How do you heal..?
Healing tends to happen in its own time. Whatever is entailed, whether it be verbal, like an apology, an appeaseatory gesture of a bunch of flowers, or a medicinal treatment, perhaps a cream or an ointment or a more serious intervention, healing can take a little time. And sometimes even the slightest trigger, like a comment, gesture or physical movement can set the entire healing process back weeks, if not months. When we reflect that there are over 360 physical manifestations of stress, that fact helps us to appreciate how important the mind/body connection is and how healing is about supporting all aspects of ourselves. Becoming more insightful can help us to recognise that if, for example, our headaches inexplicably restart, our sleeping patterns become erratic, our mood or concentration is affected, these symptoms may be indicators that our mental, emotional and physical wellbeing need some attention. - Healing can happen when we learn to say 'stop' or 'no' when we're feeling tired or overwhelmed. By being clear about what's okay for us, protecting ourselves from over-committing, we get to understand ourselves better and become alert to any warning signs of stress and burnout.
- Doing things that we do well can be a great way to heal, especially if we've been through a tough or stressful time and experienced a significant blow to our confidence. Doing things where we feel competent and capable, where maybe others recognise and appreciate our skills, can provide an important boost and heal any negativity and self-doubt. - We may need to heal if an important relationship is going through a tough, fractious time. Being keen to remedy an ongoing rift may mean that one of the parties tries to extend a hand of friendship. But, if such a gesture is not seen as real and sincere it may exacerbate the situation and set any attempt at reconciliation back weeks, if not months.
- Making or receiving an apology can sometimes facilitate the healing
