KC Baby & Maternity Fall 2022

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hen you have a newborn, you anxiously watch for her to hit developmental milestones on time and do what you can to encourage and aid development. One big milestone is when Baby becomes mobile. It begins with turning over, rolling, then sitting up, and before long, your little one is standing and walking! I have a very vivid memory of when I learned my older was able to roll. I had set her on a blanket in the family room with some toys and then went to the kitchen to work on dinner. When I went back to check on her, I couldn’t find her and was completely flummoxed! Where could she have gone?!? I found her in the living room, under a chair. She had managed to roll from the family room to the living room and was happily kicking her legs up on the chair she had gotten herself under. It signaled the start of a new era in our home: our baby on the move!

If your baby is soon to be on the move, check out Judy Goppert’s article on pg. 26.

With cooler temps settling in, now is the perfect time to get out with your little one! And there’s no shortage of fun to be had in KC! From pumpkin patches to great outings like the zoo and Johnson County Museum, there are plenty of things to do! Be sure to check out Kristina Light’s article, “Memorable Fall Traditions,” on pg. 30, along with weekly playdate ideas on pg. 32. And, believe it or not, that’s just the tip of the iceberg! Find many more events and ideas for outings at KCParent.com. In addition, watch for great contests and giveaways!

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nature walk artwork

Want an easy art project for this fall? Use what you find on a nature walk and easily help little ones make a masterpiece! What a great reason to get outdoors and enjoy some fall nature—all while helping your child learn about how leaves change colors, why leaves fall and, of course, what fun bugs and beetles can be spotted along the way!

Step one: Pour paint onto paper plate.

Step two: Arrange leaves onto canvas.

Step three: Using paint sponge, mix colors on paper plate and then paint over the leaves.

Step four: Use pine cones and acorns as little stamps.

Step five: Allow to dry completely before hanging or gifting to grandparents!

Step six – optional: Write or paint a cute fall saying across the artwork, such as “Happy Fall, Y’All!”

Janelle Cumro-Sultzer is a family mediator who lives in Manhattan, KS, with her husband, two children and two dogs. Janelle loves to focus on learning through play and getting messy with crafts.

Supplies:

• Anything you want to collect on a nature walk: leaves, pine cones, acorns, etc.

• Fall paint colors. We used orange, red, yellow, brown and green.

• Paint sponge or paint brush

• Paper plate or somewhere to put paint

• Blank paper or canvas

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theABCsOF PREGNANCY

ADVICE. “Seek advice—ask when you have questions or want input. Others have been where you are now! As for unsolicited advice, let it roll off your back. Most people try to be helpful, but always remember what is best for you and your family,” says Erika Moreland, Overland Park mom of two.

BAG. Make sure you have your bag packed … before 38 weeks! I had my bag packed in plenty of time for our first pregnancy, but I was more lax for our second. When I went into unexpected labor at 37.5 weeks, I didn’t have time to pack anything else and ended up having to rely on my husband to bring me stuff!

COMFORT. Most women find pregnancy to be uncomfortable, especially toward the end, which can make sleep tricky. Jackie Black, Olathe mom of three, says, “Rolling over in bed at night became an orchestrated event. It involved a lot of planning, all five of my support pillows and my husband’s physical and emotional support!”

DOCTOR’S APPOINTMENTS. You will be making a lot of these, so be sure you like the practice you are with and don’t be afraid to switch if you don’t. Bear in mind many practices will have you see other practitioners at times in case your doctor isn’t available when you deliver.

EDUCATE YOURSELF. Kelsey Elliott, Olathe mom of two, shares, “Expecting mothers often question everything! What food is safe? What medication is safe? How is my baby developing at this stage of pregnancy? I recommend getting an app that helps track and guide you through your pregnancy journey. The Ovia Pregnancy App is a great resource for expecting mothers!”

FEEDING. Whether you breast or bottle feed will be among the many decisions you will have to make as a new mom. Though opinions out there differ, the only right option is what works best for you and baby.

GLUCOSE TEST. This screening test is usually done around 24-28 weeks of pregnancy to check for gestational diabetes and is almost always spoken ill of! Granted, the drink wouldn’t be my first choice, but there certainly are worse things. Grab a straw and a magazine ... and bottoms up!

HORMONAL. Yep, you will be. You might cry at TV commercials or over the tiniest thing that happens in your day. You may not be able to stand the sight or smell of foods you used to love. All completely normal!

IRON. The role iron plays in pregnancy is a big one, including developing the placenta and producing more blood. Your doctor will let you know whether you need to take a supplement.

JOIN. Consider joining a childbirth or parenting class or taking a CPR class. Now is also a good time to look into joining a moms group for after Baby is born!

KICKS. “Feeling your baby kick is a beautiful experience! At first they feel like butterfly flutters or little bubbles popping. As your pregnancy progresses, those little flutters turn into jabs, rolls, twists and turns that can be seen from the outside. You can even feel your baby’s hiccups!” shares Elliott.

LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. Elliott also says, “Pregnancy fatigue is the real deal, especially in the first trimester. Take naps, stay hydrated and find yourself a good pregnancy pillow for a more comfortable night’s rest!”

MOTHERHOOD. Motherhood is a journey, not a destination! A wise colleague of mine put it this way: “Having a child changes your life from black and white to color.”

NESTING. As you near the end of your pregnancy, you may find yourself “nesting,” cleaning and organizing like a fiend! All of this is part of the journey as you prepare to welcome your new little one to your home.

OFFERS. Say yes when people offer to help, especially during the final weeks of pregnancy or with siblings.

PREP. Jessica Kilby, Overland Park mom of one, suggests, “Prep as much as you can while pregnant, as this will make things easier once the baby comes—buying packs of diapers, hitting sales for baby needs, meal prepping, getting the nursery ready, etc.”

QUEASY. Many women experience queasy, nauseous tummies during the first trimester, and a smaller percentage of women experience this for much longer. Be sure to visit with your doctor if queasiness is an issue for you. Ginger chews, mints and eating small, frequent snacks throughout the day can all be helpful as well.

REGISTER. Phew, this can feel really overwhelming because of all the stuff out there for babies. But remember, a lot of what’s for sale isn’t really a musthave for Baby or you. With all the online registry options, as well, it’s easier than ever to add and delete things from your registry right from home!

SCALE. Don’t obsess over how much weight you are or are not gaining. Your doctor will let you know if there is a concern, so in the meantime, continue eating a healthy, well balanced diet and drink plenty of water.

TIRED. You will be more tired than you ever thought possible but somehow find it within yourself to keep on going!

ULTRASOUNDS. These treasured little glimpses of your baby are amazing and nothing short of miraculous!

VULNERABLE. Pregnancy can feel like a very vulnerable time. Your hormones are out of whack, your body is changing in crazy ways and so much unknown looms on the horizon. Take some time for yourself and have a good support person to whom you can vent.

WONDERS AND WORRIES. “The amount of wonders and worries you will have about your future child will fill your mind and heart on many sleepless nights. Eventually, you realize just to take things as they come and try to push those to the side,” says Kilby.

EXERCISE. Be sure to consult with your doctor regarding exercise, but keeping your body moving and going for walks are great ways to stay healthy throughout pregnancy.

YOGA. Consider a gentle yoga class. Not only will it help some of those aches and pains, but it can be a nice time of relaxation for you too.

ZILLION. The number of times you will have to pee during your pregnancy!

Julie Collett writes having had many of these experiences herself during her four pregnancies!

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

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EVERYTHING you need to know about PREECLAMPSIA

Shanna Eisenbrandt, Excelsior Springs, was 27 weeks pregnant when her blood pressure began to rise and her face, hands and feet started to swell.

“I thought it might just be ‘normal’ pregnancy swelling,” Eisenbrandt says, who was also experiencing migraine-like headaches, blurred vision and extreme exhaustion.

Knowing that her diabetes and a thyroid condition put her at higher risk for preeclampsia, Eisenbrandt had been monitoring her blood pressure between her prenatal appointments. A week later, on Easter Sunday, her blood pressure shot up to around 190/110 mm Hg.

Normal blood pressure in pregnancy should be below 140/80 mm Hg.

Although she was reluctant to contact her doctor on the holiday, her husband convinced her otherwise. Alarmed, the physician on call advised her to head to the hospital immediately. She was admitted that day for preeclampsia.

“My little delusional world of ‘maybe this is going to go away’ kind of shattered then,” Eisenbrandt says.

What is preeclampsia?

Preeclampsia typically occurs any time after 20 weeks gestation and, more rarely, can develop up to six weeks postpartum. Women with preeclampsia generally experience high blood pressure and protein in the urine.

Symptoms can come on suddenly and can include severe swelling, headaches, abdominal pain, shortness of breath, nausea and/or vomiting and visual disturbances.

According to Preeclampsia.org, the condition is a leading cause of maternal and infant illness and death around the world.

Who gets preeclampsia?

Preeclampsia affects between five to eight percent of all births in the United States. Although some women are at higher risk than others because of preexisting conditions ranging from autoimmune disorders, obesity, diabetes or chronic high blood pressure, any pregnant woman can experience the disease.

African American women are particularly at risk for the condition and are three times more likely to die from it. No one knows exactly why, but researchers are pursuing several lines of inquiry.

“How much of this risk is due to environment? How much of it is systemic racism? And how much of it is just having a genetic predisposition?” says perinatologist Devika Maulik, MD, who treats patients at

“Preeclampsia is one of those diseases that can get bad really quickly.”

– DR. DEVIKA MAULIK

Children’s Mercy Hospital and Truman Medical Center and is an assistant professor at the UMKC School of Medicine.

What complications can occur?

Patients with preeclampsia can suffer from kidney injury, liver failure, pulmonary edema, stroke and seizure.

“In very severe cases, women can develop HELLP syndrome, which is a variant of preeclampsia,” Dr. Maulik says.

HELLP, which is an acronym for Hemolysis, Elevated Liver enzymes and Low Platelet count, is a life-threatening condition.

Preeclampsia can also cause complications for babies.

“Risks to the baby include intrauterine growth restriction, placental abruption, still birth and complications related to preterm birth,” says ob-gyn Rebecca Lobell, MD, Saint Luke’s Women’s Health East, Lee’s Summit.

Placenta abruption occurs when the placenta, your baby’s life support, separates from the wall of the uterus.

How do you treat preeclampsia?

“The treatment for preeclampsia is delivery,” Dr. Lobell says.

Once Eisenbrandt was admitted to the hospital, her health care providers began magnesium sulfate and IV blood pressure medications.

“Being on magnesium for me was like having the worst body aches you can imagine. Feeling heavy and having no real concept of time. I couldn’t focus,” Eisenbrandt says.

Although the treatment may have been difficult, research suggests that magnesium sulfate is far superior to antiepileptic drugs in preventing seizures that can occur with preeclampsia.

When her baby’s heart rate began to drop, doctors performed an emergency c-section at 29 weeks. Weighing in at just 2 lbs., 9 oz., Eisenbrandt’s son, who is now 5 years old, spent seven weeks in the neonatal intensive care unit.

Can you prevent preeclampsia?

“Good health before pregnancy, lifestyle alterations and optimizing preexisting health conditions are the best ways for expectant moms to lower their risk of developing preeclampsia,” Dr. Lobell says.

Baby aspirin is recommended for high-risk women beginning in the second

trimester, which can reduce their risk by about 24 percent.

Because the condition can strike any pregnant woman, pay attention to any unusual changes in your body.

“After what we went through, I’m a big believer in listening to your body,” Eisenbrandt says. “If you have a gut feeling that something isn’t right, you need to follow up on it.”

Dr. Maulik agrees.

“I always caution my patients that the whole point of them being my patient is that they’re supposed to ‘bother’ me. They’re supposed to tell me if something is not quite right,” she says. “Preeclampsia is one of those diseases that can get bad really quickly.”

To learn more about preeclampsia and your risk factors, consult with your physician or check out Preeclampsia.org or ACOG.org.

Freelance journalist Christa Melnyk Hines resides in Olathe with her husband and their two teens.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Common Feelings of NICU Parents

Sitting beside your baby in the NICU while he is hooked up to machines, wires attached to his body, overwhelms new parents and stirs a flood of thoughts and emotions. The majority of babies are in the NICU because of premature birth (born prior to 37 weeks gestation), but babies can be admitted for other reasons, such as breathing problems, low birth weight, heart conditions and other complications. The tidal wave of parental emotions, though normal, can knock parents off their feet.

LOSS

Like any expecting parents, NICU parents dreamed of how the end of pregnancy would be, wrote a birth plan and envisioned how the first few hours after birth would go. Mom looked forward to nursing her child, and both parents pictured bringing home a healthy newborn and starting life with the new addition to their family. When a baby is in the NICU, the experience is very different. Moms may grieve the loss of the end of the pregnancy and feel jealousy toward other mothers who carried their babies to full term and experienced a typical birth with big, healthy babies. It is frustrating to have to wait for the appropriate time to feed your baby, ask for help picking him up and worry about germs when he comes home because of his lower immunity. Feeling a sense of loss over these things is totally normal. Acknowledge your feelings and talk them through with a loved one or a professional counselor. In time, you can begin to set new dreams and goals for your family’s future.

FEAR

Fear is a common, completely normal, response to having a baby in the NICU. Most parents do not have previous experience with the NICU, which creates a fear of the unknown. Parents worry their child will have long-term medical issues or that they are not capable of caring for them at home. The nurses and doctors are there to explain things and help you understand what is going on. Their goal is for you to feel comfortable caring for your child, both in the hospital setting and after you bring the baby home.

GUILT

Parents often question what they could have done differently in order to have a different outcome, a normal birth and no NICU stay. Mothers, in particular, blame themselves for the situation. Feelings of guilt and blame are common when a baby is in the NICU, but most premature babies are born early for unknown reasons. In the majority of cases, nothing could have been done to prevent premature birth. Discuss your feelings with your partner and with the medical staff in the NICU. They will help you work through your feelings and move forward as a family.

FEELING “ON DISPLAY”

Many NICUs have open areas with multiple cribs. Parents can feel like they get little or no privacy. Curtains can do little to keep conversations private, and nursing moms can feel like they are out in the open. Nurses and doctors are in and out, and you may feel like those medical experts are “watching” you all the time. Though the experience is uncomfortable, note that the NICU staff is watching to make sure you know how to care for your baby. They are there to help. As a NICU parent, let family and friends know that you need some time alone to unwind. They will be happy to give you the space you need.

POWERLESSNESS

In the NICU, your baby will be surrounded by nurses and doctors who are caring for her. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by the medical equipment. Ask the nurses to teach you how to work around the tubes and wires to change diapers, take temperatures and bathe your child. Once you begin to be a part of your child’s care, you will feel less helpless and more like a parent of a newborn.

ANGER

Some parents may have feelings of anger that their child is in the NICU. It is easy to blame doctors, NICU staff or your partner for the situation. You may feel angry that someone else is taking care of your child or that you are in this situation in the first place. Anger can be expressed in different ways. One person may express anger by

acting rude, demanding and being vocal, while others may retreat from the situation or into themselves, resulting in a form of silent treatment. Try to let go of anger and focus on you and your baby. Vent to a friend, write in a journal or use exercise as an outlet. Feelings of anger take a lot of energy, and you will need to save all of yours for taking care of yourself and Baby.

FEELING DISCONNECTED

When your baby is in the NICU for an extended amount of time, parents may feel a disconnection from the child. This feeling can be surprising and disturbing, but it is both normal and common for NICU parents. Shortly after birth, the baby may have been whisked away for medical care. Hours pass before the baby and parents are reunited, and then it may be several more days before it is safe for parents to hold their child. Mom is often released from the hospital long before the baby is allowed to join the family at home, and during that time the main caregivers are doctors and nursing staff. No wonder so many parents feel disconnected from their child! Be honest about your feelings and share them with the NICU staff. They will encourage you to become more involved with Baby’s care and help you work through your feelings in a healthy way.

As a NICU parent, you may feel one or all of these emotions as you walk through this journey. Keep in mind that the NICU staff is there to help guide and encourage you and your family through the process. Many NICUs have social workers on staff to provide any resources you may need to make a smooth transition in bringing the baby home. In time, the baby will grow and thrive, and the NICU experience will be a thing of the past.

Sarah Lyons is a mother of six children, including 7-year-old triplets who were born six weeks premature. The triplets spent 16, 19 and 41 days in the NICU before joining their family at home.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

COMMON NICU TERMS

ADJUSTED AGE: The child’s age minus the number of weeks he or she was born early. Adjusted age is calculated until approximately age 2.

APNEA: When a baby stops breathing for 20 seconds or longer, also known as an “episode” or a “spell” and is commonly associated with low heart rate (bradycardia).

BLOOD GASES: The amount of oxygen, carbon dioxide and degree of acidity in the blood.

BRADYCARDIA (“Brady”): An abnormally low heart rate due to a pause in breathing.

CONTINUOUS POSITIVE AIRWAY PRESSURE (CPAP): Tubes are attached to a ventilator and oxygen is delivered through the baby’s nostrils. This helps the baby breathe but does not breathe for her.

INCUBATOR OR ISOLETTE: An enclosed bassinet used to keep preemies warm.

KANGAROO CARE: Skin to skin contact between parent and baby.

NASOGASTRIC TUBE (NG TUBE): Flexible tube inserted through the nostril, down the esophagus and into the stomach. It is used to give food or remove air from the stomach.

ROOM AIR: This is the air we breathe without oxygen support.

VENTILATOR (OR RESPIRATOR): A mechanical breathing machine that delivers air to a baby’s lungs. The ventilator breathes for the baby as her lungs recover. (BabyFirst.com)

Oh, I’ve been there. I’m the mom who scooped her kid up— kicking and screaming—and left the library in the middle of story time (being “hangry” is real, being overstimulated is real). We calmed down in the car and ate a snack. I’ve had those out-of-body experiences where I’m just like, “Oh no. No, no, no. Surely this can’t be happening right here, right now. Oh my gosh, everyone is staring at us. SOS.”

I’ve, unfortunately, witnessed toddlers get spanked for being toddlers. I’m not here to judge another mom, but I do strongly believe that before children are punished, we need to go through a checklist. Are they tired? Are they hungry? Did they get triggered by a sound? Are their shoes too tight? Do they have to go potty? Are they sad? Is there something they are trying to communicate, but because they can’t use words, it manifests as screaming?

Sometimes, our toddlers are going to be vocal. That means kicking, screaming and crying. If we try to get on their level and figure out what they might need and validate their big feelings in their tiny bodies, maybe those meltdowns would become less frequent. Meltdowns are cries for help.

I’ve developed thicker skin since those first intimidating meltdown moments. I don’t feel everyone’s gaze on me as acutely. I don’t panic-sweat as much. I’m more focused on empathizing with the kids rather than on what others around me are thinking.

The most important tip I have is this: Some meltdowns are preventable. If your kid hasn’t eaten all day, maybe avoid leaving the house to go to a crowded grocery store (unless you have no choice in that moment). Kids’ being hungry, tired, overstimulated or antsy

Curbing the Crying

The Do’s (and Don’ts) of Handling Your Toddler’s Public Meltdowns

or having an underlying need that isn’t being met are the ingredients for an avoidable meltdown recipe.

The Child Mind Institute encourages modeling calm behavior. Work on selfsoothing techniques like slow breathing and relaxing your body (this applies to parents as well). Chances are, parents who are calmer, less visibly angry and not triggered or embarrassed by their child’s meltdown are less likely to impulsively spank their child for having a hard time. Your child isn’t trying to give you a hard time, she is simply having a hard time and needs your help to work through the struggle.

In the middle of a big public meltdown, be sure to bring your child to a safe space, where he can kick and yell and be upset without accidentally hurting himself or bumping his head. Sometimes when kids are in this state, nothing you say or do will resonate with them. They are too upset to hear you. As stressful as it is, sometimes you have to allow them to let it all out. Maybe this means moving to a quiet corner of the zoo or leaving a busy store.

Another way to curb a meltdown is to give your kiddo a job. If you have no choice but to take her to the grocery store, include her in the process. Make it fun. If she’s able to talk, ask her to spot something yellow in the fruit aisle. Let her carry a few of the smaller items on your list. Let her grab a candy bar as you check out.

Redirection is a tool I’ve had the most success with when it comes to my son. It definitely doesn’t always work, but most of the time it’s a lifesaver. Sometimes that means simply handing him a bag of fruit snacks from the diaper bag. Other times it means saying, “Let’s go get a Happy Meal,” when he

gets triggered in the checkout line. He starts thinking about the Happy Meal instead of his current trigger.

Again, it’s helpful for parents to control their reactions to their kids’ meltdowns. This is easier said than done, most definitely. Is it possible? Absolutely. The less you react, the more success you will have in combating those stressful moments. Try to be your child’s anchor. He is looking to you for comfort and security. He doesn’t want to be in this stressful moment either. Let him know it will pass.

Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former copy editor, full-time mommy and Disney fanatic who lives in Independence with her husband, son, daughter and dog.

Lifelines:

n Snacks (Bags of Goldfish, fruit squeeze pouches, granola bars and veggie straws are lifesavers.)

n Distractions (toys, food, a random magazine or book, music, telling a story)

n Special treats, random toys or stickers

n Coloring books

n Pop-its or fidget toys

n Just staying calm (Remember to be your child’s anchor.)

n Music (either on your phone or a tablet)

n Keep your plans “loose.” Instead of making toddlers fit your schedule, cater to what they can handle. Just because it works for you doesn’t mean it’ll work for them. We all work this way.

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DEFEATING NEW MOM ISOLATION

The months leading up to the birth of your first baby are bursting with people and activities. Baby showers, shopping trips, last-minute spa days and babymoons—it’s almost overwhelming how excited your friends and family are to support you and help you in this next step of life.

Then, the baby comes. And though there’s a flurry of commotion as everyone gets settled, eventually the guests say goodbye. And things get very, very quiet. It’s at this juncture that many moms begin to deal with a common feeling called newborn mom isolation. Let’s take a look at what you can do to combat this if it happens to you or someone you love.

ISOLATION ISSUE #1 – ALONE TIME

As a new mom you’re going to be awake more than you’re asleep. Super late and crazy early feeding times can stretch out for what feels like days. It can be lonely. A litany of irrational (and completely ridiculous) thoughts will race through your head, and no one will be there to chat through them. The silence in those moments can be even louder than your baby’s cries.

ISOLATION CURE #1 – ONLINE MOM’S GROUPS

If social media is good for one thing, it’s that it can be a lifesaver for a new mom. Find a moms group on your favorite social media platform and engage with it when you’re feeling alone. The knowledge that thousands of strangers across the globe are experiencing exactly what you are can give you the sense of calm and inclusion that you’re craving.

ISOLATION ISSUE #2 –SOCIAL LIFE DEPLETION

One of the more brutal isolation factors for a new mom is how a formerly thriving social life dissolves to almost nothing. Gone are the days of happy hour at a moment’s notice or a weekend getaway with your favorite friend group. Additionally, new moms have to deal with changes in their own reliability for social engagements. Even if you do finally book yourself for a fun outing, something can happen with the baby that derails your plans. For a new mom who prides herself on being dependable, that shift can feel tectonic.

ISOLATION CURE #2 –ADJUST YOUR EXPECTATIONS

You absolutely can and should have a social life with a newborn, but you’ll need to understand the parameters will change. Rather than meeting for a happy hour at a restaurant, invite friends to drop by for a morning coffee and convo on your back porch. Instead of a long weekend at the lake, meet up at a local pool for a few hours. Though it certainly won’t be the same as before, that’s okay. Your life has changed dramatically, and you must adjust to fit into this new world. And if you’re hanging out with the right people, the transition will be seamless.

ISOLATION ISSUE #3 – WHERE ARE MY FRIENDS?

An unexpected and isolating outcome of having a new baby is the downshift that can occur with friendships. Friends you’ve experienced everything with might be in a different stage of life. Perhaps they’re preoccupied with climbing their career ladder, or they’re single and don’t have extra energy to give to you as a new mom. Whatever the reason, the absence is noticeable … and it can enhance those lonely feelings even further.

ISOLATION CURE #3 – REEVALUATE FRIENDSHIPS AND ADD NEW RELATIONSHIPS

Friends without children can find it difficult to identify with what you are experiencing and they might unintentionally pull away. That certain friendships will dwindle is understandable, but it’s still imperative to find a support system that sympathizes with you in your new world. That might involve cultivating new relationships that serve your needs. But who has time to make new friends when you’re a new mom? You can barely find time to shower. A good start is moms groups, whether online or in person. A lot of mothers find their mom tribe in a mom/baby yoga class or a breastfeeding support group. Additionally, if you are sending your child to a daycare, get to know the moms of the babies in the class. You will have an instant connection with those moms who have children aged within weeks of your own. If a face-to-face engagement is too much right away, consider getting phone numbers and texting words of encouragement to those moms occasionally. Over time, the interactions will naturally meld into real life relationships.

ISOLATION ISSUE #4 – YOU’RE OVERWHELMED

No matter how much you prepare or read about being a new mom, it cannot prepare you for the actuality. The changes in your body alone are astounding, but now you’re responsible for a new person that is incapable of doing anything for himself. It is absolutely normal to feel overwhelmed—and maybe even paralyzed. Add to that the pressure of bouncing back both physically and emotionally, and you have a recipe for loneliness and isolation.

ISOLATION CURE #4 – SHARE AND SELF CARE

You absolutely must tell someone if you’re feeling isolated. Remember all those people who promised to support and help you when you were pregnant? Time for them to step up and show up. Ask a friend you trust to watch the baby for an hour so you can take a hot bath or go wander around the aisles of your favorite store alone. Text a new mom friend that you’re going to climb the walls and need a walk and some fresh air— she’ll likely feel the same.

Schedule some time for yourself. Whether that’s a massage or a gym class, you must take care of you. The time you spend with your baby is important, but remember you are a person, too. The most important person in your baby’s life, in fact. You have more needs as a new mom than you realize. Taking care of those needs doesn’t make you selfish, it makes you smart. Ask for help, and if asking doesn’t work, insist on help. You deserve it.

Kim Antisdel is a freelance writer and interior design sales rep for KC. She lives in Liberty with her husband, stepdaughters and son. As always please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

ADDITIONAL WAYS TO BEAT MOMMY ISOLATION

GET SLEEP The laundry isn’t going anywhere. Neither are the dishes. Deal with them later and get a nap when you can. You will feel less agitated and alone if you get some zzz’s.

FEED YOUR BRAIN – When your whole life revolves around your baby, you’ll start to feel like you exist in a vacuum. Try to read a book that stimulates a different part of your brain. Can’t find the time to read? That’s why podcasts were invented!

WRITE IT OUT – Journaling is one of the most healing activities you can do. Focus on writing down how you’re feeling at your worst and best moments, and occasionally go back and read how far you’ve come.

GET OUT OF THE HOUSE – Go to the library, the park, your church or even the grocery store. Be around people even if you feel like you don’t want to. Humans are hardwired to interact, and you’ll be shocked how much better you feel after exchanging just a few words with someone.

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IS IT TRUE LABOR…OR FALSE?

Your due date is near; your hospital bags are packed and ready. The contractions have begun, and at times, they take your breath away. While still bearable, they’re coming a lot more often and lasting much longer than before. Anxiety and excitement set in. Could this be it? Is it really time to head to the hospital? The chart below tells some of the differences between true labor and false.

FALSE LABOR

How often do the contractions occur?

Do they change with movement?

How strong are they?

Often irregular and do not get closer together.

May stop when you walk or rest, or may even stop if you change positions.

Usually weak and do not get much stronger. Or they may be strong at first and then get weaker.

TRUE LABOR

Come at regular intervals and last about 60 seconds. As time goes on, they get closer together.

Continue despite movement or changing positions.

Steadily increase in strength.

Where do you feel the pain?

Usually only felt in the front of the abdomen or pelvic region.

Usually start in the lower back and move to the front of the abdomen.

postpartum nutrition

No Bake Lactation Bites (from TheBakerMama.com)

Most pregnant mamas are diligent about taking care of their bodies and knowing how important nutrition is for the growing baby. But what about after Baby is here? Pregnancy and childbirth really take a toll on our bodies. While you may be tempted to slack off a bit on your nutrition regime, postpartum nutrition is just as important. Proper nutrition is crucial for healing your body and, if you are breastfeeding, your milk supply as well. Whether you are a brand-new mom or have delivered multiple babies, you have a lot on your mind postpartum and, unfortunately, nutrition for yourself may not be one of them. First and foremost, hydrate, hydrate, hydrate. Drinking water is helpful for many functions of your body, plus it will help keep your milk supply up as well, if you are nursing. Be sure to fill your plate with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables during meals. While this can be difficult in the winter months, find what you can, then opt for frozen, which can sometimes be healthier than fresh, depending on where the veggies were shipped from. Here are a few other nutrition needs you may not be aware of postpartum:

Protein: To help rebuild muscles and tissue, choose from foods like beans, lean meats and eggs.

Calcium: Calcium is pulled from your body during pregnancy for Baby and during breastfeeding for milk, so add up to three servings of calcium-rich foods like cheese, yogurt, beans and almonds.

Quick and easy postpartum snacks

• No Bake Lactation Bites (from TheBakerMama.com) mix cheese wheat crackers with with

Carbohydrates: For energy and general healing, add oats, brown rice and other whole grains to your meals.

Iron: if you lost a lot of blood during delivery, you need to keep your iron levels up with foods such as spinach, nuts, lentils and beef

Proper nutrition isn’t necessarily rocket science, but as a mom of four myself, I can say that laziness sometimes takes over. I know what I should be eating, but doing it is another story. When busyness strikes, it feels easier to grab a carbheavy snack from the pantry rather than take the time to slice up a red pepper. Right after delivering a baby, when you should be resting and recovering, is the worst time for meal and snack preparation. If you have yet to deliver, take a weekend and prepare some healthy freezer meals and stock up on nutritious foods for postpartum. If you are reading this while snuggling your newbie, take the shortcut and buy already prepared and bagged produce. Better yet, ask a friend or family member to prepare some healthy meals and snacks for you!

Victoria Weber, postpartum doula and founder of Nettle + Honey, says, “The postpartum body craves warmth and nurturing externally and internally. The more we nurture our mothers, the more they can nurture others. A mother’s fulltime job is to rest, feed and love her new baby.” This can seem counter to our culture as we are exposed heavily to messages about losing the baby weight and bouncing back quickly. But I dare to say, forget what our culture says. Go lie down and put your feet up with that baby snuggled up on you … and munch on some red pepper!

Julie Collett, mother of four, has tried to keep her postpartum nutrition in check but has sometimes digressed to chocolate chip cookies and Diet Coke!

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Are You Smarter Than the Average Mom?

1 Do newborns cry tears? When do babies smile? What is cradle cap?

2 When do babies get their first tooth? How much sleep do newborns need?

9 Is my baby’s poop normal?

1 Most babies start crying tears around 2 weeks of age, but some can take longer.

2 Most babies get their first tooth around 6 months, though when those first tiny pearly whites make their appearance can vary quite a bit from baby to baby.

3 Based on .20 per diaper and 10 diapers a day, in your baby’s first month, you can expect to spend about $60 on diapers. Baby won’t go through quite as many on average as she gets older.

4 Newborns up to 3 months need 14 to 17 hours of sleep, and infants up to 12 months need 12 to 16 hours (including naps).

5 The cost of baby formula across popular brands can average between $1,200 and $1,500 during a baby’s first year, according to the U.S. Surgeon General.

6 Your baby’s reflex smile will disappear by the time she’s 2 months old, and her first real one will make an appearance somewhere between 1-1/2 and 3 months.

7 Seborrheic dermatitis is a noninfectious skin condition that’s very common in infants, usually beginning in the first weeks of life and slowly disappearing over a period of weeks or months.

8 The umbilical cord stump should dry up and fall off by the time your baby is 8 weeks old.

9 Stools (bowel movements) vary in color, consistency and frequency. Normally, color varies from yellow in breast-fed infants to browns and greens in formulafed ones. The consistency varies from thin appearance like watery mustard to thick paste.

Until your child’s cord has come off and the navel heals, it is best to just sponge bathe the baby.

8 When should the cord stump fall off? How often should I bathe my baby? How much do diapers cost for a year? How much should I budget for formula?

If you’re looking for trustworthy childcare for your child and are feeling a bit flustered, you’re not alone. The search for quality childcare can be tough, whether you’re looking for a part-time babysitter, full-time daycare or a full-time nanny. The most important things you’ll want to look for are convenience, cost and childcare that is safe, healthy and offers learning for your child. Finding the right caregiver for your little one can be a bit overwhelming, but with a little research and a lot of questions, you’ll be on the right track in no time.

Choose your childcare type. If you’re just needing a night out or an occasional afternoon free to go shopping, a babysitter is ideal. However, if you’re in need of someone to be with your child daily in your home, then you’ll want to look for a nanny. Looking for childcare outside your home? Then you’ll want to explore a family daycare center. With daycare, you’ll want to decide whether you prefer a smaller center or one that’s larger with more staff and space.

Start early. No matter what type of care you’re considering, start the search as far in advance as you can. Finding the right childcare can take quite a bit of time.

Get recommendations. Ask around! One of the best ways to find great childcare locally is to ask friends and family. They can give you more detailed inside information, such as how their child reacts to a particular babysitter or whether a daycare center is clean and hands out reports on what the children accomplish each day. Don’t be afraid to check things out yourself, too. Schedule appointments to meet with a potential babysitter, nanny or childcare center director.

Look for licenses, certifications and accreditations. Although childcare centers are required to be licensed in all states, licensing doesn’t ensure quality. It does, however, set minimum health, safety and caregiver training standards that centers have to maintain. Licenses and certifications don’t guarantee perfect childcare, but they’re still worth considering. A great place to start

finding quality childcare

is by researching the National Association for the Education of Young Children website (NAEYC.org). Look for accredited childcare centers in your area, which show that the centers have met the highest quality of standards and processes for childcare and education.

Visit and ask questions. If you’re looking for a childcare center, set up a visit so you can see the facilities, talk with the director and find out whether it’s a good fit. Look around and see whether the place is clean and tidy. Are the children engaged and happy? Are children and infants supervised at all times, even when sleeping? Does the center have see-through cribs? Teachers should be able to see your baby every minute of the day. You’ll also want to ask how they put babies to bed and what’s allowed in the crib, as the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that babies sleep on their backs without pillows, blankets or toys in the bed with them to reduce the risk of SIDS. Does the atmosphere feel warm and welcoming? Don’t be afraid to ask questions. (The same

goes for interviewing a potential babysitter or nanny.) Spend time with them and ask as many questions as you wish. Good teachers will really listen to you and answer your queries. This is a wonderful sign they’ll be there to communicate with you every step of the way, even after you’ve enrolled.

Check references. Before hiring a nanny or babysitter, or signing up with a daycare, check with at least two references. They can fill you in on the positives and possible negatives of working with the person or facility. When checking references for babysitters or nannies, you can call past employers, do a background check and maybe ask for a driving record or for him/ her to take a drug test. Many nanny agencies out there will administer drug tests, but you also can purchase an over-the-counter drug test kit. For daycare centers, make sure their state license is up to date, check whether any formal complaints have been filed with the state licensing agency or the Better Business Bureau, and ask other parents whether they’re satisfied with the center.

Once you’ve found the right childcare for your family, work on building a strong relationship with your provider.

Try it out. Before committing to a sitter or childcare center, give it a trial run to see whether the situation is a good fit for your family. Be extra observant. Watch how your child behaves. How does the provider interact with your child? Red flags to watch for include your child’s refusing to go to the daycare or a provider who’s reluctant to give you a progress report. Always trust your gut. Recognize that every new situation will feel strange at first and require time to adjust.

However, if you have a feeling something isn’t right, trust it and move on, even if you don’t have any evidence. If you don’t have the peace of mind that your child is in good hands, then that’s not the caregiver for you.

Make your choice. Look at all the information you gathered from your visits and interviews. Which one felt like the right fit for your family?

Stay involved. Once you’ve found the right childcare for your family, work on building a strong relationship with your provider.

This will help your child’s learning and development. Meet up regularly and ask questions. Share information about your child with your provider, including updates on what happens at home. If your child is in daycare, visit regularly, including occasional surprise visits. Work together with your provider on your child’s learning plan.

It’s not always easy finding the right childcare for your family. The daycare you want may have a wait list, or maybe the sitters or nannies you interviewed didn’t meet your standards. Don’t give up. Talk to friends, neighbors and people at your work, school, church or community center. Discuss your childcare need with your employer and coworkers. Make a short-term plan until you’re able to find the childcare that will work for your family. Get on a waiting list with the daycare centers that you liked. These lists can be shorter than anticipated, so don’t let a long wait keep you from adding your name. Keep with it, and don’t give up on finding the care your family desires. It will happen.

A few indicators of high-quality childcare:

• Small group size

• Low child/teacher ratios

• Staff with higher education and on-going training

• Low teacher turnover

• Positive teacher/child interactions

• Accreditation or higher than minimum licensing standards

• Good health and safety practices

Gina Klein resides in Kansas City with her husband, two daughters and a houseful of animals.

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Mistakes Parents of t oddlers Make

the toddler years can be challenging! Tiny toddlers are so cute and loveable, but their big feelings and toddler tantrums can be frustrating for parents. Do your best not to make these common parenting mistakes.

Giving In to Their Tantrums

Toddler tantrums are caused by frustration and other big emotions that tots aren’t able to process or verbalize yet. They don’t quite have the skills to reason through things, so they quickly go into meltdown mode. They constantly test boundaries, but parents need to stay strong about those boundaries and set appropriate limits for their children. It might seem easier to cave and let little ones have their way rather than deal with a tantrum, but your saying no will teach them limits. If you give in, that only teaches children they will get what they want if they throw a tantrum.

Feel like the only words in your vocabulary are no and stop? Try rephrasing with positive terms. For example, if a child hits her sibling, you can say, “Our hands are for high fives, not hitting. Can you give your sister a high five?” You can also try to redirect them by saying something like, “I know you want to watch more Cocomelon, but let’s read a book now. Can you pick out a book for us to read?”

Doing Everything for Them

I was guilty of this with my oldest daughter. I did absolutely everything for her. It wasn’t until she went to Pre-K that I realized she needed to be able to do things independently. She needed to be able to put on her shoes by herself, open containers in her lunch box and clean her glasses. These were all things I had done

throughout the years for one reason: We were always in a rush to get somewhere or do something, so it was easier for me to do it. Do your best to slow down and take the time to let your toddler complete tasks independently. My 2-year-old loves putting her shoes on, so we make sure she always puts her own shoes and socks on before we leave. She also likes to help pick out what she’s going to wear that day. Taking charge of manageable tasks gives toddlers independence and helps build their self-esteem.

No Routine

Life can be hectic, but one of the most important things you can do for your children is give them a consistent routine. Toddlers do best when they know what to expect. This is especially important for bedtime routines. If they are used to taking a bath and reading a bedtime story at the same time every night, they will be more agreeable when that time comes.

Too Much Screen Time

Letting toddlers watch a show or play a game on their iPad can give parents a few minutes of quiet time to do chores around the house, but too much screen time can be a bad thing. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests no screen time for children ages 18 to 24 months, and ages 2-5 should get an hour or less per day. A study by University of Calgary psychologist Sheri Madigan, PhD, found that more time per week spent on screens at ages 24 months to 36 months

was linked with poorer performance on screening tests for behavioral, cognitive and social development at 36 months.

Potty Training Too Early

The idea of no more diapers can be tempting, but starting to potty train before your child is ready can actually throw him off course and leave him in diapers even longer. If you begin potty training too early, you will be in for a long process of trial, error and accidents. On the other hand, waiting until your toddler is ready can make potty training much simpler. A few signs your child is ready to start potty training are that they are staying dry for two hours at a time, wake up from naps dry, tell you when they are wet or dirty and show an interest in the potty.

Moving Out of the Crib

Timing is everything when it comes to moving your toddler out of her crib. Parents move their toddlers out of their crib for many reasons. They may need the crib for a new baby, the child may want a big kid bed like his siblings, or the toddler might have started climbing out of the crib. Children who move from their cribs too early tend to have trouble getting to sleep and staying asleep. Parents are also more likely to wake up to their child’s wanting to crawl into bed with them each night. Another thing to keep in mind is cribs keep your toddlers safe, so do your best to keep them in their crib until around age 3, as suggested by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests no screen time for children ages 18 to 24 months, and ages 2-5 should get an hour or less per day.

If your toddler is are trying to climb out of his crib, try these tricks to keep him in his crib just a little longer. Most cribs have a higher side on one end. Move the lower side against the wall and the higher end to the outside. You can also have your child wear a sleep sack to keep him from climbing at night. If your child unzips his sleep sack, put it on backwards so the zip is in back. These tips could give you a few more months in the crib until your toddler is fully ready to make the transition to a big kid bed.

Regan Lyons is a girl mom and freelance writer. She lives with her husband, Cale, and daughters Atley, 8, and Ensley, 2, in St. Joseph, MO.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

How to s urvive a t oddler Meltdown

Stay calm and close.

Don’t let the tantrum upset you. Stay calm and quiet. Show you care by staying close to your child during the meltdown.

Validate feelings.

You can acknowledge your toddler’s feelings and put words to what she’s feeling by saying something like, “I know it’s frustrating you can’t have a cookie, but we’re eating dinner soon.”

Don’t try to reason with a toddler. Toddlers are unable to control their emotions, so you will not be able to reason with them mid-meltdown.

Don’t cave in.

If your child is screaming, you may want to cave and give him what he wants, especially if you are in public. But this only gives him a clear signal that a tantrum will eventually result in his getting what he wants.

Help redirect.

Once the meltdown is over, help redirect toddlers to a new activity they enjoy and leave the tantrum behind.

Ba B y on the Move!

Once your little one discovers she can roll, crawl and scoot, nothing can stop her.

We all wait with great anticipation for our tiny angels to walk! We record the momentous occasion and laugh along with their triumph. Next, we wonder why we were so thrilled when they begin knocking cups off the table, falling and hitting their heads on the fireplace or running pell-mell across the parking lot! But take a breath, Mom and Dad. Both you and your baby have a lot of ground to cover before he ever reaches the toddling point.

Sometimes, just getting through the first week is an accomplishment—and that is okay. New developments happen hourly,

and you should enjoy each one, even though you haven’t showered or slept more than two hours. It’s okay to wonder what in the world you have gotten yourself into!

When you bring your baby home, those first weeks are about adjusting, surviving and getting as much rest as possible as you get to know each other. A baby schedule will happen later. Being born is tough work, and your baby will sleep through her days, waking to eat, eat and eat! Feeding your little one will be your primary focus now. Whether you nurse or use formula, prepare and learn as much as you can before you give birth, which will be a huge help.

Because new babies eat so frequently, you’ll find the diaper genie to be your new best friend.

As the weeks pass, you will learn your baby’s signs of hunger and what his different cries mean. After that umbilical cord falls off, you can get out the baby tub and start having fun with baths. Keep in close contact with your pediatrician if questions or concerns arise—doctors know babies get sick at all hours and will help you through it. My infant son came down with RSV on New Year’s Eve! We spent the night in our tiny bathroom with the hot shower on for steam and the phone nearby.

Check out this month-by-month chart to help you know what to expect during your baby’s first year:

1 month: Moves head from side to side when on her stomach, develops a strong grip and is fascinated by her hands and fingers.

2 months: Holds head and neck up while on tummy, opens and closes hands and plays with them and gives you lots of smiles.

3 months: Reaches and grabs objects and grips them, coos and imitates you when you stick out your tongue!

4 months: Pushes up on arms when lying on tummy, holds onto objects and laughs out loud. Enjoys play and cries when the play stops.

5 months: Ready to roll! Blows raspberries, reaches for Mommy and Daddy and cries when you leave.

6 months: Rolling and babbling begin. He now recognizes familiar faces—which is adorable!

7 months: He is now on the move, crawling, scooting or army crawling. And when you smile, he smiles.

8 months: Sits up well without support and claps. When you say kitty, he looks for the kitty, and he knows his name. Peekaboo is a great game now.

9 months: She begins to climb and crawl up stairs and learns object permanence, in other words her toy exists even when she can’t see it. Stranger anxiety is common now.

10 months: Stands by holding onto the sofa, stacks and sorts toys and waves bye-bye. This is when she learns that when she cries, Mommy comes.

11 months: Cruises using furniture, turns pages of books and says Mama and Dada. Loves dropping her spoon and pushing food away.

ONE YEAR OLD! First steps usually happen now, and she will help while you dress her. She will say a couple words— and the fun really begins!

Sources: VeryWellFamily.com, WebMD.com

Colic may rear its ugly head, so introduce tummy time. I used to lay my babies on my forearm on their tummies and swing them to help with colic. At the one-month well check visit, your baby may receive routine vaccinations.

At six weeks, many parents may return to work, stirring up tumultuous emotions. Find inspirational words to help you through and lean on friends and family. At this stage, your baby will be staying awake a little longer. Give plenty of tummy time so your baby will strengthen those important muscles. You’ll find your own muscles stronger, too, as you get the hang of wrangling that baby carrier and car seat.

By two months, you can start taking your baby out of the house more and enjoying life again. These outings foster curiosity in your baby, and you’ll both feel a little more comfortable as you settle into something of a routine. You’ll also find yourself enthralled at how your baby’s little hands begin to grasp and pull. And by three months, that little one may sleep through the night! Gradually, your baby will enjoy her baby toys more and more, so encourage her to play by being a hands-on parent as much as you can. Get down on the floor and talk to her and provide a wide variety of toys. At five months, you’ll likely have a rock-and-roller moving across the floor. Now is a good time to babyproof the house in every way— nothing breakable anywhere on any table!

Six months is the halfway point of Baby’s first year. Hurray! Celebrate by finding out whether your baby is ready to get acquainted with solid foods this month. You can even try making your own baby food.

At around seven months, many parents consider introducing an educational show, family movie or cartoon just to get a break from the routine of parenting. Limit this time

and include lots of cuddles to make it a shared experience, as many experts recommend no screens until the baby is a couple of years old. You are the parent, so you get to make the call on what’s best for your child. Your baby also will begin teething now, so be prepared with frozen teething rings— even a frozen washcloth will help.

By the eighth month, lots of solids and table foods get gobbled up, and this is a fun time. Your baby gets better at chewing and swallowing with practice. Introduce tiny forks and spoons and keep the broom or vacuum close at hand, as your baby discovers throwing food from her highchair is fun. This is also a good time to wean your baby off the pacifier.

By 10 months, babies become busy little bees. As activity increases, so does the risk for getting into trouble. Exploring tots like putting everything into their mouths. My daughter said her son ate sand, dirt, play dough and grass in one day! Watch out for choking hazards, such as raisins, nuts, hard candy, grapes and hot dogs.

As you approach that one-year mark, your baby may begin to transition to a single afternoon nap—perhaps giving you just enough time to plan a special birthday party! Whether you are going for a Pinterestworthy production or a low-key celebration at home, this milestone deserves cake!

Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

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GEDDY’S MOM USB CHARGER COVERS: WATCH YOUR MOUTH

Keep your charger’s hazardous end safely contained with this babyproofing device. The child-resistant, adult-friendly closure allows you access when it’s time to charge your electrical device. $12.95, GeddysMom.com

DR. EDDIE’S HAPPY CAPPY MOISTURIZING CREAM

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TOUCH FREE WIPE WARMER

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TINY LOVE TREASURE THE OCEAN 2-IN-1 MUSICAL MOBILE GYMINI

Playmat comes with 18 engaging activities and two modes of use: musical starfish rotating mobile with six melodies and a spectacular lights show and responsive tummy time tapping toy. $69.99, ages birth-24 months, TinyLove.com

ESEMBLY CLOTH DIAPER TRY-IT KIT

Includes everything you need to give sustainable diapering a try: three organic cotton inners, one outer/ swim diaper, one waterproof drawstring pouch for storing your dirties, a bag of washing powder for easy laundering and samples of organic diaper creams. The three diapers in this kit can keep more than one thousand diapers out of the trash each year. $69.50, ages birth-2, EsemblyBaby.com

BEBEE LIGHTWEIGHT STROLLER

Combine full-size features with lightweight convenience with this everyday stroller. Includes a one-hand, selfstanding fold, one-hand unfold, XXL canopy, cup holder, carry bag and adjustable calf rest. Also uses fabric made from at least 50% recycled materials. $199.99, ages 6 months to up to 50 lbs., BombiGear.com

kc pumpkin patches

Carolyn’s Pumpkin Patch

Looking for a fun fall adventure? Visit Kansas City’s #1 destination pumpkin patch … Carolyn’s Pumpkin Patch! Enjoy dozens of attractions, including the historic Country Carousel, Little Bud’s Railroad, petting barn, Uncle Lester’s Pig Races and much more! Find your perfect pumpkin in our u-pick pumpkin fields. Take a break and enjoy a wine slushie in our depot. Don’t forget to pick up some of our famous pumpkin donuts! Carolyn’s is open five days a week, Thursday through Monday, Sept. 17-Oct. 31. CarolynsPumpkinPatch.com

Historic Weston Orchard & Vineyard

Enjoy a u-pick pumpkin patch, u-pick apple orchard, zinnia picking, hayrack rides, vintage 1947 carousel, apple cannons, rat racers, bouncing pillow, low ropes course with zip line, treetop houses, petting zoo and more! After picking and playing, enjoy kettle corn, caramel apples, donuts, apple cider slushies and other treats. Open daily 9:00-5:00. Apple cannons, hayrack rides and carousel available on weekends only. Follow us on Facebook: Facebook.com/WestonOrchard-and-Vineyard. 816.640.4013, WestonOrchard.com

Johnson Farms

At Johnson Farms, you’ll be in the country, but close to your home at a real farm. Take a wagon ride out to the u-pick pumpkin patch or apple orchard. U-pick veggie patch and u-cut sunflower field are nearby. Experience our giant jumping pillows, giant tunnel maze,

authentic fire truck, barnyard arcade and animal corral, all INCLUDED in your admission. Admission held at 2021 pricing! Delicious food and safe health protocols in place. Plenty of parking and outdoor fun. 816.331.1067, JohnsonFarms.net, @johnsonfarmsMO

Fun Farm Pumpkin Patch

When you buy a ticket to Fun Farm, included is your hayride out to our vast pumpkin patch. We have over 60 varieties of pumpkins to choose from on our farm, so get pickin’! Come out to the farm and pick out a pumpkin (or two … maybe three) to carve with the kids, use as porch decorations or to make your favorite pumpkin recipe! Enjoy tons of kids activities, shows, performers, play areas, specialty equipment … and yes, farm stuff. FunFarmPumpkinPatch.com

Louisburg Cider Mill

Store hours 8:00-6:00 (Mon.-Sat.), 9:00-6:00 (Sun.), with extended hours every Friday and Saturday until 8:00 through our fall season. Live music, food trucks, kettle corn and caramel apples. Watch as fresh cider is pressed and enjoy the delicious cider donuts! Family Farm will be happening Sept. 16-Oct. 31, 8:00-6:00 (Mon-Thur), 8:00-10:00 (Fri-Sat) and 9:00 -6:00 (Sun). Venture through the 10-acre corn maze, huge pumpkin patch, farm animals, children’s play area, jump pillow, wagon rides and much more! 913.837.5202, LouisburgCiderMill.com

FallcTraditions FOR KC TOTS

Autumn brings many fun traditions to start with your young family!

These are a few of our all-time favorites:

Enjoy an Autumn Classic … Visit the Pumpkin Patch

Pumpkin patches in the metro offer many wonderful family attractions. Corn mazes, trains, play spaces, hayrides, corn cribs, carousels, zip lines, rides, concerts, ponies and pumpkins are just some of the enticements Kansas City’s pumpkin patches offer visitors. Carolyn’s Pumpkin Patch is one of the biggest patches in the metro and has been enjoyed by generations of families. Their famous pumpkin donuts, fabulous petting zoo, jumping pillows, train, pig races, carousel and fall fun play spaces create a carnival atmosphere the entire family loves. The Louisburg Cider Mill Patch offers good old-fashioned fall fun and watch-itmade self-guided tours of the cider mill to boot! Johnson Farms offers apple picking, giant jumping pillows and tons of fabulous play spaces. Fun Farm is home to a charming Keebler Village with delightful treehouses, a petting zoo and many fun fall attractions for all ages. Weston Orchard serves up scenic views, hayrides and a smaller, quaint atmosphere ideal for little ones. Be sure to check out the KC Pumpkin Patch Guide for tips on these and all the best patches in town. BONUS TIP: We’ll be giving away FREE pumpkin patch tickets on KCParent.com all season long! Enter our giveaways for a chance to win.

Spend a Day at the Zoo

We love visiting the Kansas City Zoo on a fall day when the air is crisp and the animals are playful. You’ll also find that crowds are smaller, as children are back in school. For families with infants and toddlers, this is a great time to enjoy all the zoo has to offer. The alligators and the Elephant Expedition are favorite attractions to check out this year. In addition to these, we still love the Discovery Barn, Australia, Polar Bear Passage, Helzberg Penguin Plaza, the Tropics and sea lions. The first four weekends in October at the Kansas City Zoo are filled with spooky fun during the annual Hoots and Howls, as well as Boo at the Zoo on Halloween weekend. Come in costume and celebrate with the entire family. Enjoy fall decorations, enrichment for the animals and fun for all. Visit KansasCityZoo.org for information.

Take a Family Photo in a Sunflower Field

Take a signature fall family photo at a local sunflower field. Four favorite fields: Eleanor’s Sunflower Field (335 W. 189th St., Scranton, KS), Grinter Farms (24154 Stillwell Rd., Lawrence) Historic Pharis Farm (20611 EE Hwy., Liberty) and Russell Sunflower Patch (18220 Hwy. B, Richmond, MO). Follow the U-Pick Farm Guide on KCParent.com for blooming status. Each field observes special rules that you’ll find on their social media pages outlining the etiquette for visitors.

Inspire Your Tiny Artist

Paint, glitter, glue ... kids love to create their own works of art, but unbridled creativity can often make for unbearable messes at home. Consider a compromise and treat the kids to an outing to Ceramic Cafe where they can paint their own ceramic masterpieces. They’ll be able to choose from piggy banks, plates, mugs, picture frames and many seasonal pieces as well. Another creative option is a visit to a Kansas City classic—Kaleidoscope, our own FREE art center for children. It’s difficult to capture the magic of Kaleidoscope in words, but we tell readers that if Willy Wonka had designed an imaginative world where children could create their own masterpieces with a variety of supplies in a magical setting ... Kaleidoscope is what you would get! This year, Kaleidoscope underwent a major renovation and update, offering a fresh atmosphere for young ones. Best of all, Kaleidoscope offers FREE sessions all year. Simply make reservations online at HallmarkKaleidoscope.com.

Play in a Pint-Sized Village

For younger children, another great option is the Johnson County Museum. Their KidScape is a wonderful interactive hands-on, child-sized exhibit perfect for young children. Children time travel to different periods and communities from the region’s past. They enjoy pretend play as they work on the farm, perform at the theater or the puppet show, teach in the school, deliver the mail, care for patients at the hospital and fry up some burgers at the diner.

Explore Science

Science City at Union Station is a favorite family-friendly attraction. Little ones especially love three experiential, hands-on exhibitions at Science City. Let’s Play! is designed especially for babies, crawlers and toddlers, with multiple sensory and role-playing activities. At Creative Corner, art meets science in a whole new way with cool interactive activities. And All Aboard celebrates Union Station’s rail history in a fun way for little ones. On your visit, consider catching a show at the planetarium (they frequently feature Sesame Street and Magic School Bus programs for younger audiences) or a presentation on the Extreme Screen.

Venture Out on an Autumn Hike

There’s no better time to enjoy a family hike than autumn when the leaves are in full fall color. For tiny tots, we love the trails at our local nature centers, many of which are paved and convenient for strollers. Before or after your hike, you can explore one of these local nature centers. Each one features free hands-on exhibits, animal displays and even educational programs and story times with the earliest learners in mind. Lakeside Nature Center is home to falcons, owls, eagles, toads, frogs, fish and insects. Burr Oak Woods Nature Center features fish tanks, turtles, bird watching, a giant indoor nature play area, walking trails and an outdoor discovery center. Ernie Miller Nature Center has paved trails through the woods; this a great place for a stroller walk. Anita Gorman Discovery Center features an amazing exhibit on Lewis and Clark and an outstanding outdoor classroom.

These are just a few of our favorite outings to enjoy in the fall as a family. We also love visiting our local parks and libraries and enjoying many of the great events on the KCParent.com calendar.

Kristina Light truly loves fall most of all. You will find more seasonal inspiration in her online articles on KCParent.com.

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Story Time Visit MyMCPL.org or JoCoLibrary.org to find a complete list of story times.

MONDAY

RoKC Play Lounge 8:00, RoKC Olathe. Children 6 months to 6 years are invited to enjoy a two-hour session at the play lounge while parents participate in rock wall climbing.

Gym for Me Mon. & Wed. (Lenexa Community Center), Tue. (Lenexa Rec Center), 9:00. A place for little ones to run, ride and play. Play items available, including riding toys, inflatables and balls. Lenexa.com/preschool

Mom or Dad & Me Bumper Bowling 9:30, Summit Lanes. For just $3 per person, you get a game, shoe rental and drink on Mondays and Wednesdays. SummitLanes.com

Open Gym 9:30, Kaw Prairie Community Church Lenexa. Grab a coffee and hang out with friends while your kiddos get their energy out indoors! Monday through Thursday, KawPrairie.org/info

Visit the KCParent.com calendar for over 1,000 more events!

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WEEKLY

Penquin Exhibit 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. The zoo is open year-round, and this is the best time to visit the penguins and polar bears! KansasCityZoo.org

TUESDAY

Preschool Indoor Playground 9:30, Merriam Community Center. Drive, pull or push your favorite Little Tikes vehicles. Parents must supervise their children.

Visit Sea Life 10:00, Sea Life Aquarium. Bring the kids to see the Doodle Reef, the touch pool, Stingray Bay and more! Purchase tickets online at VisitSeaLife.com.

Pay for Play Tue. & Thu., 10:00, Backyard Specialists. Plan a playdate for your children and their friends at our amazing outdoor showroom. BackyardSpecialists.com/pay-for-play

WEDNESDAY

Preschool Story Time First & third Wednesday of the month, 10:30-11:00, Ernie Miller Nature Center. For ages 2-6. Visit the nature center for stories, songs and surprises geared to preschool children. Pre-reg at JCPRD.com.

THURSDAY

Toddler Time 10:00, Ceramic Café. On Thursdays from 10:00 to 2:00, toddlers 5 and under can paint a selected item for only $12! CeramicCafeKC.com

Visit Legoland 10:00, Legoland Discovery Center. Take the kids to the ultimate indoor playground for the biggest fans of Lego. Purchase tickets at LegolandDiscoveryCenter.com.

SATURDAY

Little Acorns 10:00, Anita Gorman Discovery Center. Join volunteer naturalists for a fantastic journey through forests, streams and other magical places as they read select books. Prereg at 816.759.7300.

parents night out

Hank Williams: Lost Highway Thru Nov. 20 at the New Theatre. Williams revolutionized the music industry; he was winner of a Pulitzer Prize and the Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award. The joy, the humor and music of this amazing talent is brilliantly captured in Lost Highway NewTheatre.com/show/Lost-Highway

Lenexa Chili Challenge Oct. 7-8 at Sar-Ko-Par Trails Park. About 200 teams compete in the chili, salsa and hot wings contests in hopes of taking home the Grand Champion prize. Teams host private parties on Friday night and give out samples to everyone on Saturday. Lenexa.com

Brew at the Zoo Oct. 15, 6:30, at the Kansas City Zoo. Enjoy an adults-only evening of live music and free sampling from more than 35 local breweries and wineries, plus food trucks available to tame your belly’s roar! Your 2022 Brew at the Zoo ticket also includes access to GloWild, Kansas City Zoo’s new immersive lantern festival. KansasCityZoo.org

Casting Crowns: The Healer Tour Nov. 3 at Cable Dahmer Arena. Multiplatinum selling Grammy winners Casting Crowns will take their powerful live performances on the road this fall with the Healer Tour. Enjoy performances by special guests CAIN and Anne Wilson. CableDahmerArena.com

A Christmas Carol Nov. 18-Dec. 24 at KCRep. Join Ebenezer Scrooge on his redemptive journey with the ghosts of Christmas Past, Present and Future and rediscover the true meaning of the holidays. You’ll meet the Cratchits, Tiny Tim and the irresistible Fezziwigs and hear the haunting and joyous “Candlelight Carol”—all this and more, to kindle your Christmas spirit. KCRep.org

An Evening with Nigella Lawson Nov. 19 at Midwest Trust Center. Marvel in this conversation and Q & A with Nigella Lawson as she recounts the people, food and recipes that have shaped her unique career and life. JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

Murder Mystery Dinner Theater: I’ll be Homicidal for Christmas Dec. 1-2, 7:00, at Holy-Field Winery. Enjoy interactive live murder mystery dinner theater that will leave you laughing. Arrive early to sample local wines. HolyfieldWinery.com

History on Tap - Tutmania! 100 Years and Counting Dec. 7, 7:00-9:00, at Shawnee Town 1929. A wave of Egyptomania that hit the United States in the 1920s ushered in another Egyptian Revival, sometimes called “Tutmania,” that influenced art, architecture, fashion and design, as well as enhanced our understanding of ancient Egypt. Reservations required. ShawneeTown.org

The Nutcracker Dec. 7-24 at Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts. The classic Victorian-era story by E.T.A. Hoffman, featuring Clara, the Nutcracker Prince, Dr. Drosselmeier and the Sugar Plum Fairy, is a magical theatrical experience wrapped with exquisite costumes, grand sets and captivating choreography. KCBallet.org

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Nigella Lawson at Midwest Trust Center

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