WOMEN IN FINANCE

“All those things that we promised ourselves that we would someday get to them. Well… now is the time! ”

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- Open the Lines of Communication and Check In: ASK, LISTEN, GAIN UNDERSTANDING, VALIDATE, SUPPORT, and IMPLEMENT. These can be applied to any system or relational dynamic- yourself, your relationship, work, family, friends, etc.

- Balance Home-Work Life: This means your personal and your professional lifestyles. Many of us are now finding working from home as this new way of being, and also trying to balance so many other roles: Mama or Daddy, Hubby or Wife, Caretaker, etc. It’s important to create a divide between your personal and your work life. What I mean by that is trying to work outside the bedroom (or even other family common areas). I emphasize the bedroom in particular is your personal place for the 2 S’s: Sleep and Sex. If you must, switch up the look of the room for “work mode” and “personal/play mode”. If you are able, work in a different area in the home that is not often used much for personal use, such as an office, the den or create a new space, in order to be able to “close the door and walk away when outside of work hours”. And yes, it’s sooooo important to keep a structure of your work hours. When you are done...you are done!!! It’s time for your personal time. This is just as important, if not MORE important! Remember my motto, “Do You, For You”. If you are not present for yourself, then you cannot possibly be present and focus elsewhere. Most of us are balancing so many “Jobs”/roles right now, ones in which we never thought we would be in or never signed up for. I, myself, was and still am trying to manage seeing patients from home via Telehealth, be an educator to my two boys, be a wife to my hub’s whom has continued to work out in the field full time since the start of the pandemic, which leaves me as the primary caregiver to my boys, the dogs, household tasks on a daily basis and so on. So yes, ME Time is an absolute! I joke by saying running (and working out) is my saving grace because it’s the only time no one is calling my name and needing something. Yes, I did say I was real, raw + authentic, so I am going to tell you like it is with no bullshit. :)

- Stay Active in Your Brain + Body: Movement is medicine + healing. By keeping both the brain + body active, you are activating the good hormones, enhancing blood flow and oxygen, as well deactivating your amygdala, which is responsible for stress responses, anxious brain, and trauma brain to name a few (more to come on this in upcoming column articles). In addition, the immune system and the emotional system are both channels facilitating our adjustment and regulation to a highly dynamic and demanding world.

- Enhance Meaning + Purpose: Be sure you are doing the things that help you to feel a sense of meaning and purpose and build confidence. It could be anything from making sure you are showering and grooming to connecting virtually with people, places, and things that are a part of your life. Staying connected with your sense of self and others will help you to stay grounded and feel a sense of fulfillment and pleasure. We all need it right now as we continue to adjust back to our lifestyles and/or create new ways of being.

- Be Attentive in Your Relationship (with yourself + your partner/s). If you are needing more on this, please check out my SHE Boss + Sex Talk with Dr. J podcast on “The Importance of Being Attentive in your Relationship”, as well as my podcast on “Ways to Practice Self Care + Boss Up.” Again, you have to do you before you can truly do anyone else!

“Can you believe it’s been two years already? Stop for a minute and be true to yourself when you ask “How am I doing?” ”

Let’s continue to Boss up, Rise Above + Represent together! You got this, and we WILL continue to get through this. Please do not hesitate to contact me if you need help with any of the areas talked about. You are not alone in this, and your mental health + wellbeing, sexual health + wellbeing, intimate wellness + relationships is just as important as your personal health + wellbeing. Again, thank you for tuning in and taking the time to focus on YOU. Please feel free to submit any questions and topics of interest on my Coaching Platform at https:// power-of-a-she-boss.teachable. com or follow me on Instagram @shebossdrj. You can also check out my new SHE Boss Collection + Courses on my Coaching Platform (link above). Remember, there is no silly question...we are real, we are raw, and we are authentic, and so is this column. Stay tuned in, in touch + turned on.

I look forward to being on this journey with you. Love to all my SHE Bosses.

Xo, Dr. J