LADY O

YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ARE IN CHARGE

BY NICOLE HEROUX WILLIAMS I PHOTOS BY NSP STUDIO BY OMENESA ORUMA AKOMOLAFE

It was a painful week. My soul was pained. My head was pained and still pained. My skin was frying and my mind was all over the place. I was and I still am in a place of meditation. I came to a breaking point in my life, where I suddenly realized that I have been carrying too much, wayyyyy too much. I have been carrying bills, insults, abuse, long hours, and a tired body. Usually when I get tired, I just sleep for a few hours, but this week, I shut down everything. I didn’t even type my school paper. I didn’t shut down because I wanted to, I shut down because life shut me down. I couldn’t move without being in pain. Pain in all that concerned me. It was a sign for me to attend to certain matters in my life, including my health.

have had access to if I was well and able and in my busy mode. It told me that I have done well in controlling my anger and temper, but BY NICOLE HEROUX WILLIAMS I PHOTOS BY NSP STUDIO BY OMENESA ORUMA AKOMOLAFE it now wants me to not just keep to myself but to still manage to mingle with others and keep my personal matters at check. It told me to sleep. It told me to accept people just the way they are. It told me to listen without personalizing. It told me so many things. So many things. As I sat there with a fever and with so

And so I went to work and came straight home to lay down, except for my doctor’s appointment. Otherwise, I allowed my mind and my body to lay down. As my body and mind laid down, it brought up memories, strategies, occurences and resolutions. It told me to smile more, because I don’t smile often. It told me to forgive So and So. It told me to ask So and So for forgiveness. It told me to completely cut off from So and So. It told me to change my company name. It told me not to contact So and So. It told me not to speak to So and So. It told me not to reply So and So. It told me how to speak and respond to So and So. I’m sure by now you know that So and So are different people. It told me how to tweak some things in my organization and business. It told me how to run my marriage and how to elevate my career and education. It gave me secrets. Secrets that I wouldn’t many issues that need a resolve, I knew without a shadow of a doubt, that I have grown. I have been stretched. Though I am weak at the moment, but for the knowledge in which I have acquired and willing to act upon, I am in charge. I am in control of my happiness. I am in control of how I am respected or disrespected. I am in control of how I show up. I am in control of how this story will end. Though I am weary, and I feel worn, but I am in charge.

POT OF GOLD

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1. Take some time out to rest.

2. Don’t just rest, reflect.

3. Implement what you reflected on.

4. Don’t rush your process. Allow your healing to run it’s course.

5. Smile at people. Don’t project your anger or discontentment on them.

6. Be quiet in spirit, and if you choose to be quieter in your everyday life, that’s okay. You can always change your personality for the best, just make sure you’re not making people uncomfortable in a negative way. You don’t want people to constantly ask you, “ Are you okay?”.

6. Don’t apologize for the boundaries you make.

7. Don’t placate when you are disrespected. Step back, then confront it later(if necessary), but don’t tolerate it.

8. You can be firm and tender at the same time.

9. Take advantage of the pain you feel. It is trying to tell you something. Listen to your pain. Listen to it allllllll the way, then do the needful.

10. Pray!!! Please talk to God daily. He is your friend. When you pray, you gain more power. You become incharge.