edition #21
be yourself
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selfie esteem
handmade
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fat is not a feeling
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Love Yo'self
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Bacon zucchini rolls
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FATHERHOOD: How a Dad Can Help Build His Daughter’s Sense of Identity
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printable: peppa pig & pj masks colouring sheets
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leadership: How to Better Equip Our Children For Adult Life
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from the editor Dear Kids Nation readers, Happy New Year, Valentine's day and Lunar New Year! This is our first edition in 2018 and we are doing things a bit differently this year. We have added fun and inspirational comic strips to help younger readers enjoy reading Kids Nation even more. Moreover, Kids Nation is now a quarterly magazine, which means that you can read our new edition every three months. Make sure that you subscribe to Kids Nation here, so you won’t miss out.
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In this edition, we want to inspire you to be yourself. I love Bigweld’s quote from Robots movie “You can shine no matter what you're made of.” Every person is special and matters. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. So be yourself and shine wherever you go.
xo, Mia
INSPIRE KIDS TO NAVIGATE A BRAND NEW WORLD “Marching Off the Map is the much-needed road map for the educators, parents, coaches, and youth leaders interested in guiding today’s students.”
“Tim Elmore understands today’s student and this book, Marching Off the Map, is a compass for those of us to lead them. It is a must read for anyone who cares about the future.”
- Dr. Jean Twenge, Professor of Psychology and Author of iGen
- Dr. John Maxwell, Best-selling Author and Founder of The John Maxwell Company
Marching Off the Map, by Tim Elmore and Andrew McPeak, is a pioneering resource that directly addresses the challenges of leading kids in today’s world. The book acts as your compass on this new journey by providing proven research, real-world methods, and practical wisdom that equips us to: • Inspire our kids to “own” their education and their future. • Lead the next generation from an attitude of apathy to one of passion through metacognition. • Give our kids the tools to handle the complexities of an ever-changing world. • Raise children who make healthy progress, both emotionally and intellectually, through their teenage years. This remarkable generation can accomplish great things, but we need to guide them. It’s up to us to boldly go Marching Off the Map . . . the future of our children depends on it. Get Your Copy Now! To Order, Visit MarchingOff TheMap.com
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this edition’s contributors:
MIA SETYAWAN AUSTRALIA EDITOR & FOUNDER of KIDS NATION MAG kidsnationmag.com Mia is a mother of two boys and owns an award winning graphic design studio in Australia. She is passionate about imparting positive values to the next generation. Mia has been a volunteer at a local children program for over 10 years.
Desi Trisnawati INDONESIA food artist & chef consultant inspirational-chef. com Desi is the winner of Masterchef Indonesia 2012 and the first female Masterchef Indonesia. She is the author of 20 Fun Recipes of Strong Heart and creator of the Indonesia's first culinary board game Cooking with Inspirational Chef Desi.
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Tim Elmore usa founder & president of growing leaders growingleaders.com Tim is an international speaker, founder and president of Growing Leaders, an organization equipping today's young people to become the leaders of tomorrow. He is bestselling author of more than 30 books, including Generation iY: Our Last Chance to Save Their Future and the Habitudes® series.
Dr. Michelle Watson usa Author & Founder The Abba Project drmichellewatson. com Michelle is a national speaker, counselor of 20 years, author and founder of The Abba Project, a ministry to dads with daughters in their teens and 20s. In 2014 she released her first book. She also hosts a weekly radio program "The Dad Whisperer" in Portland.
this edition’s contributors:
Lee Wolfe Blum usa author, speaker & coach leewolfeblum.com Lee Wolfe Blum is a National Speaker, Author and Mental Health Practitioner working in the field of eating disorders and substance abuse. She has been featured in numerous publications such as The Huffington Post and Christianity Today.
Kids Nation is a free digital magazine, dedicated to empowering kids around the world. It is published by MOS Design Creative (http://mosdesign.com.au).
sarah stump usa speaker & creator imperfectly sarah sarahstump.com Sarah was born missing her left arm. She is a motivational speaker and is highly involved in the Miss America Organization. Sarah created and believes in her platform of Imperfectly Sarah, that everyone is created beautiful in their own way.
origami: Timothy Horasio (Australia)
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selfie-esteem words: Tim elmore | artwork: mia setyawan
as a teen, sometimes we draw so much of our sense of identity from social media.
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One minute, we’re on top of the world, ... thanks to all the likes we got on instagram!
The next minute, we plummet due to people’s reactions to the same post.
we compare ourselves to the best and brightest on social media.
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... but do you know that we don't need to compare because all of us have strengths.
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So start finding your own gifts, strengths and talents ...
... and use them to serve people and solve problems. Then watch your self-esteem grow.
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Love Yo'self
words: sarah stump | artwork: mia setyawan
Friends, if there is one thing I want you to know, it is ...
love yourself!
Learn to love your dimples, freckles, moles, scars, messy hair, ...
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... one arm, one leg. learn to love you!
"Stop focusing on the negatives ...
... and start seeing the things you love."
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"Your flaws, your differences and your quirks make you
unique."
"Your difference doesn’t define you, it is a part of your story."
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handmade
bracelet: wyoming creative (usa) sweatshirt: b. children's wear (usa) rag dolls: tata dolls (israel) mug: dylan kendall home (usa)
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fat is not a feeling words: lee Wolfe blum | artwork: mia setyawan
fat is not a feeling. It isn't. there isn't even an emoticon for it.
You sit at the lunch table and you look at him or her and then you look at yourself.
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She looks so cute and thin. He is so athletic and strong.
And then somewhere you deduce that you don't measure up. And then you say those words ...
“I am fat.”
I did that too. Most of my life. Never feeling good enough always comparing. and it led me nowhere.
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Because fat is not a feeling and food is just fuel. It isn't an emotion. It can't make you good or bad. Nor can your weight or how you look.
— Comparing only leads to despairing.
So if fat is not a feeling then what are you really feeling? lonely?
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jealous?
nervous?
Those feelings are emotions your body holds. Your body is yours to celebrate and your emotions yours to express. There is only one you. Let go of the words, “I feel fat” and ...
Go and be the YOU you were meant to be! The world needs you!
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photo: desi trisnawati
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Bacon zucchini rolls words: desi trisnawati | artwork: mia setyawan
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1 zucchini, thinly sliced lengthways 10 slices back bacon / rashers Parmesan cheese Pepper
INGREDIENTS:
1. Thinly slice zucchini with a slicer or vegetable peeler.
2. Cook bacon until golden. Put aside.
Notes: You may use raw zucchini (as above) or grilled.
3. Place zucchini slices on a tray. Top with parmesan and bacon. Season with pepper.
Pepper Bacon
4. Roll up tightly. Secure with a toothpick.
Parmesan Z ucchini slice
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photo: RMT
fatherhood
How a Dad Can Help Build His Daughter’s Sense of Identity BY: dr. michelle watson
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When it comes to fathers knowing how to strengthen their daughter’s identity, this tends to be a confusing task for dads. So let’s break it down.
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ur identity is more than our DNA, thumb print, or signature. It’s about all the things that are unique to us — our name, personality, and character qualities that make us one of a kind. In other words, our identity is our WHO. Oftentimes when I ask girls about WHO they are, they give me a list of what they DO ... cheerleader, athlete, musician, artist. You get the point. I then like to follow up by asking: Do you see that those are things about what you DO? That’s when I like to add: Your WHO is not your DO ... but your DO reflects your WHO! Dad, it’s important to know that your daughter is constantly being bombarded with pressure to DO that which is popular. But what happens in the process of adapting to her envirionment is often blending in and losing her uniqueness, disconnecting from her amazing, authentic, adorable self (her WHO).
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If you want to help build your daughter’s sense of identity — her WHO — then here’s the ABC’s of what she needs from you: 1. Ask her questions. Girls figure themselves out by talking, so by drawing her out she will better understand herself.
“What was the super/pooper part of your day?” “What courageous thing did you do today?” “What did you learn about yourself today?” “Where were you the most proud of yourself today? 2. Build her up. Every single day she needs to hear at least one thing you love about WHO she is, not just what she does. She will internalize your view of her. “You’re so creative…clever…helpful.” “I’m so thankful God chose me to be your Dad.” “ 3. Carve out time for her. When you choose to spend time with your daughter, not only is it one of the greatest gifts you can give her, but it makes a powerful statement to her about her worth and value.
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The research confirms that daughters with invested, dialed-in dads experience greater self esteem, which simply boils down to this: If you want to raise a confident, empowered daughter who stands strong in her WHO, then what you want to DO is invest time in building her up and asking questions to help her understand herself better … with you leading the way!
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leadership
The Need of the Hour: How to Better Equip Our Children For Adult Life BY: tim elmore
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In a day where so many changes are taking place, many parents are asking the following questions: How do I best lead my child? How do I navigate video games, tablets, smart phones? How do I get them ready for the day they move away from home?
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e thought we’d pose these and other questions in a survey. In June of 2017, our organization, Growing Leaders, collaborated with Harris Poll to conduct a nationwide survey, which explored how different generations prepared for adult life. Some of the results were quite eye opening: • 70% of U.S. adults say children growing up today will not be ready for adult life (i.e., life after graduation from school). • 2 in 3 U.S. adults (66%) say that when they were in their teens, they had an older adult (other than a parent) who positively impacted their life. So, let’s interpret what these numbers seem to be telling us. First, while all generations agree that we need adult mentors to help us prepare for life and leadership, the youngest generation surveyed said they learn more from technology than they do from people. So, seasoned veterans either need to:
"the youngest generation said they learn more from technology than they do from people." — tim elmore
a. Find a way to connect with the younger generation online and invest in them via a screen since it is their natural habitat. In this option, we discover ways to redeem social media for constructive purposes. b. Encourage them to meet face to face, believing some skills or qualities are better cultivated that way than on a screen. Hence, we give them what they need not necessarily what they want.
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If we believe there are soft skills (employability skills) that cannot be genuinely learned and practiced on a screen, we must engage our young people in meaningful conversation and experiences that convince them of this as well. This means, we have to be more than “talking heads” downloading information to kids. We must create environments that magnetically attract the young and coach them. While 7 in 10 Millennials say they have an adult in their life, screen time prevails, and they don’t feel ready for the leap from backpack to briefcase.
Three Ideas You Can Use The findings indicate to me that the need of the hour is face-to-face mentors. Real-life experiences, not virtual ones. Genuine relationships, not social media connections. Authentic conversations full of transparency and trust, not tweets or Snapchat videos condensed to a few sentences. We need depth not breadth. So let me offer three simple ideas parents can apply today with their kids.
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1. Don’t let a screen be a one-eyed babysitter. Far too often, American parents have allowed a tablet, TV, computer or phone to become the babysitter, freeing them up to do other things. While I recognize how convenient this is, our organization has now identified how troubling this is to let a device take over the work of leadership in our homes. Employers of teenagers tell us their job candidates are often good on a screen but poor face to face. According to Pew Research Center, the average teen puts technology in the same category as air and water. Facebook now plans to release a social media app targeted at younger children. Our survey reveals this is unhelpful to prepare them for life beyond school. Emory Professor and author Mark Bauerlein recently said something that may explain a phenomenon in America today: “Students spend less discretionary time with adults than in past generations. They have never been so present with each other (on-line) than they are today.”
2. Spend time actually talking about the future.
3. Do tasks together that will equip them to be self-sufficient.
Without scaring them too early, what if you scheduled a mommy or daddy date, and talked about the kinds of characteristics they’ll want to develop as they move into adolescence or even adulthood?
In times past, one chief element that prepared students to move from graduation to career was the time they spent with adults who, in many ways, apprenticed them for adulthood. This would include educators, family members, coaches and employers. Our survey indicates many Americans wonder if that’s working anymore.
In my home, we even created a “rite of passage” experience where my daughter met with six women that were one-day mentors for her throughout her thirteenth year. My son and I met with four other dads and we introduced them to coaches, businesspeople, military officers, pastors and others who joined the conversation about how to get ready for the future. Our young people don’t need us for information but for interpretation. Adults must find a way to pass on timeless values and principles our young will need regardless of the complex world in which they live.
When I was a kid, almost everything my parents did was for the purpose of preparing me for autonomy. Why not include specific trips or activities that are designed to equip your children to be self-sufficient? When they’re ready, what if you introduced them to an employer who shared what they look for in a young team member? What if you had your children host a party, navigate a road trip, plan a budget or do some other project where they develop timeless skills they’ll need as teens and as adults?
My question is: if adults don’t think kids will be ready for adult life when it’s time, whose fault is that? I believe too many parents are doing a far better job protecting than preparing. Let’s get this right and equip our children for life.
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peppa pig & PJ masks colouring sheetS by: entertainment one
check out these upcoming dvds releases: Peppa Pig: Gerald Giraffe PJ Masks: Let's Go on april 5, 2018
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