated in the Mudathlon, and then on Sunday I went out for some drinks with my girlfriends. I didn’t let what was about to happen stop me from living.” Bright and early Monday morning, July 22nd, Sandra went in for her double mastectomy, with her loved ones by her side. Her surgery went great and her recovery went even better. She wasn’t in too much physical pain, but emotionally, it was a struggle. “Looking in the mirror for the first time after my surgery was really difficult,” she said. “I saw myself as this 12-year old boy; I didn’t see a woman standing there. The image was hard to swallow, but knowing I was one of the healthy ones made the pain lessen.” Sandra didn’t want to dwell on the emotional scars. She was looking at things positively. After all, the surgery removed all her cancer, there was nothing in her lymph nodes, and she didn’t need radiation because her reoccurrence rate is only 17-percent. Now, Sandra is preparing for her reconstructive surgery and looking into how she can help ease the pain and fears of other cancer survivors. “Now that this has happened to me, I see how this affects women,” she said. “So I want to do my part to give back. There’s a program at the Y called Livestrong, it’s for cancer patients. I want to become a personal trainer with these women who are trying to get back their strength. Now that I’ve experienced what they have, I can help them realize there is a light at the end of the tunnel.” And Sandra’s light at the end of her tunnel is her family and friends, her career, and her passion for running. She’s beating the odds every day; she even ran a 10K two weeks post-op. She continues to seek support through a local group called Hope and Healing and hopes others in her shoes will do the same.

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ALTERNATIVES TO

TRICK-OR-TREATING Trick-or-treating is tons of fun for our big kids, but what about our little ones? Living in Northwest Indiana, it’s a mix bag when it comes to the kind of weather we’ll get. Sometimes we are surprised with pleasant temps, but most of the time we are putting winter coats, hats and gloves on our kids – we can’t even see their sweet costumes! Let’s face it, we are not going to leave our little ones home while we take out our older kids, but wouldn’t it be nice to give them something they can enjoy?? So we decide to ask our Facebook fans this question: What are some trick-or-treating alternatives you and your family participate in?? Here’s what some of responses they shared: Liz T., “Instead of going around town, have your kids trick-ortreat in your backyard with a scavenger hunt. This way they can still dress in costume and experience the joy of surprise candy treats, but if after a half hour they are tired, you can call it a night!” Renee K., “A lot of the kid’s schools have open Halloween parties where you can take any age child. It’s indoors and their plenty of games for them to play. Also, some churches do a truck or treat and they too have indoor activities. If all else fails, get them dressed, take them to grams or a friends’ house, take pictures, eat pizza and watch a Halloween movie!”

Becky S., “We love to decorate mini pumpkins. We pull out the markers, stickers, feathers, and glitter and make all different kinds. And of course, we do all this with our costumes on, we like to get as many uses out of our costumes as possible.” Angie T., “We love a good Halloween party. We have the kids do all sorts of different crafts, have mini scavenger hunts in the house, and play all sorts of Halloween themed games. When I was a kid we used to bob for apples at parties. I put a twist on that classic game, and hang pumpkin donuts from a string and have the kids eat it with no hands. It’s a lot of fun to watch, and the kids have a blast.” Kat O., “I love decorating cookies with my boys. We break out the cookie cutters and make different shapes like pumpkins, spiders and cats and then decorate them with different colored frostings and sprinkles. It’s a yummy treat!” Rachel H., “We love taking our kids to our church trunk-or-treat! They get to put their costumes on and get lots of treats – without having to walk a lot! Plus, there are games for them to play inside” Jill T., “This is the time of year I like to pull out the paint! I lay out newspaper, and let the kids have fun painting their pumpkin. It’s more fun than carving because they are able to more hands on.” Sue R., “We like to have a costume party for the neighborhood kids and the highlight of the party is the piñata. Instead of going door to door in the cold, the kids all take a turn whacking the piñata, and when the candy pours out; the kids dive in and fill their goody bags. That’s all the candy they need - and they had fun getting it.” Karina G., “The mall hosts a little event for families so that’s a great way to get on those costumes while staying warm! We also like to go on hayrides during the Halloween season. This year we plan to take our son to the apple orchard because they will be having an event with trick-or-treating, bounce houses, crafts and food vendors.” Kristin B., “For the past two years we have been doing Halloween fashion shows. We invite our friends and families over and tell them to bring any past Halloween costumes they have. Then all the kids take turns putting on different costumes and showing them off to the crowd – all us parents and adults! The kids get a kick out of it, and sometimes the adults get in on the action - its family fun at its finest.” Are you our Facebook fan? If you haven’t had a chance to “like” us yet, be sure to do so www. facebook.com/momtomomnwi.

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by Beth Whitaker Beth@momtomomnwi.com

CouchTalk

We think of childhood as a carefree time in a young personâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s life where they have no worries. Unfortunately, that is not the case for every child. Childhood depression is different from the normal â&#x20AC;&#x153;ups and downsâ&#x20AC;? that come with emotions all children experience. Similarly, just because a child is sad, it does not mean that the child is depressed. There are a variety of reasons why a child becomes depressed. Some of these could include genetic factors or a difficult event (such as abuse or the death of a family member). The single most significant reason for a child to become depressed is the influence of having a depressed parent. Children tend to feel less supported and there may be more parent-child conflict. 14

With as many as 1 in every 33 children experiencing depression, we need to be aware of the warning signs so that the child can seek treatment. • Persistent sadness or hopelessness • Increased irritability or agitation • Missed school or poor performance • Changes in eating and sleeping habits • Indecision, lack of concentration or forgetfulness • Poor self-esteem or guilt

• Frequent physical complaints (headaches or stomachaches) • Lack of enthusiasm, low energy or motivation • Drug and/or alcohol abuse • Thoughts of death or suicide • Reduced eye contact

It is important to remember that the child with depression will not just snap out of it. Being depressed is not a personal weakness or character flaw. It is a disorder in the brain that affects how a person feels, thinks and acts. The symptoms of depression in a younger child will vary than that of an older child.

Depression in a preschool age

Depression in school-aged

Not playing Not starting to talk or not talking after your child has learned to talk Harming themselves or other (biting, hitting or aggressive play) Going backwards in their learning (potty training) Changes in weight Being overly friendly with everyone, treating strangers the same as family Not relating to others, acting as if they were not there Not seeming to be attached to parents or care takers Doing the same play or activity over and over again.

Constant crying and clinginess Fears, worries or excessive anxiety about being left alone Ongoing sleep problems (persistent nightmares) Hyperactivity, constant movement beyond regular playing Difficulties focusing or concentrating Fall in school performance Unexplained laughing or crying Wetting pants Ongoing disobedience or aggression towards people or pets Being so afraid that they are unable to do usual activities Frequent temper tantrums Cruelty to pets Property damage or lighting fires Withdrawing from people or usual activities

With all of those symptoms in mind, it is important for parents to try to stay in touch with their child. The more aware you are of your child’s behavior and feelings, the easier it will be to pinpoint difficulties. Spending time every day is important as well as maintaining an active interest in what your child enjoys. We can also set a positive example for our child by modeling appropriate behavior and coping in our own lives. Along with modeling, we need to keep our adult problems out of the way of our children. Our children do not need to carry our burdens so make sure that we deal with those difficulties with support people other than our children. We can hopefully show our children how to maintain healthy relationships and encourage them to do the same. We also need to spend time with our children doing fun things and also doing “work”. Work on chores together as a family. Notice things that your child does well and tell him or her, but also avoid comparing your child to other children. Tell your child in as many ways that you can that you love him/her. Remember that the emotional health of our children is as important as their physical health. We need to help them stay healthy and get help with help is needed. If you believe your child is struggling with depression and it has persisted for several months, call your doctor or a local mental health agency. Depression is very treatable so get help early.

Beth Whitaker is a licensed mental health counselor and mother of two boys. She works with Samaritan Counseling Counter in Michigan City and teaches Human Services classes for Kaplan University.

eats By: Mindy Gear

Budget Friendly Meals With crisp cool temps finally here, I can start heating up the kitchen with some good ole-fashioned comfort food. Usually, when we think of fall foods favorites, the first that come to mind are chili, hearty soup and pies. But sometimes, eating hearty means blowing the grocery budget! So this month, we are continuing our “budget-busting” meal ideas by using ground beef. Ground beef is not only great to use for a quick meal, but it also doesn’t break the bank when you stock up on those family packs! What I like to do with this big packages is either break them down into small packages for freezing or pre-cook it and freeze in 1-2 lb containers for quicker weeknight meals.

One of my favorites to make in October is Cheeseburger Soup. It is creamy and delicious - a must try. This soup is a hit in my home and will surely be a hit at yours!

Cheeseburger Soup

The soup turns out creamy with the addition of sour cream. Try a variety of seasonings, canned tomatoes or black beans to make this soup your own. ½ lb ground beef

1 small onion, chopped 1 cup shredded carrots ½ cup chopped celery Chopped jalapeño (if desired) 2 Tbsp butter 1 tsp dried basil 1 tsp dried parsley 2 Tbsp Worcestershire sauce 3 cups chicken broth 4 cups cubed potatoes ¼ cup all-purpose flour 8 oz cheddar cheese, shredded 1 ½ -2 cups milk ¼ cup sour cream

Brown ground beef with onion, carrots, celery, peppers (if using) and butter. Stir in basil, parsley and 2 Tbsp Worcestershire sauce (other seasonings, if desired). Add potatoes and broth.

Bring to boil and simmer for 15 minutes. Whisk milk and flour together, pour slowly into soup and reduce heat to simmer. Stir in cheese. When cheese is fully melted, add sour cream and heat thoroughly. Be careful not to boil once you have added cheese and sour cream. Garnish with crispy bacon. We probably all have a recipe for meatballs up our sleeve, but this one is a great because it makes LOTS of meatballs. I freeze them in small batches to toss into a crockpot for spaghetti or meatball sandwiches.

Meatballs

4 lbs ground beef 3 cups bread crumbs 4 eggs, beaten ½ cup grated parmesan cheese 1 tsp salt ½ tsp pepper ½ tsp celery salt ½ tsp nutmeg ½ tsp garlic ½ tsp oregano ½ cup milk Mix all ingredients and shape into approximately 2” balls. Place on baking sheet with edges. Bake 30 minutes at 350. Simmer in sauce or divide and freeze. A quick, easy and inexpensive meal is the beef macaroni skillet. This dish is great because you don’t have to resort to using a boxed version of this meal to save time and money. Plus, the whole family will enjoy it.

Beef Macaroni Skillet 1 lb ground beef 1 medium onion, chopped 3 cups tomato juice 1 Tbsp Worcestershire sauce 1 Tbsp vinegar 1 Tbsp brown sugar Salt/pepper to taste 1 tsp ground mustard 1 cup uncooked macaroni

Of course it couldn’t be fall without an apple recipe. Try this delicious Apple Crisp. Whether fresh picked or purchased at the local market, choose your favorite apple to make this crisp. Using real maple syrup adds a different flavor to this apple crisp. There is a yummy maple cream sauce to top this already amazing dish.

Apple Crisp

6 apples, peeled and sliced 1 cup flour ½ cup sugar ½ cup light brown sugar, packed 1 tsp cinnamon ½ tsp nutmeg ¼ tsp salt 1 stick unsalted butter (1/2 cup) ½ lemon, juiced 2 Tbsp real maple syrup Toss lemon juice and maple syrup with apples. Spread in greased 8” or 9” square pan. In separate bowl, mix flour, sugars, spices and salt. Cut chilled butter into small pieces and cut into flour until crumbly. Sprinkle over apples. Cover with foil and bake at 350 for 15 minutes. Remove foil and bake additional 20-30 minutes until brown on top.

Optional Maple Cream Sauce

You could top the apple crisp with ice cream, fresh whipping cream or milk, but why not try this smooth and creamy maple cream sauce. It’s worth the extra effort! 1 cup heavy cream 5 Tbsp pure maple syrup 3 Tbsp light corn syrup Pour all ingredients into saucepan and whisk over moderate heat until thick and reduced by a third. This process takes approximately 15 minutes. Chill to thicken before serving. Enjoy!!

Brown beef and onion in skillet. Add remaining ingredients and cook with lid on until macaroni is done. Stir occasionally. Cooking time will depend on pasta type used. Refer to box for an approximate time.

eats By: Emma Kester

Higher Level Nutrition

123 E. 93rd Ave. • Crown Point, In 46307 (219) 769-9333

Normally, I write food reviews on different restaurants I like to try for date nights or nights out with the family. But this month, I wanted to do something a little different. I thought I’d share with readers a little place I just discovered – some may say it’s a best kept secret. Apparently this place is all the rage - the greatest trend to hit Northwest Indiana, and it has become my new stomping ground for breakfast and dinner. Higher Level Nutrition, located at 123 E. 93rd Avenue in Crown Point, offers up more than 50 decadent healthy meals created with their scientifically proven premium Formula 1 shake mix. These shakes are as tasty and filling as a 1200 calorie meal but consist of 200 calories – or less. But at Higher Level Nutrition, it’s much more than handing you a shake and running out the door. This place is designed to help you lose weight, maximize your health, and to teach you about good nutrition that will give you a better life. Let me rewind a bit and fill you in on how I discovered HLN. A few months ago I had my tonsils removed and as an adult it is no walk in the park! I was hungry and couldn’t eat. A friend recommended HLN, and I was on board the minute I heard it was something I could drink that was going to fill me up! She also explained how it was filled with protein, and that is what the doctor told me I needed. Upon my visit, I discovered many benefits to the “Protein Shake World!” So here’s how things work at Higher Level Nutrition: these are there three guidelines to success:

Step 1 - Aloe: Having 1 to 2 capfuls of aloe per small glass of water. This helps with acid reflux, heartburn, indigestion and skin. These capfuls have zero calories Step 2 - Tea: Drinking ½ tsp per 16oz.of water helps boost metabolism and is a clean energy , that means NO Crash and NO Jitters. The tea also helps to burn up to 200 calories. Step 3 – Shake: With over 50+ flavors, 20+ grams of protein, 24+ vitamins/minerals, and 2 servings of fruits and veggies these shakes are delicious and effective. The shake is equivalent to a 1,200 calorie meal except they are all UNDER 200 calories guaranteed!! It’s no secret that, as a nation we’re getting fatter. And, along with extra pounds comes an increased risk for chronic diseases such as diabetes and high blood pressure. Obesity isn’t picky when it comes to victims. Millions of victims are affected. Research shows that drinking two shakes a day and eating one healthy meal will lead to weight loss; while having one shake a day will help you maintain your weight. I found that by taking these products, along with healthy eating habits and exercise I feel better, my skin looks the best it ever has, I’m in a better mood, and I have the energy I need to make it through the day. I recommend checking out Higher Level Nutrition; the staff is friendly, knowledgeable and very helpful. I’m a busy mom and don’t always have time to meet my needs. The way I have felt since supplementing two meals a day has made a huge difference in my life. Higher Level Nutrition is open Monday through Friday from 6:30am5:00pm, Saturday from 8:00am-2:00pm, and Sunday from 9:00am12:00pm. For more information, check them out on Facebook www. facebook.com/higherlevelnutrition.

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Massage Therapy

by: Brooke Recktenwall

GET OUT GET FIT

Fall is officially here! It’s my absolute favorite season! I look forward to leaves, pumpkins, and slowing down my busy lifestyle just a bit to enjoy the beauty around me. My Get Out & Get Fit experience for this month encompasses the idea of slowing down and taking a moment for you. I am a firm believer in massage therapy truly being therapeutic and an integral part of stress release and over all wellness for our bodies, which we tend to abuse on a daily basis. So when I sought out to find a local therapist that goes above and beyond the common massage, I was referred to Gloria Piette. Gloria specializes in her own special fusion of reiki, massage, somatic release, and craniosacral therapy. She refers to her method as the “Uncommon Therapeutic Treatment” and she couldn’t be more honest. The healing power in her hands is truly remarkable and you really have to try it to believe it.

Reiki, Craniosacral Therapy & Somatic Release Explained: Craniosacral Therapy is a gentle, hands-

on approach that works with the Craniosacral system to detect, correct and release stress from the body. It encourages the body’s natural healing intelligence to dissipate the negative restrictions of stress - which affect the central nervous system by increasing physical vitality and well-being. The Somatic Release technique assists the body, mind and spirit in the release of emotional restrictions or imprints such as physical trauma or intense feelings that are a result of injury, anger or fear. This trauma leaves a residue referred to as energy cysts, which have found to be the root of many illnesses. Reiki is a Japanese healing method designed to enhance relaxation and assist in the movement of vital life force energy (chi) in order to promote good health. This gentle hands on or hands off technique will release stressors

that have formed in the muscular skeletal structures, organs and tissues of the body. This treatment promotes deep relaxation while opening the energetic centers of the body, in order to promote wellness by moving the blocks out of the body’s meridian system.

Gloria’s Uncommon Therapeutic Treatment Experience: I am absolutely thrilled to announce that I

am expecting a baby girl this coming February! I am very excited about her arrival and being pregnant, however my poor body has been enduring the changes that take place while pregnant - so Gloria really had her work cut out for her! I have been tense, sleeping poorly and nauseous. The space where Gloria offers her therapeutic massage is very serene and you feel yourself begin to relax in the space and Gloria’s presence. Calming music, comfy massage table, soft linens and aromatherapy are all part of this great experience. Because of my growing belly, she had me lay on my side while she worked her magic. I literally felt my stress float away within the first 10 minutes. Gloria’s technique and touch are beyond amazing, and when she finished up the Reiki treatment I could literally feel some type of energy flowing out of my feet - truly euphoric! I will be visiting Gloria on a monthly basis until my little peanut arrives!

Where to Find Gloria Piette: Gloria works out of Asana Yoga Studio in downtown Valparaiso. Aside from the therapies that I mentioned above, Gloria specializes in prenatal, postpartum and infant unwinding techniques. She works out of the studio by appointment only and can be reached at 219.926.5901. You can check out the Asana website to find out more information about Gloria Piette at www.asanacenter.com.

By: Nichole Odijk DeMario breastfeeding benefits are for premenopausal women when breast cancer is the hardest to treat. Had I not breastfed I might have been diagnosed in those more dangerous years and I’m not sure what the outcome could have been.”

The state of Indiana has a breastfeeding initiation rate nearly 14 percent lower than the nation. The percentage of Hoosier moms and babies exclusively breastfeeding at six months drops to 13.8 percent, nearly three percent below national averages. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recognized these deficiencies and offered grants to groups willing to improve these numbers. A grant was awarded to St. Mary Medical Center. Through the support of its administration, the Northwest Indiana Breastfeeding Coalition (NWIBFC) was created. The group was formed in June 2013 and is still in its development stages. It’s made up of local International Board Certified Lactation Consultants and staff from Community, St. Anthony, St. Mary Medical Center and Methodist hospitals; Fagen Pharmacy; Latch Ladies; Medela; WIC and North Shore Health Centers. “We want to extend hospital care and education [as it pertains to breastfeeding] after discharge,” Founder Diane Gora said. “We know that in the first several days, mothers start to doubt whether or not breastfeeding is working. By six weeks many have given up or are supplementing with formula. We’d like to provide them the resources and support they need when they go home.” According to Gora, who is also an IBCLC and Registered Nurse at St. Mary Medical Center, statistics support that babies who are exclusively breastfeed and then nursed for up to a year are better off than their formula-fed counterparts. And there are benefits to the mother as well. Mothers who breastfeed LOWER their risk of breast, cervical, ovarian and uterine cancers during premenopausal years. Lowering the risk, not preventing it is something Gora knows all too well. Despite the fact that she breastfed all four of her children for a total of 11 years, she is a breast cancer survivor. “People were shocked to hear I was diagnosed with breast cancer knowing I had breastfed my children,” she explained. “I emphasize that

Since its inception, the coalition has hosted an inaugural event, a Nursing Mothers’ Nook at the Lake County Fairgrounds in August. Each organization in the coalition provided printed resources. More than 300 individuals stopped by and 82 mothers breastfed inside the nook. Dalena Jimenez, a mother of a 21-month-old and who is expecting her second child this month, exclusively breastfed her son until he was six months old and then continued until he self-weaned at 18 months. She was one of four women to become a Certified Lactation Counselor through the coalition’s grant monies. Jimenez takes part in the NWIBFC’s Lactation Station, which is a support group and information hub held at the Hobart Chamber of Commerce every second and fourth Tuesday from 1:30 to 3 pm. Mothers along with their children are welcome to receive help with their breastfeeding concerns from the Certified Lactation Counselors. “There is support locally for women, but it’s knowing where the good, encouraging support is that is hard to come by,” Jimenez said. Jimenez and Gora agreed it’s never too early to start educating oneself on the benefits of breastfeeding. “We’re all afraid our babies are going to starve to death,” Gora said. “Many mothers think this is a natural thing and it’s just going to happen. They’re a lot of things that can impact the initiation and longevity and you have to prepare for those things sometimes.” To learn more about the NWIBFC’s Lactation Station, future events and more visit the group’s Facebook page. You may also email nwibfcoalition@gmail.com or call Gora at 219.947.6084. The group meets the second Wednesday each month at 6 pm at St. Mary’s Medical Center in Conference Room 3A. The meetings are open to any interested individual.

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Artists of the Month

Ava Samis, Age 8

Claire Starr, Age 6

Lilliana Stack., Age 7

Michael Bosko, Age 4

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Everyone loves a contest – but this one is for the kids!! We are asking children 10 years and under to color this page and win a chance of being published in an upcoming issue of Mom to Mom, NWI. To enter, submit this colored page to: Mom to Mom, NWI 6212 US HWY 6, Suite 170 • Portage, IN 46368. Winners will be notified by phone or email and displayed in the November Mom to Mom Good luck!!!

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community calendar Upcoming Races in Northwest Indiana: *2nd Annual Devil Dash 5K Run and 2 Mile Walk

October 5th with a start time of 8:00am -The Devils Dash 5K course has been mapped out on and off road to give each participant a challenging experience. The race gets started at 195 W. Oakley Avenue in Lowell.

*3rd Annual Habitat for Humanity of Northwest Indiana 5K Walk/Run

October 12th with a start time of 9:00am -This walk/run has a staggered start for running participants, walking participants, and family participants (children in strollers, wagons, etc.) Snacks, warm beverages and Habitat for Humanity apparel and goodies will be available. There will also be a spectator section for family and friends to cheer on!

*Monster Dash 5K Run/Walk

October 19th at 8:00am -Munster Parks and Recreation is hosting the Monster Dash 5K Walk/Run around Centennial Park and Munster neighborhoods. Cost is $20 before October 10th, $25 after. Awards will be presented to the top three finishers in each category <10 to 70 + male and female.

*Manda’s Race - Chesterton

October 26th with a start time of 9:00am -This is the series Championship Race for the Extra Mile Racing Series. The race features a Champion’s Division along with an “all comers” Open Division. The Champion’s Race will start 5 minutes before the Open Division. In order to participate in the Champion’s Division, a participant must have finished as the Overall or Masters Winner, or in the Top 5 in their age at a qualifying race.

*The Running Dead Chicago - Highland

October 26th with a start time of 1:00pm -The Running Dead is a Halloween Celebration of all things ZOMBIE! The course is a paved path 24

that works its way through the scenic Wicker Park (which will be spooked up a bit). This races is open to teams or individuals and features waves of “fun runs” and then a Ca$h Da$h. The “fun runs” will start on the hour at 1:00pm, 2:00pm and 3:00pm and include a mixture of obstacles, both man-made and undead, that will get your heart pounding and your legs moving. Then at 4:00pm, you can test your limits with the Ca$h Da$h – same course, same zombies. Here’s the deal – this one is a timed event with prize money. The first place team or individual wins $500, second wins $250 and third gets $100. Then, stay after the race for “My Zombie Prom 2013”. Live music, beverages, and appetizers are being served. The fee to enter this race is $30. A portion of all proceeds for this event will benefit the American Cancer Society, St. Jude’s Children’s Hospital land the Wounded Warrior Foundation. For more information, visit www.therunningdeadchicago.com.

*Monster Dash Halloween Run

October 27th at 2:00pm -Valparaiso Parks presents a new event for families: the Monster Dash Halloween Run. Dress as your favorite super hero, villain, or fairy tale character for this 1K Family Fun Run or 5K Race. Entry fee is $15 for 1K Family Fun Run, $25 for 5K Race, and $30 for both. The race gets started at Central Park Plaza. For more information, go to www.valpoparks.org or call 219.462.5144.

*Fall Frolic – Hammond

November 3rd with a start time of 9:00am -This 4 Mile Run gets started at the FRC Building, located at 2300 173rd Street in Hammond. Entry fee is $20. For more information, contact the race director at Stills@purduecal.edu.

*Valparaiso Half Marathon

November 10th with a start time of 8:30am -This half marathon is a flat and fast course with very few turns or intersections. Running

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by November 1st. For more information, send an email to Mackenna@unitedwaypc.org

*Run, Walk and Roll 5K – Michigan City

November 23rd with a start time of 9:00am -The Blue Chip Casino, Hotel and Spa is hosting this 5K Run. Race Fee is $25 before November 22nd. All race proceeds go to the LaPorte County United Way to benefit families of LaPorte County whose children are receiving care at Riley Children’s Hospital. If you have any questions about this race, contact the race director at NCaylor2@northwestathleticclub. net.

*2013 Valparaiso Turkey Trot

November 28th with a start time of 8:00am -A holiday tradition since 2003, the Valparaiso Turkey Trot brings together families and friends from all over the region. This race is hosted by Porter-Starke Services Foundation and proceeds from this event benefit mental health and wellness programs and resources in Northwest Indiana. Turkey Trot has become the largest race of its kind in Northwest Indiana.

Family & Kid Events: *Fall Hayrides at Lakewood

October 4th to November 3rd -Enjoy an autumn evening at Roger-Lakewood Park as you ride along on a tractor-drawn hay wagon. Then, gather around a glowing campfire – bring your marshmallows! This is a great outing

for youth groups, scouts, service clubs, birthday parties and parent organizations. Hayrides are offered on Friday and Saturday evenings and Sunday afternoons. Cost is $60 for residents, $70 for non-residents, and includes a 45-minute ride and a 45-minute campfire for your entire group. For more information, call 219.462.5144.

*Hebron Elementary Arts and Crafts Fair

October 12th from 9:00am-3:00pm -The 32 Annual Hebron Elementary Arts & Crafts Fair features over 125 booth spaces at an indoor show. The annual Hebron Elementary Arts & Crafts Fair features over 125 booth spaces at an indoor show. Luncheon will be available. Booths and vendors will include wood craft, tole painting, knitting and crochet, floral, holiday décor, jewelry candles, baked goods lace, doll clothes and nuts.

*Fall Kids Closet Sale

October 12th from 8:00am-12:00pm - It’s that time of year; the Mothers & More Fall Kids Closet Sale is right around the corner. The sale is open to the public and offers over 30 tables of fantastic things for baby, toddler, child and mother-to-be. From clothes to toys to high chairs, there are gently used items at prices that can’t be beat! It is an annual fundraiser for Mothers & More of Porter County. “We continue to build on the amazing success of our popular sale that has been held for the past 11 years.” said event chairperson, Jennifer Jones. “The selection of clothing and toys is second to none. It really is a phenomenal sale with so much to choose from in one place.” The sale will be held on Saturday, October 12th, 2013 from 8:00 a.m. to 12:00 p.m. at the Butterfield Family Pavilion in Valparaiso at the corner of Evans and Calumet. Admission is $2.00 per person from 8:00 a.m. to 10:00 a.m. After 10:00 a.m. admission is $1.00 per person. Persons under 18 years old are always admitted without charge. There’s always a line out the door, so arrive early! To reserve a table for next spring, or for more information, contact Nicky at kidsclosetmothersandmore@yahoo.com.

community calendar *9th Annual CowtoberFest

October 19th from 9:00am-9:00pm -Fair Oaks Farm is hosting their annual CowtoberFest. Families are invited to come out in their Halloween costumes, and enjoy various activities including games, hayrides, and arts and crafts. Children will also be able to trick-or-treat at the vendor booths from 10:00am-12:00pm.

*Hesston Ghost Train

October 19th to October 27th Saturdays and Sundays from 12:00pm-5:00pm -Take the haunted Ghost Train through haunted woods along the Indiana/Michigan border. Admission is $5 for adults, $3 for children 12 and under. For more information, call 219.778.2783.

-Wear your spookiest or silliest costume and go door-to-door in Valparaiso’s downtown to get some tasty treats from our restaurants and retailers. Visit Central Park Plaza for treats and fun in the park. There will be a live performance on the Porter Health Amphitheater stage from 4:00pm to 6:00pm. Free Hayrides will also be provided by the Valparaiso Parks Department!

*”Howl”oween in the Dunes

October 26th and 27th -Come out for a weekend of spooky fun at Indiana Dunes State Park. The “Howl”oween in the Dunes will feature activities like harrowing hikes, creepy crafts, a campsite decorating contest, and the ever-popular owl banding. Admission for this event is $5 for Indiana residents and $10 for outof-state residents.

Mom and Adult Events: *Pumpkins, Witches and Hayrides, Oh My! *Whiting Oktoberfest October 19th from 10:00am-4:00pm -Join Munster Parks and Recreation for a family day of fun! Enjoy pumpkin picking, a hayride, have your face painted, jump in the bounce houses, and play games. Come in costume to enter their costume contest! You can even trickor-treat local area businesses. This is a fall fest that’s not to be missed! Free activities include: costume contest, trick-or-treating, pumpkin bowling, and other games.

October 5th from 11:00am-11:00pm -Join Whiting in celebrating their 4th annual Oktoberfest. This all day fest has activities for all ages: hayrides and games for the kids, craft and vendor shows, food, chili cook-off, German bands and of course beer for the adults. For more information, call 219.659.0292.

*In The Dome Fall Fair

October 5th from 3:00pm-11:00pm -Enjoy some food, festivities and fun at Oktoberfest. Activities to participate include

October 20th from 12:00pm-6:00pm -This free indoor event features nearly 60 vendors and crafters from Northwest Indiana displaying their talents, wares and products! Handmade, homemade and start-ups will all be there along with the Crown Point Fire Department and Police Department with demos of CPR and Search and Rescue. Food and more fun in the arcade across from the Dome in the Crown Point Family Fun Center! The fair is also on November 3rd.

*Fall Harvest Festival

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*Crown Point Oktoberfest

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- pie eating contest, chili cook off, bean *Massage Envy Spa Grand Opening bag tournament and live music. For more October 14th from 6:00pm-7:30pm -A new spa is opening its doors in Highland, and information, call 219.662.3290.

*Porter’s Perfect Pint Festival

October 5th from 1:00pm-5:00pm -Come out for the 3rd Annual Porter’s Perfect Pint Festival and sample beer and cider from over 30 regional and national craft brewers. VIP Tickets cost $50, General Admission costs $35, and Designated Drivers pay $15. This event will go on – rain or shine at Hawthorne Park.

*3rd Annual Walk for Wigs

October 12th at 9:00am -Come out and walk/run for a great cause. The annual Walk for Wigs takes place at Wicker Memorial Park in Highland. The cost of this event is $25 and all money raised goes toward providing wigs to women in Northwest Indiana who have lost their hair in their fight against cancer. You can pick up a registration form at Accents on 5th in Highland or download it at http://tinyurl.com/ walkforwigs2013.

they want you to come celebrate! Massage Envy Spa, located at 10343 Indianapolis Blvd., Suite 107 (in the Highland Grove Shopping Center next to Target), will have a formal ribbon cutting with Highland Vice President Bernie Zemen. Neighborhood guests will be able to mingle and meet and greet and enjoy mini massages, compliments of Massage Envy Highland’s professional massage therapists. The state-ofthe-art 3,300 square-foot clinic has 14 therapy rooms. For more information about Massage Envy Highland, call 219.922.0900.

*Wine & Canvas

October 8th, 15th, 22nd and 29th starting at 6:00pm -The Blue Chip Casinos’ It’s Vegas Baby! is hosting painting classes with cocktails! During these entertaining classes, an artist walks the novice painters through the actual painting – with fun music playing and a social atmosphere. Anyone 27

community calendar can register at wineandcanvas.com and choose he date/painting they would like to paint. All art supplies will be included, and you go home with your own original painting. The cost is $35 per person. For more information, go to www. bluechipcasino.com/whats-new/events/wine-_canvas.

KIDS EAT FREE OR REDUCED: Amarillo Roadhouse –Kids eat free on Tuesday at the location in Schererville.

Golden Corral – All day, every day, kids 3 and

under eat FREE from the buffet with the purchase of an adult meal (limit 2) at the Merrillville location. Kids ages 4-7 are $2.99, 8-10 are $4.99, and 11 and 12 year olds are $5.99. A drink is included in the price.

Goodfellas Bar and Grill, Cedar Lake –

Kids get a free meal when an adult entrée is purchased. The daily special is not included in this deal.

Quaker Steak and Lube – On Wednesday’s,

the Portage location offers a $3.99 kids meal, all day long. This includes a drink.

Bob Evans – Kids eat free on Tuesday nights

Pops Italian Beef, Dyer – On Tuesday’s, kids with the purchase of an adult entrée at Merrillget a $.99 kids meal with the purchase of a value ville, Chesterton and Valparaiso locations. meal. Boston’s Gourmet Pizza – Kids eat free on

Reuben’s Mexican Grill – Sunday is Family Sundays AND Wednesdays with the purchase Day! Kids 10 and under eat free with the purof an adult entrée of $9.99 or more at the Scherchase of an adult entrée. Dine in only. erville location. Buffalo Wild Wings – On Wednesday and

Shenanigan’s Pub and Eatery – Kids eat free

on Wednesday’s and Sundays with the purchase Sunday, kids 12 and under get half-price kids of an adult entrée. Shenanigan’s is located on meals at Buffalo Wild Wings in Valparaiso. Route 20 in Portage.

Denny’s – Kids can eat free at Denny’s on

Tuesday and Saturday night from 4pm to 10pm. For every one regularly priced adult entrée purchased, two free kid’s meals are given. That means a family with four children can eat for the price of just two adult entrees. The deal is limited to children 10 and under and is available at the Merrillville, Hebron, Portage and Michigan City location.

Fazoli’s – On Tuesdays, kids 12 and under eat

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Texas Roadhouse – On Monday nights, the

Dyer location has $.99 kids meals, with the purchase of an adult entrée. There is a limit of 2 kids meals per family. Andy Armadillo, the mascot, can also be found on these nights, walking around the restaurant and playing with the kids! ***Do you have an event you want to share with us? Just send an email to Stephanie@ momtomomnwi.com. The deadline for your entry is due by the 15th.

by: krystal taylor

Our kids have been back to school for nearly two months, but I still find it hard to get back into the “school groove”. With all the activities and homework, it really can be quite challenging – and frankly I’m already EXHAUSTED!! You know, it’s funny, when I was growing up I never really had a clear definition of what it meant to be a great parent. I didn’t know if it was a secret, something I’d learn with time. And then this past week - after feeling defeated by the day, feeling like I’m always in a rush - it hit me! I had to take a seat and reflect a moment on my childhood because suddenly I had a whole new appreciation for everything my grandparents did for me – and I realized that the secret to great parenting was with me all along. I can think back to my school days when things were seemingly perfect. Every day there was hot breakfast on the table, normally pancakes and eggs, and a smile on my Grandmothers face. She would sit down with me, talk about my day and always ask about my plans. I can remember the way that kitchen felt - always surrounded by aromas of delicious food and my grandparents tea they brewed - I never felt rushed. I remember thinking how much I didn’t like the bright ugly yellow kitchen (ok, I hated the color), and always wondered why my grandparents thought it was “ok” to scribble up the walls with pens in the kitchen (marking how much I grew every few months). There were magnets all over their fridge, marking each place my grandparents had traveled together, and silly little trinkets all over the tops of the cabinets, which I would always stare at. I spent so much time in that kitchen as a kid, not realizing all I was soaking in.

children to sit back and notice the color of our kitchen - maybe they will hate it, maybe they will love it. I want them to have time to inspect every trinket I have, which most are from my own childhood, and every mark on the wall. I just want life to slow down a bit. I now understand the significance of those markings on the wall. Those were not just “scribbles” on the wall that stuck out like a sore thumb, those were markings of a family that spent time indulging in the small moments that so many of us take for granted, myself included. Those were the markings of two people, in love, two people who had a second chance at parenting – MY GRANDPARENTS! And I think about how lucky they were – the second time around they figured out the secret to happiness, that secret to great parenting, INDULGENCE! So now, I will take every moment I can to indulge in my family and in the messy scribbles of life. And I’m going to do it the right way, the first time around. The dirty dishes and laundry can wait - now is the time to stop and smell the roses! I hope you find time to do the same!

That is, until NOW! Now that I’m a parent, I look at my own mornings and my own kitchen and I realize it lacks something, something I can’t buy – INDULGENCE!! It lacks that feeling of indulgence that I would feel each morning in that bright yellow kitchen. I’m so busy spending my mornings getting breakfast ready, packing lunches, cleaning up, and getting my three children out the door – I just feel so rushed!! There is no time to indulge in what is going on around us. I feel like we, or maybe just myself, are always go, go, go. There needs to be more time to soak in the moment. There needs to be more time for my 29

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