CARL CONNIELINGUS

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WITH CARL CONNIELINGUS

HEY BEAUTS, IT’S YOUR FAVOURITE QUIRKY GENDER FLUID DRAG SPECIMEN HERE AGAIN FOR ANOTHER BITCH, MOAN AND YARN HAHA . . THIS QUARTER I’LL BE FILLING YOU IN ON MY CHRISTMAS AND NEW YEAR AND YOU’LL BE SURPRISED SINCE I MOANED SO MUCH ABOUT THIS SEASON IN MY LAST COLUMN..OOPS LOL I’LL BE EXPLAINING WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE NON-BINARY AND THE STRUGGLES I FACED, SOME MORE “FUN FACTS” ABOUT ME AND THE CONTINUATION OF MY MINI SERIES “A QUEER LOVE STORY”, WHERE I DELVE MY VERY OWN LOVE STORY!! SO, GET YOUR ARSE ON A CHAIR, RELAX AND ENJOY

CHRISTMAS AND NEW YEAR MIRACLE LIFE & LOVE - CHAPTER TWO - A QUEER LOVE STORY

So last time I filled you guys in on how I met Hayley and how we got together, this time I’m gonna tell you guys how we moved in together pretty much straight away, then the Pandemic hit and how we got through that in a brand-new relationship. Let me start by saying it’s not easy to live together as it is but doing it at the start and through a Pandemic is a whole new ball game. Luckily, we settled in pretty well at the start, having been friends we had already planned to live together to save money, since we spent so much time together already, ironic eh?? Haha Our first couple of months were amazing, we were just flat out gigging, working and not even an official date had been had yet (and still hasn’t..eeeek bad I know lol) then BOOM - A Worldwide Pandemic hits and everyone is bound to their homes. So there’s us just rollin’ with the punches like everyone else, doing Facebook Lives, Makeup Lives and having the best craic but after months and months and months of uncertainty, motivation and moods get low and even though we have our College Courses to occupy us, those are stressful and exhausting in themselves. We had to learn a little quicker how to balance and help, not just ourselves but each other as a partnership, and something we’re still learning to do now cause let’s face it, there’s no handbooks on how to do this shit, we just gotta do what suits and works best for us. As time goes by you get to know each other in the deepest form. Each person’s little quirks, the way they move about their day, their emotions and stresses, their dreams and aspirations, their glow and growth, their facial expressions and like anyone else, those annoying little things we’ve got going on as Human Beings that make us imperfectly perfect lol but nothing prepared me for how much I would fall in love with her more and more every day. Whether she knows it or not Hayley saved my life, unknowingly helping me want to live and love again, getting me through this crazy time and loving me for the crazy fucker I am, for that I’ll always be blessed - Next time on Chapter 3 – Hayley’s POV Q&A

Yes, that’s right I said it, A FRICKIN’ MIRACLE!! For the first time in around 6 years, I actually had a very pleasant and fun Season and I’m not only shocked but absolutely grateful. It was one of those years where you realise that things can get better and the Seasons only suck if you’re not happy and I was not a happy person for a really long time but I’m slowly getting happier and Christmas 2020 proved that for me..January on the other hand, is an awful dull and down month but that moan is for next time haha . . Hayley and I did dress up like Christmas Baubles for a video project, which was totally hilarious. Here’s a pic to prove it lol

FUN FACT

As a young girl and Teenager, I was a Gymnastics Tumbling Champion, competing all over Northern Ireland and even in Wales. I unfortunately left just before my 16th Birthday cause I thought I was a big girl and partying with my friends was cooler..what a fool I was and little did I realise I was running away from some shitty life experiences haha . . I did go back a few times in my 20’s but then again in my mid 30’s and bitch could still flip, so roll on Gymnasiums opening again so I can get my flip on and flip the fuck outta here to somewhere Sunny..sorry, not sorry lol :* :*

WHAT IS IT TO BE NON-BINARY?

Definition – A spectrum of gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine Abbreviation – Enby Synonyms – Gender Queer Associated terms – Androgyny, queer, transgender, third gender, two- spirit Pronouns – They, Their, Them

Dating as far back as the 11th Century and even further, the origins of NonBinary persons have been recorded and traced, but as always due to Science and Religion, Non-Binary people or anyone not conforming to these “rules” would be outcast, persecuted, prosecuted and/or even murdered. Now, in the 21st Century fellow Non-Binary folks are screaming from the rooftops and I couldn’t be prouder, and even though our fight is not over, we’re gaining ground and more respect than ever before but we still have those who don’t know or understand what being non-binary means, or even want to know and understand, so let me explain it from my perspective. Growing up on the Shankill and Ballysillan being gay wasn’t a term you would have heard very often, luckily it was the 90’s so my friends where pretty cool for the most part. My best friend Laura and I both knew we were different, and no we didn’t fancy each other but she definitely loved girls and I definitely love everyone haha unfortunately the term Pansexual wasn’t gonna be about for years, so I would never fully understand the magnitude of my love for Human Beings in general and the true meaning of “Love is Love”. Anyway, we both came out at 15/16, her as gay and myself as Bisexual and to be honest back then, I never even questioned my gender as such but I had this innate knack for thinking like a “fella”, having loads of guys friends, having “male” traits and thoughts and with womb problems on top of that, I began to question “should I have been a boy??”, “did I eat my twin brother in the womb??” Lol yano, all the crazy things ya think?? It wasn’t really until doing Drag was brought to my attention that I really began to think about gender and what it meant to me and for the first time I struggled. I had dreams about being a man, thoughts and feelings as if I were a man, I was so confused. I started to research what this may have meant and 2 things stood out to me the most..I was either Transgender or Non-Binary, things I had never even thought of before. After a lot of reading and research then doing Drag as a Drag King, I came to the conclusion and realisation that I was not only NonBinary but I was also comfortable and content to know that my gender knows no bounds and whether I was born with female parts and perform with male parts or vice versa, it means no difference because gender is just an illusion that you control the narrative of. It was probably one of the most empowering moments, apart from shaving my head that I’ve ever had in my life lol My only problem now is getting people to call me by my neutral name who have just met me or that I introduce myself too but they know my birth name, but that’s for the next time guys, so check in to hear the drama I have with “Neutral Naming” cause I’m sure its relatable to a lot of readers.

OUTRO

Well beauts, this is gonna be a short and sweet “Later” because I’ve ran out of word space ahhh haha..BUT, until next time you beautiful gang!! Peace & Love always,

Carl ConnieLingus :* :*

(You can also find me on Email at carlconnielingus@gmail.com, Facebook at www.facebook. com/carlconnielingus, TikTok @cjsummer1 and Instagram @ carlconnie_lingus)

MUSIC & MOVIES

Guys, I finally got Hayley to watch the Sex and the City series and it’s going down a treat so far lol we have also recently been watching the Saw Series, what a fantastic piece of cinema and thrill that we recommend.

LIFE’S FUNNY

One time I got drunk as a Teenager and sobered up in time for curfew but on walking my friend home a group of fuckers threw a glass bottle and split my head open.

Long story short I got caught drinking, threw up my drink in front of my Ma and had blood all over me..still have the scar to this day haha

This is an opinion piece from the columnist/ contributor and not the opinion of GNI MAG / Romeo & Julian Publications Ltd.