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O M E P E O P L E A R E amazing gift givers. They show up with a present you didn’t even realize you wanted, which then becomes something you can’t believe you ever lived without. I am not one of these people. I do fine when I start months in advance and have time to really consider gift ideas. But sometimes I leave the shopping until too late, and a kind of manic panic sets in. I can’t think clearly. The stores seem hot and loud. Does he even wear chunky sweaters? Will caring for an orchid just be a burden on her? My worst gift-giving moment happened when my husband was still my new boyfriend. He had just moved into an apartment with blank walls, so, determined to find him a cool, unique present, I went to a home-goods store I knew he liked and deliberated for two hours before making my purchase and having it wrapped. The next day we sat on his sofa and he opened it… and I wanted to dissolve into the cushions. He was holding a framed glass display case full of taxidermy butterflies. In my defense, we had been to a butterfly exhibit on our second date. But what had seemed thoughtful and neat among the eclectic items in the store became in my

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confused boyfriend’s hands, well, a box of dead bugs. He’s polite, so he said, “Ohhhkay. How interesting. Thanks.” Meanwhile, I was already exchanging it for something else in my head. (We got him a toaster.) Fast-forward to my birthday, when he gave me a copy of a children’s novel called Secret of the Andes, which I had loved in fourth grade but hadn’t seen in a bookstore since then. I nearly cried with joy. That is his secret—and the secret—to great gift giving: listening, not overthinking. So the next time a friend complains that cooking is a chore or that all novels have unhappy endings or that all her favorite sweaters suddenly have moth holes, it’s a gift hint, whether intended that way or not. I’ve learned to look for clues in the kvetching. Of course, there are times when you’ve barely talked to your busy sibling or old friend all year and you need fast inspiration. That’s where the Real Simple team comes in. We spent months seeking out the most interesting, special, and useful (or just fun) gifts for everyone on your shopping list—spouses, tweens, pets, you name it. Turn to page 99 for ideas. Note: You will ﬁnd no butterﬂies under glass.

I N T RO D U C I N G THE PINCODE Pinterest and Real Simple go together like hot cocoa and marshmallows. That’s why we’re excited to be the first magazine to include Pincodes—special codes you can scan to discover Pinterest content. Keep an eye out for Pincodes throughout this issue. When you spot one, go to the Pinterest app on your iPhone or Android, open Pinterest Lens by tapping the camera icon next to the search bar, and point Lens at the code. Starting in mid-November, you’ll be able to instantly access ideas and advice we think you’ll love. Try it out on the code below—and happy pinning!

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Contents December 2017

O N T H E C OV E R

32 brilliant holiday shortcuts

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No-hassle party snacks

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Hate to exercise? Try these fixes

5 tasks to skip this season

50-plus gifts under $50

132 Not your average Christmas tree

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Prep your home for guests—fast

Sweet and savory treats

How dress codes got so baffling

C OV E R C R E D I T S Cover Photograph by Chelsea Cavanaugh One-of-a-Kind Ornament by Model Maker Swell-Makoto Aoki Prop St yling by Christina Lane

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Smart advice for enjoying the season

Fast weeknight meals

Jewelry-organizing ideas

Thoughts

Editor’s Note

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what we love Seven things to do, see, and enjoy this month 23 Pretty Smart Beauty buys to save your sanity 26 The Staple Powdered sugar

the realist The Fastest Way to Make Your House Smell Great Our favorite simmer pot recipe 33

Organize This Elegant ways to store and display your jewelry, whatever your space 39 Now What?!? Solutions for life’s mini disasters

The Essential Style your white button-down for any occasion 46 Things Cooks Know Mailing homemade cookies so they arrive in one piece 49 Road Test The best highlighters out there to give you luminous skin 53 Drugstore Insider Shop the aisles with celeb hairstylist (and Beachwaver inventor) Sarah Potempa 54

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5 Holiday To-Dos You Don’t Really Have to Do Chill-out tips to simplify your spending, social life, and more 57

Your Peace of Mind Plan Get your life insurance squared away 81

Good Read Writer Elif Shafak on embracing her all-black wardrobe Modern Manners Etiquette expert Catherine Newman solves your social conundrums

Making It Work How do you talk to your kids about what you do? 84 Exercise for Haters Learn to love it with a few mental tweaks 89

Take a Bough Put a twist on your usual Christmas tree decor

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Lucky Them Snacks to make for parties and gifts 138 Dress Code Chaos “Beach chic”? “Creative cocktail”? Decoding the new guidelines 144

food 69

Make Charity a Family Affair How four families turn acts of kindness into group adventures 73

features

5 Easy Dinners

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2017 Holiday Gift Guide Find the perfect present for everyone 99

Road Test Baking-season essentials

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Big Batch Holiday punch

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The Struggle Is Real

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Rituals

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Ahhh Take a breather

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Make Every Room Guest-Ready Hosting for the holidays? Little touches to upgrade your home 126

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Holiday cards often end up covering your refrigerator door. This year, put them on display with one of three designs— natural, geometric, or traditional—that will suit every style.

Best gift I’ve ever received: My fiancé surprised me with an industrial side table he’d built by hand. The thought and effort he put into it made me feel so incredibly special. Entertaining hack: Turn a bowl upside down and set a platter on top. Voilà! Instant elevation for a buffet.

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Go-to holiday dish: Hasselback potatoes. It’s such a fun way to “dress up” a standard side dish.

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Pinecones are a decor staple this time of year (and as close as the backyard). We came up with some unique uses and DIY projects. Visit realsimple.com/pinecones.

C AT C H U S L I V E We’re here to make your holiday gatherings more fun. Watch our editors on Facebook Live all month. We’ll show you how to make easy recipes, wrap presents like a pro, create stunning bouquets, and more.

Rock the cookie swap Why not try something new? These recipes will wow—little more than a box of puff pastry required. Check out realsimple.com/ puffpastry.

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Yo u r W o r d s

What is your most cherished family heirloom?

The rocking chair that rocked five generations of my family. S I SSY L I N G L E , H A R R I S N EC K , G EO RG I A

My garden. From my grandparents, I have lilacs and forget-menots. My mom shared peonies, which originally came from her grandmother. And my forsythia and Solomon’s seal were from my mother-in-law. SHANNON HACH, MANOR, PENNSYLVANIA

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Love letters from my husband, to whom I was married for over 60 years. No gold, silver, or gemstone could ever compare to his words. JULIE ENNEN, FRESNO, CALIFORNIA

Dad’s square cast-iron skillet. When I was a child, he made pancakes in it every Sunday morning. It is black and smooth with age and easily over 50 years old. We still use that skillet every Sunday.

My grandmother’s piano. She got a bachelor of music degree in the 1920s and played piano her whole life. EMILY KRUSE, ANKENY, IOWA

My greatgrandmother’s dinner bell. I can picture her standing in the doorway of her farmhouse, ringing like crazy, and my great-grandfather, grandmother, and her sisters all running to the house.

KRISTIN KRARUPJOYCE, CHEL SE A , MICHIGAN

My grandmother’s beaten-up old colander. A native of Italy, she immigrated with my grandfather in 1924. Her pasta was the best, and I still use her colander for my family. It connects me to her and the love she showed all of us through cooking. DAWN PHILLIP S, SARASOTA , FLORIDA

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A pint-size milk bottle from my dad’s days as a milkman. B EC K Y H A M E S, S A N D I EG O

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What is your most cherished family heirloom?

A doorjamb from my grandparents’ home. It has the annual measurements of all the children and grandchildren by name and year. @TORYENCLE AN

A set of two large seashells. My father brought them home from the South Pacific, where he served in the United States Army during World War II. KRIS L ASHER, ANAHEIM HILL S, CALIFORNIA

An old Nancy Drew book, No. 54 to be exact, that my father’s high school English teacher signed. It reads, “Dear Jacquelyn, As I write this, you’re sitting on your daddy’s lap drinking a bottle. I hope when you’re old enough, you enjoy this book. You have a great daddy. Have a wonderful life.” In 30 years, it’s never left my side. JACQUELYN SCHWIT TER, LOUISVILLE, KENTUCKY

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A collection of songs from my great-grandma that were passed down the line to me. I sing them to my children in hopes that they one day sing them to theirs. Each time my girls and I sing them, I can hear my grandma and mom. Songs might not be a tangible item, but to me they’re priceless! AMY ERRANTE

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My grandfather dug up an opal in Mississippi. He took some jewelrymaking classes and created a beautiful heartshaped necklace for my grandmother. It’s my favorite. DANA BE TSILL , MARIE T TA , GEORGIA

#WOMENIRL My greatgreat-greatgrandmother’s handwritten diary from 1869. Her penmanship is so beautiful.

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My grandfather’s first driver’s license. It was printed on cloth. He gifted it to me because of my passion for genealogy. R AC H E L R E I N , C A L I F O R N I A

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Food for thought

Great for book club In One Station Away, readers meet Magnus Colin, an accomplished neurologist, through the eyes of three women: his paralyzed patient, his famous pianist mother, and his late fiancée. Olaf Olafsson’s emotional novel takes Magnus around the globe as he searches for a way to heal his patients—and himself.

When successful Italian film producer Oscar Martello goes missing after a fire destroys his glamorous villa, Rome is left in shock. Was the fire set by his beautiful muse, his best friend, or someone else altogether? In his heart-pounding novel, We’ll Sleep When We’re Old, Pino Corrias explores the dark secrets of the city’s elite.

Forgotten history Enchantress of Numbers imagines the life of Ada King, Countess of Lovelace, known today as the world’s first computer programmer. In this fascinating homage, Jennifer Chiaverini traces not only King’s professional accomplishments but also the romance and family drama that tainted her personal life.

Why is the first bite of blueberry pie more delicious than the last? And why are shoppers with reusable bags often more likely to treat themselves? In Why You Eat What You Eat, neuroscientist Rachel Herz, PhD, dives into how we interact with what’s on our plate. Readers will take away fun facts along with useful tips to curb cravings and eat smarter.

Wise memoir In No Time to Spare, National Book Award winner Ursula K. Le Guin reflects on her lifetime of experiences. This collection of essays, originally published on Le Guin’s blog from 2010 to 2015, touches on her feelings about everything from feminism to swear words in fiction. Each entry is filled with warmth, insight, and humor.

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The road can be unpredictable. That’s why many new Toyotas, including the first-ever Toyota C-HR, come with a suite of active safety features at no extra charge, including Pre-Collision System (PCS)2, Lane Departure Alert (LDA)3 and other innovations. Toyota Safety Sense™ (TSS). Designed for safety.

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Hundreds of millions of plastic pieces end up in the ocean every year, harming its inhabitants. Swap out your plastic straws for durable paper ones made by Aardvark. These biodegradable straws won’t break down as you drink and are available in metallic, holiday patterns, college logos, and more. Can’t find the perfect pack? Create your own at the Custom Straw Shop. TO BUY: From $5 for 24; aardvarkstraws.com.

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Add some sparkle Before the ball drops, prepare for 2018 with a new family tradition. The Oh! New Year’s Tree kit allows you to turn your Christmas tree into a New Year’s tree, with streamers and a golden topper. Fill out wish lists, sport silver party hats, and read a storybook about reinventing NYE. TO BUY: $30; ohnewyearstree.com.

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3 Lend a hand Whether you have chapped lips or need a butter substitute, coconut oil is the ultimate home remedy. This fair-trade tube from Conscious Coconut does even more. For every purchase, the company donates one meal to Feeding America food banks, including those in communities recovering from recent hurricanes. TO BUY: $17; consciouscoconut.com.

5 Prepare to be awed

On the night of December 13, the Geminid meteor shower will be visible in much of the world. Find a viewing point away from city lights and marvel at shooting stars (another name for meteors) glowing in color. Considered one of the best meteor showers of the year, it’s easy to spot with the naked eye— no telescopes or special glasses required.

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Laugh out loud Ralphie is back and reimagined in Fox’s live musical version of A Christmas Story. The three-hour TV event is narrated by Matthew Broderick and features new songs by the lyricists and composers of La La Land and Dear Evan Hansen. Mark your calendar for December 17 at 7 p.m. ET.

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In honor of its 10th anniversary, Mark Bittman’s How to Cook Everything Vegetarian is new and improved. With more recipes and updated ingredients, the prolific food writer brings on-trend taste to his classic guide. TO BUY: $35; amazon.com.

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Give your little one a handcrafted plush made by Peruvian artisans from Cuddle+Kind. For each doll sold, they provide 10 meals to children in need through partnerships with World Food Program USA and Children’s Hunger Fund. TO BUY: From $48; cuddle andkind.com.

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The Staple No knock on frosting, but powdered sugar has an array of other, surprising uses. It gives that double-take snowy effect to holiday-favorite crackle cookies. You can use it to give balance to crispy crab puffs or provide the sweet kick to cheesy Monte Cristo sandwiches. Called “10x” in pro kitchens— a reference to the number of times it’s been ground— powdered sugar contains just a tad of cornstarch to prevent clumping. Maintain its light-as-a-feather texture by storing it in an airtight container or a sealed bag in a cool, dry spot, where it will last indefinitely.

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Mix 2 oz. melted unsweetened chocolate, 3 Tbsp. melted butter, 2 eggs, 1 cups cup powdered sugar, all-purpose flour, 3 Tbsp. cocoa powder, and 1 tsp. baking powder. Roll into 1 -in. balls and toss in powdered sugar. Bake on a parchment-lined baking sheet at 350°F until no longer shiny, 8 to 10 minutes. 2 CR AB R ANGO ON

Mix 8 oz. softened cream cheese, 4 oz. lump crabmeat, 3 chopped scallions, 1 Tbsp. powdered sugar, tsp. kosher salt. and Divide among 28 wonton wrappers; moisten edges with water and bring corners up to seal. Fry in 2 in. hot oil until golden, 1 to 2 minutes. Serve with sweet chili sauce. 3 M O N T E C R I S TO

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Top 1 slice sandwich bread with 2 tsp. Dijon mustard, 2 slices Swiss cheese, and 2 oz. thinly sliced ham. Whisk 1 egg with cup milk; dip sandwich in egg mixture. Griddle in butter until golden brown. Dust with powdered sugar. Serve with raspberry jam.

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First, sort your collection— categorizing like with like— to determine how much storage you’ll need. 2 GAT H E R C O N TA I N E R S

Search for items throughout your home that can be repurposed as in-drawer dividers, such as egg crates, teacups, or box tops. Use them to supplement store-bought drawer dividers.

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Place similar jewels together within each container: Set chunky bracelets in a bowl, hang chandelier earrings over the edge of a cup, and put studs and rings in the smallest compartments. Limit groupings to no more than a few pieces to avoid overcrowding, so you can see all your options at a glance. 4 L AY E R U P

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For drawers deeper than the one at left, use multilevel inserts: Stash in-season items on top and lesser-worn pieces toward the bottom. TO BUY: Clear Acrylic small stackable trays, from $6; containerstore.com.

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Designate a small dish or a ring cone to hold the accessories you reach for every day. Leaving them out means you won’t have to search for them—and you’ll always remember to wear them.

To make things look pretty, arrange your collection like one you’d see at a store, putting favorite pieces on sculptural objects or figurines. (Don’t overdo it, though. Too much could lead to clutter.)

To prevent daintier, fine-chain necklaces from getting tangled or misplaced, drape each one over a separate peg on a clear carousel. TO BUY: Acrylic Necklace Keeper, $22; containerstore.com.

A jewelry box keeps your baubles dust-free. Choose one that complements your decor and has room to accommodate new additions. TO BUY: Faux Shagreen box, from $79; westelm.com.

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If you prefer to keep your jewelry tucked away, a shallow hanging mirror organizer is a practical fix. The full-length mirror opens up to reveal a series

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of hooks, shelves, and slots to stash all your accessories. TO BUY: Black Deluxe mirrored jewelry armoire, $82; homedepot.com. 3 FR AME IT OUT

Fabric memo boards are ideal for earrings. Slide the earring back all the way onto the post and push into the memo board (like a thumbtack). To hang lightweight necklaces, drape them over pretty pushpins.

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Leftover lasagna just stained my container. F.G., VIA EMAIL

If it’s plastic, fill with warm water and drop in two or three denture tablets, depending on the container’s size. “The tablets typically contain baking soda and citric acid, which will create a fizz that breaks down the red stains,” says Laura Fuentes, cookbook author and founder of Momables .com. Let sit overnight and wash by hand the next day. Another trick? Set reusable plastic containers in direct sunlight, says Donna Smallin Kuper, author of Cleaning Plain & Simple. “Prolonged exposure will make the stain disappear,” she says. For glass, says Fuentes, try soaking the container in half a teaspoon of Clorox bleach per one to two cups of water before it goes into the dishwasher. Skip the drying cycle—it may set any stain that remains.

The faux fur on my jacket is stiff. M.N., VIA EMAIL

If the fur is detachable from the jacket, remove and place in the sink with a teaspoon of gentle detergent (try Woolite, $14; amazon.com). Massage gently with your hands before rinsing with clean water, says Melissa Maker, author of Clean My Space. (If the faux fur isn’t removable, spot-treat using the same method.) Squeeze out water very gently or shake it out to help fluff up the fur, and hang to dry. “Never use heat,” says Maker. “That will cause the fibers to fuse together, as synthetic fur is essentially plastic.” Once it’s dry, comb through with a soft bristle brush or put in the dryer on an air-only setting (no heat) with plastic dryer balls for a few minutes to fluff up the fur.

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My suitcase zipper is stuck! W.T., VIA EMAIL

Take the zipper back to the part of the track where it works properly, says Sarah Schlichter, senior editor of SmarterTravel.com. Then rub a bar of soap or some lip balm on the zipper’s teeth to get it to move properly. Still won’t budge? A tooth may be bent on the track. Coax it back into place with pliers before applying balm and trying again. If all else fails, block off the problematic part with a safety pin or duct tape until you’re able to take the suitcase to a tailor. “In the future, when buying bags, check their guarantee closely,” says Schlichter. “Some manufacturers, like Briggs & Riley, will fix anything for the life of the bag.”

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The unexpected pairing of a fancy metallic skirt gives this more formal ensemble an air of effortlessness. TO BUY: Ann Taylor Metallic Pleated skirt, $98, and Suede Tassel heels, $138; anntaylor.com. Tory Burch Cleo Fold-Over clutch, $428; toryburch.com. Anna & Ava “The Dylan” necklace, $45; dillards.com.

Styling the shirt with subtly striped pants and a menswear-inspired vest creates a sleek, taller-looking silhouette. TO BUY: PT Pantaloni Torino pants, $425; Theo Clothier, 732-383-8085. Club Monaco Lindawanna vest, $190; clubmonaco.com. Old Navy Suede d’Orsay pumps, $35; oldnavy.com. SR Squared by Sondra Roberts bag, $115; irresistibles.com. DKNY Ellington watch, $135; dkny.com.

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Choose the right type of treat. Drop cookies, bar cookies, brittles, and snack mixes all ship well. Avoid anything frosted, filled, custardy, or delicate.

Bake the treats the day you plan to ship them, and let them cool completely. Place two cookies back-to-back and wrap in plastic wrap. Wrap bar cookies individually.

Place wrapped cookies in zip-top bags. Package similar cookies together; crispy cookies will get soggy if paired with soft cookies.

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Line a cookie tin or airtight container with tissue or wax paper. Alternate layers of wrapped cookies and paper. Pack in additional paper to fill any gaps in the tin. Close the lid and tape it shut. Give the tin a shake—nothing should move.

Place the tin in a cardboard box just slightly larger than the tin. Pack the space around the tin with Bubble Wrap or packing peanuts. There should be two inches of cushioning around the tin.

Secure the box with packing tape (masking tape isn’t secure enough). Mark it “fragile.” Ship the box early in the week so it doesn’t sit in the post office over the weekend. Priority or overnight shipping will ensure the treats arrive quickly.

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Growing Up Every family does holidays differently; I think the key is to make the traditions work for your home. When we were little, my brother and I stuffed stockings for our parents, while my mom ﬁlled ours. He and I realized at some point that even though opening up the stockings in our parents’ bed had become a bit too weird, we would never be ready to give them up. Now our families open the stockings over breakfast on Christmas Day; any houseguest gets one, too. We also still allow ourselves, on Christmas Eve, to open one present that we know will be disappointing. We got this down to a ﬁne art as kids: My best December 24 score was a 100-piece jigsaw puzzle of baked beans. FRANCESCA HORNAK IS THE AUTHOR OF SEVEN DAYS OF US. SHE LIVES IN LONDON.

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H E R M O N O C H R O M E C L O S E T. O F A L L T H E C O L O R S in the universe, there are two that I am particularly fond of: purple and black. The former is for writing. All my fountain pens have purple ink. The latter is for wearing. I wear black a lot—like, on-all-occasionswithout-fail kind of a lot. I had to admit to myself just how often I wore it when my children peeked into my wardrobe the other day and started describing the items inside: “A black jacket, a black skirt, a black top, another black jacket...” Whenever I run into a woman sporting multihued garments and accessories, carrying her choice of style with

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Black was comfortable. It provided me with armor, drawing a border between my inner world and the outside world.

H E R E I S A M E M O RY: I was a 22-year-old aspiring writer when I decided to leave everything behind and move on my own from Ankara, Turkey’s capital, to Istanbul, Turkey’s craziest and wildest city. My ﬁrst novel had been published to modest acclaim, and I had just signed a contract for a second book. The same week, I was invited to give a talk at a major book fair. I woke up that morning feeling slightly nervous and decided that lavender was the color of the day, thinking it would go well with my long, permed hair, which I’d just dyed the brightest shade of ginger. Donning a billowing, pearly purple skirt and lavender top, I showed up on time—only to stop in my tracks and feel absolutely petriﬁed as soon as I entered the conference room. The male writers had taken care with their appearance (matching shoes and belts, gold and silver rings, necklaces), but the female writers were completely devoid of color. They wore no accessories and no makeup. The panel went well; the discussion was lively. When it was over, one of the older female novelists murmured in an icy voice: “A little advice, darling. You speak eloquently. But if you want to be taken seriously, you have to look more serious.” The experience was repeated on numerous occasions. Whenever I was in the company of the Turkish literary establishment, trying to understand their ways, I heard that nagging voice at the back of my mind telling me I was out of place. I had thought Turkey’s cultural circles would

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be more egalitarian. I was wrong. I understood that in this part of the world, a male novelist was primarily a novelist; no one cared about his gender. But a woman novelist was a woman first, and then a writer. I started noticing how many female scholars, journalists, writers, intellectuals, and politicians were trying to cope with this “glass wall” by systematically defeminizing themselves. It was their strategy to survive patriarchy and sexism. Then it became mine. Slowly, I changed my style. I asked the hairdresser to get rid of the red in my hair. I discarded the blues and the greens and the oranges in my wardrobe. Then came black rings, black necklaces, and black jeans. I was not a peacock. I would be a crow. Black provided me with a kind of armor, less for protection than demarcation; it drew a border between my inner world and the outside world. The only thing that remained untouched was my fiction. Storyland had its own colors. It could never be reduced to one shade. H E R E I S A N O T H E R M E M O RY: I was born in Strasbourg, France, to Turkish parents. My father was completing his PhD in philosophy. My mother dropped out of university just before I came along, assuming that love and family were all she needed. Ours was a flat abuzz with idealist, liberal students of all nationalities. My parents wanted to save the world, but their marriage failed and they went their separate ways.

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perfect ease, I smile in admiration. But no amount of respect is enough for me to follow her lead. Maybe for a day or two, I try. I tell myself that enough is enough and I will brighten up my wardrobe. “It is time for me to have an outﬁt to match every tone in the color spectrum,” I declare. The craziness that gets hold of me, though powerful while it lasts, dissolves. Whether I am giving a talk at a literary festival or picking up my kids from basketball, I wear black. I am a nomad—intellectually, spiritually, and physically. Ever since my childhood, I have moved from one city to another: Strasbourg, Ankara, Madrid, Amman, Cologne, Istanbul, Boston, Ann Arbor, Tucson. For the last eight years, I have been commuting between London and Istanbul. One day, at the Istanbul Atatürk Airport, a reader recognized me and asked if we could take a selﬁe. When we stood side by side, the contrast was startling: She was all vivid colors, and I the opposite. Smiling, she said, “You don’t write gothic novels, but you dress like a gothic writer!”

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Mum and I returned to Ankara, taking refuge with my grandma in a conservative Muslim neighborhood. There were eyes watching our every move from behind lace curtains, judging. A young divorcée was regarded as a threat to the community. But Grandma intervened: “My daughter should go back to university. She should have a job.” I was raised by Grandma, whom I called anne (mother), for a long time. My own mother, I called abla (big sister). I was a lonely child, an introvert. Many afternoons I climbed our cherry tree with a new novel. I would read and eat cherries and spit the pits left and right, pretending I could reach the bleak brown and gray houses in the distance. I dreamed of bringing a shade of cherry red into their lives. In the meantime, Mum threw herself into her studies. Sexual harassment was rife on the streets. She would carry large safety pins in her handbags to poke molesters on buses. I remember how “modestly” she dressed—skirts that reached her ankles, thick coats, absolutely no makeup. Eventually she became a diplomat. In the male-dominated world of foreign affairs, too, she continued wearing “nonrevealing” clothes. She wanted to look as strong as possible. T H I S S U M M E R , when I retreated to a little town in Cornwall, England, to start my new novel, I decided to pack just one dress. I had a plan. Since a breezy ﬁshing town had no reason to specialize in black garments, I would have to purchase a few variegated items. My plan worked—for a day. The next, I was in a cab heading to the nearest mall for black clothes. I am comfortable in black, but I am not comfortable with being too comfortable—hence the impulse to always question myself. I realize, albeit reluctantly, that my resistance to bright colors might be rooted in negative personal experiences, each of which has left a subtle but stubborn impact. Oh, I know what commercials will tell me. I know the slogan of our times: “Just be yourself! Forget the rest!” But are not memories and experiences, and the way we responded to them, also part of what constitutes “the self”? After so many trials and errors, I have accepted that I actually love wearing black. The color that turned into an entrenched habit in response to a patriarchal world has, over time, become a faithful friend. I do not have to change, so long as it makes me happy and remains a personal choice. Since I am not inclined to wear colors but like to have them around, I’ve found another solution: I keep my accessories ﬂashy—turquoise rings, magenta bracelets, sunglow scarves. The darker my clothes, the crazier my accessories. There are many seasons in a woman’s life. Seasons of black, seasons of colors. None is eternal. Life is a journey. It is also hybridity—a mixture of contrasts. As the poet Hafez wrote, “You carry all the ingredients / To turn your existence into joy, / Mix them.”

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ABOUT T H E AU T H O R Elif Shafak is a Turkish author, activist, and speaker. She has written 10 novels, including The Forty Rules of Love and The Bastard of Istanbul. Her newest novel, Three Daughters of Eve, will be published December 5.

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Modern Manners R E A L S I M P L E ’ S E T I Q U E T T E E X P E R T, C AT H E R I N E N E W M A N , O F F E R S HER BEST ADVICE ON YO U R S O C I A L Q UA N DA R I E S.

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In the past year, my niece has lost a number of my gifts—a substantial gift card to Bed Bath & Beyond, which was a college graduation gift for starting her new apartment; a birthday check; and a Christmas check. She has never mentioned losing them, but my sister told me in confidence. I had discarded the gift card receipt, so that one is lost for good. My sister asked that I send new checks to replace the other gifts. Part of me is willing, but part of me wants to teach my niece to be more responsible. What should I do?

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When guests arrive for a dinner party or lunch and you greet them at the door, how long before you offer them a cup of coffee or glass of wine? My husband is in charge of the welcoming, and I don’t care to be bossy, but he never asks that question early enough for me. I read this question aloud to my family, and everyone laughed, given that I am somewhat famous for offering drinks to our guests while they’re still in the driveway. Which is only because I myself want to be handed a glass of wine before I’ve even unzipped my coat. That said, there is certainly no need for panicked urgency when it comes to beverages. Just let your husband know what your preference is: “I don’t mean to be bossy, and I love the warm way you welcome our guests. Would you indulge me and offer them drinks a little sooner? I might just be projecting, but I think many people like to have a drink in hand within a few minutes of arriving.” Another solution would be to set up a little bar so guests can help themselves, even if it’s just a couple of bottles of wine and water or a pot of coffee. Then, if anyone is desperate to be quenched before your husband gets to them, they can pour themselves a little something.

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If this were your child and she were a teenager, I’d say she’ll learn that lesson organically from the natural consequences of her behavior: When she’s eating her cold bread and butter, wishing she had the toaster she would have gotten with her gift card, she’ll remember that she lost it and (hopefully) vow to be more careful in the future. But she’s not your child, and she’s not actually a child at all. Which is to say: Teaching her a lesson is not really your job at this point. Your job, which you are doing beautifully, is to be her doting, benevolent aunt. Once a gift is given, it’s no longer yours to fret over or keep track of. Although you might want to stick to checks from now on. Just in case.

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Despite their reputation as hushed spaces full of scolding, bespectacled librarians, the role of libraries is changing. Yes, plenty of patrons are there seeking books and quiet, but a library is also a public space in a world of few public spaces. That means it’s a natural home for the homeless, the mentally ill, caregivers of young children, and teenagers during after-school hours—people looking for a safe, warm place to use the bathroom, log on to the internet, and ﬁnd community. It sounds like you’re dealing with more run-of-the-mill distractions, but it goes to the same point: Your library is a multiuse space. Ask if there’s a designated quiet spot to work. If there’s not, you might invest in noise-canceling headphones or see if there’s a library you can use at a nearby college, where you may ﬁnd more peace and quiet.

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Luckily, you and your friend seem to share a direct style of communication! Neither of you tiptoes around the other’s feelings, so I think you can be direct and transparent while respecting the delicacy of the situation. “What should we do?” you might ask her. “You know how much I love spending time with you, and I don’t want to exclude your daughter. But I feel cranky at the prospect of entertaining a preschooler. Can we make this dinner a grown-ups-only event?” Save this request for when you most require it: a holiday meal, for example, or an evening shindig. And then be inclusive when you’re able— at a potluck or picnic, say—so your friend isn’t always having to choose and so she knows you understand her responsibilities as a parent and grandparent. You can also look to spend more time at your friend’s house, where the job and consequences of reining in the little hellion won’t fall to you. Plus, this is (ﬁngers crossed) just a phase; one day that wild child will be a lovely young man, and you’ll be glad you stuck it out. Right?

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I often go to the library to proofread, thinking it will be quiet and I can concentrate. Sadly, the “Quiet, please” requirement is ignored. People talk on cell phones. A woman brought a teenage girl, who was trying on shoes and parading down the aisle to see how they fit. Why don’t librarians enforce the rule?

The last two times I invited a close friend and her husband over for a party, she asked her daughter to come, too. Her daughter showed up with her very unruly and out-ofcontrol 3-year-old son. The first time, I said nothing. The second time, Christmas Day, my friend informed me her daughter was coming over. I asked if she was bringing her son. When she said yes, I said, “Please, no. I am not in the mood.” Her response was, “Oh, she’s on her way and won’t stay long.” I love my friend and her husband. I want to invite them to more gatherings, but I’m not sure how to handle it. Should I be up-front and tell her the invite is not for her daughter and grandson? Should I not invite them?

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We help rescued animals By Marisa Cohen

Make Charity a Family Affair Raising kids who care more about helping others than about how many Instagram followers they have can be a bit of a challenge in today’s selfie-obsessed world. Here, four writers share how they found a meaningful way to include acts of kindness and charity in their family adventures— and wound up strengthening their bonds not only with one another but also with the world around them.

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E A R L I E R T H I S Y E A R , my teenage daughters—city kids whose typical experience with the great outdoors involves watching pigeons fight over a hot dog bun on a concrete sidewalk—found themselves knee-deep in horse poop and hay as they mucked out a barn at the Woodstock Farm Sanctuary in High Falls, New York, home to hundreds of animals that had been rescued from abuse and neglect. The girls couldn’t be happier to be there. They were just 7 and 9 when we first visited the sanctuary seven years ago. We drove past it one weekend and decided to stop in to visit the animals. We saw firsthand how affectionate the cows, pigs, and sheep were; many of them would have been put down because of physical imperfections but were now thriving. We talked to staff members about the environmental and health effects of raising cattle and eating meat, and we all decided to try going veggie, just for a week, to see how it felt. Within a month, we realized we didn’t miss meat at all, and ever since, our family has been vegetarian. Since then, we’ve donated money to the farm sanctuary, and the girls have raised

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funds for no-kill animal shelters in our city. But I always wanted to do more. I also felt it was important for my kids to see that giving back doesn’t just mean writing a check but giving your sweat and labor to something you believe in. So as soon as the girls were old enough, we joined a group of a dozen volunteers at the farm for the day to clean out the horse barn. This involved shoveling dirty hay into garbage cans, hauling them outside, and dumping them into the back of a pickup truck. It was backbreaking work, but the girls dug their shovels into the hay with gusto. Once the ﬂoor was cleared, we had the much more fun task of tearing paper off fresh bales and spreading the hay across the barn by kicking it like we were in a chorus line. Finally, after a full day of work, our jeans and boots covered with muck, our hair frizzing into the stratosphere, and our faces dripping with sweat, we were given a special tour of all the animals, including an adorable little family of piglets that had just been rescued from someone who had left them starving in his yard. “This weekend was really fun,” said my oldest daughter. “It was great to spend time helping the animals instead of just looking at cute pictures of them online.”

T O VO LU N T E E R W I T H A N I M A L S HAVE AN ELDERLY NEIGHBOR with a pet? Kids can

help walk her dog; you can drive her cat to the vet. LOCAL SHELTERS can often use an extra hand to

play with the animals to help socialize them. Find potential places to volunteer at petfinder.com (click on “Shelters & Rescues”). FIND A RESCUE CENTER where you may be able

to help out; consult the list at vegan.com/ farm-sanctuaries.

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We celebrate birthdays by giving forward By Pooja Makhijani “ I N L I E U O F a gift for the birthday girl…,” I write on my daughter Krishna’s birthday invitation. “In lieu of?” my 5-year-old asks. “Instead of,” I say. “Instead of asking our guests for a gift for you for your birthday, we’re asking them to donate a new toy or book to children who may not have as many things as you do.” “But what about presents for me?” she asks. “I will buy you presents, and so will your grandparents, and we are having a big party with cake and a disco ball,” I say. “But this way we can help other children, too.” I expect pushback, or even a tantrum, but my daughter simply asks, “How can I help?” Although I have been celebrating my birthday with acts of service since I was in my 20s, this particular birthday tradition began a month before my daughter turned 1. Like many new parents, I accumulated so much stuff for her in just a year: stacking toys and blocks, musical instruments, board books. There was no need for any more! But I realized our guests might also be looking forward to buying gifts.

So on her ﬁrst birthday, I asked for toys and books for babies in foster care in our city. This year, the ﬁrst when Krishna was old enough to understand and help me plan, we decided to donate her gifts to a residential treatment program for pregnant and parenting adolescents and their children. “You are deeply loved,” I tell Krishna as she grabs a laundry basket and starts decorating it with ribbons. This is the basket her friends can drop their gifts into at her party, she tells me. “Your birthday is a time for us to share that love with others.”

T O H O L D A B I RT H DAY D R I V E FOR BABIES, ask guests to donate

new toys, boxes of diapers, or clothes to a family shelter or children’s aid organization in your town. HELP OLDER KIDS choose a cause they care about. Kidscangivetoo.com will send invites asking guests to donate to their selected charity; the charity gets half, and your kid gets a Visa gift card for the other half. KEEP YOUR GUEST LIST SMALL and send

the money you would have blown on a big party to TheBirthdayPartyProject .org, which throws parties for kids in homeless shelters.

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We make service a part of our vacation By Jennifer Wolf f L A S T Y E A R my friend Marcy, a ﬂight attendant who had been donating clothes and time to charities in Ecuador for several years, invited our family to go along on an upcoming trip to Quito. But there was a caveat: Anyone who joined her had to volunteer with a group of disadvantaged children in one of the city’s poorest neighborhoods. “I want the kids to have stuffed animals,” announced my 8-yearold daughter, Zoë. “Every kid needs one for when they’re scared and can’t sleep.” And that’s how Zoë ended up in front of several dozen wide-eyed Ecuadorean schoolchildren at Comedor San Bonifacio, a free or reduced lunch program in Quito. Without speaking a word of Spanish, she taught them how to make stuffed puppets from socks, pillow ﬁlling, rubber bands, and googly eyes, which we had purchased online and packed in our suitcases. Zoë held a sock above her head, spun around so everyone could see, stuffed it, made arms and legs by tying off the corners with rubber bands, and formed a head and

tail by tying off the top and bottom of the sock. “See,” she said to the children. “A puppy. Ruff, ruff.” They laughed. But still no one knew what to do. Zoë sat with each child and showed, step by step, how to construct their new toy. One boy used the entire sock to make a snake. A girl fashioned a bunny. Soon the whole room got the hang of it and started sticking googly eyes and glitter gems not just on their sock puppets but all over their smiling faces. Later, we visited the home of one of the children. Zoë has a natural instinct for giving back. She sells lemonade every summer to raise money for a local animal shelter and contributes her own money to various causes at our temple. But she had never come face-to-face with true poverty. At ﬁrst, this family’s home

T O G I V E B A C K W H E N YO U T R AV E L BRING DONATIONS in your suitcase. Packforapurpose.org compiles lists

of what items are most needed in the country you’re visiting. SET ASIDE ONE DAY of a larger trip for volunteering instead of hitting a tourist attraction. Giveadayglobal.org pairs families with local charities and communities in need in many countries. SUPPORT LOCAL ARTISTS with your souvenir shopping. Ask your hotel’s concierge for ideas on where your dollars will help the most.

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didn’t seem that bad—they had a TV and a toilet, albeit without a seat. But then we walked into the kitchen, with damp dirt floors and a ceiling that dripped dirty water. Torn clothes hung from rusted water pipes. Light from a single exposed bulb lit the entire house, which was just two small rooms. Zoë didn’t say much after that. I wondered if she had really absorbed what she’d seen, if she’d appreciated the difference between her life and those of these impoverished children. She never spoke of how little they had, how hungry they’d been when she helped ladle their soup and pour their drinks at lunch. But then a few weeks ago, I cleaned out Zoë’s closets and dresser—so many clothes that no longer fit, so many toys she had outgrown. “What should we do with all this stuff?” I asked her. “Give it to Ecuador, Mommy,” she told me. “Those kids really need it.” We both are holding on to the idea that it’s important to give back when we travel, even if it’s just for a day or a few hours. So when we go on our next trip, we will find someone like Marcy to guide us toward the need.

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We walk for a cause that’s close to home By Erin Zammett Ruddy W H E N I WA S 2 3 , I was diagnosed with leukemia, and my life was saved by a brand-new drug that raised the survival rate for my form of the disease from 50 percent to nearly 95 percent. I was beyond lucky and remember thinking, “Well, I know where my millions will go someday: to cancer research.” Helping to ﬁnd cures for other patients seemed like the least I could do. Fast-forward 16 years: I don’t have those millions to donate (damn!), but I do have the ability to give my time and rally my troops. And thanks to that drug, my troops now include three healthy children, ages 10, 7, and 4. They’ve always known about my cancer, and they’ve always known that our family helps others with cancer because not everyone is as lucky as I am. We raise money, we raise awareness, and once a year we raise lanterns into the New York City sky as part of the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society’s Light the Night Walk.

These fundraising walks are held all over the country. Survivors and patients carry white lanterns, loved ones and supporters carry red lanterns, and those walking in memory of someone carry gold lanterns. I use the lanterns to show the kids what the ﬁght against cancer looks like. We’ve come a long way, but there is still work to be done. We look for the people carrying white survivor lanterns. But we also talk about the gold lanterns. There are still too many of those. I choke up easily at Light the Night, but I also laugh and cheer and watch my kids get their faces painted—right over the cotton candy plastered on their cheeks. Any night we can be together that doesn’t end with a heap of sweaty shin guards and

math homework is always a win. The fact that we’re doing good at the same time? Insert hallelujahhands emoji. Of course, when I asked my 10-year-old son what he remembered most about last year’s walk, he said it was a tie between the taco truck and the guy shouting curse words outside the subway. But I know the night impacts the kids in more important ways, too. They’re growing up understanding that people get cancer, it isn’t always fair, and it’s up to people like us to give researchers the means to ﬁnd more miracle drugs. They know that showing up, even at their age, matters. When a lot of people each give a little and you add it all together, lives will be saved. I’m still holding out hope that I’ll have my own millions to give someday, but in case that doesn’t pan out, I’m raising three children who will carry the torch—and the lanterns.

T O D O A WA L K T O G E T H E R BRING A STROLLER or scooter—even if

your little one doesn’t think she needs it. Also, dole out water carefully and you’ll have fewer potty stops. SEND PERSONALIZED EMAIL S asking

friends to sponsor you. You’ll get a better response than if you sent out a group email or posted on Facebook. KIDS AREN’T UP FOR the entire walk? Station them (with an adult) along the way with signs to cheer everyone on.

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The vast majority of people think life insurance is a smart money move— yet only 59 percent say they have coverage. How to go from well intentioned to well protected? These tips from experts make the process a little easier to navigate.

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With life insurance, sometimes the hardest part is getting started. “Research shows that many people think they won’t qualify or won’t be able to afford it, but that’s generally not true,” says James Scanlon, senior research director at LIMRA, an insurance research association in Windsor, Connecticut. In one survey, 86 percent of respondents said they hadn’t bought life insurance because it was too expensive—but many overestimated the premiums by more than triple. The good news: Once you have a life insurance policy— unlike health insurance, which you might have to deal with every year— you could be hands-off for decades. 2

Crunch the numbers. Think of the policy’s death benefit as a stand-in for your earning power: If you die, your loved ones will need enough to replace your income at least until they can make other financial adjustments. Before you talk to an agent about how much insurance to buy, run the numbers yourself. Sites like Bankrate.com and Lifehappens .org (an education group formed by insurance-industry organizations) offer online calculators that will estimate how much insurance you’ll need to cover any immediate expenses associated with your death and minimize the financial impact on your family.

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There are two main kinds. Term life insurance covers you for a defined period, say 20 or 30 years, and is usually less expensive. Whole life insurance covers you for life and has an investment component. “Whole life can be a way to save for retirement or save for education, but for many people there are better ways of doing that, like funding your IRA or 529,” says Benjamin Sullivan, a certified financial planner at Palisades Hudson Financial Group in Austin, Texas. There’s no right answer for every situation, adds Scanlon, but term policies are simple and provide the most coverage per premium dollar. Life insurance offered as a benefit through your employer is nice, but it’s not enough. Some policies are so meager that the death benefit wouldn’t carry your family through the calendar year. And when you switch jobs, you can’t take the policy with you. Think of this insurance as a free supplement to the real coverage you’ll buy yourself. 4

Find an agent… You’ll pay the same amount for a particular policy whether you shop directly with an insurance carrier or through an independent insurance agent in the U.S., says Michael Quinn, an independent agent in Orlando, Florida, and owner of Lifeinsuranceblog.net. But

comparing policies can really pay off. Because every insurer uses its own underwriting standards to assess risk, one might see your skydiving habit or type 1 diabetes diagnosis as a costly red ﬂag, while another barely bumps the premiums. Interview at least two agents, suggests Marvin Feldman, president and CEO of LifeHappens .org. Get referrals from friends or online agent locators. Ask: What are their specialties? How many carriers do they work with? Are they a captive agent (meaning they work with one carrier and can’t recommend other companies’ products)? 5

…or go it alone online. Sites like Ladder, HavenLife, Fabric, and TruStage can make buying easier. “Instead of filling out a giant stack of forms, taking a medical exam, and then waiting three months to hear if you’re approved, you might know within a week or much sooner,” says Feldman. They can act fast because they rely on simplified underwriting and algorithms. But know that, as Sullivan notes, “if you’re a healthy individual, going through full underwriting can mean lower premiums, which might be worth the hassle.” Once you have a plan, paying premiums annually may get you the cheapest rate. And tell the beneficiary! You’ll give them peace of mind now—and spare them from tracking down (or even overlooking) the policy in the future.

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How do you talk to your kids about what you do?

“I have two girls who are 3 and 6. I think it’s important for my kids to see me in action as much as possible. If I’m curating a dinner menu for a group or speaking on a panel with other chefs at an event, I like them to be a part of it. Also, because of the flexibility of my schedule, I take on a lot of the domestic duties, since my wife works a more traditional schedule. Domestic work is important, and so often the burden falls on women, so I think it’s good for them to see me pitching in and doing my part.”

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“I used to work in the fashion industry, but after giving birth to my first son, I made the decision to stay home fulltime and continued to do so after my youngest was born. I recently returned to school to pursue interior design, and it has started a good conversation with my sons about work ethic. When they want to play with me, I tell them that when I have responsibilities for school, those have to come first. It’s a wonderful thing for them to see me working through school and making these types of choices.”

KELLI GELLER, 39, INTERIOR DESIGN STUDENT AND STAY-AT-HOME MOM

“We launched our company 12 years ago, when I had three small children and was pregnant with my fourth. We often talk about work, among other things, at the dinner table, and because of this they’ve learned a lot about what it means to run a business. When we’d go to the grocery store, I would make sure my product was facing the right way on shelves; the kids picked up on that and now do the same. They’ve seen me lead a company while also maintaining a home life, and I think that’s key.”

KARA GOLDIN, 50, F O U N D E R A N D C EO OF HINT, A BEVERAGE AND PERSONAL-CARE PRODUCTS COMPANY

“I have twin boys who are 5 years old. I work for an organization that makes drugs for neglected diseases and helps sick children; I don’t go into the details of my work, because it would make them worried and upset, but I do share the international aspect of it with them. They love to FaceTime with me from interesting places, like Sudan, India, and the Congo. When I travel, we circle the set of days I’ll be gone on a calendar, and I’ll draw a picture of where I’m going. They can black out each box as the day goes by.”

“When my 19-year-old son was younger, I would bring him into the NASA facilities, and we would talk about how important it is for us to know about the air we breathe and how we watch the storms that are coming so we’re able to give people enough notice to evacuate before a hurricane. Open lines of communication really start with those day-to-day conversations about work and what you do. I think that sets the stage for kids to be open about their own lives.”

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“I used to despise running. Now I’ve done three half marathons.”

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Back in middle school, I was repeatedly told that I “run like a duck.” What’s more, I tired far too quickly on runs, was slower than all my friends, and got distracted and bored in no time. Clearly, running wasn’t for me. As I got older, I started taking workout classes and found I was keen on those with clear instructions and technical elements to hold my focus, like yoga. I’d found my ﬁt. But then I moved to NewYork City, where group classes are expensive. Running, on the other hand, is free.

To stay in shape (and on budget), I knew I’d have to hit the pavement, so I consulted Hannah Fields, an elite runner and expert with Brooks Beasts Track Club in Seattle. She claimed to have once hated running, like me. Fields taught me that one helpful way to overcome the hangups, aches, and monotony that can come with running is to learn mindfulness. “Take in all the sensory elements around you: the trees you pass, the breath going through your lungs, the sounds passing by,” she explained. This way, you’re not so

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STRENGTH TRAINING

“ To ease my anxiet y about strength training, I had to get one-on-one help.” By Liz Steelman

YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“Running is just so boring.” RETHINK IT: If you can’t run with a friend, run to a juicy podcast. There’s nothing like a true-crime murder mystery to distract you from the five-mile slump. YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“Miles feel impossibly long.” RETHINK IT: Measure distance in a different way. Maybe you can do one mile in three songs.

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I can’t do a push-up.And until recently, I was too afraid to brave the weight room for fear of being judged for how weak I am. I also felt clueless about where to start. So instead I stuck with cardio—like running or using the elliptical machine—because it had a clear directive and a repetitive movement that’s hard to mess up in any drastic way. It’s not that I lacked an understanding of the beneﬁts of strength training or that I didn’t crave those things. I know it raises lean muscle mass and helps keep body fat in check, which not only keeps you looking good but also reduces your risks of things like heart disease and diabetes. So when my editor challenged me to turn strength-training hatred into love, I had my “It’s now or never” moment. I ﬁgured the only way to get comfortable would be to address my fear head-on, through private training. I scheduled three one-hour sessions with Rebecca Kennedy, a personal trainer at SoHo Strength Lab, and two one-on-ones with Don Saladino, celebrity trainer and owner of Drive 495 gym in New York City.

YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“I don’t want to swap my sacred yoga time for strength training.” RETHINK IT: You can do the bare minimum— even 10 minutes a day— and still see results, says Saladino. YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“Reps feel…repetitive.” RETHINK IT: Disguise exercise as something else you love. For instance, if dance cardio is your thing, imagine that side steps with resistance bands are a dance move. YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“I just waste time doing random moves.” RETHINK IT: Follow a strength workout on an app that provides videos or visuals of the exercises, like the Fitner app ($10 monthly Apple iOS app subscription).

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fixated on looking perfect or finishing. Her second tip: Find a running buddy—preferably one with good form you can copy—to make runs more entertaining and help keep you accountable. I began joining a friend on her daily morning run, a two-mile loop in the park. She was on day 88 of what is, to date, a 322-days-in-a-row personal running challenge, and she agreed to slow her pace so I could join her. Eight months later, things have clicked for me—she and I are running at least four times a week, and we’ve shaved almost a minute off our original time. An extra perk: Since she’s in coding school and I work full-time, it’s the only chance we have to catch up. When she told me she was signing up for a race, I felt motivated to do the same; I’d come this far with her help. Happily, my type-A personality responded well to concrete goals— race dates, mileage to hit, a pace to strive for. Since then, I’ve passed three half-marathon finish lines. Do I love running now? Most days. Sure, I have times when my legs feel heavy and I’d rather bail. But months of practice have made my stride less imperfect, I have recurring dates on the calendar with a close friend to look forward to, and I’ve learned how to turn runs into mindful moments, my time to escape. I’m miles from where I started.

“I can’t even comfortably run a mile. I don’t know where to start.” RETHINK IT: Start slowly, literally and figuratively. Walk-run a mile and work your way up to longer distances as you build your cardiovascular strength and endurance. Small doses of running— even 1 to 3 miles, twice a week—pack maximum health benefits, says Carl J. Lavie, MD, medical director of cardiac rehabilitation and prevention at the Ochsner Medical Center in New Orleans.

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“I went from loathing group exercise classes to teaching them.” By Emily Abbate

At my first-ever group fitness experience—a cycling class—I wanted to leave minutes in. I had recently undergone a body transformation, slimming down from 200-plus pounds, and still carried self-doubt. If I didn’t stand up from the bike saddle when I was supposed to, people would notice. If I didn’t bop to the beat, I would stick out like a sore thumb. I regularly did my go-to workouts— solo runs and gym trips where I felt less visible—for another year or so. But as I got fitter, I had an urge to buy into New York City’s varied fitness scene, and I wanted to continue shaping up, which would require adding diversity to my routine. I’d heard about a class that involved treadmill and strength circuits. I already liked running, I thought. So I tried it. I loved it. The physical changes I noticed from going to the class regularly made me crave new challenges. After work, I hit up dance cardio with a girlfriend (there’s safety in numbers) instead of happy hour; I began to look forward to the sweaty moments of accomplishment walking out of a hot yoga room. Today the girl who once wanted to ditch class after a few minutes is a cycling instructor herself (at Swerve Fitness in New York City, if you ever want to find me). I always ask if anyone is new to class before we start; that way, I can bop by her bike and let her know I was once in her seat.

YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“I’m not part of the cult-follower crew.” RETHINK IT: Take your first class with a friend who has been to (and enjoys) that particular class. Then you’ll have someone you feel comfortable with to use as a point of reference during the workout, and you might catch some of her already-positive attitude toward it. YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“I prefer working out alone, without instructors shouting at me.” RETHINK IT: Work around your preferences. A die-hard runner? A class involving speed and agility drills that can make you a stronger runner might be up your alley. This way, you can find value in instructor feedback and make it apply to you. YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“I tried already, and I hated it.” RETHINK IT: Go to a class three times to give it a fair assessment. You may find that different instructor personalities, times of day, or studio locales are game changers. And if you still hate it? Try something else!

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Entering each gym, I was nervous that I’d be surrounded by bodybuilders or that my trainerswould talk down to me. But both pros treated me as an equal. They didn’t even ask me to touch equipment immediately; they wanted to walk through my reservations and come up with ways to make me feel more comfortable. When we did start exercising, they taught me basic moves, explaining the purpose of each exercise and the muscle group it targeted. They also paid extra attention to my form: Today I can do a good-looking squat, and I know how to hold a kettlebell. So can I do a push-up yet? No. But I’ve ﬁnally learned to stop feeling insecure about it. The real aha moment for me was when Kennedy told me to let go of “benchmarks” for what strong means, like being able to do multiple gorgeous pushups. The fact that I can walk into a weight room and know how to handle myself is crazy empowering. And, yes, it’ll be cool when I can do that push-up—but I’ll get there.

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hip-hop tunes as you move through flows. I also found that following a yoga video online—with my gym playlist streaming—in the evening helped me wind down and shift my focus away from next-day worries. I’ve been attentive to my yoga practice for a few months. To reap the psychological and physical benefits of yoga, you should commit to practicing one or two times a week for 8 to 12 weeks, explained Wei. Today I can say the recuperative stretching has helped me squat and lunge deeper and alleviate some hip-flexor tightness, making my true workout loves (sprints! box jumps!) less painful and more powerful. And, I’ll admit, conscious breathing and moments of stillness feel OK, maybe even satisfying, during stress spirals. So, yoga, do I like you? I don’t know if I would go that far—but I have certainly learned to respect you.

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YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“I’m not spiritual or zen.” RETHINK IT: Don’t force it. “Yoga is meditative by nature, so if you’re doing yoga or even just yoga breathing, you’re already being spiritual, so to speak,” says Wei. “If you don’t like mantras and yoga talk, tune them out and focus on yourself.” YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“Yoga doesn’t feel like a real workout.” RETHINK IT: Look for vinyasa or power yoga for more of a burn. Or take yoga out of the workout category and think of it as a mode of self-care or relaxation. YOUR FIRST THOUGHT:

“I’m not bendy enough.” RETHINK IT: Do modifications, advises Wei. “There is no shame in it,” she says. “The power of accepting where your body and mind are at in that moment is the most empowering yoga principle of all.”

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I love exercising. Sweaty boot camp and boxing classes are my stress outlet. But I’m all yang and little yin: Count me in for anything high intensity and out for workouts requiring slow-motion movement, long poses, and no shower afterward. Layer on the ego factor—I’m a former ballerina who has since lost her litheness—and it’s no surprise that I consider myself a “bad” yogi. When I shared my peeves with Marlynn Wei, MD, psychiatrist, yoga teacher, and coauthor of The Harvard Medical School Guide to Yoga, she assured me that my yoga gripes are common. “There’s a notion that to do yoga, you have to be able to sit still or be ﬂexible,” said Wei. “But the teaching of yoga is less about poses and mantras and more about body awareness and emotional and physical release and recovery.” The word “recovery” resonated with me; I started to think about yoga as a form of active recovery that, as opposed to a traditional workout, would allow me to recoup better and be stronger in all my other ﬁtness challenges. Wei also encouraged me to apply the qualities that I loved about other forms of physical activity to my yoga practice: Adding speed turned up the calorie burn, and therefore the appeal, so I shopped around for vinyasa-style options. Music, too, has always helped keep me engaged during workouts, so I sought out Y7, a studio in New York City and Los Angeles that plays

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2 SPIRIT SET Smooth dry and aged gin in the prettiest pair of bottles. Floral and citrus notes make them easy to drink straight. TO BUY: Koval mini gin set, $45; mouth.com.

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1 DREAMY BEANIE As if the slouchy fit and fun pom-pom weren’t reason enough to love this merino hat, the proceeds buy knitting kits for young adults in cancer treatment. TO BUY: The MacKeen Beanie, $125; shitthatiknit.com.

2 TA B L E T O P G E TAWAY Photographer Gray Malin’s latest collection features whimsical shots of surf, sand, and snow. A visually inspiring addition to the coffee table. TO BUY: Escape by Gray Malin, $45; abramsbooks.com.

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5 N E X T- G E N B R I E F C A S E Made of slim waxed cotton and leather, with a padded laptop sleeve and eight pockets. TO BUY: Modern Day Briefcase, $199; bretoncompany.com.

6 I N F L ATA B L E F U N This blow-up chiller is perfect for tailgates and BBQs. TO BUY: Giant football inflatable drink cooler, $15; dormify.com. 7 MONOGR AM SOCKS No more guessing games on laundry day. TO BUY: Personal Edition: Luxe monogram sock set, $45; nicelaundry.com.

6 8 R E T RO G A M E With this old-school joystick, he can play his favorite childhood video game on the TV. TO BUY: Pac-Man Connect and Play, $20; target.com. 10 7

9 P O C K E T P RO T E C T O R The RFID-blocking leather wallet has a curved side to slide easily into his front pocket. TO BUY: Men’s Rogue front-pocket wallet, $50; duluthtrading.com. 10 BAR CO OL Add sophisticated style to a home bar with a mesh-covered seltzer maker. TO BUY: Classic soda maker, $90; world market.com. 11 MAN CANDLE The pine-and-tobacco blend will become his new signature scent. TO BUY: Molton Brown Russian Leather candle, from $49; moltonbrown.com.

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Road Ready Potluck Taking your holiday party on the go? HonestlyYUM editor Erica Chan Coﬀman shares her tips on planning— and packing up—the perfect dishes and festive ﬁnishing touches for your next potluck. Just add your favorite people.

CHEERS TO LEFTOVERS

“No worries if you get caught in the holiday spirit and end up eating less and talking more. Bring plastic containers to pack away the yummy leftovers. Nobody ever leaves a potluck without them!”

ONE-POT WONDER

“One-pot meals and large-batch drinks are great to bring to potlucks. Not only can you prep them the night before, you can transport the lidded pot directly from the stove to the party. Reheat and serve from the same pot. So easy!”

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DISH IT OUT

“If your host doesn’t have enough plates or ﬂatware, lend them pieces from your own collection! Just pack them carefully in a cardboard box, with a couple layers of newspaper lining each plate.”

BYOF: BRING YOUR OWN FLOWERS

“Pre-arrange ﬂowers

and transport them in their vases with very little water and in open cardboard boxes. With the versatile cargo management system in the Ford EcoSport, you can stand them straight up.”

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1 CLEVER CUSHION A rainbow neck pillow that flips inside out into a unicorn bolster? Magical. TO BUY: Unicorn Zip & Flip pillow, $40; blueribbon generalstore.com. 2 ADORBS EARS She’ll love these furry, statement-making earmuffs. TO BUY: LC Lauren Condrad Kitty earmuffs, $32; kohls.com.

3 ALL THE FEEL S For the teen who is fluent in emoji, these pens feature marker tips on one end and symbol stamps on the other. TO BUY: Mark It Stamp It Set, $14; bando.com. 4 LIGHT SHOW The postcard-size unit can be programmed to make and play games, show the weather forecast,

and more, using basic coding. TO BUY: The Pixel Kit, $79; kano.me. 5 MUSIC MACHINE Rising stars will love this karaoke microphone, which plays background music through the built-in speaker and saves recordings of their top hits. TO BUY: Karaoke Bluetooth microphone, $40; containerstore.com.

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6 SLEEK STEREO This wireless sound system has modern tech and retro appeal. TO BUY: Victrola Modern acrylic Bluetooth turntable, $200; urbanoutfitters.com.

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7 PA I N T B OX The ultimate makeup kit features eye shadows, cheek tints, and brushes. TO BUY: Beauty Illuminate the Day Blockbuster, $30; ulta.com. 8 LOUNGE ACT Wave the empty sack to fill it with air, then seal it to form a comfy cushion. TO BUY: Lamzac the Original, $60; fatboyusa.com. 8 9 USER ID Create a bracelet with their initials, nickname, or current mood. TO BUY: Classic personalized beaded bracelet, $29; experimentaljewellery club.com.

Customize a pair as friendship bracelets.

1 0 WA K E - U P C A L L This clock has sunrisesimulating light and a gradually louder alarm. TO BUY: Beddi Glow, $80; wittidesign.com.

1 2 RO C K O N Light up their creative space with this 19-inch vintage-inspired LED wall art. TO BUY: LED Rock On Wall Décor, $199; rhteen.com. 1 3 M A N E TA M E R Plug in, brush, and go. TO BUY: Amika Polished Perfection mini straightening brush, $35; sephora.com.

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1 OFF THE RECORD This speaker has an old-school look with contemporary capability; customize by album, genre, or record label. TO BUY: Vintage Vinyl Bluetooth speaker, from $195; uncommongoods.com. 2 T R A N S PA R E N T BLO CKS A coffee-table objet by day, this acrylic stacking game is handy for family game night. TO BUY: Deco stacking game, $129; westelm.com.

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3 P R E T T Y P L AT T E R Wood, leather, and enamel make a chic serving piece for everything from movie snacks to taco toppings. TO BUY: Utility tapas set, $114; jungleeny.com.

PEPPERMINT BARK COOKIES AND CREAM CHEESECAKE Prep Time: 30 min. | Total Time: 6 hours 35 min. | Makes: 16 servings (incl. refrigerating)

W H AT YO U N E ED 30 OREO Cookies, divided 1 Tbsp. butter or margarine, melted 35 starlight mints, divided 4 pkg. (8 oz. each) PHILADELPHIA Cream Cheese, softened 1 cup sugar 4 eggs 1 pkg. (4 oz.) BAKER'S Semi-Sweet Chocolate 2 oz. BAKER'S White Chocolate

MAKE IT HEAT oven to 325°F. USE pulsing action of food processor to process 18 cookies until ﬁnely ground. Add butter; mix well. Press onto bottom of 9-inch springform pan. Bake 10 min. CRUSH 30 mints, then chop 10 of remaining cookies. Beat cream cheese and sugar in large bowl with mixer until blended. Add eggs, 1 at a time, mixing on low speed after each just until blended. Stir in crushed mints and chopped cookies. Pour over crust. BAKE 55 min. or until center is almost set. Run knife around rim of pan to loosen cake; cool before removing rim. Refrigerate cheesecake 4 hours. MEANWHILE, crush remaining mints, then chop remaining cookies. Cover baking sheet with parchment. Melt chocolates separately as directed on packages. Spread semi-sweet chocolate into thin layer on prepared baking sheet; top with tablespoonfuls of the white chocolate. Swirl gently with spoon. Top with crushed mints and chopped cookies. Refrigerate until ﬁrm. BREAK chocolate bark into small pieces; sprinkle over cheesecake before serving. Variation: Substitute 3/4 cup crushed candy canes for the starlight mints. Reserve 1 Tbsp. crushed candy for sprinkling over the swirled chocolate bark; stir remaining crushed candy into the cheesecake batter before baking as directed.

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5 AT T TR ACTIVE PL ANTS Atta ach this cute trio to the fridge or a magnetic memo boa ard for a hit of lowmaiintenance greenery. TO B BUY: Magnetic Succulent Trio o by Real Simple, $40; 1800flowers.com.

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4 WIND OW VIEWS Plan the next family adv venture while ass sembling this 500-piece puz zzle featuring sky sce enes from 10,000 feet. TO B BUY: Window Seat jigsaw puzzle, $14; blue ribb bongeneralstore.com.

6 FULL SCREEN Mov ve over, panorama. Easily share 360-degree Eas photos and videos from p th his all-seeing camera. TO O BUY: Gear 360, $230; sa amsung.com.

7 FA N A RT Orrder a blueprint of their fav vorite TV character’s pa ad (from Father Knows Bestt to Friends). TO BUY: Fantasy Floorplans, $49 (11 in. by 17 in.); fantasy floorplans.com.

9 REGAL COMPETITION Give this bingo set to royals-obsessed family and friends and you’ll be crowned Queen of Gifting. TO BUY: Royal Bingo, $30; laurenceking.com. 10 1 0 S M A RT H O M E H U B One sleek unit wirelessly controls connected TVs, thermostats, home security, and more. TO BUY: Titan Core 5, $599; shop .titanplatform.us. 9 118 RE AL SIMPLE DECEMBER 2017

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8 BESTIE ACCESSORIES A collar in vegan leather for a pup and a matching bracelet for the owner. TO BUY: FriendshipCollar, $35 to $70 each; friendshipcollar.com.

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1 OMBRÉ SWEETS Almost too pretty to eat: a dozen mini chocolate bars in six flavors, nestled in a candy-colored box. TO BUY: Oh What Fun chocolate tiles, $12; lolliandpops.com. 2 W R I T E AWAY These pom-pom pens are an irresistible addition to a tote or backpack—and

practically guarantee a handwritten thank-you. TO BUY: Fur pens, $6 each; target.com for stores. 3 RING IT UP Aspirational tags for your everyday keys, with cheeky labels like “Getaway Car” and “Pied-a-Terre.” TO BUY: Key rings, $15 each; dearkeaton.com.

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4 C O N V E R S AT I O N PIECES Take the guesswork out of the charcuterie board with these awesome food tags and their dry-erase pen. TO BUY: Chit Chat markers, $10 for 12; momastore.org. 5 TINY TESTERS Why decide on one shade? These mini lip-

stick tablets take up barely any room in an evening bag. TO BUY: Mini Lip Pill Kit, $16 for 5; winkylux.com. 6 B E AU T Y T R E AT Surprise! There’s a sample-size set of Jo Malone London’s luxury beauty products in this holiday cracker. In assorted scents.

Christmas Cracker, $48; jomalone.com.

TO BUY:

7 COUTURE CREAM The smooth, egg-shaped capsule begs to be fished out of handbags regularly—as much for the tactile pleasure of grabbing it as for the luxe hand cream within. TO BUY: Chanel La Crème Main, $50; chanel.com.

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8 HAPPY THOUGHTS This set of three scratchoff journals is a satisfying way to get daily words of encouragement. Tiny enough to toss into your bag for mobile meditation. TO BUY: Scratch Off: 99 Ways Happy, $15; chronicle books.com. 9 C R A BTA S T I C The “claws” of this adorable and useful crabshaped multitool unfold into gadgets ranging from a bottle opener to a screwdriver. An update to that well-worn pocket knife. TO BUY: Crab multitool, $20; kikkerland.com.

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INTRODUCING 1 0 H O L I DAY T I P S Three festive nail polish shades to play with all season long. TO BUY: Nail lacquer trio, $65; cledepeaubeaute.com. 11 SHEEP DRE AMS She won’t need to count sheep to fall asleep when she can count on this soft eye mask to block out the light. TO BUY: Plush sleep mask, $13; aerie.com. 12 BIG SOFTIE Hydrating hand masks smooth and soften. These single-use gloves are available in four scents. TO BUY: Le Mini Macaron hand masks, $5 each; leminimacaron.com. 13 DRINK BELL Cheers to this doubleduty design: Shake the stylish bottle opener to alert guests that their drinks are ready. TO BUY: Bell bottle opener, $37; gretelhome.com. 14 HANDLE IT Affix this grip to the back of a smartphone for selfie stability or a sturdy kickstand, then collapse it flat to fit into pockets. TO BUY: PopSockets phone grip, $10 to $15; popsockets.com. 1 5 P E R S O N A L H E RO Attach this device to any item you tend to misplace (keys, wallet, laptop) and it will track the last recorded location on the accompanying app. In Star Wars, Marvel, or DC Comics characters. TO BUY: Collectible Bluetooth tracking key chain, $25; foundmi.com. 16 FETCHING IDE A Slip a tennis ball into this clip-on holder for your phone, then ask your pup

to say cheese. TO BUY: Pooch Selfie, $10; poochselfie.com. 17 GO FISH Yes, sardines as a stocking stuffer. These imported umami-bombs boost the flavor of everyday salad and amp up plain pizza. Opt for a variety pack to try all four styles. TO BUY: Bela Portuguese sardines, $18 for 6; food52.com.

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18 PER SONALIT Y HANDBOOK Some will identify; others will learn a few things. This mini comic offers entertaining insight into the mind of an introvert. TO BUY: Text, Don’t Call, $14; penguinrandom house.com. 19 PERFECT PET A baby monkey that clings to fingers, blows kisses, and playfully swings from its tail—no treats required. TO BUY: WowWee Fingerlings Interactive baby monkey, $15; amazon.com. 20 M A G I C WA N D S This hydrating trio of shimmery glosses will keep her smiling through the season. TO BUY: Jane Iredale Shimmer Lip Gloss Kit, $35; janeiredale.com. 21 FORE THOUGHT Ideal for the golfer’s stocking, this tiny tool comes complete with everything needed to keep clubs in prime shape. TO BUY: All-In-One golf club cleaner by Caddy-Clean, $25; thegrommet.com. Find even more present ideas at realsimple.com/ giftguide.

Tree skirts, $128. Stockings, $48.PERSONALIZABLE Throws, $48. ARTFULLY MATCHED TREE SKIRTS, Throw pillows, $44 for 18’’ x 18’’.AT $12. STOCKINGS, AND MORE. STARTING Felt garlands, starting at $12. minted.com/holiday-home-collections

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Make Every Room Guest-Ready Whether company’s coming for a few hours or a whole week, these pro tips, tweaks, and details will make them feel at home without making you feel like a concierge. B y E M I LY H S I E H Photographs by R AY M O N D H O M

TIP Surprise guests with above-andbeyond extras, like relaxing essential oil towelettes.

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St yling by Ed Gallagher

GUEST BATHROOM SUPPLIES travel-size toiletries saline solution cotton balls & cotton swabs towel & washcloths

NIGHTSTAND NECESSITIES alarm clock radio carafe or bottled water books dish for jewelry

T O B U Y: (Opposite page) Louise tray in brass and mint, $120 (large); hawkinsnewyork.com. Sweet

Dreams Darling essential oil towelettes, $10 for 7; happyspritz.com. Calistoga bath towel in aqua, $48; serenaandlily.com. (This page) Linear nightstand, $299; cb2.com. Tivoli Model Three BT radio, $350; momastore.org. Azure glass carafe, $28; crateandbarrel.com. The Leavers by Lisa Ko, Stay with Me by Ayobami Adebayo, and Sing, Unburied, Sing by Jesmyn Ward, $26 each; amazon.com.

Get-It-Clean Checklist Cleaning expert Melissa Maker breaks the prep work into manageable chunks. Divide tasks among family members to make quicker work. 1 WEEK PRIOR

Clear out the fridge to make room for the food you’ll need for company.

IN-ROOM UPGRADES

Change guest bedroom linens, vacuum, and make space in closets and drawers for your guests’ belongings.

spare hangers eye mask

Check inventory of guest towels and toiletries.

earplugs personal humidifier

TIP Have a spare house key made so guests can come and go as they please.

linen or room spray sewing kit bandages pain relievers reading glasses headphones & spare charger soft throw

G u e st Ro o m Channel what you love about a great hotel, says interior designer Young Huh, with basics that include an iron, spare hangers, and an alarm clock. Bonus points for bottled water, a box of chocolates or mints, and a note with your Wi-Fi password. To prevent guests from stumbling over suitcases, Joanna Goddard of Cupofjo.com suggests keeping a luggage rack in the guest room. And in your guest bath, “always, always set out extra toilet paper and a plunger, because there’s nothing more awkward than having to ask,” she says. An extra-thoughtful touch: Keep a stockpile of just-in-case medications (ibuprofen, indigestion pills) and bandages, plus a sewing kit for garment emergencies. T O B U Y: (This page) Real Simple slimline suit hangers in Dove, $30 for 50; bedbathandbeyond.com. Sleep mask, $45; slipsilkpillowcase.com. Gold earbuds, $25; happyplugs.com. Oval bread basket in antique brown, $35; aerostudios.com. Fabric Fresh, $16; thelaundress.com. HoMedics personal ultrasonic humidifier, $20; bedbathandbeyond.com. F1 Air Supplies earplugs, $8 for 8; flight001.com. Wool and cashmere throw in smoky teal, $128; garnethill.com. (Opposite page) Brew Cafetiere coffee press, $210; tomdixon.net. Shell Bisque salad plates, $18 each; canvashomestore.com.

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Launder tablecloths and linens. (Pull them out of the dryer immediately to avoid the need for ironing.) 3 DAYS PRIOR

Declutter common areas. Tight on time? Deposit stray items in a large basket and stash it in an out-of-the-way spot. Set a reminder to unpack it once the holidays are over. Dust and wipe down mirrors and furniture. 1 DAY PRIOR

Clean guest bath and powder room, placing anything nonessential in a basket under the sink. Add fresh hand towels and refresh the supply of soap and toilet paper. Launder pet beds and change kitty litter. Lay out your outfit for tomorrow. DAY OF

Empty garbage and sweep floors.

K i tc h e n A self-service buffet keeps you from playing short-order cook. For breakfast, make and freeze waffles a day or two before guests arrive; in the morning, heat in a 200-degree oven and serve with fresh berries, chocolate chips, pomegranate seeds, whipped cream, and syrup. “Kids can have fun making an edible art project,” says Catherine McCord of Weelicious.com. Or try a yogurt station with toppings like hempseed, nuts, honey, and chopped fruit. Finish with a coffee and tea area stocked with mugs, spoons, a milk frother, and sweeteners. Come lunchtime, a sandwich bar is a crowd-pleaser. And for off-hours nibbling, a basket in the pantry or fridge labeled “Eat me” takes the guesswork out of what’s fair game to munch on during the day.

MEALTIME MUSTHAVES waffles & toppings coffee & tea bread, deli meats & cheeses condiments single-serving snacks

D i n i n g Ro o m Flower Formula For knockout table arrangements, florist Phoebe Ma of Gem Fleuriste suggests starting with a big, lush flower as the spotlight, then adding scent plus texture. Choose from her mix-and-match guide:

Ensu surre a comfortable, co onvivial me meall for all with a few strategic tabl blee setting hacks. Forr a tableclot eoth h th tha at will cov o er a folding table or one wi w th added leavess, Amanda a Hes e ser and Merrill Stubbs of Food od52 5 suggest buying plai 52 ain n line n n fabr fabrric that’s 10 inches longer than ea ach side of the surfa ace. Wash h and d dry it to create intention nall frays along the cutt edg d es. As you u set the e table, don’t sweat it iff yo ou don’t have enoug gh matchin ing g ch chiina, say ays Huh. Eithe er mix an nd match two sets eve enly (the sallad a plate fro om one set with the dinn nn ner plate from anoth her) r or dispe erse s many mismatched pieces throughout the table, st sticki kin ng wi with a consisten nt color palette to keep it looking uniforrm. m Lay y out ut serving ng dishes the night before, each labeled with a sticky y no ote e wi w th h the menu item you plan to serve in it. Hesser and Sttub ubb bs div bs i ide each dish into two serving ng platters or bowls so everyon one e at the table can have easy accesss.

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TIP Enlist (or hire) a patient teen to engage with the kids while the adults finish dinner.

KIDS’ CORNER board games puzzle arts & crafts project

Fa m i l y Ro o m No playroom? No problem. Keep both kids and adults amused by creating a designated fun zone. Stock a basket with games (like Uno, Scrabble, and Jenga) and a few decks of cards for those in-between times when there’s no scheduled activity, says entertaining expert Pamela Salzman. McCord likes to set up an arts and crafts station with wooden picture frames, stickers, and an instant camera for taking snaps to put into the decorated frames. Designate a puzzle corner—with a card table, a 1,000-piece jigsaw, and good lighting—so anyone can jump in at any time. And set out plenty of ﬂoor pillows and a basket of fuzzy blankets to make movie watching more fun (try Elf, Gremlins, or The Nightmare Before Christmas). For a festive all-ages nightcap, serve hot chocolate with peppermint stirrers.

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By Stephanie Sisco Photographs by Raymond Hom

Three designers help you dream up a tree so pretty you may never want to take it down.

Color Burst “BRIGHT, NONTR ADITIONAL EMBELLISHMENTS ADD FUNKY FL AIR TO YOUR HOLIDAY DECOR.” — KATIE KIME, DESIGNER IN AUSTIN, TEXAS

Various shapes and textures combine to form a lively and energetic arrangement. Bright yarn tassels offer an unexpected color pop, while metallic, mirrored, and iridescent accents reflect those vibrant shades. Use multiglobe branches (like the one at bottom left) to strategically fill out your design for a lush effect. T O B U Y: (On both pages, clockwise from top left) Metal burst tree

topper, $29 (large); westelm.com. Mini crackle orb micro LED-battery-operated string lights, $17 (8 ft.); worldmarket.com. Drop ornaments, $12 each; zgallerie.com. Glass 12-points star ornament, $30 for 3; worldmarket.com. First Frost iridescent ornament (far right), $98 for 12; treetopia.com. Light to dark tassels, $3.50 each; thebeaddreamer .etsy.com. Chromatic Icefall ornaments, $78 for 6; treetopia.com. Large ball pick, $32; codyfosterandco.com for info.

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Casual Contemporar y “INSTEAD OF AN EVERGREEN, DRESS UP A TALL CACTUS, EUPHORBIA, OR OTHER STURDY HOUSEPL ANT FOR A QUIRKY TWIST ON TR ADITION.” — JUSTINA BL AKENEY, DESIGNER IN LOS ANGELES

With a smaller footprint than a standard spruce, a potted plant is a great alternative for small-space dwellers. It also requires fewer decorations. Keep the embellishments consistent, using primarily brass and gold charms, then soften the overall look with a pom-pom garland or plush patterned fabric around the base. T O B U Y: (On both pages, clockwise from top left) Colin Adrian green glass feather,

$75; abchome.com. Roost brass feather ornament, $14; digsshowroom.com. Star of David resin ornament, $7; bronners.com. Roost brass spirit animal ornament, $16; digsshowroom.com. Felipe pom-pom throw, $72; luluandgeorgia.com. Paiette copper ball ornaments, $6 each, and Reflect ornament, $20 for 4; cb2.com. Hamsa hand metal ornament, $8; wattoonline.etsy.com. Multicolored handmade pom-pom garland, $9 (59 in.); mexicanbeautyshop.etsy.com. Soleil ornament, $18; codyfosterandco.com for info.

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Updated Classic “BAL ANCE SOPHISTICATED, ARTSY, AND PERSONAL ELEMENTS TO CREATE SOMETHING THAT’S BOTH STYLISH AND MEANINGFUL.” — REBECCA ATWO OD, DESIGNER IN BRO OKLYN, NEW YORK

Start with silver, gold, and blush baubles, then weave in sentimental mementos (Atwood opted for a lobster ornament to recall her New England roots). Finish with a traditional faux-cranberry garland. To tone down the formality of the look, arrange a few yards of indigo-dyed shibori fabric around the tree stand, tucking the hem under to form a rounded edge. T O B U Y: (On both pages, clockwise from top left) Shibori fabric by Matt Aprile;

indi-kids.com for info. Blush ornament set, $14 for 3; zgallerie.com. Glimmering glass globe ornament in gold, $12; shopterrain.com. French Country ornament set in ombré, $79 for 6; balsamhill.com. Tangle Christmas tree top star in brass, $90; steltonusa.com for info.

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LUCKY THEM Make these sweet and savory nibbles for parties, gifts, or (go on) yourself. DAW N P E R RY M A X K E L LY

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CO COA CEREAL BRITTLE ACTIVE TIME: 25 minutes TOTAL TIME: 1 hour

(includes cooling) MAKES: About 2 pounds (4 to 6 gifts)

SPICY CORN NUT BRITTLE ACTIVE TIME: 25 minutes TOTAL TIME: 1 hour

(includes cooling) MAKES: About 2 pounds (4 to 6 gifts)

Nonstick spray 1

Nonstick spray

cups sugar cup light corn syrup

cup light corn syrup

3 cups Cocoa Pebbles or Cocoa Krispies cereal

3 cups corn nuts 3 Tbsp. unsalted butter

3 Tbsp. unsalted butter 1 tsp. pure vanilla extract tsp. kosher salt 1 tsp. baking soda Flaky salt (optional)

cups sugar

1–1

tsp. crushed red pepper tsp. kosher salt 1 tsp. baking soda Flaky salt (optional)

LINE a rimmed baking sheet with parchment paper and lightly coat with nonstick spray. Combine sugar, corn syrup, and cup water in a medium saucepan over mediumhigh. Bring to a boil and cook, undisturbed, until sugar dissolves, about 3 minutes.

CONTINUE to cook, swirling saucepan occasionally, until edges turn golden; swirl pan to incorporate golden sugar into the rest of the mixture. When mixture is evenly amber in color, reduce heat to low and add cereal, butter, vanilla, and kosher salt. Cook, stirring, until evenly incorporated. Add baking soda (mixture will bubble up) and stir until evenly combined.

CONTINUE

brittle to prepared baking sheet and spread to about inch thick. Sprinkle with flaky salt, if desired, and set aside until completely cool. Break into pieces. Brittle will keep in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 2 weeks.

TRANSFER brittle to prepared baking sheet and spread to about inch thick. Sprinkle with flaky salt, if desired, and set aside until completely cool. Break into pieces. Brittle will keep in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 2 weeks.

TRANSFER

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to cook, swirling saucepan occasionally, until edges turn golden; swirl pan to incorporate golden sugar into the rest of the mixture. When mixture is evenly amber in color, reduce heat to low and add corn nuts, butter, crushed red pepper, and kosher salt. Cook, stirring, until evenly incorporated. Add baking soda (mixture will bubble up) and stir until evenly combined.

S A LT E D MAPLE ALMONDS & CASHEWS ACTIVE TIME: 15 minutes TOTAL TIME: 1 hour

(includes cooling) MAKES: 3 cups (2 to 4 gifts)

cup pure maple syrup 1 Tbsp. unsalted butter 1

tsp. pure vanilla extract 3 cups (about 1 lb.) raw almonds and/or cashews 1 tsp. flaky sea salt

PREHEAT oven to 350°F. Combine syrup, butter, and vanilla in a medium skillet over medium. Cook, stirring, until bubbling, about 2 minutes. Add nuts and cook, stirring, until syrup reduces and coats nuts, about 4 minutes. Spread mixture on a parchment-lined baking sheet and sprinkle with salt. Transfer to oven and bake until syrup around nuts appears set, 10 to 12 minutes. Stir once and let cool completely. Nuts will keep in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 1 week.

PA P R I K A L I M E P I STAC H I O S ACTIVE TIME: 5 minutes TOTAL TIME: 1 hour

(includes cooling) MAKES: 3 cups (2 to 4 gifts)

cup fresh lime juice (from 2 limes) 2 Tbsp. olive oil 2 tsp. hot or sweet paprika 2 tsp. kosher salt 3 cups (about 1 lb.) raw shelled pistachios PREHEAT oven to 325°F. Whisk together lime juice, oil, paprika, and salt in a large bowl. Add pistachios and toss to coat. Transfer to a parchment-lined baking sheet and bake, stirring halfway through, until nuts are golden, 20 to 22 minutes. Let cool completely. Nuts will keep in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 1 week.

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BL ACK & WHITE C H O C O L AT E PRETZELS

HAZELNUT S H O RT B R E A D ACTIVE TIME: 15 minutes TOTAL TIME: 80 minutes

ACTIVE TIME: 10 minutes TOTAL TIME: 1 hour

(includes cooling)

(includes chilling) MAKES: About 8 cups (4 to 6 gifts)

MAKES: About 40

(4 to 6 gifts)

1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, at room temperature cup packed light brown sugar 2 cups all-purpose flour tsp. kosher salt 1 cup toasted hazelnuts, roughly chopped Nonstick spray oven to 350°F. Combine butter and sugar in a large bowl and beat with an electric mixer on medium-high until creamy, about 2 minutes. With mixer on low, add flour and salt and beat just to combine. Use a spatula to fold in hazelnuts.

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PREHEAT

LIGHTLY coat a 9-by-13inch baking dish with nonstick spray. Line with parchment paper and lightly spray parchment. Press dough firmly into baking dish. Bake until golden and just starting to pull away from edges, 25 to 30 minutes.

cool completely and cut into squares or rectangles. Cookies will keep wrapped tightly and at room temperature for up to 1 week.

LET

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OLIVE S H O RT B R E A D ACTIVE TIME: 15 minutes TOTAL TIME: 85 minutes

(includes cooling) MAKES: About 40 (4 to 6 gifts)

1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, at room temperature 3 Tbsp. packed light brown sugar 2 cups all-purpose flour tsp. kosher salt 1 cup oil-cured olives, pitted, chopped, and patted dry Nonstick spray oven to 350°F. Combine butter and sugar in a large bowl and beat with an electric mixer on medium-high until creamy, about 2 minutes. With mixer on low, add flour and salt and beat just to combine. Use a spatula to fold in olives. PREHEAT

coat a 9-by-13inch baking dish with nonstick spray. Line with parchment paper and lightly spray parchment. Press dough firmly into baking dish. Bake until golden and just starting to pull away from edges, 30 to 35 minutes.

LIGHTLY

LET cool completely and cut into squares or rectangles. Cookies will keep wrapped tightly and at room temperature for up to 1 week.

cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, melted 2 tsp. vanilla or peppermint extract 8 cups small pretzel windowpanes or twists cup sugar

PIZZA PRETZEL NUGGETS ACTIVE TIME: 10 minutes TOTAL TIME: 45 minutes

(includes cooling) MAKES: About 8 cups

(4 to 6 gifts)

cup vegetable oil cup minced dried onion

1 Tbsp. cocoa powder

2 Tbsp. tomato paste

6 oz. (1 cup) white chocolate chips, melted

4 tsp. Worcestershire sauce

6 oz. (1 cup) semisweet or milk chocolate chips, melted 2 Tbsp. white sprinkles or sanding sugar tsp. flaky sea salt (optional) PREHEAT oven to 350°F. Combine butter and vanilla in a large bowl. Add pretzels and toss to coat. WHISK together sugar and cocoa powder in a small bowl. Add to pretzels and toss to coat. Transfer to 2 rimmed baking sheets and bake, rotating sheets halfway through, until dry to the touch, 12 to 15 minutes. Let cool completely on sheets.

pretzels with white chocolate, then with semisweet chocolate. Scatter sprinkles over top, along with sea salt, if desired. Refrigerate until chocolate is set, about 10 minutes. Pretzels will keep in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 1 week.

DRIZZLE

2 Tbsp. garlic powder

4 tsp. dried oregano 2 tsp. balsamic vinegar 2 tsp. kosher salt 1 tsp. freshly ground black pepper 24 oz. hard pretzels, broken into bite-size pieces (8 cups) PREHEAT oven to 325°F. Whisk together oil, onion, tomato paste, garlic powder, Worcestershire, oregano, vinegar, salt, and pepper in a large bowl. Add pretzels and toss evenly to coat. Transfer to 2 rimmed baking sheets and bake, stirring halfway through and rotating sheets, until golden and fragrant, 15 to 20 minutes. Let cool completely. Pretzels will keep in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 1 week.

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S S E R D CODE S O A H C ith rules An invite arrives w e: er th en be l al ve We’ Q U ES TI O N S TH AN that create M O RE s co des wear. Wacky dres to t ha w t ou ab S AN SW ER al. . Here’s how to de are the new norm HOLMES BY ELIZ ABE TH ARMAN

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T T H E M O M E N T O F T R U T H came at the coat check. It was a brisk December evening, and I nervously watched one guest after another peel off their jacket and reveal their attire. I spied a woman in a strapless gold cocktail dress on one side and a guy in jeans and a blazer on the other. Over to my left was another couple, the woman in a red satin backless gown with her hair swept up in a chignon. Her date was wearing a tuxedo. Down the hall was a guy in a T-shirt and sneakers. This sartorial cornucopia was the holiday party for the big tech company where my husband works. It was our ﬁrst time at the annual event, and as soon as I lined up a babysitter, I asked Matt the most pressing question: What is the dress code? He said he didn’t think there was one. Cue the record-scratching screech. No dress code? I was surprised, but I shouldn’t have been. His office is ﬁlled with techies straight out of central casting.

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Well-intentioned hosts, who don’t want to LIMIT what their guests can wear, are offering FEWER INSTRUCTIONS.

The result is often a mess of ST YLE MASH-UPS.

Employees of all ranks sport jeans and T-shirts. Wearing a suit is practically a cause for concern: Are you feeling OK? Do you have a job interview? I learned afterward that the holiday party actually did have a dress code (and it mentioned formal wear), one my husband claims not to have seen or heard about. The fact that it was not widely discussed among his coworkers, even after he inquired, seems to fit with the overall anything-goes style vibe of the culture at his workplace. Before the party, I pressed him for clues as I scanned my own closet. The event was on a weeknight, so he insisted everyone would come straight from work. But it didn’t start until 7 p.m., I countered, which gave people time to go home and change. That morning, my husband decided to dress up his usual office attire of jeans and a collared shirt by swapping out his sneakers for dress shoes and adding a gray blazer. I settled on a wide-leg black jumpsuit with a moto leather blazer and velvet heels, tucking a red lipstick into my clutch. Matt says he felt fine in jeans at the party, but I ducked into the bathroom to apply lipstick at my first glimpse of a sequined gown. Welcome to dress code chaos. Well-intended hosts, who don’t want to limit what their guests can wear, are offering fewer instructions. Others are introducing creative dress codes (“Caribbean chic,” anyone? “Dressy casual”?) that can raise more questions than they answer. And party attendees, especially those not used to any style constraints (cough, my husband, cough) are doing as they please. The result is often a mess of style mash-ups. The social-circuit confusion is part of a broader movement toward a much less rigid set of sartorial rules in our everyday life. Sneakers can be worn just about anywhere, including a Broadway show. Yoga pants are seen as appropriate attire at yoga, obviously, but also at brunch, the mall, or even the office. Traditional business-formal stalwarts, like banks and law firms, have started to loosen their ties. JPMorgan Chase said last year in a widely reported internal memo that business

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casual (read: not a suit) is appropriate for most occasions. Restaurants are relaxing their standards, too. If fashion trends are any indication, things won’t be getting much clearer anytime soon. “Denim is the hottest trend in the market,” says Brooke Jaffe, former fashion director of Bloomingdale’s, who is now a fashion consultant working with brands and start-ups. The fall 2017 runways were ﬁlled with jeans. Even Jonathan Simkhai, a designer known for dresses, showed pairs in his collection. Bloomingdale’s relaxed the dress code for its corporate employees, deemphasizing its signature all-black style and allowing more fashion. Jaffe, a 10-year veteran of the upscale department store, gave herself her own set of rules while working there: Jeans were OK, but distressed denim was a step too far. And she kept a black blazer and black pointy-toed heels at her desk, she says, “just in case.” The tech scene has complicated matters, upending the idea that how people dress signiﬁes their place in the social hierarchy. “Suddenly the guy in the Atari T-shirt and the oldest jeans is the richest guy in the room,” says style expert Stacy London, author of The Truth About Style and former cohost of the long-running TLC show What Not to Wear. Silicon Valley style has exacerbated the differences between the sexes, too. Mark Zuckerberg is typically in a hoodie or T-shirt, but have you ever seen Sheryl Sandberg in one? She often sports heels in her public appearances. This eclectic code has spread from our daily lives to our special events. Creative dress suggestions abound. A wedding requesting “Brooklyn formal” attire

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stumped Silpa Kovvali. Typically, she would invoke the phone-a-friend option, she says, “to make sure if we all missed the mark, we did so together.” But she was attending as a plus one and didn’t know the other guests. Kovvali, now 29 and a research associate at Harvard Business School, hemmed and hawed over what to wear. And even when she made her choice—a long blackand-white gown from White House Black Market, with an off-the-shoulder black blouse layered on top— uncertainty prevailed. “I felt like I looked good, but it was not a clear winner,” says Kovvali. In the end, she and her date, who wore a suit and Converse sneakers, fit in nicely at the wedding, which took place in a Brooklyn warehouse filled with terrariums. Lizzie Post, copresident of the Emily Post Institute and great-great-granddaughter of the famed etiquette expert, is in favor of creative dress codes as long as the expectation is clear. “If you just say ‘creative black tie,’ guests will wonder, ‘Which way should I be creative?’ ” she says. The more direction you can give, the better. And the only dress codes that should be listed on a wedding invitation, says Post, are ones with a black- or white-tie expectation, including “black tie optional.” Many men don’t own a tuxedo, so an early mention gives guests time to procure one. Other dress information belongs elsewhere, such as on a wedding website. But what if you need time to procure a flannel shirt? Younger hosts with more creative requests are bucking traditional etiquette rules. An insert as part of the invitation to Meg Linehan and Marjorie Corbman’s nuptials, set amid Vermont’s fall foliage, instructed guests to wear their “best chilly-weather apple-picking outfit.” The couple wanted their friends and family to be warm and comfortable. Linehan, 33, suggested it almost as a joke: “Then we were like, ‘No, that’s great.’ ” Linehan and Corbman, 30, appreciated dress guidelines at events they had attended in the past and decided to put their nontraditional request on their invitation “details” card

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as a way of helping their guests. “Flannel and ﬂeece are encouraged,” it read, and suggested attendees wear “Bean boots” (as in L.L.Bean). A creative dress code puts the onus on the guests to rise to the occasion or bow out altogether. Genevieve Pearson, who works in television development in Los Angeles, was invited to a “beach chic casual” party earlier this year, which stumped her for a couple of days. When it was raining on the day of the party, she shared her lament on Twitter: “So...yellow lighthouse keeper slicker and heels?” A search of Pinterest suggested nautical attire, so in the end the 34-year-old opted for a dress with a blue-and-white striped boatneck top and a khaki skirt. Other creative dress codes, says Pearson, feel designed for social media, a way to ensure hosts show off their creativity and parties get wider attention. One event—not for Halloween— called for “Marvel superhero” attire (she dressed as a female version of Star-Lord); another called for “spots, stripes, and sparkles” (she wore a polka-dot dress with a plaid shirt over it and a glittery headband). Pearson drew the line at the “Dress Like an Internet Meme” party. She couldn’t come up with anything, so she stayed home instead. “Sometimes when you see the parties nowadays and you see the dress code, you just think, ‘I’m too tired,’ ” she says.

ST YLE SLEUTH Five clues to help you determine what to wear to your next big event FORMALIT Y OF T H E I N V I TAT I O N

If you receive a letterpress or embossed envelope in the mail, chances are a skirt or suit is required. A Facebook message, unless it specifies otherwise, likely calls for a much more casual look. LO C AT I O N

The venue imparts plenty of info. A wedding at a country club has a much different vibe than one on a beach or in a warehouse. If the event is at an unfamiliar spot, try searching online for photos ahead of time. T I M E O F DAY

The start time of a party sets the tone for the celebration. Typically, the earlier an event, the less formal it is. Remember to take into account seasonal changes: Sunset comes sooner in the fall than in the summer. D U R AT I O N

Do what you can to suss out the cadence of the event. A limited time frame—say, if a shower goes from 3 to 5 p.m.—calls for different attire than a wedding that begins with an early-afternoon ceremony and continues on to late-night dancing. F E L LO W G U E S T S

When in doubt, ask for help. Check with a friend who is going to the same event or, better yet, call a few to get a wider sampling. Try not to bother the bride, who is busy enough; reach out only as a last resort.

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Wrapping up another trip around the sun is cause for celebration but also reﬂection. Family dinners take on a little more meaning these days as we look back on what we’ve shared, gained, and lost. So nourish your loved ones and yourself: Try warming soups like potato-leek (page 161) or brighten chilly days with the pop of color from a vibrant red cabbage slaw (page 152). Bake a better cookie with our picks for the best pantry staples (page 162). Then join us as we toast with a glass of updated holiday punch (page 164). To a delicious new year!

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Easy Dinner 1

Lime-butter cod with zesty slaw ACTIVE TIME 20 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME 20 MINUTES

SERVES 4

Quick Cooking Healthy Pick Gluten-Free Family Friendly

3 cups finely shredded red cabbage (from 1 small head) 1 medium carrot, shredded 1 scallion, thinly sliced 1 Tbsp. fresh lime juice plus 1 tsp. zest (from 1 lime), plus wedges for serving tsp. kosher salt, divided tsp. black pepper, divided 2 Tbsp. unsalted butter 4 4- to 5-oz. skinless cod fillets 2 Tbsp. cilantro leaves cabbage, carrot, scallion, lime juice, teaspoon salt, and teaspoon pepper in a large bowl; toss to combine. Set aside.

COMBINE

butter in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high. Add lime zest and cook for 30 seconds. Season cod with teaspoon salt remaining and teaspoon pepper; add to skillet. Cook until golden and cooked through, about 3 minutes per side.

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P E R S E RV I N G : 158 CALORIES, 7G FAT (4G SAT.), 58MG CHOL., 2G FIBER, 19G PRO., 6G CARB., 425MG SOD., 3G SUGAR

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FOOD

2 medium beets, peeled and quartered cup extra-virgin olive oil, divided 1 lb. trimmed pork tenderloin 1

tsp. kosher salt, divided tsp. black pepper, divided

Tbsp. champagne vinegar 3 cups loosely packed baby arugula (about 2 oz.)

Easy Dinner 2

Pork tenderloin with beet and pistachio salad ACTIVE TIME 20 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 40 MINUTES SERVES 4

Healthy Pick Gluten-Free Family Friendly

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cup fresh flat-leaf parsley leaves, coarsely chopped cup chopped toasted pistachios oven to 400°F. Tightly wrap beets in aluminum foil and place on a baking sheet. Roast until beets are tender when pierced with a knife, 30 to 35 minutes.

PREHEAT

heat 1 tablespoon oil in a large ovenproof skillet over medium-high. Season pork with teaspoon 1 teaspoon salt and pepper; add to hot skillet and cook until golden, about 3 minutes per side. Transfer

MEANWHILE,

skillet to oven and bake pork until cooked through, 16 to 18 minutes. Transfer pork to a cutting board; let rest 5 minutes. together vinegar and remaining 3 tablespoons oil, teaspoon salt, and teaspoon pepper in a large bowl. Remove cooked beets from oven, carefully unwrap foil, and let cool 2 to 3 minutes. Add beets, arugula, and parsley to dressing and toss to coat. Sprinkle salad with pistachios. Thinly slice pork; serve with beet salad. WHISK

P E R S E RV I N G : 310 CALORIES, 20G FAT (3G SAT.), 74MG CHOL., 2G FIBER, 27G PRO., 7G CARB., 823MG SOD., 4G SUGAR

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Easy Dinner 3

Tofu fried rice ACTIVE TIME 30 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME 45 MINUTES

SERVES 4

Healthy Pick Make Ahead Vegetarian Family Friendly

1 cup long-grain brown rice 1 14-oz. pkg. extra-firm tofu, drained and patted dry 3 Tbsp. canola oil, divided 1 lb. Broccolini, chopped 1 medium carrot, chopped small yellow onion, chopped cup soy sauce 2 Tbsp. rice vinegar 1 Tbsp. sesame oil Sriracha or chili garlic sauce, for serving COOK rice according to package directions.

cut tofu lengthwise into 3 pieces. Heat 2 tablespoons canola oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high. Add tofu and cook until well browned, about 4 minutes per side. Transfer to a cutting board and cut into bite-size pieces; set aside.

MEANWHILE,

remaining 1 tablespoon canola oil to skillet and heat over medium-high. Add Broccolini, carrot, and onion and cook, stirring frequently, until tender and carrot is lightly golden, 6 to 8 minutes. Stir together soy sauce, rice vinegar, and sesame oil in a small bowl. Add soy mixture and cooked rice to skillet and stir to combine, then add tofu. Cook until mixture is heated through, 2 to 3 minutes. Serve with sriracha.

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P E R S E RV I N G : 472 CALORIES, 21G FAT (2G SAT.), 0MG CHOL., 8G FIBER, 18G PRO., 52G CARB., 960MG SOD., 4G SUGAR

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MASHED POTATOES WITHOUT THE PAIN

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FOOD

Easy Dinner 4

Slow cooker BBQ sweet potato bakers ACTIVE TIME 10 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME 4 HOURS

SERVES 4

Make Ahead Slow Cooker One Pot Family Friendly

4 medium sweet potatoes (about 12 oz. each) 2 Tbsp. unsalted butter 1 tsp. kosher salt tsp. black pepper 3 cups shredded rotisserie chicken cup shredded Cheddar cheese (about 2 oz.) cup barbecue sauce cup sour cream 2 Tbsp. chopped fresh chives potatoes all over with a fork and place in a slow cooker. Cover and cook on low until potatoes are tender and easily pierced with a fork, about 3 hours and 30 minutes.

PRICK

SPLIT potatoes lengthwise and tablespoon top each with butter. Using a fork, gently mash and fluff flesh to incorporate butter. Season with salt and pepper, then top with chicken and cheese. Return potatoes to slow cooker, filling side up. Cover with lid and cook on low until chicken is warmed through and cheese has melted, 5 to 10 minutes. Top with barbecue sauce, sour cream, and chives. P E R S E RV I N G : 468 CALORIES, 15G FAT (8G SAT.), 77MG CHOL., 8G FIBER, 19G PRO., 64G CARB., 1,231MG SOD., 22G SUGAR

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One Generation To The Next.

Flavor is in the dishes you serve. And the moments you make. Cheers to a life lived ﬂavorfully. For recipes and holiday tips, visit smithﬁeld.com

FOOD

Smithfield Holiday Drinks & Eats HOLIDAY MISTLETOE MULE WITH CANDIED SPICED BACON | 5 mins CLASSIC DEVILED EGGS WITH BACON | 20 mins

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Easy Dinner 5

Potato-leek soup ACTIVE TIME 15 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 45 MINUTES SERVES 4

Healthy Pick Freezable Make Ahead One Pot Vegetarian Family Friendly

2 Tbsp. olive oil 1 lb. russet potatoes (about 2 medium), peeled and chopped 1 large leek, white and light green parts only, chopped (about 2 cups) 2 celery stalks, chopped, leaves reserved for garnish 1 clove garlic, finely chopped 4 cups unsalted vegetable stock 1 3-in. Parmesan cheese rind, plus shaved Parmesan for serving 2 thyme sprigs, plus leaves for garnish 1

tsp. kosher salt 1 tsp. black pepper Fresh chives, chopped, for garnish (optional) Sour cream, for garnish (optional)

HEAT oil in a wide, heavy pot over medium-high. Add potatoes, leek, and chopped celery; cook, stirring frequently, until leek is lightly golden, 5 to 7 minutes. Add garlic and cook 30 seconds. Add stock, Parmesan rind, thyme sprigs, salt, and pepper; bring to a simmer and cook until potatoes are very tender, 30 to 35 minutes.

rind and thyme sprigs. Using a fork, mash a quarter of the potatoes against the side of the pot, then combine. Garnish with celery leaves, thyme leaves, shaved Parmesan, and, if desired, chives and sour cream.

DISCARD

P E R S E RV I N G : 212 CALORIES, 8G FAT (1G SAT.), 2MG CHOL., 3G FIBER, 3G PRO., 33G CARB., 1,004MG SOD., 7G SUGAR

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Sharing a meal used to mean that family squabbling settled down as soon as Grandma’s stickily sweet potatoes were served. Oh, how times have changed! These days, when my relatives, friends, and neighbors gather, the meal does not stop our arguments; it starts them. The people in my life have become harder to satisfy. There’s always one person with a new eating regimen. THE DIETERS DU JOUR “I’ve gone pescatarian, and no nightshades, please.” “I’m doing Paleo, so please wrap a turducken in bacon.” “I’ve given up carbs, so please make sure there’s no bread within arm’s reach. Can’t wait to see you.” And those are just my requests! THE BUDDING ETHICIST While I was shoveling salty dark chocolate into my mouth last New Year’s Eve, a young cousin informed me that cocoa beans are some-

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times harvested by child laborers. Yikes. So at my next gathering, I opted for carob bark. Its texture is lintlike. If the dust in the drawer next to the fridge with the random keys, takeout menus, and old party favors has a flavor, it’s carob. At all future parties, I’ll be serving bowls of my salty tears. T H E B I G -T I C K E T W I N O My most recent entertaining dilemma arrived via text from Cari, a dear friend who is allergic to sulfites. Would I be serving a biodynamic wine at my soiree? As I understand it, this means the grapes have been harvested by shamans who whisper their gratitude as they gently massage the fruit into liquid form. I sampled it, and it was delicious. The only problem is that

these elixirs were tough to find and pricey. So I canceled the party and hopped on a flight to Martha’s Vineyard. Cheaper and easier! T H E DA I RY- F R E E C RO W D Milk is where the latest line in the sand has been drawn. Requests for a book club I hosted included soy, unsweetened soy, almond, rice, cashew, pistachio, and goat—but only unpasteurized goat. I was so dispirited I labeled one “breast milk.” There were no takers, but no one even blinked an eye! T H E H E A LT H I E RT H A N -T H O U S Other relatives who hope to reverse the clock have adopted various no-meat diets. I applaud the efforts of these good people, but you know what Tofurky smells like to me? The absence of holiday spirit. It’s likely that one day the clean nonscent of local, cruelty-free, non-GMO sweet potato quinoa salad will signal that the holidays have arrived, but until then,

I’ll be burning a brisketscented candle and spritzing a sweet potato pie air freshener. THE TEENAGER At 19, my son is dedicated to seeing that Earth’s resources aren’t wasted so we can build a sustainable future. He also just dyed his hair blue and got a nose ring, so you know he’s serious about social change. He texted me that he objects to my serving meat or fish. He doesn’t eat dairy either, except if it’s a Monday. Or was it Thursday? He also opposes processed foods, except for Flamin’ Hot Cheetos. And he’s not sure he’s going to celebrate the holidays anyway, because the person he’s dating says they’re a symbol of capitalist consumption. Also, if I could spare $40 so he can buy her rave goggles, that would be awesome.

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