5 Things Women Can Do To Improve Their Relationship Some may say that relationships are hard. And while it is true that it takes a certain level of commitment and compromise to some extent, in most cases, it is the man and the woman involved in the relationship and their unique characters that make the whole thing rather challenging. However, if you wish to make things better for you and your man, there are things you can do. Following are some humble suggestions, which you may find useful in that regard: Default to a position of good intentions If you wish to make a difference in your relationship, you should always assume good intentions from the person you are dating, or are married to. That is not to say you should close your eyes to the problems in your relationship, but it will always help if you don’t assume the worst after even a small problem occurs. But it is always a good idea to have the courage to say how your partner made you feel and assume that they will care about you so that they will do better from now on. And while it may seem like an impossible feat to speak about someone who has just offended/hurt you with loving-kindness, it is definitely something you can do to ensure that it doesn’t happen again in the future. Be vigilant about enforcing boundaries Even good men will sometimes say and do things that hurt their partner. Often this is because women don’t enforce healthy boundaries, which leads to some relationship-hurting behaviours to go on without consequence. It is important to remember that without setting these boundaries, certain unwanted aspects of a relationship can go on, damaging the relationship even more. Of course, the other person needs to understand these boundaries and, more importantly, respect them. It is these people who make relationships go the distance. Avoiding problems is not the way to go
The truth of the matter is that conflict is no good for anyone. It is exhausting, stressful and often leaves people with a very bad experience after it. And because of all this, a lot of people enter avoidance mode when it comes to conflict resolution. But dusting the problems under the rug is not a good way to address relationship issues. If there is anything that is bothering you, speak your mind. If anything, it won’t make matters worse, but it has the potential to fix things. Make time for yourself AND your partner Some people like to say that relationships are all about the other person. But that is not true. If you don’t make time for yourself, you will eventually exhaust yourself and not be able to contribute to your relationship fully. You need to keep a good balance between giving to yourself and giving to your partner if you wish to keep the relationship equally fulfilling. To nurture your relationship, you need to pay attention to both its sides. Think of disagreements not as a battle, but colour-blindness instead Have you ever thought what the world was like before colour-blindness was discovered as a legit condition? Two people are arguing about the same thing, with both of them being correct and incorrect at the same time. Remember that context and perspective are everything in a relationship quarrel. Utilise empathy to address these moments and don’t enter any disagreement the way you would a battle – expecting to ‘defeat’ the other or make them agree that they are wrong. These are just some of the tips you can utilise to make your relationship better. Try them out and see what difference they make. © Kate Mansfield Dating Coach