Make It Better February 2014 by Make It Better

FEBRUARY 2014

Make It Better Restaurant Week 2014 Camp Guide Charleston is for Lovers Date-Night Fashion

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contents VOLUME 5, ISSUE 4

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Where Food & Love Meet By Laura Hine, Melanie Wagner and Lisa Zimbler Charleston is for Lovers By Lisa Zimbler Cooking Camps for Kids and Teens By Beth Engelman Labor of Love By Tate Gunnerson Date-Night Chic By Evangeline Politis

Tantalizing Tanta By Julie Chernoff

on our cover Chocolates provided by Leonidas and Chocolatier Piron, Evanston Champagne flutes and placemats provided by Peachtree Place, Northfield Styled by Julie Chernoff and Sarah Philippart Photographed by Anjali Pinto

CORRECTION

On page 44 of our January 2014 issue, Dr. Cherise Russo of NorthShore Orthopaedics was mistakenly referenced as Dr. Cherise Russ. We regret the error.

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dining & entertainment

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Bring Back the Family Dinner By Beth Engelman Great Camps Directory

Managing Food Allegeries at Overnight Camp By Beth Engelman

make a difference

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a better you

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Find Warmth in Drama By Robert Loerzel

Better Makers and Their Impact Call of Duty By Lisa Zimbler

Should You Move from the Suburbs to the City? By Marjie Killeen

in every issue

To File Jointly or Separately? By Meghan Streit

editorâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s letter

tech mamma lounge

you said it

new in the northern suburbs

recommended events

Be My Glam Valentine By Julie Chernoff and Susan B. Noyes 5 Lingerie Styles for Every Body Type By Jenny Muslin Sharable Beauty for You and Your Sweetie By Jenny Muslin

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make it better column

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give time, give things, give support

closing thoughts

Carrying forward the best of magazine

MISSION STATEMENT The mission of Make It Better is to be the most-trusted, easiestto-use community resource and magazine that helps you make your life, and the lives of others, better.

Make It Better North Shore (ISSN No. 2151-0431) is published 12 times per year by Make It Better LLC, 588 Lincoln Avenue, Winnetka, IL 60093. Phone: 847.256.4642. Copyright 2014 by Make It Better LLC. All rights reserved. Application to Mail at Periodicals Rates is pending at Wilmette, IL and additional mailing offices. POSTMASTER: Send address changes to: Make It Better, 588 Lincoln Avenue, Winnetka, IL 60093. Make It Better is registered in the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office. Copyright 2014 by Make It Better LLC. All rights reserved.

Is Monogamy Realistic? An Interview with fellow sex columnist Dan Savage By Marjie Killeen

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Hot Reads for Cold Nights By Kelly Konrad

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for the love of food by julie chernoff

Food. Love. My two favorite things—I won’t say in which order. When you combine them, as we have in this issue, it’s simply ir-

resistible (at least we certainly hope so). With that in mind, we give you local artisanal chocolates for you and your sweetie (pg. 28), the best sparkling wines (pg. 30), and romantic spots (pg. 26) for that perfect cork-popping occasion. Need further inspiration? Be tantalized by Tanta (pg. 68), a new Peruvian hot spot in River North; find the perfect date-night fashions (pg. 56); take a romantic weekend trip with your honey (pg. 34); or read a book that just might light your fire (pg. 72). We’ve got love for the family, too. We want to Bring Back the Family Dinner (pg. 36), and we’ve even got some great recommendations for cooking camps for your budding Stephanie Izards and Rick Baylesses (pg. 38).

Or bring them to MIB’s Restaurant Week (February 17–24)! Visit one of our partners (pg. 32-33) with the coupon in hand. You’ll get a special deal, and a deserving nonprofit will get $5. It’s that easy. And for the sweetest possible ending, don’t miss our Closing Thoughts (pg. 82) for a love story that started at a coffee shop and ended up at the altar. We must agree with the wise words of the late Charles M. Schulz, creator of the seminal Peanuts comic strip, who said, “All you need is love. But a little chocolate doesn’t hurt.” Bon Appetit!

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recipes you can’t miss: THE BEST MAC & CHEESE VEGETABLE TORTILLA SOUP

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Be pretty in pastels this Valentine’s Day. This super-sweet combo is perfect for a casual dinner-and-a-movie date.

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Full of articles to make your life easier and better. Articles will cover topics such as: family home health recipes education

Focus on fun for the weekend! Articles will cover topics such as: where to go new restaurants to try what’s happening in the northern suburbs and Chicago quick & easy ways to make a difference fashion & beauty

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Homemade blueberry muffins with crumb topping. YUM.

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Thanks for sharing your restaurant love stories this month! Here’s one of our favorites from reader Liz Geifman (flip to pg. 82 for another!): “February 21, 1992—Dinner was too much

of a commitment for a blind date, so we decided to meet for drinks at the old City Tavern on Monroe Street in Chicago. I walked through the revolving door of the restaurant to find my date standing there awaiting my arrival. “The mutual friend who had fixed us up had given each of us a disclaimer, ‘You’re perfect for each other, but… she’s an artsy type / he’s a conservative banker.’ In spite of that, [there were] a number of things that we would learn we had in common. Our birthdays were a day apart; we both wanted large families; we had the same political views; and we were reading the same book (not a current best seller, but ‘Atlas Shrugged’ by Ayn Rand—a book that neither of us would ever finish). “Drinks went well and neither of us were in a hurry for the date to end, so we relocated to Panda Panda, which I think is now Panda Express, near Presidential Towers. At the end of our meal, we opened our fortune cookies and my date’s fortune read: ‘Your future happiness is across the table’—a little embarrassing at the time, but prophetic nonetheless.

“Three months later we were engaged, and the following February 14, 1993, we were married at the Orrington Hotel in Evanston. “Four kids and two dogs later, this February 14 we will celebrate our 21st wedding anniversary. And true to our mutual friend’s disclaimer, my husband, Dave, didn’t save the fortune from our first date, but he did save the dinner check from Panda Panda.”

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Pamper Yourself Dr. Geoffrey Fenner has been one of the most highly respected plastic surgeons in the Chicago area for years, and his new medical spa now gives patients surgical and non-surgical treatment options. This beautiful spa opened in September and offers medical-grade facials and peels, Fraxel laser skincare, IPL (photofacials), laser hair removal and more. You can also receive a complimentary skin consultation in their beautiful, state-of-the-art facility. Fenner Plastic Surgery & Medical Spa: 512 Green Bay Rd., 3rd Floor, Kenilworth, 847-716-2400, fennerplasticsurgery.com —AC

Spice It Up Highland Park has gotten a whole lot spicier! Spice merchant Love That Spice has opened their first retail store, and owner Marlena Jayatilake wants the community to know about the many health benefits that come with a spicefilled diet. You’ll find gift baskets, spice and salt blends, extracts and more. Discover spice-laden recipes, like Acorn Squash Chips with Apple Pie Spice or Savory Orange-Ginger Pork Tenderloin, on their helpful website. But you can only get the full olfactory effect if you visit the store itself… and that’s more than worth the trip! Love That Spice: 474 Central Ave., Highland Park, 847-7804658, lovethatspice.com —JC

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Dragonfly returns There’s a new way to one-stop shop in Evanston, no matter your style. Find vintage and contemporary clothing, jewelry, home décor and accessories at Dragonfly. Owner and Evanston native Amy Boone originally opened the shop in Lakeview, selling fusion décor, but the store closed in 2007. After spending the past few years focusing on home staging, interior design and trunk shows, Boone’s bringing all that experience to the new Dragonfly, which supports fair trade and Made in America. Dragonfly: 1309 Chicago Ave., Evanston, 847733-0613 —AC

It’s All About the Pie If there’s one thing we know, it’s that there’s no such thing as too much pie. Especially when it’s made by Paula Haney and accompanied by a strong cup of joe, courtesy of Dollop Coffee & Tea Co. The two have joined forces on “the corner of coffee and pie” at Evanston’s new Hoosier Mama Pie Company, where you’ll find delectable sweet and savory pies, quiches, biscuit and egg sandwiches, scones, sandwiches, handpies and more calories than you can shake a stick at. Hoosier Mama Pie Company: 749 Chicago Ave., Evanston, 847868-8863, hoosiermamapie.com —JC

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The Dinner Detective 1 February 1, 8, 14, 15 & 22 Millennium Knickerbocker Hotel, 163 E. Walton Pl., Chicago thedinnerdetective.com Enjoy a four-course meal while solving a murder mystery at this award-winning interactive comedy show. Set in present day, the actors are dressed just like everyone else, making it that much harder to figure out who’s who. The murderer might just be sitting next to you. Feb

Princess Ball February 1 | Glenview Park Center, 2400 Chestnut Ave., Glenview glenviewparks.org You and your little princess can get dressed up and enjoy a night of dancing, music and food. This event is perfect for children ages 4–12 with an adult. Feb

Frindle 6 February 6–14 | Metropolis Performing Arts Centre, 111 W. Campbell St., Arlington Heights | metropolisarts.com Andrew Clements’ book comes to life with this play that celebrates creativity. It’s a fun way to spend time with your fourththrough eighth-graders. Feb

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BritBeat: America’s Premier 8 Tribute to The Beatles February 8 | North Shore Center for the Performing Arts, 9501 Skokie Blvd., Skokie northshorecenter.org Celebrate the 50th Anniversary of The Beatles’ performance on ”The Ed Sullivan Show” with this recreation concert. You’ll experience each era of the band’s music through costume and vintage instruments, as well as stage mannerisms and those Liverpool accents. Feb

Second City’s Incomplete Guide 8 to Everything February 8–23 | UP Comedy Club, 230 W. North Ave., Chicago | upcomedyclub.com Forget everything you thought you knew about everything, and instead enjoy this comedy show that slightly alters all that information you learned in college.

know John Corbett is also a musician? The “Sex and the City” and “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” star will play songs from his latest album, “Leaving Nothin’ Behind.” An Evening with 14 Bernadette Peters February 14 | Genesee Theatre, 203 N. Genesee St., Waukegan | geneseetheatre.com Spend your Valentine’s Day with a Tony Award winner. This is a one-night only performance, so don’t miss your chance to hear one of Broadway’s best voices live. Feb

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Snow Days Chicago 2014 February 8–9 | Gateway Park, 600 E. Grand Ave., Chicago | navypier.com Stop by Navy Pier to see what professional snow sculptors can do with 10-foot blocks of snow. As the competition gets heated, stay cool with snow painting, snowboarding and more. Feb

Joshua Bell Returns 12 February 12 | Symphony Center, 220 S. Michigan Ave., Chicago | cso.org This incredibly talented violinist is coming back to Chicago. Enjoy Beethoven’s Violin Sonata in G Major, Op. 96 and Stravinsky’s Divertimento from “The Fairy’s Kiss,” among other works. Feb

John Corbett at City Winery u February 13 | City Winery, 1200 W. Randolph St., Chicago | citywinery.com He’s an accomplished actor, but did you Feb

The Orchid Show February 15–March 16 | Chicago Botanic Garden, 1000 Lake Cook Rd., Glencoe | chicagobotanic.org All you’ve seen for months is snow, so change things up with this colorful show. Interested in learning more about these revered flowers? Chicago Botanic Garden scientists will be presenting research on endangered orchids in the Midwest. Feb

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Chicago Auto Show February 8–17 | McCormick Place, 2301 S. Lake Shore Dr., Chicago | chicagoautoshow.com This is the largest auto show in North America, and you don’t want to miss it! In its 106th year, the show will host Women’s Day on February 11, and all female attendees will receive discounted admission. Programs that day will also be geared toward women. FEB

Smarty Pants’ Big Balloon Show – “Have Balloon, Will Travel” February 17 | Winnetka Community House, 620 Lincoln Ave., Winnetka | winnetkacommunityhouse.org Who knew you could do so many things with balloons? This travel-themed show will take you on an adventure with an airplane, some cavemen and a motorcycle jump— all using balloons. And for the first time ever, the show will end with Balloon 3D. FEB

Piano Man: A Tribute to Elton John & Billy Joel February 21 | Metropolis Performing Arts Centre, 111 W. Campbell St., Arlington Heights | metropolisarts.com It’s two tribute shows in one! Sing and dance to the songs of these celebrated pop pianists.

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Lady Antebellum’s Take Me #DowntownTour February 26 | Allstate Arena, 6920 N. Mannheim Rd., Rosemont | allstatearena.com This country group is heading to Rosemont, and Kip Moore and Kacey Musgraves are joining them. Make it a date night or bring your teens. Either way, you’ll be dancing and singing the night away. FEB

Little Women  February 27–March 2 | Cahn Auditorium, 600 Emerson St., Evanston pickstaiger.org Fall in love with the classic all over again with this operatic adaptation. The show is produced and directed by Northwestern’s Bienen School of Music opera department. FEB

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february highlights By anna carlson

Drew and Ellie Holcomb February 14 SPACE, 1245 Chicago Ave., Evanston evanstonspace.com Weekend Family Class: Homemade Ice Cream February 16 Chicago Botanic Garden, 1000 Lake Cook Rd., Glencoe | chicagobotanic.org Neighborhoods of the World: Chinese Celebration February 16 Crystal Gardens at Navy Pier, 700 E. Grand Ave., Chicago | navypier.com

Super Bowl Fun Day with Whole Foods Market of Northbrook February 1 The Book Market at Hangar One, 2651 Navy Blvd., Glenview | theglentowncenter.com Chocolate Expo p February 1 –2 Morton Arboretum, 4100 Illinois Route 53, Lisle | mortonarb.org Dramatic Reading of Poems to Celebrate Black History Month February 3 Noyes Cultural Arts Center, 927 Noyes St., Evanston | cityofevanston.org Astro-Overnights February 7 Adler Planetarium, 1300 S. Lake Shore Dr., Chicago | adlerplanetarium.org Zurko’s Antiques & Collectibles Flea Market February 8–9 Lake County Fairgrounds, 1060 E. Peterson Rd., Grayslake | lcfair.com

february 10–16 Chicago Theatre Week February 11–16 Various | choosechicago.com

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february 17–23 Canvas & Wine February 18 Sunset Valley Golf Course, 1390 Sunset Rd., Highland Park | pdhp.org Chinese Golden Dragon Acrobats February 19–20 North Shore Center for the Performing Arts, 9501 Skokie Blvd., Skokie | northshorecenter.org 47th Annual Elmhurst College Jazz Festival February 20–23 Elmhurst College, 190 Prospect Ave., Elmhurst public.elmhurst.edu

february 24–28 Richard Thompson with Special Guest Teddy Thompson February 24–26 City Winery, 1200 W. Randolph St., Chicago citywinery.com Sleep Under the Skyscrapers: Indoor Overnight February 28 Lincoln Park Zoo, 2001 N. Clark St., Chicago lpzoo.org Wayne Brady “It’s My Line” Tour February 28 The Chicago Theatre, 175 N. State St., Chicago thechicagotheatre.com

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ongoing Treasures of the Walt Disney Archives Museum of Science and Industry, 5700 S. Lake Shore Dr., Chicago | msichicago.org When the Greeks Ruled Egypt Art Institute of Chicago, 111 S. Michigan Ave., Chicago | artic.edu Siam: The Queen and the White City Chicago History Museum, 1601 N. Clark St., Chicago | chicagohistory.org Ruth Gruber: Photojournalist Illinois Holocaust Museum & Education Center, 9603 Woods Dr., Skokie ilholocaustmuseum.org City Self Museum of Contemporary Art, 220 E. Chicago Ave., Chicago | mcachicago.org EAC Biennial Student Show Evanston Art Center, 2603 Sheridan Rd., Evanston | evanstonartcenter.org Cabaret Marriott Theatre, 10 Marriott Dr., Lincolnshire marriotttheatre.com Tom Jones ď ° Northlight Theatre, 9501 Skokie Blvd., Skokie northlight.org

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On loving children despite differences B y Co co K e e va n

For so many parents, that feeling of, “Who are you?” when looking at their children is like an inescapable déjà vu. And it’s a universal experience. “All of us have children who sometimes seem very alien,” says author Andrew Solomon, who presented his bestseller “Far from the Tree” to a packed auditorium for a Family Action Network (FAN) event. “Every family experiences difference and has moments where they are shocked and bewildered by their own child.”

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Solomon expressed how parental acceptance of children, as shining or shocking as their differences may be, is key to fostering the development of a child’s identity. “Far from the Tree” chronicles the experiences of 12 families dealing with a spectrum of differences. From deafness to disability to criminal behavior, Solomon explores the development of identity outside the conditions of family. Solomon’s question is one these parents were all faced with: “How do you nurture a child who may be unlike anything you’ve encountered before?” Through his research, Solomon determined that there are two types of identity: vertical and horizontal. Vertical identities are those passed down from parent to child—ethnicity, language, religion and nationality—while horizontal identities are shared between like peers rather than between parent and child, such as homosexuality, physical disability or psychopathy. For children born distinct from their parents, like a deaf child born to hearing parents or a prodigy born into an average family, there is the haunting question of how to fix an issue—or if an issue should be fixed. “Parenthood abruptly catapults us into a permanent relationship with a stranger,” Solomon writes. “And the more alien the stranger, the stronger the whiff of negativity.” When faced with a challenging disability, should a parent pursue every educational and medical avenue to ease a difficult path, or should the goal be acceptance and growth? “Love should be there from the very beginning, and acceptance takes time,” Solomon says. A dedicated solution to correct a difference, like the dyslexia that Solomon himself endured, can be beneficial to children.

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But to attempt to fix an inherent difference, like sexuality or dwarfism, can be detrimental to the child’s development. “(Parents) need to recognize that there are many ways to lead a happy life, and the parents’ way is not the only way of doing it. Be open to discovering the child’s way.” For children growing up in privileged environments, the impetus of bewildered parents is to fix or change the circumstances. “I think parents that are used to being able to repair anything that goes wrong often have a harder time accepting that than parents that are used to being out of control in their own lives,” Solomon says. “Fixing is the illness model; acceptance is the identity model—which way any family goes reflects their assumptions and resources,” he writes. There is an inherent loneliness in difference, of coming up askew of the expectations of wide-eyed and hopeful parents; but if those parents are adapting, supporting, loving and, ultimately, accepting, children can grow from such variance. “Everyone has a defect,” Solomon writes. “Everyone has an identity, and they are often one and the same.” Loving, Solomon says, is easy. It’s acceptance and, eventually, celebration of difference that takes time and commitment. Acceptance strengthens the parent-child relationship and contributes to a child’s acceptance of self. As a parent, that’s the best gift you can give your children: teaching them to love themselves.

Upcoming FAN speakers include author and journalist David Sheff (February 5); California’s favorite chef, Alice Waters (April 8); and Professor Temple Grandin (May 21). For more information, visit familyactionnetwork.net

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We’re told that you need three things to survive: food, shelter and clothing. But we would argue that love is equally sustaining, and that food and love are inextricably intertwined. Can you picture a Valentine’s Day without chocolate? Or Champagne? More importantly, why would you want to? For this issue, we’ve rounded up some fabulous, local artisanal chocolates that are worth every penny—and calorie. You’ll find a useful primer to buying bubbly, and a guide to the most romantic engagement spots to create the ultimate combination of food and love. Ain’t love grand?

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to pop the question

BY LISA ZIMBLER

“Will you marry me?” is the most important question you’ll ever ask. So before you put a ring on it, consider how you’ll set the stage for this ultimate interlude for two, or to celebrate subsequent anniversaries.

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BOOK A TABLE AT ONE of these six finedining restaurants that serve up all the ingredients needed to start an engagement off right: great food, stellar service and a breathtaking view or romantic room that will leave your beloved uttering only one word in response: “Yes!” Be sure to let the head maître d’ or general manager in on your plans to propose well in advance so they can ensure your evening goes off without a hitch. Consider hiring a professional photographer or videographer to discreetly capture the emotion of the moment on film. THE EVEREST ROOM

Boasting one of the most magnificent views in the city from the 40th floor of the Chicago Stock Exchange Building, the Everest Room has set the bar high for engagements over the past 25 years. With a French-Alsatian menu and impressive wine list, legendary Chef John Joho’s culinary star continues to shine. A recent proposal here was completely arranged by the staff in a private dining room with a table for two covered in rose petals and candles, with a vintage bottle of champagne and a luxurious tin of caviar. A French tenor completed the scene by serenading the couple. 440 S. LaSalle St., Chicago, 312-663-8920, everestrestaurant.com LES NOMADES

Countless engagements and several small weddings have taken place in this charming Streeterville brownstone with a lovely courtyard garden entrance. Couples have made this intimate European-style dining room an anniversary tradition, even requesting the same table year after year. Mary Beth Liccioni, owner of this classical French institution opened originally as

a private dining club in the ‘70s, suggests requesting one of their corner tables upstairs or the romantic banquette for two. She is happy to personally assist with flowers and a custom menu, and will even present the ring from under a glass dome with dessert. 222 E. Ontario St., Chicago, 312-649-0608, lesnomades.net OCEANIQUE

Revered for Chef Mark Grosz’ traditional French seafood and meat dishes prepared with an eclectic American twist, this charming neighborhood restaurant underwent a summer renovation in 2013, adding several cozy banquettes ideal for close encounters for two. Since 1989, Oceanique has colluded with many a groom to pull off the perfect proposal, including slipping a ring into a glass of champagne; printing the words “Will you marry me?” atop a dessert menu; and arranging an a cappella group to sing a groom’s intentions to his future bride. 505 Main St., Evanston, 847-864-3435, oceanique.com R E S TA U R A N T M I C H A E L

This North Shore favorite has a following well beyond its borders clamoring for Chef Michael Lachowicz’ classical interpretations of traditional French dishes, like the Butter-Poached Maine Lobster in Cognac-Scented Lobster Sauce or Dover Sole a la Française. Proposals are best suited in the sought-after seclusion of Booth #6, or in front of a roaring fire in the private dining room. Chef Michael is happy to personally create a menu to suit the couple and the occasion. 64 Green Bay Rd., Winnetka, 847-441-3100, restaurantmichael.com SIXTEEN

From the 16th floor of the Trump Hotel & Towers, the two-star Mi-

chelin-rated Sixteen boasts 30-foot floor-to-ceiling windows with panoramic views of Lake Michigan and the Chicago River. An outdoor rooftop space adjacent to the restaurant is the perfect warm-weather spot to pop the question. Then move into the chic, modern dining room to enjoy the cuisine of Executive Chef Thomas Lents, who will personally create a special surprise menu for the future bride and groom. A recent engagement staged in a private dining room involved the entire staff greeting the future bride by each handing her a single red rose, creating a beautiful bouquet for the table. 401 N. Wabash Ave., Chicago, 312-588-8030, sixteenchicago.com SPIAGGIA

The Obamas have been regulars; the President and First Lady even chose to celebrate their 20th anniversary by dining at this award-winning Italian restaurant with unsurpassed views of Michigan Avenue and Oak Street Beach. With Chef Tony Mantuano still at the culinary helm, Spiaggia continues to impress foodies and critics alike, and is poised to celebrate a special anniversary of its own (30 years!) by unveiling an exciting new renovation of its fine dining room in March. The staff at Spiaggia regularly assists with engagements, doing their best to reserve a prime window spot for the occasion and send the happy couple home with a complimentary bottle of Champagne along with an invitation to return on their first anniversary. Special offers are available for couples who also choose to book their wedding event in Spiaggia’s private event space. 980 N. Michigan Ave., Chicago, 312-280-2750, spiaggiarestaurant.com

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you skipped the chocolate because you were watching your weight. Haven’t we all agreed that it’s fine to eat a piece of delicious chocolate every day? If you haven’t had this epiphany, get on board! Here’s the secret: If you indulge in a piece of dark chocolate, you won’t be tempted to graze on ridiculous empty calories, (like that handful of sugary cereal). This year, upgrade your romance with chocolate. Ignore the dimestore hearts with their vanillian (a fake flavoring) and PGPR (a cocoa butter substitute). Ask your beloved for some delicious, artisanal chocolate from one of these amazing local sources.

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The European-based Leonidas is more than 100 years old, and still makes chocolates using the traditional methods of its Belgian founder. The chocolates, plus hard-to-find favorites like candied orange peels and Pâte de Fruits, are flown in weekly during the busy season. Valentine’s Day Favorites: Owner Marie Douailly says that the half-pound box is very popular at just $22, and people frequently come in and buy six or 10 of them. Even more festive are the heart-shaped boxes, which range in price from $35-48. Leonidas: 59 East Chicago Ave., Chicago; 1907 Central St., Evanston; 1348 Shermer Rd., Northbrook, 847-686-0100, leonidas-usa.com

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Pediatrician Heather Johnston changed careers from doctor to chocolatier after taking a class at the French Pastry School and realizing that her growing hobby was meant to be her vocation. She opened Veruca in late 2011, and found instant acclaim for her gorgeous and delicious reinventions of classic American tastes. Currently, the retail space is simply the front nook of the production kitchen, but she welcomes customers there and also sells through local stores like Foodstuffs and The Goddess & Grocer, as well as the Veruca website. Valentine’s Day Favorites: From simple to sublime, you can choose a box of nine bonbons or four delicious turtles for $20, or move up to a stunning 36-piece, twist-open box for $75. Don't miss the fabulous caramels! Veruca Chocolates: 2409 N. Western Ave., Chicago, 773-998-2462, verucachocolates.com

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Founder and chocolatier Katrina Markoff started her chocolate voyage in Paris at the Cordon Bleu shortly after graduating from Vanderbilt. She continued on to Spain, where she apprenticed with the famed Ferran Adrià, and continued her travels through Australia and Asia. Along the way, the idea for Vosges’ international flavor palette was born. Markoff’s delicious infusions of non-traditional flavors, like chili, curry and balsamic vinegar, have won her deserved acclaim. Valentine’s Day Favorites: The gift to give from Vosges this holiday is their Noir Truffle Collection. At $48 it comes in a heart box with a modern design. For smaller gifts, the bars are popular and cost about $8. Vosges Haut ChocolaT: 520 N. Michigan Ave., Chicago, 312-644-9405; 951 W. Armitage, Chicago, 773-296-9866; also available at their O’Hare shop for that last-minute purchase on the way home from a business trip, vosgeschocolate.com

In business for 30 years, Bob Piron hasn’t stayed at the top of the chocolate heap by cutting corners. He trained in Belgium and continues to make exquisite small-batch chocolate. Any doubts, just take a deep breath when you walk into the store and let the aroma sweep you away to a very happy place. To further the bliss, order a hot chocolate. It’s drinkable chocolate ganache, served with fresh whipped cream. Valentine’s Day Favorites: Going old school, Piron brings back red-velvet hearts for the holiday. Fill with a half-pound for $27 or go big and get a full pound for $50 (make sure to include the Passion Fruit Ganache and a few Hartjies). For friends, a solid chocolate heart costs just $2.25 and a bag of little solid hearts costs $7. Belgian Chocolatier Piron : 509-A Main St., Evanston, 847864-5504, belgchocpiron.com

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A veteran pastry chef, Uzma Sharif decided after 16 years spent working in restaurants to focus on chocolate. She started small, selling at the farmers’ market in Western Springs, but soon her following grew and she opened a retail boutique in the South Loop. She makes all the chocolate on site, and even offers classes during her less-busy times. We loved her original flavors that reflect her South Asian heritage like the Kashmiri Chai Truffle. Valentine’s Day Favorites: For romance, the handmade paper heart box is the play for $55. To give to friends, she offers smaller, three-piece boxes for $7.50. Special Note: 2nd Fridays Gallery Night, when the Chicago Arts District galleries and shops open their doors, is February 14 from 6-10 p.m. For more information, go to chicagoartsdistric.org. Chocolat Uzma ShariF: 1823 S. Halsted St., Chicago, 312-6943471, chocolatuzma.com

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There’s just something special about wine with bubbles. Not only is it emotive and sensual, but it’s beautiful as well; nothing’s prettier than thousands of tiny bubbles dancing around in your glass. Hand someone a glass of Champagne and they immediately stand straighter and speak more eloquently. It’s magic, instantly transforming you into the most sophisticated, most charming version of yourself. So pop the cork! Here’s what, why and when to do it:

True Champagne comes only from the prestigious, iconic Champagne region in France. It’s cold there, and most years, grapes struggle to ripen fully. Low yields, combined with the industry’s most labor-intensive winemaking, equal expensive wines. There’s nothing like Champagne’s crisp and earthy flavors of tart lemon, green apple, chalk and butter and its fresh-baked-biscuit aromas. They cost more, but the finest examples (from grower-owned wineries) are worth the splurge. Open a bottle of Champagne to feel regal and sexy, or if you’re planning on proposing. Try Michel Turgy Grand Cru Blanc de Blanc brut ($40) or Egly-Ouriet Tradition Grand Cru brut ($60).

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Ahhhh, cava. Cheap and cheerful cava is one of the world’s great wine values. Cava may be scrappy, but even top sommeliers and winemakers admit to guzzling it from time to time. It’s just so easy and likeable. Producers in northern Spain use Champagne methods to make their wine, but the lower land cost, higher yields, and more prolific grape varieties make for a much more reasonably priced wine. Most cost less than $15! Cava from a great producer is the kind of guilt-free wine you can proudly pop for your sweetheart on a special occasion, or an otherwise uneventful Tuesday night. Try Cristalino brut ($7), Kila Cava ($8) or Raventós i Blanc reserva brut ($20).

Another sparkling darling that won’t break the bank is Moscato d’Asti, northern Italy’s slightly sweet, totally irresistible wine. Aromas of peach, apricot, melon and pretty white flowers (think honeysuckle, orange blossom, jasmine and gardenia) are seductive, and the kiss of sugar makes them a great choice for pairing with spicy foods or dessert. Moscato d’Asti is a guaranteed palate pleaser for folks who think Champagne is too dry. Saracco ($12) and Ceretto Santo Stefano ($20) are two of my perennial favorites.

Sparkling pink wines from California are gorgeous and charismatic. The best toe the line between juicy and tart red fruits. They are thirst quenching, almost gulp-able, with flavors like kirsch and wild raspberry. Fuller body and more structure (usually thanks to pinot noir) mean you can pair these wines with a variety of foods, even pork or lean red meats. Open them on Valentine’s Day, or any other day, and watch your significant other swoon. Some of my favorite pink sparklers are Roederer Estate brut rosé ($25) and Schramsberg brut rosé ($35).

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FA M I LY | travel

MANTIC weekend for two or a getaway

with the girls, the charming intercoastal city of Charleston, South Carolina may be the perfect place to relax, unwind or fall in love again. It’s known for its well-mannered hospitality and well-preserved history, but what you’re sure to fall hard for are the unique shopping districts, celebrated restaurants and festive night life. Take a horse-drawn carriage ride past stately centuries-old mansions, savor fresh-from-the-dock seafood and low-country cuisine, tour antebellum plantation homes, or stroll along gaslamp-lit cobblestone streets at night. Spring is a great time to go; temps are enjoyable (summers can be sticky and hot), and many of the city’s best festivals are in full swing, including the Charleston Wine and Food Festival (charlestonwineandfood.com) and the Spoleto Theater Festival (spoletousa.com). For three years running, Conde Nast Traveler has rated Charleston as the “Top U.S. City” to visit, making reservations a must for the hottest tickets in town. WHERE TO STAY Wentworth Mansion  King beds grace each of the uniquely designed rooms at this historic and beautifully appointed inn. Amenities

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include complimentary breakfast and afternoon hors d’oeuvres and wine. Couples can spend a romantic evening with a massage for two in the intimate Wentworth Spa. 149 Wentworth St., 888466-1886, wentworthmansion.com Charleston Place Hotel Stay in the lap of southern luxury in this grand hotel located in the heart of it all. Indulge in an array of body treatments and massages at The Spa at Charleston Place. 205 Meeting St.,843-722-4900, charlestonplace.com WHAT TO DO Palmetto Carriage Upon your arrival, hop on a carriage ride to get the lay of the land and a fun, informative historical perspective on Charleston. Meet in the iconic “Big Red Barn” at Charleston’s oldest carriage company where tours run on the hour and can be booked with a group or privately. 8 Guignard St., 843-723-8145, palmettocarriage.com

Take a Walking Tour Daily tours are offered on the streets of downtown Charleston with knowledgeable tour guides who escort you down Rainbow Row, along the Waterfront Battery, and through hidden gardens, historic churches and spooky graveyards. Bulldog Tours, Inc. 843-722-8687, charlestonstrolls.com or tommydewswalkingtour.com Sail Along the Harbor Tour Charleston from the breezy waters of Charleston Harbor aboard one of several charter boats and tall ships. 800979-3370, charlestonharbortours.com or schoonerpride.com Take in a Museum Your visit isn’t complete without a stop at one of Charleston’s many museums. Charleston houses some of America’s most important neoclassical dwellings, so make sure to tour at least one historic home or plantation during your stay, like the Nathaniel Russell House on Meeting Street (historiccharlestono.org/russell. aspx). Civil War buffs will want to see Fort Sumter, the site on which the first shots were fired in the American Civil War (fortsumtertours.com). WHERE TO SHOP King Street Running for 16 blocks, this is the main artery for high-end fashion boutiques, largescale commercial stores and antiques in Charleston. Be sure to visit the Charleston City Market, featuring local takeout foods, souvenirs and crafts made by local vendors, including Charleston’s famous sweet grass woven baskets. Don’t miss Lily

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Where to Eat: Husk James Beard Award-winning Chef Sean Brock cooks modern versions of traditional southern favorites. Have a classic cocktail in the cozy bar housed next door. 76 Queen St., 843-577-2500, huskrestaurant.com The Grocery  A Lee Brothers favorite for brunch or dinner, this restaurant built in a former furniture warehouse evokes the warmth and familiarity of an old small-town grocery store. Chef/owner Kevin Johnson preserves fresh produce for year-round use with an in-house canning program. Don’t miss the house-made charcuterie, pickled green tomatoes or fried oysters with deviled egg sauce. 4 Cannon St., 843-3028825, thegrocerycharleston.com

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FIG Chef Mike Lata’s cooking proves “Food Is Good” at this local neighborhood bistro specializing in local and sustainable ingredients. His newly opened oyster hall and seafood restaurant, The Ordinary, is also garnering lots of love from locals and tourists alike. 232 Meeting St., 843-804-5900, eatatfig. com / eatattheordinary.com Cocktails with a View Pavilion Bar at the Market Pavilion Hotel Watch the sun go down on Charleston at this sophisticated rooftop oasis complete with cascading pool—but be sure to

reserve a table in advance for privacy and a premium view. 225 East Bay St., 843-7230500, marketpavilion.com/pavilionbar.cfm The Cocktail Club Imbibe craft cocktails from the rooftop terrace or learn to infuse, shake and stir them yourself by signing up for a cocktail class, held the first Saturday of each month. 479 King St.,843-724-9411, thecocktailclubcharleston.com The Rooftop Bar At The Vendue Enjoy great views of the Charleston Harbor at this award-winning cocktail bar on the rooftop of the boutique Vendue Hotel. 19 Vendue Range St., 843-577-7970, thevendue.com Insider tip Parking is at a premium in the historic district, so don’t rent a car unless you plan to venture outside the city limits. Walking is the best mode of transportation in the historic district, but taxis are not easy to come by if your feet give out. So keep the number of a local taxi service with you at all times, or for fun, jump in a rickshaw!

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bring back the family dinner By Beth Engelman

What ever happened to family

dinners? When I was growing up, we always had dinner together. No matter where we were or what we were doing, my mother expected us home at 6:30 p.m. with hands washed, seats in chairs, ready to eat. These days, things have changed. Busy schedules, long work hours, and an influx of evening sports and activities have caused family dinners to become a thing of the past. A study by the Child Study Center found that family dinners have declined 33 percent over the past 20 years. “The decline of family dinners is disturbing,” says Aviva Goldfarb, founder of The Six O’Clock Scramble (thescramble.com). However, children who take part in family dinners are less likely to drink and do drugs, more likely to do better in school, and more likely to develop healthy eating habits. So why not give it a try? Goldfarb advocates for family dinners—so much so that her entire business is dedicated to making mealtime easier for busy parents and children. Try these easy, practical ways to resurrect the family dinner:

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Unplug and connect Mealtime is often the only time of the day when parents and kids can connect, catch up and make eye contact. Cell phones, laptops and TV only serve as distractions that take away from the overall experience. If you find you’re having trouble getting your kids to talk, ask them to describe the best and worst thing that happened to them during the day, or take a page from author Shana Noyes and ask your kids open-ended questions that are designed to get them thinking. Create realistic expectations “Set yourself up for success by scheduling just a few family meals throughout the week,” Goldfarb says. “Keep the meal simple and easy, and make sure everyone knows they are expected to be there.” If dinnertime is impossible, Goldfarb recommends choosing a different meal instead. “Family breakfast or lunch can be equally as meaningful, as long as everyone is together and engaged.” Model healthy habits and attitudes “Kids develop lifelong habits and

attitudes about food and eating during family meals,” says Rallie McAllister, MD, MPH, a family physician and coauthor of “The Mommy MD Guide to the Toddler Years.” “If parents eat and converse at the dinner table in a happy and relaxed manner, it’s likely their kids will learn to do the same. However, if parents gobble their food in silence and then bolt from the table, their kids will likely follow suit.” McAllister recommends modeling behavior you want your children to emulate, such as keeping an open mind (and positive attitude) when trying new foods. “The good news,” McAllister adds, “is that what’s beneficial for our children is almost always beneficial for us!” Make meals fun Keep mealtime stress-free by making it a relaxed and fun experience. “The dinner table should never be used as the setting for arguments, browbeating or discipline,” McAllister says. “Instead, keep family meals a bit sacred by using positive, loving words. And be sure to encourage and nurture emotions, ideas and accomplishments.”

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cooking camps for kids and teens By Beth Engelman

These days “foodies” are younger

than ever with many kids taking a proactive stance in the kitchen. The accessibility of fresh ingredients coupled with a multitude of entertaining cooking shows and competitions are compelling kids to try their hand at cooking, baking and pastry making. Summer is the perfect time to let your kids go wild in the kitchen. And if that “kitchen” includes a camp setting where children can socialize with friends, learn valuable skills and try new recipes, even better. These camps are dedicated to teaching kids, from age two to teen, the art of cooking. Who knows? Your child just might be the next “Top Chef.”

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The Kids’ Table u Ages 2-16 2337 W. North Ave., Chicago, 773-235-2665, kids-table.com

The Kids’ Table offers hands-on cooking camps for chefs of all ages. Their weeklong programs give kids a chance to learn basic skills, experiment with ingredients and follow new recipes (that the kids can bring home). Camp themes range from silly to sublime with a broad range of topics, including: “Dough-nuts,” “Superhero Kids,” “Culinary Boot Camp,” and “Farmers’ Market Feast.” Sur La Table Ages 6-12 Northbrook Court: 2171 Northbrook Court, Northbrook, 847-770-4584; Old Orchard: 4999 Old Orchard Center, Skokie, 847-5681220; surlatable.com

This summer, Sur la Table will offer weeklong cooking programs for kids and teens. Each session will focus on a different food-centric theme, such as “Road Trip USA,” “The World’s Best Food” and “The Science of Cooking.”

Whole Foods Market/ Deerfield Park District Ages 6-12 760 Waukegan Rd., Deerfield , 847-444-1900, wholefoodsmarket.com/stores/deerfield

Inspire your child’s love of cooking with the Kid’s Culinary Camp at

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Is your child a budding Giada De Laurentiis or Gordon Ramsay? Do they dream about making threetiered cupcakes or creating the perfect pot au feu?

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Kendall College Ages 13-18 900 N. North Branch St., Chicago, 1-888905-3632, kendall.edu/news-and-events/ kendall-camps

For teens interested in the art of cooking, there is the Culinary Camp at Kendall College. The camp offers one-, two- and three-week programs that cover cooking, baking and pastry design. Each session culminates with a feast for family and friends prepared entirely by the campers. Participants are given the option to attend the program as a “day camper” or stay overnight for what is billed as a “full-blown college experience and adventure!”

The Chopping Block  Ages 7-11 4747 N. Lincoln Ave., Chicago, 773-4726700, thechoppingblock.net

The Chopping Block has long been regarded as one of the best places for novice chefs to learn how to cook. Their stellar reputation extends to their kids’ camp program. Campers will learn how to follow recipes and work cleanly and safely in the kitchen while exploring new foods and ingredients. Each four-day session is

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unique, so campers are encouraged to sign up for multiple sessions. Corner Cooks Ages 9-14 507 Chestnut St., Winnetka, 847-441-0134, cornercooks.com

In the three-day program Cooking Around the U.S., kids will explore the regional cuisine of the United States, learning how to make everything from Southern biscuits to Chicago caramel corn to the pasta of Little Italy and more. The week will end in a show-off dinner for parents. Reserve by March 1 for a 10 percent discount.

“A foodie’s dream” is the best way to describe Passport NYC at 92Y’s Culinary Arts program. Each three-week session explores the culinary world of New York City with hands-on lessons from some of New York’s finest chefs. Campers are also invited to tour famous restaurants, meet with esteemed food critics and work with GrowNYC’s Greenmarket. All Passport NYC campers stay at the 92YResidence where they will socialize, explore and discover the wonders of New York City. Now that’s living the dream.

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Whole Foods Market. The three-day camp explores different departments in the market, including behind-thescenes preparations and plenty of taste testing. The campers will also work in the kitchen where they’ll follow recipes and create their own delicious meals. Each camper leaves with recipes, a chef’s hat and an apron.

Passport NYC at 92Y  Ages 13-18 1395 Lexington Ave., New York, NY, 212-4155641, 92YPassportNYC.org

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great camps Actors Training Center at Wilmette Theatre Wilmette, IL | 847-251-8710 actorstrainingcenter.com Banner Day Camp Lake Forest, IL | 847-295-4900 bannerdaycamp.com Camp Anokijig Plymouth, WI | 800-741-6931 anokijig.com Camp CBG at the Chicago Botanic Garden Glencoe, IL | 847-835-8361 chicagobotanic.org/camp

Camp Echo Fremont, MI | 231-924-7076 mcgawymca.org

Piven Theatre Workshop Evanston, IL | 847-866-6597 piventheatre.org

Camp Menominee Eagle River, WI | 715-479-2267 campmenominee.com

Tamarak Day Camp Lincolnshire, IL | 847-634-3168 tamarakdaycamp.com

Camp Woodland for Girls Eagle River, WI | 715-479-8287 campwoodland.com

Towering Pines Camp for Boys Eagle River, WI | 715-479-4540 toweringpinescamp.com

Cheley Colorado Camps Estes Park, CO | 970-586-4244 cheley.com

Valley Lo Club Glenview, IL | 847-729-5550 valleylo.com

Harand Camp of the Theatre Arts Kenosha, WI | 847-864-1500 harandcamp.com Hi-Five Sports Camp Northfield, IL | 847-229-9555, ext. 111 hifivesportsclubs.com JCC Apachi Chicago Day Camp Chicago, IL | 773-938-8348 gojcc.org

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managing food allergies at overnight camp by melanie kalmar Avoiding foods that trigger allergic reactions

is a way of life for children with food allergies and the families who love them. But many families wonder if their child’s savvy is enough to navigate sleepaway camp with new conditions, friends and foods. The answer, according to camp directors and experienced families, is yes—you just need to prepare ahead of time, when camp directors can focus on your child. With approximately 5.9 million kids suffering from a food allergy—about one in every 13—it is a serious public health concern that camps should be able to handle, says Nancy Gregory, of Food Allergy Research & Education (FARE) in Virginia. Three North Shore-based camps with grounds in Wisconsin, Beber Camp in Mukwonago, Camp Kawaga in Minocqua and Camp Menominee in Eagle River, are peanut-free, employ medical staff on-site and work with parents to create food management plans. How can you tell if an overnight camp is equipped to care for kids with food allergies? Use these guidelines created by FARE: • Has the camp previously cared for kids with food allergies? • Are counselors trained to administer an Epipen? • Is there medical staff on-site? • Is a hospital nearby? Before choosing a camp, think about emergencies, and make sure it is within a reasonable distance from your home. Once you’ve selected a camp, do your due diligence: • Review the menu with the head chef. • Read all ingredients and make necessary substitutions. • Find out how food is prepared to avoid cross-contamination. • Examine the camp’s food allergy management plan and your food allergy action plan with the staff. • Bring the plan to your child’s allergist for approval. Tips for making sure your child doesn’t feel left out: • Ask for the itinerary and find a way to include your child in every facet of camp. For Highland Park mom Bari Lichtman, it meant sending safe treats for her son to pick up at the canteen. • Make sure your child eats with a friend, if separate seating is recommended at mealtimes. • Assign a buddy who can recognize an allergic reaction. • Once you’ve done your part and everyone knows the drill, all that’s left is to have fun! 44

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An oversized island makes up for the lack of upper cabinets in the kitchen, which was once the garage. The salvaged beams were added for character.

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Wood beams, a paneled wall and concrete floors with radiant heating transformed a former outside patio into a comfortable, sophisticated conversation area.

“Our guests say that they feel comfortable here, and that’s what we wanted,” explains Neal Moglin, of the Tudor-style home in Evanston that he shares with husband Mark Tendam. INDEED, ENTERTAINING FRIENDS, FAMILY AND the community is a way of life for Moglin, a partner with Foley & Lardner, and Tendam, the Alderman of Evanston’s 6th Ward. Although it’s hard to believe now, the couple’s home was unsuitable for company when they bought it in 2002. “There were 18 evergreens in the front yard, and you could barely see the house from the street,” Tendam says. Inside was no better—dark and dated with small rooms and a chopped up layout. “The fireplace and the Gothic door were the only things inside that would suggest

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that it was a Tudor,” Tendam says. “It was truly a blank slate.” With the help of architect Steve Rugo, of Rugo Raff Architects in Chicago, the couple developed a vision for how their new home should look and feel. “I grew up in the South, and there are certain design elements from my boyhood home that I wanted to repeat in this house, including the brick pantry, the beams and the wide, ebony baseboards,” Moglin says. To help reduce costs, they broke up the project into two distinct phases. During the first phase, the original part of the house was demolished, architectural details were added and doorways were aligned. “No matter which way you turn, you’re facing the longest possible view and always walking toward the light,” Rugo says. “The house unfolds before you.” During the nine-month renovation, Moglin and Tendam set up camp in a small upstairs bedroom. “We each

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On the second floor, a former bedroom has become a sitting area with a corner fireplace and access to the covered screen porch that overlooks the back yard. To accommodate both the fireplace and the radiator in the small space, the couple suggested clipping the corners of the room. “We have a fairly strong aesthetic sense, and we were very much a part of the design process,” Moglin says. “I can’t say enough about how collaborative Steve was.”

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had a hanging rack and a footlocker where we stored our folding clothes,” Moglin says. “There was a period of time when our staircase was basically a glorified ladder. It was a little bit like an army expedition.” In 2008, Moglin and Tendam decided to once again brave the dust and debris. With Rugo’s help, the couple built a brand new garage, converting the original one into an open kitchen with a wood-burning fireplace and sitting area where the couple enjoy hanging out with their two Vizslas, Baxter and Millie. During this phase, the original outdoor patio was converted into a sunken family room that is open to the new kitchen and original living room. On the second floor, they added a large master suite with a cozy screened-in porch where Moglin and Tendam say they practically live in the summer and fall months.

Now complete (or complete for now, as the case may be), the house is ideal for the kind of soirees that Moglin and Tendam enjoy hosting. The open kitchen allows the couple to visit with their guests while they prepare food, and there are several comfortable seating areas located throughout the first and second floors. Even the new garage can be used for entertaining thanks to three large barn doors that open to the backyard. Not to mention the large chandelier hanging from the ceiling where you might expect to find a garage door opener. “We wanted a larger, more workable home for us, but we also wanted the house to work better for community events and fundraisers,” Moglin says. “We’re never happier then when we can use this place to help charitable organizations and political leaders we believe in.”

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should you move from the suburbs to the city? BY MAR JIE KILLEEN ARE YOU READY TO DOWNSIZE or

just shake things up? Some former North Shore residents have made the move to Chicago and are riding high on living downtown. Last April, Jon and Lorraine Kaplan moved from their large Wilmette home of 16 years to a stunning new lakefront condo in Lincoln Park. With their twin daughters finishing college, their house was just too big for the empty-nester lifestyle, and both were craving something new. Lorraine, who runs her own homebased clothing business, says, “I kept feeling like I needed a career move, but I think I needed a personal change. This was a way to keep moving forward.” “I’ve always had a passion for city life,” says Jon, a partner in a consulting

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firm. “I think it’s very special.” Once the Kaplans found their ideal condo, they didn’t just sell their house; they sold everything. All of their new belongings in their Lincoln Park pad are designed for flexible living and to complement their stunning lake views. Their condo is half the size of their Wilmette house, but it’s still spacious. Their building features so many amenities—health club, entertaining space, pool, gardens, dog run—that the Kaplans don’t feel like they miss a thing, not even their yard. And they definitely don’t miss the maintenance. They’ve made many new friends in their building and love the convenience and accessibility of Lincoln Park. As Jon says, “It’s zero work to go to dinner here. We just walk out of the

building. Food is a very social activity and the casual nature of it here, it’s phenomenal.” For 40-somethings Claire and Pete Caragher, who lived in Evanston for 13 years, access to great restaurants was one of the things that motivated their move to the Lake Shore East area two years ago. Pete, head coach and Aquatics Director of the Evanston YWCA Flying Fish swim program says, “In the long term we knew we wanted to be downtown. Since we didn’t have kids, we thought, ‘Why wait?’ We were doing staycations and hotel rooms constantly. We wanted to experience the city on a regular basis.” Pete’s job is based in Evanston, and Claire’s entire family—her mother and all her siblings—lives there, which was perhaps the hardest thing to leave behind. But they’ve stayed close since the move. Like the Kaplans, the Caraghers started city life fresh. They sold most of their possessions through Craigslist and

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now rent a chic one-bedroom apartment in a high-rise building with amazing city and lake views. They don’t miss the space of their old four-bedroom house (or the property taxes) one bit. Divesting themselves of their stuff “was quite liberating,” Pete says. “You realize you can get by with 10 to 20 percent of what you have.” “Including clothes and shoes!” adds Claire, a stylish change management consultant who used to have an entire bedroom as her dressing room, but now shares a walk-in closet with her husband. After two years, Pete and Claire make full use of the city. “We go to a ton of street fairs, to the park for music, we walk a lot,” Claire says. “We go out for dinner too much,” Pete says. “But we are so much more active,” Claire says. “We have the gym in the building, go biking and running along the lakefront and go swimming at Ohio Street beach.” Pete even likes his commute back to Evanston. “It’s enjoyable ‘me’ time that I never had before. I enjoy it like you can’t believe.” Considering the move to the city? Here’s food for thought: • If you don’t have to worry about yard or home maintenance, you’ll have a lot more free time. • Downsizing isn’t necessarily cheaper. Even if your living expenses are lower, you’ll find it easy to spend more on entertainment and activities. • Expect to take most of the initiative to stay in touch with friends and family in the suburbs. • You’ll drive a lot less. Plan to share a car and take public transportation, or better yet, walk. • Finding the right neighborhood is critical. Choose a place that’s near the things you want to do. • Consider renting an apartment to test drive city living first.

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to file jointly or separately? That is the question By Meghan Streit You and your spouse are partners in life, but should you stick together when it comes to your taxes? Lake Forest CPA Jerrold Jacks (edwardjacks.com) says that in the vast majority of cases, it is financially advantageous for married couples to file joint tax returns. “It provides for a lower tax rate,” Jacks says. “You are actually paying almost a penalty tax rate when you are married filing separately.” He says married Illinois couples that elect to file separate tax returns can expect to pay Uncle Sam about 6 percent more.

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One of the reasons married couples filing separately tend to pay higher taxes is because they miss out on certain credits and deductions. Glenview CPA Veronica Katranis (glenviewaccountants.com) says the child and dependent care, earned income, adoption, education and college tuition credits—as well as the student loan interest deduction—cannot be claimed by married couples filing separately. All that said, in some cases it makes sense for married couples to file separately. For instance, when one spouse has incurred significant medical bills, Katranis says to consider separate returns. She says you can take a medical expense deduction if out-of-pocket costs exceed 10 percent of your adjusted gross income. “If you make $100,000 [combined], your medical expenses would have to get over $10,000 in order to take that deduction,” Katranis says. “But if you file separately [and therefore only count your own income], the hurdle would be lower.” Jacks says another scenario in which couples may want to consider filing separate returns is if one spouse is the beneficiary of a trust in a tax-free state like Florida, Nevada or Texas. Filing jointly as Illinois residents would trigger state taxes on that income. However, Jacks says, you can opt to file jointly for federal purposes and as married filing separately for Illinois returns. In rare cases, even if filing jointly yields a lower tax bill, Katranis says it could be in one or both spouses’ best interest to file separately. For instance, she says couples in the process of divorcing sometimes can’t get along well enough to complete a joint return. Or, she says, if you suspect your spouse is engaging in unethical financial behavior, you can protect yourself by filing your own return. “You both are liable for each other’s taxes [when you file jointly],” she says. “If you think your spouse is taking risky tax deductions, it’s best to file separately.” A trustworthy accountant can easily help you determine whether filing jointly or separately makes the most sense for your marriage. Katranis says it’s usually as easy as checking a box in a tax software program. It’s a good idea to review your filing status every year, especially after major life events like starting a new business, having a baby or sending a child off to college.

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P H OTO S BY J O H N N G M A K E U P B Y E L I Z A B E T H AT S T E V E N P A P A G E O R G E S A L O N

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Found Kitchen and Social House in Evanston served as the perfect backdrop to showcase the season’s most stylish looks for a night-out. Whether you’re celebrating Valentine’s Day or just setting time aside for a nice dinner, these flirty looks are fashion inspiration for both ladies and gents.

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Eva Franco “Sunland “dress, $238, Notice Ferrara chain maille bracelet, $60, Accents Plus Beaded bracelets, model’s own Hobo Jessa clutch, $158, Notice Gray pumps, $80, Aldo

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Herringbone blazer, $250, Banana Republic Striped dress shirt, $92, Brooks Brothers Printed tie, $80, Brooks Brothers 1969 five-pocket cord, $60, Gap Woven belt, $68, Brooks Brothers Owen oxford, $140, Banana Republic For more date-night looks, download our iPad edition, makeitbetter.net/ipad

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You’ve scored the hottest reservation in town, and now you need to look the part. Jazz up even the simplest LBD (little black dress) with any (or all!) of these must-have accessories to finish the look. Muy caliente!

Floral Fishnet Wolford’s Nahla tights in black make the most of the patterned hose craze. $65, Nieman Marcus, niemanmarcus. com

Rose Gold Clutch Marc by Marc Jacobs knows what’s hot: this metallic leather purse. $238, Bloomingdales, bloomingdales. com

Silky Scarf Layer on the luxe with this scarf by Burberry in a vivid Alizarin crimson check. $375, Nordstrom, nordstrom.com

It’s Time For a chic timepiece, try this Birdy Rose Golden watch from the hip Shinola Watch Co. in Detroit. $525, Nieman Marcus, niemanmarcus. com

Say it in French This 18-karat gold and diamond Jennifer Meyer pendant necklace tells all. $3,125 ($675 in all yellow gold), Barneys New York, barneys.com

Uber-Sexy Heels Nicholas Kirkwood suede pumps are perfectly on trend with a flash-of-gold stiletto heel. $635, nordstrom.com

Drop-Dead Gorgeous Jennifer Meyer’s rubystudded long bar earrings in 18-karat gold are red hot. $800, Barneys New York, barneys.com

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for Every Body Type

Regardless of your body type, you CAN wear lingerie—and wearing it isn’t just about turning on your significant other. Cheryl Sloane, owner of G Boutique in Chicago, offers this advice: “What you wear under your clothes makes your clothes fit better, and therefore, you look better. Lingerie is what you wear closest to your skin. It must feel good. Lingerie is also your personal secret. Everyone doesn’t see what you choose. A little bit of mystery and power is sexy.” Heidi Slip, Yummie by Heather Thomson

If you have a tummy If you want to cover your belly, consider wearing a chemise as a camisole top. Lingerie in a baby-doll style will create an empire-waist shape, drawing attention away from your mid-section. Darker colors are flattering, as well as a two-tone color with the lighter color on top. Try: Yummie Tummie Shaper and Intimates Control.

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If you’re big-busted When purchasing lingerie for a bigger bust, the number one thing to look for is a bra with good support. It’s helpful to get fitted by an expert. A full-cup bra is best when worn under a blouse or T-shirt. If you’re going for sexy, a demi-cut bra or teddy with built-in underwire will show off your cleavage. Try: Panache Superbra, Fantasie, Freya and Claudette are lingerie lines that are available in larger cup sizes with support.

If you have a flat butt To flatter and boost your tush, try boyshort underwear. And believe it or not, padded underwear is actually comfortable and will definitely add oomph to your derrière. Try: Cheeky Boy Shorts, Only Hearts So Fine Hipsters, Cosabella Never Say Never Lingerie and BubbleBuns Padded Boyshort.

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Many women love to spice up their wardrobe with sexy lingerie, yet others steer clear of it because of the intimidation factor.

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Lingerie Shopping Guide

If you have a boyish figure Boyish-figured women want to add curves. A twopiece, such as a corset top or bustier paired with low-cut bottoms, will be more flattering than a single piece. Detailing like ruffles or lace will also give the illusion of more ample assets. Try: Empire Intimates for very affordable bustiers and corsets, and Vollers Corsets, which costs more, but is a quality line.

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shareablebeauty For you and your sweetie By Jenny Muslin

Maintaining an effective beauty regimen isn’t just for women.

 Shaving Essentials Shaving creams essentially share the same ingredients, yet they are marketed with packaging and scent to appeal to a particular gender. Save your dollars and share Jack Black Supreme Cream ($23), Aveeno Active Natural Therapeutic Shave Gel ($4), or Molton Brown Conditioning Olibanum Supershave ($29). Malin + Goetz makes a fabulous Ingrown Hair Cream ($34) that also treats razor bumps. 62

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According to market data firm Euromonitor International, American consumers spent nearly $5 billion on men’s grooming products in 2012. What’s more, there’s now a range of beauty products you can share with your significant other (aside from toothpaste and tweezers). Not only can you try out new products this way, but you’re also sure to minimize the clutter in your bathroom.

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 Concealer Who says men can’t wear concealer? Men may be self-conscious of a blemish and want to cover it up for an important event or meeting. Many makeup lines make concealer sticks that also contain ingredients to fight a pimple or shrink pores. We like Pores No More Pore Refiner by Dr. Brandt ($45), which refines pores, mattifies shine and smoothes the skin’s appearance.

 Sunscreen Sunscreen should be used daily—and we’re not talking about a bottle of Coppertone. If your man is bald, he’ll want to protect his scalp as well as his face. Both Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Dry-Touch Sunscreen ($10) and Clarins Sun Wrinkle Control Cream for Face ($32) are lightweight, formulated for sensitive skin, and protect from harmful UVA and UVB rays.

Cleanser  Ursa Major, an all-natural skincare company, is marketed as a men’s line, but women will also fall in love with the natural, toxin-free products. The Fantastic Face Wash ($26) is a favorite, likely because the fresh mint-lime scent and gentle, tingling exfoliants leave your skin feeling incredibly refreshed. Malin + Goetz is a unisex skincare line and their bestselling Grapefruit Face Cleanser ($30) works on all skin types.

Fragrance  Most people would never think of sharing a fragrance with their mate, but they’ve never smelled Jo Malone’s light colognes ($6–$115) or the luxurious Maison Francis Kurkdjian Aqua Universalis “perfumed water” ($175). These unisex fragrances will convince you that smelling alike isn’t such a bad idea.

Burt’s Bees Beeswax Lip Balm ($3) moisturizes your lips with vitamin E and peppermint oil, and Fresh Sugar Lip Treatment has SPF 15 and reparative oils to hydrate.

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If you’ve both had a long night, apply Kiehl’s Facial Fuel Eye De-Puffer ($20) around the eye area.

Peter Thomas Roth Un-Wrinkle Turbo ($150) targets deep wrinkles and expression lines and can be applied in the morning and night after cleansing skin.

Juice Beauty Oil-Free Moisturizer ($28) is the perfect everyday moisturizer for blemish-prone skin. Its moisturizing and soothing properties make it an all-star product in this organic line.

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is monogamy realistic? An interview with fellow sex columnist Dan Savage B y M a r j i e K i ll e e n Writer/activist Dan Savage and I

have a lot in common. We’re both sex columnists; we’re both parents of teenage children; and we’re both married to men who look hot in their bathing suits. But when it comes to talking about sex, I’m as bland as vanilla baby pudding compared to the spicy, brutally honest, often controversial Savage. His advice column, Savage Love, is syndicated in independent newspapers around the country (including Chicago’s Reader), and his lectures draw huge audiences on college campuses. I

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met him in October at Chicago Idea’s Week, where he spoke about his newest book, “American Savage: Insights, Slights and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love and Politics,” and his “It Gets Better” project supporting LGBT youth. Privately, we discussed his views on monogamy in modern marriages, which he discusses at length in the book. Here are highlights from our conversation, which I hope will spur a dialogue. MK: Do you think monogamy is a realistic expectation in modern marriages and long-term relationships?

DS: It is unrealistic. The stats show that expecting someone to be monogamous all their life—especially that your very special snowflake marriage will be untouched by this thing that happens to almost all marriages—is unrealistic. I’m not saying that people who want monogamy shouldn’t go for it and shouldn’t expect their partner to honor the monogamous commitment they made. I just want people to be realistic about what happens the day after an infidelity. Who do you want to be? The conversation we need to be having is not is monogamy good or bad— it’s how much importance you’re going to place on perfectly executed monogamous behavior over the course of five decades of marriage. And if you think monogamy is more important than every other consideration, then you’re probably going to get divorced. MK: Are there times when you think it’s OK to cheat? DS: It is glib and unhelpful for people to say cheating is always wrong. People write me about real circumstances for which there is no good or easy answer. I’ve received letters from people where their partner of 25 years is done with sex, refuses to have it. They (the writer) have been doing without sex for years, and they’re going out of their minds. But their partner is dependent on them for health care, they have small children, or they can’t afford to break up or get divorced. I look at that situation and I say, “Cheat. Cheating is the least worst option.” There are higher forms of loyalty than the loyalty you show with your [private parts]. Why tell somebody to end what could be a very fulfilling partnership and a terrific friendship because of sex? Is it more honorable to divorce and then find sex than it is to stay married and stay faithful in other ways, and get sex elsewhere? Especially when it’s nothing your partner values or desires? That’s not cheating. That’s relieving your partner of a responsibility and a

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burden they don’t wish to shoulder. MK: Some women, as they get older, do lose interest in sex. Is it unfair for one person in a relationship to opt out of sex? DS: It’s not unfair to take that stance unless you’re telling the guy in your life that he’s not allowed to get it elsewhere—that you unilaterally declare an end to his sex life and that he’s somehow obligated to shut systems down at the precise moment you do. You may be happy without it, but your husband isn’t a dog you can have castrated. MK: When you talk about being “monogam-ish” you don’t just mean forgiving your partner for the occasional slip up or affair. You mean having an ongoing understanding that some infidelity is okay. DS: Monogam-ish isn’t prescriptive; it’s a term I coined to describe my relationship. We’re mostly monogamous, much more monogamous than not. But there is some allowance and wiggle room around the edges that we both agreed to that makes us both happy—which is different than cheating. MK: If you open the door to other partners, isn’t that like opening Pandora’s box? How do you navigate that without it getting out of control? DS: That hasn’t been my experience. What it can do is force you to have a lot of detailed conversations about what’s permissible. It makes you communicate in a very straightforward and constructive and honest way. That would be good for a relationship. A lot of people react very aggressively to any suggestion that a non-monogamous relationship might be loving or healthy or good or something that they might be interested in one day. And then 20 years into their marriage, their point of view may change. Most people that I’ve met who are in non-monogamous relationships were monogamous at one time. So keep an open mind and do what’s right for you now, but you might find that after 15 or 20 years, it’s not as important.

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Tanta 118 W. Grand Ave. Chicago 312-222-9700 tantachicago.com

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Tanta isn’t the only Peruvian restaurant in Chicago—Macchu Picchu and Taste of Peru are two that come quickly to mind—but it is certainly the most high profile, and to my mind, the tastiest and most interesting. most famous restaurateur and its foremost food ambassador, has partnered with the VBD Group to create what he calls a “family-style casual concept.” But lets be clear: “Family style” means shareable plates rather than bring your young kids. It skews young, but not THAT young. Think hip and urban. It is in River North, after all. Chef de Cuisine Jesus Delgado was brought in from Acurio’s La Mar in San Francisco to run the kitchen at Tanta, and it’s obvious from the first bite of fried plantain chip that he knows his way around these ingredients. And those drinks…can we talk about the drinks? Let’s start with pisco, the grape brandy made in Peru’s wine regions. Going beyond the classic Pisco Sour, Tanta is serving up numerous craft cocktails ($12) with the alluring spirit.

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Some are made to order, like La Guapa, with City of London Gin, rhubarb, lavender, lemon juice and a sparkling rosé. It’s light and refreshing and addictive. Or opt for one of the drinks on tap, like the Lima Llama, a Peruvian Mule with Barsol Quebarta Pisco, lime and ginger beer, a little spicy and a lot of delish. You could also run the table with an infused pisco tasting ($16). Staples of Peruvian food include corn, quinoa, potatoes and chiles, all represented in force on the Tanta menu. You’ll notice a distinct Japanese influence as well, especially in the Niguris Nikei ($9), the Peruvian version of sushi, here with skirt steak and quail egg; mahi and avocado; or smoky beef and bay scallops. A variety of Cebiches (small $12, large $18) are offered. The Nikei (ahi tuna, avocado, cucumber and

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tamarind) was terrific, while we found the Criollo (mahi, squid, shrimp, aji Amarillo and Peruvian corn) underseasoned, heavy on corn and light on fish. Causitas ($9) are little rectangles of whipped, golden Peruvian potato topped with crab or ahi tuna. We enjoyed the Limena, which sported a small scoop of super yummy chicken salad and a hard-boiled quail egg. The Empanadas ($9 for two) were fine examples of the Latin staple, deep-fried rather than baked, and featured a beef filling with a sweet and sour tang. Drizzled with an aji amarillo cream and sprinkled with chopped onions and peppers, they were a crowd pleaser. The do-not-miss entrée is the Pollo a la Brasa ($19 for a half chicken, $32 for a whole). The locally sourced Amish chicken is cooked Peruvian style and served with stewed cannellini beans, rice, mixed green salad, thick-cut fried potatoes and several sauces. Even the half could be a meal for two. It’s fabulous, juicy, smoky and oh-so-tasty.

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We found the Chupe ($22), a traditional Peruvian stew with prawns and potatoes, delicious but very rich. The Seco de Cordero ($32), a massive braised lamb shank with stewed cannellini beans and veggies, had good flavor and fell off the bone. Be smart and remember to order the Los Picarones ($9), warm pumpkin and sweet-potato fritters with spiced cane sugar syrup; they take a while. But we were perfectly content with the Alfajor ($8), soft dulce de leche caramel sandwiched by thin shortbread cookies and topped with hot chocolate sauce and vanilla bean ice cream. Dessert nirvana can also be achieved with the Mazamorra Crumble ($8), the unlikely pairing of purple Peruvian corn and fruit, covered with an oat-almond crust and more vanilla bean ice cream. An excursion to Tanta, while not inexpensive, is certainly cheaper than a tour of Peru, and much easier to visit on the spur of the moment. It’s a happy trip to take!

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bucatini alla matriciana bucatini with tomato-bacon sauce BY CONVITO CAFÉ & MARKE T

Convito's owner Nancy Brussat has a plethora of recipes for those wanting to cook some delicious, cozy winter meals. This fantastic dish she had in Rome is one of her favorites to make, as well as to eat (who wants to pass up any recipe with bacon!). Try this with a fresh mixed green salad, some crusty bread and a fabulous bottle of red wine, like the Masi Campofiorin ($16.99 at Convito), and you can stay home by the fire while dining on a hearty, authentic Italian meal.

serves 4 ingredients

§ 2 tablespoons olive oil § 6 ounces bacon cut into ½-inch cubes § ½ teaspoon chili pepper flakes § ½ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper § N teaspoon dried marjoram § O cup chopped onion § One 28-ounce can peeled tomatoes with juices, broken up by hand § salt to taste § 1 pound bucatini § L cup grated Pecorino cheese

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1 In a large heavy skillet, heat the oil over medium heat. 2 Add the bacon and sauté until crisp, about 5 minutes. 3 Add the pepper flakes, black pepper and marjoram and stir briefly. 4 Add the onions and sauté for approximately 5 minutes, until soft. 5 Add the tomatoes and cook, reducing the heat to low. 6 Cook until the sauce thickens, approximately 15 minutes. 7 In the meantime, bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. 8 Add the pasta and cook until al dente. Drain. 9 Mix with the sauce and divide into 4 bowls, then sprinkle with the grated cheese. MENU NOTES: To make this recipe richer and creamier, we sometimes add N cup of Mascarpone at the end before we mix it with the pasta and top it with the grated cheese. It becomes Bucatini alla Matriciana Rosa.

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February is just one of those months you have to power through— even die-hard fans of cold weather and winter fun are longing for a break this time of year. Here are several great reads that’ll warm you up and carry you through ‘til summer’s beach fare.

Looking for Alaska John Green Green’s “The Fault in our Stars” was heralded as one of the great love stories of the past several years, but go back to the beginning with Green’s debut—a heartwrenching tale of young, true love.

The Light in the Ruins Chris Bohjalian There’s nothing more desperate and lovely than a woman who just cannot let her true love go—even after he’s dead. Murder, deception and the mystery of love that crosses enemy lines make up another marvelous tale from Bohjalian.

Someone Else’s Love Story Joshilyn Jackson Can true love emerge from tragedy? Jackson takes readers on a roller-coaster ride when Shandi Pierce falls for William Ashe—the man who put himself in harm’s way to protect her young son from a bullet.

State of Wonder Ann Patchett The trip to the Amazon will be enough to make you break a sweat. Get past the bizarre nature of Dr. Marina Singh’s journey, and you’ll soon want to know: Does she consummate her unrequited love? Or does she just get the heck out of Crazy Town?

How Stella Got Her Groove Back Terry McMillan A classic, and if you haven’t read it, this month is the perfect time to pick it up— love, adventure and warm weather all rolled into one. What’s more, a reminder that at some point, a woman has to put herself first.

Like Water for Chocolate Laura Esquivel Another classic, and perfect for a February weekend: Love, chocolate and the warm surroundings of Mexico. Time to run a long, hot bath and tell the kids to make their own lunch.

A Passion for Him Sylvia Day “Fifty Shades”? Please. If erotica is your thing (and you know you are, at the very least, curious), try a Sylvia Day series. Love, loss and mystery lie at the heart of this novel—beginning with a knock-yoursocks-off kiss.

Guide to Getting It On: A Book About the Wonders of Sex Paul Joannides With the most recent edition published in 2012, one of the most popular “manuals” to hit the market has garnered rave reviews and will answer just about any question you have on the deed. There’s more than one way to warm up a cold winter’s night, you know.

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It’s my version of “Eat, Pray, Love.” MUSIC IS AN EXTRA INGREDIENT that can spice up a din-

ing experience—but it needs to be just a pinch of background music or it can ruin the meal as easily as overdone meat, scalded milk or a fallen soufflé. How many times have you been to a restaurant or party where the music trumps everything else? Unfortunately, it can impact your final take on an evening out, which is a drag for the venue or host. My tip is: Turn it down. Even if your background music is bad, having it at a low level can fill the room deliciously, making the evening cozy. A few other audio tips: A slower tempo is better for dining; let up on the bass; and invest in some nice speakers. There are many great (wireless) options that are small, affordable and provide great sound, for example: Bose SoundLink, Jawbone Jambox and Sony Bluetooth. Our new music app, ValslistRadio (valslistradiocom), has lots of dinnerparty playlists already made for you with the newest music. Conversation comes first at parties. Background music is important, but it needs to take a back seat. It sounds good back there!

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FEBRUARY SHOWS NOT TO MISS

Feb. 7 Griffin House at City Winery (great night out with friends) Feb. 8 David Crosby (of CSNY) at City Winery (flashback) Feb. 8 Pentatonix at The Chicago Theatre (a cappella on steroids) Feb. 9 Jon Mclaughlin at SPACE Evanston (date night, girls night) Feb. 11 Angelique Kidjo at City Winery (world music) Feb. 14 Mayer Hawthorne at Park West (if you liked Hall & Oates...)

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Feb. 14 Drew Holcomb at SPACE (date night) Feb. 15 Graham Colton at SPACE (chill night out) Feb. 16 The Wild Feathers at Double Door (new band to know) Feb. 19 Band Of Horses at Vic Theatre (a must see) Feb. 20 Bob Schneider at SPACE (valslist favorite) Feb. 24 Mark Scibilia at SPACE (a real treat, singer/ songwriter) Feb. 25 Caveman at Double Door (new band to know)

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Chicago Shakespeare Theatre “Short Shakespeare! A Midsummer Night’s Dream” February 22–March 22 312-595-5600 | chicagoshakes.com Goodman Theatre “Buzzer” February 8–March 9 312-443-3800 | goodmantheatre.org Interrobang (at the Athenaeum) “The Pitchfork Disney” February 6–March 2 773-935-6875 | interrobangtheatreproject.org

February brings a highly anticipated musical to Chicago Shakespeare, a festival of cutting-edge theater inside an actual garage, a musical about Chicago murders in the 1920s, and a new drama about murders in the city today.

Gypsy February 6–March 23 Chicago Shakespeare Theater, 800 E. Grand Ave., Chicago | 312-595-5600 chicagoshakes.com Two of Chicago’s most critically acclaimed shows in recent years were Stephen Sondheim musicals directed by Gary Griffin at Chicago Shakespeare: “Follies” and “Sunday in the Park with George.” Now here comes another, with Griffin directing the famed show about burlesque dancer Gypsy Rose Lee, with Sondheim’s lyrics, Jule Styne’s music and Arthur Laurents’ book. Tony Award-nominee Louise Pitre plays the title role in this must-see for musical lovers. The Gospel of Lovingkindness February 21–March 23 Victory Gardens Theatre, 2433 N. Lincoln Ave., Chicago | 773-871-3000 victorygardens.org This world premiere by Marcus Gardley, who recently joined Victory Gardens’ playwright ensemble, was inspired by the homicides plaguing Chicago’s South Side. One woman mourns the murder of her son. Another woman grapples with her son committing that same deadly act. With this drama, one of Chicago’s leading theaters takes on one of the city’s most tragic and seemingly intractable problems.

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Chicago February 25–March 2 Bank of America Theatre, 18 W. Monroe St., Chicago | 312-977-1700 broadwayinchicago.com The 1975 musical that became the 2002 Oscar-winning movie returns in a touring production. It would be great if some local theater did a bang-up version of the original non-musical play from 1926— Maurine Watkins’ lacerating satire of sensational murder cases in the city’s jazz age—but this snazzy song-and-dance adaptation by Bob Fosse, John Kander and Fred Ebb is a classic in its own right. Garage Rep February 14–April 21 Steppenwolf Theatre Garage, 1624 N. Halsted St., Chicago | 312-335-1650 | steppenwolf.org Each year, Steppenwolf uses a performance space inside its garage building to host three new plays by emerging storefront theater companies. See all three or just the ones that grab your interest. Either way, it’s a great chance to discover some up-and-coming talent. This year, the festival showcases the New Colony’s “reWILDing Genius,” Prologue Theatre’s “Saturday Night/Sunday Morning” and Walkabout Theater’s “The Wild.”

Northwestern University (Ethel M. Barber Theater) “Cabaret” February 14–March 2 847-491-7282 communication.northwestern.edu/tic/ Northwestern University (Josephine Louis Theater) “Aimee and Jaguar” January 31–February 24 847-491-7282 communication.northwestern.edu/tic/ Porchlight Music Theatre (at Stage 773) “Ain’t Misbehavin’” February 1–March 9 773-327-5252 | porchlightmusictheatre.org Raven Theatre “The Playboy of the Western World” February 4–April 5 773-338-2177 | raventheatre.com Signal Ensemble Theatre “Plainsong” January 30–March 8 773-698-7389 | signalensemble.com. Steppenwolf Theatre “Russian Transport” February 6–May 11 312-335-1650 | steppenwolf.org TimeLine Theatre “The How and the Why” Through April 6 773-281-8463 | timelinetheatre.com

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Northlight Theatre “Tom Jones” Through February 23 847-673-6300 | northlight.org

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JEWISH UNITED FUND OF METROPOLITAN CHICAGO

Big Event Fundraiser November 16, 2013 Sheraton Chicago $327,000 raised (1) Comedians Amy Schumer and Jim Gaffigan; (2) Barry Sorkin, owner of Smoque BBQ, and Steve Dolinsky, ABC 7 Food Reporter (a.k.a. “The Hungry Hound”); (3) Jane Rooney and Jon Hootman, both of Chicago; (4) Brittany Lynn of Chicago and Stephanie Schreiber of Evanston; (5) The JUF Uptown Café, a Kosher anti-hunger program, feeds needy Chicagoans of all faiths.

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PHOTOS 1 & 5 BY ROBERT F. KUSEL, PHOTOS 2–4 BY JEFF ELLIS.

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Opening Doors Gala November 9, 2013 Evanston Golf Club $100,000 raised

PHOTOS COURTESY OF OLD IRVING PARK COMMUNITY CLINIC

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(1) Gala Chair Carla Johns and Board President Michael Johns, both of Chicago; (2) Crystal Kasdin and board member Chad Kasdin of Highland Park; (3) Dr. Charles Martinez consults with a patient; (4) Pat Hughes of Riverwoods and Board Vice President Naja Maltezos of Evanston.

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ZooLA November 14, 2013 The Casino, Streeterville $250,000 raised SHOWN IN PHOTOS:

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(1) Christopher and Susan Mundy of Winnetka; (2) Denise Stefan Ginascol of Chicago, Kevin Bell of Chicago and Bridget Campbell of Glencoe; (3) Buzz and Anne Frank of Winnetka; (4) Lincoln Park Zoo is home to more than 225 species of animals from around the world.

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WINNETKA COMMUNITY ASSOCIATES OF THE ART INSTITUTE OF CHICAGO

Annual Board Event October 30, 2013 Roxy Paine Installation, Kavi Gupta Gallery, Art Institute of Chicago SHOWN IN PHOTOS:

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Toast to Hope Event November 8, 2013 Centered Chef, Chicago $24,000 raised

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(1) John and Betsy McLinden of Winnetka, Anne and Steve Potter of Kenilworth; (2) Betsy McLinden of Winnetka, Jane Dearborn of Winnetka and Carol Rasmus of Wilmette; (3) Melanie Hauck of Kenilworth, Andrea Montross of Wilmette and Julie Asplund of Chicago; (4) Chairs Julie Winship of Winnetka and Sue Heimlich of Wilmette outside of the exhibit.

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(1) Associate Board Vice President and Event Chair Cassie Abraham and Associate Board Member Sherry Polachek, both of Chicago; (2) Senior Vice President and Chief Development Officer Sharon Tiknis, Associate Board President Ryan Sachtjen and Associate Board Member Robyn Becker, all of Chicago; (3) Associate Board Members Malcolm Bihm and Tim Wozniak, both of Chicago; (4) The Community Schools program provides quality after-school programming for children.

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ADVOCATE FOR NEGLECTED CHILDREN Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA) 847-383-6260 | casalakecounty.com Volunteer to become a trained, compassionate and committed advocate for the best interests of abused or neglected children. Advocates follow one caseâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;a child and/or their siblingsâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;through foster care and the juvenile court systems. Following a flexible 40-hour training schedule, volunteers are required to visit their CASA child a minimum of once per month and attend court hearings, advocate manager meetings and additional educational courses. For more information on how you can help a child heal from abuse and learn to thrive, visit their website.

AID THE AGING PROCESS FOR FAMILIES Midwest Palliative & Hospice CareCenter 847-556-1613 | carecenter.org Midwest Palliative & Hospice CareCenter is looking for volunteers to help connect with patients and families to carry out its mission of providing compassionate, quality palliative care and hospice services. Midwest CareCenter provides services to patients and families facing serious or chronic illness, age-related health conditions or the end of life. Volunteer opportunities include patient- and familycare support, CampCare counselor and support staff opportunities, office support, event planning and community outreach. Hospice volunteers undergo extensive training to help provide additional aid. Call 847-556-1613 or contact volunteers@carecenter.org for more information.

RENOVATE HOMES FOR THE ELDERLY Rebuilding Together 847-869-0900 | rebuildingtogethernsc.com Rebuilding Together aims to help low-income homeowners, particularly the elderly and people with disabilities, in communities of North Suburban Chicago. The organization provides necessary repairs free of charge to existing homeowners, including home modifications, roofing, plumbing and electrical repairs and improvements. Rebuilding Together requests monetary donations to help fund rehabilitation efforts, as well as in-kind donations of materials for roofing, lumber, wheelchair lifts and other home repair tools, as well as skilled labor to oversee repairs. Donations can be sent to P.O. Box 626, Glenview, IL, 60025. Visit their website for more information.

DONATE BABY SUPPLIES TO A NURSERY The Cradle 847-475-5800 | cradle.org The Cradle Nursery is the only nursery-within-an-adoption agency in the country, typically caring for four to 13 infants each day. A tax-deductible, charitable contribution can help keep the nursery running, including building heating, and providing care, pacifiers and diapers. The Cradle also requests items for the nursery from its Amazon Wish List, available for view at cradlefoundation.org/ nurserywishlist. The nursery offers a temporary home for infants, as well as expert care for medically fragile or special-needs infants. The Cradle delivers exceptional education, guidance and lifelong support to build, sustain and preserve nurturing families. To make a donation or to learn more about volunteer opportunities, visit cradle.org. Donations can also be sent to 2049 Ridge Ave., Evanston, IL, 60201.

EMPOWER GIRLS THROUGH FITNESS Girls in the Game 312-633-4263 | girlsinthegame.org Girls in the Game seeks donations to support its afterschool, teen and one-day programs and events for girls. Girls in the Game provides and promotes sports and fitness opportunities, nutrition and health education and leadership development to girls ages 6 to 18. They empower more than 3,500 girls annually to make healthier choices and develop the confidence and leadership skills they need to succeed. From yoga and lacrosse to soccer and dance, Girls in the Game exposes girls to a wide and energizing mix of sports and fitness activities year round. For more information, visit girlsinthegame.org.

HELP FUND RESEARCH TO CURE MUSCULAR DYSTROPHY Northwestern University Dance Marathon 773-980-6836 | nudm.org Now in its 40th year, Northwestern University Dance Marathon is one of the largest student-run philanthropies in the country. This year, NUDM has chosen Team Joseph (an organization committed to research to find a cure for Duchenne muscular dystrophy) and the Evanston Community Foundation as its beneficiaries. More than 1,500 registered dancers will dance for 30 hours, but fundraising through canning and special events occurs throughout the academic year. Since it was founded in 1975, Northwestern students have raised more than $14 million for more than 30 different beneficiaries, with more than $1 million raised in the past three years alone. To donate or to sponsor a dancer, visit fundraise.nudm.org.

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One Mom’s Mission to Bring Glenview’s Military History Home By Lisa Zimbler

you don’t have to have ties to a cause to get involved. You just have to care enough to want to make a difference. Growing up in Northbrook, Bergin gave little thought to the history of the nearby Naval Air Station (NASG). She certainly had no idea that without the efforts of the some 17,000 pilots trained there, the outcome of WWII may have been very different. That changed in 2009 when Bergin, now a Glenview resident, took her father-in-law (a former Naval officer) to the Hangar One Museum, located in the back of a series of warehouse buildings dotting Lehigh Avenue. There she met 86-year-old WWII veteran and museum volunteer Eric Lundahl. Bergin was struck not only by Lundahl’s personal history—at age 16, he hid his age to join the Navy, serving in the Pacific—but also by how a simple one-room museum assembled solely by area veterans housed such a vitally important part of Glenview’s history. Bergin was equally moved by the veterans’

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goal of building an aviation-based learning center for kids. “While speaking to Eric, I had two revelations: first, of the importance of the airbase, and second, how little we had done as a community to help,” Bergin says. “I couldn’t imagine why we wouldn’t rally around preserving this history.” For more than 50 years, the Glenview airbase served as a critical training ground for pilots and other personnel, including Neil Armstong, James Lovell, and Presidents George H.W. Bush and Gerald Ford. Prior to WWII, it was a cradle of aviation where pioneers such as Edward “Butch” O’Hare, Wiley Post and Amelia Earhart often flew. It also served as the U.S. headquarters for both Naval and Marine reserves during the Cold War, and it was a landing site for returning Vietnam POWs. The Navy closed the airbase in 1995 and transferred the land to the city, which developed it into The Glen, a shopping and housing development. Bergin, a mother of two, seemed an

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unlikely spokesperson for a group of veterans, but that didn’t stop her from making it her mission to commemorate the contributions of these men and women to their country. Her first plan of action was to write her Congressman and Glenview village officials, urging them to do more to preserve NASG history. She then started the grassroots organization and petition site, Bring It Home, Glenview; her goal was to garner support from the community to convince village officials to set aside civic land on the former airbase for use as a permanent NASG museum and interactive STEM learning center. “When (our community) became stewards of the land, the Navy did not ask for payment, but it did ask our community to preserve the rich history of NASG,” Bergin says. “Unfortunately, while some buildings remain, the substantive history is being lost.” Several residents, mostly area moms, have joined Bergin’s organization in an effort to raise awareness of NASG’s history, inspiring youth in the areas of aviation and aeronautics though fun, handson math- and science-based educational programs. This fall, BIHG teamed up with Glenview Park District to launch a new program, Jr. Flight Academy – Lake Michigan Carriers, designed for grades 3-5, nearly selling out its first session. In the two-hour class, kids discovered local history while “earning their wings” by constructing aircraft carriers, creating catapults and learning the aviation alphabet and landing signals. “I think people are more inspired to learn when something hits closer to home,” Bergin says. “WWII can seem like a distant thing, but it happened right here on our doorstep. My hope is that we can secure a location in The Glen for this museum and learning center, which will then spur private funding and allow us to fulfill our promise to the heroes who served here, as well as prepare our children for the technological future they face.”

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met my wife, Whitney, at Caribou Coffee in Lakeview about a year and a half ago. I usually work from home, but that morning I decided to change my scenery and work from the local coffee shop. I had just ordered my coffee, when Whitney came floating in and sat right next to me. She was having trouble hooking in her computer cord, so naturally I offered to help. We sat and talked for an hour, and before I left I asked for her number. From that moment on we were inseparable. After dating for several weeks, knowing that Whitney was the one, I said ‘I love you’ to her on November 2. Six months later, I surprised her and popped the question in that same coffee shop, right by the milk and sugar stand! We ended up marrying the following November 2. —David Heiner

Whitney Reynolds is the host/executive producer of WYCC PBS's the Whitney Reynolds Show. David Heiner is an account executive at software company Voxware. They live in Chicago.

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