Issue 78 Yomtov 5780 Spring 2019
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INSIDE: How Jews Visit the Sick Eat to Cheat Ageing
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Ngaire Hobbins, a dietitian specialising in ageing and brain health, explains in her article on page 6, how harmful dieting can be in the elderly. David Kilimnick, our humour writer, has us in stitches in his story on page 8 - How Jews Visit The Sick, where he sees the issue from a somewhat different angle. We empathise with the family of the sick child who has lost his appetite in Pauline Schwarcz’s story on page 15 and share their relief when he has recovered. Our lovely recipe will satisfy any sweet cravings, so let’s forget about diets for now and enjoy the Yomtov. I’m delighted to announce that, in time for the New Year, we’ve teamed up with Dor l’Dor, a Jewish Orthodox online magazine based in Melbourne, for your added reading pleasure. You’ll find some of their articles in the second half of this edition where you’ll also find their website address that will take you to their magazine. We look forward to getting your feedback. WISHING YOU ALL SHANA TOVAH AND A K’SIVAH V’CHASIMAH TOVAH, from Leah and the team at Yiddishe Gesheften.
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HEALTH AND WELLBEING EATING TO LIVE WELL BEYOND YOUR MID 60S NEEDS A DIFFERENT APPROACH.
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ost people, including many health professionals, are unaware that following health and nutrition advice appropriate for someone of 30 or 40 can instead be harmful at 65+ Health and independence to the very end of our days is certainly achievable. But that takes an understanding of how unique are our nutrition needs at later age. The distinction lies largely with body muscle. You see, muscles do much more than move you around – they also form an essential protein reserve: vital to an effective immune system that combats illness from a sniffle to a life threateing post surgical infection; that keeps every body organ functioning; that supports repair of wounds from cuts and scratches to the trauma of a major accident; that helps keep diabetes under control and provides critical backup brain fuel supplies.
Your body’s ability to keep all those systems going so you get to keep doing the things you want to do, depends on how well you maintain your muscle reserve. Muscle needs 3 main things to keep your body and brain going and to help you fight off illness and infection: • You must keep using them so they keep being reminded they’re needed, • you must eat protein and • you must not lose weight by dieting. The first is pretty obvious – use it or lose it. You know that one! Eat protein – it has to be at every meal. I suggest putting a protein food at the centre of your meals and surrounding that with as many different food colours as you can. Protein to supports muscles, colours to supply protective antioxidants. Protein is found in meat, fish, poultry, eggs, cheese, pulses (lentils, chick peas, baked beans and the like) and soy products like tofu. Don’t skimp on these foods as you age! Antioxidants are substances that protect the cells in your body: there are hundreds of different ones and you need a good mix for them to be effective, but that’s easy to achieve because each different one imparts a diefferent colour to fruits, vegetables, nuts and seeds. So just have as many different colours of foods at every meal as you can and you are set. And what about the ‘don’t lose weight’ bit? That’s because weight loss by dieting, or any loss that doesn’t also involve very good resistance exercise, will cause loss of body muscle. It’s not a problem for someone of 30 or 40, but it is at 70. Because that might just mean you don’t have the resources to fight off next season’s flu or recover from an accident and that can trigger ongoing health decline that you absolutely want to avoid. Ngaire is a dietitian specialising in ageing and brain health and author of three books on nutrition, ageing and brain health presenting the science in this area in everyday language. The book Eat To Cheat Ageing on which this article is based, is available through the website www.ngairehobbins.com or the usual retail outlets. The website also aims to share advice and new research findings, so have a look.
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HOW JEWS VISIT THE SICK
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and say Tehillim (passages from the book of Psalms). Then we come close and stare right at you and talk to you, because you can’t talk back. by David Kilimnick
hen people are sick, we bring food. That’s just what Jews do.
“Bikur Cholim” or visiting the sick is the mitzvah that allows the Jewish community to shine. We come together and not only do we take care of the individual who is sick, but we take care of the entire family with food and prayers. That’s what we Jews do. Our family members are sick, so we eat. Unfortunately, I have spent some time with family in hospital waiting rooms, so here is what I learned about how Jews practice the mitzvah of visiting the sick.
BUY DONUTS FOR NURSES Part of Bikur Cholim is making sure the person heals. That will not happen if you don’t bribe the nurses. Donuts are insurance that they will treat our loved ones well. If anybody has the answer, please let me know: If you don’t buy the nurses trinkets and pastries, do they treat the patient? If there aren’t candies in the room, do the nurses come to administer the feedings? LOAD UP ON CRUSHED ICE Jews love the crushed ice machine. Nice clear crushed ice with Coke. It makes the hospital experience so much better.
BRING FOOD When you are in the hospital, watching over a loved one, your Jewish friends make sure you are fed. People shouldn’t deal with crisis on an empty stomach. Nobody wants to hear about a family member in an operation without corned beef on rye and sponge cake on hand. When family is in the hospital, the Jewish community understands that people want a good spread. In fact, the quality of the buffet is actually what brings some of the more distant relatives into the hospital. Somebody brought us eggplant parmesan one day. I would have liked to have known that in advance. I would not have visited my sick cousin that day. ORGANIZATIONS ORGANIZE Places to stay near hospitals and food for Shabbat are organized by committees. This way, people can have meetings about Bikur Cholim. No mitzvah should be done without committees and arguments. TALK WITH OTHER FAMILIES SITTING THERE Conversation is what we Jews do. We visit our loved ones but we have enough worry to go around. If you are in the waiting room with us, we take your pain upon us. Pain, known as tzuros, is how we thrive as a people. STARING When you get out of surgery and are still sedated, we are staring at you. We sit there and stare. Then we stare at the numbers on the screen and squiggly lines. Squiggly line moves, then we get worried and stare
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TELL STORIES Jews have an encyclopedic memory of every tragedy that ever happened. They will share it all with you in the hospital. Anybody who ever suffered any form of heart disease, they know it. Every story of every person who ever suffered the trauma, you will hear about it. All stories are about making it, through a miracle. This reminds all of the family members that it will take a miracle. Sometimes the stories just sound worse. “Their boy has a lung issue. Couldn’t breathe for five
months. Five months and two and a half weeks. And then he made it, through a miracle. Miracles happen.”
reunion. Cousins are showing up. Why rent a hall when you spent all that money on insurance?
And then they give advice. They want to make sure that somebody in the hospital is giving you decent advice for how to fight cancer. They know a great trainer. That is the type of advice we get. “You will get through it. I know a great trainer. You just have to move the arm over the shoulder like this.”
PURELL A LOT We rub the hospital sanitizer with pride, as though it’s a mitzvah.
GET YOU TO CRY Some people visit and just want to see you cry. They don’t feel like they have fulfilled the mitzvah of Bikur Cholim until they have made somebody in the family cry. One friend forced an eight-minute stare-down. She didn’t stop staring. She noticed we weren’t crying yet. She then pulled a quick look away, and came back for the stare. The turn back made it more dramatic. She then said, “It is hard.” That is all she said. I started weeping. She got my sister when she touched her shoulder, while
I see these people using it in the hospitals like they were the ones who stopped hepatitis. That is how we protect the sick; by not washing our hands or cleaning off the dirt. With dirty dry hands. YELLING; A LOT OF YELLING People yell at old people and sick people. Everybody thinks that when somebody is in a hospital bed, they age forty years. They think: she had a tonsillectomy, she can’t hear. I see it every time people visit a hospital. They always yell, “It’s good to see you.” That is the line. There’s no other conversation people open with sick old people. They never add anything to that. You can’t say, “It’s good to see you like this.” You can’t say, “I am happy you broke your arm.” “It’s good to see you in…” And if you are not screaming at the one who just got out of surgery, you are screaming at a family member. Family fights are a very important part of the Jewish
"...Bikur Cholim is making sure the person heals. That will not happen if you don’t bribe the nurses. Donuts are insurance..." staring right at her saying “it is hard.” My sister is strong, but she had no chance. Right after she had us all crying, she left. She even pulled a long hug with my aunt who was fully cried out already. There were more Bikur Cholim hug tears in her. USE THE WAITING ROOM Most guests don’t even make it inside. They go to the waiting room and stay. That’s where the spread is. You’ve got some coffee tables set up nicely with the marble cake and pastrami the Schwartz family brought you. Does it get better?
hospital experience. CONCLUSION Being sick is much better when the Jewish community is around. People visit you, scream at you, give you advice the doctors don’t and then feed you. Next time you are hungry, do what I do and tell people you are not feeling well. You will get some good chicken soup and kugel. Just make sure they give you the food and leave. You don’t want them sticking around and yelling at you while you are trying to enjoy a good matzah ball. David Kilimnick is a Jewish comedian, originally from America, now living in Israel. This story first appeared in Aish.com where his “Jewlarious” articles appear regularly. David performs one-man comedy shows internationally in English and Hebrew and you can bring David to your community. His blogs, videos and podcasts can be viewed at www.davidkilimnick.com
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t’s honey and apple time again. It is traditional to eat red apples dipped in honey on Rosh Hashanah to symbolise our wish for a sweet new year. Jewish people around the world are on a mission to find the most perfect red apple to don their Rosh Hashanah tables. However, here in Australia we have our own authentically Australian apple which cannot really vie for a place at our Rosh Hashanah table because its green. It never turns red yet it can be deliciously sweet and crisp in its pristine-green state. I am talking about an apple as ubiquitously Australian as Vegemite, and here is the quaint Australian story of its origin. In 1839 a young couple, Thomas and Maria Ann Smith migrated from Berkley, East Sussex to Eastwood, New South Wales. In those days Eastwood, now a suburb of Sydney, was lush countryside, and in 1855 Thomas and Maria bought land there and began planting an orchard of fruit trees of various kinds. When the fruit trees were in season and Maria’s vegetable patch plentiful, she would travel to the City Markets to sell her fruit and vegetables together with eggs from her chickens. Maria had many children and grandchildren. She was well liked and as she grew older became affectionately known as ‘Granny Smith’. Legend has it that in 1868 Maria had been experimenting with cooking a French crab apple from Tasmania that she had bought at the City Markets and was tossing the apple cores out of her kitchen window and dumping whole apples that had gone off in the ferns near a creek on their property. Reminiscent of Jack and the Beanstalk, a strange new hybrid grew up from a chance seed, and one day Maria discovered a full-grown tree laden with green apples the
like of which she had never seen before. It is believed this tree was somehow a mix of the Cleopatra apple with the French crab apple from Tasmania. When these apples did not turn red but lightened slightly over time she thought to cook them and found them excellent as a cooking apple and also surprisingly sweet and juicy to eat raw. She noticed that they had a long shelf life and were sweeter and more flavoursome than the French crab apple when cooked. She busied herself planting the seeds and grew more green-apple trees. Today, this apple is popular in England and the USA as
well as Australia where we can purchase it all year around. Sometimes what we discard can be more valuable than what we choose to keep as Maria had discovered much to her delight and surprise. Instead of a pot of gold as Jack had found in the giant’s palace, Maria ended up with baskets of lucrative green apples that sold well at Sydney’s George Street Market. As the apple grew in popularity it was named after Maria. Can you guess what it was called? This article is from Dor l’dor, a Jewish Orthodox online magazine based in Melbourne. For more articles and stories head to dorldor.wordpress.com
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DOR L'DOR READING SUPPLEMENT HOW TO SPEAK CONFIDENTLY, ANYWHERE, ANYTIME
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ICKI (NOT HER REAL NAME) CAME to me because she lacked confidence to speak to more than about three to five people at once, and her work then required her to address 20 or more people. Vicky was part Anglo-Saxon and part Chinese. She said, ‘Every time I get up in front of a large crowd, I hate the way everyone stares at me.’
‘OH,’ I REPLIED, ‘SO, YOU PREFER THEY DO not look at you?’ She looked at me and reluctantly replied that the crowd not looking would be very off-putting; worse… I got her to see that even though she did not like the audience staring it was better than the alternative. Soon, she gained confidence and after just three sessions, Vicky was a confident speaker. I could share hundreds of similar stories. ARE YOU A CONFIDENT PERSON? DO people listen when you speak? Do your children listen? Your husband? Your friends? IF YOU ANSWERED NO TO ANY OF THE above questions, read on. WHAT IS CONFIDENCE? HOW DO YOU get it? How do you speak so people will listen? These questions are my focus in this article. I have taught for over 40 years and run a successful business called Direct Speech since 2004, teaching young people and adults how to speak confidently. CONFIDENCE IS A mixture of self-belief and bluff. Yes, bluff. If you walk into a room at a party or to give a speech, with your head held high, a smile 14 YIDDISHE GESHEFTEN SPRING 2019 YOMTOV 5780
on your face and looking relaxed, people will assume you are confident ̶ even if you do not feel it. BODY LANGUAGE COUNTS FOR UP TO 70% of your message when you speak. So, you need to ‘fake it till you make it’. When you speak you need to keep your hands relaxed by your side and make definite gestures when you want them. YOUR VOICE IS THE NEXT MOST important element when you speak. It needs to be varied and interesting. It needs to be paced at about 120 words per minute. You must pause, often. You pause to make a point strong, after a question, between points, to gain breath, and to sound confident. WHAT YOU SAY IS IMPORTANT, BUT HOW you say it is even more important. Less is more, something that most mothers don’t practise. The words need to be simple and clear. Paint word pictures, where ever possible. Tell stories to illustrate points. Use humour, especially self-deprecating humour, to explain a point. Use the word “you” a lot. Ask your audience questions. Smile! Enjoy being the centre of attention, even if you are shy. FINALLY, PREPARATION AND PRACTICE are paramount. If you have to give a talk, go for an interview, or even go to a party, be prepared. Dress well in something that you like and that fits you well. Practise what you will say before you go in, even at a social gathering. I just finished Hillary Clinton’s What Happened. She prepared meticulously for every debate and every speech.
This article is from Dor l’dor, a Jewish Orthodox online magazine based in Melbourne. For more articles and stories head to dorldor.wordpress.com
DOR L'DOR READING SUPPLEMENT OUR FAMILY SUKKOT MIRACLE
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npredictable is the most appropriate word to describe Melbourne’s weather. The city is known to have four seasons—all on the same day; planning outdoor activities requires a good deal of optimism and a sound contingency plan. Sukkot is the one festival in the Jewish calendar that exposes the Melbourne community to our capricious climate. Setting the table in the sukkah even half an hour before a meal, becomes an act of faith; paper napkins may fly away and glasses can be filled with rainwater, courtesy of the heavens. But from my extensive experience of the festival in this city, I can only recall one erev Sukkot that was dampened by a deluge. Usually it is cool—or cold—and clear, so if one dons a jacket and eats at a steady pace the meal can be completed without any ill effect. I have heard of some gracious hosts —if they don’t have the luxury of an indoor sukkah—installing an outdoor heater in their sukkah or issuing rugs and insulated hot-water bottles to warm their guests, but we stoically rely on our multiple layers of clothes to keep us outside. It was on such a night that the miracle of our story occurred. A young boy, in anticipation of the joyous festival, helped his father put the finishing touches to their sukkah. He gingerly passed the schach up to his parent who was atop a ladder to judiciously arrange the foliage so that it covered the makeshift roof sufficiently, as prescribed by Jewish law. The boy began to feel unwell, and, as illness often befalls children, within a short period of time he had a fever. Reluctantly he went to bed, sorry to abandon his post at the base of the sukkah and worried that he would miss out on the much-anticipated first kiddush and meal of the Yomtov. The afternoon passed and the boy’s fever didn’t abate. His family was deeply concerned about
his illness, with misgivings that indeed he would have to remain indoors, while other members of the family partook in their seudah under the schach. At sunset his mother and sister lit candles to welcome in Yom Tov and soon it was time to make kiddush and recite the brocha to sit in the sukkah. After some deliberation, the father suggested that his son should come out to the sukkah just to hear kiddush and then go back indoors to eat the meal, particularly his mother’s chicken soup with noodles, the Jewish panacea. The boy, with flushed cheeks and a glazed expression in his eyes, came outside in the cool
night air to join his concerned family. No sooner had kiddush and the brocha been recited when his face regained a healthy glow and, smiling, he said that he felt better. His mother felt his forehead and indeed, his fever had abated. He was well enough to remain in the sukkah with his family, and he ate the meal with a hearty appetite. The meal was especially joyous because they could all be together to partake in the mitzvah of sitting and eating in the sukkah. Each year on erev Sukkot the family reminisces about the miracle of Sukkot that they witnessed many years before. This article is from Dor l’dor, a Jewish Orthodox online magazine based in Melbourne. For more articles and stories head to dorldor.wordpress.com
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