Issue 17: Celebrating You

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CELEBRATING YOU

PS MAGA ZINE JULY/AUGUST 2016

JULY/AUGUST 2016 ISSUE 17

Giving and Taking The Continued Development of Your Personality

The Art of Being Authentic

Summer Reading An Exclusive Interview with

Song Legend

BARBARA COOK

New problems with communication is 1 of the 10 warning signs of Alzheimer’s disease. Recognizing the symptoms is the first step toward doing something about it. For more information, and to learn what you can do now, go to alz.org/10signs or call 800.272.3900.

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SKINCARE

Creating True Beauty Through Healthy Skin

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DEPARTMENTS 6 Remember When 10 Did You Know?

CELEBRATING YOU July/August 2016 Issue 17

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Celebrating You— Ten Suggestions For Treating Yourself Right

by CHRISTINA BURNS

12 Health & Wellness:

The Power of the Flower 16 Life with The Eden Alternative:

Caring for Ourselves

Heals Others 19 Dr. Lori: The Art of

Being Authentic 22 Facing Alzheimer’s:

Care & Identity 25 The Place They Call Home:

Enriching Experiences

at Aging Services Communities

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Just When I Thought I Knew Myself

by ENUMA OKORO

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Giving and Taking: Finding Balance Between the Two

by MELISSA MAYNTZ

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The Many Acts of Song Legend Barbara Cook An Exclusive Interview

IN EVERY ISSUE 4

Letter from the Publisher

46 Books: Your Summer

Reading List 49 Fun & Games 52

for (Grand) Children

56 Horoscopes 60 Puzzle Solutions 64 The Last Laugh 3

LE T TE R FROM THE PUBLI SHE R

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t’s fair to say that most people expend more time and energy on others than they do on themselves. The idealist in me believes this because, in my opinion, people everywhere tend to be naturally compassionate and sensitive to their fellow man or woman. At the same time, the pragmatist within me also knows that most of us are just so “busy” every day that we’re left with little time or energy for ourselves.

As we mature from one stage of life to the next, we’re also very good at lowering expectations when it comes to taking care of ourselves. In my personal experience, I can still channel the feeling from my early twenties when I believed I needed 5 evenings of exercise a week in order to stay healthy. Today—a wonderful marriage, three beautiful children and a gratifying career later—I’m feeling like an Olympic champion if I can just slot a fast-paced dog-walk in to my daily routine. Like most of us, I’m OK with this because I, too, wholeheartedly believe that by doing good for others, I am also taking care of myself in a roundabout way. Such is the example I try to live out in my own life and, with any luck, one that my children will pick up and continue in their lives.

With all of that being said, we do all need to properly balance our giving to others with some healthy, invigorating focus on one’s self. Doing so not only strengthens and centers our core but also empowers us to be mindful of our own needs.

We at PS Magazine want to show our support for these efforts, so this time around we’re Celebrating You, and we invite you to indulge your “self” with the inspiring selection of articles within this issue.

Happy reading!

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MAGA ZINE PUBLISHER AND CEO

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VICE PRESIDENT — ADMINISTRATION & LICENSING

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VICE PRESIDENT — FINANCE & ACCOUNTING

Ranae Lewis

VICE PRESIDENT — TECHNOLOGY

Brandon Crafts

VICE PRESIDENT — BUSINESS DEVELOPMENT

Brian Goetz

Laura Beck, The Eden Alternative Bruce Rosenthal, Leading Age

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CONTRIBUTORS

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POP CULTURE, NEWS, AND EVENTS FROM PAST DECADES

Remember When...

1936

The jazz song, “Pennies from Heaven,” was first sung by Bing Crosby in the film by the same name, and then recorded by Billie Holiday later that year.

1946

Culinary expert James Beard began hosting the first network cooking show, I Love to Eat, followed by commercials from the show’s sponsor, Borden and Elsie the Cow.

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Track and field athlete Jesse Owens won four gold medals at the 1936 Summer Olympics in Berlin, Germany.

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Pediatrician Dr. Benjamin Spock’s infamous manual, The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care, was first published.

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1976

Boston Red Sox player Ted Williams was inducted into the Baseball Hall of Fame in his first year of eligibility.

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The epic novel, Roots, written by Alex Haley, was first published and quickly became a cultural phenomenon.

At the age of 44, painter Jackson Pollack was killed while drunk driving in his Oldsmobile convertible in East Hampton, New York.

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Rock band The Beatles performed their last official concert at Candlestick Park in San Francisco, California.

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Television personality Dick Clark became the host of the popular music show, Bandstand, which eventually became American Bandstand.

The television game show, Family Feud, hosted by Richard Dawson, began broadcasting as part of ABC’s daytime schedule.

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1986

The coming-of-age film, Stand by Me, directed

by Rob Reiner and based on Stephen King’s novella, The Body, opened in movie theaters.

1996 The children’s toy Tickle Me Elmo, based on the Sesame Street character, was released and sold out of all one million copies by the end of the year.

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2006

News broadcaster Katie Couric began working for CBS news as a special correspondent and anchor of CBS Evening News.

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President Ronald Reagan and First Lady Nancy Reagan presided over the rededication and centennial of The State of Liberty, which reopened to the public following an extensive restoration.

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The world’s most famous sheep, Dolly, was the first mammal to be genetically cloned from adult sheep when she was born in Edinburgh, Scotland.

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Pluto was downgraded to a dwarf planet by the International Astronomical Union (IAU), thereby reducing the number of planets in our solar system to eight.

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Remember When...

The SS Andrea Doria Sank Off the Coast of Massachusetts

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n July 25,1956, on a foggy night with calm seas off the coast of Nantucket, Massachusetts, two great ocean liners collided in what would become one of the most infamous maritime disasters.

The SS Andrea Doria was the pride of post-war Italy, a luxury liner with three classes, ranging from struggling immigrants to wealthy globetrotters. The transatlantic crossing between Italy and New York should have taken nine days to complete, beginning in her homeport in Genoa, and then stopping in Cannes, Naples, and Gibraltar. Earlier on the day of the collision, the MS Stockholm had just begun her voyage from New York harbor to Gothenburg, Sweden.

Following the accident, radio distress calls were sent out and answered by a number of nearby vessels that assisted in the rescue mission. Between the two damaged ships, 1,660 passengers and crew were rescued and survived but 46 poor souls died as a consequence of the collision. Among those rescued included the miraculous recovery of news commentator Edward P. Morgan’s 14-year-old daughter Linda, who was tossed from her bed in the Andrea Doria to the deck of the Stockholm when her cabin was directly struck during the collision.

On the following morning, eleven hours after the initial impact and dramatic rescue mission, the Andrea Doria sank to the bottom of the ocean, where it still sits today.

Above: The listing Andrea Doria just before sinking on the morning of July 26, 1956.

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Happy Birthday to All of Us In Chinese culture, many people do not put much importance on their birthdays (and if you were born a peasant, chances are you may not even know the exact day you were born). Individual birthdays are typically only celebrated one year and 30 days after a child is born and at certain milestone ages including 6, 10, 60, 70, 80, 90, and 100.

Instead, everyone celebrates turning one year older together on the seventh day (known as Renri) of the Lunar New Year, the 15-day festival that occurs in January or February, depending on the moon cycle.

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The Green Squash If on August 8th you happen to find yourself with more zucchini than you need, anonymously give some to your neighbor. It’s alright, it’s “Sneak Some Zucchini Onto Your Neighbor’s Porch” Day. About a century ago, Italian immigrants introduced zucchini to American agriculture (zucca is Italian for “little squash”), although it is native to Central America and Mexico.

The largest zucchini on record was grown in the United Kingdom, weighing 65 pounds and nearly eight feet long, but the most flavorful zucchinis are small-to-medium sized— something to keep in mind before heading over to your neighbor’s porch.

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DID YOU KNOW

Fascinating Facts to Know and Tell A Brief History of Tennis The game of tennis evolved from a version in the 12th century that was played with bare hands instead of a racket, known as jeu de paume (“game of the palm”) which was played in monasteries in northern France. The word “tennis” began appearing in European literary works about 200 years later, and a glove was used instead of bare hands. By the 16th century, the racket replaced the glove and the game was played in an enclosed area. This version of the game is now referred to as real tennis or royal tennis, due to its popularity with royalty. One of royal tennis’ fans included King Henry VIII of England, and it is believed he was watching a match when his second wife Anne Boleyn was arrested, and later that he was playing when he heard the news of her execution.

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Olympic Medals for Art The modern Olympic Games used to award medals in art competitions divided into five categories: architecture, literature, music, painting, and sculpture and all entries were inspired by sports. The art competitions ended after the 1948 London Olympics when officials declared it was unfair to permit professionals to compete, unlike the mandate that only amateur athletes could compete in the sporting events. Since then, noncompetitive art exhibitions have occurred during the Games. The 2016 Rio culture program, Celebra (Celebrate), will produce open-air activities in music, literature, visual arts, theater, and dance aimed at awakening the sporting spirit.

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HEALTH & WELLNESS

by KATHERINE ADAMS

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The Power of the Flower

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here was, at some unknown point in the history of human development, a time when we first became attracted to flowers and admired them for their beauty. As a PBS special based on journalist Michael Pollan’s book, The Botany of Desire, makes clear, we have cultivated flowers for thousands of years, surrounded ourselves with them in gardens and in our homes, spent billions of dollars on them, though flowers serve no useful purpose at all.

However, scientists now speculate that flowers have evolved to be desirable, not

just to the insects and animals that fertilize them, but to us, as well. A study conducted by scientists Jeannette Haviland-Jones and Terry McGuire at Rutgers University in 2005 showed that fresh flowers, when given to the participants of the experiment, produced “immediate and longterm effects on emotional reactions, mood, social behaviors, and even memory for both males and females,” and, further, suggested that cultivated flowers have “evolved to rapidly induce positive emotion in humans.”

Flowers are part of what Drs. Haviland-Jones and McGuire call “the evolutionary niche for emotional rewards”. Across cultures and across time, humans have incorporated flowers in burial and religious practices, and in personal adornment. Flowers have been used to express emotions such as sympathy, love, and romantic intent. Their scents have been captured for our own enhancement in oils and perfumes, suggesting that their smell, not just their appearance, enhances our moods, excite us, and give us pleasure. In other words, flowers

“Flowers have evolved to make us happy, and we have evolved to find beauty in flowers.” have evolved to make us happy, and we have evolved to find beauty in flowers.

As humans, we are not alone in this. Flowers have offered unusual benefits to insects and other animals besides food. Hawk moths, for example, go to Datura flowers for the hallucinogenic effects they have. Many orchids make very little nectar to attract bees, but offer other rewards. One, for example, provides a pheromone that the bees collect in pouches and use to attract mates.

Other orchids entice bees to “mate” with them. Flowers really do have power.

Of course, it’s not all primal instincts. There are learned behaviors at play. Flowers evoke specific memories of celebrations and happy occasions as well as generalized associations with beauty and abundance. Research into the placement of flower arrangements shows that most 13

households put fresh flowers in the entryway, foyer, or living room, indicating there is a social aspect to flowers that symbolizes welcome and warmth. Flowers have artistically developed aesthetics designed to appeal to us, which become apparent in gardens, images (both fine art and design), and floral arrangements.

And, they have cultural caché.

One case study explored by Mr. Pollan is the tulip, which was cultivated in the Netherlands in the 17th century, and incited such desire for them that a single bulb could cost more than an entire home. The tulip was introduced to Europe from the Ottoman-ruled court at Constantinople in the 16th century, making its way to Vienna, then supposedly brought to Amsterdam by a man named Carolus Clusius, who jealously guarded his tulips from others until they were stolen from his garden one night. From there, tulip seeds were spread all over. But that is not the end of the story. Left alone, the tulips quickly mutated until those that were noticeably extraordinary—perhaps with more petals, or with frills, or with 14

“Post-operative patients who recovered in hospital rooms with flowers required less pain medicine.” deeper or unusual color—were coveted. In order to propagate a certain mutation, one had to possess the bulb, not just the seed, and commence a very slow process, resulting in outstanding demand and little supply.

In the last decade there have been more studies into the effects of flowers. In a 2008 study, postoperative patients who recovered in hospital rooms with flowers required less pain medicine than those placed in rooms without flowers. Nicolas Guéguen of the Université de Bretagne-Sud in France published his findings in 2011, showing that when women watched videos of men, they found the men more attractive if there were flowers in the room. Similarly, women were apparently more receptive to male attention when there were flowers present. A Harvard study conducted by Nancy Etcoff showed that people who do not consider themselves morning

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persons felt more energetic and positive if they saw flowers first thing in the morning.

The social and monetary economics of the flower have, in the modern era, become intertwined.

Today, florists are cashing in on the positive psychological effects of flowers, marketing their products as to brighten their customer’s day.

And there are good reasons to believe them. In Drs. HavilandJones and Maguire’s experiment, 100% of their study group displayed genuine happiness at receiving flowers (as determined by the Duchenne smile, a true smile), which is practically unheard of in scientific data. Because flowers induce happiness in the immediate— and improve mood in the long-term, flowers have been shown to reduce stress and anxiety, as well as alleviate depression and fatigue.

If these negative moods are alleviated, as science has shown repeatedly, memory and cognition improve. An emotional response that recurs in recent findings is that flowers make people more compassionate.

Finally, the positive effects of flowers on older adults are striking.

In one experiment, a group of older women in senior living communities were given either no flowers, one, or two bouquets of flowers over a two-week period.

Those who received one bouquet of flowers reported more positive moods at the end of the study than at the beginning. Those who received two bouquets were significantly less depressed than those receiving just one, while those who received no flowers at all were more depressed than those who received just one. ■ 15

LIFE WITH THE EDEN ALTERNATIVE

Caring for Ourselves Heals Others

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by LAURA BECK

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elf-care is more than just medical appointments or pedicures. It is as much about feeling self-expressed as it is about feeling good. When you think about it, self-care can be a window to one’s soul. Ask someone what they like to do for themselves—that’s just for them—and you’ll learn a lot about who that person really is.

Take me, for example. When I’m wearing my professional hat, I wield my writing, project management, and instructional design skills, but when I need to unwind and get in touch with me again, I dance like nobody’s watching (and sometimes, like a lot of people are watching, honestly).

When I’m dancing, I feel most fully myself… most whole, most authentic. Self-care indeed.

Identity and Meaning are listed among the seven Eden Alternative Domains of Well-Being™. When our true selves are acknowledged, we feel seen. Our place in the world is affirmed. We count. Self-care, then, is how we give ourselves a nod and say, “I see you. You matter.”

Typically, this sense of ourselves is further defined by those things we find meaningful.

Try this: Make a list of your top ten simple pleasures. These are those things that just make your day, the little rituals that renew, refresh, and inspire you. Drawing a blank? Well, then it’s time to resuscitate your self-care mojo.

Start small with 1 or 2 ideas and then make a commitment to weave them into your week. Share them with someone who will lovingly hold you accountable for making them a part of daily life. Offer to do the same for them in return.

When we teach others about the power of care partnership at The Eden Alternative®, we share that genuine care is not possible without first knowing someone deeply… what do they love, who have they been, who are they now, what do they need? While we may become adept at asking such questions about another, how are we at seeking to understand the same about ourselves? Life moves at a quick clip. Busy lives can leave us feeling out of touch with who we are and what our souls are truly craving. Enter self-care, which offers us the opportunity to come home to ourselves again.

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Our job, then, is to be stellar care partners to ourselves first and foremost. Only then can we be completely present for another human being. Recall the request of the flight attendant before take-off: first, place the oxygen mask on yourself, and then offer it to another. By connecting with the self, breathing life into our own being first, we are better prepared to make a difference in the lives of

others. The quality of the relationships we build with other people becomes stronger, healthier, and more attuned. Connectedness, like Identity and Meaning, is considered another vital aspect of well-being. Add Security, Autonomy, Growth, and Joy and you have all seven Domains of Well-Being, all of which are vital products of self-care.

Nurturing ourselves teaches us how to ask others for what we need with confidence and courage. And as we grow and change, so, too, do the things that feed and soothe us. By recognizing the ebb and flow of our own interests and needs, we are also poised to respond more freely to the same in others.

A self-caring world is a world wired for healing‌ like turning ripples into waves. Imagine the possibilities. â–

Laura Beck is the Learning and Development Guide for The Eden Alternative, an international, nonprofit organization focused on creating quality of life for Elders and their care partners. For more information about The Eden Alternative, go to www.edenalt.org.

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Doctor Lori Stevic-Rust

The Art of Being Authentic

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racticing the art of being authentic—with the good, the bad, and the ugly parts fully exposed—is a life-long process. An honest evaluation of the self requires acknowledgement and acceptance of gifts and weaknesses. Seeking perfection may, in essence, remove us from our humanness, which then makes us become self-focused and preoccupied. If we are so busy looking at ourselves, how can we ever be emotionally available to see others? If we can’t slip our feet into the shoes of confidence and identity, we live in fear. Fear of being seen.

Fear of failing. Fear of evaluation.

Fear of being foolish. Fear of being “caught” as the imposter that our insecurity tells us we are.

The concept of being “real”— genuine and true to our own image and beliefs about our self—is often

created early and then shaped and reformed as we gain life experiences and make conscious choices. Our authentic selfconcept is the internal picture and ever running cognitive script we create to describe and define who we are, what we believe, how we look, and how we feel about moral issues. And, the value on that image can be heavily influenced by feedback from others. It is as if our self-image is an internal Velcro strip: When we get a compliment or a criticism, it sticks to us if we hold the same view.

Consider when Meryl Streep, the actor nominated for more Academy Awards and Golden Globes than any other actor in history, was quoted as saying, “You think, why would anyone want to see me again in a movie?

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anyway, so why am I doing this?”

The real question for Ms. Streep is, “Can you act? Do you believe that you have a talent for acting?”

If the answer is “no,” then stop acting and learn a new skill. If the answer is “yes,” then an internal period should be put at the end of the sentence. I know I can act. It is a different question to ask, “Can I learn more and aspire to be an even better actor?”

Of course, because that is not a question about our view of ourselves, that is a question about a drive to be better, learn more, and improve ourselves. But that feeling is not the one that sets us up to feel like an imposter. The question that gets to the core of Meryl Streep is the doubt about her own perceptions of her skills and thereby her reliance on the evaluation of others to answer the question about whether or not she can act. This kind of reliance on the views of others over our own sets us up for fear and doubt, as the opinions of others is a moving target that we will never fully satisfy. But, if we hold our own view firmly in place, we have a better chance to feel confident 20

and connected to our identity and the feedback from others.

Historically, it seems to be in our very nature to begin with an analysis of our weaknesses, our obstacles, and our shortcomings.

Until recently, even the field of psychology focused on illness, deficits, and pathology almost at the exclusion of strengths and virtues.

In the business world, strong leaders typically have been recognized for their ability to see what is not working at the system level and recognizing who is not capable at the person level. Fortunately, we are seeing a major shift in research, practice, and training around the identification of strengths and using them to improve the bottom line in business and the emotional wellbeing of the person.

The exercise of identifying our life themes and the strengths that we possess is actually the foundation of success. Warren Buffet, one of the richest men in the world, once described his key to success as his ability to know his strengths and then make them better. He described himself as patient and practical—skills he uses every day when investing

believe others do not like about us, we give those attributes and beliefs life. We breathe energy into our flaws and failings and make them larger than anything else in our lives. But imagine what could happen if we focused our energy on what we do well— our unique gifts. Imagine if we nurtured and developed those strengths. ■

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and running a business. Successful people, particularly women, learn to organize their life in such a way to maximize their strengths. And the discovery of our greatest strengths usually occurs under high stress situations when we default to what we know best.

The truth is we actually invent our own insecurities. When we focus on the things we don’t like about ourselves and the things we

“I’ve always had this vague curiosity about me.”

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FACING ALZHEIMER’S

Care & Identity

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ichelle is an 82-year-old extrovert with an impish smile and expressive hands. A life-long animal lover, Michelle never married or had children, but she established a local animal shelter and cared for several of her own pets.

Michelle is living with Alzheimer’s disease, and resides in an assisted living community where staff members know her well. Her room is full of photos of animals, and staff made a small album of her pets that Michelle can show other residents. When therapy dogs visit the residence, staff seek

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out Michelle because she loves to walk with them through the halls.

Despite significant lapses in her memory, Michelle’s identity remains, and staff reinforce it through the way they interact with her and the things around her.

“We find that people with Alzheimer’s and other dementias don’t actually lose their sense of self, instead, they lose the ability to communicate aspects of themselves. If they can’t tell you who they are or who they’ve been, it’s up to us—caregivers, family, and friends—to reach out and find ways to connect based on what we know about them,” says Sam Fazio, Ph.D., director of Constituent Services at the Alzheimer’s Association.

Studies of people with Alzheimer’s disease show that despite cognitive impairment they can still recognize themselves in mirrors and photographs, use pronouns like “I” and “me,” and describe what they felt and believed during significant life events, such as going to war or celebrating their wedding day.

“Identity is more than memory,” Fazio explains. “It’s important to find out who a person with dementia has been their whole life and to weave that into your interactions with them. For example, if you know that the person with Alzheimer’s used to be a dancer, you can ask them about their performances while helping them with a bath.”

Fazio is describing “person-centered care,” an approach that views the person living with Alzheimer’s as an individual, not just as a patient with symptoms to manage.

The following principles are the basis behind person-centered care: • Value the person with dementia and the people who care for them.

• Treat people as individuals.

• Look at the world through the person’s eyes.

• Provide a positive social environment that supports the person’s well-being1.

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Caregivers who recognize the identity of the person with dementia can see beyond a behavior to understand the expression of personality underneath.

For example, when Michelle can’t find the words to express her excitement about something, she may clap her hands loudly or slap a table top. Her caregivers know that she isn’t being disruptive; she is simply enthusiastic and trying to communicate her needs.

To adopt a person-centered approach to care, use the following tips: • Relate to the individual as a person. For example, look them in the eye before speaking.

• Include their interests and preferences in daily activities.

• Give the person choices and involve them in decisions about their care as much as possible, such as offering two shirts to choose from if you are helping them dress.

• Facilitate positive relationships with other people.

• Create a physical environment that looks and feels like home to the person.

Alzheimer’s is a progressive disease and Michelle’s abilities will decline over time, but there are still many ways her caregivers can connect with her and recognize her self. If Michelle is no longer able to walk with therapy dogs, she can still pet them. If she is no longer able to initiate conversations, staff can introduce Michelle to other residents and assist her in sharing her “family album” of pets.

“A person’s unique self may be masked by symptoms of Alzheimer’s, but it remains to be discovered at every phase of the disease,” Fazio says.

“Person-centered care values caregivers, too, as it allows them to look beyond the losses of Alzheimer’s and focus on the pieces of a person’s self that they can still reach and enjoy with them.” ■

To learn more about caregiving for people with Alzheimer’s disease, visit the Alzheimer’s Association website at alz.org/care or call the 24/7 Helpline at 800-272-3900.

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THE PLACE THEY CALL HOME

Enriching Experiences at Aging Services Communities

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eadingAge members are not-for-profit providers of care and services for seniors. Residents of these aging services organizations are involved in a wide range of life-enriching experiences that add meaning and fulfillment to their lives as they age. Sometimes they are reviving or continuing activities from their younger years.

A Gem of a Story The sparkle and color of beautiful crystals found in various minerals captured Don Peck’s heart more than 60 years ago. To this day, it’s a hobby he passionately pursues.

“It’s fun and it keeps me active,” says Mr. Peck, 84, who with his wife Lorraine now resides at Greenfields of Geneva.

Mr. Peck, a retired high school science teacher, discovered his life-long hobby of mineralogy when he was a teenager after going on a mineral hunt at inoperative garnet and iron mines. “I’ve still got some of the garnets I 25

found that day,” says Mr. Peck, who adds that the garnets mined were typically used for industrial purposes.

After taking his first teaching job, Mr. Peck joined a mineral club where his interest in microminerals took off. Micro-minerals require the use of a microscope to view the crystal formations. He began collecting micro-minerals, and his influence on the world of mineralogy began to take shape.

Passionate about identifying and classifying micro-minerals and their crystal structures, Mr. Peck created MinSearch, a database and search engine for mineral properties. Originally written in the 1980s, it has been updated three times and is available for mineralogists to catalogue their research and also help identify unknown specimens. Additionally, he wrote the book, Mineral Identification: A Practical Guide for the Amateur Mineralogist.

Mr. Peck is often found sharing his passion with others. Last August, he gave a talk on minerals and mineral collecting to other residents of Greenfields of Geneva. He still has a large 26

collection of micro-minerals, each stored in a one-inch-square case. “I have enough raw materials to keep me going for years,” he says with a smile.

—Bridget Machalinski, Ivy Marketing Group, Greenfields of Geneva, Geneva, Illinois Striking a Tune During the Great Depression, music acted as a morale booster for families and communities alike. A musician in Altoona, Pennsylvania began giving harmonica lessons every Saturday to local residents. Mary Beth Flickinger become a weekly attendee and fell in

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love with the harmonica. Her lessons paid off—she and her siblings were featured on the local radio station.

Later on, Ms. Flickinger put down her harmonica to learn other instruments.

Flash forward to 2015: Ms. Flickinger, 92, is living at Baptist Homes. She has returned to her harmonica and is playing better than ever. A few years ago, she also learned how to read sheet music. Not only has her talent expanded, but so has her audience. Ms. Flickinger takes center stage during the Baptist Homes Society’s Christmas performances, plays for fun with other residents, and has been featured in a few publications. A few years ago, she won the Pennsylvania Activity Professional Association’s

Creative Arts Award for her harmonica playing. (The award is given annually to only one resident in Pennsylvania.)

Ms. Flickinger is an inspiration to all of those who hear her play, including fellow harmonica player Thomas Sullivan, who joined her on his first day at Baptist Homes.

During her performances, toes tap, spirits soar and Ms. Flickinger is transported to being a young girl again.

—Andrea Bobinis, Public Relations intern, Baptist Homes Society, Pittsburgh, Pennsyvania ■ Excerpted from LeadingAge Magazine.

“Just tell me about the new continent. I don’t give a damn what you’ve discovered about yourself.”

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Celebrating You Ten Suggestions For Treating Yourself Right

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t can be too easy to overlook yourself. And you don’t need to wait all year for the one day—your birthday—to celebrate you. With little effort and a whole lot of purpose, you can do something good for yourself and enjoy your life. And chances are, those who love you will cheer you on.

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Re-live a precious memory by visiting a place of significance or buying a replica of a favorite childhood toy just for you.

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Surround yourself with the people and places you love—add more framed photographs and imagery around your home. By changing pictures regularly, you’ll be conscious of the people and things you love.

Look for joy—go to a playground or dog run and just observe. The carefree nature of children and dogs at play will be contagious.

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Get dressed up, for no good reason. Put on your favorite clothing (perhaps those expensive shoes?) and your best jewelry because you feel fantastic when you wear those things. There is a reason why young children love to play dress up.

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Indulge yourself by getting out of your routine.

Sleep in, eat something delicious that you may normally deny yourself, or take a long, warm bubble bath.

Don’t overlook your olfactory system—find some pleasing scented candles or essential oils to make your home smell clean and to put you in a good mood.

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Laughter can be the best medicine and it puts you in a great state of mind—watch a comedy by the likes of The Three Stooges or Jerry Lewis, or one of your favorite entertainers who are guaranteed to make you laugh.

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Get in contact with an old friend or relation that you’ve been meaning to stay in touch with. Those relationships act as your “comfort food” where you can be yourself, knowing that you are loved and adored for being you.

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Put together a gift list of what you plan to give others, either for Christmas, birthdays, or no special reason at all.

Watch the sunrise or sunset and contemplate the beauty of the moment.

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Birthday Freebies When it’s your birthday, there’s no secret that if you mention it is your special day at many restaurants and bars, staff will often give you a dessert or drink on the house and will even serenade you. Additionally, many chain restaurants will give you something if you agree to sign up for their newsletter in advance, however you’ll need an email address and will then be barraged throughout the year with unwanted emails. The following businesses will celebrate you on your birthday simply by providing proof of your birth date with valid identification: Denny’s Restaurants. Drop by any Denny’s nationwide on your birthday and they’ll treat you to a free Grand Slam breakfast meal.

Harkins Theatres. The movie theater chain with locations throughout the Southwestern US offers birthday guests one free medium popcorn.

Catalina Express. The daily boat with departures to Catalina Island from San Pedro, Long Beach, and Dana Point in Southern California offers free round-trip fare when you begin travel on your actual birthday and return anytime within 30 days after your departure date. ■

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Just When I Thought I Knew Myself The Continued Development of Your Personality

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had an unusual childhood in that I spent a lot of it moving from one new country to the next. I moved countries when I was 2, 7, 10, 13 and 17 years old. So my memories are splashed with winter play dates with friends in America, rainy season afternoons spent in Nigeria, Saturday shopping at the open market in Cote D’Ivoire, and regular 4PM tea times with scones and jam during the years I lived in England. It was never easy moving from one new place to the next. I was always having to reintroduce myself to new people, learning new ways of living in another culture, and understanding new social norms and practices.

When I got much older and was able to reflect on my unique upbringing, I realized that I had picked up an invaluable skill: the ability to stay open to learning new things about myself whenever I interacted with new people and in new environments. Because I was exposed to so much diversity of people and culture so early on in my life, I quickly understood that different experiences and encounters could teach me about new sides 31

of myself. In order to fit into my new environments, I had to remain open to trying new things that took me out of my comfort zone, things I wasn’t always sure I was capable of. In Cote D’Ivoire, I learned I could pick up a new language if I committed myself to trying to understand when Ivorians spoke to me in French. In England, I rode horses for the first time and learned to conquer some age-old fears I had. This helped me stay open to addressing other fears that crept up as I grew from an awkward teenager into a somewhat adjusted young adult.

What’s most significant about these observations is that I believe my internal willingness to stay open, to explore new experiences, and to push myself beyond my comfort zones had more to do with the development of my personality than the particulars of having grown up in various countries.

Someone who has lived in the same house on the same neighborhood for their entire life could also discover new things about their personality if they stay open to engaging the world around them with curiosity and courage.

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“The reality is that no matter how old we get, most of us can still discover new things about our personalities that surprise us, scare us, delight us, and most importantly of all, remind us that we are still alive and growing.”

Because the truth is our worlds are always changing in some way or another, even when we may not want them to. New people move into our neighborhoods and we have the opportunity to encounter another culture or perspective that might open up or trigger something new within our own ways of engaging the world. New technological devices make old ones obsolete and we have the opportunity to learn new skills that remind us we are never too old to be students of life and the world.

Unexpected circumstances good and not so good arise in our personal lives that challenge us in how we think ourselves capable of responding.

All too often, we reach a certain age in our lives when we expect ourselves to have things all figured out, to have a clear and defined sense of self, to know what we want, what we like, and what we can and can’t do with our minds and our bodies. There is a certain peace to reaching such a stage. But the reality is that no matter how old we get, most of us can still discover

new things about our personalities that surprise us, scare us, delight us, and most importantly of all, remind us that we are still alive and growing.

That alone is a beautiful thing worth celebrating and practicing. ■ Enuma Okoro is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives between New York City, Paris, and Abuja, Nigeria.

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GIVING AND TAKING Finding Balance Between the Two

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n today’s culture, giving and taking have very clear associations. Giving is considered kind, generous, charitable, and an all around positive, admirable characteristic. Taking, on the other hand, is more often considered selfish, manipulative, greedy, or otherwise negative. In truth, however, both giving and taking are necessary for an even, balanced life, and if you have too much of either one you will be unhappy.

But how do you strike that balance of giving to others as well as taking for yourself?

Giving always seems the more preferable side of this balance, and there are many ways we all give.

We give our skills, time, and labor at work or volunteering, we give gifts to other people and we give of ourselves when we are good listeners, supportive friends, loving spouses, and involved family members. We give smiles to strangers and donations to charities. Giving can make us feel happy and fulfilled, and is a great way to be part of our community.

Taking is just as common as giving, but it is not nearly so easily recognized. We take benefits from

“Giving can make us feel happy and fulfilled, and is a great way to be part of our community.” our work, both as a paycheck as well as health care, pensions, and promotions. We take gifts from other people, or we take advantage of community services, such as using parks, libraries, or museums.

If we accept awards, compliments, or recognition, that is also a form of taking.

It is too easy, however, to give or take too much. When we give too much, we have no time left for ourselves or our interests, and all that we give may come to be expected rather than appreciated.

Our schedule becomes overcrowded, and we may not be able to keep all our commitments. This builds resentment and makes us less willing to continue giving as we get frustrated and fatigued.

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tasks or meet goals without help.

We may feel bad about rumors or misconceptions about why we have to take, and we may lose friends as they become tired of giving too much to us.

When looking for a balance between giving and taking, there is one great misconception most people have—that it must be equal.

In fact, our giving and taking balance never needs to be fifty-fifty, and very rarely will it be.

Everyone’s needs and abilities are different, and how much one person gives or takes may be very different than another person’s individual balance. We each need to find our own balance that helps make our life fulfilling both when we give and when we take.

It can be very easy to increase the giving in our daily lives. While larger giving can mean volunteering for a work committee or joining a community group to offer your services for charity, giving can also mean simply offering sincere compliments to others or doing small things to make others smile. It might be helping out a friend who needs a ride, doing a load of laundry for an ailing neighbor, or choosing 36

to increase a donation to a church, school, or other charity. More giving might just be smiling even when you don’t feel like it or waving a driver into traffic in front of you instead of cutting them off. Every time you give, you will feel more positive and your own happiness will swell.

For many people, giving more can be easy, but you don’t need to take less when you give more. If you want to find balance, you need to take more as well. That doesn’t mean, however, that you need to take advantage of others or use more resources than you truly need. Taking can be as easy as graciously accepting compliments, delegating tasks when you’re overwhelmed, or using benefits you have earned, such as days off, discounts, or other rewards. Taking may also be simply reserving time for yourself, such as to enjoy a favorite hobby, relax with a good book, go to a movie, or take a walk without feeling guilty about the time, effort, or money you’re spending on what you like to do.

This type of taking can help refresh your spirit so you are able to give even better, keeping that delicate balance in check.

How can you judge if you’ve reached a giving and taking balance? From one day to the next, that balance may change, but you should be giving as much as you are comfortable and taking what you need. Counting your blessings, reflecting in a gratitude journal, or recounting the good and bad parts of each day can help you see where you may need to adjust your balance as you learn what types of giving and taking work best for you. Taking careful note of others’ reactions to your giving and taking as well as trying to be less judgmental of others’ balance can also help you

reach and maintain a healthy giving and taking balance of your own.

When you find that balance, you will find a richer, happier, more fulfilling life to enjoy. ■

Melissa Mayntz is a freelance writer who gives her skills to different markets, volunteers with local libraries, and picks up litter. She’s working on her personal balance to take compliments graciously and accept more of the positive aspects of her life, as well as help others find theirs. Learn more at MelissaMayntz.com.

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The Many Ac ts of Song Legend

BARBARA COOK An Exclusive Interview

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legend of the American theater, Barbara Cook has spent decades in the spotlight, gorgeously interpreting the American songbook for our listening pleasure. Her recently released memoir, Barbara Cook: Then & Now, recounts her professional and personal story, including the tragedies she endured as a child, her break into show business, her dark period of depression, alcoholism, and unemployment, and finally, her rise back to stardom.

Born and bred in Atlanta, Ms. Cook quickly became Broadway’s leading ingénue during the “golden era” of musical theater. In the 1950s, Leonard Bernstein made her soprano voice famous in Candide, most notably with what would become one of her signature songs, “Glitter and Be Gay.” That success was followed by her Tony Award-winning performance for the role she originated of Marian the librarian in The Music Man. She would hold other leading lady roles in a string of plays and musicals, while juggling the demands of family life as a young mother.

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In the late 1960s, her career was threatened by debilitating depression and alcoholism that forced her to step away from the limelight. In the early 1970s, Ms. Cook met her musical collaborator, Wally Harper, and re-emerged as a leading concert and cabaret artist playing in world-renowned concert venues including The Metropolitan Opera House, Carnegie Hall, London’s Royal Albert Hall, and the Sydney Opera House. In 2010, she returned to Broadway as the headliner in Sondheim on Sondheim. Ms. Cook was named an honoree for the prestigious Kennedy Center Honors in 2011, where the top names in Broadway paid tribute to her during the ceremony.

Ms. Cook took a pause from promoting her new book to talk with PS Magazine.

PS Magazine: Your new memoir has an intimate tone and it felt like you were talking directly to me.

BC: Thank you, that’s quite a compliment. That’s really what I intended. I thought, “Well, just write it.” [Writing the book] is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. It was hard to think about all that stuff again.

PS: Who did you picture you were writing it for?

BC: I didn’t know! I didn’t know if I had an audience, just do what I can and hope for the best.

Barbara Cook’s 2016 memoir, Barbara Cook: Then and Now, published

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PS: Let’s start at the beginning. Your younger sister, Pat, died from pneumonia when you were only three years old, and you write about how that had a profound impact on your life.

BC: I remember certain things very well. I think in some ways I still feel the impact because I thought I was responsible for her death. And that’s quite a burden to carry. I know, of course, that that’s not true, but the residue of it is still sort of sitting there.

PS: From a very young age, you were attracted to show business, despite coming from a very modest background with no formal training in acting. How did you decide to pursue your dream?

BC: Just pure grit, I guess. Just do it, you know. I was supposed to go on a two-week visit [to New York City] and I planned to stay and to not go back to Atlanta after the two-week visit. I mentioned that kind of vaguely to my mother but I don’t think she believed it at all. But that’s exactly what I did, and I never lived in Atlanta again.

PS: At the beginning of your career as an actress and singer, you spent two summers performing at Tamiment, the summer resort in the Pocono Mountains. It is striking how much burgeoning talent existed in that one place—you were collaborating with other rising stars like the composer Jerry Bock, director Herbert Ross, and your future co-star Jack Cassidy, not to mention your ex-husband David LeGrant. Did you have any

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notion of how pivotal that experience would be throughout your career?

BC: Yes, I did. I knew all the people who had come out of Tamiment before, and I knew it would be a really wise thing for me to do. There was no question in my mind about that. We knew its history, and we knew the people who had come out of there—Danny Kaye, for instance, and his whole show. It is amazing the people and the shows that came out of Tamiment.

Singing Leonard Bernstein’s showstopping “Glitter and Be Gay” in Candide

PS: You suffered from a lack of confidence right before going onstage that was sometimes crippling. How did you get over your insecurities to perform in front of so many people?

BC: [Laughs.] A lot of it is just doing it. If you are afraid to fly, you fly a few times and you’re OK. PS: You’ve worked with some of the most legendary composers and lyricists, notably Leonard Bernstein, Rodgers and Hammerstein, and Stephen Sondheim.

Whose work is your favorite to perform?

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BC: I don’t have one favorite song. I fall in love with songs, and then I want to sing them a lot. And I do, if I have the opportunity. I don’t hang on to things like

that so much. I’m always looking for new things to love.

PS: You cite your complicated relationship with your mother was because she couldn’t see you as an individual, only as an extension of herself. When you became a mother to your son, Adam, were you conscious not to make the same mistake?

BC: She didn’t see any separation between the two of us. And sometimes that was difficult. One of the things, as a parent, that I’ve tried to do is if I saw that—in some ways my mother would treat me unfair—I tried not to do that. I tried to avoid [being like] that.

With the adorable Eddie Hodges as Winthrop in The Music Man

PS: You went through a period of severe depression, battled alcoholism and weight gain, and found yourself unemployed for many years. How were you able to make your successful comeback?

BC: First of all, I need to sing. I want to sing, always. I did straight plays a couple of times and I enjoyed doing that but I missed the music and I missed being able to sing. I just plain-out love singing. I think a lot of my singing moves people emotionally and I love doing it. That’s what I plan and hope to do when I sing—to move people.

Ms. Cook with her three-year-old son, Adam

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PS: You give a lot of credit to Wally Harper for the “second act” of your career.

BC: Wally was the person who put me back on the singing path and I’m very grateful to him.

With Stephen Sondheim and Elaine Stritch at a signing for Follies in Concert

PS: You were a part of the “golden era” of Broadway of the 1950s and 1960s, and returned in 2010’s Sondheim on Sondheim.

Today, Broadway seems to be entering a renaissance, led by the immense success of Hamilton. What are your thoughts on the current state of musical theater?

BC: I haven’t gone to Broadway as much as I used to. So, I’m probably not the best person to ask that question to. I haven’t [seen Hamilton] but I plan to.

With musical director Wally Harper following her performance in Mostly Sondheim at Lincoln Center (GABE PALACIO/IMAGEDIRECT)

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PS: You’ve performed as a solo artist in concert venues all over the world and won countless awards and accolades for your work.

You’ve performed for American presidents, royalty, and even the Supreme Court. What has been the pinnacle of your career?

BC: I’ve really been very fortunate. I was really pleased to get the Kennedy Center Honors because it made me feel that people understood what I was trying to do.

In other words, they were telling me, “I get it.” And that’s a good feeling. I’ve been fortunate, too, in being able to be in the White House a couple of times and meeting a lot of presidents. That’s one of the nice things about this business: [meeting] people I would not normally have a chance to meet and talk to, that happens from time to time. And it’s a good feeling. ■

During a standing ovation after performing at The Metropolitan Opera

With fellow 2011 Kennedy Center Honors recipients Yo-Yo Ma, Meryl Streep, Neil Diamond, and Sonny Rollins

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BOOKS

YOUR SUMMER READING LIST These newly released books offer the perfect entertainment during the dog-days of summer.

NON-FICTION Grunt: The Curious Science of Humans at War by Mary Roach (W W Norton & Company)

If you’ve ever read anything by Mary Roach, you’ll recognize her sincere curiosity and humorous approach as she dissects serious topics. This 46

time around The New York Times best-selling writer delves into the psychology of war and explores the science of keeping human beings intact, awake, sane, uninfected, and uninfested in the bizarre and extreme circumstances of war.

How the Post Office Created America: A History by Winifred Gallagher (Penguin Press) The least appreciated and analyzed of America’s great institutions is finally given some overdue credit.

Winifred Gallagher examines its rich history and its role in all the major events in American history, from the Declaration of Independence to The Civil War to the advent of the Internet.

Some Enchanted Evenings: The Glittering Life and Times of Mary Martin by David Kaufman (St. Martin’s Press) Mary Martin was one of the greatest stars of her day. Peopled with legends like Ethel Merman, Ezio Pinza, Noel Coward, and a starry cast of thousands, David Kaufman’s biography is the story of a woman who described herself as a chicken farmer from Texas only to become Peter Pan and capture America’s heart.

sensational story unfolded with many incredible twists and weird turns. Based on more than a hundred interviews and thousands of previously secret documents, Jeffrey Toobin digs deep to deliver the definitive account of the kidnapping and trial that defined an insane era in American history.

FICTION A Certain Age by Beatriz Williams (William Morrow)

American Heiress: The Wild Saga of the Kidnapping, Crimes and Trial of Patty Hearst

by Jeffrey Toobin (Doubleday) On February 4, 1974, the heiress Patty Hearst was kidnapped by a group of self-styled revolutionaries calling itself the Symbionese Liberation Army. The already 47

It’s the Roaring Twenties and intrigue, romance, and scandal blind-side New York Society. As a fateful triangle forms, loyalties divide and old crimes are dragged into daylight. Full of the glamour, wit, and delicious twists that are the hallmarks of Beatriz Williams’s fiction, A Certain Age is a beguiling reinterpretation of Richard Strauss’s comic opera Der Rosenkavalier.

As Good As Gone by Larry Watson (Algonquin Books) It’s 1963, and Calvin Sidey, one of the last of the old cowboys, has long ago left his family to live a life of self-reliance out on the prairie. He’s been a mostly absentee father and grandfather until his estranged son asks him to stay with his grandchildren, Ann and Will, for a week while he and his wife are away. So Calvin agrees to return to the small town where he once was a mythic figure, to the very home he once abandoned. Larry Watson 48

captures our longing for the Old West and its heroes, and he challenges our understanding of loyalty and justice.

Sons and Daughters of Ease and Plenty by Ramona Ausubel (Riverhead Books) It’s Labor Day, 1976 at the family beach house in Martha’s Vineyard when Fern and Edgar—married with three children—learn that the unimaginable has occurred: There is no more money. In distress and confusion, Fern and Edgar are each tempted away on separate adventures: she on a road trip with a stranger, he on an illadvised sailing voyage with another woman. The three children are left for days with no guardian whatsoever, in an improvised Neverland helmed by the tender, witty, and resourceful Cricket, age nine. Ramona Ausubel has crafted an American tale of wealth, class, family, and mobility. ■

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JULY/AUGUST 2016 HOROSCOPES by Chris Flisher ARIES (March 21–April 19) A rich and varied period begins to open for you over the coming months. Your days may be filled with enjoyment, connection, and creativity. This may be a fertile and fun period for you that will be easy to take. The secret will be in finding the right outlet. The days may have their ups and downs but generally you will be quite content as pleasing encounters with others and clever expressions become your forte. You might consider enrolling in a class of some sort to help jump-start that youthful imagination of yours. The structure of a classroom setting seems to be the ideal place for you to really shine.

TAURUS (April 20–May 20) As the summer begins to unfold you may be delighted to find that much of your time is spent in the company of children. This may be an unexpected surprise that brings a whole new you into focus.

The innocence and charm of young minds are a natural place for the homebody in you. The untarnished perceptions of the young may also 56

serve as an inspiration for you and your creative streak. Pay close attention to the conversations and ideas that come from the little people as they may ignite a new fire in you that has been waiting to spring to life.

GEMINI (May 21–June 21) The spotlight will be aimed at your primary residence and your immediate family during the coming season. This bright and warmly welcome area of your life may draw your attention as you seek to institute improvements and gather those together who are closest to you. Expect to witness lively conversations, ambitious projects, and rewarding encounters within that arena. With so much attention in this area of your world, you will be wise to throw all of your energy into this richly loving and familiar theme for this period. The talk and laughter may be quite dominating and that may be your joy.

CANCER (June 22–July 22) Grab a pen or a digital recorder and start to open up during

this time. You may find that thoughts, ideas, memories, and all that stimulates your intellect are on tap now. With all of that in mind, think of research and writing as well. You may find that someone wants to know your legacy and this period provides the ideal opportunity to get your recollections out. You may not regard your past as significant, but there are those who will follow in your footsteps who will be delighted to find a written record. You may find that it helps to jog your memory with old photographs and mementos. Tap into your rich past and see what comes out.

LEO (July 23–Aug. 22) With the Sun shining down on all Leos during this time, you might be wise to sink your teeth into some investment advice. The times are ripe for you, dear Leo, to see what bargains lie out there and how they may benefit you the most. This should be a very opportune time for uncovering financial gems that may be tucked away in some corner of the money market. The same sort of pursuit holds true if you are looking

to find some additional resources for a pet project. Budgets, investments, loans, inheritances, estates, and wills are all highly favored for your attention.

VIRGO (Aug. 23–Sept. 22) For roughly the past year, you have been graced by the presence of Jupiter in Virgo. This auspicious presence makes your world come alive with possibility. To further enhance that theme, Jupiter is joined by Mercury and Venus, both of which add an even more vibrant luster to your daily life. This may be a fabulous time for a makeover, a reinvention, or at least a stab at starting down a whole new road.

The possibilities are endless and the burst of optimism and potential may leave you wondering how so much good could unfold so effortlessly. Look deeply and don’t dwell on the superficial. Changes may be taking shape that aid you beneath your exterior.

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transition. You may be looking to sell your house or move to a new area that is easier for you and yours. On the other hand, this may also prove to be a great time for completing projects and looking toward a new future with great plans. Transition is a marvelous word that implies change. We all know change is for the better, even if we aren’t aware of it at the time.

Take heart and embrace the shift with an open heart and mind. You may be excited by the prospect of something adventurous and daring.

This period may make you feel youthful and vibrant.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23–Nov. 21) As summer unfolds, you may find yourself in a prime spot for working with others. Group projects, community outreach, and charitable work are all heavily favored under these skies for you.

You may be working with others to plan a group outing or other large event. The timing may be ideal for such an endeavor as Jupiter, Mercury, and Venus gather together in your friendship sector and highlight your unique ability to add depth and meaning to all 58

collaborative projects. Seize the day and step up to the challenge and lead others in great meaningful pursuits. You may shine in any setting that puts you in touch with friends and associates.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22–Dec. 21) You may expect to see a lot of activity in your occupation over the coming months. Don’t forget that occupation does not imply work, but rather how you spend your time on a daily basis. With that in mind, you may see your presence as a real asset to whatever organization or task you undertake, and that can mean anything as diverse as watching little children to planning a restoration of a group center.

Consider the wide array of possibilities as you approach this time and stop to consider how you can be an asset to the cause.

This may be a wonderfully fun and engaging period where you find yourself eager to participate and lead.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22–Jan. 19) Adventure may be your top priority as the universe spins this

type of activity your way. Travel, education, spirituality, or all of the aforementioned are very likely under this current theme. This may be a thrilling and stimulating intellectual experience for you.

New vistas are the ideal way to enhance your learning so take advantage of trips, seminars, and adult education classes going forward and watch for the excitement to unfold. One of the greatest methods for expanding your mind is through outside stimulation. You may be the leader or simply a willing participant but either way, you may feel refreshed by the discourse.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20–Feb. 18) The coming season may be ideal for coping with large organizations. Insurance companies, travel agents, municipalities, and even religious organizations may benefit from your participation as Jupiter, Mercury, and Venus aid you in this realm of your world going forward.

Bureaucracy may be daunting to some, but you may find a great challenge and hence reward for dipping your toes into the stream of

a large organization to see what arrives. Since the gathering of these three planets typically bodes well for happy outcomes, train your focus on leaving a positive imprint and see what you can accomplish.

Embrace these institutions and see what they can provide.

PISCES (Feb. 19–March 20) Your love life may be heating up under this current array of planets in your relationship sector.

You may be catching the eye of an admirer or dancing as the life of the party with your existing social circle. Friendship as well as romantic love is highly favored under this theme as you bask in the spotlight of goodwill towards you and pleasing exchanges with all that you encounter. With that in mind, you might want to make every attempt to keep your social calendar full with fun activities that present opportune times to connect with others. The spotlights are on you.

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