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YOUR PREGNANCY 10 7 Priceless NICU Tips

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12 Choosing Childcare

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oth of my pregnancies were fairly routine, and my labor and delivery pretty much by the book. I know for many that’s not the case. Pregnancies can be difficult, and babies can need extra help once they are born. Because of that, yearly we dedicate one issue of KC Baby & Maternity to the NICU. In this issue you’ll read from a local mom who spent time in the NICU with her triplets. I hope her insight provides some comfort for those in that situation. I was reading Julie Collett’s article on baby milestones and reflecting on when my own girls were babies and reached certain milestones. I have a very vivid memory of walking down the stairs, holding my firstborn and realizing that she was able to hold up her head without my support. And with my second, I remember when that very first tooth poked through her gums. Both times I felt a bit sad that my baby was growing up. There are so many milestones that babies and toddlers achieve during the first few years of life. Rolling over, sitting up, crawling, walking, talking and eating “real” food, just to name a few. But the milestones don’t stop once children are out of the toddler stage. In fact, I have a tween and a teen in my house, and we are still reaching milestones. Only now they are things like getting ears pierced, staying home alone, first dates and more. Whether you are a mama expecting your first baby, a mama going through milestones with your baby or toddler or a mama with older children, those milestones keep coming. Enjoy it, because those little ones grow so quickly! Wishing you a fantastic fall, Kansas City!

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Need a wipe-down placemat? Use maps to make one yourself.

waterproof map placemat Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s so exciting to see our babies grow and start trying different foods, but what a huge mess those tiny people can make! Keeping a placemat at the table that can easily be wiped down is a must. Learn how to make one yourself using maps. You also could use pages from a book or wrapping paper!

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Megan Kapple is a blogger from Kansas City, MO, where she lives with her husband and three young daughters. She loves anything DIY and crafty and blogs about her adventures at HomemadeGinger.com.

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a new mom’s guide to making friends in kc

ow could it be that one of the happiest times of my life was also one of the loneliest? As I spent day after day with my brand new baby, it became evident that the biggest part of my life was something I didn’t share in common with my premommyhood friends. I was a stay-at-home mom anticipating milestones like crawling and eating solid foods, while my friends were pursuing professional milestones that didn’t include rice cereal or potty chairs. They were all congratulatory and happy for the birth of my baby girl, but they couldn’t relate. And I didn’t want to bore them with tales of sleepless nights and the latest bargain on cute baby clothes at Target. As the only “new mom” in my circle, where was I to find other mom friends? As we cross from one stage of life to another, sources for friends change, and the dynamics change as well. As girls, we bond over a sticker album or shared extracurricular activities. In college, favorite authors, clubs and pop culture are the stuff of new friendships. But suddenly parenthood poses another key ingredient to the equation: values. All at once your values, a.k.a “parenting style,” are your friendship resume. Can a Happy Meal Mom and an All-Organic Vegetarian Mom really become BFFs? Can Love and Logic mix with 1-2-3 Magic? Soccer Moms and Ballet Moms? Super Scheduled Moms and Casual Freestyle Mothers? Trendy and Stylish former models with Garage Sale Queens? As if all of those factors aren’t enough, motherhood friendships pose an additional

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complication. Unlike childhood pals who deal with a one-to-one equation, suddenly two or more people must be friends with two or more people. Jennifer has five boys; you have one girl. Your child is shy and timid; your neighbor’s little one is rambunctious and active. Motherhood friendships aren’t just two ladies chatting over coffee; they are family friends. Finding those kindred spirits isn’t easy. If you’re wondering where your mommy BFF is, try one of these possibilities. Hint: Start with the idea that appeals to you most. It’s probably the one your next BFF will choose also!

• Participate in activities. One of

the best things about living in a city is the long list of terrific outings for the preschool set! A few of our favorites are found in the Playdates section of this issue of KC Baby & Maternity, pg.30.

• Join a moms group. Moms

groups like Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS.org), Mothers and More (MothersAndMore.org) and others are a great source of friends. Groups feature structured meetings with guest speakers, offering great conversation topics for new moms and taking the pressure off newbies by creating ice breakers.

• Go where kids go. Visit the local park (search “Best Parks” on KCParent.com). Check out the kids section at the library or bookstore (and they all offer great weekly story times for infants through older kids). Visit indoor play places at

local community centers, at the mall or kid-friendly restaurants in your area. Visit KCParent.com and click on “Going Places” to find great places to visit near you.

• Meet other moms through the

people you know. Do you have a few mom friends but you’d like to make more? Host a Moms Night Out and ask everyone to “bring a friend.” Has your husband been talking about a friend at work with children the same age as yours? Invite their family over for a play date and see what happens.

I joined MOPS and spent several weeks getting to know other moms before discovering some of my closest friends. Whatever you do, don’t give up. My oldest daughter and I attended story time for months before we met good friends. I joined MOPS and spent several weeks getting to know other moms before discovering some of my closest friends. Finding and making mom friends takes time, but it’s worth it. Moms need the support of a good friend on this journey, and friends are just waiting to be found. Kristina Light misses her MOPS days and still loves her MOPS pals in post-preschool mommyhood!

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Faulkner’s Ranch-Pumpkin Season! Oct. 1st-31st, 10:00-6:00 daily. Special events on weekends. Visit www.FaulknersPumpkinFarm.com for all of the attractions and upcoming events. Clean, quality, interactive fun at Faulkner’s Ranch. 816.761.1234

Johnson Farms At Johnson Farms, you’ll be in the country, but close to home. Take a wagon ride out to the pumpkin or vegetable patch and pick-yourown from right off the vine. Experience our giant jumping pillow, tunnel maze or 20 acre corn maze, all INCLUDED in your admission. Delicious food and friendly animals each time you visit! Plenty of parking and outdoor fun for all ages. www.JohnsonFarms.net. 816.331.1067 @johnsonfarmsMO

Shuck’s Corn Maze and Pumpkin Patch Three mazes located within one, with different levels of difficulty. Barrel train ride, corn crib-it’s a large sandbox only it’s filled with corn. Hay mountains, tractor-pulled hayrides, laser tag, concessions and field trips. ShucksMaze.com

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arents do many things to prepare for the arrival of a new baby: decorate the nursery, buy a car seat and stroller, select a name and so much more. No matter how much preparation you do, the unexpected can happen. For a variety of reasons, you could find yourself in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) sitting by your newborn baby. When I found out I was expecting triplets, I was told it was highly likely they would spend time in the NICU because of premature birth. I had absolutely no idea how to prepare. The information was overwhelming, and the uncertainty was frightening. I have found the true experts are parents who have been through the experience. The information they share gives you a glimpse into what you really can expect during the NICU experience. Here are some of the most valuable tips.

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1 get involved. Visiting your child in the NICU for the first time can be very intimidating. Your baby will be covered with wires and may look tiny and fragile. Feeling nervous about caring for your child is normal. Ask the NICU nurses how you can get involved in your child’s care. They are usually more than willing to teach you how to work around their medical equipment. “Once I began taking my son’s temps, changing diapers and assisting with bathing, I felt so much more comfortable and less intimidated by the experience,” Rachel Watts, Belton, says.

2 babies progress at their own pace.

Don’t put a timeframe on how “ long you expect them to be there,” says Nikki Rhyme, mother of triplets born last year. The rule of thumb is that babies born prematurely will typically go home around their due date; however, this is not always the case. Jessica Craine, Olathe mom of twins, says “Any time I was frustrated, I had to sit back and realize that my boys have learned to breathe, suck and swallow all before most kids are born.”

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...it will be a thing of the past before you know it.”

3 take care of yourself.

7 it will end.

Oregon mom Eve Bernfeld says, “A great piece of advice I got from my best friend, who had also had a NICU baby, was picture yourself and your baby a couple seasons in the future when you are doing something totally normal. This helped to remind me that things would be normal…someday.” Each day in the NICU seems like an eternity, but when your child comes home and the years go by, that time becomes a distant memory. “It seems like it is a never ending experience, regardless of whether it’s five days or five months, but it will be a thing of the past before you know it,” Jennifer Pena, Atlanta, says.

F ocusing above all else on your child’s health when your baby is in the NICU is easy. Amidst all the struggles, don’t forget Mom just gave birth, often by emergency c-section, and sometimes after weeks of bed rest. Take care of yourself during this time. Eat healthy meals, drink water, take breaks, spend time with your significant other and older children and ask for help. “Tell your friends and family you’re struggling and you need support,” Watts says. Many times they want to help but they will not know what to do unless you ask. Give them specific tasks that will make your life easier, such as preparing a meal for your family or doing a load of laundry.

4 document this special time.

T he NICU is a stressful place that makes it easy to forget about documenting the milestones your baby meets. “Record the true day of his first bath, when he wore clothes the first time, when he moved from an incubator to a crib. These are memories I will cherish forever!” says Craine. “I wish I had more photos of this time,” says mother of triplets Alex Tichet. Although seeing how your tiny baby is fighting in the NICU can be difficult, many parents cherish those photos because they are proof of how far their amazing and strong child has come.

5 be your child's advocate.

“ Remember they are your babies and you have a voice in how things go. Don’t be afraid to ask questions,” says triplet mom Michelle Glasser. The doctors and nurses work hard to give your child the best possible care, but the parents play a big part in the care their child will receive. “Try to be present during rounds to get updates on the baby’s status and care,” says Indiana mom Courtney Harreld.

Our NICU experience was one of the most difficult seasons my family has walked through. Even so, I find myself looking back on it fondly because I am more aware of how miraculous life is. It is a stressful place to be, but the NICU staff is there to do everything possible to get your baby well and home with his family. Sarah Lyons writes from her home in Olathe. As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Helpful Organizations and Resources for NICU Families:

• March of Dimes, MarchOfDimes.org • Little Warrior Princesses, LittleWarriorPrincesses.com

• MJ’s Memories,

MJsMemories.blogspot.com

6 Some of the things you see will be heartbreaking.

I wasn’t prepared for some of the things we saw, and neither was “ my husband. We could see the doctors working on babies to save their lives. Incredibly heartbreaking,” says Jenna Mrnak, mother of triplets. It will be difficult to witness some of the things that go on in the NICU as babies struggle to grow and thrive. Try to take comfort in the knowledge that miracles happen there too.

• Circle of Hope NICU Foundation • Graham’s Foundation, GrahamsFoundation.org

• Hand to Hold, HandToHold.org • Ronald McDonald House Charities of Kansas City, RMHCKC.org

• NICU Photography, JessicaStrom.net • Congenital Heart Defects Support, CHDBabies.com

• Scrapbook pages for premature babies, DreemiePreemie.com

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finding the right caregiver for your family

All parents must, at some point, come to terms with leaving their child in the care of others. For some it may be a matter of finding care for a couple of hours on occasion, while others require several hours a day. Regardless of the amount of time the care is needed, the task can be daunting, “When choosing childcare, there are many things to consider,” says Shanna Mundell, director of TLC Nanny and Sitter Service in Kansas City. She goes on to mention factors such as the length of time a family needs childcare, the health and safety levels of the care and the cost of the care, including adjusting for tax considerations when hiring a nanny. “When we were looking for care, we wanted something close to home but with convenience en route to work, low caregiver to child ratio to allow our son more personal attention, someone with high recommendations from people we know and trust, someone who could offer a home-like feeling as well as high behavioral expectations, and flexibility with attendance to pay structure since I have summers off,” says Sabrina Mitchell, Kansas City area mother of one. Sabrina and her husband were able to narrow down the options by outlining their priorities. “We found an amazing and flexible in-home day care option with a lady who has 20+ years of experience across various age ranges, through recommendations from others, and I doubt we will ever leave her,” Mitchell says. Kansas City area mother Ferryl LeDuff and her husband had similar considerations. “When we began looking for care, we placed our consideration value on location, experience, education, in-home options, security and love,

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Whether you choose to hire a nanny or put your child in a day care setting, doing your homework is important. and through referrals from others we found our ideal fit with an in-home nanny in collaboration with a couple days a week of care by my mother,” she says. Even after determining the priorities and type of childcare you are considering, whether it be a nanny, a day care facility or private in-home day care option, there are still anxieties that arise over getting that particular care option just right. “We had tons of fears when it came time to really consider the care options—pretty much anything you could imagine from what we would miss when we weren’t around to watch him to whether he’d be loved enough by his care provider,” LeDuff says. Mitchell and her husband had fears as well, such as ending up in a care option that wouldn’t work out for one reason or another and then having to start all over again in finding a new location. Regardless of what fears you face in this decision, there are things within your control. “Whether you choose to hire a

nanny or put your child in a day care setting, doing your homework is important. Ask for references, and if using a day care, make sure to visit a couple of times before making a decision. If it is a nanny you are considering, be sure to do a background check, including criminal, driving and social security number verification at a minimum,” Mundell says. She also notes that when considering an in-home individual, parents should keep an eye out for employment gaps that cannot be explained, a history of changing jobs often or a reference that cannot be verified. “Trust your gut instincts, and if something feels ‘off,’ it very well could be,” Mundell cautions. Whatever options you explore, be prepared with what you want out of your care provider, utilize referrals from others, investigate and ask the right questions and pay attention to your instincts. Karah Chapman is a school psychologist in the Kansas City area who spent several of her earlier years enjoying the nanny career.

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When Will My Baby…

s a new parent, I remember “mourning” the loss of various stages and milestones as we passed through them. I was lamenting to a friend one day about this, and she reassured me that just as we miss one stage, there is another equally fun and exciting one just around the corner. Three kids later, I can say how right she was. What are some milestones you’ll have the pleasure of mourning the loss of but anticipating as well?

Grasp

our third had four teeth at 9 months! Dr. Carolyn Davis, pediatrician at Pediatric Care Specialists in Overland Park, says, “If they seem uncomfortable, massage their gums with your finger or use a teething ring that is cooled in the refrigerator. The FDA warns against using teething gel on a baby’s gums as it may numb his throat, causing difficulty swallowing, or possibly an allergic reaction.” Be sure to capture those last few gummy smiles on camera too!

Crawl

Newborn babies’ hands spend so much time balled into tight little fists that it’s exciting when you notice your baby trying to grasp and hold an object, even if only for a second or two! Rejoice in this milestone around 3 months, because she will be able to entertain herself a bit better by holding onto toys for longer periods of time.

Crawling takes on various forms, but however it happens, it’s a game changer! Your non-mobile baby suddenly is everywhere, exploring his environment, which typically happens around 7 to 10 months. “My 5-month-old just started to push up to crawl!” says Natalie, a Shawnee first-time mom. “It’s scary and exciting all at the same time!”

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Although the process of teething happens long before you notice the telltale white buds, your baby’s first teeth can start to show anywhere from 4 to 7 months. Our first child had four teeth at 16 months, and

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How do you celebrate your baby’s milestones?

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As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

take a photo

Sitting up unsupported can happen anywhere from 4 to 7 months. At first, you’ll find your baby is able to sit for only a second or two before toppling over, but gradually, the time will lengthen. Soon, you’ll discover she no longer prefers lying down to play but rather enjoys sitting up. With this new perspective, you and she will find fresh thrills in playtime.

Julie Collett writes from Overland Park, where she is realizing these stages are flying by WAY too fast with her third baby, who is 9 months old!

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Sit up

Once your baby can crawl, it’s only a matter of time before she starts pulling up to a standing position, usually around 8 to 10 months. A musical table is a great toy to entertain your baby in this new position. Make sure to secure furniture and unstable objects for her safety. Check out CharliesHouse.org for an in-home safety checklist.

If you thought crawling threw you for a loop, wait until your little one takes those first steps! Walking is probably the most varied milestone in terms of when it can happen, anywhere from as early as 9 months to as late as 17 months. Be sure to purchase a good quality shoe and provide safe opportunities for your baby to practice this new skill. Celebrate each milestone as it comes and try not to rush, because each stage passes more quickly than you think. “I remember the first year, watching my kiddo like a hawk for these milestones...I think when he was about 8 months I started relaxing more and realized I should stop wishing him on because he’ll be grown up far quicker than I want him to be. He’s 2 now, and I feel like it’s just flying by faster each day!” shares Gardner mom Ashley. Remember, babies develop at different rates, and these ranges are only approximate. Try to steer clear of comparisons between siblings or friends and accept your baby where he is developmentally.

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You’ve been putting your baby to sleep on her back because it’s safer and—Bam!— she’s on her tummy! Rolling over is another fun but sometimes scary and uncertain milestone. Typically, rolling tummy to back happens earlier, around 4 months, while rolling back to tummy happens a bit later, closer to 5-6 months, because it requires more muscle strength. Keep in mind, once your baby is rolling over, it’s time to reevaluate your swaddling situation!

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Nursing is all about supply and demand. When Baby nurses, it tells your body that you need to make more milk. loved the lactation cookies! And as far as cookies go, they were actually pretty healthy,” says Julie Kerns, Olathe mom.

When should I nurse my baby?

So many questions fill the minds of mothers of newborns. Whether it is your first baby or your fourth, you always have things you want to know more about. For breastfeeding moms, a whole world of questions about the ability, the frequency and the techniques for feeding your infant surrounds. “I felt like I had no idea what I was doing when my son was born. And then, to feel like I had no idea what I was doing when I was nursing, it just added to it,” Meredith Thomas, Overland Park mom, says. “I wanted to feel confident about something—anything.” Here are some tips and tricks to help answer metro moms’ most frequently asked nursing questions:

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How do I keep my supply up? One of the most common nursing fears is not having enough supply. Adding a pumping session a few weeks into your nursing journey can help increase supply, as well as build you a stockpile of milk for when you are away from Baby. Having the extra milk on hand also gives Dad a chance to participate in feeding Baby! Staying hydrated while nursing is also very important. Many moms like to have a water bottle stationed near their nursing chair. There are also a lot of delicious recipes out there for lactation cookies. They can help boost your supply using ingredients like flax seed and brewer’s yeast, while providing a yummy treat for the whole family! “We

Nursing is all about supply and demand. When Baby nurses, it tells your body that you need to make more milk. Especially in the early weeks of nursing, skipping even one nursing session can have an impact on your milk supply. To ensure your supply meets Baby’s needs, feed Baby as often as you can. There are plenty of schedules that say how often Baby should eat, and those can be helpful to make sure Baby is eating enough. However, don’t feel stuck to the schedule. If Baby gives you signs that he or she wants to nurse, go for it! Enjoy those extra feeding sessions with your little one— it will only do good things for your milk supply. “I stuck to the schedule exactly with my first. I fed him every three hours. I felt like I was always struggling with supply,” Lacey Jefferies, Shawnee mom, says. “With my second, I fed her whenever she wanted. I swear, it made all the difference in how much milk I had.”

Does nursing hurt? Nursing doesn’t have to hurt. If you are experiencing sharp pain, bleeding or are too sore to nurse, you may have a problem with Baby’s latch. This is very common and is often very easy to fix. Set up an appointment with a lactation consultant and get back on track for much more comfortable nursing.

Do I have to watch what I eat while nursing?

Should I consume my placenta?

According to the Mayo Clinic, nursing moms need an average of 400 to 500 additional calories a day to keep up the energy needed to produce milk for Baby. Focus on eating foods high in protein and make sure to include fruits and veggies. If Baby is overly fussy, consider what you ate that day. Different foods give your milk different flavors, and something may be disagreeing with Baby’s system. Melissa Bellach is a freelance writer and mom of two living in Overland Park. As always, please contact your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Myth Versus Fact: Myths and old wives tales about breastfeeding abound. Here’s the real skinny on some of the most commonly told tales.

Breastfeeding will help you lose weight. True! According to Women’s Health, nursing moms can burn an additional 300-500 calories per day.

Cabbage leaves help with breast tenderness during engorgement. True! There are differing medical opinions as to why, but cabbage has been known to ease swelling and discomfort during engorgement.

Breastfed babies sleep less. False! While formula does sit a bit heavier on Baby’s stomach, there is no documented proof that breastfed babies take longer to sleep through the night. To learn more, check out these great nursing resources: KellyMom.com, LLLUSA.org, or visit the lactation specialists at Shawnee Mission Medical Center’s Birth Center.

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Sarah Stetner is proudly raising two young techies. Her sons, Gabriel, 3, and Isaiah, 6, are media mavens who know their way around an iPad—and almost every other device on the market. “Leapster, iPad, Wii, Xbox, computer, they do it all,” she says. The Stetners set media limits for ”noneduational” media and TV shows but not for learning-oriented video games and devices. “Those, they can play all they like,” Stetner says. Just how educational those devices are is the subject of debate. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends no screen use for babies and toddlers and strict limits for older children, based on their claim that so-called “educational” video games and television shows have no proven learning benefits. But that claim is controversial—some experts insist that certain media can and do boost learning for young children. Elizabeth Vandewater, Ph.D., associate professor of health promotion and behavioral science at the University of Texas Health Science Center, led a study that showed slight vocabulary gains in infants exposed to a Baby Wordsworth languageoriented DVD. “The idea that media has no educational benefits is a common misconception,” she says.

learning debate As families snap up smartphones, tablets and educational techno-toys, the debate over their educational value is heating up. Many modern kids live in homes where media devices outnumber people—the average home has almost 10 screens,

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according to one study. Common Sense Media reports 40 percent of 2- to 4-year-olds use smartphones, tablet computers or similar devices. Nearly half (44 percent) of preschoolers have a television in their bedroom. Younger tots see plenty of screens too. The AAP reports that 90 percent of children under 2 use some form of electronic media daily. One thing researchers and the AAP agree on: A child’s potential for technology-aided learning depends largely on age. For babies and toddlers, the AAP says educational programming and media devices don’t boost learning. That’s because most babies and toddlers lack the critical contextual knowledge that enables them to learn from a television program. For preschoolers, the hubbub about media overexposure isn’t because most media is harmful in and of itself, notes Sarah Roseberry, Ph.D., a researcher with the Institute for Learning and Brain Sciences (I-LABS) at the University of Washington. Instead, the concern centers on what kids miss out on when they’re parked in front of a screen. According to one study, kids lose 50 minutes of face-to-face interaction and 10 minutes of play for every hour they spend in front of a screen. “Right now, we’re concerned with displacement and the idea that the screen time is replacing the type of face-to-face interactions that we know promote language development and other types of learning,” she says.

screen awareness Video games and other educational devices are not necessarily devoid of benefits, according to Seeta Pai, managing

Electronics can teach, but they can’t replace life experience. director of education and research at Common Sense Media. “Some media may help young kids develop certain 21st century skills that aren’t available through other means,” says Pai. “But we’re talking about well-designed products used in the right circumstances with the right adults.” That means media that takes the place of parental interaction—or serves as a babysitter for busy parents—won’t have much learning value, no matter how great the content. Co-viewing and playing video games together allows parents to connect what’s happening on screen to real life, providing the vital context that fuels learning, says Pai. “So after a trip to the zoo, you might play a computer game or use an iPad app about animals and see whether you can find animals that your child saw at the zoo.” Young kids need parents to help bridge the gap between the screen and real life, she says. Definitive answers on the educational value of media use for young kids may be years away, says Pai. In the meantime, Common Sense Media provides Learning Ratings, a program that offers “best for learning” ratings and reviews for video games and apps. The ratings (currently in BETA testing) are

designed to help parents navigate the confusing world of kids’ media and help kids make better media choices, according to Pai. For the Stetners, though, the lesson is clear: Electronics can teach, but they can’t replace life experience. From learning basics like letters and numbers to life skills like coordination and sportsmanship, Stetner says video games and computers have made her kids smarter. But when the weather’s nice, she sends the boys outside to race, wrestle and tumble in real-life dirt and grass—an experience no computer game could ever replicate. Malia Jacobson is an award-winning health and parenting journalist and mom of three. Her latest book is Sleep Tight, Every Night: Helping Toddlers and Preschoolers Sleep Well Without Tears, Tricks, or Tirades.

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Symptoms

you shouldn’t ignore Each pregnancy is different and hosts its own bevy of potential symptoms and side effects.

e’ve all seen the stylized version of the pregnant mom-to-be in movies or advertising. She’s floating along in perfectly fitted designer duds, full of energy and positively radiating with that special pregnant glow. The underlying message? Pregnancy is simple, effortless and problem-free. In real life, this isn’t always the case. My own experiences were widely varied. My first pregnancy was riddled with extreme nausea and morning sickness in the first trimester and halfway through the second. When the nausea finally dissipated, I woke up covered in itchy hive-like bumps that spread across my arms, legs and back. Six agonizing weeks of doctor’s visits, tests, steroid creams, homeopathic soaps, lotions and Internet research later, a daily can of tomato juice cleared the rash right up. My son ended his time in utero with a flourish however, overdue and via an emergency c-section. The next time around, I dealt with sciatic pain and didn’t float along, so much as waddle. My second pregnancy was a cakewalk compared to my first, honestly, but at neither time did I find it completely effortless. Each pregnancy is different and hosts its own bevy of potential symptoms and side effects. Whether you’re a first-time mom or a veteran, questions about what’s normal can arise. I decided to reach out to Dr. Kimberly Matthews of Women’s Health Associates about what’s typical and what’s not during pregnancy. From spotting to kick counts, she addresses some common concerns.

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Is spot-bleeding during pregnancy normal?

While spotting during pregnancy is not “normal,” it is not uncommon. We receive many calls from women who have spotting in pregnancy, and many of those go on without complications. One reason for spotting early on may be implantation, but there are many causes. If you are spotting, you should always let your OB know so that she can determine whether further tests are needed.

Is period-like bleeding normal?

Is nausea common? Are there remedies to relieve it?

Period-like bleeding is not normal and should be evaluated right away.

Nausea is especially common in early pregnancy but can extend into later pregnancy for some. Vitamin B6, ginger, lemon drops and eating small, frequent meals can help alleviate nausea.

Women typically gain just a few pounds in the first trimester and about a half to 1 pound per week for the remainder. If you are gaining weight at a more rapid pace consistently, you should discuss this with your physician. Some women do gain weight more rapidly, despite a healthy diet and exercise. Others may have an underlying medical condition. Gaining too much weight can increase chances of abnormal progression in labor, c-sections, diabetes and high blood pressure.

How common are rashes in pregnancy?

Itchy skin and skin changes are common during pregnancy. If you have excessive itching, especially at night and on your hands and feet, your doctor should evaluate your condition. If a rash is present and worsens and symptoms are not relieved by over-the-counter medications, you may need further tests.

When should pregnant moms begin counting kicks?

I usually recommend starting kick counts around 28 weeks.

How many kicks are considered normal? When should moms be concerned?

All babies have a different pattern and baseline to their movement in utero. If your

Discomforts of a changing body are normal during pregnancy, but you should be aware of some things. Severe or unusual pain should be addressed with your doctor. Swelling is not unusual, especially at the end of pregnancy, but if it is accompanied by headaches, vision changes, acute abdominal pain or sudden nausea and vomiting, contact your provider. Lastly, if you suddenly experience a gush of fluids and/or contractions, call your doctor immediately. This could be a sign that the amniotic sac has ruptured and you may be going into labor. Anytime before 37 weeks is considered preterm labor.

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baby is moving according to his or her daily pattern, there should be nothing to worry about. Kick counts are useful when a baby is not moving according to his usual pattern. There are many ways to count kicks, but typically 10 movements or more within a two-hour time period is sufficient. If you haven’t had anything to eat or drink recently, do that at the time of the kick counts. If the baby isn’t moving adequately, call your provider for further evaluation.

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homemade baby food

nce parents decide to begin baby food, their next step is choosing which baby food to use. What brand? Fruits, vegetables or a combination? What about organic? While pre-made options are good, homemade baby food is becoming more popular and for good reason. Making your own baby food is easier than you think. Homemade baby food has many benefits. One of the biggest reasons parents choose to make baby food is to know the exact ingredients their child is eating. “I chose to make my own food because I wanted to know exactly what my baby was eating,” says Clarissa McGinnis, Kansas City, MO. “I didn’t want all the preservatives that come with store-bought baby food. Also, I always have healthy veggies on hand, so why not?” Other reasons for choosing to make baby food include its being more economical than prepackaged food, and parents can choose which fruits, vegetables and combinations they want, as well as whether to use organic ingredients. Finally, Baby gets used to eating the same foods the rest of the family is eating, just in puree form. Nothing is perfect, and while making baby food has some real advantages, there are some drawbacks to homemade baby food. For many parents, time is the biggest factor. Preparing the individual

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servings of food takes time—picking up prepackaged items is certainly faster. Store-bought food is more convenient and doesn’t require fridge or freezer space, while the homemade version does (WebMD.com). If you decide to make your own baby food, you’ll find it a pretty simple process. To get started, all you need is a way to cook the food, a way to grind it up and a way to store the pureed end product. Many systems are available that steam and puree in one, but investing in another piece of kitchen equipment isn’t necessary. Chances are your kitchen already contains everything you need—no purchase necessary! Steaming and baking are the most preferred cooking methods because they preserve most/all of the nutrients. Microwaving can be used for small portions, but the amount of nutrients destroyed in this prep method varies based on the fruit/vegetable you use. If you choose this route of cooking, use glass and only small amounts of food at a time. When is the Once the food is cooked, right time to start drain and reserve the liquid Baby on solids? (except for carrots, because Find out at of the high nitrate level) and transfer the cooled food to KCParent.com. a blender or food processor. Both of these appliances work well to create thin, smooth food. Blenders work well for larger portion sizes, and for small, single servings, an immersion blender will work also. For thicker, chunky food (only for babies who are older and transitioning), a potato masher works just fine (WholesomeBabyFood.com). Blend in the reserved liquid to achieve the desired consistency. Now the time has arrived to store the food you’ve made. The amount of food is probably the largest factor in deciding how and where to store. Baby food can be stored in the fridge for up to 48 hours. All additional food should be frozen. “I got covered ice cube trays and, about once or twice a week, I would steam and process food, put it in the ice cube trays and pop them in the freezer to make little food cubes,” says Leslie Glasco,

Kansas City, MO. “Then, after they were frozen, I’d label and date big freezer Ziplock bags and put the food cubes in those, to store and use whenever I wanted. I would just need to get out a few cubes and heat those up in a pan, right before I fed my baby.” Other methods of freezing include using glass containers (make sure to only use glass jars made for freezing) or dropping the baby food onto wax paper in clumps, like when you make cookies, freezing them and then transferring to a Ziplock bag (WholesomeBabyFood.com). The final step is thawing the food when you are ready to use it. Planning ahead is the easiest approach, pulling out the ice cubes or clumps the day before and letting them thaw slowly in the fridge. Because planning ahead is not always possible (or Mommy brain gets in the way), you can thaw the food in a glass bowl in the microwave, by submerging the bowl in a bigger bowl of hot water or by heating in a small pot on the stove. Now you are ready! Have fun and experiment with different combinations that your baby is sure to love! Jessica Heine has loved making baby food for her two older children and looks forward to the experience with baby number three in the near future.

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imagine. n Play around with texture. Leslie Glasco, Kansas City, MO,

says, “As Baby got older, I started playing with the texture of the foods, too, and not processing them quite as much. She was able to get used to the feeling of the food and start doing some chewing. It was a good introduction to being fed regular bites.”

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2. Do whatever you can to make nighttime feedings as easy as possible for all involved. No one

some unsolicited advice for new parents Listen to your instincts, not the Greek chorus of friends and relatives insisting that they know the “right way” to do everything.

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told me it’s not a good idea to get out of bed, go into Baby’s room, get the baby, turn on the lights, sit up in a chair and watch TV during the 3:00 feeding. All I learned from doing that is that there is a lot of really bad TV on at that hour. Eventually, I learned for me the preferred method was to have Baby in a bassinet near my side of the bed. I installed a dimmer on my bedside lamp and would only turn on the minimal amount of light needed to see where to aim the baby’s mouth. If you are bottle feeding, have everything prepared before you turn in and set up as close to your bed and the baby as possible. Use a cooler, warmer, whatever portable electric device you need so that no one has to get up and go into the kitchen. Although it might give me a “terrible mother” stigma, I will admit that I never once warmed a bottle for my kids. They drank cold milk and liked it because they didn’t know any different. If it was really chilly (read frozen), I would run it under the hot tap for a brief period.

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had children you might think to yourself, “Well, I stayed up all night in college to study for exams or write papers.” Or, “I am a night owl anyway. I can get by on a few hours of sleep here and there. Plus, don’t infants sleep something like 20 hours a day anyway?” Getting six to eight hours of sleep (if you are lucky!) in oneto two-hour chunks in a 24-hour period is NOT the same as getting six to eight hours of uninterrupted sleep. Studies have shown that interrupted sleep can be just as harmful as sleep deprivation and can wreak havoc on your mood and energy levels, as well as your overall general health. Asking Dad or a grandparent to take on the overnight feedings even just one day a week can be a lifesaver if you have a baby that wakes you up several times per night.

the tags on and save the receipts, because you will be exchanging some of them for diapers or formula). Take an experienced mom with you to help you register. Stores have baby registries for one reason only: to help them sell baby products. Do a little research along the lines of “what does a baby really need in the first year.” Don’t worry about having certain items on hand right away that you can’t use until they are older (such as a high chair, jogging stroller, booster seat, plates and bowls, shoes, etc.). And remember, your baby will not care whether his diaper pail was a hand-me-down. Babies typically will not wear a great percentage of the fancy outfits you will receive as gifts. Choose one favorite per size range for photos and one or two for special occasions, and that is plenty. Fancy outfits are often scratchy and will have loads of buttons, ties or other difficult fastenings that only serve to drive Mom and Baby crazy.

the effects of continued interrupted sleep. If you have never

4. Figure out a schedule that works for you and your baby, then be prepared to change it. Many, many people told me to “sleep

when the baby sleeps.” My baby only really wanted to sleep from 9:00 to 10:00 in the morning. This was pretty much the only part of the day that I felt awake and could get anything done. It was light out, and my natural circadian rhythm wanted me to be awake whether the baby was asleep or not. But I fought my natural instincts and tried to go back to bed in the morning because I thought I was supposed to. This was a waste of time, as I would inevitably just lie there and feel guilty because I thought I should be up doing something productive. What worked better for me was to declare 2:00 to 4:00 naptime each day, whether Baby or I slept during it or not. I got through several good series of books during that time. Only you can find the sweet spot between a routine for your baby and doing what you need to do in the outside world. Don’t apologize for it.

5. Find activities that YOU

Listen to your instincts, not the Greek chorus of friends and relatives insisting that they know the “right way” to do everything. Most importantly, don’t hesitate to ask for help if you need it. In my experience, friends and family may be more likely to help if you ask them for a specific task, like bringing over a meal or sitting with the baby for two hours.

enjoy doing with Baby and a routine that nurtures YOU. I did not enjoy staying at home alone with my firstborn. It was lonely and quiet. Frankly, it was boring, but I was so sleep deprived that I didn’t have the energy to find something interesting to do. And it felt wrong to complain about having this precious time with my healthy baby. I had envisioned the great projects I would get done around the house that never materialized. Not to mention that newborns want to eat approximately every two hours, and the feeding/changing cycle takes up about half that time. Ask friends with older children what they did to stay sane during this time. Working part time helped for me. Gyms are a good outing (even if you don’t like to work out, you can take a shower in peace), and they often have free child care. Libraries also offer programs for little ones, and some even have toys and play equipment.

Laura Miller McEachen is a part-time attorney and full-time mommy. She lives in Overland Park. As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

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Pregnancy

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he first time I saw a no-doubt-aboutit positive reading on a pregnancy test, I was elated. Excitement was such a dominant emotion throughout the entire pregnancy, to say I had that “pregnant glow” was an understatement. Fear never played a part in the process, as joy provided the surge of adrenalin I needed to endure insomnia, unsightly swelling and labor pains with ease. It was only when I found out I was expecting our next son that I felt conflicting emotions for the first time. Giddiness, shock and pure terror all coursed through my body instantaneously. Only one month prior to conceiving my second son, I underwent a miscarriage that left me rattled and questioning my body’s ability to maintain pregnancy. What caused the miscarriage was unknown, which only added to my fear that history might repeat itself. Thankfully, as my baby grew in utero, my fears decreased. Apparently, I am not alone in my concerns. Most moms-to-be find themselves afraid of some element of pregnancy or childbirth, whether it be the unknown or a repeat of undesirable past outcomes. However, when fear takes the driver’s seat in a pregnancy, it can actually cause harm instead of preventing it. New York School of Medicine reproductive psychiatrist Sharri Luskin, MD, notes that when a woman is

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driven by fear, not only is she unable to enjoy the gift of pregnancy, but also is at an increased risk of postpartum depression. Significant anxiety throughout pregnancy also can cause headaches, lowered immunity, high blood pressure, as well as an increased risk of prematurely delivering a low-birthweight baby. One of the greatest ways to diminish your fears, she concludes, is to arm yourself with facts.

Fear: Miscarriage Fact: One of the most pressing concerns on a mother’s mind is miscarriage, the loss of pregnancy within the first 20 weeks, as it is known to occur in as many as one in five pregnancies. Most miscarriages take place during the first few weeks after conception because of chromosomal abnormalities, before many women even know they are pregnant. These miscarriages are often mistaken for late menstrual cycles. The likeliness of miscarrying decreases over time, dropping to less than 5 percent by the second month of pregnancy (the time when most doctors can detect a heartbeat). If you do miscarry, seek the support of loved ones and others who have been there, as grief is a very natural response.

Fear: Harming my baby Fact: This isn’t the time to start a

new high-impact workout routine or a stringent diet plan, but moderate exercise and a well-rounded diet can do good for both your body and your baby’s. Consult your doctor about your eating habits to devise an appropriate meal plan. Avoid smoking while also refraining from alcohol, uncooked meats, lunch meat (known to, at times, be contaminated with listeria) and excessive caffeine. And abide by the phrase “when in doubt, go without.” Liberty mom Elizabeth Korthanke says fear of eating or inhaling something harmful constantly plagued her when she was pregnant with her daughter. “I was afraid of eating something I shouldn’t or consuming chemical fumes,” she says. “I googled information about food

constantly. One time I even started crying in a restaurant because the waitress was unable to answer my very specific questions about what was in the Thai food I wanted to order. I hope to be less fearful next time!”

Fear: Genetic disorders and birth defects Fact: Genetic disorders and birth

defects are rare. The likeliness of a child being born with one ranges between 3 and 5 percent. If having elective tests to determine whether or not your baby has one brings peace of mind, go for it. But be prepared that having additional tests has its own drawbacks. Namely, the process of waiting for results can cause anxiety.

Fear: Childbirth Fact: Labor is one of the biggest hurdles to bringing a baby into the world. Many women are fraught with fear because of horror stories they’ve heard from family members, friends or television. Others bring fear from past labor experiences with them into the next one. A substantial fear

regarding labor is known as tokophobia, and while the number of women within the United States who suffer from it is unknown, studies show there are many effective ways to combat it. First, identify what you dread the most. Talk to a friend or counselor and journal your thoughts to determine what they are. Then take steps to redirect your concerns. If pain management is top priority, look into taking a breathing or relaxation technique class, such as a Lamaze, Hypnobirthing or Bradley Method course. And don’t beat yourself up if you need pain medication. Lawrence mom Mary Coachman found the best way to overcome her fear of labor was to reward herself with a surprise. “Waiting until birth to find out the baby’s sex gave me something to look forward to!” she says.

Lauren Greenlee has three boys, each one of their pregnancies and labors as unique as they are. She and her family reside in Olathe. As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

One of the greatest ways to diminish your fears is to arm yourself with facts. Five Steps to Fight Fear • Tune out the horror stories. Avoid watching overdramatized childbirth scenes

on screen and ask those around you to withhold sharing their negative birthing experiences.

• Get the facts. Inform yourself with what to expect throughout labor and delivery so it does not take you by surprise.

• Find ways to relax. Take a prenatal yoga class, memorize Scripture, listen to soothing music or take peaceful walks, long baths and power naps.

• Build emotional health. If you have a history of anxiety, depression or abuse (particularly sexual abuse), seek professional help as soon as possible.

• Seek support. Let friends and family know how you feel and surround yourself with those that encourage you to feel confident and strong.

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Because They Are Counting on You

hildren are a blessing. Gone are the relaxing days of leisure, replaced by diapers, binkies, visiting grandparents, disappearing sleep and anything resembling your prior life. Yet there is no way you would give it up. Your child needs you. There is only one you; however, life is unpredictable. Things happen. If something happens to you, how do you want your children raised? What types of values are important to you? Having an estate plan in place will allow you to guide your children as they grow, even if you can’t physically be there to do it yourself. An estate plan isn’t only for the wealthy. It is for anyone who wants to provide for and protect family and loved ones.

Raising the Kids

If something happens to you, how do you want your children raised? What types of values are important to you?

Instilling strong values and teaching life lessons is one of the most important roles you play in your child’s life. Generally, if something happens to one parent, the other parent will continue to raise your children. What happens if something happens to both of you, though? Who is the right person to raise your children? Does this person share your values? Do they have the right personality and temperament to parent your children in the manner you desire? As you think about who will raise your children, consider the person’s parenting and social skills, as well as whether they will strive to maintain relationships with each parent’s extended families. Can the potential guardian manage finances well? How will the addition of one or more children affect the guardian? Can they handle the additional strain? It may be tough, but making the decision and putting that decision into an estate plan is much easier than having a court appoint a guardian—a guardian that may or may not have met with your approval. There is no perfect person to replace you, but some people are better equipped than others to raise your children in a manner similar to yours.

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Taking Care of You Most people think of an estate plan as something that takes effect when you pass. Unfortunately, that simply isn’t the case. Many times, a person becomes unable to manage their own affairs because of illness, accident or other causes. Who do you want to make health care decisions for you if you are unable? Who is going to make sure your bills are paid and the house is kept up? A power of attorney allows you to name someone you trust to make health decisions on your behalf. It also allows the person to handle your business affairs—like continuing payments on your mortgage. It is also a good idea to have a power of attorney in place for your kids that allows a grandparent or caretaker to consent to medical treatment. Being called away from work or a getaway due to an injured child is troubling, but delaying treatment because no one has authority to consent is worse.

Putting a Plan in Place Estate planning will require you to think about your family and relationships. Focus on the most essential legal documents first and update your plan as needed. Once you have a plan in place, you will have the peace of mind that your family is protected should something happen to you. Developing a plan now is relatively easy. Waiting until something happens, and having the court develop a plan later, is not.

Taking Care of Finances Kids cost money. If something happens to you, how do you want your children’s financial needs to be handled? The guardian will need additional resources, but what other aspects are important to you? Most likely, you won’t want to give youngsters a

windfall as soon as they reach 18. Maybe you want to provide for college. Or assist your children’s development into motivated and productive individuals. Oftentimes, the guardian will have input into how money set aside for your children is used, but the person named to manage your children’s funds (known as a trustee) will ensure any funds are used to grow your children—not spoil them. The trustee will manage funds as you direct, but those directions need to be developed first.

Todd Rasmussen is a member of Rasmussen Law, LLC. Todd draws upon years of experience to help clients with their estate planning and business needs. In addition to being an attorney, Todd is a licensed, certified public accountant. RasmussenLawKC.com

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Monday Moms FREE Monday 9:30-8:00, Paradise Park. Moms are free at the Children’s EduTainment Center with a paid child’s admission. 816.246.5224

Pay-for-Play Mon-Fri, 10:00-5:00, Rainbow Play Systems Olathe. Enjoy indoor play on Rainbow’s play equipment. $4/child. 913.780.6500

KidScape Mon-Sat, 10:00-4:30, Johnson County Museum. Hands-on exhibit immerses young children in a colorful, exciting environment. 913.715.2552 Power Hour 1:00-3:00, Little Monkey Bizness. Special $5 admission 1:00-3:00 on Mondays and Wednesdays. 913.631.7000

Toddler Takeover Mon, Wed & Fri mornings, KC North Community Center. Bring little ones and let them run and play in the gym. Cost: $1/session. 816.784.6100, KCParks.org

Tuesday Readers – These events typically occur every week, but there may be exceptions. Please remember that events are subject to change, and many facilities close on federal holidays, during inclement weather or when school is closed. Always call ahead to verify times. Tip: Visit KCParent.com/Going-Places/ for even more ideas!

FREE Open Play Tue-Thu, 8:00-8:00; Fri, 8:00-4:00; Sat-Sun, 9:00-Noon; Parkside Coffeehouse (Cedar Ridge Christian Church). Indoor playground and toys for children and coffeehouse. 913.393.3000 Toddle Time Tue & Wed, 9:00-11:00, Matt Ross Community Center. Tunnels, games, puzzles…lots for your little one to play and learn. $1-2/child. 913.895.6390

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Story Time for Babies 9:15-9:45, Lee’s Summit Branch MCPL. Designed to instill a foundation in early literacy through play and one-on-one interaction. MyMCPL.org/events Preschool Playground 9:30-11:30, Irene French Community Ctr. Enjoy Step 2 climbers, Little Tykes toys and more. $2/child. 913.322.5550

Pay-to-Play 10:00-6:00, Backyard Specialists. Plan a play date with 17 play sets to enjoy, picnic tables and fun for little ones. $2/child.

Tots on Tuesday Third Tue of each month, 11:00, Kemper Museum. Explore bright colors and bold patterns. Dress up, play color-matching games, try on crazy hats and read stories with a trendy twist. 816.753.5784

Pixie Skate 9:30-11:00, Skate City. Bring your little one out to the rink! $5/child. 913.888.6668

Baby Bounce Story Time 9:30, Plaza Branch. Bring your infant (newborn to 18 months) for a fun story time every Wednesday. 816.701.3481

Story Time 10:00, Barnes & Noble (Town Center). Free story time for little ones. 913.491.4535 Power Hour 1:00-3:00, Little Monkey Bizness. Special $5 admission 1:003:00 on Mondays and Wednesdays. 913.631.7000

Story Time for Babies 9:30-10:00, Boardwalk Branch MCPL. Designed to instill a foundation in early literacy through play and one-on-one interaction. MyMCPL.org/events Bumper Bowling 10:00, Mission Bowl ‘n Olathe. Moms and tots enjoy bowling. Cost: $3/ea includes one game, shoes and small drink. 913.432.7000 Pay-to-Play 10:00-5:00, Backyard Specialists. Plan a play date with 17 play sets to enjoy, picnic tables and fun for little ones. $2/child.

Nature Story Time 10:00 & 11:00, George Owens Nature Park. Children are invited to participate in a nature focused story time and craft. 816.325.7115

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Café. Paint pottery and enjoy a story. $9.50/child. 913.383.0222

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Wednesday Pop ‘n Play on Alternating Wednesdays 9:00-11:00, Johnson County Museum. Activities designed especially for your 9-month- to 3-year-olds. Fee: $1/child, members FREE. 913.715.2552

Toddle Time Tue & Wed, 9:00-11:00, Matt Ross Community Center. Tunnels, games, puzzles…lots for your little one to play and learn. $1-2/child. 913.895.6390

Thursday Story Time for Babies 9:15-10:00, Liberty Branch MCPL. Designed to instill a foundation in early literacy through play and one-on-one interaction. MyMCPL.org/events Story Time for Babies 9:30-10:00, Raytown Branch MCPL. Designed to instill a foundation in early literacy through play and one-on-one interaction. MyMCPL.org/events

Café. Paint pottery and enjoy a story. $9.50/child. 913.383.0222

Paint Me a Story Alternating Fridays, 10:30, Paint, Glaze & Fire. Paint a ceramic piece, listen to story and enjoy a snack. $15/child. 913.661.2529

Family Fun Night 4:00-9:00, Little Monkey Bizness. Admission is only $6 for kids to climb and bounce the evening away. 913.631.7000

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Gardens by Candlelight: A Luminary Walk at Powell Gardens Photo by Sharon Day Escape! A new trend in entertainment

A Centenary of Australian War Art Thru

is a game where you and your partner (or small group) collaborate breakout from an interactive escape room while cracking codes and solving puzzles. Located in Downtown Kansas City, both of these venues require reservations: Breakout KC (BreakoutKC.com) and Escape Room (EscapeRoomKC.com).

Dec. 6, National World War I Museum and Memorial, TheWorldWar.org. The most comprehensive collection of Australian war art ever seen outside that nation consists of artworks from the Australian War Memorial depicting Australian military experience from the First World War to Afghanistan. The exhibition features Australia’s best known war artists, including George Lambert and Arthur Streeton. The works highlight the crucial role Australians played in some of the most defining moments in modern history.

First Fridays in the Crossroads First Friday of every month, Crossroads Arts District, KCCrossroads.org/first-Fridays/. Enjoy the city’s liveliest and most popular event. Arts organizations, galleries, studios and a wide variety of local businesses feature regional and national artists, as well as live entertainment starting at 5:00. Best explored on foot, the First Friday tradition continues to grow with up to 10,000 attendees. Most make it an evening, with dinner and drinks from a colorful array of restaurants and entertainment venues.

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World Series of Barbecue Oct. 1-4, Arrowhead Stadium, AmericanRoyal. com. For the first time ever, this event will be held at Arrowhead Stadium at the Truman Sports Complex. The barbecue began 36 years ago in the parking lot of the Golden Ox Restaurant. The West Bottoms has been a wonderful home for

this event, and now visitors can attend the annual competition at the home of the Chiefs. #ARBBQ2015

The National Circus and Acrobats of the People’s Republic of China: Peking Dreams Oct. 9, Yardley Hall, JCCC.edu/performing-arts-series/. Direct from Beijing, this company introduced the concept of a circus without animals, inspired the pioneers of Cirque du Soleil and now puts a new edgy spin on some of the greatest circus acts of our time. Thrilling acrobatics, mind-blowing feats of endurance and dazzling costumes.

Lenexa Chili Challenge Oct. 16 & 17, Old Town Lenexa, Lenexa.com. Each year, about 200 teams compete in two divisions: Chili Appreciation Society International (CASI) and Home Style Chili. Contestants also compete in the Salsa and Hot Wing contests. The festivities Friday night include live music and

fireworks. The contest begins Saturday at 10:00 with free samples for the public (while they last).

The Three Musketeers Oct. 9-18, Muriel Kauffman Theatre at Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts, KCBallet.org. A rollicking ballet of swashbuckling, swordplay and daring in the French court of Louis XIII. With every major role danced by men, The Three Musketeers is sure to thrill families. All for one and one for all! American Epics: Thomas Hart Benton and Hollywood Oct. 10, 2015-Jan. 3, 2016, Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art, Nelson-Atkins.org. The first major exhibition on Thomas Hart Benton in more than 25 years reveals the fascinating but overlooked relationship between Benton’s art, movie making and visual storytelling in 20th-century America. The exhibition brings together nearly 100 works by Benton, including 50 paintings and murals, as well as a selection of his drawings, prints and illustrated books.

Rusalka Nov. 7-15, Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts, KCOpera.org. Although Disney’s The Little Mermaid and Dvorák’s Rusalka are based on the

same Hans Christian Andersen fable, this isn’t your daughter’s Ariel. A hauntingly poetic libretto matched with a lush score, Rusalka tells the story of a lovely yet lovelorn mermaid who yearns to become human. The searing aria “Song to the Moon” is filled with longing as she prays for the prince to return her love. Her wish is granted, but she discovers that what we desire also can destroy, and redemption is seldom granted.

A Christmas Carol Nov. 20-Dec. 26, Spencer Theatre, KCRep.org. KC’s favorite holiday tradition is back for its 35th season, presented in the magnificent new Spencer Theatre! This ripping-good telling of the classic story of Ebenezer Scrooge continues to remind us what’s really worth celebrating—at the holidays or any time!

ALL NEW Nutcracker! Dec.5-24, at Muriel Kauffman Theatre at Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts, KCBallet. org. Kansas City Ballet Artistic Director Devon Carney presents an all new production of this favorite holiday classic. Carney promises a traditional yet boisterous, adventurous and reimagined production.

Gardens by Candlelight: A Luminary Walk Dec. 12 & 13, Powell Gardens, PowellGardens.org. Experience Powell Gardens aglow with the soft light of hundreds of luminaria. Enjoy live music in the grand hall of the Visitor Center and then stroll the candlelit path to the Marjorie Powell Allen Chapel for another festive performance.

A Night of Painting Visit a paint-yourown canvas shop at various locations (search “Creative Canvas Shops” on KCParent.com for a complete guide). BYOB painting classes and studios have been popping up around town, offering the perfect chance to get those creative juices flowing and do something out of the ordinary! Check shop calendars for a variety of canvas paintings and select an evening to learn how to complete your own masterpiece. ComedyCity Friday & Saturday evenings, ComedyCity, ComedyCity.cc. Enjoy live improv comedy shows created with suggestions from the audience, making for laugh-out-loud sketches.

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“When I have a food I don’t want to share with my kids, I tell them it’s spicy” – Tina

We asked KC Parent’s 18,600+ Facebook fans:

What clever/funny fibs have you told your children? Lindsay: My husband told my kids, “When the ice cream man is playing music, it means he’s sold out.” My kids have NEVER asked for ice cream.

Lucinda: I left the clock at “spring forward” for an extra week after it was supposed to “fall back.” Kids went to bed an hour early, and I got an extra hour in the evenings. Katie: My daughter thinks Chuck E. Cheese is only open for birthday parties.

Kourtney: When my daughter asked for ice cream we gave her yogurt. She was shocked at a birthday party when she was about 5! Marjorie: When I’m extremely tired of hearing and answering “why” questions from my nearly 4-year-old son, I tell him that my mouth is broken and I can’t talk anymore. Timothy: Cranberry juice is “red pop.” So the only “pop” they knew was cranberry juice. Too bad they learned the facts of “pop” from classmates. Jamie: That the finely chopped spinach in all of their meals was actually a spice. I even showed them a jar of dried parsley.

Audra: Whenever my son, 5, asks how I did something— “Mommy magic,” I reply. Christina: When the very loud and obnoxious toy ran out of batteries, I told my son it was broken.

Tina: When I have a food I don’t want to share with my kids, I tell them it’s spicy.

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Fall Into Fun at the Kansas City Zoo! Oct 3 & 4, 10 & 11, 17 & 18 Oct 17

Hoots & Howls

Brew at the Zoo & Wine Too 21 and up event

Oct 24, 25 & 31

Boo at the Zoo

Nov 7 & 8

Great Pumpkin Smash

Nov 14

Nikita’s Birthday Celebration

Nov 27-29

Santa Dives with Penguins

Dec 5 & 6

Holiday Wild

Dec 5 & 6, 12 & 13, 19 & 20

Santa Dives with Penguins

Dec 5 & 6, 12 & 13, 19 & 20 Dec 19

Nikita’s Going Away Party

Dec 31

Zoo Year’s Eve

Penguin Waddle

kansascityzoo.org | 816.595.1234 The Kansas City Zoo, a private, non-profit organization is operated in agreement with the Kansas City, MO Board of Parks and Recreation Commissioners, partially funded by the Zoological District in Jackson and Clay Counties in MO, and is accredited by the Association of Zoos and Aquariums.