The Bulletin | April 2022

The Bullettin Welcometo

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Stress Free Pets at the Vets

Amidst a lot of sadness that world events have brought us recently, one reason to celebrate this year will be the Queen’s Platinum Jubilee. The UK hasa long history of organised street parties and there’s still plenty of timeto organiseone in your area or maybe search for an eventtaking placenear you.

With so manyBank Holidays happening over the next few months, you may want totake advantage of thoseextra days andcreate a painting for theStanpit Village Hall competition, details can be found on page S26.

I wish you ahappy and sunny Bank Holiday.

Best Wishes, Julie

10. Puzzles

12. Travel: Vancouver

16. Finding Hope

S2 Recipe: Coffee & Walnut Muffins

S4. Competition

S6. Low Maintenance Gardening

S8. Recipe: Spanish Meatballs

S10. What’s on at the Regent Centre

S12.Book Review

S14. Wine of the Month

S18. Understanding EatingDisorders

S20.Short Story

S24.Life After Divorce

S28.History: PresidentZelenskyy

S30.BlythHarbourLights

50. RNLI Mudeford Lifeboat Guild

56. Stress Free Visitstothe Vets

60. Bird Watching

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Spring

Springin Vancouveris asighttobehold. Withthemilderweather,thecityturns alushgreenandthetreesexplodeinto colour.Watchthevividcherryblossoms bloomthroughoutthecity’sstreetsand parks,enjoywatersportsalongthe waterfrontandshopthelocalmarketsfor someseasonalspecialities.

Summer

Summertimein Vancouverbringswarm sunshine,cooloceanbreezesand awide arrayofoutdooractivitiesandcultural festivals.Soakupthesunononeofthe city’sglorioussandybeaches,goonan exhilaratingwateradventure,strollorbike

alongtheStanleyParkseawallorheadto GrouseMountaintoexplorethe stunning naturalsurroundingsandseasonal activities.

Autumn

Inthefall, Vancouver’stemperateclimate lendsitselfto relaxedwalksamidstthe lustrousfallfoliageandtoexplorationof someof Vancouver’stopgalleriesand museums.

Winter

It’snosurprisethat Vancouveris consistentlyvotedoneoftheworld’smost liveablecities.Fewplacesallowyouto exploreinthemorning,shopafterlunch, skiorboardthelocalpeaksatdusk,then comebackdownagaintodineanddance thenightawayinoneofthecity’shippest nightlifedistricts.

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Hope

By Anna-Maria Grinter, Therapeutic Counsellor

At this time of year, we are blessed with the transition from Winter through Spring towards Summer

The sun comes up early, handing over to the moon later.

The Spring daffodils greet us with blissfully bright optimism that’s hard to argue with. The atmosphere is one of newness, fresh opportunity and aspirant expectation. Springtime; the epitome of hope. Hope that is then rewarded with summertime’s eccentric blooms, proudly individual.

Do you agree?

Where do you find hope?

Perhaps you cannot find hope.

As human beings, when we find ourselves without hope, we become lost, without purpose, unable to accept the gifts Mother Nature bestows. We can become depressed. It is difficult to appreciate even the most subtle and delicate flower, let alone the brazen trumpeting of the ever proud, audacious daffodil, hailing all that is hopeful to come.

The seasonal transitions are metaphoric, don’t you think?

But, if you find that your Winter persists, refusing to allow the buds to push through the frozen soil to sunlight, could you consider asking for help?

All too often we turn to chemicals to restore hope, whether your chemical of choice is prescription, liquid or powder, sadly, this type of self-soothing will only prolong your Winter

These addictions build becoming all that matters, and we become hosts to the invading parasite

Flowers… what flowers?

Can you reflect on your addictive behaviour?

Did you lose hope?

Are you looking in the right place?

It’s hard to admit to ourselves or others that we are addicted. It could be exercise, sex, or any dopamine releasing activity that makes us ignore the effect on our health and well-being, and then, how this risky behaviour effects those we love. This becomes a vicious cycle where it is difficult to see hope for change, but it is there.

Talk to someone. Be accountable.

Stop the vicious cycle, see the flowers, find your hope.

LOW MAINTENANCE GARDENING

Enjoy not endure your garden

Low maintenance gardening doesn’t mean you cannot have a beautiful garden full of plants and interesting features. It does, however, take a bit of planning to get it right.

It is also important to get the right balance to live in harmony with the wildlife around us and retaining environmentally carbon capturing plants.

A few tips on how to achieve it..

Trees and evergreen shrubs require little maintenance apart from an annual trim. Flowering perennials only need the dead growth to be cut back in the winter

Bulbs and annuals are easiest grown in pots and containers. Use bark as a mulch on your beds to suppress weeds and stopping the soil drying out too quickly

Letting the corners go a bit wild will save work and encourage the butterflies and bees

Install a simple water feature and log wall for the wildlife

Sit back and enjoy.

If you would like some expert advice on creating your low maintenance garden that is also wildlife and environmentally friendly contact Colin to arrange a visit and free initial consultation.

“Creating the best of both worlds”

MeatballsinSpanish Sauce

Ingredients (for 12 people):

500gofMincedPork

500gofMincedBeef

2Eggs

100 gManchegoCheese

3ClovesofGarlic

1TablespoonChoppedParsley

1GlassofMilk

APinchofGroundCloves

1sliceofslicedbreadwithoutcrusts

FortheSauce:

1GlassofWhiteWine

1GlassofMeatStock

1GreenPepper

3Grated Tomatoes

2Carrots

2Garlic

1Onion

Oliveoil

SaltandPepper

Preparation:

Putthemincedmeatin abowltogether withthesliceofbread,previouslysoaked inmilk,theeggs,thegratedcheese,the choppedgarliccloves,thegroundcloves andtheparsley.Mixverywell.

Takesmallportionsofmeatandshapeinto balls.

Placeon abakingtrayandcookfor7 minutesat200c.

FortheSauce:

In afryingpanwithoil,frytheonionand garlicfor 5minutes,addthecarrotsand pepper,andfryfor another5minutes. Addthetomatoandcookfor 5minutes more.Thenaddthewine,letthealcohol evaporateandaddthestock,stirandcook for acoupleofminutes.

Finally,addthemeatballstothesauceand cookfor afurther15minutes.

ExperiencetheflavouroftheMediterranean,cuisinewithsoul,madewithlove,toteachandtransmit theGastronomicCultureofSpain.

Withsimple,fresh,aromatic,variedingredients,fullofflavourandsunshine. We make100%Spanish foodtoenjoyandshare. We don’tsellanything,everythingonthischannelisfreeandauthentic.

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UNDERSTANDINGEATINGDISORDERS

ByDrArmorelWood

Whatisaneatingdisorder?

Itisnotjustlimitedtothecommon disordersthatweallhaveheardof, forexample,anorexiaorbulimia.It encompassesanyunhealthybehaviour involvingfoodorconcernaboutweightor bodyimageandmayinvolvecontrolling foodinputthroughpurging,fastingor excessiveexercise.Itisbelievedthat 1.25millionpeopleintheUKsufferfrom thesedisorders.Surprisinglyperhaps25% ofsufferersaremaleand85%oftotal sufferersmaynotactuallybeunderweight. Thedisordermaynotnecessarilybeabout foodpersebutmay represent acoping mechanismtoallowthesufferertofeel incontrol.

Thecauseofthesedisordersisnot entirelyclearbutmayinvolve agenetic predispositionandthenanenvironmental trigger.Thelattermaybe amajorlifeevent suchas atrauma,bereavementorsexual abuseormayinvolvesomethingseemingly quitetrivialtoanobserver.Triggersmight be acriticism regardingbodyshape, weightoreatinghabitsormaybedueto pressurefromhobbiesorjobstomaintain acertainbodyshapesuchasballet, modelling,gymnasticsetc.Thosewith perfectionistorobsessivepersonalitiesare moreatrisk.

Eatingdisordersthriveonsecrecyand deceit.Itispartofthedisorderandcauses

addeddistressforfriendsandfamily members.Oftensufferersarepreoccupied aboutfoodandself-consciousabout eatingaroundothers.Theyoftenexercise andeatinsecret.Becausethismental healthdisorderisusuallyassociatedwith shame,guilt,anxiety,andlowself-esteem itisoftenaccompaniedwithlowmood, irritabilityandsocialwithdrawal.

Howshouldwebehavearoundourfriends andfamilythataresufferers?

Keeptryingtotalktothemeventhough youmightbemetwithangeranddenial thatanythingiswrong.Breakingthe secrecyisalwaysessentialfor recovery tooccur,andtheearliertreatmentoccurs thebetterchanceof recovery.Discuss howyoumighthelpbutavoidtrying totakecontrol.Focusonhowtheyare feelingratherthanfocusonweight,eating habitsoractivities.Howeverharditis,be patienttrynottoexpressanger,frustration ormakeaccusations.Focusandpraise positivethingsintheirlivesunrelatedto eatingorweighttotryandbuildtheirselfesteem.Keeptryingtoincludethemasthe isolationandwithdrawalonlyfeeds theproblem.

Watching alovedonewithaneating disordercanbeverydistressingandcause feelingsoffrustrationandhelplessness sobehonestaboutyourownfeelingsand reachoutforhelp,adviceandsupport fromyourGPoreatingdisorder charityBEAT.

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Cruising

By ColinSeager

FromStephanie’sviewpointintheconservatory, itseemedthatJackwasassaultingthe roses, notpruningthem.Shecontinuedwithherbook, althoughifanyonehadaskedthegistofthelast fewpages,shewouldhavebeenhardputtocome upwithanythingsensible.

AsthelateafternoonlightfadedJackhunghis secateursintheshed,wentindoorsandplonked into aLloydLoomnexttoher.‘Sorryaboutthat,old girl. Ihadtogetitoutofmysystem.’

“Don’tworry,I shareyourfrustration,putyourfeet up,I’llmakesometea. We needtotalkaboutit.’

‘No,no,youstaytheredarling.Doingthe roses clearedmyhead,althoughI’veprobablydone moreharmthangood;shouldhaveleftthemtothe gardener.Theyareourkids,butthey’vegonetoo farthistime.I’veanidea.’

Stephaniestoodupandputdownherbook. ‘Let’sgointheliving room. Ican’t bear lookingat my reflectionanylonger,particularlyfeelingthe way Ido.’

Tenminuteslater,tuckedintotheirfavourite chairs,Jackpouredthetea.‘Istillfindithardto believethattheycouldhavebeensoupinarms becausewedidn’tconsultthembeforewebooked the round-theworld-cruise.God,Steff,whenHarry questionedwhywewerespendinghisandBetsy’s moneyonthat, Inearlyexploded.’

‘Iknowdear,I wasthere. Youworriedme,any moreofthatandyouwon’tmakethe cruise anyway.Thetruthis,perhaps,we’vealwaysmade ittooeasyforthem. We’veworkedourbuttsoffto

getwhereweare today.They’veneverhadtowant foranything.’

‘ThetroubleisSteffyou’reright.It’sour fault,we ledthemtobelievetheyhad akindofaristocratic entitlement. We gavethembothprivateeducation, helpthroughuniversityandthey’vebeen beneficiariesoftheBankofMumandDad.Plus, inthelastfewyearswe’vedonethesameforthe grandchildren.’

Stefanieputdownhercup.‘Butmaybe,weare beingtooharsh,darling.Despiteeverything Istill lovethemtobits.Itsoundslikeyou’vedecided. How Ihatetheseconfrontations. Idon’twantto losethem.’

Jackwentoverandsatonthearmofherchair. ‘Don’tupsetyourself,don’tcry.I need asplashof somethingstrongerthantea.Howaboutyou?’She declinedhisinvitation.

Backinhischairhe reachedacrossandheld herhand.

‘Not adecisionSteff,but IknowwhatI’dliketo do.It’snotaboutteachingthem alesson,although Isupposeitprobablyis.Doyou remembera fewyearsagoforyourwritinggrouponeofthe exerciseswastowrite apieceofflashfictionwith thetitleDispensing?’

‘Could Ieverforget. Istruggledatfirstand finishedupwith astorytorivalJekyllandHyde; thatwentdownwellas Iremember.But Idon’t understand.’

‘Thatgotmethinking.Howaboutthis?First,we dispensesomejustice. We changeourwillssothat whenthelastofusdropsofftheperchthereisonly aperfunctoryamountofcashandthehouseto shareout.Second,fromtomorrowthingschange.’

‘Jack,you’reworryingme.Howdoyoumean, change?’

Now,moreatease,Jackdownedhis Glenmorangie.‘Hmm, Ineededthat.Righto.For monthswe’vetalkedaboutdecluttering,makingit easyforthekids,etal.So,let’sdothatinearnest. We dispensewithabsolutelyeverythingwedon’t needforourdailyliving.And,ifwewanttogo onanothertencruises,wedon’tdiscussit,we justgo…untilourmoneyrunsout.Howdoesthat sound?’

Stephanieseemedtoshedyearsassheturned andsmiled.‘You’vegotitallworkedoutdarling. Whydidn’tIthinkofthat? Idoloveyou.’

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What didyou do when yougot adivorce?

Thisonegoesouttoeveryonewhohasbeen divorcedorisgoingthrough aseparation rightnow.

In2016 Ipartedfrommyex-husband.Itwas theworstthingthathadeverhappenedin mylifeandnotsomething Ihadplannedor wishedfor.Infact,in2010 Ihad anightmare, dreamingthatmyexand Ihadsplit. Iwas so relievedtohearhimdownstairs.Maybea psychicpremonition? Youdecide.Itfreaked meoutandmystrengthofmyfeeling,made me releasethatthethoughtofbeingsinglein my50’swas notsomething Iwanted.

Rollon afewyearslaterandmynightmare wastobecomemy reality.

However,Iwastheonewhoforcedthe decision. Ihadbeenunhappyforsome timeandknewthat Iwould prefertobeon myownthanfaceyearsof adifferentkind ofloneliness,thelonelinessofanempty marriage.Itwasthehardestthing Ihad to face.Myown reality.

Inthesubsequentyears Iwastogothrough everyemotionfromfeelingliberatedto feelingincrediblysadanddesolate. Icame to realisealsohowco-dependent Ihadbeen. Itwasmuchmoretaxingthan Ithoughtit wouldbeand Iadmit, Ihavetakenyearsto heal.

Manypeoplecomeoutofmarriagesand quicklyfindnewlove,oratleastseekitbutI thinkyouneedtimetoheal.Itisokaytotake yourtime.

Ialsowas abletospeakopenlytomy husbandwithloveandkindnessabout wherewehadgonewrongbutwhatalsohad beenrightaboutourmarriage.

Forme, Irediscoveredtheoldmeand starteddoingthings Ihadwantedtodofor years.Clubbing,festivals,hiking,spiritual developmentevengetting atattooat50 yearsofage! Idonot regretanyofit,butI didlaughwhen Ireadanarticleabouthow manywomenwhodivorceintheir50’sgets atattoo.Andtherewasmethinking Iwasso unique –turnsoutnotso.

Whateveryoudo(tattoo’saside)and whereveryouareonthedivorcejourney, acceptthatyouhave abitoftimetomakeit throughtheothersideandthereisnoneed torush.Theharmonyyouseekiswithinyour grasp.

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LOCALHISTORY

Volodymyr Zelenskyy (1978-)

At atimeofnationalcrisisall we askofour Prime Ministeror Presidentisthattheylead by exampleanddon’t askus to doanythingthey’re notprepared to dothemselves.Inother words we want them to shareourpain. Igiveyou Volodymyr Zelenskyy (1978-),the Presidentof Ukraine.

Youmay besurprised at my choiceofsubject andmayquestionits ‘localhistory’credentials butthen,asJohn Donneintoned:‘No Manisan Island’. Kyivis twinnedwithits fellowcapitalcity of Edinburgh;thesteelcityofDonetskwithour ownsteelcityofSheffield; Lvivwith Rochdale; Odessa, acityI’vevisited,twinnedwith Liverpool,acityI’veworkedin; Luhansk twinned with Cardiff.JFK once said‘’Ichbinein Berliner’at theheightofthe Cold War: Nowa lotofus feel we areUkranian,inspirit at least.Asforhistory,I argueinoneof my talksthathistoryisconstantly beingmade,the Russianannexationof Crimeain 2014beingoneofthe examples Icite.

Volodymyr Zelenskyy ismorethaninteresting, aformeractorand comedianwhonowfinds himself PresidentofUkraineduringhisnation’s darkesthour.BorninaRussian-speakingpart ofsouth-eastUkraine,Zelenskyy obtaineda

lawdegreebutbranchedintocomedyand acting,includingone TV showinwhichhe prescientlyportrayedthe PresidentofUkraine. Whenhestood forthe real Presidencyin2019 hiscandidacywas centrist,populist,antiestablishmentandanti-corruption. Political outsiderhemayhavebeen buthe rompedhome with over73%ofthe vote.Hedulybecamethe 6th PresidentofanindependentUkrainein May2019,hisparty ‘Servant ofthe People’(such shouldallpoliticalpartiesbe).

Zelenskyy’s styleismodern. Whilst Trump took to Twitter,Volodymyrtakes to Instagram. Whilst hehashadsomesuccessas Presidenthealso hascritics,suchistheacceptedlotofpoliticians. Everythingchanged forhimandhiscountry in February2022whenRussialauncheda full-scaleinvasion. ‘Comeththehour’theysay. Zelenskyy wasgiventheopportunitytofleeand establish agovernmentinexilebutdeclined.‘I needammunition,not aride’. Whenhis country neededleadershiphe wasthereonsocialmedia onthecapital’s streetsin Army-stylefatigues vowing,Churchillian-style,thatRussiantroops wouldseeUkrainianfacesnotbacks.Whilsta refugeecrisisunfoldedwith womenandchildren fleeing,menwho’d neverhandled agun were puttingdownlibrarybooks,lathesandlab equipmentandpickingup rifles, inspired bya Presidentstanding four-squarewithhispeople. In anotherof my talksI saythereisnogreater urgethan to defendhomeandhearthagainst foreigninvasion.Hereisanother examplewrit large.

Idon’t know ifthereare Ukraniancitizensliving inourareawhowillget to readthisbutifthere areIhavethissimplemessage foryou: Your countryismycountry. Your Presidentismy President.

ByStephenRoberts www.steveroberts.org.uk Twitter:@SRChristchurch

PrioryVeterinaryGroup, 59 Purewell,ChristchurchBH231EN

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StressFreePetsatthe Vets

Howtoprepareyourpetsfor atriptothevets

HereatPriory Vets weloveseeingyouand yourfurryfriends. We wanteveryvisittous tobe ahappy,stress-freeexperiencefor everyoneinvolved,sohereare afew handy tipsonhavingthebesttriptothevets.

We highly recommendyougetpuppiesand kittensusedtogentlehandlingtechniques earlyonathome.Thiscaninvolvegentle restraint,touchingtheirfeetandnails, lookingintheirears,andcheckingtheir teeth.Iftheyexperienceallofthisatan earlyagethentheywillbecomeusedto itanditwon’tbeasunfamiliarwhenit happensatthevets.

Dogsshouldbewearingwell-fittedcollars andharnesseswithappropriateleads sotheycanbekeptundercontrolifthey become abittooboisterousornervous.A pocketfuloftastytreatsisalso ausefultool tokeepthemdistractedandcalm.

It’salsohelpfultotellyourvetornursewhat commandsyourdogknowsandwhatkind oftreatstheylike, aseverydogis differentandyou mayhavetaught themdifferent wordsorhand signals.Ifwecan communicatewith yourdogbetterit makesourjob alot easierandenables themtotrustus moreandbecome morerelaxed.

Catsnotoriouslydonotlikegoingintotheir carriers –especiallytothevets.Thebest waytocombatthisistomakethecarrier afamiliar,comfortableplace. Trytokeep thecarrieroutatalltimesinthehouse somewhere,with acomfyblanketinside. Thiswayyourcatwillseeitasmoreofa safespaceandwillhopefullyuseitasa bed. Youcouldalsofeedyourcatinthereor givelotsoftreatssotheyassociateitwith goodthings.

Ifyouareshoppingfor anewcatcarrier,we advisegetting a‘top-loading’oneorone withaneasily removablelid.Thismeans whenbeingcheckedatthevetstheycanbe easilytakenoutofthecarrierorexamined whilestillinit.Thisisultimately alot less stressfulforyourcat,sotheyarelesslikely tobecomemorenervousorlashoutinfear.

AtPriory Vetsallthestaffwillhandleyour petsin apatientandgentlemanner.Ifyou canputtheseideasandtoolsintoplacewe canallworktogethertomakeyourpets’trip tothevets afun,enjoyableexperience.

BIRD WATCHING

By ValerieKelly

Withmigrationjustaroundthe cornerthere willbemuch excitementofreturningbirds to breedinour country. Thefirstofwhichwillbe Wheatears,Sand Martinsand YellowWagtails. Of otherinterest,aGlossy Ibishas returned to the Marshand roosts overonHengistbury Head.

Many birdsarenow insongincluding Song Thrushes,Dunnocks,Skylarksandtheodd Blackbird. Thereasonthesebirdsaresinging nowistowardoffotherbirdsfromentering theirbreeding territory.Itwasthoughtthat onlythemalebirdssingbut recent studieshave foundthatsomespeciesof femalesalsosing. Ourbeautiful redbreasted Robinshave long been knowntosingallthroughthe yearand bothmaleand femalesbirdsproduceatruly beautifuland variedsong.

We know thatbirdsmigrateto this country to breeddue to optimum availabilityoffood sourceswhich theyneed to sustaintheir young. Birdsmakethousandsofmilelongjourneys from Africaandoftenarrive tired,dehydrated, worn outandhungry.Ifyousee abirdsitting

still,itmay justneed to chilland rest forawhile. TheArtic Tern makesthe longestjourneyas itmigratesfrompole to pole.Theirjourney canbeup to 22,000miles ayear.Theymove betweenthe Articsummerand Antarctic

summerandareseen regularlypassingthrough HengistburyHeadtobreedinnorthand west of Scotlandand Ireland.

Thebirdwatchingboat tripthatweheldin MarchfromPoole to Warehamproved very popularandisoneofthe excitingadvantages ofbeing amemberwithsightingsof avariety ofGrebesandDiversamongstother marshbirds.

Glossy Ibis by Scott Usher

YellowWagtail by Scott Usher

Wheatear by Scott Usher

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