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ow will I know when I’m in labor? This question was in the forefront of my mind throughout my pregnancy. I feared I wouldn’t be able to tell when I was in labor and would end up getting to the hospital just in the nick of time (or, in some nightmares, not at all). I read as much as I could on the signs of labor so that I would hopefully be able to tell when the real deal had begun. Turns out there’s really no mistaking those contractions and pain. With each daughter, I knew when I was in labor and made it to the hospital with plenty of time to spare. Labor and delivery are a big unknown and can seem daunting your first time through (and your second or third time as well!). Knowing that this can be a topic of stress for many parents, we’ve put together a “labor and delivery” issue for you. Before labor hits, you’ll want to read Jennifer Duxbury’s article on pg. 15 in which she dispels some myths and misconceptions associated with labor. Olathe mom Christa Hines provides some great delivery information in her article on c-sections Use promo code vs. vaginal deliveries, another must-read before baby KCPARENT13 to save on FRI & SUN arrives. I think all moms will enjoy reading about Lenexa Tickets mom Amanda Doll’s recent stay in the hospital after giving birth and how she used her time there as a minispa vacation. I love her positive attitude! Warmer temps have finally arrived in Kansas City and not a moment too soon! The Playdates section of our Midland Railway 1515 High Street Enter to win a Baldwin City, KSName 66006 calendar has terrific ideas for you and your little ones, Your Railroad Family 4-pack midlandrailway.org while the Parents’ Night Out section has suggestions for Mayto 31, Day of tickets MARCH June 1-2 & June 7-9 a night out with your honey (sans kids!). Out with Thomas
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NEEDS VS. WANTS FOR BABY
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y apologies to all friends and family out there who had to sift through the chapter book that was my firstborn’s baby registry. Being new to parenthood, I figured it was a better bet to be over-prepared than under for Baby’s arrival. Our son was well taken care of between three showers, but our small home was bursting at the seams— which made me wonder what was worth it? In a matter of time, the answer was a clear no-brainer. Diapers? You betcha! Wipes warmer? Eh, not so much. Diaper ointment? Sure. 10 tubes of Boudreaux’s Butt Paste? Overkill! For the sake of time, money and space, defining the have-to’s and the want-to’s became essential as my baby grew. Sure, it was fun to deck my firstborn out to the nines in boutique ensembles, but all it took was a blow-out or learning to crawl to ruin what I hoped would one day be “heirloom items.” Oops. When our second son entered the scene, I wised up and stuck to basics, like Carter’s onesies and easy layering pieces, and took it easy on the custom made outfits (which we reserved mainly for holidays and birthdays). Baby #2 was none the wiser,
and, honestly, was probably much happier since he could move around freely without Mama freaking out about his outfit. Baby equipment serves its purpose, too. But in our particular situation (living in fewer than 900 square feet), we realized floor space was a more precious commodity than baby apparatus. We quickly sold the unused baby swing and donated the excess newborn clothing collection that my 9-pound-plus babies never fit into anyway and haven’t looked back since. Everyone’s opinion of baby essentials looks different to some degree, but I think we all can agree that a tiny tot does not really need everything the mainstream media would have us believe he needs. Our family continues to grow, but my list of must-haves dwindles. With less clutter, fluff and stuff, I spend less time cleaning, less time fretting and more time doing what I love most… bonding with my baby. Lauren Greenlee lives with her expanding family in Olathe. Visit KCParent.com for the Baby Blogs—by local pregnant moms, for local pregnant moms.
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PINTEREST Everyone loves a good baby shower! A properly executed party will leave the honorary mom-to-be feeling touched by every personal detail, and guests will appreciate your creative approach. There is no shortage of planning tips and ideas in the expanse of social media, so where does one begin?
Look no further than your smartphone or tablet! Party planning became much more accessible to everyone when Pinterest burst onto the scene. The Pinterest app that quickly followed (free for Apple and Android devices) has made it more convenient than ever to share ideas and find easy, affordable party tips that leave a lasting impression. Here are a few ways Pinterest can help you plan the perfect baby shower for your friend or loved one, whether at home or on-the-go:
CATEGORIZE YOUR BOARDS
Organize your boards so that you have a special place to store ideas you love for every aspect of the party. Having the app installed on your smartphone or tablet ensures that you can capture every idea that pops into your mind and pin it on its designated board wherever you are. (Tip: Limit public view of your boards in “settings” to keep the party a surprise.) Here are some board suggestions:
Themes: Modern baby shower themes buck the traditional pink or blue décor, instead trending toward eye-catching animal, botanical or seasonal themes. You can also scan gender-neutral themes such
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as baby owls, an increasingly popular choice among shower planners right now. (Tip: Plan the party theme around the nursery décor so the mother can reuse the party decorations in the baby’s room.)
Treats: One pinner creatively themed her shower “About to Pop,” complete with popcorn, cake pops and bottled soda. (Tip: Many people bring little ones to showers, so scan ideas for kid-friendly shower treats like fruit kabobs.)
Decorations: This is sure to be one of your busiest DIY boards! A great example of a particularly creative DIY decoration: Create the look of dangling hydrangeas by dipping coffee filters in food coloring, gathering them at the bases and hanging them with fishing line.
Invitations: Members of the Etsy craft community often post their party invitation creations to Pinterest, which is a great way to navigate your options and link directly to their shops for purchase.
Entertainment: Shower games are becoming passé with the debut of DIY-based shower activities. Explore all of the new craft-inspired
activities that are trending right now, such as decorating onesies or penning personal messages on quilt squares to make a baby blanket.
START WITH A GENERAL SEARCH
Once you’re logged in and your boards are set up, launch your search with some broad terms to get the creativity flowing, such as “baby shower” or “spring baby shower.” Once you find pins that you like, narrow your search terms to find more specific pins, such as “tea party baby shower.”
SNAG INSPIRATION If you notice that several of the pins you love on your homepage originate from the same pinner, dig a bit deeper by visiting that person’s profile and checking out her full baby shower boards. You might just discover an entire theme that is perfectly suited to your party needs! With these simple Pinterest tips, your baby shower boards will be full of whimsical ideas before you know it. Happy pinning! Overland Park mom Brenda Hill is the public relations manager for the Kansas/ Missouri region of Verizon Wireless.
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7 THINGS DADS CAN DO ...TO SUPPORT THEIR PREGNANT SPOUSE THROUGHOUT ALL OF TIME, THE WORLD HAS REVERED AND REGARDED THE VALUE OF A GOOD FATHER. RESEARCH HAS PROVEN TIME AND TIME AGAIN THE POSITIVE IMPACT A FATHER’S INVOLVEMENT HAS ON THE UPBRINGING OF A CHILD. HOWEVER, THE CULTURAL EXPECTATION FOR DAD HAS SHIFTED DRAMATICALLY OVER THE LAST GENERATION. WHILE A DAD’S INVOLVEMENT BEGAN AT BIRTH IN TIMES PAST, A CURRENT TREND IS THE GROWING EXPECTATION THAT A DAD WILL WARM INTO FATHERHOOD BY ACTIVE INVOLVEMENT WITH HIS PARTNER DURING HER PREGNANCY. NOT ONLY DOES THIS ENRICH A FATHER’S EXPERIENCE DURING THE PREGNANCY PROCESS, BUT IT ALSO GIVES A MOTHER PEACE OF MIND, KNOWING DAD IS JUST AS EXCITED FOR LITTLE ONE’S ARRIVAL.
1) COMMUNICATE. Getting pregnant is a joint effort, but being pregnant is a role women exclusively carry. This can leave soon-to-be dads floundering and wondering where their place is. Let your partner know that you want to be as actively involved as possible and ask how you can work together while major changes take place. Pregnancy leaves many moms-to-be tired, emotional and unable to maintain the same daily pace. Try to be a source of encouragement and take the initiative to fill in the gaps on housework and errands.
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2) BE INVOLVED. Long gone are the days when a dad’s role in pregnancy was limited to driving his wife to the doctor when she was in labor and sitting in the waiting room until Baby was born. There’s no better way to be involved in the pregnancy than to learn alongside your wife the changes that are going on within her body. Make it a priority to attend prenatal visits and childbirth classes with your wife. If your schedule prevents you from attending every one, make it a priority to be present for the initial exam and the 20-week sonogram, where you will have the first opportunity to see your baby and, if you choose, find out its gender.
3) IT’S A DATE! A baby on the way is exciting news, but it can become easy to overlook your relationship with one another when all the attention goes toward doctor’s appointments, registries and baby showers. This does not become any easier when your little one arrives and your time is no longer your own. One of the best ways to kindle the fire with your “hot mama” is to continue to seek her out, before and after Baby is born. To ease the transition when your newborn arrives,
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pursue your partner and be intentional about dating before Baby is born. If she is on bed rest or has medical complications, you can still make her feel special with movie nights at home, love notes and presents “just because.”
TRY TO BE A SOURCE OF ENCOURAGEMENT AND TAKE THE INITIATIVE TO FILL IN THE GAPS ON HOUSEWORK AND ERRANDS. 4) MAKE HEALTHY CHOICES. Pregnant women are given all kinds of advice to ensure healthier outcomes. Eat more protein. Drink lots of water. Maintain light exercise. This can be a chore when done alone, but a companion can make all the difference. Team up together to make healthy lifestyle choices as a couple, something that is good for your coming baby and for you as well.
5) ASSIST IN NESTING. Soon-to-be-moms might be notorious for nesting before Baby is born, but Dad’s help is crucial for checking those to-do’s off the list. Pregnant women should not
lift heavy equipment or be around toxic paint fumes, meaning now’s the time to grab your supplies to paint the nursery.... and while you’re at it, start reading the instruction manual to figure out just how to assemble that crib.
6) FIND A MENTOR DAD. One of the best ways to prepare for your baby’s arrival is to seek counsel from dads you admire. Consider it guy time with a great purpose.
7) KNOW YOUR PLACE. The spotlight might be on Mama during pregnancy, but know you fill an invaluable support role. A recent study performed by the University of South Florida confirmed that dads involved during pregnancy significantly reduce the risk of infant mortality. This is mainly due to the role fathers play in reducing emotional stress of expectant moms. Your presence is of value not only to your partner, but also to your baby. Lauren Greenlee is ever thankful for her husband, who is an invaluable support to her throughout pregnancy and beyond. She writes from her home in Olathe.
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What to Expect: C-Sections Vs. Vaginal Births
F Birth Plan Considerations: Write down and discuss your preferences with your physician and significant other. Be flexible. Your baby’s birth may not go specifically according to plan. Avoid nonmedical-related preterm delivery, especially before 39 weeks, which can put your baby’s health at risk. Determine who you can ask for support post delivery to avoid managing alone.
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ollowing the birth of my son, I was disappointed that I had to undergo a c-section. Nonetheless, the feeling was fleeting as I held my newborn close, realizing the consequences could have been devastating if the surgery hadn’t been performed. Like many new moms, one of the first lessons I learned was that parenthood rarely goes according to plan. Since you don’t know exactly how your child’s birth will play out, manage some of the uncertainty now by learning the differences between cesarean and vaginal deliveries. “Our ultimate goal is to have a healthy baby. However you get there, whether that be vaginal or c-section, we want moms to be happy and healthy and babies to be happy and healthy,” says Dr. Kristen Wootton, ob/gyn, St. Luke’s Hospital, Kansas City. What is a c-section? A cesarean section is a major surgery requiring an incision through the abdomen and uterus. You will receive an epidural and, barring an emergency situation, you will be awake during the procedure. Depending on your specific situation, your physician will
make a low-transverse incision, which is a horizontal cut across the lower end of the uterus, generally preferred for better healing and less bleeding, or a vertical cut incision. Although you’ll feel touch and tugging sensations, you shouldn’t feel pain. Why a c-section? According to the Centers for Disease Control, the rate of c-sections rose more than 33 percent between 2000 and 2007, declining slightly for the first time in 2010. Dr. Ana Martinez, ob/gyn with Women’s Health Associates who delivers babies at Shawnee Mission Medical Center and Menorah Medical Center, attributes the rise to a number of factors, including women’s electing to have a c-section versus a vaginal birth, an increase in births of multiples (possibly due to higher rates of fertility treatments) and repeat c-sections for women who don’t qualify or choose not to try a vaginal birth after c-section (VBAC). Other reasons women may require a c-section include the baby’s position in the uterus, the size of the baby, premature delivery, fetal heart rate changes indicating a lack of oxygen during labor or if there’s a medical complication with the mother, like preeclampsia or gestational diabetes.
What about VBAC? “In the right situation, VBAC is a viable alternative, but it depends on why you had your first c-section,” Martinez says. For example, if your previous c-section was due to your baby’s being in a breech position, you might be an excellent candidate for VBAC. Your physician will also consider your risk for uterine rupture, your insurance requirements and the availability of an onsite physician during labor and delivery. “Your doctor has to be available to get the baby out quickly,” Martinez says. “If their office isn’t on campus and a doctor can’t be there the whole time, (VBAC) can be more risky.” Shawnee Mission has an OB hospitalist available 24-7 to assist patients. Hospitalists are on-site physicians who specialize in the care of hospitalized patients. St. Luke’s has 24-hour anesthesia and in-house physician coverage for labor and delivery. Consult with your doctor to learn what type of coverage your hospital offers. Risks. Tears and lacerations can occur during vaginal deliveries. Although rare, uterine rupture is a life threatening risk factor particularly for women who opt for a VBAC. A uterine rupture is a tear in the wall of the uterus, usually at the site of
a past c-section incision. The incidence rate is about 1 percent for women who have had low-transverse incisions, rising to 5 percent for women with vertical incisions. C-section risks include blood loss and complications with anesthesia, as well as scarring and adhesions. Hospital stay. The typical hospital stay for a vaginal delivery is 24 to 48 hours, while a c-section is between three and four days. Recovery. A woman who delivers vaginally has no restrictions on lifting and can typically return to her normal routine within a few weeks. With a c-section, expect the recovery to take a little longer as your mobility is more restricted. “The first two weeks are the roughest,” Martinez says. But, after that, most women are doing well and are off pain medication. Other than your baby, you won’t be able to lift anything over 10 pounds, and due to the pain medicines, you cannot drive for the first two weeks post surgery. However, breastfeeding is safe and encouraged. Lean on your spouse, a family member or a close friend for assistance, especially if you have other children. “This is a time in your life when you need a little help, and it’s okay to let go
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uesting fingers. Roving eyes. Interest in everything, even the most prosaic detail of our lives. As I write this article, I’m sitting next to my nearly 9-month-old daughter who is taking a bath. Only a few months ago, I had to do everything for her. Now she sits up and bends over, splashing in the clear water, touching the spout. She talks to herself as she explores shampoo bottles, the shower curtain and her rubber ducky. She is absolutely engaged in learning right now. We all want our children (or grandchildren, nieces and nephews, etc.) to become intelligent and alert. Babies’ brains triple in size in the first two years! Here are some ideas to help your little one’s brain develop.
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Very small babies have limited interaction, but your engaging them is not lost. Talk a lot—your voice will help them begin to piece together speech patterns. Smile at them—you’ll be teaching your babies to decipher the intricacies of social interactions. Cuddle them—you’re creating a sure sense of safety that will help them succeed in life.
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Once babies start to interact, the fun intensifies! When they begin to notice the world around them, everything becomes an adventure—from the doorstop to the drawer pulls to the toilet seat. While it can be draining to us as caregivers
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sometimes, this exploration is essential to brain development and has been linked to attention span in later life. But even crawling around the house exploring can get old for little ones. When spoons, chair legs and picking up raisins doesn’t hold your little one’s interest any more, try these tips for engaging that fastgrowing brain! Go for a walk. Getting outside changes the stimuli. Most babies love feeling the breeze on their soft cheeks, chattering at animals and touching flowers. Try pointing things out as you walk and naming them. You’ll be helping your little one figure out the world. Teach your baby to smell. This is an often overlooked sense, but a powerful one. We give our daughter basil, espresso and cinnamon to smell. She loves it! Anything with a strong odor is a good stimulus. Name the smell for your little one and watch that little nose sniff! Keep a wide variety of music playing. Our baby loves sludge metal, but she also dances to Gershwin, sings along with the Cure, listens silently to Adele and falls asleep with Tori Amos. She has her favorite songs and is starting to dance. In fact, lately I can’t even sing her a lullaby, because she wakes up and tries to sing along! Let your baby have intentional sensory play. Frozen corn or peas, rice in a dish, water in a sink—touching all kinds of textures and substances is essential to helping babies figure out the world.
If you can handle the mess, letting them play with their food is an excellent way to create more interest in it, as well as an opportunity to have fun. Sometimes the only way my daughter will eat squash is when she can mash it around and put it in her mouth herself. Narrate your day. Babies spoken to a lot have slightly higher IQ scores and excel in reading and writing activities when they are older. It may seem silly to you, but the more you talk to your baby, the more he or she will learn how language, emotion and relationships work. Speak your thoughts out loud, narrate your cooking project, discuss your work. Your baby may not understand the words themselves, but he or she will certainly get the meaning behind them. Make faces! You will teach your baby how to read facial and body expressions, which is essential for later life. Human interaction is important for babies to grow strong and healthy and be able to learn well. As long as their basic needs are taken care of (food, shelter, clothing, affection) babies will learn from anything. Use your creativity and allow yourself to truly enjoy being with your babe. By offering many kinds of stimuli, as well as peace when the stimulus becomes too much, you can help your little one’s brain develop and have fun doing it. Emily McIntyre is a Kansas City based writer who enjoys activities that boost her daughter’s brain power.
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Pregnant mothers can sometimes feel overwhelmed with the endless amount of material pertaining to labor and delivery—and at times become targets for unsolicited advice. We’ve debunked some common misconceptions and myths to ease your mind. 1.) Your second or third child’s birth will be easier. Myth – The labor and delivery might not go as quickly or smoothly if you waited several years between pregnancies. Also, a c-section might be needed if your second or third child is not lined up in the birth canal properly or is larger than your other babies. 2.) Once you’ve had a c-section, you must do it again. Myth – 60 to 80 percent of women who have previously under- gone cesarean birth can successfully give birth vaginally. However, if you had a condition that required a c-section the first time, you might be advised to deliver via cesarean again. Talk to your health provider about your condition and your options to ensure you are making an informed decision. 3.) Your doctor will be with you throughout labor. Myth – It’s hard to imagine the physician you’ve seen for the last nine months might not be delivering your baby. He or she will be in the office seeing patients during the day and, when it gets close for you to deliver, might already be at home. It’s not uncommon for your doctor not to see you until after your bundle of joy arrives. 4.) There are ways to kick-start your labor. Myth – You’ve probably heard it all or tried it all to induce labor, such as eating spicy foods, walking miles, having sex and drinking castor oil. But none of these wives’ tales have been scientifically proven to induce labor. “I even made labor inducing cookies and ate them while I walked around our neighborhood,” says Amanda Barnes from Belton. 5.) If you’re having contractions, go to the hospital immediately. Myth – Usually your first and second births will allow you to stay at home in the early stages of labor, but if your contractions start suddenly and strongly, then it’s recommended you go to the hospital. Talk to your doctor about when you should come in or whether you have a medical condition that requires you to come in earlier.
As always, check with your health care provider with any questions or concerns.
Jennifer Duxbury, an Olathe resident and a SAHM to her 3-year-old son, fell for the labor inducing wives’ tales and tried them all!
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TIPS TO PREPARE BIG SIBS FOR BABY’S ARRIVAL
The arrival of a new baby is a special occasion for the entire family, and that includes older siblings! By helping them prepare and participate, you can create a positive and smooth transition for your family.
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TIP #1: LISTEN, THEN TALK
As you talk about the arrival of a new baby, allow your child to ask lots of questions, then answer them honestly. As you talk, listen to your child carefully. Is she concerned about her role in the family? Does she have fears or worries? Be sure to reassure her and continue your already established loving habits and traditions. If she is not worried, don’t plant seeds! And, be sure to answer what she is actually asking, not what you may think she is asking. For instance, when my then-3-year-old asked, “Where do babies come from?” she was truly interested in finding out in which hospital and room I would deliver Baby Sister. As you start to prepare, include your child in the conversation. He can help select decorations for a nursery, an outfit for the hospital and, in some families, siblings are even included in the naming process!
TIP #2: READ GOOD BOOKS ABOUT BIG SIBS You’ll find a variety of big sibling books available for sale and at local libraries. Be sure to read reviews and descriptions in advance—are the books addressing your child’s needs? Our favorite big sibling titles were: I’m a Big Sister/Brother by Joanna Cole. This book is a great introduction for young children expecting a new baby sibling. Reassuring older siblings that they are special, loved, important members of the family and that the new baby will bring wonderful new changes to the family, this is a great bedtime staple in anticipation of a new baby. How to Be a Baby by Me, the Big Sister by Sally Lloyd-Jones and Sue Heap. This is a humorous picture book to enjoy. Big Sister teaches Baby all of the important things in life because Baby does not know the words to songs, how to walk, how to dance or enjoy all of the other great aspects of life relished by the older sister.
TIP #3: TEACH THEM TO BE INDEPENDENT & HELPFUL
Start to teach independence and encourage “grown up” behavior as your helper and part of the family team. Begin to give future big sibs small responsibilities throughout your pregnancy to help prepare for the arrival of the baby. Begin to include them in chores. This builds esteem, and knowing that they are needed and integral to the family’s success (you are relying on their help, and that makes them feel good!) and that they’re learning more, they become truly more helpful! Purchase a handheld broom and dustpan and let them sweep up crumbs from the kitchen floor. Teach them to put away their own folded laundry as they are able. Enlist help in setting the table or preparing meals.Young children can help tear lettuce to make a salad, stir pasta salads and line muffin tins. Older children can be trusted with more responsibilities. Teach them to make their beds. Be sure to make the process as simple as possible (minimal pillows, stuffed toys, etc.). Teach independence: Are you doing things for your child that he can do for himself, simply because you want to be sure it is “done right” or quickly? It’s worth the investment of time to teach him to be independent where he can. Teach children to choose outfits appropriate for weather and occasion and dress themselves. Start with laying outfits out the night before. Allow for free time when they can play as they please and be imaginative. Plan to include them in tasks to help with the baby: retrieving diapers and wipes, selecting outfits, picking up toys, etc. Reinforce value both verbally and with quality time. For instance, “Thanks so much for helping make salad tonight.You freed me up to spend time playing this evening. Would you like to play Uno after dinner?” Consider a reward chart on the fridge to mark completed tasks and an end-of-theweek reward.
TIP #4: TAKE YOUR CHILD ON A DATE Spending one-on-one time with each child is one of the most treasured gifts any parent has to offer! Story time before bed, cuddles, crafts and games are all great ways to bond, and these regular rituals should continue after Baby arrives. However, most families find that the first few months are a big adjustment, and finding one-on-one time can be hard for sleep-deprived parents. Before the baby arrives, set aside a few opportunities to take your child out for a special one-on-one date with each parent. • Go out for ice cream. • Play at the park. • Visit a favorite attraction: Kansas City Zoo, miniature golf at Cool Crest, Little Monkey Bizness and more
TIP #5: MAKE MEMORIES ON THE BIG DAY
Include big siblings in the big day and make plans to make it special for them! Order sibling t-shirts from CafePress. com (you’ll find a variety of designs and styles). Have a gift from Mom and Dad ready to give to older children when they arrive at the hospital. Our favorite idea was a travel folding tray with activity books and fun crayons to use at the hospital and at Grandma’s house. Before the big day, take your child shopping to select a gift for the baby from the big sibling. This may be a favorite toy, blanket or outfit. Plan fun things for them to enjoy while you’re at the hospital. Purchase gift cards for ice cream or a favorite attraction that they may enjoy with grandparents or aunts and uncles. Take lots of photos with the whole family! Kristina Light is thankful for her daughters who make great big, little and middle sisters! kcparent.com april-june 2013
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ARE ORGANICS IMPORTANT FOR BABY?
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he organic foods industry has grown at an unprecedented rate over the last decade. Organic retailers like Whole Foods and Trader Joe’s are constantly opening new locations—despite a still-sour economy— and even Walmart and other conventional stores are offering organic options. Plus, most people seem convinced that organic is the way to go if you want your family to be healthy, fit and environmentally friendly. But when it comes to your baby’s health, are these products really worth their higher prices?
ORGANICS FOR LESS There are clearly conflicting views on the benefits of organic foods. If you do choose to go organic, you’ll get the most bang for your buck by focusing on specific items, rather than abandoning conventional products altogether. Here are a few tips from Heather Stouffer and Money Crashers food expert Andrew Schrage.
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Basics First: To maximize the benefits of a partially-organic diet, focus first on the foods most common in your baby’s diet. Spend the extra money on staples such as oatmeal, yogurt and milk before you spring for organic fresh produce or meat.
NUTRITION & VALUE One of the most common claims regarding organic fruits and vegetables is that they’re more nutrient-dense. Unfortunately, experts rarely delve into the details. “Nutrients” can be caloriecontaining compounds like carbs, proteins and fats, or they can be vitamins, minerals and other non-caloric essentials. So, which nutrients are you actually missing if you buy conventional? None, according to Melissa Dobbins, national spokeswoman for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. She says the term “organic” refers not to any type of product, but to a specific set of farming guidelines. An organic apple will have the same amounts of sugar, fiber and other macronutrients as its conventional counterpart. As for vitamins and minerals, Dobbins points to a recent Stanford study which showed no significant differences between organic and conventional produce. Does that mean organics are bad? Not at all, says Dobbins, who says she would never dissuade someone from choosing organic foods. Environmental concerns, farming practices and pesticide problems are all valid reasons to spend a little more. It’s just that you’re not “missing out” on any essential nutrients if you stick to conventional.
PEKSY PESTICIDES It’s no secret that conventional crops are sprayed with a variety of synthetic pesticides. And, if there’s one thing on which most doctors and dieticians agree, it’s that harmful chemicals are especially bad for babies. Bridget Swinney, author of Eating Expectantly, Baby Bites and Health Food for Healthy Kids, notes that “pound for pound, babies and toddlers eat more than adults,” and that environmental chemicals have the greatest impacts during critical periods of development. The real question then is whether organic farming methods are necessary to
The Clean 15: In addition to the “dirty dozen,” the Environmental Working Group drew a list of 15 crops that receive little to no pesticide treatment. Whether they’re fresh or pureed, stick to these foods for your conventional purchases.
reduce pesticide-related risks. Dobbins says they’re not, and that virtually all conventional produce already falls within the Environmental Protection Agency’s limits for pesticide residues. In fact, she even says the so-called “dirty dozen”— the 12 most pesticide-heavy foods in the nation—aren’t cause for concern. Some organics advocates believe the EPA’s guidelines aren’t stringent enough, however. Melinda Hemmelgarn, registered dietician and host of the KCsyndicated Food Sleuth Radio, says that even tiny amounts of pesticide residues can harm embryos and infants. Citing an observational study by the American
FOOD WRITER MICHAEL POLLAN IS FAMOUS FOR SAYING, “YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT.” MOST SHOPPERS FOCUS FIRST ON ORGANIC PRODUCE, BUT ANIMAL PRODUCTS DESERVE AT LEAST AS MUCH ATTENTION. Academy of Pediatrics, she also says certain pesticides have been linked to ADHD, autism and other developmental disorders. Still, conscientious consumers should note that these links aren’t causal, and that researchers have not proven that common pesticides lead to growth defects.
ORGANICALLY FED Food writer Michael Pollan is famous
Shop Seasonal: If going organic is truly important to you, you may need to give up year-round tomatoes and berries. Some conventional products are cheap all the time, but you’ll get the best deals on organics in-season.
for saying, “You are what you eat eat.” Most shoppers focus first on organic produce, but animal products deserve at least as much attention. Dietician Juliana Hever says that animals store toxins in their fat, and those toxins will continually build up as they age. Factory-farmed animals will thus contain more synthetic hormones, antibiotics and other additives than pastured, organically-fed animals. Even the aforementioned Stanford study showed that organic chicken and pork contain less antibiotic-resistant bacteria, and that organic milk contains more heart-healthy Omega-3 fats. It’s important to understand some different terms, though. Any meat or milk labeled “organic” must be free of antibiotics and added growth hormone, but that doesn’t mean it was grass-fed or pastured. Likewise, meat that’s “hormonefree” or “antibiotic-free” isn’t necessarily organic. If you want to be sure you’re buying the most nutritious meat possible, ask your butcher about the animals’ diets and living conditions. Ideally, you’ll get pastured chickens and grass-fed beef and dairy. It’s the unhealthy, corn-rich factory diets that cause livestock to require antibiotics in the first place. What about breast milk? After all, it might be the “animal” product your baby consumes more than anything else. Dietician and lactation consultant Megan Mignot says an organic diet isn’t too important for quality milk. While some conventional chemicals might make it through to your baby, “the benefits of breast milk still far outweigh any risk of pesticides.” Heather Stouffer, KC native and CEO of the organics company Mom Made Meals, likewise says that “nature is forgiving.” Most of the research on maternal diets and breast milk quality shows little correlation between the two. David LaMartina is a Kansas Citybased freelance health and food writer. He can be reached at DavidLaMartina.com.
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aving a baby at age 32 and again at age 42 is a wide awakening to the evolution of approaching motherhood. What I felt at 32 was bewilderment, excitement and a little fear. Pregnant for a second time 10 years later, I felt bewilderment, excitement and a little fear—but all for different reasons. I gave birth to my older daughter, Emmy, in July of 2002. In a new marriage and a new city, the idea of raising a child seemed stimulating but scary. Why didn’t the hospital send me home with a manual or directions on how to take care of this precious little one? Would I be a good enough mom? But somehow, among the parental scrapes and bruises, missteps and mishaps, a divorce and remarriage, my
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2002 baby has grown into a happy little lady just 10 years later. I always knew I wanted a bigger family, but after divorcing and getting back into the shifting single life, I had come to the understanding that I might not have that opportunity. However, a few years ago, I met my future husband and things completely changed. A compassionate man with a zest for life, he demonstrated early on that he loved me and my daughter for who we were, and I love him more than I could ever imagine. We married in 2011 and right away knew we wanted to bring another child into our world. As an “older” woman flirting with fertility, I wasn’t sure that I could even get pregnant, but we were blessed to discover
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we were expecting just four months after our wedding day. As thankful and excited as we were, I was worried about a few things. It had been 10 years since my first pregnancy and I wasn’t exactly a spring chicken. At 42, I was a concerned about the risks associated with carrying a baby at my age, as well as the risks to my unborn child. Would I have the patience to nurture and love another little one just as much 10 years down the road? After my first child, I lost the baby weight within a few months. How would my aging body react a decade later? But I also had a lot of things on my side. As a younger mother, I was in fairly good shape and pretty healthy. But as a soon-to-be older mother, I was stronger both physically and mentally, not to mention more in tune with my overall health and wellbeing. In the past 10 years, I have made wellness and fitness my livelihood, so I felt confident with both my body and mindset. My food intake had improved over the years, too. As a younger expecting mother, I ate a fairly healthy diet, but when I craved something “bad,” I would have it, even if it meant munching on a hefty combo from a burger drive-thru or replacing my normally nutritious breakfast with a collection of Krispy Kremes. But my lifestyle had grown healthier over the years—for me and my daughter. Although a trip to the ice cream shop was not unheard of, I seemed to hang on to most of my good habits throughout my second pregnancy. Another difference I noted was my attitude about pain relief. In my first pregnancy, I had watched a number of TLC-A Baby Story episodes and saw how serene and “spa like” natural labors seemed to be. In my strict birthing plan, I informed my doctor that I was having my
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making the most of
Be glad that there are no distractions of looming housework, meal preparation or work obligations during this time.
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hen the big day arrives, whether it’s scheduled or spontaneous, the hospital becomes your “baby spa” retreat for the next few days. Besides getting to see your sweet little angel there for the first time, your body will undergo a major physical feat and you will encounter an emotional (partially hormonal) roller coaster. Although you will be eager to bring your little one home to your nest, don’t miss the hidden treasures that lie in your time at the hospital. Here are five tips to make the most of your post-baby hospital stay.
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Limit Visitors Let’s begin with the trickiest tip of the bunch….limiting visitors. It’s tough to pull this off without some hitches, but it’s an important part of maximizing your recovery and care time at the hospital. After your sweet one arrives, emotions (and hormones for Mom) are running high. Everyone in your support system is armed with good intentions and eager to see your new little bundle of joy. However, these loving visitors can unknowingly create extra stress for a new mom. I remember how with my first baby, as family and friends paraded through my room, I automatically switched into “hostess” mode. This was not the hat I wanted to be wearing at the time, and it proved to be exhausting. The result was a major meltdown to my lucky husband later in the evening. Although you’ll be excited for people to meet your new baby, you’ll
also want to rest, not worry about looking presentable and to have time to take in what just happened! With that being said, come up with a plan for how you want to approach this scenario before you are in it. Grandparents, siblings, etc… are an exception, but when it comes to everyone else, don’t be shy about politely letting them know that you are waiting to have visitors until you’re home and settled. People actually appreciate knowing that limit as they just want to be helpful and supportive during this time. If you do have visitors, keep it brief. Once you bring baby home and get into your groove, you will welcome your visitors with open arms and a clear head.
Eat, Sleep and Be Merry Eat: One of the most delectable cheeseburgers of my life came from the hospital cafeteria after delivering my first
hospital time myself included). All of these individuals have an important service and valuable information for parents. I learned more from the nurses and lactation consultants over my brief hospital stay than I had read in any parenting or “What to Expect” books. They are rich with knowledge all for your benefit. Listen up and don’t forget to ask questions. PS: Don’t forget to ask your nurses for some hospital “swag!” They will happily give you the extra diapers, Vaseline, ice packs, etc., that were in your room, as they will otherwise be thrown away.
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The posts, tweets, texts, etc., can wait! Be in the moment with your new baby.
son. After hours of strenuous labor, your body will be ready for a hearty dose of replenishment. Whether it’s from your favorite place outside the hospital or from the free food service that comes with your “all inclusive” stay, eat up, ladies!! It’s not often (especially now that you are a mom) that you will have someone cook for you, deliver it to you in bed and clean up afterward. Enjoy every second…who cares what’s on the menu! In between meals, send your hubby to the nutrition room as much as your heart desires. Sleep: If you are limiting your visitors, you have a great opportunity to get in some extra shut-eye. Whether or not you want your baby to be taken to the nursery in between feedings is a personal choice. Either way, you know you’ve heard it: “Sleep when the baby sleeps.” You will quickly realize the value and power of a nap!!
Be Merry: Be glad that there are no distractions of looming housework, meal preparation or work obligations during this time. Stay in that “plush” hospital bed and, first and foremost, revel in your new baby. In between these adoring moments, don’t be afraid to indulge in some daytime TV, gossip magazines or your favorite book. These pleasures will be few and far between when you get home.
Listen There is a revolving door of people in and out of your room during your stay at the hospital. Once you are moved to the mother/baby unit, the checklist of people begins: doctors, pediatricians, lactation specialists, nurses, financial and birth certificate representatives. You’ll even have a photographer come in with the option of a photo session (new moms are certainly suckers for this one….
Before my epidural had even worn off, I looked over to see my husband zoned out on his phone. He was, of course, composing the official Facebook birth announcement, which has become a standard in welcoming a new baby. Once that announcement is posted, with tags, stats and the infamous first picture with baby wrapped up like a burrito, the Pandora’s box of technology will open. Your phone or gadget of choice will be beeping all day with comment notifications, text messages, e-mails, etc. It will be so enticing to see what is on the other end of those beeps. The outpouring of love and support is an amazing feeling to proud parents. Technology is great in that way. However, in hindsight, I see what a distraction it can be to being in the moment. While my husband was sending out his proud papa post, our little boy was getting cleaned and diapered for his first time. The posts, tweets, texts, etc., can wait! Be in the moment with your new baby.
Bonding This is by far the BEST and most important part of the stay. If you walk away remembering one tip, I hope this is the one. Bond with your baby! Talk to, sing to and revel in your new little miracle. Enjoy these first days of getting to know each other and beginning what I think is the best gift of life, being a parent. Amanda Doll enjoyed her stay at the maternity “spa” much more her second time around. She is a full-time teacher and proud mom of two little boys in Lenexa. kcparent.com april-june 2013
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Pregnancy Tips for the Clueless Chick by Jennifer Durbin. If there is anything more overwhelming than seeing a positive pregnancy test, it’s trying to read a giant textbook of pregnancy information! This handy little book covers all of the basics and can be read in one sitting. Best feature? It contains tear-out checklists for interviewing a pediatrician, daycare or OB-GYN—as well as a must-have registry list and how to prepare your home for baby. $9.99, CluelessChick.com Daddy Diaper Bag. The first time we left the house with our newborn son, my husband complained that my diaper bag was “too girly.” If Daddy needs a bag of his own when he is responsible for the kids, this is a perfect solution. This backpackstyle bag is ergonomic and designed with an abundance of pockets so Dad doesn’t have to dig through the chasm of chaos that my bag tends to be. $69.95, DaddyScrubs.com
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VACCINATION INFORMATION
ou want to do what is best for your children. You know about the importance of car seats, baby gates and other ways to keep them safe. Another way to protect your children is to make sure they have all of their vaccinations. Immunizations can save a child’s life. Because of advances in medical science, your child can be protected against more diseases than ever before. Some diseases that once injured or killed thousands of children have been eliminated completely, and others are close to extinction–primarily due to safe and effective vaccines. One example of the great impact that vaccines can have is the elimination of polio in the United States. Polio was once America’s most-feared disease, causing death and paralysis across the nation, but today there are no reports of polio in the United States. Vaccination is safe and effective. Vaccines are only given to children after a long and careful review by scientists, doctors and healthcare professionals. Vaccines will involve some discomfort and may cause pain, redness or tenderness at the site of injection, but this is minimal compared to the pain, discomfort and trauma of the diseases these vaccines prevent. Serious side effects following vaccination, such as severe allergic reaction, are very rare. The disease-prevention benefits of getting vaccines are much greater than the possible side effects for almost all children.
Immunization protects others. Children in the United States still get vaccinepreventable diseases. In fact, there have been resurgences of measles and whooping cough (pertussis) over the past few years. In 2010, the United States had more than 21,000 cases of whooping cough reported and 26 deaths, most in children younger than 6 months. Unfortunately, some babies are too young to be completely vaccinated and some people may not be able to receive certain vaccinations due to severe allergies, weakened immune systems from conditions like leukemia, or other reasons. To help keep them safe, it is important that you and your children who are able to get vaccinated are fully immunized. This not only protects your family, but also helps prevent the spread of these diseases to your friends and loved ones. Immunizations can save your family time and money. A child with a vaccine-preventable disease can be denied attendance at schools or daycare facilities. Some vaccine-preventable diseases can result in prolonged disabilities and can take a financial toll because of lost time at work, medical bills or long-term disability care. In contrast, getting vaccinated against these diseases is a good investment and usually covered by insurance. The Vaccines for Children program is a federally funded program that provides vaccines at no cost to children from low-income families. To find out more about the VFC program, visit CDC.gov/Vaccines/Programs/VFC/ or ask your child’s healthcare professional. The
Johnson County Department of Health and Environment (JCDHE) offers immunizations during walk-in hours at the Olathe (11875 S. Sunset Dr.) and Mission (6000 Lamar Ave.) clinics (JCDHE.jocogov.org/Health/ Immunization). Immunization protects future generations. Vaccines have helped to reduce and, in some cases, eliminate many diseases that killed or severely disabled people just a few generations ago. For example, smallpox vaccination eradicated that disease worldwide.Your children don’t have to get smallpox shots any more because the disease no longer exists. By vaccinating children against rubella (German measles), the risk that pregnant women will pass this virus on to their fetus or newborn has been dramatically decreased, and birth defects associated with that virus no longer are seen in the United States. If we continue vaccinating now, and vaccinating completely, parents in the future may be able to trust that some diseases of today will no longer be around to harm their children in the future. For more information, visit JCDHE.jocogov.org/Health/Immunization or CDC.gov/Vaccines. Follow JCDHE on Twitter (@JOCOHealth) and Facebook (Facebook.com/JoCoHealthDept). The views in this article do not necessarily reflect the views of KC Baby. As always, with any health concerns, please contact your physician. kcparent.com april-june 2013
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Moms FREE Monday 10:00, Paradise Park. Moms are free at the Children’s EduTainment Center with a paid child’s admission. 816.246.5224 KidScape 10:00, Johnson County Museum. Hands-on exhibit immerses young children in a colorful, exciting environment. Open Daily. 913.715.2552 Story Time for Toddlers 10:00, Blue Springs South Library. Every Monday, stories, music and movement are all part of toddler story times. MyMCPL.org Midtown Play Group 10:00, Westport Roanoke Community Ctr. Indoor playground for children 5 and under and their caregiver. $1.50/ child. KCMO.org Toddler Town 10:00, Sermon Community Ctr. $1/child. Parents and children visit indoor playground and participate in educational activities. 816.325.7370
These events typically occur every week, but there may be exceptions. Please remember that events are subject to change and many facilities close on federal holidays, during inclement weather or when school is closed. Always call ahead to verify times. Tip: Visit KCParent.com/Going-Places/ for even more ideas!
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Story Time for Toddlers 10:00, Red Bridge Library. Every Monday, stories, music and movement are all part of toddler story times. MyMCPL.org Toddler Takeover KC North Community Ctr. Bring your little ones and let them run and play in the gym. Cost: $1/session. 816.784.6100
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did you know? The Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art has story time the second Sunday of each month! Don’t miss a springtime stroll through the sculpture garden while you’re there.
TUESDAY
Toddle Time Tue & Wed, 9:00-11:00, Matt Ross Community Ctr. $1-2/child. Tunnels, games, puzzles . . . lots for your little one to play & learn. 913.895.6390 Open Play Tue & Thu, 9:30, Irene French Community Ctr. Enjoy Step 2 climbers, Little Tykes toys and more. $2.50/child. 913.322.5550 Coffee Playground 10:00, OPKS 1st Assembly of God. Every Tuesday, the coffee shop is open. Kids 5 and under enjoy inflatables, balls and toys. FREE. OverlandParkMOPS.blogspot.com Toddler Story Time 10:00, Louisburg Library. Families with little ones are encouraged to drop in every Tuesday for stories, songs and activities. FREE. 913.837.2217 Tuesday Morning Story Time 10:30, KCKPL-South Library. Children are invited to join us for an hour of stories, crafts, music and other fun activities! KCKPL.lib.ks.us Story Time for Toddlers 11:00, Lee’s Summit Library. Every Tuesday, stories, music and movement are all part of toddler story times. MyMCPL.org Family Night Tue & Fri, 4:00, Little Monkey Bizness. Enjoy indoor play especially for little ones. $6/child, $4/crawler. 913.631.7000
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Pop ‘n Play on Alternating Wednesdays 9:00, Johnson County Museum. Activities designed especially for your 9-month- to 3-year-olds. Fee: $1/child, members FREE. 913.715.2552 Toddle Time Tue & Wed, 9:00-11:00, Matt Ross Community Ctr. $1-2/child. Tunnels, games, puzzles . . . lots for your little one to play & learn. 913.895.6390 Baby Time 9:30, West Wyandotte Library. Story time for infants ages 6 to 23 months and their parent or caregiver, with songs, action rhymes and finger plays. KCKPL.lib.ks.us Tiny Tot Skate 9:30, Skate City. Bring your little one out to the rink! $5/child. 913.888.6668 Baby Bounce Story Time 9:30, Plaza Branch. Bring your infant (newborn to 18 months) for a fun story time every Wednesday. 816.701.3481 Toddler Town 10:00, Sermon Community Ctr. $1/child. Parents and children visit indoor playground and participate in educational activities. 816.325.7370 Story Time 10:00, Barnes & Noble (Town Center). Free story time for little ones every Wednesday. 913.491.4535 Midtown Play Group 10:00, Westport Roanoke Community Ctr. Indoor playground for children 5 and under and their caregiver. $1.50/child. KCMO.org
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Open Play Tue & Thu, 9:30, Irene French Community Ctr. Enjoy Step 2 climbers, Little Tykes toys and more. $2.50/child. 913.322.5550 Toddler Story Time 10:00, West Wyandotte Library. Each story time includes stories, songs, finger plays and a simple craft. KCKPL.lib.ks.us FitMom & Baby 10:30, Summit Fair. Every Thursday, bring your baby with you to work out for FREE. SummitFairShopping.com Family Fun Night 4:00-8:00, Monkey Bizness (Olathe). Every Thursday night admission is only $5 for kids to climb and bounce the evening away. 913.780.2500
FRIDAY
Toddler Town 10:00, Sermon Community Ctr. $1/child. Parents and children visit indoor playground and participate in educational activities. 816.325.7370 Story Time 10:30, Shawnee Books & Toys. Free stories, craft and a snack! Story time is ideal for ages 2-6, but everyone is invited! 913.962.1428 Friday Play Group 10:30, Turner Community Library. Little ones have fun listening to stories and joining in songs and crafts. KCKPL.lib.ks.us Family Night 4:00, Little Monkey Bizness. Enjoy indoor play especially for little ones. $6/child, $4/crawler. 913.631.7000 kcparent.com april-june 2013
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catch me if you can June 11-16, 8:00, KC Starlight Theatre, KCStarlight.com. Based on the hit film and the incredible true story that inspired it, Catch Me If You Can is the high-flying Broadway musical that tells the story of Frank W. Abagnale, Jr., a teenager who runs away from home in search of the glamorous life.
Run Wild! American Imagination on Paper Thru May 12, FREE, Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art, Nelson-Atkins.org The gallery is open until 9:00 on Thursdays and Fridays and until 5:00 on weekends, making it the perfect free date night. The exhibit highlights the adeptness with which artists travel through time, visualize the impossible and conjure worlds never before seen. Comedy City Friday & Saturday evenings, at Westport Flea Market, 817 Westport Rd., Kansas City, MO, 816.842.2744, ComedyCity.cc Enjoy live improv comedy shows, based on suggestions from the audience, boasting creative laugh-out-loud sketches. Wine Bottle Decorating walk-in project at Ceramic Café, 9425 Mission Rd., Leawood, KS, CeramicCafeKC.com Make a cheese plate out of a recycled wine bottle. You can even add an etched design for added flair!
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Third Friday Art Walk, Englewood Arts District, Sterling Ave. & Winner Rd., Independence, MO, EnglewoodStation.com Art galleries, live music, food and street performers. Parkville Microbrew Festival, April 27, English Landing Park, ParkvilleMO.org Come to historic Downtown Parkville and further your beer education, enjoy outdoor grilled foods, live music and a great spring day. Guests will be supplied with a commemorative logo tasting glass, a custom tasting note sheet and live music. Food will also be available for purchase. Hey-Hay Going to Kansas City! May 3-12, Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts, KCBallet.org A celebration of the golden age of jazz, this ballet pays tribute to the era of nightclubs and dance halls when Kansas City was considered the “Paris of the Plains.” Experience what the New York press called a “shrewd romp that put a smile on everyone’s face.”
Miss Abigail’s Guide to Dating, Mating & Marriage, May 10-June 23, American Heartland Theatre, AHTKC.com The story follows Miss Abigail, the most sought-after relationship expert to the stars (think Dr. Ruth meets Emily Post), and her sidekick, Paco, as they travel the world teaching Miss Abigail’s outrageously funny how-to’s on dating, mating and marriage. Spamalot, May 31-June 6, 8:00, KC Starlight Theatre, KCStarlight.com Monty Python’s Spamalot is the outrageous musical comedy lovingly ripped off from the film classic Monty Python and the Holy Grail. Jazzoo, June 7, Kansas City Zoo, 6800 Zoo Dr., Kansas City, MO, KansasCityZoo.org Jazzoo is the Kansas City Zoo’s largest fundraiser. You can support us by purchasing an unforgettable once-in-alifetime zoo animal experience.
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