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Contents Features 27

Adoption: The Gift That Keeps Giving

Top Trending Toys This Christmas

Guide to Planning for University

Momables: Ideas for Healthy Lunches

Pregnancy

Tweens & Teens

43 What It Takes To Be An Entrepreneur

Avoiding Premature Birth

1 in 12 pregnancies in Bermuda will result in a premature birth. Learn how to lower your risk.

Birth

18 Birthing Twins

Melissa and Oren Smith share their experience of birthing twins with us.

Baby

Coping with Sleep Deprivation

Glean some great tips on how to deal with being sleep deprived.

Little Ones

That’s How The Cookie Crumbles

Did you know that cookies were an unintentional creation? Plus a sugar cookie recipe to have fun with over the holidays.

Big Kids

Set your kids up for success by giving them an entrepreneurial spirit.

47 School Involvement Beyond the Report Card

Ways you can stay informed with your kids’ education

Health & Wellness

How To Get Your Kids Off Sugar

Here is 3 steps to getting them unaddicted.

Getting the Most Out of Your Relationships

A guide to developing happiness and joy in our relationships.

Adoption: The Gift That Keeps Giving Part 2

The O’Shaughnessy’s journey.

Tips for Electricity Savings

Christmas Gifts on a Budget

Dad’s Corner

Childhood Obesity

One dad found wisdom in giving his kids guidelines upfront.

10 ways to save money during Christmas. Try these tips toward a healthier lifestyle.

38 Is a Pet for Christmas a Good Idea?

Here are some ideas to think about before bringing home a pet.

On the Cover

Tracey Neale, Emebet Nigella and Eyasu Nigel Photography by Lana Bull

Wrestling vs. Parenting

The Modern Father

A reflection on the changing roles of fatherhood from a dad’s perspective.

In Every Issue 11

Birthdays

Bermuda Parent Families

62 Rising Stars 64 BPM Kids Parent Directory

editor’s note

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his winter don’t let your schedule of festive cheer leave your Christmas in a blur of activities. Slow PUBLISHER & EDITOR down, enjoy the Christmas spirit around the island Katrina Ball – the decorations and Christmas lights that seem to Busin ess Co nsulta n t revive our houses; the pantomime’s and cantata’s Vic Ball Adv ertisin g S ales that stir our souls; revel in the gorgeous lights strung Wanda Brown throughout the City of Hamilton. Watch (or remiwanda0211@logic.bm 333-1925 nisce) of how excited your children get when they see Shawnette Smith the transformation the Christmas lights bring. Enjoy s-smith1980@live.com the simple things, build memories and traditions that will last a lifetime. desig n & production This time of year makes me reflective of Bermuda Parent’s tremenPicante Creative BELCO 2013 Energy Efficiency Bda Parent Fall Ad 8.5 x 11:BELCO Energy Efficiency Guide 7/8/13 10:12 AM Page 1 dous growth, as we approach our three-year anniversary. This all started W riters & Co n tributors Robyn Bardgett, Mikaela Ian Pearwith a spark of an idea, while out shopping one day with my man, Oxford Learning, Alicia Resnik, 6 month old, wishing there was something that I could use Taja Scott, Oxford learning, Quincy Burgess, David Minors, Bermuda as a resource that was specific to our island home. This Hospital Board, Jeff Brown, Nichi Find the right setting Pull the plug to save motivated me to startDon’tthe magazine, website, facebook make your fridge too cold and always Even when electronics are turned off, Hirsch Kuechle, Saadia Bean, BELCO, use the energy-saver setting. Maintain they still use energy in standby mode, drawing according to manufacturer’s instructions. “phantom load”. Put electronics on power strips and turn off Lynniece Nisbett-Garnett page and ParentIfLife TV (Youtube Channel). I want you have a fridge or freezer that is not fully used, the strips. Turn off lights and TVs when you leave rooms. unplug it or dispose of it. When you travel, unplug everything possible at home. Con tributin g Photog r apher S to Thank You, Bermuda Parent Readers for your supLana Bull, Jessii Terra, Sacha Control your Switch to CFLs and LEDs port and encouragement! Blackburne A big energy saver is the small bulb. Switch to water heaters light-emitting diode (LED) or compact This issue, carefully we’ve tried to lend you Bermuda Parent Magazine is published Water heaters use a lot fluorescent lightbulbs four times a year. Reader corresponof electricity. Setting them (CFLs). They last a long time our hand by pointing you in the right no higher than 120° F, or and suit most applications. dence, photo submissions and editorial according to manufacturer’s direction for your holiday instructions,shopping will save money Put the pieces submissions are welcome. We reserve Look for the and be ample for your the right to edit, reject or comment dishwasher, washing machine appliance smallest (see page 30) as well as some great advice on and shower. When travelling, together to save Microwave ovens cook editorially on all material contributed. unplug your home food quickly and with No portion of this magazine may be budgeting during the holidays (see page 34) and water heater. relatively little energy, money and energy. Toaster reproduced without express written ovens use less how to save on your electric bill during the holiPut timers consent of the publisher. The opinions energy than everywhere the environment. full-size ovens expressed by contributors or writers do days (see page 54), so that you can fully particiTimers on water and produce heaters can save less heat. Use lids not necessarily reflect the opinions of hundreds of dollars pate in the festive cheer. with pots and pans to this magazine. Distribution of this proda year. Timers also keep heat in, and use the save energy when smallest pot and burner. uct does not constitute an endorsement The holiday’s is all about gathering with family used with other appliances, p.efficiently of the products or services herein. lighting and electronic items. Use appliances and friends, so don’t be afraid to lean on them a little, too. Use dishwashers, washing machines and Get the AC Co n tact Us only when they are full, and use the Don’t forget to return the favourto–fitgiving a friend a few free dryers hours of shortest, coolest or most energy-efficient settings. your bill info@bermudaparentmagazine.com conditioning can make energy babysitting or a sympathetic ear Air may be one of the best gifts Choose they get. bills soar. Turning the AC on when you “Energy Star” Photo by Jessii Terra

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CELEBRATE YOUR CHILD’S BIRTHDAY! Amelia Bryant February 12

Happy Birthday Amelia! Hope you have a wonderful day. Lots of love. Isla Aaron Fox

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Happy 6th Birthday Sweet Pea! We love you and are very proud of you! Love Silas, Mommy & Daddy xox

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Happy 6th Birthday! You are an amazing little girl! Love, Mom, Dad and baby brother Winston

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“You don’t even know how much you mean to me. Your smile, your little giggles just makes me so happy. You’re a scene stealer and a shinning star, you have brought alot for Joy into my life. Today, you are 1 and it’s a special day, Happy Birthday Eli, we celebrate amazing little you!” Love Mom and Family

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Happy 1st Birthday! We love you so much! Love, Mommy and Daddy

Hayley Bryant February 9

Happy Birthday Hayley! Hope you have a great day. Lots of love. Chloe xxx

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Happy Happy Birthday from mommy,daddy and Ja’Miyah

Emma Vicente February 18

Happy Birthday to my beautiful daughter! Love, mommy & daddy

Hope Robinson December 13

Happy 1st birthday Hope from your Dad and Mom we love you dearly

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“Happy Birthday Zi! Love from Aunty Stacey and Marlee.

Happy birthday with love from mommy, daddy and baby brother Jason

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pregnancy

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Premature Birth

very expectant parent anticipates a safe delivery and a healthy newborn. While the vast majority of births do

go well, there are times when a pregnancy does not turn out as planned. In Bermuda, about one in twelve pregnancies, or around 8%, will result in a premature birth, which is defined as a baby born at least three weeks before its due date. While important growth and development occurs throughout pregnancy, the final months and weeks are especially relevant. The earlier a baby is born, the more severe his or her health problems are likely to be. Although babies born very preterm are a small percentage of all births, these infants account for a large proportion of heath concerns. Some premature babies require special care and spend weeks or months in the Special Care Baby Unit at King Edward VII Memorial Hospital. Most of these babies will do well, although some babies born quite early may face breathing and respiratory difficulties, visual problems, hearing loss or feeding and digestive problems. Even if a woman does everything “right” during pregnancy, she can still have a premature baby. There are some known risk factors for premature birth, such as having a previous preterm birth. Additionally, although most black women give birth at term, on average, black women in the USA are about 50% more likely to have a premature baby compared to white women in the USA. The reasons for this difference remain unknown. 14

Other known risk factors for prematurity are: Carrying more than one baby (twins, triplets, or more) • Problems with the uterus or cervix • Chronic health problems in the mother, such as high blood pressure, diabetes and clotting disorders • Certain infections during pregnancy • Cigarette smoking, alcohol use, or illicit drug use during pregnancy Doctors sometimes need to deliver a baby early because of concerns for the health of the mother or the baby. If a pregnant woman is healthy and the pregnancy is progressing well, it is best to let the baby come naturally, in its own time. Although most babies born just a few weeks early do well and have no health issues, others may need extra care as the result of jaundice or breathing problems. There are things women can do to improve their health, lower their risk of having a premature baby and help their baby be healthy. It is very important for •

It is very women to quit smoking and avoid alcohol or drugs important during their pregnancy. Expectant mothers should for women also visit a healthcare provider for regular medical checkups before and during their pregnancy. to quit If you suffer from high blood pressure or diabesmoking tes, make sure you discuss this with your physician and ask how best to control this throughout your and avoid pregnancy. Also make sure you are eating a healthy alcohol or diet and taking the prenatal vitamins your physician recommends. It is important to take 400 micrograms drugs of folic acid daily before and during early pregnancy. during their Although preterm labor often begins unexpregnancy. pectedly, you should consult with your physician if you are experiencing symptoms - your doctor may be able to help you and your baby. Warning signs include contractions, where the abdomen tightens like a fist every ten minutes or more often. Any unusual vaginal discharge or bleeding should be reported to your physician immediately. Let your doctor know, as well, if you are feeling pelvic pressure, like the baby is pushing down or if you are

experiencing a low, dull backache. Cramping that feels like a menstrual period is another warning sign, as are abdominal cramps, with or without diarrhea. If you are showing signs of a premature delivery, your physician may prescribe medications to try to stop labour. In addition, you may be given steroids to help cells in your baby’s lung to mature, which in turn will prevent breathing problems. You may also want to discuss breastfeeding with your healthcare provider. Breast milk is the best food for babies, whether they are born early or at term. Attending breastfeeding support meetings during your pregnancy will prepare you for getting off to a good start and avoiding difficulties. Birth is a complex and wonderful process. Fortunately, the outcome for most women is a full term, healthy baby. Taking good care of yourself, avoiding cigarettes, alcohol and drugs and having regular check-ups with a healthcare provider before and during your pregnancy gives you and your baby the best chance for a positive outcome.

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Dogs and Horses on Public Beaches

The Department of Parks is informing the general public that as of the 1st November 2013, the 1988 Bermuda National Park Regulations have changed regarding dogs and horses on the public beaches, under the jurisdiction of the 1986 Bermuda National Parks Act.

Notice

Dogs are permitted to be on the public beaches until the 31st March 2014.

Dogs and Horses on Public Beaches The dogs must be on a leash at all times.

During this period until the 30th April 2013 horses are NOT permitted on the following beaches at any time:

1. John Smith’s Bay Park

The Department of Parks is informing the general public 2. Elbow Beach Park that as of the 1st November 2012, the 1988 Bermuda 3. Horseshoe Bay Beach ( South Shore Park )dogs National Park Regulations have changed regarding Thehorses cooperation dog kennel operators, owners of and on theofpublic beaches, underand the the jurisdiction in abiding by theNational regulations, is greatly ofdogs, the 1986 Bermuda Parks Act. appreciated. Dogs are permitted to be on the public beaches until the 31st March 2013. The dogs must be on a leash at all times. During this period until the 30th April 2013 horses are NOT permitted on the following beaches at any time: 1.

John Smith’s Bay Park

Elbow Beach Park

Horseshoe Bay Beach ( South Shore Park )

The cooperation of dog kennel operators, and the owners of dogs, in abiding by the regulations, is greatly appreciated.

Bermuda National Park Regulations 1988 6.Bermuda No person shall, being the owner of,or in control of, a dog – National Park Regulations 1988

Bermuda National Park Regulations 1988

Special provision

1. (1) Subject to paragraph (2), no person shall, in any protected area relating to horses. (a) take a horse other than on designated roadways or trails; (b) ride a horse in a manner likely to cause danger to any person therein;

Bermuda National Park Regulations 1988

(c) ride a horse at a speed greater than fifteen kilometers per hour; 1. (1) Subject to paragraph (2), no person shall, in any (d) being inprotected control ofarea a horse leave the horse unattended when it is not properly tied to some suitable object, other than a tree or shrub; (a) take a horse other than on designated roadways or trails; (e) lead from horse-back a riderless horse which is not appropriately bridled;(b) ride a horse in a manner likely to cause danger to any person therein; (f ) lunge or break in any horse; (c) ride a horse at a speed greater than fifteen kilometers (g) ride a horse in excess of a slow walk when passing in the vicinity per hour; of other members of the public using the area. (d) being in control of a horse leave the horse unattended when it is not properly tied to some suitable object, other than a BERMUDA NATIONAL PARKS AMENDMENT REGULATIONS 1994 tree or shrub; In exercise of the powers conferred upon the Minister by section 25 (e) lead from horse-back riderless which is not of the Bermuda National parks Acta 1986, thehorse following regulations appropriately bridled; are hereby made: (f) lunge or break in any horse; Amendment of BR 49/1988

(g) ride a horse 5 (2) During the periodin– excess of a slow walk when passing in the vicinity of other members of the public using the area. (a) 1st November to 30th April in any year no person shall take BERMUDA PARKS AMENDMENT REGULATIONS area; or on to any public beach in a protected area during or ride NATIONAL a horse on Horseshoe Bay, John Smith’s Bay and 1994 (b)protected bring such dog Elbow Beach but may take or ride a horse on all other public the period from the 1st April to the 31st October in any year; or In exercise of the powers conferred upon the Minister by section (b) bring such dog on to any public beach in a protected area during beaches below theNational high water mark at any time; 25 of the Bermuda parks Act 1986, the following regulations the period from the 1st April to the 31st October in any year; or (c) subject to paragraph (b), bring such dog on to any protected area are May hereby (b) 1st tomade: 31st October in any year no person shall take a leash greater than threesuch meters length, (c)using subject to paragraph (b), bring doginon to anyor protected area or ride a horse on Horseshoe Bay, Johns Smith’s Bay, Elbow Amendment of BR 49/1988 a leash greater thansuch threedog meters in length, or (d)using cause, permit or suffer to annoy or disturb any person Beach and Shelly Bay but may take or ride a horse on all 5 (2) During the period – any protected (d)incause, permit orarea. suffer such dog to annoy or disturb any person in other public beaches below the high water mark between any protected area. 1st November 30th April in any year no person shall the(a) hours or 5:00 a.m.toand 8:00 a.m. Also by signs and notice: No dogs in the Main Show Ring at Botanical take or ride a horse on Horseshoe Bay, John Smith’s Also by signs anddogs notice: dogs inIsland the Main Show Ring at BotanGardens and no in No Coopers Nature Reserve. The cooperation of horse stable operators, and the owners of horses, Bay and Elbow Beach but may take or ride a horse on ical Gardens and no dogs in Coopers Island Nature Reserve. in abiding by the regulations, is greatly appreciated. all other public beaches below the high water mark at any time;

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BY ROBYN BARDGETT

Birthing

Twins Being pregnant with twins could be a daunting experience, but knowing early on in the pregnancy that they were expecting multiplies helped

Photo by Lana Bull

Melissa and Oren Smith prepare for their sons’ arrival. “We had a feeling that we were going to have twins so finding out was not much of a surprise as it runs in both our families,” says Melissa, whose twin boys – Zayden and Toren – were born on September 6. “Mentally, we just took it one day at a time and lived our lives as we did before. Once I started to show around the fourth month, that’s when we started to prepare mentally. Knowing that you are going to have twins early in pregnancy gives you time to adjust and prepare.” While the couple prepared they tried to avoid any “friendly” advice that other people feel necessary to dole out to unsuspecting pregnant women. “I did not tell many people that I was having twins because I didn’t want any advice, personal experiences or constant questions about what it was like,” says Melissa. “People gave me advice when I asked and respected my wishes on not being bombarded with advice when I didn’t want it. 18

“In the back of my mind I was always worried about complications since I was a high risk pregnancy and I wanted to keep my mind focused on other things.” One of the hardest parts of Melissa’s pregnancy came later on when she had to slow down due to her size. As a personal trainer, the 27-year-old found the physical restraints hard to adjust to. “Physically was the biggest adjustment,” Melissa explains. “With my job and being active, slowing down was very challenging. If you ask anyone, I like to keep busy. Thankfully my clients were understanding and it made my job easier knowing that they were willing to adjust as well. It was hard not to be more hands-on and at time it was frustrating just sitting while my clients trained because

it felt like I was not giving my 100 percent, but I had to keep reminding myself that I was carrying twins and it was okay to take it easy and that my clients understood my limitations. One of the benefits of slowing down during her pregnancy was how it prepared her for relying on help while she recovered from a c-section. Melissa had a scheduled c-section at 37 weeks. While she was able to prepare mentally for the date of the twins’ birth, when the day came and she was wheeled into the operating room it all became very surreal. “Once in the operating room, it was very busy,” Melissa remembers. “There were people constantly coming in and out preparing the room and I

could see them getting an area ready for the boys. As it got closer to 8am my doctor came in which was relief to see a familiar face and then they started to get me ready. She told me that she saw Oren in a chair [outside of the operating room] and he looked nervous and that made me feel better because I felt the same way. “They first gave me the epidural and that was the most frightening experience for myself because of the risks. Luckily my doctor was there to hold my head down and she kept me calm. From there everything went by really fast. I felt my body go numb instantly and that was another nerve wrecking experience. Not being able to control your body and being alert to see it was not a good feeling. “Before I knew it the sheet went up so I couldn’t see anything and Oren came in the room just in time because I was starting to lose my mind. I had the feeling of wanting to vomit and I was not breathing like I should have because the time was near and I couldn’t go back from having the c-section, I was going to get cut open and not knowing if the procedure was going to go well or not was heavily on my mind. Once Oren told me to breathe and he held my head Zayden was born and shortly after Toren was born. Hearing the cries was the best feeling in the world.” The boys were born without complications and the new family of four was discharged from the hospital four days after the birth. Getting home with the twins was an easy transition as the couple made sure to prepare for the boys’ arrival. “For the most part, it doesn’t feel like much has changed other than we are always busy doing something,” says Melissa about the past few weeks at home with the twins. “We were ready for the new additions to the family and how it would change what we used to do. Other than the lack of sleep and it taking much longer to do the basics for myself – to eat, shower, etc – they have fit right in.

“It still feels unreal at times – maybe because I am sleep deprived – but I have to keep telling myself to enjoy it as I will never get this stage back. As the days go on and we get to know our sons more, the days become a lot easier to manage. With that the enjoyment of parenthood

is more prevalent than the frustration of being sleepless and not knowing what to do. It has not become easier always being busy but having a better understanding on what our sons want and how to manage our time throughout the day has [become easier].”

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Coping with

Sleep Deprivation Let’s just get the bad news out of the way first: sleep will forever change once you have a baby. Managing infant sleep is important to getting a good night’s sleep ourselves, but it is often a bit of trial and error.

ccording to the La Leche League, infant sleep is different from the way we sleep as adults and is a developmental process that changes over time. So it is completely normal that most newborns will sleep a lot but in shorter two to three hour bursts both day and night. And while they start to normalise their circadian rhythm (the way we differentiate between day and night) it can make nighttime sleep seem elusive. It makes sense considering the fact that most babies in utero sleep during the day – when mothers are moving around rocking their babies to sleep – and tend to be awake at night when we lay down – think about all the little kicks a mother gets when they’re trying to sleep! Not only that, but while we are pregnant our baby is completely taken care of in terms of nutrients by way of the umbilical cord. Once that connection is taken away they are reliant on their parents to give them food. So it’s no wonder that it can take some time before what we consider to be normal sleep begins to take shape. During those long exhausting nights of a waking baby there are some good ways to help cope. It’s not perfect, but gaining a bit of perspective and realising that it won’t last forever can help get through those nights of broken sleep. 22

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that babies are kept close during the first couple of months. Not only has it shown to lower the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) but this can also make things easier for a nursing mother. Whether in a bassinet, pack and play (some have bassinet features and are great for future use), a cosleeper or, if you’re comfortable with the idea, having your baby sleep in bed with you. But it’s important to come up with a sleeping arrangement that is comfortable and safe for the entire family. It certainly won’t look like eight hours of deep sleep, but it means less moving around during the groggy early hours of the morning. If you’re baby has transitioned to an expressed bottle of milk or you’re formula feeding, it’s a good idea to work out a schedule of who is on duty so feeding can be shared between you and your partner. This does mean sleeping in separate rooms but can help get a few chunks of nighttime sleep. Once you have sleeping arrangements figured out at night, coping with lack of sleep during the day is also

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important. Nothing can replace a good night’s sleep, so it is about doing things to just get through the day. While day time sleep may also be sporadic for your little one early on, or whether you’ve returned to work after maternity leave, during the day is an opportunity to have some me-time. It can be difficult to turn off when there is so much to do, but in those early days it really is important – whether it’s taking a nap, having a shower or just spending a few quiet minutes alone to read or meditate. You may have to live with the fact that you have a messy house for a few months, but even just setting aside 15 minutes a day can help keep on top of chores and still give you some time to yourself. If you’re being offered help, this is a good time to accept it. Let someone else keep an ear out for when the baby cries so you really can have some time to yourself without worrying about every whimper. And if you’re back at work, try and take some time out for yourself where you can, whether it’s taking a walk at lunch or getting your nails done for a bit of luxury during the day. Eating healthily and staying away from heavy meals during the day can also help keep

those afternoon slumps at bay. And, of course, the old stand-by of caffeinated beverages can help give a boost. Just be aware of the amount of caffeine you drink if you’re breastfeeding and try having a big glass of cold water when you feel yourself lagging if you’re off the caffeine. While it may not directly help with sleep deprivation in the early days, setting the scene for later good sleep habits is key to getting a good night’s sleep in the future. Establishing a routine from the get-go is a great way to begin teaching your little one when it’s time for bed. This can come in the form of bath time, putting on pajamas, reading a book, nursing, and rocking or singing to sleep in whatever order makes sense for your family. These nighttime routines can be relaxing ways to close out the day and bring some predictability and consistency to help your child settle down for a good night’s sleep. It will all seem very rudimentary at first – the bath may happen in the sink and you may not get through the entire book – but the pattern will set the scene for bed time and eventually your child will get into a sleep pattern closer to your own.

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BY ALICIA RESNIK

That’s How The

Cookie Crumbles!

Do you like cookies? Chocolate chip or peanut-butter? Oatmeal-raisin or a Snickerdoodle? I bet you’d be surprised to learn that cookies were an unintentional creation!

he first cookie-type treat dates back to 7th century Persia (now called Iran). Persia was one of the first countries to cultivate sugar and it quickly became a common ingredient in Medieval Arabian cuisine. Arabian cooks made small sugar cakes and pastries that they flavored with nuts and spices. The use of sugar in cooking spread to Europe in three ways – along with the Moors when they invaded Spain in 711, then with the Crusades, and with the emerging Spice Trade. During the Middle Ages (from the 5th to the 15th century) European cooks were using sugar in their cake recipes. To test the temperature of their stoves, cooks dropped spoonfuls of cake batter on their stove tops. If the batter cooked, the oven was hot enough for baking. Cooks called these little cake batter tests koekje (pronounced cooky, and meaning little cake in Dutch). The cookie was created!

By the 14th century people all over Europe were enjoying sweet handheld treats. Cookies were delicious! They were durable and travelled well. They were even brought aboard the Mayflower when it sailed from England to America in 1620. In fact, sailors favored a type of cookie called hard-tack because it was portable and stayed fresh for long periods of time. Hard-tack could last on voyages of months and even years! English, Scotch and Dutch immigrants are credited with introducing cookies to America. These early cookies had funny names like gemmels, plunkets, cry-babies and jumbles. The first jumble cookie was just that – a mixture of ingredients that cooks had on hand such as flour, sugar, vanilla, butter, eggs and nuts. They flavored them with aniseed, coriander, caraway seeds, rosewater, cloves, mace and even saffron. Like hard-tack, these early cookies were dense and hard. They could last for almost a year without getting stale! Early cooks shaped these jumbles into rings and knots to make them easy to carry, break and eat. By the 18th century, jumbles were rolled cookies that were baked. These treats closely resemble a popular cookie today – the sugar cookie.

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Just in time for your lunchbox, here are directions to make your own jumble sugar cookies.

You will need: 1 cup of granulated sugar 1 cup of butter, or margarine, that’s soft but not melted (gently press your fingertip into the butter. If the impression remains, the butter is ready to use) 1 teaspoon of vanilla 1 egg (at room temperature) 2 1/3 cups of flour ½ teaspoon of baking soda 1 cup of jumbled nuts, raisins and chocolate chips •

With the help of an adult pre-heat the oven to 375 degrees Fahrenheit.

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In a large bowl beat the butter and sugar together until it’s light and fluffy.

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Mix in the egg and the vanilla.

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Mix in the flour and baking soda. Then stir in the mixture of nuts, raisins and chocolate chips.

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Use a small ice-cream scoop, or a melonballer, and shape the cookie dough into 1 inch balls. Put the balls, 2 inches apart, on ungreased cookie sheets (line the cookie sheets with foil or parchment paper). Flatten them with a fork dipped into granulated sugar.

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Bake them for 10-12 minutes. Let the cookies cool for a minute on the cookie sheets and then place them on a baking rack to finish cooling.

This recipe should make about 2 ½ dozen delicious cookies.

More fun cookie

facts:

In England and Australia cookies are called biscuits. In Italy they are called biscotti or amaretti. In Germany cookies are keks and in Spain they are called galletas. In Scotland a cookie refers to a plain bun. In South Africa, if you ask for a cookie you’ll get a cupcake! Cookies, by any name or type, are a delicious historical treat. Go ahead – have a cookie!

Adoption:

The gift that keeps giving! By Alicia Resnik

Part 1

child. “I would take a child, any child. I checked the box for a child deemed ‘less desirable’. Because my children are twins, they were put in that category. So I came home with two!” They were matched in July of 2007. Before returning to the U.S., the family spent time in Addis adjusting to one another and giving Ms. Neale a “crash course” on baby life – dirty diapers and little sleep! “Just before leaving Ethiopia, was a touchy time,” explained Ms. Neale. The children were adopted according to the Ethiopian court system, processed through the U.S. Embassy, and she still didn’t know whether or not she’d be allowed to take them out of Ethiopia. As they were preparing to return to the orphanage for a final goodbye ceremony, they were summoned to the Palace. The First Lady of Ethiopia wanted to see the

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Tracey Neale is the mother of twins Emebet Nigella and Eyasu Nigel who were adopted at eighteen month’s from an orphanage in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. Former news anchor, and nine-time Emmy award winner, Ms. Neale’s adoption journey began when she travelled to South Africa to shoot a documentary on the orphan crises. There she met and fell in love with Veronica, a 1 ½ year old girl living in Ethembeni, an orphanage in Johannesburg (see sidebar on “Veronica’s Story Orphans Foundation”). Because Veronica was HIV positive, Ms. Neale couldn’t adopt her. But meeting Veronica changed the course of her life. “It’s because of her that I have them.” Ms. Neale and members of the Veronica’s Story Orphans Foundation team were in Ethiopia for AIDS mission work. On their way to a CARE Clinic, they stumbled on the orphanage in Addis (where her soon to be adopted kids lived). “The orphanage was as good as it could be. Orphanages overseas face their challenges – no running water, a lot of children, limited staff,” she said. An older woman traveling with them told Ms. Neale to “go in and see your children.” Ms. Neale said she was terrified. “I wasn’t ready yet. I thought I’d pass out. She said go get your children so I did.” Ms. Neale always wanted to adopt. “When I was 5, I told my mother I wanted to be a Pediatrician and care for orphans,” she said. Working with a private agency, it took her two years to adopt Emebet and Eyasu. Initially she had intended to adopt only one

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children. She held an unsettled Emebet for hours and then decided to come with them to the orphanage. There the First Lady placed Emebet’s head against Ms. Neale’s heart and swaddled them tightly together with an Ethiopian scarf. “With that, I felt we had her unspoken blessing to go home.” Children in orphanages are often desperate for the basics, like affection, love, food and proper shelter, said Ms. Neale. “My children had to overcome so much. They had to overcome being in an orphanage. They had medical issues due to lack of food, medical care and exposure to dirty water. “For the first year water was gold. Cold, clean water – they would clap their hands,” she said. “They are healthy now. Luckily they didn’t have the HIV virus.” They www.bermudaparentmagazine.com

are healthy now. Luckily they didn’t have the HIV virus.” The Neale family initially made their home in Washington, DC. But, Ms. Neale felt she wanted a simpler life for them and began talks with the Bermuda Broadcasting Company (where she currently works as the Creative-Production Director and Executive Producer of Special Projects.) In 2010, the Neale family moved to Bermuda. For Ms. Neale, this return was a dream come true. “It’s something I’ve always had in the back of my mind.” The move home was poignant for her. The twins were 3 years

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old – the same age she was when she left Bermuda with her parents. Like many parents, Ms. Neale says motherhood has involved sacrifices. “Becoming a mother, adopting children, has been a major life style change.” After 20 years of anchoring the news, she’s traded it in for reading bedtime stories. “The last thing I got to do was ‘M.C.’ two of President Obama’s Inaugural Balls. There were huge global moments taking place and instead of grabbing my book, I’m thinking, I’ve got to change diapers!” Ms. Neale would like to take Emebet and Eyasu to visit Ethiopia. “We talk about it. I want them to know. I want them to have the truth.” The twins have eight brothers and sisters. Although it would be wonderful for the twins to meet their siblings and birth parents, Ms. Neale explained that it’s illegal for her to make contact on the twins’ behalf before they are 18 years old. “That would be a great 18th birthday present!” The adoption process can take many years. Ms. Neale says it’s not for the “feint-of- heart.” She advises parents to stay focused on the goal and be patient. “Don’t mark the calendar. Have a wonderful support system to tell you that it’s okay. Have faith. Ms. Neale also says you can’t control everything. “You’re dealing with so much – different governments, judicial systems, and cultures. Ride it out. Know that your child is coming home with you. You are their forever family.”

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Veronica’s Story Orphans Foundation The Veronica’s Story Orphans Foundation is a charity named for a little girl named Veronica. Tracey Neale travelled to South Africa to film a documentary on the orphans’ crises. She visited an orphanage in Johannesburg, Ethembeni – a place where a quarter of the population are HIV positive. Entering the orphanage they were profiling, Ms. Neale expected to meet a caregiver - instead she met Veronica. “I felt a tug at my skirt… (my) glance caught the fluffy edge of a blue & white polka dot dress.” The 1 ½ year old appeared healthy with bright engaging eyes and ready giggles. Ms. Neale felt she was looking into the eyes of her daughter. A caregiver told her that Veronica was one of the orphans she’d come to profile for her documentary. In fact, all the children in that orphanage were HIV positive. Some had been raped, some were failed abortions, and some were abandoned when their parents died. All of the children were left there to live a painful future with no anti retro-viral drugs. Ms. Neale filmed her documentary and returned to the United States. Before leaving she began the paperwork to adopt Veronica. She hoped to prolong Veronica’s life with love, nutrition and good medical care. When she told the orphanage of her intentions, they informed her she was “misguided”. Veronica wasn’t available for adoption. None of the children in that orphanage were. All were deemed “un-adoptable” by the orphanage and Government leaders because of being HIV positive. They weren’t waiting to be adopted. They were waiting to die. Ms. Neale persisted. She returned to South Africa, inquiring about any potential for adopting Veronica. The answer was always no. The once giggly girl’s health rapidly deteriorated and Ms. Neale had no choice but to leave her. From heartbreak, anger and frustration Ms. Neale started the Veronica’s Story Orphans Foundation. The charity supports the ground operations that provide clean water, food, shelter, housing, medicine and education to orphans and children around the world. Projects in Bermuda have included the donation of uniforms, school supplies, assistance to the Sunshine League, medical supplies for Haiti and “The Doctor’s Blog from Haiti.” “Every 14 seconds a child is orphaned due to war, natural disaster, poverty or disease. There are 15 million orphans due to AIDS.” Veronica’s Story Orphans Foundation. For further information please go to www. veronicasstory.org.

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TOP TRENDING TOYS

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With Christmas right around the corner, toys are on every

single child’s wish list. Dolls, cars, trucks and Lego are sure to make your child happy on Christmas morning. But what if you had insight into the best toys of the year. What if we told you exactly what your child wants and where to get it.

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Bermuda Parent Magazine, we’ve done some of the work for you. We break down the hottest toy trends of 2013 and tell you where they are available. Tamara Richardson of People’s Pharmacy and Jacquelyn Napier of the Annex Toys tell us what are the best buys for the season. The Christmas shopping season usually starts in the beginning of November. Richardson said the best toys for girls are the Playskool Sesame Street Big Hugs Elmo for ages 18to 36 months, Doc Mc Stuffins for ages three to five, Baby Alive Dolls for ages five to eight and Furby Boom for ages five to ten. For boys, she recommends the Playskool Sesame Street Big Hugs Elmo for ages 18 to 36 months, Disney Planes for ages three to five, Ninja Turtles for ages five to ten, Nerf N-Strike Elite for ages eight to ten and FIFA 2014 for ages eight and up. Richardson said without fail, the most popular toy for girls every year is the Easy Bake Oven and Lego for boys. Asked if parents are still shopping in a recession, she said: “Over the past few years we have found that customers will still do their best to make their child’s Christmas wishes come true. Parents Easy Bake Oven

which I’m happy to report we have in stock for this Christmas season.” Napier said while there are trendy items, classic toys such as Barbies and Die Cast cars remain popular every year along with scooters and ride on toys. Asked about shopping in a recession, Napier said: “It depends on how you look at it. Some people are still spending, totally not affected by the recession and others are more conscience of their spending habits. “It just takes planning as to where and what you may splurge on. There will be deals and steals at the Annex this season, making it an exciting time to shop, Napier said. Asked for advice she would give parents, Napier said: “Think about your child’s needs and wants. We have some of the hottest to the most classic toys for every price point.”

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are now more concerned with value for money than they were in the past. In previous years parents would have to have whatever was on TV. Now, they appear to be far more discerning and aware of the importance of play value. People are willing to spend their available funds on arts and crafts, educational items and games continue to be a strong category for us.” As far as deals go, Richardson said People’s Pharmacy is in its 30th year of business so there where be a lot of deals and promotions available by liking the company’s Facebook page. Asked what advice she would give parents, Richardson said to start early. “I can’t tell you how many years we have had to scramble to get a ‘must have’ item into the store, often at a greater cost, for a customer who waited until the last minute. We do our first round of Christmas shopping in Early September and try to have our goods on the floor by mid-October. This gives us a very small window to reorder any item that we deem a hot-seller, of course we risk that our suppliers will be out of stock the closer we get to Christmas. We understand completely the need to budget and offer lay-away for the Christmas season. We suggest that parents email us at toys@peoplespharmacy.bm if they have any questions about specific items on their child’s wish list.” Over at the annex, Napier went over the biggest toy trends for this year. “For boys and girls in the ages from infant to young toddler it’s all about educational fun toys to help develop their motor skills. From toddler to tween years we’re seeing that toys are now reflecting society’s recognition of equality. For example Lego Friends for girls and other tool and building toys in colors like pink and purple. The same goes for boys. We’re seeing cooking sets and the like in primary colors instead of just pink. I think it’s quite refreshing.” She continued: “Tech is a huge toy trend once again this year in attracting kids of all ages. With playing games that will connect to your smart phone to Leapfrog and V Tech continuing to ride this wave as well with their new tablets

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BY LYNNIECE NISBETT-GARNETT

Christmas Gifts on a

Budget

I’ll be quite frank, if you are just starting to think

about Christmas gifts and you have more than a couple to buy, you will probably spend more than you want to. The pressure ramps up if you are buying for kids that want the latest gadgets to boost their “cool” status. So what’s a parent on a budget supposed to do, especially in pricey Bermuda?

Shift the Focus

Encourage family and friends to join you in giving back to others this year. Acts of kindness are deeply treasured and they offer wonderful bonding opportunities! Washing a friend’s car or cutting a relative’s yard for the month are just a couple of ideas. You can also volunteer with a charity or church to prepare and serve Christmas dinner to a residential home or those less fortunate. Create a theme for the holidays if you still want to celebrate. My family focuses on Jesus’ birth and we have a spiritual emphasis. Our decorations often include their pictures and crafts from church. Baking is another fun theme that I’ve explored with my girlfriends. Cellophane, twine and a handwritten note on parchment paper added a special touch to the cakes. Presentation is everything!

Be Honest

Have a conversation with your kids if your budget is restricted and let them know that Christmas in Bermuda will be different. Share the fact that there are many grown-ups who are working less or don’t have a job so that they understand that the money challenge is a community issue. Toddlers typically don’t have high expectations so talking to them may not be necessary. Children who believe in Santa Clause may need a variation however, and fairytales are perfect for that! Older kids may surprise you with their cost cutting suggestions so don’t be afraid to talk to them. 34

Keep it Simple

Take a moment to trim the list of people that you are shopping for. In our home we buy one gift for each person. If you have a large or extended family, see if others will agree to buying presents just for the children, setting a present price limit or doing a gift exchange.

Set a Budget

Setting a budget is essential to keeping the holidays merry and sticking to the financial plan is just as important. Once you figure out your total spending limit, take your shortened list and determine how much money you will spend on each person. To avoid the temptation of overspending, I’ve learned to leave my debit card in the car and only Christmas shop with my allotted cash. If you lack self-control, give the card to someone that you trust and have them check your receipt when you take back your card.

Plan Ahead

If you are intent on getting pricey gifts consider spreading your Christmas shopping over several months. One year, I started buying presents in January and was finished by September. I was able to take advantage of countless sales and skip the crowded stores. A better option for some is to set up a short-term CD and take out the spending money just in time for the holidays next year.

you give them less—your child will be okay. The most important thing that you can give your child is to value family and friendships. And that is perfectly okay, it’s actually great! Lynniece Nisbett Garnett has two daughters Lynnae and Kya Lynn. This Christmas they are looking forward to spending time together with their extended family!

It’s Okay

It’s perfectly normal for a parent to want to fulfill the wishes of their child. Most youngsters’ want to have what their friends want—and we want to see excitement on our child’s face and hear their joy from receiving that perfect gift. The reality is that some years you’ll have less than a shoe string budget and that is okay. You are not worth less because

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Turn brown paper bags inside-out and use markers, glitter, stickers, and ribbon to create inexpensive wrapping paper.

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Have older children price out their Christmas wish list.

Include essential items like pajamas, toothbrushes and underclothing in your gift giving.

Use your talent or special skill to create homemade presents.

Buy an artificial Christmas tree, it saves money over time.

Shop for items at second-hand stores and websites, many have new items.

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BY SYLVANUS NAWAB MD, FAAP

Childhood Obesity A Changeable Condition

here are approximately 10% of children below 2 years and 25% of children between 2 and 5 years who are overweight in the United States. The number increases in the age group above 5 years through to the adolescent years. Bermuda, though lacking the ex- act numbers, is not far from this reality when it comes to the prevalence of child/ adolescent obesity; however, this can be both prevented and corrected. Early infancy is one of the most critical time periods in the development of risk for obesity. Although this is true, one must consider that the risks of obesity exist in the everyday choices we make for our children in regards to food choices and accessibility to an active lifestyle. These choices range from: choosing breastfeeding over formula feeds; how long the baby is breastfed; and when, how and what is introduced in the weaning period. The recommendation is to solely breastfed (if this is possible) for at least 4 months and introduce complementary feeding between 4 and 6 months. The type of foods being introduced is a key factor in the establishment of patterns of taste and preference in the subsequent years. The early introduction of fruit juices, sugar-sweetened beverages, high glycemic load carbohydrates (such as white rice and white flour pastas, french fries etc.), and highly processed foods are detrimental and play a major role in the risk for obesity.

In the spirit of ‘it takes a village to raise a child’, as a community we can: 1. Provide incentives to supermarkets and farmers to sell healthier foods at an accessible price range. 2. Increase access to fresh drinking water in schools and public places. 3. Create and maintain safe playground areas in neighborhoods for physical activity. 4. Support quality daily physical education in schools and daily physical activity in child care facilities. 5. Support breastfeeding at workplaces. The role of the primary care provider is to identify children who are overweight, advise and encourage changes in dietary habits and lifestyle, and to monitor the weight over time. The goal is to maintain a healthy growth pattern and to avoid the occurrence of metabolic syndrome and insulin resistance that could lead to hypertension, diabetes, and non-alcoholic fatty liver disease. By eating right and achieving a balance in physical exercise, Bermuda’s children can reverse the increasing statistic of obesity. For more information on strategies to prevent and reverse obesity, please go to the following websites: www.eatright.org/public www.weigh2rock.com

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Is a for Christmas a good idea?

t’s Christmas time, and you may be thinking about getting a cat or a dog as a present for your home. But is it a good idea? It depends. Selecting the right pet for your family is important. You must do some research to learn exactly what is involved in taking care of a pet. Talk to family members to see what everyone wants and is expecting in a companion animal. We talked to Jodi Corbett, humane educator of Bermuda Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (SPCA),

about the pros and cons of adopting animals for Christmas. According to Jodi, Christmas is a very busy time for families and friends to socialize and spend time with one another. We suggest getting the supplies needed and a gift certificate to the shelter before getting a pet for Christmas. After the holiday, then choose a pet with the family so that you are carefully considering the pros and cons of having a pet. Here are some pros and cons of getting a pet for Christmas:

The Pros

Cost: Particularly in the current economy, not all families can afford to adopt or buy a new pet. Some adoptions cost can be up to several hundred dollars. Jodi says the cost to adopt a kitten is $100.00 and a cat over 3 years is $50.00. “If you want a dog under six months it’s $450.00 and over six months it’s $250.00. After the initial cost you’ll have vet costs, food, toys, etc. A cat can cost up to $400.00 a year and a dog could cost up to $600.00 per year.” So if you

can afford the cost of adoption or the purchase price, giving a pet can be a gift the family will appreciate. Health & Fitness: Children with pets tend to be more involved in activities such as chores, sports, hobbies, and clubs. This will produce better health and exercise causing them to be physically active. Self Esteem: Owning a pet enhances positive self-esteem in children which is a great benefit as they interact with their peers in school. Companionship: Animals provide social support and companionship to everyone. Many people think giving a pet as a present during the holiday season is a great way to put a smile on a face of someone who feels lonely. However, when giving a pet in the hopes it will provide companion-

ship, be sure to find a pet that’s known for liking attention, such as a cat, and not a pet that doesn’t require much care or appreciate the attention.

The Cons

Allergies: Allergies must be considered for the families health. If your family have never been exposed to a cat before, visit a friend who has one or spend some time at the shelter to make sure no one suffers from allergies. Returning a cat because of allergies is hard on the cat and the child. Timing: Is your family ready for a pet? Not all families are ready for a pet. Parents who want to add a pet to their home should consider if the timing is right. Your home has to be guarded and protected much like baby-proofing. Also, becom-

ing responsible for another member in the home has to be considered as well. Getting a pet for Christmas is a nice gesture, but if the family is not prepared nor willing to take responsibility for the animal than, now is not a good time to add another member into the home. Choice: Pets are a big responsibility and choosing the right pet can make a difference. The child should help decide what kind of pet they should have but it should also be the family member’s choice as well. Jodi says, “It should be a family discussion, but we as parents are the responsible ones. Lots of research on what animal will be best suited to your family’s needs.” She adds: “You can turn the whole experience into an extraordinary experience. By involving the whole family you and your child will have a pet that can be the most memorable part of their lives as well as rescuing an animal from the shelter.“

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You, Your Caregiver & The Employment Act Where the relationship can be so personal, it is easy to forget that the Caregiver is an employee. She is most often seen as an extension of the family, a sister, a close friend, particularly if she lives in. Under Bermuda law, she is an employee and as such, entitled to certain rights and privileges as any other worker in Bermuda. In our role as a provider of domestic staffing, particularly Nannies & Housekeepers, we routinely counsel on the provisions of the Employment Act. We highlight here a few provisions of the Act and more recent conventions that are particularly topical which deserve special attention by those looking to employ or who currently employ a Caregiver / Nanny:

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Statement of Employment. The Act mandates that there be a written contract (“Statement of Employment”) setting out the fundamental terms of the employment relationship. If the contract contains more favourable terms than the Act, then the Contract prevails. A contract that polices a Filipino nanny relationship will typically include exceptional clauses such as treatment of air fare costs for the annual vacation, a food allowance, and repatriation expenses.

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The typical work week according to the Act is Monday – Friday 9am to 5pm, with an hour for lunch. The Act states that Employer’s can contract out of the requirement for 1.5X (ie. Pay regular rate by agreement) via the Statement of Employment / Employment Contract.

• Benefits. The Act provides that the Employer pay

Itemised Statement of Pay. The Act imposes

his share of Payroll tax, Social Insurance, a private pension plan (for Bermudian employees) and he must provide a health insurance plan for each employee and each employee’s (locally resident) uninsured spouse.

Probation. The Act provides that either side can terminate the contract for any reason and without notice during the contractual probation period.

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Work Permit Cost / Transportation to Bermuda Expenses. Who pays? Although somewhat frowned upon, the Employer is not prohibited from accepting a contribution from the Employee for Work Permit and/or transportation to Bermuda costs.

Dismissal. Unless there is material breach of the contract or a case of serious neglect, the Employer cannot fire an employee at will. The Act provides for a process with specific steps should an employee be failing in her role. We should note that most contracts are of fixed term. Therefore, finding cause for nonrenewal of a contract, particularly one dependent on the issuance of a work permit is not necessary.

an obligation upon the Employer to provide an itemised pay statement detailing relevant pay period, hours, rate of pay, deductions etc.

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Rest Days / Time Off. The Act provides that at least 24 hours of consecutive rest must be provided to the Caregiver each week. A seven day work week is illegal and grounds for a complaint. This condition cannot be contracted out of nor does the payment of overtime make it acceptable under the Act. Further, the Act provides that an employee shall be entitled to public holidays, and these shall be enjoyed and paid, over and above the mandatory rest day.

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BY JEFF BROWN

What It Takes To Be An

Entrepreneur n What is an entrepreneur? An entrepreneur is; a person who organizes and manages a business undertaking, assuming the risk for the sake of the profit. Someone who perceives an opportunity and creates an organization to pursue it or simply someone who is looking to build a company. It is important to understand that an entrepreneur is not necessarily someone that is self-employed (works for themselves). As more and more people become selfemployed we need to understand what makes people entrepreneurs. Entrepreneurs are simply those who understand that there is little difference between obstacle and opportunity and are able to turn both to their advantage. Victor Kiam

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n The Entrepreneurial Idea - The idea is key to becoming an entrepreneur An entrepreneurial idea; a specific, new way to satisfy a need or want, overcome a problem, or meet a challenge. Every entrepreneur has an idea, a big idea, to do something different, better or something that other people arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t doing. A key to a successful entrepreneur is to take the idea and make it work, bring it to market by creating some excitement. The idea is the starting point to becoming an entrepreneur. You may dream of doing great entrepreneurial things but it is the idea that will get you started on the path to entrepreneurship.

n What Does It Take To Be An Entrepreneur There are key personal characteristics that make people succeed as entrepreneurs. Vision: The successful entrepreneur has a clear and communicable vision of the opportunity his or her business will create or exploit and is completely dedicated to making this vision a reality, even when it means taking risks.

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Determination: The successful entrepreneur must be completely determined to succeed, even in the face of doubts of family, close friends and associates. This determination must fuel the tireless effort to make it happen. Motivation: An entrepreneur lets very little get in the way of making the vision into reality. Focus: The entrepreneur must keep his or her eye on the ball at all times, never allowing precious time, energy and other resources to be distracted from the project. Devotion: Entrepreneurs must be completely devoted to the project, enjoy working on the project and deeply committed to the ideas and beliefs on which the project is founded. Skills: The entrepreneur must have a skill set to either develop the product or service or the skills to take an idea and figure how to make it work. Passion: An entrepreneur must really love what he/she is doing in such a way that it does not appear to be hard work, but rather something they enjoy and want to do. Adaptability: An entrepreneur must be able to adapt personally and ensure that the organization has the ability to adapt to new challenges. Allow people to provide their point of view and identify issues and opportunities. Display Self-awareness: An entrepreneur must be able to recognize their own strengths and weaknesses and hire their missing skills within their team.

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An entrepreneur lets very little get in the way of making the vision into reality. Creative Thinking: The entrepreneur has to be able to think through the innovative idea and deal with the many variables facing the business - global market, technological change and diverse work force etc. There is no magical formula to be an entrepreneur and there are no quick steps to succeed. If you are considering being an entrepreneur, you should realize that being an entrepreneur means that you are responsible for making decisions, solving problems, resolving conflicts, developing opportunities and motivating others to share your vision. As an entrepreneur, you must think and see things differently then most people; • when you look at a situation you must see opportunities on how to improve it or how to do it differently, • you have to be very aware of all the many things that are involved in business, • you have to want to make a difference. You can’t be satisfied with the status quo. • you have to be very committed to what you are doing eat and sleep it. It is not work but rather what you love to do. • what you do is a big part of your life it is not just a job. You must be able to take rejection many times during your entrepreneurial journey. Many people will say “No” as they don’t believe in your concept, don’t like your product or they don’t think you can make it work. The founder of KFC drove across the USA, while living out of his car, approaching over a 1000 restaurants which said “No” to his recipe before one said yes. He took the ‘no’ answer but tried to learn why they said no so he could improve his approach. Foster the entrepreneurial spirit in your child visit TeachingKidsBusiness.com!

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Your Guide To

Planning for University There are many things you need to think about when deciding what you are going to do after graduating from high school and it is never too soon to start researching. Below are some of the factors you should consider when choosing a university or college: Career goals: What do you hope to do? What sort of a place would you like to work in and what sort of people would you like to work with? Job opportunities after college: What are the local job opportunities in the field you are studying? Research the kinds of skills that employers are looking for. Programme of study: Does the school offer degree subjects that you are interested in? You may change your mind about what you want to study so having a variety of programmes and degrees to select from is important. Quality of Instruction: Variety of classes, computer labs, library and reputation (ask for a list of alumni from Bermuda and contact them to get more information). Cost: US $, CND $, UK £ and exchange rates. Remember to include cost of airfare and ground transportation as well as tuition and room & board costs. Compare costs to be sure you are getting value for your money. Don’t forget that Bermudian students are treated as UK students for tuition fee purposes when studying at college in the UK.

Scholarships: Start creating or updating your profile on bermudascholarships.com so you are ready to meet the scholarship deadlines of the award providers. Accreditation: make sure your chosen college/universities are accredited. Location: Research the city where the school is located. Remember this will be your new home. Do you want to live in a large urban city, a rural area or a middle sized city? Does it offer cultural or sports activities? Will transportation to the school be easy or will you have to buy a car? Is the city a university city? Do not pick you college based on how close you are to relatives or how familiar you are with the area. Going out of your comfort zone will broaden your college experience and is educational in itself. Size of Campus and Class Size: Smaller campuses and classes usually mean more interaction and more personal service. On larger campuses you may just be a number but they may have more prestige or resources. Location of Dormitories: Will you be on the college campus or in close proximity to the campus/classes? Be careful of the words “close to” it could mean 20 miles away. Weather/Climate: If you are not sure about the temperature refer to www.weather. com to check average monthly temperatures in the US. Research to see what kind of different temperatures you can expect. Distance from Bermuda: Where is the closest airport? It is a direct flight from Bermuda? How far is the school from the airport? Racial Mix: Will you be going from being a majority to being a minority? Student Services: Is there an International Student Programme Director? These individuals assist with housing, school orientation, and academic advising. They also arrange social events and opportunities to get involved in student activities. Sports: If you want to continue, or take up, sports than make sure that the college you are considering will give you the opportunities your need. www.bermudaparentmagazine.com

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worth taking into consideration. Study Abroad Programmes: Many colleges have programmes where you can study overseas for a semester or a year which offers a great way to broaden you college experience.

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School Involvement Beyond Report Card

Keeps Parents Informed

he back-to-school season has come and gone, tests have been written, and homework has been handed in. But just as students and parents settle into the school groove, report cards arrive. “Parents don’t have to wait for the first report card to find out how their child is doing in school,” says Doyle Butterfield of Oxford Learning Bermuda. “Report cards should be only one part of the cycle of involvement.” Butterfield said that the reason report cards can be so stressful is that it is often the first time parents get any sort of feedback on how their child is progressing. By relying on the report card solely for school information, parents set themselves up for unpleasant surprises. Luckily there are plenty of ways that parents can get involved in their children’s education, and most of them are pretty simple. “The more involved a parent is, the less likely it is that they’ll get unpleasant surprises.”

Quick Tips to Get Involved in your Child’s Education Take five minutes to say hello to the teacher and to ask how your child is doing in math/ reading/spelling/ listening, etc. Send a note to school with your child to schedule a phone chat with the teacher. Don’t wait for the teacher to call you to report bad news or slow classroom progress. Follow up when a test is returned to your child. How did it go? Were the results what you were expecting? Go online. The Internet is a wonderful tool to keep informed. If your child’s class has a web page, log on and get involved. Get help. If there are any issues, you can seek help as soon as you learn of it rather than waiting to find out on the report card. Remember to keep it in context. The first report card of the school year is like a check-up on how your child is adjusting to the new school year. Look to the past. Last year’s school performance can be a big indicator of potential problems this year. Correct issues early and avoid repeats.

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BY NICHI HIRSCH KUECHLE

HOW TO GET YOUR KIDS

off sugar

Did you know the average person in North America consumes about 130 pounds of sugar per year? That’s 10 pounds per month, or over a quarter of a pound of sugar PER DAY.

nd we wonder why our children are overweight and being diagnosed with Type II diabetes. Don’t those numbers bother you? Doesn’t it make you crazy to know we are watching our children die a slow death? My goal here is to not be overly dramatic, but to drive home that the problem doesn’t begin with them. The problem is not with our children, mama’s, it begins with us. Yes, us. We buy the groceries, We say yes to the lollipop from the teller at the bank, We have the ultimate say over whether that second serving of dessert makes its way onto their plates. We set the stage for the health of our children. If our children are addicted to sugar, than it’s likely that we are too. In one of my Cheap Easy Healthy Eating System, (www.cheapeasyhealthyeatingsystem.com) I have a chart that

guides moms on how to kick the sugar habit by giving you good-better-best ideas on how to wean children off the high calorie sugar laden foods. Let’s talk about the first step we need to take as parents.

Step #1: Change Mindset When it comes to getting our kids off of sugar, the first thing we have to do is change our mindset. Often, sugary snacks and treats are the fastest go-to for bribery, getting our children to be quiet or distracting them while we get something done. It’s the first thing the grandparents want to splurge on: a trip to the ice cream store, stopping for a cookie at the coffee shop, the local bakery for a donut or simply the variety

store for a little goodie. We have it that sugary foods has a pay off and the payoff is that our children will do what we need them to do (for a while anyway). The problem is that it’s the beginning of a vicious cycle that leads right into the trap of them eating 1/4 pound of sugar per day. When your children are asking for sugary foods, give them a big glass of water and ask them to return to you when they are done. More often than not, they will drink it, run off to play and you’ll get that they weren’t hungry at all.

Step #2: Be a Model The second step to this is modeling for our children what we want for them. How do we see it possible to unaddict our children from sugar when they know we grab fast food drive for lunch or put two teaspoons of sugar into our morning coffee? They see us eat whatever we want whenever we want to (because we’re adults, right?) and we still expect them to follow a code of ethics around foods that says You Can Eat What and When I Tell You To.

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How’s that working for you? Living in a way we want our children to live is crucial. We need to exercise, be active throughout our day, and carry a water bottle. We need to make healthy choices when it comes to food. We can’t expect our kids to be vegetable eaters when we gag while eating overly cooked broccoli. Create a love for healthy eating together.

Step #3: Give Them Responsibility Our communities are raising some pretty smart kids. Giving them some independence and responsibility around their food choices is important. If they see us changing our mindset and being more of a model, they can take on some responsibility around what they eat. This can be by: • choosing the items for the trail mix at the co-op • being in charge of choosing all the veggies for the weekly salad • with set guidelines in place, maybe they get to take turns creating the breakfast, cold lunch, dinner or snack menu for the week • baking homemade items together using coconut sugar, honey or maple syrup instead of brown or white sugar and noticing how much better they feel after they eat that cookie or bar Having healthy children means being healthy parents. Some days that feels more difficult than others. Know that we can un-addict our children from sugar, we just have to start with ourselves.

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BY SAADIA BEAN

Relationships, such as marriage and parenting, are designed to yield satisfaction and fulfillment. Relationships are vehicles for selfdevelopment. Having a keen awareness of who we are, how we feel and what we want are valuable tools that yield successful and happy connectedness.

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We are responsible for developing the kind of relationships that exude happiness and joy. Know Who I Am

he definition of self is always described by using words that depict the best of who we are. In other words, who I am is described by character traits. While there are hundreds of words that describe the best of who I am, here are just a few: kind, loving, caring, supportive, joyful, generous, understanding, grateful, harmonious, attentive, responsible, compassionate, patient, honest, peaceful, and committed. When we really understand that these character traits are who we are at our core, and seek to honor our commitment as a gift to ourselves to live up to that definition, we will create successful relationships. How do we use the definition of who we are? We can select our thoughts, words and actions using words from characteristics that describe who we really are. Be consciously aware of who we are first, then decide what to think, say or do. For example, since I am kind, harmonious and caring, when a situation occurs that is uncomfortable or annoying, I can speak my truth about it through the vehicles of kindness, harmony and care that I really am. Since I am committed, honest and responsible, I will develop relationships with other people that are open and that honor and respect my marriage and children. Since I am supportive, generous and compassionate, I will assist with the chores around the house, finances to pay the bills and partnership to coparent. Know who you are then decide what to do.

Know How I Feel

eelings or emotions are beautiful gifts. They can be divided into two categories: Love Based Feelings and Fear Based Feelings. Love Based Feelings are positive emotions like: happy, joyful, excited, grateful, courageous, connected, passionate, motivated, inspired, hopeful, cheerful, contented and peaceful. Fear Based Feelings are negative emotions like: anger, overwhelmed, frustrated, irritated, discouraged, sad, disappointed, hatred, resentful, blame, worry, anxious, and guilt. Positive and negative feelings are important. They are our Emotional Guidance System that lets us know whether we are on track with what we want or off track with what we want. Tune into how you feel. When we experience a circumstance, relationship or event that we prefer, we feel Love Based Feelings. When we experience a circumstance, relationship, situation or event that we do not prefer, or when we are not getting what we want, we feel Fear Based Feelings.

What can we do when we experience Fear Based Feelings? Rather than think about and talk about what is wrong over and over, it is more solution oriented to turn our attention to what we want instead. Be responsible and kind, lovingly share the concern, and then describe what you want. Spend more time thinking about and talking about what you want and feel the happiness, joy and appreciation as if you have received it already. Know how to use your feelings as an Emotional Guidance System to lead you to relational solutions.

Know What You Want

ne of the best abilities of the human brain is the ability to focus. How wonderful to have the capacity to turn our attention to any subject and contemplate it as long as we want! Since we have the power to concentrate by fixing our minds on any issue or topic, it is awesome to exercise this ability by noticing what we donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want then intentionally turning our undivided focus and attention to what we do want. Developing this skill of focusing on what we want is essential for maintaining happy relationships. When you know what you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want, you know what you do want. Awareness, keen attentiveness, and utmost focus on what we want propel us to solutions and ideas to nurture our cherished connections with others. We are responsible for developing the kind of relationships that exude happiness and joy. This occurs from the inside out. Know who you are. Know how you feel. Know what you want. These always leads to exhilarating, satisfying and fulfilling relationships.

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Adoption:

The gift that keeps giving! By Alicia Resnik

Part 2

The O’Shaughnessy Family “Don’t delay,” that’s the advice Mrs. Jacqui O’Shaughnessy would give to any prospective adopting parents. The O’Shaughnessy family adopted their daughter, Doireann, when she was 9 month’s old from an orphanage in Taiwan. At the time of adopting Doireann, the O’Shaugh nessys already had two biological sons – they wanted a daughter. The boys, Tadhg and Padraic, were eight and five years old. “Old enough to understand,” said Mrs. O’Shaughnessy. Adopting was never something the family didn’t plan on talking about or sharing. “With blond hair and blue eyes – it would be obvious,” she said. “The boys were on board from the beginning, they loved it. They love having a little sister.” The O’Shaughnessy’s began their journey by contacting an adoption agency in North America. The 52

agency website, rainbowschildren.com, was “found by fate,” says Mrs. O’Shaughnessy. Despite being told by a friend not to click on the link “children available now”, she did and found a baby girl who was available to a non-American couple only. The baby was ready for adoption. It seemed like a perfect fit – until the road-block. The baby was in Cambodia and Cambodia was closed for adoption. “It just wasn’t meant to be,” said Mrs. O’Shaughnessy. Despite the disappointment, they stuck with it. They felt their agency was great in guiding them through the process. With their assistance the O’Shaughnessy family narrowed down various adoptive countries. They knew they “didn’t want to adopt from North America, the U.K. or Ireland because of the (possibility) of the birth mothers coming back.” Mrs. O’Shaughnessy also explained that certain countries were closed to them and they

“Don’t delay,” that’s the advice Mrs. Jacqui O’Shaughnessy would give to any prospective adopting parents.

didn’t want to adopt from Russia because of the high rates of fetal alcoholism syndrome. By a process of elimination, the family applied to Taiwan and Nepal and, was prepared to go with whichever country had a baby girl first. The adoption process took the O’Shaughnessy family two years. In 2004, Mrs. O’Shaughnessy and her husband James traveled to Taiwan to bring their daughter home. “We were lucky. It was quite seamless. We expected issues for her to be unsettled, crying, but we had nothing. Some feeding issues - that resolved quite quickly.” The couple spent a week in Taiwan and by the time they returned to Bermuda, Mrs. O’Shaughnessy said it felt as if they’d had Doireann since birth. Every year the O’Shaughnessy family celebrates December 6th as Doireann’s Welcome Day. “This is the day our family was all together for the first time. She even takes cookies to school to celebrate.” If you’re thinking of adopting Mrs. O’Shaughnessy recommends getting the process going as soon as possible. “It’s long and emotionally draining. You have to go with

the thought that the child who is meant to be with you will be with you.” She shared that the hardest time was the waiting. “We were matched in April when she was 6 weeks old and didn’t get her until December.” Although they were sent pictures and updates, the family felt as if they were missing many of Doireann’s milestones. Two years and three courts later, the family was together. “In the end she came. She was fantastic. The time was like a drop in the bucket.” Mrs. O’Shaughnessy said they later took Doireann to New York for a complete checkup. “We were lucky. She had no development issues. She’s perfect in every way!” Doireann is now almost 10 years old, a P5 student at Somersfield Academy. She has traveled back to Taiwan with her family. “We took her back to visit when she was six. She was very excited about it and wants to go back again,” shared Mrs. O’Shaughnessy. *The rainbowschildren.com website is no longer available*

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Tips for Electricity Savings & Safety during the Holiday Season

uring the holiday season, when family and friends are visiting your home, take steps to use energy efficiently and safely. Holiday energy consumption can climb, as many families tend to spend more time indoors during the holidays, children are home from school, there is more cooking and entertaining going on, so more people may be in the house, using hot water, appliances, lights and electronics.

the “Energy Star” are more efficient, using less energy, so that they help to lower your electricity bill. Also, remember that flat screen TVs consume more energy than the old-fashioned ones. The bigger the screen, the more energy consumed. And, plasma TV screens use more energy than LED TVs. Turn TVs off, if no one is watching. Enjoy family nights to get everyone watching the same screen! •

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In most homes, water heating accounts for about 25 percent of the electricity bill, and usage may rise during the busy holiday season with extra cooking, cleaning and guests. Simple steps can help lower water heating costs: Set the water temperature no higher than 120o Fahrenheit, put the heater on a heavy-duty timer. By installing a new, energy efficient water heater, and getting the smallest one practical, you will save. You can also save by installing an instantaneous hot water heater. Solar water heaters are also a good long-term investment. Reverse air conditioners, central heating and space heaters should be used sparingly to save money, as they use significant amounts of electricity. Turn them on only when necessary. When a unit is switched off, it isn’t using power! Heat as few rooms as possible and use the coolest setting possible. Are you planning to buy a new appliance, TV or electronic device for the holidays? If so, be sure to choose one with the “Energy Star” label. Appliances that have earned

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Cooking holiday meals may cause you to use extra energy. Use the smallest appliance possible to get the job done; don’t use a large oven when you can use a toaster oven or microwave. For stovetop cooking, use the smallest possible pot and use lids to speed cooking. With friends and family coming and going during the holiday season, doing little things can add up when it comes to energy savings. If you’re not using your TV or computer, unplug it. Use cold water rather than hot to avoid water heating. Use the most energy-efficient setting on every appliance. Switch to LED or CFL light bulbs, and use LED lights to decorate. Timers are a good investment. If turning off lights and appliances is a hassle, put them on timers, including your indoor and outdoor holiday lights. When you do, you’ll control the amount of hours that they are running, helping to lower your electricity bill.

before going to bed or leaving the house. Replace broken bulbs and blown fuses with correct sizes. •

Never use electric lights on an artificial, metal tree. The tree can become charged with electricity from faulty lights, and a person touching a branch could be electrocuted.

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Do not overload extension cords or outlets, patch cords or plugs, or nail or staple electrical cords; don’t place cords under carpets or across hooks or nails.

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Use ovens and stovetops carefully – and don’t leave them unattended. Have working smoke and heat detectors in place. Keep portable fire extinguishers handy.

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When you are using candles and oil lamps instead of electric lights, be aware that they require stable holders and should be used only in open, well-ventilated areas, away from combustibles. Burn candles only where you can see them and extinguish them before going to bed or leaving home. Never leave children alone with open flames.

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Place Christmas trees away from space heaters.

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Safely dispose of a real tree when it begins dropping needles - dried out trees are highly flammable and should not have lights on them.

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Compact fluorescent light bulbs

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Plug-in energy monitors to help keep track of energy use

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Use only lights that have been tested for safety, and use them for their intended purpose, e.g., indoors or outdoors. Unplug lights

Find the right setting

Pull the plug to save

Don’t make your fridge too cold and always use the energy-saver setting. Maintain according to manufacturer’s instructions. If you have a fridge or freezer that is not fully used, unplug it or dispose of it.

Even when electronics are turned off, they still use energy in standby mode, drawing “phantom load”. Put electronics on power strips and turn off the strips. Turn off lights and TVs when you leave rooms. When you travel, unplug everything possible at home.

Control your water heaters carefully

Switch to CFLs and LEDs

Water heaters use a lot of electricity. Setting them no higher than 120° F, or according to manufacturer’s instructions, will save money and be ample for your dishwasher, washing machine and shower. When travelling, unplug your home water heater.

Put timers everywhere

A big energy saver is the small bulb. Switch to light-emitting diode (LED) or compact fluorescent lightbulbs (CFLs). They last a long time and suit most applications.

Put the pieces together to save energy, money and the environment.

Timers on water heaters can save hundreds of dollars a year. Timers also save energy when used with other appliances, lighting and electronic items.

Get the AC to fit your bill Air conditioning can make energy bills soar. Turning the AC on when you come home and off when you leave costs less than leaving the AC running continually. You don’t use energy when the air conditioner is off. Choose fans and open windows when you can.

Watch the size of your TV The bigger the TV screen, the more energy is used. Some TVs consume more energy than others. LEDs are the most energy efficient, while plasma TVs are energy hogs.

Look for the smallest appliance Microwave ovens cook food quickly and with relatively little energy. Toaster ovens use less energy than full-size ovens and produce less heat. Use lids with pots and pans to keep heat in, and use the smallest pot and burner.

Use appliances efficiently Use dishwashers, washing machines and dryers only when they are full, and use the shortest, coolest or most energy-efficient settings.

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BY BERMUDA PARENT MAGAZINE

Momables ideas for healthy lunches Here’s a list of healthy lunch foods. Mix and match to see what combinations you can come up with. Share the list with your children and ask them to choose which foods they’d like to take to school. Make sure you have plenty of choices on hand for them to choose from each day.

BREADS

SPREADS & FILLINGS CONDIMENTS

FRUITS (Dried And Fresh)

Bagel

Almond butter

Carrots (shredded)

Apples

Grapefruit

Baguette

Apple butter

Cheese (lite/low fat)

Apricots

Grapes

Bread sticks

Avocado (mashed)

Chicken

Asian pears

Kiwi

Crackers

Banana (mashed)

Chicken salad

Avocado

Melon

English muffins

Brie cheese

Egg salad

Bananas

Nectarines

Focaccia

Cashew Butter

Hard boiled egg

Blueberries

Orange sections

Lavash bread

Cream cheese (low fat)

Nitrite-free hot dogs/ veggie hot dogs

Cherries

Peaches

Pita bread

Goat cheese

Lettuce

Cranberries (dried)

Pineapple

Pizza bread

Honey

Sliced avocado

Dates

Plums

Rice cakes

Hummus

Sliced cucumber

Figs

Raspberries

Rolls

Jam (spreadable fruit)

Smoked salmon

Mango

Raspberries

Sandwich bread

Peanut butter

Sprouts

Papaya

Strawberries

Tortillas

Pesto

Tuna salad

Pears

Tomatoes

Gluten – free bread

Pizza or tomato sauce

Veggie cheese

Prunes

Raisins

Sprouted bread

Pumpkin butter

Veggie meat

Ezekial bread

Ranch

Turkey

Genesis bread

Nayonnaise

Fish

VEGETABLES

TREATS

OTHER

OTHER GRAINS

Asapagus

Lettuce

Apple crisp

Baked tofu

Pasta

Beets

Mushrooms

Applesauce

Bean burrito

Rice

Bell peppers

Seaweed (nori, wakame, hijiki)

Baked chips with salsa

Cottage cheese with fruit

Couscous

Bok choy

Shelling peas

Fruit bar

Garlic toast

Oatmeal

Broccoli Snap peas Granola

Polenta with pizza sauce and cheese

Quinoa

Brussel sprouts

Soy beans (edamame)

Homemade cookies

Bulghar wheat

Cabbage

Spinach

popcorn

Carrots

Squash

pretzels

Cauliflower

Sweet Potatoes

Trail mix

Celery

Yams

Yogurt with fruit

Cucumbers

Zucchini

Eggplant

Green Salad

Green Beans

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Dad’s Corner

BY DAVID SINCLAIR MINORS

Wrestling Vs. Parenting

love wrestling (I can admit it). Professional wrestling has been a part of my life since 1985. I started my admiration during the “Golden Age” of wrestling – with such performers as Randy “Macho Man” Savage, the Junkyard Dog, Jimmy “Superfly” Snuka and the Immortal Hulk Hogan. Throughout high school, college and the beginning of my married life, wrestling still had a small part. When I became a father, it was simply a natural step for me to share the experience with my children. My two girls did not really take to it (not surprisingly); however, my son took to it like a pig in mud. I was ecstatic! I could not wait until he was big enough to “play” wrestling. When he was 6 years old, we were wrestling in the bedroom. After a few body slams and a few other moves (“Rock Bottom”, “Attitude Adjustment”, etc.), he put me in a serious head scissors. I was able to break free only to have him turn the opposite way and judo kick me in the face sending me to the floor. It was then when I realized that I had not provided him with “balance” – the delicate balance of what is right versus what is good. 58

As a parent, our job is to provide our children with balance. The concept of right and wrong – good and bad – is the basis of all good parenting. This is the foundation that we as parents must use at the start when raising our children. It is this moral center that will assist them as they grow to make positive decisions and contribute to the world. But note that I used the term “start” — this was by design. Providing them with the concept is just the start — we, as parents, must then build them up with concrete examples where they must use their own judgment. This allows them to realize the consequences of their decisions, whether good or bad. I did not give my son the necessary tools before I allowed him to be involved in play wrestling. It was my fault that I was knocked to the floor with a knee to the face. I did not explain to him that we were “just playing” — that we needed to make sure we did not hurt each other. I allowed him to be involved in an activity without fully explaining it to him — i.e. no balance — what was right versus what was good. It might have been good to have him to wrestle with; however, it would have been right to give him the rules first. Balance is also important when it comes to rewards and discipline. Firstly, let me state that I believe in proper discipline as I was raised in a Christian home with the concept of “switches” and “licks”. A balance must be struck between any form of physical and non physical discipline — this will ensure that the child fully understands what is wrong, but how to solve the problem differently next time. As parents, we need to explain to our child what they did wrong, making sure they can identify the deficiency for themselves. Talking to the child allows them to express their feelings about the situation and makes them feel a part of the process. Rewards are utilized in the same way. When your child does something extraordinary, it should be celebrated. When your child does something that is required of them, there is no need for some form of reward or gift. That type of reinforcement only gives them a sense of entitlement with no real sense of achievement attached. For example, when my teenager works really hard, studies for an exam and scores an excellent grade, there will be some form of reward for her. However, if she expects to receive something because she washed the dishes the evening she is scheduled to wash dishes, she has another thing coming! There must be balance in all things. So like I said, I love wrestling. My son, who is 8 now, truly enjoys it as well. He has all the wrestling toys

“Talking to the child allows them to express their feelings about the situation and makes them feel a part of the process.” he can get his hands on – the ring, 2 Championship Belts, and numerous wrestling action figures including John Cena, Rey Mysterio and Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. We enjoy watching it together (when time allows – bedtime is 8:30) and occasionally, we will “wrestle” a bit. However, he is now equipped with the knowledge that balance is the key in all things. Too much of any good thing is not always right.

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Dad’s Corner

BY QUINCY BURGESS

The Modern Father A

s civilizations evolve, the roles of the individuals change according to desires and pressures, expectations and cultural influences. This is a discourse on the change of the role of fatherhood and the modern father’s adaptation in modern Western culture. The modern father is a multi-faceted conglomeration of the images and expectations of their father, as well as the changes modern society has placed on him. This challenge is balanced with their own need to accomplish a vision for their life. Their vision as a parent, is a child who sees them in a very specific way, in addition to a vision of a child they want to see grow, adapt and respond to situations in a particular way. Their Father There are three general categories of the modern father’s father. There are those who have their fathers who have been with them since birth. Then there are those who have step-fathers, either from birth or later or a father figure, and those who have never had a father or father figure. The modern father’s father was born between 1945 and 1965 roughly. He is characterized as traditional, or embodying a traditional father figure role which included specific roles. He worked full time, provided for his family solely or grew up in a household where roles were for the most part clearly defined. Wives looked after children and managed the house, and most if not all were fully committed to their marriages. Their Mother The modern father’s mother was the emotional stability of the family and the husband was the economic stability of the family. She was born around the same time, and was often younger than her husband. They would often be heard saying, “Turn off the tap!” and, “Money does not grow on trees.” This is most likely due to the fact that they were conceived during the end of the Second World War where the reality that resources were limited was very real. They would also say, “Work hard and save your money.” This was during a time when the average 2 bedroom house in Bermuda cost $300,000-$400,000 in an average neighbourhood. The average wage was $30,000, so a family could realistically plan to pay off a house in 10 years. The main driver of the economy was tourism which would channel a significant amount of money to lower income earners. 60

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The Modern Father The modern father now is challenged with bringing up a family with the support or non-support of a father who had completely different circumstances. The average income at present is $50,000 with the average family 2 bedroom house costing $1,000,000. In the back of his mind he hears, “Work hard and save your money,” which by math alone is a different challenge. His wife, poses another set of challenges. Due to the fact that she is now working, she needs him to be involved with raising the children, feeding them, changing them and providing emotional support to them. She also needs emotional support, something which his father was not required to do as much. He must make time to be a good listener, and provide understanding feedback based on a cognitive synopsis of the female condition, engaging and encouraging her in her well deserved quest to achieve, in a world where women have recently been accepted to step up to major decision making positions. The modern father is now expected to be an economic stability for the family, and if not, it is probably him who sees his worth in that role as he saw growing up. In addition, he is expected to be an emotional listener, a more recent role, which he never saw most likely, and also, a participant in the household activities, engaging children and instilling values into the next generation. It is easy to see how roles have changed in the last 40 years, and what it means to be a father in the 21st century. Although, I believe we are all up to the challenge, I believe it will be up to us all as a community to be aware of the changing dynamics so that we can be the families we want to be, as well as the society we want to be. Being unaware of the roles and the change in society has caused pressure on families and continual striving to achieve what is in many ways not possible without outside intervention.

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already, such as declining this role in order for him to focus on his first love, golf. Kheary has also competed in various track and field events as well. A few of his accomplishments are placing 2nd in the Orlando Summer Tour and 1st in the Glidden Bowl in Bermuda. While most teens are enjoying their summer off from school, Kheary has been diligently preparing himself to attend Gary Gilchrist Golf Academy in Orlando, Florida. Kheary’s plans are to complete high school at Golf Academy and transition to College Golf. He is determined to make his dream to be a Pro Golfer a reality and play on in the PGA Tour. Kheary is actively seeking sponsors that can assist him to reach his dream through means of advice and or financial assistance. futureprogolf@gmail.com

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At 20 years old, Cynarra Phillips, is currently attending Temple University in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, majoring in Actuarial Science. When she is not swamped with mathematical equations, she can be found relaxing through forms of dancing, drawing and painting. While Cynarra has never formally attended any dance schools, she has been dancing for as long as she can remember. Cynarra’s talents don’t stop at dancing, drawing or painting, for she has learned to play five different instruments. Currently, she plays the drums skills and experiences needed and for Rehoboth Church of God that all things are possible once you in Christ Jesus (Apostolic) on Khyber Pass, Warwick. Her pas- set your mind to it. sion for drums began, when she was part of Clearwater Middle School Drumline and progressed to Bermuda’s National Drumline Academy. Drawing and painting have become her more recent ‘unearthed’ talents. Most of her art pieces are currently on canvas and larger than life sketch paper as well as a mural. The love of art was stimulated when a best friend decided to major in architecture. She says, during her first art class the teacher said ‘ No one sits in my room looking bored. Draw something!’ – it was a Tweety Bird. It did not take me too long to draw and color, but it was quite impressive; at least it was to me. After he provided her with some pointers, she says the artist within her was ‘unleashed’. Through her journey thus far, she has become a believer in experiencing and trying things at least once. She has found the key to her success is to ‘give it her all’ and gain the necessary

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The Bermuda School of Music, a registered Bermuda charity #483, has been providing music education to the Island since 1978. It is our aim to provide community music programs for students of all ages. The school’s faculty offer instruction in piano, voice, organ, guitar, percussion, woodwind and all stringed instruments. Bermuda Underwater Exploration Institute (BUEI) 40 Crow Lane, East Broadway, Pembroke HM 19 Tel: 292-7219 Email: info@buei.org

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