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Keriah M Men Vs Women
Chapter One Men What is it about men and women that we don’t understand? The whole concept seems simple enough, right? So why are we complaining, why can’t we get it right or even get the right one? Well it is simple, most of us are not following the rules that guide us, we pass them off paying no attention to them and then when things get out of control we wonder why. Well if you didn’t know that there are rules that you must follow I am here to share most of those rules with you. I will start with the rules of men first then we will work on the ladies. Men: First things first, men have a basic structure all men have this and in order to understand them you must know this basic structure. Eyes first, manhood second, mind next and mouth last. I am going to explain how this works. Upon having interest in a woman, he sees what he wants first, instantly there is a reaction to his manhood meaning that he likes what he sees. Moments after that he is thinking that he wants to get you into bed which triggers his approach via the mouth. This is just level one of a male structure and usually because of this level many women turn men down game over, some however get to level two which is a bit more complicated. Level two actually takes some work for men, this means that they now have to get to know you in order to accomplish the goal that was set in level one. Now not all men’s goal in level one is to get you into bed. I said not all but most of them are, so whatever the goal is level two is going to mark the basis of that accomplishment. Now let’s call level two strategy he is going to try and find out as much about you intellectually before he tries to get to know you sexually, this way you feel more comfortable talking to him and let down your guard a bit. He is going to want to spend the time, money and effort to accomplish this. Now ladies when you notice this happening and if you are interested there are ways to set it up so that it can last longer. Turn around and try to get to know him. Don’t let him have all the control, take him out, doesn’t have to be anything big, with men that doesn’t really matter they are not used to being treated so anything will throw him off. This way he loses track of the objective and considers new ones in turn comes respect.
Be his friend, ask about his problems, if you don’t care ask anyway, be calm and very patient you will be surprised where that gets you later on. It is a known rule that if in level one of the game you give in, there is no respect given to you, this is why we have labels such as hoe and other meaningless hurtful names. You can still have a great sex life without the label you just have to build a good rapport with men and believe me it is well worth it. Because no matter how much sex you have, they will still respect you because you went through the levels and won the game. So while he is building a strategy so are you, by now he is intrigued by you and is genuinely interested, however if he is the kind of man who just says what he wants and all he wants is to fuck, then that is just up to you. If he is hot and you just simply have to have him then shit who am I to stop you go ahead. After a long level two you reach level three. This level is called mutuality, this means that he has enough respect for you not to pawn you off to his friends and be generally concerned if you have a problem, as do you. This is the level where a relationship between men and women hide, because it has not been said by either party that they are together, certain events and things may trigger the feelings. For instance, if you were to go out with an ex or some other man you have been talking to besides him and he were to find out he would be jealous. Some men are crafty in hiding this and you may not even notice, but others are quite blatant about it. Subtle feelings developed while getting to know you and if you are worth keeping around then you are worth having feelings for. This complicates things in men, they don’t quite know how to identify their feelings so often they do the wrong things, say the wrong things. And most women don’t recognize this and it becomes messy arguments, fights, hurtful words etc. Now ladies I know that we hate to be doing all the work but let’s face it, these men are our children if we don’t stand up for them, pay attention to them when they are hurt, hold them when they need us it will never be enough. So, we should embrace that, try to look past the action and see what the real problem is. Pay attention to him learn his ways his actions how his body respond to what you do (not sexually) and say. This will help you in understanding what is going on and will help you see the signs of cheating later if you end up together. We are all connected to each other, when one party does something the other reacts and vise versa always remember that. Now while you are in this intricate mutuality level comes first level commitment.
This is really complicated but it really works out smoothly in real life you never know that there are so many. First level commitment is recognizing that you have feelings for each other, you both are now aware after I am sure countless arguments and encounters of jealousy and hissy fits from both parties. This is where fear sets in, what if I give him/her my heart and she/he hurts me, what if this person is not the one for me, what if my old partner comes back and I won’t be able to resist, what if their ex that they have been in love with comes back. All kinds of things will rush into your mind because you know everything about this person. Now men have just one fear, the fear of you hurting them and making them look like a fool in the process. Everything else is here say, they need to see evidence first, and women don’t. In level one commitment they love with caution, watch how you react around their friends, family, old girlfriends anything just to see how you handle it. Please ladies handle it with grace and caution you don’t have to hide your opinions or feelings just wait until the two of you are alone. Do not create a scene anywhere, men hate that, I repeat, men hate that. After you are tested till he has run out of things to test you on, you move on to level two commitment, this is where it gets a bit more serious and he starts announcing to the world that you are his girl ,boo, b, lady whatever. Don’t think you are still not being tested or watched very closely. How do you withstand this testing? Well for most of us it is simple for others very very difficult. Develop a poker face, now you should have this face even before you meet anyone, this is the face you have around everyone including your friends, that way you build reputation that you always look that way no one can argue with that. Now in the relationship you will greatly depend on this face to get you through some hard times like the time you saw his hot friend with no shirt on. . Poker face do not let it down whatever you do, this face is a general expression. It is neither happy sad angry or even curious it is multipurpose. Just a casual “all is well in the world” kind of look. He can’t kill you for that. Once you have this down pact you can have your emotions your opinions all to yourself without anyone else knowing till you are ready. This all works in unity with the relationship, it gives you a chance to watch and pay attention to your man without scaring him and making him retreat and put up boarders. Men are quick to do that, when that happens all the bull shit happens like cheating and hurtful things you were afraid was going to happen which could have been avoided. Level two commitment is not short it is long as hell sometimes too long, for some really short.
Next would be level three commitment, remember this is how a mass system works, level three is wifey. Ladies we all want to be here but I am telling you from now, you can’t get here on a cardboard box, you will have to work for that shit. That means going through the dramas taking some of his bullshit, crying, hurting all that. It is a growth process you both need to go through in order to change. If you don’t go through this with him and grow to understand him in ways no other woman could possibly understand him, you will never gain wifey status. Now if you ever get to this stage of the game you are one huge step ahead of any woman. Keep in mind that just because you are now wifey doesn’t mean you can slack off. It is the complete opposite you have more work now then you ever did in regard to maintaining your relationship with your man. First let me explain what it is this wifey status for those of you who are unaware or never been. Being wifey means complete understanding and endless forgiveness and patients. Not only do you have to completely know him in and out you have to know yourself as well. You have to bend over backwards to keep the connection flowing, be understanding, be there at all times and I mean all times, be supportive of whatever it is he wants to do no matter what, you have to be a part of his world know his boundaries and respect them. This kind of understanding and connection is almost impossible to break and it is not easy to create either so don’t think you can do this in a matter of days, weeks or even years. Take your time to understand each other and be together. Sometimes you will find that men like to pull away from you, do not be offended or think that it is your fault unless you did something you shouldn’t have and It is possible he knows. When they pull back don’t try to yank them back in, it is natural that they need to find a balance, step back from a picture to see it better. Men are not used to being in close doors for too long, neither are women, this is why some relationships fail. Because one of the partners denies them this space and tries to yank them back in. This is the part of understanding and reading the signs, pay attention as a matter a fact pay attention to all of them, you’ll learn more. You can only get better with practice, even the ones you don’t want a relationship with, pay close attention to their actions and what it means you will gain better understanding. Ok so now that we have covered the basic levels we can get into the signs and rules. This is going to take awhile because I am sure that I still need to learn some of them, and others may not be clear and are harder to explain. But I will try my best and hopefully you will pick up and understand what I am saying. Before I begin though I want you to know that you don’t have to take my word for it, find out for yourself. This isn’t something I made up, whatever I am telling you, it is something I have experienced and have been able to pinpoint and remember. I have years of experience and more years to go, and every time this is what I came up with. I’ll do rules first since signs are closer to home.
Chapter Two Rules
Rules: There are many rules and boundaries that men carry around that we women are not even aware of. This is why when we step over them without knowing we are confused when he blows up or does something we consider stupid. I don’t even know where to begin listing the different kinds. The first one I can think of, that most of us miss is space. Now the rule of space is not complicated or difficult to follow. What this means is that all men need space, this is not a reflection on you or the relationship. When men are given the needed space, things run a lot smoother, now this doesn’t mean that you are not to continue paying attention to his actions while he is taking space. Just do it from a far, this also build trust and understanding. What happens if you do not give the time and space they need well nothing good comes out of it believe me. They start to feel cluttered and want to get away from you as often as possible. Do anything go anywhere that you may not go or want to be. How does that make you feel? exactly. And when you begin to feel that way it causes friction and differences in the relationship, unnecessary ones and you don’t want that. Now I know you are wondering how long does this space have to last?, well there is no time It is not a break from your relationship, it is just a moment where you both do something for yourselves. So, in reflection, give the space that is needed, do not be afraid he is not going to run a muck and if he does you missed some signs in your relationship that was leading to that. Privacy is another rule. I don’t have to tell you how that works and how it will affect the relationship if you do not follow it, it is just common sense really. There are however ways to get around the privacy rule without hurting the situation but that is way, way advanced and is too complicated to explain, so for now just follow it. The next rule is a rule I have broken probably many times. I don’t know how I have become fortunate not to suffer the consequences of this rule, but believe me it is not worth the risk. This is the friendship rule, this rule if you forget all the others you should never ever ever forget.
Do not under any circumstances talk, deal, chill, kiss, hug, or even be alone with one of his boys or close friend. Seems like common sense right don’t fuck around with his friend. But there will be a time where the opportunity will arise and then you realize it is not as easy to step away then you thought. Some friends are easy to avoid, but we all know that they have at least one friend you will find attractive. Remember, men do not like to be the fool, and they sure as hell don’t like to be wrong about the woman they have chosen to carry their hearts. They want to know that they are safe and that only they can make you feel the way you make them feel. That they are the only ones who can be next to you, so if you break this rule it can have incredible repercussions even end up being the end of your relationship. Is there a way out of this you ask? Of course there is, but you have to be some kind of pro to pull it off smoothly enough to salvage your relationship, keep him secure and mend the hurt you caused all in one motion. And that is not easily done, because you would still have to rebuild the element of trust back into your relationship and most of all, never lay eyes, ears or lips on that friend ever again. And I mean never, not even a polite hello, which is too much of a risk. I know you wonder why so drastic, well it is like this, there are 3 different levels of men. Closed men: the ones who never display how they truly feel about any situation and would rather let go then to let in. Sometime’ish men: the ones who show emotions sometimes and then takes it back, for fear of looking foolish, and Open men: men who say how they feel no matter what and are not afraid to let you know you hurt them. Now here is where it applies, you have to know what kind of man you have, if he is closed forget it don’t even attempt to sleep with his friend. Just obey the no friend rule, he won’t forgive you and if he wanted to you would never know and he would drop you. If you have a sometime’ish man and you do break the rule, he will eventually let you in, but you will find that he cares sometimes and other times he will seem like it doesn’t matter to him what you do. With the Open Man you either have to obey the rule, or work hard as hell not to do it again, he will pay very close attention to all your actions concerning you and his dear friend and if he feels for one moment that something is going on you are going to hear about it. Building back trust with this type of man is very hard they tend to hold on to the hurt in fear that it will happen again and they just can’t handle the thought of being played a fool twice.
No man, no matter what type they are wants to be a fool twice, some take it and move on others get even. This is why when the wrong type of people gets together cheating and meaningless actions occur, they don’t know how to handle the events that occurred and the only way they know is to make you feel how they feel. I personally do not take this route, although I have thought about making some of them men I have been with feel what if feels like to be treated a certain way. It is not the answer to the problem. Just recognize that if you feel that that is the only way, get out of the relationship. Just go, salvage whatever good was in the relationship before it went wrong and move on, find the woman or man you were meant to be with. Another rule I find women love to break is the passing by rule: you know the one where we like to pop up at their houses without calling or prior appointment. Why do we do that? well that will be discussed in the next chapter. Why do men hate that, hummm, well I can’t say all men hate that some do and I don’t know why that is. We would think it was because they have something to hide but is that the truth all the time? The only thing I can suggest is that you evaluate it according to your relationship, or based on what you know about him already. You should be able to tell if he is doing underhanded things or not, remember pay attention to him closely. Oh, but I am not saying you should never drop by unannounced, women get one free drop by use is well and at a good time. It will help evaluate what kind of man you have and how to handle future situations if they do arise. Don’t think this is over we still have a few key rules to go over, most of them you should know but sometimes, one falls through the cracks. This rule is very tempting, it is the rule everyone breaks well not me not yet anyway. The phone rule: Don’t touch it! Now the phone rule has little sub rules one of the sub rules are you cannot call an ex. Tempting as it is to phone up the ex and have a nice long conversation, you know the one you feel or think he is still sleeping with. Now this is bad manners in the rule book of men and women, you as the current should not be calling an ex, come on now, you are there now right work on that don’t call the ex. This only tells her that she has a chance to get back in and obviously you are not secure enough in your relationship. If you call the ex, you might as well have put her in his bed. Men don’t believe that current and exes should mix at all they cringe at the thought and this can cause major arguments both ways. The next sub phone rule is your not to answer his phone, this one is very funny because I know we all wonder, if you are only with me and not fucking around what does it matter if I answer the phone. Well I know I wonder that all the damn time and you always know there is something going on by how he talks to the person on the other end.
So, we are so damn tempted to answer the phone or we at least want to know who the hell that is. This could cause an argument but it shouldn’t be a major one unless he is fucking around on you. Men have a way of acting strangely when they are guilty of a crime they think you are aware of, they get mad and start saying things that just doesn’t make sense. Accusing you of things sometimes and even going as far as flipping the script! Remain calm ladies don’t let this startle you keep your composure do not whatever you do let him suck you in. If you do you may wind up saying and doing things that can harm the both of you. I think we can safely leave the rules, if you know more please follow them obviously I can’t list them all or this would take years to finish so use your common sense and recognize the rules, make note of the ones you have broken and learn from your mistakes. What was next, boundaries right. Well this I am going to fly through very quickly because we all have our boundaries and they are similar to rules and common sense. Some men have very little others a lot more. Like I said before you will have to use your own judgment. I believe there is a common boundary that all men share, their hearts. They go to various extents to keep you or any woman away from that, why? it is their one weakness. Once you are in there they are vulnerable to anything you say and do. You have to go through security, throwing knives, poison gas, armed forces, attack dogs, then after that the ninja fighters, Chinese torture specialists and a blazing fire before you could even catch a glimpse of it. Therefore, when you finally reach the stage where he opens up to you, don’t fuck up. And if you don’t want anything to do with his heart, don’t make the journey for fun that will only cause problems in the end. How? Well if you are not interested in being with him in that way, and you go ahead and take the journey to his heart and you try to break it to him that you don’t feel the same. He just may stalk you, even make your life miserable for a bit. Some men won’t take it lightly and will only make the journey more difficult for the next woman who just might be interested in him in that way. Then you would have fucked shit up for someone else, and it could be you. There are so many aspects of men that need to be understood most of us don’t want to take the time, but when you do take the time things don’t seem so confusing and you are not caught off guard as much. So, I know you are wondering well great now that we know all these rules what about the ex’s how do we deal with them and why should we. Nothing is worse for us than an ex who is also the best friend, is that a threat? Oh hell yes. It is obvious, she has one up on you she was his lover and best friend.
Do you panic? It depends do you think they are still involved or is it obvious they are only friends. If you think he is still involved with her, leave, if you want to fight the battle you could try maybe he will give her up for you, if you can provide whatever it is that she does then go for it. This only applies if you haven’t been through the process I listed earlier, because if you have then you are the best friend in his life and you need not worry about another. However, if you are not, then you have a huge battle ahead of you good luck. So, men are not insensitive assholes we believe them to be, sometimes, they are just as afraid and concerned as we are that someone will get in and destroy whatever love they are capable of. It is really a shame that we all don’t pay close enough attention to our men to realize that they need us just as much as we need them, and if we just looked for the signs and followed the rules we would be ok. There wouldn’t be any need for most of the pain and suffering we inflict on each other. Don’t get me wrong, we will do some fucked up shit, but that is a part of the process, there are lessons to be learned and sometimes the only way to learn it is the hard way. There is nothing wrong with having fun, fucking for pleasure, just be sure it is understood that, that is all it is. Don’t try to mask it let it be the way it is. Now that we have covered the men it is now the women’s turn. This is going to be loads of fun, we women tend to make things really complicated our system is totally different from men.
Chapter Three Women Women: Let’s not ask what women want, we don’t want anything, we need everything! When you want something, it is just for the hell of it, needs however are very necessary and everything is necessary. I know I know that seems like a lot, but it really isn’t you can cover all of a woman’s’ needs without breaking a sweat. Men are caught up in the frame of mind that they have to murder a man to make us happy, this is not true boys you don’t have to murder anyone. Just pay attention to our ass and know what you are doing. We send you hints and signals to let you know what our needs are all you have to do is pay attention. Just like men, women have a basic guideline, however ours is more situational. First it is the eyes then the mind, we see what we like, then we think about what we want to do with what we see. This is how it starts, women like what they see, therefore we all have our own taste in men, the only exception to that rule is eye candy. These are men we just like to look at not for sex just for the pleasure of looking. Now what men don’t understand and where they make the mistake is carding a woman for looking at this eye candy. Boys this could make a situation that was never there in the first place, worse. This breed of man is not what we want believe it or not, but if you make it an issue we just may use it against you. Messed up isn’t it, yes, yes it is, but we’ll talk about that later. So, it begins with seeing what we want next we want to know if anything we are thinking is possible. We either, one make eye contact, some will approach you or the easiest make ourselves available where ever you may be. Funny how some men don’t notice things like this but it happens all the damn time. If we don’t get your attention this time be sure there will be a next time. Women are silent predators and very persistent especially when they want something. Now that we have your attention we take the time to find out as much about you as possible and we note and record all this information in our heads for future reference. So, men when you are telling women something, especially something she asked, do not make the mistake in thinking she forgot. Because later down the road if anything you say or do differs from what you had told her earlier an alarm will go off and she will start to get suspicious. After the process of our eyes and mind comes our heart. This is something women give away more easily then men, why? Because we want to feel closer to you in order to get in. We can’t understand you unless we care, the faster we care the more we learn. Sex is always last, never first, this is because not all men can fuck, and if we made that number one some men would be without a woman. We are more forgiving in this area, once we care for you or love you, how you sex can always be improved. You just have to pay attention to what she likes what she talks about and I know you hate to hear about ex’s gentlemen guess what this is not to torture you it is to teach you something.
Listen to what she is saying how she felt, when you do take mental notes, you will be tested later and you don’t want to fail. Ok now let’s get into some shit about women now there must be at least 5 different types of women, yes, it is a zoo out there. I will try to get them all, but If I miss one forgive me who ever is with her.
Chapter Four Types Woman number one: The Freak, yes I know you guys think you know this type of woman, the one who doesn’t give a fuck, who does anything you want and more. Who is into every mans fantasy the kind of woman you just want to fuck and nothing else because you worry about who else she is doing all this with. Well all this is due to insecurity, something must have happened to her to make her act this way, but it doesn’t mean that is how she truly is or feels. She wants to be close to someone just as badly as anyone else and the only reason why you men only see the freak is because that is all you want. You don’t take the time to listen or learn anything about what she likes or needs she is too busy trying to please you and gain acceptance for all the wrong reasons. How does she become labeled as a freak, simple, men talk they are just like women. They talk to other guys about shit too and because she fucked the wrong type of guy the wrong day, he told his friend his friend told someone else and there you have it she is now number one of the freak list. They talk to other guys about shit too and because she fucked the wrong type of guy the wrong day, he told his friend his friend told someone else and there you have it she is now number one of the freak list. That attitude they have about oh I don’t care I do what I want I’ll fuck who I want is all bullshit. They have to act that way so you don’t see how they really feel because they feel it is too late. They have this label so now they can’t get the type of man they want without being scrutinized by him or other men talking badly of her. Is this her fault? maybe maybe not, but it just takes one man to change all that, the one who listens and understands, you may be surprised what you find under all that talk. Next is the Closet Freak: This type of girl is only a freak for her man, they are a little more secure about themselves and don’t believe that everyone should know what she is doing. However, they are very sneaky and tricky, these girls are usually the ones you would never guess was ever like that, and that could be dangerous to a man who thinks he is getting one thing and finds out something else. But I never heard one complain, so I guess it works out. Now you are thinking well that isn’t bad, ha! Come on now just because she only freaks for her man doesn’t mean she doesn’t for her ex’s, she is just quiet about what she does not innocent. These women like the fact that no one knows, that they are perceived as innocent so if anything were to ever get out, it would be hard for people to accept because that is not who they know. This kind of act is a power act, that they have the power to make you believe what they want you to believe and the fact that they can control the situation and make you feel like the only one does something for them. This is why when things don’t work out, it gives them pleasure that you want more, if you ever come back. So be careful just because the water looks calm doesn’t mean there isn’t and undertow.
Next woman is The Good Girl: This type of girl has no experience when it comes to men, I know what you are thinking, that must be when they are young, not necessarily gentlemen. There are some women out there who have never had real experience with men and therefore have no “bad record” it is like getting a fresh start. They are usually shy and pull back from any attempt to get close to her. She usually ends up being friends with whichever man tries to persue her and they intern end up feeling they have to protect her from any other man. This is not good people, women need to gain as much experience where men are concerned both good and bad. So, you are not doing her any favors by protecting her from what you think are bad men or men who are not good enough for her. What will happen to a woman like this if she doesn’t have the experience, she won’t be able to survive this game we are all in. She will be the first one to go down and this is a survival thing and no experience causes some serious side affects in the end. The German: This type of woman is stiff when I say stiff I mean she just won’t accept anything from a man and believes she doesn’t need one for anything except maybe a good fuck if as much. She doesn’t let on to anyone that she has any real feelings and always scrutinizes the men of her friends or anyone who has a man. Very opinionated and cannot take any criticism from any other female about anything. Why oh why is there such a woman you ask? Well there is no love there or a love that was there left and took the ice tray and left the ice. A man who takes her on will have to be dedicated to a T. I mean real hard-core patients and tons of time. She will test him to his every limit of his manhood and keep riding him till he is tired and worn because that is how she feels and who better to feel it too then the species that made her feel that way. This type of woman is seldom forgiving and will drop a man like a sickness, is there a cure for this type of woman? No sorry there isn’t but there is a man for them though, just don’t expect anything too soon. And if you think you are gonna hit it? Ha! forget it if you ever do you only did on her terms. The Pretender: Oh boys boys boys, this type of woman gets you every-time, you can’t hide from her every-man has been with this type of woman. She is the one who is everything you think you want in a woman. She seems to be there at the right time always knows the right thing to say, to do, she is what she wants you to see. You find yourself confused of your feelings for this type of woman and act in ways you don’t understand. You can never seem to get close enough to figure her out but that doesn’t seem to matter because she seems to make it better. Now this is a crafty one she strives on being what you want and what the next man wants and the next, no real clarity of who she is. So, if you ever talk about her to another man it is like you are talking about two different people. Why pretend?
Simple or complicated? Both she doesn’t feel you need to know anything about her it is about you she is an adapter, automatically she adjusts herself to you in hopes you won’t discover that she is not perfect or even what you want. But she keeps up the game long enough to get what she wants before it is too late and believe me there is someone already waiting in line for whatever her next plan is. She will probably settle down once she finds someone who can see right through her façade but hang on to your genitals boys she will give you a ride for your heart. Now I know I said five but there is one more The Oasis: This is where most men want to be, in this comfort zone of a woman. She is everything warped up in one and if she is hot that is a bonus! She has a little of everything in percentages that are customized for her man. She will know how to distribute each factor according to who she is with she understands you, knows how to fuck you, knows when to be around. She is intelligent and knows how to act both in public and in the bedroom, you will fall in love with this type of woman faster than you can take your dick out for a quickie. Every man loves her and every woman will hate her in silence, this type of woman can create insecurity in a man and at the same time make him feel like she can do no wrong by him. Be careful boys because once you get in too deep with her you may never get out and if she doesn’t feel you are the right man for her you may find yourself trying to prove her wrong. Believe me many men will be doing the same thing, take your time she is hard to find
Chapter Five Cheaters So now that we know what the types are lets get into some things that I am sure men are dying to know. Where to start there is so much. Let’s talk about the sneaky shit first. No matter what type of man you are or which type of woman you’re are sleeping with, seeing or dating we will always suspect you are cheating. I know we say we trust you and even tell our friends yeah I trust him he would never do that. Pshaw lets be real in the deepest depths of our soul we think you are fucking someone else and if not, some chick has made the offer to fuck you. The only trick is, how do we find out if you are or not. Well guys this takes a committed woman, if a woman just wants to be idle and cause trouble she will dig up anything she finds and questions it, this can be a headache but don’t worry she can’t say anything if you don’t give her a reason right guys. Now the other reason behind the investigation is because it is a learning process, we learn things about you when we question you and dig in your space. We watch your reaction to everything we say even when you don’t think we are looking or paying attention, trust me we see you. No matter how good you are at eluding a woman she will eventually catch you in your game. You know the saying “woman on top” and that goes for everything so don’t think you will end up on top because you won’t, ever and I mean never ever. If you are planning to deceive a woman the only way you can survive is to get out fast. Basically, hit and run don’t look back don’t go back because she will burn you in the end. Women are capable of some fucked up shit this is because we have an endless imagination. The things we can think of is unbelievable. No matter what you can think of we take it a few steps further, that is why I don’t understand how a woman can be afraid of a man. Y’all should be the ones locking your doors at night and looking behind you and trust me there are some crazy women out there, real predators who just hunt for men just for the kill. Honestly sometimes there is no rational reasoning behind our actions we are emotional beings and act according to our emotions. Some women can control it others have no control what so ever, they just let loose and some poor guy gets caught up in the current, you know who you are. You’ve been there I am sure, ok so let’s get into the game.
The Game When a woman is with a man, her man, whatever and they go out and she sees another man, if you are not making her happy she will notice him. If you are on point you wouldn’t have even noticed he was even there. Now let’s say you are not on point with your shit there is two sides to the story first she will notice him you may or may not noticed she did. Then she will make sure he notices her and make it seem to you that it is no big deal, this requires a skill and a percent of trust. Now the other dude will notice her and either show interest or not. When he shows interest, she will receive the information via eye contact and act accordingly. Now the dude is going to wonder who the guy she is with is and of course it doesn’t really matter because she made eye contact right. So, if they are in a private situation like a restaurant or club this is where the games begin. At some point, you are not going to be by her side, so at that time she will make herself visible to the other guy she had notarized earlier. Guys usually wonder why women do this, why they flirt with other men when they are with their man well that is because we like to be wanted by others. We like to know that we can still get someone else and that we can still attract another man. And oh gosh if he is hot we may just have to make sacrifices. This is only if you are not on point, now if you are with this woman and you pay attention to her you won’t miss that play and of course this will upset you and because men hate to do public scenes. You will wait till later to discuss what you saw. Now this gets funny because we never underestimate a man, just in case you did see that we have a plan already laid out in our heads what we will say to you if you ever bring it up and believe me you cannot bust a woman who is on point in her game. When you give the time for a plan to be made you doomed yourself in the argument, shit if you want to bust her ass snatch her up and question her now get her flustered. You can’t think when you are being fired at but anyhow you get the cool collected type! you’re in trouble. So what happens from there? Well if she completed her mission you will be hearing about that dude sometime in the future. If she didn’t fuck him, well then it will be some next dude some next time, it is all about capture and release we are worse than you men. We just don’t let up about it or practice it.
Earlier on I mentioned briefly about “Eye Candy”, now this eye candy man you know the one we don’t want a relationship with. You wonder why, it is because he is too damn pretty and every woman wants him and he knows it. We can’t deal with that kind of pressure I mean the emotional maintenance alone is just too much we don’t like to share ever and the thought of other woman fawning over him makes us sick. So why torture ourselves we just like to look maybe get them into bed once or twice but nothing else. Sorry pretty boys there are very secure women out there who will love to have you, not all of us are there yet. Now if you make an issue about this eye candy you are fishing in shallow waters believe us when we say we are just looking. Don’t question that don’t make an issue of it unless you know for sure we are fucking them while we are with you. Just like how you have eye candy women who are hot for no reason we have eye candy men who are disgustingly hot for no reason. Don’t stir the pot if there is nothing to cook. Now I know men say women are this, women are that please stop hating what you don’t understand stop complaining and learn something be a man damn it step up! All this bitching you are doing your loosing the game because a woman will push you to your limits and beyond and if you can’t handle it you are going to go for a long hard ride. If you want to avoid the hassle know what type of woman you want because a man won’t know who he is till he knows what kind of woman he wants. Our job is to accent what you already have to bring out those qualities you don’t see in yourself and in the end, make you the ultimate man. That’s the one every woman wants. The mans job is TO MAKE US HAPPY keep the heart and soul secure and safe maintain the bond in the relationship and don’t stop paying attention to what is going on. I know I make this shit sound easy but it is far from easy some men don’t have the patients to maintain a relationship of that caliber. Just when they think things are good something always happens, pay attention, and some men make it look easy as hell. Now they have their game on point and so does their woman and since there are very few of these couples, men never see them they only know what they are surrounded by and that is a damn shame.
I must say men are great I love the way they always try to pull a blanket over our eyes, how they challenge us and because of you we improve our shit. Where were we? Ah yes, so a single woman is a wicked woman not wicked evil but wicked without inhibitions. I call it the whatever factor you either do or don’t, she doesn’t care. Why? because some other man will take up the offer and if she is on point in life there is nothing you can do for her than what she is asking for, which is usually sex or your company. So if you think you can play hard ball at this time in her life you are wrong she will blow you off and move on without looking back. You will notice that a single woman with an agenda, any form of bonding you try usually gets a whatever. You try to get close you get pushed away, you try to learn more about her you get silence. Leave it alone obviously she is looking for something specific find out what that is ask all the dumb questions like what do you want? What is your point? You know get to the nitty gritty guys really you have to get into our game. Some women just want to fuck, some want a relationship, some want to vent, some want a companion aka friend and some want a partner (different from a relationship). These things require something different, if you can’t deliver don’t take the job. That way no one complains about the outcome of the situation. I hope when you are reading this you are feeling the randomness of the topics that way you know exactly how a woman feels about a man, nothing is in order and anything can happen next. What was before never has anything to do with what comes after and shit that can be frustrating as hell. It is like you are standing between rain and sunshine half of you is wet the other half dry and you wonder what the hell is going on. You have to look back to see if you missed something. On top of the boundless things, when we do to get attention jealousy is one of the things women use to get your attention Moving on! I am going to touch on the Pandora effect. The Pandora effect is when you set down a box (idea) on the table and deny the woman to question it. For instance, the phone. The phone is the biggest Pandora box in a relationship, why because we can’t see who you are talking to and men have a way of talking real 007 when they get a call especially from a female. Now that burns us, how? One you answer the phone and then try to James bond us act like we won’t notice the change in your demeanor thus making us feel like you think we are fools. Then, you lecture us about how you don’t want us to answer your phone and how it doesn’t matter who is on the next line which makes us feel that you think you are in full control and we should just accept the bull you dish and that we have no choice! To deny a woman of choice is a Huge mistake. Know this, if you choose to go that way with your woman you are in for a messy battle.
One, we feel whoever is on the other line shouldn’t require a conversation that cannot be heard by everyone else therefore you shouldn’t have to speak softly because god knows you don’t when your boys call. Two, you don’t own us as much as we don’t own you so telling us we can’t do something is crossing personal boundaries and don’t even make it worse by leaving the room. You better be sure to have all the answers to the questions you will be harassed with when you get in. Another Pandora box is “call before you come” this is only a box to those in a relationship because if you are not, then it is expected that you are fucking other people. However, if you are in one then that is a box you best not put on the table. You will only get ignorant responses to that one. Don’t fan the flames we are already suspicious by nature and if you keep fanning the flame of suspicion you are not gonna like the blaze. Basically, boys don’t put the box on the table if you don’t want the hassle. What we all need to understand is that women are interchangeable, what we are with you may not be who we are for someone else. Unfortunately, some women don’t change at all they are who they are. Men always say that all women are the same and woman say the same thing about men now if we were all the same then there would be no point in dating other people right? Why would you think that way and continue to torture yourself with the same old thing? So instead of rating men and women as being the same recognize that we all have base traits but are capable of change and evolving with the right partner. I know men always ask why do women do this why do they do that? Know this boys, when a woman does something that just does not seem to make any sense it is not for you to understand why she did it but believe that it will benefit her in the end. Women have all kinds of agendas we do things that has a purpose and sometimes it is not even for now but for later. I am not saying you should watch your back, more like you should keep it real. One thing a woman can’t do is complain about a man that kept it real. For example, if you were sleeping with other women and she asked you don’t lie just say yes, it is true. Of course, she is going to be mad and yes she will bitch but the bonus to that is, a woman is going to automatically think you are going to lie and believe me they have a plan for your ass the moment you say no especially if they know the truth. So, if you say yes, you totally blow the plan out of the water and now she can’t be as mad as she was planning to before. What is she really going to say really besides the obvious. Now the only thing she can do is either accept it and move on or continue to bitch, in which case there is nothing more you can do
On another note lets talk about women “stealing” men away from other women. First of all, lets just get this straight, men are not property nor are women you cannot steal someone from another person. They have minds of their own and are free to do what they please, so if your man or woman strays from you to another, that is what they please. Now about this battle of wits when a woman pursues another woman’s man this is a test of strength. Not only because she may want him for whatever reason, but to show you that if the situation were different you would loose. I know some women are or appear to not be affected by such a woman who challenges them for their title in her mans life, and even the most confident woman will have a shred of doubt. Because if she didn’t, that would make her a walking fool and that’s what we never want to be. Some women are confident that they can win men over and maybe they can, men fall into this trap too many times and don’t realize that it was a game that was played and now they lost. Once you have given yourself up to the other woman, you are in a different ballgame. She now feels she can control you has rights and the rules now become different. Because now she can argue the famous line all men hear “how do I know you won’t do it to me?” and what can you say guys nothing because you failed to stand your ground with your woman during the battle. And now you are reduced to property, you belong to her and you should prepare for her attitude to change after the celebration is over. As for the woman you left behind, if she is not strong enough to lick her wounds and move on then you have created a problem for another man and now he has to deal with it. Now the trick to dealing with a loss to a battle is not to pine over it too much you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t pine. But just think of all the faults you had to put up with in the sake of love and realize that now someone else has inherited those faults. Not everyone can put up with shit you do and we all know that we have said to our boys/girls “how do you put up with that shit I would bounce for real”. I would say love is blind but it is not love really, it is more a deeper respect and understanding of the person that drives us. Love isn’t enough to hold a relationship and it sure isn’t enough to put up with shit once it has reached your personal limit, so love is not blind but forgiving to a certain extent. Once you have reached the extent, love is no longer a factor and soon another feeling creeps in usually resentment but never hate. Woman have a larger capacity for love than men do it almost seems like we have an infinite amount of it. Men they love but in a different capacity they love with intensity. That’s why when a girl leaves you and she starts seeing someone else you shouldn’t be surprised that she will soon love him, men have a hard time with that because you love so intensely that you just can’t get rid of it so easily and move on to love again. You hold on to it like blanket and hope it will come back. But know a woman will always love again it is in our nature to have endless love for another, don’t look at is as a bad thing but a good thing. If we’re not capable of it a lot of men would live life not knowing what it felt like to be loved and let’s face it we all need to be loved at some time.
For all my Men and Women in the battle field of love, hate, and indifference. May this be some kind of shield against the storm that’s coming. K.M
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