It’s All About Choices

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IT’S ALL ABOUT “CHOICE”

BY YASMINE SHAHINE

The number of breakups and divorces became literally insane these days! There is definitely real solid reasoning behind them, but actually one of the main reasons for this phenomenon these days is choosing the “wrong” partner from the start!

Problem is we keep looking for a certain “criteria” that fits an image we have prebuilt in our mindsets, and when we find it, we start dealing with it as a target that needs to be met regardless of any signs that keep shouting in our faces that this might not be the right one.

I’m not saying that it is wrong when you preset your mind that he should have a good job, good house, nice car, be good looking…etc But you have to be fully aware that choosing your life partner is the most important decision you will ever make far more crucial than choosing the right job, house or friends. He will be the personwith whom you’ll take all the critical and non critical decisions, you’ll have to sleep next to him every night and you’ll still have to love him when you’re both old and full of wrinkles.

Before dwelling on the idea that you have to be with someone or that you want to get married as quick as possible, there are 5 simple out of the box forgotten facts that you need to feel and live with your partner before you say “ I DO”..

HANDLING ANGER

This involves your observing rather than asking. Watch how he behaves when he doesn’t get his own way, when disappointed, or feel angry. In life, we have to manage not getting our own way as well as hurt and disappointment. How your partner act with others under these circumstances says a lot about how he will one day act with you.

CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO RESPECTS YOU

Many times you might find yourself treated with disrespect and you decide to let it go so it won’t stop your plan to be with that guy! Please Don’t! It is really impossible to lead your life with someone who disrespects you, your personality or underestimates your ambitions in life. When choosing a life partner be sure to select someone who will respect all aspects of your life. Mutual respect is one of the defining traits to look for in a life partner.

CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO IS INTERESTED IN YOUR LIFE

Being around a person who has forgotten your existence is like living with a rock. And this is nothing less than psychological abuse. Don’t fall for such a sick person. It is extremely important that your partner takes interest in your life, ask about your daily routine , and keenly listens to you when you are complaining about the weather, your friends or anything in general

EASY TO COMMUNICATE WITH

You must feel at ease when talking with your partner. With time, physical appearance, money, financial status and all such materialistic things will all fade away. In reality, you will find yourself looking for someone who you can easily talk to and share your concerns without having a sense of fear that you may be judged and without thinking before you talk.

COMPATIBILITY IS A KEY

It’s not about having lots of things in common! It’s about how you can handle different situations and challenges with you both looking in the same direction. It’s simply like finding someone who makes you stronger and whom you make stronger.

Some people want to get married as soon as possible. Don’t fall for that. Give time to yourself, don’t rush it and find out the depth of your companionship. If it is meant to be, then it is definitely going to happen! May you live the happiest life with the right person.