Kapawa Minizine Volume 7, Issue 1

Editor

s Note

If life itself is the world’s most extensive masquerade ball, can we truly trust our intuition when viewing circumstances and folks in our circle? As we put on our thinking caps to weigh the factors and give our two cents, the contrast between people’s answers to this question becomes more prominent.

Many of us like putting extra effort into certain things to make a good impression for various reasons, whether to establish respect, attract our target audience, or simply feel good about ourselves. Although there’s nothing wrong with any of these motives, their outcomes can cause more harm than good in some instances—as some impressions’ bases are prejudices attached to one’s character. Consequently, how we desire people to view us tend to differ from how they frankly perceive us.

It is not news for everyone to have different degrees of standards when faced with new circumstances and people.

It is not wrong—especially when it comes to knowing what we rightfully deserve. However, lapses occur when we try to enforce these standards on the ones around us when they have norms of their own. So when someone tries to crucify others for being poles apart from them, that’s when chaos ensues. Life then becomes a competition of who has the better moral compass, so the lines between righteousness and hypocrisy suddenly blur.

The moment this “competition” commences, a part of the crowd suddenly goes into hysteria to try and cover up their defects and shortcomings. It’s as if someone pulled the trigger to awaken their strong sense of morality—and some start to insist they shouldn’t be subjects of the same criteria as others—for their creed is far more fair, pure, and authentic. So by directing the blame’s spotlight on those they consider ‘different’ and tying hoaxes to the natures of those from the other

side, there appears a bandaid above their crippling insecurities. As sad as it is, many have fallen victim to the results of this toxic stereotyping culture by plaster saints.

These pigeonholes have cut several wings—preventing the free-spirited folks from soaring high towards paths they want to pursue. As a result, sufferers’ outcries have grown louder these past few years. When all they’ve wanted is to live their lives on their terms, yet the world couldn’t stop babbling about what they should be and what they shouldn’t be—vexation is an inevitable product.

It’s challenging to deal with a problem like this when it’s firmly rooted in the majority’s psyche and beliefs Nevertheless, it doesn’t stop many bona fide souls from shattering them into pieces and amplifying the voices of the restrained. Indeed, it is high time to break free from societal standards preventing one from expressing their individuality.

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Mirrors, words, and a star personified—when put together, they seem like the perfect ingredients for an icon to have. All may seem uncomplicated and perfect—until they’re not.

It is human nature to have tendencies to fall short, yet it doesn’t stop society from holding individuals on a higher pedestal than others. Unfortunately, many of us are the people on these exorbitant podiums. The people who receive expectations to do better than the rest can understand what this surface pressure feels like and how suffocating it could be.

The epitome of this case is a woman whom many folks idolize. Although this scenario sounds like a tale as old as time, many are probably tired of hearing it all over again—but we still cannot deny its veracity. Since then, society envisions women to be more than they should be. Consequently, there are usually two products of this destructive culture: a woman who doesn’t have the freedom to be her authentic self or a woman condemned by society for cutting the leashes they put on her. Being a woman in a patriarchal society already feels like walking on eggshells; you have to go an extra mile on vigilance—or else they’ll crucify you for the things some do too. The moment they start forcing words into your mouth— and these words start to cloud your mind—it’s only a matter of time before your perception of yourself gets hazed by their prejudice.

So when a woman who’s experienced the cruel hands of society looks at her reflection eye to eye, sometimes all they see is the embodiment of dysphoria.

Embarking on a Bargainof School and Life

A behind-the-medals look at how numerous accolades, esteemed recognition, and cemented ambitions do not equate to a perfect life.

An achiever isn’t born perfect; they’re more like a product of the painstaking process of curiosity and unlearning. Perhaps, they were also a consequence of pressure—a stereotypical classic Asian trait society has cemented unto the masses. Although these standardized tones aren’t a bunch of hoaxes, they’re not entirely accurate either. But, what does it take to step on the stint?

What we see on the pedestal is just a mere purview of what goes into the process of obtaining such a feat ranging from the challenges of viewing piles of books to the trade-offs of experiencing childhood. Sadly, exploring the intricacies of how they’re made perfect gets continuously blown out of proportion. Starting from their success stories, milestone victories, and even citations—these extremely sensationalized things made some intoxicated with receiving applause.

But behind the limelight and beyond losing momentum from the crowd’s roaring cheers is the deafening reality behind these achievers’ romanticized lives. Although the real deal isn’t about them pleasing the masses, circumstances are shaping them—mere slices of what they endured to preserve their designated persona.

BEYOND NESTED PERSPECTIVES

That is, the journey isn’t a one-way street nor a mapgoverned course like a guided adventure—but a matter of challenging truths and deceptions on whether or not to take the road less traveled. Unfortunately, it’s a chronic algorithm for most Filipino children to receive such segmented and ready-made paths envisioned by the

people they respect instead of them—nested atop the promise of a more “elucidated” way.

It has been a rugged road for many, chaining brilliant minds to submit to a society where freedom and comfort compromise for a promised tomorrow. While these flimsy assurances lead kids to believe in a perfect life, this wasn’t the case for Alyzza Grace Tolentino. She soared through the junior high school ranks just to graduate with flying colors—the Second Honors, St. Br. Benilde Awardee Jaime was the batch’s awardee.

“To maintain consistent honors, I deprived myself of family time and sleep—to the point where numerous hospital visits defined my school life, especially during junior high,” expressed Tolentino. She also stated that her devotion to her studies became her greatest regret as a student for neglecting her mental and physical health to compromise the multitude of awaiting tasks—often interfering with who she truly is.

Tolentino remarked that upholding these awards was a burden she had no choice but to carry. Yet despite the pressures she endured, her perseverance towards her education enabled her to connect with fellow achievers who share the same fate as hers, becoming emotional support systems for each other in this journey of expectations and standards.

SHAPING ADROIT PARAGONS

On a similar prompt, a multi-awarded swimmer and Liceo Sports Club Vice President Zoie Faith Villanueva also had something

behind her adroit feats. She began training as a pastime when she was six—and acquired a penchant for popular water sports. At eighteen, she had already won numerous local and national championships. Yet, perhaps, there’s always more to the intense strokes than meets the eye.

“One of my worst regrets was [...] when I lost the love for the game [back then] because I wasn’t achieving as much as my peers. It eventually resulted in the feeling of burnout and believing all of my hard work was going to waste,” shared Villanueva. Like any other teenager, she faced a time when her insecurities were at an all-time high due to frustrations.

At some point, Villanueva discontinued training for months and even considered trying out other sports. Still, her path leads her back to the aquatic sport she loved—had been revived from her hibernation—giving her all for the one last shot, as she described. Now, with the trials she faced, and all the bold mindset-shift experienced, she garnered medals and met new friends and opportunities while looking forward to more challenging days and achievements—continuing her relays across the laps of life.

UNTO FURTHER HEIGHTS

For some, the student government is a melting pot of the elite, adamant, and visionaries, but there’s more to these role models rather than just plain erudite. In addition to academic responsibilities, student leaders carry double workloads, juggle

hectic schedules, and even sacrifice shut-eye for service while also facing criticisms from the people who placed them in that position, the student body.

“Taking a student leader role has put me on a pedestal, where one wrong move would determine how people would see me for a long time. Maybe I regret having [to put] myself in this position, with the pressures of being better and knowing better,” expressed Keziah Angela Tolarba, the current Executive Treasurer of the Liceo Student Government (LSG). With the student government assessing upcoming plans for the new school year, she emphasized that it led her to overlook her priorities—making her miss out on being a good daughter, sister, and friend. Despite the challenges, she got assured that she’s still a person who learns from mistakes and moves forward from them.

The path of student leadership may have set her adrift from her comfort zone, but perhaps it was for the best despite the regrets and disappointments. “If comfort were my goal, I wouldn’t have taken on the responsibilities of being a student leader […]. My heart will always love serving others because, in serving, I know I am uplifted and assured that love comes with humility.”

Regardless, it is still that person on the podium enduring the deal of life with the trade they risk dedicating themselves to piles of revising, studying, or training sessions. But they’re still humans, with external needs of circumstance—merely enmeshed in the cyclone of the bargain they chose to embark.

receive such segmented and ready-made paths envisioned by the people they respect instead of them.”

TEXT | Leon Emanuel E. Advincula and Sean Carlo O. Samonte VISUALS | Claire Denise S. Chua

Going Against the Tide Wave: The

Don’t deny it—at least once, you’ve caught yourself humming, grooving, or simply getting interested in one of the many tunes in someone’s K-pop playlist.

From Wonder Girls’ “Nobody” in 2010 and PSY’s “Gangnam Style” in 2012, several global sensations from Korea’s rapidly-growing entertainment industry have blasted their way out of the borders and into the hearts of millions across the globe, and behind this wide-reaching influence are the fans of Korean pop culture. They may seem like your average group of enthusiasts as they express their support in ways similar to those of other fandoms—like western boy bands and athletic teams—yet the towering wave of stigma encircling these aficionados suggests otherwise.

When K-pop, short for Korean popular music, first hit speakers in the country, its earliest listeners were barely half of what exists today—lesser fans meant fewer opportunities to share resources and host publicity events. The technologies available at the time also made the nationwide promotion of this music challenging without the use of radio stations and television networks. However, when social media platforms like YouTube came into the light and became more accessible to Filipinos, the influence of K-pop in the country spread like wildfire with no intentions of ceasing anytime soon. After tugging at the heartstrings of the Filipino people with their captivating visuals, harmonious vocals,

Get to know the harsh truths faced by the fandoms behind Hallyu’s bubblegum pop tunes and kilig-inducing shows in Korea’s esteemed entertainment industry.

TEXT | Althea D. Marijana and Sophia Nicole C. Dayao VISUALS | Sean Carlo O. Samonte and Xiomara Ann B. Mondragon

and impactful choreographies, K-pop has successfully turned the country into one of its immense support systems around the globe. Now that the number of fans in the country has increased tenfold, it’s no longer surprising that Filipino fans are one of the huge contributors to the views and streams of music videos and other content. Attending concerts in the country would also guarantee an unforgettable experience as the Filipino crowd has been regarded as one of the loudest—singing along to all the lyrics of the songs, albeit mumbling some words.

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Although the wave of this music genre was embraced by many, the other side of the coin shows how fans have become the target of numerous stereotypes as this culture flourished because of their unorthodox lifestyle. Many might say these ideas are a form of sexism because the fans’ community is predominantly female; others may argue it arises from racism because it originates in Asia’s heartland or it’s prejudiced against younger folk.

As Roel Lumauag Jr. of STEM 11-P explains, one of the reasons why local fans aren’t exceptions to this cruel behavior digs its roots in the country’s traditional gender prejudices. He recalls, “There is a misconception that K-pop is solely for girls and that if you are a guy who listens to K-pop, you are gay. My classmate once voiced a lot of hate towards me for being a [BLINK, a fan of Blackpink], calling me gay and telling me not to listen to their music.”

The public eye has also gone as far as criticizing Filipino K-pop fans for losing their sense of patriotism by showing support for the Korean wave. Many narratives, mostly from older generations, revolve around the belief that supporting this culture influences the followers to become more gullible and shadow each trend endorsed. This scenario also applies to the fans’ mindset, which many see as a potential cornerstone for the neglect of the country’s customs and sociopolitical issues.

Several other biases against K-pop fans linger in our communities. Although they may seem like minor problems that need not recognition by the rest of the general public, the impact they leave behind causes permanent and often irreparable physical and psychological scars.

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) ‘CHERRY’ [00:31]Pleasedon’tfitme intoa mold.NowI’mgoingtodoitmyway. Although not all stereotypes are detrimental, they may often bring damage to those constrained by such preconceptions. Even if the clichés imposed on the K-pop community are false, when non-fans strongly express their disapproval, some fans might question if the nasty words hold any truth.

On patriotism, fans of the Korean wave aren’t safe from people doubting their love for their country. One victim of this lingering misconception is Kaitlyn Antonette Salibio of ABM 12-C. Although she didn’t allow the prejudiced remarks to affect her after the matter, she admits that it left her doubting herself for a few moments. She states, “I genuinely thought I was doing something illegal [at that time].”

However, these questions do not linger for long as fanatics know better than to let the prejudiced thoughts and distorted opinions of others get to them. When faced with accusations of neglecting their home country by immersing themselves in K-pop, fans are quick to disagree and debunk this falsehood. For instance, Ryann Marie Alunan of ABM 12-E shares, “Truthfully, us [Filipino K-pop] fans [can] care about our heritage and history [while also] understanding and being open-minded [to] the culture of our idols. Moreover, it doesn’t make us less Filipino if we explore different genres of music such as K-pop.”

Alongside this, K-pop has been a source of inspiration and encouragement for thousands of its fans. Being part of the community has also helped fans discover their potential in various fields of interest. Notably, Hannah Isabel Argabio of STEM 12-H expresses how K-pop helped foster her creativity by exposing her to artists excelling at almost everything. To wrap up her sentiments, she also emphasizes how being a fan led her to meet people with the same interest who are not afraid of showcasing their talents in different art forms.

Whether good or bad, the Korean wave proves its fair share of influences—even on those outside the fandom. Now that the tides have penetrated geographical borders and made their way into the radio sets of many Filipino households, it’s in our hands to pitch in this work of progress.

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When one beholds the world, a painting with a bed of roses and leprechauns at the tail of every rainbow pops up in some people’s minds. Nonetheless, a picture is worth a thousand words. So goes the reality that connecting with someone in a sea of supposedly antediluvian people is a snowball’s chance in hell.

If there’s a thing more blaring than a crowd of defiant folks painting the streets in polychromatic tinges, it’s the scathing volume of society’s shunning mob and their out-of-the-ark outlook. The clichéd culture created impassable fortifications based

on its archaic viewpoints, thanks to the ton overgeneralizing of almost everything in detail. Whence, the bombarded bigotry against self-expression constantly encumbers freedom for people who regard the world in a spectrum—begriming colors of iris and tainting it with dull splatters of monochrome.

With how society views gender norms and roles, the ache to manifest one’s colors are being set at naught, as seen in the ill-treatment of the non-binary and in the generalized image of how men and women should act as labeled and dictated

by society. Unfortunately, this soul-stirring dilemma affected some students at Liceo, ascent in the air, yearning for a utopia where all gender identities and expressions are embraced and normalized without buts, despite, or off-the-hook concerns.

TO COME OUT OR CARRY ON CLOSETED

Chained in the enigma of coming out of the closet, one could never escape the grim manifestations of conservative beliefs—curtailing the liberty of unveiling one’s true colors. Talk about homophobia, heterosexism, and discrimination; you

TEXT | Kyle Lenard A. Mangubat and Jose Paolo P. Parroco VISUALS | Claire Denise S. Chua

Peering at society’s cliché-ridden narratives and defying rigid stances: Championing change. Breaking barriers. Subjugating stereotypes.

name it—the non-binary continues to struggle as society constantly shuns gender equality.

“I feel horrendously chained and pushed aback by this entire dilemma on whether or not I should choose to be the person that people [...] expect me to be, and avoid following the path I want for myself,” says Ruan, a HUMSS student, on his experience of being locked in the riddle of coming out or remaining closeted.

Nevertheless, as the fight for equality remains in a rigid state, Ruan believes that evolution is in the pipeline. To effectuate change by the physical action of inspiring—starting with having conversations on topics like gender identity and SOGIE Bill, especially with those who are oblivious, ushers us to spark the change we want to happen—a belief that couldn’t be any truer for Ruan. While this directs the limelight to the umbrella gender, this could also be the alpha of nipping stereotyping against heterosexuals in the bud—destigmatizing typecasting dead set against men and women.

EVERY MAN’S AKIN TO ACHILLES

Since the days of yore, men have always been perceived as stalwart, robust, possessing Herculean strength, and whatnot—manifesting a typecasting sense that they should never be at a low ebb. With that, most males believe putting up a facade to mask their vulnerability and bottling up their emotions would be their best resort in a convoluted civilization.

However, men are humans withal— akin to Achilles and have timidity. Yet, many

still deem them lionhearts—unceasingly withstanding every responsibility bombarded at them. “As you can see, men cannot [freely] express their feelings [...]. Some consider it as weak [...] which isn’t regarded [substantial] because [of] the way society sees men as strong, fearless, and can do anything [...],” says Kobe Leon Manojo from HUMSS 12-B, on his perception about how toxic masculinity affects the male population.

On top of that, Manojo says being a man doesn’t mean one should be relentlessly muscular and do manly things only because society tells him so. These sentiments manifest how some people can be wicked, never seeing what lies ‘neath one’s eyes—propelling men to forge a frontage obscuring their sensitivity and building walls amongst themselves, as much as gender stereotyping long remains disdained.

THE FUTURE IS FEMINIST

Consequently, while men bear masking their vulnerability, women are grappling with their way of taking up space.

In a contemporary world where women have evolved through time, becoming feistily open in conveying candor about social issues has been a labyrinth they braved to enter. Howbeit, one gut-wrenching reality faced by women boils down to how they’re constantly belittled and bombarded by scrutiny of the caviling ton.

“Being courageous and speaking up in a society where people consider women homogeneously weak and incapable of doing things that every [...] man can do,

[....] women are struggling because they’re [reckoned] only by how delicate they are,” says Jazrell Mae Collingwood of HUMSS 12-B on how stereotypes have taken grip of women’s lives over the years and continue to protract alongside sexism.

Further accentuating the pigeonhole, Collingwood spoke her thoughts about the gruesome fact that many people perceive it’s effortless for males to attain success and more difficult for women to do the same, which is a hoax—women are just as capable and clever as men. These matters unveil the coruscating actuality of one woman’s life— but on the flip side of the coin, the feminist movement continues to echo the contra to this stereotype as they constantly battle toward equality.

As Collingwood emphasizes, the struggle is crucial not just for women but for a cohesive society—this might be the long-awaited start of the desired future, including everyone on the spectrum, where all can have the freedom to live in all hues while no one is left behind.

The feud for equality and acceptance hitherto remains stagnated on the steeper side of the mountain because of people who are rigid to widen their perspectives—ones who continue to reverberate the stereotypical voice of society. However, those who constantly battle to subdue stereotypes can resonate with the antithesis to withstand adamantine chains of gender-typecasting customs and create a safer space for all— where living a lifetime of days in the sun is the novel benchmark.

Wonder Woman:

Off the Beaten Path

When someone says, “I have no interest in having children,” what would be your initial reaction?

Unfortunately, this kind of remark often elicits a sense of disbelief. Sometimes, it leaves bewildered expressions and jaws dropped open in its wake, mainly when it’s heard from a woman.

For as long as most ladies can recall, the expectation of eventual motherhood is ingrained in young girls’ minds—a burden they will bear until they enter adulthood. Wombs became a defining attribute as if its vacancy is somehow a gauge to measure someone as a woman. So when they jump through hoops to sheathe their childless status, their aspirations are frequently overlooked as they are portrayed as “selfish” or “immature” for refusing to procreate. However, times have changed—and some have decided to take a different route to womanhood. Now that women have gained a bigger footnote in society, the public perceives “the modern woman” as someone who’s quite controversial—but who is she, and what is she exactly like anyway? Questions beg from this short but vague term—questions rightfully asked by those chained to the roots of deep-seated social constructs.

Most women from different eras hear bits of advice from the elders to fit the “ideal woman” persona, but more people are honing a new standard now—the norm of having a choice. For decades they have suffered from stigma, misogyny, and numerous opportunities denied in real life, as well as in fiction and storytelling—which in turn further feeds the stereotypes. However, this modern woman has sought change, revolutionizing different aspects of society and changing the game for women around the globe.

BEHIND THE CURTAINS

In today’s time, a lot more women settle on not having children. Although the stigma is no longer a big ball of rock as it was

in the past, it hasn’t wholly vanished into thin air. However, if the urge to have a child has faded, what could lurk behind curtains to waltz its presence? Ergo, there are copious reasons resting in the crevices. “Raising a child is a major financial, emotional, and physical commitment. [...] Having children in a financially precarious situation will be difficult not only for the child but also for the [mother],” says STEM student Nicole Angel Reyes.

Reyes further adds becoming a parent is an endeavor that lasts a lifetime. She thinks a child is not a single flower you can simply pick because you think it’s charming and throw away when it’s withered and no longer in its prime.

“A significant portion of your time will [focus] on your relationship with your children rather than yourself. So, that calls for lots of perseverance, drive, dedication, commitment, obligation, and responsibility for another person’s life,” she explains.

However, the tale doesn’t end there; diverse factors like health issues, self-image concerns, and career goals still lurk at the back of women’s minds. Hence, Reyes emphasizes that no one has the right to judge those who cut their rope towards motherhood. After all, only they can know if they’re the perfect abstract for the role society painted for them.

SOCIETY’S DEFAULT

“Stick to the status quo!” They said because every nook and cranny of society has one. Unfortunately, it includes women’s image, and simply not conforming is synonymous with being a disappointment and pandering to bad influence. But what do ladies of today’s society have to say about these pre-painted pictures of themselves?

Liceo student and newly appointed House of Paris Coordinator Angel Grace Tolog speaks about these pressures and

Having children can be a worthwhile choice for others, but if it’s something everyone has to do, is it still considered a choice?

TEXT | Zamantha Zaynn J. Chiefe and Marie Shella Ann G. Patigas VISUALS | Andrea Kirstin D. Ramirez

expectations. “I have witnessed numerous occurrences where women get forced to take the back seat, to not involve themselves in matters which they should very well be involved in, because of ideologies that women shouldn’t do this or that. [...] because of this, it has always been there—the fear of expressing ourselves. [....] Consequently, we end up losing our radiance to bloom, losing the chance to become brave women who don’t live their lives with limits.”

Sadly, the forenamed stereotype women face views children as a must when it should be a path you may or may not take. “[....] While some were also not blessed with children, there are some who choose not to. [....] Regardless of what society says, it doesn’t make us less of a woman if we can’t bear or choose not to have a child or be in marriage. Unless we bring an end to this and discuss things with an open mind, the perpetuation of such norms in our society will only lead to a lifelong cycle of inequality,” Tolog remarks on the topic.

All of these boil down to the pulsing truth: It’s a woman’s choice whether to have children or not. It’s not as black and white as having no children means being alone or undesired. But, it’s a matter of priorities and commitments because not everyone is up for the domino of compromises that will come with motherhood—and that’s okay.

CELEBRATING EVERY WOMAN

In this new era of modern women, it’s high time we end this imprudent stereotype, where the means of becoming a woman is inextricably bound to having offspring. This stigma can chain someone until they can no longer bear its grip—causing a wayward

causal sequence from how they date, march in their careers, and the degree to which they are considered attractive. But then again, one’s worth is not measured by her choice or ability to reproduce; in fact, no one has the right to question that worth. Women are strong and capable, whether a mother taking care of her children or a career woman focusing on her job. Ultimately, a woman’s worth is her own—and she is enough.

So if there’s one thing the ladies of the world should remember, it’s that their bodies, choices, and freedom are theirs and no one else’s.

...one’s worth is not measured by her choice or ability to reproduce; in fact, no one has the right to question that worth.”

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VISUALS | Sean Carlo O. Samonte and Claire Denise S. Chua

Painting Privilege:

Juxtaposition

Rishiana Claire D. Dadivas and Angela Marie N. Amodia

Ma. Avrille Marquiela C. Loraña and Xiomara Ann B. Mondragon

Nobody wishes to think they have been given an advantage in life, even if reality says they have embodiments of an upper hand. Yet, those with the most influence over establishing the guidelines frequently have difficulty recognizing when the regulations aren’t working.

Whether it’s from being part of the majority, being heterosexual, or simply having the capacity to read, liberty undoubtedly exists for most of us. Yet, these advantages are hardly recognized—almost invisible to those having them. So, as a generation living in an era where current avenues and people’s stances continue to overshadow the struggles of oppressed minorities, it’s high time for different versions of privilege to be acknowledged.

While uncomfortable to some, these tough talks no longer allow the masses to overlook them and their pleas. Perhaps, it’s time to recognize how these benefits go beyond monetary means and come in various forms.

GLIMPSES OF BLACKENED HUE

Irritability rose as the expression “check your privilege” went popular on social media. Consequently, the crude shorthanded meaning of the phrase led to arguments about who has it worse in life. However, society today has many folks living in their little bubbles, wherein they inevitably become so undeniably oblivious to the silver spoon in their mouths—some having tendencies to use and abuse it because of how entitlement has come to be.

“Growing up as the person I am today, I always value the character of being hardworking. But to see in the lives of some privileged people I had acquainted, I always think why are there still people so obtuse to the things they can get even just in a blink of an eye,” Christian John Jareño from STEM 12-H voices his sentiments to those with overwhelming apathy toward others who may have long forgotten they can enjoy such luxury because of their prerogative.

Although convenience comes in varying doses from person to person, one may think that simply being able to eat more than thrice a day is typical. But for those suffering in poverty, that would vastly be considered something that can only happen once in a blue moon. Sadly, some people born in grandeur find it hard to empathize with the less privileged because they can attain lots of things with less labor than most people can’t.

“Honestly, way back before, I used to break down because I envy privileged friends [...] who can afford to support their passion effortlessly because they financially can,“ Jareño adds. He also emphasizes that not all of us have the capabilities and resources to fund nor pursue particular passions and dreams that we have always wanted to achieve. As harsh as it is, these cases are just on the surface level, with a tremendous problem behind them.

BOTH SIDES OF THE CANVAS

Although it’s a controversial and complex concept to grasp, developing the ability to question our place in the world and recognize the power disparities we participate in can be a step forward to enlightenment. ”We will get numerous advantages if we analyze the positive aspects of privileges. Members of prominent groups benefit greatly from their identification, often gaining an advantage in interpersonal relations as they receive a higher degree of comfort. Despite their numerous benefits, privileges may also be detrimental […] it blinds us to systemic gaps for those who lack a particular privilege, resulting in biases,” states Gerard Byron Jacildo from STEM 12-F.

Jacildo also expresses that talking about the points of privilege is not to make others feel guilty or uncomfortable but to emphasize the differences between people. He also highlights that we should do our part to transform the status quo through reflecting on and acknowledging our privileges and seeking

to reform oppression and the discriminating system through active conversation.

Hence, each of these factors points to an unsettling reality. Everybody may receive the pretense of equality given to the number of doors of opportunities we can open in the real world, but the advantages are inevitably unequal.

“We may be floating on the same blue ocean under the open sky, but privilege seems as being in a boat drifting towards our ideals. Some may be traveling on a yacht [...] and taking it easy. Still, some could only have a pair of paddles in a traditional wooden canoe, paddling endlessly to shrink from being left behind by the flow of time,” shares Fritz Banguanga from STEM 12-B.

Like Banguanga’s perception of privilege, people might say they’re painting—however, the medium vastly varies. One man might have resources taken from scraps, while the other may freely splash a blank canvas with endless choices. No matter how people try to deny it, this is the cruel reality many folks face every day.

SPECTRUM’S POWERPLAY

Even before independence, there has been a strong argument for fairness. Many culture members use the language of privilege to refer to the long-term effects of what to perceive, believe, and act upon, along with the degree to which individuals and groups experience upsides or downsides compared to others. So, it’s time to acknowledge that recognizing circumstances where you have the upper hand is different from being immune to life’s challenges; instead, it understands the concessions of one’s identity.

“The truth is [...] we all have different levels of privilege and should acknowledge them if possible. While we all experience privilege differently depending on our backgrounds, experiences, and identities—and while some may feel more privileged, we all deserve equal treatment regardless [...],” says Banguanga.

Social norms have long built a system ingrained in our culture, and these systemic notions have drowned out the benefits of being a majority group member. Consequently, discrimination against members of minority groups hampered their growth and access to even the most basic human rights, like how women’s income continue to lag substantially below those of males. To transcend a position of marginalization, folks may have to confront their privileges and accept that inequality favors no one. To wrap up his sentiments, Banguanga says, “When we consider privilege individually, we must understand that there are many types of active biases and prejudices on how people experience their lives throughout society due to their cultural backgrounds, and socioeconomic status, [and other factors].”

CUTTING EDGES

Cumulative as it is, the definitions and avenues of precedence increase their depictions as time progresses. So, it’s safe to say the “check your privilege” indication means well, as it is often a reminder that people need to ground themselves for them to be able to see things in a bigger picture, rather than just what they see right in front of them. It is vital to check the privileges you have—and you don’t have.

With one crisis after another, it’s high time to paint each other with compassion. When junctures where we feel our situation is dire, it’s worth considering the current standing of our membership in both majority and minority groups. Suppose we find ourselves whining in poor taste, thinking it’s insufficient. In that case, we might have to consider that somehow these opportunities would already be a life-changing experience when other people get the chance; it’s crucial to determine whether we are clueless or blindsided by the trump card in our hands.

Developing the ability to question our place in the world and recognize the power disparities we participate in is a step forward to enlightenment.”

Introverts in a world that can’t stop talking

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...the next time you meet someone who seems quiet and snobby—try to understand, be respectful, and get rid of all the labels that you expect them to be.

Depart from the surface and dive deep into the depths of the complicated and not-so-quiet life of introverts in school.

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With all the troubles and dilemmas a student faces in high school, there is a fear of being misunderstood.

From completing academic tasks to having to socialize with their peers and trying to make some time for themselves, there is no denying that a student’s life is loaded. There’s also stress and fear in the mix—high school life becomes a heavy weight on their shoulders. However, some students also struggle internally— more often than not, these students are the wallflowers.

Without a doubt, there is frustration in having your words and behavior misinterpreted by others. For introverts with a plethora of preconceptions imposed on them, doing something as simple as chatting may leave positive and negative impressions.

As a result, various myths about them should be called into question to know what genuinely exists inside their minds and hearts.

INTROVERTS DETEST BEING IN CLASS

Oral recitations, reading out loud, and group works—in these scenarios, introverts, as timid as they may look, also get nervous in class. However, this doesn’t mean they’re incapable of volunteering when they’re willing to do so, or it’s something that should set them apart from their peers. “I do raise my hand in class, especially if I’m confident in my response, but I doubt my ideas often [...] [due to] my intense anxiety about giving incorrect responses,” Elisha Illustracion of ABM 12-C shares.

INTROVERTS CAN’T BE LEADERS

When it comes to group projects in school, most students turn their heads to their most engaging and active classmates, instantly expecting them to be their leader. While many socialites do great at leading, this doesn’t undermine the fact introspective leaders exist too, albeit having a different approach to guiding the group.

“Being more of an introverted leader gives a lot of advantages in terms of brainstorming, planning, and advice. Introverts tend to think more than talk, which makes it easy for us to produce the best plans and strategies,” Francyn Goki of STEM 12-B says. Introverts can take the leadership role in stride, handling their group with their brains while doing their best to communicate.

INTROVERTS ARE RUDE

Newsflash—introverts aren’t necessarily rude. Although they may seem cold, serious, and unapproachable to most, it isn’t right to jump to conclusions by tagging them as disrespectful and impolite. “It’s not really that we’re rude. It’s just that I don’t want to talk to people a lot, especially when it comes to people I don’t know or am friends with,” Nelver Fregil of ABM 12-C says. He also emphasizes that being an introvert doesn’t mean they‘re more pessimistic. Most of the time, he tries to maintain a positive attitude—especially when he’s around people that make him serene.

INTROVERTS ALWAYS WANT TO BE ALONE Every person has a social battery that eventually gets drained throughout the day. In the case of wallflowers, it might run out quickly—and they’d need to be in their bubble to recharge. “I often take time for myself whenever I feel overwhelmed and nearing my mental and emotional limits. I find working through it alone more efficient, rather than being surrounded by other people because there are no risks of lashing out at the wrong person or breaking down in front of a stranger,” Megan Pauline Tayson of STEM 12-B states.

She adds that an introvert may feel the need to take a step back from the world and be in their bubble to replenish their social battery. However, it didn’t mean they’d stay in that bubble forever. In some situations where a person makes it clear that they want space, it might be wiser to leave them be and merely wait for them to approach you. After all, taking a short break from people doesn’t necessarily equate to wanting to be a lone wolf.

INTROVERTS SHOULD BE THE ONES ADJUSTING What gives an introvert’s school life more burden is their character being anticipated not to complain. “[...] People often expect individuals who don’t usually speak up for themselves to follow their requests no questions asked,” Sophia Jaro of ABM 12-C expresses. In this, introverts usually opt for individual work to avoid getting tired of adjusting their pace for others. She then proceeds to explain how reserved people can lead and the stigma about them being underlings must no longer thrive in people’s minds. After all, adjustments should be a two-way street as much as possible.

INTROVERTS AREN’T GOOD SPEAKERS

Speaking in front of others may be daunting and anxiety-inducing, especially when students have to do it with their teachers and classmates. Since they’re usually timider, some people immediately assume they aren’t good at speaking. However, not all discreet people are as unfit as people may think.

“I may consider myself an introvert who struggles with public speaking, but I cannot speak for everyone,” says Clarice Rosales of STEM 12-N.

Even when they’d prefer to stay silent, introverted students are just as capable of being great at speaking as everybody else. Rosales adds that most introverts are excellent listeners, which makes them empathetic to the concerns of others, and so when they do talk, it is thought-provoking.

Indeed, being a wallflower in a world that can’t stop talking can be tricky. With all of the misconceptions thrown at them, it’s high time for us to listen to their side of the story. So the next time you meet someone who seems quiet and snobby, it might be best to avoid jumping to conclusions and creating a prejudiced image of them in your mind. But if you’re one of these solitary folks, try to remind yourself there’s nothing wrong with being different from the image society expects you to live up to because sometimes, uniqueness is what catches the eye of the people that matter.

Breaking Intangible BarriersCouples vs Society

What happens when settling down does not require the need to follow societal norms? Instead, defying relationship stereotypes might even surmount the expectations of a lasting bond.

Although giving someone such power over you seems unfathomable, it’s solid proof that most of us still fall under the trap of craving someone’s touch—and we yearn to feel the satisfaction of having a significant other. This concealed desire leads people to seek solace in the relatable consumption of films, novels, and TV shows, each of which sways one’s perception of living with a lover.

The unrestrained sense of jealousy dominates the audience whenever the warm sunbeams fall through the main character’s glaze, making their beloved finally realize how much they want to spend eternity with them. However, the frightening verdict then transpires at the end of the scene when notions ultimately provoke us to subconsciously default on what we witnessed into the idle standards we desire to experience.

In the aptitude of love, limits, and barriers, there is nothing awry with establishing standards to help solidify a connection amongst souls that accord. But what happens when these standards spiral out of control and begin parasitizing our minds into believing they are the sole means of long-lasting relationships? Perhaps, the chaos of trying to live up to these cosmic standards begins.

THE GREATER MAN IS NO MAN AT ALL

Along the lines of modernization, social media grew more influential than ever; it raised the bar for finding a lover. Adding all these values correlates to one equation: Most people seek a relationship with another to fulfill their needs that family or platonic friends cannot meet.

Apart from views directed by a few buttons on electrical devices, images of relationships are fabricated by traditions and superstitions—harana by the manliligaw, asking fathers for permission for the girl’s hand, a man and a woman being the only genders allowed to wed. All of these are looking to fall to bits as we enter the 21st Century by the youth of today, starting with two of Liceo’s intimate couples, Tashi and Xaela, both girls who intend to detach the beliefs that surround relationships like theirs.

“My relationship [runs] the risk of society’s acceptance while also running the risk of society rejecting it,” exudes Tashi in her opening statement. Humanity has been harsh on those who are only loving and being true to themselves, refusing to stray from what they’ve known and instilled in their heads by trading towers of lies with the truth: you can find love in the same gender as in the opposite.

Despite the demur against these novel romantic stories, the warm feeling of passion between lovers keeps the spark between them burning—overturning those who attempt to rain on their parade.

A genuine love founded on safety and stability, Xaela highlighted her affection towards her inamorata, “She helped me recognize these things and became my refuge, so I can say that this is the kind of love I had longed for.”

Indeed, the couple constantly set the standards of liberty to think the world through for one another—independent from society’s unsolicited stares and judgments.

A HARD PILL TO SWALLOW Sadly, getting caught up in the “relationship goals” stigma surfacing on the internet now and then takes a toll on the perception of a person’s expectations whirling around the state of affairs with their partner. So, locating the common ground between these suppositions makes it difficult to level the pivotal factors in strengthening the relationship bond.

Asserted by numerous love mishaps and heartworm encounters, Nicole Deocampo from STEM 12-M compelled her perception of the authentic plight of matches made in heaven.

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Barriers

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“There are several ways [for couples] to continue being attached, and it’s not just about focusing on pursuing happiness grounded in what society has constructed for them. [...] Instead, it’s about taking a leap of faith [...] and expressing mutual commitment,” states Deocampo, as she further elaborates on the hidden verity of romance.

Contrary to the standards set in an intangible construct, long-term romance is not always about your heart skipping a beat and butterflies in your stomach; it is a balanced decision that lasts—if you learn to take good care of it.

“Likewise, staying with our longterm partners encompasses more than we first expect. Loving someone includes overcoming challenges [...] and going beyond romantic engagements in the truism of relationships,” Deocampo says upon reflecting.

Ultimately, our thoughts wander off on the edge of our seats, refusing to absorb the truth bomb: attachment is more than just masquerading figures and happy endings. It may go through the unsettling facade of “love bombing” or even debating on who’s going to pay on the first date, but going above and beyond the societal norms constructed and

moving at your mutual paces might just be the main ingredients of affinity that persists.

VESSELS MOLDED INTO SHAPE Expression, communication, and understanding go hand-in-hand as values in an amicable connection to keep things intact.

As a partner-in-crime, Xaela accentuated the key factors to keep relationships afloat. “I think communication is one of the most important factors in keeping a lover’s trust and loyalty. [...] They must explain and communicate [their thoughts] to resolve issues in a way that’s both clear and [understandable].”

However, communication doesn’t seem enough in today’s times. Some people endeavor to be vocal about their sentiments yet become victims of gaslighting and invalidation afterward by their lovers. So, it might be best to talk when you’re also willing to listen and not only want to be heard.

With a glimpse of both worlds’ best, Tashi also added her sentiments on maintaining the real deal in relationships. “Your partner needs to understand how you [express] what [you’re] feeling, and it’s best if you both try to maintain some level of balance during arguments to keep the peace

and have a healthy relationship.” The couple, indeed, expressed how profound their grasp is on what constitutes two halves to make a whole.

Far from the constructed void of expectations, the willingness to be vulnerable and combined insights make Xaela and Tashi slot into each other flawlessly. Their relationship exemplifies how love transcends generational norms and provides a path for the next generation to embrace beyond what previous generations taught and built to know.

As for Decampo’s discernment, couples do not owe society a picture-perfect image of their reality. With the right amount of caliber and expectations, there is without a doubt that spontaneous beginnings might turn into life-long finales. “Relationships don’t necessarily have to be perfect, as long as they are mutual in connection and commitment.”

Indeed, establishing relationships requires a long list of qualifications. But the best kind of affinity is the one that goes beyond forever—loving your partner alongside a long-lasting genuinity without the societal influence of cosmic norms, demanding limits, and stereotypical barriers.

:… going above and beyond the societal norms constructed and moving at your mutual paces might just be the main ingredients of affinity that persists.”

The Other Side

Of a Pa ragon

Crowns, sashes, and extravagant bouquets—beauty queens’ lives have always been at the center of the spotlight. With every step they make, the crowd scrutinizes—waiting for the signature walk or a slip-up that will make it on tomorrow’s social media headlines. But behind the glitzy and glamorous life, who are these bold and stunning women, and what are the stories they hold?

For as long as most of us can remember, beauty contests have the population’s majority in a chokehold. So whenever it’s pageant season, fans of all ages get everything set to hype up the candidate who is the apple of their eyes. However, they’ve also

been a controversial topic ever since. To some, extravaganzas are a platform for women to empower and fire the audience with enthusiasm; for others, it’s another event that continuously exploits ladies who fit society’s beauty standards. Nonetheless, joining such competitions takes tremendous courage because gracing the stage with your presence and killer smile as thousands or even millions of people judge your every step isn’t a piece of cake. Despite the highs and lows the weight of the crown may bring, Elijah Louize Bernardez from HUMSS 12-A is still up to the challenge.

Behindtheir majestic image, honorable women on the stageare

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justlikemost of us—humans with faws and demons oftheirown .

UNDER THE SPOTLIGHT

Those who aren’t fans of pageantry culture may wonder why women willingly put themselves in a place where they’re pit against other great women and at risk from judgments by a sea of people. On the contrary, some candidates grab the chance with the hope of amplifying their voices— and that hope is enough to keep most of them going.

“I became interested in [joining] pageants when I saw myself loving the feeling of facing the crowd with the best version of myself. When I joined my first pageant [in my previous school], the Technolympics, I realized pageantry isn’t just about showcasing what you got—but you’re also representing your purpose and advocacy. After that day, I realized I have a talent—and I’m privileged to speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,” Bernardez shares what made her engrossed in the field.

At the tip of the iceberg, the general public may perceive these pageants as a ‘friendly feud’ of women from different places; based on these grounds, pageantry can either be a romanticized dream or one that might get ridiculed and deemed as ‘shallow.’ However, for candidates like Bernardez, beauty contests are more than what meets the eye. It creates an avenue for them to inspire, empower, and learn.

When asked about what she loves in this forte, she answers, “The experience and lessons I will bring even after the event. Pageantry allows me to interact with new people, discover pristine places, and express my views and insights [in front of the audience]. By doing so, I can inspire them, which I treasure the most in this field.”

WALKING ON EGGSHELLS

Ergo, appreciating the silver lining of circumstances doesn’t mean we should downright neglect its drawbacks. Although it’s undeniable that winning or even simply participating in competitions opens doors of opportunity, it’s also true that it’s mentally challenging and bestows massive pressure on the shoulders of those who took the risk.

For pageant girls, one challenge is the contrast between how the public perceives them and how they want to be perceived. “What I always get from people is the label, ‘teacher’s pet.’ Although I sometimes receive special privileges and treatment, I don’t like it because it shows how unfair society is when you achieve something,” says Bernardez. She proceeds to expound on how such things can result in exposure to fake compliments, insincere treatment, and biases rooted in titles taking a toll on them.

Bernardez also shares how joining pageants give her the commitment to maintain a good image twenty-four-

seven, which can be a hassle. Although it’s indeed up to us how we’ll cope with society’s rigor, she confesses that when she’s on stage, there are times when she can’t help but compare herself to the other beautiful candidates.

“I acknowledge different types of beauty in our bodies and skin, but I still tend to get insecure when people compare me with other ladies. Especially since I’m skinny, I sometimes feel too thin to show up to people. I feel shy because I’m afraid to be criticized,” she adds.

Aside from the toxic culture of favoritism and persistent stereotyping in the world of beauty pageants, the ladies we view as the archetype of perfection also have demons of their own. So when people tell you that being under the spotlight is a tough call for these women to make, they certainly mean what they said.

HER FINAL WALK

Nonetheless, walking on a stage that feels covered with eggshells while wearing heels—usually not lower than six inches—is a commendable feat. Beauty queens like Elijah Bernardez prove they’re undoubtedly worthy of the crown for surpassing the countless obstacles they had to overcome just to win it. After all, they have a goal to fulfill—to use the power that comes with their crown to make people hear their advocacies.

“The feeling of fulfillment when you inspire the people watching you; when they tell me that they made themselves better because of my advocacy or my answers during the pageant. It makes me happy because I did not fail to do my purpose,” Bernardez explains the ecstatic feeling about the pageantry that overshadows her worries.

Although she thinks it’s mainly the candidates’ character and willpower that will help them survive the bittersweet life of a queen, she also believes the audience has an obligation they must fulfill.

“I would say be kind because everyone can do right, but not everyone can be kind. Your kind words can build one’s self-esteem—and that’s a big help already. Always be careful of what you say or act towards someone because being put under pressure and being criticized can destroy a person,” says Bernardez when asked about her message to the crowd.

Meanwhile, if she can say something to her younger self, who was a newbie to pageantry, Bernardez emphasizes the importance of believing in yourself and being a fan of your own—and how it makes you the real winner. She wraps up her notes for her younger version and all the aspiring beauty queens out there by saying, “Just believe in yourself, and you will shine.”

So when people tell you that being under the spotlight is a tough call for these women to make, they certainly mean what they said.”