The Dating Tips That Can Change Your Life

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The Dating Tips That Can Change Your Life Dating is one of these things in life, which many people just cannot establish a middle ground. It can be an especially uplifting experience, or it can be a nerve-wracking bother, which leaves you frustrated and emotionally-drained. Alas, it is what it is, and despite the dangers, we often find ourselves deeply invested in another person, hoping that things will go the way we want them to this time. The thing is, despite your experience, you may want to improve your dating game. The way to do this is to follow some of the proven tips that most dating coaches recommend. In this short guide, we will list a few of them so that you can take advantage of them:  Change the places you meet people - going to bars and pubs to meet people is an old paradigm, which doesn’t seem to cut it anymore. Rather, it is not ideal. While you can meet a lot of people there, the setting and the likelihood of you forming a meaningful conversation or engage in behaviour that reveals what kind of person you are to the other and vice versa, are very slim. It is best to try someplace that clicks with your passion. It could be an exhibition or some area that attracts photographers, or some specialised shop that offers goods for your hobby. Even online can often prove to be a good meeting place for people, as long as you exercise some caution there. 

Stop trying to change someone - there is one pitfall that a lot of women usually fall for: they think that they can change the men they meet in their life. But no matter how good you think you are for him, or how enthusiastic you are, dating peach and hoping for it to become a pear is simply not going to work out well. It is best to redirect your energy in dating a person you genuinely like, for the kind of person they are now. Forget about the person you can help them become because that is an abstract concept, which will never come to reality.


Don’t feel pressured to date or perform well on a date - a lot of people - both men and women - are under a lot of stress when it comes to dating. They feel pressured to date others and they are very self-conscious about how they do on said dates. The truth of the matter is that you should never do something that makes you anxious. Don’t say and do things just because you think the other person will find them attractive. Go into dating by making it feel as natural as possible.

Be cautious about the ‘too good to be true’ cases - usually, if someone appears too perfect, they are probably not being very authentic. Or it could be that you are idealising them too much. None of these scenarios plays out well in the long run, so you need to be mindful of them.

Don’t sway to extremes - it is easy to demonise or idealise someone, but it is much more important to objectively analyse who the other person is and what their qualities are. If someone doesn’t follow up, it doesn’t mean they are a narcissist who knows nothing, but perhaps a person who is just not interested in you. One of the most important qualities of people nowadays is being able to assess others objectively.

All of these tips can really spark up your dating life and save you from disappointment and finally lead to the results you are after. © Kate Mansfield Dating Coach


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