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hank you for taking time to read this edition of our very own Zim/ Canadian community magazine. The objective of this publication is to showcase all Zimbabwean/Canadian individuals, associations, organizations and community initiatives. Our goal is to keep our community well informed and connected across the nation, and give everyone a voice to share their expertise, experiences, achievements, stories, etc.. in this magazine.Though we are divided by provincial boundaries, we continue to be united as a people from the Motherland, our Zimbabwe. ZimCan263 is not an individuals Magazine, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s your Magazine by and for your community. Hence please feel free to contribute your articles so you can share your story with your fellow brothers and sisters. Have a pleasant read. K & D Chimbari Zimcan263 Community Magazine

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The Journey Beyond the Dream Pearls Meet Precious & The Voice

Business Features I Am Irene Padya

Entertainment

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Meet McDee Moyo (Artist of the month) Poem of the month

Fashion Pages 24-29 Culture

The Lobola Custom Zimbabwean Totems

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Women on strike - By Andile Laughter the best Medicine Shona Crossword

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BEYOND the dream

referring to talk to my receptionist, the man in the door would not even greet me. I had been standing in the front area of the office, discussing the immigration journey of my associates husband who could neither read nor write but had made some really smart moves as he found his way.

The man in the door had come in to ask a question, and as he explained, I disappeared into my office. Minutes later, he was telling me I was one of the lucky ones. I asked him what he meant, and he said that I had somehow managed to immigrate to Canada, while others failed.I was used both to being ignored and being despised, and would normally have smiled and let slide, but not this time. I politely told him that the way I saw it, he was the lucky one, because I was the one helping him. While I was glad for a better opportunity, I was the benefit for whom my host country did not as much. I was educated in Zimbabwe and in the US, but was applying my skills and experience in Canada, in exchange for citizenship - a winwin situation, and I should be the only one charmed? You really shouldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be apologetic for being an immigrant. Nobody should. There is no shame in having moved from one country to another in search of better opportunities, because itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s been done from when Adam was a little more than a boy. Human history is a story of movement and relocation and settlement. And while appreciative of his new neighbours, Abraham, the first immigrant, refused to give up his dignity for anything. He followed the

tradition of the land but insisted on keeping his own identity. And he realized the importance of buying property versus leasing, but thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s for another day. If anything, you ought to be celebrated, not just for the boldness to live the difference between venturing out and sticking around. Your decision to move should appear on your resume, underscored, and highlighted, because there is something remarkable about your ability to assess situations, decide, make and execute plans. And someone might say, what if I was brought here as a dependent child who, left to my devices, might have chosen to stay put? To that I say, but the fact of you here means courage runs in your bloodstream. I was broke when I decided to move to the United States of America. Truth told, to say I was broke would have been a masterpiece of understatement. I started at the bottom and had not risen enough to where I could be broke. My financial outlook was beyond bleak. I had

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been lecturing at a bible college for two years, earning next to nothing, and had only managed to put together a wedding.The decision to move happened on a bus. My wife and I were on our way to Mutare, Zimbabwe, to spend time with my brother and his young family. We had planned to spend boxing day with my now late sister-in-law, Rachel, and her husband. The bus driver was a strange fellow who had anger issues and was clearly itching for a fight. So bad was his attitude that getting on the bus seemed like such a great accomplishment.

a survival instinct, a plan, and faith that God would make a way. My family and I live in Canada now, and have been in North America a total of 21 years and change. I have learned in that time that imagination matters. Everything starts with the ability to visualize and call things that are not as though they are. Imagination is the foundation on which monumental dreams are built. Strong desire for change is required before a move can become reality. When you get fed up and can imagine a place where you own a castle and wear a crown, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s only a matter of time before you get there. To their disadvantage, many people relax the moment they reach their destination. I learned the hard way that arrival alone is not enough. Reaching a destination is only the beginning of a new journey, the journey to success. This new road is as important and, in some cases, bumpier and more treacherous than the first. The road to success requires the same level of imagination, focus, energy, and aggression and the first. Lose any of these and the experience will become a round trip that leads you right back where you first started.

It was in the backdrop of the pungency of his treatment of customers that the thought of leaving home was developed. And we sang it all the way to Mutare, and then Masvingo. For a while, it had become obvious that something had to give, but the ride to Mutare brought everything into perspective.I did not have rich relatives who could help me, and love offering was not an option, but in less than ten months from the moment of inspiration, I had an I-20, passport, F1 Visa, plane ticket, a place to stay, a work-study scholarship, and $55 to spare. Ask me how that happened, and I will tell you that miracles are still happening. I will also tell you that I had to have a strong desire to move, Kenny Gwenna

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Introducing

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Voice

’m Precious Israella, I`m Zimbabwean and Canadian, currently studying my BA in psychology and I’m the Visionary of an interdenominational ministry called the Voice. Currently if someone was to look into my play list my most played song at the moment is Vongwai Jehovah. It pretty much sums up this season in my life, where I have been given the opportunity to bless and glorify God regardless of anything that’s going on in the world or in my personal life. I truly believe God is always looking to see how our faith is set up when seasons change, so I consider this season an opportunity. If I were to travel anywhere in the world at the moment, I would go to Zimbabwe simply because I miss home and all my relatives,friends, and there’s just so many childhood memories to relive. My favourite saying is “David didn’t have a map to his Destiny, why are you worried” simply because in the Christian walk we have spoken words over us but we tend to worry on how God will bring it into manifestation but it`s not for us to worry. God has everything under control. If I were to describe the colour yellow to someone who is colour blind, I would tell them how yellow takes from the sun, how it`s neutral yet outstanding and most importantly it brightens everything. Now back to the Voice. The Voice started on March 28th, 2020, it was a fulfilment of a Vision that my mother and I had, and we were just sure that it was God speaking so we took the word and ran with it. The point of the Voice is to remain connected to God, to understand him and to spread his word. Growing up I had a huge passion for bible study. I grew a lot spiritually through bible study in cell groups etc. I loved having the opportunity to study the word of God and also having to share it with others. The presence of God can be felt anywhere for me it`s even deeper during conversations about Christ. The Voice is

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not an assembly, but it is where people who are passionate about walking with Christ, without restrictions, come together to share their experiences and seek Gods face. The Voice so far has been a blessing to my life and those around me and I`m also very grateful for the people whom the Lord sent to my aid. Jessman Ndoro Mugadya, Manuela Fankem, Kudzayi Ziyapapa , Nancy Njerere and Sharon Choto these ladies work tirelessly every day to make sure the Voice stands in their departments and I`m forever grateful. My advice to someone who the Lord has laid something on their heart, is to get up and run with it, my mother once told me â&#x20AC;&#x153;every day is important to farmerâ&#x20AC;? and I ran with that word as well. Last but not lest thank you Apostle Kudzayi and Prophetess Dorcas for the feature I appreciate it.

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Dr. Francis (Munangi) Mpindu’s

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r. Francis (Munangi) Mpindu (PhD, MA, MDiv, MTS, BRE, ADCR, WFA, Life Coach) is a seasoned practitioner based in Toronto, Canada.

* He has been a Chaplain with York Regional Police (YRP) for 16 years. He was the first African Canadian to be YRP Chaplain... * He is the Executive Director/Founder of Niigon Abin Resolutions Services – an independent consultancy in Alternative Dispute & Conflict Resolutions, Mediation & Negotiation, Conflict Management Systems, Workplace Fairness Analysis, Life Coaching, and Mental, Emotional & Spiritual Wellness... * He has an earned PhD in Philosophy (Systematic Theology) and Ethics from University of Pretoria (South Africa)... * His professional affiliations include: Member of Canadian Police Chaplains Association, Canadian Multifaith Federation, Equipping Leaders International, York Region Interfaith Network, African Leadership And Reconciliation Ministries, Associate Member of Prison Ministries International Zimbabwe – Africa Correctional Chaplains Associations (PMIZ AFCCA), African Institute for Ethics... * Canada’s Indigenous people have a special place in his heart. He has established close friendships with some of them over the past 20 years. In his spare time, Dr. (Munangi) Mpindu enjoys reading, driving, sightseeing, watching wildlife, watching and playing soccer (football), watching ice hockey and basketball, and listening to “new” country music. Given his deep appreciation for cultural diversity and inclusivity, he takes delight in learning about different cultures, languages, and trying out different foods. He says, “eating is natural, what you eat is cultural.”

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Community Policing:

The Path to Healthier Relationships - a Police Chaplain’s Perspective

by Dr. Francis (Munangi) Mpindu

ABOUT THE BOOK:

Community Policing: the Path to Healthier Relationships... a Police Chaplain’s Perspective is a very timely topic. We live in a time of great uncertainty when people increasingly engage in quests for answers and look for information, guidance, support, and protection in all dimensions of life. That’s where the police and the community need to collaboratively provide solutions. When tensions run high, both parties need to Dialogue – Discover – Decide – trusting and respecting each other, sustaining the existing bridges of collaboration while building new ones. This book appeals to our desperately needed collective sense of civility. It invites us into the PATH of healthier relationships as we journey together. Indeed, we (the Community & the Police) are on the same team.

Pearls

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asting your pearls among swine, a part of the 6th verse of the Matthew 7, brought about quite a lot of thoughts, some relating to the Theological background of the verse, but also, specifically to what it would mean to throw Pearls among swine in relation to our day to day lives. To me, it speaks volumes to the cycle of value to ourselves, our work, our love, our effort, our time, because casting your pearls among swine could mean a few things; YOU DO NOT VALUE YOUR PEARLS Sometimes you cast your pearls among swine because you do not know the value of your pearls so you are willing to give them out to anybody and for any reason. Sometimes we do not know how good we are, how great our gifts and skills are and we use them on people and projects that do not add value or even at the very least, see the value in your contribution and efforts. If you prized your pearls a little more, you would be a bit more aware of where you are giving them out. So many times we get under cut at our workplaces, when negotiating our products, when giving our time, because those who see us, may see the value, but

will manipulate the situation and take us at our word, which, when coming from the abundance of our insecure hearts, may mean very much less to those around us, and because we see ourselves as less than, they are more than willing to give you less than they probably intended to give you for your services skills or even your love.

have to realize that your pearls are still pearls, but the prince is really a frog, and the great opportunity you are putting all your effort in is just not worth all of your effort. Sometimes you have to realize that with over-valuing swine comes an equal and corresponding expectation for how they will respond or treat the Pearls, and then you get disappointed when they trample on your pearls, because you expected YOU OVER-VALUE THE SWINE. better from a person/ opportunity that does not Let’s be real, sometimes it’s not even know any better than to that we undervalue our pearls, trample and bury your pearls but we place an exaggerated in the mud of their own issues. value on the people/projects around us so much so that we feel they are worthy of our DE-VALUED BY ASSOCIATION pearls. Sometimes that man is honestly not good enough for Now, yes, pearls will always be your destiny, but you place a pearls, and the true value may value that is higher than who not change, however, when he really is, which in turn can you cast your pearls among end up affecting your future. swine, by association, your Sometimes you don’t realize pearls become less valuable. I that your friends aren’t your mean, who would throw pearls lifeline and you could do among swine? ‘They may not without them, and sometimes be real, possibly plastic replicas the opportunity you see isn’t of the real deal’, they would all that at all, and when you say. A price of something is realize that all that shines are determined also by where you not diamonds, and sometimes purchase the item,and if you it’s just quartz or broken glass, find real diamonds in a corner you will be able to regulate and store at the flea market, you redirect your precious energy, are most likely not going to commitment, investment and buy them, or buy them at the gifts to a place where they price that they are truly worth, are not rejected, trampled because by association, they on, under-valued or under- have been under-valued. Be appreciated. Sometimes you careful where you throw your

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pearls, as you can instantly reduce the value of your love, your skills, your time, your effort, your brand, because to others, if she loves THAT kind of man, then any man can have her, or if she is really that good, why is she working for that company instead of a bigger company? If he is really that good of a man, why does he spend all his time with those kinds of people? Now what do we do if we have

cast our pearls to swine? The good news is, this life is a life of multiple chances. And when you realize that you have made a mistake and cast them to swine, it wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be easy, because you may yourself have begun to see the mud around the pearls and you may have lost hope in your pearls, seeing them trampled on like that. You have to remind yourself that pearls cannot be damaged under the foot of the swine, and that even though they are surrounded by mud, they are still pure

within. Take them back, take your pearls back, run waters of positive affirmations and self empowerment over them and cleanse them till the shine is restored, because the good thing is, nobody knows where a pearl has been, because at some point it was entwined in the weeds under the ocean anyway, but a pearl is a pearl, and in the right hands, can be worth more than you could ever imagine.

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Introducing Irenes New Jewelry Store

Fierce House Of Irene “Unique jewelry to help you make a personal statement”

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Irene

rene Padya is the Owner of Fierce House Of Irene jewelry store.

In the first month with Fierce House Of Irene Store, Irene has always nurtured an entrepreneural mindset from a young age. thus she did not have to think twice. She loves taking on the demands and challenges of running a business as they are not only lucratively rewarding, but also alows her to dream big, and couragously build her empire. Padya sold more than $2000 worth of products in the first month of running her store. Prior to being the owner of Fierce House Of Irene, Padya worked at Maple Leaf Foods for four years as an Xray Operator. Padya also became a mother and had to quit Maple Leaf to take care of her child. A graduate from Mohawk College, Irene holds a debloma in Health Welness and Fitness and also Dietary Aid. When not hard at work doing Personal training, she enjoys playing basketball, cooking, and spending time with her little one. â&#x20AC;&#x153;My mission is to try to create a cultural connection with everyone of you. The things that make my products and services unique is Some of you miss home so I try to make you feel like you are home by rocking your own Map of Africa or Country Necklaces.These necklaces are stainless steel. Remember you can Travel/ live far away from you home country but you can never take out that home country in youâ&#x20AC;? Find Fierce Hous Of Irene on FACEBOOK: https://m.facebook.com/FierceHouse-Of-Irene-102329628171743/?tsid=0.5859517534825358&source=result , INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ fiercehouseof_irene/

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McDee Moyo

“I was born and raised in Victoria falls, I did my primary at chinotimba town ship and my secondary at mosi-oa-tunya”

visited the City many times before so l quickly settled in. I then enrolled for my tetiary education at the Harare Polytchnic College where l persued Automotive Mechanical Engineering and simultaniously commenced my musical journey with Mokoomba. By the way, did l tell you apart from Music, l also love my “cars”. So cars & music are kind of my polygamistic situation, and the two have learnt to hapilly live together, lol.

pon completing my highschool studies, l found a job within Victoria Falls and worked there for a short period of time. Victoria Falls is not only an amazing place to visit, rather it’s an awesome place to grow up in. Apart from the wonderous spectacle of the 108m deep falls themselves, the City is rich with amazing communities, great ammenities, and ofcourse the combination of the ever smiling tourists blended with the naturally happy locals just made the demographic sync even much more interesting. I really enjoyed growing up in Victoria Falls. Infact, one could say my exposure to a vierity of foreign nationals, their different cultures, and their many languages not only brought the world before my doorstep, but was setting me up for the rest of the world. Little did l know that in life’s bag of secrets one day it will be “l” who will be touring the rest of the world, bringing my culture, our arts, before their footsteps, and doing what l love most, music! However, hints and clues were given as l would dream of it here and there.

Touring around the world with Mokoomba was a dream come true. All the dreams I had when l was a kid, dreaming of being on a big stage performing for a big audience finally became reality. It was then l realised that not only do dreams sometimes come true; but also we all have a particular grace/blessing from above in certain aspects of life. And whatever your graced area is, you will succeed through it and in it. Do not compare your dreams with another persons, your dreams are your blessing, your fingerprint, your path. Pursue your dreams!

My adjusting to tour life was pretty easy, bieng from Victoria Falls, l was always around tourists, the only difference this time was we “Mokoomba” were this After working briefly l then relocated to Harare. I time both the tourists and the attraction, and l enhad always known that l would one day relocate to joyed every bit of the experience. My journey with the Sunshine City. My intuition had always hinted Mokoomba not only much fun, but also a great leanthat my path would pass by the countries economic ring experience. My musical understanding, depth hub. Harare was obviously a little faster and busier and exposure grew tremendiously. than VicFalls, a hive of activity. Thank God l had

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Whilst on tour with Mokoomba, l got the opportu- tographs to the wall of fame it made us feel special!. nity of meeting and sharing the stage with great mu- We travelled to more than 20 countries on variouse sicians from all over the world. tours including Germany, France, New Zealand, Australia, US , Mexico, Russia, Czech Republic, We managed to share the same stage with the likes Spain ,Italy , Greece, Belgium etc and we have perof Bennie Man, Nas, Kymani Marley ,Julian Marley formed most of the Canadian festivals such as The , Richard Bona, Athony B. Youssou Ndour, Khan- Montreal Jazz festival , Vancouver folk fest, TD jazz da Bongo man ,Angelina kijo, Fatoumata Diawara, fest , Edmonton folk fest, and Sunfest in London Femi kuti, amongst others.

(Nigerian musician Femi Kuti eldest son of Fela Kuti with McDee)

In my musical journey I’ve seen great producers and did some jam sessions Loui Resto he produced Eminem’s album from Michigan and he played keyboards on jayz black album album

(American rapper, songwriter, entrepreneur, and investor. The son of jazz musician Olu Dara standing for a photo-op with McDee)

I had a great experience working with kids from all over the world doing some cultural exchange through work shops it seems the kids had so much fun

(McDee with the band Mokoomba)

The band got nominated to perform in Apollo theatre in New York and the theme was called “Africa Now” it was such an experience also to add our au-

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I was part of Winky d’s vigilance band the Zimdancehall Artist since from day one all I can say it was no longer a band but a family we had so much fun travelling around Zimbabwe playing some great music despite the challenges and rough times we had but we still stand strong.

Jus wanna thank Nadine and Tich for inviting me to be part of Zahara’s band in Toronto last year it was an awesome experience I had so much fun jamming with you guys

Goals am working on some musical staff and I have this project it’s called giving back to the community am gonna be hosting mini shows around Toronto house concerts , playing for elderly people etc it’s gonna be fun !

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THIS IS THE WORLD WE LIVE IN *When a man has a good car it attracts more ladies to him. When a lady has a good car it repels guys away from her. This is the world we live in*. *A teenage boy impregnates his teenage girlfriend. The girl drops out of school, the boy continues his education. This is the world we live in*. *A guy catches his girlfriend with another guy, he fights his girlfriend. A lady catches her guy with another lady, she fights the other lady. This is the world we live in*. *The older a man becomes, the higher the number of ladies available for him. The older a lady becomes the fewer the number of guys available for her. This is the world we live in*. *A 76 year old man can still marry a 26 year old lady. A 3 6 year old lady is tagged too old to get married. This is the world we live in*. *A man divorces his wife today and the next day he is dating other ladies. Six months later he is married. While the divorced woman is labeled a divorcee and remains single six years later. This is the world we live*. *A man loses his wife to death and remarries a year after, he did the right thing, heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s being praised and congratulated for moving on, after all life is for the living* *A woman loses her husband to death and remarries after 4yrs, â&#x20AC;&#x153;aaah! so early? Are u sure she wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive? That was why she killed her husband. This is the world we are in*. *A married man is caught in bed with another woman, his wife is asked to forgive him and move on. A married woman is caught in bed with another man, the husband asks her to leave his house. This is the world we live in*. *A man gets transferred by his company to another state, the entire family relocates with him. The woman gets transferred to another state, she goes alone or resigns from the job. This is the world we live in*. *If a man rises to be the CEO of the company, he got there by hard work and determination. If a woman rises to be the CEO of the company, even if the staff are only women, she is suspected to get there by sleeping with the Board members. This is the world we live in*.

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CHIHERA TOTEM

na Chihera vakadzi vanoyera Mhofu, kana kuti ihanzvadzi dzevana Museyamwa. Rumour has it that vana Chihera vanozivikanwa nepamuromo uye havana chavanotya. This is not necessarily ture, however it is fair for the Chihera’s themselves to confirm this to be true or false. Pavano detemberwa vanonzi Mbiru, Mbiru zvichireva kuti mapango anomisa imba.

Kana uchitenda Chihera unotenda uchiti:

Zvaiitwa Nyashanu.

Here is a Chihera Joke/Nyambo VaChihera vaenda kuno rapwa ku clinic VaChihera vanodzoka from clinic vasina kurapwa. Ko sei madzoka? Zvikanzi: “Haiwa kune dzinza rose rairapwa, ndodzokera mangwana”. ldzinza ripiko Chihera? “Ivava vemutupo unonzi NEXT nechirungu, haada kufa kurinani, vaidaidzwa ivo chete, mumwe atoda kundibatanidzira kuti ndimi next ndikati bodo ndiri Chihera ini”.

Maita vachihera, Mbiru mbiru, Chiedza, Kuyambuka rwizi mvura yakwira makomo, Totenda voMuchimbare, VeGuruuswa, Vane nzangachena kunge mwedzi wejenachena, Kuziva zvenyu VaShava Mukonde, Vari Gombe Zvaonekwa vahombarume, Zvaitwa Mbiru mbiru, Aiwa, zvaonekwa Sarirambi,

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LOBOLA

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hroughout Africa a marriage could not take place without some form of gift (or “payment”) of animals, food or other material goods to the parents and family of the bride. Today people speak of this as paying “dowry”. Technically this is not dowry, but ‘bride-price’, ‘bride-gift’, ‘bride-worth’ and the most commonly used word is lobola Lobola is a demonstration of how much the girl is valued by both sides. It denotes respectability, worthiness and appreciation. As a valued person at marriage, she is not stolen but given away under mutual agreement between the two families. The gift elevates the value attached to her both as a person and as a wife. Starting the process of marriage, lobola is an expression of honor to the parents but also an undertaking of responsibility to the spouse The process of lobola negotiations can be long and complex, and involves members from both the bride’s and the groom’s extended families - normally, this would just be the uncles of the marrying parties, as well as the fathers, where custom allows. Women are also sometimes involved but they are mostly observers, not negotiators. Some believe that lobola is a biblical tradition,

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bringing forth Genesis 24 (Abraham paying reinforces their dignity. lobola for his son, Isaac) and Genesis 29 (Jacob working as payment for lobola to marry Rachael). It is generally accepted that 10 cows, at a minimum, are required in a lobola within the Xhosa and Zulu cultures, however, differing customs within various regions may contribute in determining this amount, as well as the value of each cow. In the course of time, money has replaced cattle and other gifts for dowry in many communities. However, people complain that greed distorted the whole meaning of lobola. Because of paying too much for lobola and preparing for the wedding, many couples start poor with heavy debts. Also, owing to the expensiveness of lobola, many young people decide to cohabit, which is both unAfrican and unbiblical, representatives of His People Church say. Although seen by many as extravagance that has little relevance to the society, where young Africans are struggling poverty, the tradition is still strong. Lobola is believed to be a great way of showing commitment between families, not just between the bride and groom. It is also viewed by some rural African women as a sign of respect that it symbolizes their worth and

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COMMENT SECTION

LOBOLA LAW AMMENDMENT:- Regarding the ammendment of the Lobola requirement to register/solemnize marriage. Here is what various people had to say. What do you think about this ammendment? FOR IT

AGAINST IT

I think this is a good idea we like reforms from antiquated regime to an enlightened age!!!!!!!! congrats ZIMIMBABWE (TatCheli C)

This is not Europe, we rather reduce not to remove the payment of lobolA (Rodgers L)

Chimbobvunzai varume vakahurirwa vakachengeteswa vana vasiri vavo mushure m2kubvisa pfuma yose kut vakanzwa seyi uye vanotii(Kuda) it will end woman oppression (No Name) Hahaha this means....no more hurooora....ladies should be celebrating...this is setting a lot of them free from controlling man and inlaws who base their attitudes on the fact that they paid lobola (natasha) It’s up to her as the daughter (No Name) Yes I’m in full support of this. Lobola first of its propaganda 2nd of all other families have seen this as an advantage of ripping off other families simply because their daughters have studied overseas yet they’ve been indulging in sexual activities giving up their virginity for free to other foreign men out there in the diaspora (Kevin) Kustates kungochata chete (Saul) Lobola is a scam. We appreciate woman but not a must. Mwari chaiye hamanikidze offering wani (Proud G) But taura hako vamwe vanga vakutoona se business (Clife M) Okay so the whole point of it being a gift, to me is not true because a gift is meant to be something given to another person without the receiver knowing what it is, the giver chooses what to give. Every man who has gone through lobola will tell you that no matter what everyone says its a purchase, a payment (Ezra)

This law is bad but if you dont have money you can pay half plz (Shalom) No roora no love no faithfulness .tamba yako nditambe yangu .hakuna chemahara (Sally) It, s wrong, munhu ngaroorwe, kubisirwa mari (Ruth) she didn’t bring herself into this world. You are destroying good value and propelling chihure. (Devis) Oops hameno vanoda kuchembedzwa mahara (Sally) Roora kutenda vabereki vkakuchengetera mukadzi (Trish) Zidofo chairo akaisa izvozvo. Ane hama here iye munhu iyeye nxaaa vamwe vanhu vakutadza kugadzirisa nyika kuisa zvisina basa. (Gladys) Vakajaira zvemahara, ma Zimba, ko ivo ma virgins here va ‘so called’ vakomana’ avo (Pmich) if you are a christian you’ll pay . Isaac and Jacob paid . Even Christ himself paid , with his own blood . there on that cross (Killashox) In my tribe Lobola is how the husband proves to the brides family that he can take care of her and their family. (NoName) It’s supposed to be a token of appreciation for raising a daughter on behalf of the groom. if we label it as ‘this product is not for free’ or ‘ parents wanting all that money for raising you back’. it would mean you are a commodity or you saying your parents just raised you to get money like a cash cow

Mazita ezvipfuyo zvepamba/Variouse Shona Names of Zimbabwean Domestic Animals

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inoda kutarisa mazita ezvipfuyo zvepamusha. Mazita aya anogona kushanduka nekuda kwemitauro inosiyana nzvimbo nenzvimbo asi ndichaedza kudura ese andinoziva.

mugudhu kana kuti dore. Kazhinji dore rinenge rasara musana chete mbabvu dzichitoverengeka. Mombe isingabereki inonzi ramba, mhanje kana kuti tsotse. Kana mombe iri itsva mudanga inonzi njeni.

Tinochengeta huku pamusha apo tinotarisira kuwana mazai nenyama. Huku tseketsa ndiyo inokandira mazai ichizochochonya twunhiyo kana twuhukwana ndokunge yaararira. Kana twunhiyo twati sasamukeyi, twomera mapesu nekuda kubuda muchochororo twunenge twonzi twumhupupu. Kungobva muumhupupu huku dzinopatsanurana kuti hadzi dzisati dzokandira mazai dzonzi sheshe twuya twabuda michororo twonzi twumachongwe.

Mbudzi isati yabereka inonzi sheshe. Kune dzimwe nzvimbo inhunzvi. Kana iri mbudzi hono isina kuchekwa inonzi chigotora kana kuti gotokoto. Mwana wembudzi anonzi nyenye kana kuti mbudzana. Mbocho imbudzi hono isina kuchekwa.

Huku iya yakandira mazai ikachochonya vana vainenge yofamba navo kusvika yavarumura inenge yava nhunzvi. Pamusha ipapa panoita jongwe guru rinenge rava nezvimbi munzondora. Jongwe iroro rinonzi gukurume. Mombe dzinotipa mukaka, mupfudze, nyama nesimba rekudhonza magejo. Mombe idzodzo dzine mazita adzo zvichienderana nezera. Tsiru imombe isati yabereka. Ikazoti kurei yobva yabereka inenge yonzi mhou. Kana iri hono inotanga iri chimhuru choita chigondora kana chisisayamwe mukaka. Kana chakura chisina kuchekwa chinobva chanzi handira kana chakachekwa chisati chorima chinodaidzwa kunzi jonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;osi. Kana yava kusungwa kana kubopwa inenge yonzi ngavi kana dhonza. Mombe isina nyanga inonzi nzuma kana kuti junju. Kana yava mombe iya yakurisa inonzi

Hwai nembudzi zvinoda kufanana asi kuti chihwai chikono chisina kuchekwa chinonzi chihondohwe. Mwana wehwai achinzi hwaya kana kuti nyenye. Dhongi rinodirwa kushanda pamusha uye kusateta nzara. Munguva yenzara mombe dzinopera kuti tsvai asi madhongi achingofamba nekushanda. Mwana wedhongi anonzi kamubhemhe kana kuti dhongwana. Katsi yakanakira pakubata makonzo nekurwisa zvipuka zvakaita senyoka. Mwana wekatsi anonzi chidharimbo. Vamwewo vanopfuya hangaiwa pamusha idzo dzinonzi kirimba nevamwe. Mwana wacho anonzi marunga. Imbwa dzinochengeta misha uye dzinobatsira pakuvhima. Imbwa hadzi yakazvara ine vana inonzi nzvere. Mwana wembwa anonzi handa kana mbwanana.

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The Neccessity of...

Knowing Your Worth Do you know your worth?

What do you believe you deserve? Deservingness is not to be confused with entitlement. Entitlement is about believing you have a right to something. Deservingness is about how much you believe you’re worth. When you doubt your deservingness, what you’re really uncertain about is whether or not you measure up. Are you good enough? (YES.) You’ve made some pretty big mistakes. Do those bad blunders make you a bad person? (NO.) Are you a good enough person to deserve good things? (YES. YOU ARE.)

father said to his son: You graduated with honors, here is a car that I acquired many years ago ... it is several years old. But before I give it to you, take it to the used car lot downtown and tell them I want to sell it and see how much they offer you.

Many people carry around a secret shame that impacts their feelings of self-worth and deservingness. Our stories are individual, but our core experiences are very much the same. At some point in your life, someone told you there was something wrong with you. (This is inevitable, of course, because there’s something wrong The son went to the used car lot, returned to with all of us.) his father and said, “They offered me $ 1,000 because it looks very worn out.” The father said, It gets to dangerous and disempowering ter“Take him to the pawn shop.” ritory through repetition. If even one person The son went to the pawn shop, returned to his father and said, “The pawn shop offered $ 100 because it was a very old car.”The father asked his son to go to a car club and show them the car. The son took the car to the club, returned and told his father: “Some people in the club offered $ 100,000 for it, since it is a Nissan Skyline R34, iconic car and sought after by many.

in your life tells you over and over again that there’s something wrong with you, well, you can start to believe them. Being rejected or criticized hurts, and it has a cumulative effect. Imagine every criticism you’ve ever received is a tiny little pin that landed right in your heart. (Seriously bad visual, right? Wouldn’t your heart look like a pincushion if that was the case?) Beyond hurting like hell, a heart full of pins holds you back and makes you play small. YOU ARE NOT SMALL. I want you to stop acting like you are.

The father said to his son, “I wanted you to know that the right place values you the right way.” ... If you are not valued, do not be angry, it means “In life, you always create the results you that you are in the wrong place. Those who know your value are those who believe you deserve. If you don’t believe appreciate you, and never stay in a place where you deserve good things, you won’t let no one sees your value. yourself have them.”

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Happily, you can raise your sense of deserv- Notice I said “you need”. These are non-negoingness, and deepen your feelings of personal tiable requirements. If you’re tempted to argue worth. Here are a few steps on how to do so. against your ability to practice them, please pause. I’ve heard every excuse known to man. STEP 1 – TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. And I don’t buy a single one of them. We’re in On the face of it, you’d think this advice would a no excuses zone now. You don’t get to argue be obvious and unimpeachable. Of course you against yourself, and also be empowered. It have to take care of yourself. The problem with doesn’t work that way. You have to choose. this truth, unfortunately, is that there are people (even whole communities of people) who will If you haven’t taken care of yourself in a long try to convince you that prioritizing your needs time, this topic can feel totally overwhelming. I means you’re a selfish person. (And who wants understan to be seen as selffsh?) Take a deep breath, and start tackling your care I’VE NEVER ENCOUNTERED A PERSON WHO basics. (You DO have time, and you are NOT HADN’T HEARD SOME VERSION OF THIS SELF- selfIsh.) There’s no wrong way to do this except CARE-IS-SELFSH-NONSENSE. THE THING IS, not to do it at all. Practice makes powerful. So THESE MESSAGES ARE ABOUT CONTROL, AND practice. THEY COME FROM PEOPLE WHO ARE HAPPY TO KEEP YOU DOWN AND DISEMPOWERED. Okay, time to up the ante a little bit. This next (That makes it easier for them to manipulate step is harder. you.) Do not fall for this line. STEP 2 – BE SOMEONE YOU CAN COUNT ON. Self-care is not selfish. Self-neglect is selffsh. You can’t think your way into believing in your own worth, but you CAN act your way there. Self-neglect tells you that you don’t matter. It As it turns out, keeping the commitments you asks you to stuff your wants and repress your make to yourself increases your feelings of emotions. When you chronically neglect your- worth and deservingness. (It increases your self, eventually you turn into a repressed, angry, conffdence too.) self-doubting zombie (or banshee depending on your anger level). Nothing about self-neglect Think about it. You make countless commitis attractive. I want you to stop doing it. Today. ments every day. The trouble (of course), is that most of them are for other people. When you We need you in top form. There is purpose on don’t have a strong sense of your own worth, your life. To make good on it, you need to con- you agree to most incoming requests. Which nect with your SELF. The most fundamental way means you’re probably way overcommitted. to begin that process is to take care of your physical body. Practice four physical care basics. When your calendar is crowded and some(I practice these guys too. Religiously.) thing’s got to give, you’re the one who usually goes. Because it’s easiest to break commitments SLEEP CARE: You need adequate sleep. Every to you, right? night. DRINK CARE: You need proper daily hydra- Every time you break a commitment to yourtion. Water is energy. self, what you’re really doing is showing yourNUTRITION CARE: You need to eat food that self (through your own inaction) that you don’t nourishes. Not just food that fflls your stom- matter. (Seriously. Bailing on yourself is like givach. (I’m not talking about dieting here. I’m ing your hopes and dreams a big hand in the talking about eating to nourish your body.) face.) STRESS CARE: You need some way to relieve stress. (Think working out, meditation, jour- It’s time to start following through for you. naling, gardening, prayer, sitting in nature, Don’t panic. I’m not suggesting you stop docooking, or hot scented bathing.) ing things for other people. Generally people

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especially women, are naturally born nurturers. Of course you’re going to do for other people. I just want you to add yourself to the list of people-you’re-gonna-do-for.

will live at your expense without giving it a second thought. If you’re willing to give it, they’ll take it. (They’ll even talk themselves into believing they deserve what they’re taking.) These kind of people like to keep you small, scared, The best way to get a handle on showing up and doubting your deservingness. (Then you for yourself is to start paying attention to what’s do whatever they want. Whenever they want going on when you don’t. What causes you to you to.) cross yourself off your own list? When you bring your triggers into your awareness, you’ll notice You must stand up for yourself. a pattern. (Which will give you the power to make changes.) Start by catching yourself in the act of playing the earner. What and who triggers the earner Take things one choice at a time. Whenever pos- response in you? What are you afraid of? What sible, choose to follow through for you. Every are you trying to prove? If you feel drained or time you do, you remove one of those tiny little bad about yourself after you’re with a specifIc heart pins, and strengthen your sense of worth person or in a certain place, you need to think and deservingness. twice about being with that person or at that place. Now for the hardest part… I know this is easier said than done. It’s possible STEP 3 – STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. the people who make you feel bad are co-workWhen you don’t believe in your own deserv- ers or family members. It’s not like you can just ingness, you become an earner. Meaning, you stop seeing them, right? If you fInd yourself in spend your time and energy earning love. This this position, there is only one path. You need can show up in a lot of different ways. We’ll talk to learn to speak up for yourself. about three of them here. Stop living like a pleaser, set some boundaries, You could be a PLEASER. You say yes when you and say no like you mean it. Will you be uncommean no. You do a ton of favors. (You’re secretly fortable? Yep. You will. Can you handle it? Yes. annoyed the entire time you’re doing them, but You can. Be willing to be uncomfortable. Speak you keep doing them anyway.) up. Stand up. Stop accepting less than you deserve. You might be a PERFORMER. You’re the life of the party, and an overachiever. You use material Every time you speak up for yourself (even in items and accolades like money, degrees, titles, the simplest of circumstances) you remove anand awards to prove your worth. other pin from your heart, you raise your sense of deservingness, and you deepen your own It’s possible you’re a DOORMAT. This pattern is sense of worth. You also show others in your most damaging, because it means you’re allow- position what it looks like to know your worth, ing other people to treat you poorly. On the ex- and live like you know it. Which encourages treme end of the spectrum, this could look like them to do it too. allowing people to demean, degrade, or disrespect you. Even on the lesser end of things, it You are good, and you deserve good things. means you allow people to get away with pas- You deserve acceptance, belonging and love. sive-aggressive comments, or take advantage There’s no mistake in you, my brother/sister. of you. On any end of the spectrum, doormat YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. Just as you are. behavior is toxic. you get closer to that wisdom. It gets worse. When you live as an earner, you attract users. (That’s just as bad as it sounds.) There are unfortunately people in the world that

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Vag i * as On Strike

feel that as women we often underestimate our power, it is often thought that women were just breeders as men built all of civilization. This is not so; it is women who civilize and shape society. I want to remind you just how powerful you are. If you think about early societies men went to war or hunt, itis women who were left at home shaping society, raising the children and even organizing the homesand the villages. We also see this happen during World War 2 when men went to war, and the womenwere left doing traditionally male jobs and explored ideas which birthed the feminist movement. The ideas of those women who were experiencing working for the first time, being breadwinners and new found independence shaped our thinking even today. In Africa we have modern examples of women having sex strikes that have stopped wars, such as the one led by Leymah Gbowee in Liberia who advised every woman in her country to stop sleeping with men until they stopped the violence and corruption that was on going. Women are powerful. There is nothing on this earth that exists without a woman. Women are the gatekeeps of all human life, all life exists because of us. We are the gatekeepers of all humanity; women give life men can only take it. If you are Christian God Himself used a woman as a vessel to enter this world. We are the portals. When I look around in society, I see that women have forgotten their power. We have our sisters in Africa fighting over men, viewing the man as the prize even kneeling when speaking to a man. I could not think of anything less diginified than the idea our sisters in the West are pushing; that in the sexual arena women are like and must act like men. Is this what liberated women want? To have casual sex and think nothing of it? Sadly that answer is yes. Out of all things women can march for such as education,

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equal pay, health care, every year we see women in the West marching for the right to be called sluts without shame. We see this in music videos, or hook up culture where women pursue men the way men used to pursue women. As a Christian I would like to point out that in the bible when God wanted to tell us ow wicked a society was He would say “They were so bad that even the women did it”. Women don’t have to become like men to be powerful because some of what men are doing are wrong, women must strive to be better than the lost, sexist and misogynists of our society. Sometimes we want so much to be like men that we participate in our own degradation and oppression. If we as women want to change society, we must take on a new idea. Women’s empowerment whether be it feminism, womanism or anything else must value and respect all responsible choices. Throughout history women have made great use of the word NO and sometimes said yes when they should have said no. There is great power in the word No and women used to know how to wield this power, it is often thought that men of old were sexist and the reason women were not sexually free in the modern sense of sexual freedom which is sex outside of marriage was a result of the evil patriarchy of our forefathers. This is not true, it was women who were checking other women, women had a sisterhood so tight they refused to sleep with men until fully committed, they also refused to share men. They were so focused in getting what they wanted that they refused to give men access to their bodies until they got what they wanted. It was not men running the shots it was women. I do not know what went wrong in the process, but we can make it right again. Lets have a sex strike sisters, a v*gina strike. A sit in. Sit on them until we get fair compensation in the form of respect and benefits in the form or commitment! Learn to use the word no. Men can be single but most of the time their p*nises are not, a man will never tell you that he is still in love with his ex, having casual sex with women on dating apps. It is so easy to get sex nowadays most men have had it days before they met you for a first date and are probably on their way to sleep with someone after. So please learn to use the word No and get to know the man, learn about his health require a blood test case anything happens. Mistakes do happen but please

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make sure the man is committed to you and only you Know your worth before you give your body. When a woman comes into a man’s life her presence alone increases his life expectancy, she improves his Have Standards: health and motivates him to acquire assets. She gives What does it take to have you? Is it a movie and a him progeny through her he becomes immortal. You meal? A trip? Some of you aren’t charging enough and are the moon, the sun and billions of stars. You are men no longer value the experience of sex. Women the giver and cultivator of life. All Life exists because give themselves for free thinking that men will pay of a woman. You are everything! Own this! later, it doesn’t work that way. The only place that requires us to pay after an experience is a restaurant Article by -Andile (aka Slay Queen) but notice everywhere else you have to pay first to have something? A man wont enter first, enjoy then pay later. There was no entrance fee! Assign a value to what it takes to be in your life and heart. Have a price to enter your vagina and require it. Do you know that the bible even prostitutes are much better than women who give themselves for free? Why? Because one has assigned a fee and another has not. There is nothing virtuous about giving yourself to a man for free simply because you love him. Guard the door to your heart and body and turn back emotionally bankrupt man or conartists trying to get in for free. I recommend you get a bouncer (Jesus) and start collecting an entrance fee Protect Your Legacy: As I mentioned earlier woman are the gatekeepers of life. Nothing exists on earth without us. The reason why so many children are being born out of wedlock is because many women are not making commitment a requirement. Make it a personal standard that in order for a man to enter your sacred spot he must marry you first because your name was never meant to be used in a sentence as “baby mama drama” you are a queen mother. A man cant make you a baby mama if you don’t constantly have unprotected sex with him. You are rallying for the position of baby mama each time you lay down with him. You were not designed to be anyone’s baby mama, you are to be his wife and once his wife, your womb becomes the pathway to extend his life. Through you his legacy becomes physically manifested. “No body can “make” you into a baby mama. No one can make you what you aren’t or haven’t already volunteered to be. Every time you lie down with a man, and he is not your husband you are running for the position of “baby mama” and your back becomes your platform” ~ Nojma Muhammed

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