JUST18SUMMERS
by michelle s. cox
WWW.JUST18SUMMERS.COM
no regrets PARENTING IS A ROLE LEARNED BY A LIFETIME OF DAILY LESSONS. IN HINDSIGHT, MOST OF US WISH WE’D LEARNED THOSE BEFORE WE HAD CHILDREN. We all have those bumps in the road that we wish we could have avoided. Those lessons that we learned that we experienced the hard way. We could miss those parenting mistakes that we wish had never happened and become the parents we wanted to be. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way, but you do have me. I’ve reached that stage where my sons are now grown with families of their own, so maybe you won’t mind me sharing what I learned from my own hindsight moments. • Love hard — and verbalize the words. Love covers a multitude of mistakes, and if your children know you truly love them, you’ll be amazed at how forgiving they will be. • Love them enough to be their parent instead of their friend. • Set limits. Set standards. Expect your children to mind — and follow through when they don’t. Kids need structure; it provides security for them.
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• Build good channels of communication when your children are small and you’ll be grateful when they’re teens. Learn to listen, when to give advice, and when to stay silent.
Expect your children to mind — and follow through when they don’t. Kids need structure; it provides security for them. • Put God first in your home. • Keep your children in church. • Teach them His Word. • Live like Jesus in front of them. There are no better guardrails for life than equipping your children with faith.
Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (KJV). That’s the best insurance policy any parent can have, and the dividends will carry on to the next generation. • Squeeze the moments. All those old ladies who told you your children would grow up before you can blink? Turns out they’re right. Determine now that you’ll look back with sweet memories instead of regrets.
LH
