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elcome, 2020! It’s a big year in the Sarver home: My older is graduating high school and heading off to college, I’m celebrating a milestone birthday and we’ll be acquiring another teen driver. Whew! I’m already a little overwhelmed, and we’re just getting started! In addition to my own personal milestone, I’m celebrating one professionally, as 2020 marks the 35th anniversary of KC Parent! Stay tuned as we mark the occasion throughout the year with articles, giveaways and much more! I’m the oldest of six. I have three brothers and two sisters. I fit the “oldest child” description in many ways and am sure my place in the family had a significant effect on shaping my personality. Several years ago, my sister-in-law gave me an ornament that reads, “I’m not bossy, my ideas are just better than yours.” I think all five of my siblings will nod vigorously in agreement when I say I like to be in charge. The trick is knowing how to use that quality in positive ways (take charge when needed) and not negative ones (bossing people around). I see these firstborn traits in my older as well. It’s so intriguing to look at the many influences that shape a person, with birth order being one. Check out Sarah Lyon’s article on pg. 40 for much more on birth order and how it affects kids and their personalities. With the new year, many think of resolutions and fresh starts. I try to set myself up for success and implement small changes with the start of the new year. I’d like to read my Bible more and I want to take intentional, prolonged times away from my phone. To completely unplug from time to time really recharges and refreshes. We’ve got ideas to get you started making changes for yourself in 2020; check them out on pg. 46.
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Step three: Have fun adding the hat, eyes, nose, mouth, scarf, arms and buttons to your melted snowman.
Step four: Lay it flat to dry. Step five: Hang and proudly display your melted snowman creation! Megan Coffey is a former kindergarten teacher and lives in Overland Park with her husband and two kids. She loves encouraging creativity with her children through art and play.
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MOJOFORMOMS mōjō: 1. influence, especially magic power 2. mom joy
A YEAR OF HOLIDAY TRADITIONS In last month’s Mojo for Moms column, I shared our family’s favorite winter holiday traditions. Consider this an encore, focused on the coming year. Whatever your family rituals and however you create them, January is the perfect time of year to deliberately think through the traditions that define your family and mark the seasons to come. If you’re looking for some meaningful and fun ones, here are a few tried-and-true favorites, from our home to yours.
New Year’s Donuts on Strings:
Easter: On the eve of Easter, the
Halloween: We enjoy a flashlight
This tradition began as I was watching the ball drop on a new year on TV. A pithy poem of new year wishes scrolled across the ticker at the bottom of the screen: “In the year _____, let this be our goal: to focus on the donut, instead of on the hole.” Ever since, our family has recited this poem and tied donuts on strings. One family member dangles the donut, and another stands beneath and tries to catch it in her mouth.
kids plant jellybeans in the yard, which magically sprout into colorful lollipops Easter morning. We also tie colored yarn to their Easter baskets. The kids follow the string on a hunt for their Easter baskets, usually discovered in our backyard.
walk through the woods at dusk with a book of ghost stories to read at the park.
Valentine’s Heart Attack: We pick up heart doilies or cut hearts from construction paper, then spend time writing things we love about each member of our family. We tape the completed valentines to the walls to warm our home with love.
Mother’s & Father’s Days: Mother’s Day is celebrated with bike rides to a restaurant for lunch, where we play card games like Garbage, Presidents and Boo Your Neighbor. On Father’s Day, we meet up with friends at IHOP in the middle of the night, all wearing fake mustaches and pajamas.
Thanksgiving: Instead of a “thankful tree,” we create a paper “gobbles of gratitude” turkey for the wall, adding colorful cardstock feathers listing blessings for which we’re grateful.
Christmas: We love so many
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traditions, but among our favorites are kids caroling on the stairs Christmas morning to wake us, ringing bells. We also celebrate Christmas Eve with a Middle Eastern themed Bethlehem supper.
Fairy comes to visit our kids the night before school begins. She leaves backpacks by the door and tucks an encouraging note and small goodies into the backpacks: school supplies, clothes and new socks.
What are your family’s favorite traditions? Consider writing them down in your calendar this month in joyful anticipation of the year ahead. Happy New Year!
Wendy Connelly, M.Div., is a podcaster (MoJo For Moms podcast), life coach and mother of two from Overland Park. You can find Wendy’s latest podcasts, TV appearances, retreats and more at MoJoForMoms.com.
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“D�elightful Date Night DIY PROJECT For a unique date day, my husband and I decided to do a DIY project together: a pallet wall in our powder room. My husband first went over the wall with a stud finder and marked where the studs are. The next step was to figure out the pattern we wanted on the wall and the measurements for each board. We then took turns using a power miter saw to cut each board to the correct length, a table saw to cut boards to the correct width, and a nail gun to hang the boards. There was lots of test fitting, leveling out of the rows, cutting, and re-cutting. When it was all said and done, we had a beautiful pallet wall that goes perfectly with my coastal decor! Overall, the project took a bit longer than I thought it would because the boards we bought were not all the same width and some were warped. In reality though, a pallet wall will never be perfect.
DISTRICT POUR HOUSE + KITCHEN Located in historic Waldo is District Pour House + Kitchen. Even though they pride themselves on their unique craft brews and libations, we decided to check them out for brunch food on a Saturday. One of the District favorites is the chilaquiles, so I had to try them. The menu states the dish comes with pork, but you can substitute chicken instead ... which is what I did. The combination of the tomatillo sauce, scrambled eggs and corn-black bean pico with the chicken and tortilla chips was delicious! And the portion was HUGE! I managed to eat it all, however, along with two pieces of French toast from a side order we got. My husband had the Waldo Breakfast, which he said was very good also. With a modern rustic decor the place was cozy and inviting. Their weekly crab and shrimp boil on Fridays sounds yummy too!
DINERS, DRIVE-INS AND DIVES In what counts as a weeklong trip to Flavortown, my husband and I binge watched season 23 of Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives over the course of several evenings. Although KC-area restaurants have been featured on Triple D about 20 times (many of which we have tried), none were featured in this particular season. Hosted by the platinum-haired, catchphraseloving Guy Fieri, Triple D has been entertaining audiences for 12 years now. The episodes are entertaining, and many will leave you salivating. Some of the dishes I saw and would love to try are wild boar sliders, sloppy pig sandwich with sweet potato buns, coconut cream stuffed French toast made with challah bread, shrimp fritters, green papaya salad, pot roast burrito and turtle chowder. Hannah Berry is a freelance writer who lives with her husband in Kansas City. They enjoy regular date nights and love trying new restaurants and activities.
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Let’s face it, chores were never anyone’s favorite thing to do as a kid, or as an adult for that matter. They can feel boring and monotonous, and we would likely prefer to do almost anything else. We can continue to dread chores and teach our children to do the same—or we could make them a fun family affair.
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Winner, Winner, You Pick Dinner Make a chart with a column for each member of the family. Each time someone accomplishes a chore, they get a tally mark or a sticker to show their progress. At the end of each week, the person with the most marks or stickers gets to choose what the family eats for dinner. Not only does your family have an incentive to do chores, this method also helps you set aside a night for your family to share a special dinner and spend time with one another.
A little music can make all the difference when it comes to chores. Let everyone pick a few songs they love and form the perfect “get things done” playlist. Suddenly, chores feel like a dance party, and you’ll all be moving, grooving and accomplishing chores faster than you thought possible. We’re all familiar with a classic chore chart, but what about a calendar that keeps track of chores and gives your kids a little reward? This works especially well with younger children. You can keep a chart of the chores your family needs to do each week, and in a separate container, place small incentives as a surprise for your little ones when they complete their chores. Examples include pieces of candy or slips of paper with a prize written on it, such as extra TV time or a new book or toy. The rewards do not have to be elaborate or expensive—they are just a way to keep the family engaged and involved.
While chores can be, well, a chore, we have the power to change our mindsets and use them as an opportunity to not only connect and have fun as a family, but teach our children a valuable lesson about responsibility and gratitude. No matter how many tasks are on our to-do list, it is important to always be thankful for all that we have. Only with a servant’s heart can we act out of love for the people around us. True gratitude is the desire to give back to others, and that includes helping mom and dad with the chores. At Kanakuk, we teach Kampers about serving others from a place of thankfulness. We support them as they grow physically, spiritually, socially and emotionally, and we encourage families to approach every situation with a positive, Christ-like mindset. With that attitude, your family can take on any task with a joyful servant’s heart.
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FREEZE-FILLED NUTRITION intertime is here. The new year is filled with exciting activities, different goals and fresh responsibilities. Long to-do lists and hectic schedules can frazzle the best of us. Freeze time so you can squeeze in healthful, nutritious meals. Literally! Start by becoming best friends with your freezer and see how you can positively impact both your available time and your family’s health.
Why Freeze?
Stock the freezer with:
• Reduces total daily cooking time preparing meals. • Saves money when you buy in bulk and opt not to eat out. • Helps you eat wholesome, delicious meals. • Reduces stress. • Leaves more energy to focus on your kids.
• Frozen veggies: peas, carrots, edamame, corn, broccoli and spinach. • Frozen fruits: berries, mango and pineapple. • Frozen grains: whole wheat rolls, bread, pasta and beans. • Frozen protein: fish, turkey and chicken breasts, and veggie patties.
Now, put this healthful information into practice by noshing on these two great frozen treats.
Mozzarella-Stuffed Turkey Pesto Meatballs
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Cozy on up and snuggle in tight with this warm, savory dinner entrée. Not only will it leave your family’s tummies filled with energy thanks to all the protein, this recipe is also packed with bone-strengthening calcium and vitamin D.
I scream, you scream, we all scream ice cream! “Okay, so maybe not ice cream, but it’s the next best dessert my kids truly enjoy eating,” says Theresa, mom of two from Mission. With only all-natural sugars and lots of fiber, you can feel energetic with this healthful treat.
Ingredients
• 14.5-oz. can diced tomatoes, undrained • 1 lb. ground turkey • 1 large egg • 1/2 c. basil pesto • 1/2 c. Italian breadcrumbs • 1/4 c. grated parmesan cheese • 4-5 mozzarella string cheese sticks, cut into 4 pieces each • 1 c. mozzarella cheese, shredded
Instructions Pour diced tomatoes into 9×13 aluminum or disposable baking pan. In a large bowl, combine ground turkey, egg, pesto, breadcrumbs and parmesan cheese. Form into 18 meatballs.
Ingredients
• 2 c. strawberries, frozen, unsweetened • 3 med. bananas • 3 T. honey • 1/2 c. Greek yogurt, plain • 1 T. lemon juice
Instructions Place all ingredients into a blender. Blend until smooth, stopping to scrape the sides as needed. Serve immediately for a soft-serve texture, or pour into a freezer-safe container with a lid and freeze for 3 to 4 hours before serving.
Press one piece of mozzarella cheese inside each meatball and place in baking pan. Cover with shredded mozzarella cheese. Cover pans with layers of plastic wrap and foil, and freeze for up to three months. When ready to eat, uncover and bake at 350°F for 90 minutes. (You can shorten the cooking time by thawing overnight in the refrigerator.)
With a freezer full of tasty food, you can set up right your family’s healthy new year.
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Amy Hundley is a registered dietitian nutritionist, licensed in both Kansas and Missouri, and a published freelance nutrition writer. She is currently practicing as a clinical RD and has been a resident of Olathe since early childhood.
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Dry Erase Board I know, there are lots of apps out there that can help with the family schedule and organization, but I like a good visual and that’s where my handy dry erase board comes into play. Each Sunday I fill it with the upcoming week’s practices, meetings, appointments, activities and dinners. The family now knows not to come to me and ask, “What’s for dinner?” but to instead check out the board. And my husband doesn’t have to ask, “What time is dance?” because, say it with me, it’s on the board.
To-Go Containers On most Sundays, the girls and I prep lunches for the upcoming week. We’ll choose a recipe or rotate through a list of favorites. Often, the meal we make has several parts, and we need something for the extras—the shredded cheese, pico de gallo, tzatziki—and that’s where these little gems come in so handy! We can neatly pack the sides and then place everything together in a reusable container! In addition, these babies are perfect for craft items. Tip: The best deal I’ve found is on Amazon, 200 for $9.99. Amazon.com
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Bluetooth Speaker My trusty Bluetooth speaker gave out recently and it was time to get a new one. Let me tell you, there are a lot of choices out there. I like to listen to music mostly in the kitchen or my office, but in the nice weather I’ll take the show outside, so I wanted something with a strong sound. After reading many, many reviews I settled on DOSS Soundbox, and this little guy has some power! Nice, clear sound and loud enough that I can rock out (well, as much as a 49-year-old mom rocks out) when listening to my faves! Amazon.com
At-a-Glance Calendar I still use a paper calendar and, for the past 13, years have relied on the At-a-Glance calendar to keep us on track and at the right place at the right time! My mom and sisters use it as well. Each September, Mom orders our calendars and hands them out. What I love most is not only are they the perfect calendar, but I’ve held onto them and they now serve as a snapshot of what our lives were like in years past. If you’re trying to get more organized in the new year, check out At-a-Glance!
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thought I was a fairly organized person before I had kids. I handled myself well at work, got to my community college classes, knew where my ever-traveling fiancé was in the world at any given moment, and planned our wedding. Then came the kids. The level of organizational acumen needed to run a family made me have to step up my game. Enter soccer practice and games, theater rehearsals, Boy Scouts, medical/ dental/orthodontist appointments, school and homework, birthday parties—not to mention keeping track of my husband’s travel and my own work deadlines. Check out some of the best free apps I use to simplify my busy household; they will help you to get your house in order quickly.
Manilla — Stop searching for lost papers! Manilla is a secure online filing system that lets you minimize paper clutter. Everything is in one place: email, bills, documents, things like subscriptions and accounts. This app also allows you to set reminders.
Remember the Milk — This reminder app will take a load off your brain by letting you add all your tasks to it and then prioritize them. Then you can set alerts so the app will remind you about those tasks however you like: text message, email message, even a tweet and more! Includes a search feature and connects to Dropbox and Google Drive.
Cozi — Ever get to the grocery store and
Evernote — Instead of jotting notes down on envelopes and napkins, try Evernote. It’s the perfect place to park all your thoughts and reminders, including links, photos, graphics and more. Think Pinterest but with notebooks instead of boards, so you can create different notebooks for different purposes and share the notebooks with others. The search feature is a lifesaver.
realize you left your list at home? With Cozi, that’s not a problem anymore. Cozi will keep your store-specific lists to go along with the meal plans you also have stored in the app. My favorite part of this app is the feature that lets me journal (goodbye, iPhone Notes). But Cozi is no one-trick pony: It will also keep your color-coded calendar and send you reminders via email or text.
Ringya — Oh, the endless communication that comes with having kids! School, sports, afterschool activities, playdates and birthday parties all require far more messages than I can keep up with sometimes. Ringya makes it easy to create groups you need to keep in contact with on a regular basis … and then quickly contact them all at once without having to remember every single person every time you send a message. Set up an event, reschedule, cancel and more with Ringya.
Kerrie McLoughlin is the seasoned homeschooling writer mom of five. Check her out at TheKerrieShow.com.
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FRESH START “As we get older it is important to find things to do that light up our lives … Our minds are central to this effort and thrive when we are finding new things for them to do. Whether it’s acquiring a new skill or language (very high on the list of mental
TODDLER YEARS Almost 50 percent of parents identify their preschoolers as picky eaters, which means time at the dinner table can be a power struggle. We’ve all begged and pleaded unsuccessfully with our toddlers to try just one bite of their veggies. Research shows it can take 10 to 15 tries before a child likes a new food, so don’t give up! If they don’t like the food the first time, don’t force them to eat it, but don’t let that stop you from introducing the food to them again and again. If they don’t like a certain food, try cooking it different ways and spicing it up differently each time. Hopefully, you will find how your child likes that food prepared and the struggle will be over. To help your toddlers embrace trying new foods like veggies, you can also let them choose the new foods they would like to try while you are shopping at the grocery store. They will be more likely to sample new items they have a hand in choosing. Pairing a new food like broccoli with an old favorite like macaroni and cheese is another good idea. Seeing a favorite food on their plates will seem much less daunting to tots than having to tackle the trying of several unfamiliar foods all at once. If your toddlers still balk at the idea of trying new foods, don’t be afraid to sneak in some nutrition in the form of spinach in their fruit smoothies or pureed vegetables in their macaroni and cheese.
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Elementary age is a great time for kids to explore all the extracurricular activities available to them, like Scouts, sports and after-school clubs—among so many others. This is a prime time for them to try out different activities without feeling obligated to continue that activity every year. Kids in grade school tend to be reluctant to try new extracurricular activities, but setting your expectations for them can help with this. Let your kids know you expect them to
continue using existing skills, successful aging and longevity are built upon lifelong patterns of learning.” ~ Jacquelyn James, director of research at the Sloan Center on Aging and Work.
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participate in at least one activity each school year, no exceptions. But make sure you leave the ultimate choice of activity up to them. If they aren’t sure, help them explore ideas that coincide with their interests. Be clear they must complete the school year or season of the activity they choose. When the school year or season is over, kids can decide whether they want to participate in the same activity again or switch to something else. Fear of failure tends to be a major factor in making kids hesitate to try new things. They prefer to do only things they know they will excel in, so trying anything new seems like a major risk. This is one reason why it’s important to praise your children for their hard work and effort, rather than just their successes. Let them know you love them even if they aren’t the best at everything. They will slowly gain confidence as they progress in the new activity, which will encourage them to get involved in other activities that might be out of their comfort zone. If your kids are still reluctant to try something new, remind them of all the other things they have tried and known nothing about but ended up ultimately loving. Having a friend with whom to try a new activity can be incredibly helpful. Your kids might feel more comfortable with a familiar face who is taking a risk and trying something new right along with them.
HIGH SCHOOL High school students face many changes at once, including moving to a larger school, driving and taking on their first job. They slowly gain independence throughout their teen years, and getting that first job is just one of the ways they begin growing into young adults. Teens can often see getting a job as intimidating and as a first step into adulthood. To help them take the leap, be positive and encourage them to pursue a job they would enjoy. To do this, sit down with them and discuss their goals. Do they love film? Try a job at the movie theater. Do they love swimming? Try teaching swim lessons. Do they want to be a writer? Have them intern at a local newspaper. They will gain experience and confidence in their abilities, and the jobs will inspire them to continue working toward their long-term goals. Hopefully as they grow into adulthood, they will embrace the idea of taking on a new job, because they know they’ve succeeded before.
Regan Lyons is a freelance writer who lives in St. Joseph, MO, with her husband and 5-year-old daughter.
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hat’s the very first thing you think of when you hear the word etiquette? Someone raising a glass to engage in a toast inside a huge auditorium with hundreds of people dressed in ball gowns and tailor-made suits? Do you think of dinner napkins formed into the shape of a swan surrounded by a dizzying assortment of glass- and tableware? Or do you panic because you have no clue the difference between the dinner fork and the salad fork? When I think of the word, my mind takes me to a tiny French bistro somewhere on a hilltop in Paris. I see the Eiffel tower distant in the foreground and a beautifully baked croissant on a small plate. Wishful thinking, right? Well believe it or not, etiquette isn’t all about the glitz and glamour or the finer things in life. The essence of etiquette is simply polite behavior in group settings, and with good instruction, little ones can learn it. Below you’ll find a few tips and tricks on how to get your youngsters to behave with manners—and you might even pick up a few things that will be handy at your next cocktail mixer!
2. USE GOOD MANNERS AT THE TABLE.
1. PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH.
Be present when teaching manners, especially to little ones. Always make eye contact and explain to your child that undivided attention is key in conversations. Also remember poise. Stand up straight and shake hands firmly. This tip is important when teaching etiquette because its expresses a clear sign of respect and courtesy. This tip also is great at the table and when mingling. It will help you and your child make friends! Last but not least, be patient. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and teaching good manners is an ongoing practice with tools that change every day. With more practice, you and your child will be ready for anything.
If you use kind words like please and thank you at the table and in small social settings, you can be sure your children will too. Parents, practice asking your child or children to pass something to you at the table. Start with something small like a dinner napkin or fork, then slowly graduate to heavier, more important things on the table. For example, ask your child to help you carry the paper towels to the table, then graduate to plates, then rolls, then side dishes. Finally, when they are fit enough, have them carry the big ticket items like the family’s Sunday night chicken or the Thanksgiving turkey. Remember to praise them. The best reward for good behavior is praise. Acknowledge your child for the great things they’ve done.
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Manners are key at the table. Most times for dinner we are in the comfort of our own homes, so we really are relaxed, and we don’t pay attention to the bad habits we create. My tip to you: Stop it before it starts! If you create bad habits at home, you can be sure your child—and even you—will be taking those same habits out into the world. When at the table remember to:
• Say please and thank you when giving or receiving something. • Keep your elbows off the table. • Help your children use dinnerware correctly (show them how to cut with a knife if you need to).
• Don’t chew with your mouth open, don’t talk with your mouth full, and be sure to take small bites.
• Absolutely no devices at the table! Instead, talk about work, school, events and games.
3. BE PRESENT, BE POISED, BE PATIENT.
Jessica Samuel lives in Kansas City and is a freelance writer and photographer.
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Send kids home with a snack for later! Chances are good there’s a fruit snack to match your party theme. Don’t overlook those mini items-mini cereal boxes, packages of muffins, granola bars. Grab a few and place in a festive bag.
Color Kids love to create, and a blank sidewalk is the perfect canvas! Buy a pack of sidewalk chalk to allow kids to get creative.
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for your guide to throwing an unforgettable party in kc!
as are rock-climbing walls and trampoline parks. Kids under 5 always appreciate a petting zoo, a local park, bounce house, water park or painting/art studio.
such as Twister or musical chairs. For a sleepover party, buy mini pillows for the kids to have a pillow fight. They can take them home afterward.
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Keep food simple. Seriously. For an easy
Keep decorations easy and simple.
Make dessert easy. Who needs a custom or homemade cake when you can run to the nearest grocer and let your kiddo pick out a box of premade cupcakes? If you’re short on time, this is the perfect option, and the kids don’t care whether it’s homemade or not (unless there’s a food allergy).
cuts time having to purchase invitations and write them out. Sites like Evite and Facebook make sending invitations easy! If you prefer paper invites, go for it! Kids usually love getting their own snail mail.
Have balloons delivered rather than trying to blow them all up yourself, and instead of running out to the party store, order what you need online. You can find everything from banners and confetti to party favors and tableware in just a few clicks!
Entertain with ease. If it’s an at-home
party, utilize your own skills and teach kids how to paint, dance or cook. Play games
and quick way to feed your party, pick up a veggie/fruit tray, set up a chili or pasta bar, let kids make their own mini pizzas or sandwiches, or ask other parents to bring a side dish and make it a potluck.
Don’t stress over party favors. If it’s a party full of girls, pick up some cosmetic samples at cosmetic counters to put into
goodie bags. Or, buy a pinata, hand out cellophane bags, and let the kids collect their own candy. Piece of cake!
Say thank you. It’s always important to thank friends for their company and gifts, so have a plan on how you wish to go about it. Perhaps your child hugs each friend and says, “Thank you,” immediately after he opens the gift they brought. If you prefer thank you cards, purchase some to send through the mail (be sure your child writes them or at least signs her name), or you may opt to send email thank you’s. Birthday parties don’t have to be stressful or expensive. If you plan properly and strive for simplicity, your kids still can have just as much fun as they would if you had spent hundreds of dollars! Kansas City mom and author Gina Klein loves throwing parties for her daughters and involving them in the entire process. It makes it more fun!
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Presenting playful cakes for kids that are easy to make and taste great. Straight-forward recipes paired with achievable cake decorating instructions makes preparation a breeze. The decorating steps are even simple enough for kids to join in the fun. These creative cake themes for birthdays and holidays include a Rainbow Roll, Tarzan’s Jungle, Santa Claus, Halloween Graveyard, Polar Ice Floe, Candy Train, Circus Animals, Race Track, Pirate Ship and many more!
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31 DAYS OF FUN BY MARGARET SARVER
Don’t let the short days get you down! Below are fun ideas for every day in January.
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Happy New Year! Play a new card or board game with the family.
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Start a journal. Have each family member write down three things they are grateful for.
Take down decorations. Enlist the family’s help to take down all of the holiday decorations. Be sure to organize as you put away.
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Make a hot cocoa bar. Make hot chocolate and let everyone add in extras. Ideas include marshmallows, whipped cream, candies and more.
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Feed the birds! Spread nut butter on a pinecone and roll in bird seed. Attach yarn and hang from a tree.
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Go swimming! Many rec and community centers have an indoor pool. Spend the day splashing and you’ll forget about the cold.
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Visit a local library. Most have daily programs or special events. While there, find a new title to enjoy.
Go for a walk! It’s tempting to stay inside where it’s warm, but bundle up and take a stroll around the block
Enjoy a dance party! Take turns choosing songs and get up and dance along to the beat. Have a pizza night! Make your own at home or pick one up! Try one from a new restaurant and discover a new fave.
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Get creative. Buy a canvas for everyone, get out some paints and let those creative juices flow.
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Set up a yogurt bar. For a fun after-school snack idea, give kids a bowl of yogurt and set out toppings like granola, coconut, fruit and more.
Learn a magic trick. Have everyone learn one magic trick and then put on a show for each other.
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Pop popcorn. It’s National Popcorn Day. Pop up a batch and get creative by adding toppings.
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Volunteer at a food bank. There is always a need. Check out Harvesters.org for opportunities to help all year long.
Make a list. Summer will be here before we know it. Start your family’s summer bucket list and dream of warmer days.
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Play a word game. Find a crossword puzzle or seek and find (or print one up) and solve as a family.
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Have an indoor picnic. Spread out a blanket and pack yummy foods. Bonus: no insects!
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Go on a neighborhood scavenger hunt. Make a list and head out to look for things like an icicle, smoke from a chimney, a bird, etc.
Explore someplace new. Find somewhere you haven’t been and check it out. Need inspiration? Visit KCGoingPlaces.com.
Have a snowball fight. No snow? No problem. Give everyone a box of tissues, wad them up and launch away! When finished, collect tissues to use as packing material.
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De-clutter. Choose one junk drawer and dump it out. Ask kids to take what is theirs, keep what you need and pitch the rest.
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Count change. Empty out the piggy bank or change drawer and add up how much you’ve saved. Take some of the change and get an ice cream treat.
Snack for dinner. My kids love a small bites meal. Make everyone’s favorite appetizers and create a fun dinner buffet.
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Do a puzzle. Dust off a puzzle that you’ve been meaning to start and get everyone together for a puzzle night.
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Give a compliment. Challenge each family member to give three compliments throughout the day. Discuss results at dinner.
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Play family trivia. Have everyone write down five family trivia questions and then gather together for a trivia contest.
Grow a plant. Buy a pot, soil and some seeds and plant an indoor plant. Take turns watering and watch it grow!
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sharing rooms:
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haring a room with a sibling can be a strong memory. I remember asking to share a room with my sister, who was three years older, when I was around 5. We had moved to a new house (we moved a lot), and I decided I was scared in the room my parents put me in because my young mind imagined the older woman who had lived there dying in that room. I don’t know whether that was true, but my parents let me move my twin bed into my sister’s quarters. She demanded they put a divider between our beds, and we had that divider as long as I can remember! I did love our late-night talks, sharing her clothes, listening to her records and trying to be like her. I don’t know what my childhood would have been like had we not shared rooms. My little sister came along seven years later, and she never shared a room. I believe her personality is different than mine and my older sister’s as a result, but as a middle sister, I love them both equally! Many times, sharing a room is simply a necessity if your house is short on bedrooms. Bunking together can be a great experience. For example, two little boys may play together and even fight on occasion, but they also will nurture each other. Whether your children are all boys, all girls or a mix, they can all share at one time or another—and babies can always share. When kids are older, separate rooms are a good idea, as they need to develop their own identities.
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A friend of mine told me his younger sister, who is the youngest with five older brothers, never shared a room. She represented the chance for his mom to have girl time. She did grow up as a tomboy, which makes perfect sense with all that testosterone in the house! True, siblings can share a close bond without sharing a room, but living in the same space encourages them to spend time together. It also promotes sharing, and hopefully discourages one child from staking claim to favorite shared toys. Sharing space is a good life lesson and can help children later in years when they share a room in college or at camp. Another bonus of having children share a room is freed-up space for your family to use for other needs, like a playroom, office space or a guest room. Plus, sharing allows for flexibility later on if your family grows. If you are planning to have another child, you will need space for a nursery, or perhaps an elderly family member will move in with you at some point. Having your children share a room now will be
easier than taking their private rooms away later. A big question in all this is figuring out the best time to separate opposite-sex children into their own rooms. Monitor where your children are developmentally and go from there. Often, once kids are in school, they become more aware of the need for modesty and feel uncomfortable changing in front of each other. By the time they reach puberty, that need for privacy and space should be fulfilled as much as possible. Sharing a room could increase body image concerns in growing, older children, and having a personal space where they can feel comfortable with their bodies is important. You know your children better than anyone else, and that love will guide you in making your home a healthy, nurturing place. With everybody in their space! An avid outdoors girl, Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life.
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toys won’t fit in the room, it’s time to separate them!
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take a step back
Unless a sibling squabble is ramping up into a hair-pulling, cat-scratching, fist-fighting kind of affair, allow your kids to work out their disagreements on their own. “I give parents permission to not get involved. When we intervene, we are not allowing the skills of conflict resolution or problem-solving,” says Jennifer Jackson-Rice, MSW-LSCSW, a therapist certified in parent-child interaction therapy, Kansas City Center for Anxiety Treatment.
don’t take sides
When your child complains to you of an injustice committed by a sib, you may be tempted to take sides, especially if one child got hit. But it takes two to tangle. You can’t know for sure how the situation unfolded or what instigated the physical aggression. Jackson-Rice encourages parents not to get into the weeds of who-did-what-when. “There’s nothing positive that can come out of refereeing a sibling disagreement,” she says. “The only reason we’re involved is because someone wants attention from us, and it’s negative attention.”
take breaks
Instead of playing judge and jury, separate your quarreling offspring for a while. “We need to take a break, and we need to calm down. It doesn’t have to be a punishment. It’s just learning to cope and get through the situation,” Jackson-Rice says.
10 steps to squash
Sibling Rivalry Whatever we water grows. Whatever we pay attention to or whatever we give our kids attention for will grow.
foster problem-solving
Ask your kids to consider each other’s feelings and work toward solving their disagreements with empathy-building questions like “How would it make you feel if your brother/sister said that to you?” and solution-seeking queries like “What can you do to help the situation?” “It’s important for siblings to resolve their issues on their own so they can practice managing challenging interpersonal interactions,” says Dr. Simone Moody, clinical psychologist, Children’s Mercy Kansas City. “As a parent you will not always be there to rescue your children and solve their problems.” Developing conflict resolution skills will not only help kids better manage a dispute on the playground, but also will serve them well later in life as they navigate confrontations in their personal relationships or with a pesky coworker.
establish house rules
“Make sure your kids understand your family values in terms of kindness and treating each other with love and respect,” says parent coach Sara Minges, director of Playful Awareness, Overland Park. Sit down with your children to discuss your family’s values and a simple code of conduct, like keeping hands to yourself, using respectful language and sharing.
reward the positive
“Set an attainable goal for following the rules to earn a desired reward,” Moody says. “Catch your children following these rules often. Provide praise immediately and give them a token to represent each step toward their goal.” For example, you might create a sticker chart or marble/cotton ball jar, and every time your kids work well as a team, they receive a token in the jar or a sticker on the chart. When the tokens reach a certain number, they earn a special family activity.
know your hot buttons
“As parents, we are models for our children. It’s important to remain calm and respectful so that we can teach our children to treat others in the same manner,” Moody says. When creating your house rules, consider the types of behaviors that your kids do that flip your patience. “What are the things that drive you bonkers? Try to come out with as comprehensive or realistic a list as possible, whether it’s yelling and screaming, throwing things, stomping feet or using foul language,” Minges says. With a plan in place, it will be easier to keep your cool. For example, you might say, “You know our rule about name-calling. This is your first warning. Do it again and you’ll lose your video game time today.” Calmly and consistently follow through whenever necessary. “Kids will learn, ‘Hey, I’m not going to be able to get Mom or Dad angry so that they just give in,’” Minges says. “If this is how it happens all of the time, it makes it harder for them to take advantage of the situation or try to get out of something.”
acknowledge conflict resolution in action
“Remember to praise your children when they resolve an issue appropriately,” Moody says. “If only one child is managing the situation appropriately, give praise and attention to that child’s behavior (‘great job staying calm!’) and ignore minor misbehavior of the other child (taunting, boasting and complaining).” By focusing on the positive interactions, we are likely to see the negative interactions decrease. “Whatever we water grows. Whatever we pay attention to or whatever we give our kids attention for will grow,” Jackson-Rice says.
don’t compare your kids
While competition can be healthy, it shouldn’t fuel all-out war in your household. Try not to perpetuate sibling rivalry by drawing comparisons between your kids. One child may learn to ride a bike sooner than another, while the other figures out how to cross the monkey bars faster. One may be better at basketball while the other excels at art. “Focus on each child’s individual strengths. Encourage your children to participate in activities that foster their unique strengths,” Moody says. Also, spend time one-on-one with your kids by engaging them in their favorite activities, playing a game or going for walks together. Individual time strengthens parent-child bonds and helps kids feel valued for who they are rather than how well they perform at a particular activity.
promote a team atmosphere
Initiate team-building opportunities like playing a game as a team rather than as opponents, helping to prepare dinner, cleaning up after a meal or doing yard work together. And, again, reinforce positive interactions by praising your kids whenever they work or play well together.
When to Consult a Professional • Parents can’t spend time with both children at the same time.
• Routine physical aggression occurs. • Frequent degrading statements are directed at a sibling (you’re ugly/I hate you/you’re fat, etc.).
• Conflict causes significant distress in the family. • Strife interferes with quality family life. Sources: Jennifer Jackson-Rice; Dr. Simone Moody
Olathe-based freelance writer Christa Melnyk Hines and her husband are the parents of a pair of squabbling siblings, who are forced to work out their differences while doing yard work and postdinner cleanup. kcparent.com january 2020
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ave you ever thought about how your birth order affects your personality and how you interact with others? Birth order can play a huge role in forming your strengths and weaknesses and how you react to situations. Not every person fits the stereotype of her birth order, but you may find traits in yourself and your children that very closely link to birth order.
the firstborn child Firstborns are their parents’ one and only focus, at least for a short time, until a baby brother or sister comes along. Because of this, they are accustomed to being the center of attention and may excel in school because they have had more one-on-one time to work on skills with the help of their parents. Strengths: They are generally dependable, cautious, conscientious, high-achieving and responsible. Challenges: Because they are given more responsibility at a younger age, they may be controlling and bossy. They often develop a Type A personality and can be hard on themselves and others. They tend to be perfectionists and can develop a fear of failure that makes it hard to step out of their comfort zone. Parenting tips: Let your child know making mistakes is okay and that not everyone excels in every area. It’s also wise to make sure your expectations are age appropriate, as parents often hold their firstborn child to a higher standard.
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Middle children often can feel overlooked because they are stuck in between the overachieving older sibling and the free-spirited and charming baby of the family. Feeling left out at home, middle children often seek out close relationships with friends and usually have a large social circle. Strengths: Middle children tend to be very social and are great peacemakers. They become good at negotiation and compromise and develop the ability to go with the flow. Challenges: It is never fun to feel left out or unimportant. This can lead to rebelliousness and feelings of inadequacy. Parenting tips: Encourage your middle child to pursue activities and interests that are unique to him. Make a point to spend a little extra one-on-one time with your middle child so he doesn’t feel overlooked.
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The youngest child of the family usually reaps benefits from extra parent attention, as well as attention from older siblings. Parents may also have loosened, sometimes unknowingly, the rules established with the older children, so the baby of the family may get away with more—or at least that’s how the older children view it. Youngest kids are often comfortable being the class clown and love to show off and make people laugh. Strengths: Youngest children are typically natural charmers and have an outgoing personality. Many comedians and actors are youngest children. They are often risk-takers and described as fearless. Challenges: Parents may react less to accomplishments because they have seen them before, leading the youngest child to feel like nothing is ever good enough. Parents can also have the tendency to coddle the youngest child, giving her fewer chores and less responsibility and holding her to a lower standard than older kids. Parenting tips: Encourage your youngest child to be independent and learn to do things on his own. This will help build self-confidence and teach responsibility. Charismatic younger children love a chance to put their charms to good use. If this describes your child, consider what extracurricular activities might help develop these gifts.
The only child and the oldest child have some similar traits because both have the parents’ undivided attention and love. Where the oldest child is eventually “dethroned” by the younger siblings, an only child has the benefit of one-on-one attention indefinitely. Dr. Kevn Leman, author of The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are, calls the only child a “super oldest child” because he develops similar traits as the oldest—but to the extreme. Strengths: Only children possess many of the traits that oldest children do (responsible, conscientious, perfectionist) but, in addition, they tend to be creative, more comfortable talking to adults than peers, resourceful and independent. Challenges: Because only children have no siblings, they lack the chance to work on negotiation, compromise, sharing, flexibility and other things that come naturally with sibling interaction. They may also feel lonely because they don’t always have another child to play with. Parenting tips: Encourage relationships with other children to build social skills with peers and give the only child the chance to experience situations that will help teach flexibility and compromise. It’s easy to see these traits as you observe your own family of origin, your children and how they react to each other. As you consider the individuals in your family in light of birth order, consider their strengths and challenges as you discipline your kids, interact with them, and encourage them in the things they love.
Sarah Lyons is a part-time writer and full-time mom. She lives in Olathe with her family.
Birth order is not the only variable that affects our personalities. While these stereotypes have some truth to them, many factors can change the way birth order affects families. • Temperament - A child’s temperament can have an effect on her birth order traits. Although middle children are typically easygoing, a child that is not naturally easygoing and is also a middle child may not have this trait. A strong and defiant middle child can actually overpower a timid and shy oldest child, thus taking on more of the firstborn traits.
• Gender - Gender can affect birth order traits as well, especially in a larger family. Both the oldest boy and the oldest girl can have similar traits, even though they may not be the firstborn.
• Physicality - Size matters in birth order. If the firstborn is petite and the second-born is big for his age, this can cause the younger child to overpower the older one.
• Age spacing - The birth order stereotypes are most accurate in families where the kids are closer in age.
Large age gaps between children can create different scenarios where kids grow up like two only children or two firstborns, two youngest children, etc.
• Multiples - Twins or triplets are born minutes from each other, so they usually do not have the same traits as a typical group of siblings. Generally, one of the kids is dominant by size or personality.
• Large families - Bigger families of four or more kids may notice that birth order traits aren’t always typical.
• Blended families - Blended families, especially if they spend time in multiple households, will notice that birth order traits can be different than the typical model.
• Special circumstances - A child with special needs or an illness, or a child who is considered a prodigy, can affect birth order stereotypes. Parents may treat the child differently because of the circumstances.
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ummy troubles are common in young children and usually aren’t serious. Stomachaches can be anything from constipation to stomach flu to an excuse to get out of school. The tricky part is figuring out whether the pain warrants a trip to the doctor and whether it’s something serious or a passing thing. Here are some common childhood tummy troubles and what to do about them.
Constipation Kids occasionally suffer from constipation. Usually, a higher fiber diet or using overthe-counter stool softeners or laxatives takes care of the problem. Decreasing foods that cause constipation, like bananas, milk and cheese, can also be helpful (MayoClinic.org). Physical activity also can encourage the need to use the bathroom. If your child has chronic constipation that does not improve, speak to your doctor for more suggestions or ask for a referral to a gastrointestinal specialist.
Stomach Flu The stomach flu is an unavoidable part of childhood. Even with all the hand sanitizer in the world, your child is bound to catch it at some point. While a GI bug is miserable for both the parents and the child, it doesn’t usually warrant a trip to the doctor. During the course of the virus, fever, vomiting and/ or diarrhea are common symptoms. The most important thing to remember during a stomach bug is to keep your child hydrated. Children, especially babies and toddlers, are more likely to get dehydrated during the stomach flu—a dangerous complication. If your child cannot eat during the flu, make sure he is drinking small sips of clear liquids as much as possible. If the bug persists longer than a few days and you feel your child is becoming dehydrated, see your doctor as soon as possible.
Gas Trapped gas is a common cause of children’s stomach troubles. Gas can be painful and make your child uncomfortable. If your youngster has frequent pain from gas, try changing her diet slightly. For example, many people with frequent gas are lactose intolerant. Reducing the intake of dairy products or trying lactosefree alternatives may help your child experience less gas-related stomach pain.
Acid reflux Acid reflux, or heartburn, can be painful and persistent. If your child complains of a burning feeling in his upper abdomen or has a vomit taste in his mouth, he may be experiencing acid reflux. Try an over-the-counter antacid or glass of milk, or prop up his pillow at night. You can also watch the foods consumed before bedtime. Sugary, sweet foods, spicy foods, chocolate, and acidic foods like tomato sauce all can trigger heartburn. If none of these ideas help, consult your doctor who can prescribe medication for acid reflux and make sure nothing more serious is going on.
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For the most part, childhood stomach pains are not anything to be concerned about. However, if your child has symptoms that persist over time, has unexplained weight loss, has blood in her vomit or stool, or doesn’t seem to be improving, reach out to your family doctor for advice on what the next steps should be. Sarah Lyons is a part-time writer and full-time mom. She lives in Olathe with her family. As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.
When to go to the doctor Not all tummy troubles should be brushed off. Here are some red flags that should have you speaking to a doctor.
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Severe pain – If your child’s pain is severe and he cannot be distracted, it’s best to have it checked out by your doctor. Blood – If your child has blood in her stool or vomit, check in with your doctor. Hives or swelling – Hives or facial swelling could be a sign of anaphylaxis. Call 911.
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Pain in the lower right side – This could be appendicitis or it could be nothing to worry about. In this case it’s better to be safe than sorry. Give your doctor a call or head to the hospital. Painful urination – Pain during urination could be caused by a urinary tract infection, which requires antibiotics to treat. Weight loss – Losing a little weight due to stomach flu is normal, but if your child has significant weight loss, make an appointment with your physician. No improvement – If your child has had diarrhea, fever, severe cough or vomiting with no improvement for days, it’s best to give your doctor a call and make sure nothing more serious is going on. (Health.Harvard.edu) SOURCES: TodaysParent.com/toddler/my-tummy-hurts Health.Harvard.edu/blog MayoClinic.org/diseases-conditions kcparent.com january 2020
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o matter where you are on your parenting journey, all parents can agree on one universal truth: Kids do not have less energy simply because it is cold outside! “The winter is really tough for my boys. They have so much energy and what they can do in our house is limited to things that aren’t as active,” Melanie Graff, Lenexa mom, says. “We take them out to play spaces and open gyms as much as we can, but it gets tricky.” Forecasters are calling for a cold and snowy winter here in Kansas City, leaving many metro parents to wonder how to help their littles get the active time they need. Although some winter conditions do necessitate keeping children indoors (especially young infants), it is possible to take your kids out in the cold and for all of you to have fun. Here are a few tips for dressing for the wintry weather:
• Dress in light layers. • Remember to keep heads and feet warm and dry. These are the parts of the body where the most heat can escape.
• Don’t forget your mittens. • Invest in waterproof gear for snow days.
Forgo the cotton fabrics in favor of waterproof fabrics that do not absorb sweat or the water from playing in the snow.
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It is possible to take your kids out in the cold and for all of you to have fun. • Select clothing items that are easy to put
on and easy to remove. With children, there are always reasons to put things on and take them off. Make it easier on you both and avoid too many buttons and zippers!
When you are putting layered outfits together for your little ones, here are a few tips to keep them warm and comfortable:
Outer Layer. The outer layer is the one that protects children from the elements, like wind, rain or snow. Choose outer layers that are waterproof, but also breathable. Look for items that allow easy movement and make sure the fit allows room for the layers underneath. “We always go with winter coats and waterproof snow suits for our kids. Staying dry is key when playing outside in the winter!” says Terri Angler, Kansas City, MO, mom.
First Layer. Make sure your first layer of clothing is snug-fitting. Look for wool or synthetic fabrics, such as polyester. “For our kids, and ourselves, we purchase long underwear every year. It is a life saver and adds warmth to our clothing without adding bulk,” says Pam Vincent, Olathe mom.
Second Layer. The next layer goes on top of your first layer and insulates your body, keeping heat inside your clothing. You want this layer to be fitted, but make sure it does not restrict movement, so your children can still be active and have fun. For this layer, opt for wool, down or fleece fabrics.
As a rule, dress young children in one layer more than the adults are wearing. And pay attention to your children as you enjoy your chilly time outdoors. Frostbite starts as red and tingly patches where the skin has been exposed to cold air or snow. If you notice this “frost nip” on cheeks, fingers or anywhere else—or if your child’s teeth start to chatter—it’s time to head inside for hot chocolate!
Melissa Bellach is a freelance writer, wife and mother of three living in Overland Park.
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sleeping warm “Mom, my bed’s cold.” When I went to my bed in the coldest room of the house and climbed under the covers, the cotton sheets felt like the snow they resembled. The chill soaked through my pajamas every winter and, although my bed did warm up, it seemed to take forever. “You can have an extra blanket.” I ran to the linen closet and pulled out the warmest one I could find, fuzzy, thick and dark green, but when I got into bed, the sheets were still cold. The next night, I had a brilliant idea. At bedtime, I took the extra blanket off the top of the bed and stuffed it under the sheet. Pure bliss. No shock at entering the bed, instant warmth. Cushioned within a fuzzy cocoon, I reveled in my ingenuity until I drifted off without a single shiver. The next day, I found the reason for my comfort. Our science text had a closeup illustration of a fuzzy blanket, showing the air pockets that kept me so warm. The sheets, with their tighter weave, lacked the spaces that trapped warm air. No wonder I froze. But if I put the sheet on top of the bed, I’d have the bedspread along with the blanket next to me. Any warmth that seeped through the blanket could be intercepted by the bedspread. Whatever heat that made it through the bedspread could be stopped by the sheet on top. Sheer genius. I could hardly wait for bedtime. At breakfast, Mom lowered her coffee mug and raised her eyebrows. “Your bed is a complete disaster. What on earth did you do?” “It keeps me warmer.” She closed her eyes and rubbed her temples, something I’d often seen her do when dealing with me. “Get ready for school.” “Yes, Mom.” William R. Bartlett lives in Belton with his family.
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arents wear lots of hats and spin lots of plates. Taking care of yourself is crucial to taking care of your family well. Licensed therapist Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT, says parental self-care is much like the airplane oxygen mask principle: Put yours on first and then you can take care of your children. Here are 10 things you can do to grow, improve and make 2020 your best year yet.
hydrate Drinking enough water produces a huge amount of health benefits, from lubricating joints to regulating body temperature and boosting skin health (not to mention helping ward off brain fog). And considering the fact that four out of five Americans don’t drink enough water, your daily hydration routine could likely use improvement. For many moms, not drinking enough water is a two-fold dilemma. For starters, if you wait until you start to feel thirsty, you’re waiting too long. Thirst is a reactive signal: if you wait until you realize you’re thirsty, you are already dehydrated. The other challenge for some of us is that water just isn’t palatable compared to flavorful options. If this is your turnoff, dress up your H2O with cucumbers, mint or fresh fruit.
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Our culture rewards with cookies and candy, but if you want to feel your best, you need to eat your best. Choose to eat a handful of leafy greens each day. Focus first on adding good foods to your diet instead of eliminating bad ones—you’ll fill yourself with good fuel and still have a little room for a few treats afterward. The results might surprise you (like a newfound love for kale—who knew?!).
For most of us, the idea of spending precious evenings and weekends cleaning is less than desirable. One way to add more time to your days is to have less stuff to manage. “The first step in crafting the life you want is to get rid of everything you don’t,” minimalist author Joshua Becker says. “Owning less is better than organizing more.” But where do you start if you’ve got an almighty mess on your hands? Start by going through one room at a time with a box of trash bags and be ready to pass along anything that’s not serving you.
catch more zzzs Most resolutions revolve around doing more, but what if the answer was found in doing less? The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says one out of three American adults is not getting enough sleep. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine recommends adults between 18 and 30 should aim to sleep for a solid seven hours each night. Just as establishing a bedtime routine at the same time each night helps your kids shut down, it’s equally beneficial to establish a similar protocol for yourself. Dr. Wayne Giles, director of the CDC’s Division of Population Health, suggests that simple lifestyle changes could result in better sleep, such as keeping TVs, computers and cell phones out of the bedroom. Most moms give the evil eye if told to take a nap (when would that take place, after all?!), but even if you can’t afford to catch some shut-eye during the day, getting solid sleep at night can be critical to functioning at your best during the day.
gift yourself personal development opportunities Being a responsible adult means you’re willing to do hard things, but being a good grown-up doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. One of the best ways you can teach your kids how to be an awesome adult one day is to show them that learning doesn’t stop when you receive your diploma. So take that cooking class you always wanted to try or pick up a new instrument. Challenging yourself to learn new things not only boosts your own selfconfidence, but it sets a great tone for your kids as they realize a lifetime of fun is in store for them as well.
unplug from the virtual world Social media is like a digital water cooler, a place where friends can reconnect and inspiration can strike. Unfortunately, this connection has an ugly side. the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology found links between depression and Facebook overuse. Put the phone down and give yourself restrictions such as an unplugged day once a week, an unplugged week once a month and even a month-long digital sabbatical each year.
go on a date Don your favorite Jimmy Choos and sport a red lip! Date nights not only add spice to your marriage, but they also give your kids the security that Mom and Dad value time alone together. Date night out not an option? Order Chinese takeout and binge watch your favorite Netflix show after the kids have drifted off to dreamland.
journal Journaling is one of the simplest ways to preserve memories. By jotting down how you spend your time, you can observe what your priorities are and how you relate to those you’re closest to. Looking for specific ideas or writing prompts? Check out specific journals, such as gratitude journals or a kid quote book (made for writing the adorable things your kids say).
get moving We all start January with the best fitness intentions, whether it’s aiming to walk off the holiday pounds or bounce back to pre-baby weight. Working out can be hard to prioritize if it feels punitive or unenjoyable. Think outside the box and bring fun into your fitness routine. Join a curling team, take karate classes or sign up for salsa dancing.
say no Saying no to unnecessary activity can be one of the kindest things you do for your family and yourself. You can serve in many admirable causes—PTA functions, Boy Scout fundraisers, or coaching your child’s sports team—but if you say yes to everything, you’ll not only be frazzled and exhausted, but you won’t be able to give your best in each endeavor. By limiting your yesses, you ensure each one produces quality engagement and commitment. Lauren Greenlee is a boy mom of three who considers journaling, jogging and jamming to good tunes her greatest forms of stress relief. She writes from her Olathe home.
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home alone? The age at which we first leave our children home alone is a very personal decision that depends on the comfort level of both parent and child.
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f the idea of leaving your child home alone for the first time conjures up scenes from the infamous Home Alone movie of the ’90s, don’t worry! For many, leaving children home alone is not only an “earned” convenience of sorts for parents, but also a rite of passage for children. Although Kansas does not have an official legal age for leaving a child home alone, the listed guideline is age 6. However, according to Kansas Department for Children and Families (DCF), “Young children from 0-6 years should not be left alone for even short periods of time. Children 6-9 years should be left for only short periods, depending on their level of maturity. Children 10 and above probably can be left for somewhat longer periods …” The National SAFEKIDS Campaign recommends no child under the age of 12 be left home alone. Regardless of what age your family decides to leave your child home alone for the first time, consider some crucial things. Does your child know personal
information, such as his full name, address, phone number and parents’ names? Does your child know household safety rules and basic first aid? Can your child use the phone to call you, a neighbor or 911? A more extensive guide can be found at DCF.ks.gov/services. This list is by no means exhaustive, but it’s a helpful place to start. Classes are also a great way to prepare your children for staying home alone. Check out local recreation centers in your area for in-person classes but know that online home alone safety courses are also offered. At KidproofSafety.com, you can register your child for a quick 27-minute course for only $32, which also includes a free parent guidebook. No matter what program or class you use, you’ll want your own set of household guidelines and rules in place, as well as clear expectations. “When my children were in grade school and I first left them home alone, we lived in a tight-knit cul-de-sac with many young families. I would not leave them alone for long: I would run to the grocery store or go for a jog. I made sure at least one adult neighbor was home and aware that my children would be home alone. My children treated this independence as a privilege, so they knew to always follow my rules of keeping the doors locked, staying indoors,
having the phone accessible … and getting along!” says Polly, an Overland Park mom of two. Although guidelines and routines may vary from family to family, one thing seems to be common ground for everyone first leaving kids home alone: Begin with very small outings and work your way up. “I let my oldest stay home for the first time when he was around 10-and-a-half. I started with about 15 minutes, while I ran a quick errand, then gradually worked up to longer periods,” says Kristen, an Overland Park
mom of three. “This past summer, I started letting all three children stay home for an hour or hour-and-a-half while I ran errands, but always had my phone with me and stayed close by.” Staying home alone is a milestone for your child and can be confidence building, but remember, what works for one family may not work for yours, and even what worked for your oldest may not work for your youngest. “The age at which we first leave our children home alone is a very personal decision that depends on the
comfort level of both parent and child,” Polly reminds. Ultimately you know your child best, so stay away from comparing your situation to that of a friend or classmate. The important thing is not to push your child, but try when the time is right, ensure your child feels comfortable with the idea, and provide him with adequate training.
Julie Collett has not yet experienced this milestone with her four children but both dreads and looks forward to it!
some other things to consider: • Explicitly teach and review your rules and expectations, including those for technology, answering the door, etc. Don’t forget to remind your child to stay inside!
• Role-play various scenarios with your child ahead of time. • Have a list of important numbers handy (yours, a neighbor’s, grandparents’, close friend’s, etc.). • Keep a small, basic supply of first aid items in one location and show your child what is there and why. • Be sure your phone isn’t on silent or vibrate! • Give your neighbor a heads-up that your child is home alone and make sure she is willing to help if needed. • High-five your child for a job well done (provided it does go well!) and reteach where you feel necessary.
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The big improvement at the Kansas City Zoo in 2020 will be a brand-new elephant habitat with ADA-compliant walking paths, improved viewing areas including the deck at Elephant Overlook, and additional seating and shaded areas so guests can enjoy a break. The elephants are going to love their new home with a pool, waterfall and more comfortable atmosphere. We can’t wait to see our favorite pachyderms at home in their new and improved habitat!
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The 58-foot-tall Russell and Helen Means Observation Tower is opening soon at Kill Creek Park. The steel behemoth will offer visitors amazing views from the Kansas Speedway to KU. This Instagram-worthy destination is a must for photographers.
Independence Center is opening a brand new District Jungle with ropes courses, arcades, toddler play spaces and rides as an exciting familyfriendly indoor entertainment venue in Eastern Jackson Country.
When we’re looking for indoor adventure, rock wall climbing is a favorite. RoKC, the longtime KC favorite with locations in North KC and Downtown, is opening a brandnew location in Olathe. They offer youth programming, bouldering, training and tall walls … excellent options for every climbing enthusiast.
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Lace up your ice skates this winter and enjoy the city’s original outdoor rink at Crown Center’s Ice Terrace.
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The Truman Presidential Library is undergoing a world-class makeover and will be reopening to the public in 2020 with all-new exhibits that are interactive, engaging, and present history in a thought-provoking and memorable way.
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The Sprint Center is bringing the most action-packed motorsports experience for families in the world to KC from Jan. 17 to 19 with the Monster Jam Triple Threat Series. The show will feature six different racing, freestyle and skill competitions.
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The Country Club Plaza is set to welcome a new entertainment attraction in 2020 with Punch Bowl Social. The venue will offer food, drinks and games, including duck pin bowling, foosball, Yardzee, ping-pong, arcade games and karaoke.
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Mid-Continent Public Libraries just keep getting better! Branches across the metro are being treated to a major makeover, and new locations (Lee’s Summit!) are opening too. The changes mean newly reimagined spaces that create a place for community. With open spaces, comfortable seating, ideal lighting and fantastic programming, the libraries have been reborn as a center of the community. Check out a new location (or two or three) this year.
Tivoli Cinemas, the city’s art house movie theater showing independent films for more than 40 years, has found a new home at the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art. Showing historic, foreign, documentary, art and indie films, the Tivoli continues its tradition at the newly imagined theater with a large film screen, movie quality digital projection and sound systems.
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Last summer, Lake Olathe opened with a beautiful swim beach and inflatable Aqua Park. For landlocked Midwesterners, it’s great to have a place where you can build sandcastles, swim with the family and jump into the water from a giant floating playground.
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Visit the 80-acre Meadowbrooke Park, the newest park in Prairie Village. With an imaginative, nature-themed playground with rope climbing features and slides, pickleball courts, paved nature trails and shelters, this park is a community favorite.
Enjoy live shows at the Carlsen Center. The fun season features a variety of family-friendly performances, including Walk On, the Story of Rosa Parks; Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus! The Musical, Danú – St. Patrick’s Celebration, Drum Tao 2020 and Piff the Magic Dragon.
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New in 2020, Worlds of Fun introduces an all-new event that celebrates the season of easy living like only the heartland can. Worlds of Fun is firing up the grill and partying with the region’s best live music as they transform the park into an oasis of summer celebration, complete with all the quintessential trimmings of a downhome barbecue.
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Legends Outlets recently debuted the Lawn, a greenspace centerpiece of the shopping center offering live concerts, yoga classes and events throughout the year. In between events, it’s a great place to hang out and enjoy the outdoors with friends.
The Shoal Creek Living History Museum is a wonderful way to experience history firsthand. On the first Saturday of the month (June-September), they host free family fun days as reenactors bring the 19th-century village to life.
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Celebrate 2020 by experiencing the 1920s at Shawnee Town 1929. This living history site offers a variety of events throughout the year. The site is working toward many new things in the future, including the addition of a state bank, the electric store, dry goods store, drugstore and soda fountain. It will be exciting to experience the 2020s while watching this 1929 historic site expand.
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Meet an alpaca face-toface at Manna Meadows, an alpaca farm in Bonner Springs. Take a guided tour of the working farm.
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This year, Coterie Theatre is producing several must-see shows. From Jan. 21 to Feb. 9, the production for students ages 12 and up is The White Rose: We Defied Hitler, the story of Sophie Scholl, a student who led a resistance to the Nazis during WWII. Potterheads will be delighted by the Feb. 25-March 22 showing of Puffs, the story of an ordinary American boy being sorted into the wizardry house of Puffs. Young readers will be delighted by the April 17 to May 7 show, Pete the Cat, a comical musical starring the grooviest cat in town. And the summer production of Disney’s Little Mermaid is a modern classic every princess can’t wait to see.
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The Kansas City Museum, located at Corinthian Hall in the Historic Northeast, is slated to reopen in 2020 and showcase the results of years of renovation and work. The museum will feature all-new exhibits, programs and events telling the story of the city’s history.
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The Johnson County Museum is home to KidScape, a place where imaginations go free as little ones pretend to live in a child-size village and explore grown-up jobs, as well as exhibits telling the history of Johnson County. The museum also offers traveling exhibits, currently “Savages and Princesses: The Persistence of Native American Stereotypes,” featuring contemporary art by Native American artists.
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Yell and cheer for Sporting KC, KC Mavericks, Royals and Chiefs as a fan of our city’s sports teams.
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Many KC restaurants have been featured on television programs over the years … try one of these nationally recognized eateries found in the story “As Seen on TV Dining” on KCParent.com.
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KC Segway Tours and KC Fun Tours offer one-of-a-kind tours of our hometown, a great way to become more acquainted with the city.
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Catch a show at Silverstein Eye Centers Arena. Sesame Street Live: Make Your Magic! on Jan. 30: When Justin the magician visits Sesame Street, Elmo wants to be a part of the show. But there’s one problem… Elmo can’t do magic!
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The Midwest Genealogy Center is a free research facility through the Mid-Continent Public Library system. With thousands of resources and expert research librarians there to assist, you’ll discover new secrets about your ancestors.
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Kansas City is known as the City of Fountains, boasting more fonts than any city other than Rome. This year, take family pics in front of some of the more than 200 fountains officially recognized by the City of Fountains Foundation.
Bite into the city’s signature burnt ends at one of our best barbecue restaurants … Joe’s KC, Jack Stack, Q39, LC’s, Arthur Bryant’s, Gates or another favorite local joint.
Visit Louisburg and tour Cedar Cove Feline Sanctuary, which cares for real big cats. On Saturday evenings, attend one of the big cat feeders and keeper chats to learn more about the facility.
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Kansas City is a better place to live because of those who give back. There are many great places to volunteer your time. Harvesters collects food for families in need. Historic sites offer volunteer programs. Wayside Waifs and KC Pet Project offer great volunteer opportunities for animal lovers. The Kansas City Zoo offers a VolunTeen program. Choose something you’re passionate about and find ways to help others.
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Kansas City hosts many fabulous festivals all year long! It all starts with the Chinese New Year at the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art, followed by great spring festivals like the Turkey Creek Festival, summer festivals including Celebration at the Station, Jazzoo, Festival of Butterflies, Dragon Boat Festival and Future Stages. Fall fests include Oktoberfest Lee’s Summit, Ciderfest at Louisburg Cider Mill and Waterfire. Winter celebrations include WinterFest at Worlds of Fun and Overland Park Arboretum’s Luminary Walk. You’ll find seasonal festival guides of these and more on KCParent.com.
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This March, Disney On Ice presents Road Trip Adventures at Sprint Center. The magical production showcases beloved Disney tales and songs during the fun-filled ice extravaganza.
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Watch as greeting cards and wrapping paper are made at the Hallmark Visitor’s Center, a favorite free attraction, then participate in hands-on fun as you make a souvenir gift bow with the push of a button. Next door, you can visit Kaleidoscope, a free hands-on art center for children offering family sessions regularly.
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Saturdays head to National World War I Museum and Memorial for HandsOn History where history is brought to life. Handle Great War artifacts. TheWorldWar.org
On Jan. 11 take the Mahaffie Munchie Challenge. Make 1860s recipes using unique ingredients on a wood- burning cookstove. Pre-reg at Mahaffie.org.
Come dressed up as your favorite superhero and spend a superpowerpacked morning at the Superhero VIP Breakfast on Jan. 18 at Paradise Park. Paradise-Park.com
Register for Textures in Art class Jan. 25 at the Nerman Museum. Learn about visual textures in art and experiment with different ways to make a printed image. NermanMusuem.org
Visit the NelsonAtkins Museum Jan. 26 for the Chinese New Year Celebration. Features live entertainment, art activities and more. Nelson-Atkins.org
1 Wednesday New Year’s Day First Day Hike 10:00, Weston Bend State Park. Start a new tradition with friends and family as you get some healthy exercise on a guided tour. MoStateParks.com Ice Skating Noon, Crown Center Ice Terrace. Spend the first day of 2020 skating with the family on Kansas City’s only outdoor rink. CrownCenter.com Plaza Lights Thru Jan 12, Country Club Plaza. The lights on the Plaza shine for just a couple more weeks. Bring the family to experience the magic! CountryClubPlaza.com
2 Thursday Kids Day Out Today & tomorrow, Johnson County Museum. School’s out! Enjoy Kidscape, hands-on activities, games, snacks and more. Pre-reg at 913.831.3359. Day Camp Various dates and locations, Code Ninjas. Activities include coding, gamebuilding, robotics and creative thinking. Pre-reg at CodeNinjas.com.
Kenya’s Kids Thru Jan 4, Kansas Discovery Center (Topeka). Discover what life is like for children in Kenya through an immersive exhibit. KansasDiscovery.org
Paint Me a Story 10:30, Paint, Glaze & Fire. Paint a pottery piece that goes along with a favorite story. Snack included. Pre-reg at 913.661.2529.
Mary Poppins Thru Sunday, Music Theatre Kansas City. Mary Poppins comes to life on stage in this beloved Disney musical! MTKC.org
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Festival of Lights 4:00, Powell Gardens. Botanically-themed lighting displays that stretch along a mile-long walking path. PowellGardens.org
3 Friday Rockin’ Rob 10:00, Johnson County Arts and Heritage Center. Interactive and educational show that promotes fun and learning! JCPRD.com Imaginary Friends Tea Party 10:00, MCPL (Woodneath). Celebrate your child’s imagination with stories, crafts and pretend play. Pre-reg at MyMCPL.org. Sea of Lights 10:00, Sea Life. Experience Sea Life Aquarium as thousands of lights twinkle across an undersea wonderland. VisitSeaLife. com/kansas-city
Mini Hockey Game 9:00, Home Depot. Kids develop hands-on skills by sanding, nailing, painting and more. HomeDepot.com Eagle Days 9:30, 11:00, 12:30 & 2:00, Paradise Pointe (Smithville). Enjoy nature programs and outdoor wildlife viewing. 816.532.0174 Cheetah Enrichment 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. Head to the cheetah exhibit to see the boys engage with some very special enrichment. KansasCityZoo.org Little Acorns 10:00 or 1:00, Burr Oak Woods Nature Center. Join volunteer naturalists as they read select books and make a craft. MDC.mo.gov Mother Nature Reads 10:00, Lakeside Nature Center. Children hear a story, make a craft and often see a wildlife interpretation. LakesideNatureCenter.org
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FREE general admission Free NMOCA KIDS family guide with NEW outdoor sculpture activity cards.
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Ice Skating Daily, Crown Center Ice Terrace. Spend the first day of 2020 skating with the family on Kansas City’s only outdoor rink. CrownCenter.com
Hands-On History 11:00, National World War I Museum and Memorial. History is brought to life. Handle Great War artifacts. TheWorldWar.org Saturday Night Feeder Saturdays, 2:00, Cedar Cove Feline Sanctuary. Watch the cats being fed, weather permitting. $6-$8. 816.739.0363 Major League Improv 7:00, Comedy City. A comedy sporting event where everything is based on suggestions from the audience. $9$13. 816.842.2744
5 Sunday Daddy Daughter Dance Feb 7 & 8, Providence Community Church. Purchase tickets for this fun evening! Event will sell out. SovGraceKC.org/Dance Little Leapers 9:00, Sky Zone. A time for little ones to bounce under the supervision of their parents and without interference from the big kids. SkyZone.com
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Farmers Market 9:00, the City Market. The market is open year-round and offers a variety of fresh produce, meat, specialty groceries and more. TheCityMarket.org Free Afternoon Program 1:30, Prairie Park Nature Center. Free program for the family may include video, slideshow and going outside to enjoy nature. LawrenceKS.org
6 Monday Me and Mini Me Swim 9:00, Olathe Community Center. Parents and children ages 5 and under are invited to swim in the zerodepth area. OlatheKS.org
Parlor Performances 10:00 National Museum of Toys and Miniatures. A special exhibit thru August 2020 examining the rich history of theater toys. 816.235.8000
Parents Free Monday 9:30, Paradise Park. Parents are free at the Children’s EduTainment Center with a paid child’s admission. 816.246.5224
Genghis Khan: Bringing the Legend to Life Thru April 24, Union Station. World-class exhibition that explores the world’s greatest conqueror. UnionStation.org
7 Tuesday Toddle Time 9:00, Matt Ross Community Center. Open playtime with an array of toys, including blocks, balls and puzzles. $1-$2. 913.895.6350 Gym for Me 9:00, Lenexa Rec Center. Kids ages 5 and under play with push toys, riding toys, balls, inflatables and more. $2. Lenexa.com Creative Story Time 10:30, Ceramic Café. Hear a story, create a pottery piece and enjoy a simple snack. $12. CeramicCafe.com
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The Single MOM KC: Pursuit 6:00, BreakPointe Community Church. Enjoy dinner, programs for children and fellowship with other moms. TheSingleMomKC.org
Scribble Workshop 10:00, Kansas City North Community Center. A child/parent art event with a different theme each month. Dress for mess! 816.513.7741
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KC Restaurant Week Thru Jan 19, various restaurants. Enjoy an old favorite or explore a newly opened restaurant. Specially priced menus. KCRestaurantWeek.com
Toddle Time 10:00, Bonner Springs Community Center. Bring little ones 9 months through 5 years to play on the large assortment of toys. $2. BonnerSprings.org Queen Nefertari: Eternal Egypt Thru March 29, Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art. Exhibition shows works that present the richness of life in ancient Egypt. Nelson-atkins.org
Retro Story Time 10:00, Johnson County Museum. Enjoy a story from long ago read by a special guest, plus a craft activity is included! Pre-reg at 913.831.3359.
Exit Laughing 7:30, City Theatre of Independence. Moms night out! Play follows three friends on a wild and exciting night out. CityTheatreOfIndependence.org
Animal Tales Story Time 10:30, Ernie Miller Nature Center. Listen to a story and meet a special animal friend. Today’s theme: Visit from Santa. 913.826.2800
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Kid Lit: Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus 6:00, MCPL (Liberty). Explore the world of Mo Willems and his popular children’s books. Prereg at MyMCPL.org.
Jumperoo 9:00, Urban Air. A special time when entire park is open for children 5 & under with a parent. Jump, bounce and crawl! UrbanAirTrampolinePark.com
Fine Art Friday 1:00, Kemper Museum. Interactive experiences in the galleries encourage students to examine art. Includes tour with docent. Free. KemperArt.org Family Fun Night 5:30, Paint, Glaze & Fire. Bring the family and enjoy pizza, soft drinks and four studio fees for $45. Pre-reg at PaintGlazeAndFire.net. Winter Stargazing 6:00, Martha LaFite Thompson Nature Sanctuary. Enjoy a view of the nighttime sky with guidance from staff. NatureSanctuary.com
11 Saturday Sculptural Saturdays 9:15, Johnson County Arts & Heritage Center. Adult and child work together to create a sculpture. Pre-reg at JCPRD.com.
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Monster Jam Jan. 17-19, Sprint Center. See the ultimate mix of high-flying action and four-wheel excitement with the Monster Jam. SprintCenter.com
Babysitter Safety Class 9:30, Olathe Medical Center. Learn infant and child care, along with home safety, first aid and more. Ages 11-15. Prereg at OlatheHealth.org.
Second Saturdays 4:00, Downtown Weston, MO. Stroll into unique gift shops and galleries for late-night shopping and in-store specials. WestonMO.com
Mahaffie Munchie Challenge 9:30, Mahaffie Stagecoach Stop and Farm. Make 1860s recipes using unique ingredients on a wood-burning cookstove. Mahaffie.org
12 Sunday Ice Skating 10:00, Crown Center Ice Terrace. Spend the day skating with the family on Kansas City’s only outdoor rink. CrownCenter.com
Tropical Weekend Today & tomorrow, Kansas City Zoo. Animals in Discovery Barn, Tropics and Penguin Plaza will enjoy tropical enrichments. KansasCityZoo.org
art + family = FUN 1:00, Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art. Join us every Saturday and Sunday for free activities for all ages! 816.751.1278
Mother Nature Reads 10:00, Lakeside Nature Center. Children hear a story, make a craft and often see a wildlife interpretation. LakesideNatureCenter.org
Free Afternoon Program 1:30, Prairie Park Nature Center. Free program for the family may include video, slideshow and going outside to enjoy nature. LawrenceKS.org
Critter Feeding 3:00, Burr Oak Woods. Discover what’s for dinner as you watch the captive amphibians, fish and turtles enjoy a feast. 816.228.3766
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13 Monday Splash with Me 10:00, Lenexa Rec Center. Kids can swim, play and become more confident in the water at the kiddie pool. $2. 913.477.7100
Homework Help 4:00, Johnson County Library (Central Resource). Drop by the library and get help from a homework coach. JoCoLibrary.org Monday Night Madness 4:00, Main Event. Choose from three super specials, each just $10.95. Available Mondays 4:00-close. MainEvent.com
14 Tuesday Preschool Indoor Playground 9:30, Irene B French Community Center. So many choices and so much fun! Parents supervise children. Merriam.org/park Early Learning: Community Heroes 10:00, Meadowbrook Park Clubhouse. Meet your heroes and learn about jobs in the community. 913.826.2975 Creative Story Time 10:30, Ceramic CafĂŠ. Hear a story, create a pottery piece and enjoy a simple snack. $12. CeramicCafe.com
15 Wednesday Daddy Daughter Dance Feb 7 & 8, Providence Community Church. Purchase tickets for this fun evening! Event will sell out. SovGraceKC.org/Dance Parlor Performances 10:00 National Museum of Toys and Miniatures. A special exhibit thru August 2020 examines the rich history of theater toys. 816.235.8000 KC Restaurant Week Thru Jan 19, various restaurants. Enjoy an old favorite or explore a newly opened restaurant. Specially priced menus. KCRestaurantWeek.com
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With arcades, laser tag, bowling, billiards and an incredible indoor ropes course, Main Event (MainEvent.com) is the ultimate kidfriendly attraction perfect on a cold winter’s day! Throughout the week they offer great specials, so you can stretch your dollar while having fun.
Independence Center (Shop Independence Center.com) is opening a brand new District Jungle: Eat & Play area. Families will love the junglethemed area with 11 climbing walls, a ropes course, a Rollglider and more! The district is also home to a new arcade. In addition you’ll find more than 100 retail shops and a variety of dining options.
Children love visiting Bass Pro (BassPro.com), an outdoor store with so much to see. The centerpiece of the store is the wildlife display complete with an indoor pond and live ducks. The giant aquarium featuring freshwater fish is another fun attraction. You’ll find games, including an arcade-style target range, and a restaurant as well.
Ice Skating is everyone’s favorite winter sport. Take a spin on the ice at the indoor Independence Community Ice Rink (Independence Community Ice.com). With open-skate sessions offered year-round, along with lessons and clinics, this indoor rink is perfect for any ability level of skater.
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5. BURN OFF ENERGY AT SKY ZONE In the winter months, sometimes you just need to burn off energy. Sky Zone (SkyZone.com) is an incredible indoor trampoline park. They offer Toddler Time every Wednesday and Sunday morning especially for little ones, and additional open play sessions throughout the week for all ages.
6. HUNGRY AS A BEAR Black Bear Diner (BlackBear Diner.com) offers a rustic cabin theme and hearty servings of homestyle cooking. The diner serves breakfast all day, in addition to hearty entrees like pot roast and brisket. This cozy, comfy, familyfriendly restaurant hits the spot on a brisk winter’s day.
Teen STEAM: Arts & Crafts 6:00, MCPL (Blue Ridge). Explore! Create! Learn! Unleash your imagination and prepare for your future. Prereg at MyMCPL.org.
A New World: Music from Final Fantasy 8:00, Folly Theater. Enjoy music in fresh arrangements for small ensembles. FollyTheater.org
PJ Masks Save the Day 7:00, Yardley Hall. Watch the PJ masks save the day, live on stage with favorite music and brand-new songs! PJMasksLive.com
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19th Annual Eagle Days 9:00, F L Schlagle Library. Birds of prey presentations, kid-friendly crafts and eagle and waterfowl viewing over the lake. 913.295.8250
Open House 8:30, Pembroke Hill. Get to know Pembroke Hill. See teachers and students in action and learn about our programs. Pre-reg at PembrokeHill.org/visit.
Superhero VIP Breakfast 9:30, Paradise Park. Come dressed up as your favorite superhero and spend a superpower-packed morning. Paradise-Park.com
Indoor Play Park 9:00, New Century Fieldhouse. Hop, skip and jump through obstacles, bounce and kick balls, build with blocks and more! $3. 913.826.2850
Cheetah Enrichment 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. Head to the cheetah exhibit to see the boys engage with some very special enrichment. KansasCityZoo.org
Toddler Time 2.0 9:30, Blue Springs Fieldhouse. Play inside the fieldhouse on mats, scooters, slides, a bounce house and more. $2-$3. BlueSpringsGov.com Moms Group 9:30, Indian Heights United Methodist Church. While kids play, moms enjoy coffee, support and friendship. Free. 913.649.9040 KC Restaurant Week Thru Jan 19, various restaurants. Enjoy an old favorite or explore a newly opened restaurant. Specially priced menus. KCRestaurantWeek.com
17 Friday Junior Jaunts 10:15, Nelson-Atkins. Bring your baby in a stroller or carrier for an adult-focused yet infant-friendly tour. Nelson-Atkins.org Third Friday Art Walk 5:30, Englewood Station Arts District. Tour the art galleries. View live performances and artists on the sidewalks in front of shops. EnglewoodStation.com
Little Acorns 10:00 or 1:00, Burr Oak Woods Nature Center. Join volunteer naturalists as they read select books and make a craft. MDC.mo.gov Mother Nature Reads 10:00, Lakeside Nature Center. Children hear a story, make a craft and often see a wildlife interpretation. LakesideNatureCenter.org Hands-On History 11:00, National World War I Museum and Memorial. History is brought to life. Handle Great War artifacts. TheWorldWar.org Saturday Night Feeder Saturdays, 2:00, Cedar Cove Feline Sanctuary. Watch the cats being fed, weather permitting. $6-$8. 816.739.0363 Bomsori Kim 8:00, Carlsen Center. Regarded as one of today’s most vibrant and exciting instrumentalists, Bomsori Kim performs. JCCC.edu/theseries
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Monster Jam Thru Sunday, Sprint Center. See the ultimate mix of high-flying action and four-wheel excitement with the Monster Jam. SprintCenter.com
Little Leapers 9:00, Sky Zone. A time for little ones to bounce under the supervision of their parents and without interference from the big kids. SkyZone.com
As You Like It 7:00, KC Young Audiences. Students will use live music and dance to complete the retelling of this classic Shakespearean comedy. KCYA.org
Farmers Market 9:00, the City Market. The market is open year-round and offers a variety of fresh produce, meat, specialty groceries and more. TheCityMarket.org
Major League Improv 7:00, Comedy City. A comedy sporting event where everything is based on suggestions from the audience. $9$13. 816.842.2744
Free Afternoon Program 1:30, Prairie Park Nature Center. Free program for the family may include video, slideshow and going outside to enjoy nature. LawrenceKS.org
Winterlude 7:00, Polsky Theatre. The Winterlude series continues with a performance by Eboni Fondren. JCCC.edu/theseries
20 Monday Martin Luther King Jr. Day Day Camp Various dates and locations, Code Ninjas. Activities include coding, gamebuilding, robotics and creative thinking. Pre-reg at CodeNinjas.com. Me and Mini Me Swim 9:00, Olathe Community Center. Parents and children ages 5 and under are invited to swim in the zero-depth area. OlatheKS.org Science City Open 10:00, Science City. School’s out, and Science City is open! Bring the kids for a day of learning while having fun! UnionStation.org Ice Skating 10:00, Crown Center Ice Terrace. Spend the day skating with the family on Kansas City’s only outdoor rink. CrownCenter.com
21 Tuesday Jumperoo 9:00, Urban Air. A special time when entire park is open for children 5 and under with a parent. Jump, bounce and crawl! UrbanAirTrampolinePark.com Preschool Indoor Playground 9:30, Irene B French Community Center. So many choices and so much fun! Parents supervise children. Merriam.org/park The White Rose: We Defied Hitler 9:45, Coterie Theatre. True story of Sophie Scholl who led the only act of public resistance to the Nazis. Ages 12+. TheCoterie.org Creative Story Time 10:30, Ceramic Café. Hear a story, create a pottery piece and enjoy a simple snack. $12. CeramicCafe.com
22 Wednesday Queen Nefertari: Eternal Egypt Thru March 29, Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art. Exhibition shows works that present the richness of life in ancient Egypt. Nelson-Atkins.org Genghis Khan: Bringing the Legend to Life Thru April 24, Union Station. World-class exhibition that explores the world’s greatest conqueror. UnionStation.org
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North by Night Jan. 28, Folly Theater. Follow the journey of brave men and women who risked it all in the Underground Railroad. FollyTheater.org
Animal Tales Story Time 10:30, Ernie Miller Nature Center. Listen to a story and meet a special animal friend. Today’s theme: Winter Wildlife. 913.826.2800
23 Thursday Gym for Me 9:00, Lenexa Rec Center. Kids ages 5 and under play with push toys, riding toys, balls, inflatables and more. $2. Lenexa.com Indoor Play Park 9:00, New Century Fieldhouse. Hop, skip and jump through obstacles, bounce and kick balls, build with blocks and more! $3. 913.826.2850
24 Friday Valentine’s Day Party 1:00, Lanesfield School Historic Site. Experience a traditional 1904 Valentine’s Day! Use pen and ink as you make a valentine. JCPRD.com Fine Art Friday 1:00, Kemper Museum. Interactive experiences in the galleries encourage students to examine art. Includes tour with docent. Free. KemperArt.org Winter Princess Formal 6:30, NKC Parks & Recreation Center. Dads and daughters can enjoy an evening of dancing, games and dinner. Pre-reg at NKC.org. Winter Jam 7:00, Sprint Center. Christian music’s premier multi-artist annual outing, featuring favorite headliner, Crowder. 2020.JamTour.com
Kids Carnival 6:00, Meadowbrook Park Clubhouse. Try your luck at the trickiest of games. Win tickets and visit the prize booth. 913.826.2975
Major League Improv 7:00, Comedy City. A comedy sporting event where everything is based on suggestions from the audience. $9$13. 816.842.2744
MPE Women’s Encouragement Day 8:30, City Center Church (Lenexa). A quiet, relaxing day of encouragement for homeschool moms. MidwestHomeschoolers.org Youth Wildlife Conservation Experience 8:30, Arrowhead Stadium. Each youth participant receives a backpack filled with many accessories. KCSCI.com
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KC Magic Man 6:00, MCPL (North Independence). Take a magical journey into the world of illusions. Be prepared to be amazed! Pre-reg at MyMCPL.org.
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Textures in Art 10:00 & 2:00, Nerman Museum. Learn about visual textures in art and experiment with different ways to make a printed image. Pre-reg at NermanMusuem.org. Humboldt Penguin March 11:00, Kansas City Zoo. Get an up-close encounter with Humboldt penguins as they strut their stuff. KansasCityZoo.org Happy Birthday, Kansas! 11:00, Johnson County Museum. Bring the whole family to celebrate Kansas’ 159th birthday. 913.826.2787 Hands-On History 11:00, National World War I Museum and Memorial. History is brought to life. Handle Great War artifacts. TheWorldWar.org Saturday Night Feeder Saturdays, 2:00, Cedar Cove Feline Sanctuary. Watch the cats being fed, weather permitting. $6-$8. 816.739.0363
26 Sunday Chinese New Year Celebration 10:00, NelsonAtkins Museum. Features live entertainment, art activities, learning in the Chinese art galleries and food. Nelson-Atkins.org Open House 11:30, Nativity of Mary School. Learn about Nativity of Mary Catholic School. We serve preschool through eighth grade. NativityOfMary.org Free Afternoon Program 1:30, Prairie Park Nature Center. Free program for the family may include video, slideshow and going outside to enjoy nature. LawrenceKS.org
27 Monday Daddy Daughter Dance Feb 7 & 8, Providence Community Church. Purchase tickets for this fun evening! Event will sell out. SovGraceKC.org/Dance
Space Dance Performance 2:00, Rockhurst High School Rose Theatre. Dance performance will delight and amaze you! KCYA.org 1860s Dance Party 7:00, Mahaffie Stagecoach Stop and Farm. Celebrate Kansas’ statehood with a dance party with live music! Ages 16+. Mahaffie.org
Spring Classes Begin Kansas City Young Audiences. Enroll for dance, music, theatre and visual arts classes for all ages. KCYA.org Splash with Me 10:00, Lenexa Rec Center. Kids can swim, play and become more confident in the water at the kiddie pool. $2. 913.477.7100
Indoor Play Park 9:00, New Century Fieldhouse. Hop, skip and jump through obstacles, bounce and kick balls, build with blocks and more! $3. 913.826.2850 Parents Free Monday 9:30, Paradise Park. Parents are free at the Children’s EduTainment Center with a paid child’s admission. 816.246.5224
28 Tuesday Jumperoo 9:00, Urban Air. A special time when entire park is open for children 5 and under with a parent. Jump, bounce and crawl! UrbanAirTrampolinePark.com North by Night 9:45 & 11:30, Folly Theater. Follow the journey of brave men and women who risked it all in the Underground Railroad. FollyTheater.org Petite Picassos 10:00, Johnson County Arts & Heritage Center. Read a book, look at artwork and create a thematic work of art! Pre-reg at JCPRD.com. Creative Story Time 10:30, Ceramic Café. Hear a story, create a pottery piece and enjoy a simple snack. $12. CeramicCafe.com
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Underground Jan. 30 & 31, Kauffman Center. Storling Dance presents a powerful and inspiring portrayal of the Underground Railroad. CultureHouse.com
29 Wednesday
30 Thursday
Kansas Cultural History 10:00, Carlsen Center. Enjoying songs and stories, learn how people came to settle in Kansas. JCCC.edu/theseries
Stuffed Animal Sleepover 9:00, MCPL (Smithville). The library’s stuffed animals invite yours to sleep over. Drop off your friend at the library. MCPL.org
Genghis Khan: Bringing the Legend to Life Thru April 24, Union Station. World-class exhibition that explores the world’s greatest conqueror. UnionStation.org
Ice Skating 10:00, Crown Center Ice Terrace. Spend the day skating with the family on Kansas City’s only outdoor rink. CrownCenter.com
Little Leapers 10:00, Sky Zone. A time for little ones to bounce under the supervision of their parents and without interference from the big kids. SkyZone.com Critter Feeding 3:00, Burr Oak Woods. Discover what’s for dinner as you watch the captive amphibians, fish and turtles enjoy a feast. 816.228.3766 Homework Help 4:00, Johnson County Library (Central Resource). Drop by the library and get help from a homework coach. JoCoLibrary.org
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Underground Today & tomorrow, Kauffman Center. Storling Dance presents a powerful and inspiring portrayal of the Underground Railroad. CultureHouse.com
Genghis Khan: Bringing the Legend to Life Thru April 24, Union Station. World-class exhibition that explores the world’s greatest conqueror. UnionStation.org
31 Friday
Parlor Performances 10:00 National Museum of Toys and Miniatures. A special exhibit thru August 2020 examines the rich history of theater toys. 816.235.8000
The White Rose: We Defied Hitler 9:45, 11:45 & 7:00, Coterie Theatre. Story of Sophie Scholl who led the only act of public resistance to the Nazis. Ages 12+. TheCoterie.org
Major League Improv 7:00, Comedy City. A comedy sporting event where everything is based on suggestions from the audience. $9$13. 816.842.2744
MAKE THE MOST OF PLAYTIME LAUNCH RIGHT IN WITH . . .
a SUPER SPACECRAFT!
GATHER THESE MATERIALS:
Pencil
2 toilet paper tubes
Paper towel tube
2. Draw a rounded
nose to the traced shape. Then draw two rounded triangles for wings.
1. Lay a toilet
paper tube on top of a piece of cardboard. Trace it.
Small piece of cardboard
Markers or paint
3. Cut out the shape.
Scissors
(with an adult�s help)
Paper
Glue
5. Glue your cut tube on top of the cardboard in the shape of a spacecraft, and let it dry.
4. Trace the bottom of
6. Color or paint your spacecraft. You
a toilet paper tube on top of another. Then cut out the round shape.
can also decorate it with stickers. Place a small toy inside and go for a ride. Tell a story about where you’re going!
TinkerActive Workbooks cover essential skills using curriculum-based exercises and interactive tinkering, making, and engineering activities using common household materials!
The Active Way to learn through play
We invite you
Odd Dot
An imprint of Macmillan Children’s Publishing Group
AVAILABLE WHEREVER BOOKS ARE SOLD
to the 11th Annual
Daddy Daughter Dance Treasure Your Daughter
Friday February
7th
6-9 pm
&
Saturday February
8th
5-8 pm
WITH SPECIAL GUESTS
Cinderella & Belle
Providence Community Church in Lenexa EARLY BIRD DISCOUNT TILL 1/17/20 IS $65 PER COUPLE. AFTER JAN. 17TH, $75 PER COUPLE.
PRICE INCLUDES NATIONAL GRAND CHAMPION BBQ AND CHICK-FIL-A DINNER PROCEEDS WILL SUPPORT LOCAL FAMILIES ADOPTIONS
EVENT ALWAYS SELLS OUT! BUY TICKETS AT WWW.SOVGRACEKC.ORG/DANCE
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Tickets $20! Excludes premium seats. Subject to availability. Restrictions, exclusions and additional charges may apply. Purchase tickets at venue box office or ticketmaster.com.
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Go Wild
January 11 & 12 Tropical Weekend January 18 & 19 Penguin Awareness Weekend
Open Year Round
PENGUIN MARCHES
Every Weekend at 11am
Check online for more Zoomazing experiences!
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