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Book Review x 4 Book Reviews by Terri Schlichenmeyer “A Tale of Two Omars” by Omar Sharif Jr.

c.2021, Counterpoint Press, $26.00 / higher in Canada, 224 pages You always wanted to make your mark.

There’d be no footstep-following in your life. You’d carve your own path, select your own adventures, seize the opportunities that appealed to you, and blaze trails for the sake of others’ journeys. You’d take the best of those you knew and loved, and you’d go your own way. As in the new memoir, “A Tale of Two Omars” by Omar Sharif, Jr., you’ll also make your own mistakes.

Born into a family that had ties on several continents, Omar Sharif, Jr. never had to worry about money or a place to live.

On one side of the family – his maternal side – the Holocaust left a mark on his mother’s parents, who’d barely escaped the concentration camps. On the other side, Sharif’s paternal grandparents were both famous and beloved actors with

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roots in Egypt. Sharif was close with his entire family, but particularly with his grandfather, Omar Sharif.

Sharif recalls many a dinner party, listening, while his grandfather held court at dinner, laughing and telling stories. Everyone, everything seemed so elegant and refined and those meals showed Sharif a life that he could have if he wanted it. As time passed, the lessons he received were paid back: he was one of the few allowed to help his grandfather as Alzheimer’s took hold at the end of the great actor’s life.

But this is not a story of a famous actor or a grandfather.

It’s the story of a man who’s not just half-Jewish and Egyptian. He’s also gay, a part of himself that Sharif kept hidden until well into adulthood, although he says that other children must’ve sensed it when he was young. It was a part of himself that he feared revealing to his father. It helped him land a dream job that ultimately became a nightmare.

The title of this book “A Tale of Two Omars” is a bit of a misnomer. Judging by what author Omar Sharif Jr. writes here, there are several Omars: the activist; a globe-hopper; a son and grandson; a writer; and a grandfather whose life was impactful but who has a surprisingly small footprint in this book.

Which is not to say that readers will like them all.

Indeed, parts of this book may seem as though you’ve read them before: bullied as a child, fear of coming out, the college revelation, the mismatched first love. Those ubiquitous bits are here, but they pale in comparison to Sharif’s ultra-urbane life and the hair-raising, terrifying account of getting and getting out of what seemed like the ultimate job with a wealthy sheikh, a job that slowly grew dangerous. That story-within-a-story is so edgy, so mouth-drying, that you’ll throw away the thriller you bought last week.

Then there’s the part about his life-threatening activism, a tale that starts and ends this book...

And so beware at the unevenness of this memoir, but understand that the tedium doesn’t linger. Skip past the ho-humness of “A Tale of Two Omars” and the rest is remarkable.

“The Audacity of a Kiss: A Memoir” by Leslie Cohen c.2021, Rutgers University Press $24.95, 235 pages Don’t move. Stay entirely still, don’t even breathe. You’re about to become a symbol of something that’s bigger than you are, something you’ll be proud of for the rest of your days. Don’t flinch, scratch, or sneeze, just don’t do any-

thing. Don’t move. Unless it’s to turn the pages of “The Audacity of a Kiss” by Leslie Cohen.

Behind every statue is a story, and the one behind those representing four people in Christopher Park in New York’s Greenwich Village is no different. But to explain how this monument came about means also telling a long love story and a tale about a nightclub.

Leslie Cohen’s mother was her very best friend, although there were misunderstandings in the relationship. Sevenyear-old Leslie couldn’t see why she received pink girly things for her birthday. In later years, she couldn’t understand why her mother deferred to Leslie’s father and endured his abuse.

The one thing Cohen did understand was that once puberty hit, the boys in her neighborhood were no longer pals to roughhouse with. She was supposed to want to date them and it didn’t entirely make sense, but Cohen went along with it even after she left home for college.

She went out with boys and lost her virginity to one, but continues on next page

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meeting Beth was the most remarkable thing about higher learning. She was sure she was in love with Beth, but Beth was obsessed with a boy and so Cohen moved on.

She moved on to other men and then women, at a time between when women loving women was unthinkable, and the Summer of Love. Cohen embraced her lesbianism, fell in and out of love, and went into a partnership with three other women to open New York’s first lesbian club, where lesbians and straight feminists were welcome to dance and drink.

To be sure, it was a heady time. Cohen worked nonstop, gained confidence and learned to run a bar business. She was busy, but happy.

And then Beth came back into her life...

Let’s face it: author Leslie Cohen’s life story is basically like that of a lot of lesbians born at the beginning of the Baby Boom. A solid childhood, confusion, self-awareness, entrepreneurship all make a somewhat familiar story set apart by one abundant thing: warmth.

Indeed, “The Audacity of a Kiss” is an easy tale. It’s comfortable, like a crackling fireplace and a glass of wine on a cushy sofa. There are accomplishments here, told so that you really share the pride in them. Readers are shown the struggle that Cohen had, too, but experiences are wellframed by explanations of the times in which they occurred, with nothing overly-dramatic – just the unabashed truth, and more warmth. Opening this book, in a way, then, is like accepting an invitation to own the recliner for an evening, and you won’t want anything else.

Younger lesbians will get a lot from this book, but anyone who’s been there will relish it. Get “The Audacity of a Kiss,” then sit down... and don’t move.

“Capote’s Women: A True Story of Love, Betrayal, and a Swan Song for An Era”

by Laurence Leamer

c.2021, Putnam, $28.00 / $37.00 Canada, 356 pages Her lips are locked tight. Your best friend knows all your secrets, and she’s keeping them; you told her things you had to tell somebody, and she’s telling nobody. You always knew you could trust her; if you couldn’t, she wouldn’t be your BFF. But as in the new book “Capote’s Women” by Laurence Leamer, what kind of a friend are you?

For months, Truman Capote had been promising a blockbuster.

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Following his success with “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” and “In Cold Blood,” he was “one of the most famous authors in the world” but he needed a career-booster. The novel he was writing, he teased, would be about “his swans,” seven wealthy, fashionable women who quite personified “beauty, taste, and manners.”

His first swan was Barbara “Babe” Paley, whom he’d met on a trip with the David Selznicks to Jamaica. For Capote, “Babe was the epitome of class,” simply “perfect” in every way; it helped that the famously gay writer was no threat to Paley’s “madly jealous” husband.

Babe’s “dearest friend” was Nancy “Slim” Keith, who quickly learned that if a lady wanted her confidences kept, she didn’t tell Capote anything. She shouldn’t have trusted Babe, either: When Slim left for a European trip, Babe asked if Slim’s husband could accompany Babe’s friend, Pamela Hayward, to a play. Slim was aware of Pamela’s predatory reputation, but what could she say? Of course, Pamela, another of Truman’s swans, stole Slim’s man, a scandal that Capote loved.

Gloria Guinness was highly intelligent, possibly enough to be a spy in Nazi Germany. Lucy “C.Z.” Guest was an up-

Book Reviews per-crust “elitist” with a “magical aura.” Marella Agnelli “was born an Italian princess”; Lee Radziwill, of course, was Jacqueline Kennedy’s sister.

Through the late 1960s, Capote claimed to be writing his masterpiece, his tour de force based on his swans, but several deadlines passed for it. He was sure “Answered Prayers” “would turn him once again into the most talked-about author in America.” Instead, when an excerpt from it was published, his swans got very ruffled feathers.

Every time you stand in line for groceries, the tabloids scream at you with so much drama that you either love it or hate it. Or, in the case of “Capote’s Women,” you cultivate it.And that’s infinitely fun, as told by author Laurence Leamer.

Happily, though, Leamer doesn’t embellish or disrespect these women or Capote; he tells their tales in order, gently allowing readers’ heads to spin with the wild, globe-hopping goings-on but not to the point that it’s overdone.

While most of this book is about these seven beautiful, wealthy, and serially married women – the Kardashians of their time, if you will – Capote is Leamer’s glue, and Truman gets his due, as well.

Readers who devour this book will be sure that the writer would’ve been very happy about that. “Capote’s Women” should be like catnip to celeb-watchers of a certain age but even if you’re not, find it. If you’re a Hollywood fan, you’ll want to get a lock on it.

“Allies: Real Talk about Showing Up, Screwing Up, and Trying Again” by various authors and writers, edited by Shakirah Bourne & Dana Alison Levy

c.2021, Dorling Kindersley Ltd.,$16.99 / $21.99, 240 pages You’d do anything for your friends. You help them in school when they need it, or with a loan in a pinch. Your home is their home, and vice versa. You might share clothes with your friends, seats, secrets and for sure, support but what about people you don’t know that well? In the new book “Allies” by various authors, you start upright and on your feet.

School has started and some kids – kids of color, queer kids, different kids – are struggling. You want to help but you don’t know how to even begin. So now what?

The first thing to know about being an ally is in the first chapter of this book: you will screw up sometimes. It’s not fun, it’s uncomfortable, and you can’t just dump your guilt back on whoever you’re trying to support. Instead, learn from it, and get used to it. But wait. Can’t you help?

“It’s complicated,” says Dana Alison Levy, the first author.

You can loudly be an ally, but when it’s not your time to speak, then hush. Allies remember that pronouns are important things (see above: you’ll screw up) and when someone reveals their preferred name, an ally makes sure it’s used. Allies know that the letters “LGBTQIA+” don’t stop at “G.” When they see someone with a disability, they don’t rush in and act like superheroes. They ask first if they can help, and they never see a disabled person as a “tool” to get extra privileges. Likewise, they don’t finish sentences for a stutterer and it should go without saying that allies are never bullies. Nope, they reach for understanding, and if they don’t understand, they can be schooled.

Being an ally doesn’t stop at sexuality or disability, though.

You can be an ally for women by standing up to misogyny.

You can stand up by seeing color and acknowledging it.

You can stand up and admit that there are things you’ll never experience.

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And sometimes, being an ally is knowing when it’s time to walk away... When it comes to being a better friend to those who need one, you always want to do what’s right – but sometimes, right is wrong and arrrrgh! It seems like maybe you need something of an ally to be an ally, and this book can help.

With straight talk but a light touch, “Allies” helps young readers dispense with the awkwardness of not knowing how to act, through reassuring stories meant to show that merely just showing up is a great start. The chapters aren’t long – some are told with artwork – and they’re as diverse as the writers themselves. They’re not preachy, either: each is told by an appreciative person who’s received much-needed support and others whose eyes were opened, giving readers the upbeat, forward-looking, I-cando-this feeling they might get in the eager moments before a march or a rally.

That makes “Allies” a great first step for any progressive-thinking 12-to-18-year-old who needs a good launchpoint.

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LGBTQIA+ Documentary Films

By Mark Adams I got a call the other day from an acquaintance I hadn’t heard from in ages. It was someone I had…er, “dated,” as they say, around a gazillion years ago for a brief period of time. The most memorable experience I can recall of our adventures that I can discuss in a family publication is attending a performance of the famous (or, more accurately, infamous) Boston drag performer Sylvia Sydney, known for her quick wit and filthy chatter. We sat in the front row.

Enough said, particularly if you are of a certain age and remember the old queen. But I digress. The acquaintance and I chatted for a half hour or so about how much has changed in the LGBTQIA+ whatever community over the decades.

We lamented the bubbles of “gay communities” that have pretty much dissolved, and it should be a requisite for the younger generations to check out the plethora of material available to get some insight into our history. There are probably a hundred or so of these documentaries available from various sources, a few of which I shall mention here, because that’s what I do.

The first is a highly praised film from 1967, called PORTRAIT OF JASON, in which a black male prostitute and aspiring entertainer recounts his life story. Jason passed away in obscurity in 1998, but it’s a fascinating look at his life and the racial overtones in the late 60s.

THE QUEEN was filmed around the same time, and is a time capsule of drag life during that era. It’s a look behind the scenes at the 1967 Miss All American Camp Beauty Pageant in NYC. Think of it as an early version of Ru Paul’s Drag Race, and features a rare appearance of Andy Warhol.

Brilliantly reviewed by the New York Times, I might add.

It took until 1984 for the screen documentary of BEFORE STONEWALL to chronicle gay history from the 1969

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Stonewall riots to the more modern movement taking place in ‘84. An excellent piece of its kind.

THE TIMES OF HARVEY MILK, also from 1984, is a more widely-viewed and distributed film, but is always welcome for recurring viewings.

It took a Canadian outfit to come out with FORBIDDEN LOVE: THE UNASHAMED STORIES OF LESBIAN LIVES, and you’ve have to really search to find this one on IMDB. The box cover for the what must have been a VHS release brings back fond memories of the back rooms of seedy book stores, but the film itself features both real and fictional interviews with women who discuss their sexualities during the 40s, 50s and 60s. Described in reviews as “often hilarious and always rebellious,” I can’t wait to check this one out.

Another film from Canada that sounds like a hoot is EDIE AND THEA, A VERY LONG ENGAGEMENT. From 2010, it tells the story of two women sharing the story of a love that has lasted for over 40 years. And how can you resist a movie that gets the review, ‘Edie and Thea are the elderly lesbians aunts you never had.”

And, not that this ever happens, homosexuality in politics is the topic of 2009s OUTRAGE. Described as “...a fascinating and provocative look at homosexuality in American politics,” hypocrisy lives on in DC.

The battle for human rights is brought to light in THE DEATH AND LIFE OF MARSHA P. JOHNSON, about the 1992 murder of the transgender legend. A reviewer at RogerEbert.com says, “...reminds the viewer of how far we’ve come, and how far we have yet to go.”

Many of these films can be found on various streaming services. My favorite site to check out where things are available is JustWatch.com - they are pretty accurate. Enjoy.

Mark Adams has been a popular contributor to LGBTQIA+ Media for many years, writing extensively on film and video of interest to the community. You can email him at vidioview@ gmail.com with any of your favorites for a future scribbling.

“Forbidden Love” Documentary of lesbian lives in the 1940s, 1950s and 1960s

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GAYPHABET SOUP LGBTQIA+ Defined

by Chloe Belle In the late 1960s and the early 1970s, gay defined us all. Woman, man, trans we were all gay. But more and more gay defined only men so lesbian was added to many acronym, then B for bisexual, and T for transgender. Then for years LGBT defined us all once again. These letters were an evolution toward inclusion. Times and attitudes have changed, and the language used to discuss sexual orientation and gender identity has also changed. As a result, the established LGBT abbreviation has acquired a few extra letters. Not everyone has adopted them yet but those wanting a definition here goes.

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were assigned at birth. Including the asterisk after trans denotes a special effort to include all non-binary, gender queer, and gender non-conforming identities.

Q

The addition of “Q” that became increasingly popular as the 20th century turned into the 21st. Some insisted this stood for “questioning”, others declared it was for “queer,” a general term like gay. Embracing a once derogatory and turning it into an all inclusive.

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LESBIAN AND GAY are as basic as it gets. As “homosexual”was pejorative, gay became the mainstream term to refer to same-sex attraction in the late 1960s and early ’70s. Then gay liberation movement gained steam, the phrase “gay and lesbian” became more popular as a way to highlight the similar-yet-separate issues faced by women in the fight for tolerance.

B

BISEXUAL – someone who is attracted to people of their gender or opposite gender. The stereotypes around bisexuality as a transitional phrase to gay or lesbian which advocates speak out more about what they see as “bisexual erasure” — the persistent questioning or trivializing of the bisexual identity.

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INTERSEX – A term for someone born with biological sex characteristics that aren’t traditionally associated with male or female bodies. Intersexuality does not refer to sexual orientation or gender identity.

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ASEXUAL AND/OR ALLY Asexual – Often referred to as “Ace”, this is an umbrella term used for individuals who do not experience, or experience a low level, of sexual desire. This identity can include those who are interested in having romantic relationships, and those who are not. People of different sexual orientations and gender identities can be asexual.

Ally – People who identify as cisgender and straight, and believe in social and legal equality for LGBTQIA+ people are allies.

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Divorce

by D. Bullen When the Supreme Court’s 2015 Obergefell decision made same-sex marriage the law of the land, same-sex couples broke down a significant barrier to enjoy the right to marry. Six years later, many couples in that first wave have found that the right to a same-sex divorce was another barrier waiting to be broken down.

For same-sex couples who fought for the right to marry and be accepted, divorce can seem like a bitter defeat, which raises all kinds of mean whispers from the galleys, but this is just part of the hell of divorce: it makes you rethink everything, and fight about it in a semi-public stage.

While this exposure made one divorcing woman wish for “the old days, when we were in the closet and no one knew what we did,” many same-sex couples have delighted in their new visibility, in being taken seriously in the country’s official courts.

LGBTQIA+ couples divorce for the same reasons as everyone else. They fall out of love or they are pulled by competing priorities such as family, career, or financial stress.

According to Pride Legal, studies show that gay and lesbian couples are happier than heterosexual couples, although an article by the National Council on Family Relations states that “same-sex and different-sex couples break up at rates

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that are statistically indistinguishable.” Gay and lesbian marriages, though, break up at very different rates: while 16% of gay marriages end in divorce, 34% of lesbian marriages are dissolved by the courts.

Lee Tyler Family Law gives some insight into why that might be. They say that two-thirds of heterosexual divorces are initiated by women, so in marriages with two women, the tendency toward divorce increases substantially. The article also points out that since lesbian couples tend to be a little bit older when they marry, more of their marriages are second marriages, which exposes them to the danger that second marriages fail at higher rates than first marriages. This article also points out that women are more likely to cite infidelity as the cause for divorce than men, who seem to take it in stride. A UCLA study found that “first wave LGBTQIA+ marriages have proved more durable than heterosexual ones,” as long-time partners were finally able to marry, but according to the study, “that’s not expected to last” as the next waves of same-sex couples marry.

For some couples who had taken such pride in marrying in that first wave, the reality of divorce was hard to bear.

In a New York Magazine article, Jesse Green tells the story

of Kevin Muir and Sam Ritchie. These same-sex pioneers were married in Massachusetts in the first week after samesex marriage became available, but once they were married, their adoption plans revealed that they had very different approaches to parenting, and these differences turned into fights that did not resolve. When the moment of truth arrived, and adoption was finally possible, they found instead that they had arrived at the end of the road, where now they were no longer marriage poster children, they were simply another statistic meant as a warning to other optimistic couples. Fortunately, they say, because they did not have children, their divorce was largely a peaceful negotiation about custody of their dog, and division of a few assets.

Some same-sex couples have found that the process of legal divorce confers legitimacy. In “Celebrating My (Gay) Divorce,” author Steven Petrow says that he had relished his (gay) marriage in California, two years before Obergefell, and he came to relish his gay divorce as well, as it raised him above the status of teens who ‘split up,’ or other couples who simply ‘break up. His divorce was the sundering of a state and church recognized tie, and he says that he appreciated the gravity of that status, especially after having made the first-in-his-area gay marriage, at the time.

LGBTQIA+ couples were not always able to break up this cleanly. Before marriage equality was consistent nation-wide, states used to have residency requirements before you could divorce, so if you lived in Georgia and got married in California, the Georgia courts would not let you dissolve a marriage they did not recognize, but if you wanted to divorce in California, you needed to establish residency there.

Even now, the courts have been slow to adopt clear strategies for dividing same-sex couples’ property. Courts typically only recognize property acquired since the marriage was formed, but for couples who lived together for 20, 30, or 40 years before they could legally marry, dividing assets can still be complicated, and child custody and visitation can be complicated if the non-biological parent has not legally adopted the children.

Fortunately for LGBTQIA+ couples, the increased visibility of same-sex marriage and divorce is leading to an increase in research which leads to greater visibility, so that each same-sex divorce is contributing to a public body of

knowledge, and a plethora of websites from family and divorce law firms have sprung up to offer insights and resources to help people through the process.

In one important 2019 resource—LGBTQIA+ Divorce and Relationship Dissolution: Psychological and Legal Perspectives and Implications for Practice—a legal scholar and psychology professor provide resources for the growing number of law firms that specialize in LGBTQIA+ divorce, in order to give LGBTQIA+ couples the access to equity through the courts, and to minimize the chances that they will face discrimination in the proceedings.

The courts are not always friendly to LGBTQIA+ couples.

In a recent case of transgender author Joy Ladin, a Western Massachusetts woman who transitioned from male to female, her wife did not accept her transition, and filed for divorce on the grounds that her husband had abandoned the family. She then accused her transitioning spouse of being a danger to their three kids—simply for transitioning—which led to a costly investigation by the state, and even though the investigators ultimately concluded that there was no actual danger, the process itself was traumatizing.

This kind of trauma can compound other gender or sexuality related trauma. “I think getting divorced is a big closeting force,” says a woman in an article by Aaron Hoy, Ph.D., of the National Council on Family Relations, because of the complex realities and nuances surrounding a same-sex marriage. “You don’t want to talk about it, you don’t want to explain it to all of these people … because half of them won’t get it anyway.” As transgender author Joy Ladin puts it, “I don’t think divorce brings out the best in most people,” and clearly the prospect of dueling lawyers waging a war over attrition over every detail of a once-shared life can be horrifying. But for same-sex couples people who never had recourse to the courts, it is a sign of progress to rely on the resources of court-appointed mediators, arbitrators, and judges in order to arrive at a potentially fair division of property, child custody, and visitation.

For the foreseeable future, LGBTQIA+ couples who divorce will still be breaking new ground as they building on the rights they won through Obergefell, but however the details of the relationship unravel, the LGBTQIA+ community itself will still be there with its love, its creativity and its understanding, to give everyone another chance at love.

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By D. Bullen In 2019, fifty years after the Stonewall riot spurred the creation of the LGBTQIA+ rights movement, the New York Police Department Commissioner James O'Neill finally apologized for the raid. "The actions taken by the NYPD were wrong, plain and simple. What happened should not have happened.

The actions and the laws were discriminatory and oppressive, and for that, I apologize." (In 2016, then Commissioner William Bratton said that Stonewall was “a terrible experience” but he said that there was no longer any need for an apology since the riot had been “a tipping point” for change.)

Many police departments throughout the US have liaison position which have existed at the department for some time. Currently in the wake of the protests that followed George Floyd’s murder by Minneapolis police officer Derek Chauvin, there has been a new urgency in law enforcement, to strengthen ties to the diverse communities police serve. More and more police departments are making efforts to work with the LGBTQIA+ community, to train officers in LGBTQIA+ issues, and to build trust by recruiting and giving visibility to LGBTQIA+ officers. Each win serves as a precedent for future reforms and progress, offering some people the optimistic feeling that the relations between law enforcement and the LGBTQIA+ community can improve.

Some of the changes are designed to give the LGBTQIA+ community confidence that their needs are taken seriously by police departments. Changes have included campaigns to provide visibility for LGBTQIA+ officers, to show the community that they are represented from inside the force, and LGBTQIA+ community liaisons, to represent LGBTQIA+ concerns in departmental planning and policy.

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Brookline, officer Kristin Healey serves as LGBTQIA+ Liaison

In Brookline, Massachusetts officer Kristin Healey serves as LGBTQ Liaison. She has been out since she joined the force, but she says that she started to advocate for better response to LGBTQIA+ issues when she was called to a routine domestic disturbance involving a teenage girl who did not want her parents to know that she was out with her girlfriend. Officer Healy says that there were limits to what she could do as a police officer, but she wanted to be able to offer more assistance as a community member, so she met with the teachers who run the gay-straight alliance in the school, (now the gender sexuality alliance,) and partnered with community teen center to do some meet and greets with officers. They even set up some self-defense classes for LGBTQIA+ kids. She partnered as well with the senior center, organizing programming for LGBTQIA+ seniors to share stories and resources and increase their visibility.

Officer Healy also followed in the footsteps of the Seattle police department, who implemented a Safe Spaces program, eliciting pledges from local businesses to keep their eyes open for hate crimes, and to allow victims of hate crimes to wait safely in their

stores till help arrives. In Seattle, the Safe Haven program led to an enormous increase in visibility of hate crimes, as reports increased from 24 in 2014 to 71 in 2015.

Police departments have been increasing their efforts to acknowledge LGBTQIA+ concerns, with rainbow-branded cruisers, and rainbow flags outside of precinct headquarters. There are still no federal guidelines or requirements for LGBTQIA+-related training for cops, but California and New Jersey recently mandated such training, and the country’s largest police departments—in New York City, Chicago, Los Angeles, Philadelphia, Houston, and Washington, D.C.—all require LGBTQIA+ training for officers.

In Washington D.C., Sgt. Nicole Brown serves as the LGBTQIA+ liaison in the Metropolitan Police Department, which was the first police department in the country to offer LGBTQIA+ training on topics such as “intensive courses ranging from how to approach investigating suspected anti-LGBTQIA+ hate crimes to the importance of using the correct pronouns for transgender people.” Brown says that training is not as effective as the connections that come from on-the-beat experience in the commu-

Washington D.C., Sgt. Nicole Brown LGBTQIA+ liaison

2019, NYC Police Department Commissioner James O'Neill apologizes for 1969 Stonewall Raid

nity, where officers meet community leaders and hear people’s stories, then represent those stories to their units. These experiences help break down biases and prejudices, humanizing each community to the other.

In 2014, Greg Miraglia founded Out to Protect, to serve as a resource for LGBTQIA+ law enforcement officers, and in 2016 he published a book, Coming Out from Behind the Badge, to educate communities about issues related to LGBTQIA+ policing, and to serve as a resource for reforming a police culture that has landed numerous police departments in the courts, over the years, where they have paid large fines and settlements for discriminating against LGBTQIA+ officers.

Some police departments are responding to LGBTQIA+ concerns by changing the nature of police work itself. Departments have repealed laws that previously targeted the LGBTQIA+ community such as anti-loitering laws, which were known as the ‘walking while trans’ laws. Progress has meant police forces changing their priorities, since until recently, cops were charged with enforcing these and other homophobic laws. After all, gay sex was only decriminalized nation-wide following the 2003 Lawrence v.

Texas Supreme Court case.

Many police departments are training their officers to respond differently to LGBTQIA+-involved calls. In Grand Rapids, the police department has required training in “best practices in de-escalation for LGBTQIA+ individuals, microaggressions, continues on next page

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misgendering and the historical relationship between law enforcement and the LGBTQIA+ community.” Other departments are adding “non-binary” as a gender option in their reporting systems. In Brookline, Officer Healy has developed training about LGBTQIA+ issues, and there is talk about piloting programs for running trainings state-wide and beyond.

Not all LGBTQIA+ advocates are convinced that policing can be changed, and they point out that it takes time for a large police force to train all of its officers on LGBTQIA+ issues, and to change an institutional culture that has not always, or only recently, tracked statistics for LGBTQIA+ officers.

Christy Mallory, who teaches LGBT Law and Policy at the Williams Institute at UCLA School of Law, says “We need to take from the inflated police budgets and put funding back into violence interrupters and harm reduction efforts in the community.” A May 2021 report by the Williams Institute showed that LGBTQIA+ people are six times more likely than the general public to be stopped by police.

But some cops are optimistic that change can come from within. Brian Downey, president of the Gay Officers Action League, says that he hopes that “with more people coming out and more people coming on the job that openly identify as LGBTQIA+, the experience and career progression of our folks in the rank and file will improve, and that will ultimately lead to better relationships with the community.”

With vaccine mandates and a wave of retirements thinning police forces, there is currently a huge amount of work being done by smaller forces, so even though LGBTQIA+-related issues involve huge investments of community-building and meetings, the time seems to be ripe for LGBTQIA+ recruits to undergo the six months of training and start working to change the culture of policing from the inside.

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Historic Provincetown Properties Buildings and their history

by Chloe Belle

Lands End Inn

Artistic, historic, and progressive, Provincetown is one of the most impressive and unique communities in the United States. Its natural beauty is unparalleled, with miles of protected National Seashore with beaches and magnificent sunrises and sunsets. There is no question that the LGBTQIA+ community has shaped the character and architectural sensibilities of the town’s historic buildings, by lovingly restoring some of the many impressive properties. Here is a small sampling of these fascinating and historic buildings.

LANDS END INN

Working from west to east on Commercial Street, we start with Lands End Inn in the West End, which has just recently been sold to a buyer who plans to restore it to a single family dwelling. It was originally known as the Bungalow. Its builder, Charles Lathrop Higgins (1863-1926) was a ‘nonconformist,’ who descended from the Pilgrims on his mother’s side. Lathrop Higgins was a ‘lifelong bachelor,’ world traveler and lecturer.

His shingle-style, craft-work, polygonal structure is perched on what was originally called Gull Hill, where it has enjoyed amazing views of the West End waterfront. Some of the 24 rooms were teak paneled and contained Asian art and antiquities.

After Mr. Higgins’ death in 1926, the Buckler family purchased Higgins’ summer home and offered rooms for rent as Lands End Inn, which was known for its hospitality and Russian Tea Room. The Bucklers traveled globally and brought back arti-

Room with Victorian decor and vaulted wood ceiling

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facts from around the world, many of which can be found in the inn today. The Bucklers owned the property until 1955 when ‘two gentlemen,’ Jules Wade and Norman Lague, acquired it and added a heating system.

David Schoolman took over this Cape Cod Inn in 1972. The significant changes he made included adding the large veranda and new tower at the front of the building, extending the rooms on the main level, and adding private baths. Many of the artifacts, museum-quality art, and antiques seen in the inn today were his additions. When he passed away in 1995, the inn passed into the David Schoolman Trust, which he organized to benefit the theater community in Provincetown. The current Provincetown Theater was largely funded from the Schoolman Trust fund.

In 2001 Michael MacIntyre acquired the Lands End Inn from the Trust and committed to preserving the inn’s integrity as a Provincetown landmark. An architecture buff, Michael integrated some of today’s comforts and amenities.

The Inn was purchased by Stan and Eva Sikorski in 2012. World travelers and art lovers, Provincetown has been a treasured part of life for the Sikorskis for over 45 years, and they were dedicated to continuing the high standards Lands End Inn guests have come to love. They also continued the tradition of supporting the arts community, including hosting regular fundraisers and provided direct support for Provincetown Art Association and Museum, Fine Arts Work Center, Open Mic. Café, Nonviolent Peace-force, and many individual visual and performing artists.

At the time, S. P. (short for “Sweet Pants,” a childhood nickname) was a very well known accountant in Provincetown.

(Silva is a common Portuguese name in Provincetown but he was not related to any of the local Silvas). According to Paoletti, S.P. spent a small fortune renovating the place, adding a full apartment in the basement and most notably the deck up on the roof. The house was filled with antiques and oriental carpets, staying there till he sold it in the ’90s, and moved to Hawaii, where he passed away. In 2011 Kathleen Mayo and Cheryl Stewart purchased the house. They implemented an extensive rehabilitation. Today it is beautifully restored, owned by a trust with Kathleen Mayo as trustee. continues on next page

THE OCTAGON HOUSE The Octagon House is a unique, three-unit, water view home located in the West End. Built in 1850 for “Whaling Master” Robert Soper, the shape it is the only home of this architectural style in Provincetown, a design that was thought to divert storms. Robert Soper was the founding trustee of the Centennial Methodist Church, and a founding incorporator of Seamen’s Savings Bank. When all of the whales were gone Soper sold everything and moved to the Boston suburb of Melrose.

Between 1920s to the early 1940s, Mildred O’Neill owned the property, running the building as the Octagon Inn and restaurant.

In 1945, it changed hands again when Mellen and Isabel Hatch bought it and renamed it Hatchway. Isabel Hatch made the property into a rest home, which was closed in 1973 for failure to meet safety requirements.

As Leonard Paoletti wrote on www.buildingprovincetown2020. org ‘Shortly after the Octagon House was closed as a nursing home, it was purchased by James “S. P.” Silva and his lover Nick.

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Edwin and his son, Richard Grozier (1887-1946), were community minded, donating Grozier Park, a privately-owned public space on the waterfront, which is where the Boatslip now resides.

In October 1929, Richard married his father’s secretary Margaret “Peggy” Murphy, who came to Provincetown during the summers to work for Edwin. This led to Peggy and Richard’s romance then marriage, although she died in childbirth in 1933. Grozier remarried a year later, to Helen Doherty, Peggy Grozier’s private nurse before her death, but he was depressed by Peggy’s death, and he was ultimately committed to McLean Hospital, where he died in 1946. Helen continued to summer in Provincetown at the Commercial Street property, until she she passed away in 1963.

Six months after her passing, Reggie and his wife, Meara (McKie) Cabral bought the house, which continued to impress. Manuela Bonnie Oppen Jordan, Reggie’s first cousin once removed said in an interview on buildingprovincetown2020.org that she was “always awed by the beauty of this spectacular home with its huge ceilings, glass-enclosed room, butler’s pantry, the majestic staircase looking down upon amazing artwork.”

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GROZIER-CABRAL HOUSE

The Grozier-Cabral House is the quintessential Commercial Street Captain House, with a traditional cupola that allows a magnificent view of the harbor and shipping traffic. The house has an amazing history of renowned occupants, starting with Capt. Joseph Atkins (1766-1851) who built the house where his wife Ruth Nickerson and 10 children resided.

One of Captain Atkins sons, William Atkins, eventually took over the Central Wharf Company partnership, and remained at the helm of the company until 1864. After William Atkins death, his Commercial Street house was sold for $2,650 to Edwin Grozier, Atkins’s nephew by marriage. Despite having been born with sea legs, Grozier had gravitated to journalism, and acquired the bankrupt 60-year-old the Boston Post in 1891. By the time he bought the Atkins house, he had turned the Post into he most widely circulated morning newspaper in America in the early 20th century, and served as its editor and publisher.

The traditional ‘Captian’s House’ cupola

Reggie Cabral also owned the Atlantic House, which had served as a favorite bar to many of the famous artists and musicians of post WWII Provincetown’s Art Colony. In the 1970s Reggie turned the Atlantic House into a gay club.

In 1996, when Reggie Cabral died of a heart attack, his estate was divided between his surviving daughters. Daughter Jennifer Cabral was awarded the Commercial Street house. Jennifer and her contractor boyfriend—now husband, Ian— moved into the long-abandoned house and started a much needed renovation.

They reside there to this day and are active community members supporting front-line workers in the recent pandemic as well as many other community groups.

Harbor view from the cupola

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weddings, and the number of marriage licenses soared to 900, up from 25 the year before.

Inside on the first and upper floors, halls, meeting rooms and auditorium echo the past with oak-lined dark paneled walls and floors.

Two paintings by Charles Hawthorne hang in the main corridor.

“The Crew of the Philomena Manta” was painted in his studio. The painting “Fish Cleaners” on the opposite wall reflects Hawthorne’s interest in the life of the local Portuguese fishermen.

The large murals hang in the Town Hall entrance, “Gathering Beach Plums” and “Spreading Nets,” were painted by Ross Moffett, who studied with Hawthorne. Moffett was one of the first year- round painters in Provincetown, and he completed these

PROVINCETOWN TOWN HALL

Designed by Architect John A. Fox, this Victorian-era structure was built in 1886 after the previous one was destroyed by fire in 1877. The building has been used as the seat of town government.

The second floor auditorium hosts town hall meetings, but also other events including graduations, costume balls, concerts, performances, and fundraisers. It is prominently listed in the Provincetown National Historic District.

The town completed renovations in 2009, which were performed

by McGinley Kalsow & Associates. The pale green exterior, with cream-colored trim accents, mirrors the original historic exterior paint color.

In May 2004, Town Hall hosted some of the state’s first same-sex

“The Crew of the Philomena Manta” by Charles Hawthorne (1872 – 1930)

paintings in 1934 under the Federal Public Works of Art Project of the Depression era. His“Gathering Beach Plums” and “Spreading Nets,” are large murals in the Town Hall entrance.

More than thirty other paintings from the Provincetown art collection can be seen in Town Hall offices and hallways. Their presence

“Spreading the Nets and The Town” by Ross Moffett (1888-1971)

signals that Town Hall is an art gallery as well as a fully functional town building. The majority of the work was produced in the first half of the 20th century, representing a variety of styles, though most depicts Provincetown subjects and scenes. A free brochure, available to visitors in Town Hall, outlines the history of art in Provincetown and identifies the paintings on display.

Detail of the Provincetown Town Hall Auditorium

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lection to Virginia, where he opened a modern museum that is still operating today.

The building was then abandoned until 1974, when two local men purchased it and started a “Center for the Arts.” It was received well by the community, but it was insolvent, and the bank repossessed it after only a year.

In 1976, it opened as the Provincetown Heritage Museum. The museum’s astonishing, ship-in-a-bottle centerpiece was a halfscale model of the legendary schooner Rose Dorothea. Eventually the number of people visiting the Heritage Museum declined.

Reborn again in 2002 as the future new location of the Provincetown Public Library. Extensive renovations started with the library’s website kepting the community updated, “The interior of the building will be completely gutted, reconstructed and restored to its original design in so much as is possible. Finally comply-

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PROVINCETOWN PUBLIC LIBRARY

Built in 1860 as the Center Methodist Episcopal Church, the Provincetown Public Library was the largest church of Methodist denomination anywhere in the United States.

It was reborn as the Chrysler Art Museum, a fine art collection, in 1958, when it was sold to Walter P. Chrysler Jr., son of Chrysler Corporation founder. The Chrysler Art Museum’s success was limited by sparse parking until 1970. When the Town of Provincetown would not help Chrysler find parking, he moved with his col-

Half-scale model of the schooner Rose Dorothea

ing with the Massachusetts Historical Commission requirements to maintain the grand staircases and restore the vaulted ceiling in this National Historic Landmark property, the stairs was re-railed in order to open them for use by the public, and the vaulted ceiling will be enhanced with a secondary vault to embrace and accommodate the masts of the Rose.”

In 2005, the building began a new life as the Provincetown Public Library, which had been residing at the Freeman building at 330 Commercial Street. The spacious interior of the library retains the grand open spaces of the former church. Much of the collection is contained on the first floor, in custom-built cases that cleverly re-use the mahogany arm rests from church pews that had been stored in the basement.

If you’re interested in a fascinating street-by-street description of Provincetown’s buildings, we highly recommend David Dunlap, Building Provincetown. The book’s websites; buildingprovincetown.wordpress.com and www.buildingprovincetown2020.org, provide fascinating stories and insights into the buildings and personalities that led to the Provincetown we know and love today.

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by N. McCarty I can remember as a young gay boy walking through Downtown Boston, back in the day when Jordan Marsh and Woolworths ruled the territory, and looking in the shop windows. One day my Mother was looking in the window of E. B. Horn, which is still in business, and I was immediately hooked. The bling, the gold and platinum were and are AMAZING! Since that day I will admit I became a jewelry junkie.

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the times at a financial loss but I have owned more rings

thing and your wearing it on your hand or in your ear – I

than Tom Brady could ever hope for.

think it’s amazing!

The feeling I had when asked what I wanted for Christ-

Designing your own piece is a real memory along with

mas and answered a ruby ring, then I got the opportunity

the piece itself. My day starts off with a trip to the Jewel-

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that feeling now at 64 years of age.

designers, casting and loose gem buying. It’s like putting together a puzzle of a personal treasure that is just stun-

As I got older and my hunger for jewelry increased, I

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monds, cut, clarity, carat weight and color. Whenever I

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learned about color and that meant fancy color diamonds

set with pink and yellow diamonds with laser etching. Al-

my appetite curiosity and addiction increased. I went right

ways great memories of creating your own piece and

for pink and yellow fancy diamonds, some of the most

then wearing an original. In silver you can get very heavy

expensive diamonds that the earth gives birth to.

pieces that in gold would cost thousands.

Now I will also admit that my desired started to include collecting stones and crystals of all kinds but wearing

While traveling this jewelry junky has hit Tiffany’s on

jewelry meant that diamonds and sapphires of fancy col-

Waikiki Hawaii, and Harry Winston’s Manhattan. Have

ors were the penultimate choice. The greatest part was I

you seen the bling on Beyonce in the Tiffany’s commer-

could afford them and why because if you buy small carat

cial. That woman has the right idea. And although she

weight most of us can afford the most precious stones.

can afford much more than this lowly reporter. I have

Can you imagine it takes millions of years to make some-

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had my taste of a lot of champagne diamonds. I would

CONFESSIONS OF A GAY JEWELRY JUNKIE honestly bet if you added up all the pieces I have owned and sold in my years it would put any jewelry junky to shame.

Now we have internet shopping for even the best of things and the answer is of course, yes I have ordered diamonds and countless other jewelry pieces on line; some arriving to my disappointment and some not. Reason being is that you really should see a stone in person before selecting. Computer images can be deceiving. But, if you have accredited papers with your stone you can probably sell or trade it for something else. Been there done that. Yet to be on the safe side I usually shop in person. And that is the best part of a jewelry junkies day!

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Introduction Andi: Always considered myself from a very small town in NH until I moved to Provincetown in 2014.

Being here has improved and catapulted my life into one of meaning and direction. Most people know me from my 6 years of year-round service at Provincetown Gym, and my employment at several other iconic locations in town including The Red Inn. I’m currently a real estate agent at Kinlin Grover Compass in Provincetown.

I live with my wife Danielle and 2 cats in Provincetown & Brookline, MA. We enjoy traveling, friendly golf competition, snowboarding, reading together, and motivating each other everyday.

Introduction Danielle: I grew up in a small town in Connecticut, ventured down to Florida for college, then moved to Boston for law school and have worked in the Boston area since. I currently work as an Anti-Money Laundering attorney for a global custodian bank.

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I am as much a jock as I am a nerd – as much as I love being outside and active, I love reading, staying informed of the news and playing with our 2 cats. Provincetown’s serene landscape and one-of-a-kind community have been a positive addition to my life, especially during the hardest times of the pandemic.

How did you meet?

Danielle + Andi: We met online on Tinder. We are Tinderellas / Quarantine Queens.

What was your proposal like?

Andi: Danielle proposed to me while I was asleep. I thought I was dreaming. I smiled and rolled over, not responding until she brought it up again in the morning.

Can you describe your wedding attire?

Danielle + Andi: At our small ceremony in March in Provincetown we both wore suits and sneakers.

Our “fancy” wedding in October was more traditional dresses with white, rainbow-bottomed matching Sperry’s.

We wanted to be comfortable enough to dance! We are both tom boys so it was fun to dress up. I joked that it was my first drag show.

What was your ceremony like?

Danielle + Andi: We were legally married in Provincetown in March, and had a small town wedding. We didn’t bring in any outside guests to keep the community safe pre-vaccine. Many people gathered and watched us exchange our vows, and many others drove through the rotary at the Breakwater smiling and waving to show their approval.

The more traditional ceremony was at the Apple Tree Inn, in Lenox, MA, and the ceremony itself was on the lawn overlooking the Berkshires. Our good friend and neighbor, Lucy Munson, was our officiant. It was ineffably special to be able to celebrate and share our love with the people we care about, and the support and love we received in return was truly special, as well.

Above: Andi and Danielle’s Provincetown ceremony with officiant Jeanne Burke

Above: Danielle’s wedding speech with officiant Lucy Munson

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Above: Danielle and Andi’s outdoor Berkshire ceremony continued from previous page

How did you pick your venue for your wedding?

Danielle: It’s a family favorite of my family. We have had many memorable events there.

What did you like best about it?

Danielle + Andi: It was a beautiful day, and to have a venue that all of our friends and families of all ages equally enjoy the venue and views felt really special to put together.

Can you describe the cake and cuisine?

Danielle + Andi: Our Austrian friend Agnes Mittermayr is known in Provincetown for her exquisite baking. She made Guinness Cupcakes for our guests - one of our favorites. Thanks Agnes!

Above: Danielle and Andi share a happy moment

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How many guests? Special guests? Wedding Party?

Danielle + Andi: 65 Guests. Mostly family and family friends. Andi’s bridal party was comprised of her 4 best friends from Keene, NH. Jess Correia was the maid of honor, with Molly, Katie, and Jentri her other guests. Danielle had her best friend Jamie Winchenbach as her maid of honor, and her siblings Alleah, Charles and Hannah as her bridesmaids/man of honor.

1 Marriage, 2 Awesome Weddings got me into playing a few video games, our favorite being soccer - I noted that, having played soccer in college and subsequently coached, I am constantly amazed at how her strategy develops and becomes more formidable each time we play.

Other special moments?

Danielle + Andi: Our photo shoot was very intimate and memorable. We appreciate their vision and passion so much. We cannot recommend them enough!

Above: Andi and Danielle cut the cupcake

Please describe the decor.

Danielle + Andi: Classic New England fall wedding.

What was the most memorable moment?

Andi: Giving our speeches was a really special moment for me. I’m not much of a speech-giver, but knew exactly what I wanted to say to Danielle in that moment.

Danielle: Not to copy Andi, but, the speeches was almost my most memorable moment. I was so proud and elated to share my love for Andi, to tell everyone how special she is and how special she is to me. I even admitted that Andi

Above: Baker Agnes Mittermayr’s gourmet Guinness Cupcakes

Above: the Bridal Parties, l to r: Charles Schweitzer, Hannah Schweitzer, Alleah Schweitzer, Jamie Winchenbach, Dani Emhoff, Andi Candello Emhoff, Molly Fletcher, Jentri Jollimore, Jessica Correia, and Katie Kossakoski.

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Any favorite stories of guests or experiences from your event?

Danielle + Andi: Our friends and Our Bridal party members came out to “Lucky Star” by Madonna. It was a fun

way to set the mood for the entire wedding. Our bridal party colors were gold for Andi and teal for Danielle. There were many guests who showed up looking like disco balls, which was really fun to see at a traditional wedding.

What was special about your honeymoon ?

Danielle + Andi: We took a 2 week vacation in Maine after the wedding in March. We planned to go snowboarding at Sugarloaf several times, but decided to stay in the cabin on the frozen lake and admire the mountains and snow caps from the comfort of the warm abode. There were ice fishermen who left fish on the ice for bald eagles before a storm.

Really entertaining to slow down, connect and enjoy that environment for a solid amount of time.

Above: The view from the honeymoon cabin across a frozen lake in Maine

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Hobart Village Antique Mall is located in picturesque North Central Massachusetts. The name of the mall is derived from the historic Inn located on the property. The Inn was built in 1774 on a land grant given to William Hobart. Prior to and during the revolution the tavern in the Inn was a gathering place for the townspeople. An old register, now in the possession of the Fitchburg Historical Society, contains the names of famous people who stayed there, including: General Stonewall Jackson, Ulysses S. Grant, Henry Ward Beecher and Brigham Young.

In the late spring of 1994, Dick and Janice Fiorentino, along with their daughter, Robin Silva, and their son-in-law, Tony Silva decided to buy the old Elsa Williams’ buildings in W. Townsend. This large property has been completely transformed and now houses the Hobart Village Antique Mall. The complex measures 16,500 sq. ft. and boasts a wide selection for its customers to explore. The second floor of the old Elsa Williams’ warehouse has become a group shop for antiques and collectables. It has 10 rooms, 85 glass cases, 8 open shelf units and 15 open booths and hosts over 80 dealers. Locat-

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ed on the first floor of the complex is the West Village Antique Shop. West Village is a large shop filled with estate furniture, glass, china, prints and lots of accessories. Across the hall is the Re-Creation Rooms. This shop has a large selection of reproduction country furniture made in the New England Area including hand crafted farm tables, painted cabinetry, tiger maple furniture and mission oak furniture from the Amish in Pennsylvania. The many accessories include mirrors, prints, yellow ware, candles, country hanging lamps and much more.

These rooms give the customer a quality alternative to our fine antiques.

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Celebrating same-sex marriage has been a theme in Pride Parades since 2004, when Massachusetts became the first U.S. state to legalize gay marriage.

(Canada, you may recall, was ahead of the United States, legalizing same-sex marriage nationally on July 20, 2005. When it passed the Civil Marriage Act, the Canadian Parliament became the fourth coun-

try to take that step.) It would not be until 2015 that the United States followed suit. This PT Cruiser from Vancouver happily displays the message “with support from the whole damn family, 4 years legally married.” A PT Cruiser Convertible, with a massive roll bar in the center, makes for an excellent grab handle, or in this case a perfect place to tie those all important pride balloons.

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Porsche looks like a model 911, a real classic. The slow pace of the Pride Parade can be a challenge for this little sports car that is made for speed.The occupant, Jane Velez-Mitchell, who is openly lesbian, came out on KABC-AM in Los Angeles in 2007, and was, at the time, one of the few openly LGBTQ journalists on television. She is well known for her animal rights advocacy and is a vegan and an environmentalist.

Wilton Manors’ rainbow police car, which rode outfront of Pride Fort Lauderdale’s spring Pride Parade, with “Policing With Pride” slogan written across its rear window and hood. Most police forces only use American-made vehicles, but with its rainbow insignia, this Ford Interceptor comes from LGBTQIA+ country.

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